947. Q&AF： Navigating The Fear Of Uncertainty, Anxiety About Getting Older & Restoring Your Hunger
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In this episode of the Q&A show, we have a special guest on the show, a man who has completed the 75 Hard Program. The program is the world's most famous mental transformation program, and it's free and you can get the whole thing at episode 208 on the audio feed.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the
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fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have q and a f that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you
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could submit your questions a number of different ways dj is going to tell you all about that now
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the first way is you can email us you can email at ask andy at andy for seller.com you guys can
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also leave your questions in the youtube comments on the q and a f episodes you can also uh lastly
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click the link in the description below to sign up for an opportunity to be a live caller
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that's three hang on dude this don't taste right
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all right yeah all right guys throughout the week if you're new we have shows within the show the
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first uh show you're going to hear it today is q and a f that's where we uh answer your questions
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and solve the problems you got going on with your business your life uh whatever you need to be
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better that's what we talk about uh typically it's entrepreneurship personal development how to get
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better um then we have cti cti is uh cruise the internet that's we talk about current events we
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speculate on what's true what's not true we laugh about most of these idiots and then we talk about
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what we need to do as people to solve these problems going on in the world other times we're
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gonna have real talk real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk
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kind of like a rant a little motivational speech so to speak and then we have uh 75 hard verses that's
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where someone who has completed the 75 hard program comes on the show talk about how they were before
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how they are now and how they use the 75 hard program to transform their lives if you're unfamiliar
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with 75 hard it is the initial phase of the live hard program the live hard program is the
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world's most famous mental transformation program ever and it's free and you can get the whole thing
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at episode 208 on the audio feed if you're looking to get your shit together this is a great place to
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start there's also a book available at andy for seller.com that gives all the details of live hard
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plus a whole bunch of other content on mental toughness why it's important how to use it
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to become the person that you are meant to become all right that book is not free but it's good
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and get that at andy for seller.com now we do things a little different here okay it's very simple
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we do have a fee for the show the fee is the fee is not monetary you don't have to buy anything unless
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you want to stop by your friendly neighborhood 7-eleven and get yourself one of these amazing
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all right guys so uh we got this thing we say it's very simple don't be a hoe
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share the show all right you know what that means people know what that means don't be one of these
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people that just consumes and doesn't tell anybody it's a really great episode i fucking love these
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guys yeah help us out man yeah that's how we grow man we're growers not showers that's right
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so what's happening dude what's going on man nothing man yeah you know it's a funny thing like they say
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when you like somebody you start modeling their mannerisms a little bit i just caught myself like
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i'm over here you know i don't know why i do that bro what cross your arm yeah it's just
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comfortable yeah i'm like i don't know what to do with my hands what do we do yeah oh yeah i gotta
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do i forgot i gotta throw in my freemason shit yeah yeah that's what it is yeah man no but guys
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what's going on man it's monday it's a great day to get better um when you guys are listening to this
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it's not monday we're recording yeah um i've learned that lesson but uh no man we uh it's q and af we got
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some really really good questions lined up and uh let's make some people better let's do it let's do it
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let's uh we're gonna kick things off let's kick them off with a phone call let's kick them off with
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a phone call let's kick it off let's give uh let's give riley a call riley hello those is riley
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yes sir is this dj this is dj how's you doing man i'm doing great man how are you doing i mean i'm
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you know i'm chilling man thanks for asking bro i appreciate that man no one cares bro okay absolutely
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riley what's happening bro how are you dude i'm doing great man it's the next it's excellent to speak
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you sir all right bro just i i appreciate you what what where are you at man i'm in austin texas
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oh we fucking love austin austin's great austin's a great place yeah what are you doing down there
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brother uh right now i'm in between classes at school no i meant what are you doing what are you doing
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oh what am i doing down there yeah i'm a musician all right cool cool what do you play
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drums oh badass that's badass yeah it's a fucking hard instrument to play yeah how long you been
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playing drums brother uh a little over 13 years now oh man that's awesome that's awesome well bro
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what do you got going on down there what can we help you with yeah so all right here we go the question
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i asked was i'm a musician in austin i play in a band that is developing strong momentum
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things are coming together fast there's a part of me that doesn't trust how fast things are moving
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how do you handle situations where crash and burn seems inevitable and so when i sent in that question
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that was a few months ago at the beginning of summer if i'm not mistaken and so a lot has changed
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since then and there was a lot of uncertainty and
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lack of faith in the process with the situation i was in for sure and it just felt like it would fall
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apart or it would stay together yeah and and what happened well we went through a lineup change
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and uh kind of took care that kind of took care of itself and uh but now i'm i'm with the right
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people i have my brothers and we're building something that is that i know is going to uh change
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if i i can i feel i can trust the process more but even so we're even in a position now where things
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are still moving fast and there's that uncertainty especially when you're working as
