REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 971. Q&AF： Leading Vs. Delegating, Dealing With Judgement & Balancing Gratitude And Growth

00:00:00.000 What is up guys? It's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.

00:00:25.140 Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. You can submit your questions a plethora of ways. DJ, go ahead and tell them how they can do that. 0.97

00:00:39.360 Yeah guys, you can start by emailing your questions and to askandy at andyfricella.com. If that doesn't work for you, you can check the link in the description below and submit your questions for a chance to be on our call ins.

00:00:51.840 If that does not work for you, you can always leave your questions in the comments on the Q and AF episodes on the tube.

00:00:57.720 That's Q and AF. Now tomorrow, well actually tonight, you're going to see a CTI. All right. CTI is where we cruise the internet. That's where we put topics on the screen. We speculate on what's going on. We joke around and then we talk about how we need to solve these problems going on in the world.

00:01:16.240 Um, and again, that's live now and you will see that at 7 PM tonight. So tune in tonight and you will see that. Then throughout the week, we're going to have real talk, real talk, just five to 20 minutes of real talk. We do this occasionally. We don't do it every week. And then occasionally as well, we have 75 hard verses. That's where people who have completed the 75 hard program come on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now and how they use the 75 hard program to become the ultimate version of themselves.

00:01:44.240 If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard is the initial phase of the live hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program ever. And, uh, you can get that for free at episode two zero eight on the audio feed. Again, that's two zero eight on the audio feed only. There's also a book. The book is available. Andy for seller.com. It's called the book on mental toughness. It has the entire live hard program, plus a whole bunch of other chapters on mental toughness, why it's important, how to cultivate it.

00:02:14.240 And how to use it in your life to become the ultimate version of you. Uh, that book is not free, but it is very in depth and people seem to really like it. So, uh, if you're the kind of person that needs to know all the, uh, ins and outs, that's definitely the route to go. But again, you can get it for free also at episode two zero eight on the audio feed. Now there is something here that we haven't asked. The ask is very simple. If you like the show, if it gives you good value, if it makes you laugh, it makes you think, if it gives you a new perspective, if you think it's entertaining,

00:02:44.240 do us a favor and, uh, don't be a hoe share the show. All right. What's happening, dude. We got snow. Yeah, we do. Yeah. Snow. It's cold too. It is really cool. Like real cold, but the snow makes me happy, man. Yeah. You know, it's, it's, uh, it was, it was nice. It was real snow though. Like we got like that wet, sloppy shit. 1.00

00:03:06.240 Well, usually that's not a bad thing. Yeah. When it comes to snow, it's, uh, it's, it's not the best. So yeah, I'm not, I'm not really same. Same. Yeah. I'm not down with the, with the, with that kind of snow. Yeah. It does get dirty. Yeah. It's a little, then, you know, when it freezes, you gotta be careful. Cause you got the, the ice out there. That's right. That black ice. That's right. The racist ice. 1.00

00:03:30.560 Get it. Yep. Yeah. That's the one that's hurting all the people. The black ice. You never hear white ice. People fall down. Half of the hospital fall injury comes from black ice.

00:03:45.700 Okay. 13% of the ice creating 70% of the violent falls.

00:03:51.880 Anyway, that's, that's for tonight. Let's get serious. This is a serious show. Yeah. This is make people better, dude. I do have a serious announcement. I do have a serious announcement. The MS CEO project that you guys have been wanting back for the last, however many years that we've been working on for the last three years is coming back. And if you're interested in getting that podcast, it will not be hosted publicly.

00:04:21.300 It will be a private podcast. Um, you can get on the list for that. If you go to Andy for seller.com forward slash MF CEO. And, uh, we will be notifying you this Sunday, December 7th about all the details regarding that. So keep an eye out for that and need to go get registered. If you're interested in that, because, uh, we won't be posting it public. And, uh, the only way to get it is to be on that list. So yeah, it's going to be so fucking sick.

00:04:50.580 Andy for seller.com forward slash MF CEO. It's going to be great. Yeah, it is going to be great, dude. I'm excited. You know, when we switched over to real AF, it was because I recognized that the environment of our ability to become successful was being drastically affected, uh, by a lot of this push for control. 0.96

00:05:13.580 Control and intentional poverty. And all of these things have happened over the last five, five years or so. And we're getting back to the point where everybody's aware of it.

00:05:25.320 And I'm not saying we're going to, we're not going to quit doing real AF. We really enjoy it, but, uh, it's time to get back to some real tactics and getting people, you know, doing the things that are going to make them successful. Not just making them realize that they are the answer to the problems they see in the society. So it's going to be really, really cool.

00:05:45.040 There is, there is, there is, it's not just the podcast, dude. We've been building this project for the last three years obsessively to what I believe will be the, one of the biggest products in human history when it's all said and done.

00:06:03.480 So I'm very excited to show it to people. Uh, and we will be talking to you about the first phase of that, um, Sunday. Yeah. So this coming Sunday, it's going to be great. So again, Andy for cello.com forward slash MFC. So exciting, man. Yeah. I'm going to be fucking great. I'm excited too. Yeah. It's going to be awesome guys. Um, to, no surprise. Yeah. I have three good ones for you. All right. Good. Yeah. We're going to do a little OG. Got some good write-ins, man. We got, uh, no call-ins today. No call-ins.

00:06:33.400 We're going to do some write-ins and, uh, but we got some really good ones for you, bro. So, uh, let's make some people better guys. Andy question. Number one, Andy, I created a system to make the company better in my free time and was promoted for it. Um, things are going great, but on projects, I'm told to scale back on the work that I do. How do I find the balance between leading from the front and not delegating enough?

00:07:02.380 So I guess now you got a leadership position. Is delegation the true, like, is that the best thing to do when you become a leader?

00:07:09.820 I mean, it's a part of it. You know, um, I think a lot of people try to do one or the other. They either try to do everything themselves or they try to delegate everything. Yeah. And neither one of those are that effective. Okay. Um, it's about finding the right balance between what to delegate, how to delegate, who to delegate it to, and then understanding how much input and how much oversight these people need from you.

00:07:39.820 With the goal of eventually getting them to the point where they do these things automatically and they understand what needs to be done. So if you run into a situation as a leader where you're constantly jumping in, you're constantly fixing all the problems, you're constantly calling all the plays. What happens is, is that your team never develops. Okay.

00:08:01.820 Okay. Your team never, never learns why we do certain things. And when you don't allow them to develop their own expertise, you end up with just a bunch of doers and not a bunch of effective autonomous members of your organization that can solve problems and do things at scale.

00:08:21.440 Okay. And this is micromanaging. Yes. This is a big problem with most small business owners because they cannot find that right balance. The opposite of that is that when they delegate everything, because let's say they want to, you know, be detached from the business for whatever reason, and you don't provide any of the insight, you end up with ideas and decisions that are made that may not align

00:08:51.440 putting in putting in any input. All right. So there's pluses and minuses to both sides. But the idea that you ultimately need to come to the realization that you ultimately need to come to is that this is a balance of both of these skill sets.

