REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 813. Q&AF： Aligning With Business Partners, Deciding What To Sell & Mastering The Monotonous

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies 0.98

00:00:22.200 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we

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00:03:03.620 right what's up man what's going on man nothing dude yeah what's up with you a little lighter 0.99

00:03:07.840 huh use restroom oh there you go yeah it's always good shut the fuck up that must have been a record 0.99

00:03:15.060 yeah it must have been like it was quick you must have went back in time or something you got that 0.99

00:03:19.160 doc brown time machine what's that do what's that do yeah it eliminates your 45 minute poops

00:03:25.480 yeah at 88 miles an hour dude i actually read something apparently it's not good i don't know

00:03:32.420 why it takes me so long it's not good i give you hemorrhoids yeah well i have those yeah well that's

00:03:37.060 probably why well they're minor genetic what genetic hemorrhoids that's the thing i don't know about 0.98

00:03:44.760 that no it's from you sitting on the toilet for an hour every fucking time you go over there no it's 0.99

00:03:50.020 genetic yeah it's probably the same genetics that everybody else has when they sit on the toilet 0.99

00:03:55.380 for an hour yeah are you looking it up it is genetic see can it be genetic yes okay because

00:04:03.900 my older sister has them too yeah i bet she appreciates you telling the whole world

00:04:08.240 yeah well i'm just saying i can't control him sis i can't control him he's a wild animal you know

00:04:16.520 it happens but yeah yeah i think my dad would probably have him if i dad too you gotta tell them

00:04:21.940 you gotta tell on your whole family here huh what else about your family it's been a minute so

00:04:25.280 i don't know if he's you know i'm saying yeah all right let's let's get into the show we're here

00:04:30.720 to get better today tomorrow's the jokes yeah hey learn something new every day man let's get

00:04:35.560 better guys we already learned that hemorrhoids can be genetic can be genetic we're already off to

00:04:39.940 a great start this week so i'm saying all right now you don't know now you know now you know uh well

00:04:45.560 let's get into these questions but i got three good ones for you man all right man um guys andy

00:04:49.260 question number one hi andy all right i love when they like it's just always a nice salutation

00:04:56.240 hi andy um i really appreciate everything you do 75 hard was a game changer for me moving uh moving

00:05:03.700 me through a company to now running my own business i'm 30 and i resonate with your intense operating

00:05:09.740 style i'm aggressive and always pushing to move forward my business partner who is 20 years older

00:05:15.980 operate to the slower pace uh more patient and methodical uh while we're fully aligned on the

00:05:22.860 direction and goals of the business sometimes the lack of urgency frustrates me i understand and

00:05:29.380 respect his approach and i know it's what makes us work well together but i'm curious if you face

00:05:34.920 something similar with chris has he ever operated at a different pace than you uh how do you maintain

00:05:41.120 alignment without losing momentum i'd love to hear your advice on managing this dynamic

00:05:45.800 without sabotaging a successful partnership well look everybody naturally runs at a different pace

00:05:54.120 okay um and the truth of the matter is it's actually probably a really good thing that your partner is a

00:06:00.600 little more mature and a little more patient and uh moves at a little slower pace because when you are

00:06:06.280 an intense operator um you sort of need someone to counteract that and balance that out because that can be a

00:06:12.680 lot for people to handle it's like drinking from a fire hydrant okay uh most people aren't built to

00:06:18.760 handle that level of intensity and so it's good to have someone who has sort of gone down the road who

00:06:26.680 you know may have a little bit more experience who understands that the things that you might get

00:06:31.480 intense about don't really require that level of intensity because some of the time when we put too

00:06:36.600 much intensity on tasks that don't require that level of intensity you can actually end up with a

00:06:43.240 lesser result uh because it adds undue pressure to people that don't need to feel that pressure in

00:06:48.360 the moment so that's a hard discipline to learn especially if you run naturally hot uh i i run

00:06:55.160 naturally hot like i'm always intense you know one of the most common things that people ask people

00:07:00.680 that know me in person they say always is he really like that in real life and the answer is

00:07:05.880 yes i am like that um and that's that can be too much for people but that serves as uh a good litmus

00:07:13.160 test like if it's too much for you this is probably not a good place for you to work if you jive with

