REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 867. Q&AF： Planning For Future Success, When To Take The Risk & Controlling Company Culture After A Loss

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.260 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we

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00:02:36.200 let's be real do us a favor and don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up hi hi i had you there 0.97

00:02:43.240 i have you know make sure yeah man hey it is what it is to submit we're we're moving in a new

00:02:48.760 direction i'm not all the way tuned up yet no no i got you man it's all right it's all right you

00:02:54.040 good though yeah feeling pumped yeah i just got done at the gym actually got my protein shakes

00:02:59.000 pumped as i i'm gonna feel all day saw the rick roll on the story oh yeah you got a little rick

00:03:04.280 ansty yeah gets all the white people going you know i'm saying you know i'll tell you this that's

00:03:10.600 actually funny you brought that up uh that that is something i mean i guess we have our our songs

00:03:15.480 that like get us going too right but like you know like sweet carolina you guys love that

00:03:19.720 fucking song man like what is that i don't know i mean that's stop it that's not you guys i'm not 0.98

00:03:25.880 really into that song andy no i've seen you sing that at the fucking rodeos that is such 0.95

00:03:31.400 bullshit bro dude you know y'all get going you know i'm saying like on different beats and shit 0.98

00:03:36.600 but like y'all get going what is that what do you mean by y'all what do you mean what do you mean that

00:03:42.840 sounds racist oh man you know it was just an observation yeah that's it yeah that's it all

00:03:49.240 right well i mean look we like what we like it is what it is yeah man i'm saying we like chief i

00:03:55.720 would say uh what's that song country road that's a song that's another that's a song

00:04:03.080 everybody loves you sang that right after sweet carolina yeah that's true yeah you guys love that

00:04:07.800 song yeah bro you you love it too you love more that shit than me let's be real that may be fair

00:04:14.360 yeah that may be fair man isn't that weird that you like more shit like that and i like more rap 0.63

00:04:18.440 shit than you it is but but like we work together though it's like yin and yang you know what i'm 0.81

00:04:22.360 saying i like what you what you don't you like what i don't yeah you know and then we accuse each

00:04:26.680 other of the other things exactly it's a symbiotic relationship yeah for sure uh but no guys it is

00:04:34.040 monday beautiful day for questions yes answers now we are doing uh live q and a's we are so we're

00:04:40.520 gonna we do a little mix in today yeah we got to do a little mix in you know but we got some really

00:04:45.480 really great questions diversity diverse yes diversity and questions and styles

00:04:53.320 there we go and and team and team we got a diverse team we do oh i fucked with my dot earlier yeah 0.99

00:04:59.320 what'd you do is it okay he looks upset well so you know i we were going through the run run through

00:05:08.040 we have great uh producers here on the show you guys you know don't see them all the time they're

00:05:12.200 awesome and we're just doing our you know routine check-in making sure everything was functioning and

00:05:16.600 working right and um so i decided to you know give a give him a dot a call um just to make sure

00:05:23.480 everything was running yeah and uh this is how that went

00:05:25.720 hello hey is this my dot oh yeah who's this uh this is uh craig with auto services towing

00:05:38.920 you have a blue mercedes yeah well it's being towed right now are you you are you at the first warm

00:05:48.440 lot it's being towed right now yes sir why is it being towed uh i don't know the the property

00:05:57.320 manager here in fenton said that it needs to be cleared out

00:06:03.800 i'll be doing one sec hold on all right

00:06:06.680 i felt bad but i thought he would have recognized my voice you know what i'm saying like i don't

00:06:27.320 know you played it pretty good i did pretty good yeah i did pretty oh no property manager

00:06:32.280 i'll be right there you fucking ran out i don't i don't i don't make the decisions here i just do 0.98

00:06:38.920 what i'm told just doing my job yeah man no it's good though man it's good um but yeah let's uh are

00:06:47.080 you ready yeah let's knock one out i'm always ready always ready ready always that's right

00:06:54.680 well our first call we got today uh this is a gentleman by the name of nick

00:06:59.880 nick lopez let's give him a call

00:07:07.560 nick speaking hey nick what's up dude this is dj what's up man hello what's going on man nick what's

00:07:14.360 up dude it's andy hello andy what's up man what a blessing this is sweet hello guys so what do you

00:07:22.520 got for us today brother yeah yeah um ultimately thank you for um you know choosing me and you know

00:07:29.960 taking the time to answer my question today um i'm gonna approach the idea of winning and my question

00:07:37.880 from there is uh what are your thoughts about giving yourself the permission to win and letting go of the

00:07:44.360 idea of winning and focusing on the execution and process so ultimately this came from a book

00:07:51.080 called the mind gym and uh one of the things in there that it said was the probability of getting

00:07:56.520 what the outcome or the outcome you want increases when you let go of the need to get it and i'm coming

00:08:03.960 from a baseball player right when a pitcher's struggling what do you tell them just play catch with

00:08:09.480 the catcher don't try to aim your curveball don't try to aim your foreseen fastball put it down you

00:08:15.560 know the middle of the plate but throw it hard throw it within tension and you'll get the strike

00:08:20.040 so i'm just wondering how do you do that in the business motto because the idea of winning and the

00:08:25.080 idea to be great is how you know you kind of build a great business and how you become better every

00:08:31.400 day and i'm just kind of wondering what you thought of like letting go of the idea of really

00:08:35.400 trying to win and just going with the procedures going with the process yeah look i think there's

00:08:40.840 first of all i think that's a really good question dude and before i get into it i just want to say

00:08:44.200 thanks for supporting the show and and uh you know you're thankful to to have us we're we're equally as

00:08:49.640 thankful for all of you guys so uh thank you man yeah so look there's multiple ways that people look

00:08:56.440 at it and everybody has a different opinion but here's the reality dude and this is this is what

00:09:01.320 you ask me for my opinion i'm gonna give you my opinion um i think that people over complicate

00:09:09.320 the idea of winning especially when it comes to business because it's such unfamiliar territory for

00:09:16.360 most people most people who come from winning you know they've experienced a little bit of winning

00:09:22.680 in sports or they've experienced a little bit of winning in school but they may not have the

00:09:28.200 proximity to witness how to win in business and that seems a little bit magical to people when

00:09:34.200 they haven't actually touched it or seen it or been around it but what i can tell you bro is that

