REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 878. Q&AF： Is It Too Late For My Purpose, Feeling Aimless & Siblings Holding You Back

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00:03:48.580 i feel like a few weeks like there's a lot of excitement coming soon you know you've been uh

00:03:54.640 you have been in the in the laboratory i've been keeping a secret oh yeah you got a secret yeah

00:04:01.880 i've been keeping a secret it's uh you know i'm a little embarrassed but it's time to you know come

00:04:06.780 out of the closet yep you know what i'm saying um there's a reason an actual reason i haven't been

00:04:12.900 posting on instagram for the last number of years and you're gonna find out really soon

00:04:16.160 uh i may have been writing i don't know 25 books and i may be releasing them very soon

00:04:28.540 uh in five book sets so i'm excited about it i'm finally getting to the end you've been grinding

00:04:36.200 yeah we're finally getting to the end uh we also have the new mfceo project launching literally within

00:04:43.420 weeks um so it's very exciting yeah very very exciting there's a lot going on man yeah you know

00:04:50.760 it's hard to uh do it all you know and sometimes things gotta you gotta let it go and like an

00:04:57.860 orchestra sort of yeah you got the trombones going and the violins and yeah yeah that's definitely what

00:05:04.760 my life is like there's no doubt about that um but you know it is what it is and uh i go home

00:05:10.420 every day and you know i come here every day and i'm very thankful to be really dude the honest

00:05:17.460 truth is the older i get the more thankful i am to be around the people that i am every day

00:05:21.340 you know like i get to come in here i'm around a bunch of fucking savages who kick ass and

00:05:26.400 want to win and they're good people who treat people right and it just you know when i talk about

00:05:33.180 america and why it's important to me it's because i think every place should be like this is

00:05:38.400 you know what i mean it could be like i think it could be too and uh i don't know at the very

00:05:44.340 least i feel very fortunate to live in that environment yeah you know and uh yeah it's

00:05:50.680 it's awesome and we have a lot of good things coming up um you know the projects that we've

00:05:56.440 been working on here are i believe the most important projects that i've ever worked on uh that

00:06:03.220 you guys haven't seen yet and i i believe you know they're as big as 75 hard or maybe even bigger

00:06:08.560 so very very excited um yeah and that's it man like it's it's awesome it's gonna be freaking sick

00:06:18.660 it's gonna be freaking awesome what the flip dude it's gonna be gosh darn it it's gonna be

00:06:25.100 gersh dang awesome yeah right right yeah man all right well sweet it is monday ladies and gentlemen

00:06:31.660 uh let's make some people better let's do it we got uh we got some good ones for you all right um

00:06:37.160 this first question let's get to it this first question um andy i'm i'm 36 married two kids

00:06:45.420 mortgage steady job from the outside life looks normal even good but sometimes in the quiet

00:06:54.820 moments i asked myself is this really it i'm not miserable but i'm not fulfilled either

00:07:02.000 it's like i built a life around expectations instead of passion is it too late to rediscover

00:07:08.600 purpose or does this feeling mean i never truly had it to begin with no man that's deep no it is dude

00:07:16.680 but you have to i'll be real man you gotta be like older than that to really understand that question

00:07:21.520 because i think this happens all of my friends that are my age joe and i have talked about this

00:07:27.200 before you know you get to a point in life where you start to really audit what you've done and where

00:07:32.500 you've come from and what you've built and even when it's amazing even when you're happy you look at it

00:07:39.140 and you say man what could i have done or how could this have went or am i doing enough and those are

00:07:46.360 natural feelings you know we've all heard of the midlife crisis is that what this is right here

00:07:50.700 it's it's it's sort of that yeah um i think it's just a natural time where we're going through into

00:07:57.460 a different season of life and you know uh we're no longer in the in the spring of life now we're sort

00:08:04.840 of in the midsummer you know what i'm saying and uh winter's coming yeah yeah the fall is coming man

00:08:10.840 and uh you know we start to really audit what we've created out of ourselves and if you're an

00:08:16.960 ambitious person especially uh that could be incredibly difficult because what you know now

00:08:25.000 is not what you knew when you were 20 not when you it's not what you knew when you were 30 so your

00:08:31.360 mind kind of plays tricks on you man you you you know all this new shit that you didn't know when you

00:08:36.920 were younger and you're at a certain age and so you kind of like think well i could do all this and

00:08:42.800 this and this but dude you really couldn't have done that because you didn't know that shit then

00:08:46.060 it only came through the experience so we end up getting in this really this kind of like mind fuck

00:08:51.740 space and everybody i know that is around that age you know i would say 30 after 35 to 45 has gone

00:09:01.960 through this and sometimes it lasts a couple years uh i went through it real talk i mean dude and i've

00:09:08.140 i've i've really built what most people would consider like the ultimate dream life if you know

00:09:13.820 they're an ambitious person a business person um i realize not everybody wants the same thing but you

00:09:19.320 know i've created what most people consider the american dream from an entrepreneur standpoint and even with

00:09:27.180 all that dude i have i've had to go through times where i was like is this really my life like is

00:09:32.920 this all it is is i'm gonna wake up every day i'm gonna go here and i'm gonna do this and that's what

00:09:38.120 it's gonna be and i'll tell you what man you sort of hit on it in your question you said purpose is it too

00:09:46.580 late for a different purpose and i don't know that you have to think of it as a first of all it's not too

00:09:53.800 late for a different purpose it's not all right you're still very young but

00:09:58.540 for me it wasn't about finding a different purpose it was about expanding my purpose

00:10:06.900 okay and growing a bigger purpose a bigger mission a bigger project to work on

00:10:12.260 and we get in these times where we're sort of stale

00:10:17.940 and we think you know like he's saying oh we did really good is this what it is well the reason

00:10:23.920 that you're feeling the way you feel man is because you're no longer building you're no longer

00:10:28.940 creating you're no longer becoming the way that you should be or the way that you did in the past

00:10:33.680 and you can have all the prizes you can have a nice bank account you can have a great house and a

00:10:39.440 great family and a great life but the minute you stop building you start to feel depressed you start

00:10:46.180 to question it you start to lose interest in life because it becomes repetitive monotonous and not

00:10:52.340 very much fun and a lot of people that's a pivot point in their life right some people they they go

