REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 962. Q&AF： Creating A Bigger Sense Of Urgency, Discipling Employees & Managing Your Team From A Distance

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies

00:00:21.100 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys

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00:02:04.580 show we do things a little different here uh we ask very simply that you know if you get something

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00:02:20.020 share the show all right my brothers what's up hey what is that what do you those are fake no these

00:02:27.620 are real why are you gonna wear you're only 30 years old yeah is that old yeah so now you gotta

00:02:34.700 have glasses as soon as i turn 30 it happened how the fuck am i in my mid 40s but i don't need glasses

00:02:39.860 you do need glasses no i don't you've said you need the glasses i've said that but do you see

00:02:44.200 me wearing them dude i ain't no bitch no more because i can't fucking see shit well

00:02:48.300 you mean like i couldn't see that that turn off a couple weeks ago that's right that's right

00:02:54.100 dude it's all right man i get it i get you know it's the it's the nighttime man yeah it's the

00:03:01.400 nighttime it's uh all you guys shaking your head huh it's all you guys it's over 30 bro it happens

00:03:07.420 really yeah bro it's a dude it probably doesn't that's what it is i started doing the tinted

00:03:13.880 windshield because it looks cool and i can't see shit i can't see shit i'm gonna end up wrapped

00:03:21.060 around some fucking pole because i want to look cool fuck man how'd they get me fuck man he look

00:03:27.260 good doing it though yeah that's right we give that a 10 fuck man all right so what we got today

00:03:33.800 dude we got we got uh it's monday guys we're making people better today got some great questions

00:03:38.380 lined up so uh shall we what you sipping on i'm sipping on that uh on the orange orange fury i got

00:03:47.560 the scissor because i'm feeling furious yeah the scissor yeah i'm sipping on the scissor over here

00:03:54.040 man i like the grape a lot i just can't drink it i get it bro i want a crime spree yeah that's

00:04:00.040 what i'm saying you know fucking with the way the interest rates are right now like yeah you can't

00:04:05.020 can't afford that my credit can't go down you know i'm saying man let's get into it man let's get some

00:04:10.720 calls let's get uh let's get our boy skylar all right on the phone uh here's skylar

00:04:16.040 hello skylar what's up dude yo is this dj this is the one and only dj skylar what's up bro it's

00:04:40.180 andy too dj dj let me be on the show today

00:04:43.920 yeah dude that's crazy how you doing i'm good brother how are you

00:04:50.980 man i'm just trying not to freeze my balls off out here in utah is it cold is it cold in utah right

00:04:58.580 now yeah up in the mountains oh okay gotcha i forget utah's like that it's like split

00:05:06.180 yeah mountains and desert it's a beautiful state it's crazy yeah so what you got going on brother

00:05:12.860 what are you doing so i'm at this point where i'm about to create a greater level of urgency

00:05:26.100 to pursue business ownership and like nine years ago i had this point in my life where

00:05:35.560 i was like i need to get my money right and uh like any 19 year old at that time i was trying to find

00:05:42.000 direction and navigate life but uh ultimately i i chose college and i graduated in 2020 and i got

00:05:50.960 buried under student loans so i actually moved that same year to a new state job hops and that's

00:05:58.100 actually where i found during that job hopping is when i found real af on youtube and 75 hard where

00:06:06.000 just changed my life for the better and finally got like a salary worthwhile and just kept working hard

00:06:14.340 started winning my role like all my work was getting done ahead of time and i started

00:06:18.800 executing on like other people's projects without being asked to and in return i was given what i

00:06:26.100 asked for and how and now i have like all this time and flexibility in my schedule but during that time

00:06:31.720 i was hammering away at that loan and that debt was easy to attack because it came with serious

00:06:36.680 consequences if i fell back into that position like when i started financially but now i'm now i'm about

00:06:44.260 be on the other side of that loan and without that external pressure uh just trying to create a new

00:06:50.180 level of urgency to preserve pursue business ownership and now that i'm entering that more stable phase

00:06:58.560 and working towards becoming that um like my question is what do i need to keep in mind to create that

00:07:05.960 greater level of urgency than the level that i had when i was fighting to escape that debt

00:07:12.560 bro this is a really good question and uh i'm glad you asked it because a lot of people struggle with

00:07:20.320 what you're talking about and they're not aware that this is the this is the destruction of the success

00:07:26.520 that they've created so i went through this as well brother um you know when you don't have any money

00:07:33.500 and things aren't going well you have to perform there's no other option and um then when you start

00:07:41.160 to get a little comfort like you're talking about that urgency sort of fades away because you do have

00:07:47.120 options in theory all right um and that was a big struggle for me when i started making money

00:07:55.760 uh i went three or four years and i'm like all right man i'm good i'm good i'm good and then i started

00:08:00.540 feeling like very comfortable and sort of relaxed and uh then the money stopped coming in because of

00:08:09.740 my comfort that i had uh you know started to feel naturally because i was i didn't have my back

00:08:17.180 against the wall and i created this mindset in myself which i now talk to you guys about called

00:08:28.320 zero options mentality all right and what zero options mentality is is that you have to train

00:08:35.360 yourself to think of yourself as if you have zero options but to do it and the way that i really

00:08:48.420 cultivated that is i would think about where i would be five years from now if i remain in this

00:08:53.500 comfortable position where i would be 10 years from now what would the story be if i lost everything

00:08:59.060 and that created enough urgency in me to continue to stay on the gas and then what i also did at that

00:09:05.340 time is i found other reasons to work my ass off all right with urgency such as the people who have

00:09:13.980 helped me build my company uh my my responsibility to my employees i allow those things to put the pressure

00:09:20.300 on me now outside of the um you know i guess individual financial pressure that you know i had

00:09:27.880 back then so the whole trick here skylar is to figure out ways that leverage you into action that

00:09:36.760 may not be actual reality but you trick yourself into feeling it to be real reality and that's how you

00:09:45.760 start but if you really dig into it dude you have to understand that even when things are comfortable

00:09:53.720 you have other obligations than just yourself right life is not supposed to be lived where you

00:10:01.020 you just go out there uh you get yourself comfortable you know you live in your house with

00:10:07.780 the white picket fence and 2.5 kids and just live that life that's an empty life for most people that's

00:10:13.760 why most people feel very frustrated in their life and they can't figure out why and it's because

00:10:18.240 human beings are naturally born to create become and build things in their nature and so when you

00:10:25.300 don't have that in any way shape or form even if you have comfort you're going to have a lack of

00:10:32.020 fulfillment because you know that you're leaving things on the table and i say all that to say this

00:10:36.800 you have to cultivate a zero options mentality you've got to put your back against the wall

00:10:42.760 as if everything you do matters

00:10:45.860 because everything you do does matter and you're only

00:10:50.700 28 is that right

00:10:52.520 yeah yeah bro you got a long road ahead of you dude and you have to ask yourself like where you're at

00:11:00.440 now is that all you actually ever want and if it is there's nothing wrong with that but just

00:11:05.340 understand that when you start to feel unfulfilled or you start to feel like something's missing

00:11:10.580 what is probably missing in your life is you're leaving shit on the table and you know it deep

00:11:17.560 down and that starts to eat away especially anybody who is an achiever or who is driven or who has

00:11:23.960 ambition and so i don't know what your current situation is but i could tell you you're not making

00:11:31.240 enough money okay you're not you are very young and you have a long road ahead of you and if you

00:11:39.180 don't consistently stay on the gas eventually this comfort that you've created will fade away

00:11:44.540 and you have to understand that bro that that is just the reality that that is a that is uncle andy

00:11:50.960 telling nephew skylar hey brother this is the way the path works and uh i've been down that path

00:11:57.440 many times dude and it's no fun getting to a point where you know the success that you've seen starts

00:12:03.960 to fade away because you started to feel comfortable and i think the fact if i'm being real with you i

00:12:08.820 think the fact that you're aware of it is what's actually going to keep you from becoming one of

00:12:14.020 those statistics right most people are never aware of this most people never come to the conclusion of

00:12:19.320 i'm doing good but that scares me i'm doing good but i'm scared of what's going to happen down the

00:12:26.560 road most people skylar will say i'm doing good so i'm good and that's whenever they start to take

