880. Real Talk： The Greatness Standard
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Summary
As promised, as promised, today we have a REAL talk about what it means to be a high performer, and why it's not about being exceptional. It's about overcoming the external standards and standards that are expected of you in order to become the best version of yourself.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome mother freaking reality that's the new
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rules i can't say the f word isn't that right that's right all right today as promised we have
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a real talk before we get into that though i do want to address something uh i witnessed a comment
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on uh monday's episode that talked about how the mfceo project has been massively delayed it's
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actually pretty funny because whoever made the comment said we don't know what's going to come
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first gta 6 or the mfceo and i just want to let you guys know that i recognize that that is true
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but i will also tell you that when you see what we've created you are going to be blown away all
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right and the truth of the matter is is if we started this project probably three or four times
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from scratch over to deliver what we feel is going to be the greatest personal development podcast
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ever um so while i know you guys are excited and i know some of you are getting a little frustrated
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just know that we are delivering something to you that is uh it's going to be fucking amazing
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all right so just want to reassure you guys uh this isn't something that we're taking lightly you
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know this is something that i truly care about it's something that is important to me um when we talk
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about personal excellence being the ultimate rebellion i want to make sure that we were doing everything
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that we could properly to make sure that we are helping people become the best version of themselves
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not just for themselves but for the culture all right for your household for your community
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uh for your state and for the country man we can't fix things if we don't fix ourselves and there's
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a way to do that right and then there's a way to deliver it kind of right and if you know anything
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about me kind of right it's just not going to be the way that i'm going to launch it so i do apologize
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for it taking a while but trust me when it launches you're going to be very excited so uh and and you
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know that's pretty consistent with gta 6 too i think right so it's an accurate comment but guys today i
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wanted to give you a real talk all right i've been promising you guys real talks i've been promising you
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that uh we were going to get more into that and i've got one for you today that i think is very
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important especially for uh you young guys who are out there listening who need to understand a few
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things one we are coming out of an era where mediocrity has been promoted very heavily and
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we have to understand that the reason that mediocrity has been promoted very heavily is because
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they want you to be a victim they want you to be helpless they want you to think that the standard
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at which you are held in your external environment is excellence and it's not okay no great person that
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ever existed on the face of this earth ever became great by just living to the standard of the external
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environment of which they were required all right and what does this mean this means when you go to
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your job or you go to your sports practice or you do whatever it is you're trying to do the standards
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that are expected of you are not the standards that create greatness okay high performers hold
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themselves to a higher standard than the one that they are given all right that's the separator between
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great people and average people that's the separator between earning a living and becoming wealthy
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that's the separator between nobody knowing who you are and every single motherfucker on the planet
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knowing who you are it's about exceeding the external standards okay and we think about great people
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and we think about greatness some of the people that i admire are people like kobe bryant all right
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michael jordan tom brady and none of those people lived up to the expectations okay kobe bryant worked
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exponentially harder than what the lakers expected of him tom brady he worked exponentially harder than
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what the patriots expected of him okay michael jordan the same way he's famous for being the first guy at
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practice and starting with chest passes all right think about this this guy's so obsessed with being
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great that he starts and perfects every single practice no matter how great he's been no matter how
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many championships he's won no matter how many mvps he starts with the basics to become great at the
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basics and builds from there okay these people are legendary because they understood something that a lot
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of people don't they understand that what is expected of you from the outside world is the price of admission to the game this is not
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exceptional and we live in a culture where we are being taught that just doing what is basic showing up getting it done
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showing up on time we have people brag about these things and we've all heard this right
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i show up on time i work hard i you know do what i'm supposed to do yeah bro that's why it's called
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what you're supposed to do that does not create wealth that doesn't create achievement that doesn't create
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greatness and we have been propagated over the last 15 or 20 years to believe that just because we show up
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we are owed the results of greatness without living to the standards of greatness all right so we have
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to set that expectation in ourselves people who become great understand very clearly that they have
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to exceed the framework of expectations that are put upon them at their job in their relationships in
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their community at their sport at whatever it is that they do you will never become great
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doing what's expected of you you will only become great by holding yourself to a much higher standard
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than that okay you can't win any other way and it doesn't matter what your teachers say it doesn't
