REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 968. Q&AF： Misunderstood By Family, Convincing The Unmotivated & Scaling Smart

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00:04:06.040 announcement oh yeah what's up i got three good ones for you there's a lot of stuff going on today

00:04:14.400 we got so much stuff going on oh that's cti yeah cti yeah i mean they're all there is a lot going on

00:04:20.860 actually actually let's just do cti real quick yeah no shit no man uh it's fun hey have a great

00:04:27.760 time i got i feel like we got to wear an outfit tonight we got to do something all right well

00:04:32.460 we'll figure it out yeah we'll do something special i mean with or with all those super chats

00:04:36.440 yeah might not have to wear anything yeah you know what i'm saying everybody's like let me see this

00:04:40.940 this ain't only fans dude that's what i'm saying man we got we got standards here that's right

00:04:46.420 all right they're low but yeah man well guys it is monday beautiful monday um as always we'd like to

00:04:55.920 make some people better um we do got some good questions here so let's let's go ahead and get

00:05:00.400 get going we got our uh let's start with a call let's get patricia on the call all right let's do it

00:05:08.760 hello patricia hey how's it going what's going on not much uh i'm excited to talk to you guys

00:05:26.800 how are you patricia good what's up andy oh not much just uh just doing a thing here how are you

00:05:34.540 nice i'm good i'm amazing yeah where are you calling from um canada alberta oh shit all right 0.72

00:05:42.480 all right got some freedom up there okay now before you ask i'm not sure we know how to escape

00:05:47.580 so give us a little background of what you got going on up in canada

00:05:53.880 um so what i'm doing currently is i am studying full-time to be a game developer

00:05:59.780 so i'm working out daily and i'm at home currently i take care of the home and my grandmother

00:06:07.400 who has cancer so i help her out but i'm going to be going to college this january

00:06:12.260 and pretty much just pursuing what i love and my goals awesome yeah awesome how old are you if you

00:06:19.380 don't mind us asking i'm 19 okay cool cool yes all right well what do you got for us today how can we

00:06:26.600 help you all right so i'd say i'm a very ambitious person i work out daily strict on my diet and study

00:06:34.540 hard to go to college however the way i operate and live and think is different for most people my

00:06:40.800 age especially women um i don't drink at all never been to a club in my life uh don't smoke and i have a

00:06:48.140 very strict mindset as a result i find hanging around average teenagers a bit irritating um i only

00:06:56.580 have a handful of friends but this actually doesn't bother me at all that i often don't fit in and i can

00:07:02.460 tell my parents seem to feel bad for me seeing me as a loner or lonely but i feel perfectly fine

00:07:09.320 pursuing my goals with you people around me i'm just very picky and selective with who i make friends

00:07:14.740 with and my parents may find me abnormal i think and like there's something wrong with me and

00:07:21.560 sometimes it makes me feel alien-like and so my question to you is is it okay to be a loner in

00:07:29.280 pursuing your goals my parents want me to hang out with groups of people my age but i've always felt

00:07:34.780 too mature and dislike their mindset okay um yeah so all right

00:07:44.740 you have to realize that here's what i'll tell you all right when you're young and you're ambitious

00:07:52.100 it is extremely lonely all right because most young people believe that they have all the time in the

00:07:59.940 world and they do have the most time right you're just entering the phase of being a full-blown adult

00:08:05.300 and a lot of people just aren't taking their future seriously and while that's serious that's

00:08:13.300 very pronounced at a younger age that doesn't really change it's always going to be that way

00:08:20.400 and as you get older it starts to present itself in different ways um you know people start to find

00:08:28.760 the what i call the quote-unquote uh rules right go to school get a job get the house get married

00:08:37.380 have kids and that's the norm and anytime you do anything outside the norm no matter if you're 19

00:08:43.200 29 39 59 people are going to look at you weird and they're not going to understand it and here's the

00:08:51.220 thing that i would want to put into your mind is that you don't want to be understood by people who are

00:08:59.980 destined to be just normal people who go through life when you have ambitious goals kobe bryant said

00:09:07.460 this uh very clearly one time in an interview he's like look i don't want to be like them i don't want

00:09:13.580 to be around them i don't want to i don't want to know what they do i don't i don't want anything i

00:09:18.160 want to i want to be around this i want to i'm a driven person i want to kick ass i want to be 0.79

00:09:23.280 a champion and i don't want anything to do with that and you know what yeah that's okay and by the

00:09:29.540 way not only is it okay it's actually required all right because if you surround yourself with people

00:09:36.920 who are doing things in life that are not aligned with what you're trying to do just because you want

00:09:43.960 to be around people you'll end up absorbing their mindset and their worldview and their motivation

00:09:50.940 and their discipline levels which will water yours down yeah that's not what i want right so you have

00:09:57.240 to be very comfortable moving down the path alone at least in the beginning all right and what's going

00:10:04.620 to happen to you is you're going to continue to to be ambitious you're going to continue to chase your

00:10:10.040 goals and build your life and you will eventually start to naturally find other people of that

00:10:17.520 mindset that you could be friends with that share that same ambition drive and care for their future

00:10:25.060 and whenever you find those people you're going to feel like okay i've got a good set of friends

00:10:30.200 and you have now i call this no man's land all right you go from the beginning where you're just

00:10:37.140 setting out to become successful and you start to move down the path and these friends that you had

00:10:44.120 back in the day they don't go with you so you're ended up going on this journey alone and then

00:10:49.680 eventually you find a group of friends or a group of peers or colleagues or however you want to call

00:10:54.780 them that share the same mindset and those people instead of dragging you down instead of dragging you

00:11:00.600 trying to drag you out or put doubt in your mind they'll start to encourage you and they'll start to push

00:11:05.840 you and they'll start to collaborate with you and you will find more success and then what happens

00:11:11.240 is if you continue to push down and and want to do more and more and more the same cycle repeats itself

00:11:17.420 again so you will move past that group of friends and then you will feel lonely again until you get to

00:11:22.940 that level of the next level and you will find a new group of people to work with and your friend group

00:11:29.020 as an ambitious person will change over time many times because you will always settle within the

00:11:38.440 people that want your level of success at the time so every time you level up you're going to go through

00:11:45.620 this process and it sounds like you're mentally equipped to go through it already you know most

00:11:50.260 people will give up their dreams and their goals and everything they want for themselves for the