00:12:32.180 their foot off the gas they stop paying attention to details they stop doing the things that they

00:12:36.720 were doing whenever they were digging themselves out and building their life and then it crumbles

00:12:42.640 and um you know the fact that you're aware of that ahead of time brother is is a very profound

00:12:48.960 awareness that most people lack and you don't realize that because you're so very young

00:12:54.540 how rare that is okay but i can tell you for sure that that the fact that you even asked that

00:13:00.660 question tells me that this isn't going to happen to you it's not you're not going to be one of these

00:13:06.400 people that loses uh you're not going to lose that awareness okay you're going to keep it and um

00:13:12.520 yeah man i mean it's it's a mental fuck and you have to you have to transition your mental

00:13:18.800 mental into a place of zero options and and that's what i do man like you know um i live a

00:13:25.440 very good life i've i've done very well financially for myself as you guys you know know uh i have

00:13:31.440 literally everything that i've ever wanted and the stuff i don't want i could get if i really wanted to

00:13:37.560 um and so i had to come up with a different purpose and a different thing that made me urgent

00:13:42.680 and that came down to leveraging other things that mattered in my life so um so yeah bro i i

00:13:51.380 that that's how you got to cultivate it dude you you have to realize that urgency is not a

00:13:57.980 it's it's not something that you can afford to allow fade from your life because when you allow

00:14:05.700 the urgency to fade all the results end up fading too well can i throw something in real quick because

00:14:10.820 i think this is so important especially to the younger crowd you you taught me this and and

00:14:14.580 again listen i'm not a financial advisor i'm not none of that right but here's not but here's

00:14:19.080 something okay here this is this is important bro you you taught me this like sometimes you also have

00:14:25.220 to like intentionally kind of make your situation a little bit uncomfortable yeah stretch yourself a

00:14:30.800 little bit just just a fucking little bit man like i'm not saying go get a fucking lambo skylar

00:14:35.080 that's not what i'm saying all right yeah but you got to kind of put yourself in the situation

00:14:39.000 where like okay well all right this is new coming in now i gotta work a little bit harder

00:14:43.340 to get to make sure that i'm still good yeah i think that's so important that's a real thing

00:14:47.640 dude and it feels it feels counterintuitive because you feel like you're being a little

00:14:52.260 irresponsible yeah like for me those those situations in my life um where i've accumulated

00:14:58.860 a lot of funds what i what i end up doing all the time is just taking most of those funds and

00:15:04.360 reinvesting that in the projects that i have in order to create a little bit more uh discomfort

00:15:09.580 financially so there's all kinds of things you can do brother but uh at the end of the day

00:15:15.260 uh you've you've actually done some really really awesome shit you know digging yourself out of

00:15:20.640 financial loans we all know that student loans are predatory and basically useless and bury people

00:15:25.720 intentionally and the fact that you're 28 years old and you've almost dug out of that it says a lot

00:15:30.420 about you bro yeah thank you um it it's totally this mindset shift where i feel like i need to build

00:15:42.560 it it's like the only it's just what convinced i'm convinced of and whenever i'm working towards

00:15:50.700 something and people close to me tell me that what are you they're asking me what am i doing or they

00:15:56.820 just don't believe in it it just kind of seems like that indicator that i'm doing something

00:16:01.800 worthwhile absolutely and there's there's all this there's all this uh obligation i'm starting to think

00:16:13.280 of now as i'm transitioning my mindset of like okay well what would happen to this person that i

00:16:20.320 really care about if i don't do this for them right exactly dude exactly you know i had a situation

00:16:28.000 that happened to me in like 2014 where i got pneumonia real bad some of you guys have heard the

00:16:33.060 story but some of you guys haven't and i missed work for like 17 days which was the longest that i

00:16:38.800 had missed work uh up until that time and um i was sick and i i didn't feel good but i was and i

00:16:48.600 wasn't working but i could see my bank account going up and at that point in time you know i was

00:16:54.020 making the most money i ever made but i wasn't happy i wasn't excited i felt like what i was doing

00:17:01.000 was pointless and uh then i had to leverage that on i had i i actually snapped out of it and i thought

00:17:07.260 to myself i'm like this is why fucking wealthy people kill themselves because they don't transition

00:17:13.160 over to these other meanings that are more fulfilling i mean look dude you know all the cars and

00:17:18.260 the house and the shit that we all like and fight for and all that shit i mean dude the reality is is

00:17:24.600 it's not about that stuff it's about the fucking build it's about the game it's about the process

00:17:29.820 and if you make it about stuff eventually you're going to be unfulfilled and if you transfer that

00:17:37.600 you know i always talk about this because gary v and i have gotten in a couple arguments about this

00:17:42.460 um just misaligned where he says things like you know cars and this and that bullshit yeah but for

00:17:50.320 some people that's their big driver right like for me when i started dude i wanted cars and i wanted a

00:17:56.360 cool house and i wanted this and i wanted that they were very selfish desires but i also think natural

00:18:02.700 desires is like why people start businesses and try to become uh financially independent and that's okay

00:18:10.020 but eventually you have to transition from uh a selfish point of view to a selfless point of view

00:18:18.620 to where like you're saying bro you know the people around you are going to depend on you much more than

00:18:23.200 you think and um when you transition your your pursuit from something that you're going to gain

00:18:30.900 to something that you're going to do for others that have helped you or that care about you or that

00:18:37.300 depend on you it really creates a different level of urgency in you and i'm sure this is how probably

00:18:44.140 people feel when they have kids um i you know i don't have kids but everybody i know that's young

00:18:50.900 that has kids they're like man the first time you see that little fucker come out you know you have a

00:18:55.580 different level of fucking understanding of what it's about and that's you know that's probably the

00:19:00.240 closest thing i i can experience to that personally um so i think you're thinking about it the right way

00:19:07.420 dude 100 dude love it man yeah there's like this idea of helping other people as you're going along

00:19:22.180 working towards this great dream that could that is like going to benefit you financially like

00:19:30.120 materially but you know in this stage that i'm in it's very like lonely i would describe it where

00:19:37.420 like i lost a lot of friends and stuff and now it's like how do i build better relationships with new

00:19:43.240 people and you know ultimately help them while still getting something out of it well it's the same

00:19:50.580 thing that you did in the beginning dude um you're just doing it at a different level and that's what

00:19:55.020 i'll say too another way to really cultivate urgency is to expand your vision for yourself okay you know

00:20:01.420 um true champion true winners people who do great things they don't they don't ever really achieve

00:20:09.340 their goals okay they get to a point where they understand they're going to achieve it and then they say

00:20:15.200 okay well i'm going to expand this this is what i could actually do i didn't know it was going

00:20:20.260 to take me this amount of time to do that so now i have this much runway in front of me and they take

00:20:25.540 the progress and the momentum that they've created and they create a bigger goal which then instills a

00:20:31.480 new level of urgency on them and that goal can be many different things it could be i want to uh build a

00:20:37.380 a school system uh for my community i want to be able to solve this problem i want to be able to take

00:20:44.140 care of my family i want to be able to take care of people or it can even be i want bigger life for

00:20:50.580 myself you know it could be all kinds of things to cultivate that urgency but i don't think you're

00:20:56.580 going to lose it dude i really don't you're asking the right questions that make here's what somebody

00:21:01.260 would say that was going to have a problem with that they would say they would have said like this

00:21:05.600 i started when i was 19 i got myself in all this debt and um i paid it off and uh i'm good

00:21:14.720 and that's where the question that's where it would have stopped yeah that would have been the win

00:21:20.420 so the fact that you're already thinking about this bro you got to believe in yourself a little bit and

00:21:25.360 i can just tell you from talking to you bro you're wired you're wired different than everybody else

00:21:30.200 and if we're being real you know uh you you if you're an ambitious human and you're someone that

00:21:38.260 wants to win and you're someone with big dreams you need to run the opposite direction of everybody

00:21:44.060 else 99 of the time these people are not on the same path with you that doesn't mean they're bad

00:21:50.720 people it doesn't mean they're bad friends it doesn't mean they can't you can't be civil with

00:21:54.580 them or have a beer or you know an energy drink or whatever it is you guys do out there in utah

00:21:59.360 ain't no beers out there right well you know what they say about mormons bro if you if you fucking

00:22:04.960 if you uh if you take one fish in you better take two otherwise i drink all your beer that's right

00:22:09.980 you know so so i don't even know if uh if skylar's mormon but you get my point brother you know what i'm

00:22:17.260 saying no love it man no i i do get the point and yeah it's really and now that without that

00:22:25.020 external pressure like figure it out well what's it going to be theory

00:22:28.880 what's it going to be you know sit down sit down and spend the next you know today and tomorrow and

00:22:34.320 think about like okay well what's my next thing what's my next thing you know um i'm building a

00:22:40.280 whole new company right now uh i talked about it last week on cti like and it's a tech company and

00:22:46.220 it's a new challenge for me and it's something that i don't i didn't a year ago i didn't know

00:22:50.840 anything about and that was the expansion of my vision to maintain my urgency and now that urgency

00:22:56.000 flows into all my other projects too right i'm more tuned in to everything else going on because

00:23:01.600 i've created that urgency in myself to do this other thing so you know i think you just need to

00:23:07.440 sit down and think about what that's going to look like for you both personally what it's going to mean

00:23:11.720 to your family or your future family what it's going to mean to you when you're 50 or 60 or 70

00:23:16.380 and think about those things because i could tell you the one thing you don't want to do bro

00:23:20.640 is you don't want to get to the 60 70 80 years old and say fuck i was on a good track bro and i

00:23:26.800 fucked it up or i would i could have done so much more or you know and and by the way bro we're all

00:23:32.140 going to have regrets when we die like there's it's just the trade-off of life um but one of the one of

00:23:39.160 the worst ones i think that someone could have is is saying i could have been this but i i didn't

00:23:45.000 and i think that would be a terrible thing to to think about when you're you know time is up

00:23:49.600 it's real man skylar we do we appreciate you calling in bro yeah that's awesome thank you

00:23:56.300 for taking my call um i'm not mormon by the way well you can have some beer yeah

00:24:01.840 but yeah this has been great thanks for yeah thank you andy you're welcome bro it's just

00:24:10.320 reassurance you know everything i'm saying here you already knew it

00:24:13.240 cool well have a good one guys all right brother you too

00:24:19.680 that's a good question man no it's super important but i think the other piece too

00:24:26.140 you truly believe like you can lose it all any day oh yeah i can you know i'm saying so like

00:24:30.800 that's not bullshit but like dude it's so different entrepreneurship never changes

00:24:34.840 if you're an entrepreneur you are going to ride on the fucking line of losing your ass your entire life

00:24:41.740 you're only three two mistakes away or two bad moves or one business deal or you know

00:24:47.700 fucking one government regulation change who fucking knows so you have to go when you can

00:24:53.880 last night um uh we went to we're recording this on saturday for you guys on monday we went to see uh

00:25:03.180 jamie johnson and uh riley green and

00:25:07.380 jamie johnson is like for you guys that don't know he's my favorite artist of any genre of all time

00:25:15.980 and so to get to sit down and talk to him and and you know become friends with him and and you know

00:25:22.100 we spent a lot of time together yesterday one of the things we spoke about the entire time was

00:25:26.820 you know it's really no different for anybody in any lane like they see the result they see the the

00:25:34.040 but that what they don't see is the 20 30 year grind that has been put into that and um it's really no

00:25:42.500 different for a musician musician or an entrepreneur or a pastor or anybody trying to do anything it's

00:25:49.080 just reps and reps and reps and reps and reps and reps and um you know i'm fortunate enough in my

00:25:56.540 life to be around some very high achievers you know that in the public that people know and every

00:26:02.260 time i have a private conversation with any of these people i mean it's the same thing it's like

00:26:06.360 they're normal dudes normal women who have put in a gazillion more reps than people will ever

00:26:13.680 understand uh and they keep the gas down because they they don't know when it's going to end you

00:26:19.220 know what i'm saying so the thing that we were talking about was you know the the way the country

00:26:23.760 boys say it you know is you got to make hay when the sun's shining you know what i'm saying

00:26:26.980 and that doesn't change for anyone uh you're going to get older and there's going to be a new guy that

00:26:33.800 comes back behind you and you know you've got to continue to fight those fucking battles your whole

00:26:39.640 life and uh it's no different for any lane that you decide you want to be in yeah i fucking love it

00:26:45.060 man even if you're an employee right like you're going to be pretty good and you even if you're the best

00:26:49.980 employee of a company and you're making a great you can't you can't think that there's not going

00:26:54.920 to be someone that comes around behind you that fucking wants your shit you don't continue to

00:26:58.780 invest in your skills right don't fucking yeah that's right eventually you get passed you know

00:27:01.920 how many you know how many times over my business career i've had a situation where

00:27:05.620 my literal best employee ended up like failing out of the company because they got too comfortable

00:27:11.980 and they said oh well i'm the best and then they stopped doing the things that they used to do

00:27:16.040 they just ride on that identity because they were the best at one time yeah and then all of a sudden

00:27:21.080 you know a year later you're having to have a conversation with them and they can't understand

00:27:27.260 why you're even having the conversation yeah because in their mind they're the best they still

00:27:31.320 got the varsity letterman jacket on correct when we've graduated college now yeah right and dude that's

00:27:36.920 that that happens in entrepreneurs it happens with employees it happens with anybody anywhere so like

00:27:43.660 the sense of urgency has to be real because you have to understand that this is a competition

00:27:50.880 and there are people that are going to come try to take your spot all the time and we see this on the

00:27:56.120 internet right oh the only person you're in competition with is yourself true true kind of like if you

00:28:02.880 don't compete with yourself to get better you but you will get passed by someone else right so this

00:28:08.360 idealistic mindset of oh this isn't a competition that's total bullshit like it's total bullshit

00:28:15.160 there is a limited number of spaces there is way more people and those people are trying to get to

00:28:21.160 those spaces what is that called that's called a competition okay so this whole idea that we're

00:28:27.160 going to remove competition from society and all we got to do is compete with ourselves it's total

00:28:33.100 fucking bullshit like it's total bullshit just live laugh love guys dude it's it's it's very it's

00:28:39.700 damaging it's a damaging narrative to people you know what i mean yeah so that's crazy man i love it

00:28:45.580 man let's keep uh keep it cruiser moving sorry oh yeah let's keep improving yeah there you go

00:28:51.440 all right guys any uh let's get uh question number two uh andy i joined the company where i am

00:29:00.380 currently at about three years ago my dad hired me uh he's the president of the company we are an

00:29:06.820 esop company um i'm trying to grow and scale the business since uh it has run very old school with

00:29:13.360 no social media no website this is a foundry supplies slash sand company i'm trying very hard

00:29:21.080 to learn the industry and do everything i can to grow the business and myself i recently hired a friend

00:29:27.480 but he has been slacking off and i've told him to pick a pick it up and he didn't now i caught him

00:29:34.280 smoking weed on the job on the property and i had to let him go i feel really bad because of how he took

00:29:40.840 it i know it's the right thing but i would like to know if you would do anything different and how i

00:29:46.800 should have gone about it i appreciate everything you guys do i mean look man um that's the unfortunate

00:29:53.420 reality of a great culture and trying to build a strong company you know when you care about your

00:30:01.940 people and you spend so much time with them you know you end up being friends with them yeah and

00:30:06.940 sometimes when you become friends with people they start to take advantage of that friendship and

00:30:12.740 the only way you could really be friends with your people is that if they respect you and you respect

00:30:18.140 them and that means that when we come to work we're here to work when we're not at work i'm not

00:30:24.360 your boss we're friends we're cool we we we could fucking drink beer we could smoke some weed we could

00:30:30.040 talk all the shit you want you call me a motherfucker i'll call you a motherfucker but then when we go over

00:30:36.100 here dude it's business time and not everybody can operate that way they let those things bleed

00:30:41.440 together and um so there's been a number of situations where over the years i we've had to

00:30:49.120 let go of people that i really fucking liked like there's there's really nobody that i can think of

00:30:54.940 that i ever let go that i didn't like as a person yeah right um there's one okay but that was a many many

00:31:05.220 many years ago yeah uh but yeah i mean look i don't think you did anything wrong i think you know

00:31:13.180 what will eventually probably happen in that situation is that friend if he's actually your

00:31:18.060 friend he's going to come back and he's probably going to say hey man i know i fucked up and i'm sorry

00:31:22.120 i shouldn't have done that that was crossing the boundaries you know um i i've had to let go i had

00:31:28.140 to let go of somebody uh not too long ago who i found out was you know doing very similar things uh

00:31:37.640 drinking during the day um you know they had an alcohol problem and we were trying to work through

00:31:44.680 it and and then that that problem wasn't able to get solved and we we i found out some things uh that

00:31:52.060 was going on and we had to let this guy go and this is like this is a guy who i fucking loved and i still

00:31:57.660 love but he's mad at me you know what i'm saying and um that sucks but at the end of the day my

00:32:05.840 responsibility is to the team first okay um it's to the company first above my own interests it's

00:32:12.260 it's company first um you know there's a little saying you know you work for the company first and

00:32:18.980 you work for your boss second and that's how i look at it i don't look at it like oh this is my

00:32:25.080 shit and uh you know i look at it like i'm a part of the team and this is my responsibility and if i

00:32:31.540 don't protect the team then that's i'm not doing my job and that's the same for for this person writing

00:32:38.180 in uh it's very difficult and it's hard sometimes but you got to hold the line and if you don't hold

00:32:44.440 the line like if you didn't hold the line with this a year from now you'd have the whole fucking

00:32:48.200 team out there smoking pot okay and not watching what you do that's right how you're gonna respond

00:32:53.260 dude and here's the problem when you when everybody else knows like when all your high achievers and

00:32:58.880 your hard workers and everybody that's kicking ass knows that you're not taking care of this other

00:33:03.360 thing they start to resent you because they're like well he gets to do all this special shit i don't get

00:33:08.880 to do that and then it demoralizes your good people so like those are things that you have to

00:33:15.440 realize when you're in a leadership position which are incredibly hard to do because you become

00:33:21.660 friends with these people and you like them and you know their family and you you understand where

00:33:26.260 they are in life and you know for a long time i would put put all of that on my back bro and it

00:33:34.180 was really really really it's still really hard for me to let go of people because i care about their

00:33:40.860 outcome yeah but what i started to realize is that if i didn't let those people go then i'm

00:33:47.880 stifling their development as a human being because they need to recognize that that's a

00:33:53.340 that's a part that you can't can't touch that stove yeah right you can touch that one you can't touch that

00:33:57.820 one but you can't touch that hot one bro it's non-negotiable yeah it's just not and and that's

00:34:02.900 part of being a leader dude you know sometimes these decisions are not fun you know if you're

00:34:07.240 going to lead people bro people there's going to be people that don't fucking like you even when you're

00:34:12.380 trying to do the right thing for everybody and that's that sucks but at the end of the day that's

00:34:18.160 the difference between being a great leader and being someone who who doesn't lead at all right

00:34:22.960 so um i definitely understand i think you did the right thing 100 and i think you know you have to

00:34:30.020 get comfortable with holding that line and if i were this person i would be proud that you were able

00:34:33.740 to do that because a lot of people can't do that a lot of people can't look at their friend and say

00:34:38.160 hey bro um i'm sorry but you know i know you've put a lot into this and i know you've been like dude

00:34:43.600 this situation that he's dealing with is much easier than the situations that you're going to

00:34:48.740 deal with in the future because you just hired this dude and this happened pretty quickly but

00:34:54.340 think 20 years down the road and you got someone who's put 15 years into your shit and then they go

00:34:58.820 off the fucking rails that's a fucking that's hard yeah okay so be thankful it happened this quick

00:35:05.320 well yeah but here's the thing is is the reason

00:35:09.960 well here's what i'll say you doing that now sets a standard with everybody else okay they're going

00:35:18.040 to know that you're not fucking around and i don't see that as a bad thing that's going to be a good

00:35:23.700 thing for your leadership capital yeah because everybody else is going to see it and they're going

00:35:27.080 to say well if he let go of somebody who's his friend for that i mean the fuck you gonna do with me

00:35:31.700 yeah that's right so and um that's a hard skill set to learn especially when you actually care

00:35:38.040 about your people uh but it's still a necessary skill set to have you have to have it yeah you know

00:35:44.400 i think too like you know just because you care about somebody else's outcome you still can't care

00:35:50.160 more about their outcome than they care about correct and but that's very that's very difficult

00:35:54.280 when you've started something from nothing yeah and you've had people around you who have

00:35:59.520 contributed and helped build and like a lot of a lot of founders and ceos don't care about that

00:36:05.960 they're like fuck them i don't give a shit but that always leads to a very a terrible culture so if i

00:36:11.640 were going to run the business and i were going to choose between me not giving a fuck and just

00:36:17.340 letting these people come in and having a shitty culture or me giving a lot of fucks and having a

00:36:21.740 great culture i'm going to choose that even though it's harder right the hardest things in life

00:36:25.700 are the most rewarding and if i didn't have that empathy for for for my people

00:36:31.360 i don't think they would be bought in the way that they're bought in no so no you know like there

00:36:38.100 but there's there's a line that you can cross there like you know what i'm saying yeah and you have

00:36:43.020 to hold it and if you don't hold it your your leadership capital fades and there's been a number

00:36:46.720 of times in my business where my leadership capital has faded because i've allowed people to stay

00:36:52.360 who i knew should have been gone right and this is probably my weak point as a leader yeah um

00:36:58.600 is that i care too much but i wouldn't trade it because i think it's provided much more benefit

00:37:05.180 in my life than it has these negative moments yeah you know yeah for sure so it's almost like too like

00:37:10.240 what's good for the goose good for the gander yeah the collective like i care more about the culture

00:37:14.720 of everybody not just one soul individual because there's consequences both ways yeah that's right

00:37:20.280 and you know if you want to win and you want to build and you're serious about building what

00:37:26.300 you're building this is a requirement you know and i'm lucky enough to have people around me who

00:37:32.820 identify that weakness in me who will sit me down and say hey dude no yeah and you know that's my

00:37:38.880 weakness i know it yeah sal knows it's my weakness jason knows it's my weakness will knows it's my

00:37:43.700 weakness so like they are very comfortable saying hey mike taylor knows it's my weakness those guys are

00:37:49.840 very comfortable saying hey this guy's got to go and here's why and now i've just learned to listen

00:37:55.240 to him yeah you know yeah so i don't think that that's if you're going to be weak at something i

00:38:01.340 think that's a good thing to be weak at almost um because the benefits of it long term are much better

00:38:07.860 but you can't you still can't you still you still have to learn how to hold the line even when you

00:38:12.960 care yeah and i think one of the things that really helped me realize that is that you know i heard uh

00:38:19.280 i heard somebody say one time you know when you try to protect people from their own karma

00:38:26.260 you end up receiving the bad karma that they were supposed to receive and that stuck with me you

00:38:33.060 know because like think about this situation you have this guy who's not contributing who's who's

00:38:37.960 setting a bad example and you protect him over and over and over again and then you end up receiving

00:38:43.000 the bad karma and the bad karma being your entire culture is like fucked right and then you got a

00:38:47.980 bigger mess to deal with and they're still cool yeah right exactly and not only that not only are

00:38:52.920 they still cool once that person's created that standard with everybody else now you're the

00:38:57.440 fucking asshole for giving them a fucking break that's right you know what i'm saying so you know

00:39:02.440 this this person is is in their first time of having to deal with something like this and you know

00:39:06.920 the first time i had to let someone go bro i fucking cried and i'm not embarrassed to say so

00:39:11.760 i remember the guy's name his name was eric and i had to fire him i never fired anybody before

00:39:17.300 and this guy was like the fucking nicest fucking dude like the nicest guy ever but he just couldn't

00:39:25.140 do the job it's not that he didn't want to it's not that he didn't try hard he just couldn't he

00:39:31.380 didn't have the skills and uh bro i i i fucking got my truck after that i probably cried for a fucking

00:39:37.600 hour because i felt so horrible about it but it taught me a lesson man because after we got rid

00:39:43.680 of him things got better you know so bro it's it's it's hard when you care you know life's a lot harder

00:39:50.620 when you care honestly like all areas of life but i don't think that you're not supposed to i don't