00:07:18.600 it you're going to respect and you're going to love it because you know it's pulling everybody down the

00:07:22.760 fucking tracks okay so there's good and there's bad and as you mature you're going to learn when to apply 0.72

00:07:30.600 it and when not to apply it urgency is one of the most important aspects of anybody's outcome 0.99

00:07:38.760 because most people will tell you oh take it easy oh you're working too hard oh you're taking this too

00:07:46.440 serious but those people never become great at anything they never produce anything they never

00:07:51.800 become anything they never contribute to anything and they end up in the same spot that they're at

00:07:56.920 at 45 or 55 that they were at when they were 25 all right and i'm here to tell you that life doesn't

00:08:02.280 end at 25 it's just starting so having good intensity having urgency is a massive massive massive

00:08:09.960 advantage and and i'm going to say this i would much rather have way too much than way too little

00:08:16.760 okay so i'm going to say that now i'm going to say something else as far as my experience okay chris is

00:08:24.680 not the only person that i've dealt with as a business partner i've got my brother i've got jason

00:08:30.680 i've got these other guys who are all part of this big conglomerate of companies that we own they're all

00:08:37.320 different okay and i would say i'm the most intense however those guys all run at different paces and

00:08:43.640 it's good because they can decipher what i'm saying like there's a lot of times when i say

00:08:48.840 do this that this this this and it's so intense and so hot that the team doesn't necessarily

00:08:57.640 understand it so it requires one of those guys to translate it you see what i'm saying so this is

00:09:03.880 why you know i only talk to i'm chairman of the of first form i'm not even the ceo anymore haven't

00:09:09.640 been for a couple years i talked to sal i talked to chris about the companies that he runs i talked to

00:09:16.760 jason and that's all the that's who i talked to okay because everybody else can't handle it all 0.89

00:09:22.760 right um yeah you know when i talk to you guys and i mean you guys know i get fucking pissed i get 0.92

00:09:28.600 hot i get urgent i want to win now i don't want to win yesterday i want to win today i don't want 0.94

00:09:33.400 to win in two weeks i want to win today i don't want to win in another fucking year i want to win 0.97

00:09:37.320 today and that's a lot of urgency compared to what most places are like so the fact that you have a 0.87

00:09:44.200 business partner that is a little older been down the path has a little bit more patience is probably

00:09:51.000 a really great thing for your culture and you just have to learn that you're the pace setter

00:09:55.880 and that person is you know sort of like not an anchor but just a little bit of a parachute to kind

00:10:02.280 of slow you down so you don't burn burn everybody out does that make sense makes perfect sense i also

00:10:06.680 think of it like too like i mean when you're moving so fast if you don't have at least another set of 0.98

00:10:11.080 eyes looking at shit shit gets missed 100 especially when you're urgent especially when 0.99

00:10:16.520 you run hot like there'll be a number of times where i'll say dude we gotta do this and you know 1.00

00:10:21.880 one of the guys sal jason chris they'll say well what about this and this and this right and i'm

00:10:27.320 like oh i didn't even think of that okay well what we'll do this and then we come through and connect

00:10:33.080 that we all know it needs to be done right now but we don't make mistakes because they're able to

00:10:37.720 slow it down a little bit and think it through instead of just like jumping in right see i come

00:10:42.680 from a place where you know all the companies i founded we started with nothing we don't we don't 0.85

00:10:48.040 owe banks money and we don't owe people money nobody gave me fucking money so i had to win i had to 0.97

00:10:53.560 survive and that breeds a different kind of fucking intensity when you have to okay when you don't have 0.97

00:11:00.840 any other options when your back is against the wall when you if you don't execute today you ain't 0.92

00:11:06.680 eating this weekend that is a lot of pressure dude and that pressure was on me for so long 11

00:11:12.440 years actually that it's it's become part of who i am um and i hope it never changes because i feel

00:11:19.240 like when people change that about themselves that's when things start changing in their lives

00:11:23.000 and while it may not be everybody's cup of tea i enjoy it and every other time i've tried to like

00:11:27.400 be more calm and be less urgent and you know accommodate other people i've gone insane it

00:11:33.400 fucking drives me insane i cannot be around people who are not intense and urgent about winning it 0.92