00:10:59.780 down the road of heavy drugs heavy alcohol destroying their life because they think it's not what they

00:11:06.140 wanted and other people they say okay i did good so far but let me do better let me do bigger let me use

00:11:12.520 the tools and knowledge and the resources that i have now to create something even bigger and

00:11:18.340 when they create that bigger mission and that bigger purpose the juice comes back dude it's like

00:11:25.520 the mojo yeah dude it's like you plug your finger in the electrical socket of the the mystery force

00:11:30.600 don't try that at home yeah don't do that

00:11:32.320 sorry but but you know and it just uh it just re it rejuvenates you and i think

00:11:39.940 we have to remember that we are always fighting against a cultural norm and the cultural norm is

00:11:45.660 celebrating the weekend celebrating the vacation you're not normal if you work all the time well

00:11:52.040 motherfuckers some people ain't wired like that and and to be real like if i lived like those people

00:11:58.000 live i would kill myself that is the honest to god's truth and i'm not i'm not paraphrasing i'm

00:12:03.540 not exaggerating i would literally commit suicide because i would be so depressed and so sad and so

00:12:09.760 unfulfilled and then society makes you think you're weird for being wired as a builder anything outside of

00:12:18.380 right and i just made a post about this today uh we're recording this on friday you know you can't

00:12:25.280 explain this this this fire this intensity this drive that you have to build create and become

00:12:31.400 to someone who didn't get that gift they're never going to understand it they're never going to make

00:12:36.180 sense of it and they are typically heavily bought into the regular culture and the regular culture at

00:12:43.740 the bottom level is do the least amount of shit that you can do all right watch as much tv as you can

00:12:50.280 relax as much as you can and dude that's just not a fulfilling life for someone who got the gift

00:12:56.600 okay i got the gift this person here they got the gift and if you have the gift you should embrace that

00:13:04.500 and you should say hey i'm not like those people and the truth is they're never going to understand

00:13:08.620 so fuck what they think and do what's going to make you feel fulfilled and happy and energized

00:13:14.020 for me and for most ambitious people and not most every single one that i've ever met in my life

00:13:19.680 they have to constantly be building and we constantly see this in examples of this in life

00:13:25.100 how many athletes get done playing sports and are super depressed okay how many people sell their

00:13:30.520 businesses and are completely miserable we you know like it's it's not like and and the regular person

00:13:37.900 will say well see all the money doesn't make you happy it they're actually right it's not the money bro

00:13:42.800 it's the process of creating it's the it's the artistic process of building and becoming and

00:13:50.040 doing things that are hard and that gives us respect and gives us fulfillment in ourselves it's the reason

00:13:56.480 it's one of the biggest reasons why 75 hard is so transformative it teaches people that the value

00:14:02.060 that you have in yourself is directly linked to how hard you work okay so that's the long answer the

00:14:09.720 short answer i could talk about this forever the short answer is this no it's not too late

00:14:13.960 no it's not too late to change your entire purpose if you want but don't think that you have to change

00:14:19.920 your entire purpose you know you don't have to burn your house down you don't have to burn your life

00:14:24.060 down you could just expand it you could say hey okay i'm gonna take this to the next level i'm gonna do

00:14:28.920 this and you have to to do that you have to remove the guide rails of your own thought process to think

00:14:34.360 bigger than you thought and you know and realize that the the dream that you're living now was the

00:14:40.600 dream of your younger self and you're no longer that younger self now you have new skills and you're

00:14:46.100 able to think bigger and accomplish more and then there's something to that too when you know you have

00:14:50.860 more skills and you know you can accomplish more but you're still living in the same dream that the

00:14:56.400 20 year old of you created it's not going to be fulfilling bro and so you know all of these things

00:15:03.860 play into this mental game that we get caught up into and if we don't understand how to break out of

00:15:09.380 it the feeling that he's feeling is very natural uh so come up with a bigger purpose bro that's the

00:15:15.660 answer get a bigger mission get a bigger purpose dream take a weekend and dream as big as you fucking can

00:15:23.120 and then go do that and you're gonna all that magic and all that feeling and all those things

00:15:27.000 that's going to come back that's such a a weird thing to get sucked into man and like this more

00:15:34.500 to the younger guys because we got a lot of young young ambitious people that are sure 36 is young

00:15:39.760 bro 36 is young but i mean i'm talking like the young young bucks like yeah 20 the 20s the 19s right

00:15:44.900 and it's like you know we go all of our life and we we feel like there's this like you know path that

00:15:49.980 we're supposed to be on right you're supposed to go to school you're supposed to go to a nine to

00:15:53.720 five have a good career make the family beget the house and it's like it's like hindsight bro like

00:16:01.000 it's such small-minded thinking you know what i'm saying and like i'm i remember that one of the first

00:16:06.820 lessons you you really told me bro you got to think bigger yeah whatever your goals are scratch them

00:16:11.580 and make bigger ones man yeah because like that's the only way to get out of that yeah it's the only

00:16:15.180 way to get out of it i love that man um we got calling let's do a call all right let's uh we got

00:16:20.420 let's go to cameron uh let's give cameron a ring

00:16:23.400 hello this is cameron cameron what's up dude hey dj hey andy cam what's up bro how are you for

00:16:36.020 picking me yeah man of course doing well thank you thank you so much for picking me and everything

00:16:41.540 you guys do for us what you're doing right now just in the office i'm in san diego oh sweet all

00:16:49.580 right all right a little san diego action that's what's up man all right well what we got my question

00:16:54.820 is how do you leverage dark energy from mistakes you've made yourself i've heard you share leveraging

00:17:01.280 it from others but curious if you do and and how you do um turn that negative into a positive

00:17:09.880 really appreciate it can you give me an example of what you're talking about

00:17:14.020 be having to get the last word in um and damaging relationships or um and uh just succumbing to

00:17:31.500 succumbing to things to those types of shortcomings personally that can negatively impact relationships or

00:17:39.880 let me ask you this let me let me ask you this brother if you and i were best friends

00:17:46.320 okay and we're friends right you listen to me we're friends yeah all right yeah if i said to you

00:17:52.680 hey cam bro i'm really struggling with with this man you know i'm i'm kind of i got a big mouth

00:18:00.380 i got a kind of a bad temper i i have to always get the last word in and you know it's it's ruined

