REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 03, 2025


848. Q&AF： Getting Your Fire Back, Handling Anxiety & Managing Ego In Employees


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In this episode of Ask Andy For Selling, Andy Friesen and I talk about the return of the M.F.E.O. Project and why it's coming back to the podcast. We also talk about why we're returning to the show and why you should be excited about it.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
00:00:21.120 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we
00:00:27.220 have q and af that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you
00:00:35.220 could submit your questions a few different ways the first way is guys email these questions into
00:00:40.880 ask andy andy for selling.com or go on youtube in the q and afs ask your questions in the comment
00:00:47.880 sections and we'll choose some from there as well uh other days we're gonna have shows within the
00:00:53.360 show this is not a single format show we're gonna have cti tomorrow that stands for cruise the
00:00:58.100 internet that's a society culture comedy all mixed together uh try to deliver the news in a different
00:01:04.780 way um we speculate on what's going on what's true what's not true and then we talk about how we the
00:01:09.920 people have to solve these problems going on in the world other times we're going to have real talk
00:01:14.100 real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk and then we have 75 hard verses
00:01:20.540 75 hard verses where people who have completed the 75 hard program come on the show they talk about
00:01:26.500 how their life was before how their life is now and how they used the 75 hard program to transform
00:01:32.400 their mental state which transform the reality all right if you're unfamiliar with 75 hard it is the
00:01:38.120 world's biggest most popular mental transformation program it is the initial phase of the live hard
00:01:44.480 program and you can get both of those programs for free at episode 208 on the audio feed there is
00:01:51.320 also a book available at andy fursella.com called the book on mental toughness it covers the entire
00:01:57.800 live hard program plus a whole bunch of chapters on mental toughness why it's important how to use it
00:02:04.240 and um has some case studies on some famous people as to you know how they got to be famous using these
00:02:10.580 skills so uh go get the book if you want it's for people who i don't know like the ins and outs and
00:02:17.260 the ups and downs and all the details like me i have to know everything before i start things um or you
00:02:22.820 could just go to episode 208 get the whole thing for free it's your choice book is very popular we're
00:02:27.460 always sold out so uh if we're sold out that sucks for you uh i mean it does uh one thing about this show
00:02:37.680 we don't run ads on the show okay we're the biggest show in the world that doesn't run ads
00:02:41.340 i am an actual entrepreneur i run actual companies um and i finance the show myself and the reason for
00:02:49.860 that is because i don't want anybody telling me what i can and can't say in exchange for that i ask
00:02:54.340 very simply that you help us grow the show by sharing a lot of you guys listen you habitually
00:02:59.880 listen and uh you don't help us you don't you don't share the show okay uh so don't be a hoe 0.99
00:03:05.740 share the show all right and you know buy our shit you know i'm saying we'll just throw that 0.95
00:03:10.120 in there that's that as a reminder uh yeah and by the way if you do want to support us you can
00:03:15.160 buy these first form energy drinks uh at your local convenience store grocery store if they don't
00:03:20.620 have them ask them what the fuck is going on kind of operation are you running here can't be a good 0.92
00:03:25.280 one clearly not um let's see mf ceo project's coming back i just want to remind you guys of that
00:03:33.920 uh we'll have some announcements on that very soon if you're unfamiliar with the mf ceo project it is
00:03:38.880 the first podcast before real af that i did it was the number one business podcast in the world not
00:03:45.240 much change there but uh also um it was the number one overall show for a long time so we're bringing
00:03:52.100 that back and the reason i'm bringing it back is because i feel that i'm needed to teach the younger
00:03:58.980 generation the skills of winning and uh we're going to do that so if you're interested in
00:04:03.620 getting the new mf ceo project it will not be available on itunes or youtube it's going to be
00:04:09.200 available on an app um when i launch that app i will announce it through my email list so uh
00:04:16.860 go get on my email list subscribe to the andy graham you get a little motivational writing a little
00:04:22.140 tactical knowledge every day to your inbox plus you'll get notified when the mf ceo project drops so
00:04:27.500 i'm excited about that bro yeah yeah i'm excited about the things we're doing different and you
00:04:33.120 know we're we're lining up testimonials of people who have built seven eight nine figure companies
00:04:38.860 with the skills of the first series yeah uh that's going to be cool um i mean a lot of things are
00:04:45.280 going to be different well i mean i think what the coolest piece of it too man like outside looking
00:04:49.040 in is like i mean you talk about like you know that's going to be the interviews and the guests
00:04:53.140 yeah right like it's going to be cool man because it's going to be you know not just the real
00:04:57.080 entrepreneurs that that i know it's going to be people who have used you know like bro fucking 0.98
00:05:02.380 i talked to a guy yesterday who's got a 300 million dollar company that was talking about how
00:05:07.340 he used to listen to mf ceo when he was fucking you know hustling back in in the day so stuff like 0.73
00:05:13.800 that you know what i mean well you you talk about what i'm what i like about it most is like you know
00:05:18.120 you've talked about this before like how business has its cycles and its evolutions and like you're
