REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 889. Q&AF： Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers

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00:02:43.000 right what's up top of the morning to you yeah good morning yeah how's it going good yeah got a big

00:02:49.040 week this week big week summer smash laying out some stuff oh our first live show ever first live

00:02:56.960 show first live show ever yeah live like with a live crowd with a live studio audience yeah that

00:03:03.700 is uh friday at 1 at 1 p.m yeah friday at 1 here at hq the first live relay f it's gonna be this

00:03:12.080 gonna be sick it is gonna be awesome it's gonna be sick i can't wait till we start our tour yeah

00:03:15.760 you know what i'm saying our tour what was the wink for because i'm people don't know the intricacies

00:03:20.500 of the tour oh gotcha yeah of a tour there's a secret thing about the tour that you don't know 0.62

00:03:25.760 yeah man i'm excited though it's gonna be cool bro i think i think it's gonna kick ass 0.61

00:03:31.160 i think so too yeah yeah i think so too i love doing the crowd shit we should open up with like 0.82

00:03:37.500 some like some like two minutes of stand-up i think we should open up with like two minutes 0.82

00:03:41.800 of just blatant racism i'm listen i think that's unavoidable sold

00:03:46.440 according to the internet i'll be since we are the far to this right and the the most missed yeah

00:03:56.100 i still love that that's great i love that we were ranked number one as opposed to them

00:04:02.500 that means we're the best i love it i love it no it's gonna be great if you missed this uh

00:04:07.140 you should go back and listen to last week's cti the first one last week which was wednesday's show

00:04:12.000 uh go check that out we talk about how um we're basically number one podcast in the world

00:04:18.020 yeah man second to al i mean yeah only yeah yeah alex joe right behind us you know what i'm saying

00:04:25.980 that's right i mean i you know i don't i don't know if i can agree with that but yeah no it's crazy

00:04:31.700 man but yeah no they love us over there it's gonna be a good week it's gonna be a good week so we got

00:04:35.260 to get us started off with some heat some fire heat where there's smoke there's there's heat and

00:04:42.280 fire there's friction yes and chafing no lotion let's get into it man i got some good ones for

00:04:51.360 you guys dj keeps johnson and johnson you know that's his company yeah johnson yeah he's sponsored

00:04:56.740 by them they're my dad he's their best customer they're your dad they're my two dads yeah that's it

00:05:04.000 that's what it is man but no man let's get let's get let's get monday going to a good two we gotta

00:05:08.660 let's do a call in first uh let's get adriana on the line all right adriana oh let's do it

00:05:17.520 hello adriana hi hi how you doing this dj what's going on

00:05:26.960 not much just finishing up a meeting how are y'all oh sweet we're doing a second i got any

00:05:32.980 good adriana hello how are you fabulous thank you so much for asking all right is this a good time

00:05:41.220 oh yeah absolutely how did the meeting go the meeting good dj hello yeah hey no i said how did

00:05:51.920 the meeting uh well there's a reason why i asked the question i did today okay well let's do it let's

00:06:00.920 get into it what you got so i just kind of wanted to see you know at what point do you stop pouring

00:06:11.000 into something especially when it won't receive what i bring to the team um it the team sees me as

00:06:25.340 a leader but i'm not empowered to lead by the owner um i believe in the mission

00:06:33.120 i'm a manager i have attempted to put a lot of things in place but i'm kind of at a crossroads of

00:06:44.200 you know when is enough enough you know do i stop being underused here and

00:06:53.040 grow where my value is honored or even i'm on a crossroad of opening up my own business

00:07:01.460 okay well let me ask you this when you say uh you're not empowered by the leadership to lead

00:07:12.160 what do you mean by that because you also said you're a manager so i'm confused on what you're

00:07:16.220 saying there absolutely so i was hired as the manager um background i've had 10 years

00:07:28.640 of running hotels and switched career paths and got into wellness and health and i understood

00:07:41.260 from the initial interview that me coming into this team was to help build create sops and

00:07:52.940 help grow the business

00:07:54.420 um but as i've come into the company again i had moved away for a few months and then moved back

00:08:08.020 um because i moved out of state but i was still always helping

00:08:13.020 and when i came back we're hitting our two-year anniversary this week

00:08:18.360 and there's still no use of sops um there's no contracts even for us as employees and there's

00:08:32.180 just been multiple conversations about trying to create a background for the business so we can be

00:08:41.580 successful have you had these discussions with your leadership yes it's one owner she's the doctor

00:08:51.380 um i on my third conversation and what how do those conversations typically go

00:08:58.980 they are typically very positive but no follow-through

00:09:07.620 okay now when you say no follow-through is it possible that she's waiting for you to follow

00:09:14.900 through i have presented all documents and followed up on my end

00:09:24.580 what what what are you waiting for her what are you waiting for her to do is what i'm trying to 0.60

00:09:30.960 understand yeah absolutely um the best way for me to put it is that

00:09:41.800 though i'm the manager she won't allow me to rule anything out

00:09:49.500 so she's saying no don't do this or she's saying wait or is she what is she's like micromanaging

00:09:57.220 yeah like i'm trying to understand where the block is like like because dude a lot of times in

00:10:02.160 leadership you know like for example uh let's say somebody would bring me a plan of how to do

00:10:09.620 something um well i'm not going to do it like that's their job to do it so i don't know if

00:10:19.040 the situation is she's telling you no or she's looking for you to take initiative to develop on

00:10:27.600 your own i'm trying to figure out where the block is absolutely so what are our meeting today

00:10:35.640 any of the initiatives that i put forward and have been attempting to understand

00:10:43.280 i was told that she was not comfortable doing that until end of year maybe next year

00:10:52.200 when we hit our three years well so you have an intermediary between you and her is that correct

00:11:02.120 no it's um me directly to her so she's telling you i want to wait until the end of the year

00:11:09.960 yeah is she giving you a reason why

00:11:13.580 she says that it is too busy to put any of the processes in place is that true

00:11:22.180 it's definitely very busy but i don't believe we can grow

00:11:29.160 unless we have these processes in play so when you have because well when you have these discussions

00:11:37.440 do you push back on her and say hey listen if we put these in i think we can grow faster

00:11:42.520 yes and what she said

00:11:45.500 today the line has been

00:11:50.620 just then i want to put a playbook in place for the office but use your best judgment

00:12:03.480 it's your decision but then she does not support it

00:12:09.700 yes well do you think that it's going to work

00:12:14.440 yes well then go do it and then you already have you already have one foot out anyway you're

