REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 860. Q&AF： How To Stop Doubting Yourself, Paralysis Analysis & How To Hire Help

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00:05:01.040 anyhow we do have a show for today we do have a good show man and uh i do got some good ones for you

00:05:07.640 i'm i'm not surprised let's make some people better today guys andy question number one hey andy

00:05:16.440 hi uh so i came to follow you a little over a year ago and dude seriously thank you uh i am 25 years

00:05:25.980 young but i'm not doing a finding myself in a van thing however i am committed to just becoming the

00:05:33.740 version of myself i know that i can become but here's the thing i second guess every decision

00:05:41.700 i make even when my gut tells me something i doubt myself and overanalyze i want to be able to trust

00:05:49.280 myself and my instincts instead of always looking to others for some sort of reassurance i know you

00:05:56.540 consistently speak on the importance of building and having self-confidence but i guess specifically

00:06:01.960 how do i build that confidence in my own judgment okay well first of all you're 25 bro you you don't have a

00:06:09.960 ton of decision real adult decision making experience uh let's be real you know and when

00:06:17.800 you don't have all that experience it's natural to second guess yourself so we all go through this

00:06:24.080 it's not just you we all go through a transition period uh where you know all the way up until maybe

00:06:31.460 we're done with college we're kind of getting told what to do and how to do it um and then you know

00:06:37.080 some people younger than others there's always you know nuance but typically when we are in our

00:06:44.620 young to mid-20s we are learning how to make decisions

00:06:49.500 feeling the consequences of those decisions and either building up our trust in ourselves or taking

00:06:58.340 away and what i would say to you is that the fact that you're aware of this is a huge advantage

00:07:04.700 because most people aren't aware they just continue to make bad decision after bad decision

00:07:10.000 after bad decision meaning they're making whatever decision they need to make that makes them feel

00:07:15.780 good now they don't understand delay gratification they don't understand thinking ahead of what the

00:07:22.760 decision will actually produce down the road and the fact that you're aware of this at a young age is

00:07:29.600 really really really really good it's a good indicator that you are going to build a very good skill set of

00:07:36.720 making the right decisions when these decisions are to be made so you have to understand that your confidence

00:07:45.920 and your belief in yourself is really only going to come after you've made good decision after good

00:07:54.120 decision after good decision and then a few bad ones too right and then we learn from those lessons

00:07:59.540 and then we become either very confident uh or we we stay unaware we don't get really beat down

00:08:08.040 because the people who continue to make wrong decision after wrong decision they see life as

00:08:12.720 something that's like happening to them like they are not thinking like i'm making this decision

00:08:18.080 in november and then in december my life sucks they're not understanding that they're unaware

00:08:23.420 so making bad decisions doesn't necessarily destroy someone's confidence it destroys their life

00:08:30.220 so the fact that you are understanding that there is a decision to be made there are consequences down

00:08:36.540 the road that's a great thing but the way you're going to become confident in is by making the best

00:08:41.860 decision that you can make now and then understanding you know what the result of that is

00:08:47.760 with your own experience and as you get older and as you go through this process you will become more

00:08:54.720 and more and more confident in your decisions and that goes for both your life and your career

00:09:00.860 whatever else you're working on you know there's still times in my life knowing what i know about

00:09:08.100 business you know where i'm like fuck i don't know fuck i don't know like what should we do

00:09:14.320 you know and then we work out the options and we make the best decision and when we make the best

00:09:20.100 decision that doesn't always mean it actually is the best decision sometimes you just have to make a

00:09:25.920 decision see what happens and then make an adjustment which i would say is really how things actually work

00:09:34.420 in life you know not many times have i made a decision when i was young that worked out exactly the

00:09:41.340 way i thought it was going to work out what it did was is it directed me in a right direction and then

00:09:47.380 when i went down that path i had to make multiple pivots as i went down the path to really get where

00:09:54.020 i was trying to go but the important thing the the real important thing here is not even the question

00:10:00.180 that you ask it's that you have to make a fucking decision okay most people will analyze and analyze

00:10:06.420 and analyze and analyze and they never choose and because they never choose life passes them by

00:10:13.120 and then they end up at you know 50 years old saying coulda woulda shoulda no you should just pick

00:10:19.480 some shit and whatever happens happens you learn you know and and then you you apply again and so

00:10:25.800 that's the process of of development you know we make the best decision that we can make right now