00:11:39.960 drives me fucking crazy the number one thing that bothers me is when i look at someone and i'm like 0.99

00:11:45.880 bro do you even fucking want to win like do you even want to win like when i can't tell if someone wants 0.95

00:11:51.800 to win dude it drives me insane you know what i mean so we got to have the balances out and um it's not 0.97

00:11:58.680 bad to be intense in fact i think you know it's a great it's a great place to be if you're setting

00:12:03.720 the pace for your company because dude business moves fucking fast and all these people out here 0.92

00:12:07.800 on the internet that tell you to calm down and relax and take it easy and you know you're going too hard 0.83

00:12:14.360 and this that and the other bro those people are going to be in the same spot that they've always

00:12:18.600 fucking been all right you may not know that because you're young but i'm telling you everybody who ever 0.83

00:12:23.080 said that to me they are where they are they are where they were when they said it and and that's 0.97

00:12:28.760 that's just the truth man yeah there's a lot here but i love this question i want to ask you this too

00:12:34.680 i mean because you know you talk about you times that you've tried to change your own personal pace

00:12:39.240 whether that be from you know external advice from whoever right so do you is it also say and you said

00:12:46.600 that never really worked out is it also safe to i guess assume like you shouldn't try to change

00:12:50.200 somebody else's pace like they have to be willing to change their own pace whether that's speeding

00:12:53.880 it up or slowing it down like you should not be trying to make somebody else change their pace

00:12:59.640 that they're moving that i think it depends on if it's working or not yeah you know um i got some

00:13:04.200 advice you know when when i already had i was already a wealthy person i was already a great speaker i was

00:13:11.640 already great at the things that i was doing uh to tone it down from someone that i actually respect

00:13:17.320 and uh i try to tone it down it up my whole game up my business up my ability to talk up

00:13:24.120 up everything about my about it about me because it isn't me and i think the main thing is to be

00:13:29.320 authentic to who you are that's what it comes down to like you you're not crazy you're not broken you're

00:13:36.920 not you know something that needs to be fixed just because you're not like everybody else right maybe

00:13:44.200 you're not like everybody else because you have a gift that they don't have so that's something to

00:13:48.680 consider as well and i found that to be the case more than not when it comes to listening to critiques

00:13:54.760 or judgment or advice from other people okay i'm me you're the recipe is the recipe and it is what it

00:14:03.160 is if you don't like the way it tastes don't eat it you know what i'm saying you bought the ingredients

00:14:07.560 yeah right you got here yeah i love that man i think to the other point though too like even for

00:14:13.080 people who are not as outgoing you know like be authentic in that sense like you shouldn't try to

00:14:17.480 like be more you can't start cussing and thinking yeah i'm thinking dude dude and we see that all the

00:14:22.200 time bro we see these kids especially men on the internet who are you know they state they want to be

00:14:28.760 more masculine so they go find this who they think is an alpha male and all of a sudden they go from

00:14:34.920 being a well-mannered well-spoken uh you know person to like screaming and curt like dude that

00:14:43.640 that is that is not masculine man just because someone has the trait of being loud or cursing or

00:14:49.960 it sounds this or that that's not that that's that's not authentic to you it's authentic to them

00:14:55.320 most likely yeah so what's authentic to you right what do you feel the best at and by the way doing

00:15:01.720 nothing and being nothing and saying nothing doesn't count so what do you feel the best when

00:15:08.040 you are executing not when you're not doing anything because everybody's going to say well

00:15:11.720 i feel the best when i'm sitting on my couch watching netflix right no i'm saying when you go

00:15:16.840 out in the world and when you execute what is your natural style and how does that produce results

00:15:23.640 and if that's something that produces results and they produce results well it probably doesn't need to

00:15:28.680 be messed with if it's something that you know doesn't then you can look to change and find your

00:15:34.440 authentic self most people most people don't feel adequate dude so they think their authentic self

00:15:41.320 isn't good enough right they think that their authentic self is uh too boring or too plain but

00:15:47.400 what they miss is that everybody else is trying to be something they're not so when you're authentic

00:15:52.200 people can feel it they can they can smell it they can hear it they can see it and whatever that is

00:15:56.920 is it's way more appealing even if it's boring than to someone who's manufacturing a personality