00:39:55.620 think that callusing yourself to not care is the uh is the proper line of of uh action that's just

00:40:02.800 my personal opinion i love it man yeah i love it guys we got another call let's uh let's get you

00:40:07.680 out there in the final question question number three we're gonna get garrett garrett garrett

00:40:12.540 all right two t's yeah let's give him a call let's call

00:40:16.880 hello this is garrett garrett what's going on brother oh man it's pretty incredible to hear from

00:40:27.100 you guys what's up garrett andy what's going on brother how are you man i'm doing the best i can

00:40:35.500 under the circumstances oh that doesn't sound too good yeah i was in a motorcycle accident october 14th

00:40:43.660 my life and i'm uh i'm a small business owner i've been building my business since 2019 and

00:40:51.340 you know through covet i built my business through covet and um i have a standalone building now i

00:40:58.940 started in a trailer i fixed wheels for um collision centers and car dealership my heart's beating so

00:41:04.780 fast right now bro it's all good man a heart attack yeah motorcycle bro yeah i know man i'm

00:41:11.820 y'all don't realize how much of an impact y'all have had i mean to be honest with you it all started with

00:41:16.860 the ms ceo project somebody referred it to me when i was struggling trying to handle rejection

00:41:22.460 when i'm going into all these dealerships and everybody's got their own guy and i'm trying to

00:41:27.020 be their guy and i finally got through all that things you know thanks to you and bond and all your

00:41:32.540 guests and then eventually the real af kind of became the new one for me and i continued on and

00:41:38.220 you guys you know y'all are incredible and so thank you bro i appreciate it i know y'all need me to

00:41:43.980 get to my question i would imagine no no no listen bro we got we got time bro you're you're good just

00:41:50.540 relax i we both appreciate it yeah 100 man man all right so um i have a building now and i got a team

00:42:03.260 and i don't ever leave my my shop how many people how many people are on your team it's it's literally me

00:42:09.740 and my wife and three other people and my wife is a bad bitch she's she's such a we got three kids so

00:42:19.420 you know she's limited on her time frame but she learned how to run the equipment she's hyper

00:42:23.580 competitive against me anything i can do she can do better she tries you know and that's awesome

00:42:29.340 yeah that's good yeah i'm i'm a lucky man you know and and i try everything i can to to keep going with

00:42:35.580 the limited time i have with her at the shop and then the other guys you know they do everything

00:42:40.460 they can and sometimes complacency is an issue and i've sent in some some questions that i've overcome

00:42:46.620 in the past through you know dealing with complacency with my team and trying to motivate them and you

00:42:51.740 know culture was the answer and setting the example was the answer you know my personal excellence

00:42:57.340 journey was the answer and there was a lot of things i learned from you there just by listening you

00:43:01.980 know and just setting things in motion um so yeah i mean the question i have now i've been doing

00:43:08.540 everything it was october 14th i got my accident i had two emergency surgeries um two blood transfusions

00:43:15.820 later and and i'm still alive and i have my brain i was wearing a helmet i didn't i didn't do have any

00:43:22.140 brain trauma so um you got everything else say again i said you got everything else did you lose anything

00:43:29.500 unfortunately i'm paralyzed from the waist down i'm an mma fighter i'm a jujitsu brown belt i'm an

00:43:36.540 active competitor so this has been this has been challenging you know yeah um is that is that

00:43:42.860 permanent or is that something that's going to come back right now they're they're unsure um some people

00:43:49.100 are giving me a lot of positive ways to see it and some people are trying to tell me to get used or get

00:43:54.940 ready for my new normal like they're about to teach me how to self-cast my man i'm not ready to shove a

00:44:01.420 tube in my in my dick i'll tell you that i've been letting them do it for me i just been looking the

00:44:07.100 other way pretending i'm asleep i don't like it i'm still trying to get used to all this crap and i'm

00:44:12.300 hoping i don't have to get used to it if i just push through and get these legs working again man these

00:44:17.980 legs are a big part of my life brother plenty of people have uh overcome what you're dealing

00:44:24.540 with right now just keep that in mind and i'm trying to find them and i found a couple of them

00:44:29.340 and and i'm looking online and i'm sending messages and i'm trying to do what i can to be inspired by

00:44:35.740 others and you know what's your instagram real quick because i guarantee you there's people listening

00:44:40.620 that have dealt with this my instagram is uh never quit underscore jujitsu okay so never quit

00:44:49.020 underscore jiu jitsu nailed it all right if you got it man any of the guys out there listening have

00:44:58.460 dealt with this uh let's let's hit garrett up and share some share some knowledge with them about how to

00:45:03.500 overcome this please that mean the world to me yeah i'm a few weeks in you know so there's a lot of

00:45:09.980 swelling i broke my femur in half and when the when i hit the guy's trailer um he pulled out in front

00:45:16.140 of me and he must have forgot he was pulling a trailer and i you know i give the man grace there

00:45:22.060 had to have been something i don't know what it was and i'd love to meet the guy yeah i would want to

00:45:28.860 know what the hell his personality is like or at least his character yeah i'm sure but i'm sure you

00:45:33.980 don't feel good about it brother yeah it was a pretty bad situation you know they thought i was dead it was

00:45:39.980 treating like a vehicular homicide and a lot of my family and friends were driving by the incident

00:45:45.260 thinking whoever was on that bike was dead a lot of people didn't know i had a bike because i bought

00:45:49.660 it as a gift for myself because i had bought my i had bought a building man and i created my own

00:45:56.460 product for wheel cleaning and wheel take it because of you you know i forked off just like you say

00:46:01.420 you have something you fork it and and you continue to to find the next thing that you can fork and make

00:46:07.260 your own you know and i try to take a lot of steps that you put out for us to follow and i'm working

00:46:13.420 it you know and i got i got blessed with this old man that owned this building in my hometown that he

00:46:19.580 doesn't even have a mortgage on it or nothing and we signed a deal we revised it about 12 times but we

00:46:26.620 we got the deal figured out and we signed it for 15 years i'm paying him a payment for 15 years and that

00:46:34.300 that joker is mine there you go and you know we're a year in and and unfortunately this happens and i

00:46:39.980 got a little nervous that he was going to get scared but he has my back and he sees how much

00:46:44.940 growth i've done and i feel like everybody in my community has just been amazing more than i could

00:46:50.620 have ever imagined you know and it's been a blessing well look brother here's the thing okay bad things are

00:47:01.180 going to happen to all of us we don't know what bad things are going to happen you know and we can't

00:47:06.060 spend our lives competing over who got the worst of the bad things you know and um what you're dealing

00:47:12.940 with i'm sure is very difficult right now you know you're dealing with a major life change you're

00:47:18.620 dealing with a lot of uncertainty and feelings and probably frustration and a lot of you know and um

00:47:26.860 um but i will say this dude every bad thing that's ever happened to me every bad thing that i know

00:47:35.100 that has happened to others we have some guys here that have have some pretty serious uh injuries and and

00:47:42.540 things that they've overcome um one of the guys i think of is austin um who run you know austin was born

00:47:51.100 with a with a physical disability and he has never let it stop him no and uh you know probably

00:47:58.860 one of the most baddest ass i think he's the baddest ass dude we got in here for sure yeah i think he's

00:48:02.620 the toughest guy we have in this fucking building and um you have an opportunity now brother to show

00:48:07.900 everybody around you what it looks like to overcome and it would be very easy for you to sit back and

00:48:14.380 say well this happened to me and poor me and nobody would blame you like nobody would fucking blame you

00:48:22.060 and but you have to realize that you have an opportunity now to show everybody what it looks

00:48:29.340 like to overcome work through push through and continue doing what you were doing and you're going

00:48:36.860 to face some dark days bro i'm sure you're going to you've probably already been dealing with it you

00:48:40.780 know the suicidal thoughts and the the the fucking shit that comes with these things is

00:48:47.980 it's bad but it's new it's fresh and it's going to be bad for a little bit but brother i'm telling you

00:48:54.380 even if this would be a permanent thing for you you're going to go on to live a fucking amazing life

00:48:59.100 that inspires people and i think it's very important for you to keep that in mind yeah man i appreciate