00:10:32.360 we listen to our gut we look at the facts we make it on logic there's very few uh decisions in life

00:10:38.440 that should be made around emotion um we make those decisions we go down the path uh we figure out if

00:10:46.460 it's if it's working or not and then we make pivots and that's just how it goes man and i know that like

00:10:52.400 you guys consume all of this information all day on instagram from all these people who legitimately

00:10:58.740 haven't done a motherfucking thing telling you how to do things and what the their philosophy is or

00:11:04.760 this or that or this i would encourage you to listen to what people say who have actually

00:11:09.580 accomplished what it is you want to do and live the kind of life that you want to live and ignore

00:11:14.920 all these theoretical bozos on the internet who honestly don't know shit because if they did they

00:11:21.860 would be not just writing memes on the internet right okay um so make the decision make it the best

00:11:31.480 you can go down the path when you recognize that the decision is not working which you have to be

00:11:37.660 patient you make a pivot or you make a complete different directional change you don't make a

00:11:43.580 complete different directional change until you've tried multiple pivots and you realize this isn't going

00:11:48.320 to work right like a lot of people will ask me they say well when should i quit when should i quit my

00:11:55.040 business you know my i've got this product look dude if you if you go if you go down the path and

00:12:02.460 you figure out for real that that product is not going to get you where you want to go meaning

00:12:07.380 you can't scale it there's no demand for it it's not a good strong product eventually you got to find

00:12:14.700 a new product or you're just going to be trying to stick a square peg in a round hole it does not

00:12:18.940 work so there are times that i don't talk about this very much but there are times when you have

00:12:26.720 to make complete directional changes the reason i don't talk about it very much is because most people

00:12:33.260 think that that happens soon when in reality you have to go down the path and try all the different

00:12:39.800 routes uh it's kind of like a mouse in a maze maze all right like you're like oh i know the cheese is

00:12:45.220 over that way so i'm gonna fucking go this way that didn't get me there i'm gonna go this way

00:12:49.700 that didn't get me there and then i'm gonna find the way to the fucking cheese and like if you don't

00:12:54.140 go through that process with your product to the point where you have a really good understanding of

00:13:00.380 why it's not going to work not just your emotional beliefs or your frustration or your anger or your

00:13:06.660 impatience meaning you logically can say i there's not a market for this it's not going to be scalable

00:13:12.240 it's not going to work out the way i want then you have to make a change and that goes for anything

00:13:16.800 you can plug product in with relationship you can plug product in with fitness okay you got to figure

00:13:23.220 the fuck out and if here's what i'll say if one person's done it you could probably do it too so

00:13:29.420 the decision making process and have any confidence in that is it is something it's one of those things

00:13:35.940 that you have to do your best and work out the nuances to get where you're trying to go and

00:13:45.180 after you do that enough and you make enough good decisions you'll start to trust yourself and you'll

00:13:49.520 say i know how to make the right decisions i love it yeah i mean you talk like i mean it sounds like a

00:13:53.720 lot of this is just being able to you know go through the time to build that perspective yeah absolutely

00:13:59.420 is the important well dude yes like my decision making ability now versus when i was 25 is you

00:14:07.480 know the difference between you know starting at zero and and and being you know an expert you're

00:14:14.200 running circles around that guy oh dude no doubt because i i've already made all the mistakes like

00:14:18.440 dude if you're trying to get somewhere and you know like if i'm trying to get from here in st louis to

00:14:25.280 la and and over the last 20 years i took every motherfucking road well you know and then you

00:14:32.040 ask me when i'm 20 years later you say how to get there i'm gonna say right like there that's that's

00:14:36.240 the road right there don't go down this road yeah it's fucking and by the way this ties into why it's

00:14:41.180 important to learn from people who have had real business experience not just built real things

00:14:48.860 but built real things in different environments you know like i was pre-internet then we were right

00:14:57.360 when the internet came then we were when social media came then we were through the the 2008 financial

00:15:02.940 crisis then we went through fucking covid now now we're going through ai revolution like bro i've been

00:15:08.680 through all that shit and we're still here we're still going there's a lot of valuable information

00:15:12.360 most of it that i can provide that none of these other motherfuckers can you see what i'm saying

00:15:17.560 so it's really important that you know i'm not saying you just have to listen to me but i am

00:15:23.240 saying that whoever you listen to needs to have been through all of those things because dude the

