REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 851. Q&AF： Dealing With Stress, Setting Healthy Boundaries & How To Find A Mentor

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00:02:50.560 Alright, what's up dude?

00:02:52.080 What's going on man?

00:02:52.800 Nothing

00:02:53.040 Yeah, we were just talking about

00:02:55.560 I really do think for some reason this Daylight Saban's kicked my ass

00:02:59.100 Yeah

00:02:59.960 I don't know why

00:03:00.740 It's fucking ridiculous

00:03:02.600 I've been doing it for 30 years

00:03:03.900 But it's just like this one for some reason, it got me

00:03:06.080 Bro, I was thinking about this

00:03:10.840 I think that the powers that be intentionally make it dark during the winter so that we're all depressed

00:03:21.820 Yeah

00:03:22.360 And we're less productive

00:03:23.660 Less sunlight

00:03:24.320 I am way less motivated, way less productive in the winter months than I am in the summer months

00:03:32.080 And way less happy

00:03:33.160 Yeah

00:03:33.540 It's that seasonal depressive disorder, whatever

00:03:35.740 I need a light bro

00:03:37.300 LGB something, yeah

00:03:38.480 Yeah

00:03:38.760 Of course

00:03:39.640 Oh bro, did you see the comments on that short?

00:03:47.140 On which one?

00:03:47.900 On the, well we'll talk about it tomorrow

00:03:50.140 Okay

00:03:50.440 Yeah

00:03:50.860 It was funny

00:03:51.600 No, but yeah

00:03:52.480 I mean, so I don't know

00:03:53.240 Maybe, so maybe that's what it is

00:03:54.900 Like it's getting us out of that ick, you know

00:03:57.180 Yeah

00:03:57.640 I don't know dude

00:03:58.600 But I can tell you this

00:04:00.520 Because I would like it to be sunny until 9 o'clock at night

00:04:05.020 Dude, that'd be nice

00:04:05.980 I like that

00:04:06.620 That's my favorite time of the year, dude

00:04:08.060 I feel like the days were longer

00:04:08.740 When it doesn't get dark until like 9.15

00:04:10.320 Yeah, bro

00:04:10.940 That's the shit

00:04:11.740 Yeah

00:04:12.080 Yeah, I feel like days were longer when I was a little kid, man

00:04:15.280 You know, like, you know

00:04:16.660 Because we were out until the streetlights came on

00:04:18.260 Yeah, what were you doing?

00:04:20.440 Shit, you know, stuff

00:04:22.060 Yeah, stuff

00:04:22.780 Stuff you can't talk about

00:04:23.860 Stuff you can't talk about, you know

00:04:25.300 What was your, what was your, what did you like to, like, what kind of games did you guys play

00:04:30.040 When you were kids

00:04:30.660 So we had this one game where we would

00:04:33.620 So like my, where I grew up at

00:04:35.200 It was an apartment on a hill

00:04:36.540 I'm being serious, dude

00:04:37.480 I'm being dead ass serious

00:04:38.860 And so there was like, you know, my apartment

00:04:41.440 Four family flat

00:04:42.280 There was an alley

00:04:43.040 And then there was this elementary school next to me called Gunlock

00:04:45.860 Okay

00:04:46.400 And so my friends, you know

00:04:49.520 Because we was on a hill

00:04:50.960 Like we had retained, like this massive retaining wall

00:04:53.400 Right

00:04:53.700 And then the elementary school was their recess yard

00:04:56.280 Which like dropped fucking 30 feet

00:04:57.900 Yep

00:04:58.240 And so what we would do is

00:05:00.660 We would like go up on our porch

00:05:02.160 And usually every day around like, you know, after school

00:05:04.960 About an hour after school

00:05:06.020 We, we call it the, the crackhead parade

00:05:08.340 Because

00:05:09.360 For a crackhead off the, off the

00:05:10.900 No, they would like come by

00:05:12.120 Like we'd throw it off a 30 foot drop

00:05:13.560 No, we'd just throw shit at them

00:05:14.680 Oh, okay

00:05:15.140 Yeah

00:05:15.480 That's the game you would play?

00:05:16.620 Bro, who could hit it?

00:05:18.220 And then we would run

00:05:19.020 Because they were fast

00:05:20.060 They're all hopped up

00:05:21.980 Bro, I'm

00:05:22.680 Listen

00:05:23.860 That's like 110 octane, bro

00:05:26.580 You, you're asking me about my childhood

00:05:28.080 I'm telling you what we did

00:05:28.940 We threw shit at crackheads, man

00:05:30.220 Then we run from them

00:05:30.940 You guys didn't play any games, man

00:05:33.340 No

00:05:33.580 That was it

00:05:34.320 That was it

00:05:35.080 Like you didn't like

00:05:36.200 That was it

00:05:36.660 Then we, you know, we take like our bikes and stuff

00:05:38.840 That we would, you know, get ownership of

00:05:42.040 And we put like bottles in the back tire

00:05:44.880 So basically everybody's bike was a community bike

00:05:47.240 Yeah, it was a community bike

00:05:48.040 Yeah, that's why we didn't care

00:05:49.000 Like we leave them outside, we didn't care

00:05:50.260 That's a nice way to say it

00:05:51.500 Yeah

00:05:51.740 Yeah

00:05:52.040 Yeah

00:05:52.520 And, you know, put little plastic bottles in the back tire

00:05:55.460 You know, roll around with like a little gang and stuff

00:05:57.540 Oh yeah, make it sound like a motorcycle

00:05:59.100 Mm-hmm

00:05:59.520 Yeah

00:05:59.880 Yep, my friend put it in his front tire once

00:06:02.360 And then like

00:06:02.780 That's kind of the same stuff we did, bro

00:06:04.320 Yeah, it's the same stuff

00:06:05.020 We did it

00:06:05.400 We did the same thing

00:06:06.260 Ride our bikes

00:06:06.980 Build like little ramps and shit

00:06:08.740 Yeah

00:06:09.180 You know

00:06:09.860 And then we played a lot of baseball

00:06:11.620 Bro, we would mattress flip

00:06:13.320 You ever like do acrobat shit on mattresses

00:06:15.720 That were like, you know

00:06:16.560 People threw out in the alley and shit

00:06:18.080 No

00:06:18.820 Yeah

00:06:19.400 We did that too

00:06:20.320 Well

00:06:21.540 We played baseball

00:06:23.680 Like regular kids

00:06:24.840 Dude, we probably played

00:06:26.720 Five million games of fucking baseball

00:06:29.860 In my backyard

00:06:30.240 Jeez

00:06:30.600 Like that's all we did

00:06:31.700 Yeah

00:06:32.120 Played baseball every fucking day

00:06:33.820 With tennis balls

00:06:34.860 And a

00:06:35.740 And broomstick

00:06:36.600 Like a broomstick

00:06:36.800 Yeah

00:06:37.180 There's a name for that

00:06:38.360 Like there's a name for that

00:06:39.340 Well, there's cork ball

00:06:40.620 Is that what it is?

00:06:41.060 Which is where it has like a little bitty cork ball

00:06:43.680 It's like the size of a golf ball

00:06:45.060 And then a wooden stick

00:06:46.520 It's really hard to play

00:06:47.500 Okay

00:06:48.000 Because I've seen it playing with tennis balls

00:06:49.620 And they burn them

00:06:50.300 I've never seen that

00:06:51.540 Like they torch them and stuff

00:06:52.800 I don't know

00:06:53.260 It's weird

00:06:53.720 Yeah

00:06:54.180 It was awesome

00:06:55.040 Yeah, but I mean, you know

00:06:55.860 Like I said, bro

00:06:56.460 I mean, cultural differences

00:06:57.440 It's the same, same

00:06:58.160 Yeah

00:06:58.580 Yeah

00:06:59.120 All right

00:07:01.240 Well, let's make some jokes

00:07:02.920 I was trying not to make any jokes today

00:07:05.240 Yeah, I'm proud of you

00:07:05.960 Today is serious

00:07:06.820 Yeah, it's a good day

00:07:07.560 Tomorrow's joke day

00:07:08.480 Mm-hmm

00:07:08.860 So let's get on with it

00:07:10.720 Holding them all in until tomorrow

00:07:12.040 Yeah, that's right

00:07:12.780 I got a lot

00:07:13.460 Yeah

00:07:14.000 Guys, Andy, I got three good ones for you, man

00:07:16.140 Let's knock these out

00:07:17.780 Guys, Andy, question number one

00:07:20.980 Andy, whenever I'm stressed

00:07:24.000 I numb myself with distractions

00:07:26.980 Strolling through my phone, porn, or drinking

00:07:30.400 I'm fully aware that these things don't actually help

00:07:34.260 But they're my default

00:07:35.540 I want to learn healthier ways to handle stress

00:07:39.980 But I don't know where to start

00:07:41.040 How do I stop turning to quick fixes

00:07:43.320 And start dealing with stress in a productive way?

00:07:46.140 Okay, well, first of all

00:07:49.280 This is a really good question

00:07:51.460 Because a lot of people struggle with this

00:07:53.700 And I think if you put it in different terms

00:07:55.700 It's very easy to make the adjustment that you're looking for

00:08:00.560 And the terms that I would put it in

00:08:03.180 Is that you have to realize

00:08:05.420 That you are losing the game of life

00:08:08.060 To a fucking screen

00:08:10.380 Okay

00:08:11.680 You are losing the game of life

00:08:14.140 To a screen

00:08:15.660 You are losing the game of life

00:08:18.320 To women who have no idea who you are

00:08:21.640 And don't give two shits about you

00:08:23.680 You are losing the game of life

00:08:25.800 To an inanimate object of alcohol

00:08:29.480 All right?

00:08:30.380 What this means is that you have to develop discipline

00:08:34.720 You have to develop the ability to recognize

00:08:37.920 When it is you fall into this trap

00:08:41.480 And how to get out of it

00:08:43.300 So the answer here is twofold

00:08:45.320 One, it's awareness

00:08:47.040 If you don't know that you're falling into these things

00:08:50.560 They can capture you

00:08:52.080 And you could get sucked into the vortex

00:08:54.100 Yeah

00:08:54.620 For, you know, half the day

00:08:56.100 And, you know, that happens

00:08:57.380 But since you're asking the question

00:09:00.900 I would say you're already aware

00:09:02.900 That it's a problem

00:09:03.880 Okay?

00:09:04.760 So you've already conquered that

00:09:06.080 That's a great thing

00:09:06.860 The next part is

00:09:08.620 Is the part of action

00:09:09.960 Where you

00:09:10.540 The first time that you think of it

00:09:12.440 The first time that it arises

00:09:13.920 The first time you're like

00:09:15.400 Oh, shit

00:09:15.960 I'm scrolling

00:09:17.280 Or I'm letting it distract me

00:09:19.220 You need to get up

00:09:20.400 And go do something

00:09:22.100 That is productive towards your goals

00:09:24.400 And the reality here, guys

00:09:26.980 Is that

00:09:27.540 The reason this happens so frequently

00:09:30.160 To people

00:09:31.280 Is because they don't have a clear-cut plan

00:09:34.500 For their day

00:09:35.960 All right?