00:49:05.260 that and i i feel very um motivated to to come back you know my kids saw me laying in the middle

00:49:12.460 of the road they all thought i was dead they were right behind me you know they didn't see the

00:49:17.100 accident but they were on their way to catch up with me and i know they were there and i was trying

00:49:21.900 to get up and i couldn't and i have to show them that i i can get up from this and i i think about it

00:49:28.540 every day yeah i plan on being that for whoever needs it you know i have never quit pat it on my

00:49:35.420 chest that's right you know and and i i i intend on never quitting on myself even though i i have

00:49:41.340 quit on myself in the past and and i put that on my chest not because i ain't a quitter it's because

00:49:46.300 i have the potential to quit and i have to look into me and remind myself that i can't quit that's

00:49:51.740 right brother we all have the potential to quit and we all we all feel that way everybody feels that

00:49:57.260 way um whether they're dealing with something like you're dealing or whether you're just dealing

00:50:01.660 with the stress of business it's it's it's just a hard it's a it's the hardest it's the hardest

00:50:08.540 way to make a living that you could ever choose for yourself and uh yeah shows one of the hardest

00:50:14.540 paths too because it's a niche service and it's yeah but maybe you're learning a lot about business

00:50:20.060 right now and maybe this isn't your main business down the road maybe oh man i feel like you you put

00:50:25.420 my mind on the right track and i feel like i have i have dialed this in my friend there you go we we

00:50:31.660 have set my my business up in a whole nother direction and i'm sad that i'm not there because

00:50:37.340 we were just getting into a whole new field of of coding the wheels and we have a demand out out the

00:50:44.140 fucking man it's it's it's just insane i i hope that you can look you know here's something funny

00:50:51.340 since 2019 2020 when i when i got recommended to you and bond i was sending you updates just for my

00:50:58.380 own mind i was sending you updates of every time i made a progressional step towards something in my

00:51:05.420 business i was like hey andy i i created my own product or hey andy i i got a new account that's

00:51:11.500 going to change our lives like i was sending you little just just for my own sake rather you ever seen

00:51:16.220 them or not you know it was yeah you you and i'm not trying to say you were like my main push you

00:51:23.100 know my family was my push you know i had my i had my babies that were my push but yeah you helped keep

00:51:28.460 my mind fortified man well brother you know that makes me happy to hear and i'm glad that you put in

00:51:35.340 that work ahead of this you know what i mean god has a weird way god has a weird way of testing us

00:51:41.180 and and i think that's what you're dealing with here you're dealing with a big test

00:51:43.900 yeah that is so i'm like how the is this what happened to me i fight i train i teach i help i do

00:51:52.060 so much with like i'm active you know like i love jujitsu i love muay thai i train all the time brother

00:51:59.580 you're going to get back my legs away hey brother you're going to get back to that that's going to

00:52:03.900 come back that's all going to come back bro i'm i'm staying optimistic man yeah well and especially

00:52:12.140 also bro remember we're entering an age of technology where they're able to do some

00:52:16.700 really fucking amazing shit so yeah it's you're lucky this didn't happen 20 years ago yeah yeah

00:52:24.860 so so what do you have a actual question or is this just you dealing with this you know my question was

00:52:31.980 how do i manage my team from a distance how do i take care of their concerns and their struggles and

00:52:40.220 they're because they're afraid to call me and then they're not as good as me i'm not saying i'm the

00:52:45.580 best in the world but no they need your leadership i i and i need to be there i'm i am the one you know

00:52:52.140 and this whole this whole i made this and i know i've messed up more ways than they'll ever know i tell

00:52:58.300 them all the time i fucked up more wheels than you'll ever fix yeah let me help you because i've done

00:53:05.900 made i didn't have anybody to help me i had to make the mistakes i had to eat the shit i've had

00:53:10.940 to be yelled at by managers kicked off lots i've been there done that and i don't need y'all going

00:53:16.540 through it because now y'all represent me let me be your guide and then these jokers are still

00:53:23.100 feeling like oh i'm getting better so let me try to do it without calling here look i'm gonna get there

00:53:29.260 and smack the shit out of you well because now they're fucking up okay let's let's put this in

00:53:34.300 a different context okay let's say that you this wasn't the situation all right you you weren't

00:53:42.620 forcefully removed from your business and let's say that you didn't have an ability to be on site

00:53:51.740 right now what would you do to manage the business remotely and by the way lots of people do this

00:53:59.260 and i'm going to say this to you because this is something that all leaders and founders struggle

00:54:04.620 with i actually think this has less to do with your accident and i think it's more to do with a growth

00:54:10.860 lesson of understanding that other people are capable and other people can be great at what you do

00:54:18.540 and sometimes when you're a founder of a business you've done so much of the shit that you think that

00:54:25.820 you're the only one that can do that and then what ends up happening is you end up

00:54:31.260 accidentally stunting the growth of your business because you're not leveraging the the skills

00:54:36.940 of the people around you because if you don't let them go out and do things then they never develop

00:54:43.100 right it's like a kid like if you protect your kid from everything how do they ever learn right and so

00:54:49.740 this is a leadership lesson uh that i would take advantage of for you and i would use this time

00:54:58.140 because dude i i believe that you're going to be back i just do i can hear your voice

00:55:04.380 use this time to cultivate your remote management skills and allow them to develop without you um

00:55:11.420 and and give them a little runway to to sort of develop because what will happen is they will

00:55:18.060 develop they will get better and then you'll have a better business because of it and it's hard to do

00:55:23.500 that it's hard to do that when you've been on the edge of losing your ass all the time because you're

00:55:29.180 like oh fuck if if we make this mistake it's going to screw up our whole business or if we do this it's

00:55:34.460 going to mess everything up and that's just not true um the truth of the matter is is that when employees

00:55:40.380 make mistakes as long as you own them and as long as you uh make it right they customers generally

00:55:48.060 are tolerable to that um right so so i would think about this less that like i can't be there because

00:55:54.940 i'm injured and they're going to fuck everything up and i would think about this as a leadership

00:55:59.740 opportunity for you to make your business a real business because and what i mean by that is

00:56:06.540 a real business isn't the founder doing everything and then the other people helping that's not that's

00:56:13.420 not a real business the real business is you're up in the fucking because we all have a role okay

00:56:19.340 and this is how i communicate my role to our team my role is we're all in a boat and we're all trying

00:56:26.540 to get somewhere together and right now there's five of you in the boat and so you got four people row

00:56:33.180 in the boat and your job is to go up in the bucket on the top of the mast and say okay guys we got to

00:56:38.540 go a little left or we got to go a little right and that's just as important of a role as the guys row

00:56:43.820 in the boat because if they row without that direction they're going to crash the boat into some

00:56:47.420 shit so all right so you know i i think you need a little bit of a perspective switch here to help you

00:56:53.900 get through this challenging time and understand like do you feel good about your three employees

00:56:59.100 well can i can i explain what i've been doing since i've been able out of icu yes sir

00:57:07.660 so since i've been out of icu i've been able to communicate and we've developed a weekly group

00:57:13.580 meeting on facetime every friday and we've been reviewing the schedule and reviewing trials and

00:57:18.380 tribulations but every day i've been talking to each of them individually for a good 15 to 25 minutes a

00:57:25.340 day and i think i've been helping them overcome their own you know personal limitations of me not

00:57:31.020 being there and encouraging them to to take control of their roles and and responsibility and accountability

00:57:38.060 because accountability was the biggest issue with with my with two people mainly and i think that me

00:57:44.620 being here they're they're having to kind of pull this this confidence that they didn't really have

00:57:51.340 or i think we're able to even see but now they're having no choice because i'm not there but i've

00:57:58.700 been able to to talk to them in another way and lead them and give them some serious pep talks telling

00:58:04.940 them to get out of their own way some of them just are in their way not not believing in themselves or

00:58:10.780 thinking things are going to go one way because a text message from a client or just the most you know

00:58:16.060 ridiculous stuff but i feel like i've been able to talk to them differently and then the fact that they

00:58:21.020 thought i died but i'm here it's like they don't want to bother me so now i'm forcing them to bother

00:58:26.860 me like i need them to because they don't know what they don't know and i don't want them to think that

00:58:32.140 they know things or they're that i can help them with right so yeah it's been it's starting to to change