00:11:55.560 thursday friday saturday night lifestyle exactly with their old friends right so you don't want to

00:12:01.960 be someone who has to have people around in order for you to be happy i'm not like that either i i i don't

00:12:09.760 mind being alone uh in fact i kind of prefer it and i really hate spending time around meaningless

00:12:18.880 conversation small talk um all of these things that other people gossip drama that's not that's

00:12:26.460 the language of poverty man and we're trying to get past that so i don't think i don't think that you

00:12:35.000 should feel bad at all in fact i think it should be encouraging to you that you are in the mindset that

00:12:40.100 you are so early and if you continue to move down that path you're going to find yourself much more

00:12:46.080 successful than all of your peers because they're likely to waste their entire 20s hanging out

00:12:51.560 partying and then they'll get to be 30 and they'll say well i should have done this and i should have

00:12:57.320 taken this more seriously and and still at that point most people don't make the change they just

00:13:02.200 say well they say well you know this isn't that bad and i i i could probably get it going when i'm 35

00:13:09.940 and they start to kick the can down the road and eventually they find themselves you know in their

00:13:15.780 mid 40s wasting 25 years working a job they hate earning money they hate with no way out so yeah

00:13:24.600 you can either it's it's really about delayed gratification right you could either put in the

00:13:29.260 work now and be way ahead later or you could do what they're doing now and be in a situation later

00:13:34.500 where it's much much worse it's much harder and they can't see that because when you're 19 you don't

00:13:40.820 have that perspective there's no way to have it you haven't lived that life you haven't grown up you

00:13:45.320 haven't seen your friends that you used to have settle for a mediocre existence and i've seen all

00:13:52.780 that stuff over and over and over again anybody who's my age who who's built things or done things

00:13:57.620 or become successful knows exactly what i'm talking about but when you're 19 20 years old it you you can't

00:14:04.620 see it because you've never seen it and um so to put your mind at ease on this it's really simple

00:14:10.460 no you're not weird no there's nothing wrong with it in fact i think it's very encouraging and i think

00:14:16.580 you need to like if you really want to relieve that pressure from your parents just have a

00:14:20.660 conversation and say hey look i know you guys worry about me but here's the thing i'm doing this and

00:14:25.320 this and this and i want to do this this is what i want to do with my life and these people aren't

00:14:29.500 doing that and i still have fun i still feel good i i enjoy the friends that i do have i just don't

00:14:37.080 want to do what everybody else is doing and it doesn't mean i'm broken and just tell your parents

00:14:41.920 that directly um you probably have right yeah i mean i let them know that i'm not suffering mentally

00:14:49.320 in any way i don't feel lonely i've never had depression i'm not anxious like i feel completely

00:14:54.700 secure yeah mentally healthy doing what i'm doing yeah and and you know why because you're doing

00:15:01.440 things yourself that make you feel productive and proud of yourself and you don't need the external

00:15:07.940 validation most of these people that need the external connections uh the mass approval the

00:15:14.480 you know most friends they can have that's just all that is is they're trying to cover for their lack

00:15:22.380 of their own self-esteem and their own confidence and their own self-belief because they're not

00:15:28.420 actually exercising any of their skill set or doing anything productive of themselves so when

00:15:34.960 they're around people they're not they're reminded that they're more normal and they're not feeling

00:15:40.600 alienated so this is where we get like hyper social activity it's really about the fulfillment of

00:15:48.640 something else that's missing and it never fulfills it it actually just digs you a much bigger hole

00:15:53.360 so and i'm i'm not i'm not saying you shouldn't be social i'm not saying you can't have fun i'm not

00:15:59.380 saying you need to isolate yourself as a young person because there's a lot of things that you

00:16:03.960 do need to learn socially and uh but what i am saying is you know there's nothing wrong with being

00:16:11.340 hyper focused on what you want to do at a young age i actually think it's a i i think i know it's

00:16:16.180 definitely the way that people become successful i know very few people who decided to change

00:16:23.280 their lives in 30 35 who actually did um i in terms of like their career in terms of building

00:16:32.520 something i don't i don't know a whole lot of people who have you know said at 35 years old hey

00:16:37.320 i'm gonna start this and do this and then become successful later that's not saying you can't do it

00:16:44.220 but it's saying that it's just much more rare than someone who starts when they're 20 and works

00:16:50.160 you know their way up so yeah true you know i i think you're completely on the right track

00:16:56.360 i don't think you should be worried about it um i think you should see it as a good thing and you

00:17:03.060 don't you need to keep in mind that you don't want to be like these people you don't want to be like

00:17:07.540 these people right so uh you don't want what they're what what they're going to get and so you're

00:17:13.720 going to have to take different actions and that's just the bottom line reality of the situation

00:17:17.840 so yeah i agree 100 yeah and all you said you know all this you're just looking for confirmation

00:17:25.960 yeah you know it's a weird feeling when you're

00:17:30.920 it's a weird feeling being misunderstood at first it's weird you know and but it never goes away so

00:17:39.620 you have to like learn to kind of be comfortable with it you know i get i still get it i get it from

00:17:44.500 people you know a lot of people come to me who they say things like dude why are you building this

00:17:50.880 new thing or why are you doing this thing or why do you still go there every day or why do you work

00:17:55.100 so hard or why do you why because i fucking like it dude like i know you can't comprehend that and i 0.98

00:18:01.200 know that you don't understand that but that's what i like just like you like laying your ass on the 0.97

00:18:06.360 couch and watching fucking kardashians or whatever the fuck you're watching uh i like to build shit 0.98

00:18:12.840 and that shouldn't be something that you're criticizing or or really even caring about so um

00:18:20.600 you know there's nobody like if you think of all the people that have done amazing things in their

00:18:27.940 life every single one of them has been misunderstood by the people around them they're seen as weird

00:18:33.140 yeah until until they they get where they're going and then all those same people are like

00:18:39.300 dude i always believed in you this was so awesome i can't believe you know you actually did this but

00:18:44.260 you know what i'm not surprised and they start like coming into your camp and and cheering for you

00:18:49.280 which is ironic because at this point you don't need that anymore right so p it's funny how people

00:18:56.900 only support you when you after you know you've passed the point of needing it um but getting to

00:19:03.360 that point of of pushing through that point of where it would be nice to have support makes you

00:19:09.080 strong and it makes you resilient and it makes you be able to move down the path without slowing down

