REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 977. Q&AF： Handling Doubt After Failure, Fighting Complacency & Accepting Praise

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the 0.99

00:00:21.160 fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today we 0.90

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00:01:29.160 75 hard verses that's where people have completed the 75 hard program come on the show they talk about

00:01:34.260 how they were before how they are after and how they use the 75 hard program to become who it is

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00:01:44.560 the live hard program which is the world's most famous mental toughness program ever and it's free

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00:01:59.240 uh there's also a book the book on mental toughness it's available at andy for seller.com

00:02:05.040 uh it's not required everything's for free on episode 208 but there is a whole bunch of extra

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00:02:16.080 that at andy for seller.com um and then one last thing okay the operator standard all right the new

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00:03:00.120 it is fucking awesome and uh you guys are going to want to get in and i would highly recommend if

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00:03:11.260 that is unrolling and being worked out and we are going to keep the group closed uh for quite a

00:03:17.500 while to get that going so if that's something that you've been waiting on uh don't wait past

00:03:21.960 midnight because you won't get in um so yeah what's up what's going on dude nothing dude yeah man it's

00:03:29.540 q and af you know i was sitting there thinking i would like to ask you a question yeah maybe give

00:03:35.460 people a little extra sauce okay all right this is just like i was just literally just thinking this

00:03:39.760 i'm like so this is not one of the good ones this is not one i mean i hope it's going but it's not

00:03:44.040 one of the three good ones that i do have for you what what do you think what would you say is like

00:03:49.000 most people misunderstand about you like me yeah uh i mean like what gets misunderstood the most

00:03:57.420 you know i i think that most people uh hear me talk and they say wow that guy must be mad all the

00:04:04.100 time and uh no i'm just passionate you know i'm a passionate dude i care about people winning i care

00:04:10.420 about winning i care about what's going on in the world and i speak with passion and i think some

00:04:15.540 people interpret that as uh being angry yeah i'm not an angry person yeah i'm an intense person

00:04:21.960 but my intensity is applied with the intent of either executing the plan getting the job done

00:04:29.120 uh and it really you know helping other people win so yeah i think that's probably it you know i

00:04:35.240 think you know the question that i think every all my friends tell me they get is is he really like

00:04:39.960 that in real life yeah and um the answer is yes and no yeah you know like i don't walk around 0.65

00:04:45.860 screaming at people and shit yeah uh you know most of the time you know i'm pretty late low-key you 0.87

00:04:52.660 know what you see on cti when we're sitting around joking around and shit that's pretty much my default 0.99

00:04:57.300 and uh you know but when it comes to winning and it comes to building and it comes to personal 0.66

00:05:01.680 development or it comes to defeating uh the tyrants i care about those things and it comes out and

00:05:08.160 those things get clipped and they go viral and you know that's a i think that's a that's how most

00:05:14.900 people see it yeah i think so you know when i meet people um one of the things that i constantly 0.74

00:05:19.500 get from people is well man you're you're fucking so much nicer than i thought and it's like dude i'm 0.97

00:05:25.860 not like you know i might be crazy but uh i'm not a mean person yeah you know um and i think that's 0.93

00:05:33.240 probably the biggest misunderstanding i would agree with that yeah i would agree with it i think i think

00:05:37.860 after like being with you as long as i have that's probably one of the the biggest things that i would 0.99

00:05:42.640 say most people are like you care a lot bro yeah like you have yeah you you really give a fuck yeah 0.99

00:05:48.540 it's a blessing and a curse bro i was just thinking about this because i was in the gym a little bit 0.98

00:05:53.400 earlier and it's like i was starting to feel anxious and i kind of caught myself and i'm like 0.54

00:05:57.700 what are you anxious about dude you're everything you're doing is the right shit you're you're doing 0.77

00:06:03.160 everything you're supposed to do and a lot more but i have this thing about me dude where i carry the 0.98

00:06:08.540 weight of the biggest problems on my fucking back and like it sounds stupid because i know a lot of 0.97

00:06:17.360 people you know they they don't do that and i know it's illogical when i think about it it's like 0.99

00:06:24.100 dude i can't fucking change everybody i can't change the whole world but fuck it pisses me off that i 1.00

00:06:29.900 can't you know what i mean so i just keep i'm like one of those people dude like when i when i 0.98

00:06:34.620 when i see something and i think it needs to be addressed i will continue to address it until i'm

00:06:42.360 satisfied that it has been solved and uh you know so i get frustrated a lot of times with

00:06:47.860 these big problems going on in the world i get frustrated with individuals a lot of times

00:06:52.520 uh even the people that you know call into the show or listen to the show because i'm like dude 0.83

00:06:57.320 you fucking have what it takes man like you know this this mystery of success that everybody seems to 0.90

00:07:07.280 attach to like it's up to chance or circumstance or you know who your parents were or any of these 1.00

00:07:14.900 other things that's all bullshit and you know because of the perspective that i have of starting 0.77

00:07:22.760 where i started you know the first three years i didn't make any money like none um the second seven 0.93

00:07:30.280 years you know i made a total of 58,380 total not a year total you know and i think about like all the

00:07:41.780 things that i've been through and push through and ground you know uh my ass off to create i i know for a 0.77

00:07:53.200 i don't think i know for a fact and then also knowing where like what my natural intelligence

00:08:00.640 is and what my natural like i didn't really are yeah who you really are yeah like i'm not that 0.80

00:08:06.220 fucking smart bro and i wasn't like i might be now because i got 27 years under my belt but bro i was 0.98

00:08:13.360 i was always made fun of for being stupid and i didn't get good grades and i was kind of a fuck up and 0.99

00:08:19.420 you know people think that you have to have some sort of special gift or be blessed in a certain way 0.99

