841. Q&AF： How To Be Efficient, Humility Vs. Ego & Overwhelmed By Fear Of Failure
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In this episode of Ask Andy For Selling, Andy and I discuss the Stanley Cup Playoffs, the NHL Playoffs, and the NHL playoffs in general. We also talk about the NHL Stanley Cup Finals and some of the craziness that has happened in the past week in the NHL.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions in modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
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call that cti that's where we put topics on the screen we speculate on what's true and what's not
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true and we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world
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sometimes we're gonna have real talk real talk is just 5 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk
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then we're gonna have 75 hard verses that is where people who have completed the 75 hard program come
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on the show they talk about how their life was before how their life is now and how they used
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the 75 hard program to get everything back on track if you're unfamiliar with 75 hard it is the initial
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phase of the live hard program which is available for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only
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again that's 208 on the audio feed only live hard is the world's most popular mental transformation
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program and uh there's also a book on it you get it andy for seller.com called the book on mental
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toughness it gives you the whole live hard program comprehensively if you're one of those people that
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likes uh the ins and outs and all the details i'd highly recommend it plus it has a whole bunch of
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chapters on mental toughness why it's important and how you can use it to build the ultimate life
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uh don't be a hoe share the show yeah what's up hey good morning what's going on oh nothing much
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we're energized you got a little whiskey in your cup over there no no this is a great cup though yeah
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um i stole this one a few years ago um i could tell it's old because of the logo yeah it's old man
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this is og shit man that's right it's og right here yeah hey uh did you happen to see the hockey
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game last night bro did you did you watch it i've seen the clips you know i'm not a big hockey guy
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well i mean i i guessed makes sense yeah um but i didn't see it bro i've been seeing clips bro so
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if you missed it uh team usa beat the shit out of uh team 51st state and governor uh trudeau
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you know i think they're mad they were mad about it but well you know how it started right yeah
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they booed they booed their own national anthem they booed ours no theirs oh they booed theirs that's
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no they that's going to be theirs soon oh i see because it's ours so it's going to be theirs and
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they're booing it like what are you guys doing bro like three seconds in the puck drop all hell breaks
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loose man we'll beat your ass that's just it we'll beat great your ass it's great and then we'll beat
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them three to one yeah yeah it's great i know we'll beat your ass on your own turf that's right
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that's right man no it was great uh i've been seeing the clips man i like hockey i'm just i've never been
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bro hockey you never been to a game i've been to one two games in my life bro hockey is the best
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sport to watch live yeah no question playoff hockey is completely different yeah yeah dude i remember my
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first game um it was a hat trick and everybody throws shit on the ice yeah i was like i didn't
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know what was happening what'd you throw i didn't throw anything i was about to go down and pick
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the shit up like what's happening why are they fucking up but then like it's a cool culture yeah
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it's cool man i just i don't really understand like the whole rule of it obviously i mean yes like get
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the puck in in the goal right score the touchdown that's pretty much it exactly so um
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i would have a hard time throwing a hat on the ice during a a hat trick because hats take a while
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to break in and get right and once you get them right like you're gonna throw it on the ice yeah
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you gotta throw you gotta throw one you don't care about yeah but then i'm like how do they even get
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these in no it's off their head oh that's okay yeah i'm just saying i don't think i would do it
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yeah damn but i enjoyed watching governor trudeau and his team take the l now we might have to play
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him again so i might i might have to eat some eat some shit yeah maybe but not today yeah i got
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hey listen they did it yeah they did it man you better learn how to sing this song
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dude we have a great national anthem actually yeah it's better than theirs it's better than
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pretty much everybody's honestly i think the america's better than everybody that's what it is
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that's true yeah the uh the only national anthem i think that can even compete is is the french
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national anthem oh really yeah the french one's pretty good is it it's pretty good i don't think so
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yeah yeah you know teach it's all guys andy yeah we're gonna get better or what let's get better
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today yeah why not today we could today is the day let's do today should be the day that you look back
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many years from now and be like that's the day it was today that everything changed you know what i'm
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saying well let's do it man let's see how we can make people better today guys andy i got three good