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matter what your parents say it doesn't matter what your friends say i'm telling you right now if you want
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to live a great life if you want the world to recognize you as great if you want to make a lot of money
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if you want to make an impact you have to hold yourself to a standard that is far beyond what
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everybody else holds of you okay and that's going to come with criticism that's going to come with
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people saying hey man you know why you work so hard hey you know you don't have to do that hey uh
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you know you need to take a break yeah motherfucker if i want to be like you that's what i need to do
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but the reality is is that's not you and i know that's not you because you wouldn't be listening
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to this podcast if it was okay so we have to understand the external standard keeps us average
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the internal one is the one that makes us elite all right it's the bare minimum to live up to what
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other people expect of you and you will look crazy you will look obsessed you will look like you're doing
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things that are beyond the reasonable expectation and that's because you are because greatness is rare
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all right and when you're living to these other standards that people put on you you have to
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understand that that's their ceiling they're trying to get you to operate in a way that produces the
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result that they want and you will never find someone who will hold you to the standard of greatness
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the way that you can they don't have your own interests in mind they have their interests in
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mind and the sad truth is is that most people care about themselves and they don't care about you
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they want you to function in a way that gets their job done without actually creating greatness in you
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okay so you have to understand dude if you let their standards become your bar for success you can
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never be great you'll never find out what you're actually capable of you will live an average life
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with an average income with an average everything and that might be okay for you that might be what
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you want but that's not going to create greatness all right if you keep looking for someone to tell you
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to do more or to do extra or to hold you to a standard you're not going to become great dude it's going
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to have to come from inside you you have to understand that this is really what you're about
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and it's really what you want because nobody else is going to hold you to this all right the ones that
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win they do the shit that nobody asks them to do all right and they don't do it because they're trying
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to produce a result for the person that's asking them to do things they do it because they have an internal
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drive an ambition a hunger to be fucking great to be better than everybody else that is okay it is
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okay to want to be better than everybody else around you society teaches us that oh well you know what
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do you what are you trying to do you're trying to forget where you came from or you know hey you
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know i noticed you change yeah motherfucker that's the fucking point the point is to change the point is
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to become better the point is to live the life that you want not the bare minimum of what somebody else
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wants okay so your standard has to live inside of you it has to be in your heart it has to be in your
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blood and it has to be in your fucking soul and it has to be the way that you live you cannot live any
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other way if you want to be great it's about how you move when no one's watching it's about how you
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work when you're not going to get applause it's not about what you do on instagram it's about what
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you do in reality okay when the lights are off and everybody else has gone home and everybody else is
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taking a break and everybody else is just doing whatever they are going to do what are you doing
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then because that's going to determine what your life outcome is and the reason i say this because
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to a lot of you this is obvious but the reason i point this out is because a lot of you younger
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people under the age of 25 you've been taught that it is just about showing up on time and doing the job
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and going home five minutes after the clock and saying i stayed at late no dude if you want to be great
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if you want to get paid if you want to build something that matters create something that
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impacts people to live a life that you're proud of and fulfilled of you have to understand you're not
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working for the approval of others you are honoring the internal identity of the badass motherfucker that
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lives inside of you that you are too afraid to let the world see okay the real ones out here they
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don't wait to be pushed all right they fucking push themselves all right you can't build power
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you know on borrowed discipline and borrowed expectations and the standards of others you have to decide
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what is it that i want and then you have to set the bar so fucking high that the world's expectations
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feel like a fucking nap all right so that's it guys you have to understand greatness does not come
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from doing what you're supposed to do it also doesn't come from being like everybody else it doesn't
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come from you know living the life that everybody else wants you to live it comes from you deciding
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what you actually want and you saying i am willing to do whatever the fuck it takes to create that
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no matter how hard no matter how long no matter what i have to go through i will fucking get there
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and then on your day-to-day standard you have to live to that in your actions it's not enough
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to visualize it's not enough to talk about it it's not enough to post about it it's you have to live
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it it has to come from your heart it has to come from your soul and you can't worry about what
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everybody else is going to think about it because if everybody else is your barometer for approval
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you're going to end up living just like they live which is the whole fucking thing you're trying to