00:09:37.620 They set a goal

00:09:39.220 And they say

00:09:40.100 One, three, five-year goal

00:09:41.700 And they don't actually break that down

00:09:44.660 And the critical tasks

00:09:45.760 That you need to execute on

00:09:47.160 For that day

00:09:48.860 And so if you have a plan

00:09:51.160 And you have

00:09:51.940 Five critical tasks

00:09:53.760 Like we talk about

00:09:54.620 In the power list

00:09:56.060 Which you can get for free

00:09:57.100 It is the ultimate productivity method

00:10:00.280 It's the only method that I know of

00:10:01.840 And by the way, it's free

00:10:02.780 That will guarantee you

00:10:04.700 That you get where you want to go in life

00:10:06.880 Guaranteed

00:10:07.920 Okay?

00:10:09.980 If you execute it

00:10:11.580 Yeah

00:10:11.800 So if you bring it back

00:10:13.260 To a day-by-day-by-day plan

00:10:15.600 Now you know what you have to do

00:10:18.360 And if you haven't done

00:10:19.780 The things that you have to do

00:10:21.540 You shouldn't be scrolling

00:10:22.960 You shouldn't be drinking

00:10:23.980 And you shouldn't be looking at porn

00:10:25.820 Okay?

00:10:27.940 I'm not here to judge any of those things

00:10:29.840 I'm just saying

00:10:30.460 You want to get here

00:10:31.500 You've got to eliminate these distractions

00:10:34.100 Because you're competing against people

00:10:35.920 Who have already figured that out

00:10:37.860 And are giving all of their effort to this

00:10:40.180 So you have to understand

00:10:41.200 You're already behind

00:10:42.880 Because you're doing these things

00:10:44.360 And you're competing against people

00:10:45.580 Who have already solved this problem

00:10:46.860 And got it under control

00:10:47.860 Yeah

00:10:48.280 So be aware

00:10:51.120 Understand how to recognize

00:10:53.700 When this happens

00:10:55.020 Work on your discipline

00:10:56.660 Work to develop

00:10:57.920 Your ability to make the right decision

00:11:00.660 When you know the decision needs to be made

00:11:02.980 And it's not the thing that you want to do

00:11:04.880 And you can use 75 hard to do it

00:11:07.260 Everybody that uses 75 hard

00:11:09.700 And does it the right way

00:11:11.300 They understand what I'm talking about

00:11:12.820 This will fix that problem for you

00:11:14.540 And then know what you have to do for the day

00:11:17.840 And if you know what you have to do

00:11:19.500 And you execute on all five tasks

00:11:22.140 Then scroll on your fucking phone

00:11:25.080 Okay?

00:11:25.800 Like just understand

00:11:26.980 It's okay to do some of the things

00:11:30.540 You don't have to work 40 hours out of 24, man

00:11:33.580 It's okay to do things that are a waste of time

00:11:37.700 That you enjoy

00:11:38.580 After the things that are critical

00:11:42.120 To getting you where you want to go

00:11:44.220 Are checked off the list

00:11:45.640 And so this is how you solve a problem like that

00:11:48.940 Ultimately, dude

00:11:50.780 It should piss you off

00:11:52.620 That you're losing the game of life

00:11:55.020 To literal inanimate objects

00:11:56.840 Like that's

00:11:57.780 Like to me

00:11:59.120 That's where my mindset changed

00:12:01.880 Alright?

00:12:02.280 When I was 350 pounds

00:12:04.000 And I realized that I was losing

00:12:07.100 The quality of my life

00:12:09.720 To literally

00:12:11.960 Food

00:12:13.540 And beer

00:12:15.320 And all I had to do

00:12:17.720 Was to not do something

00:12:19.860 To change my whole life

00:12:21.680 Which was me

00:12:22.300 Not to reach out

00:12:23.440 And put that shit in my mouth

00:12:25.040 Okay?

00:12:26.660 And that thought process

00:12:28.240 Like I can handle

00:12:29.360 Losing sometimes

00:12:31.240 To somebody who's really good

00:12:32.720 And really works hard

00:12:33.620 I don't respect that

00:12:34.520 But I can't respect myself

00:12:36.600 When I know I'm losing the game of life

00:12:38.580 To things

00:12:39.240 That have no literal power at all

00:12:42.400 And I'm giving them all my power

00:12:44.000 So

00:12:44.800 I don't know if you're wired like me

00:12:47.200 But that pisses me off

00:12:48.440 And that makes me want to

00:12:49.980 You know

00:12:50.600 Get in control of my game

00:12:51.860 And then you have to understand too, guys

00:12:53.700 That discipline is a perishable skill

00:12:55.940 If you don't practice it

00:12:57.600 Regularly

00:12:58.640 It goes away

00:12:59.440 There's not one thing you're going to do

00:13:01.640 That's going to develop discipline

00:13:03.580 And then it's just going to stick

00:13:05.240 For your whole life

00:13:06.200 Okay?

00:13:06.820 If you don't practice it

00:13:07.840 It goes away

00:13:08.520 When you practice it

00:13:09.580 It gets stronger

00:13:10.320 It's no different than training for

00:13:12.040 An event

00:13:14.220 Or training

00:13:16.020 To play an instrument

00:13:17.600 Or training your body

00:13:19.040 You're training your mind

00:13:20.560 And you know

00:13:22.060 The more you train it

00:13:22.940 The stronger it gets

00:13:23.800 And if you cease to train it

00:13:25.300 It gets weak

00:13:25.840 And that'll go on your whole life

00:13:27.420 Let's talk a little bit about stress

00:13:30.380 Right?

00:13:30.620 Because he's mentioned

00:13:31.320 That like he does these things

00:13:33.060 When he feels stressed

00:13:34.180 How do you look at stress?

00:13:36.280 How should people look at stress?

00:13:38.660 Like what's the thing about stress

00:13:42.040 Nobody really wants to talk about?