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ones for you man all right guys any question number one andy uh very simple question andy i've
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always been a chronic procrastinator and it's starting to affect my career i get so overwhelmed
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by big projects that i just keep putting them off how can i break this habit and learn to manage my time
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better very simple question yeah i mean i most people struggle with this at some point in their life
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you know it comes down to uh understanding and recognizing when our internal dialogue is talking
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us out of the things that we need to do all right that's the point of the 75 hard program and the live
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hard program is to teach you to understand your internal dialogue and become in control of what are
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seemingly uh uncontrollable choices in our life and when we think about what we have going on
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inside when it comes time to do something that we know we need to do but we don't want to do
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we all have a dialogue and i call that dialogue your bitch voice and your boss voice it's kind of like
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in those cartoons where you see a little angel on one side and a little devil on the other side right and
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the bitch voice would be the devil the boss voice would be the angel and we all know what we're
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supposed to do but we don't want to do it and a lot of times because we become chronically
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uh used to procrastinating we easily listen to the bitch voice and we don't even hear the boss voice
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we don't even hear it so these voices become louder or more quiet depending on which one we feed through
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our actions and so that's why you know it's i think it's very important for anyone who wants to
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you know who's ambitious who wants to you know become a successful person to understand uh how
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to make the choices that you need to make when uh you don't feel like doing it which is discipline
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that's what we talk about and discipline grit fortitude perseverance uh self-esteem self-confidence
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all of these things are intertwined and develop no different than a muscle all right you go train
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your muscle your muscle gets bigger and stronger you go train your mind by doing things that you
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don't feel like doing that part of your brain actually gets tougher and bigger and there's actually
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science that shows that that is a physical physiological reality inside of your brain uh andrew
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humerman talks about this a lot so we have to understand that our mental strength is no different
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than anything else that we practice or train or um you know try to get better at at first it's going
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to be hard and as you go it's going to get easier and easier and easier until it's automatic and that's
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where we want to be because it's not that we don't know what to do we all know what to do we all know
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how to be in shape we all know you got to work out and you know eat good food and eat less uh than
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you burn if you're fat eat more than you burn if you're skinny i mean these are very simple things
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drink water eat protein uh you know we know how to be productive at our careers and at our jobs if we
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want to we might pretend we don't know but you fucking know all right so how do we get ourselves
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in a situation where we can lay out any plan in front of us and execute the plan because ultimately
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most people don't win in life uh because they they lack the ability to adhere to a plan so if you
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condition your mind to adhere to a plan aka stop procrastinating not listening to the bitch voice
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what is it that you cannot achieve and the answer is nothing because if you execute day in and day out
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day in and day out day in and day out even if you're 400 pounds right now and you wanted to climb
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mount everest you could get there now you're going to have to lose weight you're going to have to
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condition yourself you're going to have to go through the plan of how you're going to do all that
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but you can and it's reality so i am a firm believer that most of us can do anything we want to do
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and are there physical limitations am i going to be able to 360 dunk probably not but most things we
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would want to do build a business build a career have a good income do some cool shit be active be in
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shape look good feel good be proud of us all these things are easily accomplished when we become
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aware of our internal dialogue and we learn to listen to the correct internal dialogue so when you
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want to stop procrastinating this comes down to the very simple idea of what voice is louder right now
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and the voice that's loud for you right now is the bitch voice and you have to become aware of the
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other dialogue which may be very quiet right now you might have to listen very closely to hear it
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but once you start listening and obeying that dialogue it gets louder and louder and louder and
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the bitch dialogue gets lower and lower and lower so how do we do this we do this through forced action
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in the beginning so when you get home from work and you know you have to train and you have to uh you
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know you're already tired bro you had a rough day you you you work was tough we all have tough days at work
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it was stressful it was hard i'm tired uh i didn't get to eat what i wanted to eat we have all the excuses in the