00:18:08.040 some friendships a few relationships and i can't get over it man like fuck and i can't stop thinking

00:18:15.440 about it what would you say to me as a friend

00:18:19.980 that you really need to work on yourself so that you're not um and build confidence and

00:18:31.760 self-esteem so that you're not you don't feel the need to do that um and you're more

00:18:38.040 compassionate in those situations and don't even think about having to get the

00:18:42.100 last word in and instead just handle it with grace well i mean dude i can't stop thinking about

00:18:49.040 it man i feel super guilty it's where it's eating me alive on the inside man like

00:18:53.920 i just can't get over it

00:18:57.040 what would you say

00:19:08.040 just stop

00:19:10.380 stop what

00:19:13.880 stop having stop getting the last word in okay here's what i'm getting at brother you need to

00:19:22.180 talk to yourself like you're your own friend okay

00:19:25.000 every single person in the history of the world has done shit that you're talking about right now that

00:19:33.400 you feel bad about and you got to forgive yourself bro you got to say hey i made those mistakes i'm

00:19:39.860 conscious of those mistakes now i'm aware of how they affect my life and i'm going to work on it but

00:19:45.680 i can't dwell on it man and if you were my friend cam which you are you support the show

00:19:51.140 i'm gonna say this to you man give yourself a little grace you're learning you're growing that's the point

00:19:58.260 of life and it's not about harnessing the dark side energy that we have in situations like this

00:20:04.880 it's about giving ourselves grace and saying fuck i'm a human being bro and if you were if dj was

00:20:13.060 telling me the same shit that you're telling me i'd say hey dude what would i say

00:20:16.660 to what one stop being a pussy get it together and just go fucking do it that was you fucking

00:20:23.500 years ago yeah and what what would i say if you were saying if you if you were dwelling on it would

00:20:28.280 i not say what i just told him i'd say hey bro it's all good yeah it's all good we all go through

00:20:33.120 this and you need to talk to yourself like that man you know when you're an ambitious a young man

00:20:38.200 especially um we can talk to ourselves really really harshly and and dude i'm guilty of that right i

00:20:44.820 high standards demand a harsh internal dialogue and sometimes that becomes uh counterproductive

00:20:53.800 because it destroys ourselves from the inside when we make mistakes but we always have to remember man

00:20:58.980 there's only been one person ever that's lived in the history of the world that was perfect

00:21:02.760 and his name was jesus so it wasn't cam and it wasn't andy and it wasn't dj okay so we have to

00:21:10.860 remember man to give ourselves grace to be aware of our shortcomings and then to work on those things

00:21:17.820 and the next thing the next time they come up we're going to make a better decision and we might not get

00:21:22.360 it all the way right but the next time it comes up again we'll get a little more right and then a

00:21:27.220 little more and then a little more and then eventually you're not even that same person anymore

00:21:31.840 i can tell you this dude this is real shit when i was when i was coming up in business

00:21:37.820 like and i was desperate i was the harshest most savage

00:21:45.460 motherfucker on the face of the planet to everybody around me i did not take shit from anybody and i still

00:21:52.000 don't but i did not tolerate any fucking excuses to the point where i was mean sometimes okay i i was

00:22:01.480 excessive and it's hard to argue that because it got us where we are but i have guilt about it yeah

00:22:09.240 okay lost a lot of friends during that time yes absolutely bro and so i've had to i've had to

00:22:16.000 develop the understanding that like hey man i was doing what i knew best at that time

00:22:21.000 and then i've adjusted my behavior so much so that most of the people that work for us now

00:22:27.760 have no perception that i used to be that way no clue yeah like they don't understand that there's

00:22:33.520 a literal fucking animal one inch underneath the skin you know what i'm saying so it's but dude i've

00:22:40.780 had to work on that and and the first thing that allowed me to work on that was becoming aware of it

00:22:46.220 and you're already to that point brother the next thing i had to do was was give myself some grace and

00:22:51.120 say okay you did what you what you knew to do at the time and the third thing i did was i had to

00:22:56.900 start working on changing the behavior and when i started to move out of that phase

00:23:00.960 i still had those situations happen but they happen less and less frequently and then eventually they

00:23:09.120 got to the point where they rarely happen uh and and you know it's not who i am anymore it's just not

00:23:14.560 who i am so uh it's there i can use it when i want to it's kind of like what peterson says what

00:23:20.380 jordan peterson said you got to be a fucking savage monster and then learn how to control it

00:23:24.320 um but yeah man it's part of life brother and i'm gonna tell you this right now i can hear it in

00:23:31.720 your voice that you're struggling with this and you feel guilty about it and i'm just gonna tell

00:23:35.820 you dude that's life man and give yourself some grace work on the behavior and after time passes

00:23:43.600 you won't even be that person anymore bro does that make sense thank you yeah it definitely does

00:23:52.380 all right brother how old are you how old are you 30 34 oh fuck dude you're you got plenty of time to

00:23:59.520 learn trust me at 34 i was ripping motherfuckers throats out so uh so you're good dude just you know

00:24:06.820 give yourself a little grace acknowledge the behavior work on the behavior and uh and it it'll

00:24:13.040 be a memory before you know it all right brother absolutely thank you so much for this and all you

00:24:19.600 guys do thanks cam appreciate you bro yeah all right see you thanks andy thanks dj see you bro

00:24:25.780 i think that's a i think i want to ask you this right because i feel like you know we all heard

00:24:31.760 that saying like you know you are your biggest critic should you be

00:24:36.100 should you be your biggest critic of course of course you should bro no one's gonna hold you to

00:24:44.960 the standard that you should hold yourself to you should always be holding yourself to a high this

00:24:49.580 is what high performers do high performers hold themselves to a higher standard than the external

00:24:53.980 standards that they have to live in okay so this is this is a big deal to understand this

00:25:00.300 kobe bryant worked harder than what he was demanded of by the lakers okay uh

00:25:06.460 every successful person tom brady worked harder than what he was demanded of by the patriots

00:25:13.580 so your standards if you want to be a high level performer have to be higher than any of the

00:25:18.820 external standards that you live in that's just the the math of doing it um which can be very

00:25:25.360 difficult right and and when you work in a high standard environment and then you got to have higher

00:25:30.660 standards than that sometimes we get pretty harsh on ourselves to where we forget like there's still