00:08:28.900 to build things when in reality it's just math bro it's inputs and outputs and if you execute

00:08:35.700 on the critical tasks that move you forward i'm not talking about ancillary task your to-do list 0.97

00:08:42.200 you know get the laundry clean the house i'm not talking about that shit i'm talking about the real 0.97

00:08:47.900 shit and if you just do that five of those a day over the course of time you start to become and you 0.99

00:08:55.400 know your life starts to become what you want it to become and you know i think um 0.99

00:09:00.940 i i think a lot of times it's frustrating because i know i know that and other people don't

00:09:10.060 about themselves you know what i mean and it's just like guys all these people that you look up to

00:09:16.680 all these people that have created these great things all these people who have done all these

00:09:23.360 are all just normal people bro they are not any fucking different than anybody else and i am 100 0.88

00:09:30.340 certain that no matter what size the goal if you're committed to it long enough you could get there but

00:09:37.220 you know people people tell themselves stories about why they can't and where they you know come from and

00:09:45.280 all these hardships and these victim stories and all this shit but what they fail to realize is that 0.97

00:09:51.680 every person that has achieved anything has gone through all that same shit and maybe a different 0.98

00:09:55.700 way right maybe maybe it wasn't exactly the same way that this person went through it but everybody 0.99

00:10:02.140 that gets there went through some shit and a lot of it and in fact the more shit that they went through 0.94

00:10:08.500 the more equipped they are for the fight so like this whole idea that people are born on third base 0.99

00:10:15.460 and you know all this shit yeah there might be some people like that but the vast majority of great

00:10:21.660 operators and successful people actually came from the hardest circumstances because they had to learn 0.99

00:10:28.140 how to fucking overcome at a young age and uh you know i recognize all that because i have 0.90

00:10:34.320 you know metaphorically climbed the mountain that i think most people would like to climb 0.98

00:10:39.680 i'm at the beginning of my mountain but i realize that like i'm further up than most people so like

00:10:46.280 the perspective's different it's like dude i'm standing halfway up the mountain and i'm looking at the 0.98

00:10:52.180 motherfuckers down at the bottom and i'm like start fucking walking yeah take a step take another step 0.98

00:10:58.280 like it's it's just the lack of understanding that this is not mystical it's not magical it comes 1.00

00:11:05.040 down to execution it comes down to discipline and there is a mathematical way to break this down which 0.97

00:11:12.780 is what the operator standard does okay like it will help you decide who the fuck you want to be 0.66

00:11:18.120 and it will work backwards from there to help you create the critical tasks that you need to create

00:11:23.640 to move forward and if you follow the plan if you follow the strategic plan there is no way you

00:11:32.360 cannot get there it's impossible it's not it's not highly likely it's not maybe it's impossible to not 0.97

00:11:39.800 get there it's just like i'm gonna walk from here to fucking california okay that's a big fucking trip 0.98

00:11:45.880 but it's not impossible and it starts with me just walking and you know that perspective 0.95

00:11:53.460 gets me frustrated sometimes that other people can't see it you know what i'm saying and uh just

00:11:59.840 go that was the motivation behind this tech that we've built which is going to become fucking the 0.90

00:12:06.020 most amazing tech product in the history of earth and literally change everything um over the course of

00:12:13.620 the next 12 months because like dude people just don't understand they think that sound it's too easy 0.98

00:12:20.860 that's not what it is no that's what the fuck it is that's why mental toughness is the fucking most 0.98

00:12:24.960 important skill and discipline is the most important skill because it's not the plan it's 0.99

00:12:30.200 your ability to do it okay so you create the structure you create the goal you break it down

00:12:36.100 which fucking the tech that we just built does that and then you got to build the mental toughness 0.99

00:12:41.340 and the ability to just execute the fucking plan and this is why i say you know this is why 0.99

00:12:47.180 everybody says you know discipline is the key you know nobody was fucking really saying that before 0.99

00:12:51.480 i started saying it when 75 hard came out um but it's it really is the fucking it's the number one 0.94

00:12:58.820 skill set that you have to acquire mental toughness which you know that's what 75 hard and live hard 0.95

00:13:04.440 are about cultivating right the the mental toughness the grit the fortitude the ability to persevere

00:13:08.880 to do things when you don't feel like them to do things well especially when you don't feel like

00:13:12.920 them which then builds confidence self-esteem self-worth all of the shit encompasses a skill

00:13:19.540 of mental toughness and when you learn that skill and you combined it with a plan that is solid you 0.98

00:13:28.320 cannot fucking fail you cannot fucking fail and this is why we talk about like you know when i say 0.94

00:13:35.700 like how do you how can you beat someone that cannot quit okay and what i mean by that is that's not 1.00

00:13:41.080 some shit that you're born with that just comes into your heart dude it is a developed skill set 0.92

00:13:47.280 to where you execute every single day no matter what on the proper play daily and critical tasks 1.00

00:13:56.460 you can't beat someone that can do that you can't beat someone that comes in and executes when they feel

00:14:02.220 good or when they feel bad you can't beat someone that that comes in and executes when you know 0.99

00:14:08.300 they're on top of the world or shit's fucking raining down on them okay and they just had the worst day 0.99

00:14:14.480 ever and they still fucking got their shit done you cannot fucking beat someone like that it's impossible 1.00

00:14:19.800 to lose so you know i think knowing all of that shit and then seeing people still like talk about 1.00

00:14:28.440 what they're gonna do and it's like motherfucker you can do it just fucking do it you know what i mean 1.00

00:14:34.580 and that gets me like a little irritated sometimes yeah you know what i'm saying yeah but it's crazy 0.99

00:14:40.020 to think i was thinking about this too you know are most people born quitters but then you think 0.99

00:14:46.140 about it like you you see like little kids want to do shit right and it's like they'll fucking do 0.98