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world i gotta fight with my wife or my husband all the excuses and you sit down on the couch and you start
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saying man i deserve this you need to tune that voice out and you need to ask yourself what am i supposed to be
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doing right now and the minute that you hear the answer to that question you have to get up and go do
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the thing all right like if you're doing 75 hard and you get home it's 10 o'clock at night and you're
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like fuck i didn't get my 45 minutes of cardio in and you start saying well you know like dude immediately
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get the fuck up put your shoes on and go do it and taking immediate action forcing yourself to take
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immediate action will eventually lead to less and less and less effort to create a scenario where
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that action can be taken so the first time you do it it's going to suck the second time you do it it's
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going to suck less the third time you do it the fourth time you do it the hundredth time you do it
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it's going to be automatic and that is where we want to get our minds bro our mindset is the key
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to our success in all areas of life and we are told through victim culture through this overly
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accepting culture that mediocrity and performing less than what we can be and living a life that's
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less than what we can be is somehow okay and it's not it's not okay it's not okay for a number of
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reasons one you have people in your life that look up to you you have people in your life that are
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going to either win or lose because of the actions that you take and if you show them that it's okay
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to be you know way less than what you could be they're going to be way less than what they could
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be and that has an impact on society on culture on this country so you cannot say that you are a
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patriotic american if you are not living the standard to what you think american individuals should live
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to not saying anything other than that you cannot be a patriot you cannot be patriotic american and live
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less than what you are supposed to do we have an obligation to do that we have people including
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people in my family and probably yours too who have either been injured or been killed or laid down
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their life for us to have the opportunity to be great and if we're not taking advantage of that
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opportunity and we're saying well freedom means i can just float through life that's not what the
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fuck these these dudes died for that's not what these people sacrificed for and quite honestly i think
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you're letting down uh you know everybody around you and that's one reason uh another reason you know
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a lot of a lot of people right now it's real popular to claim their christianity which is great
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and to talk about god which is great but there's also a lot of people that you know don't live to the
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standard that you know we've been blessed and able to have the opportunity to live do you think that's
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being a good christian do you think that's being good to god it's not okay a lot of misinterpretations
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of the bible exist and people use the idea of humility and meekness to not go out and achieve the
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things that they want to achieve all right if you had a son or a daughter would you want your son or
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daughter to live less than what they could be to have a life that represents far less than the
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potential that you actually created for them no you wouldn't you would be ashamed of them and god
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is too so when you sit there and say oh i'm humble and i'm meek and i don't want to do anything and i
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want to sit on the couch and you want to fucking eat chips and be fat and be lazy and not achieve
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anything not contribute to anything not build anything not become anything you're letting down your
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obligation not only to the united states of america and all these people but you're letting your
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obligation down to god as far as i'm concerned so there's a lot of reasons why it's important that
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we get control of our ability to adhere to a plan to control our inner dialogue to have discipline to
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build grit perseverance fortitude uh and and become proud of ourselves because it shows other people how
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to do the same well i want to i love this topic i want to ask you this because and you've said this
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you know many of times uh me you said it to the podcast right like you're naturally a lazy person
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fair very fair okay uh i just don't want people to think i'm talking shit like no it's very fair it's
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a true thing right like and it's work right and i think a lot of people don't get to 350 pounds
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without being a lazy fuck okay yeah right same i get it right i think the thing is though like you
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know it's very easy for people to say i want this result but i don't want that work well then they're not
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going to get the result well i i think that's entitlement bro yeah yeah yeah but go ahead no
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i think too it's like for a lot of people achieving success achieving that dream body achieving you know
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that that new job that new position the new promotion it can seem the work can seem overwhelming
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right and so when you are a lazy person naturally whatever the case is how do you strategically tackle
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this to make it to where it's not this overwhelming thing well first of all uh it doesn't matter if you
