REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 923. Q&AF： Starting Business in Debt, Life Balance Hustle & Toxic Parent Struggles

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the lies 0.98

00:00:21.500 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we 0.88

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00:01:02.220 get better with time yeah it's the first time bro you know it's like riding a bike he put me on the

00:01:06.960 spot you know it's like paying for groceries you know i'm saying no

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00:02:57.720 don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up hey man man how's it going hey man yeah hey man 0.99

00:03:06.200 you drink your mountain dew today i'm dragging ass right now bro i am too what is that well i had 0.98

00:03:13.840 to be up i was up at 6 30. did you get your air conditioning back on they fixed it today oh yeah 0.86

00:03:19.200 and so it's blowing it's good yeah but it always feels good to get it blowing you know so yeah well i

00:03:25.140 mean bro i looked at the heat index today bro it's 105 and it's gonna be like that for like the

00:03:30.140 next seven days dude it is it's blazing steamy yeah very very steamy there's nothing worse than

00:03:36.260 having your ac go out like dude in august dude in missouri no thank you so i'm happy to report that

00:03:42.860 it is a cool 72 degrees in the johnson household there you go man i'm from 85 and yeah now you only got

00:03:49.000 like 10 more degrees to go until you're now normal human is that right yeah that's right i like to keep 0.91

00:03:53.180 my shit cold bro bro well i usually i usually we usually rock it at like 70 71 yeah 69 that's right 0.88

00:03:59.620 69 is not bad you know i like about 60 that's at nighttime though i helps you sleep easier i like 0.99

00:04:06.800 about 65 you know what i'm saying all right yeah man what's going on with you dude yeah no that's about

00:04:14.620 it bro um that's about it you know heading into a uh good weekend and making a do what it don't all

00:04:21.220 right making it do what it don't and don't do what it does and don't do what it does that's right

00:04:26.480 and you ain't got to explain what's understood what's understood ain't got to be explained that's

00:04:30.160 right that's right all right let's make some people better today man guys i got some good questions here

00:04:35.380 um we got some people lined up um let's make some people better today what are we doing we starting

00:04:40.780 with a with a write-in or a call-in what we got uh call-in i have a call-in ready all right let's go

00:04:45.000 yeah we got our buddy travis uh locked and loaded uh let's give travis a call

00:04:50.740 hello hello am i speak to travis please this is travis hey travis i was calling about your car

00:05:06.120 insurance and wanted to see if you uh wanted to say 15 by switching over to real af what's going on

00:05:12.620 travis hey man how's it going what's up travis i apologize i can't fix i tried to fix them and i

00:05:22.760 can't use your employees i get it yeah i can't fix them man this is what it is i'm actually drinking

00:05:29.040 a great first form so i actually was falling for it a little bit i think that made me way way too

00:05:36.280 happy like way way more happier than it was supposed to yeah that was good i think it did that was good

00:05:41.060 yeah so travis where are you calling from man yeah so i'm uh physically right now i'm in southern

00:05:48.440 wisconsin but i i live in the northern peninsula of michigan okay the the unclaimed territory

00:05:54.340 god's country yeah ah so what can we help you with brother what you got going on

00:06:01.340 yeah man well first of all i'm just a huge fan i mean i'm uh i'm 25 but i've been listening to

00:06:07.740 your show since i was 19 heard every episode of mf ceo real af all that read the books 75 hard

00:06:14.460 four or five times now so um this is awesome um my question spans from i'm i'm in the fitness space

00:06:21.320 i've been a personal trainer of a gym for a long time was a manager a regional manager

00:06:25.900 um i sell first form products and basically i'm getting to the point now where i want to

00:06:32.280 you know eventually own my business a gym and you know i just have a hard time with the whole like

00:06:38.640 going into big debt i know like i've listened to you and like you know you couldn't really get the

00:06:44.200 funding for certain things so you were using credit cards and you kind of started out small and stuff

00:06:47.800 with where i'm at you know i could potentially be looking at you know three four hundred thousand

00:06:53.280 dollars in debt at 25 and i'm just trying to think of a good way to look at that well look man um

00:07:02.280 i think it's good so here's what i'm going to say you're going to have all these people that are

00:07:06.800 going to tell you oh don't worry about it it's no big deal it's part of doing business you can borrow

00:07:10.880 this you can borrow that you can build your business i didn't like you said i did not have

00:07:16.820 the opportunity to do that and i at the time was very frustrated that i wasn't able to get a loan i

00:07:23.100 wasn't able to get any help i wasn't able to have anybody finance me but here's the thing dude

00:07:28.100 if i had gotten financed with the amount of experience that i had i can admit now that i

00:07:35.960 would have wasted that money away all right i would have thought like most entrepreneurs do

00:07:41.500 when they're first getting started man i'm gonna create this i'm gonna go buy a super bowl ad and

00:07:47.280 it'll make my company and i would have figured i would have went for the home run swing as opposed

00:07:51.760 to actually building a solid foundation which is what not having the financing forced me to do

00:07:57.700 uh so i actually got pretty fortunate that i wasn't able to borrow money when i was just starting

00:08:04.000 out because dude if i had i wouldn't be sitting here right now and i could just tell you that's

00:08:07.940 100 accurate now that's my experience okay now you're in a little bit different space you have all

00:08:16.100 this time you have all this experience you have you know what you're doing um and that is a

00:08:23.780 different story when it comes to borrowing money to get into your own thing all right

00:08:30.340 you yeah yeah you have to understand that like dude debt is generally a part of the equation

00:08:39.520 especially when you're in a scaling business or you're just starting out for most people so it's

00:08:47.020 very very normal um for you to have to do this but the fact that you're aware of it and the fact

00:08:53.700 that you're afraid of it is a good sign okay because it's the people who aren't afraid of borrowing

00:09:00.060 money it's the people who want to borrow the most it those are the people who end up burying themselves

00:09:06.940 the people who use debt properly to build and scale their business and are very cautious

00:09:12.240 are the people who don't like having debt and that's a really good thing when you get experience

00:09:19.760 using it and as your business grows it's going to become something that you will have to have most

00:09:25.580 likely hopefully because your business will grow so fast that you'll need the cash to do it um

00:09:31.320 so for you dude the fact that you are aware and you're you're debt averse you're like i don't know

00:09:38.060 i don't like this i actually think that's a really good sign uh i i think that's how you should think

00:09:44.420 about it and i think that's going to force you to be very cautious about how you use that debt to

00:09:50.320 grow uh and scale your business out man i i think it's a very normal thing and i think

