956. Q&AF： Self-Accountability, Leading By Example & Scaling Without Lowering Standards
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Summary
On this episode of Q&A, we have a call-in question from a listener and we give the answers. Then we have 75 Hard Vs. 75 Hard, where someone who has completed the 75 Hard program comes on the show and talks about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the program to get their shit together. We also have a deal going on at 711 where you can get the entire program for FREE.
Transcript
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What is up guys? It's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Isn't that right?
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That is that that's correct. So why don't we tell everybody how you could submit your questions to be on the show?
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Yeah, I mean, if you guys really want to, you know, submit questions, there's a few ways to do it.
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First way, guys, you can email your question in to ask Andy at Andy for seller dot com.
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You guys can also check the link in the description below and submit your questions there for a chance to be on a call in.
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Or if you guys go to the Q and AF episodes on the tube, submit your questions in the comments.
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Now, if you're new to the show, which there always is new people, this is not just a Q and A show.
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OK, we have Q and A personal development on Mondays and then we have shows within the show throughout the week.
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Tomorrow, we're going to have what's called cruise the Internet.
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That's we call it CTI. That's we put topics on the screen.
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We speculate on what's going on. We talk about what might be and what might not be and how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world.
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Other times we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk.
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That is where someone who has completed the 75 hard program comes on the show, talks about how they were before, how they are now and how they use the 75 hard program to get their shit together.
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All right. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard, you can get the entire program for free at episode two zero eight on the audio feed.
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It's audio feed only. It's not on YouTube. OK, that will give you the entire 75 hard program, which is the boot camp.
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The initial phase of the live hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program ever in history.
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OK, there's also a book you can buy. The book is called the book on mental toughness.
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You can get it. Andy for seller dot com. It is not free, but it has a plethora.
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Like that word. I do like that word of extra information that you will not find in episode two zero eight.
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So if you're like me and you want to know the nuts and bolts and the ins and outs and the wise, the book is probably a better option.
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We have trouble keeping a stock, so it must be pretty good.
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Now, we do have this thing on the show that we call the fee and it's just very simple.
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All right. If you enjoy the show, if it teaches you something, if it makes you laugh, it gives you a new perspective.
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I do want to remind people, the amazing people, that we do have this promo going on right now with the form energy drinks.
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We came, we saw we conquered and we did a great job, all of us.
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And again, like I said last week, we're doing buy one, share one.
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So if you took advantage of the dollar deals at seven eleven, we're asking this week that you go out, you make some people happy, you make some people smile and video that shit.
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And then at the end of the week, probably beginning of next week, we're going to award some kings and queens of dollar days.
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All right. And I can't tell you what that's going to be, but it's going to be awesome.
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And let's see how many people we can make smile.
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There's a special deal on the grape, grape ones.
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Yeah. Another beautiful, beautiful fall day here in Missouri.
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I tell people that all the time about Missouri.
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Because she's always pissed, yelling at us, don't want nobody to be happy.
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So we weren't able to record on Friday, but that's why we don't have the call-ins today.
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Andy, a few episodes back, a young man called in talking about his dad.
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And during his description, I caught myself thinking, what the fuck?
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It wasn't one of my sons, but a lot of what he said hit close to home.
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I was medically separated from the Army about 10 years ago, but back then, I was in the
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Married at 17 with four kids, life has always been an uphill battle, mostly from my own choices.
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I've been listening to your show since 2016, so I know exactly where I've dropped the ball
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It's a tangible skill, and somewhere along the way, I lost it.
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Now, I'm finally taking steps to make a lasting change.
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I've started 75 hard and launched a dog training business I'm passionate about.
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Right now, I'm still working the nine to five while building my dream, but I struggle to
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stay focused at work because my mind's on the business.
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At my age, I'm trying to make the most of what I've got left and start living life for me.
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Now that my kids are grown, any advice on balancing the grind, building my dream, and maintaining
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Side note, I know I'm a fat fuck right now, but I'm an active fat ass.
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Bench 345, hit the gym, and can still outrun some of these teenagers.
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You're going to die if you don't fix your shit, okay?
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Quit saying, oh, I was 211 pounds back in fucking, you know, when Jesus was alive.
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And you're attaching your identity to what you used to be, not what you could be.
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I'm trying to make the time the best of what I have left.
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What the fuck are you talking about, all right?
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If you don't get your shit together, bro, you're going to fucking die.
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If I were you, I'd be completely focused on that because without that, you don't have
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You don't even have kids because you're going to be in a fucking ground.
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So my advice to you would be to take that more seriously than anything else in your life.
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And as you get that into change and you get that in line, you are going to become way
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Well, if you know this so much, then how the fuck are you so fucking fat, okay?
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What matters is what you do from this day forward.
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And if you don't take care of that problem of being that little and that fat, you got
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You know, you ain't, oh, I'm not going to outrun the, no, you can't.
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So before we talk about balance and, uh, you know, how do I balance the grind and this
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and that, bro, you need to grind some of that fat off your motherfucking body.
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So, uh, and by the way, and people get mad when I say this, but you know what, dude,
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Your success in life is going to come down to what people perceive of your presence when
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And if you walk in, you're going to train somebody's dog and you're fucking just as
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You're going to get some clients, but you sure as fuck ain't going to get the premium ones.
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The premium ones are going to look at you and they're going to say, this guy doesn't have
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And that's what people who are in this condition do not understand.
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We deal with what is, and what is, is that you have a big problem and it's in your fucking
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And, um, you know, I think the rest of the, the answer is irrelevant until you fucking
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Do you think that's a thing with, I mean, I think, I think it's bullshit that people say,
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oh, I can't balance all, if you're really doing 75 hard and you're really doing live
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hard, you are much more effective at everything else that you do in your life.
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And, uh, the balance aspect works itself out because you're coordinating your day every
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You're intentionally living day by day, by day, by day.
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And the fact that, you know, you let yourself go, you know, you've lived a long time just
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So don't feed me this bullshit because I know about, Oh, ask me how I know.
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This isn't like some dude who's just naturally ripped up here belittling you.
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I'm telling you the truth as if you're my homie, if you were my homie and you were sitting
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So, um, yeah, man, uh, you're lying to yourself.
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I think the discipline thing is very interesting.
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Like, especially to hear from somebody, you know, being in the military, that's all it
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Like you got, you know, people are telling you when to eat, when to work out, how long
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And so like, you know, is it, is it how important I guess?
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I mean, I guess that's the whole point of 75 hard live hard is like developing, having
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that system that holds you accountable and keeps you in that.
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Because I think most people are, I want to say inherently super lazy and undisciplined.
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Most people are just really good at telling themselves what they need to hear and talk
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This is the whole concept of the bitch voice and the boss voice.
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And until he balances that out, nothing's, it's going to get worse and worse and worse.
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And you need to do it right now or you're going to be fucking dead.
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We all think, oh, it's not going to happen to me.
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You're a walking fucking medical nightmare, bro.
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And bro, by the way, what kind of example are you setting for your fucking sons?
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You're telling your sons what everybody else tells your sons.
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By the time it's 40, you know, your life is over.
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Now, this is going to be a transition, but staying in line with this, let's go to question
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This is, this is, I'm interested in your, your, your thoughts on this, uh, guys, any
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Thank you, uh, for all the work you do, the time, effort, energy, intent.
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Now I went from 375 pounds to 225 pounds in two years.
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My coworkers have been treating me differently in a good way.
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Uh, I feel better, breathe better, sleep better.
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I have been noticing that I have been building some major resentment towards the people around
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me for one, because not one of those motherfuckers said anything about me being a
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Secondly, and what's really bothering me is now I can't help, but to look at them like
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fat, lazy pieces of shit for not wanting better for themselves.
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I'm not an asshole, but it's getting really hard to respect the people around me when their
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standards are so low, even with seeing everything that I have achieved, any help working through
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And he's telling you right there, the second guy, how people look at people like the first
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People that have their shit together, people who are winning, people who quite honestly
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hold the fucking keys to your opportunities, look at you and think that.
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So back to the first guy, you need to listen real close.
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Um, as far as the resentment goes, no, one's going to tell you you're fat, bro.