00:05:22.460 in a new phase of business new to you right yeah being able to apply all the shit that you've learned 0.71
00:05:27.800 even yeah most recently well i mean look dude building a business to a million is is a set of
00:05:34.500 skills building a business from a million to 10 million that's a set of skills now a lot of those
00:05:38.240 skills overlap but there are skills you need to have building your business from 10 to 50 million
00:05:43.480 that's a different thing building your business from 50 million to 500 million completely different
00:05:50.300 thing um so you know all of these skills overlap but it's going to it is going to be a lot different
00:05:56.240 it's going to be a lot more uh a lot more knowledge to bestow you know i'm excited about it word of the
00:06:02.380 day right there yeah bestow so let's bestow them with a little appetizer of knowledge let's do it uh just
00:06:08.800 to get people through the week well i got some good ones for you i know you do you got three good ones
00:06:12.580 for you as usual um let's do it that's a new one for today too the what usual use a what usual
00:06:20.440 usual usual what does that mean usual okay let's let's bestow let's
00:06:30.320 guys andy question number one man let's get into these dude uh andy i am in college and i'm doing
00:06:41.420 excellent uh especially compared to last year i used to party all week long was able to maintain
00:06:47.340 good grades i changed it up and i am 20 years old and i have completed 75 hard back in november for
00:06:53.080 the first time i haven't had a sip of alcohol since august i'm actively doing 75 hard again
00:06:59.240 and i'm giving it my all i have aspirations to become a firefighter and a tattoo artist on the
00:07:05.440 side to fill in my days off but i often feel like i've been spaced out or that i have little to no
00:07:12.720 interest in doing things um i used to dream of cars houses solid family now i have a hard time
00:07:19.780 focusing on my purpose and my why am i doing the things that i am how do you recommend getting that
00:07:26.300 fire back and is it normal that it will get monotonous right like did you ever lose that that fire of like
00:07:33.000 what you wanted to get and why you wanted to get and how did you get it back of course this is a long
00:07:39.040 hard intense brutal journey you are going to feel like not doing it way more than you're going to feel
00:07:48.820 like doing it once you start to do it the way you feel about doing it is irrelevant and every
00:07:55.960 championship person every successful entrepreneur every person that you've ever looked up to and said
00:08:01.720 fuck dude i want to be like that all of those people have learned a very specific skill they have 0.91
00:08:08.980 learned and understand that how they feel about doing the critical tasks that need to be done on a day-by-day
00:08:17.020 basis is irrelevant all that matters is that you do it so how you feel about doing it does not matter
00:08:25.840 there's no trophy for it there's no reward for it there's no uh monetary gain no one cares no one
00:08:33.380 cares how you feel you're the only one that cares no one cares so with that being understood do you want
00:08:41.280 to achieve your goals or do you want to stay where you are and potentially and most likely go backwards
00:08:48.360 from where you are those are your choices so you can choose to understand that you have to execute at
00:08:55.760 a high level especially when you don't feel like it and you will eventually get where you want to go
00:09:01.000 or you could say i just don't feel like it like everybody else does and your life will fucking suck 0.98
00:09:07.620 that's it it's going to be hard either way either one of those paths is difficult there's no path in
00:09:13.200 life where you get to skip through the fucking field of daisies with the hummingbirds and the bees 0.96
00:09:18.160 and the sun shining on your motherfucking face and everything's going to be great there's no path to that 0.82
00:09:24.540 in real life now how many of the people that live this carefree skip through the fucking daisies 0.93
00:09:31.060 lifestyle actually remain in that position very few if you pay attention every year they're trying to
00:09:37.420 reinvent themselves you know why because the internet gives people that don't know what the fuck they're 0.74
00:09:42.940 talking about a platform to spread things with certainty and so when they're when they are skipping
00:09:50.540 through the field even though they have no money coming in and they have nobody around them and
00:09:54.220 everything is they pretend to know that what they're doing is the right thing for sure okay and
00:10:01.440 that certainty then sucks people in and quite honestly ruins their fucking life because that person will be on 0.92
00:10:08.200 the next thing next year and the next thing the year after that and the next thing the year after that
00:10:13.380 and they talk out their ass i don't know what the fuck they're talking about so here's the thing 0.97
00:10:18.980 of course you're not going to feel like it most of the time this is why you have to train yourself
00:10:27.400 to execute which is called discipline when you don't feel like it or when you're lacking motivation
00:10:33.220 this is the entire point of the live hard program it's the entire reason that the live hard program
00:10:39.660 exists and why it's the most popular mental toughness discipline training program in the world
00:10:45.160 it's not because it doesn't work it's because it trains you to make the better decision not the
00:10:52.220 harder decision the better decision when you don't feel like making it okay and that's another thing why
00:10:58.900 don't you reframe the decisions that you are making from this is the hardest decision to this is the
00:11:06.620 better decision this is what's going to move me forward this is what's going to get me what i want
00:11:11.660 when you think about it like that it makes it a lot easier to get off your ass and go fucking do it 0.87