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an independent musician and there's not we don't you know there's no record label there's our team is
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very small we're just getting started and the way things are picking up there's that that fear of the
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uncertainty where you don't know what's going to happen and i can only control the things i can
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and i surrender to the things i can't so trying to
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is tough because i want i like to be able to you know have that
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security but right no the line of work that i'm in that's that's not really what i got myself into
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right totally bro um look how old are you man i'm 24 okay so this is the first time in your life
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where you've truly caught positive momentum is that correct yes sir okay so dude first of all
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congratulations on that most people never even get to that point all right what i want you to hear
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from me today is that that's normal okay when you've never experienced something and i want you to think
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about it in different context okay let's take away the momentum you're creating with your business and
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let's just apply it to a different area of life um let's say you're going to go on a trip okay and you
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don't have everything planned but you know that when you go there you want to kind of do this or
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that and you have a loose idea of how it's going to go and you go on the trip and before you go you
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get really anxious i don't know about you but i get travel anxiety sometimes and you start to think
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about like oh man i wonder if this is going to go the way i want and this and this and this
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because you've never done it before bro and then once you go on the trip and you've been around
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that place once or twice now instead of like wondering how it's going to go you're like oh
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i can't wait i'm going to go to this place i'm going to go to that place i'm going to see my friends
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here i'm going to go eat here and you have a much more comfortable understanding of what to expect
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and so that's what's happening with you just in a different area of life you've never experienced this
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you've created something that you want to create so there's an emotional attachment to it
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and then we have this we have this part of us all of us have this that sort of like puts doubts in
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our head and makes us kind of you know hesitate and you know anxious and scared and the good thing
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about you is that in the face of that and this is really cool because you wrote this question
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you saw what happened and now we're talking about it but you felt that coming bro and you kept moving
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and that is the key you've learned a massive lesson here brother the lesson is is that anything that you
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do if you haven't been down the path before is going to feel very uncertain uh you're gonna have doubts
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you're gonna have anxiety and if you keep moving like you said the things will work themselves out
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and if you control what you control and then surrender to the rest things will move the way
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that you want to move the problem that most people run into is that they don't control any of the things
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they can control and then they expect to get where they're wanting to go and it's just pure chaos it
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never happens and that's why so many people have this idea that success you know pursuing success is
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this massive risk when in reality the risk is not pursuing it right um so it's you know i know you've
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already figured this out but i think it's very important for the listeners to hear this is that when
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you don't know what to do just keep moving forward and figure it out one decision at a time okay
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you handle today you handle tomorrow you handle the next day and if you do that the best that you
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can things tend to work out in the direction that we're trying to get and um i would chalk this up
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brother as a very valuable life lesson because i could tell you as someone who's 20 years older than
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you you you're gonna run into this many times okay uh when you launch a new album when you move from
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doing little clubs to medium clubs to big clubs to to stadiums like these are all new things and this
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this process of uncertainty is going to repeat itself in your life over and over and over again
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you know when you get married you're going to feel this way when you start to have kids you're probably
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going to feel this way it's just a very natural feeling that we as humans have about never being down
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the path before and the the the problem is is that most people just stop when they start to feel that
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way and you've already shown that you have the innate understanding to keep moving and then just
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handle it as it goes so it's very important for everybody to listen to what riley just went through
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because this is a situation that is not exclusive to riley it's exclusive to any of us anytime that we
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do something new all right so uh i can give you examples of that in my life you know when for
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example you know we've our big initiative right now is is uh the energy drink well i mean fuck bro like
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i've never done this before like i have doubts and i'm nervous and and i've got anxiety about those things but
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how i respond to those after being in this game so long is to push hard to make sure to like do
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everything i can and i take all of those uncertainty feelings and all of this uh anxiety and all of
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these things that you know would wouldn't normally derail people and i use that and funnel that energy
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into doing every single thing that i can to make sure that the outcome is most likely the one that i'm
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after and that's all we can do brother that's all we can do we can do yeah we keep getting better
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we handle what we handle we push we push we push and the outcome is going to be somewhere
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better than where we are now and even if it takes longer for you to get where you want to go than
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what you think that's okay because you go down you know and whatever outcome is produced you you then
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set that the new base point and this is another place that people quit people will see a project
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through and it didn't turn out the way that they want and even though they saw the project through
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they don't realize that that they're not through this is just another place for us to regather
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collect where we are and then go again and so it's the constant process of pushing through the