00:09:55.700 where you you know where you have hesitation other people are just hungry to get it and um that's what

00:10:03.300 ends up screwing them bro they spend it on some big marketing campaign or you know they say like

00:10:08.540 well you know i'm going to increase my lifestyle and people will see it and then they'll want to 0.89

00:10:13.760 dude it's they tell all these bullshit justifications that really you know don't work in business so um

00:10:22.240 you know that's how i think about it for you bro the fact of the way you ask the question about not 0.88

00:10:27.480 really wanting to do it tells me that you're going to be responsible with any debt that you receive

00:10:32.340 is there a way to do this without debt um for me right now no how what kind of debt is this

00:10:41.680 it's just to like purchase you know a business yeah um but and it's a business you know i'm i'm

00:10:48.480 involved with i'm familiar with right so um yeah so and you know another thing you know question was i

00:10:55.100 know some people start a business and stuff from scratch but this is an existing business so

00:10:59.580 um i don't know if you have any advice with that

00:11:02.340 for you here's what you know you know the business does the business cash flow to cover the note

00:11:08.880 the debt service absolutely okay well then bro you don't have anything to be afraid of you already

00:11:14.040 know the business you're fucking doing what needs to be done you're a young man you have an opportunity 0.82

00:11:19.300 in front of you i would highly encourage you to go for it if this is something that you believe in 0.90

00:11:23.640 because um you know we only get so many chances in our life dude and and you know i know you're 25 and

00:11:32.040 you know you probably think you're going to get a gazillion chances but dude i'm just telling you 0.97

00:11:36.380 from a from an older brother perspective we get two or three chances where you got to fucking jump and go 0.86

00:11:41.800 and one of them i'll tell you what one for me is very similar to the one that you're talking about 0.92

00:11:46.500 um you know i was i had two stores two retail stores in springfield missouri i got a call one

00:11:53.060 day from a guy that i knew that had uh five other stores he called me on a monday and he said hey man

00:12:00.420 i'm closing my stores and i said uh he he said do you want to buy my inventory and i said and i i i stopped

00:12:06.440 for a second i thought and i said why are you closing the stores and he's like well i'm getting

00:12:11.180 out of it i want to go into this new thing and i said well why don't you just let me take the stores 0.93

00:12:17.240 i'll buy them from you and i'll operate them little did i know the stores were fucking losing money left 0.93

00:12:24.760 and right he lied to me about like what they did uh or i wouldn't say lie but just exaggerated 0.96

00:12:31.120 it's the honeymoon phase he's gonna prop it up a little bit correct he sold it he sold it 0.61

00:12:35.360 yeah and um you know we ended up in a situation where we had to work really hard to fucking make 0.81

00:12:41.300 the business work but he called me on a monday and by thursday i had moved back to st louis 0.98

00:12:46.700 to run and i was living in springfield at the time and i fucking said fuck it i'm going we're going 0.98

00:12:51.020 and that one move that jump led to us scaling out our retail company where you know we're still growing 0.97

00:12:59.340 opening stores doing very well but also it led to the birth of a bunch of other things considering uh

00:13:04.860 you know the one that most people know me by which is first form so that wouldn't have happened if i

00:13:10.120 hadn't jumped and this feels like one of those opportunities for you at 25 and i think you should

00:13:16.440 feel real strong about it dude there's there's there's nothing that you let me ask you this what

00:13:22.320 would make you more certain what information would make you feel better about it you know all the

00:13:26.860 relevant information correct yeah i mean i honestly i do feel pretty certain and i'm you know i'm

00:13:34.220 this is something i've had a plan for for quite a few years i'm very close with uh the owner right

00:13:40.520 like very very very close um and this has always kind of been the plan that's why i've stuck with uh

00:13:45.900 this company for so long but now that it's you know getting close to time for this to happen i'm just

00:13:50.700 like i you know i just wanted another opinion on it you know what i mean like i've talked to a few 0.97

00:13:55.080 people um but yeah bro if we if look go do it you'll kick ass you'll be fine you'll this is normal 0.97

00:14:04.940 i understand you know you get a little nervous and you maybe want some positive reinforcement um 0.96

00:14:10.480 bro you you very rarely do i say hey go do it you sound like you've got it figured out dude and i

00:14:16.900 would just i would encourage you to go and go confidently all right i appreciate that yeah

00:14:23.320 brother anything else um no i mean not really here's one thing i will point here's one thing

00:14:30.160 i'll point out to you that is a positive about what i think just as someone who's heavily in the

00:14:34.940 fitness industry as well you're you're moving into a very good space for what's happening in the

00:14:40.960 world right now um with the automation the ai and all the automation all the tech

00:14:46.460 there's people are going to have more free time and they're always going to be around people

00:14:50.360 they're always going to want to train they're always going to want to consume they're always

00:14:53.360 going to want to be fit at least a certain part of the population is and uh i i think you're moving

00:15:00.200 into something that that has a lot of good upside considering the timing right now so there's that too

00:15:05.220 yeah i feel like for the i think this year for the first time in a few years since covid

00:15:11.380 we're kind of bouncing back yep you know covid was tough for gyms you know we were the first one 0.56

00:15:15.780 shut down last one's open deemed as cesspools it was awful um bullshit but i feel like now people 0.96

00:15:22.240 are yeah people are like oh that's all bullshit like actually i'm i don't have to be scared of 0.98

00:15:26.200 anything really if i'm healthy right that's all there is to it that's right we're seeing an increase

00:15:30.500 right now and the trends are good um so yeah i feel super confident uh with what i do cool well

00:15:37.040 go do it bro and uh hit us back up if you need any more help as you go i appreciate it all right

00:15:43.100 brother thank you thanks for all the support heck yeah man thanks all right see you travis see it

00:15:48.220 yeah man something you said there that i think is really really important

00:15:53.380 is not taking more than you actually need yeah and i feel like like that piece right there for

00:15:59.300 some reason just stuck with me because like yeah you can get you know they tell you i'll prove you

00:16:02.600 up to you know half a million dollars you only need 200 listen that goes in your personal

00:16:06.840 life too yeah you and i have had those discussions a lot oh yeah what happened to you this week no

00:16:11.700 i had to cash out baby what happened hold on hold on let's just this is a real life example

00:16:16.540 it's real okay do you mind if i know okay so dj wanted to go buy a very very nice house because

00:16:23.040 dj is doing very well for himself and he's earned it all right

00:16:28.300 but what did i say to you about the house why did i not want you to do it because there's going

00:16:35.460 to be a lot of costs that come up yeah you're not going to be aware of or tracking that you know