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Um, and if we're being honest, had they told you you were fat, you would have cried about
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You would have said that guy's a fucking asshole.
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And you probably would have just brushed it off as that.
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We, people don't tell the truth when it comes to that because it feels rude.
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If you really cared about someone and you really, really, really wanted them to improve,
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you would tell them the things that no one else would tell them.
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We live in a world where people don't want to tell people the truth.
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We live in a world where people don't want to tell themselves the truth.
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So you can't get mad at people for not telling you, um, that you were fat.
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And if they had, you would have fucking thought they were a piece of shit.
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But the other part of the equation I think is a natural part of getting your own shit together.
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You start to understand how easy relatively it is to handle that part of your life.
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And you start to look at people and think, what the fuck is going on with this person that they won't take advantage of the opportunity they have to get their shit together.
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But just like them to you, you don't want to walk around being like, Hey, you fat fuck.
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But that could sound and that could sound differently.
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That could sound like, Hey man, let me talk to you for a second.
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And the reality is going back to the first guy, you're 30 fucking nine years old, man.
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Like, let's go over here and look in the mirror.
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Do you think this is going to provide you with a fulfilling life?
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Sometimes they'll say, well, yeah, no, they're not.
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And this has been the biggest lie that's been told for the last fucking 15 years.
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There's not a single person out here that is three, four, 500 fucking pounds that looks in the mirror and says, I love me for me.
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And at the end of the day, you have to understand that about life.
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No one cares about all this shit that you tell yourself.
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You're telling yourself that you could still do.
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Dude, if you really think you could do the shit that at 330 pounds that you could do when you were 211, let's see it.
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I want to see it because you'll be the only motherfucker ever in history to do it.
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But yeah, dude, you know, pulling someone aside, having a real conversation with them in a caring way can go a long way.
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And they may not change at that moment, but they'll remember that when they do change.
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Andy was the only motherfucker that told me anything like that.
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And eventually they'll appreciate you for that.
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The coaches I hated the most growing up, now that I'm older, I look back, I'm like, man, that dude actually cared.
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And I hated them during the time when they were coaching me.
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So, you know, and that goes through leadership.
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And a lot of people aren't mature enough to handle hard coaching because they take it personally.
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But, like, dude, those people aren't built to be around winners.
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I understand the natural way that it skews your view because I definitely have the same thing.
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And this is what we talk about every single day about personal excellence being the ultimate rebellion.
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When you hold a standard, when you live a standard, when you show people, not tell people what it looks like,
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eventually people get tired of their own shit and they say, hey, how do you do that?
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And when they start doing that, that's when they change.
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I don't care how good of a motivator they are or how good of a how much logic and common sense and truth they bestow on someone.
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It doesn't matter if it's me or if it's Tony Robbins or fucking the greatest speaker or motivator on the fucking planet, bro.
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People will not change until they are ready to change.
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But understand that it shouldn't drive you crazy if they do nothing.
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And your responsibility is just to live the standard and the right people will come and the wrong people will, you know, might not.
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And, you know, those people will become irrelevant in your life.
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Let's talk about mindset in the sense of humility, too, right?
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Like, how important is it for this person to remember, like, bro, not that long ago you were there, too?
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Well, I think that's I think that's that's the the basis of empathy around those situations.
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But I think, you know, dude, I really connect with people that are overweight.
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Like when somebody is really heavy, I know what that's like, bro.
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And I know what it's like to be a prisoner in your own fucking body and literally look in the mirror and fucking hate it.
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So I definitely, you know, empathize with that.
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But I also know that coddling those people ain't going to fucking change it.
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You tell them it's OK, they'll go eat a motherfucking cheeseburger and they'll say, oh, it's OK.
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You know, I'm not I'm not that bad, you know, I let us on.
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They get six beers in and they go and look in the mirror in the fucking bar bathroom.
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You know, they wear the same shirt everywhere they go.
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Thinking it makes them look skinny and they're fooling people.
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You just got to you have to fucking address that.
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And not only do you look like shit, you feel like shit because, you know, you could be controlling it, which is driving your confidence, your self-esteem, your your fortitude.
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Everything that matters that brings all the good things in your life are suppressed when you're not controlling what it is that you control, because when you're not controlling things, you're in chaos.
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When you have anxiety, you usually have a lot of stress.
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When you have a lot of stress, that leads to depression.
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So it starts with controlling the things that we are in control of, which are very simple things that actually dictate the majority of the quality of our life.
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OK, what you put in your brain, who you associate with.
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These are things that you are always in control of.
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And those things, when controlled, produce the best outcome that you can create for yourself.
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And when you create the best outcome for yourself, you end up in a situation where other people are offering you opportunities because very clearly this person can handle their own responsibilities of self.
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So people can lie and they can say, oh, it's OK, you know, I'm happy at 380 pounds and this and that.
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If that were true, then why the fuck are all these fat activists out here on Ozempic now?
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If they were so if Lizzo was so happy being a fat pig, then why the fuck is she down all this weight?
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OK, but they were lying to you and you have to understand that.
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It is not OK to walk around in a body, in a life that you are totally unhappy with because you refuse to control very basic things.
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And when you really think about it, you're losing your you're losing in life to inanimate objects.
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You are losing to a fucking beer, a bottle of beer.
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You're losing your life to a thing that literally just has no life, no being, no energy.
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How weak is it to for a pizza or French fries or peanut butter to control your fucking life?
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OK, so until you start controlling these things, until you start getting pissed off that you're losing to inanimate objects,
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And you're certainly not going to look better and you're certainly not going to get the opportunities that you could get.
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And ultimately, I give this gentleman a lot of props for taking control of what it is.
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And what you're going to see, because this is a new thing for you, is if you maintain it over the course of years, almost everybody in your life will follow.
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OK, when I lost 110 pounds in 2016, when I first started getting my shit together for real, you know, all of us around here, around first form, we're a little chubby.
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Everybody in my life has gotten better because of that.
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OK, and that's what will happen to you if you've given enough time.
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And you can't let it rub you raw because it'll drive you fucking crazy and distract you from what you need to do.
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And, you know, two, three years from now, you're going to look around and all your friends are going to look different.
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And they're all going to be they might not say, hey, you inspire me to do this.
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But, dude, it's going to be very clear that what you did changed a lot of people around you.
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And that's that's a very I think that's the most noble thing that we can do, especially as independent, strong people that want to lead and fix culture.
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We have all these people that say, oh, I want to the world sucks.
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So when you look in the mirror and you see what you see all the way out there, can you not tie together that you're the fucking problem?
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We have to fix these things in ourselves for the things in the world to fix themselves.
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And if we all lived better and we tried harder and we lived a standard, everybody would be happier, healthier, more productive, which changes culture.
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So when culture is strong, independent, non-dependent on them, the world changes.
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OK, but that can't change until you look in the mirror and see what you think Americans should be.
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Yeah, you're setting the example, bro, and I commend you for it.
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But you can't get upset that people don't follow you right away.
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A lot of people probably think, yo, just wait, he's going to gain it back, which is the point of, you know, you've got to maintain it.
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Like, what was the moment for you that made you, like, fucking get with it?
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Well, it all came down to I understood that me not living at two things.
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One, I wanted to win, and I don't see anybody at the top that's fat.
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So I knew I wasn't getting some sort of fucking special boost to get where I needed to go.
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So I knew and I recognized that for me to get where I wanted to go, I had to be my best self.
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And I think that's the biggest misconception that people have about winning and success.
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None of us listening are good enough to win unless we are absolute best.
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There are going to be people who handle their shit much better than you that are going to get your opportunities.
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They think, oh, that's that's that's not actually true.
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The inside does count, but the outside counts, too.
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And when you start telling yourself it's only about the inside, dude, it's again, it's a lie.
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Robert Greene talks about this in the 48 Laws of Power.
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You have to understand reality, not what you wish reality would be.
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And if you don't think so and you subscribe to the other way of thinking, you're going to be very limited in what you can do in your life.
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And you're also going to end up with a lot of regrets about what could have been and how I could have lived and what could have happened and what kind of example did I set?