00:11:16.880 so yes it is absolutely normal to not feel like doing it there is not a single person who has ever
00:11:25.940 achieved anything that you want to achieve that has felt like it every single day it's hard it's frustrating
00:11:33.060 there's things that are going to happen you're going to get punched in the face you're going to
00:11:36.960 get sick you're going to have breakups you're going to have people let you down you're going to
00:11:40.940 have people steal from you you're going to have friends let you down you're going to be embarrassed
00:11:45.480 you're going to make mistakes and everybody's going to see it and laugh at you all of these things are
00:11:49.820 going to happen you have to build yourself into someone who can continue to execute regardless of
00:11:55.980 what's happening around you and if you can do that it doesn't matter what's happening around you
00:12:01.060 doesn't matter if they're laughing it doesn't matter if they're making fun it doesn't matter
00:12:04.900 if the weather's bad it doesn't matter if the economy's bad it doesn't matter if your parents
00:12:09.520 don't approve or your wife or your girlfriend or your husband it doesn't fucking matter if you keep 0.99
00:12:15.260 executing because eventually you will find yourself in the place you set out to be okay that's the game
00:12:23.200 and i don't know how to explain it any better like if you are going to to be a slave to your emotion
00:12:30.140 you are going to lack control in all areas of your life forever you cannot be a slave to how you feel
00:12:37.160 decisions made about your life have to be made with the outcome in mind and you have to commit to
00:12:44.760 taking those actions with the outcome in mind understanding that if you don't take them your life is going to
00:12:51.040 be shitty and you're going to be frustrated and you're going to be be fucking disappointed and 0.99
00:12:56.920 unfulfilled and and dude it's it's just uh it's the way it is yeah let's let's tie this into materialism
00:13:04.440 because you mentioned like you know he had these dreams of cars and houses and stuff and i know for
00:13:08.020 you it was a lamborghini coontosh right yeah how important was that for you like i mean like can we
00:13:16.060 we talk about motivation right like it's hard to like on those days you don't feel like doing shit i mean 0.78
00:13:21.900 is that really what you look towards like is that you know i'm saying like what do you listen
00:13:26.240 this this game is so fucking hard you got to use whatever the fuck you can okay yes material goals 0.95
00:13:33.060 are an amazing motivator especially when you don't have anything when you can't go to dinner at the
00:13:37.820 nice restaurants and you're driving a fucking rusted out beater and you're embarrassed to get out of 0.84
00:13:43.140 the car and all these things that that sucks okay your life is much better when you're driving a nice
00:13:48.000 car that's reality dude and anybody who tells you different hasn't driven a nice car it's just the
00:13:52.580 facts all right a lot of people like to say that shit doesn't matter it's just transportation
00:13:56.980 a to b well have you ever gone anywhere in a bugatti because it's pretty fucking cool a to b is pretty 0.64
00:14:02.460 cool yeah and you get there a lot faster all right so don't listen to motherfuckers that have never 0.92
00:14:07.000 experienced the experiences that you want to experience because they have no perspective or standing to
00:14:11.580 comment on it okay so anything that you can do to drive you is a good thing some people it's money
00:14:21.180 some people it's cars some people it's lifestyle some people it's watches and suits and by the way
00:14:26.960 it was all those things for me for a long fucking time okay because i i was young and i lacked the 0.90
00:14:33.700 understanding of how to drive myself without those things and once i got all those things in business
00:14:41.520 once i accumulated some cool stuff and i i realized like well fuck dude there's only so 0.72
00:14:47.580 much cool shit you can get okay and then i did some searching internally and try to you know 0.64
00:14:53.060 like i's probably going through a lot what this young man's going through where he's thinking like
00:14:57.660 well why am i doing this and what i started to realize is that you know i looked around and i'm like
00:15:02.600 well there's there's at that time there was probably probably had 80 guys total 80 people and i looked
00:15:08.640 around i'm like well this guy depends on this this guy depends on this that guy's not driving a nice
00:15:15.520 car yet that guy hasn't bought a house and i started to realize my obligation was not just to myself it
00:15:23.580 was to everybody else and so as i progressed through the process my drive and and purpose changed
00:15:35.120 and it became from a what you probably most people would consider a selfish purpose i want this i want
00:15:42.940 that which is natural when you don't have shit you got to take care of yourself to solve that problem
00:15:49.560 okay but once you have it a lot of this is why you hear a lot of people go broke once they get some
00:15:55.380 success because they lack the ability to redefine what their purpose actually is and so i got to a point
00:16:02.360 where i had all this stuff i started looking around and then i expanded my purpose okay i expanded my
00:16:08.720 purpose i realized well dude you still got a long way to go you got to scale these companies so that
00:16:13.260 the people who helped you get where you are can have opportunities to get what they want okay so that
00:16:18.600 became like a second purpose and a new wind in my sales which pushed me down now by the way still love
00:16:26.220 the cars i really don't care about watches anymore i like suits but the point is none of that shit 0.88
00:16:32.580 really gets me that excited okay once in a while it does but that's really not it okay what and and by
00:16:40.600 the way now i have companies built to where really anybody that's in these companies has unlimited