00:13:44.360 That they're not actually stressed

00:13:45.960 Most people are stressed

00:13:47.700 Because they have anxiety

00:13:49.660 About things that they know

00:13:52.040 They should do

00:13:52.740 That they lack the ability to do

00:13:54.380 And it drives them crazy

00:13:55.440 And then causes stress

00:13:57.020 So when we think about

00:13:59.280 Like how stress affects us

00:14:01.060 It's a very negative thing

00:14:03.000 But the reality is

00:14:04.120 Is you're far less stressed

00:14:05.460 When you're executing

00:14:06.740 On the things that you know

00:14:07.840 You need to do

00:14:08.600 Than you are

00:14:09.720 When you're not doing those things

00:14:11.140 And there's basically

00:14:12.360 Like a paradoxical type

00:14:13.740 Of thought process here

00:14:14.840 Because people think

00:14:16.340 That when you're stressed

00:14:17.320 You need to take a break

00:14:18.400 And then by taking the break

00:14:20.000 It pulls you further

00:14:21.220 From the things that you know

00:14:22.480 You need to be doing

00:14:23.300 Which creates anxiety

00:14:24.360 And creates more stress

00:14:25.480 So it becomes a cycle

00:14:27.600 That you can't break out of

00:14:28.980 Unless you actually go do

00:14:30.600 The things you know

00:14:31.300 You're supposed to do

00:14:32.300 So that's what stress

00:14:34.940 Is really about for most people

00:14:36.640 And I understand

00:14:37.360 There is stressful situations

00:14:39.540 There's things like

00:14:40.880 You lose your job

00:14:41.760 Or you go through a breakup

00:14:42.980 But those are temporary things

00:14:44.780 Those are things

00:14:45.700 That happen to everybody

00:14:46.880 And that's called fucking life man

00:14:49.800 And so life's not gonna be easy

00:14:52.400 And also I will say

00:14:54.380 That the expectation

00:14:55.540 Of being stress free

00:14:57.360 Amplifies people's stress level

00:15:01.080 Okay so when you start to expect

00:15:04.720 That you should be able to go out

00:15:06.640 And achieve something

00:15:07.900 And then feel no stress

00:15:09.760 The minute you feel stress

00:15:11.880 You get this amplification that happens

00:15:16.480 Because it's like the expectation

00:15:17.980 Is that I should feel good

00:15:21.280 I should feel not stressed

00:15:22.500 I should feel easy

00:15:23.480 And this should be

00:15:24.100 And I should be able to do this

00:15:25.380 And not feel these things

00:15:26.320 And then the minute you start feeling it

00:15:28.300 You're like

00:15:28.920 Oh shit dude

00:15:30.280 I'm so stressed

00:15:31.120 There it is

00:15:31.800 Yeah

00:15:32.100 So dude we end up in this

00:15:33.640 In this cycle

00:15:34.740 And the cycle can only be broken

00:15:37.200 By having the proper expectations

00:15:39.600 Okay

00:15:40.120 Life is fucking hard

00:15:41.560 Building something is hard

00:15:43.280 Becoming something is hard

00:15:44.980 Creating something is hard

00:15:46.600 These are all hard things

00:15:47.980 And having the expectation

00:15:49.600 That it's gonna be easy

00:15:50.740 Only makes it that much harder

00:15:52.580 Because every time

00:15:53.720 The expectation is broken

00:15:55.100 You freak the fuck out

00:15:56.560 Alright

00:15:57.320 So we have to understand

00:15:58.640 That there's gonna be stress

00:16:01.880 Either way dude

00:16:02.840 If you're gonna go down the path

00:16:04.640 Of working hard

00:16:05.880 Building something

00:16:06.600 Creating something

00:16:07.440 Becoming something

00:16:08.320 It's gonna be fucking stressful

00:16:10.320 And it's also going to be stressful

00:16:12.840 Sitting at home

00:16:14.520 Not being able to pay your bills

00:16:16.040 Or know how you can fill your car with gas

00:16:18.500 Okay

00:16:19.240 So there is no path

00:16:21.500 To anywhere in life

00:16:23.440 That doesn't come with stress

00:16:26.260 And anxiety

00:16:27.060 And the expectation

00:16:28.240 That's created

00:16:29.300 By all of these

00:16:30.760 You know

00:16:31.440 Internet wizards

00:16:32.600 Who know everything

00:16:33.900 About everything

00:16:34.660 But you know

00:16:35.340 Magically haven't done anything

00:16:36.840 They try to tell you

00:16:38.760 That you're supposed to go through life

00:16:40.320 Feeling peaceful

00:16:41.760 And calm

00:16:42.800 And all this shit

00:16:43.500 Well dude

00:16:43.880 I'll be real

00:16:44.480 I don't know anybody

00:16:46.040 That's built anything

00:16:46.960 Relevant

00:16:48.100 To what you guys

00:16:49.460 Want to do with your lives

00:16:50.500 That has built

00:16:51.640 You know

00:16:52.860 Anything that

00:16:53.520 You know

00:16:53.840 We would

00:16:54.260 Any of us would say

00:16:55.220 Oh man

00:16:55.540 That's fucking amazing

00:16:56.480 That walks through life

00:16:58.120 You know

00:16:58.480 Like Buddha

00:16:59.600 Stress free

00:17:00.260 Yes

00:17:00.680 Bro

00:17:01.560 Because stress drives you to action

00:17:03.420 Alright

00:17:04.200 Most people don't do their best work

00:17:06.140 Until they have to do their best work

00:17:07.680 They don't execute properly

00:17:09.940 Or at the highest level

00:17:11.160 Until their back is against the wall

00:17:13.560 And stress is bearing down on them

00:17:15.840 And then they have no other opportunity

00:17:17.900 Or choice

00:17:18.640 But to act

00:17:20.240 Okay

00:17:20.840 And this is what I call

00:17:21.880 Zero options mentality

00:17:23.240 When you are a young person

00:17:25.140 And you are not

00:17:26.160 Young in the game

00:17:26.960 Of entrepreneurship

00:17:27.580 You could be 50

00:17:28.440 And you start out

00:17:29.980 Trying to build these things

00:17:31.420 You don't have an option right now

00:17:34.200 Okay

00:17:34.740 So you have to go out

00:17:36.480 And you have to survive

00:17:37.480 And then as you become

00:17:39.060 More successful

00:17:40.060 And as you start to make money

00:17:42.300 And as life gets a little comfortable

00:17:44.440 You have to trick your mind

00:17:46.260 Into believing

00:17:46.840 That there is no other option

00:17:48.720 But to execute

00:17:50.260 You have to

00:17:51.380 And that can come from

00:17:52.560 A lot of different places

00:17:53.620 That can come from

00:17:54.860 Putting extra pressure

00:17:56.160 On yourself

00:17:56.980 So that you do feel like

00:17:58.640 Your back is against the wall

00:17:59.660 That can come from

00:18:01.000 Taking the focus on self

00:18:03.480 I want to make all this money

00:18:04.900 To the team

00:18:06.520 I want my team to be successful

00:18:08.360 I'm responsible for their families

00:18:10.080 I'm responsible for their kids schooling

00:18:12.020 I'm responsible for what they eat

00:18:13.900 I'm responsible for what they live

00:18:15.440 And as you as the owner

00:18:16.980 Or the operator

00:18:17.700 When you take all that pressure

00:18:19.540 And put it on you

00:18:20.220 You think it makes you more stressed

00:18:21.400 Absolutely

00:18:22.720 But do you think

00:18:24.020 You produce better results

00:18:25.440 Absolutely

00:18:26.400 So stress is not necessarily

00:18:28.620 A bad thing

00:18:29.900 It's just how you leverage it

00:18:31.880 In the proper way

00:18:32.860 And then understanding

00:18:34.060 You're going to have it

00:18:34.720 No matter what you do in life

00:18:35.880 I love it man

00:18:36.800 I love it

00:18:37.880 Let's roll to question number two

00:18:40.740 Andy

00:18:42.260 I've always been

00:18:44.460 The nice one

00:18:45.560 The person who avoids conflict

00:18:47.640 And goes along with

00:18:49.000 Whatever makes other people happy

00:18:50.560 But lately

00:18:51.680 I've realized

00:18:53.140 That I let people walk

00:18:54.080 All over me

00:18:54.960 Both at work

00:18:56.020 And in my personal life

00:18:57.660 I struggle to speak up for myself

00:18:59.560 And when I do

00:19:00.360 I feel guilty afterwards

00:19:01.900 How can I start setting boundaries

00:19:03.880 And being more assertive

00:19:05.340 Without feeling like

00:19:06.740 I'm being selfish

00:19:07.480 You got like a true

00:19:08.820 What is it

00:19:09.400 Type B personality here

00:19:10.620 I don't know

00:19:13.040 What the type would be

00:19:14.080 But I think we all deal with this

00:19:15.560 At some point in time

00:19:16.560 You know

00:19:16.900 You have to be

00:19:19.440 Like a sociopath

00:19:20.440 To not care

00:19:21.540 About how other people

00:19:23.140 React to the way

00:19:24.020 That you react to them

00:19:25.140 So I can understand

00:19:26.600 How someone

00:19:27.420 Who is naturally passive

00:19:28.820 And easy going

00:19:30.220 Can feel awkward

00:19:32.140 About setting boundaries

00:19:33.680 Because I think

00:19:34.820 We all struggle with that

00:19:35.720 In certain areas of our life

00:19:36.900 So here's the reality

00:19:39.220 Dude

00:19:39.580 You are responsible

00:19:41.200 For you

00:19:41.840 And you are responsible

00:19:43.360 For your actions