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uncertainty seeing where we end up evaluating that then deciding where we want to go from here
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and making a new plan and going again and every time you go again that same feeling that you have
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riley is gonna is gonna occur so the best thing that we as humans can do is to use that feeling of
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uncertainty doubt anxiety about things not working out and then channel that energy into making sure that
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we do the most that we can to dictate the proper outcome and i can tell you dude like when i started out
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on this journey of you know pursuing entrepreneurship and becoming successful and all these things
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bro i mean i thought it was fucking magic too like i thought it was i thought it was out of my control
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i thought it was um you know i thought there was luck involved i thought there was you know divine
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intervention and there probably is some divine intervention but oh i believe that for sure yeah but at the end
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of the day dude if we handle what we can handle the chances of us not being in a better spot are almost
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zero and then we just have to choose to keep going brother well it's interesting because in late
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december of 22 so i'm originally from utah i moved here november 1st of 21 and in a year goes by
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in december of 22 my back goes out my i have a torn disc in my l5s1 i have i spend the next six weeks
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like getting myself to be able to walk comfortably again i can't reach past my knees it it that was a huge
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test to really see just oh yeah if if i had the the fortitude and capabilities to keep moving forward
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because especially you know as a musician and a drummer i'm dependent on my body and so being able to
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work through that and i can now i can reach past my toes i've put in a ton of work to it to really
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focus on my mobility and keep my body in check i i do 75 hard every single year i'm on it right now
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it it's it taught me a lot and it i was really able to at least trust in myself and know that
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well i'm going to figure this shit out one way or another and so when that happened over this excuse me
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this summer and i was able to see also and i knew that i would be able to rely on my team and my
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brothers was because they also kept showing up and we kept showing up for each other and we never gave
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in we like we thought we thought we were done for we thought we were gonna have to start over and
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from from from square one but we there you know the show's real af and i try i've i call myself a
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realist i try and yeah uh yeah operate in reality but there is an element to this where uh that is a bit
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of that idealistic fantasy of where like the the future that i'm working towards doesn't exist yet
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and so i have to force myself to believe that it does exist and that i don't have an option and so
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i i twist that and use that and put that into the daily actions and i can only just
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just look at the results and know yeah my back went out and i handled it yes i now i'm in better
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shape than i've ever been yeah and that's badass shit dude dude people who haven't been through a
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major injury don't understand how how much of a test that really is like i i'm i'm following you
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bro you should be very proud of that that's some badass shit you should be trusting yourself at a high
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level at this point thank you and i think that i think that's the uh the biggest part that i
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fight myself over is because i am able to look back and say oh i've done this and this i've i've
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dropped my own ep i've i've dropped a live album i've done i've done these great things that me five
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years ago would have been stunned he wouldn't have believed it would happen but it has and i'm not
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even like this is just the beginning that's right so i like i think it's the level of the standard where
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i try and bring myself and ground myself to be like you're not like you i try and hold myself
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accountable so to make sure i am doing enough but not get to like i guess drive myself crazy where
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it's you know yeah like it like it's never enough i have to be able to yes actually trust that
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what what i am doing is actually something because i i'm very hard on myself and especially with my
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like my back still gives me problems and so on 75 hard i'll i'll be mad at myself if i can't
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do as an extreme a workout as i want to but i have to focus on keeping my body in check this isn't about
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breaking myself this is about keeping myself in the best physical condition for what i do it's
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about training your body and your mind brother 100 yeah listen dude i from what i'm hearing dude
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i would go to fucking war with you i mean look you've been through some difficult shit you're doing
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something that they're where you feel like right now there's no guarantee but i can promise you dude
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if you continue to show up the way that you're going and and you think about it the way that
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you're thinking about it and you're operating the way that you're operating you will get where you're
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trying to go all right and there's been a lot of other people i don't have a choice that's right
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and by the way bro uh and i say this all the time people laugh but like we need heroes dude we need
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stories we need people that are going to fucking build an amazing rock band out of an idea we need
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people who are going to build amazing companies we need people to show the younger generation what
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those things look like and so dude not only like you're fucking doing it dude like it's not that it's
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gonna happen it's happening right now and yeah and and dude it's hilarious i have a i have a class
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hold on hold on i want to tell you something sorry this is very important for you to hear
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i spent a lot of my life wondering and working so fucking hard wondering if i was ever going to
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fucking make it dude and i was so serious and so dedicated to it that it cost me a lot that it
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didn't have to cost me okay and you need to understand there is no magic to this bro you are
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executing it is happening right now i'm i'm looking at pictures dj's throwing pictures of your instagram
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up here you're doing it and i had a friend one time we we i drew up my plan on what i was going to do
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in business and i was dude it was almost it's crazy because like he was my age and i was your age
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and i drew up i said this is gonna this is what i'm trying to do and this and that and his his advice
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or his response was fucking the exact same i'm telling you he's like dude you're doing it but i
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didn't believe him at the time i was like no it still could not happen it might not happen and i
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kept working but the point that i want you to hear is that
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you you have to understand bro this will happen for you if you do the work and i don't want you to
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spend the next 10 or 5 or 20 years so concerned about it not happening and not enjoying what you're
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doing because i'm going to tell you dude the building of the process is the fun part it's not
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getting there it's the building of it and it's it's you doing photo shoots and performances in
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this cool gas station that i'm looking at it's you doing it's you playing in front of you know
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yeah a few hundred people and then you know five ten years from now you're paying playing in front of
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a hundred thousand you know so i my point is brother is you're fucking doing it and i i want you to enjoy
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this as you do it that's my point my mom always tells me don't rob yourself the joy of living
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yeah and and you can work very hard and be dedicated and still have that bro by the way i'm looking at
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this uh photo that you posted on july 23rd of 23 where you guys are like doing that set in the gas
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station or that's fucking that goes hard as fuck dude that's pretty fucking sick that's badass
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anyway thank you man yeah brother listen man um i've really enjoyed this conversation man and i think
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it's going to be very valuable to people that are that are coming up and chasing a dream just like you
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and thank that dream that you're fucking building bro do not give up on it do not give up on it
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people don't take it like you're taking it they don't systematically take it seriously they go they
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play they think they might make it they party their fucking balls off you will make it if you keep
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going dude you will fucking make it so just keep going brother yeah love it man thank you man yeah i uh
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i will say i the thing that keeps me going and knowing that like it is going to happen yeah is
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this is my purpose and fulfillment this is what i'm put on this earth to do and with the the fucking
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sanity of what is happening in the world yeah that uh that little voice in my head will question
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and say like man you're just being a musician playing music when they're with everything
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happening but i'm like no what i do has purpose and value massive purpose it's massive purpose bro
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music is one of the most important impactful forms of human relation like fuck dude revolutions have
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started because of music that's the truth the language we all speak yeah absolutely brother
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man thank you so much i i can't tell you how much you've impacted my life my uh i'll give a shout
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out to my cousin derrick bowler for turning me on to you in 2018 i've been listening ever since and
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it has really shaped my mentality my approach to life it gave me permission to to go hard and get after
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it and really shape my life into what it is because i i am doing it i i do feel that and it's it's only
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level i'm only leveling up yeah a hundred percent dude you're 24 dude you're gonna be a fucking legend if
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you keep going real talk that's real bro so that's real man riley dude we appreciate you bro yeah dj
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shoot me his stuff so i can follow him i got you doing it right now riley we appreciate it bro we're
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gonna stay followed on you man i appreciate you guys thank you so much thank you dj thank you to
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the team everybody and i will promise you this i will play summer smash dude i i believe it bro and uh
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also um when we come to austin bro we'll have to get a bite to eat or something yes absolutely man i would
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love that we'll hit you up brother you dude hey riley sounds good brother just so you know
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you're the fucking reason i do this shit like this is the reason i do this shit so this is this is very
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cool for me too brother it means a lot thank you yeah i wear that bison with pride i know you do i see
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it i'm walking i'm watching right now all right brother we'll talk to you soon riley thanks bro
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hey y'all have a great day thank you so much you too fuck that's awesome that's fucking cool bro i
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fucking love that that's fucking cool i love that that's fucking sick dude it's the best shit ever
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you know and i was you know what's cool about it dude is like it's outside the realm of what most
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people think that we talk about here yeah you know i'm saying pursuing a dream like we could we could
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we could substitute entrepreneur for the dream right like it's the same shit it doesn't matter
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if you're a fucking artist or an organizer or you know what i'm saying it's it's excellence in your
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life correct whatever that it is whatever that is bro i think it's fucking sick one of the things
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who i thought was really interesting i want to expand more on this convo you know but i know you have
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mentioned you know the road the path of success being like that that hockey stick oh yeah you know
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and he mentioned like hey things are kind of moving quick right and i i don't think this is something
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we've dove into but when you get that hockey stick that in that people are talking about
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shit starts moving really quick a lot of things start happening how how do you process that piece
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of it when you go for so long and there's nothing you fucking hang the fuck on bro yeah is that what
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yeah you hang the fuck on and hope that you don't make a fatal mistake which dude the truth is
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there's very few fatal mistakes unless you're actually dead you know what i mean the rest of
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it just becomes a fucking part of the story yeah so you know i think people people you know when
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you're young dude and you know you haven't really done anything yet you're trying to do something
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people get terrified of fucking it up and that costs them so much anxiety and so much you know stress
00:29:44.100
but at the end of the day bro the truth of the matter is there's very few things that
00:29:49.160
you can't fuck up that you can't make an amazing part of the story from you know what i mean so
00:29:55.480
these lessons that you mess up along the way end up becoming the things that give you the skills to win
00:30:01.300
at a higher level and um you just have to possess the resilience to take those hits and take those losses
00:30:10.820
and appreciate them you know and that i did a post on this yesterday i believe about gratitude
00:30:16.940
you know it's easy to have gratitude when things are going well right and it's easy to be grateful
00:30:23.020
when everything's good but the trick of gratitude is that it's most important when things aren't good
00:30:29.720
it's most important when things are falling apart to be able to say hey i'm thankful to be in this
00:30:36.440
position because not only am i going to learn a lot but i have this tremendous opportunity to overcome
00:30:42.980
this which is only going to make me stronger better and more skilled at what i do and i'm in a position
00:30:50.360
and things may not be going well right now but i'm still in a very very good position compared to a lot
00:30:57.080
of people in the world uh you know there's a lot of people who are sick there's a lot of people who are
00:31:01.320
going to die today you know there's a lot of people who you know they're never going to have
00:31:05.980
the opportunity to even come back from what i have you know those that's when gratitude really matters
00:31:11.060
bro and so you know when we put it all together man at the end of the day it's we're all very
00:31:19.640
fortunate to have the opportunity to build create and become things and it's very sad to me that people
00:31:26.380
abandon that opportunity because it's hard right what the fuck do you want to do bro you want to
00:31:33.540
be you just want to sit on your couch all day like that's what you want your life to be you know what
00:31:38.140
i mean yeah yeah it's not it's not a real life it's supposed to be hard well it's gonna be hard
00:31:43.360
regardless yeah but it's but it like this whole i was talking to a friend this morning bro this whole
00:31:50.420
instant gratification sales internet guru nonsense it dude it poisons people's mind and it fucks up
00:31:59.360
their their understanding of what it really takes to succeed and it does way more harm than good
00:32:07.540
because you have all these people who hear these people talk who appear to be credible
00:32:11.980
and then they go out in the real world they experience something completely different
00:32:17.080
that's much harder much more difficult and then they say well fuck i'm i guess it's just not for
00:32:23.820
me no it's it's not that it's not for you it's that you were lied to about what the process actually
00:32:29.800
is and that really hurts young people especially today you know one of the biggest advantages that i had
00:32:36.880
is that i didn't have that you know that's the biggest advantage isn't that crazy yeah the biggest
00:32:42.800
advantage that i had was that i didn't have 7 000 people a day telling me how i was going to get rich quick
00:32:48.720
that that was fucking because there was none of that shit so you know it's hard it's really aggravating
00:32:56.540
because what these gurus sell people i mean i have real talk dude you should not buy anything from
00:33:02.920
anybody that hasn't that cannot actually show you their business their product their service
00:33:08.100
and and that it's outside of info period if you if you fucking only sell info and that's all they
00:33:14.780
sell you should not buy anything they they fucking sell period i don't care who the fuck it is so it's
00:33:20.960
a it's a good rule of thumb and dude that's 99 of these people like you guys signing up to go sit in
00:33:27.500
some fucking retards living room and fucking have him draw on a fucking piece of paper because he's got
00:33:34.340
a lamborghini you're a fucking idiot you deserve to lose your money real talk like i don't know what
00:33:39.920
to i don't know what that's like the first lesson of business yeah i don't know what to fucking tell
00:33:44.360
you like yeah man i love it dude i love it i got another question man uh let's keep moving we got
00:33:49.940
a question uh question for andy uh andy i recently turned 40 uh and for the first time i feel anxious
00:33:59.600
about getting older i worry about missed opportunities lost time and whether i've done
00:34:04.720
enough with my life i know aging is inevitable but i want to embrace it instead of fearing it
00:34:11.100
is there a way i can shift my perspective and see growing older as something to celebrate
00:34:16.200
rather than something to fear and avoid i mean there's a lot of things that we could talk about
00:34:22.680
here number one 40 is really not old like it used to be i mean people are in shape people are healthy
00:34:28.940
they're taking care of themselves you know we're moving into the first generation of 40 to 50 year
00:34:33.980
olds that have been training since they were 18 with weights and eating a proper diet and so you know
00:34:40.540
most of the people that i know that are in their 40s are actually in better shape than people that are in
00:34:45.540
their 20s because they're taking it more serious so i actually don't see it as like that kind of aging
00:34:51.940
um so that's a good thing i think another good thing is that if you haven't spent the last 20
00:35:00.920
years building something the technology exists today where you can build something much faster than
00:35:06.920
what it would take someone who started 20 years ago that's a great thing i don't think there's any
00:35:12.080
amount of quote unquote bad things that happen when you get older other than
00:35:19.420
having regrets about time wasted uh and and as someone who really didn't waste that much time
00:35:27.780
you know i still have that same feeling like i'm like fuck i could have done more i could have done
00:35:33.300
more i could have done more and i think that's a feeling that anybody who has ambition is going to
00:35:38.120
always feel um you know i i don't know i feel like i keep getting better looking like you know
00:35:47.420
i think there's a lot of good things about getting in your 40s bro um might take a little longer out
00:35:52.880
the bed but you know yeah yeah yeah that's a negative thing yeah uh but no one can see that
00:35:58.160
yeah right right no one can see how sore i am you know what i'm saying uh but you know i i think
00:36:04.340
i think this is a great period of time for people who are entering their 40s or in their 40s who do
00:36:11.800
have regret about how they lived their life previously
00:36:15.780
to change those things and not waste 20 years having to change them you know it used to be
00:36:23.060
if you fucked off during your 20s and 30s and and you turned 40 there was no chance you know because
00:36:29.660
all the relationships were made all the business was done you know my dad used to tell me he's like
00:36:36.060
people people build their relationships and they make their money in their 30s and after that if you
00:36:40.080
don't do that you're you can't because no one wants to fuck with a dude who's 50 years old just starting
00:36:46.300
out it's just the way it is yeah um but there's always exceptions to that there's tremendous stories
00:36:54.480
you know um fuck you go up and down the chain you know sam walton didn't start till he was in 40s
00:37:00.460
kfc didn't start till he was in the 60s um and there's a million stories in between of iconic men
00:37:07.300
and women who built amazing things that were over the age of 40 years old so i think a lot of what we
00:37:13.260
deal with is just you know um i think it's just natural regret you know of of things that we could
00:37:20.680
have should have would have done but at the end of the day you can't change those you got to accept
00:37:23.920
them for what they are accept what you learned from them and then apply them moving forward and
00:37:28.340
the good news is is that you have plenty of time to to still do whatever it is you're trying to do
00:37:32.200
and i think 40 has never been as young as it is right now and and that's that's the truth um
00:37:39.560
now if you're fucking out of shape i don't know what this person looks like if you're fucking fat
00:37:45.140
and you're out of shape and you're unhealthy you're gonna feel like you're 60 um and that does
00:37:50.880
shrink the time at 30 fucking six years old i was 350 fucking pounds bro and i looked older then
00:37:57.360
than i do now okay 10 years older i'm 10 years older now than i was then and i look older then
00:38:04.020
having your physical and your mental tuned in at 40 in your 40s is an amazing thing um
00:38:11.140
and if you don't do it you're gonna feel significantly older and look significantly
00:38:16.740
i see people that i went to high school with and no offense to anybody that might be listening but
00:38:21.320
some of y'all look like shit you know i'm saying like you're not taking care of yourselves you're
00:38:25.500
still drinking beer every day you're still not eating the right shit and anybody can tell and if
00:38:31.300
that's how they want to live that's okay but most of them don't and so i think it's very important to
00:38:36.620
understand that if you don't take care of those things your quality of life is going to be terrible
00:38:41.920
and if you do take care of those things it's going to be amazing like bro you know people think oh
00:38:46.140
40 my my my youth is over well dude i know dudes that fucking keanu reeves is 63 years old
00:38:53.140
i mean it's keanu reeves you know i'm saying it's pretty badass yeah like what the fuck are we
00:39:00.420
talking about bro you get you can live a quality life and do things at any age bro and um just got
00:39:06.160