00:09:41.480 whatever method we decide it's going to come down to the same thing okay it's going to come down to

00:09:48.280 breaking the big goal into little bitty goals into daily critical tasks that we execute over the

00:09:57.400 course of the course of time and while some people may say let go of you know the idea of the big

00:10:05.160 picture i don't necessarily buy into that i think it's important to keep the big picture in mind to

00:10:12.680 highly desire the win uh and then to break the actions down into daily critical tasks and then

00:10:21.000 understand that and this is the hard part for people bro people have a hard time understanding

00:10:28.440 that you have to have faith in the actual process and what i mean by that is this when you start out at

00:10:36.040 you know trying to win in business and you don't have much experience when we break down the overall

00:10:43.720 mission into critical tasks it sometimes is hard for us to believe that those critical tasks are going

00:10:50.600 to compound and produce the end result that we're after and so in the beginning we have to have a

00:10:56.840 little bit of faith and make sure that we keep executing over and over and over again at a daily level

00:11:05.080 and as that happens and as you do that enough you will start to see little glimmers and little sparkles

00:11:14.120 of the outcome that you desire all right and what that does is that reinforces the belief that you

00:11:20.600 were on the right track which gives you even more faith to continue to execute and then you execute some

00:11:26.760 more a little bit more a little bit more a little bit more and then you have another glimmer or sparkle

00:11:32.520 of outcome and basically dude that's how the process works and once you do enough of the work

00:11:40.200 on the daily basis the it will become very obvious to you that the outcome is likely to happen now

00:11:47.880 where you know we may differ here with whoever wrote that book and myself

00:11:53.480 yeah during that time i am highly focused on what the outcome is that i want it's what it's what gets

00:12:00.360 me out of bed but i also understand that me just being focused on that outcome doesn't create it unless

00:12:09.000 i'm breaking it down into actionable critical tasks that i execute on a daily basis so you know

00:12:16.280 you could say this a couple different ways i mean you could use this same process the way that that

00:12:21.080 person's describing it and saying hey don't worry about don't worry about the end result worry about

00:12:27.000 the daily actions and and that's accurate that's just not that's not how i personally do it i personally

00:12:33.640 love to think and dream and focus on what i'm building and what i'm creating and how it's going to look how

00:12:40.680 it's going to feel um i'm obsessed with it i love that part of it but i could totally understand where

00:12:47.560 some people need to set the outcome break the plan down focus all of their intentions on the daily

00:12:54.440 tasks and sort of let go of the pressure of needing to create that big thing especially in the beginning

00:13:01.160 right like when you're starting out on day one bro and you're you're 10 years away from where you want

00:13:06.840 to be it can be highly demoralizing day in and day out if you're that focused on it if you don't have

00:13:13.720 the trust and the belief and the faith that your actions are going to pan out so i don't think

00:13:19.320 there's a wrong way to do that as long as you're breaking it down into critical tasks and executing

00:13:24.360 on a daily basis because dude that's the only way that anybody wins the only way that anything's been

00:13:31.640 created that's worth mentioning whether it be a championship sports team whether it be an amazing

00:13:37.880 business whether it be an amazing life whether it be climbing mount everest it doesn't matter

00:13:43.400 anything that is worth mentioning that is a high achievers type goal which is what you're after

00:13:51.800 is going to take uh you know the day in day out execution and the focus on the on the actions

00:13:57.320 you know nick saban talks about this a lot dude um and those of you who don't know nick saban he's

00:14:03.160 probably one of the best coaches if not the best football coach ever and uh agreed yeah he talks

00:14:08.120 he's a fan but oh well hey man yeah we got to respect the game though you know

00:14:14.600 hey you know yankees too right but hey but dude he has a saying man he says we're not going to practice

00:14:22.120 uh until we get it right we're going to practice until we can't get it wrong all right and that's

00:14:27.560 the purpose of the day in day out focus he understands that if we snap the ball correctly and we we

00:14:34.360 positions are we do the drop correctly and we throw the ball correctly and we take the hand off correctly

00:14:40.200 and we tie our shoes correctly all right and the routes run correctly that the outcome of the game

00:14:45.240 is is almost an automatic so focusing on the highest quality execution of the day in day out process

00:14:53.320 will produce what you're after regardless if you focus on it every single day or not

00:14:58.760 i like to focus on it but i can understand how someone who's just starting might be overwhelmed that way

00:15:04.920 yeah yes certainly and um i i kind of have just a little bit of a thought you said like you know

00:15:11.080 getting those little glimmers and glimpses of the winning um but let's be honest right you you say it

00:15:17.160 all the time i haven't done shit i'm 27 um i'm i'm taking over business in five years but for right now 0.85

00:15:24.040 i just haven't done shit and i'm okay with winning but the idea is i always go to that next goal post 0.60

00:15:31.080 and i think like should i take maybe a little bit more of a glimpse and just go like hey you know

00:15:36.760 that procedure led to this win remember trust the process or you know you're kind of you always say

00:15:42.440 like hey any high achiever is gonna go what's the next thing like yep that's a win let's go what's the

00:15:48.040 next what's you know and keep going there what's your thoughts there well i mean look bro first of all i'm

00:15:53.720 gonna tell you this you know i know you say you're okay with winning but you better be

00:15:58.200 fucking super hungry for it because there's a lot of people out there that will kill their

00:16:01.880 whole fucking family to have it so unless you have a savage attitude about creating that win 0.87

00:16:07.400 you know i just want to reinforce to you that there is some super killers out there that want

00:16:14.440 to win real fucking bad so you got to take it real serious bro because whether you realize it or 0.90

00:16:19.240 not you are competing with those guys even if you can't see them uh but to answer your question um

00:16:26.760 yeah dude i think you know uh i i i just think it's real important bro honestly just to stop

00:16:34.040 overthinking it get down to executing and then always understand that if you get complacent with that win

00:16:42.680 all right what happens to a lot of people is they get that first win or that second win and then

00:16:48.200 they start to think that they're winning or that they are a winner and then they attach their

00:16:53.000 identity to they are a winner except they stop doing the things that allowed them to get the next

00:16:59.160 win all right and we see this in people every day how many people do we know that talk about

00:17:04.600 their high school mvp trophy that they won 15 years ago nobody gives a fuck okay and here's the thing 0.78

00:17:11.480 life is long bro it's short but it's also long all right and in career and in business it's long and

00:17:18.680 if we want to continue to produce the best outcomes we have to continue to raise the bar as we go

00:17:27.160 especially when we are in our 20s 30s and 40s all right so dude you know if i were you right now you

00:17:35.960 say you're going to take over a business in five years i would spend every waking moment pretending

00:17:42.840 as if you're already running the business so that you can learn the lessons that you need to learn

00:17:47.560 before you're in that situation so um that's what i would do bro yeah no i appreciate it thank you yeah

00:17:55.240 and uh you know a little caveat on the okay with winning um i don't i i come at it with the confidence

00:18:02.120 of my ability and potential so i expect to win and i get offended when someone else thinks they're

00:18:07.640 going to beat me right that's the competitive nature in me good bro i'm right there with you

00:18:13.080 that's why i said the okay where it's like i know how to kind of celebrate there but i want to go to

00:18:16.920 the next step all right i'm just making sure bro it's my duty to tell you that oh of course of

00:18:21.800 course no thank you i appreciate um everything that you guys do i mean honestly i've never heard

00:18:26.840 anything for 38 minutes to 45 minutes that pumps me up and is exactly what's going on in my head

00:18:34.360 and um just thank you for sharing it to everybody and um you know we're out here not being hosed and

00:18:39.880 we're sharing the show all right nick hey bro let's go out and do something big all right yes sir all

00:18:45.400 right see you brother thank you indy thank you dj yeah sweet man i was i was thinking about it it's like

00:18:52.920 you know on the one hand you want to execute right but like i feel like is that not also when people

00:18:58.200 can get caught in that like you know i'm in doing the mundane because they forget what the

00:19:02.840 fuck they're doing it for yeah look dude like i said you know certain people get i'm not one of 0.89

00:19:09.480 those people yeah okay i do not get overwhelmed by the size of the project but that's because i have

00:19:14.440 the history of achieving big things already if you're 20 years old and you've never built anything

00:19:20.040 the idea of building uh you know a company that like i've built is is well not even i've built we've

00:19:28.040 built um is it's overwhelming yeah for sure and so dude to get to that you know there's a saying man

00:19:34.520 the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time it's the only way to eat an elephant that's the

00:19:39.160 thing so you know once we remove the confusion and we remove the mystery and the magic and the excuses

00:19:46.680 that everybody else got lucky and this and that and this it comes down to the same

00:19:50.920 shit execute every single day at the highest level that you're possibly capable of do that again tomorrow

00:19:58.280 do that again the next day and that's where the mastering of the mundane happens and you you're

00:20:03.240 hitting on something that's very important because what can happen is people start off with good

00:20:10.280 intentions of winning the day at a high level and then they sort of like get in the routine

00:20:16.920 and they start to stop pressing forward and they start to kind of just but dude if you operate on

00:20:22.440 the power list the right way that it's supposed to be operated on it actually eliminates that because

00:20:28.360 after 21 days of successfully executing any of the five critical tasks you remove that task it's

00:20:36.040 considered a habit now now if you miss a day or two then it can go back on but the point is is that

00:20:43.000 if you remove things that become habit and you constantly replace it with new things you're

00:20:47.400 constantly pushing the bar to be better and better and better you see what i'm saying so we just can't

00:20:52.920 get in the same we can't think that executing the same routine day in and day out is is the same as

00:21:01.080 executing with the proper intent with the proper critical actions that are going to get us where

00:21:05.960 we want to go all right it's those are those are different things one of them is coasting one of

00:21:11.080 them is highly uh intentful execution day in and day out and they look very similar so it's very

00:21:19.400 important for people to understand the difference i love it man i love it we got question number two

00:21:23.560 this is a write-in andy uh question number two andy uh good afternoon guys say good morning

00:21:30.360 um you guys are doing all right uh first and foremost i am not a hoe i do share the show 0.96

00:21:36.280 my question today is how can i still work and manage being focused day after day when i get

00:21:43.000 distracted by the things that give me a dopamine hit uh which are not alcohol or smoking weed i don't do

00:21:49.400 either um but by not allowing things to take up space in my mind like a tenant who doesn't pay rent

00:21:56.200 one of those big distractions for me is women i'm 20 years old and in the pursuit of winning and 0.99

00:22:02.200 achieving success at the highest level i understand the potential and time i could lose here um currently

00:22:08.120 i felt 75 hard because i forgot one of the critical tasks which is a gallon of water every day uh just

00:22:13.960 when i'm consistent and focused enough a hot girl pops out of nowhere um and i appreciate what you guys do

00:22:21.160 one of the reasons i love the show um is that it has that masculine intensity so how do we stay

00:22:26.120 focused and avoid distractions well you you sort of answer your question first of all let me tell you

00:22:32.520 something dude there's three things that are going to fucking ruin your life okay one of them is drugs 0.92

00:22:38.280 the next one is alcohol you know what the third one is it's women all right that's real 1.00

00:22:43.560 okay because as young men we don't learn the discipline around women okay we women and men

00:22:52.840 grow up completely different dynamic a woman grows up telling every man no okay a man 0.89

00:23:00.120 fucking chases everything they can getting told no it's two different sides of the coin and because of 0.83

00:23:05.400 that men have a harder time learning how to be disciplined when it comes to women what i mean by

00:23:14.360 that is you're a young man you're 20 years old you you know you you want to go out and you know do all

00:23:20.440 the stuff that we want to do as men and you start to get these options presented to you and it's very

00:23:25.960 hard to say no when you've been chasing it for so long even if that woman isn't even you know for

00:23:32.360 sure isn't the right woman and here's how you get fucked up in it bro you end up getting her pregnant 1.00

00:23:37.320 or you end up having you know uh you end up taking what you can get and thinking that because

00:23:42.760 you know she's the only girl that'll you know fuck you that you're gonna marry her some 1.00

00:23:48.280 shit and like dude this is this is bad okay i'm not saying you can't date i'm not saying you shouldn't 0.75

00:23:54.360 date but what i am saying is you have to understand a very real reality about the value of a man

00:24:01.560 and the value of a man in right or wrong in today's society is going to be later in life than it is

00:24:09.080 for a woman that's just reality okay it's biological reality it's cultural reality too 0.97

00:24:19.000 i'm not saying that women can't be valuable when they're older because they are that's not what i'm 0.58

00:24:23.720 saying so don't fucking come at me no bullshit but what i am saying is is that at a man at 20 years old 0.96

00:24:30.680 you are not in a position to attract the best partner that you're going to be able to attract

00:24:35.720 anyway it's not going to happen okay so what you need to focus on and what you need to understand

00:24:42.200 is that you have a discipline problem all right when you say i failed 75 hard because i couldn't

00:24:48.520 drink a gallon of water well you sure as fuck ain't going to be able to tell women no when they come and 1.00

00:24:53.240 show you their boobies all right so you need to understand dude that's a discipline that men have 1.00

00:24:58.760 to have to learn and some men never learn it because guess what it's a very hard discipline to

00:25:03.640 fucking learn so um when we had jason wilson on a number of years ago he's one of my favorite people 0.71

00:25:09.560 ever he talked about this he talked about men developing the discipline around women so that

00:25:15.240 they can stay focused to their own goals and uh what i would encourage you to do is to start looking

00:25:23.560 at this situation as a issue of your own personal discipline because once we start to look at things

00:25:32.200 from a adversarial perspective meaning this beer in front of me has no fucking power over me or this 0.88

00:25:42.920 woman in my dms has no power over me now we're starting to understand what true power is for 1.00

00:25:49.000 ourselves so start looking at it as you're not going to allow women or alcohol or drugs to pull you off of 1.00

00:25:59.720 what your plan is for yourself and if that means passing on dating opportunities that's what it means and

00:26:06.520 to be completely honest passing on dating opportunities actually makes you more desirable

00:26:13.160 to women all right so and i know you young bucks haven't figured this shit out yet but here's my 0.87

00:26:18.360 bottom line this is what i'm going to tell you if i was if i was talking to you and you were me at 20

00:26:23.000 years old i'd say hey give it all you got for the next 12 13 years and you're going to attract someone

00:26:29.880 who actually values you who is actually going to help you is actually going to help you build

00:26:35.320 who's not going to just take from you and that person is going to be of higher level because

00:26:41.160 you're at a low level right now and once you rise to that higher level by taking care of yourself

00:26:46.680 and making sure that you're good making sure that you have a good career making sure that all these

00:26:51.320 things the the the quality of the mate that you're going to attract is going to be much higher all

00:26:59.000 right so to get you have to be and that's what we got to understand and for men it takes time to become

00:27:06.680 that all right yeah dude i i feel bad man i think and you've talked about like how many times uh you

00:27:13.480 know just in that that era you know that like how many years you're wasted oh yeah with the wrong

00:27:19.720 person oh yeah and this isn't like specific to to just men because women do it sometimes it's it's

00:27:24.680 necessary to go through these kinds of relationships because they teach you what you don't want right

00:27:30.680 all right and that's fine but you got to avoid making big mistakes like getting them pregnant 1.00

00:27:36.520 shit like that okay and that's just some real talk dude you know like it's just reality that's a 0.70

00:27:42.280 culture thing it's both ways too man it goes both ways that's that's so real man yeah it's crazy it

00:27:49.080 does go both ways you know um you know if if you're a woman that wants to have uh a high quality 0.68

00:27:57.640 man and have a family and all this shit you probably shouldn't have a bunch of kids when you're 20 years

00:28:03.080 old i mean and dude i know that's gonna hurt some feelings but i'm just being honest reality okay and

00:28:08.840 i'm not saying that they can't have that i'm not all i'm saying is that it's harder that's all i'm saying

00:28:14.760 for sure for sure um love it well guys let's get to our next question um this question is going to be

00:28:21.800 coming from uh gus gus okay gus has a question for you andy uh let's give gus a call

00:28:30.120 hey gus what's up dude this is dj what's up man what's going on brother i got andy here with you

00:28:48.760 what's up guys what's going on oh not much how are you

00:28:52.280 i am good i'm in the middle of shopping at home depo bro i appreciate the phone call man yes what

00:29:00.120 can we help you with brother oh

00:29:07.000 caught me off guard uh i believe my question was um fear 49 years old this year uh i know you talked

00:29:16.760 about it many times before on the radio show um people that don't jump and you kind of uh don't

00:29:23.160 talk really good about us but for many years i just uh you want to get going and uh the car stalls on you

00:29:34.280 when you get going again and it stalls again and it's a cycle that uh keeps on happening and at my

00:29:42.440 point in life i want to be an example for for my kids and and i'm sure others that are i'm sure my

00:29:49.480 age and show them that it still can't be done yeah um you know so i have my son here next to me man

00:29:57.240 well listen listen dude first of all you know it's never too late to change okay and you can't attach

00:30:05.800 what you're going to do from here on out to what you have done to where you are all right and also

00:30:12.520 you also have to be grateful for all the things that you've done in the past and the mistakes you

00:30:18.200 made because they brought you to this place where you realize i want to change and i want to be

00:30:22.760 better so it's important for you not to beat yourself up as if you wasted you know 49 years of

00:30:29.000 your life bro you still have another with technology and all the things that are happening now you only

00:30:34.360 got to make it about five more years and we're all going to be living forever anyway so um so listen

00:30:39.960 brother look that's a normal that's how most people live their lives okay most people get hot

00:30:47.160 and then they get cold and then they get hot and then they get cold and the best way to avoid that

00:30:52.520 is is by one getting very very clear on what your purpose is and you just said what was the biggest

00:31:01.400 purpose uh that i think anybody could have was just being a great example for your son all right we have

00:31:08.120 an obligation as you know because we talk about it on the show all the time of setting the right example

00:31:13.720 for the next generation now i don't have any kids but i know there's a lot of kids that listen to me and

00:31:19.160 a lot of you guys dads that listen to me uh that are picking this up and laying it down so it's super

00:31:24.920 important bro uh to have that big purpose which you already have and then dude you got to remember

00:31:30.920 you already know how you are like you have to accept your nature my nature my nature personally

00:31:37.560 is that i am super lazy all right so i have to force myself to do the things that need to be done

00:31:45.960 when i don't feel like doing it and that's what we talk about when we talk about discipline so

00:31:52.360 when you start to feel these these downward let me ask you this this this will probably help you