00:16:46.720 opportunity and upward mobility if they want to dedicate themselves to it the proper way right so there's
00:16:52.680 that okay so i did that and i'm continuing to do that so what's my bigger purpose past that once i did
00:16:58.640 so so uh what am i supposed to go home and at 42 years old and fucking sit on the couch and fuck off 0.97
00:17:04.160 uh you know that wasn't very fun so then i had to redefine my purpose again and what my purpose became
00:17:10.700 then was all right well what's the what's going on in the world well for the last five years and really
00:17:18.580 now that i've become more aware it's been the last 100 years we have lived in a country uh that isn't
00:17:26.120 what it should be and the reason it isn't what it should be is because the individuals allow it to be
00:17:31.860 that so what's that problem well that that is a problem that i can help solve because if we can make
00:17:39.600 the people great and we can make the people skilled and we can make the people high achievers that makes
00:17:43.700 it harder to control them and they have a better life if they have a better life that means the standard
00:17:48.120 is raised if the standard is raised in the household the standard can be raised with the neighbor if the
00:17:52.480 standard can be raised with the neighbor it can be raised in the community if it can be raised in the
00:17:55.400 community it can be raised at the state if we can raise all the states we can make the country great again
00:18:00.140 by individual success and accomplishment and the holding of standards and so when i say personal excellence
00:18:07.900 is the ultimate rebellion that's what i mean because our country is only as good as its individuals
00:18:12.620 so now my purpose has expanded where i feel the need to teach what i know about business and success
00:18:20.440 more in a more pointed fashion so that we can help solve that problem so these are this is the scaling
00:18:29.120 of of your purpose which is just as important as scaling your business because if you scale into a big
00:18:36.520 business and then you're there and you don't have any purpose you're going to be miserable you're
00:18:40.980 because dude human beings especially men okay no disrespect to the women at all but men and women are 0.78
00:18:50.600 different and men inherently have a drive to provide contribute create and build things all right protect
00:19:02.560 things and people okay and when you take that away and you make them ultra comfortable and you give
00:19:10.120 them all the food they want you let them live and they don't have any purpose bro they're fucking 0.99
00:19:13.800 miserable which is why we have such a mental health crisis with the men in this country they don't have 0.99
00:19:21.660 enough problems to solve and the problems that they're committed to solving are just them chasing
00:19:26.340 the cheese in the fucking hamster wheel bro so we have to acknowledge and become aware of bigger 0.95
00:19:34.680 problems that we can solve that will bring us ultimate fulfillment okay so yeah in the beginning
00:19:41.400 when you're 20 years old dude it might just be i want cars and i want a watch and i i want girls to
00:19:47.560 like me then it could be you know when you're 30 it could be you know hey i've i've gotten here uh now i
00:19:54.680 gotta bring people here okay and then when you're 40 you're like well fuck i brought some people here and 0.75
00:19:59.540 if if they're not here it's on them because they haven't committed then it's what's a bigger purpose
00:20:04.880 and a bigger purpose and like for me dude you know uh that's just how it's played out and and everybody
00:20:12.020 i know that is ultra successful and doesn't end up losing it or going crazy or having so many mental
00:20:20.620 health issues they need to be committed um the reason that they're able to to function
00:20:27.460 over the course of their life is because they're continuing to redefine what their mission is and
00:20:35.440 what their purpose is i mean is it is it i mean because i look at like you know you talk about that
00:20:40.520 beginning motivation but even just to get you to that point where you can start worrying about other
00:20:43.920 people how much good has come out of having a fucking aspiration of that coontosh bro a lot that's i 0.96
00:20:50.000 you know what uh people like oh you just wanted the coontosh bro that's selfish as fuck yeah so you 0.92
00:20:56.480 guys know gary v i love gary um gary has been a massively influential person in my life for the
00:21:03.440 last 15 years yeah um awesome dude he's a great dude and he's and he's hyper intelligent and people
00:21:09.520 do not realize how tuned in that dude is one of the things that gary now we've had a couple
00:21:16.460 disagreements over the course of you know the 15 years we've been friends um one of the
00:21:22.320 disagreements was he made a post one time laughing at like people that buy nice cars and i messaged him
00:21:28.620 i said hey you know i understand you're from new york and and you guys don't drive cars and shit up 0.86
00:21:33.140 there but like let me tell you about cars and i told him you know that and and dude he he admitted
00:21:40.460 it he was like well that's different you have a passion for cars you're not just trying to keep up with
00:21:44.280 the fucking joneses right okay which is true but the point of the matter is you know you got to be 0.83
00:21:50.740 careful not to shit on people's material goals don't take those dreams away from people like when
00:21:56.060 people have dreams of material shit don't shit on us don't don't say oh that's that's stupid or 0.91
00:22:02.480 that's bullshit or you're just a clown for wanting that because dude that might be the thing that drives 0.73
00:22:08.580 them to the next thing and then that and then drives them to the next thing and then all of a
00:22:13.660 sudden dude like me you've got do thousands of people that are providing for themselves and their
00:22:19.820 families because of the companies that these people have created which started with just a simple want