00:12:23.440 already thinking about other things um at the at worst case scenario you go do it

00:12:30.740 and it doesn't work and you get to learn a lesson on her behalf like you're not gonna you don't lose

00:12:36.700 you know first of all let me say this i don't think she's leading properly but i also don't

00:12:43.060 think you're doing your job properly all right i think there's both there's both people at fault

00:12:47.620 here one she's not communicating or supporting or standing up and saying this is why we can't do this

00:12:54.300 she's not giving you clarity which is causing you to have frustration and resentment and bitterment

00:12:59.620 and question should i even be here or not on the other hand i can see it from her point of view

00:13:07.080 which is she may be thinking well we're too busy um and dude there could be financial issues that

00:13:16.180 she doesn't want to disclose to you it could be a re i don't know i don't know these things okay

00:13:20.920 but i can tell you this there's been a lot of times in my business where people wanted to do things

00:13:26.100 that were good ideas and i said hey man we gotta wait and they didn't understand why and the real

00:13:31.060 reason why was because we had too much money out at the time and we had to we had to you know be

00:13:36.380 careful about making any investments and and things and so um there could be my point saying that is

00:13:43.240 there could be some hidden reasons that she's not willing to disclose that could be causing hesitation

00:13:48.520 so my advice here is okay you asked in the beginning about maybe going somewhere else

00:13:54.760 or maybe going uh and starting your own business so if that's how you truly feel then what do you have

00:14:02.980 to lose by doing it and and and trying to do and by the way i'm not saying doing it so it fails i'm saying

00:14:10.780 doing it the absolute best that you can to try and win because at the end of the day if it doesn't work

00:14:17.860 you're going to learn something and that you'll be able to take that with you and if you take that

00:14:23.280 to a new passion or a new career or a new company you'll have that lesson in place but it sounds like

00:14:30.520 you're pretty confident that it's going to work so it could be a really good opportunity for you to

00:14:36.360 gain her complete trust and then end up in a position where you truly do feel fulfilled

00:14:42.060 and respected and appreciated um and i gotta be honest with you okay there's been i could think

00:14:48.960 of a lot of every single one of my main leaders that that we have here in our company um

00:14:55.120 every one of them this situation happened along the way at one point in time they had an idea

00:15:03.580 i didn't like the idea i gave them the opportunity to execute the idea the idea worked and then i started

00:15:11.320 trusting them more to have more responsibility so depending on how seasoned this woman is as your

00:15:18.540 leader um she probably has a lesson to learn about that as well because we as entrepreneurs

00:15:24.620 tend to think sometimes that we're the only ones capable of doing things and uh you know we have to

00:15:33.640 see someone do something to really learn to trust them so what i actually think is here for you is

00:15:40.240 i think it's a tremendous opportunity i think it's tremendous opportunity for you to step up

00:15:45.880 for you to make some changes for you to make the company more profitable and to earn trust earn respect

00:15:53.200 be seen for what you actually are and what you actually do bring to the table and by the way i'm sure

00:15:59.500 you moving away for a while has affected this it's a it's the ability for you to make that up too

00:16:04.960 so i think this is a tremendous opportunity for you if you if you do it well if you don't do it well

00:16:14.200 i still think it's a tremendous opportunity because you're going to learn a lesson that you're going to

00:16:18.040 take with you and it's not going to um personally cost you anything because otherwise you'd have to

00:16:24.640 learn that lesson in your own business and that would be expensive so my my recommendation is

00:16:29.940 you know hey sometimes leadership has to be taken not given all right so yeah it's it's you know

00:16:38.000 every one of my great leaders of our our great leaders here and and really any of the companies

00:16:45.040 that we own they took they took the leadership they didn't wait to get it they took it and i think

00:16:52.020 that's one of the biggest disconnects between uh you know executive owners operators

00:16:58.020 and employees trying to work their way up a lot of employees have good ideas and good plans

00:17:05.880 and they're afraid to bring them up well and then they get mad that you don't value them for what they 0.98

00:17:11.620 bring well how the fuck can i value someone when i don't even know what the fuck they think in their 0.99

00:17:15.580 head so number one they they have to learn to bring those things to the leadership number two 0.99

00:17:22.620 the leadership if they've been in it long enough may have seen this before they may have said hey 0.90

00:17:30.060 we tried that back in 2017 we got our asses kicked so if this was going to work it would have to be

00:17:35.780 different than that and then you might have to go back and redo it and because that person wasn't

00:17:40.220 there in 2017 they might take that personally that's not a personal thing then there could also

00:17:46.960 be a situation where the employee has a good idea and just does it without asking anything and that's

00:17:52.480 also bad because like i said if they if they go back and change something without you know informing

00:17:59.520 the leadership they run the risk of stepping on a landmine that we've already stepped on before

00:18:04.480 so there's a way to do this and the way to do it is exactly how you're doing it minus the taking

00:18:11.360 initiative okay so you came up with a plan you didn't just put it in you you went to the owner

00:18:19.280 you said hey this is what i think we should do she seems like she's indecisive about whether or not she

00:18:26.480 wants to do it you feel that you're very confident which is what she hired you to do she hired you to

00:18:32.360 make the business better you feel very confident so your job is to make these changes and i would

00:18:41.040 you know do what you need to do and yes there's some risk to it but is there really because you're

00:18:47.840 going to learn either way and that's that's kind of that's where i'm sitting on it what do you think

00:18:56.240 i i completely agree i think my biggest problem is as her the owner i didn't want to

00:19:02.800 completely overstep boundaries um but i know that for her she has had no leadership experience

00:19:13.760 prior opening this business okay and being the doctor well then she probably doesn't trust anybody

00:19:20.080 to do anything and you're gonna have to show her that that listen if here's what's gonna happen if you

00:19:28.240 don't show her that that you could do this that company will never grow or expand because she'll

00:19:35.440 never trust anybody and you'll rot away in that career so here's your options stay where you are

00:19:40.720 and rot do what you think is the best and the company grows or you do nothing and you you waste away

00:19:50.400 in a company because the ownership doesn't know how to allow people to lead they don't know how to delegate

00:19:55.360 yeah i'm just thinking about it from this aspect too like the i think the intention matters a lot

00:19:59.680 right like if you're truly trying to do something that you truly believe is going to help you can't 0.89

00:20:04.720 really go wrong with that i mean you can if you're stupid right right okay right but she's got she has 0.97