00:19:44.260 And you have a right

00:19:45.600 To set boundaries

00:19:46.860 To where people

00:19:47.940 Cannot walk all over you

00:19:49.220 Take advantage of you

00:19:50.400 And when they try

00:19:51.960 To make you feel guilty

00:19:53.000 For setting those boundaries

00:19:54.080 You have to realize

00:19:55.040 That that is a

00:19:55.960 Red flag

00:19:57.140 For their character

00:19:58.300 That's saying

00:19:59.320 These people are trying

00:20:00.340 To manipulate me

00:20:01.260 They're trying

00:20:02.080 To get me to do something

00:20:03.760 That I don't want to do

00:20:05.220 And doesn't feel good to me

00:20:06.440 For their benefit

00:20:08.300 And so when you start

00:20:09.800 To set boundaries

00:20:10.700 Around things

00:20:11.660 Really what happens

00:20:13.200 Is it kind of shows you

00:20:14.440 Who's who in your life

00:20:15.540 And a lot of people

00:20:17.780 You know

00:20:18.140 They never set boundaries

00:20:19.420 And they do end up

00:20:20.460 Getting walked all over

00:20:21.620 Their whole life

00:20:22.140 And I can tell you

00:20:22.880 People that get walked

00:20:24.220 All over their whole life

00:20:25.280 They can't make any money

00:20:26.460 They can't get successful

00:20:27.720 They don't have respect

00:20:28.900 From their peers

00:20:29.720 Because they don't

00:20:30.920 Respect themselves

00:20:31.760 So you have to understand

00:20:33.320 That when you set

00:20:34.820 A boundary

00:20:35.280 It's not wrong

00:20:37.920 You should

00:20:38.700 Everybody should have

00:20:39.680 Healthy boundaries

00:20:40.580 Everybody else has boundaries

00:20:42.880 And one thing

00:20:43.720 You should realize

00:20:44.700 Is all these people

00:20:46.140 That you're afraid

00:20:46.840 Of hurting

00:20:47.380 With your boundaries

00:20:49.020 They don't give a fuck

00:20:50.360 About taking advantage

00:20:51.260 Of you

00:20:51.660 Because you don't

00:20:52.180 Have any

00:20:52.580 Do they

00:20:52.940 So you should

00:20:53.920 Think about that

00:20:54.720 If these people

00:20:55.840 Were really good people

00:20:56.780 They wouldn't press you

00:20:57.740 The way they press you

00:20:58.640 They wouldn't step on you

00:20:59.840 But they're not

00:21:00.860 Okay

00:21:01.420 Most people have

00:21:02.500 A human nature

00:21:03.260 Of how much

00:21:04.420 Can I get

00:21:05.380 Until they hit

00:21:07.700 That wall of a boundary

00:21:08.760 And that's where

00:21:09.680 The respect starts

00:21:10.700 So if you want respect

00:21:12.580 And you want to be

00:21:13.500 Treated properly

00:21:14.300 You have to stand up

00:21:15.820 For what you believe

00:21:16.840 When you believe it

00:21:18.060 And you can do that

00:21:19.400 In a very polite way

00:21:20.340 You know

00:21:20.980 This isn't mean

00:21:22.800 Like you said

00:21:23.540 You know

00:21:23.920 I want to be nice

00:21:24.960 Alright bro

00:21:25.700 But you got to be

00:21:26.620 Nice to yourself

00:21:27.520 Alright

00:21:28.220 And being nice

00:21:28.900 To yourself

00:21:29.440 Starts with

00:21:30.060 Not letting other

00:21:31.040 People step all over you

00:21:32.340 Because you're

00:21:33.600 An easy going

00:21:34.380 Person

00:21:34.880 Don't let

00:21:35.940 Your easy

00:21:36.720 Going

00:21:37.560 Natural

00:21:38.920 Personality

00:21:40.500 Get in the way

00:21:42.400 Of having healthy

00:21:43.260 Boundaries

00:21:43.740 Because if you do

00:21:44.640 Nobody's going to

00:21:45.300 Respect you

00:21:45.960 So we have to

00:21:47.000 Understand dude

00:21:47.780 Saying no

00:21:48.760 Is a skill

00:21:49.460 And a lot of times

00:21:50.560 Saying no

00:21:51.340 You could say it

00:21:52.840 A nice way

00:21:53.420 But like

00:21:53.960 If they're

00:21:55.060 Pissed off

00:21:56.420 Or if they have

00:21:56.900 A problem

00:21:57.360 Or they get weird

00:21:58.120 Fuck them

00:21:58.620 Who cares

00:21:59.100 You got to

00:21:59.960 Take care of

00:22:00.400 Yourself first bro

00:22:01.260 Or you could

00:22:01.500 Drive yourself crazy

00:22:02.380 They ain't supposed

00:22:02.780 To be there anyway

00:22:03.360 Then

00:22:03.660 That's what I think

00:22:05.840 I think there's

00:22:06.800 Natural respect

00:22:07.600 I think the best

00:22:08.460 Quality human beings

00:22:09.740 Can sense other

00:22:11.240 People's boundaries

00:22:12.080 Without them having

00:22:13.360 To be set

00:22:14.020 And I think

00:22:15.380 When really good

00:22:16.280 People are starting

00:22:17.260 To encroach

00:22:17.840 On a boundary

00:22:18.420 And they feel it

00:22:19.740 They will say

00:22:20.380 Something like

00:22:20.920 Hey dude look

00:22:21.460 I know

00:22:22.600 This is a little

00:22:24.080 Bit extra

00:22:24.620 But

00:22:25.440 Can we do this

00:22:26.880 Or can I do this

00:22:27.700 Or can I

00:22:28.060 They'll tread lightly

00:22:29.840 Because they care

00:22:32.680 About your boundaries

00:22:33.560 And usually

00:22:34.600 They're reflective

00:22:35.280 Of their own boundaries

00:22:36.540 So like

00:22:37.440 If I'm going to

00:22:38.100 Ask somebody

00:22:38.900 Something

00:22:39.360 That I know

00:22:41.400 They're going to

00:22:41.800 Be a little

00:22:42.200 Uncomfortable with

00:22:43.200 I'm going to

00:22:44.400 Acknowledge that

00:22:45.120 Up front

00:22:45.520 I'm going to say

00:22:45.960 Hey man look

00:22:46.480 I'm not trying

00:22:46.980 To make it weird

00:22:47.620 But

00:22:48.440 Bum bum bum

00:22:49.600 Right

00:22:50.040 And if they say

00:22:51.680 No

00:22:51.980 You say

00:22:52.280 Okay cool

00:22:53.080 Totally got it

00:22:53.820 Dude

00:22:53.980 I respect that

00:22:54.800 But that's the way

00:22:55.860 Adults communicate

00:22:56.840 And you need to

00:22:58.760 Learn that

00:22:59.260 Or you will

00:22:59.900 Continue to get

00:23:00.640 Stomped on

00:23:01.180 Your whole life

00:23:01.800 And if you do

00:23:02.620 You're going to

00:23:03.520 Be at the end

00:23:04.040 Of the totem pole

00:23:04.740 Or the bottom

00:23:05.200 Of the totem pole

00:23:05.840 Everywhere you go

00:23:06.600 And I think

00:23:07.960 I think a lot

00:23:08.480 Of times too

00:23:09.140 A lot of people

00:23:10.020 Kind of build

00:23:10.600 These monsters

00:23:11.300 Up in their head

00:23:12.120 Of like what

00:23:12.740 These situations

00:23:13.700 Are going to be

00:23:14.160 Like right now

00:23:14.760 Like for this person

00:23:15.760 You know

00:23:16.780 I don't know

00:23:17.440 How old he is

00:23:18.060 He didn't say

00:23:18.520 But let's say

00:23:19.680 Like this has been

00:23:20.440 Him his entire life

00:23:21.380 And he's just

00:23:22.060 Now having to

00:23:22.680 Start setting

00:23:23.120 These boundaries

00:23:23.700 Can we clear

00:23:24.940 The monsters

00:23:25.440 Like I mean

00:23:25.840 What would you

00:23:26.640 Say the percentage

00:23:27.240 Of people that

00:23:27.840 Are going to

00:23:28.080 Respect him

00:23:28.880 Setting these

00:23:29.420 New boundaries

00:23:29.880 For the first

00:23:30.380 Time ever

00:23:30.860 What's it actually

00:23:32.280 Going to be

00:23:32.720 Versus what he

00:23:33.260 Might be thinking

00:23:33.720 In his head

00:23:34.280 99% of people

00:23:36.040 Are going to

00:23:36.380 Respect it

00:23:36.940 And there's

00:23:37.680 Going to be

00:23:37.980 1% of people

00:23:38.980 That are like

00:23:39.740 What the fuck

00:23:40.240 Dude

00:23:40.500 I thought we

00:23:40.940 Were blah blah

00:23:41.380 Blah

00:23:41.660 Those people

00:23:42.440 Aren't your

00:23:42.740 Friends

00:23:43.040 Okay

00:23:43.720 And then here's

00:23:44.340 The other thing

00:23:44.940 You got to

00:23:45.860 Understand dude

00:23:46.740 If you do

00:23:48.020 Not set

00:23:50.020 Those boundaries

00:23:50.920 What ends up

00:23:52.200 Happening is

00:23:52.900 Is you end up

00:23:53.640 Bitter because

00:23:54.400 You look at

00:23:55.200 The world

00:23:55.680 As the world

00:23:56.300 Is abusing you

00:23:57.300 You look at

00:23:58.080 The world

00:23:58.460 As the world

00:23:58.980 Is taking

00:23:59.360 Advantage of you

00:24:00.220 You look at

00:24:00.980 The world

00:24:01.360 As if they're

00:24:02.020 They hate you

00:24:03.060 And it causes

00:24:04.100 You to get

00:24:04.540 Super pissed

00:24:05.300 And the reason

00:24:06.060 That you're

00:24:06.860 Super pissed

00:24:07.480 And you feel

00:24:07.940 This way

00:24:08.380 Isn't the world

00:24:09.480 It's because

00:24:10.040 You're not

00:24:10.460 Naturally standing

00:24:11.380 Where you should

00:24:12.560 Be standing

00:24:13.100 On your limits

00:24:14.000 Right

00:24:15.280 Nobody don't

00:24:15.700 Give a shit

00:24:15.980 About you

00:24:16.340 Like you

00:24:16.620 Give a shit

00:24:16.980 About you

00:24:17.400 Well you know

00:24:18.060 Unfortunately

00:24:18.520 There is a lot

00:24:19.260 Of people

00:24:19.620 Who are very

00:24:20.160 Selfless dude

00:24:20.900 There's a lot