00:22:25.020 for some cool shit bro so like dude you can't quantify what could actually happen bro elon musk 0.65
00:22:34.440 let's talk about elon right now as an entrepreneur okay elon musk as an entrepreneur
00:22:40.840 bought a million dollar mclaren f1 in 1999 okay and to spend a million dollars on a car in 1999
00:22:48.340 huge deal he loves cars huge car guy okay but i don't know that he's into cars anymore you know why
00:22:54.920 because he decided that his purpose was going to be to go to fucking space you like space okay yeah 0.86
00:23:00.080 like expand his purpose but the point is now this dude employs i mean hundreds of thousands of people
00:23:06.160 in his different companies because he continued to expand what his purpose was and i believe his he's
00:23:12.980 you know expanded it again uh you know which is similar to in line with what my purpose is um so
00:23:19.220 you know he's looked at the world and he's like well fuck we gotta fix this you know and uh you know 0.66
00:23:24.500 that's that's how it goes bro and if you want to actually win long term um you have to redefine
00:23:32.080 what that purpose is going to be over and over and over again and you know if you want to be a
00:23:37.340 responsible role model and leader i don't think you should shit on people's goals because you never
00:23:41.440 know what that's going to lead to i love it man i love it guys andy question number two uh hey andy
00:23:47.360 i've listened to nearly every episode since 2017 and i want to thank you for being the main source
00:23:54.160 of my business growth over the years my question is this andy uh you've talked on the podcast about
00:24:00.000 severe anxiety before uh i'm 24 years old and for the first time in my life i've started to have the
00:24:07.100 exact same problem some days it's to the point where i want to stay in bed take a loss just to be able
00:24:11.500 to function for the rest of the week um with so many depending on me to succeed i don't want to slow
00:24:16.540 down in fact i want to do more how have you built up your resilience to these issues and what do you
00:24:22.760 do when when that stuff happens now uh talking about anxiety specifically all right i got a lot
00:24:28.560 to say here um number one when you consume content on the internet as an entrepreneur as an ambitious
00:24:36.320 person as someone who wants to succeed you have to consume it with the filter of this is not for
00:24:45.380 people who are doing what i want to do this is for everybody else entrepreneurs driven people
00:24:52.500 ambitious people have a different set of rules to the game that apply to them than everybody else
00:24:59.600 and so when you consume all of this shit it's telling you you have to do this and you have to 0.51
00:25:05.360 live like that and you better feel like this all of a sudden we start analyzing ourselves and we're
00:25:10.560 like well fuck dude i'm not really any of those things and then you end up in a situation where 0.84
00:25:15.460 you feel anxious about it you feel like you're you're fucked up or there's something wrong with you 0.96
00:25:20.300 and dude that shit will drive you crazy so that's point number one stop consuming all the data on the 0.92
00:25:28.040 internet written by motherfuckers who haven't done anything near what you want to do and let me explain 0.87
00:25:35.360 something to you that includes people who have just have a podcast that includes people who just
00:25:41.740 have a coaching business i'm talking about people for entrepreneurship who have built actual companies
00:25:49.540 listen to them read what they say and everybody else can get the fuck out of the way okay that's what
00:25:57.240 you have to understand if you consume the rules of the game written by people who have never played
00:26:03.480 the game and who have never even come close to winning the game you're going to feel crazy and
00:26:09.120 that's most of the information on the internet most of these people writing the the therapy memes and
00:26:14.580 most of the people who are writing the you know these these uh feel good shit yeah there's first of all 0.57
00:26:21.560 most of those people are stealing the writing they don't even know what the fuck they're writing 0.84
00:26:25.500 and it doesn't it just doesn't apply bro we we live by to be a successful entrepreneur it takes a
00:26:33.060 different path that's it and so if you're on a path and you're reading about all the other paths
00:26:39.500 you're going to be confused and you're going to start analyzing yourself because dude we want to be the
00:26:43.500 best as entrepreneurs as ambitious people as people who want to build and create and become things
00:26:47.600 we want to be the best so when we lack these little things that you know other people say that they
00:26:53.040 should have we start feeling bad and we get anxiety and we judge ourselves and the reality is is those
00:26:58.240 are the rules for everybody else the rules for us are different and once you figure that out you have
00:27:05.640 far less anxiety number two we need to realize that people need people like us they need people that are
00:27:12.940 hungry they need people that want to build they need people that are obsessed they need people that are
00:27:18.100 going to create and become and do the things for the world that the world fucking enjoys okay that's building 0.79
00:27:25.740 companies building organizations achievement that creates careers and jobs and innovations and cures these things
00:27:32.420 are needed and guess who they come from they don't come from all those people they come from people like us all
00:27:37.000 right so you are needed and you are a fucking different breed than all of those people and by the way that's okay 0.96
00:27:44.760 because without people that thought like us they wouldn't have fucking anything all right so 0.92
00:27:51.100 understand your obsession is needed your imbalance is needed your drive is needed your ambition is needed all of
00:28:03.920 it is needed so that's point number two point number three is when ambitious people
00:28:11.020 do not have a detail plan to work they feel they feel anxiety okay so i would ask yourself