to go yeah you just got to quit telling yourself that stupid story of oh i'm too old you're not
00:39:11.140
fucking too old dude people tell themselves this these two stories that cost them everything you
00:39:17.520
know what the stories are i'm too young and i'm too old those are the two stories that cost everybody
00:39:22.920
fucking everything okay because they when they're 19 and they're 20 they don't want to start because
00:39:28.980
they're too young nobody will take them serious then you know when they're 30 they're like oh well you
00:39:34.960
know i'm i don't know like i probably should have started that already you know but i didn't then
00:39:40.380
when they're 40 they're too old so at what time is the appropriate time there right the appropriate
00:39:45.920
time was 20 fucking years ago you know what the next best time is right fucking now okay so that's
00:39:53.640
the reality if you tell yourself you're too old you're never going to be shit if you tell yourself
00:39:57.260
you're too young you're never going to be shit if you look at reality there's plenty of people that
00:40:02.340
are much younger than you they've been far more successful and there's plenty of people who have
00:40:05.640
started at an older age and become icons so why do you continue to tell yourself the story that
00:40:14.120
obviously there's plenty of evidence that shows that it's not true that doesn't make any sense so
00:40:19.440
we just got to start telling ourselves the truth the truth is this you can be a bad motherfucker in
00:40:24.260
your 40s if you want to the rock made most of his fucking career in his 40s he made most of his money in
00:40:29.920
his 40s i would say he probably looked his best in his 40s i think anybody would agree with that i mean
00:40:35.360
dude there's there's a gazillion examples of this so it's just you got to quit lying to yourself bro
00:40:42.820
you're not fucking old you're you're you're old enough to know that it's time to get going
00:41:03.220
yes can you hear me yeah what's going on man this is dj what's going on brother
00:41:08.740
what's going on man how are you doing dj i'm good how are you doing amazing i cannot complain
00:41:16.260
what what time what time is it we got an international caller guys we're we're calling
00:41:20.060
sweden it's like 1 a.m there is it 1 a.m there no no it's like almost going to be at 11 p.m
00:41:27.320
oh man that's pretty late all right yeah all right well what's going on man how can we help
00:41:32.800
we got andy here what's going on what's up jason how are you bro i'm doing good man how are you doing
00:41:37.860
doing really good what's going on uh across the pond over there
00:41:41.280
yeah i'm just dropping off a long work day um but yeah i wanted to call because
00:41:49.360
like right now just kind of give some backstory at the moment like i'm 19 and i was into business
00:41:57.420
like when i was 16 and there's been like a lot of ups and downs uh this year but i feel like every
00:42:02.840
time that things like stabilize and get better like i just tremble or like fall on once again
00:42:10.760
and i have to like work my way up and just like keeps going up and down right now i'm at a point
00:42:17.440
where like i work pretty hard and kind of stabilized but i feel like i'm less hungry for success than i
00:42:25.340
was before so i want to see like what is that like a mindset shift i have to make or what do you think
00:42:31.760
okay a couple questions when you say that you're going up and down is it are you saying like you're
00:42:39.780
taking like three steps forward and then one step backwards yeah correct okay it's kind of like
00:42:47.840
that okay so you are you are leveling up at a hot you are creating a new base every time this happens
00:42:56.000
correct no no like previously what's happened is now i've been like stable um but it feels like i'm
00:43:05.400
still like not growing but previously what happened was that i went up and then went completely to
00:43:10.800
shit okay i usually destroy it okay but now i've like kept it but i feel like now when i'm at this
00:43:16.420
point i'm less hungry for success than i was before like previously okay and you're 19 yeah correct
00:43:25.340
all right cool uh first of all you need to erase this idea that you're successful out of your brain
00:43:31.520
you're 19 years old it costs a immense amount of success to live a comfortable lifestyle it's
00:43:40.980
whatever you think it is that you need to be earning you probably need to be earning 10 times that amount
00:43:46.640
that's just the reality for a number of reasons one things cost more than than you think two the money
00:43:54.980
is always becoming less valuable three we're going to be alive for a long time so the first thing that
00:44:01.740
i've got to tell you is that your goal has to be expanded tremendously to restore that hunger that you are
00:44:11.820
looking to restore hunger happens when we have a lot of distance to cover between where we are and where
00:44:19.760
we're trying to go when we get to a place of comfortable or close to where we think we want
00:44:26.020
to be it is a natural thing for us to feel comfortable and complacent and to not feel as hungry and the
00:44:32.900
solution to that is going to be you expanding your goals and vision for yourself to a much bigger place
00:44:42.040
now jason you may not be a guy who wants to have you know uh helicopters and fucking bugattis and shit
00:44:50.460
i don't know are you yeah of course okay well then bro good because uh you're gonna have to make a lot
00:44:58.180
of more fucking money than you're making now all right so where is that place that you need to be
00:45:05.120
in order for you to have those things and then you have to account for all of your friends and all of
00:45:14.740
your family and your future family and what you want their lifestyle to be and how you want to take
00:45:21.300
care of them and this is a big mistake that a lot of young people make they set their goals for
00:45:28.820
themselves not realizing that one it's going to take a lot more money than what you think
00:45:35.140
number two you're going to have other obligations come across your life that you don't currently have
00:45:42.720
you're probably going to meet someone you're probably going to have a family your family that
00:45:47.880
you have now your mom your dad your brother your sister some of somebody's going to get sick
00:45:53.760
you know there's going to be things that happen and so when we're young and i'm very this is one
00:45:59.700
of the things i did right this is something i always thought about and even though i never had kids
00:46:05.100
i always thought that i was going to so i always based my goal around how i wanted to have my family be
00:46:12.420
even when i was 20 years old and because of that you know i've i've built a very big life especially
00:46:22.860
for my age most of the people that have something of this size are 75 years old at the end of their
00:46:30.180
life but because i thought about it the right way where you still have this opportunity to think about
00:46:37.080
it i was able to create something that was able to accomplish all of that and so if you want to be
00:46:43.300
hungry dude you got to set bigger goals you got to set a bigger plan you got to say all right this is
00:46:49.360
where i want to be 10 years from now 20 years from now not just one year from now or two years from
00:46:56.260
now and then we work backwards and create a system to to make that reality um that is the that's the
00:47:04.420
big thing to restore hunger you you got to be real and and dude you know sometimes you know at 19 years
00:47:10.340
old we don't have the capacity or the understanding of how life's going to play out so but you have to
00:47:17.540
take it for people that have been down the path bro you got to make so much more money than what
00:47:21.960
you think dude and what society tells us we need is just not the truth um for ambitious people that
00:47:29.420
want to be financially free and successful in a real way secondly after all of that um the up and down
00:47:37.800
situation can be one of a couple things okay there is a natural progression
00:47:44.360
that goes three steps or two steps forward one step back or three steps forward one step back
00:47:52.520
that's pretty normal you know um in business typically what i try to what i've experienced
00:47:59.320
and what i've tried to coach people on is that it's usually about three years once you get once you get
00:48:06.260
the run-up going you'll have about three years and then you'll have a flat year or two where you have
00:48:12.780
to regroup and then you'll go on another run and so the pattern if you could visualize it it sort of
00:48:20.240
you know goes up then it gets flat then it goes up then it gets flat and that's normal um so so don't
00:48:27.420
put too much into uh obsessing over you know that you know you go hard and then regress a little bit
00:48:36.260
if that's what's going on now there's another thing that happens that you that may or may not be
00:48:41.920
happening here only you will know but you you know uh jason you know what a bell curve is right
00:48:50.040
yeah it's like the thing when it goes up and down there you go okay so i want you to visualize a
00:48:58.000
bell curve all right and you're at the front of the bell curve on the left hand side and you don't
00:49:03.160