00:20:10.640 a lot of experience she knows she's she's made the plan she's presented the plan the owner said hey not 0.98

00:20:18.400 right now and then she said today hey uh well you do what you want but i don't necessarily think we

00:20:26.160 should do it right now and that's the owner's way of having an out if it goes wrong and she can hold 1.00

00:20:31.920 adriana accountable right okay so told you this wouldn't work that's right so adriana's job is to

00:20:38.400 go make it work and make the owner kind of have to eat a little eat a little crow so that so that adriana 1.00

00:20:45.120 gets the trust and the respect and i bet after that the tone i know after that the tone will

00:20:50.160 change and that dynamic will change between the owner and adriana and then she'll be free to do her 0.97

00:20:56.080 job so this could be your your chance to get what you want and what you wanted out of this the whole

00:21:02.160 time yeah so you i could tell you're sad and frustrated but listen man you got nothing to lose

00:21:10.480 at this point because you're already miserable you're already thinking about doing other

00:21:13.760 you're already pissed off they don't listen to you sometimes you just got to do the and show

00:21:19.120 them you know what i mean yeah like i've had a number of guys who in my company that got promoted

00:21:26.800 that i was like dude why would you promote that guy and then and then you know what they turned out

00:21:32.480 to be awesome you see what i'm saying there's i mean oh yeah you had to eat the crow yeah well i mean

00:21:39.280 i don't have a problem with that because like dude my i'm not trying to be right i'm trying to

00:21:43.200 win trying to win bro so you know i can only see the you know remember

00:21:50.960 the owners that they can't see the front lines man like that's like the general saying they can

00:21:56.640 see the front line you can't see the front line you don't know what's actually going on in the

00:22:01.040 trenches you have to learn to listen to those people and you have to be able to determine who's full of 1.00

00:22:06.960 shit because some guys and some girls will just tell you shit so their job gets easier 0.98

00:22:12.800 but you have to learn who the people you could trust are and this is a great opportunity for adriana to 0.99

00:22:18.000 earn the trust of her ownership by going out doing something doing it well making sure it works and then

00:22:27.760 that will that will not just teach the owner that will allow the business to scale which will benefit all

00:22:34.560 the employees so love it yeah that's that's that's what i think

00:22:43.440 can you do it yeah i i definitely can all right you got nothing to lose you got nothing to lose

00:22:53.520 no i don't

00:22:56.800 all right well let's go do it

00:22:57.920 no honestly i'm about to go back into the room and get things going all right good

00:23:06.080 love it man good love it well appreciate you for calling in as you're on appreciate it

00:23:11.440 no i appreciate you guys on a little back end i've on 75 hard for the second time and i've lost 100

00:23:17.600 pounds and i just appreciate everything that you guys do thank you so much that's that's that's why we

00:23:24.080 do it it's amazing that is uh that is that is awesome news congratulations on that

00:23:30.560 no i just greatly appreciate you listen to you every week religiously thank you so much

00:23:38.320 go out thank you for your time guys if you if you listen do what you know how to do do it the best you

00:23:45.200 can earn her trust it'll change your whole life it'll change her life it'll change the employees lives

00:23:50.240 yeah you actually have a duty to do it yes i do all right let's go do it let us know how it works out

00:24:00.960 of course thank you guys so much all right thank you

00:24:05.120 that's awesome yeah man that's awesome you know i was thinking too like one of the other reasons

00:24:09.680 and this may not be this situation but

00:24:14.160 other people other owner operators decision makers entrepreneurs who are who are simply

00:24:20.160 just afraid to grow from where they are like they're they're cool where they are and like

00:24:25.680 growth i guess can scare them is that is that a thing yeah but it's not yes but it doesn't work in

00:24:33.040 real life okay like because it it betrays the reality of the market yeah the reality of the market is there's

00:24:42.560 all it's always moving forward okay so you're moving forward okay and you decide i like it right

00:24:50.160 here yeah this is cool but the market continues to move forward people are innovating they're trying

00:24:55.760 harder they're getting aggressive they want to grow eventually they they swallow you up so they're in

00:25:02.960 business you there is no coast and that's what kills people man they think that they get to a certain

00:25:11.280 level and everything will just be all right it's not how it works man very rarely does that work

00:25:17.680 and it certainly doesn't work long term it might work for a year it might work for two years but it's

00:25:24.160 not going to work that long and we see this in uh usually multi-generational businesses where the

00:25:31.600 dad or the mom who owned the business worked very hard to grow it the kids come in and they look around

00:25:37.360 and they're like well dude i'm rich it's cool yeah i got this business and they don't do and they

00:25:42.880 don't try to get aggressive and they're going to the lake on thursday and coming back on monday and

00:25:48.880 you know walking around the office acting like they're a big deal when all the other people are

00:25:53.440 doing carrying all the water bro so and then those companies lose like business is the most competitive

00:26:00.240 sport on the planet it is way more competitive than any other physical sport it is the consequences

00:26:11.520 are way higher because we're not talking about winning a game we're talking about people's

00:26:16.080 lives can they eat or can they not eat can they go to the store or can they not go to the store can

00:26:22.080 they have a pay their rent or can they not pay their rent those are much higher consequences than

00:26:27.120 winning a football game and so to think that it's not the most competitive thing it is

00:26:34.720 the most competitive thing and if you think that you're going to come into the game and run your game

00:26:41.200 half ass you're gonna get eaten up dude so yes there's owners that do that but it never works 0.87

00:26:51.040 and it is a common thing yeah you know like they say like like more common than you think no here's 0.98

00:26:58.000 what they say they you see this on the internet too bro like they say like well i don't want to make

00:27:04.160 any more money than i make right now but and that's fine okay don't pay yourself anymore but you better

00:27:11.200 go to work every day and work your ass off to keep your business going you see what i'm saying i don't 0.77

00:27:16.560 necessarily need to make any more money okay i get that yeah i i'm not saying everybody has to be 0.98

00:27:21.280 fucking warren buffett nobody not everybody wants to drive a fucking ferrari or a bugatti or 0.99

00:27:28.240 fucking whatever man not everybody wants to live in a a big ass house i totally get it but the game 0.99

00:27:36.240 is still the same you know what i'm saying like you better show up and you better be ready to go to battle 0.99

00:27:42.480 every day and people will say i hate when people use the term war and battle and business well

00:27:47.840 have you ever done it you know what i'm saying like it's pretty brutal bro i don't know of a better