00:16:39.980 and it's not going to be one furnace it'll be fucking three that's right and what happened 0.92

00:16:43.300 to you this week my furnace went out and how much was it it's 56 08 okay and imagine that times three 0.76

00:16:48.520 or four you see what i'm saying so we have to think things through and just because the math

00:16:53.600 mass on the short term yeah there's a lot of things that happen in a long in a long term that we

00:16:58.640 don't account for for sure and so a lot of people especially when they're young and i really like what he 0.78

00:17:03.220 had to say i mean he he sounded like he had his shit together he does um a lot of young people 0.96

00:17:09.620 will fucking take as they'll take an extra 100 or 200 or they'll try to get as much as they can 0.99

00:17:15.560 and then they'll say to themselves well you know i only need 300 so i'm going to spend the extra 100 1.00

00:17:20.540 on me right you know i deserve it right just stupid shit stupid kid shit and it ends up fucking us 1.00

00:17:26.480 you know what i mean oh yeah but the fact of the matter is is like when it comes to debt 1.00

00:17:30.440 i'm very i feel very good about how i've handled debt over the course of business in my life we are

00:17:37.300 essentially debt free um the that's not very common no that's also why it took so long that

00:17:45.780 was the point i was going to make so like you know if he went out and started something from scratch bro

00:17:50.480 he's five six years away from even getting the brand put together you know what i'm saying like to

00:17:56.340 where people resonate so by getting this you got to look at it as time too you know as you get older

00:18:01.740 you start to value the time as much as you do the money or the opportunity and there's a time value

00:18:07.820 to this if he's 25 and he's got to spend four or five years establishing a brand that means by

00:18:13.840 by the time he's 30 he'll be where he is basically right now

00:18:18.400 but like have less time to do it you know what i'm saying so yeah it's it's um it's a you have to

00:18:28.440 you know consider all the variables and as you get you know as you get older time becomes one of

00:18:33.360 them and you don't want to spend five years doing something that could be done immediately if it's

00:18:39.360 going to cost you a couple you know a couple bucks um to get it going you know what i'm saying

00:18:44.360 yeah 100 man i think too and this is something else you've told me too just just on finances and

00:18:49.620 and and looking at it there's also something to be said too about just being a little uncomfortable

00:18:54.320 yeah because that's what's going to keep you fucking going right it keeps you urgent like 0.62

00:18:58.360 keep you on your treadmill you know so all right comfort is something everybody should try to avoid 0.89

00:19:03.520 if you're in business you should never try to get comfortable you should try to be uncomfortable

00:19:06.680 yeah because that is the urgency that drives you you know what i'm saying when you start making

00:19:12.200 good money and everything's going good it's real easy to stay in bed bro yeah it's real easy to not 0.98

00:19:17.260 to say oh everything's cool fuck it no blah blah but then before you know it it ain't cool you know 0.98

00:19:22.580 what i'm saying oh yeah so uh and sometimes when it when it gets not cool it takes years to recover 0.98

00:19:27.700 that back so yeah i agree with that i think it's important to stay a little bit uncomfortable

00:19:33.920 yeah that doesn't mean go out and fucking finance a lambo guys all right you gotta be very clear 0.99

00:19:39.420 about this for sure no let's get another one in man um uh let's get it hey andy and dj my name is 0.97

00:19:48.140 caden butts yes that's my real last name it literally is b-u-t-t-s okay i've seen worse

00:19:55.740 gonna be buckets yeah you know um i'm 18 and looking to start up a landscaping company within

00:20:04.380 the next year and i'm doing everything i can uh can think of to be productive i'm not trying to be

00:20:10.440 a billy badass or anything but i have a construction job i've been working uh for so i can grind save and

00:20:16.620 reinvest little by little while also simultaneously learning the tricks of the trade i need to be the

00:20:22.700 best i can be i work 16 hours a day most days um with maybe two to three off days a month during

00:20:30.280 which time i tend to find myself so far behind on personal tasks such as cleaning my house um and

00:20:36.680 several half-finished yard projects my friends and family don't see me anymore which understandably

00:20:42.580 frustrates them to a degree um it also has gotten to a point where i can confidently say i don't even

00:20:47.840 know what day of the week it is half the time i know balance isn't an option in the beginning years

00:20:53.680 which isn't a problem for me but i just want to know with your experience and just pure obsession

00:20:59.460 over this business is there a point that you you know you need to step back and maybe take it down

00:21:05.280 a notch p.s the screaming freedom energy uh has kept me sane this summer looking forward to seeing

00:21:11.040 any more stores up here in wisconsin soon what we got on this man bro you already try and take a 0.63

00:21:18.860 fucking break you ain't built nothing yet you're already you're already talking about balance when 0.97

00:21:23.500 you ain't done shit yet bro you ain't even fucking started your business yet okay this is the way it 1.00

00:21:28.740 goes i went fucking six years living in a different town only coming home for literal the day of 0.99

00:21:37.440 christmas the day of easter the day of thanksgiving and that's it i would drive three hours home for the 0.98

00:21:46.140 day and then that night i would drive back i did that for six fucking years i didn't have a day off 0.95

00:21:51.800 the entire time now with that being said it sounds like you might have a little bit of an organization

00:22:00.700 problem okay so you need to work on you know being organized with your time making sure that your time 0.97

00:22:09.440 is well spent making sure that you know you're not saying oh i work 16 hours so the shit other shit just 0.95

00:22:15.460 you know doesn't matter are you really working 16 hours every day every day are you really doing 0.96

00:22:22.340 that or are we just saying that we're doing that okay here's the thing when you're young and when

00:22:29.060 you're getting started this is the level of commitment that it takes and all the things that

00:22:35.320 we talk about over and over and over again on the show where your family and your friends and the

00:22:42.200 people who know you say all these little comments like oh you're changing you know oh you know you

00:22:49.160 think you're too good for us oh you're working too hard oh you need to take a break you're going

00:22:54.700 through that right now you are dealing with the make or break time in your life right now because i'm

00:23:03.000 going to tell you something bro and not many people will tell you this as you get older you will have

00:23:08.520 more obligations you will probably have a girlfriend or a wife and then maybe some kids and then maybe

00:23:14.800 some bills and then a mortgage and all of these things that will jail you up from ever being able

00:23:22.680 to do what it is you're trying to do right now so you need to remember one you have an opportunity

00:23:30.060 right now as an 18 year old man to make yourself into something special and get way ahead of

00:23:38.040 everybody else that you know two you have the least amount of obligations that you'll ever have 0.98