know shit you you're totally ignorant to what it takes to succeed and you start to want to go up
00:49:11.020
that curve and because you don't know shit you you are very coachable you're looking around at other
00:49:18.220
successful people you're watching what they do you're saying all right i'm a blank canvas and i'm
00:49:23.820
going to form myself into someone who can move up and they find these techniques we find these
00:49:32.060
techniques we find these things uh that start to move us up the curve and we start to have some
00:49:38.680
success and then we say okay this is working so then we do more of these things and then we start
00:49:44.700
to have more success and as that success as you start to approach the top of the curve something
00:49:51.580
usually happens and it happens to everybody it's not just me or you or fucking you know uh it's
00:49:59.580
everybody is that the first time this happens or the second time this happens we we look at ourselves
00:50:07.420
and we start to tell ourselves a story that really isn't true and what we tell ourselves is is that we're
00:50:14.820
special and we're good at what we do and we're gifted and look at this success it's me but it's not
00:50:22.360
you and it's not me it's the actions that we took along the way and so what happens is is people let
00:50:28.840
their ego start to make them believe that they are special that it's them and that whatever they
00:50:35.520
touch will actually work and because they stop doing the things that got them there
00:50:41.500
and and stop valuing the system that got them there they start to go back down the other side of the
00:50:47.940
curve and then what happens is they fall all the way down they get to the bottom and then by the time
00:50:53.540
they're at the bottom they're humble again all right because they're like fuck i just lost everything
00:50:58.020
what the fuck so then they start listening again and then they go back to the system and then they
00:51:05.320
go up the curve and then the same thing happens again and again and again and so most people's lives
00:51:11.240
look like a giant up and down right like the you start to the left it goes up it comes back down
00:51:17.580
goes up comes back down like a wave and you have to break that pattern by recognizing that when you are
00:51:26.560
successful and when you are doing well at the top of that curve you have to stop and be aware and say
00:51:33.400
okay i've been here before this is happening it's good what happened last time that it fell apart
00:51:40.240
and how do i avoid that and the answer usually is very simple it's you have to continue to do the
00:51:46.620
things that got you there improve upon them and be extra diligent about keeping your uh your foot on the
00:51:54.140
throttle to make sure that you continue to move up as opposed to falling back down the other side of
00:51:58.820
the curve in fact guys um we need to work at some sort of whiteboard situation in here so i can like
00:52:04.340
do that um so for next show let's have that but does that make sense to you brother yeah that makes like
00:52:13.240
a lot of sense and there's something like i want to add just like uh very true like what you said
00:52:18.280
uh when it comes to the point like where you start to get momentum and just keep going but i feel like
00:52:23.700
right now like also i'm becoming like fearful of like going back down again um there's like also
00:52:31.320
something and that's like specifically related to money and having like a fear of losing what i worked
00:52:36.600
for if that makes sense yeah for sure bro um why do you think that's a bad thing
00:52:43.240
although it's like makes me it feels like i i can't take like the risk that i want to take
00:52:52.140
and feel like i'm very protective of everything it makes me like a bit anxious it feels like i'm going
00:52:56.200
to lose it whenever okay so it makes you it makes you hesitate is what you're saying yeah yeah correct
00:53:01.740
yeah that's the word okay so so you have to reframe this all right in your mind that it's instead of
00:53:09.660
letting it make you hesitate it should be a signal to go harder okay when you start to feel the
00:53:17.320
hesitation and you start to feel like oh man maybe i'm going to lose what what happens that's awareness
00:53:24.360
bro and and that you're you're you're being a realist okay and a lot of people will say oh don't
00:53:29.740
think about that because you'll fucking attract it and yeah if you obsess about losing you're going to
00:53:35.060
lose but if it pops into your head and you get a little scared and you get a little anxious
00:53:40.620
that's your awareness telling you that i need to push forward i need to continue to go and
00:53:48.080
that is not a bad thing that's a really great thing bro because most people don't have that fear of
00:53:55.580
losing and then all of a sudden they just lost and they're like how'd this happen what happened here
00:54:00.100
right so the fear is actually a good signal to receive because it pushes you down the path further
00:54:08.160
jason i am terrified of fucking losing bro i fucking i i i think about it all the time bro
00:54:15.340
i don't want to lose but you know what happens when i start to feel like i'm losing these guys in here
00:54:20.320
know exactly what the fuck happened what happens you get about 7 000 text messages in an hour
00:54:25.540
this shit gets going again right exactly so yeah dude and they do is that true or not true
00:54:31.880
it's fucking real can you guys tell when i'm starting to get fucking nervous absolutely all
00:54:35.300
right because bro that's and other motherfuckers won't tell you this because they want to be like
00:54:39.900
oh i'm never scared i'm always well let me tell you something bro i'm scared all the fucking time
00:54:43.920
that's why i run so fast you know i don't want to go back to where i came from i don't want to
00:54:49.080
fucking lose and so the minute i start to feel that i start to do things that are productive
00:54:53.820
towards where i want to go and uh you will never eliminate that fear brother it will never go away
00:55:00.180
even when you've gotten to where you want to go and you're you've accomplished everything that you've
00:55:05.640
ever want to accomplish you're going to still have that fear because that's an that's the trait of an
00:55:11.740
ambitious person someone who is a builder a creator and you were gifted with that not everybody's
00:55:17.940
gifted with that bro so it's actually a really good thing that you have that as long as you don't
00:55:24.720
hesitate and instead of hesitating it should trigger you forward does that make sense that makes a lot
00:55:31.800
of sense i actually haven't thought of it before like i usually have like listen to people and like
00:55:37.260
your mindset and stuff and they always say like you need to be abundant and stuff like that there's truth
00:55:42.680
to that too you don't want to obsess over the fear okay you want to feel it you want to accept it you
00:55:49.260
want to recognize what it is and then you want to get focused on the abundance and the wealth and the
00:55:54.760
success that you're going to create by taking action by taking action you got to do something yeah you got
00:56:01.160
to take action dude yeah so um listen for 19 years old man this is this is totally normal and
00:56:09.560
unfortunately i i wish i could tell you hey man uh it goes away after this but it's never gone away
00:56:17.120
for me um i i don't think i don't think it will ever go away for me because i think i've been
00:56:23.440
implanted with some sort of drive that is just part of who i am and part of my dna and one of my good
00:56:31.400
friends who's been on the show before uh zoltan from five finger death punch we were sitting in my
00:56:37.000
we were sitting in my uh in my cigar lounge and we were having a conversation you were there
00:56:41.960
and i was telling him how i was struggling sort of like with what you're talking about um only for me
00:56:48.640
it was i have a hard time fitting in with regular people and caring about what regular people care
00:56:55.320
about because it's just not interesting to me and every time i try to care about it i get miserable
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and he said something to me that was just like it kind of reset it made it fixed my mentality
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immediately he's like bro um did you ever think that maybe you're just a fucking warrior and this
00:57:13.200
is what you're meant to do because the world needs people like you and it fixed my whole mentality and
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now that that anxiety and that frustration is just something that i've accepted about myself and i think
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you would do yourself a massive favor brother by just accepting that you were given the gift of
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ambition and drive and it's very important for you to fulfill that and you're going to feel differently
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than what most people feel most people are going to get satisfaction from earning x amount of dollars
00:57:44.700
and living a normal life and doing this the regular things that everybody else does and unfortunately bro