00:27:53.440 analogy you know like you're gonna live or die because of it you're either gonna survive or you're

00:27:58.720 gonna starve it takes everything you got a hundred percent of your focus all the time and yeah while it

00:28:04.640 may not kill you today it'll probably eventually kill you i mean that's the truth so i just you know

00:28:12.800 i think people have big misconceptions about what business is really about and um 0.98

00:28:20.880 yeah man it's it's it's it's fucking hard and you better be showing up every day

00:28:26.320 i think a lot i think a lot of people up to a lot of owners because they think only really about 0.97

00:28:35.440 themselves like if you want to know if an owner gives a about their team pay attention to how much

00:28:40.480 they're actually in the office and how much they actually do do they walk around and and know their

00:28:46.080 names and ask how they're doing and find out about them do they know like anything about their people

00:28:51.600 do they are they there are they trying to win you know what i'm saying like i don't know if it were

00:28:58.880 me and i didn't own businesses i would certainly want to work for someone that gave a and and dude 0.99

00:29:04.400 you know the ones that don't and usually end up losing long term and you know why they end up losing

00:29:09.680 long term because eventually they can't find anybody that's competent to work for them because all the

00:29:14.720 good talent and all the good skills wants to work for a team that's actually trying to do some 0.77

00:29:18.960 shit like dude the the idea that a lot of owners of businesses have that they want to attract the 0.84

00:29:28.160 best talent but also not like aggressively have a big mission to accomplish is a flawed idea because 0.93

00:29:37.920 do you think that people that work that are the best do you think that they just want to show up and 0.97

00:29:42.720 go through the motions right that's not how they think they think like fuck dude i want to you know i 0.93

00:29:47.680 want to do something great yeah i want to i want to build something awesome i want to be a part of 0.99

00:29:51.920 a winning team i don't want to be a part of some schlub half-ass organization that gets excited 0.67

00:29:58.080 because it's karen's birthday oh we got cake in the cake room no one wants that no one wants that 0.99

00:30:07.120 shit no pizza party yeah your pizza party day woo like no one wants i mean pizza parties are cool 0.98

00:30:13.040 but i mean just saying like when you work at a company where the idea of company culture is a 0.99

00:30:18.800 fucking pizza party you know like that's the wrong place bro and uh you know like that's only going to 0.90

00:30:25.840 become more important with the technology changes that are happening because there's going to be a 0.99

00:30:31.200 lot of people that won't have jobs and there's going to be a lot of people who are really good that

00:30:34.960 are looking for places to build and so i i think there's going to be a big uh sort of revolution in

00:30:41.440 in all business uh and i feel really good about where we're at because like we've been doing this 0.71

00:30:46.800 shit the whole time that's real man i love it man guys let's get to our next question we got it right

00:30:51.200 in here uh let's get to question number two andy where do you draw the line when it comes to being 0.99

00:31:01.040 ethical and wanting to make money the fuck are you talking about well we'll get into it i don't need to 0.91

00:31:08.240 hear the rest of the question there there's only one way to make money long term it's by solving 0.99

00:31:14.960 motherfuckers problems okay what's unethical about solving someone's actual problems if you are in a 0.93

00:31:22.320 business that sells something that doesn't actually solve their problem you should look for something 0.99

00:31:28.000 else to do because eventually people will figure it out they have the ability to go on the internet and 0.99

00:31:33.680 say fuck those guys they didn't help me they didn't provide a service they showed up late they 0.99

00:31:39.520 charged me too much they've bullshitted me and then what happens after not a long time is that they go 1.00

00:31:45.760 away so you have to understand and this is the truth and a lot of people will always argue this

00:31:52.160 because they don't understand really anything about how this works you are paid in proportion to the

00:31:58.240 value that you deliver and that value that you deliver has to be real you have to solve their 0.99

00:32:04.080 fucking problem whatever it is if it's a plumber you got to fix the fucking leak real well and then 0.98

00:32:10.320 i would recommend maybe taking care of one or two other things that you see need to be fixed so you can 0.99

00:32:14.880 go and say hey man i fixed the leak oh by the way i noticed this was squeaking i took care of that i did

00:32:20.160 this i took care of that and you know what i i did it for free no big deal anytime you need something 0.99

00:32:25.280 call me i'll come take care of it then what happens is a person goes on their motherfucking 0.98

00:32:29.440 phone and they say i had joe the plumber come to my house man fuck he was awesome dude everybody should 0.99

00:32:35.360 go to joe that's how it works okay so money being made unethically is short money it will come and it 0.76

00:32:44.480 will go and you will be broke that is reality you cannot make money and by the way life is long so it's

00:32:51.600 very important that you do this the right way because if you don't you will be in and out and

00:32:57.360 everybody will know you're a full of scammer whether and i'm not talking about just on the internet

00:33:02.800 i'm talking about real life real people dude there there was people that uh went to assemble emily's 0.91

00:33:09.600 new office furniture they showed up for one day they assembled one table out of like 17. 0.65

00:33:15.760 then they left and they never came back okay so that that's fucked up they will not be in business 0.99

00:33:23.760 very long you see what i'm saying they took the whole money too by the way they got paid up front 0.92

00:33:29.360 so we gotta make some calls but the point is is that the short money is non-valuable service it's it's

00:33:39.200 unethical the only way to make money these days is by doing things ethical in the long term that's

00:33:47.360 it that's fucking it and so as long as you're doing that you should have no problem taking the money 0.92

00:33:51.840 because i think that like yeah that's what this guy's asking about so i do want to read this real 0.99

00:33:55.760 quick well hold on what what the fuck 0.94

00:34:01.280 you earned the money you solved the problem dude this is broke thinking well i mean 0.99

00:34:06.800 yeah all right just fucking read yeah well so he's saying i've dealt with a thousand 0.98

00:34:09.920 motherfuckers like this yeah so he's saying that give me the money send it to me i will ethically 0.99

00:34:15.040 take your money you don't want the money because you think there's something unethical about you 1.00

00:34:19.840 bro you're thinking is i don't even have to read the fucking question it's a good question it's a 0.97

00:34:24.000 fair question all right okay it's a fair question so he just started a uh a yard and land service 0.98

00:34:29.680 company okay his business partner they just booked their first client she's an elderly widow 0.70

00:34:35.360 living off social security um and the the the quote that they gave her was 500 bucks they felt

00:34:41.520 like that's fair for the work right but he's saying his gut is telling him that he needs to do it for