00:25:36.820 going to be mistakes sometimes you know what i'm saying so um but you got it so you're saying you got to

00:25:42.480 have really short almost short memory with those when those downfalls come yeah and get right back

00:25:47.600 to it yeah yeah that's it man yeah i love it man i love it well guys let's get our next question

00:25:52.560 um our next question is uh andy thank you so much for all you guys do huge fan um i make sure to share

00:26:00.000 the show uh so i ain't a hoe to tell the truth i feel like a desperate bitch for emailing in today

00:26:07.660 but i need some help i'm 23 years old and i've been in sales for the past five years or so while

00:26:14.300 i was in college and after graduation i'm constantly improving my professional skills and i've done all

00:26:20.000 right in my sales career it seems like i can never get ahead of bills and being financially successful

00:26:26.680 sounds very far in the future i know i'm young but i feel aimless i've always wanted to start my own

00:26:34.540 business and grind at something i'm actually passionate about at uh anytime i think of going

00:26:40.700 off on my own always run into the same problem where the hell do i start what the hell can i start

00:26:45.680 a business off of um i know this is the problem i must solve on my own but i'm curious as to how you

00:26:50.980 decided on your business idea um and how you knew that that is the solution that you're going to pursue

00:26:56.600 anything helps thanks guys yeah uh i'll give you the exact truth um i wanted to be rich as fuck

00:27:03.640 okay this is reality all right we were going to open a i had a guy uh that i knew i had two

00:27:12.280 entrepreneurs that i had seen in real life and actually met all right one of them was making a ton

00:27:19.600 of money in a tanning business okay the other one was making uh what i thought was a ton of money

00:27:27.600 in retail supplement stores so the guy who had the tanning business was making way more money

00:27:34.480 and so i wanted to start a tanning salon all right i swear to god this is how it happened yeah okay

00:27:39.660 i couldn't afford chris and i said fuck it we're going to start a business we're going to open a tanning

00:27:45.540 salon couldn't afford a tanning bed because we only had 12 grand all right so then we said well

00:27:51.600 can we start selling supplements and we could so what we did was we took the nobody would rent to us

00:27:58.140 because uh we didn't have any credit we found a guy his name was mark tharp in springfield missouri

00:28:05.000 who rented to us but with the agreement that we will pay a year up front rent and rent was a thousand

00:28:12.620 bucks a month and that was all the money we had so then we went and we got resourceful we went to

00:28:19.620 campus and back then they used to have these little tables that you could fill out an application and

00:28:26.120 get a credit card and they were like 500 bucks so we went to campus and we filled out every

00:28:30.800 motherfucking credit card we would get and then we used those to build out the store which we went to

00:28:36.180 home depot and literally bought the material to build the store out we we built it with plywood and

00:28:41.500 roofing tin and uh if you go to the springfield s2 on the on the uh north side 1709 south campbell

00:28:49.500 you'll see the counter that we built still there yes yeah we built it right we built it with my

00:28:54.840 buddy mark potest and um and we painted the store i mean dude like when i say we started at nothing

00:29:02.260 like i don't think people understand that what that means like we we fucking financed the motherfucking

00:29:07.500 billed out on a credit card and then our first order of supplements was ten thousand dollars okay

00:29:12.520 and i i promise you that's very little inventory so that's how we started um we didn't start yes we

00:29:22.000 worked out yes we took supplements but we were not knowledgeable about supplements

00:29:26.580 and we were kind of casual about working out we were just we were just athletes

00:29:32.120 we wanted to make money and this really kind of that the mentality was a very

00:29:42.060 uh not knowing it at the time but it really cost us a lot of time because our goal was to make money

00:29:49.100 all right so the first day we sold seven dollars to a buddy of mine his name was nick vespa

00:29:55.580 the next day we didn't sell any the day after that we sold 23 took us six months or eight months to

00:30:03.060 have a day over 200 bucks i think it was eight months and then it took us five and a half years

00:30:08.580 to open our second store so first three years we didn't make any money uh and we lived in the back

00:30:13.740 of the store on and off and the next seven years we made six hundred ninety five dollars a month for a

00:30:20.440 grand total of fifty eight thousand three hundred eighty dollars for the entire first ten years that

00:30:25.440 we were in business not per year could have made more money working at mcdonald's um and the reason that

00:30:32.880 things change was because over that course of time we had situations where people would come in and they

00:30:44.180 would lose a lot of weight or they would get themselves together and it would change their lives and

00:30:49.440 it was awesome okay but we were too young and too motivated by money to really understand

00:30:56.600 that that's how we should be operating the business we just didn't get it and what i mean by that is

00:31:03.260 our intent was on ourselves and it was not on the customer and the minute that we figured that out

00:31:10.260 and there's a whole long story about how we figured that out um things change everything changed okay our

00:31:17.980 our intent went how do we deliver the best results for these people how do we make sure that we can

00:31:23.120 replicate the the result on our end which is to get them where they want to go as much as possible

00:31:28.700 and when we flipped that switch over we grew a hundred percent for five years in a row and this is post

00:31:34.080 2008 economy which was one of the worst ever and it was a simple mindset mindset flip of putting the

00:31:42.200 intent on what we're trying to deliver not on how much money we're going to make and when you when you do

00:31:46.020 that then the money comes and this is a problem i see in a lot of people um a lot of people are able

00:31:53.780 to make a little bit of money running a business but it never really takes off because the intent is

00:32:00.380 on how much can i take from other people instead of how much can i give how much value can i bring

00:32:04.580 and they hear these buzzwords on the internet of people saying oh deliver value you get paid or you

00:32:10.940 get paid in terms of the value you provide and they're like oh let's fuck it they think it's buzzword

00:32:14.580 bullshit it's not it's real shit and um so that's how we started okay we we just thought we could

00:32:24.560 make money and so we went and we did make money but it took us a long time how to make money which

00:32:30.280 was to put the intent on the result that the customer was after which i know i know for a fact

00:32:35.340 we do that better than anybody now we do it better than anybody there's no there's not another company

00:32:39.260 that does what we do that cares more about their fucking customers say whatever the fuck you want it's

00:32:43.220 not true that's the truth and uh i can say that very confidently and i don't think there's another

00:32:48.820 company on the planet that's changed more lives than ours and i say that very confidently when you