00:24:21.840 Of people

00:24:22.220 Who are so

00:24:22.940 Selfless

00:24:23.520 And so good

00:24:24.500 That they allow

00:24:25.740 Themselves to be

00:24:26.500 Taken advantage of

00:24:27.400 Because they think

00:24:28.080 They're not trying

00:24:28.740 To rock the boat

00:24:29.540 And you know

00:24:30.560 They're like

00:24:31.240 Well you know

00:24:32.460 So and so

00:24:33.900 Struggling with this

00:24:34.920 Or so

00:24:35.280 They make an excuse

00:24:36.240 For everybody

00:24:36.940 And dude

00:24:37.420 Like I'll be real

00:24:38.380 Dude I used to

00:24:38.980 Struggle with this

00:24:39.700 Big time

00:24:40.180 And um

00:24:41.340 You got a big heart

00:24:42.380 Dude

00:24:42.640 Yeah bro

00:24:43.040 I care about people

00:24:43.920 You know

00:24:44.780 And dude like

00:24:45.820 I've learned

00:24:47.980 At this point

00:24:48.620 In my life

00:24:49.800 That like

00:24:50.240 Almost everybody

00:24:51.580 Um

00:24:52.900 Almost everybody

00:24:55.660 I'm around now

00:24:56.960 Is

00:24:57.560 Respectful

00:24:59.120 But it wasn't

00:24:59.880 Always that way

00:25:00.520 Dude

00:25:00.780 I learned that

00:25:01.920 By getting

00:25:02.600 Taken advantage of

00:25:03.680 For years

00:25:05.180 And years

00:25:05.500 And years

00:25:05.940 And dude

00:25:06.900 Saying no

00:25:07.660 Is a skill

00:25:08.520 That is necessary

00:25:10.200 For you

00:25:11.340 To be a leader

00:25:12.520 For you

00:25:12.980 To be

00:25:13.360 Great

00:25:13.900 At anything

00:25:14.460 You do

00:25:14.960 For you

00:25:15.360 To be

00:25:15.620 Respected

00:25:16.280 And most

00:25:17.180 Importantly

00:25:17.800 For you

00:25:18.480 To respect

00:25:19.220 Yourself

00:25:20.060 Okay

00:25:20.720 If you go

00:25:21.700 Home every

00:25:22.240 Day

00:25:22.540 And you look

00:25:23.500 In the mirror

00:25:23.900 And you're like

00:25:24.240 Fuck dude

00:25:24.660 I let all

00:25:25.060 These people

00:25:25.520 Step all over

00:25:26.700 What

00:25:27.300 How can you

00:25:28.240 Look in the mirror

00:25:28.820 And respect that

00:25:29.440 Dude

00:25:29.660 You can't

00:25:31.000 It's impossible

00:25:31.780 So we have

00:25:32.860 To understand

00:25:33.520 That

00:25:34.380 Respect for

00:25:35.820 Self

00:25:36.200 Comes first

00:25:36.960 And respect

00:25:37.560 For self

00:25:38.180 Comes from

00:25:39.320 Developing

00:25:39.880 Discipline

00:25:40.500 Doing the

00:25:41.480 Right thing

00:25:42.140 Executing

00:25:43.240 On what

00:25:43.680 We need

00:25:44.000 To execute

00:25:44.680 When we

00:25:45.540 Don't feel

00:25:46.140 Like executing

00:25:46.820 On it

00:25:47.220 And then

00:25:47.840 Having boundaries

00:25:48.980 And saying

00:25:49.600 No to

00:25:50.460 Things that

00:25:51.100 You don't

00:25:52.160 Want to do

00:25:52.700 And um

00:25:53.960 Your life

00:25:54.480 Gets a lot

00:25:54.940 Easier when

00:25:55.400 You get

00:25:55.560 Comfortable

00:25:55.900 Doing that

00:25:56.440 Yeah

00:25:56.980 That's real

00:25:57.440 Man

00:25:57.720 I love it

00:25:58.480 Well guys

00:25:59.560 Let's get our

00:25:59.940 Third and final

00:26:00.700 Question in here

00:26:01.500 We got

00:26:01.760 Question number

00:26:02.420 Three

00:26:02.960 My question

00:26:05.180 For you Andy

00:26:05.700 Is about

00:26:06.300 Business mentors

00:26:07.540 How do you

00:26:09.320 Locate a

00:26:10.420 Mentor

00:26:10.920 For background

00:26:12.060 I am 25

00:26:13.060 I run a

00:26:13.860 Small fast

00:26:14.760 Growing business

00:26:15.540 In the auto

00:26:16.060 Parts industry

00:26:16.760 I'm about

00:26:17.420 Five years

00:26:17.940 In business

00:26:18.440 I've started

00:26:19.560 To get this

00:26:20.120 Feeling of

00:26:20.800 No man's

00:26:21.380 Land

00:26:21.660 I don't

00:26:22.760 Necessarily

00:26:23.300 Have a

00:26:23.940 Business

00:26:24.420 Mentor

00:26:25.020 The closest

00:26:25.420 Thing for me

00:26:26.060 For me

00:26:27.360 Is continually

00:26:28.280 Listening to

00:26:29.540 Your podcast

00:26:30.100 And using

00:26:30.640 The tips

00:26:31.020 And advice

00:26:31.460 To provoke

00:26:31.980 My own

00:26:32.380 Thoughts

00:26:32.940 And relate

00:26:33.540 That to

00:26:33.840 Where I

00:26:34.240 Am

00:26:34.580 Day

00:26:34.920 Week

00:26:35.340 Period

00:26:35.720 Of time

00:26:36.340 In business

00:26:36.840 Is there

00:26:37.940 A point

00:26:38.340 In business

00:26:38.860 Where you

00:26:39.240 Feel it's

00:26:39.680 Crucial

00:26:40.220 To have

00:26:40.800 A mentor

00:26:41.340 Or is it

00:26:42.200 Not necessary

00:26:42.940 Interested in

00:26:44.120 Your thoughts

00:26:44.440 On this

00:26:44.840 The easiest

00:26:46.520 The easiest

00:26:46.580 Way to get

00:26:47.460 Where you

00:26:47.800 Want to

00:26:48.080 Go

00:26:48.300 The fastest

00:26:48.920 Way to

00:26:49.440 Get where

00:26:49.760 You want

00:26:50.060 To go

00:26:50.420 Is to

00:26:50.940 Talk to

00:26:51.460 Someone

00:26:51.800 Who's

00:26:52.120 Already

00:26:52.520 Been there

00:26:53.060 All right

00:26:53.760 If you're

00:26:54.160 Trying to

00:26:54.820 Forge a

00:26:55.560 Path

00:26:56.080 To this

00:26:57.560 Destination

00:26:59.200 That you've

00:26:59.620 Never

00:26:59.820 Been to

00:27:00.340 It's

00:27:00.740 Like

00:27:01.000 Trying to

00:27:01.880 Cut the

00:27:02.280 Path

00:27:02.680 Through the

00:27:03.140 Forest

00:27:03.560 With an

00:27:04.140 Axe

00:27:04.400 It takes

00:27:04.740 A long

00:27:05.040 Time

00:27:05.340 It's really

00:27:05.700 Fucking hard

00:27:06.320 It's really

00:27:07.080 Exhausting

00:27:07.680 But if you

00:27:09.020 Can find the

00:27:09.700 Guy who's

00:27:10.300 Already been

00:27:10.840 There

00:27:11.160 That guy's

00:27:11.960 Going to

00:27:12.160 Say hey

00:27:12.500 No no no

00:27:12.900 Here's

00:27:13.980 The path

00:27:14.520 Bro

00:27:14.860 And he's

00:27:15.720 Already

00:27:15.980 Cut all

00:27:16.440 The trees

00:27:16.940 On the

00:27:17.220 Way there

00:27:17.660 And he

00:27:18.020 Knows

00:27:18.300 The path

00:27:18.800 So

00:27:19.460 Having

00:27:20.360 Someone

00:27:20.880 Who's

00:27:21.420 Been where

00:27:21.980 You want

00:27:22.400 To be

00:27:22.860 Is

00:27:23.420 In

00:27:23.900 Valuable

00:27:24.800 It's very

00:27:25.860 Very

00:27:26.480 Important

00:27:27.160 That you

00:27:27.860 Find someone

00:27:28.740 To follow

00:27:30.060 Even if

00:27:30.940 It's passively

00:27:31.780 Following them

00:27:32.500 Meaning like

00:27:33.080 You're watching

00:27:34.060 From a

00:27:34.900 Distance

00:27:35.380 That's what

00:27:36.140 It was like

00:27:36.640 For me

00:27:37.100 Okay

00:27:37.640 We didn't

00:27:38.100 Have

00:27:38.500 Social media

00:27:39.480 We didn't

00:27:40.200 Have

00:27:40.700 The ability

00:27:42.120 To

00:27:42.580 You know

00:27:43.180 Learn from

00:27:44.100 People who

00:27:44.740 Have actually

00:27:45.160 Built businesses

00:27:45.900 I had to

00:27:47.100 Find people

00:27:47.900 And sort of

00:27:48.860 Watch them

00:27:49.660 And analyze

00:27:50.320 Them from

00:27:50.920 Afar

00:27:51.440 And I'm

00:27:52.440 Glad it was

00:27:53.120 That way

00:27:53.580 Because what

00:27:54.260 It did

00:27:54.780 Was it

00:27:55.800 Taught me

00:27:56.540 How to

00:27:57.020 Think

00:27:57.420 I would

00:27:58.140 Look at

00:27:58.620 Someone

00:27:58.900 I'd say

00:27:59.360 I wonder

00:28:00.380 Why they're

00:28:00.780 Doing this

00:28:01.380 I wonder

00:28:02.220 Why are

00:28:02.620 They doing

00:28:02.900 That

00:28:03.260 How is

00:28:04.080 This affecting

00:28:04.720 That

00:28:05.480 Did they

00:28:06.200 Make the

00:28:06.540 Right to

00:28:06.860 What if

00:28:07.300 They would

00:28:07.600 Have thought

00:28:07.940 That

00:28:08.260 So it

00:28:08.980 Created

00:28:09.560 This

00:28:09.800 Analytical

00:28:10.760 Business

00:28:11.500 Habit

00:28:12.700 Of

00:28:12.960 Thinking

00:28:13.540 Through

00:28:14.380 All the

00:28:14.920 Options

00:28:15.420 Which I

00:28:16.000 Think today

00:28:16.600 Is probably

00:28:17.160 My best

00:28:17.640 Skill

00:28:18.000 I wouldn't

00:28:19.320 Have learned

00:28:19.860 That as

00:28:20.800 Effectively

00:28:21.560 As I

00:28:22.860 Did if I

00:28:23.480 Had someone

00:28:24.160 Telling me

00:28:24.980 Exactly what

00:28:25.720 To do

00:28:26.180 So

00:28:27.020 You can

00:28:28.320 Have one

00:28:28.980 Just like

00:28:29.520 You listen

00:28:29.920 To me

00:28:30.320 And there's

00:28:30.860 Other people

00:28:31.420 Out there

00:28:31.740 Who have

00:28:31.920 Done what

00:28:32.280 You want

00:28:32.540 To do

00:28:32.820 I'm sure

00:28:33.420 On social

00:28:34.020 Media

00:28:34.320 They've

00:28:34.600 Probably

00:28:34.740 Done exactly

00:28:35.360 What you

00:28:35.720 Want to

00:28:35.980 Do

00:28:36.180 I would

00:28:37.000 Pay attention

00:28:37.620 To what

00:28:37.940 They do

00:28:38.380 How they

00:28:39.140 Do it