00:58:40.380 and it's been getting to the point to where they're they're getting more accepting of me still being able

00:58:48.620 to help them and they don't have to do it on their own but the skill set's just not there for for

00:58:55.260 mainly my the guy that's taking over my painting i was the lead painter always trying to find someone

00:59:01.100 to paint but nobody really wanted to take the position because they were happy where they were

00:59:05.740 so now he's kind of you know trial by fire he only had a couple lessons with me and he is stepping up and

00:59:11.900 this dude i love him to death but he has a hard time with criticism and the other team is kind of

00:59:18.860 like putting pressure on him and he doesn't know how to handle it my wife is very stern my wife has

00:59:24.140 got one of them like fuck you attitudes and she's hard to deal with that's why me and her get along so

00:59:29.340 well but she don't get along so well with everybody and she's not necessarily a leader she's

00:59:34.300 there to get the job done and go and she sees other people fucking up she's going to call you out on

00:59:38.620 it that's why i need to be there to put the fires out well you got somebody that will hold the line

00:59:42.940 for you while you do the teaching yeah right you know dude when i went from um when i went from so

00:59:52.700 if you've been listening to mfceo you probably know that back in the early days um it took me a long

00:59:58.380 time to open up our second store because we didn't think anybody could operate it we thought they would

01:00:04.380 steal we thought they would fuck everything up and all those things did happen but yeah they don't

01:00:11.580 happen now because when i went from the two stores that we had to six stores and literally over the

01:00:20.540 course of 30 days because we uh we took over another business i couldn't i couldn't physically be

01:00:28.940 in the stores with everybody very similar to you all right now i wasn't you know hurt or sick or i

01:00:36.060 just couldn't be in seven six places at one time so i had to and to be honest what you're doing is

01:00:43.020 kind of what i did um i would meet with them once a week we met monday mornings at nine o'clock

01:00:49.980 and then throughout the week uh we had you know i had call i would call all the managers on a regular

01:00:56.940 basis talk to them work with them and then every monday they would bring their you know their

01:01:02.300 lessons and we would go through them and i taught them all in a group because you know if one guy has

01:01:08.220 to learn something then there's probably someone else that needs to learn it too and uh so the the

01:01:13.340 system that you've created is very similar to the system that i ran to scale out supplement super

01:01:19.100 stores and learn how to lead without actually doing the work and you know for you to grow that

01:01:26.460 business brother i actually think this is kind of a blessing as weird as this sounds for you

01:01:32.060 you're not the first person to tell me this yeah brother because listen you don't want to be the

01:01:36.460 guy painting the wheels forever you can't run a business that way yeah and and dude because you

01:01:43.660 care so much what would it actually take for you to stop painting the wheels if this hadn't have happened

01:01:48.940 right right right you would have been doing this for another 20 years because you're like

01:01:53.900 now i was trying to get away from it yeah trying to get my team to step up but now but now now you're

01:02:00.620 forced to you don't have an option you're not wrong yeah so this is a really good opportunity for you

01:02:08.140 to evolve your leadership skills which this remote leadership that that is a that is probably one of

01:02:15.820 the most valuable skills that you have to have in order to scale your business so you know i i i actually

01:02:24.700 you know as shitty as the circumstances are i think long term for your business this is going to be

01:02:29.500 really good for you i can see that yeah 100 man garrett dude we appreciate you bro hold on do you what else

01:02:40.220 is what else is going on is that is that pretty much the issue that you're dealing with yeah you

01:02:46.140 know it was i had a lot of team issues and i don't have a big team so i was feeling like it was me not

01:02:52.140 my team and i was trying to take accountability for everything and then i started to feel like i was taking

01:02:58.140 responsibility for too much of their of their flaws and now that this happened i feel you know all of

01:03:04.540 them have come to me individually and expressed to me that they wish i would have they wish they

01:03:09.500 would have taken me up on all the opportunities that i've given them to learn more and build their

01:03:15.020 skill sets because i've constantly want literally to build my skill sets like i became a tig welder it

01:03:20.780 took me three years of practice because i'm a slow learner but in order for me to become a tig welder

01:03:26.380 i bought i had to buy the equipment i found a welder i offered him jujitsu lessons and he gave

01:03:32.300 me welding lessons that's awesome it took me three damn years to get good at it before i can even

01:03:37.340 touch a customer's wheel so i didn't make money right away right i'm trying to explain to these

01:03:41.660 guys it's not about making money right away it's about learning the skills to make money in the

01:03:46.220 future you're building value into yourself that's right i want to build value into you man that it's

01:03:51.020 not that i want you to stay below me i want you to come above me brother i want that's right up to

01:03:55.980 where we can we can rise and they're like this is your business you have you and i'm like no man

01:04:01.980 this is our business that's right this is going to be what brings our families to that next level

01:04:06.780 but i need you just as much as you need me right now and that was my struggle and and it took me

01:04:12.460 almost dying for them to realize that it's like no no no no no no no no i don't know no no no it

01:04:19.820 took you almost dying for you to realize that

01:04:28.300 i just don't know well i do you're in a good spot bro you're listen aside from the physical things

01:04:35.420 that you're dealing with and the mental things you're dealing with i think this is going to be

01:04:38.460 great for your business and i think as long as you here's the thing you and you're already doing

01:04:45.420 this but to anybody else listening this is very important you don't want to give your team the

01:04:50.140 idea that this is going away all right um you know garrett's not throwing a white flag up and saying

01:04:57.100 hey our business plans are not happening in fact i've had a lot of time to think about this and we're

01:05:02.140 actually going to expand and do this and this and this we are okay there you go so you're dude i think

01:05:08.940 you're in a really good spot i think this call is just confirmation of what you already know and um

01:05:15.180 i i really think you i think you're already doing all the correct things and had you not called in

01:05:20.620 here you would have figured this out on your own anyway um so so bro i you know this just comes down

01:05:28.860 to what you're already doing and just keep doing it yes sir and i'm going to continue to do everything

01:05:35.740 i can and we're getting into powder coating and it's one of the most demanded services that my

01:05:41.100 market lacks and we just got the powder coating booth built and unfortunately then i get into this

01:05:47.100 accident but we were in the motion you know the the ball was rolling yeah it's still rolling take a

01:05:52.140 little bit of a pause just to get me back to the shop and and to get the you know people in the right

01:05:58.140 seats and it's it's gonna have we just we just got the paperwork signed on a house you know we've been

01:06:04.700 living in a camper since 2019 to build this business with my family i got three kids

01:06:10.220 and it was like a step down of what we were used to and you know it's been a challenge my wife is a

01:06:16.860 really really conservative person she doesn't like to spend money so she got real comfortable we were

01:06:22.380 supposed to live in the camper for only two years three years max we've been there for six so it's like

01:06:28.700 i can't go back to a camper babe she's like oh well our plans were to to save up more and do more and

01:06:36.300 now it's like well we got to make a move and you guys want to hear something absolutely insane

01:06:40.860 she finds a house on garrett street off of the street where i got in my accident oh wow the house

01:06:47.900 was set up by a health caretaker an in-home health caretaker that took care of people at her home she

01:06:55.180 completely modified both of her bathrooms to be handicap accessible to like the furthest degree

01:07:00.780 and we just signed the paperwork on it today i signed it through the email i didn't get to go

01:07:04.540 look at it but i signed the paperwork and then the seller just accepted it and signed their end and

01:07:08.380 now the ball is rolling so when i get out of this place i'm going to be rolling my ass and do a new

01:07:12.540 house yeah that's awesome and by the way in a few you know in a short amount of time you'll be

01:07:18.060 remodeling that kitchen in that bathroom and doing those things because it's going to be too low for

01:07:22.860 you and you're going to be annoyed with it so right it was mainly just the bathroom yeah the kitchen's

01:07:28.540 beautiful it was remodeled to fit her not the people she was caring for yeah but the bathroom

01:07:34.140 that's insane because i would have never guessed that in it you know the universe is with me

01:07:40.540 giving me a house on garrett street for with a handicap home you know i don't listen as weird as it

01:07:46.140 sounds i think this was supposed to happen bro i think you're going to look i think i think you're