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avoid all right so guys if you want to be great if you want to create big things if you want to build
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awesome things if you want to impact the world and you want to make money and you want to do everything
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that great people do you have to understand that living to the standards of the expectations of other
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people will never get it done you have to exceed those and you can't just exceed them by a little
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bit you have to exceed them by a gazillion miles and you have to do that every motherfucking day it
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has to be your identity you can't just fake it if you fake it you'll end up being one of these people
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that says well i tried really hard well no one gives a fuck how hard you tried man that that doesn't
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matter what matters is what you did what you produced and the only way to do big things and
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produce big things is to hold a higher standard for yourself than anyone else holds on you now let's
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talk some tactics all right how do we do this how do we get better how do we hold a higher standard for
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ourselves how do we increase expectations all right it's very simple you have to learn to adhere
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to the plan that you set out no matter what that's the first thing you got to have that's why i
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developed live hard and 75 hard if you haven't done that program you need to go fucking do it because
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it's going to give you an unfair advantage over everybody else everybody else's living life having
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the circumstances of their life dictated to them by outside environments you know uh outside variables
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conditions if the weather's bad i can't work out if the pizza shows up oh fuck i'll start tomorrow
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if the beer shows up oh you know what i'll just have two they have no control over their environment
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and because they have no control over their environment they're not able to follow through
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on any plan so the first thing you got to do is you have to become a disciplined human being
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and i'm not talking a little discipline i'm talking 100 discipline in control of your environment
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and your actions at all times that's what the live hard program's about okay so if you haven't done it
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go do it you get it for fucking free at episode 208 on the audio feed all right go do it it'll give
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you the biggest unfair advantage you could ever have and then after you've developed this discipline
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or while you're developing the discipline you need to put a lot of thought into where you want to be
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where do you want to be what are you trying to do most people put more effort into making their plans
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for the weekend than they do for who they want to be and become and create in their life and when you
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say it like that it sounds ridiculous but tell me that's not true that is the fucking truth okay
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so don't be like that pick out where you want to be where do i want to be i want to be this
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and then work yourself backwards as good as you can into living as you are that person already
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meaning adopt their habits adopt their work ethic do the things they do role model their behavior
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all right to become something you have to pretend you're that thing in terms of your behavior
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before you actually become it all right so pick out what you want work backwards and behave as if that
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person is standing right fucking next to you telling you what to do is the person that you admire the
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most the person you want to be like the most going to be proud of your actions and the way that you're
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living if they're standing right next to you 24 hours a day that is a great barometer of your own
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success would kobe bryant respect you for your work ethic
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i ask myself that all the time would tom brady respect my work ethic he's standing right next to me
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that's a that's how you do this okay that's how you should think of these things now if you do
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those things if you develop the ability to adhere to a plan you decide where you want to go and then
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you keep the pressure on yourself day by day by day you will become one of these people that
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everybody remembers you will become a high earner you will become someone who creates greatness and
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maybe it's not money maybe it's i just want to be great at jujitsu or maybe it's just i want to be
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great at guitar whatever it is you're trying to be great at that is the way you should think about it
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okay we have an obligation to live at a high standard and set the example for people around us
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because there are going to be people that win or lose in life based upon what they see you do and you
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may not think that you're that important but i assure you no matter where you are in your life
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you have friends you have family you have people close to you who are going to look at you and then
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decide what is possible for themselves and if we really believe in changing things if we really
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believe in creating a better society the responsibility falls on us as individuals to create that example
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okay so it's not just about you it's not just about the outcome for you it's about what will people do
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if they see me do what i'm doing will they lay down and accept mediocrity and be an average
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motherfucker and never inspire anybody and be fat and be lazy and be unproductive and be poor or will
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those people see me do what i'm doing and become fucking great that's the underlying point all right
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so listen understand this the expectations of everybody else will cost you everything
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you've got to set your own you've got to become what it is you know you can become you've got to
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let that motherfucker that lives in your heart man that nobody knows about that you know you're
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supposed to become but you're afraid to you've got to let that motherfucker out you got to let him out
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all right i love you guys i appreciate you guys and i'll see you next time
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sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove counted millions in the code
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bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed