REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 880. Real Talk： The Greatness Standard

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.120 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome mother freaking reality that's the new

00:00:28.500 rules i can't say the f word isn't that right that's right all right today as promised we have

00:00:38.520 a real talk before we get into that though i do want to address something uh i witnessed a comment

00:00:44.920 on uh monday's episode that talked about how the mfceo project has been massively delayed it's

00:00:54.000 actually pretty funny because whoever made the comment said we don't know what's going to come

00:00:59.080 first gta 6 or the mfceo and i just want to let you guys know that i recognize that that is true

00:01:07.100 but i will also tell you that when you see what we've created you are going to be blown away all

00:01:17.940 right and the truth of the matter is is if we started this project probably three or four times

00:01:24.220 from scratch over to deliver what we feel is going to be the greatest personal development podcast

00:01:31.840 ever um so while i know you guys are excited and i know some of you are getting a little frustrated 0.66

00:01:40.960 just know that we are delivering something to you that is uh it's going to be fucking amazing 0.79

00:01:48.740 all right so just want to reassure you guys uh this isn't something that we're taking lightly you

00:01:54.040 know this is something that i truly care about it's something that is important to me um when we talk

00:02:00.460 about personal excellence being the ultimate rebellion i want to make sure that we were doing everything

00:02:05.780 that we could properly to make sure that we are helping people become the best version of themselves

00:02:12.120 not just for themselves but for the culture all right for your household for your community

00:02:18.360 uh for your state and for the country man we can't fix things if we don't fix ourselves and there's

00:02:24.760 a way to do that right and then there's a way to deliver it kind of right and if you know anything

00:02:29.240 about me kind of right it's just not going to be the way that i'm going to launch it so i do apologize

00:02:33.380 for it taking a while but trust me when it launches you're going to be very excited so uh and and you

00:02:40.560 know that's pretty consistent with gta 6 too i think right so it's an accurate comment but guys today i

00:02:47.100 wanted to give you a real talk all right i've been promising you guys real talks i've been promising you

00:02:51.060 that uh we were going to get more into that and i've got one for you today that i think is very

00:02:54.940 important especially for uh you young guys who are out there listening who need to understand a few

00:03:02.320 things one we are coming out of an era where mediocrity has been promoted very heavily and

00:03:11.340 we have to understand that the reason that mediocrity has been promoted very heavily is because

00:03:15.780 they want you to be a victim they want you to be helpless they want you to think that the standard

00:03:25.220 at which you are held in your external environment is excellence and it's not okay no great person that

00:03:34.880 ever existed on the face of this earth ever became great by just living to the standard of the external

00:03:42.900 environment of which they were required all right and what does this mean this means when you go to

00:03:49.080 your job or you go to your sports practice or you do whatever it is you're trying to do the standards

00:03:56.800 that are expected of you are not the standards that create greatness okay high performers hold

00:04:04.460 themselves to a higher standard than the one that they are given all right that's the separator between

00:04:10.680 great people and average people that's the separator between earning a living and becoming wealthy 0.99

00:04:17.460 that's the separator between nobody knowing who you are and every single motherfucker on the planet 0.89

00:04:23.880 knowing who you are it's about exceeding the external standards okay and we think about great people 0.97

00:04:30.680 and we think about greatness some of the people that i admire are people like kobe bryant all right

00:04:37.220 michael jordan tom brady and none of those people lived up to the expectations okay kobe bryant worked

00:04:46.020 exponentially harder than what the lakers expected of him tom brady he worked exponentially harder than

00:04:54.400 what the patriots expected of him okay michael jordan the same way he's famous for being the first guy at

00:05:03.020 practice and starting with chest passes all right think about this this guy's so obsessed with being

00:05:10.480 great that he starts and perfects every single practice no matter how great he's been no matter how

00:05:17.920 many championships he's won no matter how many mvps he starts with the basics to become great at the

00:05:25.360 basics and builds from there okay these people are legendary because they understood something that a lot

00:05:32.480 of people don't they understand that what is expected of you from the outside world is the price of admission to the game this is not

00:05:45.160 exceptional and we live in a culture where we are being taught that just doing what is basic showing up getting it done

00:05:55.760 showing up on time we have people brag about these things and we've all heard this right

00:06:00.900 i show up on time i work hard i you know do what i'm supposed to do yeah bro that's why it's called

00:06:07.980 what you're supposed to do that does not create wealth that doesn't create achievement that doesn't create

00:06:14.320 greatness and we have been propagated over the last 15 or 20 years to believe that just because we show up

00:06:22.180 we are owed the results of greatness without living to the standards of greatness all right so we have

00:06:29.340 to set that expectation in ourselves people who become great understand very clearly that they have

00:06:38.240 to exceed the framework of expectations that are put upon them at their job in their relationships in

00:06:45.500 their community at their sport at whatever it is that they do you will never become great

00:06:51.740 doing what's expected of you you will only become great by holding yourself to a much higher standard

00:06:59.020 than that okay you can't win any other way and it doesn't matter what your teachers say it doesn't

00:07:05.320 matter what your parents say it doesn't matter what your friends say i'm telling you right now if you want

00:07:10.420 to live a great life if you want the world to recognize you as great if you want to make a lot of money

00:07:15.560 if you want to make an impact you have to hold yourself to a standard that is far beyond what

00:07:22.380 everybody else holds of you okay and that's going to come with criticism that's going to come with

00:07:28.360 people saying hey man you know why you work so hard hey you know you don't have to do that hey uh 0.99

00:07:34.640 you know you need to take a break yeah motherfucker if i want to be like you that's what i need to do 0.99

00:07:40.100 but the reality is is that's not you and i know that's not you because you wouldn't be listening 0.99

00:07:45.520 to this podcast if it was okay so we have to understand the external standard keeps us average

00:07:53.540 the internal one is the one that makes us elite all right it's the bare minimum to live up to what

00:08:01.640 other people expect of you and you will look crazy you will look obsessed you will look like you're doing

00:08:09.060 things that are beyond the reasonable expectation and that's because you are because greatness is rare

00:08:16.900 all right and when you're living to these other standards that people put on you you have to

00:08:22.140 understand that that's their ceiling they're trying to get you to operate in a way that produces the

00:08:28.460 result that they want and you will never find someone who will hold you to the standard of greatness

00:08:35.160 the way that you can they don't have your own interests in mind they have their interests in

00:08:41.040 mind and the sad truth is is that most people care about themselves and they don't care about you

00:08:46.980 they want you to function in a way that gets their job done without actually creating greatness in you

00:08:54.620 okay so you have to understand dude if you let their standards become your bar for success you can

00:09:02.980 never be great you'll never find out what you're actually capable of you will live an average life

00:09:08.600 with an average income with an average everything and that might be okay for you that might be what

00:09:15.000 you want but that's not going to create greatness all right if you keep looking for someone to tell you

00:09:21.820 to do more or to do extra or to hold you to a standard you're not going to become great dude it's going

00:09:29.800 to have to come from inside you you have to understand that this is really what you're about

00:09:34.580 and it's really what you want because nobody else is going to hold you to this all right the ones that 0.96

00:09:40.320 win they do the shit that nobody asks them to do all right and they don't do it because they're trying 0.93

00:09:47.260 to produce a result for the person that's asking them to do things they do it because they have an internal 0.99

00:09:54.960 drive an ambition a hunger to be fucking great to be better than everybody else that is okay it is 0.82

00:10:04.940 okay to want to be better than everybody else around you society teaches us that oh well you know what 0.96

00:10:12.200 do you what are you trying to do you're trying to forget where you came from or you know hey you 1.00

00:10:17.360 know i noticed you change yeah motherfucker that's the fucking point the point is to change the point is 1.00

00:10:23.580 to become better the point is to live the life that you want not the bare minimum of what somebody else 1.00

00:10:29.600 wants okay so your standard has to live inside of you it has to be in your heart it has to be in your 0.98

00:10:37.540 blood and it has to be in your fucking soul and it has to be the way that you live you cannot live any 0.97

00:10:45.420 other way if you want to be great it's about how you move when no one's watching it's about how you 0.99

00:10:51.400 work when you're not going to get applause it's not about what you do on instagram it's about what

00:10:57.040 you do in reality okay when the lights are off and everybody else has gone home and everybody else is

00:11:02.840 taking a break and everybody else is just doing whatever they are going to do what are you doing

00:11:08.080 then because that's going to determine what your life outcome is and the reason i say this because

00:11:15.000 to a lot of you this is obvious but the reason i point this out is because a lot of you younger

00:11:22.260 people under the age of 25 you've been taught that it is just about showing up on time and doing the job

00:11:31.980 and going home five minutes after the clock and saying i stayed at late no dude if you want to be great

00:11:40.700 if you want to get paid if you want to build something that matters create something that

00:11:46.040 impacts people to live a life that you're proud of and fulfilled of you have to understand you're not 0.99

00:11:52.860 working for the approval of others you are honoring the internal identity of the badass motherfucker that 0.99

00:12:00.680 lives inside of you that you are too afraid to let the world see okay the real ones out here they 1.00

00:12:07.560 don't wait to be pushed all right they fucking push themselves all right you can't build power 0.91

00:12:13.800 you know on borrowed discipline and borrowed expectations and the standards of others you have to decide 0.98

00:12:20.440 what is it that i want and then you have to set the bar so fucking high that the world's expectations 0.94

00:12:27.160 feel like a fucking nap all right so that's it guys you have to understand greatness does not come 0.94

00:12:35.960 from doing what you're supposed to do it also doesn't come from being like everybody else it doesn't 0.98

00:12:44.220 come from you know living the life that everybody else wants you to live it comes from you deciding 0.92

00:12:50.040 what you actually want and you saying i am willing to do whatever the fuck it takes to create that 0.98

00:12:55.960 no matter how hard no matter how long no matter what i have to go through i will fucking get there 0.97

00:13:03.880 and then on your day-to-day standard you have to live to that in your actions it's not enough 0.90

00:13:09.460 to visualize it's not enough to talk about it it's not enough to post about it it's you have to live

00:13:16.920 it it has to come from your heart it has to come from your soul and you can't worry about what

00:13:22.820 everybody else is going to think about it because if everybody else is your barometer for approval 0.99

00:13:30.340 you're going to end up living just like they live which is the whole fucking thing you're trying to 0.94

00:13:35.420 avoid all right so guys if you want to be great if you want to create big things if you want to build 0.87

00:13:42.540 awesome things if you want to impact the world and you want to make money and you want to do everything

00:13:47.780 that great people do you have to understand that living to the standards of the expectations of other

00:13:56.360 people will never get it done you have to exceed those and you can't just exceed them by a little 0.89

00:14:01.180 bit you have to exceed them by a gazillion miles and you have to do that every motherfucking day it 0.89

00:14:07.820 has to be your identity you can't just fake it if you fake it you'll end up being one of these people 0.99

00:14:14.520 that says well i tried really hard well no one gives a fuck how hard you tried man that that doesn't 0.86

00:14:21.360 matter what matters is what you did what you produced and the only way to do big things and

00:14:27.440 produce big things is to hold a higher standard for yourself than anyone else holds on you now let's

00:14:36.640 talk some tactics all right how do we do this how do we get better how do we hold a higher standard for

00:14:43.420 ourselves how do we increase expectations all right it's very simple you have to learn to adhere

00:14:50.940 to the plan that you set out no matter what that's the first thing you got to have that's why i 0.97

00:14:56.480 developed live hard and 75 hard if you haven't done that program you need to go fucking do it because 0.94

00:15:02.720 it's going to give you an unfair advantage over everybody else everybody else's living life having 0.95

00:15:09.080 the circumstances of their life dictated to them by outside environments you know uh outside variables 0.99