00:32:53.580 throw in the transformations that we do 75 hard and how we take care of people it's just facts no one

00:33:00.480 could fucking no one could even i don't even think it's even close that's the truth um and i don't

00:33:07.340 say that to brag i say that because i'm proud of it and flip that intent and stuck with it correct

00:33:12.460 yeah and it's it's created a very successful existence for myself the people around me

00:33:20.300 um it's created tons of better higher quality people in the world who are happier and healthier

00:33:27.300 and setting a better example and uh it's allowed me to create income and careers for thousands of people

00:33:35.160 all off of that one intent switch so if i were a young person and i didn't know what i was going to

00:33:43.740 do i would ask myself what do i care about what do i care about serving other how how can i serve other

00:33:53.080 people in a way that makes me proud of what i just did i would answer that question first then i would

00:34:00.360 answer a second question which is what do i know how to do okay and if you don't know how to do what

00:34:06.420 you thought of first then you can learn it that's that's okay but if they align it's really good all

00:34:13.260 right and then the third thing that has to happen is can i make money doing this can i do this at scale

00:34:18.540 what are my dreams and how can i get there because there are things that we care about and we do well

00:34:25.160 that can't scale all right most things can scale because there's niche markets that you can do very

00:34:31.960 well in but depending on how far you want to go like if you want to make 200 grand a year that's a

00:34:38.120 different conversation because you have more flexibility to do the thing that you love because

00:34:42.500 that's a lower income if you want to make 20 million a year or 30 million a year motherfucker has

00:34:48.500 to be able to scale okay so there's nuance in this formula it's it's what do i love how can i serve

00:34:58.040 what value could i provide well do i have the skills to do it and can it scale and you need to find

00:35:05.020 the right mix of those things that's going to get you where you want to go does that make sense 100%

00:35:10.740 100% i i think don't they call that like uh i've heard it like passion projects things like that i mean

00:35:17.520 dude people call shit all kinds of different things i mean words passion projects in my

00:35:23.460 understanding are more just like people do things because they love to do them not because they want

00:35:27.480 to make money at all right right they don't care um that would be like what we do for haiti or what

00:35:32.160 we do for north st louis and things like that you know what i'm saying um but yeah bro i mean if you

00:35:38.760 want to turn not every passion can be turned into a 100 million dollar business or even a 10 million

00:35:46.180 dollar business but if your goals aren't that big which is okay like bro i gotta say this too

00:35:52.260 you don't have to be a fucking hundred million dollar company okay you need to figure out what

00:35:59.200 the fuck how you want to live your life and then design it around that all right so not everybody has

00:36:05.320 to go out and try to build nike right uh that's just what i want to do and i want to do more than

00:36:12.200 that i don't even like i've got bigger goals than that believe it or not you just don't know about

00:36:15.620 them yet um so yeah man that's it's an equation it's a thought out plan uh you know and the more

00:36:26.440 money you want to make and the bigger your life is the less flexible you can be with what you care

00:36:33.480 about and it it has to line up with where you want to go but you still have to care about it enough

00:36:38.980 to love serving it does that make sense absolutely bro so it's it's it's just a thought process okay

00:36:45.260 what do i love what are my skills what do i want to make and then it's turning the dials to figure

00:36:50.680 out what's going to work what do you what do you also say too because i i i feel like this is also

00:36:55.300 another young buck problem where like because the internet can be so inundated with people oh i made

00:37:00.980 you know three million dollars in fucking two hours yeah right well first of all remember they're full

00:37:05.860 shit right 100 right but it's like you know people people don't know people don't understand

00:37:11.980 wealth scale okay someone who doesn't know who's 20 years old or 30 years old and they've never had

00:37:17.860 anything nice in their life they see someone with a fucking lamborghini and they think oh my god

00:37:23.200 they're so rich no dude that's not true okay you can you can do all kinds of things you can rent

00:37:30.420 those you can bro there's private jet sets that that influencers go and take fake private photos

00:37:38.460 private jet photo you cannot believe any of this shit this is why i tell you guys you have to look

00:37:44.460 at what they've actually done you can't look at what they present online it's not 90 of the time

00:37:50.000 it's not true and really dude i'm sort of an anomaly in the fact that like i'm one of the dudes

00:37:55.420 who's actually built a bunch of real shit that shows their life most of these motherfuckers who built

00:37:59.640 real shit don't show their life because they think that if they do it's going to demoralize

00:38:04.080 their employees or their customers when reality dude it would inspire them um and that was something

00:38:09.440 that i had to learn as well for sure um but the truth of the matter is dude like you these fuckers

00:38:15.920 are so full of shit none of them have really done anything they're good at marketing a fake lifestyle

00:38:21.140 and because you don't know what real wealth looks like you think it's you think it's real and you

00:38:27.220 know people that are on the other end of that mountain uh like i can look at that or someone's

00:38:32.040 like and be like fuck out of here dude you know what i'm saying like it's it's it's we have a lot

00:38:39.260 of dudes taking advantage of people and it makes people it makes people demoralized because they think

00:38:47.960 they're doing it wrong well i think my point too was getting to that it's like you know you're at 23

00:38:53.980 bro you couldn't like are you even able would you even be able to manage millions of dollars in your

00:38:59.900 bank account right then you know i'm saying like is what's the wealth timeline like are there not

00:39:04.380 well i mean there's 23 year olds that have made billions of dollars so we gotta be careful about

00:39:09.900 you know that um but to answer your question if you don't have experience managing money no you're

00:39:17.000 not going to know how to manage it this is why we see all the athletes lose all their money

00:39:20.180 this is why we see you know the lottery winners lose all their money because they don't know

00:39:26.740 anything about money right they don't know how to make it work for them they don't know where to

00:39:30.860 invest it they don't know how to run a business you know they think it's just going to be there

00:39:34.960 forever because they don't have the perspective you know and you can't blame them because no one ever

00:39:39.740 taught them you know um but no i mean managing money is a fucking skill in itself and it's going to

00:39:47.660 take for most people it takes making money losing money making money losing money and then finally

00:39:52.080 you make it again you're like fuck i'm not losing it yeah i mean dude look that's the reality so um

00:39:59.020 yeah no it's a real thing you know you the process of building will teach you responsibility

00:40:07.120 right because you'll manage cash flow and profitability and you know you'll start to realize

00:40:12.300 what you can't afford what you can't afford um but getting it overnight is you wouldn't even want

00:40:18.800 that bro and i'm going to tell you this too because the the the hungry days the lean days

00:40:26.900 the hard days the days of pain and struggle and hopelessness and frustration

00:40:34.340 when you look back on those days those are the days you're going to value the most because those

00:40:43.720 are the days that taught you everything you actually need the grit the endurance the mental toughness

00:40:49.680 all the skills how to be resourceful and if you take someone and allow them to skip that process

00:40:58.380 and then that person who had to learn all the shit the hard way has to compete with that person at

00:41:03.500 some point in time the person who had to struggle is going to kick the fuck out of the person that

00:41:09.020 got it quick that's the reality because like bro i don't care who i go up against i could go up against

00:41:15.620 ceos of the biggest companies in the world i'm gonna fucking beat their ass because i fucking started

00:41:21.580 with nothing and i know all the skills all the way up to the top no one ever invested no one ever gave

00:41:27.700 us a big check i didn't graduate from fucking brown and get a role of ceo my skill set is much more in depth

00:41:35.180 than any of those people could possibly have it doesn't matter how many hours they spent in a boardroom

00:41:41.140 or a classroom it's a different skill set so i actually have way more respect and admiration for the people

00:41:50.960 who literally started at nothing i think they're the best entrepreneurs on the world because dude how

00:41:56.440 do you fucking create something out of nothing that's hard okay so if you're running a business

00:42:03.640 that you created from nothing even if it's doing you know not doing as good as you want it to just

00:42:09.080 remember you're learning skills that these these big time dudes are never going to have you know i'm

00:42:13.600 saying and eventually you're going to compete against people who were who had investors or got placed in

00:42:19.880 these and dude you're going to beat them because you know more so man that's real we got one more

00:42:26.060 question let's uh let's get one more call in here final uh final question for the day let's get uh

00:42:32.560 mandale on the line here we go

00:42:34.560 hello uh it's mandale this is mandale yeah yo what's up yeah this is dj how'd you go

00:42:55.900 man mandale what's up bro what's going on andy how you doing man i'm doing good how are you

00:43:04.000 man i'm doing great um yeah nah man this is no doubt one of the best days of my life

00:43:10.480 i mean well we're gonna make it better but where are you calling in from

00:43:13.640 yeah uh um sioux falls south dakota all right weird one sioux falls that's a beautiful country

00:43:20.720 yeah it is it's nice up here though it's a good state so all right all right brother well hey

00:43:26.900 what can we help you with today man yeah um so i want to be as objective

00:43:33.680 about this as possible without uh putting emotions into it um but my question is is it

00:43:40.780 a moral and ethical thing to cut your siblings out of your life when you believe they are the

00:43:46.600 reasons for holding you back they come with good intentions but do not believe in the path of being

00:43:52.060 what tim grover calls a cleaner in life um for you know me you i'm sure dj and the rest of the

00:44:00.040 really have team that have read the book uh relentless by tim grover so all right man well

00:44:06.900 that's a real question dude and a lot of people struggle with this a lot i mean this is one of the

00:44:11.680 most uh asked questions that i've gotten in my 15 years of doing personal development work

00:44:17.560 um it depends okay it just depends here's the reality of it man and i i'm gonna speak objectively

00:44:27.100 as well uh you only have so much energy dude okay you only have so much energy and to compete

00:44:35.780 if you're ambitious it's going to take all of it if you are spending 40 of your time arguing with

00:44:42.980 anyone okay whether it be a friend somebody you don't know that well your mom your dad your siblings

00:44:51.760 your ability to succeed is going to be less because you are going to be competing against someone

00:44:57.260 who has more available energy to create that's the truth now you as an individual this is the part i

00:45:07.400 can't answer you have to decide how much energy you want to free up while maintaining relationships

00:45:13.400 that you have so my recommendation for you would be to audit how important it is to get where you want

00:45:22.700 to go and then make a decision about where the boundary needs to be for you to have the most available

00:45:31.500 energy to move forward it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to cut them all the way out it can

00:45:37.380 mean you just have to sort of keep them at arm's length all right uh it can also mean you just

00:45:43.900 have to learn how to have selective hearing you know when i was building my company dude uh this is

00:45:51.520 just the truth i would show up at places where i had friends and family and i'd get made fun of dude

00:45:57.560 and i would get joked about uh you know and i'd have people that would say hey that's cool as well so i

00:46:02.460 don't want to make it sound like it was all bad but i definitely had people in my family tell me

00:46:06.600 like the like that little saying that i say all the time like or do you still own that little

00:46:11.580 vitamin shop that came from people i'm related to so you know i just had to decide and and you know

00:46:20.200 what i did i stopped i sort of stopped showing up i kept it at length i kept it real far away and i was

00:46:26.180 able to do what i wanted to do and i don't have regrets about that because now when i look at my life

00:46:30.840 i see all these people around me who are young and hungry and supporting their families and building

00:46:38.800 uh their communities and doing all of these good things and uh that's i feel good about that so for

00:46:45.420 me that was worth it um but for you it may not be worth it so you have to decide what it is that you

00:46:52.080 want uh but i can tell you this if your goal is to be a cleaner you're probably going to have to create

00:46:57.840 some very very strong boundaries and learn selective hearing okay uh and when you do hear

00:47:05.780 what they say you're going to have to have a chip on your shoulder and say hey fuck that i'm going

00:47:10.540 to shove it down these motherfuckers throats and all of those things i've developed that's the truth

00:47:17.140 uh the worst thing that someone could say to me if they want me to lose is to tell me that i can't do

00:47:22.120 something uh because i will fucking burn my own life down to win and people say that's not healthy

00:47:29.380 well it's probably not but it's the truth um so yeah i mean just being real so like that's the

00:47:36.960 decision man it's it's auditing how important it is to you and uh you know how you want to handle it

00:47:43.980 and there's always nuance and there's dials that you can turn to get where you need to go uh but the

00:47:49.820 bigger the goal the less the less energy you're going to have available for people that aren't

00:47:54.180 going to push you forward and when it comes to friends and when it comes to the people you surround

00:47:59.220 yourself with it's not enough just to have them be neutral you have to find people that are going

00:48:05.860 to push with you and fight with you and build with you and uh so you have to take those drags