00:34:45.680 free um his business mind says take the 500 um and his last side says to do it for 300 or like at some

00:34:52.560 type of discount um and uh he's asking if that like where's the don't do it for a discount do it for free

00:34:59.680 sometimes you're going to do things for free sometimes there's going to be things that you do 0.93

00:35:03.600 because of the right fucking thing to do okay okay i used to plow fucking driveways when i didn't have 0.99

00:35:09.920 any money i'd fucking plow streets and driveways people would fucking the old people i'd do for 1.00

00:35:15.840 free every because they couldn't do it yeah that's what you do yeah okay um if you have a feeling in 0.98

00:35:23.680 your gut that says hey i need to you know do something good don't do it as a discount because

00:35:28.960 here's the thing she will tell all even though you did a nice thing she will tell everybody oh

00:35:35.200 steve and bob gave me a discount and then you'll be getting asked for a discount from everybody

00:35:40.320 so do it for free or do it for full price when i speak i do it for free or i do it for full price

00:35:46.720 i don't do any negotiating all right because i don't want the deal to be taught i don't i'm not

00:35:52.880 dealing with negotiation all right so that is that is not an ethical problem that is a decision

00:36:02.320 for you to make because you think it's the right thing to do by the way if you do the job and you

00:36:09.520 take the money there's nothing unethical about that there's nothing unethical about that as long

00:36:15.520 as you do the best job that you can and i bet she will still tell everybody hey joe and bob did a

00:36:21.680 great job and they did it for a fair price and you know so this this is probably just a lot of times

00:36:27.920 when people start businesses dude it's very very hard for them to ask for the money i don't know what

00:36:35.520 that is but i struggle with it too is it a worth thing like they don't know if the service or product

00:36:40.560 yeah it's yes bro it's like well here's here's what it is it goes back to what i was saying in the

00:36:45.440 beginning of the question okay we grow up being told by our families and teachers and everybody we 0.99

00:36:54.960 know hey look at that rich motherfucker he's screwing everybody okay so that gets beat in 1.00

00:37:01.920 our head and dude honestly that was the case for a long time let me explain why when the advertising 0.99

00:37:11.120 world started a hundred years ago and it started you know we had television radio print okay there

00:37:17.920 was no ecosystem for feedback other than word of mouth and word of mouth took years to spread all

00:37:25.120 right so if you and by the way companies figure this out very quickly so what they were able to do is

00:37:32.000 instead of running an ad that was true they could completely lie and their products weren't what they

00:37:40.160 say they were and really what it came down to is the bigger the promise the more sales so so what's

00:37:46.960 that mean that usually means the bigger the lie the more sales okay but it took people years to

00:37:54.720 figure this out that this was happening so these companies would get really big okay so people that

00:38:00.960 are older than us would look at these rich people and say that guy's screwing

00:38:05.120 everybody and that's where that comes from okay then business changed when the internet came around

00:38:12.640 specifically when social media came around there became a instant feedback mechanism that allowed

00:38:18.880 customers to hold companies accountable for actually doing what they say they will so a lot of you young

00:38:24.560 people you don't really understand that the perception of older people thinking that rich people are 0.87

00:38:31.520 fucking evil and bad and this and that and you've heard that your whole life because that was their 0.54

00:38:37.680 perspective of how things were marketed yeah all right that does not work now it's complete opposite 0.98

00:38:46.160 now yeah so so you bit so here's where we're at you a lot of people have been told that rich people are

00:38:53.040 evil and they steal and they're unethical and they're this and they're that and this and there is a lot of 0.99

00:38:57.360 those still but they only stay around for a little bit look at all these motherfuckers on the internet 1.00

00:39:02.640 who scam people and look where they are and a year from that all right they're usually gone 0.98

00:39:09.840 and if they're not gone yet they're gonna be gone all right so

00:39:16.400 we're in a different era now so all these things that you've been told about wealthy people are actually

00:39:22.960 completely untrue because for the last 25 years there has been accountability there has been a

00:39:30.800 requirement that if you become successful it's because you offer a great service and you solve a great

00:39:39.360 problem and because of that you are handsomely rewarded with money and so now the way the system's set up

00:39:48.000 if you are going to become wealthy you have to have done it in a somewhat and probably highly ethical

00:39:57.920 way okay now are there exceptions like on the comments oh i know i know this one yeah okay come 0.99

00:40:04.240 back in three years and tell them where the fuck he is all right that is the only long-term way to win 0.97

00:40:10.880 apple computer is one of the biggest companies in the world they sell a fucking laptop that's three times 0.98

00:40:17.440 four times ten times as much as everybody else's you know why because it's better okay everything's 0.96

00:40:24.560 like that now because the market is so transparent the values have have become they have they're no

00:40:30.960 longer perceived they're real does this make sense absolutely okay so because if apple wasn't that good

00:40:37.920 we would know it would you buy would you buy a three thousand dollar laptop if you bought one that 0.97

00:40:42.640 sucked no okay no nobody else would either that's how the fuck it works okay so the best products win 0.99

00:40:51.920 that's it and that's how it should be so uh this idea that you know wealthy people are screwing people no 0.99

00:41:02.320 most of those wealthy people have provided way more value than you'll probably ever provide in your whole 0.91

00:41:06.960 life and so when you try to dog them out for being rich and successful you look like a clown okay because

00:41:13.840 the only way to win in today's economy is to be the real deal all right so that caught this entire

00:41:22.880 perception that your parents and your teachers and people older people have beaten your head is

00:41:28.160 inaccurate now was it accurate when they grew up yes but it's different now okay and it's been long enough

00:41:36.160 to where 99 of the companies that are alive today that have been alive for the last decade let's say

00:41:44.240 five to ten year minimum i say ten years they're they wouldn't survive if they weren't like that

00:41:50.480 okay so uh back to the yard mowing um if you feel like in your heart you should do it because it's the

00:41:57.280 right thing do it because it's the right thing and what's it gonna take you you know what i'm saying like

00:42:02.960 you're gonna feel good about it you're gonna get some goodwill you know maybe she said maybe she'll

00:42:07.520 tell people that you did it for free uh but what you want to avoid is the discount situation okay you

00:42:14.560 want to avoid people saying oh oh it's up for negotiation because they did it for half price for me

00:42:20.960 because that will automatically devalue your services in everybody's eyes if they know it's negotiable

00:42:25.840 you either do a full price or you do it for free and that's it i love it i love it guys we got one