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feel overwhelmed like it doesn't matter if you're frustrated it doesn't matter if you're mad it doesn't
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matter if you're bitter it doesn't matter it doesn't matter if you don't feel like it it doesn't
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matter those things do not matter it doesn't matter if your friends don't believe in you it doesn't
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matter if your parents don't believe in you these things do not matter how you feel
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does not matter in the equation of building a life okay what you do matters and that is it
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so if you say i want to go out and i want to do these big things but the work is overwhelming
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then you have to go out you have to decide what it's going to take to get to where you want to go
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you break it down from where you want to go backwards to where you are and you make a plan
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that you execute on every day and if you get yourself in a position where you can adhere to
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a plan what the fuck can you not achieve and the answer is you can achieve anything there's nothing
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that can stop you all right so where do you want to go where are you reverse engineer the plan
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execute the plan forward by creating a scenario where you're able to execute on things that may
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overwhelm you or may frustrate you or you know uh you know all the things that we deal everybody
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deals with this by the way and we need to understand this the people that you admire the people you look
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at the people who achieve all these amazing things all of those people along the way have been
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frustrated a lot have been angry a lot have felt demoralized a lot have felt overwhelmed probably
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the whole time okay greatness and achievement are not fucking free they're not free they come with a
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price but all of those things are feelings they're not actions and in the real world actions produce
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the result not how you feel about it we live in a society right now where people think their feelings
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fucking matter and their feelings just don't matter on the end result so you have to learn to operate
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in spite of those feelings and if you do you will move forward when everybody else when they feel
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overwhelmed and they feel frustrated and they're tired they'll stop and you'll keep going and that's
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how you get where you want to go and and honestly that's how you beat everybody that's competing with
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you for for the same position and they are there's millions of people out there that want to do the
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same shit that you want to do and you know everybody says abundance mentality that's cool i i get it i want
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everybody to win i don't get jealous of people winning i think it's an amazing thing however the reality
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is there are limited seats at the table and you cannot argue that it is fact how many people are
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at here at the top versus how many people are at the bottom it's a massive difference so statistically
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speaking there are limited amounts of spots here and unlimited amounts of spots being at the bottom
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and you want to work your way to one of those limited spots and you have to be competitive you have to
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understand that there is a timeline you have to have a plan and you have to be able to
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execute the plan whether you feel like it or not i mean dude look if you need help with this
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there's a tool called the power list all right i developed this tool fucking 20 years ago so that
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i could be productive day in and day out we're not talking about hundreds of things a day we're talking
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about five simple critical tasks that you do every day and not only does this help you be productive
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and get things done whether you feel like it or not it gives you an even pace of moving forward
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every time you complete your power list you get confidence every time you uh don't feel like it and
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you execute on it anyway you're still moving forward and it's a great tool to allow you to live your life
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and have free time we have all these knuckleheads on the internet telling people they got to work 50 hours
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out of 24 that's not true you just have to be effective so if you want to learn that system
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which is very very very effective there have been tens of thousands of people over the you know
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probably hundreds of thousands of people over the course of my podcast career in fact i know that's
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true because we sold that many books all right so it's it's probably millions of people at this point
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uh that have used this to become more productive and become successful and it's free
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okay you can get it episode 16 on audio feed i give all my fucking shit away for free guys
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all right they're very powerful tools go get them go to episode 16 listen to the episode learn how to
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do the power list incorporate it in your life and you're not going to have problems moving forward
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i love it man i love it guys any question number two any you actually mentioned you talked about this
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just a little bit so this question too is perfect for humility ego um in the pursuit of winning okay
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let's talk about it guys any question number two hey andy been a long time listening to the podcast
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i love the show you are the reason for me getting into business i have recently had a weird thought