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And those things are going to eat you up, dude.
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You know, this thirty nine year old guy, the first question really bothers me, dude.
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That guy's that guy's fucking straight up lying to himself.
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You got to live it and you got to live forever.
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And that's the change that needs to happen in this country.
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Abandoning their responsibility as an individual is the reason that we're in the situation that we're in.
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Andy, 14 years in, I didn't build this business to be an employee in my own companies.
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How do you scale without losing control, standards or loyalty?
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What steps would you take to build a self-managed team you trust to run it right?
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Well, I mean, if everybody if it was easy to scale, everybody would scale.
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OK, it doesn't matter if you have three or five or 50, 500 answers.
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And the second question, number one, are you living the standard?
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They know if you're actually doing it or you're not doing it.
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And if you come in and pretend, it's not going to work no matter what.
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Well, number one, you've got to take your key reports and you have to consistently work
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with them every single week about the standards.
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We have to everything, every action, everything that we take should be tying back to the core
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values of the business that you that you have set.
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If you don't have core values, you need to set them and you need to speak in that language
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to your employees, which means every action that we take, every action we don't take,
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every hire that we make, every hire, every time we fire someone, every time we make a move.
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These all have to be tied back to these guiding principles of what our value system is.
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And if you're not doing that on a consistent basis, the culture can't live and breathe
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So the difference between a really great culture and, and, and, and a really bad culture is putting
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some shit on the wall and never talking about it again, or putting some shit on the wall
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and making it your only conversation that you ever fucking have about everything that
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And those values have to be lived by you to the best of your abilities.
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And by the way, you're not going to be perfect.
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And when you fuck up, you got to be able to own that and say, Hey, you know what?
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The purpose of value system isn't to live perfectly all the time is to let them guide
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you so that you understand that when you do make mistakes, this is where you made them
00:31:23.980
and I need to correct them, which keeps the culture in line.
00:31:26.660
If you don't have a strong culture, it's very hard to scale and hold standards.
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And the reason that most people can't scale is the exact reason that this, this guy's
00:31:36.380
putting out, they put all the systems in place to scale, but the standards at the top
00:31:41.420
get watered down by 20% at every level that you see down downstream.
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It's just, yeah, it's just, uh, it's just, you know, it's like the game of telephone, bro.
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You whisper in the guys here next to you, one thing, and by the time it gets all the
00:31:58.140
way around, it's something completely different.
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And that's the same way with standards over the course of time.
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If you don't make them a living, breathing part of your communication that exists all
00:32:10.520
So when you have a strong culture and your key reports understand what I'm talking about
00:32:17.420
because you work with them day in, day out, day in, day out for years, eventually those
00:32:23.260
guys start to embody the culture exactly as you would.
00:32:30.720
Um, everybody wants to hire this out and you can, you can hire it out, but you're still
00:32:37.760
You're going to run into the problem of people who aren't the culture, people of your brand
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doing things that aren't in line with the culture of your brand.
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And you're going to constantly be dealing with this issue.
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So it's kind of like, it's kind of like the idea of cleaning your house.
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It's a lot easier to pick up your shit right after you eat and put it in the sink or put
00:32:59.460
it in the dishwasher than it is to let the shit pile the fuck up to the, to the size of
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a mountain that you don't even want to look at because you understand how hard it is to
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A little bit every single day is a lot more than a big reset every 60 days.
00:33:19.200
So, because what that comes across as is basically, Oh, the bus, he's fired up today
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and, uh, you know, tomorrow he'll go back to his normal self.
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And the only way for that to get spread is for you to help other people embody those
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And eventually you'll have a great leadership team.
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Like we have here that helps the culture flow downstream.
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I would say that most of our people that, that work for me in some way, shape or form,
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no matter what company are handling their shit at a pretty high level.
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And that's the other good thing about having a strong culture is that it weeds out the
00:34:09.620
Once you have it set to where it's living, breathing, and it's part of the system, everybody
00:34:14.220
in the company knows when someone comes in that doesn't fit and that person knows too,
00:34:21.240
So it protects you from the cancer and it protects you from the negative, uh, by having
00:34:27.460
So when we talk about scaling, you have to understand.