00:15:17.220 conditions if the weather's bad i can't work out if the pizza shows up oh fuck i'll start tomorrow 0.86

00:15:24.260 if the beer shows up oh you know what i'll just have two they have no control over their environment 0.97

00:15:30.980 and because they have no control over their environment they're not able to follow through

00:15:35.100 on any plan so the first thing you got to do is you have to become a disciplined human being

00:15:40.060 and i'm not talking a little discipline i'm talking 100 discipline in control of your environment

00:15:47.000 and your actions at all times that's what the live hard program's about okay so if you haven't done it

00:15:53.100 go do it you get it for fucking free at episode 208 on the audio feed all right go do it it'll give 0.97

00:16:00.760 you the biggest unfair advantage you could ever have and then after you've developed this discipline

00:16:07.260 or while you're developing the discipline you need to put a lot of thought into where you want to be

00:16:12.260 where do you want to be what are you trying to do most people put more effort into making their plans

00:16:18.680 for the weekend than they do for who they want to be and become and create in their life and when you 0.97

00:16:23.900 say it like that it sounds ridiculous but tell me that's not true that is the fucking truth okay 0.94

00:16:29.120 so don't be like that pick out where you want to be where do i want to be i want to be this 0.99

00:16:35.720 and then work yourself backwards as good as you can into living as you are that person already

00:16:43.640 meaning adopt their habits adopt their work ethic do the things they do role model their behavior

00:16:51.280 all right to become something you have to pretend you're that thing in terms of your behavior

00:16:58.020 before you actually become it all right so pick out what you want work backwards and behave as if that

00:17:07.320 person is standing right fucking next to you telling you what to do is the person that you admire the 0.95

00:17:14.440 most the person you want to be like the most going to be proud of your actions and the way that you're 0.97

00:17:20.840 living if they're standing right next to you 24 hours a day that is a great barometer of your own

00:17:28.000 success would kobe bryant respect you for your work ethic

00:17:32.280 i ask myself that all the time would tom brady respect my work ethic he's standing right next to me

00:17:39.680 that's a that's how you do this okay that's how you should think of these things now if you do

00:17:45.680 those things if you develop the ability to adhere to a plan you decide where you want to go and then

00:17:53.000 you keep the pressure on yourself day by day by day you will become one of these people that

00:18:00.080 everybody remembers you will become a high earner you will become someone who creates greatness and

00:18:05.820 maybe it's not money maybe it's i just want to be great at jujitsu or maybe it's just i want to be

00:18:11.740 great at guitar whatever it is you're trying to be great at that is the way you should think about it

00:18:16.620 okay we have an obligation to live at a high standard and set the example for people around us

00:18:24.240 because there are going to be people that win or lose in life based upon what they see you do and you

00:18:30.940 may not think that you're that important but i assure you no matter where you are in your life

00:18:36.760 you have friends you have family you have people close to you who are going to look at you and then

00:18:43.320 decide what is possible for themselves and if we really believe in changing things if we really

00:18:49.360 believe in creating a better society the responsibility falls on us as individuals to create that example

00:18:56.880 okay so it's not just about you it's not just about the outcome for you it's about what will people do

00:19:05.120 if they see me do what i'm doing will they lay down and accept mediocrity and be an average 0.99

00:19:11.800 motherfucker and never inspire anybody and be fat and be lazy and be unproductive and be poor or will 0.99

00:19:18.800 those people see me do what i'm doing and become fucking great that's the underlying point all right 1.00

00:19:26.180 so listen understand this the expectations of everybody else will cost you everything 0.61

00:19:33.960 you've got to set your own you've got to become what it is you know you can become you've got to 1.00

00:19:40.120 let that motherfucker that lives in your heart man that nobody knows about that you know you're 1.00

00:19:46.780 supposed to become but you're afraid to you've got to let that motherfucker out you got to let him out 0.99

00:19:51.200 all right i love you guys i appreciate you guys and i'll see you next time 1.00

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 15, 2025

880. Real Talk： The Greatness Standard

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