00:09:07.380 And it's not one or the other. It's knowing when and why and how to delegate. It's also knowing when and why and how to put your hands on things to make sure they're going the right direction. And this becomes increasingly difficult for people who are not the founder, owner, equity partner, CEO, operator of the business, because they start to believe, at least initially, that if they make the wrong decision,

00:09:37.380 that they're going to be punished for it. And so you have to cultivate an environment where decisions are allowed to be made, but also with enough oversight for you to teach them along the way. Right. And we just have very few leaders that that understand that because typically either they want to do everything because I know best and my way is the best and I can do it better than you, which is not good leadership. Yeah.

00:10:06.120 OK. It doesn't allow people to develop. It doesn't allow people to become owners of the project, meaning they did the project. They feel good. They develop. They build the confidence, which makes them better.

00:10:18.160 And then the opposite of that is also true. You know, when you let them run without any oversight at all, they also don't get any better because they don't have the experience. They don't understand what what's trying to be done big picture.

00:10:32.280 And so what typically happens is they make decisions that are based in how they feel right now versus what the big picture game plan is. So, you know, this is a big balancing act, so to speak, that you have to learn the nuance of in order to become an effective leader, whether that's you're at the top or the bottom.

00:10:53.080 And as an operator, when I say top or bottom, I mean, like you're whether you're the CEO or the owner or whether you're upper management or whether you're middle management or whatever, that this skill set is something that you have to develop at all those levels to be valuable.

00:11:08.460 And if you don't have that skill set, you're not a real leader. That's the thing. Okay. And you can perform very well and still not be a good leader. Okay. There's lots of ways to do that. And that tricks a lot of people. People think that when sales are going good, when things are moving in the right direction, they automatically assume that that means that they're doing everything right that they could be doing.

00:11:34.240 No, that could be a lot of other things. It could just be that the market's ready for your product. It could be that you have the right product at the right place at the right time and it's going. It has no reflection on you. So we have to understand that there's all these elements that can give us false feedback. I call it feedback mirage, feedback that appears to be real, but actually isn't. That causes us to make decisions that aren't actually accurate.

00:11:56.980 So when we think about this in terms of the value in a middle management or upper management position, the real value of that position is not just performance, but it's the most valuable thing that they can do is the ability to replicate their own skill set amongst their team.

00:12:18.960 And a lot of people don't do this because they get scarcity mindset in terms of leadership capital, meaning I'm not going to teach my team how to be as good as me because then they'll be better than me and take my job.

00:12:33.240 That's right. And that's not actually true. If you're in an organization that understands what you're doing, if you're in a good organization and you're replicating your skill set and you're a talented individual, skilled individual,

00:12:45.520 and you're replicating this across the standard, bro, you're the most valuable motherfucker they got because that's the rarest skill that you could have is the ability to replicate yourself into other people. 0.98

00:12:58.020 And that doesn't occur with either one of those scenarios of saying, okay, you can run free or, okay, I'm going to oversee every little fucking decision that you make. 0.99

00:13:09.560 Right. And then there's also times where it does require you to step in and make the decisions. 0.97

00:13:15.240 Like when they get so far off track that they can't see where we're going, that's okay. Now we've got to get back in.

00:13:21.480 Or like in the beginning of an organization, when you're developing the brand, you're developing the systems, you're developing all of the, you know, things that are going to actually build your business.

00:13:33.300 You don't delegate that out to your team. You put your hands on it and get the system set and people run inside the system.

00:13:39.560 So there's a lot of confusion around this. There's a lot of dumb shit that you read online about this. 0.99

00:13:46.620 You know, it's similar to that conversation where people say, it's not about working hard. It's about working smart. 1.00

00:13:52.540 Well, I've never met someone who works smart and not hard that is actually fucking successful. 0.97

00:13:57.740 Okay. Most of the people, when they hear work smart, not hard, they hear, okay, well, I don't have to work hard. 0.96

00:14:04.400 I could just think my way through it. And that's not reality. You need both.

00:14:07.400 Okay. So to anybody who's ever achieved anything, when you see these knuckleheads on the internet,

00:14:13.320 say things like that, like work hard or work smart, not hard. I mean, just frankly, they sound like

00:14:20.520 fucking idiots. Okay. Like, and it's weird to me how many people pay other people to give them advice 1.00

00:14:28.280 like this. And, uh, unfortunately for you guys, I've developed something where you're never going

00:14:33.040 to need any of them again. So that's real. Yeah. So the reality of this is, is that it's a balance.

00:14:39.280 It's a skillset that you must develop. You're not always going to make the right decision,

00:14:43.080 but just like everything else that we talk about on the show, when you make the wrong decision,

00:14:48.360 you just have to be smart enough to recognize and humble enough to recognize that you made the wrong

00:14:53.340 call there and to not make that call in the same position again and make the adjustment. So

00:14:58.680 leadership, I think a lot of people are really confused by it because they think,

00:15:03.040 you know, in culture, man, we've been brought up to believe that, you know, Oh my God,

00:15:09.460 you know, this guy's just such a good leader because he's charismatic. There's lots of great

00:15:14.540 leaders that can't stand on stage and give a talk or be charismatic. It's, it has nothing to do

00:15:21.000 with that. That's just an additional tool that if you have, it'll help you, but that doesn't make

00:15:26.280 you a leader. Like a charismatic individual is not by default a leader, but a leader with charisma is

00:15:33.580 much more effective. So there's all kinds of things like this and there's all kinds of paradoxes like

00:15:39.040 this that exist. And you, the only way you could know that is if you've been down the path, you know,

00:15:44.500 you're not going to know that if you've not built anything real, which is 99% of these, 1.00

00:15:50.420 these idiots on the internet. Right. And these young kids that don't know any better, they think, 1.00

00:15:55.080 Oh man, I want to be 23 and have that car and shit. And it's just, you know, they don't see that 0.99

00:16:00.780 two years down the road, that guy's going to be out of the game exposed as a fraud has never done

00:16:06.840 anything. And honestly, dude, it's a predatory problem that we have on the internet of bad information

00:16:12.320 being sold to people. That sounds good. That's not effective in reality. And the people selling

00:16:18.300 it don't even know it's not effective because they'd never been down the path. So, you know,

00:16:22.780 like I said, this thing that we built is going to fix all that. But, uh, but yeah, man, it's a,

00:16:27.640 it's a, it's an evolving skillset that you have to, you know, leadership is not something that you

00:16:33.440 ever get to. And you're like, yeah, man, I made it. I'm a great leader. That's not how it works,

00:16:39.080 dude. It's, you know, I've been leading people for 27 years. Okay. I still feel like a rookie.

