REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 02, 2020


83. Life Without Regrets

Topics
no regret meeting his wife
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
John C. Reilly Johnson Corey Enzo
82. Horsepower Or Horsesh＊t： It's Your Choice 84. The Discipline Code

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12 minutes

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2,779

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Misogyny

10

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Toxicity

40

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2

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Summary

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In this episode of The Real AF with Sal For Selling, Sal talks about the importance of living life with no regrets and how to live life to the fullest in order to achieve your goals and dreams. He also shares some of his own personal stories of how he went from a small town kid to a man who went on to become a multi-millionaire.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I told my teacher, dumb bitch, I'm going to get millions, in a project living, spoke it 1.00
00:00:05.600 to existence, mold changed to 50, got mold cost than did it, I only weigh 180, but my 1.00
00:00:11.540 watch cost 250, what's going on guys, you're listening to The Real AF with Sal for Selling
00:00:16.540 today, we're going to get into a little bit of real talk, good morning, good afternoon,
00:00:20.880 good evening, I don't know when you're listening, but I want to make sure that it's good, hey
00:00:24.260 I, before we get started, I just wanted to again humbly say thank you, it's fun popping
00:00:30.720 in here, it's fun saying hello, it's fun kind of, it's almost, you know, it's therapeutic
00:00:35.580 in a sense for me because, you know, you just, these guys, you know, say hey can we talk about
00:00:41.740 this or talk about that and you know, I kind of feel like the early grandpa or really the
00:00:46.340 dad in me is coming out in a sense, you know, I almost feel in some sense like I'm talking
00:00:49.920 to Enzo, you know, or the girls and just kind of, you know, trying to give the best advice
00:00:54.560 that I possibly can and, you know, experience is the difference in life and it's the best
00:01:00.880 teacher, it's the best educator and it's the only way that I've ever learned, I mean, let's
00:01:06.300 be honest, it's the only way you learn that fire is fucking hot is to have a little experience
00:01:09.360 of sticking your finger in it and some people have to stick their finger in it more than 0.92
00:01:12.080 once, which is, I've done that as well, but you know, you have to go through some things
00:01:17.620 in order to develop who you're meant to be as a human and, you know, if my lessons or
00:01:23.840 my direction in life can help point you in a different direction or help steer you away
00:01:27.560 from making a mistake or really maybe give you the inspiration to go chase your dreams,
00:01:32.700 I do this podcast with the best intentions of trying to add as much value to your life as
00:01:38.040 possible and, you know, speaking of, you know, talking to my kids, you know, I think if
00:01:45.340 I were to give them the best lesson that I could learn, okay, or excuse me, the best lesson
00:01:52.600 that I could give them, you know, if this were my last day, okay, and I think that's
00:02:00.580 a reality because all too often we live life as if it's infinite, as if, you know, we're
00:02:05.520 going to have, oh, we'll just get to that when we get to it and I think, you know, you need
00:02:09.060 to recognize that you're going to die and life is not infinite and your time card is going
00:02:14.020 to get punched and you don't know when that time is going to be.
00:02:16.540 I mean, that's the scary thought and as, you know, as you're listening to your car or you're
00:02:20.500 in your ears at work or in the gym, you know, you need to really digest that for a second
00:02:25.000 and make sure that you're taking your time here on earth and maximizing it to the best
00:02:30.540 of your ability and understanding that, you know, the world is beautiful, man, and it's
00:02:36.580 how you see it in life and you need to recognize the fact that you need to get busy living
00:02:40.460 life and that's an important aspect because all too often we get caught up being robots
00:02:44.000 and not really chasing our dreams and the dreams that we had when we were little kids
00:02:47.740 and I think if you were to ask me what lesson would I give my children and what lesson could
00:02:52.260 I leave, that lesson would be to live life with no regret and it's hard to think, you
00:03:00.020 know, no regret because it's not really, it's not reasonable to think that no regret is an
00:03:04.820 option. You're going to have some regret, but the ideal potential or the ideal way to go out is if
00:03:11.140 you're laying on that deathbed with a smile on your face, understanding you gave life every 0.97
00:03:14.900 fucking chance you had to live the best when you could. And I tell this story or I tell my guys 0.98
00:03:20.720 here at work all the time, you know, regret is not about the story of no, meaning, you know,
00:03:26.260 nobody cares how many times you got told no. Nobody, like it's not, those are, those never make
00:03:30.380 good stories. I mean, I can't tell you how many fucking cold calls I made selling copiers and I 0.95
00:03:34.760 got told no, I don't remember the businesses, although I do some of them, but I don't remember 0.95
00:03:38.820 the names, but I can certainly tell you the wins. I can tell you the times that I knocked on a door