00:15:28.020 real truth about being successful is the ability to adapt quickly right the ability to pivot quickly

00:15:34.800 when things happen and um you know that's decision making for sure last little piece on this i want to

00:15:41.920 ask you very like very simple question here you know when it comes down to to decision making i guess

00:15:47.420 what's one thing if there's an equation to decision making right the perfect equation what's one

00:15:53.320 thing that is not in that equation usually emotions okay let's talk about it look there are certain ways

00:16:01.000 there's certain times in your life where making an emotional decision is okay all right but most of the

00:16:09.180 time you want to eliminate emotions from the situation um for example you know i like cars so people will

00:16:19.320 say well you don't fucking need those no shit i don't need those cars motherfucker i don't need a car i live

00:16:25.520 four miles from work i can ride a fucking bike okay but the experience that i get from the cars

00:16:34.220 adds to the quality of my life okay so i am willing to invest money because my cars appreciate for the

00:16:44.460 most part into that quality of life experience which is tied into my emotions right if i was

00:16:52.500 unemotional about that decision i would ride a bike because i could legitimately ride a bike or

00:16:58.300 if i maybe i could ride a motorcycle or fuck whatever right a scooter like i could if you're talking

00:17:05.420 practicality you're correct i don't need any of those cars but it's fucking cool to have them okay and it

00:17:11.920 makes my life more enjoyable to me i like driving i like performance driving i like knowing about cars

00:17:19.920 i like feeling good when i pull up somewhere that i'm getting out of some cool shit that shit makes me

00:17:25.760 feel good and you could say whatever the fuck you want i'm honest with myself enough to understand

00:17:31.040 that so that's an emotional decision that makes my life better where you live people will say well you

00:17:38.820 know you need to when you're young it's very important to make the correct logical decision about

00:17:44.740 where you decide to live because you are working on accumulating assets and wealth for later in your

00:17:50.880 life when i got to 40 years 38 years old i bought my dream house which is the house i live in now

00:17:59.860 and it's fucking amazing it's probably like real talk it's probably one of the nicest properties in

00:18:04.980 the whole fucking world okay it's a fucking real compound do i need that no but i love it because you

00:18:12.240 know what i spend a lot of time there i spend most of my time either here or there and by the way

00:18:17.320 did i need to build out this headquarters to look the way it looks no but i have to spend a lot of

00:18:23.800 time here and i want to be fucking cool okay so those are emotional decisions that don't necessarily

00:18:29.920 make financial sense all right for the amount of money that i put in my house i'm gonna get my balls

00:18:35.880 kicked in when i sell it it's not gonna happen but i don't care i don't care because i've made enough

00:18:42.460 money in my life to not have that make a difference on what i actually want so earlier in life it's

00:18:50.720 important especially to make logical decisions i would say under 40 years old logic logic logic logic

00:18:57.800 unless you're earning so much money and and i was in my earlier 30s um that it didn't fucking matter

00:19:05.160 okay but but you shouldn't be stretching you understand right so we you know when you get a

00:19:14.600 little older and you get some financial uh power and maybe a little extra it's okay to make decisions

00:19:22.020 that are emotional if they make you happier as long as you're aware that that's it you have to be aware

00:19:28.260 you know like most people just aren't bro they they cannot separate a logical decision from an

00:19:35.360 emotional decision in which time which is appropriate you know so um it's okay to make

00:19:43.520 emotional decisions when they're not going to hurt you and then they're going to add to your life right

00:19:47.980 right um but until you're at that point where it's not a financial strain

00:19:57.400 to live the lifestyle that you want you should live very logical uh and be working to maximize

00:20:04.820 you know what sort of of income that you actually have live below your means make smart decisions

00:20:10.360 uh don't go out to eat all the time drive a car that isn't the one that you'd actually really like

00:20:16.720 to drive those are all intelligent decisions as a younger person as you get older you start to realize

00:20:22.700 well fuck i'm going to be dead uh the quality of my life matters as well so i want to spend a little

00:20:29.660 more money on the things that i like and enjoy you know so i'm not just you know it's it's weird to me

00:20:35.700 this is i see like 70 80 year old people 60 year old people 50 year old people still living completely

00:20:44.060 in that logic mindset and i you know and we see him online too right like um you know dave ramsey

00:20:52.220 okay and i like dave ramsey but he will give you know save save save save save this is this is well