00:48:13.840 or anchors as i call them and replace them with propellers so that you can go fast enough to compete

00:48:18.560 so does that first of all does that make sense a hundred percent okay no literally that was

00:48:27.780 straight facts like it's just nice to hear from somebody for the first time in my life that

00:48:33.920 gets what the show is real af um and yeah you know i'm it's something where like i'm truly trying to do

00:48:41.180 something incredible with my life i know people laugh at me when i say i know they're like oh you're

00:48:45.920 trying to do something like steve jobs no i am i really am and i i say it with humility and and

00:48:51.760 you get laughed at you know and it's like you get to a point like you said it's like you love them and

00:48:56.140 you're proud of your siblings they're your blood siblings you know you grew up with them but you

00:49:00.700 realize that they are anchors and it's like you know just from these short couple of months of

00:49:06.420 closing these relationships with them because i have um i've achieved like literally a year of progress

00:49:12.700 because of the focus that i've been able to put on all this energy towards my goals um so it just it

00:49:18.860 just sucks it's a sucky situation because like you said you know it's easy to do with friends because

00:49:23.640 they're friends you know like you talk about your blood siblings you know sal for you andy your brother

00:49:28.600 um you know you grew up with these guys you know you love them you know but you realize that

00:49:33.460 they just they call you high at tving and all this and it's just not the right energy like you said you

00:49:40.500 need people there that are going to fight with you not just be neutral with you when you're having

00:49:44.480 these conversations bro it's it's just the way it is man like you know i wish it was different i wish

00:49:52.020 you could have relationships with everybody and you know even if they didn't want you you could still

00:49:58.640 be cool and dude if they were mature they would just keep their fucking mouth shut um yeah and if they

00:50:04.680 were really mature they'd support the fuck out of you but the problem is human nature is just the

00:50:10.680 way it is and people that come from the same household or the same neighborhood or the same

00:50:16.600 school that you came from when you're trying to create greatness you are a constant reminder of what

00:50:23.200 they could have done and that doesn't feel good to them so you know i always tell young entrepreneurs

00:50:28.520 one of the greatest things that you can do to be successful and maintain your family relationships

00:50:35.140 is to move the fuck to a new city and do it there because then the distance sort of creates the buffer

00:50:41.940 and you're able to do your shit without the distraction i don't know if that's an option for

00:50:46.260 for you but that's a way to do it um but here's the good news brother all that same shit happened to me

00:50:54.120 all of it uh when i when i first started writing uh because that's kind of where you know my personal

00:51:00.740 development career started i was writing literal posts on facebook i would have people in my family

00:51:07.040 fucking comment what do you think you're tony robbins and you know like that's the shit they would say

00:51:12.440 yeah and it's like here i am you know so uh and tony's the goat i'm just gonna say that i don't say

00:51:17.820 i'm better than him but you know like i'm doing my own thing and uh so yeah dude and and eventually

00:51:26.200 those people that doubted you and they grow the fuck up and they come back around dude and so it's

00:51:32.980 not ever a goodbye it's it's more like a i'll see you in a few years you know what i mean and right

00:51:38.200 right yeah so so dude you know i would start with a conversation a real conversation like like with

00:51:45.440 them like i'd sit them the fuck down and i'd say hey man look here's the deal i love you i respect

00:51:50.780 you you're my fucking blood if you were my real blood you would support me in this and if you can't

00:52:00.100 support me at least be quiet and if you can't be quiet i can't associate with you because i'm doing

00:52:05.640 this no matter what the fuck you have to say about it and sort of set that boundary and then let them

00:52:11.840 decide what they want to do and then you you you react appropriately um but this is go ahead i want

00:52:18.020 to ask this why you why you got uh mandale while you're on the phone too because i feel like there's

00:52:22.220 there is a flip side of this i just want to get your takes on it is it is it almost coming from like

00:52:29.180 a selfish thing like why don't you believe in me like if there's nothing there yet though oh yeah

00:52:35.700 that's also a good point you know what i'm saying yeah sometimes we look i don't think that's what

00:52:41.280 he's saying i think what he's saying is they're discouraging for sure but there is another side to

00:52:45.780 that to that talk which is people who are just starting demand support and when they don't get

00:52:52.940 you know the out of this world support they say oh everybody fucking nobody believes in me well

00:52:59.780 motherfucker you didn't give them anything to believe in what the fuck have you done you said

00:53:02.880 you're going to lose weight 700 times you didn't lose weight you said you were going to do this it

00:53:06.580 didn't work you said you're going to do that it didn't work people have a right to not believe you

00:53:11.600 if you have displayed that you are not worthy of belief like that's reality so so you know that is a

00:53:18.820 trap that people fall into we have to accept reality nobody's going to believe until you've done it

00:53:25.020 okay and if they can support you great cool if they can't they should be quiet and

00:53:32.720 at the very least not be a drag um right but we got to be you know i don't think that's what he's

00:53:38.480 saying but that's a good point to bring up because there is i see that a lot well because we expect it

00:53:42.740 from fam yeah but bro like they're people too yeah like if they've seen you like say oh i'm gonna lose

00:53:48.500 weight 700 times and you say it the next time why the fuck would they believe you right you know so

00:53:53.560 you can't they're they're people they're not going to just because they have the same blood

00:53:59.060 and they love you you might get a little extra grace but i mean eventually you're showing them

00:54:04.380 that you're not going to follow through and they're not going to believe in you uh so that's when you

00:54:08.780 have to make them believers through the results that you produce nobody owes us shit okay we have to

00:54:15.560 understand that nobody owes us fucking anything okay they don't owe us help they don't owe us belief

00:54:24.200 they don't owe us support and the reason that most of these people don't support us is because we've

00:54:29.780 never shown them anything to support or believe in once you show them and you build something and

00:54:35.260 they look at it and they say oh he's actually doing it i'm always believing you man dale

00:54:39.560 the belief starts to come you see what i'm saying so yeah man uh but brother you know look dude how old

00:54:51.220 are you uh 25 all right you gotta fucking take care of your own life bro that's the reality and this is

00:54:58.700 a hard transition for young men and and young people in general when they're 25 because you're on the path

00:55:04.980 of your own life you've gone through this shit oh yeah you're on the game out of yeah you're on the