00:42:33.440 more uh let's get our third and final question got another call by the way how do you know that that 0.92

00:42:39.360 lady's not sitting on dude i was thinking bro listen people are rich as fuck that's right because they've 0.69

00:42:44.480 a lot of them have been smart and they've accumulated you know lots and lots and lots she could be playing 0.95

00:42:50.000 you bro right or she bought a house for like 20 grand dude just sold i'm just saying man you know

00:42:55.040 like you don't you never know you never never never know who's who like if she accepted that price and

00:43:03.520 like cool yeah she probably has a fucking gazillion dollars in the bank bro right you know like 1.00

00:43:09.520 i'm being serious like you can't just feel sorry for people you gotta you gotta understand man 0.99

00:43:15.600 just because you look at someone and you think they don't have any fucking money

00:43:21.520 you're you could be very wrong like like when i walk around in my daily life other than me driving 0.99

00:43:27.120 a car the fuck cost like millions of dollars like like if i drove a fucking honda accord and you saw 0.97

00:43:33.280 me walking around there's no way you could look at me and know that i have money you see what i'm 0.99

00:43:37.520 saying it's real bro so like my dad's the same way like when my dad you know like was in business he'd

00:43:43.840 fucking walk around a harley davidson shirt and he could afford stuff you know like we used to have 0.83

00:43:48.720 this dude that came in uh the brentwood store that we all talked about he'd come in and he was like 0.99

00:43:54.320 dude uh what do we call him or no it was illinois so we called him captain insano okay and he'd come

00:44:00.480 in bro like cut off shirt holes in his shorts this guy come in and buy five six hundred dollars worth of 0.97

00:44:07.600 loaded yeah he didn't give a fuck he'd pull out a cash wide and be like 0.99

00:44:12.320 like scrooge mcduck bro walk the fuck out yeah you can't judge that no and that's a big sales no-no 0.99

00:44:18.880 do not judge people on how they look do not judge them on what car they drive and do not judge them 0.97

00:44:25.760 on what you think is expensive because you happen to it would be expensive for you okay if you do those

00:44:32.560 three things you will suck at sales you have to present the product ask for a fair value and you 0.58

00:44:39.200 will be successful i love it man i love it guys let's get to our third and final call and we got 0.74

00:44:44.240 one more call in for you guys uh let's give our boy josh let's give our boy josh a call

00:44:50.160 josh josh what's up my man hey how's it going good brother this is dj i got andy here what's

00:45:05.040 up josh how you doing brother good how are you we're doing good man well you sounded a little

00:45:10.720 happier when you heard andy's voice why wouldn't he be what's that about he's racist clearly

00:45:16.320 josh where are you calling in from bro uh des moines iowa all right well he's definitely

00:45:30.240 josh we're just playing bro what's up dude what are you doing

00:45:33.520 i know you guys are good you guys are good i'm echoing a little bit so i'm a little delayed

00:45:37.760 behind trying to catch what you guys are saying so

00:45:43.120 are you sure you're good are you sure 0.99

00:45:47.120 are you sure yeah andy is still fucking with you i'm sorry josh what you got 0.99

00:45:56.240 uh my question is um i'm an intrapreneur um i've been working at a uh ford dealership 0.99

00:46:03.280 as a technician for 10 years um busting my ass every day and uh i'm finally to the point where i'm uh 0.86

00:46:11.680 uh doing everything really well um and recently about six months ago my manager approached me about

00:46:21.920 doing a uh uh special skills uh work uh rebuilding uh transmission and our guy here that i uh

00:46:34.000 uh learned from he went out on uh paternal leave when he came back and found out that i was doing uh

00:46:42.640 uh his line of work um he just turned really spiteful um and just stirring a bunch of drama in the shop

00:46:51.520 and when i uh approached my manager about you know he's being a little vindictive and you know causing

00:47:02.720 issues uh they basically told me you know we can't do anything unless you know hr needs to be involved

00:47:09.120 so my question is um i've been ignoring him but it's not working very well you know i'm just kind of

00:47:18.480 feel like i'm looking over my shoulder a lot you know when the next you know drama or

00:47:27.120 altercation is going to happen and i'm kind of wondering uh

00:47:30.400 from an entrepreneur's perspective you know since you know from an entrepreneur how how can i

00:47:41.600 uh just kind of you know keep pushing forward keep getting better

00:47:46.080 while not feeling like i'm uh you know trying to dodge bullets at the same time all right let me ask 1.00

00:47:51.520 you a couple questions all right buddy yeah all right so can you kick his ass 0.99

00:47:56.800 ass um yes and that's uh why my man hasn't uh done anything all right because um so if i if i could 0.99

00:48:07.040 if i could do what i need to do i'd be sitting across from a middle-aged woman getting all that 1.00

00:48:11.360 all right brother listen so don't we know that you kick his ass so don't kick his ass don't don't 0.99

00:48:16.320 kick his ass all right i was just i was just wondering so um all right man how old are you 1.00

00:48:22.240 you i'm 28 okay how old is this dude uh he is 29 okay so you guys about the same maybe 30 at this 1.00

00:48:32.400 point all right yeah have you talked one year ahead of me have you have you have you have you

00:48:37.040 had confront have you confronted him about it in a in a decent way um i have i've approached him or

00:48:45.280 at least you know attempted to uh you know with a smile respect you know trying to be you know as

00:48:50.640 professional as i can and it's just met with um you know a scowl what do you say when you do when

00:48:57.520 you when you do that what'd you say i just kind of went up to it was like hey man you know like

00:49:05.840 i i filled in for you while you were out you know having your kid you were nice before this

00:49:12.320 and now that i've learned you know your specialty you know line of work and i'm

00:49:17.280 you know obviously i'm not going to you know stop doing that work now that i've learned it

00:49:24.400 now you know it seems like you know you kind of feel like i'm stealing your job and you know

00:49:30.320 you're being confronted about it what's he say and he just he just kind of sits there and stares at me

00:49:38.880 with a you know uh gal on his face and then uh about an hour after that my manager came over and

00:49:46.320 asked me why i was bothered ask you ask you why what you know i was like well if he's gonna

00:49:53.280 sorry what yes your manager came over and asked you what

00:49:58.240 why i was bothering him like i was like trying to instigate something got it got it

00:50:05.360 okay so he doesn't listen to the show obviously who the the vindictive employee co-worker he's

00:50:12.880 definitely a hoe oh yeah what it sounds like to me well you know look dude this this is common all 1.00