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pattern in regards to success and confidence versus ego i was driving home from the gym and started
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having thoughts that made me uncomfortable because it felt like it was coming out of ego i'm 23
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uh with a decently successful business and i bought a c7 corvette z06 um p.s you need to get one manual
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but on my way home from the gym i noticed myself looking at other people driving around in the cars on
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the road uh while they were commuting to work i couldn't help myself but to have thoughts of i am
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better uh or even at the gym working harder than everyone in there and knowing no one else
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is leading to me thinking um i am better um i've always compared myself to guys like you successful
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people guys who are winning um because you guys are the top of the top in terms of business
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i can acknowledge that i'm not even close on the list to you guys but not fully at the bottom i know i am
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not better than these people and it doesn't make them less uh but where is the healthy amount uh that is
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no longer a humble confidence because of what you have sacrificed and the work you put in
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um compared to is it just ego that needs to be humbled how do we do this all right first thing
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is the fact that you're aware of this is a good thing most people the reason that their ego gets
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out of control and it ends up fucking them over is because they're not aware of it at all okay they
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just start to have little wins and then they think they're better than they really are
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and i want to be real with you dude driving a c7 corvette ain't a fucking win okay it's maybe a
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win for you depending on where you came from just like when i started getting nice cars i thought i
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was winning too but i'm here to tell you as your big bro uh it ain't a fucking win okay now it's a
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good little bite it's a good little taste taste of it okay but you got a long way to go all right
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so let's let's that should humble you a little bit all right here's the reality when you fucking
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work hard and you produce a result and it's clearly a result that everybody else is not getting
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it is okay to acknowledge that and say all right i'm on the right track okay i'm doing good and to
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feel proud of what you're doing and still in the same breath understanding that everybody else if
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they did the work that you do would be in a similar position okay where we get in trouble
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with humility and ego is when we look at other people and we think they're pieces of shit because
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they're not me well it's not true they they have the same capacity to produce results as you do
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they just haven't followed the plan so what does that mean for you that means that you're not really
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that special you've just been executing when they haven't and if you acknowledge that as the truth
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that's humility okay humility is not thinking less of ourselves it's thinking more of someone else
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and understanding that they could do the same things that we could do if they had made the same
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decisions that we have made if they had done the same work that we have done so this is how you
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balance out ego and humility humility is very important to the success process because once you
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lose it you lack the ability to learn and develop and progress if you know everything because you're so
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good at it how can you get any better you can't it's impossible so the minute that you think man i'm the
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best man nobody can fuck with me you know and people usually do this at the level that you're at
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at a level that's far below uh what they really should be at so when we get to that level it makes
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it impossible for us to progress and this is why we see so many people kind of get to a minor level
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of success and then fucking peter out and then eventually it goes away because they lose you know
00:25:28.640
they lose the drive the hunger the will to do the work that got them there uh and definitely lose the
00:25:33.980
drive the hunger and the will to progress further so when we think about our egos we have to understand
00:25:40.900
that both ego and humility have their purposes all right if you're going to perform at a high level
00:25:47.880
under pressure you cannot walk in being timid and meek and scared and afraid you have to walk in like
00:25:55.840
you're the motherfucking man you got a 20 foot dick all right that's the truth when when i go on stage
00:26:01.240
and talk to people i don't go out there thinking fuck i hope they're gonna like me i go out there
00:26:05.820
thinking man these motherfuckers are lucky to fucking see me today because i'm gonna blow their
00:26:08.880
motherfucking minds that's that's a different attitude but i don't carry that outside of that
00:26:13.680
you see what i'm saying it's it's about knowing when to apply the tool versus knowing when to apply a
00:26:20.860
different tool all right and most of the time you want to live in a state of confident humility meaning
00:26:27.400
you know that you know what you know but you also know that there's way more that you don't know than
00:26:33.560
what you know all right so uh and then there's another truth the truth is if you're training and
00:26:42.460
you're in shape and and that's the goal and they're not you are better that's competition okay but it
00:26:47.320
doesn't make you a better person it just makes you producing a better result in that framework yeah so um
00:26:54.260
you know it's a delicate scenario and we live in this society that you know really beats humility
00:26:59.840
into people's head because most people don't understand the true definition of humility and
00:27:06.740
they use humility to hide behind the lack of work the lack of effort the lack of care the lack of
00:27:13.540
producing results you know how many people do we know that their life looks like a fucking dumpster fire