00:14:50.340 whatever they got to do until they accomplish it so then you think about the social aspect the 0.99

00:14:54.320 cultural aspect quitting gets beaten to people oh yeah over their life yeah they're born a blank slate

00:15:01.140 and then they observe it they see it they they somehow see it enough to where it's an acceptable 0.94

00:15:06.420 thing you know this is why victim culture is such a fucking bad thing yeah because you know the minute 0.97

00:15:11.820 someone gets tired or the minute someone doesn't feel like doing it you got a whole fucking world of 0.95

00:15:15.940 people telling you that it's okay not to do and it's not okay not to do that's how you end up in a 0.62

00:15:21.640 very fucking dark place that you don't want to be and i always say if you listen to them you'll be like 0.99

00:15:26.840 them so when these people say things like i need a mental health day and all this fucking bullshit 1.00

00:15:31.920 look at their fucking life do you want that life or do you want the one that's in your fucking brain 1.00

00:15:37.220 you know what i'm saying so you know we see this over and over like kids start to see you know 1.00

00:15:43.520 i mean look dude quitting and and and my family was never allowed you weren't allowed to quit 0.99

00:15:52.940 you weren't fucking allowed you you could fucking hate it you could not do it next year you could 0.99

00:15:58.600 not do it again but you're fucking finishing what the fuck you started today yeah yeah and dude some 1.00

00:16:04.500 people aren't raised in that some people are raised in situations with parents where you know i can 1.00

00:16:10.560 remember very specifically dude when i started playing uh football you know the first fucking practice 0.99

00:16:16.920 of football was like traumatic for me like it really was dude because like i remember i was like 0.59

00:16:22.740 sixth grade when i started playing and there was a kid you know these all these kids have been

00:16:27.580 playing and i dude i'll never forget the fucking first day like they all knew it was my first day 0.95

00:16:34.120 right so i lined up to go against this dude and he's like he goes fresh meat and like and like dude 0.94

00:16:41.040 i'll never forget it right and and like dude it fucking scared me i was just a little kid you know 0.95

00:16:45.780 i didn't have the fucking i didn't know you know and and i remember fucking getting in the car 0.99

00:16:51.060 my dad being and i'm like dude i don't like this this sucks and my dad's like you're fucking doing 0.99

00:16:54.720 it we signed you up you're fucking doing it and then it led to literally me going through and 0.99

00:16:59.920 playing high school you know all the way through high school and uh you know becoming a pretty good 1.00

00:17:05.300 athlete but most importantly learning all the skill sets that come with you know operating on a team

00:17:12.120 and running an effective team and all of these things you know anybody who's played football will

00:17:16.480 tell you like it's the greatest metaphor for teamwork and culture and life really any sport

00:17:23.820 right but football especially because you know of the way the game's set up like we are working as a

00:17:30.100 team to move the ball down the field okay and that is the perfect metaphor for business we're a team 0.80

00:17:38.020 we got to move the ball from here to there how the fuck are we going to do it and so had i quit 0.88

00:17:43.560 i would have missed out on all those skills you know and i hated it bro i remember i like i was 0.98

00:17:49.260 crying i was throwing a fit you know and my dad's like yeah too bad yeah you're not fucking quitting 0.96

00:17:54.260 that's too damn bad yeah yeah i'm tired grandpa and so that's what it was and um you know after that 0.81

00:18:01.640 talk i knew for sure like there was no i there was it goes back to zero options bro that didn't work

00:18:06.360 yeah like i'm not getting out of it so uh you know it was it was straight up you know um never 0.97

00:18:13.780 tolerated and i think parents are way too accommodating to that kind of shit oh yeah and 0.96

00:18:19.860 without realizing what it's actually doing for the adult that they're trying to raise yeah bro you 0.98

00:18:25.520 know we just had to do that with ryan man you know she's playing soccer we paid for this offseason 1.00

00:18:29.540 soccer camp thing and so we're supposed to go to soccer the uh wednesday and she was like uh 0.98

00:18:34.460 oh i'm tired yeah that's too fucking bad yeah you go get your damn cleats yeah yeah we're going 0.98

00:18:39.800 yeah yeah man she went and like that's the great like she went she had a great time yeah had a great 0.99

00:18:44.220 practice well that's usually the case right you know but like how how many fucking parents bro 0.99

00:18:48.940 would have said to her oh that's okay sweetie you know we'll go get ice cream instead you're you're 0.98

00:18:54.340 automatically rewarding quitting yeah you know you're rewarding quitting you're not just

00:18:59.060 tolerating you're rewarding it yeah bro right and then parents do this and you know i get criticized 0.99

00:19:06.040 because it's like oh you don't have any kids yeah well i know a few things about fucking people 0.99

00:19:09.740 okay and they do this shit and they think it's innocent they think it's fucking you know oh it 0.99

00:19:15.720 won't matter this time but that kid never fucking forgets bro it's like when you know like you know 0.99

00:19:21.540 all my friends with kids are like like they always want to see the cars and shit right and they'll 0.97

00:19:25.700 always tell me like ahead of time they're like dude don't tell them you're gonna give them a ride 0.98

00:19:30.460 because they won't shut the fuck up about it for fucking the next year to the parent oh yeah 0.93

00:19:35.080 you know of course i do tell them that you know but uh yeah yeah but you know at the end of the day 0.99

00:19:44.180 man like we got to remember like kids are not stupid and they remember and certain things stick

00:19:49.120 and like if i'm you know in my mid 40s and i'm remembering a lesson about my dad not allowing 0.96

00:19:55.760 me to quit that should be fucking evidence that those things stick you know what i mean and um 0.93

00:20:01.900 i don't know i just think you know we've gone through 20 years of bad parenting strategy 0.97