00:50:18.160 right you know a lot of people have scarcity mindset and they believe that if someone else

00:50:26.880 starts to you know learn a skill or step into their territory that it means it's they're threatened

00:50:34.000 by it and and this guy's threatened by your presence and what he probably thinks

00:50:39.920 and you could probably confirm this is that he thinks you're trying to take his job like what

00:50:46.320 you said in the in the uh uh what you just said a minute ago so how i would handle this there would

00:50:56.480 be a couple step way of how i would handle this um one i would grab your manager and i would say hey i

00:51:05.600 would like you to come to me come with me to what's this guy's name uh but here's what i would say

00:51:15.280 i would say hey uh i would ask the manager say hey will you come and and kind of just stand by

00:51:21.360 while i talk to we can kind of squash this cancer that's going on back here in the shop

00:51:26.400 um and i would bring him over there and i would say to right in front of your manager i'd say hey brother

00:51:32.960 i don't know what your problem is but it makes me uncomfortable um i'm trying to do the best that

00:51:40.400 i can you know we should be able to work together and we're both great at what we do so instead of us

00:51:47.920 you know having a bad relationship i'd like to have a good relationship where we could be productive and

00:51:53.760 do twice as much work for the company and i would say that right in front of your manager and then we'll

00:51:59.520 see how he reacts and he'll either play ball or he'll he'll smile a fake smile and then he'll go

00:52:07.840 back and do what he was doing before but no matter what because your manager witnessed the conversation

00:52:14.720 there's going to be some sort of accountability if he goes the wrong way with it so that would be my

00:52:21.840 first step my first step you know would just be to to have a witness conversation and dude you need to be

00:52:30.720 very respectful very nice willing to bury the hatchet uh non-confrontational but firm like hey

00:52:39.760 i have to come to work here every day man so do you there's we spend most of our time here we spend as

00:52:45.120 much time as we hear as here as we do with our families there's no reason that we should have this

00:52:50.640 tension or this negative atmosphere it's not good for either one of us my intention is not to keep

00:52:55.760 to take your job my intention is to help you do your job and have you help me do my job so that we

00:53:02.320 can both do very well and have a conversation like that right in front of your manager and then see what

00:53:08.400 happens if it continues to happen your manager is probably likely to do something about it if he

00:53:15.760 doesn't do something about it then you're going to have to just come to terms with that you have

00:53:21.600 to deal with that in the workplace and that's reality and the truth of the matter is is like

00:53:29.040 you know it's not like you can't give it to him back it's not like you can't be 0.99

00:53:34.880 fucking more of a smart ass than he is so sometimes when people won't play along and they won't be cool 0.99

00:53:42.160 you have to out uncool them and you have to get in the gutter all right and i don't like doing that 1.00

00:53:48.160 but sometimes it's necessary for people to earn respect so those those are sort of the options you

00:53:55.280 have uh i would definitely attempt to do it the ethical way the right way the nice way but it sounds

00:54:02.160 like you've been doing that it's not happening i would try once more the way that i described

00:54:06.800 and then after that uh i would either ignore it and just be a grown man and be like this guy's a 0.95

00:54:14.080 clown almost like laugh at him for being such a douchebag uh because nothing nothing really makes 1.00

00:54:21.120 bullies stop more than people laughing at them for being a bully so unless you're gonna kick his ass 1.00

00:54:27.920 that'll definitely stop him but you know that's probably not going to be good for your career 0.99

00:54:32.960 um bullies respond well to two things violence or becoming the clown and uh you know i think you

00:54:43.840 can make him the clown uh other than that dude you know it's it's um you know it's tough it out be

00:54:52.640 be thick skinned or find another place to go you know what i'm saying yeah no for sure 1.00

00:54:58.800 um i was raised you know to treat everyone with respect you know yeah just to see you know like

00:55:10.640 we're all working hard you know i i obviously you know i as far as like stature you know i

00:55:17.200 outworked him but you know it's you know i always treat people with respect and you know it's just

00:55:23.200 kind of i understand but remember yeah eye-opening to see you know that kind of stuff listen just a

00:55:31.440 couple things one just because you treat people respect doesn't mean they'll treat you with respect 0.99

00:55:37.200 okay number two you have to respect yourself also and laying down and let a motherfucker walk all 0.99

00:55:45.200 over you is not self-respect so while i and i appreciate the fact that you were raised good 0.98

00:55:52.480 you sound like a really good dude i've never met you before i i think that's how you should always

00:55:58.960 behave but there are certain instances in your life where people are going to not respect the fact

00:56:04.960 that you're respecting them and they're going to disrespect you and those situations cannot be

00:56:11.120 uh ignored because that will diminish your self-worth your self-respect your self-esteem

00:56:18.720 and that is very harmful to you so you you've put enough thought into this already where it was

00:56:24.480 important enough for you to call in the show so that means it's bothering you so that the the the

00:56:30.320 damage to your confidence and self-esteem is already happening so you you have to figure out a way to end

00:56:36.480 this and there's certain times in your life where standing up for yourself is very uncomfortable

00:56:42.800 and this sounds like it's one of them for you but i can promise you that once you do and if you do it

00:56:48.240 the right way and it works you're going to feel really good about yourself i haven't had very few

00:56:53.600 situations in my life that i haven't been able to resolve with that kind of a conversation like hey bro 0.70

00:57:01.120 listen i'm on the same fucking team as you dude like i'm trying to do good you're trying to do good 0.98

00:57:07.680 i'm trying to provide for my family you're trying to provide for your family you're good at what you 0.98

00:57:12.080 do i'm good at what i do can't we just work together and help each other be better like wouldn't that

00:57:17.040 make it a lot easier than coming in here every day with a negative attitude like that's i've been able

00:57:22.720 to handle almost every single person that's ever had a problem with me in that same way because

00:57:28.560 dude once they take a step back and realize that you're not going to engage in their they

00:57:35.120 change their tune so and uh you know it's it's biblical bro like you know jesus says it he says

00:57:43.760 love your enemies and when you love your enemies man they usually end up becoming your friends and uh

00:57:51.120 they you know some of these people have been treated so poorly in their lives that they just expect

00:57:57.040 to battle every time someone steps on their toes a little bit or even gets close to them

00:58:02.320 and and real talk dude i'm guilty of that you know i've been i've been treated very poorly by a lot of

00:58:08.000 people throughout my life and so sometimes when people get close to me or even in my i get very