00:16:46.300 I still analyze my leadership ability. I still work to get better every single day. It's something

00:16:51.660 that you, you learn over time that never ends. It never ends. You, you never get to a point where

00:16:58.280 you're like, Oh, I made it as a leader. I'm a great leader. That's the minute you start thinking

00:17:02.660 that is the minute that you, you fucking fall off the cliff because it's an ego problem. 0.99

00:17:07.560 I love it. I want to, I want to hit on this cause I think this is, this is big. And I know 0.99

00:17:10.800 our audience like got a lot of entrepreneurs, a lot of entrepreneurs, right? Hard working

00:17:15.920 killers, right? There's this age old, you know, quote, if you will, that I know everybody's heard

00:17:23.140 it. If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself. Yeah. What's the, what's the

00:17:28.620 truth and reality of that? I mean, we're talking that. Yeah. If you're, if you're dumb and broke,

00:17:32.620 yeah, that's, that's what people say. Do you ever hear a rich person say that? 0.99

00:17:38.900 Yeah. That's a, that's a dumb, low income, low IQ thing that people say when they're frustrated. 0.99

00:17:45.040 It's not reality. It's just something they say when they're pissed off. I mean, dude, in reality, 0.99

00:17:49.480 yes, there's times where you're going to have to do things yourself, especially in the beginning.

00:17:54.740 Yeah. However, if that's your MO for your whole life, you're never going to become an effective

00:17:59.820 builder of teams and culture and people, because you have already accepted the belief that no one

00:18:05.100 can be as good as you, which isn't real. Okay. You're not that good. You have people on your

00:18:10.340 team that could actually be way fucking better than you. And if you're smart, you load your team 0.99

00:18:15.220 with people who are smarter and more skilled and better than you in the position that they're in.

00:18:19.980 And then you rely on them. Okay. So this idea, you know, yeah, I understand the saying, and yes,

00:18:25.880 it's been beaten into people's heads, but it's not, it's not true. And it's based in this wrong think

00:18:33.760 and ego and hubris that I am so much better than everybody else that only I can solve the problem.

00:18:42.800 And if you have a leadership issue like that inside of your company, or even with yourself as the owner

00:18:48.260 of a company, that company is not going to do well because you can't do everything yourself.

00:18:53.960 It keeps you from becoming what you're trying to become. Nobody's built a crazy successful company

00:19:01.380 without the help of other people. And yes, we have AI now and you need less people than what you needed

00:19:06.360 before, but you still need to understand how to lead people properly and get them to be consistent

00:19:12.320 with, you know, uh, their actions towards the mission at hand. And that, you know, that's,

00:19:18.500 that's not something that you can just do on your own. Now, are there times where your team's going

00:19:24.860 to piss you the fuck off and you're going to say, get the fuck out of the way. Let me do it. 0.99

00:19:28.020 Yeah, of course. But if you're a great leader, you use that as a learning opportunity and you say,

00:19:33.820 Hey, come here. This is how the fuck we do it. This is why this, this, this, this, this, 0.99

00:19:37.920 this is why. Okay. So you don't just go in and do it and walk the fuck out and not use it as a

00:19:43.960 coaching opportunity. You come in, you show you, you do fix it, but you show them how you fixed it

00:19:49.840 so that next time, hopefully they will remember that and they will develop right. Yeah. Your whole

00:19:54.960 goal when you're running an organization of any size, right. And like I said, yeah, I understand,

00:20:01.220 you know, AI, we don't need as many people or you don't, you fuckers don't get it. You're still 1.00

00:20:06.100 going to need people. Okay. You're going to need smart people. You may not need as many people,

00:20:10.760 but you're still going to need to lead people, paint the vision, task out what needs to happen,

00:20:16.500 understand what we're doing, how we're doing it. And you need the whole team to understand it

00:20:20.540 collectively for it to work. And if you can't do that and you can't coach these people along the

00:20:25.740 way, you can't scale. You cannot fucking scale. Can't scale. Can't do it. Love it. So it's, 0.98

00:20:31.840 it's a, it's not a, it's not a skill of vanity. It's a skill of necessity. You have to have it.

00:20:39.400 Yeah. Okay. And if you, if you do everything for people, they'll never develop. If you let them do

00:20:44.780 everything, they're running off the fucking rails. So there is no like concrete answer. It's about 0.99

00:20:48.840 nuance. It's not this or that. It's both. It's this and that. Right. I love it, dude. I love it.

00:20:53.940 Uh, guys, Andy question number two, Andy. Hi. Hi, Andy. Hi, Andy. I'm 22 years old. Uh,

00:21:03.400 currently live in Orlando, Florida. I've been an entrepreneur since I was 20, working full time

00:21:07.760 in the fitness and wellness space over the last two years, I've been growing a really solid foundation

00:21:13.900 and slowly becoming a person of influence for my community and demographic. And honestly,

00:21:18.660 I've loved every second of serving others. I've had multiple people close to me, approach me with

00:21:24.780 concerns that I'm stretching myself too thin. Uh, the tone almost feels accusatory. Like I don't know

00:21:32.660 how to relax or like something is wrong with me because I'm driven. Meanwhile, I put my head down,

00:21:38.100 get the freaking work done, um, and maximize every waking moment with something that will produce 0.90

00:21:43.060 results. I'm fully aware that to be in the top 1%, you have to be willing to do what, 0.75

00:21:48.660 99% of people will not. And I'm actually in a season of growth, expansion, pushing myself and

00:21:54.020 getting uncomfortable on purpose. I don't plan on taking my foot off the gas anytime soon,

00:21:58.980 but when you're hearing from multiple people close to you that they're worried about you,

00:22:04.400 what do you do with that? How would you handle it when the people closest to you keep saying

00:22:08.380 they're concerned about your pace or how hard you push when you know you're doing exactly what you

00:22:13.380 need to be doing to build a life you want? It's very simple. Do you want their life?

00:22:19.460 Do you want what they have? Do you want to look like them? Do you want to earn that money?

00:22:24.040 Do you want to live like they live? If you do listen to them. If you don't, don't fucking listen to them.

00:22:32.140 Okay. You already said it in your question. 99.9% of people will not get it. And that goes for your 0.99

00:22:39.680 fucking family. And that goes for your friends. And that goes for all the people you grew up with. 1.00

00:22:43.860 They are on a different path than you, period. And for you to expect them who are committed to a

00:22:51.700 different path than you to understand your path is a ridiculous misunderstanding of how this actually

00:23:00.100 works. Okay. It's not even logical. Like how am I going to learn Chinese? And then all of my friends

00:23:08.500 know Chinese when I went and learned it. That's not how the fuck this works, bro. You're living a 1.00

00:23:13.840 different life. You're on a different path. You're going for different things than they have. And they

00:23:19.380 are not going to get it. They are not going to get it. They're not even going to get it when you make

00:23:24.280 it. They're just going to say, I'm so glad you made it. I always believed in you. They're not

00:23:28.800 going to remember the times that they said of all of these things. And this is important for you to

00:23:33.420 understand because our biggest doubters, our biggest detractors, our biggest people in our lives that

00:23:42.180 put the most hesitation into our hearts and minds are the people that we are closest to when we start on

00:23:49.260 a new path. Because all of a sudden you've said, I'm not going to live like this anymore. I'm now

00:23:55.580 going to do that. That confuses people. They start to say things like, well, what's wrong with how

00:24:01.860 we're living? And they don't like that. Okay. When they have to address themselves and ask themselves

00:24:08.440 why they're not doing things, they don't see themselves as the problem when they look around

00:24:12.060 at everybody else and everybody else is doing what they're doing. They see you as the problem.

00:24:16.240 They see you as the person who is delusional or who doesn't understand what they're trying to do or

00:24:22.160 has bitten off more than they can chew or is not humble anymore or not proud of where they came from

00:24:27.860 or greedy or materialistic. And as you go and as you become bigger, these little doubts and these

00:24:34.520 criticisms get more and more and more and more and more until eventually you get so fucking tired of 1.00

00:24:40.240 it that you move the fuck on from those people and you just say, fuck you. Okay. You could be my 1.00

00:24:45.460 friend. You could be my family, but I'm not listening to your shit anymore. I'm going to go associate 1.00

00:24:50.700 with people that are on the same path. And this is what we talk about going through the process of

00:24:56.140 no man's land. When you start out and you say, I'm going to become this, and this is abnormal to

00:25:02.340 everything else that everybody you've ever known, which by the way, most people have never, ever, ever

00:25:08.600 seen someone in real life go from zero to something. They've never seen it. So how can you

00:25:15.060 expect them to understand it? They're not gonna. Okay. So you're going to move away from this group

00:25:20.900 because you're so tired of them not believing in you and still in doubt in you, putting negativity

00:25:26.560 in your brain, telling you all the reasons why it can't. And you're going to get so fucking tired of 0.93

00:25:31.340 it that you stop returning their texts. You stop returning their calls. You stop talking to these 0.94

00:25:35.840 people and they're going to say things like, Oh, Andy thinks he's too good for us now. No,

00:25:40.420 I don't think I'm too good. You're not supporting me and what I'm trying to do in my life. I didn't

00:25:45.180 tell you that you couldn't come with me. Okay. And that is the big issue with our first friend and

00:25:51.800 family group. When we start out, if you're lucky and when I mean lucky, I mean real lucky, you'll have

00:25:57.920 someone in that group that says, no, you can do this because I've seen this happen. Okay. But more than

00:26:04.020 likely, you're not going to have that. Your parents are going to want the same for you

00:26:08.520 that they have for them because it's an ego thing. All right. Most parents look at their kids

00:26:16.080 and they say, you're going to be just like dad. Okay. Well, dad goes to work for 60 hours a week,

00:26:22.680 makes fucking 60 grand a year, works his fucking balls off. And you've witnessed this your whole life. 1.00

00:26:29.020 And so when you start to make other decisions, their ego comes into play a lot of times. And it

00:26:34.340 says, well, he, what's he doing? That's not the right decision. That's not that I did this. That's

00:26:40.800 the right decision because I did it. They, they don't have the ability to check themselves and say,

00:26:46.640 you know what? I'm glad he's doing that because I made the mistake early on. I bought into this and

00:26:51.360 this did not provide what I wanted. Go out there, son. Let's kick some ass. That's rare. Okay.

00:26:57.040 The norm is they're going to criticize you. They're going to say you're crazy. They're going 0.96

00:27:01.040 to say you're fucking full of shit. They're going to ask you, are you sure? Are you sure? You know 1.00

00:27:05.540 what? You're killing yourself for this. Yeah. Motherfucker. Cause that's what it takes. It takes 0.80

00:27:10.180 that for a long fucking time. I understand that you're not willing to do it, but if we're not 0.96

00:27:16.000 talking about you, we're talking about me. And so what happens is you start to distance yourself from

00:27:20.640 these people and you start to find people who are on the same path as you, who want the same things

00:27:27.900 you want. And you're going to start to naturally integrate with a new friend group. And the in

00:27:33.300 between part is the hard part. The in between part is the part where everybody feels alone and nobody

00:27:39.660 believes in them. And I'm so lonely and this and that. And that's a real thing. But the problem with

00:27:45.980 it is that most people, when they get in that zone of uncomfortable social interactions regarding

00:27:52.020 where they're trying to go versus everybody else, they will naturally just go back to where they

00:27:57.060 came from because it feels so uncomfortable and so odd and so foreign that they're like, I can't do 1.00

00:28:02.580 this. I got to go back. So they'll go back. The winners in life continue to push forward. They start

00:28:07.960 to integrate with a new group of friends. And these friends are on the same path. They have the same

00:28:14.080 goals. They have the same dreams. It might not be in the same industry or the same project, but

00:28:18.120 generally they're trying to be fucking better. Hard is hard. That's right. Then what happens is that 0.97

00:28:23.860 if you keep going, you will outgrow that group. OK, so if you think about it, let's just talk about it

00:28:30.680 in dollars. When you start out at zero and you're trying to make five million dollars. OK, you're going

00:28:36.100 to lose the first fucking friend group. You're going to get in that first the new friend group. That is 0.99

00:28:41.180 that, you know, they're all trying to get five million dollars. OK, and then you all get

00:28:44.980 there. And then let's say you say, well, fuck, now I want 50. Most of those guys aren't going 1.00

00:28:51.280 to go to 50. They're not going to try. So when you start trying to go to 50, they start talking

00:28:55.940 like the original group did. They start saying the same shit that the people said back in the 0.99

00:29:01.280 day. They say, are you sure? You know, I don't know. Do you think you can really do that? 1.00

00:29:07.620 It might not be as harsh, right? Because you've already proven yourself a little bit.

00:29:11.940 But then you go out back in no man's land. OK, and then you get up to 50 and you find

00:29:17.280 a whole new group and the process keeps repeating itself over and over and over again throughout

00:29:22.700 your life. The friends you have today as an ambitious young man will not be the circle

00:29:28.620 of. They might still be your friends. You might still drink a beer with them. They might

00:29:32.540 still come over for your parties, but they're not going to be the people that you confide in 0.95

00:29:36.620 or talk to or have deep relationships with because they do not fucking understand what you're 0.95

00:29:40.120 trying to do. When you move into that second group and then that third group, eventually 0.98

00:29:46.820 you get to a point where your reputation for what it's already understood. This motherfucker 1.00

00:29:54.620 is going to do what he says he's going to do. And by the way, I want a piece of it. Can 1.00

00:29:59.660 I buy into this? Can I do this? Can I be a part of that? And that's where after the time

00:30:04.920 is proven, this may take, you know, 10 years. It might take 15. It might take 20. I don't

00:30:09.980 know. It's different for everybody. But I can promise you this. When Mark Zuckerberg was

00:30:15.180 25 years old and worth fucking $50 billion, his friends and family weren't saying, are 0.97

00:30:20.640 you sure? They were saying, Hey, can I give you 2000 bucks, bro? And buy into your shit. 0.99

00:30:27.940 And so what happens is, is your reputation starts to speak for itself. And then you don't 1.00

00:30:32.500 get that shit anymore. You get the opposite. You get the fuck. Anything Andy touches is fucking 1.00

00:30:36.940 going, bro. I want to be a part of it. Okay. And things get a lot easier, but this is very 0.99

00:30:43.320 uncomfortable because it's misunderstood because it goes against what we want to believe, right?

00:30:50.100 We want to believe that our friends from high school and our friends from college and our 0.97

00:30:54.540 family and our cousins and everybody is just going to be like, yeah, you're fucking doing 0.99

00:31:01.060 it. The first time you go out and try to do something, bro. No. And by the way, have you 0.99

00:31:06.660 given them anything to believe in? Have you ever done anything? Have you ever got your ass in 0.90

00:31:12.640 shape? Like, think about this. How many motherfuckers out there are fat as fuck? Okay. But they've 1.00

00:31:20.060 told themselves and their friends and family 4,000 times they're going to get in shape.

00:31:23.980 It's going to be this year, but they never do it. Okay. So now every time they say it,

00:31:28.560 people kind of like, cool, man. Like, you know, they stopped believing because you fucking 1.00

00:31:35.540 eroded the trust that you would have. That's neutral. Okay. You've now built negative trust. 0.98

00:31:40.860 And when you become proven for a long period of time in business or in life, that trust

00:31:46.600 automatically, it doesn't go to neutral. It goes to max trust where people like, Hey dude,

00:31:51.360 this motherfucker is going to do what he says he's going to do. And that is the power of becoming a 0.99

00:31:56.440 highly disciplined human being that can adhere to any path that they choose to go on. The problem

00:32:03.940 with people is not that they don't necessarily know what to do in business. Yes. You need to know

00:32:10.780 a lot of shit, but just in like, let's say get in shape or other goals. It's not really that they 0.99

00:32:15.340 don't know what to do because the information is out there. We have free information fucking 0.93

00:32:19.820 everywhere. It's that they don't have the ability to adhere to the plan in front of them. And if you 0.94

00:32:26.520 asked yourself a very real question of what would your life look like right now today, if every single

00:32:38.460 goal that you ever set for yourself for the last 10 years or the last five years, you had followed

00:32:45.780 through on. If everybody's being honest, the answer is my life would look a lot different. I'd be in

00:32:51.840 better shape. I'd be making way more money. I'd have a better relationships. I, I, everything would

00:32:57.280 be better. I'd be walking around like that version of myself that I see inside that I know I'm supposed

00:33:03.140 to become, but I'm too afraid to become it because of this or that or this, or I'm too embarrassed to

00:33:07.940 go. You would be that if you had the ability to adhere to a plan, the ability and the discipline and

00:33:13.780 the toughness to stick a plan through is where the fucking rub is for most people. They do not 0.97

00:33:19.820 have the ability to execute the plan. Okay. And by the way, I built something that's going to make

00:33:26.880 it dummy proof. So there's that. But the point is, is that when you develop that ability and you start

00:33:35.320 doing everything that you said you're going to do, you're going to deal, you're not going to deal

00:33:38.780 with any of this disbelief anymore. People aren't going to fucking doubt you there. They might, they 0.97

00:33:43.460 might hope you don't win because they don't like you. And now you're dealing with a different type of

00:33:46.440 thing. Yeah, that's right. That's different. And, and by the way, you know, there's nothing

00:33:50.960 that strikes fear in the heart of your competition as someone that fucking, they know for sure that 0.97

00:33:58.720 if they set their mind to something and they're going to say, they're going to do it, they're 1.00

00:34:01.360 going to fucking do it. Like it scares the fuck out of people. It just does. What can you do? 0.99

00:34:06.720 You can't do nothing. You can't do nothing because I'll run you the fuck over and they stay the 0.98

00:34:11.780 fuck out of the way, but you got to earn that. And that takes time. And that takes you looking 0.98

00:34:17.920 at your family in the fucking face right now. And if they persist and persist and persist, 1.00

00:34:23.300 sometimes you got to look at them, your friends and family back, bro, I don't want what the 1.00

00:34:27.460 fuck you want. Okay. So like, do you get it? I'm not trying to be fucking broke. I'm not trying 1.00

00:34:33.320 to be maxed out on my credit cards. I'm not trying to drive a fucking Denali and pay $2,000 a month 0.99

00:34:39.360 for it. And I have any money going to my fucking bank account. Okay. I'm not trying to be fucking 0.99

00:34:44.100 look rich. I'm trying to be fucking rich so I can handle my motherfucking business. So 1.00

00:34:49.540 the next time you fucking say something to me like that, realize I don't want anything 1.00

00:34:53.200 that you have. That'll shut them the fuck up. Let's stop talking. Yeah. But I mean, you 1.00

00:34:59.520 know, you, you, you do have to do that sometimes, you know, or you just remove them. Yeah.

00:35:04.420 Yeah. I do that. So it's profound and like, it is abnormal. It's abnormal, but like the,

00:35:10.400 the part where, listen, dude, winning is abnormal. Winning is not a 50, 50 endeavor. Yeah. Okay.

00:35:15.580 It's not like football. This is the one thing where, where people have a hard time under football

00:35:23.380 is a great metaphor for life and business because it requires the team effort. Everybody's got

00:35:26.900 to execute a lot of translations. Yeah. Right. But one of them that doesn't is the win or

00:35:31.460 the loss. Okay. Winning comes in steps. Losing comes in little steps back the other way.

00:35:37.860 Okay. And you're constantly fighting that battle. It's never like, oh, I just won. That's why

00:35:43.140 that question that every stupid motherfucker asked on a podcast, let me ask you something, 1.00

00:35:48.820 Andy. When did you know that you made it? The fuck are you talking about? If I knew I made 1.00

00:35:55.040 it, you think I'd be in here fucking eight days a week? That's right. 0.99

00:35:57.660 You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't, you never make it. You never make it because it only

00:36:03.160 takes two or three bad decisions to fucking be back where you were at any scale. And the truth 0.94

00:36:08.220 of the matter, when it comes to entrepreneurship is this, most of your life is going to be spent

00:36:13.140 on the line. Meaning you are literally on the line of making decisions that could ruin you on a daily

00:36:21.460 fucking basis or build you on a daily basis. You never get to this point where you have so much 0.88

00:36:27.500 money and so much capital and so much momentum that you couldn't fuck it up with two or three

00:36:32.160 decisions. And if you recognize that as not, that's true for Jeff Bezos. Okay. Jeff Bezos could

00:36:37.740 fucking smoke some crack and come up with some crazy ideas. He could do all the drugs and shit. And 1.00

00:36:43.140 he'd be like, Oh, we're going to do. And he could ruin the company in theory. Okay. The bigger you

00:36:49.580 get. Yes. Sometimes it's the harder it is to bust apart, but running a big company and having a lot

00:36:54.440 of money is just a different version of running a small one with no money. It's just the stakes are

00:37:00.680 higher. So like the minute you start thinking, Oh, I fucking made it. That's the minute that you get 0.99

00:37:05.840 crushed. That's the minute when you fall off. That's the story of the rich guy who had it and lost it.