00:19:15.260 because of people's misunderstanding and uh i actually think that being misunderstood is one of the

00:19:21.040 greatest indicators to genius all right um so yeah man i i think you're fine i think you just got to

00:19:28.580 keep doing what you're doing and and remember that this situation will play out over and over and over

00:19:33.360 again uh the further you go down the line right yeah absolutely man thank you so much you're welcome

00:19:40.100 i really appreciate it i appreciate you guys allowing me to uh ask yeah even your input yeah for sure

00:19:48.220 listen just keep keep your head down keep doing what you're doing and uh you know in 10 years

00:19:53.940 you're going to look back and you're going to be like dude i'm so glad i put in that work

00:19:56.940 and you're going to be proud of yourself and i you know so absolutely man i guarantee it yeah i look

00:20:03.260 forward to it exactly hell yeah so patricia we really appreciate you calling in yeah thank you guys

00:20:09.520 all right good luck thank you see you all right bye

00:20:13.320 it's so great like that's i feel like that that's one of the we talk about cultural changes right like

00:20:20.400 this is i feel like that's a really big shift that's happening right now just with the younger

00:20:25.200 crowd is they're getting way more serious about well yeah they realize they've been lied to yeah the

00:20:31.360 gen z starting to realize like school didn't teach me what i needed to know that they're smart enough

00:20:37.540 to understand there's enough available information to grasp the concept now that you know we are put

00:20:45.040 into the world out of the school system not to be effective but to be dependent and this is why they

00:20:52.160 don't teach us things like personal finance properly this is why they don't really uh encourage

00:20:58.220 ambition and drive and and building things anymore instead you know they're trying legitimately to

00:21:05.980 create a completely dependent youth which is backfiring in their face uh because these young

00:21:12.420 people are starting to realize like hey dude i don't want to be poor right i don't want to struggle

00:21:16.600 i want to make fucking money so i don't struggle and it's it's a really nice um refreshing 0.88

00:21:24.200 turn of events because that's the world that i grew up in i grew up in a world where

00:21:31.480 you were encouraged to be successful and the people who were successful were not shit on

00:21:36.980 they were seen as people who as an example of what you can do and we were encouraged to win and

00:21:45.360 we were encouraged to build and we were encouraged to you know be the best at what we do and if you

00:21:50.400 didn't do that you were a fucking loser and now for the last 15 20 years it's been kind of the 0.96

00:21:56.420 opposite if you go out and build something you're greedy you're you're materialistic you're a bad

00:22:01.100 person you're this you're that and if you have an understanding of and this is why we do cti

00:22:06.280 if you have an understanding of the political cultural environment that's going on you completely

00:22:11.560 understand that their goal is to create a dependent population of literal dumbasses so that they could

00:22:17.500 control them so gen z has woken up to this and it's really really fucking exciting for me because 0.79

00:22:24.900 like that's my wheelhouse my wheelhouse is to help people win and now that they're actually wanting

00:22:31.520 to win again it's it's fun yeah you know yeah trying to convince people that winning is a good

00:22:37.040 thing is like not as fun pulling your hair out yeah it's annoying dude and for the last 10 years

00:22:42.160 that's what i've had to do yeah you know i've gotten so much shit for the content that i make over 0.70

00:22:49.120 the years because it's like well you care about his money no that's not all i care about but money is

00:22:54.080 very important it's a very fucking important thing and if you don't have a lot of it your life's

00:22:58.520 going to suffer that's the truth all right so in my mind you know that's the foundation of the life

00:23:05.080 that you're trying to build is to have enough money to do the things that you and your your family want

00:23:09.260 to do and then to take care of things as they come along and most people need you know like 10 times

00:23:14.580 more money than they think they do to actually be at that level so you know it's good that people are

00:23:21.720 starting to wake up to it because i think you know in 20 years we're going to see the effects

00:23:27.040 of that you know yeah dude it's very refreshing yeah very refreshing i love it man uh let's keep

00:23:33.520 moving i got another question for you uh guys andy question number two andy uh i understand you aren't

00:23:40.660 a parent but as a leader of men and women when you see someone you care about becoming stagnant or

00:23:47.000 not reaching their potential how do you help when you know you aren't getting through no matter your

00:23:52.780 approach well people have to be willing to help themselves if if you're if you're going to help

00:23:58.920 them you can only do so much and one of the quickest ways to be miserable is to try to convince people

00:24:04.480 that have no ambition and no no inkling to become better themselves to be better that's very draining

00:24:10.740 it's very hard it's very frustrating and if they don't want to meet you halfway it doesn't matter

00:24:15.160 what you do or what you say or how much you do for them they're not going to do it and furthermore if

00:24:21.580 you do all these extra things for them to try and get them to be successful they'll just learn that

00:24:28.620 you're going to do it for them and they won't ever learn the things themselves which actually handicaps 1.00

00:24:32.440 them so we have to face the reality that there is just a lot of people who talk a lot of shit about

00:24:38.700 wanting things that actually don't want them and you can tell who they are because their actions don't

00:24:43.580 back up their words and it doesn't matter how good of a leader you are it doesn't matter how

00:24:49.160 charismatic you are it doesn't matter how respected you are if you have people that don't want it for

00:24:55.720 themselves there's literally nothing you can do now to answer your question let's assume that this

00:25:01.360 person does have some sort of ambition which i don't think they do to become more successful

00:25:09.400 um that's where you got to pull them aside you got to have a real talk and you got to say hey look

00:25:15.280 dude here's the thing all right where are you going to be five years from now doing exactly what

00:25:21.440 you're doing where are you going to be 10 years from now giving the exact amount of effort that

00:25:25.500 you're giving now where do you think what do you think that's going to look like and if you can

00:25:28.940 really get them to understand that they're in for a world of hurt if they don't step on the gas now

00:25:34.740 you might be able to get them to wake the fuck up but the reality is is there's a lot of people

00:25:40.280 in fact most people that say they want things that actually don't want them you know they're full of

00:25:45.520 shit they say they want it because everybody says they want that well everybody does want to be

00:25:48.960 successful who the fuck doesn't you're right you know i'm saying but there's a difference between 0.78

00:25:52.500 saying you want it and actually wanting it with your actions and most people just don't want it with

00:25:57.480 their actions that's just reality and so you have to be very careful to watch someone's actions over