00:32:00.440 what what do you think causes the beginning of the downward cycles that you have where the car stalls

00:32:08.360 what you just said right now about forcing yourself because uh like you said it's about not not

00:32:15.480 necessarily being lazy hold on now i work hard as fuck yeah no hold on what i'm asking is 0.93

00:32:23.000 in the past when you've been at your point where it starts to go from having good momentum to having

00:32:31.560 bad momentum what is the feeling that you have at that peak of your performance where things are going

00:32:38.600 good that starts to make it go down fear of loss what do you mean

00:32:48.120 yeah you're in a momentum and yeah i don't want to i'm in a momentum and i don't want to lose it i

00:32:52.200 i in my mind i go back to the old ways okay subconsciously okay so there's two things that

00:33:00.680 cause this generally one is comfort people feel like oh i'm doing good i got it under control and

00:33:07.880 then they they take their their focus off of what they're trying to do and they naturally slide back

00:33:13.640 into where they go and then the other one is what you said they start to uh realize that they're

00:33:20.760 doing good and then they start to think oh shit i'm doing good it's only a matter of time before 0.55

00:33:25.160 it gets bad again and you have to realize dude that you are in control of this this is not magical

00:33:32.120 momentum that you catch the reason that the the reason that you still think it's magical is because

00:33:39.720 you have failed to push through when you start to go downward all right so what i want you to do

00:33:45.640 is i want you to one go out and start creating the good momentum that you already know how to create

00:33:52.520 and then two when you start to feel yourself get comfortable or you start to say i'm doing good

00:33:59.880 or you start to say oh shit i'm doing good it's only a matter of time before things bro that's where you 0.72

00:34:06.280 need to double down on your focus okay you need to use that thought as a as a trigger for you to to

00:34:14.600 focus harder as if you understand that it's about to go down and you're going to try and stop it and

00:34:21.240 once you work through one or two of these down cycles dude you're going to gain so much confidence

00:34:26.440 in your ability to execute that you're probably going to eliminate these things all together so

00:34:32.920 dude i know this is hard for you right now because it's something that you're learning but brother i'm

00:34:39.800 telling you dude once you go through this once or twice you're going to be like why the

00:34:43.800 did i ever let myself fall off the track you know so uh just learn to identify when you start to come

00:34:52.120 down and then double down on forcing yourself through those those low times until it gets better again

00:34:59.880 all right so in 75 hard program there's there's like there's this phase like day 50 all right where

00:35:08.760 it starts to get really monotonous and really hard and the whole point of that phase is for people to

00:35:16.280 identify that man this is boring man this sucks man and then to do it anyway and to push through and 0.90

00:35:22.920 force the momentum to come back so what they're doing is they they're creating massive momentum

00:35:29.000 they're feeling it start to dip because it's monotonous or they're doing good or they're telling

00:35:33.960 themselves oh shit i made it this far i'm going to crash and then they continue to force through 0.93

00:35:39.800 and then it teaches them that fuck dude this is all in my control so that's how you need to think

00:35:45.800 of it bro and i promise you dude this is not something that you can't fix it's very very simple

00:35:52.040 to fix you just have to identify when you're starting to slide and then you have to make sure that you push

00:35:57.720 through uh intentionally and consciously when that starts to happen and once you do that bro you're

00:36:04.520 gonna you're gonna get the confidence you need to understand how one how to identify that and two

00:36:09.560 how to bridge those times moving forward right on just talking to you right now it's a big step

00:36:17.720 already bro hey bro you just gotta go out and do it dude i promise you this is not that complicated it's

00:36:23.480 just it's difficult for you because you've been spending your whole life going up and down and up

00:36:28.440 and down and up and down and you've told yourself that this is how you are and while it might be how

00:36:35.000 you've been you are now making a conscious decision to not be that anymore which means you are no longer

00:36:42.440 that does that make sense no it does yeah right now if you make up your mind you're no longer that guy

00:36:49.720 now you're a new guy all right and the new guy is going to make sure the new gus is going to make

00:36:54.840 sure that when the things get slow i'm going to double the fuck down and make sure i push through

00:37:00.200 because i have a big purpose i have my son watching me i don't want him to grow up watching me go hot

00:37:07.480 cold hot cold i want him to show what it looks like i want to show him what it looks like to push through

00:37:13.240 and and bridge these gaps when times are tough and to be honest with you dude that's probably the most

00:37:18.440 important lesson that you're ever going to be able to teach him

00:37:23.080 yeah most definitely so you got it bro i appreciate it yeah brother well i appreciate you

00:37:29.080 i appreciate the call and i appreciate the support thank you man keep doing what you're doing bro i

00:37:34.760 appreciate it all right take care guys have a good one you too i think that's one of the it's

00:37:41.560 it sounds like it's an awareness thing that people it is but like once they once they get the

00:37:45.800 awareness bro see most people do this unconsciously yeah and they and they they feel they can't

00:37:50.840 understand why they're ever making any progress the fact that gus has figured it out even though

00:37:56.120 he's 49 that's still way ahead of most people and once you have the awareness and you start to kind of

00:38:02.680 wake up to what it is you've been doing it becomes easier to fix how the fuck do you fix a problem that 0.84

00:38:08.040 you're not aware of right like if you're telling yourself hey this is just the way i am i'm built this way

00:38:14.440 i go up and down i go up and down i have trouble finishing things that's an identity that you're

00:38:19.080 creating okay and so you have to break that identity by realizing that while that might have been

00:38:26.200 who you were when you were not aware of who you actually are once you're aware it becomes easy to fix

00:38:34.200 so now you're a new person with a new perspective and new awareness yeah 100 let me actually what's

00:38:39.160 harder is it harder to like to get momentum going or is it harder to keep it going i think they're

00:38:45.080 both equally hard but i think i think what's harder for most people that are not used to go down that path

00:38:53.640 is when you have good momentum and you're executing and you're doing all the things right

00:39:00.120 and it starts to get harder again i think people have a hard time with that because they perceive that

00:39:06.200 is like external circumstances when in reality bro it's internal circumstances it's you and your

00:39:14.920 experiences telling you a message in your brain that quite honestly just isn't true you see what

00:39:22.280 i'm saying 100 like dude once you have the awareness of the issue it be like dude you can't solve a