00:37:12.160 That's where that story starts. It starts the minute you tell yourself, I fucking made it period. 0.99

00:37:18.300 Okay. So all of you guys out there running business podcasts and putting out personal 0.98

00:37:23.080 development content, when you have a high level entrepreneur sitting in front of you and you ask

00:37:28.100 them, how did you know when you made it? You sound like a fucking idiot. Just so you know, 1.00

00:37:33.520 because they don't look at it like that. I don't, I look at my days on a 24 hour fucking basis. 0.99

00:37:39.040 Did I win this motherfucking day period? Because that's the only thing I can control 0.99

00:37:43.800 tomorrow. I'm going to try to win that day too. And that's how you look at it. You never look at

00:37:49.600 it as this macro scale of, yeah, I fucking made it. Now are there moments where you look around and 0.94

00:37:54.580 you're like, this is pretty cool. Yeah. But like, those are fleeting moments, dude. It's like what we

00:38:02.040 talk about, you know, you're only going to feel like you win one or 2% of the time. The rest of the time,

00:38:07.700 it's like getting your balls kicked in just like everybody else. And it doesn't change with how 0.99

00:38:11.700 much money you have. It just does. Especially if you built it yourself, it just doesn't change,

00:38:16.380 bro. You know, I get that state that same shit that that kid is writing in about. I get the same 0.99

00:38:21.720 shit told to me, but from the other place, you already made it. Why the fuck do you do all this? 1.00

00:38:27.300 Why are you trying to do these things? Why are you building new things? You don't have to do that. 0.99

00:38:31.160 Well, dude, no shit, but I'm a fucking builder. I'm a creator. I'm a, somebody who takes ideas 0.99

00:38:36.460 out of the motherfucking air and makes them real. And guess what? I like that. That's how I'm wired. 0.98

00:38:42.040 I love that shit. Just because you see it as work. I don't see it as work. I see it as a game. 1.00

00:38:46.960 I'm playing a game that I'm going to fucking win. Okay. And you know, we'll have people say, 0.99

00:38:52.740 well, that's not the only game. Yeah. That's not the only game. It's not, it's definitely not the game

00:38:56.380 for you because you're fucking losing. That's right. Okay. Like I like this game. Yeah. That's 0.99

00:39:00.200 my game. And I like to play it and I want to win at it. So I fucking put my time into it. Just like

00:39:04.280 I would, if I wanted to be the world champion Call of Duty player, I play the game fucking 12 hours a 0.99

00:39:08.020 day. Okay. But that's not what I'm trying to do. And so we have this thing in society where people who 0.99

00:39:15.060 do not fucking understand anything about the ambitious drive and mindset, because it's so rare 1.00

00:39:22.820 are constantly feeding those people bullshit. And the internet makes it worse because you have 1.00

00:39:29.080 all these people pretending to be shit. They aren't regurgitating shit that they think sounds 1.00

00:39:34.320 cool. And then you're taking it as, Oh man, these guys really know what they're talking about. And 0.99

00:39:39.400 they're feeding you bad shit. This is why you have to fucking vet who you're listening to. If they have 1.00

00:39:45.060 not built a real fucking business, you cannot listen to them. They will fucking ruin you. Okay. So 1.00

00:39:51.360 yeah, the point of the matter is this, that never changes. Okay. And if you can't deal with people

00:39:56.720 negative and, and, and putting down in your head and I understand, I don't mean this to be rude

00:40:00.920 because I understand you're young. It's your first time dealing with this, but for everybody else,

00:40:04.780 if you can't get over this, you can't win. It's fucking impossible. Like you have to be able to put 0.98

00:40:09.740 your blinders on, plug your motherfucking ears and move down the path, regardless of what anybody's 0.99

00:40:14.020 saying. Do you know how many motherfuckers told me I couldn't do what we've done with first form 1.00

00:40:18.080 when we started it? Fucking all of them, all of them. Oh, you mean you think you're going to, 1.00

00:40:23.440 you're going to start a company here in St. Louis? It's going to become the world's best sports

00:40:28.780 nutrition company. Yeah. Can't do that. And that was 10 years in the business. Yeah. That was after

00:40:34.460 I had 10 years of proof in retail. Yeah. Okay. And the bigger and the crazier and the more insane idea

00:40:42.020 that you have, the less people are going to believe it, man. And you've just got to fucking do it. And 1.00

00:40:48.300 if you don't develop that ability to plug your ears and put the fucking blinders on or address it 0.99

00:40:53.440 verbally, which very few people have, especially when they're young, you can't win. Now, when you're 0.99

00:40:59.280 older, you know, if someone were to say, Oh, no, no, no. I'm like, yeah, man. Uh, I'm pretty sure I

00:41:06.320 don't know how to win. Let's, let's look around here. Okay. Motherfucker. Like I know what I'm

00:41:11.860 not taking your advice. Sorry. You know what I'm saying? And like, dude, you like now I have a

00:41:16.580 little smart ass fucking comment to it. Right. You know? Oh, I don't know about that. Yeah. That's 1.00

00:41:20.900 what everybody else thought to you. You know? And then you get in your fucking car that costs

00:41:26.020 $5 million. You drive the fuck away. That's right. You don't say it. That's right. That's right. 1.00

00:41:29.800 Yeah. That's right, dude. I love it. It doesn't matter what people say, bro. Like you're,

00:41:33.440 you got to understand being an ambitious driven human being is one of the rarest fucking things 0.99

00:41:40.740 on the planet. And if you can't understand that and you expect everybody else to be like 0.95

00:41:48.020 that, you're going to go crazy. They're not there. Dude, you're one of a thousand. You're

00:41:55.140 not one of a hundred. You're one of a thousand. Okay. So if you speak to fucking 999 people,

00:42:01.000 they're not going to fucking get it. So the expectation that you think you're going to 0.99

00:42:05.680 communicate it and they're going to get it. And then all of a sudden start cheering, dude,

00:42:09.840 it's an unrealistic expectation. And by even having it, it causes us pain, right? We have

00:42:16.180 an expectation that everybody should cheer and everybody should clap and everything should

00:42:20.820 be great and everybody should believe in us. And it's such a false expectation that it causes

00:42:26.180 us massive amounts of pain on the inside because we're expecting it. We're not thinking of it

00:42:31.480 logically. We're thinking about it emotionally. Logically, it makes sense. You haven't done

00:42:37.380 anything. So yeah, they don't believe in you. Emotionally, you say, but yeah, I'm me and you

00:42:43.400 should believe in me because I'm me. Unfortunately, that's how the fuck it works. Okay. So if you need 0.99

00:42:50.060 the claps beforehand, like, yeah, dude, that's the other thing. And there's a whole, that could

00:42:54.740 be a whole fucking podcast, bro. You know, the, you know, the old saying in sports, like 0.99

00:43:02.240 don't read your own press clippings. You know, when you have bad game, don't read them, but

00:43:08.240 also when you have a good game, don't read the paper. Okay. That is a huge part of staying

00:43:14.420 centered. You cannot buy into your own hype and you can't buy into your own lack of hype.