00:26:03.760 what they say when it comes to this because you will drain yourself and you will run yourself ragged

00:26:09.600 trying to get people to do things that they're just never going to do and i assume that because of the

00:26:16.280 frame of this question this person's talking about their kid all right um look kids develop at a

00:26:22.920 different age you know if you would have looked at me when i was in high school there's not a single

00:26:26.960 motherfucker on the planet that would say that i would end up where i'm at now all right not a single

00:26:32.640 one not a single one so you can't just look at kids because of how they're behaving as a teenager

00:26:39.340 and say that determines where they're going to go in life long-term out-term yeah you know a flip will

00:26:46.460 a switch will eventually flip if they really have it and it usually happens when they realize that

00:26:51.960 there's nobody coming to save them dude and when that starts to happen that's what happened to me

00:26:56.560 okay when i got out on my own and i started building my company i started realizing very

00:27:03.200 quickly like holy shit like this has to work and my mentality flipped right and i went to work

00:27:10.800 and that doesn't necessarily happen for a kid who's living at home who's you know his parents

00:27:16.800 taking care of them and he's still raising his hand to use the bathroom for sure right they're not going

00:27:20.980 to grasp that so you know this is one reason why i'm very thankful for sports too because i played a

00:27:28.380 lot of sports growing up and you know i was a good athlete i wasn't the best athlete but what i did

00:27:35.700 learn was how to win how to work as a team that winning was important and what it took to win and

00:27:41.700 this is why i think you know instead of sitting your kids in front of a video game or a screen you guys

00:27:48.160 should consider and i know it takes a lot of time and extra money but consider getting your kids

00:27:53.080 involved in sports year round it keeps them out of trouble it teaches them what they need to know

00:27:57.140 and um keeps them healthy yeah it's there's a lot of benefits to it but again if they don't want to do

00:28:03.520 it how do you get them to do it yeah so i think showing people you know i've had a number of events in

00:28:11.440 my life growing up that have stuck with me um that reminded me very very like strongly of how

00:28:21.520 important it is to make money um i had one of my family members when i was a young kid get evicted

00:28:28.780 from their home and we had to go to their house and get their shit off the front yard all right i've 0.95

00:28:36.720 never forgotten that yeah never forgotten that you know what i'm saying you don't forget that that

00:28:41.160 was one of them things that stuck with me forever and as hard as it was to understand then because i

00:28:49.040 didn't really understand it but now i do understand it and once it clicked for me what that meant i was

00:28:54.260 like man i don't ever want that you know so those kind of situations um i think those kind of

00:29:02.960 situations help people a lot you know this is why i say all the time you know the people who become

00:29:08.120 the most successful it's the opposite of what people think a lot of people will say oh well you

00:29:14.380 had it easy or you were lucky or you had a you were born on third base and you think you hit a trip all

00:29:19.740 this fucking loser shit people say about successful people to justify their own lack of progress but at 0.91

00:29:25.700 the end of the day the reality is the opposite of that the people who win are usually people who had to

00:29:30.680 crawl out of the shit many different times growing up have seen difficult things have been through 0.76

00:29:36.480 difficult things and it taught them the skill of learning to fight through and then as they got

00:29:42.080 older they started to harness that skill into where they were going which made them gritty resilient

00:29:46.660 persevere through the hard things and so uh you know this is why a lot most people have it wrong when

00:29:53.600 it becomes when it comes to successful people yeah um they're willing to do fucking whatever to go 0.64

00:29:58.640 as far away from that as possible and it never stops because it's stuck to you yeah you know yeah

00:30:03.660 so let me ask you this i mean because we talk about people with potential right like what how do you

00:30:08.520 look at a situation where you have a guy or person that dude like they're driving a fucking thousand 0.94

00:30:16.060 horsepower vehicle like the tires are fucking going they're just doing donuts though because they're 0.94

00:30:20.380 not you know the direction's not in the right place they're not applying i guess that all of that

00:30:24.960 momentum and potential in the right yeah i mean you could talk to them dude and you could say hey

00:30:29.200 uh the problem is is that people that usually have that natural ability to go they think that their

00:30:36.680 ego is also big because of that so they listen less right they think well i got it so like everything

00:30:42.340 i do is going to work and it's like no dude you're you're missing this you're missing that you're

00:30:47.440 missing this and when you try to tell them those things they don't listen because they think they have

00:30:52.340 something that everybody else doesn't have and that that's another misconception is that the

00:30:58.440 people with the most talent win it's not the people that with the most talent it's the people with the

00:31:03.860 ability to learn and apply those lessons moving forward and then the grit and the resilience and

00:31:09.240 the perseverance and the fortitude to continue down the path and so being successful has little to do

00:31:14.300 with intelligence or talent and it has to do with being just intelligent enough to not make the same

00:31:21.260 mistake twice or three times and developing enough grit to persevere through the process and if you

00:31:28.260 have those two things there's really nothing that will stop you long term winning is inevitable with

00:31:32.280 those two qualities uh but you know unfortunately as humans when we think we're better than we are or we

00:31:39.000 think we're naturally talented we see this in the nfl or the mlb how many of these guys that got drafted

00:31:44.540 first round never pan out because their whole life and their whole identity became i'm a first round

00:31:50.620 draft pick instead of well i'm graduated from that era and i'm now in a new era and i need to work

00:31:56.780 just as hard as i did then sometimes the athlete was so good that they didn't have to work in college

00:32:02.760 they're so fucking good they didn't have to do shit there was a quarterback that got drafted by the

00:32:07.960 raiders a number of years ago named jamarcus russell jamarcus russell was drafted number one in the nfl

00:32:14.040 and he was touted legitimately as maybe the best quarterback ever coming out of college

00:32:21.860 and he went to the raiders and he fucking flapped and the reason he flapped is because he wouldn't 0.92

00:32:28.500 read the motherfucking playbook and they know they weren't that he wasn't reading the playbook because 0.80

00:32:32.700 they gave him a blank playbook with nothing in it he went home he came back and he's like oh yeah i read

00:32:39.800 it oh and didn't say shit and that's how they caught him on it so so a lot of yes a lot of times when you 0.77

00:32:48.500 have this big talent those people don't pan out because they rely on the talent more than they should

00:32:58.240 yeah right yeah so but also not probably facing any adversity right so then you get you know like

00:33:03.760 getting hit by nfl you know d lineman's a lot different than you know college or high school bro