00:28:39.520 Try to

00:28:40.260 Figure out

00:28:40.620 Why they

00:28:40.980 Do it

00:28:41.340 On your

00:28:42.060 Own

00:28:42.300 Then

00:28:43.260 I would

00:28:44.100 Go out

00:28:44.640 And I

00:28:45.140 Would make

00:28:45.560 An investment

00:28:46.120 In your

00:28:47.120 Own education

00:28:48.200 Now

00:28:48.600 People go

00:28:49.520 Out and

00:28:49.840 They spend

00:28:50.320 Hundreds of

00:28:51.380 Thousands

00:28:52.060 Of dollars

00:28:52.780 To get

00:28:53.660 A education

00:28:54.960 Quote unquote

00:28:55.780 From major

00:28:57.460 Universities

00:28:58.260 That are taught

00:28:59.360 By motherfuckers

00:29:00.380 That have never

00:29:01.100 Done the thing

00:29:02.340 They are teaching

00:29:03.060 And that's

00:29:04.280 Very much

00:29:04.800 So how

00:29:05.300 The internet

00:29:05.740 Is today

00:29:06.520 Too

00:29:06.820 We have

00:29:07.860 Thousands

00:29:08.520 Of people

00:29:09.120 Out there

00:29:09.720 Teaching

00:29:10.700 Skills

00:29:13.040 About how

00:29:14.880 To do

00:29:15.280 Things that

00:29:15.760 They've never

00:29:16.220 Done

00:29:16.560 Okay

00:29:17.220 And in

00:29:17.900 A university

00:29:18.460 It's the

00:29:18.960 Same

00:29:19.300 It's the

00:29:20.020 Same

00:29:20.300 Shit

00:29:20.680 Alright

00:29:21.440 So it's

00:29:21.900 Nothing new

00:29:22.480 For someone

00:29:23.020 Who's never

00:29:23.500 Done something

00:29:24.100 To resort

00:29:24.880 To teaching

00:29:25.680 And then

00:29:26.440 Taking the

00:29:27.140 Money

00:29:27.440 For teaching

00:29:28.620 Versus making

00:29:29.460 A business

00:29:29.940 That actually

00:29:30.600 Works

00:29:31.040 So a lot

00:29:32.260 Of these

00:29:32.540 Internet

00:29:33.060 Quote unquote

00:29:33.800 Business gurus

00:29:35.100 Are full of

00:29:36.100 Shit

00:29:36.400 And you

00:29:37.200 Shouldn't

00:29:37.580 Listen to

00:29:38.040 Them

00:29:38.220 The ones

00:29:39.060 You should

00:29:39.460 Listen to

00:29:40.060 Are people

00:29:40.900 Who have

00:29:41.280 Built actual

00:29:42.040 Things

00:29:42.460 Who sell

00:29:43.360 Actual

00:29:43.780 Products

00:29:44.280 Who have

00:29:44.820 Been doing

00:29:45.340 It for a

00:29:45.780 Long time

00:29:46.300 Who have

00:29:47.120 Hundreds of

00:29:48.080 Thousands

00:29:48.460 If not

00:29:48.900 Millions

00:29:49.480 Of customers

00:29:50.080 Who have

00:29:51.000 Employees

00:29:51.660 Who have

00:29:52.280 Built

00:29:52.740 Actual

00:29:53.580 Businesses

00:29:54.340 Who understand

00:29:55.420 How to

00:29:55.960 Market

00:29:56.280 Because they

00:29:56.940 Built big

00:29:57.620 Brands

00:29:58.120 Marketing

00:29:58.640 All of

00:29:59.800 These things

00:30:00.600 Can be

00:30:01.940 Vetted out

00:30:02.660 By paying

00:30:03.240 Attention

00:30:03.740 Is this

00:30:05.440 Person

00:30:06.020 Making all

00:30:07.440 Their money

00:30:07.880 Selling

00:30:08.300 Coaching

00:30:08.840 Or is

00:30:09.700 This person

00:30:10.340 Coaching

00:30:10.960 Because they've

00:30:12.040 Been successful

00:30:13.040 In other

00:30:13.480 Businesses

00:30:14.200 One of them

00:30:15.120 Will make an

00:30:15.580 Amazing mentor

00:30:16.700 To you

00:30:17.040 The other

00:30:17.620 One will be

00:30:18.560 A waste of

00:30:19.080 Your fucking

00:30:19.540 Time

00:30:19.940 So ask

00:30:22.540 Ask yourself

00:30:22.940 Qualifying

00:30:23.600 Questions

00:30:24.160 Figure out

00:30:25.300 Who you

00:30:25.720 Need to

00:30:26.120 Talk to

00:30:27.280 And resonate

00:30:28.520 With and

00:30:29.200 Learn from

00:30:29.860 Who's actually

00:30:31.160 Done the

00:30:31.720 Thing

00:30:32.060 Or something

00:30:32.880 Very close

00:30:33.860 To what you

00:30:34.380 Have done

00:30:34.740 Right

00:30:35.200 Maybe they

00:30:35.800 Didn't run

00:30:36.340 What do you

00:30:36.600 Say auto

00:30:36.960 Parts

00:30:37.360 Maybe they

00:30:38.500 Didn't run

00:30:38.960 Auto parts

00:30:39.560 But maybe

00:30:40.060 They ran

00:30:40.660 A different

00:30:41.680 Kind of

00:30:42.160 Business

00:30:42.600 That sold

00:30:43.840 Widgets

00:30:44.320 And then

00:30:44.960 They vertically

00:30:45.420 Integrated all

00:30:46.060 The widgets

00:30:46.440 And then you

00:30:47.240 Can look at

00:30:47.640 That model

00:30:48.020 And say

00:30:48.280 Well this

00:30:48.560 Will work

00:30:48.840 Over here

00:30:49.280 All right

00:30:49.920 So

00:30:50.280 Business

00:30:51.880 Doing business

00:30:53.320 And talking

00:30:54.060 About business

00:30:54.720 Is two

00:30:55.440 Different

00:30:55.720 Fucking things

00:30:56.480 The internet

00:30:57.520 Is totally

00:30:58.920 Infested with

00:30:59.780 Frauds

00:31:00.220 Who charge

00:31:01.080 Money for

00:31:01.960 Things they

00:31:02.380 Don't know

00:31:03.020 And you

00:31:04.000 Can't find

00:31:04.560 Their companies

00:31:05.140 You ever

00:31:05.600 Notice that

00:31:06.060 When you

00:31:06.280 See these

00:31:06.600 Guys and

00:31:07.100 They talk

00:31:07.460 About all

00:31:07.720 These businesses

00:31:08.220 You can't

00:31:09.960 Ever see

00:31:10.360 Them

00:31:10.540 They're never

00:31:11.080 There

00:31:11.480 They're never

00:31:12.220 At their

00:31:13.220 Headquarters

00:31:14.080 They never

00:31:14.980 Show their

00:31:16.100 Actual

00:31:16.480 Businesses

00:31:17.200 That's a

00:31:17.900 Red flag

00:31:18.420 Bro

00:31:18.700 You follow

00:31:19.740 Me

00:31:20.040 I'm here

00:31:20.520 Every day

00:31:20.940 Dude

00:31:21.140 I'm showing

00:31:21.560 You all

00:31:21.820 The shit

00:31:22.100 I got

00:31:22.320 Going on

00:31:22.880 You know

00:31:23.640 So

00:31:24.960 You just

00:31:26.800 Gotta be

00:31:27.240 Smarter

00:31:27.620 Than these

00:31:28.040 Fucking

00:31:28.360 Predators

00:31:29.040 Dude

00:31:29.340 And there's

00:31:30.000 A lot

00:31:30.300 Of them

00:31:30.480 On the

00:31:30.740 Internet

00:31:31.040 Let me

00:31:31.600 Ask you

00:31:31.860 This

00:31:32.080 Just about

00:31:32.700 You know

00:31:33.180 Cause I mean

00:31:33.660 You've been

00:31:33.980 In business

00:31:34.460 26 years

00:31:35.840 Well hold on

00:31:37.020 The point

00:31:38.260 I'm trying

00:31:38.600 To make

00:31:38.900 Here is

00:31:39.220 There's two

00:31:39.540 Ways

00:31:39.780 You can

00:31:40.020 Fucking

00:31:40.240 Learn

00:31:40.440 From it

00:31:40.780 You can

00:31:41.040 Learn

00:31:41.160 From observation

00:31:41.860 Or you

00:31:42.680 Can

00:31:42.860 Actually

00:31:43.340 Get hooked

00:31:43.820 In

00:31:44.140 By making

00:31:44.900 An investment

00:31:45.400 In your

00:31:45.760 Education

00:31:46.300 And the

00:31:47.520 Answer is

00:31:48.000 You should

00:31:48.220 Do both

00:31:48.600 Yeah

00:31:49.120 Now let me

00:31:50.700 Ask you

00:31:51.000 Because you

00:31:51.400 You have

00:31:51.760 Been in

00:31:52.040 Business

00:31:52.300 For 26

00:31:52.980 Years

00:31:53.360 And I

00:31:53.600 Guess my

00:31:53.860 Question is

00:31:54.300 More about

00:31:54.660 Like the

00:31:55.040 Evolution

00:31:55.640 Of business

00:31:57.720 Transparency

00:31:58.600 We'll call it

00:31:59.160 Right

00:31:59.380 Has it

00:32:00.220 Always been

00:32:00.840 This way

00:32:01.320 Where you

00:32:01.680 Have

00:32:02.240 You know

00:32:02.560 These

00:32:02.980 Owner

00:32:03.660 Operators

00:32:04.240 These CEOs

00:32:04.800 That are

00:32:05.160 So willing

00:32:05.740 To show

00:32:06.540 The deal

00:32:07.980 Right

00:32:08.200 Like was

00:32:08.580 It always

00:32:08.960 Like that

00:32:09.500 Cause I

00:32:09.800 Mean

00:32:10.060 I don't

00:32:11.380 Know

00:32:11.500 I mean

00:32:11.760 You've

00:32:12.280 Been in

00:32:12.500 Business

00:32:12.620 What do

00:32:12.820 You mean

00:32:13.020 Always

00:32:13.480 Like that

00:32:13.980 Like

00:32:14.360 Were business

00:32:15.200 Owners

00:32:15.560 Always

00:32:15.980 So eager

00:32:16.880 To share

00:32:17.540 You know

00:32:18.220 The past

00:32:18.620 Business owners

00:32:19.200 Usually aren't

00:32:20.000 Eager to share

00:32:21.160 Yeah

00:32:21.480 Because they're

00:32:21.960 Busy running

00:32:22.500 Their businesses

00:32:23.100 Okay

00:32:24.040 I'm probably

00:32:26.180 One of

00:32:26.600 Fucking five

00:32:27.420 People on the

00:32:28.100 Internet

00:32:28.340 That actually

00:32:29.040 Operate real

00:32:29.780 Businesses

00:32:30.420 Yeah

00:32:30.700 Real talk

00:32:31.320 Yeah

00:32:31.580 All right

00:32:32.180 All right

00:32:32.200 Now I

00:32:34.900 Understand

00:32:35.320 You know

00:32:36.020 There's

00:32:36.380 Ways

00:32:36.700 To get

00:32:36.980 Started

00:32:37.380 Right

00:32:37.680 I'm

00:32:37.880 Not

00:32:38.100 Knocking

00:32:39.300 The kids

00:32:40.480 That are

00:32:40.840 Going out

00:32:41.300 There

00:32:41.560 And

00:32:41.900 Trying

00:32:42.520 Things

00:32:43.040 And

00:32:43.200 And

00:32:43.220 Failing

00:32:43.700 And

00:32:44.080 You know