00:23:44.180 in your life right now you need to utilize that and if that means that the house is a little fucked up 0.98

00:23:50.340 then that's what the fuck it means okay we have these things called priorities and your priority 0.98

00:23:56.920 right now is to make sure that for the next 80 years you are doing well and you might only have 0.97

00:24:05.020 one or two times in your life where you could set that foundation properly and this is one of them

00:24:10.540 so you are going to have to get more organized with your time you're going to have to understand that

00:24:17.900 your parents and your friends and your family and everybody else are not going to understand

00:24:22.960 you could try to explain it to them and you should but they're not going to understand unless they have

00:24:28.580 gone that path then you're going to have to spend time with them when you can and that's reality and 0.88

00:24:35.500 i don't know how to say it any other way but this is what it fucking takes bro you're going through the 0.95

00:24:42.380 beginning phases of what it takes and you're learning why most people can't do it because they face all 0.95

00:24:49.240 this external pressure they have their friends they have their family they have their girlfriend or

00:24:54.600 boyfriend telling them that they should do it this way or that way and this way or that way is what

00:24:59.980 the best thing is for them at the time not the best thing that it is for you over the course of time

00:25:07.560 so we have to realize bro this is your opportunity and you need to make the most of it and if you want

00:25:14.940 to build a landscaping company and you want to fucking make it a real thing 15 years down the road 0.81

00:25:21.700 where it is legitimately one of the best landscape companies around you're going to have to pay your 0.86

00:25:27.560 dues right now and that's it that's the reality and um you know there's no way around it man i don't

00:25:35.660 know what else to tell you yeah i mean to me it sounds like the power list would be perfect here

00:25:39.900 and i think one of the the best things that i've been able to experience from the power list bro

00:25:44.740 is that no matter how crazy of the day or you knock off those things those become like those small wins 0.90

00:25:50.820 as small as they may seem yeah are fucking everything bro so maybe it's just making your 0.98

00:25:55.540 fucking bed in the morning bro they compound dude you know and um they compound they build your 0.98

00:26:01.140 confidence they they set a foundation for you to believe in yourself and by the way if you use it 0.99

00:26:07.380 right if you use the power list the right way which you can get for free at episode 16 on real af feed

00:26:13.800 if you use the power list the right way you cannot fail it's the only system i know that literally

00:26:21.020 removes failure from the equation it is the only system that does that if you use it properly you

00:26:28.880 cannot fail and that's the fucking reality of it so yeah i would highly recommend using that yeah yeah 0.75

00:26:34.120 i think another thing too you said too it's like because i feel like there has to be some some some 0.94

00:26:38.400 really honest reflection on what the actual inputs are here right because like i've heard that i've

00:26:44.560 had friends oh man i'm so fucking busy you know i'm saying like people say that that b word a lot 0.91

00:26:49.040 yeah are you though no are you doing they never are busy is a a word that people i'm not saying this

00:26:56.020 guy's not sorry i'm not saying he's not busy is a word that people default to when they want to

00:27:01.120 explain what they've been doing when they don't have an explanation for what they've been doing

00:27:06.000 all right what do you what why were you late oh i was busy why did you why didn't this get done oh 1.00

00:27:12.000 i was busy why isn't your why does your life look like shit oh i'm so busy how the fuck can you be so 1.00

00:27:16.840 busy when your life looks like shit you know what i'm saying so like it is something people say 1.00

00:27:22.340 as a defense when they can't actually explain what they've been doing um busy is for losers 0.98

00:27:30.040 effectiveness is for winners and that's it and if you're really good you should be able to be 0.92

00:27:34.220 effective without being that fucking busy and that's what the powerless does it gives you your 0.96

00:27:38.600 life and it gives you the results that you want and that's the point of it the point of it is y'all 0.96

00:27:44.180 waste so much fucking time talking about how busy you are nothing gets done and uh the reality is is 0.96

00:27:49.560 if you could get shit done uh in an effective way day after day after day after day after day 0.99

00:27:54.980 you'd have a lot of free time to do whatever you want i mean the biggest thing that people say when 0.97

00:27:59.120 they do 75 hard dude is i can't believe how much time i was wasting before they're unaware of it

00:28:04.540 yeah so getting organized with your time and utilizing a system like the powerless that helps

00:28:10.200 you guarantee that you're moving forward is a must if you're not using it like real talk 0.98

00:28:15.280 okay i've built my entire life on that fucking system if you listen to the show and you don't use 1.00

00:28:21.940 that there's something wrong with your fucking brain you shouldn't even listen to the show why would 1.00

00:28:26.420 you listen to what i have to say and and and all the advice i have and all the things about winning 1.00

00:28:31.300 and all this shit and then not use the system that i tell you will fucking guarantee you to win 0.98

00:28:35.720 when it's free you know what i mean so yeah man 0.99

00:28:40.420 what no no yeah i mean that's it it's simple man it's real fucking simple these guys you know i find 0.89

00:28:49.960 it interesting that this dude's like you know you haven't even started your company bro and you're 0.99

00:28:55.380 talking about fucking backing off bro you got to put some motherfucking earplugs in and you can't 0.99

00:29:01.780 listen to people that you don't want to be like they're going to tell you all the shit that they 1.00

00:29:06.520 want to do not what you want for yourself and you're going to have to do that for the next 20 0.99

00:29:12.260 motherfucking years and then after 20 years passed and you've got the you know the biggest most 0.71

00:29:17.820 profitable coolest prestigious landscape company and you're you're making amazing money and you have a 1.00

00:29:23.800 great house and all this shit everybody's going to tell you oh man you know i'm so glad that you 0.82

00:29:29.900 know you did what you did and i'm proud of you and i believed in you the whole time and these are the 1.00

00:29:34.140 same motherfuckers are going to be telling you to take a play off or take a break or you know go drink 0.98

00:29:39.440 with them or go party with them or whatever it is you guys do they you know they these bro listen 1.00

00:29:44.220 most people don't know what the fuck they're doing in their life they have no fucking idea they can't 0.99

00:29:49.100 see further than five fucking feet in front of them the longest most people see is to fucking friday 1.00

00:29:55.980 night and if you listen to those people you're going to be the same as them you're going to be 1.00

00:30:00.900 the motherfucker who spends his whole life going to the same restaurant the same bar drinking with 1.00

00:30:06.420 the same people doing the same shit with the same amount of fucking money in your bank account 1.00

00:30:10.680 and it's going to be you that pays the regret for that so you cannot fucking listen to these people 1.00

00:30:15.400 because the truth is 90 fucking eight percent of people have no fucking clue what they're doing 0.98