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that's probably going to feel weird for you and um because you're built differently and there is a
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true thing of people being built differently and given different gifts and when you're given the gift of
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being a builder and a creator and someone who who contributes um and also you know as a result of
00:58:09.780
the things you build create and contribute you become wealthy it's just a different life dude and and
00:58:15.340
there's going to be anxiety and there's going to be fear and there's going to be frustration
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and as long as you know how to deal with those things properly brother um it's you're going to
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be one of the people that everybody looks at and says that's why i know i can do what i'm going to
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try to do and i think that's the most noble thing that we can do as human beings is to inspire others
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through our own stories yeah man it sounds really good like when you reframe it like that it's actually
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like kind of a positive honestly yeah so it makes me like you push forward what i haven't thought of it
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yeah you've been you've been given a gift jason yeah appreciate it man yeah you're not like
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you're not like everybody else you wouldn't be calling into this show if you were
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yeah yeah like i had a different path like before i dropped out of school when i was like 16 to
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go into like entrepreneurship and stuff like that yeah and also i've been an inspiration for it uh
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for me to do that as well to go all in on this well brother you're the reason i appreciate that
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hey bro you're the reason i do this shit bro i just you i love that we're doing call-ins now
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because it reminds me that like people are actually going out and executing so i appreciate that very
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much dude but what i appreciate more is that you have the courage to go out and do this because
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it's required man people need to see these stories and they need to see uh you know young jason who
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dropped out of school at 15 years old to build something that he cared about that's going to inspire
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other people man you know i was never someone who did well in school either i i couldn't do it i
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wasn't focused on it it wasn't something i cared about and hearing the stories of other people gave
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me hope it said okay well maybe you're not meant for that path maybe you're meant for this path and
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i spent a lot of time thinking i was fucked up but until i found other stories of people that felt like
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me bro um it was a bad situation for me mentally so like remember this 10 years from now people are
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going to be looking at you in your community and in your country and they're going to be saying fuck
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dude jason did it i could fucking do it i'm not built like everybody i'm not getting straight a's
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that doesn't mean that i can't go out and build shit and it's going to be a very important thing
01:00:29.060
dude and and um i really have a tremendous amount of respect for anybody who decides to go do that
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because it's against the grain and it takes a lot of courage to do and uh i really really
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fucking appreciate you doing it dude yeah thank you man appreciate it by the way i think everybody
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is listening to the show should do so if i were as well i jumped onto that as well yeah freaking
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amazing so far i'm going to finish i have like 20 days left fuck yeah man it's freaking great man
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and listening to the show every day as well so i love what you guys are doing there
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thank you thank you brother i appreciate it man we all appreciate it we're all sitting here so
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we appreciate you bro all right jason we'll catch in with you next time man yeah thank you guys have
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a great day you too i love that dude bro i fucking love hearing from these young young people doing it
01:01:18.300
dude it's so inspiring to me yeah it makes me feel like dude because you know you know me
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as well as anybody one of the biggest things i struggle with is like does this what we do here
01:01:30.060
even matter you know what i mean like i don't see the people out here doing these things motherfuckers
01:01:35.060
in sweden i know and that i just love that yeah like it makes me feel like okay well maybe
01:01:39.960
because dude even if one or two people do this if i spend 10 years and fucking one or two or five
01:01:46.500
people it's worth it you know 100 bro i love it dude um yeah i think the biggest piece on that
01:01:53.460
man is making you got you got to dream bigger yeah you got it you got to make that vision so
01:01:57.760
fucking big bro it's hard for people who have never witnessed that in person to do um that's why we
01:02:06.520
talk about i think we talked about this last week too but like people have to do intentional proximity
01:02:12.520
success you can't you have to be intentional about it you have to go where they go you have to be around
01:02:17.740
who they are you have to make friends with them if you have to pay to be in a network that's okay
01:02:22.260
make sure it's not one of these fucking stupid ones make sure it's the real one yeah but the
01:02:26.480
point is is that if you've never experienced it you have to intentionally be around it and that
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doesn't mean anything more than proximity and i think the most valuable thing that people can learn
01:02:37.460
from being around successful people and this is what i've learned this is the biggest lesson i've
01:02:42.980
ever learned about people is that they're all normal like you and me and everybody else they're not
01:02:47.560
special i used to think they were special bro i used to think it was a club i used to think there
01:02:51.240
was like a special handshake or a fucking secret knock and that's not what it is dude it's it's
01:02:56.900
regular people who have huge massive goals who almost always have a massive chip on their shoulder
01:03:04.220
to prove something and they just go and um you know this is why we talk about the myth of this lesson
01:03:13.200
this this myth that goes around like oh man that guy did all that but he must have had it
01:03:19.400
fucking handed to him and it was so easy no you stupid fuck the reason that these people built
01:03:25.680
shit is because it was hard for them at some point in their life and they learned grit resilience and
01:03:32.900
they had enough pain from where they came from that they want to get the fuck away from it no matter what
01:03:38.600
it takes the people that are the most successful that are self-made are generally the ones that come
01:03:45.520
from the hardest situations that's the fucking truth it is the complete opposite of what most
01:03:51.200
people say so you know if you're doing you're trying to do shit and you see you know you look
01:03:59.520
around you're like fuck my life is so fucked i don't know like no that's great because you get
01:04:05.220
to unfuck it you know what i'm saying absolutely and that provides enough internal drive and energy and
01:04:10.080
like fucking anger and rage and like energy to like make it happen dude and eventually you know
01:04:17.460
you get past that point eventually you get mostly past it you know someone step on your toes that's
01:04:23.700
different but you'll get to a point where it's very purpose-driven and there are purpose-driven
01:04:28.680
people that start out at the beginning purpose-driven but it's few and far between yeah i love it dude
01:04:34.720
i love it guys yeah andy bro that that was that was three yep all right guys let's go kick ass we'll see
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you when we see you went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stove
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counted millions in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know