00:32:44.740 Learning

00:32:45.140 The

00:32:45.340 Learning

00:32:45.800 How to

00:32:46.160 Do

00:32:46.360 Ecom

00:32:46.840 And

00:32:47.000 All

00:32:47.120 These

00:32:47.300 Are

00:32:47.420 Valuable

00:32:47.820 Skills

00:32:48.320 And

00:32:48.540 You

00:32:48.660 Can

00:32:48.840 Do

00:32:49.040 These

00:32:49.300 Things

00:32:49.580 But

00:32:50.040 What

00:32:50.180 I

00:32:50.300 Am

00:32:50.500 Knocking

00:32:50.840 Is

00:32:51.500 The

00:32:51.640 19

00:32:52.000 Year

00:32:52.200 Old

00:32:52.340 Mother

00:32:52.560 Fucker

00:32:52.960 That

00:32:53.140 Thinks

00:32:53.680 He

00:32:53.760 Knows

00:32:53.920 Everything

00:32:54.180 About

00:32:54.400 Business

00:32:54.720 Teaching

00:32:55.080 17

00:32:55.860 Year

00:32:56.060 Olds

00:32:56.280 To

00:32:56.360 Do

00:32:56.500 It

00:32:56.640 Or

00:32:57.200 The

00:32:57.620 Guy

00:32:57.880 Who

00:32:58.160 Doesn't

00:32:58.820 Actually

00:32:59.160 Have

00:32:59.640 An

00:33:00.740 Actual

00:33:01.080 Business

00:33:01.440 But

00:33:01.680 He's

00:33:01.800 Got

00:33:01.900 A

00:33:02.020 Big

00:33:02.160 Flashy

00:33:02.620 Lifestyle

00:33:03.060 And

00:33:03.200 He's

00:33:03.320 Like

00:33:03.460 Hey

00:33:03.680 Let

00:33:04.080 Me

00:33:04.240 Fucking

00:33:04.840 You

00:33:05.180 Pay

00:33:05.360 Me

00:33:05.580 And

00:33:05.740 I'll

00:33:06.020 I'll

00:33:06.460 Make

00:33:06.680 You

00:33:06.820 A

00:33:07.140 Millionaire

00:33:07.560 Like

00:33:07.780 Dude

00:33:07.940 That's

00:33:08.140 Bullshit

00:33:08.680 Okay

00:33:09.380 So

00:33:09.940 I

00:33:12.640 Don't

00:33:12.880 Think

00:33:13.300 That

00:33:14.920 It's

00:33:15.900 Ever

00:33:16.200 Been

00:33:16.620 In

00:33:16.840 My

00:33:17.240 26

00:33:18.340 Years

00:33:18.980 It's

00:33:20.460 Just

00:33:22.560 Books

00:33:22.860 About

00:33:23.140 People

00:33:23.520 And

00:33:23.840 That's

00:33:24.060 What

00:33:24.180 I

00:33:24.280 Would

00:33:24.420 Recommend

00:33:24.940 That

00:33:25.060 You

00:33:25.180 Guys

00:33:25.460 Do

00:33:25.740 Like

00:33:25.960 I

00:33:26.100 Read

00:33:26.300 Books

00:33:26.640 About

00:33:26.940 Sam

00:33:27.360 Walton

00:33:27.760 About

00:33:28.040 Warren

00:33:28.440 Buffett

00:33:28.860 About

00:33:29.480 Phil

00:33:30.540 Knight

00:33:30.860 You

00:33:31.300 Know

00:33:31.500 All

00:33:32.140 These

00:33:32.380 Different

00:33:32.900 Guys

00:33:33.820 Who

00:33:34.060 Were

00:33:34.200 I

00:33:34.440 Mean

00:33:34.580 Dude

00:33:34.740 I'm

00:33:34.980 And

00:33:35.140 I'm

00:33:35.260 Talking

00:33:35.480 Dozens

00:33:35.880 And

00:33:36.040 Dozens

00:33:36.340 Of

00:33:36.560 Them

00:33:36.660 Yeah

00:33:37.120 All

00:33:37.620 These

00:33:37.860 And

00:33:38.640 By

00:33:38.840 The

00:33:38.980 Way

00:33:39.220 War

00:33:39.560 Or

00:33:39.840 Sam

00:33:41.140 Walton

00:33:41.460 You

00:33:42.000 Guys

00:33:42.180 Should

00:33:42.320 All

00:33:42.520 Study

00:33:42.800 Sam

00:33:43.080 Walton

00:33:43.340 That

00:33:43.520 Dude

00:33:43.880 That

00:33:44.680 Dude

00:33:44.880 Was

00:33:45.080 A

00:33:45.220 True

00:33:45.640 Business

00:33:46.700 Innovator

00:33:47.620 He

00:33:48.040 Was

00:33:48.200 Obsessive

00:33:48.900 About

00:33:49.160 Being

00:33:49.440 Better

00:33:49.740 Everything

00:33:50.640 That

00:33:50.940 That

00:33:51.120 Guy

00:33:51.300 Did

00:33:51.620 Is

00:33:51.940 Really

00:33:52.400 The

00:33:52.800 Substance

00:33:54.600 That

00:33:55.160 Creates

00:33:55.680 Massive

00:33:56.440 Success

00:33:57.200 And

00:33:58.140 I

00:33:59.760 Learned

00:34:00.000 A Lot

00:34:00.240 From

00:34:00.400 Them

00:34:00.500 It

00:34:00.620 Was

00:34:00.720 Actually

00:34:00.980 The

00:34:01.140 First

00:34:01.320 Book

00:34:01.540 I

00:34:01.680 Ever

00:34:01.840 Read

00:34:02.020 It

00:34:02.120 Was

00:34:02.260 Like

00:34:02.460 It

00:34:03.060 Was

00:34:03.140 Called

00:34:03.380 The

00:34:04.040 American

00:34:04.440 Way

00:34:04.740 Or

00:34:04.900 Walton's

00:34:05.280 Way

00:34:05.520 Or

00:34:05.680 Some

00:34:05.880 Shit

00:34:06.140 It

00:34:06.400 Was

00:34:06.600 It

00:34:07.620 Was

00:34:07.920 A

00:34:08.020 Great

00:34:08.200 Book

00:34:08.500 And

00:34:09.240 I

00:34:09.520 Read

00:34:09.700 It

00:34:09.800 When

00:34:09.900 I

00:34:10.000 Was

00:34:10.100 A

00:34:10.260 Kid

00:34:10.520 I

00:34:11.700 Read

00:34:11.880 It

00:34:11.960 Many

00:34:12.120 Times

00:34:12.440 Since

00:34:12.820 But

00:34:13.280 You

00:34:13.440 Can

00:34:13.620 Read

00:34:13.940 Dude

00:34:14.220 About

00:34:14.460 All

00:34:14.680 These

00:34:14.880 Guys

00:34:15.260 And

00:34:15.420 There

00:34:15.540 Tremend

00:34:15.920 Dude

00:34:16.160 I

00:34:16.280 I've

00:34:16.360 Read

00:34:16.480 A

00:34:16.600 About

00:34:16.920 Trump

00:34:17.280 You

00:34:17.600 Know

00:34:17.760 Like

00:34:18.020 People

00:34:18.280 Said

00:34:18.480 Oh

00:34:18.640 Trump

00:34:18.940 Got

00:34:19.140 A

00:34:19.280 Million

00:34:19.500 Bro

00:34:19.940 Compared

00:34:20.380 To

00:34:20.620 What

00:34:20.800 Trump

00:34:21.100 Built

00:34:21.560 A

00:34:22.180 Million

00:34:22.480 Dollars

00:34:23.040 Is

00:34:23.220 Like

00:34:23.600 If

00:34:23.860 Someone

00:34:24.140 Would

00:34:24.300 Have

00:34:24.400 Gained

00:34:24.600 Me

00:34:24.860 A

00:34:25.420 Thousand

00:34:25.800 Dollars

00:34:26.220 Right

00:34:26.680 It's

00:34:28.980 There's

00:34:30.860 Just

00:34:31.000 A lot

00:34:31.280 You

00:34:31.420 Can

00:34:31.560 Learn

00:34:31.880 From

00:34:32.200 From

00:34:32.520 From

00:34:32.640 The

00:34:33.440 Information

00:34:33.940 That's

00:34:34.200 Out

00:34:34.380 There

00:34:34.540 Dude

00:34:34.780 And

00:34:35.020 I

00:34:35.140 Wouldn't

00:34:35.380 Rely

00:34:35.720 On

00:34:35.940 AI

00:34:36.180 I

00:34:36.580 Wouldn't

00:34:36.800 A

00:34:37.380 Lot

00:34:37.580 Of

00:34:37.680 The

00:34:37.800 Shit

00:34:37.980 On

00:34:38.120 AI

00:34:38.320 Is

00:34:38.500 Not

00:34:38.640 Even

00:34:38.780 Accurate

00:34:39.240 Dude

00:34:39.500 You

00:34:39.640 Guys

00:34:39.800 Don't

00:34:39.960 Understand

00:34:40.300 That

00:34:40.600 Like

00:34:40.860 It's

00:34:41.220 Given

00:34:42.080 Information

00:34:42.700 That

00:34:42.980 Isn't

00:34:43.320 True

00:34:43.960 And

00:34:44.780 Then

00:34:44.900 You

00:34:45.020 Guys

00:34:45.200 Listen

00:34:45.500 To

00:34:45.740 It

00:34:45.920 And

00:34:46.160 It's

00:34:46.460 Not

00:34:46.940 There

00:34:47.280 I

00:34:47.740 Mean

00:34:47.840 It's

00:34:48.020 Good

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00:34:48.280 Some

00:34:48.460 Things

00:34:48.760 But

00:34:49.020 I

00:34:49.660 Can

00:34:49.840 Identify

00:34:50.260 Things

00:34:50.620 That

00:34:50.780 You

00:34:50.900 Ask

00:34:51.180 It

00:34:51.300 That

00:34:51.420 Are

00:34:51.520 Highly

00:34:52.260 Inaccurate

00:34:52.820 Because

00:34:53.400 I'm

00:34:53.560 An

00:34:53.660 Expert

00:34:53.940 In

00:34:54.080 That

00:34:54.220 Field

00:34:54.520 So

00:34:55.300 We

00:34:56.380 Got

00:34:56.860 To

00:34:56.920 Be

00:34:57.040 Discerning

00:34:57.520 About

00:34:57.720 Where

00:34:57.900 We

00:34:58.040 Take

00:34:58.220 The

00:34:58.380 Information

00:34:58.820 And

00:34:59.580 There's

00:35:00.280 Plenty

00:35:00.560 Of

00:35:00.700 Information

00:35:01.160 To

00:35:01.660 Either

00:35:02.220 Find

00:35:02.660 A

00:35:02.780 Mentor

00:35:03.160 Or

00:35:03.420 Create

00:35:03.860 One

00:35:04.200 In

00:35:04.340 Your

00:35:04.480 Mind

00:35:04.960 Who

00:35:05.760 Is

00:35:05.960 Sort

00:35:06.220 Of

00:35:06.380 Like

00:35:06.640 Somebody

00:35:07.020 That

00:35:07.280 You

00:35:07.420 Look

00:35:07.660 Up

00:35:07.860 To

00:35:08.100 That

00:35:08.360 You

00:35:08.480 Try

00:35:08.700 To

00:35:08.840 Learn

00:35:09.060 From

00:35:09.420 That

00:35:09.600 You

00:35:09.680 Try

00:35:09.880 To

00:35:10.020 Emulate

00:35:10.500 And

00:35:11.380 You

00:35:12.080 Know

00:35:12.240 I

00:35:12.700 Would

00:35:13.100 Do

00:35:13.280 All

00:35:13.540 Of

00:35:13.660 Those

00:35:13.840 Things

00:35:14.100 I

00:35:14.420 Would

00:35:14.580 Read

00:35:14.840 Books

00:35:15.200 Obviously

00:35:16.060 Okay

00:35:16.800 It's

00:35:16.980 Part

00:35:17.200 Of

00:35:17.280 The

00:35:17.340 Live

00:35:17.500 Hard

00:35:17.660 Program

00:35:18.140 Every

00:35:19.040 Fucking

00:35:19.400 Day

00:35:19.660 You

00:35:19.800 Should

00:35:19.920 Be

00:35:20.040 Reading

00:35:20.320 Something

00:35:20.920 That

00:35:21.740 Is

00:35:21.880 Going

00:35:22.100 To

00:35:22.220 Be

00:35:22.340 Geared

00:35:22.780 Towards

00:35:23.180 Pushing

00:35:23.560 You

00:35:23.780 Down

00:35:24.040 The

00:35:24.220 Further

00:35:25.340 I'm

00:35:25.620 Not

00:35:25.780 Talking

00:35:26.120 About

00:35:26.420 Fifty

00:35:26.880 Shades

00:35:27.300 Of

00:35:27.480 Fucking

00:35:27.760 Bullshit

00:35:28.240 I'm

00:35:28.800 Talking

00:35:29.120 About