00:39:29.960 problem that you're not aware of yeah you know and and it's frustrating like gus is probably thinking

00:39:34.440 like fuck dude i'm 49 years old why the fuck am i still like this well dude you're still like that 0.99

00:39:40.840 you're not first of all you're not still like that i bet you didn't ask yourself that fucking five years 0.97

00:39:45.080 ago or 10 years ago or 20 years ago you probably just thought because of whatever reason who your

00:39:50.360 parents were what your life circumstances are you know who your friends are what you've been told

00:39:55.960 the information you consume you have probably learned that that's the way most people are and you just

00:40:03.000 think that you have to be that way too and that's the way it is and that's just not true yeah we

00:40:07.000 have we have the ability we are in control of most of the that is going

00:40:11.880 to determine our outcomes okay what we eat what we drink the information we consume how we move who

00:40:19.800 we surround ourselves with those five things will will give you 80 of what you want in your life

00:40:28.120 because you it'll show you that you're in control of all the things yeah that's real man all right

00:40:32.920 well we got our fourth and final question uh for today this is uh another caller we got johnny

00:40:41.240 super that's a cool name johnny super super yeah supa suppa johnny super fly snooker supper

00:40:51.400 johnny super fly snooker you don't even know what that is i have no idea yeah what is that

00:40:57.960 everybody everybody who's intelligent knows oh you know who that is jimmy super fly snooker

00:41:07.480 i know joe knows no you do too bro he's wwf old school google him up

00:41:13.240 did you know yeah oh you know now yeah all right let me see him let me see

00:41:25.400 never seen that guy day in my life johnny super fly snooker okay what's up bring him

00:41:29.480 on let's check him out i guarantee he won't know i guarantee he's heard it before you think so we'll see

00:41:43.240 oh 14 hello hey johnny what's up dude this is dj get the heck out of here bro i'm not talking to dj 0.82

00:41:50.680 johnson am i yeah we're talking to johnny super fly snooker that's what i heard andy get the hell

00:41:58.200 out of here bro i've been listening to you since 2015 and if you're on the phone with me right now

00:42:02.200 it's not ai this is real no it's real bro it's pretty real no ai it's pretty real what's up dude how

00:42:08.200 are you i'm doing good man listen i don't i don't know how much time i got with you but i

00:42:13.160 tell you right now like you're a big inspiration to what i do thank you um in 20 2015 i left my old

00:42:19.640 career in the corporate business to take on um being an entrepreneur i guess like i was a solopreneur

00:42:25.640 working for someone but now i'm running my own company and i'm mad i've been jogging to your stuff

00:42:31.480 every morning for the last seven years that's what's up bro i appreciate that man that's that's why we do

00:42:37.000 this here doing good yeah man i feel great i feel great i can't believe i'm actually on the phone

00:42:43.480 with you holy well what can we help you with bro you know the biggest question i have is so i'm

00:42:51.160 building a team i own a mortgage brokerage and i'm building a team and as i'm scaling i'm trying to

00:42:55.560 fit people into the position that i was good at right so if i was underwriting or if i was doing

00:43:00.200 sales or direct whatever it was i'm filling those positions but i fill the position and then you know

00:43:05.560 they get headhunted or they get they get poached by somebody else because they they take my talent

00:43:09.640 away now is that something i've done wrong because they're paying them more money or they

00:43:13.640 see a better opportunity elsewhere and then it it it messes me up because there's no chapter on

00:43:20.280 that and i can't read it in the book so my question is like how do i how do i maintain the

00:43:27.320 culture in the office with with all my agents so they're not in distraught like oh my god we just

00:43:32.040 lost a key player and like now how how are you guys gonna help me grow my business

00:43:37.000 okay or do i just or do i just suck it up and go back to that position until i find somebody like

00:43:41.960 like you know like everybody says hire slow fire fast like what do i do well look first of all you

00:43:48.040 know you're right there is no book on how to uh keep people from moving on and if you are someone who

00:43:57.720 actually cares about their employees um and and co-workers you know that's a hard thing man like

00:44:05.160 that's something that you never really get used to you know you pour into them you do everything you

00:44:10.200 can to create the opportunities and then you know sometimes some of these people leave and then you

00:44:15.640 feel like a failure you feel like it's your fault so the first thing is dude you got to realize that

00:44:21.560 part of this is just the way it goes okay not everybody's gonna come and stay at your company

00:44:29.320 forever the way that you would want them to and your goal as an operator should be

00:44:35.400 to help them develop as much as possible so that if they are to go somewhere else they can look back

00:44:43.160 and say dude working for johnny was the best thing i ever did i learned more than i ever could there

00:44:49.080 and i'm very thankful for being there and if you just approach your people with that mentality

00:44:56.120 you will prevent losing probably 30 of those people just from that selflessness of the leader

00:45:04.440 actually pouring into people without the expectation of you know leverage back on them of trying to keep

00:45:10.760 them to stay so if you're not doing that and i'm sure you probably are um make sure you double down

00:45:18.520 on the idea in your brain like hey look and this is this is in our brains really dude because we get

00:45:25.000 caught up as an operator between you know hey i want to pour into these people but hey you know i don't

00:45:30.360 want them to leave so i don't know what to do and i struggle with that for a long time so the way that

00:45:36.440 i was able to reconcile this was to accept the reality that people are going to leave and to understand

00:45:43.240 that that's okay and my goal is to make sure that if they leave they look back and they say damn dude

00:45:51.000 i'm really glad that i worked for andy uh because i learned a lot and it equipped me in the future

00:45:56.040 and then that produces an advocate on the outside for whatever you know for for me or for you johnny

00:46:01.720 to where those people are saying dude that's that's a really good dude that's the best thing i ever did

00:46:05.800 and that's valuable in itself um but on top of that the you know there's a pay thing right like

00:46:13.640 is your pay uh where it should be you know but even bigger than pay um it's culture okay how are you

00:46:23.240 connecting with the team to the point where they do not want to leave and this could come down to a

00:46:31.000 a few different issues okay the first one is you know what is the future going to be for them staying

00:46:40.760 with you okay and so you have to make sure that you're not getting complacent in your business and

00:46:47.480 you are constantly growing or at least you have a goal that's big enough for these people to see

00:46:54.680 their dreams and their goals to come to fruition within your vision all right um so if you're not