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Yes, plenty of businesses scale and plenty of businesses are okay because maybe they're
00:34:37.440
in something that makes enough profit to where they don't have to worry about holding these
00:34:43.920
Like if somebody's subscribing to a tech platform and there's really no communication with any
00:34:51.140
of the employees at all, a lot of, you're going to be able to get away with a little
00:34:54.640
bit less standard because the products, what's people want and they're buying it.
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Unfortunately for most of us, we exist in businesses that require strong culture for
00:35:06.260
And even if you have a company that doesn't require and you add it to it, you're going
00:35:10.400
to have a much better company than what the other companies have.
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So there's never, and I, there's never a, uh, a company that won't benefit greatly from
00:35:19.940
And it starts at the top and it's a consistent message that you have to fucking communicate
00:35:28.660
When you're correcting people, like I said, when you're hiring people, when you're firing
00:35:32.600
people, what decisions you make for how you're going to grow, um, how you're going to promote
00:35:38.800
All of these things should be culture driven, including how you reward your people.
00:35:43.700
And if you want fucking great culture, you reward people for embodying great culture.
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And that great culture will allow you to scale at a much better rate with higher standards
00:35:56.740
Well, I want to ask you this, and maybe I'm thinking too much into it on this.
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Um, you know, but on this, like I, I didn't build this to be an employee in my own company's
00:36:05.740
And I've heard you say, you know, I am an employee of my company.
00:36:10.380
And you made this like separation, like everybody obviously knows your position here, right?
00:36:14.280
There's no doubt about that, but it doesn't feel like that.
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Well, because I recognize that I have a role just like everybody else has a role.
00:36:24.040
And that's the biggest mistake that, you know, CEOs and owners and operators make.
00:36:29.400
They think that the employees work for them when in reality you work for your employees.
00:36:35.780
Because you're responsible for their wellbeing.
00:36:42.200
And if you don't take that seriously as, as a leader, they're not going to take you seriously
00:36:50.340
Otherwise you, by the way, this is a great point that you bring up because without this
00:36:56.540
So like the way I look at my role here is, you know, Sal operates the operating, you know,
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My role here is to go out and do what I'm good at and run the things I'm good at.
00:37:08.540
And then, you know, go around and be what you would call like the chief culture officer
00:37:12.180
and, you know, talk to people, find out where the holes are, find out if they, what they need,
00:37:16.800
what they don't need, uh, what the problems are and fix those things as you go.
00:37:20.560
And I look at that as just like me, that's my, or in the boat, like I've got to, I've
00:37:27.260
And, uh, that part while, you know, I guess, you know, you would consider one of the most
00:37:34.420
I don't value it more than the guy in the backpack in the box because we, it takes a tremendous
00:37:43.940
But once you get over that and you're like, okay, well, this is just my role.
00:37:48.180
Then you earn the respect of your teammates and your teammates are your employees.
00:37:57.580
Maybe, maybe some, maybe some of my employees look that way because we have so many that
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don't, you know, there's some that don't know me, you know what I'm saying?
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But I think any of the people that I'm in contact with on a daily basis know that I give
00:38:08.780
a lot of fucks about them and it hurts me when they decide to leave, bro.
00:38:12.640
Like I feel, I don't look at people when, when we lose a good employee, I don't look at
00:38:17.640
You know what I look at it like, man, I fucked up.
00:38:24.560
And that's the difference I think between great leaders that their team respects and
00:38:29.800
goes hard for and leaders that, you know, have people that come in and clock in and
00:38:37.640
I think, I think that's, that's so fucking important there.
00:38:40.120
Just like it's another war in the boat because it doesn't matter how good you are at being
00:38:48.960
It's, I, I think when you first start to have a business, you know, you kind of want
00:38:56.420
that prestige and that, that, um, here's, here's my name plate.
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What makes a boss is doing the things that I just mentioned.
00:39:14.660
It's recognizing that what your role is and executing that role for the benefit of the
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And it doesn't matter if you're the chairman like I am or the CEO, or you're the brand
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Man, we are all a part of the team and, uh, we all have to row.
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