00:16:02.040 so your authentic self is your competitive advantage if you're willing to truly live that way i love it

00:16:08.920 man i love it guys uh andy question number two andy how did you know that your product or service

00:16:17.800 was the one when you opened your first business um i know i want to start a business and go through the

00:16:24.600 hardship of creating a lasting legacy in my area but i'm unsure of knowing if my product or service

00:16:31.720 will solve a problem uh a big enough problem or even be profitable enough to scale it any advice on

00:16:37.960 this would be greatly appreciated thank you andy and uh for all you do yeah make a decision about what

00:16:42.920 you're going to sell dude what are you selling okay i didn't end up in the supplement industry

00:16:47.080 intentionally you guys don't understand that i started i wanted to open a tanning salon okay chris and

00:16:53.240 i were going to open a tanning salon we were going to be for the suntan boys is this legit yes we

00:16:59.160 couldn't afford to buy suntan beds because they were like 50 grand so we ended up selling vitamins

00:17:05.960 all right so the truth of the matter is is that it doesn't matter you need to make a decision you need

00:17:11.720 to start something and the skills that you learn along the way will actually help you adjust course as

00:17:17.560 to what your offering will be so most people will sit in this place that this person is in

00:17:23.800 and never make a decision so i don't know what to sell should i sell books should i sell computers

00:17:29.400 should i sell snow cones should i sell ice cream should i open a pizza place should i uh you know

00:17:36.040 sell uh bikinis like people will just throw around all these ideas well let me tell you something dude 0.99

00:17:42.280 ideas ain't worth fucking shit execution's where it's at so it doesn't matter if you're selling 0.99

00:17:47.240 ice cream or bikinis or fucking you know whatever dude what matters is that you go do it and if you 1.00

00:17:54.040 start to sell shit and it doesn't seem to work now you've at least learned how to set up a website how 1.00

00:17:58.760 to set up a marketing funnel how to set how to fulfill product etc etc etc etc and then you could switch 0.99

00:18:04.200 the product into something else what's never been easier to do that than it is now so whatever it is

00:18:10.760 that you think you want to do whatever it is you have a propensity to enjoy and be into it's

00:18:17.480 probably a good place to start i wouldn't start with something that you're completely not interested

00:18:22.600 in because there is an aspect of passion that is required and a lot of people don't understand why

00:18:29.000 they think that passion's required so that you never have to work a day in your life because i'm

00:18:34.440 just so passionate that's not true okay there are going to be days no matter how much you love 0.58

00:18:40.360 something that you fucking hate doing it that's the reality okay but what is it that you are into 0.93

00:18:47.160 right now what do you like to do back then i like to work out i was an athlete i like to lift weights 0.99

00:18:54.520 and be jacked and tan shit okay supplements were always they were always in my in my uh zone of 0.55

00:19:00.680 interest yeah and uh and we start there right so so like a lot of people like well you know 0.99

00:19:08.920 i'm not really interested in anything well what do you look at online do you look at puppies do you

00:19:13.880 look at butterflies what do you what do you look at you could be the butterfly bandit okay you could

00:19:18.760 start up a page on pinterest with all kinds of butterfly shirts and blankets and pins and pendants and this

00:19:26.680 and this and this and dude there's enough people out there that like butterflies that you could

00:19:30.760 fucking make a business out of it okay the point is pick something all right and the reason that you 0.85

00:19:36.600 should pick something that you're interested in is because there's a high likelihood that there is 0.98

00:19:40.840 going to be a time from when you start to when you make good money that you struggle okay and what's

00:19:46.680 going to keep you interested in executing during that time it's going to be your natural interest in

00:19:53.000 the thing that you are offering all right so for me you know uh i didn't get a paycheck for the

00:20:00.200 first three years i was in business now we didn't have the internet like you guys have it all right

00:20:05.960 so what kept me going for three years well i still trained and i still took supplements and

00:20:11.000 i was still interested in it and so during that three years where i made no money at all none

00:20:17.480 i learned more and i got better and i learned more about nutrition i learned more about

00:20:21.800 supplementation i learned more about weight training it gave me an excuse to even dive deeper

00:20:25.960 into something i was already into and already passionate about which then eventually made