00:35:29.500 I'm

00:35:30.220 Talking

00:35:30.520 About

00:35:30.840 Stuff

00:35:31.340 That

00:35:31.580 You're

00:35:31.760 Going

00:35:31.860 To

00:35:31.940 Learn

00:35:32.180 Things

00:35:32.580 From

00:35:32.920 Yeah

00:35:33.260 Right

00:35:33.640 You

00:35:34.840 Should

00:35:34.960 Be

00:35:35.080 Reading

00:35:35.300 Ten

00:35:35.560 Pages

00:35:35.900 A

00:35:36.040 Day

00:35:36.180 That

00:35:36.360 Keeps

00:35:36.620 The

00:35:36.740 Mind

00:35:36.960 Stimulated

00:35:37.540 It

00:35:37.740 Keeps

00:35:37.980 You

00:35:38.100 Creative

00:35:38.560 It

00:35:38.780 Keeps

00:35:39.040 You

00:35:39.160 Focused

00:35:39.500 On

00:35:39.720 Where

00:35:39.860 You're

00:35:40.040 Going

00:35:40.360 I

00:35:41.480 Would

00:35:41.640 Find

00:35:42.060 People

00:35:43.840 Who

00:35:44.280 Are

00:35:44.440 Doing

00:35:44.760 Things

00:35:45.280 And

00:35:45.620 Then

00:35:45.820 I

00:35:46.180 Would

00:35:46.380 Like

00:35:46.800 Stalk

00:35:47.120 The

00:35:47.300 Out

00:35:47.680 Of

00:35:47.780 Them

00:35:47.960 Not

00:35:48.260 Like

00:35:55.620 Move

00:35:55.940 They

00:35:56.120 Make

00:35:56.440 And

00:35:56.620 I

00:35:56.740 Would

00:35:56.880 Try

00:35:57.160 To

00:35:57.420 Dissect

00:35:58.060 Why

00:35:58.360 They're

00:35:58.620 Making

00:35:59.000 Said

00:35:59.640 Moves

00:36:00.060 All

00:36:00.520 Right

00:36:00.660 You

00:36:00.820 Can

00:36:01.000 This

00:36:01.680 Is

00:36:01.860 Valuable

00:36:02.280 Because

00:36:02.680 It

00:36:02.920 Teaches

00:36:03.340 You

00:36:03.640 How

00:36:04.080 To

00:36:04.280 Think

00:36:04.640 If

00:36:05.680 If

00:36:06.200 You're

00:36:06.380 Watching

00:36:06.740 Someone

00:36:07.240 And

00:36:08.080 They're

00:36:08.260 Making

00:36:08.480 Moves

00:36:08.840 And

00:36:08.960 You

00:36:09.040 Don't

00:36:09.180 Understand

00:36:09.520 It

00:36:09.740 You

00:36:09.840 Should

00:36:10.020 Be

00:36:10.140 Like

00:36:10.360 Why

00:36:10.700 Are

00:36:10.820 They

00:36:10.920 Doing

00:36:11.100 That

00:36:11.260 Because

00:36:12.200 You

00:36:12.340 Know

00:36:12.560 That

00:36:12.780 The

00:36:12.920 Interest

00:36:13.380 Of

00:36:13.560 Them

00:36:14.180 Making

00:36:14.720 That

00:36:14.900 Decision

00:36:15.380 Is

00:36:16.640 In

00:36:16.820 Their

00:36:17.000 Best

00:36:17.360 Interest

00:36:17.820 In

00:36:18.340 Their

00:36:18.520 Mind

00:36:25.620 Solve

00:36:25.900 Problems

00:36:26.420 And

00:36:27.260 It

00:36:27.820 Also

00:36:28.140 Teaches

00:36:28.580 You

00:36:28.780 How

00:36:29.000 To

00:36:29.160 Steal

00:36:29.520 Good

00:36:29.740 Ideas

00:36:30.180 From

00:36:30.360 Your

00:36:30.500 Competition

00:36:31.060 Before

00:36:32.180 They

00:36:32.460 Ever

00:36:32.660 Hit

00:36:32.820 The

00:36:32.960 Market

00:36:33.260 Right

00:36:33.700 There's

00:36:34.280 A lot

00:36:34.600 Of

00:36:34.760 Companies

00:36:35.280 That

00:36:35.480 Would

00:36:35.600 Be

00:36:35.740 Smaller

00:36:36.220 Than

00:36:36.380 You

00:36:36.520 That

00:36:36.660 Make

00:36:36.860 Really

00:36:37.180 Good

00:36:37.420 Decisions

00:36:38.320 But

00:36:38.880 When

00:36:39.420 You're

00:36:39.580 A

00:36:39.700 Bigger

00:36:39.940 Company

00:36:40.320 You

00:36:40.880 Have

00:36:41.080 Much

00:36:41.340 More

00:36:41.620 Audience

00:36:42.140 You

00:36:42.620 Can

00:36:42.760 Look

00:36:42.920 At

00:36:43.020 That

00:36:43.140 And

00:36:43.240 Say

00:36:43.360 Well

00:36:43.480 That's

00:36:43.680 A

00:36:43.800 Great

00:36:44.020 Idea

00:36:44.300 And

00:36:44.500 Then

00:36:44.640 When

00:36:44.840 You

00:36:44.960 Do

00:36:45.200 It

00:36:45.380 It

00:36:46.020 It

00:36:46.080 It's

00:36:46.140 Going

00:36:46.260 To

00:36:46.360 Seem

00:36:46.560 Like

00:36:46.740 You

00:36:46.880 Did

00:36:47.040 It

00:36:47.180 First

00:36:47.500 And

00:36:48.180 That's

00:36:48.480 Something

00:36:48.780 That

00:36:49.000 Is

00:36:49.160 Very

00:36:49.400 That's

00:36:49.800 A

00:36:49.900 Whole

00:36:50.020 Another

00:36:50.260 Topic

00:36:50.700 Because

00:36:50.980 Bigger

00:36:51.380 Companies

00:36:51.760 Do

00:36:51.960 It

00:36:52.060 To

00:36:52.160 Bigger

00:36:52.400 Companies

00:36:52.800 All

00:36:53.100 The

00:36:53.220 Time

00:36:53.480 So

00:36:53.760 There's

00:36:56.260 A

00:36:56.360 Catch

00:36:56.540 22

00:36:56.980 There

00:36:57.220 Like

00:36:57.500 You

00:36:57.640 Could

00:36:57.760 Do

00:36:57.900 It

00:36:58.000 To

00:36:58.100 Some

00:36:58.280 People

00:36:58.520 But

00:36:58.720 They're

00:36:58.940 Going

00:36:59.020 To

00:36:59.080 Do

00:36:59.160 It

00:36:59.260 To

00:36:59.340 You

00:36:59.480 Too

00:36:59.720 Right

00:37:00.100 But

00:37:02.280 You

00:37:02.900 Know

00:37:03.000 Analyzing

00:37:03.600 Like

00:37:03.780 We're

00:37:03.900 Talking

00:37:04.120 About

00:37:04.240 And

00:37:04.360 Then

00:37:04.480 Also

00:37:04.780 Spending

00:37:05.600 Your

00:37:05.940 Money

00:37:06.280 On

00:37:07.000 Fucking

00:37:16.140 Of

00:37:16.340 These

00:37:16.540 Programs

00:37:17.440 Are

00:37:17.680 100

00:37:18.180 You

00:37:18.580 Know

00:37:18.720 200

00:37:19.160 300

00:37:19.560 A

00:37:20.120 Month

00:37:20.340 And

00:37:20.480 You

00:37:20.560 Say

00:37:20.700 Oh

00:37:20.860 My

00:37:20.960 God

00:37:21.140 I

00:37:21.260 Can't

00:37:21.460 Afford

00:37:21.720 That

00:37:21.940 Bro

00:37:22.580 That's

00:37:22.800 Two

00:37:23.040 Nights

00:37:23.360 Out

00:37:23.660 A

00:37:24.220 Month

00:37:24.480 The

00:37:25.160 Fuck

00:37:25.380 You

00:37:25.460 Talking

00:37:25.760 About

00:37:26.040 You're

00:37:26.540 Not

00:37:26.660 Willing

00:37:26.920 To

00:37:27.040 Stay

00:37:27.200 Home

00:37:27.420 For

00:37:27.580 Two

00:37:27.760 Nights

00:37:28.040 Or

00:37:28.180 Three

00:37:28.340 Nights

00:37:28.600 A

00:37:28.740 Month

00:37:28.960 And

00:37:29.640 Learn

00:37:30.160 How

00:37:30.380 To

00:37:30.460 Get

00:37:30.580 Better

00:37:30.860 So

00:37:31.100 You

00:37:31.280 Don't

00:37:31.380 Have

00:37:31.500 To

00:37:31.600 Worry

00:37:31.920 About

00:37:32.220 Going

00:37:33.240 Out

00:37:33.460 To

00:37:33.580 Eat

00:37:33.820 And

00:37:33.980 Looking

00:37:34.140 At

00:37:34.320 The

00:37:34.420 Menu

00:37:34.680 Or

00:37:35.020 Are

00:37:35.220 Worrying

00:37:35.540 About

00:37:35.760 Putting

00:37:36.040 Gas

00:37:36.360 In

00:37:36.480 Your

00:37:36.600 Car

00:37:36.880 Like

00:37:37.120 Bro

00:37:37.440 You

00:37:38.300 Have

00:37:38.700 To

00:37:38.940 Make

00:37:39.200 Those

00:37:39.440 Investments

00:37:40.120 And

00:37:40.740 You

00:37:40.840 Have

00:37:41.100 To

00:37:41.220 Equate

00:37:41.640 Them

00:37:41.820 To

00:37:41.960 What

00:37:42.140 You're

00:37:42.320 Actually

00:37:42.620 Giving

00:37:42.900 Up

00:37:43.160 Like

00:37:43.440 Bro

00:37:44.140 What

00:37:45.700 Are

00:37:45.800 You

00:37:45.880 Giving

00:37:46.040 Up

00:37:46.260 For

00:37:46.460 100

00:37:46.780 A

00:37:47.180 Month

00:37:47.360 One

00:37:48.000 Night

00:37:48.240 Out

00:37:48.500 Maybe

00:37:48.820 What

00:37:49.620 Do

00:37:49.700 You

00:37:49.800 What

00:37:52.000 Do

00:37:52.160 You

00:37:52.240 Stand

00:37:52.440 To

00:37:52.580 Make

00:37:52.880 That

00:37:53.200 That's

00:37:53.380 What

00:37:53.480 I'm

00:37:53.560 Saying

00:37:53.820 Bro

00:37:54.100 Like

00:37:54.580 And

00:37:54.700 There's

00:37:54.880 Lots

00:37:55.180 Of

00:37:55.380 Little

00:37:55.700 Programs

00:37:56.280 That

00:37:56.460 You

00:37:56.560 Can

00:37:56.700 Get

00:37:56.840 Into

00:37:57.140 That

00:37:58.440 Can

00:37:58.560 Help

00:37:58.780 You

00:37:58.940 Know

00:37:59.100 That's

00:37:59.400 What

00:37:59.500 Arte

00:37:59.880 Is

00:38:00.160 We

00:38:00.400 Deal

00:38:00.900 With

00:38:01.240 You

00:38:02.880 Know

00:38:02.980 Small

00:38:03.280 Medium

00:38:03.640 And

00:38:03.960 Large

00:38:04.240 Business

00:38:04.680 Owners

00:38:05.860 Who

00:38:06.780 You

00:38:07.100 Know

00:38:07.200 They

00:38:07.420 Pay

00:38:07.660 A

00:38:07.800 Monthly

00:38:08.120 Fee

00:38:08.380 And

00:38:08.520 We

00:38:08.640 Get

00:38:08.760 In

00:38:08.880 There

00:38:09.020 And

00:38:09.120 We

00:38:09.220 Teach

00:38:09.440 Them

00:38:09.540 How

00:38:09.640 To

00:38:09.740 Do

00:38:09.860 Things

00:38:10.140 And

00:38:10.280 Then

00:38:10.380 They

00:38:10.500 Connect

00:38:10.820 In

00:38:10.940 The

00:38:11.040 Community

00:38:11.380 So

00:38:11.680 Like

00:38:11.900 You

00:38:13.620 Know

00:38:13.760 I

00:38:14.020 Would

00:38:14.180 Be

00:38:14.320 Open

00:38:14.560 To

00:38:14.700 That

00:38:14.840 I

00:38:15.000 Think

00:38:15.140 That's

00:38:15.320 A

00:38:15.440 Good

00:38:15.620 Thing

00:38:15.940 If

00:38:16.140 You're

00:38:16.300 Learning

00:38:16.540 From

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 10, 2025

851. Q&AF： Dealing With Stress, Setting Healthy Boundaries & How To Find A Mentor

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