00:30:20.380 with their life that's it it's real man that's real i love it man uh let's get our final one in let's 0.97

00:30:26.860 get another one in here um let's give kiera a call 1.00

00:30:33.000 hello kiera what's up yo what's up what's going on

00:30:51.400 dude um i'm just like studying for like a pre-nursing exam so like i'm just lost in on that

00:30:58.720 right now oh hell yeah hell yeah i got andy here what's up kiera how are you

00:31:03.860 dude you don't even uh you don't even know how like surreal this is um you know and and you know 0.95

00:31:14.060 obviously you know i don't know if this shit's gonna be aired or not but i'm gonna say something 0.88

00:31:17.560 like so for real so like last year i was at the lowest point of my life being basically like you 0.98

00:31:23.000 know fuck life fuck all of this but i was like you know i feel like the next approach 0.98

00:31:28.320 like the the only approach that i need to do like the the most like insane shit i could have done 0.99

00:31:35.620 is like 75 hard that was like for me it was like locking down and doing that and that like

00:31:40.460 i literally saved me um because i was on like antidepressants and i was like really down and really

00:31:47.920 numb and like very confused like super what i felt like sedated and like it really opened up

00:31:54.180 like my life and what i could do so like i'm super blessed man hey you did that man i didn't do that 0.98

00:32:00.740 shit you did that that's fucking awesome that's a huge fucking win dude and i appreciate you sharing 0.98

00:32:06.320 it but remember that's you that's all you it's fucking awesome man so what's up 0.99

00:32:13.640 um okay so like uh i mean there's like a little bit like more to that um so when i was at like the 0.63

00:32:24.620 lowest like i've ever been in my life like being hospitalized getting out being like on on meds like

00:32:30.480 just just super just super really rock bottom like i really hit rock bottom and i feel like that 0.91

00:32:36.000 was the best thing for me but i had to move back in with um i guess i don't want to talk shit about 0.64

00:32:43.340 this particular parent but i had to move back in with like a kind of emotionally abusive parent and

00:32:48.660 it's it's been hard uh because i wanna i wanna get better but for some reason when i um like deviate

00:32:57.980 from like kind of taking care of this person they shit on me um when i'm not doing exactly what 0.51

00:33:05.920 i want you know what they want me to do and and it's been really hard because i really i really 0.55

00:33:11.600 love i really really love this person and they're very supportive when they're supportive but

00:33:15.900 but i i think they might have like mental issues and where they're like really really up and like

00:33:21.560 really love me and then really really down when they're mad or upset about their own life and they

00:33:25.820 take it out on me and it's been hard because i've been like weaning off my meds and trying to uh 0.80

00:33:31.520 like regulate but this person is constantly like uh shitting on me when like things are good but 0.99

00:33:38.880 then it comes back really fast and then they shit on me right then and there like it's always like a 0.99

00:33:43.560 hot cold hot cold and it's been really hard mentally so i i just want to know like 0.98

00:33:48.540 what what would you say i can do about that if i'm kind of chained to them financially

00:33:54.340 well you know the first thing that you should do is try to unchain yourself financially so that if

00:34:01.280 you decide that you don't want to tolerate that you don't have to and you can move away from it

00:34:06.400 um with that being said you know there's a saying right hurt people hurt people and

00:34:13.720 as frustrating as it is to deal with someone like that

00:34:18.280 it's probably coming from a place of hurt and fear and maybe abandonment you know a lot of parents

00:34:29.500 have problems whenever their kids grow up because they have made their entire life

00:34:39.180 raising kids their identity and so when kids start to grow up and become adults it can be very hard for

00:34:47.860 people uh and sometimes when they're afraid of losing you know they overcompensate with

00:34:54.860 you know anger and things that aren't healthy and don't feel good and that's not your problem you

00:35:02.580 didn't do anything wrong it's not you it's it it's it's how someone has a lack of control over their own 0.99

00:35:10.680 behavior and um you know fuck man i'm sitting here thinking about this and i have so many people 0.99

00:35:20.460 that i've been close to over the years who have you know not my parents but who have mirrored a lot 0.98

00:35:31.940 of what you're describing and so i really empathize with it because like dude it when you really care

00:35:38.660 about someone and then someone doesn't approve of you it fucking hurts dude and it causes massive 0.95

00:35:44.640 amounts of anxiety and if you're like me i like to solve problems so the minute that someone gets 0.98

00:35:51.900 frustrated i feel like i have to solve it and then when i can't solve it it causes like massive fucking 0.98

00:35:58.640 amounts of anxiety for me and what's happened to me in my life is that people have learned that

00:36:04.200 about me and then used it against me and one of the things that i have found to be effective

00:36:12.820 in dealing with people like that is to not it's a pause it's like a pause okay when they get pissed

00:36:21.700 or they get frustrated or they get angry or they become disapproval or they say something i just don't

00:36:27.160 engage um immediately and then i'll let some time pass and then i'll engage later to correct the

00:36:36.780 problem in some sort of adult way like hey man uh you having a bad day or what like it's all good but

00:36:43.440 you know i can tell you're frustrated what i know it doesn't have anything to do with me because i didn't

00:36:47.820 do anything yeah right so what you know what can we do there um at the end of the day and i hate saying

00:36:55.460 this because i know that it's really hard for people but if none of that works sometimes you

00:37:01.660 gotta distance yourself from people and move them out of your life and at least for a time where they

00:37:07.500 don't feel as comfortable treating you that way because sometimes when you take a pause from people's

00:37:13.220 lives it creates an unfamiliarity where they don't feel as comfortable laying all of that kind of 0.99

00:37:21.420 shit onto you you know what i mean some distance in between so fuck this is a hard thing man and it's 0.99

00:37:29.160 so it's so different in every situation but at the end of the day here's the thing you're coming into 1.00

00:37:35.860 this world alone you're going to go out of this world alone and if people that are related to you

00:37:42.560 treat you poorly they don't deserve a spot on your roster and that is just the bottom line um there's

00:37:50.240 been a lot of people in my life who have probably unknowingly created feelings inside of me where i

00:37:59.600 felt like they were holding me back or discouraging me or giving me negative energy or judging me in a

00:38:07.600 negative way for the things that i wanted to do in my life that i've had to remove from my life 0.68

00:38:13.380 because like i just don't want to fucking hear it and i'm to the point now at my age we're really like 0.97

00:38:19.880 the first time someone says some bullshit to me i'm fucking out like we're not gonna have a 0.97

00:38:24.860 friendship you're not getting in the circle like it's not gonna happen um but when you're first 0.98

00:38:30.440 starting to establish that it can be really difficult because we care about people and

00:38:36.520 especially when it's like our parents or you know a brother or sister or cousin or family members that

00:38:43.600 you grew up with it can be hard but at the end of the day man the truth of the situation always

00:38:51.080 remains the same and it's this you only have so much energy in your day to do the things that you

00:39:00.180 think are best for you and to do the things that are best for you as an individual and be good at them

00:39:06.760 it requires most of your energy a lot when i say most i mean like upper 90s percent 97 98 99 percent

00:39:14.780 to live a good life you know and when i say a good life i mean you know to have enough money to do what

00:39:21.700 you want to do i'm not saying you know you have to be a billionaire or worth a hundred million dollars

00:39:26.060 but you know to be comfortable you have to be able to pay that price of energy and when you have people 0.98

00:39:32.360 that are pulling that energy out of you with really useless shit that doesn't mean anything 0.98

00:39:37.160 because they're not able to control their ups and downs uh sometimes those people got to be limited 0.99

00:39:44.860 or even removed out of your life and there's nuance to it there's there's um you know everything is a

00:39:52.780 different situation everybody has a different story but at the end of the day i like the bottom line

00:39:58.240 things and the bottom line is this if you spend energy there that's energy you're not going to

00:40:04.100 have to build the life that you want and that'll end up making you suffer long term and so that's how

00:40:09.560 you have to think about it so all in all you know there's steps to solving this right one have a direct 0.98

00:40:18.180 conversation with the person hey i can't have you doing this shit i can't manage your emotional ups 0.89

00:40:24.640 and downs it's not something i can do two if they continue to do it you create space three if they 0.98

00:40:34.260 continue to do it more you create more space and four if they still don't get it you cut them out for

00:40:41.120 ever if you have to and uh the first step for you to be able to do that is get yourself in a place

00:40:46.660 financially where you're not dependent on someone else and that's another thing dude when when people

00:40:52.800 are when people know that you're dependent on them um they will weaponize that you know they

00:40:59.440 will say well yeah they will say well what what she can't do anything about it we're gonna go yeah

00:41:05.160 what are you gonna do yeah and yeah that's that's that's what would happen when she would oh i said

00:41:09.860 she but you could probably figure out the mother but she would threaten to kick me out yeah every time 1.00

00:41:14.560 yeah and dude the minute you stop and say cool i'm out she'll stop with that bullshit because she 1.00

00:41:20.680 don't want to lose you either dude she's just here's what i've learned man most people are insecure 0.99

00:41:25.940 even your fucking family even you even me even all of us we all have insecurities we all have 0.98

00:41:33.500 situations you know and emotions and things that don't make all the sense all the time and when we act 1.00

00:41:41.660 out it's usually because we're scared or because we're you know angry and it usually has nothing to do

00:41:47.680 with the other person it's frustration that gets vented into the other person and um when the

00:41:53.900 person finally says yeah well cool usually that's when people change their behavior so you know listen

00:42:02.320 i know this is a hard thing but at the end of the day you got to choose yourself because your mom

00:42:10.440 isn't going to take care of you for your whole life she's not going to be able to you're going to have 1.00

00:42:14.860 to take care of you and you're going to have to eventually take care of her and you know these

00:42:21.640 are things that that are reality so you know man i feel bad that you're going through it but it's not 0.90

00:42:27.280 something that is uncommon you know i think most people go through some kind of shit like this in 0.56

00:42:34.740 one way or another especially when they have ambition especially when they want to break 0.74

00:42:39.720 the generational cycle of the same old shit you know because dude people will feel all kinds of 0.94

00:42:47.600 ways they'll think they're going to lose you they'll feel ashamed because they create an environment that 0.99

00:42:53.480 you want to escape from there's just all kinds of shit man and all the shit you're doing that they 0.99

00:42:59.200 didn't do that's right and sometimes parents and family are the biggest fucking haters dude i hate to say 0.99

00:43:04.860 that but it is it is the truth i've seen this so many times in my career um doing you know personal 0.95

00:43:14.080 development where parents i'm very lucky because my parents are proud of me but not all parents are 0.98

00:43:20.480 like that and and it's sad it makes me sad but you got to pull your shit together you got to get 0.95

00:43:27.380 fucking strong and you got to realize that this isn't that they don't love you it's that they're 0.99

00:43:31.960 emotionally incapable of managing their own shit and um it's not a you problem no it's not and and 0.99

00:43:39.040 when they respect you when you go out on your own you start doing some things they'll start treating 0.98

00:43:42.760 you differently so yeah that's fucking hard man yeah i mean uh it's it's it's especially hard because 0.76

00:43:56.040 um look and and and i i 100% acknowledge it i mean as a as a dominican it's it's kind of like the 0.97

00:44:04.000 stereotype that like you know our parents like beat us like whenever we ask a question they're always

00:44:11.040 quick to temper like it's i and it's funny that i say like you know our parents beat us but like

00:44:16.220 it's it's so it's so common like to the point where they make literal skits about it but like

00:44:23.880 i like i don't think the thing is i'm not that type of person that doesn't take it to heart it

00:44:31.440 almost seems like everything that she says about me is to it's so pointed it's so hard not to um

00:44:38.160 not to internalize by it i've had a you know i hate to throw myself under the brush but i've had to

00:44:44.460 restart 75 hard a bunch of times last year because folks say you know she doesn't burn the house down

00:44:49.720 and give anything to me or so am i crazy shit i've had to too that's normal you're gonna have 0.82

00:44:55.380 things that are coming your life and disrupt you the biggest thing you can do is get back into it 0.99

00:44:58.780 the next fucking day you know and by the way i got my ass beat growing up i turned out all right 0.99

00:45:04.420 you know i'm saying we come from a family yeah not gonna lie yeah sometimes it's deserved yeah well 1.00

00:45:10.060 every time i got my ass beat by my parents bro i'm gonna tell you right now i fucking deserved it 0.99

00:45:14.960 he earned it yeah but but like i just use chocolates right that's that the the joke you 0.99

00:45:21.380 were getting to yeah pretty much like sandals or anything heavy enough to reach you that's that's

00:45:26.800 correct bro oh yeah that's correct dude i get it yeah i mean look i i actually think people should

00:45:32.060 beat more of their kids so we'd have a better society but you know absolutely absolutely i see

00:45:37.600 that you know i still i'm kind of i'm not in that i mean i don't know do y'all know what public's is

00:45:42.840 like public's the store and not like the paint store no it's a grocery store public uh yeah 0.82

00:45:49.340 but anyways yeah don't listen don't listen to him his brain his brain is cooked

00:45:55.000 oh yeah i like i like i just one thing i gotta tell you bj before you know before i leave i kind

00:46:01.780 of want to roast you on something but um so like i'm not at that upper echelon of like basically like

00:46:07.620 shopping at whole food so i still shop at walmart and i'd be i still be seeing like kids get 0.83

00:46:12.820 their ass beat and i'm like bravo because i see the way they're acting i'm like there's no way 0.84

00:46:17.620 i would not like throw you know what i do respectfully you know what i do when i go to walmart 0.99

00:46:22.300 i beat other people's kids 1.00

00:46:24.320 i just grab them fucking spank their ass their parent looks at me all crazy and shit i'm like 1.00

00:46:32.120 somebody's gotta do it yeah that's right yeah the amount of times i've wanted to like i don't know 1.00

00:46:39.100 if you'll get it like pizza pie these kids you know throw them in the air spin them around and you

00:46:42.860 know throw them to infinity and beyond is too many times for walmart

00:46:46.920 that's right what dj got hungry

00:46:56.420 the pizza pie what would my move be

00:47:03.560 the pizza cutter that's right we'd be the tag team mario luigi that's right yeah well hey listen

00:47:13.000 um the thing is is like dude you got to root your identity and approval in yourself

00:47:18.660 that's something you got to work on your pet your your parents shouldn't have at how old are you

00:47:24.500 i'm 25 so yeah my tender old age of 25 absolutely yeah dude you but i i it's the only parent i got

00:47:32.200 so i i love her i understand but you also got to think healthy of yourself and good of yourself and

00:47:37.860 you know realize that you know when people say things that are not nice to you rarely does have

00:47:46.180 anything to do with you it's the truth um have you read the four agreements i know i have not go read

00:47:54.340 that book go buy that book today and read that book it's a good book one of the four agreements is

00:47:59.060 you don't take things personal and it does a good job of explaining why and i think it'll help you

00:48:03.620 um sort of separate your identity from needing the approval of you know anybody else so um

00:48:15.060 there's a lot here okay but here's the deal you got to continue to work on yourself continue to

00:48:21.300 to develop confidence and belief in yourself you've got to have hard conversations with your parent

00:48:27.540 you have to behave appropriately to protect your energy and if that means creating space that's

00:48:35.000 what it means um but you're an adult and your identity and your value and your worth should be

00:48:40.740 based in what you think not what someone else thinks or says and because when we give that

00:48:47.360 responsibility to other people even if we care about them and love them they can hurt us very hard

00:48:52.920 and very bad and and it doesn't even have to be true so you know you got to be able to

00:48:59.700 you have to be able to look at other people have such a strong identity in yourself that you can look

00:49:04.920 at other people when they say things to you and be like that ain't fucking true right like that's the 0.93

00:49:10.640 goal the goal is and if it is true you know you say okay well that's fair you know found a hole in my

00:49:15.500 book yeah that's fair and i need to fix that but but you should get to a very balanced point

00:49:20.600 about what the truth is and it shouldn't make you angry like i get a lot of people that say a lot

00:49:27.020 of things about me right but when they say things that are completely untrue i laugh i'm like all right

00:49:33.120 well whatever man you know it's not gonna i don't let it affect me at all i don't let it affect

00:49:38.120 what i think of myself how i see myself i don't dwell on it i just look at it and i say yeah that's

00:49:44.620 not true because i'm very in tune with who i am what i believe i know how i live my life i know

00:49:50.320 what my heart's like and um no one can shake that and that comes from establishing identity

00:49:57.840 in your own actions and results not on what other people think and um you know this is going to be a 0.98

00:50:07.660 process for you it really is it's these are tough things so uh somebody that didn't give a fuck would 0.94

00:50:13.620 say oh just cut them out but at the end of the day it's it i don't think it's that serious i think 0.90

00:50:19.860 it's just uh you know you're you're becoming you are an adult but in her mind you're becoming an adult

00:50:26.400 and she's behaving poorly about that transition that's my take on it what do you think bro yeah

00:50:34.880 no 100 it's one of those things it's unfortunate it's gonna suck there's no it's not gonna be all 0.57

00:50:40.480 friendly at night like but it's necessary i mean you've had situations like this i've been in that

00:50:45.080 same i'm just now getting out of that and like i mean that's been my entire life up until 30 so i

00:50:50.020 mean um it's one of those things man it's necessary but but when i first met you you were having a lot 0.95

00:50:56.180 of issues a lot of those yeah a lot of issues she's talking about a lot of those and it sucks too

00:51:00.760 because i mean like just like in your situation care like you want better you want to do yeah

00:51:05.420 really awesome things you know you talk you're going through nursing school like that's that's great

00:51:09.740 and that's a hard time to go through on its own in a perfect home yeah you know i'm saying so it's

00:51:15.500 like you can't allow any other unnecessary stress in there you don't have the time for it yeah and

00:51:19.900 like when you say oh i had to quit 75 hard because of this or that or this that tells me that there's

00:51:25.960 a boundary that is being violated or there's a boundary that's not set because replace 75 hard

00:51:32.540 with your nursing program and now she causing a fit that causes you to miss key elements of 1.00

00:51:38.740 nursing school and eventually fail nursing school right now you're fucking up your shit for real 0.99

00:51:43.300 right so there has to be a boundary as an adult set and that starts with a very simple conversation 0.99

00:51:50.500 that happens when that person is in a good mood not when they're in a bad mood right when you need to

00:51:57.640 have a conversation about someone's behavior it's usually better to have it when it's not in the

00:52:03.300 heat of the moment but it's more so like you know everything's cool yeah so i hope that helps man that's

00:52:11.580 that's that's hard but i think everybody goes through this in one way or another especially when they're

00:52:18.560 trying to do things that are outside the realm of what our parents have done so uh i'm sorry you're

00:52:25.080 going through it but dude this is it's part of the price yeah honestly it's i've i've i've come to

00:52:34.580 realize you know all the times that i've and it's poured the very poor excuses whenever i use um any

00:52:41.140 arguments which is which is terrible i hate saying this out loud but saying that i've i got into an 0.58

00:52:47.380 argument with my mom or a fight and then i just chose to fuck off the whole day like me doing this like 0.88

00:52:54.440 me thinking about my future me taking securing trying to secure my future i realized that those 0.99

00:52:59.640 are very i'm not in high school anymore i can't just be like oh fuck my mom i'm just not gonna do 0.98