00:28:20.840 do you have a detail plan to get up and work every single day and do these things every single day or do
00:28:27.280 you just have some abstract vision that maybe one day you want to create because if you had a fucking 0.93
00:28:33.660 day by day detail plan of the execution that you would be too busy to feel anxious for real so
00:28:40.740 those are the three things that i think uh really help me when i start to feel anxious usually
00:28:48.680 the reason that i start to feel anxious uh is because of the first part where i'm consuming
00:28:54.920 information you're supposed to be consuming yeah or or the third part i'm not clear on the steps i need
00:29:01.220 to take whenever i have a problem that needs to be solved i get the most anxiety when i don't know the
00:29:08.560 answer or don't have a plan when i create the plan and i know that the plan will equate to an answer
00:29:14.780 even if it takes a year i don't have the anxiety about it anymore because i know the solution
00:29:19.220 all right so with that being said um you have to realize that warrior mentality builder mentality
00:29:30.020 creator mentality intense mentality is needed it's a fucking need of civilization and society it's always 0.88
00:29:37.400 been there and it's a very important role and we have dealt with the condemnation and
00:29:43.320 villainization of these traits for a very long time all right intentionally they why do you think
00:29:50.020 they don't want you to achieve anything right why do they think they want you to be there's multiple
00:29:54.520 reasons but the point is none of them are valid and you are definitely in the right for wanting to go
00:30:01.480 create shit um but other than that dude you know anxiety typically is is a normal ebb and flow of 0.55
00:30:11.500 just being a human being and if you learn how to listen to it what it usually tells you is get off your
00:30:17.140 ass and go solve this problem okay so that's it's a flag of like yes it's a signal it's a signal bro back in
00:30:25.440 the day you know when you would have the caveman would get anxiety the reason he would get anxiety
00:30:30.880 is because he had any fucking food right and he's like fuck i don't know where my food's gonna come 0.99
00:30:34.840 from so guess what he had to do he had to go get some food okay these are triggers that cause us to
00:30:40.540 understand that there's a problem identify a problem and then go solve it all right but we are now
00:30:46.500 inundated with all of this shit in the world that tells us it's wrong to feel any anxiety okay
00:30:55.360 dude if you start focusing and living your day to feel zero anxiety you are going to feel a multiple
00:31:05.260 effect of anxiety because you were you are ultra sensitive to anxiety when it creeps in all right if
00:31:13.760 you go through your day and you're like fuck dude i'm just gonna try to get through my day 0.98
00:31:17.120 i'm gonna get try to get through my day i'm gonna try to get through my day and then something happens
00:31:22.300 okay and then all of a sudden you're like fuck fuck i can't get through my one day without feeling 0.96
00:31:28.480 this and it causes an overreaction because you have an unrealistic expectation of a normal human emotion
00:31:37.540 which is anxiety dude so what's it telling you bro yeah it's normal what's it telling you what's
00:31:46.900 it telling you to do if you're if you're if you're not where you're supposed to be you're probably
00:31:51.260 gonna feel it if you're not doing what you're supposed to do you're probably gonna feel it if
00:31:55.320 you're not living how you're supposed to live you're probably gonna feel it it doesn't mean there's
00:31:59.200 something wrong you gotta go fix that shit all right so that's my answer on that dude like it's 0.93
00:32:04.700 it's something that everybody goes through it's something that is fairly normal for most
00:32:09.760 entrepreneurs but it typically comes from not understanding what to do not having a plan
00:32:15.500 having unrealistic expectations about anxiety consuming the wrong information and then thinking
00:32:22.340 it's wrong to be a driven ambitious human being letting people convince you that it's wrong it's
00:32:26.600 not fucking wrong it's required in society bro even just thinking about that for a second like the 0.86
00:32:31.080 people who tell you like oh you know you're not supposed to have any anxiety they're telling you
00:32:35.720 to ignore all of that fucking warning signs to do it which creates more like bro it's so wild it's 0.95
00:32:40.720 listen it's the predatory therapist industry at this point okay they have convinced people that
00:32:48.240 having any kind of anxiety means that there's something wrong with them yeah and that they need
00:32:55.080 and by the way what are they trying to do they're selling you something and i can't think of a more
00:33:02.040 disgusting way to make money than to convince people they have a problem that they don't actually have
00:33:08.220 and then charge them money to solve it okay or convincing someone that they are mentally broken 0.51
00:33:15.040 when in reality they're just not doing what a human's supposed to do and then charging money
00:33:20.560 forever to pretend like they're broken like dude i can't think of a more scummy low-life way to make
00:33:27.220 a living it's just my opinion yeah you're not broken bro you're fucking built for it and you need to go 0.96
00:33:34.820 do it i love it man i love it guys let's get to our third and final question question number three
00:33:40.480 hi andy i just like how they put their hello
00:33:46.000 yeah greetings um i love the show and i've been listening to it for years and i've taken so many
00:33:53.740 lessons from it my business partner and i opened up our practice in december of 2023 and have been
00:34:00.340 collecting north of a hundred thousand dollars a month uh great growth uh but hungry for more with
00:34:06.500 that we've begun hiring people uh to help with the day-to-day operations and tasks unfortunately