00:47:02.600 painting that big vision for them and you're not serious about going after it you know there's going

00:47:09.480 to be people that come in and they're going to say well you know i want bigger i want more and they're

00:47:13.800 going to go wherever that is so this is like the the frustrating part of a lot of a lot of operators lives

00:47:23.240 which is they're doing very well they feel good they've worked really hard to get where they are

00:47:29.160 but they have trouble maintaining it because they're not continuing to push down the road and

00:47:34.440 because they're not continuing to push down the road they have a hard time keeping people that are

00:47:39.400 highly motivated highly driven to stay with them so you have to you know this is another thing you need

00:47:45.640 to ask yourself am i painting the big picture what does that picture look like do my top performers have

00:47:52.440 a vision within that picture to where they can gain everything that they're looking to gain in their

00:47:58.200 lives in that vision um so you know sit down spend some time with that and if you need to expand that

00:48:05.560 vision do it and then make sure that you're communicating that all the time it should become a

00:48:11.000 common core element of your communication when you talk to your team about why it's important to perform

00:48:18.200 at a high level okay this is where we're going this is what we're doing this is where you want to be

00:48:24.280 and that's going to be dictated by what you do today that's the the talk track in a five second

00:48:31.080 you know summary um and then the last thing uh is you know how are you personally connecting with them

00:48:41.080 you know are you spending the time to get to know them are you spending time at all outside of work are you

00:48:48.680 doing anything to actually bond with these people so that it's more like a family than it is like a job

00:48:54.920 and um by putting all these things together that we're talking about you know uh a big vision

00:49:01.960 uh fair you know good pay because let's be real dude the best talent is going to cost the most that's 0.98

00:49:07.720 the truth um yep you know and then how are you doing with your personal interactions and connections with

00:49:17.080 the team and that's harder to do the bigger you get but it's still important and um by doing those

00:49:24.280 three things and and and then getting aligned with an overall mission of what the company's about

00:49:31.480 you know you're gonna get a lot more stickiness from the people that you bring in um but dude i

00:49:36.840 gotta tell you bro like it's never gonna be a hundred percent and and i want it to be a hundred

00:49:41.320 percent i know you do too one of the biggest things i've struggled with as an entrepreneur is when

00:49:47.800 i've poured into people i've done everything i can for people i've tried to help them progress

00:49:52.920 progress and they just don't progress or they leave and it makes me feel like i failed as a

00:50:00.520 leader and um yeah that's that's the worst part is that part right there is how i feel after yeah

00:50:06.120 bro it's it sucks because if you were on you were an unethical leader and you just didn't give a

00:50:12.600 fuck you wouldn't care you'd be like all right bring the next guy in but you know this is just the 0.82

00:50:18.680 hard part of being an ethical entrepreneur and actually caring about other people is that when

00:50:23.080 they leave it's gonna hurt but i found you know that the way to minimize that hurt is to accept that

00:50:30.040 that's a reality and then to know that i poured into them as much as i could and gave them the

00:50:35.960 opportunities that i had available with the skills that i had available uh to help them be the best that

00:50:41.880 they can and dude i gotta be real with you that probably started for me about you know six seven

00:50:47.800 years ago and you know since then the people who have left i've made for the most part i'd say in way

00:50:55.320 upper 90 98 99 of people i've remained really close with really good friends with have tremendous

00:51:02.600 relationships with and uh it's been a lot easier for me to deal with that part you know what i'm saying

00:51:07.400 man just taking it outside of work yeah yeah for sure you there oh geez um we lose you no no i'm just

00:51:21.160 lost for words to be honest you know so a part a part of me feels like i am given that and i'm pushing

00:51:28.600 the culture and trying to bring people to the next level like you know i'm not i'm not coming down in

00:51:33.000 my in the level of what i give i'm actually trying to step up and give them more because i could

00:51:37.320 i put so much pressure on myself yes well right so go ahead yeah no i'm just saying like i listen

00:51:44.840 to what you guys say it's like i can't run at 60 degrees because they're at 60 degrees i got to run

00:51:48.680 at 90 that's it and get them to come up to my level that's it and bro also remember dude when you run

00:51:54.520 at that pace not everybody wants to run at that pace some people no they don't that's the hardest

00:51:59.160 that's the hardest part though i know you do with these what do you do with them what do you do

00:52:02.520 unfortunately they have to learn on their own dude because what happens is you know there's

00:52:08.280 only a certain percentage of people that really want to run hard towards a cause and if you're a

00:52:13.480 business operator that has big goals big mission and opportunity we would naturally think like well

00:52:19.160 who the fuck wouldn't want to do this we got fuck we we got the most opportunity that any company could 0.68

00:52:24.760 ever have i know but why do i focus on the ones that are like i don't like why am i focusing on them

00:52:30.760 so much and not the guys at 90 and the guys at 90 are saying yo spend more time with me well spend

00:52:35.800 more time with me and i'm like i know i gotta i want to help these guys at 60. well why do i do

00:52:40.280 that why why is that like that well you got to understand human psychology okay if you spent more

00:52:45.880 time with the 90s do you know what those guys at the 60s would do they'd become 90s no so they could

00:52:52.840 get your attention so okay your guys are actually right so shift to make that shift then yeah absolutely

00:53:00.520 bro get reward the people who do the you want help the people that are on the lower level and guide

00:53:06.760 them and say hey if you want this you got to get to this level and they you'll you'll be surprised but

00:53:13.560 your employees are giving you a very uh important indicator which is you know hey man uh we're out

00:53:21.560 here doing exactly what you say and you're not giving us any time but you're giving these guys time and

00:53:26.360 they're just dragging us down so dude it's just like on the internet right like a lot of these

00:53:33.240 personalities you know they all they talk about is the people that hate them and they never give any

00:53:38.280 credit to the people that actually love them and then the people who actually love them get

00:53:41.960 disenfranchised because they don't get any love from the the people they're supporting so if you

00:53:47.560 really want those 60s to go to 90s the best possible way is to treat the 90s the way that the 60s

00:53:54.200 actually just want to be treated and then showing them that they will get that treatment when they

00:53:58.520 get to the 90. I mean look that that's just the reality of the game and our nature because we give

00:54:06.040 a shit is to look at people who are the 60 level and say bro this guy's got all the potential he's got