00:20:59.320 dude eventually these motherfuckers gonna be dead yeah like what when do they get a taste of the

00:21:04.200 what they actually want all the hard work they put you see what i'm saying 100 and let's be real bro

00:21:09.040 he lives he has like a fucking 500 600 million dollar fucking office park right you know like

00:21:14.200 dave lives in a nice house yeah so he gets it yeah you know but i think he's saying the same thing

00:21:19.880 i'm saying just in a different a different way for sure you know we we make smart decisions

00:21:26.560 until we are in a place where we can afford to make emotional decisions i love that i love it man

00:21:32.520 guys andy question number two andy um i have a strong business mindset uh and customers and people

00:21:40.860 in general everywhere tend to like me and trust me i know i'd be excellent at owning a biz oh

00:21:48.820 you and everybody else brother that being said uh there are a trillion different business ideas that

00:21:58.000 could make uh make money nowadays literally a trillion i don't have a tremendous passion for

00:22:04.180 anything in particular so how does someone that is experiencing analysis paralysis settle for one

00:22:11.540 opportunity and stay determined to make money at all um how do you know you didn't choose the wrong

00:22:17.280 opportunity when the biz gets turbulent and bail on it i try not to be a hoe but hey old habits die hard

00:22:23.580 okay well let's just break this down you don't know if you're going to be a great business operator

00:22:31.840 you have no fucking idea how old is that person didn't say okay it doesn't matter you have no idea

00:22:37.500 until you know all right there's been people who have all the fucking check marks and all the attributes

00:22:44.160 and all the special shit and they suck okay and then you have people who are borderline special needs

00:22:52.340 who create amazing crush it yeah dude i know a guy yeah i know a guy who could not fucking read or

00:23:01.720 write that because he was a he was an executor he would just go out and do shit he did not think

00:23:08.440 about it he didn't have the brain capacity to think about it okay he just did shit and he built a

00:23:15.020 company that was worth 200 300 million dollars okay uh now he made some other bad decisions and that guy

00:23:20.760 is now in prison yeah but it didn't have to do with fraudulent business he was running a good

00:23:24.520 business um but my point is there's guys like that everywhere all right so just because you fucking

00:23:32.620 think you can do it and just because you know a lot of like people who went to nice prestigious

00:23:37.860 universities like harvard or brown or cornell they think they can do it but you know what the truth

00:23:44.280 is the truth is there is uh a lot of motherfuckers with some fancy initials behind their name that

00:23:51.720 never did shit all right so i don't really give a fuck what you think you can do until you've shown

00:23:56.360 me that you can do it proof so let's let's be humble here bro yeah you're talking about the most

00:24:01.280 competitive fucking game that you could possibly play all right people are trying to take the food

00:24:08.180 off of your fucking table can you even handle that can you even handle knowing that can you handle

00:24:13.860 the relentless uh pursuit that other people have of you trying to take your fucking livelihood

00:24:19.240 then can you handle it for fucking thousands of people okay you can't most of the time that's why

00:24:27.880 the statistics are what they are eight percent of people are entrepreneurs less than fucking one

00:24:32.580 percent of that eight percent is actually a millionaire or successful all right so let's clear that out now

00:24:39.120 i'm not saying you can't learn it i'm not saying you can't do it i'm not saying you can't

00:24:43.840 learn to be great at it but i'm saying if you think you're naturally great at it you've never

00:24:47.640 done shit you're fucking fooling yourself so let's address that right up front i love it um secondly

00:24:53.500 when you're young

00:24:56.940 i believe that in the entrepreneurship stage that we are in it's important for you

00:25:08.660 to try a few different things examine what it is that you're into okay you might say oh i'm not

00:25:16.480 passionate about this what do you do every day what let's start there what is your daily routine like

00:25:22.400 what do you do every single day i get up i brush my teeth i take a shower i go to the gym i do this i do that

00:25:31.000 what's the one thing that you can't live without that you find extremely uh beneficial to you and

00:25:39.620 your day what is it and when you identify those three or four things how could they be made better

00:25:46.020 okay and start thinking like that in everything that you see like when i go to a restaurant i'm not in

00:25:52.720 the restaurant business but you've been to enough restaurants with me to know exactly what the fuck i do

00:25:57.840 i sit at the table i order the food and i say they should have done this should have done that

00:26:02.860 should have done this if these guys were doing this they'd have five times much business i fucking do