00:34:13.220 one employee brings a lot of personal issues to work through her mood effort with tasks and sometimes
00:34:21.020 messages uh saying she won't be in to work that day out of the blue we rely on her to take stress
00:34:27.060 off of our plate when she is there and on point she's the best worker ever but when she isn't it
00:34:32.740 frustrates both of us and puts more on our plate we do the best to lead by example discuss expectations
00:34:38.300 but these issues do present um she's our first hire so we are new to having someone work with us
00:34:44.280 any help on what to do fire her don't give up on her yet need some advice okay first of all it's
00:34:51.980 it's important to understand why this is happening if that's your first hire and that person as you
00:34:57.740 say is an awesome employee which i would have very strong arguments against this but you because you
00:35:04.780 don't have experience say that this person is awesome right so let's just go with that okay this
00:35:11.240 person is the best employee ever i would bet that you have pointed to that person with the rest of your
00:35:19.560 team and built them up uh many many times and now you have a problem of hubris and ego in that person
00:35:27.620 and they are leveraging you and your goodwill thinking that they are untouchable so you have
00:35:34.100 a big problem here the reason this is a big problem is because if that person is your highest performing
00:35:41.520 person and you have pointed to that person as your highest performing person then your other employees
00:35:48.500 are going to adopt the behavior of this person and in reality you don't want any of your employees
00:35:54.380 to adopt the behavior of this person regardless of how well they do the thing that you hired them
00:36:01.680 for because just like you said now you're dealing with all this other bullshit you created this out of 0.80
00:36:08.220 your inexperience and that's no fault of yours you don't know what you're doing most people don't when
00:36:12.960 they make their first hire but let me let you into this person's mind that person thinks this
00:36:18.780 they need me i was their first hire i'm the best at what i do i can get away with not showing up
00:36:25.620 sometimes i can get away with not doing the certain things like everybody else that's what they think
00:36:31.140 so what are your options well your options are you can either get that strained out and you can
00:36:38.340 explain to them why it's important and the reason it's important and the reason it is important is
00:36:42.620 because that person has been made an example for the other employees to follow and if that person
00:36:48.620 isn't doing things the way that you require people to do things nobody else will either and if you can
00:36:53.840 explain that to someone sometimes they will correct their behavior because they're not aware that
00:36:58.320 they're actually a cancer to the culture and the operation of the business but more than likely that
00:37:03.800 person is going to continue to believe they need me and i can do whatever i want and they will
00:37:08.560 eventually go back to their old ways so my recommendation would be to fire them and then
00:37:15.840 get everybody in a room and tell them this i don't give a fuck how much you sell i don't give a fuck how 0.97
00:37:21.620 good you think you are i don't care what you how much you think we're going to do things a certain way
00:37:26.380 here and they're going to be done that way and if you don't do do them this way you won't be here and
00:37:31.860 what that does is that shows your team that it doesn't matter who it is if they don't contribute
00:37:38.420 and they aren't a cultural fit and they don't do the basics they're not going to be here okay which
00:37:44.300 what do you think the rest of the team will do now they're going to say and the conversation will go
00:37:48.380 like this well fuck if they're getting ready to get rid of michelle and she's killing everybody 0.98
00:37:51.980 i mean fuck dude we better do what we're told we better do it right yeah okay so you're dealing with 0.90
00:37:58.880 a lot of conversations and a lot of thoughts and things that you're not actually getting to see
00:38:04.060 uh but if you've been in business long enough you know how it goes so this is a normal thing that
00:38:09.020 you're probably going to deal with over and over again as a business owner you're going to have
00:38:13.100 people that come in they get so much better than everybody else that they think the rules don't
00:38:17.400 apply and the problem with that is is that it destroys your culture because if you let them do
00:38:25.380 that and don't let anybody else do that your team's not going to respect you they're not going
00:38:30.060 to respect the company they're not going to respect the mission they're not going to go to bat 0.72
00:38:33.120 for you they're not going to work hard they're going to say well fuck that that's a different
00:38:37.040 standard people like to play by the same set of rules um and and the reality is is if that person's
00:38:44.200 doing that now and you do you want them doing that when your business is 20 times bigger right you see
00:38:50.600 what i'm saying so my advice would be if i was uh you know if you were hiring me to consult your company
00:38:57.060 um i would say remove this person explain to the team why use it as a culture building lesson
00:39:03.740 and uh and the reality is dude you know your other employees probably hate that person
00:39:08.420 because they got to come in and do all this shit and that person's getting away with this other shit 0.89
00:39:13.460 they're probably like who fuck michelle yeah fuck her you see what i'm saying right good riddance yeah 1.00
00:39:18.360 and then and then what they what if you don't do anything about it they say well fuck michelle and dj that's 0.62
00:39:24.700 dj's little pet fuck him he's letting her so they lose respect for her and you and the company and 0.99
00:39:29.520 the mission and things don't go well so that's my answer i wouldn't fucking put up with it i have put 0.95