00:33:08.700 yeah big difference yeah and and dude this happens in all areas of life yeah you know let's say you're

00:33:14.080 an executive and you work for a small company and you've done really well at that company and then

00:33:18.540 you move to a big company and instead of thinking like okay this is a new league i need to learn i need

00:33:22.860 to get better i need to brush up my skill they form their identity based upon what they already did

00:33:28.020 they carry those habits moving forward and those habits aren't good enough to support the success that

00:33:32.020 they're trying to create now this happens all the time this is why people who win long term are

00:33:38.200 actually of medium skill set who are aware that they are a medium skill set and understand very

00:33:45.320 in a real way that they have to do all the things that that are required to win because they know

00:33:51.240 they're not good enough i know that about myself people people talk to me all the time they're like

00:33:56.120 why do you do all these things why do you do this why do you do that because at the end of the day

00:34:00.040 bro i know for sure i'm not good enough to win if i don't do the things i know that and i've

00:34:06.340 accepted that and that doesn't hurt my ego right i actually like that everybody else thinks they're

00:34:10.880 awesome yeah right because and you know people will look at me from the outside and they'll say

00:34:16.860 that guy thinks he's awesome not really dude you might think that but at the end of the day when it

00:34:22.020 comes time to get better i'm gonna sit in the room shut the fuck up and learn what i gotta learn 0.85

00:34:25.300 yeah you think your actions are awesome well that's the difference you know what i'm saying i think my

00:34:29.480 results are awesome yeah and my results are awesome because i'm willing to learn along the

00:34:33.980 way yeah so dude i love it man i love it guys let's get one more in here man let's get another one uh

00:34:40.860 let's get ross on the line let's give ross a call 0.89

00:34:45.820 hello this is ross ross what's going on man this is dj

00:34:53.480 how's it going man no man no complaints over here man how you doing

00:34:58.760 life don't get no better than this it was about to get better i got 80 here too yeah what's up ross

00:35:05.720 tip on a crisp screaming freedom right now actually that's right there you go that's right

00:35:11.580 somebody stole mine i actually just picked up four cases from the local brown jug in town

00:35:16.920 the brown jug yeah what's that is that store yeah liquor store in uh in town where are you get more

00:35:26.820 more uh form energy up here in alaska man we don't got much well hey man we're in alaska

00:35:33.480 hey dude we're we got it coming bro we got it coming i promise you thank you for the support

00:35:39.440 brother i appreciate that talk to you guys i really really appreciate it well i appreciate the support

00:35:43.920 you've been uh you've been a huge inspiration for me and uh everything that we've done and i got my

00:35:49.400 business partner actually sitting here with me and uh it's really cool to talk to you guys so thank you

00:35:53.660 cool cool so uh give us a little background on what you got going on up there guys

00:35:58.060 so we started a restoration company six months ago um i'd worked in the industry for a year and a half

00:36:09.100 two years and my business partner i met my business partner because he came up to run a

00:36:14.600 company that i was at actually from oregon and so he took a special interest in me and

00:36:19.780 uh things didn't work out with that company and we decided hey there's a need in the community and

00:36:26.220 you know we need to uh we need to do this for the community and so we did i started out with just me and

00:36:32.260 my uh my buddy um and we were just doing work me and him i had no idea what the fuck i was doing 0.82

00:36:39.760 uh my business partner was helping out where he could but he had to uh work another job in order to

00:36:45.380 pay for both me and my buddy's paychecks and so um through all that now six months later we've got

00:36:53.240 13 employees uh we're looking at you know moving what three quarters by the end of the first six months

00:37:02.100 and it's just been absolutely insane i mean can't take credit for it the lord has blessed us every

00:37:07.300 step of the way and uh listen to the podcast and everything like that it's been it's been helpful

00:37:13.460 as well so but with that being said we're growing super super quick and you know we talked about growing

00:37:24.100 smart but it's at the point where things have just blown up so much and so my question was

00:37:31.860 what's the most important thing to focus on when your business is blowing up faster than your

00:37:36.980 internal systems your staffing and structure can keep up with without losing the quality or burning

00:37:43.780 out well that is a very very important question and it's something that the fact that you're aware of it

00:37:54.180 tells me that you're going to do what i'm about to tell you which is very difficult you're going to

00:37:59.940 have to do every single thing that you can to make sure that because your systems are not where they

00:38:06.820 need to be that you are able to make absolutely sure that every single customer that's coming in

00:38:14.660 to your funnel right now is leaving excited happy overwhelmed and is telling a proper story about you

00:38:23.540 okay you guys are in the beginning part of your business and this is a this is a mistake that a lot

00:38:29.700 of businesses make man they scale faster than their systems all right and when companies do this

00:38:39.780 what happens is they i'll just use an example all right let's say somebody wants to start a business

00:38:47.540 selling hats all right but they only have 24 hats they go out and run ads and they get 500 people that

00:38:55.940 want hats and now they can only service 24 of them and you have the rest pissed off saying oh i couldn't

00:39:04.500 get that or you know it took six weeks to get it so this is actually a pretty big problem you guys are

00:39:10.100 facing and the solution is twofold one you have to make sure that during this time you're putting in

00:39:17.540 any amount of effort required if it requires two hours of sleep a day to make sure that these people

00:39:24.180 are excited and happy you have to do it because you're in the beginning phases of your business and

00:39:29.780 if you don't do it the word of mouth will spread so fast that you guys are shitty company to work with

00:39:35.620 that you'll lose your whole company all right so whatever that takes you have to do that now

00:39:41.460 second part is while you're doing this you have to work to scale your systems to where they can service

00:39:48.740 the influx of business and as you're developing your systems and building your systems you should

00:39:54.900 build them not to service the amount of customers that you have currently but you should build them to

00:39:59.620 service 10 times the amount of customers that you have currently which will end up fixing the problem

00:40:05.060 of you having to stay up till three in the morning servicing all these customers so you're in a

00:40:11.140 little bit of a of a tight spot here it's going to require some extra effort but this is not abnormal for

00:40:17.220 starting a business i mean there's many times throughout the business career where we've gone through this

00:40:22.340 uh in multiple companies that i've worked with and own myself uh where this extra effort is is

00:40:31.620 is very crucial to that point in time and um it's a natural thing you're going to see this as you

00:40:38.340 scale you know we just went through this with first form about three years ago where we had so much