00:58:13.600 aggressive and defensive about it and i've had to learn how to not do that so i can relate to someone

00:58:18.720 kind of like this guy uh a little bit so i i think you'll be able to to resolve it with that kind of

00:58:26.640 conversation and if you can't you're still going to have to stand up for yourself and and instead of

00:58:31.840 going in and and being physical um you know you could do it with your brain by outwitting them and 1.00

00:58:37.600 outsmarting them and just making them feel like an idiot 1.00

00:58:44.640 you there yep yeah gotcha yeah what do you think 1.00

00:58:51.520 um you know i think i've kind of already exhausted option one um and you know i've been talking with

00:59:00.080 my significant other and you know kind of come to the conclusion of you know ignoring him

00:59:04.560 him and it just seems like it's not working i'm just gonna have to you know kind of deal with it

00:59:10.640 like you said but i just you know kind of need to hear it from you know bro if he if he's gonna go

00:59:16.560 now so if that's where you are that's where you are bro you know like i'm not i don't want to be 1.00

00:59:21.760 an asshole but like if i have to be i'm gonna be the biggest motherfucking asshole on the planet 1.00

00:59:25.840 i'm gonna out asshole you i promise you that so that's right right that's kind of 1.00

00:59:31.280 to come to terms with not feeling terrible about doing that no bro because you've given 0.98

00:59:35.840 him chances you've given him chances bro and and this is about respecting yourself man

00:59:44.800 so i understand it's hard for people like you but like dude there's just people out there that are 0.88

00:59:50.080 that are they're fucked up so um yeah they're too far gone you can't do anything to give them back 0.99

00:59:57.840 that's right that's right man and that's why i like punched him in the face sometimes verbally um 0.99

01:00:07.200 right now he probably thinks you're a pushover he probably thinks i could say whatever i want to

01:00:12.080 josh he wouldn't can do you know what i'm saying well he's scared to even come talk to me my manager

01:00:18.640 told me that so well but as far as you know him constantly trying to get in my way he ain't that 0.54

01:00:28.720 fucking scared if he keeps talking right right i can tell you this bro i don't deal with that 1.00

01:00:35.920 shit you talk shit to my face say whatever you want to my fucking face but if i catch you running 1.00

01:00:40.960 your mouth out there behind my back we're gonna have an issue and i have that policy inside my companies 1.00

01:00:46.800 like we're not gonna have cancer here if you want to come to me and sit in my office and tell me i'm 1.00

01:00:51.360 a piece of shit i will hear it and i will hear it calmly and we can have a talk but you go out there 0.99

01:00:57.680 and i find out you've been doing that you're out so you know i look man i think you know what you got 1.00

01:01:05.520 to do and unfortunately um you know it sucks but actually i think after you do it you'll probably

01:01:14.880 i think if you stand up for yourself this guy will end up respecting you that's the truth

01:01:18.880 probably become best bro that that usually happens dude every time i've ever had to do this with

01:01:23.440 someone we've ended up getting closer because of it which is the weirdest thing ever yeah

01:01:28.400 so sweet man well josh we appreciate you brother hope it all works out for you man

01:01:33.840 i appreciate it appreciate you guys take my call all right brother go handle business you'll be good

01:01:38.400 don't beat them up yeah i'll try not to all right brother that's such a crazy thing because

01:01:47.200 i was like well i mean what do you want me to do like you want me to demote myself go back to doing 0.98

01:01:50.560 the the the low level technician shit like to make you feel better it's hard to lower your shine you 0.88

01:01:55.360 know look dude i think a lot of people he sounds like a really nice guy yeah he does and a really well 0.99

01:02:01.040 mannered good character man value you got good yeah but also a good character man stands up for

01:02:07.280 shit when it's wrong yeah okay that's part of having a strong good character strong good character

01:02:13.600 does not mean just be nice all the time it means you know beat treat people really good but match 1.00

01:02:20.800 their energy too like if they fuck with you you fuck with them harder yeah and that's part of like 0.98

01:02:25.440 that's a karmic that's a universal karmic yeah and it feels bad when you when you want to be 1.00

01:02:30.080 a good man yeah that doesn't feel good you know like like for example just an unrelated example 0.89

01:02:38.880 let's say the fucking power went out and you know me i don't like killing animals i'm not an animal i love 0.98

01:02:45.920 animals but i can promise you if i had to i would have zero issue killing fucking anything in order to have 0.99

01:02:54.800 my family eat you gotta eat bro it wouldn't i and i wouldn't think twice about it come here bambi 1.00

01:03:00.000 it is what it is it is what it is it's called the fucking natural order and as long as we have the 0.97

01:03:04.320 luxury of not being in natural order i'm that's fine i'll be peaceful but when natural order 0.89

01:03:10.160 becomes the order we as men have to transform into those kind of men and part of having a strong

01:03:17.680 character is being able to do that and that includes standing up for yourself when people are unreasonable

01:03:23.600 okay and when you pride yourself on being a good man and being nice to people and treating people

01:03:29.440 with respect that's very difficult because you know that it's unnecessary but that guy doesn't

01:03:36.240 and we get in ourselves like there's been a lot of good men killed legitimately killed by people who

01:03:43.920 we projected our goodness onto them there are bad people oh yeah there are evil people there are people 0.93

01:03:54.480 that don't give a fuck and don't hold the same value system that you do and you have to be able 0.84

01:03:59.520 to understand that and people that don't end up learning very painful lessons you think everybody's 0.94

01:04:06.720 as honest as you you think everybody's as real as you you think everybody's as genuine as you you're

01:04:12.560 making a big mistake okay because if you think that the ones that aren't will get close to you and

01:04:20.240 they will hurt you in many different ways so you have to understand this not just because because

01:04:26.800 dude i think most of the people listen to the show here are very very good people

01:04:32.640 part of you being a good person is being smart enough to recognize when other people aren't

01:04:37.040 and you cannot give them the benefit of the doubt it's dangerous it's dangerous dangerous dangerous

01:04:43.280 to you it's dangerous to your family that's real man that's real man guys andy that's three that's

01:04:50.240 some heat for the week man yep yep hey that's a new one yeah heat for the week heat for the week baby

01:04:54.960 all right guys don't be a hoe 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 02, 2025

889. Q&AF： Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 02, 2025

889. Q&#x26;AF： Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma &#x26; Dealing With Bitter Coworkers

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889. Q&AF： Loyal But Stuck, Ethical Dilemma & Dealing With Bitter Coworkers