00:55:10.340 path of your own life now and your whole the rest the the life that you've known up until this point

00:55:15.680 has been with your brothers and your sisters and your family but now you're out on your own man and

00:55:20.020 there's this weird transition that happens where we have to like realize hey nobody's coming to fucking

00:55:25.840 make this for me so and i think you're there and i think you're thinking about the right way bro and

00:55:31.700 and it sounds like you have super high ambition and drive and you want to do big things and just

00:55:36.640 realize to do those big things right or wrong no matter what anybody thinks of it you're going to

00:55:42.180 have to dedicate most of your energy to it there's going to be people that don't approve there's going

00:55:46.340 to be people that say that's wrong they're going to be people that guilt you for it uh but i would tell

00:55:52.460 you this all of that shit is not worth not getting where you want to go it's just the truth right so

00:55:58.920 that would that's what i would do bro just audit it out build it out think about it and uh you know

00:56:05.040 have that conversation and you're going to be good bro i promise you everybody goes through this shit

00:56:10.380 yeah man i appreciate it yeah no um yeah no it's to the point where like you said during 25 you know

00:56:19.000 going into that you know transitionary phase um you know i want to win so bad that like it's coming at

00:56:27.060 all costs now like to where like it's i'm having this question with you guys today bro let me tell

00:56:33.460 but no i go ahead sorry about that let me let me tell you something dude it fucking takes everything

00:56:40.400 anybody who tells you it doesn't take everything is fucking lying they've never done it or they had

00:56:46.580 some sort of benefit they had some sort of benefit that you don't have like somebody to give them

00:56:52.440 money or an investment or a loan or they had anybody who's come from fucking base level and

00:57:00.800 built anything relevant i this is just reality i don't really give a fuck what anybody has to say

00:57:05.360 about it because none of them have done it i've done it right it takes fucking everything fucking

00:57:10.700 everything and here's the problem that you're going to have later in life because i'm just going

00:57:15.120 to tell you i'm 20 years older than you you're going to build the habit of giving everything for so long

00:57:20.400 that you find it really hard later to give it your energy to anything else so it's a it's a it's a

00:57:28.240 different life it's just a different fucking life um that most people will never understand so get

00:57:35.640 comfortable with that get used to it understand it's going to come with its unique challenges uh but

00:57:41.480 from someone who has been in your shoes i wouldn't trade it period yeah

00:57:47.700 no doubt all right brother no man i mean i don't want to take any more of you guys's time i mean

00:57:54.480 this is literally we're here for you bro days of my life yeah no i like seriously the wisdom i just

00:58:01.100 got is going to propel me i can't wait to see what 20 years from now my life's going to look like

00:58:07.080 um i just want to thank you guys uh the real life real af team on first form and all of everybody

00:58:13.420 and the entire teams that you know put out the stuff you guys do you guys are literally

00:58:17.440 doing god's work like i mean you guys are actually speaking god's word into the world like it's it's

00:58:23.040 amazing i've been listening for five years and i just can't thank you guys enough it this show truly

00:58:28.420 means a lot to me so well listen brother i we appreciate that and if you really want to repay us

00:58:35.440 go out and do what the fuck you're supposed to do all right and uh remember you have an obligation to

00:58:41.720 do this bro because your family you can see it in your family your family doesn't believe it's

00:58:46.840 possible think of the perspective switch that it's going to create in them for you to go out and do

00:58:53.460 this it's going to change their entire lives even if they're resistant to it now so your story

00:58:59.420 matters it's important that you go do this and it's not just about you even though it feels like it

00:59:03.880 is right now all right bro so keep that in mind whenever it gets hard yeah man no no last thing

00:59:10.820 i want to say is uh you know my mom she's eight months sober because she was so she's been so

00:59:15.940 inspired at how hard i work every single day there you go and my goals and already started everything

00:59:20.340 and it's just you know yeah it's little things like that that you you just you had to be grateful

00:59:25.000 for bro but um yeah no i don't i don't want to take any more of you guys's time seriously i know

00:59:29.620 you know you guys got the episode laid out and everything i already appreciate this call like

00:59:35.000 just so brother so you are the episode

00:59:38.040 hey don't be afraid to call us back in man i will check in from time to time i want to hear what's

00:59:47.140 going on yeah man yeah no definitely uh definitely got some you know other questions uh for the future

00:59:54.120 uh but yeah i'll definitely um keep sharing the show um you know don't be a hoe to all y'all out

00:59:59.680 there uh and uh yeah you know i'm just gonna keep following like i've always done uh you guys have

01:00:04.760 always impacted my life in tremendous ways already so all right brother well listen go do it go make

01:00:11.500 it happen and uh we'll see you at the fucking top yes sir i can't wait all right see your brother

01:00:17.820 all right we'll see you dj and andy bye fucking awesome dude that's sick it's fucking awesome

01:00:24.280 that's such a hard thing to deal with it is man but fuck dude i can hear it in his voice bro

01:00:28.660 dude it's hard he fucking gets it he gets it yeah it's real it's right around that time it's like all

01:00:34.340 right well i mean yeah dj gotta go it is what it is man like yeah it is what it is dude and and it's

01:00:40.600 hard because you fucking care about people but you know you got when you start where you know

01:00:47.160 when you start weighing out okay well what if i don't become what it is i want to become what if

01:00:52.780 i don't do this how am i going to feel about it it's it's really not worth anything else and i know

01:00:57.760 people are going to say well that's selfish well sometimes you got to be selfish to be selfless

01:01:02.020 that's the truth you have to be yeah that's right you have to so um man i really love that question

01:01:08.340 that call and i can just hear in his voice that he's fucking all about it that's refreshing dude

01:01:13.180 that shit gives me hope i really like these call-ins man like this is way cooler for us

01:01:18.580 than just reading someone's question you know i'm saying for sure it's cool about it man so

01:01:24.100 no doubt about it well guys andy that was four yeah uh share the show if you want some more yeah

01:01:31.920 share the darn show yeah share the darn show all right went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry

01:01:41.140 box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bank

01:01:48.300 roll can't fold just a no headshot case closed

01:01:52.040 roll can't fold just a no headshot case closed

01:02:10.960 thanks for listening all everyone in the expose

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 12, 2025

878. Q&AF： Is It Too Late For My Purpose, Feeling Aimless & Siblings Holding You Back

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