00:20:07.340 where you know we give trophies out for participation we reward mediocrity we we

00:20:13.920 console losing in the improper way losing is okay but it's not about oh little tommy it's okay you 0.62

00:20:21.820 lost no it's like okay well next time we're gonna fucking win what'd you learn from this right how do 0.83

00:20:26.900 we do you know what could you have done better right and you know not a lot of and to be fair not a lot 0.53

00:20:34.120 of parents even know this because they were brought up in that cycle and they're not they're thinking

00:20:39.880 they're being nice or they're being like a good parent like their mom or dad was and they don't

00:20:44.660 know what they don't know you know what i mean absolutely and and that's uh that's actually the

00:20:50.300 motivation behind as funny as it is the the motivation behind the otis and charlie books

00:20:55.160 because these are books that are written with the idea for parents who may have uh not gotten the life

00:21:04.280 that they wanted or maybe didn't learn these things so they don't know how to teach them to teach

00:21:08.960 their kids these things together right it's a tool and um and yeah man it's uh

00:21:14.740 you know we we got to break out of this cycle we really want to create generations of excellent 0.88

00:21:21.740 people we have to break out of this cycle of fucking soft parenting uh and being their buddy 1.00

00:21:26.600 and you know letting them off the hook of shit that they should follow through on 0.99

00:21:30.940 and you know that soft parenting strategy where what we've had in place for the last 20 years 0.99

00:21:38.560 i mean the evidence is the evidence dude you know what i'm saying so like competition's a real thing

00:21:46.080 like it's not a made-up thing and we could say oh life's not a competition we can say that all we

00:21:51.740 want it sounds nice it's not reality you have to compete you have to compete in the workforce you

00:21:58.360 have to compete in other areas you got to compete for your your future spouse like there's all these

00:22:04.700 things that kids are not taught and lied to because parents have bought into these strategies

00:22:11.700 that just don't work man and uh you know i feel fortunate enough that that i grew up in a time

00:22:20.080 where you know not only was that not the culture but i had the opposite of parents is that right it 0.84

00:22:25.940 wasn't just my dad it was my parents it was everything and uh yeah dude so i love it yeah 0.99

00:22:33.000 man i mean i just want motherfuckers to win and like i know they can so it pisses me off when they 0.98

00:22:39.380 fucking don't even try i love it dude i love it man well hell yeah yeah we got three more good ones 0.99

00:22:46.360 yeah all right let's make it work yeah let's make it work uh guys andy uh question number one 0.99

00:22:50.920 uh andy after big fall how do you handle doubt i grew fast made mistakes crashed sold my mercedes

00:22:59.540 and rolex and kept going i rebuilt stronger mentally but still stabilizing after 11 years

00:23:06.220 hitting bottom still shakes me how do you stay confident well first of all having to sell a watch

00:23:12.440 in a car is not losing okay that's called the ebbs and flows of going out and doing something that's

00:23:17.900 difficult all right uh the truth of the matter is you probably weren't ready for those things and

00:23:23.220 you weren't in a position to get them so to see that as a failure is is not really a failure it

00:23:28.200 should be a lesson um as far as dealing with the doubt when things happen that's a simple mental 0.94

00:23:33.800 reframe okay um it's like what we say all the time dude it's not that you're a loser it's

00:23:39.160 that you're losing and that doesn't identify that doesn't that's not your identity yeah because you fell 0.98

00:23:45.300 right like think about the first time you rode a bike bro and you fucking fell over like 0.94

00:23:50.340 was that a loss or was that a lesson right and and as we grow and as we become older 0.88

00:23:57.200 we start to like attach more value to the losses than what they should actually be because people 0.92

00:24:05.460 are watching and we're embarrassed and things happen and nobody likes looking stupid and so as we we 0.88

00:24:14.160 start to move through life we we try to protect ourselves from that embarrassment and that failure 0.95

00:24:19.960 more and more and more because we're trying to win the approval of people that we shouldn't right

00:24:26.200 we should be trying to win the approval of the the future version of us that is 5 10 20 years down

00:24:32.240 the road and so like when you have a a stumble i'm not even gonna call it a failure like when you

00:24:38.180 have a stumble you have to realize that that's completely normal everybody goes through it 0.90

00:24:42.240 and fuck dude uh you know every single person that runs uh that's worldwide you know recognize 0.99

00:24:53.280 donald trump dana white like all these fucking great entrepreneurs these guys got stories where 1.00

00:25:00.340 they were 40 50 60 million dollars in debt or in trump's case billions of dollars in debt and then 0.99

00:25:06.640 they pulled out of it and fucking you know became what they are now that you recognize them as 0.97

00:25:11.680 and had they said oh i fucking lost and i'm have doubt like would they have been who they are today 0.98

00:25:18.880 no so they had the attitude at very early and understood the perspective frame properly okay that 0.60

00:25:25.740 didn't work now what will work that is the proper perspective and it's not about losing it's about

00:25:32.460 lessons and so you know if people would just adjust their frame from you know oh man i took this big

00:25:40.080 loss or i hit rock listen bro you ain't at rock bottom i'm gonna tell you that right now it could 0.98

00:25:44.180 get a lot fucking worse okay like you are not at rock bottom that's a bullshit statement it's not even 0.98

00:25:49.680 true and you're over here telling yourself that and what do you think your subconscious starts to 1.00

00:25:55.580 believe when you tell yourself that you're at rock bottom and things aren't going and i'm a loser 1.00

00:26:00.220 and they're gonna your fucking actions are gonna back that up you're gonna behave like a loser 1.00

00:26:03.820 you're gonna look like a loser you're gonna stand like a loser you're gonna talk like a loser 1.00

00:26:07.480 and because of that you'll be a loser and if you had just kept your posture and understood that this 1.00