00:27:20.180
who then turn to you who you have ambitions and you're doing work and you're working hard
00:27:25.140
and say don't forget where you came from you know oh you know you're not you're not very humble anymore
00:27:31.740
you better be humble oh humble like you someone who can't pay their bills and shitty little house
00:27:36.180
and shitty little car and shitty little life no thanks okay i'd rather fucking be a cocky fuck
00:27:41.820
who produces than be a poor little me who uses concepts from the bible to fucking hide behind
00:27:50.620
we talked about christianity a minute ago let's talk about it again uh how are you honoring god
00:27:56.260
by using the bible to hide behind your lack of effort development and results
00:28:03.600
you think he loved you think that's an approved thing with him you think he was nowhere in there
00:28:09.740
bro not only that i if that was if that was your son or your daughter and you said hey why aren't you
00:28:16.240
doing this stuff why aren't you becoming the most that you are why what and you said well you know
00:28:20.500
you said to be humble you said you know and then you know they sit on their fat ass playing video games
00:28:25.460
you're gonna look i don't care who you are god's gonna look at that and say that ain't what it is
00:28:29.740
right so there's a lot of fucking propagation of humility that is not the real definition of
00:28:38.820
humility because most people quite honestly just don't want to do the work to win and they want
00:28:45.080
to call you out and make themselves feel better saying you're not humble bro listen you have to be
00:28:51.940
humble to be successful okay but to be humble you have to be good first all right you can't be humble
00:28:59.380
humble about not doing anything how can you be humble about having those skills no results
00:29:04.580
that's not being humble that's just being a loser all right so we have to understand that not only is
00:29:10.520
humility uh you know required for success most people don't even understand what it means at all
00:29:19.420
it's an excuse right and and here's what i mean by require for success how can you keep up how can
00:29:26.100
you keep going up the ladder if you already know everything so human like those people that you see
00:29:30.800
that you like for example dude a lot of people think i'm not humble because i show my cars and i show my
00:29:35.680
life and all this bro i worked 26 fucking years if you don't like that eat a dick okay real talk i've
00:29:42.640
earned what the fuck i have secondly it inspires all the young people out there who are 20 30 years old
00:29:50.960
to know that what they are doing will have a payoff of a certain kind okay it has nothing to do with
00:29:57.980
humility all right humility is me understanding that as much success as we've had in business
00:30:04.440
a lot of it is due to my smart people around me uh you know it's due to my ability to pick up new
00:30:12.440
skills it's it's due to our our collective ability to know what we don't know and what we need to learn
00:30:17.900
and improve that all takes humility so you actually can't be successful without humility
00:30:22.820
and uh you know the people who throw the rocks and say you're not humble they don't even know what
00:30:27.180
the fuck they're talking about so you know when you're driving down the road and you're c7 which
00:30:33.840
i can appreciate like i said just remember you got a long way to go bro you haven't even started
00:30:40.340
and to look around and think you're the shit because you're driving a certain car is not
00:30:44.700
how you should be thinking you should be thinking all right i'm doing okay i'm on the right track i
00:30:50.260
got a long way to go and you know what all these people out here could do the same thing if they
00:30:54.380
were following the plan i'm following it doesn't make me better i better keep following the plan and
00:30:57.840
i better get better that's humility see what i'm saying absolutely man one follow-up on this because
00:31:04.600
you know you touched on it you hear all these people say all these you know success gurus they're
00:31:10.300
always like oh you got to stop and smell the roses right now you had mentioned while you're
00:31:14.500
all long on that path maybe that c7 is that yeah for sure that reminded i'm doing it listen my first
00:31:21.740
exotic car was a uh what we call it we call it a cheater car in the car world okay it's it's a car
00:31:29.320
that looks cool but has a shit ton of miles on it so i bought a cheater aston martin v8 vantage
00:31:37.260
for 60 fucking grand my first nice car now you know that car when it was new was like 130 grand
00:31:45.400
or something like that so you know i drove that car and i love that car it made me feel good but
00:31:52.660
at no point did i fucking say i got it made you know what i'm saying i i knew what i i knew where i
00:31:59.180
was and i told the truth to myself about where i was and i think that's really what it comes down to
00:32:04.860
you know and yeah dude you have to make things that you want in your life reality and that can
00:32:12.360
be tasting it along the way like picking up the c7 cool bro uh but that can also be like window
00:32:18.040
shopping you know one of the things i used to do was i would go to the exotic car dealership the one
00:32:23.340
that i go to now and buy cars and i look at the cars and you know sal and i would go out there and we'd
00:32:29.300
look at the cars and they'd chase us off because you know you wasn't serious yeah right and uh
00:32:34.860
you know i used to go around and live look at houses dude and for example like my house
00:32:42.120
the last two houses i've lived in i i knew that i would live on those streets or in those houses
00:32:49.140
before 20 years ago okay you know where my old house is my old house up here in sunset hills
00:32:56.160
when they were building that street i used to drive up there when they were building it and i
00:33:01.000
would think fuck dude one day i'm gonna fucking live on the street okay and eventually i did and
00:33:05.340
i lived there for five years i used to drive by the house i live in now and like just park there and
00:33:12.000
fucking look at it and they used to chase me off okay so and there's a long story to that that i can
00:33:17.880
tell but the point of the matter is is like you have to window shop you have to go see what you want
00:33:22.700
the reason most people end up with nothing is because they never make a decision about what
00:33:27.080
they actually want and then they don't make a plan on how to get there well if you don't know where the
00:33:31.120
fuck you're going and you don't know how to get there how are you ever going to get there like if
00:33:34.780
i want to get to fucking uh you know los angeles and i never decide that i actually want to go to
00:33:40.960
los angeles and i certainly don't figure out how i'm going to get there how am i going to get there
00:33:43.880
how can you be mad about where you're not if you never actually make a plan to get there
00:33:47.520
right and that's how most people spend their lives they spend more time planning a vacation
00:33:51.740
they spend more time planning a friday or saturday on the weekend than they do where they want to be
00:33:57.140
in life and they let life happen to them they let it float towards their way they grab the shit they
00:34:02.260
think is the best option at the time and then they look at it like well fuck this is just what life
00:34:06.820
gave me and that's a reactionary state and that's just not how we're supposed to live we're supposed
00:34:12.820