00:53:04.440 homework like that's right for that like i'm way too old for that um so i i definitely know how to 0.87

00:53:11.080 delegate my time if she's acting up like oh wow i'm an adult i have a car i get out i study elsewhere

00:53:16.400 and let her be a demon in my home you know you you just got to realize and not let that affect you

00:53:22.600 in the moment um you know being able to deal with things not going our way that's part of what the

00:53:30.060 75 hard program is about it's about being able to deal with the things that come up throughout our

00:53:35.480 day and not get distracted and be able to build enough discipline grit fortitude mental focus

00:53:40.240 mental toughness to push through the events of the day to to get done what we are needing to do for

00:53:48.720 our long-term and short-term future and um you know being able to recognize that where you say 0.93

00:53:56.120 well you know i shouldn't be fucking off the whole day when someone gets mad at you yeah dude you got 0.95

00:54:00.440 to fix that because real talk um there's going to be something every day if it ain't your mom it's 0.97

00:54:06.460 going to be something else and uh you have to learn how to deal with that without letting it

00:54:10.520 totally derail you and i'll be real like i struggle with this same thing that you're talking about like 0.96

00:54:18.220 there is times still to this day in my life where i get so angry and so pissed off that i will fucking 0.98

00:54:26.500 fuck off my whole day that doesn't happen every day it doesn't happen every week it doesn't happen 0.96

00:54:32.200 every month but it still happens and it's because it's a process and you know it's going to be a 0.99

00:54:39.880 lifetime commitment for you especially as someone who takes things more personal to understand how to

00:54:46.700 not do that and let it go and the quicker you can do that the more peace you're going to have

00:54:50.860 so you got this here yeah i think so too you got this i sent you some links to that book for you too

00:54:58.040 okay thank you so much i i just i just saw the link but there's there's just so many factors

00:55:04.400 going on in my life that are kind of like shit factors like my car broke down on me i just got 0.57

00:55:10.700 a second job so that i can be homeless make more money get out like my test my the really big exam

00:55:16.840 is coming up in one week and i've had so little time to study this is all i feel like you know i think 0.98

00:55:23.380 this is all a sign for me to that i need to work my fucking ass off to get the fuck out and you do 0.99

00:55:28.020 that's 100 accurate and let me tell you something else there's a lot of motherfucking people that 0.99

00:55:34.620 come from a much harder situation that you are that have done everything that you're wanting to 0.95

00:55:38.380 do and more so remember that when you think oh man because us as humans as individuals we tend to think 0.98

00:55:45.700 we've got it the hardest out of everybody and it's just not true everybody's got hard shit it just 0.95

00:55:52.800 appears in different ways and you have to understand that this is part of the price this 0.79

00:55:58.740 is part of the test and you are seeing exactly correctly that you need to do these things now

00:56:05.000 when you're young so you don't have to do them at 40 uh saying oh you know i finally get my life

00:56:11.280 together so you got this all right thanks guys thanks so much for answering this has been

00:56:18.780 a sick conversation i'm definitely not gonna let you know i don't know how to say this politely you

00:56:25.420 know the the nicest demon i've ever known you know put me down oh you got it well cool all right man 0.52

00:56:32.400 thanks again all right thanks kira bye bye yeah man that's a tough thing man but it is so necessary

00:56:40.680 dude at the end of the day man you got to understand that it doesn't matter who it is it doesn't matter

00:56:47.400 if it's your best friend it doesn't matter if it's your parents it doesn't matter if it's your siblings

00:56:51.420 it doesn't matter who it is if they are pulling away from what you are trying to do with your life

00:56:59.940 and not contributing to it they don't deserve a spot on the roster because the achievement of

00:57:08.860 life goals is one of the hardest things that you can do and it doesn't matter if it's being a nurse

00:57:16.280 or if it's being a ceo or if it's being an athlete or a musician being accomplished in anything takes

00:57:23.200 time and energy and work and we can't have that energy pulled away

00:57:28.800 by people no matter who they are if we're serious about getting where we want to go

00:57:34.060 and for most people that's going to mean you're going to have to cut quite a few people out of

00:57:40.500 your life over the years you know the people that i associate with today are not the people i associated

00:57:47.860 with five years ago or 10 years ago or 20 years ago it's just the truth yeah there's a few but it's

00:57:55.780 not many because we're always growing we're always evolving and we're always moving up the ladder

00:58:00.720 if we're an ambitious person and as we go through this process what ends up happening is all of these

00:58:10.060 people that take away from us get replaced with people that contribute and push us forward and then

00:58:15.000 when you get into that spot it's it's it's a different life man you know you're not having

00:58:20.400 conversations with people at dinner who are questioning what you're trying to do you know you're not

00:58:25.160 having uh family events where people are like oh you're still going to nursing school what are you 0.99

00:58:31.020 gonna do fucking you know blah blah blah you know we we get all these smart ass comments and eventually 0.99

00:58:36.800 those comments are replaced with people that are like hey man what you got going on oh you got that 0.99

00:58:42.380 hey dude i know this person they can help you out with this let's get here the conversations

00:58:46.560 completely change from people pulling you back to people pushing you forward and unfortunately most

00:58:54.880 people never get to that point because they quit before they ever get there they don't realize that you

00:59:00.500 end up being surrounded by people who care about you who want you to win guess what most of those 0.68

00:59:05.320 people aren't fucking related to you they're not related to you so you haven't even met him yet 0.95

00:59:10.540 look bro exactly exactly and for kiera you know she's 25 dude she's going through a transition period 0.97

00:59:19.440 where her mom she sounds her mom sounds like she's bipolar that's what it sounds like but i'm not a

00:59:26.640 fucking you know in a place to diagnose that but at the end of the day she's got somebody who's dragging 1.00

00:59:33.880 her down a path that she can't afford to go down at this point in her life and whether that means 0.98

00:59:39.560 having a conversation and having a stop or whether that means never talking to her again

00:59:44.200 your life is that important it is that fucking important because you only get one 0.99

00:59:50.080 and sometimes people are fucking stuck with shitty ass parents bro and that's just it 0.99

00:59:58.020 that is you know it's real man that's real with guys andy dude that was three yep all right guys 0.99

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 18, 2025

923. Q&AF： Starting Business in Debt, Life Balance Hustle & Toxic Parent Struggles

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 18, 2025

923. Q&#x26;AF： Starting Business in Debt, Life Balance Hustle &#x26; Toxic Parent Struggles

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923. Q&AF： Starting Business in Debt, Life Balance Hustle & Toxic Parent Struggles