00:26:14.280 was a normal part of the process and continue to act like a bad motherfucker that's gonna win no 1.00

00:26:18.860 matter what shit would turn around right so yeah i do understand that these difficult times happen and 0.99

00:26:26.820 i do understand that naturally there's some doubt that creeps into your mind but you have to have 0.95

00:26:33.320 the awareness to recognize that the reason that's creeping into your mind is because you haven't set

00:26:39.500 the frame up to understand that losing is part of the fucking recipe in fact it's the most valuable 0.80

00:26:45.840 part of the recipe because that's where all the lessons are and so if you go through life you know

00:26:50.960 trying to uh avoid the losses or trying to protect yourself from the losses you can't ever learn

00:26:57.380 anything that allows you to fucking win so you have to adjust and understand that whatever it is you 0.87

00:27:02.980 just went through whatever just happened uh those were very valuable lessons that you paid for you paid 0.82

00:27:10.800 for them in time you paid for them in money and you should look at it no different than what somebody

00:27:16.220 who's a doctor looks at their education okay entrepreneurship education does not come from

00:27:22.400 school okay it comes from doing and the tuition that you're going to pay comes in the losses that

00:27:29.440 come along the way that are actually the lessons that equip you so it's really no different than school 0.99

00:27:34.840 you pay money you learn shit and entrepreneurship you make a mistake you pay money you learn shit yeah but 0.99

00:27:42.240 if you refuse to learn shit and then you tell yourself oh man maybe i'm just not cut out for 1.00

00:27:47.100 this you're not understanding what the fucking game is the game is very simple we operate on a 24-hour 1.00

00:27:53.400 game if you can win today no matter what no matter what the fuck is going on and you start stacking 0.99

00:27:59.620 those wins along the way winning long term is inevitable and and if you stumble and you're in the 0.99

00:28:05.620 hole it's no different you just continue to fucking execute execute execute execute stack those 0.97

00:28:12.000 wins and then somewhere along the line and the line being time things will begin to materialize 0.99

00:28:18.840 again this is not magic bro nobody's destined to be a loser nobody's destined to stay knocked the 0.86

00:28:23.780 fuck down that's a decision that's a decision that people make because it's embarrassing and they 0.84

00:28:29.360 don't want to get embarrassed again when in reality bro embarrassment is part of the price 0.99

00:28:33.940 admission to success if you can't tolerate being embarrassed when bad things happen then you don't

00:28:40.920 have what it takes bro you just don't that's that's a requirement there's lots of things that

00:28:45.500 have happened to me over the last 27 years that were very public that were very embarrassing that 0.99

00:28:52.580 i had to pick myself back up and say you know what bro you're still a bad motherfucker just keep going 0.98

00:28:58.040 and and you keep going and that's that you know i want to talk i want to i want to hit on something 0.99

00:29:03.520 there because i feel like there's an awareness piece here too right like it's like most people when a

00:29:09.140 quote-unquote loss happened they're like surprised by it right when the reality like if you you just 0.92

00:29:14.340 got to look back a little bit it's not like this loss didn't come out of fucking nowhere oh yeah 0.87

00:29:17.900 yeah well that's a whole other thing yeah bro you're not paying attention yeah that's correct 0.91

00:29:23.080 if you want to know why your life looks the way it does if you want to know why you're losing right 0.99

00:29:28.960 now all you got to do is go back and look to the last 90 days of your life what the fuck did you do 0.52

00:29:33.620 for the last 90 days sometimes it's you know 180 days okay for bigger things like if you let's say 0.98

00:29:40.740 you have a mature business that's doing very well and then all of a sudden you know quote unquote all

00:29:45.580 the sudden in tanks right that's not all of a sudden that started back 180 days ago when you

00:29:51.780 decided not to go to the critical meetings when you decided not to put your inputs in when you decided 0.51

00:29:56.360 not to do the things that you were doing that got you to that fucking point and not just to do them 0.96

00:30:00.600 but to do them better so you start to gradually slide and gradually slide it feels like nothing's 0.99

00:30:06.460 happening until the fucking dam breaks and then you're like oh all of a sudden you know my life 0.99

00:30:11.240 crumbled no it fucking didn't your life crumbled because you lack urgency to pay attention to what's 1.00

00:30:16.320 going on in front of you and you lost the urgency because you got comfortable and you're you slid down 1.00

00:30:22.460 the fucking hill and everybody knows that's true but nobody wants to take accountability for it 0.99

00:30:26.960 all you got to do is say you know what i fucked up i got a little too comfortable i stopped paying 0.99

00:30:32.420 attention but you know what that stops right now and you start moving again it's very simple bro 0.97

00:30:36.980 that happens to everyone by the way the first time you start making money and the first time you like

00:30:42.080 like start feeling like you're successful it is very natural for people to get comfortable because

00:30:48.340 they've never had it before and they don't understand you know just because you have it now doesn't

00:30:53.480 mean you're going to have it in 90 days or 100 days or a thousand days because the person who

00:30:59.660 created the situation you were in now you are no longer that person the the the reality that you live

00:31:05.760 in currently when you look around and you look at your car and you look at your house and you look 0.98

00:31:10.160 at your bank account you look at all this shit that was created by someone in the past right today you 0.96

00:31:17.300 are not that person but that also works for good or bad okay so if things are shitty and you want to 0.99

00:31:24.060 change you don't have to sit here and label yourself oh i'm a loser or i'm a i'm a bum or i'm a this or i'm

00:31:29.880 a that and everybody was right no you're going to make them right by quitting but let's realize this

00:31:36.400 you can choose to be a different person right now and it's just going to take some time for the real

00:31:42.240 world to catch the fuck up okay so this this this is not hard to understand it's just hard to do

00:31:50.060 and uh a lot of people you know they they aren't willing to put themselves out there more than once 0.97