00:03:43.940 and I took, I can tell you that I, the very first fucking copier that I sold was a place called 0.98
00:03:48.300 Hydro Temp in Bridgeton, Missouri. I mean, I remember it vividly. I ran out to my car after I knocked on 0.98
00:03:54.280 the door, I closed the deal. I fucking got in my car and I was like, fuck yeah. And it's because I had the 1.00
00:03:59.340 balls to go knock on the goddamn door. And I say the same thing, not no different than a copier 1.00
00:04:03.700 deal. You know, the, the, the meaning of my wife. Okay. The, the, the, the mother of my children,
00:04:09.800 the woman that I love, how I met her is, is one of the lessons that I'd love to leave at least
00:04:15.040 Enzo in a sense. And I tell my guys this all the time, like, what are you afraid of? You got to ask
00:04:19.160 the hottest chick in the bar out every fucking time. Who cares if she says no, who cares if she says no, 1.00
00:04:24.560 because the story is told what happens if she says yes, what are you gonna do then?
00:04:29.660 What's that story going to be like? And I have that story. And this is like the, the life of
00:04:33.280 regret that I, you know, I wish that I could pass on is have the courage to get in the game. Don't
00:04:37.700 be a fucking sideline player, get in the motherfucking game. And I remember meeting my wife. I remember 1.00
00:04:43.900 we were at the Al Rabosky's, a baseball bar here in St. Louis, we're a baseball town. And my wife was
00:04:48.660 the VIP bartender up top, you know, where the, where the VIPs are, you know, the cool guys. And, uh,
00:04:55.060 I remember she's fucking hot. She ain't a 10. She's a fucking 12. And I remember sitting there 0.99
00:05:01.360 as kind of nervous, you know, like, oh shit, man, that chick's pretty hot. Like I gotta go ask her 1.00
00:05:05.000 out. And, you know, I kind of waddle my fat ass up there and get to the end of the, you know, 0.99
00:05:08.460 end of the bar, leaning on it, putting out the vibe, like dumb and dumber. And, uh, I'm trying to, 1.00
00:05:14.380 you know, throw these stupid, Hey, what's your name? Hey, well, you know, Hey, I'm Sal. How, 0.99
00:05:18.800 you know, how are you? You know, the, this typical bullshit that fucking stupid 25 year 1.00
00:05:22.520 old guys do. And I remember, you know, she, she wouldn't give me no time a day. And she 1.00
00:05:26.760 didn't have to, every guy in the bar was hitting on her. She's fucking smoke. And, uh, I could 1.00
00:05:31.320 tell you what she was wearing. She had these white jeans on red top. I mean, I can see it 1.00
00:05:34.900 in my head. And I remember thinking, man, like, all right, well, fuck, I ain't going to walk 0.99
00:05:38.500 away. I grabbed the napkin. I tore it off. I grabbed a red pen. I wrote my number down 0.99
00:05:46.000 at the time. I handed it over to her and I said, if you want to take me out, you give
00:05:49.620 me a call. And I walked away. And I remember I went out back to my buddy, Corey, sitting
00:05:53.780 there. He said, what would she say? I'm like, she didn't, she fucking blew me off. I gave
00:05:56.560 her my phone number. I said, Hey, you want to take me out? Give me a call. You know, he's
00:05:58.940 like, ah, you know, they're making, you know, but guys do making fun of me that night. Ring,
00:06:02.760 ring. Yeah. You know, I answered the phone and sure as shit, it's her. Hey, what are you
00:06:06.920 doing? You know, you want to meet, you want to meet up for a drink? And I said, yeah. Cause it
00:06:10.600 was a, it was like an afternoon baseball game. And, uh, you know what? We hit it
00:06:14.780 off. And had I not gone to the bar, even though I was a little scared, even though I was a
00:06:21.360 little nervous, had I not left her my number, my life would look drastically different today.
00:06:26.600 I wouldn't be married to the woman of my dreams. I wouldn't have the kids, the children that
00:06:30.520 I have. I wouldn't have the experience that I have all because I, I literally took the
00:06:34.120 balls to walk up the bar and ask her on a date. And what's cool about that story is
00:06:38.980 there's a story within the story. You know, that little iconic moment that we're just spitballing
00:06:44.720 here on, you know, talking about no regrets and, and making sure that you, you, you get
00:06:49.020 in the game is the night before we got married, we were at the rehearsal dinner and my wife
00:06:53.620 gave me a little package and I opened the package up and, and in, inside this frame,
00:06:58.680 this picture frame that still hangs in our basement was the napkin that was torn in half.
00:07:02.680 And there was my phone number and, uh, gave it back to me. And it's a, it's a proud moment.
00:07:06.640 And I think it's a realization, you know, for, um, you know, that I would love to explain
00:07:10.080 that to my son, maybe not my daughters, but explain that to my son at like, Hey man, you
00:07:14.660 know, there's some simple rules in life and, you know, asking the hottest girl out in the 1.00
00:07:19.700 room is a, it's a necessary evil. Like you got to go bro. And you know, it's okay to be
00:07:26.660 scared, but it's not okay not to try. And that regret that you lay with when you're on your
00:07:34.480 deathbed. Although, you know, I'm obviously, I hope that I'm not there anytime soon. I try to
00:07:39.580 keep that mindset very, very relevant to life because I see opportunities every single day that,
00:07:45.620 you know, you know, you, you have these internal conversations in your head. Wow. God damn it.