00:39:36.460 up with it in the past and every time i've ever put up with it i got fucking burned every single time 0.98
00:39:41.320 so from now i don't put up with it anymore it is what it is i was gonna actually that because i feel
00:39:45.660 like that's like that also leads into you know i guess just emotions in business right like as a
00:39:51.680 operator owner right like how like how hard was that to have to get your heart out of these
00:39:58.040 emotional because like bro like yeah you want to care about people right like how hard is that
00:40:02.760 it's harder when you don't have degrees of separation between you and the people in your company
00:40:08.800 because people will pull on your heartstrings and your uh good nature they'll know that you have a
00:40:16.660 good heart and they'll use it against you dude every time yeah bro i i had a person one time
00:40:21.440 uh come to me and i'm just going to give you an example of of the kind of shit that you'll deal with 0.87
00:40:28.220 um i had a person come to me one time and tell me that they were sick and they couldn't afford their
00:40:34.520 medical bills uh the medical bills were eight thousand dollars okay and eight thousand dollars
00:40:40.420 from where i'm at in life um can make a big impact on their life not on my for me i don't i don't even
00:40:49.500 notice it yeah okay um i paid the medical bills and a week later the person quits okay and then i call
00:41:02.280 over to the department that they were in and i said what what what happened here and um the person had
00:41:08.780 missed or left early in the last 12 months 60 days 60 days okay which i was infuriated why that was
00:41:18.080 even tolerated in the first place so i walked into my brother's office and i said you're never gonna
00:41:23.760 fucking believe this and i told him the story and he said no fucking way and i said i said why he goes 0.98
00:41:31.240 that person came to me and asked me for five grand and i gave it to him two weeks ago oh shit yeah so 0.67
00:41:37.520 and because we're good people yeah bro you understand and we care about people that's the
00:41:42.400 kind of shit people will do to you they don't care they don't give a fuck about you they you know 0.95
00:41:47.880 now in my case i think that's a very rare uh you know exception to rule from the people that we work
00:41:57.180 with for sure but it happens no these listen i can tell you this shit happens all the time bro 0.79
00:42:03.440 you can't allow people to have an inch because they'll take fucking they'll take a fucking mile 1.00
00:42:09.320 and um you got to be careful you got to be careful who you let in your dude i was talking to my buddy
00:42:16.540 earlier today um in the car world and he has a guy who won a billion dollar powerball shit okay um
00:42:28.600 and i fucking commented back or i text him back i said well dude i hope he understands how to 0.95
00:42:37.560 fucking push the scammers and the crooks and the this and that away because they come bro they come 0.94
00:42:43.200 and uh people you know when you're a good person and you want to help people and you want to do right
00:42:50.380 by people and people start to figure out that that's genuine they will line the fuck up to take
00:42:54.740 advantage of it and uh it's disheartening it's frustrating it makes you feel like a fucking 0.99
00:43:00.920 idiot but at the end of the day you know when i die i want to be able to say i did the right thing 0.86
00:43:07.900 yeah you know and uh that's how i look at it when i look back and i say god you're stupid for doing
00:43:13.540 those things but really dude that's on people like that yeah it's not on you yeah you know what i'm
00:43:18.020 saying like it still pisses you the fuck off especially when these people go out in the real world and
00:43:23.560 pretend like they're such great people you know what i'm saying but um it is what it is and uh
00:43:30.600 you know getting back to the original question i you you can't tolerate bad behavior just because
00:43:36.420 people produce high value uh when they're there um and when you said oh that's a perfect employee
00:43:42.160 that's not a fucking that's a terrible employee fucking terrible you think it's good because they 0.99
00:43:46.960 can sell some shit or they can do some shit that's a terrible employee that will ruin your fucking 1.00
00:43:51.980 business if you allow employees like that to exist in your company so my advice to you would be to
00:43:58.800 walk in and say thank you for everything that you've done but these things are unacceptable and
00:44:05.340 they're unacceptable for this reason and if these things can't get fixed and by fixed i mean never
00:44:10.820 ever fucking happen again and you can't step up and lead the rest of the team with your actions and 0.93
00:44:17.160 how you perform then we are going to have to part ways right now and that person's going to be
00:44:22.940 they're going to they're going to get defensive they're going to be i'm your best blah blah blah
00:44:26.120 and if they do that fucking fire them out right yeah immediately now if they say hey 0.90
00:44:32.540 i never thought about it like that man i'm sorry i made you i'm making you look fucking stupid aren't 0.95
00:44:38.860 i if they say something like that now they're getting it okay and you could give that person a chance
00:44:44.160 but if they automatically go to well i'm the best fuck you i don't give a fuck i'd rather work with 0.90
00:44:50.300 fucking i'd rather work with people that are good people that aren't as skilled and teach them the 0.90
00:44:54.860 skill than someone like you who fucking thinks they're the best and acts like a fucking dong bag 0.99
00:45:00.420 you know what i'm saying so yeah that was real shit man i love it i love it man well guys 0.71
00:45:06.660 andy that was three yeah don't be a hoe 1.00
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00:45:10.920 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in 1.00
00:45:18.420 the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00
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