00:20:30.360 me an expert after you know a decade of doing that but if you pick something that you have no

00:20:37.000 interest in and no passion for you start and then during that time where there's no payment coming

00:20:43.000 in and it's hard like that three-year window for me you're going to get so frustrated that you're

00:20:48.200 going to change into something else and if you do that too fast you're not giving the idea or the

00:20:53.800 plan enough time to materialize which is going to short circuit your success anyway because every time

00:20:58.840 it gets hard you're going to do something new and it's like starting a marathon over at mile seven

00:21:04.280 every time you try to run a marathon you're never going to get there so uh you know what are you

00:21:09.480 interested in what are you passionate about what's something that you would do for free and how can you

00:21:15.480 make a business out of it those are some questions that i would ask outside of that it doesn't really 0.53

00:21:21.000 matter as long as you fucking start and you can make adjustments as you go i love it man i love it 0.92

00:21:25.720 guys andy our third and final question uh andy question number three andy i've started this email a 0.99

00:21:34.920 couple of times but kept deleting it i can almost hear you saying quit being a bitch overall it's been a 1.00

00:21:43.240 great year my wife and i welcomed our first child in january i'm on month 10 of staying alcohol free 0.98

00:21:49.880 down 30 pounds and sticking to my diet workouts and jujitsu training i'm also keeping up with my goal

00:21:56.840 of reading 10 pages a day but the past couple of weeks have been tough i feel like i'm stuck in a rut

00:22:03.000 every week feels like i'm on repeat same work challenges same workout same routine what do you do

00:22:10.360 when you hit a rut any advice on breaking out of it thanks for any insight well first of all i mean

00:22:16.840 congratulations 10 months alcohol free down 30 pounds your first kid sounds like you had a great

00:22:22.200 fucking year it sounds like you're doing awesome um now on to the rut you're not in a rut that's just 0.98

00:22:27.960 the way shit is okay when you do the same thing day in and day out day in and day out day in and day 0.99

00:22:32.600 out day in and day out it gets mundane it gets boring this is why most people quit this is why most 0.99

00:22:38.120 people can't be successful because they cannot master the mundane nature of becoming successful

00:22:45.560 it is about day in and day out execution and a lot of those days are going to look the exact same

00:22:51.000 so when you think that you know you're in a rut what you really are is you're in a place where

00:22:57.880 most other people quit because it's boring and so you have to understand that mastering these boring

00:23:03.560 days is the part that nobody else can do because they feel the same way you feel now even though 0.99

00:23:09.240 you're winning even though you're doing great you are sitting there saying fuck this is boring this 0.99

00:23:14.600 sucks i don't know i don't what else do you want what else do you want bro you do know the answer to 1.00

00:23:20.040 your own question you need to quit being a fucking bitch all right that's the reality and by the way 1.00

00:23:25.960 there's an entire podcast on this that i did if you want to check out that episode it's episode 240 on 1.00

00:23:31.800 the mfceo project that is behind the real af feed if you scroll all the way down you'll hit mfceo feed

00:23:39.800 and when you hit that go to episode 240 and you'll listen because that is the nature of winning the

00:23:46.200 nature of winning is doing the exact same things at a very high level day in and day out day in and day

00:23:53.400 out day in and day out and when it gets boring and when it gets mundane that's when everybody else

00:23:58.120 fucking quits and if you can master that process you're going to be infinitely successful because 0.61

00:24:02.760 most people cannot continue to go once it's not exciting anymore and by the way dude it's not 0.97

00:24:08.680 going to be exciting forever just like you know any area of your life fitness is not going to be exciting

00:24:13.880 you're not going to feel like working out every day uh just like your relationship it's not always

00:24:18.360 going to be the most exciting shit in the world okay but the successful ones the people who are

00:24:24.040 successful in business successful training successful in life and relationships friendships 0.95

00:24:29.800 they understand that these mundane times are the times that count the most but dude at the end of the

00:24:38.280 day dude you know we have to realize that we have to look for opportunities when everybody else is going

00:24:43.640 to quit that we can continue to go and that's one of them let me let me because i feel like we

00:24:48.440 me and you have had a conversation about this and this was a couple of years ago um and you you said

00:24:54.200 something that just made just made sense uh and you you were talking about like you know i think you 0.99