00:07:49.740 I'm busy. I don't feel like doing it right now. And it goes on things like, you know, if we're 0.99
00:07:54.020 going to take my dad on a ski trip for his 70th birthday, it's like his birthdays, it's a March
00:07:58.440 2nd every year, you know, we're in busy season and we were getting busy. And it's like,
00:08:02.800 my dad loves to go skiing on his birthday. And it's, do I take them? Do I not take them? Do I
00:08:06.460 take them? Do I not? Fuck it. Let's go. Let's go. Because you know what? One day I won't get to
00:08:11.200 spend that time with my dad. Or you think about times in business or your career. And I also have
00:08:16.500 this career story. You know, I, I, I think about the transition from my sales job at Johnson and
00:08:23.260 Johnson to the transition of first form. And I think what my life would look like had I not made the
00:08:30.240 decision to chase my dreams, had I not made the decision to go and chase what I'm passionate
00:08:36.380 about and intentional with and go help people change their lives. Like what, what would my
00:08:40.800 life look like? And I can tell you it would be drastically different. And had I not made that
00:08:45.580 decision, because that decision at the time for me was extremely difficult. I was making mid six
00:08:50.480 figures. I was young. I was 27, 28 years old. I had everything that you would kind of proverbially
00:08:56.540 think you had life by the balls. I was making really good money at company car 401k. Um, you
00:09:01.880 know, we had unbelievable stock options and I walked away and, but I walked away not because
00:09:07.020 of like, I was nervous or scared of what my corporate life would look like. I walked away
00:09:11.140 because I didn't, I didn't want to not take a shot at living the best fucking version of 0.78
00:09:15.140 my life or not living up to my potential, which I believe is the, the true definition of success 0.95
00:09:19.740 is making sure that you chase your dreams and give life every motherfucking chance you got 0.83
00:09:24.360 to win. And at that moment, if you can give yourself every single chance to win, even if 0.55
00:09:29.700 you fail, you succeed. And I think that's all too often. Like we're so scared to play the
00:09:34.380 game of life because of the failures that we never have a chance of winning. They don't
00:09:38.700 have to like failure losing and, and winning do they're, they're not opposing forces. They're
00:09:45.080 actually one in the same that in order to celebrate a win, you must learn what a loss
00:09:50.020 is. That's the truth. Like that's how you have to look at life. And if you're scared
00:09:53.780 to fucking play because you're afraid to fucking lose, you've already lost. That's 1.00
00:09:57.620 the trick. Like if you won't actually step into the game, you lose. And that's the
00:10:03.480 regret that you sit in through life. That's the regret that you lay on your deathbed and
00:10:07.500 you think, you know what? Maybe I should have done that. Maybe I should have chased my dreams
00:10:10.740 because I can look at my life right now. And I think what happens had I not made that
00:10:15.240 decision? What happens had I listened to my friends? What happens had I listened to
00:10:19.360 everybody around me? My old boss, who's a great fucking guy. He taught me so many 1.00
00:10:23.600 great things about being a great salesperson. His name's John Riley. He's such a fucking
00:10:28.440 good human. And I left him and I remember him saying, Sal, are you sure? Yes. Yes, John, 0.99
00:10:33.640 I'm sure. And I remember making that choice. And I did listen, I fucking about 18 months
00:10:39.720 in, I thought, man, maybe I made the wrong fucking choice, but I can tell you 10 years 0.99
00:10:43.260 later, I unequivocally made the best fucking decision of my life. And it's to chase my dreams 0.97
00:10:48.200 because now I don't have to worry about when I'm on my deathbed. Did I chase my dreams?
00:10:52.920 No, motherfucker. Not only did I chase my dreams, but I asked the hottest chick out in the bar 1.00
00:10:56.300 and I got my fucking dream life because I decided to play the goddamn game. That's what I'm fucking 1.00
00:11:00.760 playing for. And if I can give you one thing that comes with this podcast is to just simply 0.98
00:11:07.760 take the opportunity to live life. Go, go give life a fucking chance. Go, go, go, go get vulnerable 0.99
00:11:15.260 and get in the game. And I can tell you that the only, only, only success that I've ever truly had
00:11:21.020 in life. And the only thing that I've ever figured out that value that, that, that I found value in
00:11:25.280 life is the shit that scares the shit out of me. The things that scare me the most are the things 0.99
00:11:30.380 that I've learned to attack the hardest because it's when your feet are shaking, your palms get
00:11:35.500 sweaty. That's usually the position you need to be in. It's the time that you need to execute because
00:11:39.180 those are the situations that you learn to regret later on in life. And I tell you that as a,
00:11:43.340 as a man who I have failed a lot, but I understand that failure comes with playing failure comes
00:11:49.720 with stepping up to the plate and failure comes with, sometimes you get a little success and that
00:11:54.980 success just may be the marriage that you want because you had just enough courage to stand up to 0.99
00:12:00.100 that bar and fucking ask the hottest chick in the room. That's what I ask you to do is to give 1.00
00:12:04.780 yourself a chance at life so that you can live your best version of your life. So that when you die,
00:12:08.720 you have the least regret physically possible.