00:43:20.060 You have to understand who the fuck you are, what it is you're doing, who you're working 0.99

00:43:25.600 to become, what you're trying to build. And you have to understand that most people are 1.00

00:43:30.300 not going to get it. And just because you've won, doesn't make you great. Just because you've

00:43:35.400 lost, doesn't make you shit. It's, it's a very, you have to center yourself. And this 0.98

00:43:40.080 is where, this is where the idea of humility really comes into play, right? A lot of people

00:43:45.220 look at someone like me, who's outspoken and pretty flashy with their cars and shit. 1.00

00:43:50.820 They, Oh, that guy thinks he's fucking the shit. No, I actually don't. I think I'm just 1.00

00:43:56.480 a guy that pays attention to feedback really fucking well. And I understand that when I 0.92

00:44:01.260 hit a fucking grand slam that I could have very easily struck out. And I understand that 0.99

00:44:05.860 when I struck out, I was only an inch away from hitting a fucking grand slam. Okay. And 0.99

00:44:10.320 that is a mentality that you have to cultivate as an entrepreneur or as an ambitious person,

00:44:15.040 because when you're winning and the world tells you you're great, if you buy into that,

00:44:18.660 you'll get lazy. If you're losing and the world tells you your shit, you start to believe 0.99

00:44:22.820 it, you quit. So you got to understand who the fuck you are. And you've got to be able 1.00

00:44:26.500 to balance that out inside your own two years. And this is the power of having a, a mentor that

00:44:33.220 has been down the path. I'm not talking about Johnny Schmo from the fucking internet. I'm talking 0.99

00:44:37.080 about dude who's built real shit. Yeah. Okay. Or a woman who's built real shit. So 1.00

00:44:41.200 anyway, yeah, I love it, dude. The point, I feel like this, I feel like if you pay some

00:44:46.160 somebody money, like everybody talks about getting scammed. I got scammed. I got scammed. No,

00:44:55.420 you're a fucking idiot. Okay. Like you're the one that pulled out your motherfucking credit 1.00

00:45:01.700 card and paid the motherfucker thinking that they somehow knew some shit when it's very 1.00

00:45:08.120 obvious that they haven't built anything real. They haven't done anything real. They 1.00

00:45:11.900 don't have any real life experience and you bought into it because you wanted to be rich

00:45:16.940 quick and you should take that as a very valuable lesson to you. So I love it. We got one more

00:45:24.440 question. Um, it's actually kind of long winded on that one. No, we're good. The transition

00:45:28.860 perfectly. I think it's, it's actually a great, uh, great little, little final question for

00:45:32.380 you guys. Any question number three, Andy, how do you balance, uh, feeling gratitude with

00:45:40.380 how far you've come in business, uh, with motivation to keep going and growing? I don't

00:45:46.660 want to be complacent with where I am at, but also don't want to be frustrated that I'm

00:45:50.580 not where I want to be yet. Yeah. Any advice? Yeah. Um, before I answer that, you got to

00:46:00.180 understand, dude, the ideas of meekness and humility and modesty are weaponized against

00:46:08.580 the general public to make people feel bad for wanting more. The hope is, is that if you

00:46:15.440 beat this shit into people's brains, they will not try, they'll accept what they get 1.00

00:46:21.260 usually from the state. Okay. And they will say, well, I don't have much, but it's 1.00

00:46:26.620 amazing. And that is the goal. All right. So you have to understand you are

00:46:32.500 propagated to think small, be small and act small for the sake of control. That is

00:46:39.080 true. All right. Now move that conversation to the side. It's very, very important to

00:46:47.860 your happiness that you do have gratitude for where you're at, at the time. If you do

00:46:53.600 not have gratitude for where you're at, at the time, even if you're at day one or day

00:46:58.540 1000 or day 10,000, it's going to be miserable. Okay. Because you're always going to be looking

00:47:04.940 for more. You're always going to be wishing things were different. You're going to be wasting

00:47:08.580 your life, dreaming of a version of a life that you're not living, which doesn't allow

00:47:13.600 you to be present and enjoy the life that you're in. So gratitude is massively important.

00:47:20.400 Humility is massively important, but not the way society says so. Okay.

00:47:28.320 If you do gratitude, right, you should feel like this in the morning. Fuck dude. I must've won 1.00

00:47:36.160 the lottery, dude. Like I can't believe I get to be me. I can't believe that I get to

00:47:40.240 wake up and be me. Okay. That's how you should feel when you're doing gratitude. Right. I

00:47:44.980 always felt grateful. Even when I was fucking totally broke, I was always thanking God for 0.95

00:47:51.280 everything I had, even when I didn't have the things that I might've wanted. All right. 0.93

00:47:57.500 And that hasn't changed. And I think that's a huge aspect to people's quality of life

00:48:03.780 and their ability to succeed. Because if you're constantly agitating, constantly unhappy and

00:48:11.200 constantly thinking about what you don't have, that's energy that you're putting out that screams,

00:48:16.520 I don't have it. I want it, but I don't have it. And that sounds like a good thing, but it actually

00:48:23.240 makes you miserable over time. So being grateful and then being disciplined on top of it. Okay. And

00:48:31.940 then having a purpose, those are three magical ingredients that create not only a successful

00:48:37.460 journey, but also a happy time along the way. All right. People think happiness is, is a, is like

00:48:45.340 legitimately like a destination that they're going to one day get to and stay at that. That's not how the

00:48:52.260 fuck it works. You have to create it through your own mental practices. You have to create it through 0.99

00:48:57.700 your own actions. Okay. When you're disciplined and you're doing everything that you say you were

00:49:01.820 going to do, you feel good about yourself. You say, I'm somebody who can do the things I'm committed to

00:49:06.460 what I'm doing. I do what I say I'm going to do. That gives you self-esteem. It gives you confidence.