00:40:43.060 business we couldn't fulfill it our warehouse couldn't fulfill it uh and then we had to spend

00:40:47.540 like 10 million dollars or some crazy amount uh building this the dragon that you guys see on my

00:40:53.380 instagram story which is our fulfillment line and then when we got that built up we were able to

00:40:58.900 fulfill a lot more and now we're to a point now where that can't even keep up so now we got to

00:41:03.220 make another investment so right now we're having to work extra hard to make sure that we fulfill

00:41:07.700 everything and just the same thing you guys are having to do we're having to work extra hard to make

00:41:12.660 sure that we keep up with everything that we're doing and making sure that our customers are getting

00:41:17.220 that proper treatment while on the back side we're working to to scale it so we don't have to put in

00:41:24.260 all that extra time and effort so uh that's pretty much the answer bro you know the difficult part of

00:41:30.900 this is just it's just going to require extra time on your guys's part for until you get the systems

00:41:36.740 figured out but if you do it you'll be fine if you don't do it it'll ruin your business and that's

00:41:42.020 that's what you got to remember right and that's you know something that that we have been doing i mean

00:41:51.940 there's a there was a customer where we had to take out the lid in their bathroom because there was

00:41:58.260 some mold growing on there we did all that and we got everything done we got everything put back drywall

00:42:04.820 and painted everything and i went back to do the final walkthrough with the customer and she was a

00:42:11.460 super nice lady and she was like you know i like it and but it wasn't up to the standard that i wanted 1.00

00:42:18.180 and you know there was just some stuff that paint wasn't supposed to be on this or you know they

00:42:23.700 didn't mask properly and things like that and so while she was okay with it i said well i'm not okay

00:42:31.220 with it can we come back and fix it and i'd actually that day was listening to your podcast on the way

00:42:37.460 up there and someone had mentioned that where you had told them like go above and beyond yes basically for

00:42:44.420 the customer and so that's that's what i did and then she was you know while it took a little bit

00:42:49.380 longer and you know her husband wasn't necessarily uh happy with us with the amount of time that it

00:42:55.540 took i told him i said we wanted to make sure that we got it done right and that kind of leads me into

00:43:02.580 uh another question if you guys have time yeah with the small market that we have up here

00:43:10.340 here in fairbanks we have really two competing companies up here and when we started and as we've

00:43:21.860 gotten things going we're basically picking up all of their work and so that's also part of the reason

00:43:29.780 why we've had to hire super quit and expand our team so quickly and with that we've gotten a lot of

00:43:38.420 younger guys i mean we've got a 16 year old a couple 17 year olds and you know a couple 18 year

00:43:43.940 olds and i'm only 24 and so i'm trying to learn while also teaching these guys how to do everything

00:43:54.500 and so what's the best way to instill accountability and reliability into those younger guys who want to

00:44:00.660 learn and are hungry but still struggle with basic consistency with having a job because a lot of this is

00:44:07.140 their first job uh you gotta okay so you're really in a pickle here too because you can't you can't

00:44:16.820 fulfill all your business without these guys right so exactly um there's another thing you could do too

00:44:23.140 by the way if if you wanted if you need to slow down the amount of work that you're doing you can raise

00:44:30.180 your price okay so you could do less work for more profit and be able to scale the company with a

00:44:37.300 little less stress that's something to think about i don't know where you're priced but just keep that

00:44:42.260 in the back of your pocket problem with that yeah the problem with that is that we work with insurance

00:44:46.740 companies mainly okay and so the price is what it is and so a lot of these it's i got it yeah it's the

00:44:53.940 the amount of customers that we're getting and the amount of work okay well when it when it comes to

00:44:59.860 these young guys all right this is where building a culture in your business is very important all

00:45:04.820 right a standard of how we do things this is our mission these are the cultural values that we stand by

00:45:12.820 this is how we do things and you have to very specifically intentionally set that up in your company

00:45:20.020 and then hold those young men accountable to that standard all right if you don't have a defined

00:45:28.020 standard or if your standard is um abstract all right and you're just saying hey go do a good job

00:45:35.060 or go above and beyond that that only means something while you say it but if you build your

00:45:41.380 whole company around this is what we do this is how we do it then what that does is that allows you to

00:45:47.300 hold those young men accountable to that standard there is a defined standard of how we do things

00:45:54.180 and that's the best way to create accountability because the reality is is that most people do want

00:46:00.660 to do a good job but most people are still people and they will go 80 of the way and then say oh well this

00:46:07.940 is good enough and you have to fix that by intentionally building a culture around like what you already did

00:46:16.500 for that lady going the extra mile making sure that these people are taken care of this is the 1.00

00:46:21.380 standard however you guys decide to build that but when you set an intentional standard of cultural

00:46:28.180 expectations in your company it becomes very easy to hold people accountable because now it's not just

00:46:35.780 like something i told them to do it this is just how we do it this is what we do here right so that's

00:46:42.500 something that you guys would benefit from especially because you're so young of setting that up i didn't

00:46:48.420 set up an intentional culture in my company uh my retail company until 2011 and that was 12 years into our

00:46:58.980 business and when we did that the business started to operate way better way less hands-on way better

00:47:07.060 performance and uh people who work now understand what the acceptable standard is and when they don't

00:47:15.300 do that standard it's very easy to hold them accountable to it and they know they know that they

00:47:20.420 weren't holding that standard so um right i would i would something i was talking about too is is it too late

00:47:28.180 no that that no not at all this is a perfect time to do it it's not too late for any company to do that

00:47:34.020 if you're if you're a more it gets harder as you go because here's what'll happen right now you have

00:47:40.740 what'd you say you have five or six guys or 13 what'd you say uh 13 yeah 13 guys okay if you had

00:47:48.660 200 guys and you tried to reset your culture and your company's doing pretty good half of those guys

00:47:56.180 are going to be like man what the are they changing all this for i liked it like it was before and then

00:48:02.180 you got a big problem on your hand because then you got to replace half your guys and if you don't

00:48:06.260 replace half your guys the other half will adopt that attitude so doing it when you're smaller and

00:48:12.580 when you're newer is much easier than doing it when you're big but when you can do it when you're big

00:48:17.140 too you just got to be prepared be prepared to let the bad apples or the not even the bad apples the

00:48:23.220 people who don't want to adopt that cultural standard you got to be willing to let them go and you got to