to go out and make it happen we're supposed to decide what it is we want make a plan and execute
00:34:19.620
that plan and then eventually end up where we want this is real shit and most people just don't do it
00:34:25.660
if you ask most people what they're going to do this week and they can fucking tell you we're going
00:34:29.440
to go here we're going to go here we're going to do this we're going to go to this game we're going
00:34:32.720
to we're going to do this if you say hey where do you want to be in three years five years ten years
00:34:37.900
they fucking can't even answer you they'll say generic shit like well i want to make twice as much
00:34:44.140
money or i'd like to live by the ocean or i'm gonna tell you right now dude nobody accidentally
00:34:51.460
makes more money nobody accidentally ends up on the ocean like that takes effort that takes planning
00:34:57.880
and it takes ridiculous diligent consistent disciplined execution over time and um it's like
00:35:05.720
that for everybody so most people honestly dude i don't think they understand the rules of the game
00:35:10.500
you know and then they end up mad that the game doesn't you know reward them you know there's rules
00:35:15.940
and if you're not executing on the rules you're not going to get what you want like it just is what it
00:35:21.100
is love it man i absolutely love it guys andy let's get our third and final question here um this is
00:35:26.580
like going all all together let's full circle jerk this thing right here uh guys any question number
00:35:32.160
three andy i have had a business idea in mind for years yeah most people do but every time i start
00:35:40.420
thinking about it i get overwhelmed by the possibility of failing yep most people do that too what if i pour
00:35:46.420
my savings and energy into this it doesn't work only for it to flop right uh the fear of making the wrong
00:35:52.460
decision keeps me stuck in this planning stage how do i move past this fear and take action uh well you
00:35:57.480
should first realize that if you don't change the way you think right now you're not going to get
00:36:02.380
shit you're guaranteed to not get shit okay so you should instead of ask yourself what if i do all
00:36:08.620
this and it doesn't work out you should ask yourself what's good my life going to look like if i don't do
00:36:13.820
it and the answer is it's going to look like it looks now and it's going to progressively get worse
00:36:18.160
and worse and worse as you age because it gets harder to make money all right so which leads to a
00:36:23.840
lesser quality of life and no matter what all the do-gooder hippies say money matters a lot it's
00:36:28.480
just reality okay um so you have to understand that the thought process that you're dealing with
00:36:35.820
is natural it's most people and it's easily overcome all right if i were to take you to the
00:36:44.020
base of mount everest and we were to stand there and you're to look up at the mountain your natural
00:36:50.420
thought is like fuck i don't know if i can make it but you know what the truth is every single
00:36:55.600
person who's ever climbed that mountain did it the exact same way and every single person who's ever
00:37:01.160
built a life that they dreamed did it the exact same way and the way is very simple it's one step
00:37:06.100
at a time and we make up this story in our heads what if i do all this work and it doesn't work out
00:37:12.760
what if i put in all this time and it doesn't work out what if i put in all this uh effort and money
00:37:18.260
and quote unquote sacrifice and it doesn't work out well first of all it only doesn't work out if
00:37:24.160
you quit all right and the path that you're taking is not a clear path you think that it's going to be
00:37:31.380
i'm going to go and maybe something's going to happen that's going to crush me that's not how it
00:37:35.580
works you're going to take steps and as you take steps you're going to take a misstep and when you
00:37:41.640
take that misstep something is going to happen where it's going to teach you not to step there again
00:37:46.300
all right so that's a lesson now you have to look at that as a new acquired skill as stupid as that
00:37:52.060
sounds a new acquired skill is to know not to step fucking there all right then when you go back
00:37:59.240
when you get to go back again you're going to know not to step there and you're going to get a little
00:38:02.620
bit further and then you get a little bit further down the path and something else happens uh fucking
00:38:07.500
you get to a roadblock and you have to go backwards and you're going to know from then on like
00:38:12.900
hey i can't go down that path because it's not going to work and then you amplify this process
00:38:17.420
over time meaning going making mistakes learning the lesson acquiring the skill going back one step
00:38:24.260
and applying the skill to overcome this is the fucking plan of getting anywhere and so you have
00:38:30.980
to understand that you are in control of your ability to get where you want to go and it's not
00:38:36.240
up to chance as long as you don't quit okay and you have the intelligence capacity to not make the
00:38:44.080
same mistake multiple times over and over and over meaning if you step in that fucking hole and sprain
00:38:49.100
your ankle you're smart enough not to sprain your ankle again if you hit a roadblock you're smart
00:38:53.800
enough to fucking not go down that path again and you know some people just lack that intelligence some
00:38:58.840
people don't get it but if you're that smart to you know touch the stove burn your hand not touch it
00:39:04.380
again and you can develop the tenacity and the grit and the perseverance and the discipline to go no
00:39:10.580
matter how you feel there's nothing you can't do so that's the way the path really works a lot of
00:39:15.740
people think you know i'm gonna i'm gonna go and then something's gonna happen it's gonna stop me
00:39:20.500
yeah but what are you gonna do after that all right and these are the key things that we need to
00:39:25.520
be successful so everybody thinks that way but that's why everybody is everybody else and you're you
00:39:33.340
all right so for you to get where you want to go you have to understand that the things that you're
00:39:40.700
going to do are only a sacrifice if you quit otherwise they're an investment and if you know
00:39:47.320
how to go and you know how to persevere and you develop the discipline grit fortitude perseverance
00:39:52.760
and all that shit that we talk about with live hard program that it does help you develop very
00:39:57.920
strongly which is why there's millions of people that do it over and over and over again
00:40:01.180
you can get wherever you want to go so this this idea of what if i do all this work and what if i do
00:40:09.140
all these things that's a that's the faulty way to think about it because the way of achievement is not
00:40:15.300
a clear-cut path it's a process of going fucking up learning applying and then going again and it's very
00:40:24.420
simple and the ultimate question that we should be asking ourselves anybody is not what if i do all
00:40:32.420
this work and it doesn't work it's what am i guaranteed to get if i don't do it and you already
00:40:38.100
know what that is you already live that that's why you want to do something else the reason you have
00:40:43.020
this idea the reason you want to do something else is because you're not satisfied where the fuck you
00:40:48.260
are so you either get to go or you get to stay where you are and that's that those are the two
00:40:53.720