00:54:12.440 all the tools he's got all the ability he could do this and and then us like going and trying to get

00:54:19.480 that out of them but dude a lot of times that you know you can't force someone to progress when

00:54:26.920 they're not ready to progress and sometimes dude unfortunately they have to wash out of your system

00:54:33.880 a place that actually cares and then go out there in the real world and figure out that no one actually

00:54:39.320 gives a fuck about them and then they start to appreciate what they have with you and you know that

00:54:45.400 that's happened a number of times in business for me where i've had people who were frustrated who

00:54:50.840 went through a hard spot who thought that this wasn't for them they went out in the real world and

00:54:55.560 realized holy shit nobody cares about me out here yeah and then they they they come back and do when 0.74

00:55:02.280 they come back they're different people they become top performers so um it's a big heart thing it is

00:55:08.440 but dude you want to have a big heart than not you're going to win more by having that big heart that

00:55:13.720 that he has and that i have then you are i know but behind but behind closed doors that big heart

00:55:19.960 hurts i know bro when no one's around i know brother but listen you got to understand you're

00:55:24.840 not going to bat a thousand dude you know what i'm saying like fucking no you're not 300 in the 0.95

00:55:30.040 fucking major leagues you're going to be in the hall of fame and you're making and you're making the

00:55:33.080 hall of fame i know that's right so just remember that bro it's not you that's the nature of the game

00:55:38.360 do the best you can do it with the right intent when those people leave just understand that's a

00:55:44.120 part of their life don't take it personally and then you know honestly uh you know you're going to

00:55:50.440 be fine dude it's just it's just the game man and it's it's a hard thing and you're right there is no

00:55:56.040 book for that you know and it's you know what really sucks about it bro is that people assume that

00:56:02.120 you know business owners or entrepreneurs get some sort of joy out of firing people or some

00:56:07.880 shit it's like no dude it's the worst part dude it's the most dude the first time i had to fire 0.90

00:56:12.840 someone i fucking cried i cried for like three hours afterwards because i felt so bad about it 0.94

00:56:19.560 so yeah i'm with you i know that feeling yeah bro i'm with you dude but listen don't change that

00:56:25.560 just change a little bit of your techniques remember what i said get focused on that culture and that

00:56:29.960 purpose and uh you're going to create some more stick stickiness the the longer you do it the

00:56:35.320 better you get at it too so keep that in mind you know what i'm saying you're still you know you're

00:56:39.560 still pretty young in the process so yeah you know we fast forward another 10 years dude you're going

00:56:46.040 to be teaching other people how to build cultures in their company so uh that's the goal yeah my opinion

00:56:53.160 here is that you're doing everything right and you're just struggling with something that is the

00:56:57.960 reality of what we have to struggle with as business owners which is losing people that we see

00:57:02.680 potential in that we care about and uh and dude unfortunately that's just not something we could

00:57:08.360 control all the time we can do all these things we talked about and make it better but you're still

00:57:13.880 going to have that and it's it's dude you can't let it eat you up it happens to me every day it happens

00:57:19.640 every day and i do everything i fucking can bro and it still sucks so um you know well you're an 0.99

00:57:27.480 inspiration man i appreciate you a lot well brother i appreciate you and thanks for supporting us and

00:57:32.200 supporting the show and everything uh and i won't stop yeah dude don't and we well we can't it's our

00:57:38.120 duty um but go out there bro you know dig in and just kind of when these things happen just understand

00:57:45.560 man like it's it's just part of the game okay all right all right yes sir i wow what can i do for you

00:57:55.000 just go out like i mean this is this is over now go out and win remember bro we have all these young

00:58:00.360 people looking up to us uh we have all this culture's fucked up you know go out and be the 0.95

00:58:06.120 best you can and teach these other people that work for you build the best culture that you can so that

00:58:10.760 they can take it home and uh you know it's going to be entrepreneurs that fix fix the culture in

00:58:15.480 this country so um you're already doing you're already doing it like when you say what can i do

00:58:20.920 you're already doing it so just go do more of that and and keep doing it right oh my goodness

00:58:26.840 all right no one's gonna believe me that i just talked to you they're not gonna even believe

00:58:32.280 you're full of oh my goodness i don't care i know my heart knows that you just man thank you guys

00:58:37.240 thank you dj thank you andy um i look forward to hearing you guys more man all right thanks johnny

00:58:41.960 take care bro take care guys thank you all right bye bye yeah man that's that's a hard part dude it

00:58:49.080 is i was i was thinking about it too it's like you know it's like no matter even how good you are

00:58:53.560 there's always going to be another company that's doing something better that's going to be more

00:58:56.760 desirable for yeah i mean it's part of it i mean listen dude hall of fame players play for

00:59:03.960 different teams all the time you know what i'm saying and you know i really empathize with him

00:59:11.240 because i've never been someone who i mean unless someone does something immoral or unethical like

00:59:18.920 stealing or whatever that's different that's different but like when people just make a decision

00:59:23.560 that they want to move on it's hard not to take that personal because you take it as they don't believe

00:59:28.360 in you you know what i'm saying yeah and um when the reality they don't believe in themselves and

00:59:33.720 you believe in them more than yeah yeah look there's lots of reasons but at the end of the day

00:59:37.880 man all we can do is all we can do and if you're doing all you can do you can't go home and feel bad

00:59:43.480 about it you got to wish them the best and and when they call and they say hey you know answer the phone

00:59:49.320 you know i'm saying and be there for them and and dude it's just right it's so simple dude it's just

00:59:53.480 like really just being about being a good dude yeah you know what i mean that's real well guys

00:59:58.120 andy that was four hell of a way to start a monday yeah guys all right let's go out let's uh let's

01:00:03.960 kick some ass this week and we'll see you tomorrow on cti don't be a hoe show the show 1.00

01:00:10.120 went from sleeping on the floor now my jury box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the 0.97

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 14, 2025

867. Q&AF： Planning For Future Success, When To Take The Risk & Controlling Company Culture After A Loss

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 14, 2025

867. Q&#x26;AF： Planning For Future Success, When To Take The Risk &#x26; Controlling Company Culture After A Loss

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867. Q&AF： Planning For Future Success, When To Take The Risk & Controlling Company Culture After A Loss