00:31:56.220 they aren't willing to get kicked in the fucking nuts more than once and the most successful people 0.98

00:32:01.180 don't give a shit how much they get kicked in the nuts in fact once you get to a certain level you 1.00

00:32:06.620 start to like it you're like fucking bring it on bitch i can handle this shit right and that's the 1.00

00:32:12.440 attitude that you have so um yeah man i mean look you fucked up what'd you learn tomorrow you pick 1.00

00:32:22.640 it a fuck up and you start moving from wherever you are back towards where you want to go it's that 0.99

00:32:26.400 simple dude i love it dude i love it guys any question number two oh andy i have used 0.98

00:32:34.460 situations uh over the last few years to justify my complacency no one's coming to save me as you

00:32:42.580 always say i'm currently on day 51 of 75 hard uh which is giving me massive refocus how do you stay

00:32:51.000 focused with all these things that seem like setbacks though how do you stay committed i guess to the

00:32:57.700 plan and avoid getting back to that level of complacency you just don't go back you're just

00:33:04.540 locking in your brain of how your life was when you were like that and you don't go back this is why

00:33:10.020 we talk about after 75 hard you know you can really tell who did 75 hard the right way by how they react 0.99

00:33:16.980 on day 76 if on day 76 they got a big cake and they go out and have a big meal and they fucking 0.96

00:33:22.920 go and they go celebrate the old way and drink and all this shit you know they didn't do it right 0.96

00:33:28.280 because if they had done it right they'd be so fucking afraid of becoming who they were pre-75 0.98

00:33:34.240 that they wouldn't do that they would say okay i don't want to lose this bro i got and this is why

00:33:39.200 you know the people who really get it and the people who do it right tend to roll right into phase

00:33:44.360 one afterwards because they want to lock that bitch in right and that's also why there's a required 1.00

00:33:49.620 30 day break between phase one and two because you need to understand that this is something that 0.93

00:33:54.660 diminishes this is something that is perishable this is something that goes away and then if you

00:33:59.160 want to get it back you have to start following the things that you were doing to feel good and this

00:34:04.620 doesn't necessarily mean 75 hard but it means in life okay when things are good they're good when you're

00:34:12.080 on it you're on it when you have momentum you created it when you have discipline you cultivated it 0.99

00:34:17.320 but if you don't practice that shit and you just try to you know float through and you think you got 1.00

00:34:22.900 it good enough and you're going to get smacked in the fucking mouth okay and that's what the break is 1.00

00:34:27.620 about it's about learning that no you haven't changed yet motherfucker you're just doing the actions 1.00

00:34:33.840 of a successful person and it hasn't locked in and you start to understand okay this is a perishable 0.98

00:34:42.080 skill that i have to stay on top of and that's where the change starts to happen mentally

00:34:45.920 in real way because you're like oh this can go away right and that's the point it can go away

00:34:54.880 it's a perishable skill so uh yeah man it's it's it's very simple um keep doing the things that work 0.97

00:35:03.180 and don't do the things that the old fat broke piece of shit you used to do very simple yeah i feel 0.95

00:35:09.460 like if people truly understood how important keeping the momentum going was dude they do they 0.97

00:35:17.440 do understand it the ones who do it right understand it yeah the ones who don't do it and just want to

00:35:22.340 say they did it they're the ones that it never catches you know like bro and that's hard to get

00:35:26.920 fucking going bro it's not that hard it's not that hard it takes it takes it takes 12 to you know 0.87

00:35:35.020 30 days of force depending on where you are to start to catch the momentum again and then you're 0.99

00:35:40.540 right back where you were you know and that's not a lot of time you know and most people think that

00:35:44.960 momentum is a is a magical force that they just catch out of thin air it's not it's something that

00:35:49.220 you create and you create it through force and it's having aware conversations with your internal

00:35:56.520 voice your boss voice or your bitch voice and which one you're listening to and in the beginning 1.00

00:36:01.480 it's going to be your bitch voice your bitch voice will say this is fucking hard i don't feel like 1.00

00:36:05.360 doing this this this is pointless you know i got other shit to do right right you know and you have 1.00

00:36:10.780 to like consciously and in a very aware fashion intentionally say shut the fuck up we're doing it 0.97

00:36:19.900 anyway and as you do that more and more and more and more and you you start to consciously squash that

00:36:28.020 it becomes part of your subconscious and it starts to happen automatically but if you're not careful

00:36:33.760 one or two or three compromises can lead you right back down the path okay so it's being aware of your

00:36:43.040 internal dialogue and a lot of people have a hard time with that right like they interpret i don't feel

00:36:50.100 it like it as something that they just don't feel when in reality they have their weak version of

00:36:54.620 themselves telling them in their brain hey man we're tired hey dude you know you worked hard today

00:37:00.360 you know what it's not that important you could take a day off you could miss this workout you could

00:37:04.520 miss this meal you could do this thing hey live a little you know like these are the things that our 1.00

00:37:09.320 bitch voice tells us and guess what our bitch voice is the best motherfucking salesman on the planet 1.00

00:37:14.600 which is why most people are very dissatisfied with their lives so you have to cautiously in the 1.00

00:37:20.520 beginning overcome that and force the wins day by day by day until it starts to quiet down and your boss

00:37:29.520 voice starts to take over and when that starts to take over now you've got momentum and when you have

00:37:35.560 momentum and you really value momentum real championship people the greatest people on the

00:37:40.880 planet will fucking do anything to keep it because they don't want to have to start it up again but the 0.91

00:37:47.220 reality is it's not that hard it's just a few weeks of you actively having that conversation with 0.95

00:37:55.160 yourself where you hear this voice saying hey you know uh you know you you didn't eat all day and

00:38:02.060 you're starving and you know pizza's okay yeah you know what i'm saying worked out real hard you need 0.99