00:48:28.340 let them go immediately you can't let them sit in and rot the culture out so uh you're in the perfect 0.99

00:48:34.260 place to do this you know and that sounds like this okay hey guys uh look we're all young we all

00:48:41.780 want to do great thing here we all want to build something that not only kicks ass but provides for

00:48:47.140 you and your family and builds a solid career for many many years down the road and this is what it's

00:48:52.580 going to take and we're going to have to do these things are you guys in on that and they're going to

00:48:56.740 say fuck yeah and then you're going to say okay well these are the standards that we're going to hold 0.76

00:49:01.700 and you know these are not you know this is different than systems right systems would be like

00:49:09.860 okay here's how you talk to the customer here's where it goes when they when they call in here's

00:49:14.340 the procedure for this culture is here's the value that we stand for because if you set specific items

00:49:21.860 and like in like a lot of people will fuck up their cultural uh statement like this they'll say

00:49:27.460 we always do this or we do that or we do this and the lines the the system which should be in systems

00:49:34.660 okay but it'll have 50 fucking items and nobody can remember all that shit all right so systems belong 0.92

00:49:41.700 over here culture is more like accept responsibility okay take initiative these are these are values these are

00:49:51.380 these are cultural standards and then you allow them to adopt those things all right and those

00:49:57.940 things are up to their determination but they understand that you expect this character quality

00:50:06.900 out of that human being and when you have an entire team representing the character traits and the

00:50:13.300 cultural values of what it is you want your company to stand for and they're living them then the company

00:50:18.820 starts to have that cultural value okay so right it has to go from establishing intentionally the

00:50:27.460 culture to implementing the culture with your team to allowing the culture to cook and then your company

00:50:34.820 will naturally have the culture and here's why you want to do it now because if you do it strong now

00:50:40.420 and you've got 13 guys and when you put that in you're probably going to lose three or four of them

00:50:45.060 all right but when you put when you put that in and then it grows and you go five years down the road

00:50:52.900 it actually protects you from making bad hires because when bad hires are made your culture

00:51:00.100 naturally weeds them out for example let's say you have uh you're 13 guys and let's say you're operating

00:51:06.980 on a very uh intentional culture right now and you hire somebody comes in and they don't fit any of those

00:51:13.700 items but they're really good at they're really good at what they do your guys are going to be like

00:51:18.500 bro this guy doesn't fit and they're not going to with that guy they're going to let you know that that

00:51:23.140 guy doesn't fit and he will either quit on his own or it will be very easy to see that you need to

00:51:29.940 not let him stay in the company so the culture becomes a natural organic weeding out of people who

00:51:38.260 don't fit once you let it grow and mature and many businesses can't understand this concept they think

00:51:43.860 people just want to show up and get their paycheck and go the home but dude the reality is is most

00:51:51.140 people don't want just that most people want to belong to something most people want their work to

00:51:55.380 matter most people want to make a difference and when you define your culture around those things

00:52:01.940 it creates a more fulfilling existence for your employees and it also creates better results for them

00:52:08.020 and you so uh installing an intentional culture right now is going to be the way to go bro

00:52:14.820 okay and what do you have for me as far as i mean it's probably stuff you've already said

00:52:20.980 before to other people but me not having experience a lot of experience leading people what are things i could

00:52:30.340 be doing to further that um to uh help help them if that makes any sense yeah yeah well dude you just

00:52:39.140 got to become a student of leadership you know i've read every leadership book that's been out there uh

00:52:46.420 i became a student of leadership and then the more important part is to just do it you know you learn

00:52:52.900 everything that you need to learn on the job by making mistakes so you're going to go out there and right

00:52:58.820 now i'm sure you guys are making leadership mistakes that's okay that's normal but you should be

00:53:04.340 quickening your development as a leader by studying previous leaders you know um vince lombardi john wooden

00:53:12.500 uh you know there's all kinds of of nick saban these guys are all great leaders and by reading their

00:53:20.660 shit you're going to figure out okay i could do this or i could do that or i should do more like this 0.84

00:53:25.060 or this or this or this and this and you're going to get all these ideas to quicken your development

00:53:28.820 as a leader but ultimately most of your leadership uh skill set is going to come from the experience of

00:53:36.100 just doing it and being a 24 year old you know there's not many 24 year olds out there who are

00:53:42.820 tremendous leaders in their company it's just something that develops over time so right um those

00:53:49.540 two things bro you know just become a student of leadership you know all the information on every great

00:53:54.500 leader is out there and i would become a student of it and then you know practice those skills as you

00:53:59.460 move forward i appreciate it i mean there's no there's no there's no over there there's no quick

00:54:07.220 answer to that dude this all takes time you know yeah i want to hear from randy mayo on what he's got

00:54:15.940 you got anything that's you i'm randy mayo randy mayo with the with the mx

00:54:26.820 yeah um yeah no dude it's a process bro like i mean i started leading like my team i'll leave my team

00:54:33.860 yeah i still fuck up and like i think accepting that like it's not going to be perfect you know 0.74

00:54:38.500 i'm saying you're going to work through it but like you can read all the books you want but

00:54:41.620 you got to do it great leaders understand great leaders put the mission first yeah always and then

00:54:47.300 right after that is the development of their people yep okay and then after that is the accountability

00:54:53.620 to the mission all right so you got to make decisions that are mission first

00:54:58.820 and which by the way garners tremendous amounts of respect from your team then you work very hard to

00:55:05.540 develop them and then when they don't develop you have to hold them accountable so it's it's a very

00:55:11.380 simple process yeah and ultimately too like bro as long as you you actually give a fuck about your 0.78

00:55:15.780 people you'll be fine that that's that's part of it okay you have to you have actually give a

00:55:21.380 fuck you have to care you have to care if you don't actually care about i'm not saying that you don't 0.89

00:55:29.060 you know but no no this is for everybody listening you can't fake that you you people smell that shit 0.88

00:55:36.340 bro and a lot of people will hit hit me up and be like i can't keep any employees and i start to dig

00:55:42.020 into this shit and i'm realizing like bro you're not you don't really give a fuck if they win or lose 0.95

00:55:47.940 you're worried about yourself and people can sense that and people don't follow people that that are like

00:55:53.940 that they're going to follow people who are legitimately committed to the mission and that

00:55:59.060 mission has to be big enough for those people that you're talking to to see themselves having all the