00:25:01.560 put it in terms of like your planting season harvest season it's like you know the the shit that you're 0.95

00:25:06.120 doing today is not for you to you know reap in a week or two weeks it's five years down the road the 0.98

00:25:12.600 work that you're putting in today yeah that's right i think sometimes like that that is the like

00:25:16.760 misconnection a lot of people get stuck in because they fail to remember like you're not doing this

00:25:21.240 for tomorrow you're doing this for you five years from that's right you know i'm saying can we just

00:25:25.080 dive into that a little bit man because i feel like that's such a an important piece there you

00:25:29.400 know which part i mean putting in the work and knowing what it's going to well most people don't

00:25:34.440 know what it's going to because they've never experienced harvesting the results of their work

00:25:38.520 because they've never done the work hard enough so how do you train someone to understand that

00:25:42.760 what they're doing now is going to pay off later if they never stuck to anything long enough to see a

00:25:46.360 payoff it's a very hard concept for them to understand that's why you have to train them

00:25:51.160 and tell them and coach them and you'd say hey bro as long as you keep going it's going to pay off as

00:25:56.120 long as you keep going it's going to pay off and it's going to take way longer than you think to

00:25:59.640 start paying off all right there's a story i talk about it all the time about the chinese bamboo tree 0.98

00:26:05.000 okay you go out you plant this motherfucker in the ground and it has to be undisturbed for five years 0.71

00:26:11.560 years okay and if you go out and you dig it up and check on it guess what it doesn't grow if you go 0.98

00:26:17.000 out there and plow over the soil guess what it doesn't grow if you forget that it's there and uh

00:26:22.280 you you build something on top guess what it doesn't grow so you have to make sure it's undisturbed you

00:26:27.240 have to make sure it gets water and you have to make sure it's it's you know cultivated properly

00:26:32.280 and then after five years it grows to 60 to 80 feet in eight weeks okay that's what your success

00:26:39.720 is going to be like it's going to be like that you are going to work you're going to work you're going

00:26:44.920 to work and then you're going to see a little bit of progress and that's going to cause you to believe

00:26:49.160 a little bit you're like oh shit all right this is actually starting to work and then you're going to 0.69

00:26:53.400 work some more work some more work some more and then it's going to get even more results for what 0.75

00:26:58.760 the work you put in you're going to say oh this is actually working and then eventually you start

00:27:03.080 to realize exactly how it works you don't doubt it anymore so now like for me i've been doing this a

00:27:08.680 long time i know exactly what to expect but someone who's 20 that's never harvested they don't know what

00:27:14.920 to expect so most of the time they quit because they think that whatever work they're doing isn't

00:27:20.760 going to pay off when in reality dude uh it's going to pay off but it's just going to take a lot

00:27:27.160 longer than you expected it to take and this is a problem that we have with social media and all

00:27:31.960 these things right now because everybody's promising the quick easy fast overnight way when in reality

00:27:36.680 that's not how it works it just doesn't it just doesn't work that way so yeah um i think the the

00:27:44.200 instant gratification kills a lot of that for sure yeah yeah it's and it's a total lie look man the more

00:27:50.120 you could delay gratification the bigger the winning is on the back end that's the truth yeah um do you

00:27:55.000 do you think let me ask you this do you think that this just like occurred to me do you think

00:27:59.400 that like the reason instant gratification works so well negatively obviously but it works so well

00:28:05.320 on so many people is because the the opposite of instant gratification in the negative sense like

00:28:09.960 you know whether bad shit happened you know those things tend to happen so quickly or so people think 0.68

00:28:15.400 but even like negative shit just happened in your life like how quick stuff can go wrong and go bad 0.97

00:28:21.560 they assume then good shit must also occur as quick or as fast as the bad shit must happen 0.95

00:28:29.080 i don't know it's possible i guess people could think that i just i don't know i'm so far removed 0.95

00:28:33.160 from that thinking i can't remember what i thought whenever i didn't know what i know

00:28:36.920 yeah you know what i'm saying like i know how this works it's not i'm not i'm not guessing i'm not

00:28:42.440 philosophizing like i'm you look around at my life like look at my life bro i can't point my camera 0.94