01:07:51.820 going to look hard to digest andy you know i fuck i know bro i know it's you know this is not the same

01:07:58.380 thing but when i got stabbed in the face and my face was all fucked up and swollen like it took me

01:08:04.540 quite a long time for me to understand that this was going to be a good thing not a bad thing and i

01:08:10.460 know that lady in the grocery store changed your whole perspective bro instantly instantly and uh

01:08:16.540 that's going to happen for you too you need my lady in the grocery store that's what i need you

01:08:21.500 listen you're gonna you're gonna figure it out dude a hundred percent it's fresh bro it's fresh

01:08:27.260 right now that happened two weeks ago three weeks ago even a month yeah so the fact that you're alive

01:08:33.180 and the fact that you're out and you're already thinking about this shit bro most people wouldn't do

01:08:37.740 that it's it's yeah my community keeps telling me like 90 of people would have been broken and i'm the

01:08:43.980 you don't i'm the i'm the anatomy i'm i'm the one i'm the statistic that's showing the

01:08:49.900 that i'm nothing but success driven you know and and i i hear these words from all these people behind

01:08:55.740 me and you know it makes me tear up because you don't really know who's got your back and and

01:09:00.860 a situation like this comes and i had so many people come into the hospital damn nurses thought i was a

01:09:06.140 celebrity i said what i did for a living you know what i told the nurse i did for a living

01:09:10.140 told her i give rim jobs the best around they didn't know how to handle that my mom had to go

01:09:16.940 in there and be like boy you better stop well it is true yeah you do

01:09:24.060 i give the best rim jobs around and i've seen you plenty i know you get a lot of stuff sent to you

01:09:28.940 and i've heard you say you got a pallet of stuff in the in the in your in your warehouse and you let

01:09:33.820 the guys kind of have it i've sent you some a bunch of my rim job stickers and a hat and a shirt and

01:09:40.300 i sent you my products when i first made it because the only reason i made that product

01:09:44.220 is because of you and that's just legit i have a clean shine protect dress for your wheels and i do

01:09:50.140 a system and every time a customer comes and leaves my shop with the wheel repair they get a lifetime

01:09:55.660 warranty and they get every two uh pretty much every six months they get a free cleaning on their wheels

01:10:02.060 they come back to my shop and i clean shine protect and i dress you know and i not even just

01:10:06.940 the one wheel i did i do all four wheels so the customer continuously leaves my shop with value

01:10:12.620 but then again they continuously come to me and i can always reevaluate and i can let them know if

01:10:18.300 they need any other services done and you know i keep the relationship strong and a lot of those were

01:10:23.420 were you know installed in my in my process through listening to you as you developed your stuff and

01:10:29.660 you know obviously 2012 is when you started your mf ceo but i picked it up in 2019 and it it was a it

01:10:37.100 was a game changer for me man well brother i mean you the most important thing about what you just

01:10:41.900 messages what you just mentioned was the story that they tell after they leave there right yeah i got i

01:10:47.900 got 571 five-star google reviews i'm like the smallest company in our market there you go bro you're

01:10:55.500 fucking doing it dude and this ain't going to stop you from doing it at all at all no nothing can stop

01:11:01.500 me i have never quit tatted on me so when i feel like quitting i know i can't so that's just the way it

01:11:06.300 is i can't quit this is not i'm not allowed nope you are you know can i say one more thing i know

01:11:12.300 y'all got to wrap this up but i just got to say one more thing to andy because you at you had a

01:11:17.740 question a couple years back and um it was about the loss of a loved one and how to deal with it and

01:11:23.180 your response was that you couldn't answer him and you couldn't give him a response because you've

01:11:29.660 never dealt with that but um in 2019 my father passed away and i was really hard listening to your

01:11:36.940 show and you know obviously i was listening to the older stuff and i wasn't caught up yet but

01:11:41.100 you know your personal excellence is the ultimate rebellion and aggressive patience and all those

01:11:47.660 all those factors is what kept my mind from from losing reality losing grip with reality you know

01:11:55.580 that's a little hard to talk about um but when my dad died i i started kind of losing it but i had

01:12:01.580 just got my business rolling again in florida and i'm an mma fighter like i said but i took a fight

01:12:08.220 immediately as soon as he passed and i fought one of the toughest dudes coming out man and i beat him

01:12:14.060 and i took him to a decision but i beat him and it was one of the most overwhelming like accomplished

01:12:21.580 moments of my life and and you you gave me the perspective to keep pushing through that just by

01:12:27.740 living through the personal excellence and not allowing myself to be taken over by emotion so i needed

01:12:34.700 you to know that i even sent you a video explaining this back in 21 or whenever that question was

01:12:39.580 asked because you said you didn't have the answer man you had the answer brother you you you

01:12:45.180 fucking you had it bro well i appreciate that brother you know i've actually um you know alex

01:12:51.900 ramosi is one of my really good friends and him and i were talking about this his his mother

01:12:56.140 recently passed away and uh you know your dad your dad would not want you to sit around and feel sorry

01:13:05.020 for yourself your dad yeah right so like when we think about you know my my answer would be different

01:13:11.420 probably now in that you know i know for me if something were to happen to me i certainly wouldn't

01:13:18.060 want all of my family and my friends and everybody to you know feel bad i would want them to go live their

01:13:25.820 lives and do good things and and and become the best that they they could be in that honor you

01:13:31.980 know what i mean and um so my perspective's changed a little bit on that and i appreciate

01:13:37.980 you pointing that out dude it really it means a lot to me um and ultimately you know we're all

01:13:44.140 going to deal with those things and we're all going to we're all going to have hard times and

01:13:47.900 you know when people when people leave us um i i don't think anybody that leaves this world wants

01:13:56.300 the people that love them to feel bad about it i really don't um so there's that too you know yeah

01:14:04.300 100 i carry the legacy of my father everywhere i go yeah that's the best thing you could ever

01:14:09.260 fucking do you want to know something i'm at the same rehab facility he was at after his surgery and he

01:14:13.660 lived to he lived quite a few years longer than they expected him to live and i'm at the same

01:14:18.380 place that got him walking yeah after his surgery and i'm i'm i'm i'm gonna be walking man i fucking

01:14:24.620 know it i know it all right thank you all for your time yeah brother any time bro um stay strong dude

01:14:32.540 you got this you know your business i think you're in a really good spot uh just keep doing what you're

01:14:38.060 doing and it's going to evolve and it's going to work and that's absolute wheel repair in an orange

01:14:43.500 city florida guys yeah that's it's awr wheels on instagram all right i i do everything i can for

01:14:50.540 that that business is is so much a part of me it's ridiculous and like you said i gotta get away and let

01:14:56.860 it do its own thing i gotta watch it tick like a clock and not be super saturated in it and i've been

01:15:02.380 ultra consumed by it and now i got pulled away so now i have an opportunity and i'm going to take

01:15:07.820 advantage of this opportunity and continue to build from a distance and and i and i'm confident that

01:15:13.660 i will i know you will i'm confident in too so love it bro yeah we appreciate your time bro yeah

01:15:20.780 man i appreciate y'all more than you know thank you for the extra you're welcome brother all right y'all

01:15:26.060 have a great day all right you too that's awesome he seems like a cool dude man i like to shake his

01:15:32.220 thing hey man uh you know these it's forcing him to evolve and that's that's the thing you know uh

01:15:42.940 most people would sit around and say oh my life is over and now i'm stuck in this chair and you know

01:15:48.700 i can't do anything and dude that's just not the truth you know um does it suck well it's definitely not

01:15:55.500 ideal right right right right i mean talking to him i mean let's be real dude i there's no

01:16:02.140 fucking way garrett's getting away from the wheel business without being forced to yeah it's not

01:16:06.300 happening which is ultimately going to stunt his ability to lead so it's he's being forced to go from

01:16:12.300 working in the business to working on the business which is what every founder eventually

01:16:16.460 has to do to scale so um outside of the physicality that he's dealing with you know it's it's actually

01:16:22.940 a really ideal situation for his business yeah dude dude i love it man yeah well guys andy that

01:16:28.140 was three yeah all right guys we will see you tomorrow on cti

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962. Q&AF： Creating A Bigger Sense Of Urgency, Discipling Employees & Managing Your Team From A Distance

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