00:56:06.100 things in the life that they want underneath that mission so if you don't have that bro you're going to

00:56:13.700 have a hard time getting people to stick around they're not going to do it and this is a big problem

00:56:18.580 with a lot of leaders a lot of leaders they think they and this is actually a sales problem too

00:56:26.100 they they look at sales as a manipulative venture okay instead of saying my product my service

00:56:34.980 is here to solve a problem and we are to solve that problem as effectively as possible they say

00:56:42.340 we're our job is to make money okay not realizing that money is just a byproduct

00:56:48.420 of the quality of what you put out all right so a lot of people fuck this up and they think they

00:56:54.260 can manipulate the sales and you can't not long term i don't care how big the world is it ain't big

00:56:59.300 enough your reputation will get around this is the same thing that happens with employees okay they can

00:57:05.540 sense if you actually care they know if your intent is genuine or if it's bullshit everybody knows 0.50

00:57:13.380 like everybody listening if i asked you to raise your hand right now do you know when someone is

00:57:20.900 trying to fucking bullshit you do you know when you're being sold and everybody will raise their 0.97

00:57:26.660 hand yeah i know but yet the same people who raised their hand saying yeah i know think that they are

00:57:33.300 good enough to trick people right that's right right and you can't do it no so so dj your point

00:57:40.180 is spot on dude you have to have the right intent and if you don't have the right intent you just

00:57:45.940 shouldn't be in business it also means you have to like holding them accountable as part of that

00:57:49.940 carry that's right you know what i'm saying just let them walk over yeah because i care about you

00:57:54.100 yeah you didn't do this bro yeah well dude no dude that goes right into your real intent yeah

00:57:59.460 because if you're not willing to correct someone you're not willing to coach someone you're not

00:58:03.380 willing to make them better then they're not going to respect you no you don't care about exactly you

00:58:08.660 you don't there's no fucking chance right there's a lot to this dude like why we started this 0.92

00:58:13.060 company we started that company because we saw the need in the community for a good honest contractor

00:58:20.500 to go in and do good quality work and i've done personal training you know i've coached high school

00:58:27.140 basketball i've done all this stuff and the whole time i kept saying it's because i love helping people

00:58:32.580 i love serving people and you know i believe obviously as a christian you know that's the reason why we're

00:58:36.900 on this earth is to help and serve people i always thought though when i was saying that i was just

00:58:42.100 trying to make myself look good but i really do um have realized that that's the whole reason why

00:58:50.820 we're here and also why i believe we've been successful at least in the first six months

00:58:57.940 is because of that so i completely agree with you guys on that yeah brother that that okay you just

00:59:04.340 pointed out something that is very important for people to realize all right if you do good you get

00:59:10.260 good if you do the right thing good things happen to you there's no mistake that the the companies and

00:59:17.380 the projects and the services that serve the most that people are willing to trade their money for that

00:59:24.260 those are the companies that win the biggest the companies that actually provide the best and solve

00:59:28.420 the problem the best it's the it's it's the most ethical way to do business and it's also the most

00:59:36.980 profitable way to do business and that's why all these people that think they can manipulate and that's

00:59:42.900 why they wash out dude it's just short-sighted thinking that never plays out long term

00:59:47.460 so that's what me my business partner said the other day we're doing too good we're doing too

00:59:54.020 good of a job that's why we're getting all this work but i guess it's just a good good problem to

00:59:58.820 have but i just want to make sure we're not letting that good thing saying it's a good problem for too

01:00:04.580 long then we end up in a in a bad problem well those first two things i said are how you get out of

01:00:10.580 this right now yep so absolutely love it man ross dude we appreciate you hopping on the call man

01:00:17.860 yeah thank you guys hey i'm i'm pushing form energy up here just so you guys know all the time

01:00:23.460 that's what's up you ever need sponsors or anything you let me know because

01:00:27.220 i like i said i just bought four cases today i guess it's a coincidence that i talked to you guys

01:00:31.300 today too that's awesome so well i really appreciate you guys thank you so much for what you guys are

01:00:35.620 doing we appreciate you too brother you too bro thank you all right yeah dude yeah look building

01:00:44.500 a company is hard dude and it's it's there's all kinds of things that happen along the way

01:00:50.260 and nobody that's running a company especially in the early days feels like they're doing it right

01:00:55.620 you're always going to feel like you're up but that's actually a great thing because if you feel

01:00:59.860 like you're up you're going to have a natural desire to get better right it's the people who don't

01:01:04.020 feel like they're up that refuse to get any better and end up losing they up so you know awareness

01:01:10.900 is such a big part of this and that's why like you can really tell a lot about the way people ask

01:01:17.620 questions about where their awareness is because like dude if you're aware that you might get sick

01:01:26.580 okay and you start doing preventative things way ahead of time you're in a pretty good spot but if you

01:01:32.660 don't become aware that you might get sick until you're sick then you're all right so having the

01:01:40.020 the understanding of where your holes are what needs to improve and being concerned about those things

01:01:45.300 all the time is indicative of a great operator it just is i don't sit here and sit in my office or

01:01:52.980 in the locker room or walk the floor or go home and and think about how much i'm winning that is not

01:01:58.660 what i fucking think about all i think about is how to get better all i think about is where the 0.94

01:02:04.180 holes are all i think about is how to do a better job and i obsess over it and going back to what i 0.53

01:02:11.380 said earlier because that's what i know it takes for me to be good enough to win personally so um

01:02:19.940 we just have to understand that you know if you're aware of these problems ahead of time

01:02:24.260 you like like the patricia that asked the first question she's already aware she's aware she knew

01:02:30.660 what the answer was she just needed to have confirmation of it and awareness is a big deal

01:02:35.780 guys and and uh the fact that you're aware it tells me that you're not going to have a problem solving

01:02:41.220 the problem 100 yeah i love it man well guys andy that was three yep sure was hell of a way to start a

01:02:47.460 good week man yeah all right guys don't forget 7 p.m central tonight we will have cti gather the

01:02:54.900 family around teach your kids some dirty words some dirty jokes and uh we'll have a good time tonight

01:03:00.900 too that's right all right all right well

01:03:07.540 is that it all right guys well that's the show we will see you tonight don't be a hoe 1.00

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 24, 2025

968. Q&AF： Misunderstood By Family, Convincing The Unmotivated & Scaling Smart

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