00:26:06.960 that i analyze how everyone does everything and that is a trained way of thinking that i've had

00:26:14.360 for many many years because who knows what kind of idea will come from that so to say you're not

00:26:21.360 passionate about anything i don't even think that's true i think there's things that you are

00:26:26.760 passionate about you've just not thought about how you can make them better or how you could sell them

00:26:30.720 as a product and i would encourage you to do that third of all you don't have to be passionate about

00:26:37.980 fucking anything you could be passionate about making motherfucking money okay but i will say this

00:26:45.420 that while that is cool when you don't have any money to start making money and you say fuck i love

00:26:52.240 making money you will eventually get to a point where if you are doing it just for that you will be burnt out

00:27:00.560 you will hate your life you will be miserable and you will be searching for meaning and purpose

00:27:06.400 and something that you do and so the reason that we recommend people be passionate about things when they start

00:27:16.260 is because there is a lag time where you start the business and where it becomes successful that is very hard for people to get through

00:27:27.700 and most of the time the only reason people can get through that part of the business is because they actually care about what the fuck they're doing

00:27:35.840 so if you are passionate about something that you are actually building a business around your chances of sticking it out during this lag time go up

00:27:45.760 right all right so uh and i will say this even the thing you're most passionate about over the course of time you're going to go in and out of being passionate about that

00:27:56.220 there's been many times in my life where i haven't been passionate about what i do every day

00:28:00.860 and then got out of that funk and got more passionate again and then back and forth and back and forth

00:28:05.760 that's normal and a lot of people the first time that happens the first time they lose a little

00:28:11.180 they get into one of those funks they're like fuck i don't have this passion for it anymore

00:28:15.420 and then they fucking quit and they got to go start over if you just stick with it dude it'll come back

00:28:20.380 so uh we see a lot of people fail in that regard uh during those those those times when we don't feel great about what we're doing

00:28:27.600 and it's just normal don't do that um but yeah man uh if i were you instead of saying you know i'm not passionate about anything

00:28:37.860 i would say well i can't i need to really examine what it is i would like to do uh if i only had to do this

00:28:46.060 every single day of my life for free okay and i can say that like i love helping people i love people getting better

00:28:53.200 i like making people better with their finances with their fitness their mindset i fuck i do this

00:28:58.920 shit for free yeah you know i love this shit um so even like for me even if i if you were to ask me

00:29:08.080 like what would you do every day if you didn't get paid for i would still do the same shit i'd come in

00:29:13.100 here i'd help where i can i do the show and you know i i would find fulfillment in that yeah and so

00:29:21.260 you know um when you're in the beginning stages and you can't figure out what your passion is you

00:29:25.700 need to get passionate about making some fucking money and you need to save that money so that you

00:29:30.680 can roll it into something that you are passionate about whenever you do become passionate about it

00:29:35.260 and then you can build a business out from there i love it now you started when you were 19 yeah how

00:29:39.660 many what were some of the other i guess pathways you tried before you started with s2 i tried to i tried

00:29:47.320 to buy into this uh internet yellow pages situation which because before listen before google there was

00:29:56.800 no way to search the internet so like everything back in the day was you had to pull out a fucking

00:30:03.760 phone book and you had to like look for shit yeah right okay right kids now can't even comprehend

00:30:10.640 that no there was a book that had everybody's number everybody's right and in businesses it would

00:30:15.580 it would be categorized it would also be sorted by their name um there was a yellow pages and there

00:30:21.520 was a white pages the yellow pages was sorted by category the white pages sorted by name

00:30:26.060 all right and you got two for free you got one of each for free at your house every single year

00:30:30.960 all right um that is crazy to think about that's what they did okay now it's all here on your hold on

00:30:37.560 bro but but when they when the internet started to get popular google hadn't really

00:30:43.140 matured into what it is today um and there certainly wasn't ai or anything like that

00:30:50.780 so this dude created this thing called internet yellow pages and he sold out franchises i tried that

00:30:58.300 didn't fucking work okay i had to go door to door to businesses and try to get them to sign up for

00:31:02.880 something that nobody really understood was going to be beneficial at all yeah so that was that was

00:31:08.080 a failed thing um i tried an internet dating service that was a failed thing i tried uh fucking you

00:31:17.320 know what are some tanning beds or some shit tanning beds couldn't get enough money to do it uh you know