00:38:06.240 the extra calories right exactly like all this shit is lies bro it's all lies it's no different than 1.00

00:38:11.700 when we used to watch cartoons and there'd be a little angel on one side a little devil on the other 0.99

00:38:16.340 side that little devil on the other side's got the natural stronger voice because he speaks to you

00:38:21.920 from a place of instant gratification whereas the angel voice the boss voice that speaks to what you

00:38:29.200 really want and so you have to stop listening to the now and start acting like you are the person 1.00

00:38:36.200 who you are trying to become and then magically you become it yeah yeah dude he said that your bitch 1.00

00:38:43.400 voice is the greatest salesman oh they were the very best i mean my bitch voice still kicks in it 1.00

00:38:48.360 knows exactly what to fucking say you know what i'm saying like it's it's and i'm a pretty damn good 0.99

00:38:53.940 salesman so like my shit is fucking hard to overcome sometimes you know uh but at the end of the day the 0.99

00:39:01.580 more you practice it and the longer you practice it and i mean in years yeah it becomes ingrained in you 1.00

00:39:08.840 and your standards reset and your new best becomes your acceptable minimum and you continue to

00:39:15.100 progress and continue to progress and continue to progress and every time you set that new minimum

00:39:19.880 now that's your zero right and you know with like people who are financially responsible they use this

00:39:27.740 principle and their their asset management their cash management right like zero is not zero for rich

00:39:34.160 people zero for rich people might be a hundred million dollars i am not fucking going below that 0.96

00:39:40.900 and they start to see that as a zero when they get close to it they start fucking hammering right it 0.80

00:39:45.220 might be a hundred thousand whatever it might be fucking one thousand it doesn't matter but the zero 0.97

00:39:50.740 becomes the minimum acceptable standard even though it might be the best place you've ever been and then

00:39:57.660 you build from there again and that process repeats itself over and over and over and over again 0.67

00:40:02.020 until the standard's so high that everybody looks at you and they're like how the fuck does michael 0.98

00:40:07.080 jordan do the shit that he does well i mean dude he rebuilt that standard on top of each other over 1.00

00:40:11.220 and over and over and over again over the course of his life and now the motherfucker's good at 1.00

00:40:15.740 everything he does because the principles of winning in basketball are the same principles at winning 0.98

00:40:20.540 at nascar and the same principles of winning a business and the same principles of winning at sport 0.58

00:40:24.980 fishing he knows how to fucking win okay and because it's not that it's not that complicated it's very 0.86

00:40:31.860 simple good i love it man uh i got one final question for you guys andy question number three 0.97

00:40:38.720 andy i have always had a problem with accepting any praise or congratulations for my accomplishments

00:40:48.200 am i being too humble even though i can't help it or should i be okay with it uh i'm 19 years old and

00:40:55.600 i don't know who else asked how do you be okay with accepting praise and congratulations after

00:41:00.660 some accomplishments well we talked about this for the last couple weeks on the show okay it's about

00:41:05.220 not reading you're reading too much into your news clippings um you know if you do bad and the world 1.00

00:41:11.720 says you suck you don't want to attach any value to it you're like i'm fuck them i'm fucking dude i'm 0.99

00:41:16.740 gonna continue down the path like we just talked if you win you hit a home run it's okay thank you 1.00

00:41:22.020 very much but you don't take it to heart you know what i mean and you know that's something that

00:41:26.740 if we're being honest i i sort of struggle with but i'm not mad that i struggle with it because it

00:41:32.280 keeps me moving i don't necessarily think that's a bad thing i think what is a bad thing though is

00:41:37.980 what affects most people which they get told one time or they win one award or they do one thing or 0.97

00:41:44.020 they won the mbp in fucking high school and this shit becomes their life accomplishment that they 0.97

00:41:48.780 always talk about and attach their value to and um real champions don't attach their value to winning 1.00

00:41:54.740 or losing they just follow the process down the road and whatever happens happens and also if we're

00:42:00.520 being real you know you know there's a saying you know great leaders give the credit and take

00:42:09.520 responsibility so you know for me and this is very real this is not this is not just hypothetical for

00:42:16.500 me i run organizations that are very big i'm not the one waiting on the customer anymore i'm not the

00:42:23.000 one fucking going out and doing the promos anymore i'm not the one formulating the products i'm not the 0.99

00:42:28.060 i'm not the one so when people say oh congratulations it is a real thing for me to say well no i'm 0.97

00:42:34.020 surrounded by great people yeah you know what i mean and uh and which you know that's what that

00:42:40.360 you know i'm i wouldn't say i'm a great leader but i've done some things and i feel like i have a

00:42:47.580 long way to go uh i think most people are sitting in my space i'm a fucking great leader but the reality 0.85

00:42:53.280 is is like you know it's a lifelong process so how can you say you're great at it you know what i mean 0.80

00:42:59.160 so i don't actually think that that that's a real problem dude i think that's a really good thing i think

00:43:05.940 that it's important to acknowledge what you did right but you're not going to attach your emotions

00:43:11.460 to it right like when you did a good job you can acknowledge it it's okay to say yeah okay i did good

00:43:16.840 but like reality is is that you know what i learned there how did i do good what actions did i take it's

00:43:25.240 not you it's the result of the actions and we remove ourselves from the ego attachment of the process and

00:43:33.180 realize that our outcomes are determined by our actions there's no reason or way that you could

00:43:38.380 you could also believe that it's you does that make sense absolutely so yeah it's the process it's

00:43:45.800 the actions and that's actually the true definition of humility because you understand that if someone

00:43:53.620 else had taken the same actions that you took they could produce the same outcome it's the problem

00:43:59.940 becomes is that when you take actions that anybody could have taken and all of a sudden you think