00:28:48.120 anywhere ever and it not look like i'm bragging okay and that comes from me doing shit when there 0.86

00:28:56.440 was nothing to show for the results and doing that for a long long time showing up every day 0.76

00:29:01.080 doing what the i thought was the right thing was it always the right thing no but i learned it wasn't

00:29:06.920 and i adjusted course and i kept showing up and i kept showing up and i kept showing up you know

00:29:11.960 people made fun of me i kept showing up girls left me kept showing up people gave up on me kept

00:29:18.120 showing up people told me i was kept showing up and and doing what i need to do and eventually it

00:29:24.440 materializes and i i don't think i know because i'm me that i don't have special skill sets that y'all 0.99

00:29:32.280 don't have the only special skill sets i have come as the result of me showing up and getting my ass kicked 0.94

00:29:39.160 for way longer than anybody else is willing to do okay because there's a couple things about me 0.99

00:29:43.960 that i do have one i'm not a pussy i have a lot of courage i don't give a fuck okay uh and number 1.00

00:29:50.360 two i'm tough i'll take a beating all day over and over and over you gotta kill kill me to stop me 1.00

00:29:55.720 okay so you got those two things bro you're going to be in a good spot and and i'm telling you a lot 0.99

00:30:00.600 of you guys are smarter than me you have more gifts than me you have uh more intelligence than me

00:30:06.440 and if you could just hone that in and understand the game you're going to be super successful uh

00:30:12.680 and the game is very simple you got to keep showing up long after you lose interest and uh and executing

00:30:18.520 at a high level and eventually things materialize and and you know this is why we talk about the work

00:30:24.200 coming before the belief you know people say oh you got to believe in the beginning no you don't

00:30:30.360 you don't have to believe in the beginning at all what you have to be willing to do is trust

00:30:34.840 and have faith that the work that you are doing is going to produce a result all right and so you

00:30:40.360 show up you do the work you go home and nothing's happened you show up you do the work you go home

00:30:46.840 nothing's happened you do that for a long time and eventually something happens and you're like oh

00:30:52.360 and then you repeat that cycle and something more happens and you're like oh and then all of a sudden

00:30:57.000 you're producing some real results and you're like oh this is how this works and there's no doubt

00:31:01.320 anymore so so like if you could just get to a point where you can remove that doubt it's no

00:31:06.200 different than someone who has to lose 100 pounds in the gym dude they show up on the first day and 0.95

00:31:11.320 they're like fuck i work i worked my ass off today you're sweating you know they can't breathe the 0.99

00:31:16.440 next day they're sore as fuck they show up they're sweating they can't breathe they look the same you know 1.00

00:31:22.520 they do that for three or four weeks they still look the same and they're like fuck this isn't working 1.00

00:31:27.160 and someone puts their arm around them and tells them the truth it says hey motherfucker it takes 1.00

00:31:31.400 five six seven weeks to even get this going because you've been a fat fuck for a long time 1.00

00:31:35.720 and it's going to take some time past what you think it's going to take to start seeing results 0.99

00:31:40.440 so stick it out and once we get over that hump it's going to start accelerating tremendously just

00:31:44.680 give it another few weeks the dude sticks it out the lady sticks it out all of a sudden they're down 1.00

00:31:49.640 30 pounds and they're like holy shit this works and then they keep going and they transform 0.91

00:31:54.680 them lies but but like dude that doesn't happen enough because most people will just quit too soon 0.68

00:32:00.040 most people quit too soon on everything that's what it comes down to their life their marriage

00:32:04.360 the relationship their friendship and their business and their fitness they quit on everything

00:32:08.440 way too soon it just takes time i love it i love it man guys andy let's go get a monday in man

00:32:15.400 all right guys see you tomorrow on cti don't be a hoe 1.00

00:32:24.680 fucker stole counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold 1.00

00:32:31.640 doesn't know headshot case close 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 18, 2024

813. Q&AF： Aligning With Business Partners, Deciding What To Sell & Mastering The Monotonous

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 18, 2024

813. Q&#x26;AF： Aligning With Business Partners, Deciding What To Sell &#x26; Mastering The Monotonous

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813. Q&AF： Aligning With Business Partners, Deciding What To Sell & Mastering The Monotonous