00:31:23.240 painting the stripes on parking lots you know could never get enough money to do that uh on our own

00:31:28.600 you know i mean bro i could go on and on and on i had a different fucking thing every single year

00:31:34.460 trying to build something out from the time i was eight until the time i started you know with chris s2

00:31:41.880 right and um so none of those things was i really passionate about except the baseball card thing that

00:31:48.640 i did but you know i didn't know enough about i was only like fucking 10 yeah right right right but um

00:31:55.640 but yeah dude i mean most of the shit and by the way i still know a lot of the lessons i learned

00:32:01.540 through that process which allowed me to create the retail stores which which is what bore uh first

00:32:09.900 form and you know it's no different than what i tell you guys you're gonna have to go through shit i

00:32:15.820 just started when i was real young yeah you know so yeah dude there's a i mean there's a lot of shit

00:32:23.440 like i did uh i did nightclub promotion um for uh concerts when i was in college to try and make

00:32:31.380 some side money you know and that actually worked out okay i made a little bit of money doing that

00:32:35.420 um to kind of float me through you know not getting paid at the stores but i mean there's all kinds of

00:32:41.080 things that honestly didn't work but there's also things that could have worked had i stuck with it

00:32:46.280 had i stuck with it right yeah 41 percent man i love it man well guys let's get to our third and

00:32:51.560 final question mr andy uh guys any question number three hey andy so full disclosure i'm not an

00:33:00.440 entrepreneur i mainly listen to you for the other good stuff on tuesdays and fridays wink yeah

00:33:05.460 but my best friend is and he listens to the show as well um he has been in business for like four

00:33:11.260 years now making uh beautiful amazing woodwork i mean like seriously amazing stuff dining tables that

00:33:18.900 he sells for like fifteen thousand dollars oh um really dope shit and he is crushing it here's the

00:33:24.240 thing uh the dude does it all uh from the production wood procurement marketing sales inventory concept

00:33:31.780 design like a thousand hats uh we have been talking more recently about him hiring employees

00:33:37.360 i see how hard he works runs around like a chicken with his head cut off and i tell him all the time

00:33:43.940 bro you need help uh you're going to need help many hands lighten the load etc but he stands firm

00:33:50.520 and says i'm good don't need him uh because he is being a pussy and i know he wouldn't ask can you

00:33:57.500 talk some sense into him for the love of our dear lord and savior all jokes aside i don't want to lose

00:34:02.680 my best friend from a heart attack because he thinks he doesn't need the help much love from detroit

00:34:07.320 well look it depends on what his operational goals are you know some people just want to be artists

00:34:13.880 like what he's doing is an art to him so when we think of you know business we have to understand that

00:34:21.860 not everybody's trying to be a fucking billionaire not everybody's trying to be worth a hundred million

00:34:26.440 dollars not everybody's even trying to make a million dollars they're just trying to not have to work

00:34:31.140 a regular job that they don't get fulfillment out of so it depends on what kind of person he is

00:34:37.440 and what his goals are because if he's just a one-man operation making super high quality shit

00:34:43.340 you know there's a lot of fulfillment in that in fact when we went down to see jesse james jesse james

00:34:50.080 is an artist he's in his shop doing the work himself now does he have people that do other things

00:34:56.900 yes absolutely but he is an artist and i think that and i could be wrong i think that he would do

00:35:07.040 the shit for free and i think he would do it on his own and do all of it on his own and i bet he did

00:35:11.600 for a long time and then you know he realized hey man i want to make some fucking money doing this so

00:35:16.560 they expand it into an actual company and dude honestly i think he's one of the best entrepreneurs

00:35:21.100 out there um that doesn't get the credit for being such a great entrepreneur i mean dude he's sold

00:35:27.600 fucking like a like some sort of bolt like billion dollars worth of fucking apparel off of his brand

00:35:34.660 like crazy yeah like dude he's he's crushed it um but at heart he's an artist right and he loves the

00:35:43.200 work and he gets fulfillment from the work and so if your friend is one of these guys he might be doing

00:35:48.060 exactly what he wants um if you think that he's killing himself and he's saying fuck i'm so big

00:35:53.260 maybe he needs to hire you know some some uh executive assistant or somebody a coo or a ceo that will run

00:36:01.920 all the business affairs for him so he can focus on what he does best you know um there's lots of

00:36:08.940 solutions to this problem depending on where he wants to take it but i just got to be real with you i