choices so what would you rather have i would pick a hundred times out of a hundred to go because i
00:40:59.220
know i'm going to learn new skills i know i'm going to meet new people i know i'm going to progress
00:41:02.680
and even if i don't ultimately get where i want to go i'm going to be in a much better spot than where
00:41:06.840
i am now and that's that they're the only guarantee that you're going to have when it comes to success
00:41:14.120
is that if you don't chase it you're guaranteed to have nothing and that is it so we have to
00:41:19.240
understand those are our choices this is the process there's no other way all these stories
00:41:25.020
you tell yourself about that guy got lucky or he had the perfect circumstances or this that and the
00:41:30.020
other are bullshit all right and that's why i live hard you know people are like why do you have to go
00:41:34.680
outside in the winter time that's not safe because guess what motherfucker conditions are never
00:41:40.660
perfect and you have to learn to execute when conditions aren't perfect if you can't execute
00:41:45.160
when conditions aren't perfect that means that your success is determined by the circumstances
00:41:49.740
that are laid out before you and if your success is determined by the circumstances that are laid
00:41:54.060
out before you it only takes one or two things of unideal circumstances to keep you from going where
00:41:59.500
you want to go and that happens to everybody there's nobody that's ever accomplished anything
00:42:03.580
that went down the path without without constant bad circumstances hardships and all this other
00:42:12.320
shit that's going to happen that you don't plan that's why success is so special that's why winning
00:42:16.560
is so special because you're showing everybody else how to overcome these things okay and it's a duty and
00:42:22.380
it's an obligation and you take it seriously so um here's the choices be where you are and fucking hate
00:42:28.680
it or go and get to a better place let me ask you this andy what what what is more valuable
00:42:34.280
is you know when you talk about you know taking going down going down this path making those mistakes
00:42:41.200
learning from it okay what's going to be more valuable do you know do you know why people listen
00:42:45.620
to me bro do you know why fucking people give value out of what i said it's not because i fucking know
00:42:50.700
all this shit it's because i stepped in every fucking bad hole i found every roadblock i fucked every
00:42:57.340
single thing up not in theory in experience i've been an entrepreneur for 26 motherfucking years
00:43:03.640
name me another dude out there with a podcast besides maybe ramsey okay who's been doing what i do
00:43:10.300
for that long and built iconic shit with it all right real talk there's nobody out there so the reason
00:43:18.340
that you guys find value and what it is that i have to offer is because i went when i didn't know shit
00:43:25.180
i wasn't born with this dude i was a cd student i'm you know i was there's people at my high school
00:43:32.380
that are like dumbfounded by where the fuck we are fucking away yeah but it's all right man because
00:43:38.220
that's how it should be and it shows you the reason i believe in all of you and the reason i know you're
00:43:43.500
capable is because i was fucking you i wasn't born with extra shit okay so i know how to build it i know
00:43:50.100
how to create it i know you can do it too so we talk about you know what the value is the value
00:43:56.920
is in the journey because you acquire all these skills that allow you to do
00:44:03.260
amazing shit in your life man and like you guys you guys are bombarded by fucking losers that's the
00:44:12.120
truth most of the people that you spend your time around are fucking losers they might be nice people
00:44:18.020
they might be good people but when it comes to achievement it comes to ambition it comes to
00:44:22.740
building creating becoming they just accepted what they are and that's fine they're probably you
00:44:28.340
know fucking so ignorant to what they could be that they're happy ignorance is bliss okay that's okay
00:44:33.880
it's okay i'm not judging it but if you're listening to this you're ambitious you want to win you want
00:44:39.720
to achieve so you have to understand that that is a different fucking path than all these people and
00:44:44.700
they're all going to tell you the shit that they think and they don't know a fucking thing about
00:44:48.820
what you're trying to do so we tune it out we understand that if we go down the path for the
00:44:54.260
next five years the next 10 years dude this is the greatest thing that happens okay this is the
00:44:59.940
greatest thing that happens in the beginning everybody's on the same level there's all these
00:45:06.740
people that want to do all this shit that you want to do but they won't go because they think
00:45:11.040
what if i do all this work and it doesn't work out and then you go for just five years okay
00:45:16.740
there's so many less people at five years in than there is in the beginning that the competition is
00:45:25.420
is way less if you go for fucking 20 years like dude listen i've been in my business for 20 fucking 26
00:45:33.140
years what i do okay if a new company comes along and they have some success and they they hit a couple
00:45:40.680
couple doubles and they're doing okay do you understand how much more understanding of the
00:45:46.800
game in the game that they're playing that i have than they have you understand yeah it's it's not
00:45:52.620
comparable i can look at them and say you're doing this this this and this is going to fuck you up
00:45:56.120
i can see it because i've already seen it or done it all right so when we develop that level of
00:46:02.460
understanding of the game that we are playing it's not hard to operate bro you don't have that much
00:46:07.360
competition sure there's people out there that are much bigger than us and you know do things
00:46:12.180
better than us but dude they've been doing it longer you know i'm saying they've been or they
00:46:16.260
got in the right place at the right time and they go up and they come right back down because they don't
00:46:19.920
have the 20 fucking six years of skills that i give you motherfuckers for free you see what i'm
00:46:26.040
saying so so yeah well how do you explain this well that's an anomaly they went here and now they're
00:46:31.700
back down and the reason they're down is because they don't have the experience so the value
00:46:35.540
in the skill set it's immense bro it's everything and you only get it through going i love it man
00:46:42.640
i fucking love it you can't win this week i don't know what to tell you yeah well that's a hell of a
00:46:46.700
way to start guys i want to remind you again that the mfceo project which is all about success and all
00:46:53.960
about personal development and all about becoming the best possible individual citizen that we can be
00:47:01.320
so that we can turn this country to the to the way that it should be um is launching very soon and if
00:47:08.400
you're interested in it is only going to be launched through my email um and if you want to get on the
00:47:14.480
email list go to andy frisella.com register for the andygram which is my daily email you'll get one
00:47:19.360
email a day it's a it's a positive message that you get every day a message of reality and truth and
00:47:24.300
success and personal development get on that email and uh you'll you'll know how you can get the msco
00:47:29.660
project when it launches so well guys andy that was three yep we'll see you tomorrow for cti don't be