00:49:10.560 It gives you self-belief. It gives you all the things that make you feel good when you're,

00:49:15.560 when you're grateful. Okay. You cannot be grateful and be filled with that lack energy at the same

00:49:22.100 time. It's impossible. Okay. And then when you commit yourself something bigger than you,

00:49:27.140 a purpose, you have the three ingredients to actually create happiness along the way.

00:49:32.160 Now, where this really screws people is when society tells people, just be grateful for what

00:49:41.220 you have. And most people hear that and they're like, yeah, you know, you're right. I don't have

00:49:45.820 much, but I, you know, I got a pretty good and that's okay. That's okay. But if you're an ambitious

00:49:51.260 human, okay, and you're somebody who does want more and you're being forced to just be grateful 1.00

00:49:57.860 and be humble and be modest and be me, you're gonna be fucking miserable, bro. Yeah. So we've 1.00

00:50:03.820 got to understand there is a reality to these concepts and then there is a social engineering

00:50:08.700 for sake of control around these concepts. Real humility is absolutely necessary for the reasons

00:50:17.340 that I talked about in the last question. If you are not humble enough to understand when you're

00:50:24.060 doing things wrong or that you could get better or that you, you don't know this or that you can't

00:50:29.580 get to a higher level, which is ironic because a lot of people will look at people who are very 0.52

00:50:34.420 successful and be like, oh, that guy's not fucking humble, blah, blah, blah. No, dude, you don't 0.62

00:50:38.320 understand. He couldn't have got where he was without having that humility. How the fuck would

00:50:43.040 somebody go from zero to a billion dollars or more if they didn't have the capacity to 0.99

00:50:49.420 understand that they didn't know what they don't know, that they aren't as good as what

00:50:53.160 they think they are. Aware of their mistakes. Just because you see them living in a nice

00:50:56.880 house and driving a nice car doesn't mean they're not humble, bro. The true definition of humility

00:51:01.800 is understanding that you are no better than anybody else and you are a result of the actions

00:51:07.780 that you take. And if that motherfucker over there on the corner had taken the same actions 1.00

00:51:11.860 that I took, he'd be right where the fuck I was. I'm not better than him. I took a different 1.00

00:51:15.660 path than him. Okay. The toxic definition of humility is saying like, well, I'm actually

00:51:24.760 less than what I am. You know, you tear your own self down. You put doubts in your own head.

00:51:30.120 Say, you know what? I'm really not one of these successful guys. I just come from over here.

00:51:34.200 You know what? You're right. I just need to stay in my lane. You know, there's, there's

00:51:40.620 sound, that sounds miserable, man. That sounds miserable. Bro, think if you're beat to death

00:51:45.000 with this shit and you're actually an ambitious person that knows in their heart, you want 1.00

00:51:50.200 more, that they not only want more, but they're destined to be more. They know they were put 1.00

00:51:54.980 here to make something different about the world. And they never become that because they're

00:52:00.360 afraid to, because their family and their friends and society has told them, oh, you know,

00:52:05.180 that's wrong. You're, you're materialistic. You're not humble. You're not modest. You're

00:52:09.320 losing, you're losing grip on it. You've lost the plot. You've, you know, all these things

00:52:13.780 and then it traps you and then you never become what you're supposed to become. And by the way,

00:52:20.400 how many people would benefit from you becoming who you become? It's literally a total fucking 0.99

00:52:27.280 failure of your life to believe the shit that everybody else is living by and not understand 1.00

00:52:32.920 that you are here for a specific reason to do a specific job, to create a specific thing 0.99

00:52:39.100 inside yourself or outside that benefits the rest of humankind. You have a gift inside of you and so

00:52:46.880 many gifts, so many cures, so many life-changing products, so many life-changing messages, so many

00:52:54.960 stories of overcoming never fucking happen because people's friends and family from the old days 0.92

00:53:01.660 have beat this idea of modesty, humility, be nothing, do nothing, accept your gruel and shut 0.99

00:53:07.440 the fuck up. Okay. And that hurts society. And by the time you're, you don't even have to be on 1.00

00:53:13.220 your deathbed. Okay. We talk about this regret thing, you know, oh, when you're on your, no dude,

00:53:17.840 you're going to get to a point where you're probably in your fifties or sixties and you're 0.99

00:53:22.080 going to say, fuck, I failed at what I was supposed to do. I never did it. And now there's not 0.99

00:53:28.620 enough time to do it. You still got to live with that. And now you got to live with that regret for

00:53:32.520 the second half of your motherfucking life, dude. So you have to understand, dude, all of these 0.99

00:53:39.600 things that the, the, the, the, the cultural, everything that comes from cultural, the cultural

00:53:47.240 norms, it used to be in America. And I know we have international listeners, but I'm just going to

00:53:53.020 talk about the United States right now. It used to be when you grew up, you were encouraged to

00:53:59.260 become anything you wanted. You were told you could be anything you wanted. You were encouraged

00:54:03.600 to, to, to do great things. Successful people were celebrated. They were seen as the example

00:54:09.000 of the American dream. That is no longer the case. Okay. Now we have a society that glorifies

00:54:14.480 victimhood, that glorifies dependency that says, if you go out and try to make something of yourself,

00:54:19.320 there's something wrong with you. You're greedy. You're materialistic. You've lost, uh, you know,

00:54:24.160 you've lost the ability to connect with people from, you know, you've changed so to speak. These

00:54:30.200 are the things that literally ruin human, human, uh, kind because it keeps all like really think about

00:54:39.200 this, dude. Think about how many fucking ideas, cures, products, movements, messages, stories of 0.95

00:54:47.380 overcoming that never exist because people have been indoctrinated to play small. 1.00

00:54:52.540 Dude, it's like you're failing your fucking purpose. That's the point. Okay. So you can't 0.99

00:55:00.320 listen to that shit. You got to understand that there is an application for those words 1.00

00:55:04.700 and it's not the one that everybody fucking tells you. You know what I'm saying? It's not, 0.97

00:55:10.000 it's not what everybody tells you. So practice that gratitude or keep fucking moving. 0.99

00:55:13.740 Yeah. Cause you're not where you want to be at yet. Yeah. That's not you. And it's very, 0.98

00:55:17.640 it's very easy to say, I am very grateful to be where I'm at and have the opportunity

00:55:23.420 to do what I'm trying to do. Even if you don't have it. Yeah. Right. Like that's a great way to

00:55:29.660 be grateful and still acknowledge that you don't have what it is that you want. Right. I have the

00:55:35.240 opportunity to do it. Thank you for the opportunity for allowing me to try and do this. That's a good

00:55:41.620 place to start. Yeah. You know? Yeah. That's real, bro. Dude. Yeah. Guys, Andy, I mean,

00:55:48.940 that was three. Yep. All right, guys, we will see you tonight. 7 p.m. CTI live. Don't be a hoe. 1.00

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 01, 2025

971. Q&AF： Leading Vs. Delegating, Dealing With Judgement & Balancing Gratitude And Growth

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