00:36:14.200 mean some of my friends who are tremendous at what they do they're just artists that make shit to sell

00:36:19.800 and they fucking love that so um if he if that's what he loves leave him the fuck alone you know what

00:36:26.240 i'm saying yeah but if he wants to turn that into a business that does you know 30 50 100 million

00:36:33.880 dollars it probably could easily be done uh you know you could build out a few people that would

00:36:39.500 handle all the logistical shit and the minutiae of running a business um he could concentrate on

00:36:45.560 what he does he could bring in apprentices to help him and maybe as it goes you know help them learn

00:36:50.640 how to do similar to what he does but i also bet that people are buying these tables because he

00:36:55.640 fucking does them yeah so there there's a lot of ways to scale those out but ultimately it comes down

00:37:01.640 to what does the artist actually want you know you know how many great photographers i know that could

00:37:07.960 be fucking worth 100 million dollars that just don't they just do one their one thing or uh uh you

00:37:14.000 know sculptors or fucking people that work with their hands like bro these these people are built

00:37:19.500 different than than uh you know most people and and the truth of the matter is entrepreneurship is

00:37:25.320 also a creative art that's what people don't understand it's not corporate this this this this this

00:37:30.600 until you get to that fucking way up level right um where you're you're you're managing so many

00:37:36.880 people there has to be rules set in stone uh but small small business i think is the most fun kind

00:37:43.100 of business because there's you can you get to be close with all your people you know there's a

00:37:48.460 common goal you get to build a strong team it's fun you get there it's not like how the fuck do i

00:37:54.020 go to dinner with fucking hundreds of people you know saying like i can't do that yeah but back in

00:37:58.600 the early days when there was 20 of us or the whole 10 of us yeah we fucking hung out all the time

00:38:03.500 is awesome my favorite memories of of building the company were those days um and you know it's

00:38:11.160 just all the phase of life where you're at does he say how old he is uh no i didn't he didn't say

00:38:15.360 yeah i mean look bro if you really care about him and you really uh you know you really think you

00:38:21.940 can help him why don't you draw out a little plan for him you know on how you could help him why don't

00:38:26.600 you say here here's what you could do to lighten your load and and even make more money you see what i'm

00:38:31.460 saying for sure so you know not everybody who creates is an actual effective entrepreneur you

00:38:37.720 know um having the business sense and the marketing ability and and the brand ability and all these

00:38:43.980 things those things you know they they they're a different skill set than making a fifteen thousand

00:38:49.980 dollar table that's amazing yeah uh so you know maybe taking some of that profit and reinvesting

00:38:56.260 into team you know will help him scale have uh less actual workload and make more money i mean

00:39:02.860 that's the truth that's what you're talking about um and i'm very confident that that would be the

00:39:08.600 result of streamlining what he has going on so it depends on what he wants to do bro um and if he

00:39:14.680 wants to make more money than that i mean fuck dude you could take that all the way it just depends

00:39:18.940 on where you want to go uh so i'd start with you know him listening to what i'm saying uh you

00:39:25.080 evaluating whether or not that's what he wants him evaluating if that's what he wants decide where

00:39:30.860 he wants to take the business and then make a plan from there you know because dude in the early days

00:39:36.460 of entrepreneurship and i see a lot of guys do this you know they are they're they're in that creative

00:39:43.100 mode where they're creating the product and they get so busy that they can't think of how to scale

00:39:48.780 the business out because they're just running the business how do you say i think you've described

00:39:52.740 it before is like you're working in the business and you gotta switch to working correct on the

00:39:56.200 business but but when you're the one creating the shit you know like like when you're the one baking

00:40:01.260 the fucking cakes and people are buying the cakes because you're baking them yeah um that's a little

00:40:06.140 bit different of a situation yeah for sure you know but people do it bro like look uh katie's pizza

00:40:11.220 who i use as an example people used to go to katie's because fucking katie made the motherfucking pizzas

00:40:16.200 right now she sells pizzas in walmart and they're fucking amazing uh many restaurants throughout

00:40:22.740 st louis that have a very good reputation because guess what they're good and she was able to take

00:40:29.220 her culinary skill set and scale that and you could do that with your woodworking as well and it could

00:40:34.660 still be you know your brand whatever that's called there's all kinds of different ways to do this

00:40:39.240 bro um and the least effective way is to do it all yourself and run yourself into the dirt you know

00:40:45.360 you could probably do way less work by getting a little help you'll make way more money uh and build

00:40:50.900 a much more successful company without sacrificing the fulfillment and the enjoyment or the brand

00:40:58.260 quality that he gets from doing it himself so it's just about what do you want yeah you know what i mean

00:41:04.260 like everybody thinks that when i'm taught and i am for the most part because most people want to make

00:41:10.540 as much money as they can for sure but not everybody does some people just want to make enough

00:41:15.340 some people just want to improve their life and give them some more freedom uh and then they want

00:41:20.900 to live their life you know and it sounds like he's not able to do that because of how busy he is with

00:41:25.780 work so you know i know i'm throwing a lot of different scenarios at you but you know one of those

00:41:30.500 scenarios is the right one and if you if you really think you have good ideas for your buddy uh why don't

00:41:35.420 you map it out and kind of show it and say hey why don't we do it this way yeah you know what i mean

00:41:39.660 yeah i love it man dude this is honestly i'm i get excited hearing these questions for mfco come

00:41:45.700 back bro we've been recording the episodes i fucking love it like i look that's my fucking wheelhouse bro

00:41:54.040 yeah you know i've been doing something that people want to do for as long as most of them have been

00:42:00.120 alive okay i i i'm the dude that all these other motherfuckers out here you know are trying to

00:42:06.840 pretend they are they don't have the experience they don't have the actual business the most of

00:42:11.120 them most of them okay um the answer i just gave like that's not an answer that you would know unless

00:42:18.480 you've been through it can't pull that out yeah so like look man um yeah i'm excited about it too

00:42:25.780 uh i'm excited to really switch from bringing where we all understand i think at this point in time

00:42:32.820 that the country uh has issues that we need to take responsibility for to fix and

00:42:40.960 the next phase of making you know this country what it should be is getting the young people to

00:42:49.380 understand how things actually work helping them collapse that time frame from trial and error being

00:42:56.920 10 years now because of technology instead of 20 or whatever right uh down to you know a few years

00:43:03.080 you know what i mean and just help these people become independent financially become fit physically

00:43:09.120 become intelligent you know because the the thing is is we have to become everything that they tell us

00:43:14.660 um that we shouldn't which is you know they want to make it okay for us being fat and sitting in front of tv

00:43:21.900 and then getting sick and the reason they want to do this and being poor is for control they want

00:43:28.400 us to mega consume all of their things they want us to be dependent they want us to sit in front of

00:43:33.100 the tv and eat a bunch of shit so then you know uh we're not only subscribing to the data and using up

00:43:39.380 all the data but then we require their medications as well um the the big food companies are propagating

00:43:46.180 this you know it all ties together dude and personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion to all of this

00:43:53.180 shit and part of that personal excellence is is making a lot of fucking money which is what i love to talk

00:44:00.000 about i love it so i'm excited to get it going too uh and by the way if you are wanting to listen to it

00:44:06.220 um it's not going to be on itunes or youtube it's going to be on a private app that we are going to notify

00:44:12.120 people through my email list for signups and that day is coming very soon so if you're not on my email

00:44:19.560 list you should go to andy versella.com just subscribe to the andy gram which is your daily

00:44:24.820 message that you get in the morning from me uh which is really just a lesson or a motivational

00:44:29.900 message something that will benefit you you get it every morning you can read it we don't spam you

00:44:34.540 we don't sell your list we don't email you 70 fucking times a day and nor the fuck i hate all that

00:44:40.020 shit okay so just go subscribe we'll send you an email when it's when it's available and um

00:44:46.400 we'll go from there but i'm excited about it too bro because real talk is so the fact that we've

00:44:52.280 started making the cti's like more fun um and like more you know i guess you would say like comedy

00:44:59.360 based as opposed to just all serious all the time i'm having a lot more fun doing that but real talk

00:45:05.260 dude like i love the education aspect of personal development and entrepreneurship i fucking love it

00:45:15.060 it's a part of my life i'm always trying to get better and i think i think i have a duty i feel

00:45:20.480 called to help these young people especially young men um make better decisions and and put themselves

00:45:28.260 in a position to be successful so i'm excited about it as well 100 man it's gonna be fucking great

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 31, 2025

860. Q&AF： How To Stop Doubting Yourself, Paralysis Analysis & How To Hire Help

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