00:44:04.060 you're king of the fucking world right okay right and that's not the case and that's where people start 0.91

00:44:09.700 to start to buy into the hype and believe it's them and you know and then we see the decline we see this 0.98

00:44:16.240 all the time dude how many people go up and come back down okay and usually people who are like we

00:44:22.860 talked about in the first question very successful they've had to go through a couple ups and downs

00:44:28.000 to actually learn this and this is also why and you know you may be in a position where you don't know

00:44:33.960 many successful people but i could tell you i know a lot of them and i know a lot of the ones that you 0.99

00:44:38.600 guys know and see as successful in society and i'm going to tell you real shit they're fucking humble bro 0.98

00:44:44.400 these people know what they don't fucking know and they also know that they are very fortunate to be in 0.99

00:44:49.720 the situation and they were fortunate to take the actions and make the right decisions and they understand 0.98

00:44:54.160 that they are the product of their actions not the product of their superiority right and um

00:45:00.840 you know that's that's what it is man it's not attaching your emotions to the good or the bad

00:45:08.220 but understanding that your outcomes are the natural effect of the actions that you take and if you

00:45:15.820 if you're honest with yourself about that then the ego should never become a part of it right so you

00:45:21.660 don't you know you don't fucking there's no emotion to it i guess if that's if that makes sense i think 0.92

00:45:27.760 i think the problem a lot of people have is because it's hard to balance that right like not being 0.99

00:45:32.460 appreciative or grateful for the shit they've done right because we see these people like you either 0.96

00:45:37.040 got people that they're like they're still wearing the fucking varsity letterman jacket yeah of course 0.99

00:45:40.960 you know what i'm saying but it's okay but how do i but then they can't figure out why the fuck 1.00

00:45:44.160 they're a total dork now and they were the coolest shit ever back then that's right it's like well 0.99

00:45:49.060 because no one cares about that anymore it's in the past right and by the way life is long right okay 0.99

00:45:53.880 so just because you won when you're 17 years old doesn't mean you're going to win when you're 27 or

00:45:59.040 37 and the same goes the other way just because you lost at 17 or 27 or 37 bro at 36 years old i lost 0.86

00:46:06.520 350 fucking pounds it's going to be 10 years since i lost 110 pounds and literally put our company on the 0.96

00:46:14.520 fucking path of what it does today through my own actions okay and that's a big accomplishment but 0.99

00:46:22.920 also i'm very aware that if i don't continue to do the things that i do i'm gonna go right back to 0.99

00:46:28.040 being that fat fuck that's right you don't say it could be looking yeah like different i'm not i'm not 0.93

00:46:32.180 i'm not by any means under the uh assumption that i am immune from going back to who i was before like 0.99

00:46:40.100 i'm i'm fucking terrified of that and that scares the shit out of me and that's why i know and can 0.92

00:46:46.840 everybody knows who's actually completed 75 hard who the fuck actually does it and who doesn't 0.99

00:46:51.320 because if you really do it you're fucking terrified of going back to where the fuck you were and you 0.99

00:46:56.820 don't stuff your face with motherfucking cake and ice cream for two weeks celebrating right because 1.00

00:47:01.960 you don't want to go back to that shit bro so let's give something to the young guys out there okay 1.00

00:47:05.980 like you you do a win how you you won something cool how long how long should this last 24 hours 0.99

00:47:11.880 that's it yeah 24 hour 24 hours 24 hour rule on winning when you win you celebrate for 24 hours

00:47:18.560 then it's back to work should that if you look at the greatest people the biggest winners the people

00:47:24.260 who win over the biggest winners are not necessarily the biggest winners in terms of finances they're

00:47:30.620 people who whatever craft they're in they are great because they consistently win and one of my

00:47:35.360 favorite winners is nick saban okay one of my other favorite winners is bill belichick all right

00:47:41.180 when he was in new england it might be different now for him but you know these guys will win the 0.89

00:47:47.880 fucking super bowl or win the national championship they go up on the podium and they say okay what'd 0.93

00:47:51.920 you think of the game and they're like well we did this and this and this wrong we got to work on this 0.99

00:47:55.920 and this and this we're going to get back to work tomorrow yeah like for the next year it's like 0.97

00:48:00.040 and when you first hear that you're like what the fuck are they talking about crazy but that's just 0.51

00:48:05.180 the cloth that these dudes are cut from or it's they understand very much so what it takes to win 0.92

00:48:12.980 and they understand nick saban does understand i promise i've never met him and i promise you i

00:48:19.180 promise you if you get him in closed doors he knows that it's not that nick saban won all this 0.94

00:48:27.060 shit nick saban is the greatest nick saban is considered to be the greatest because he did this 0.99

00:48:33.080 and this and this and this and this and his processes and he never broke from those processes 0.96

00:48:38.360 and so you know yeah you don't ever get to stand at the top of mountain and say i'm the greatest

00:48:44.080 but if you continue to win everybody else does it for you that's right you know i'm saying so like

00:48:48.920 that's right you know and i think people are so in a rush to get credit you know

00:48:52.580 and the credit doesn't mean shit bro it's it's what you're producing it's how you feel about

00:48:59.280 yourself and so for example you know when you have a big win like you asked the question you know

00:49:05.460 you're a young guy you got your first big win your first big bonus or whatever it is whatever it is

00:49:10.380 for you yeah whatever that is you have to stop and you have to say okay i'm not great the actions i took

00:49:17.760 were very good how can i improve those what did i learn because you can learn a lot from winning

00:49:23.500 but you can learn a lot more from losing all right so so we apply that to losing too right like same

00:49:29.220 like you have a big loss or you have a little yeah what appears to be a big no it's the same 0.94

00:49:33.080 bro that's the thing you cannot fucking get wrapped up in what everybody else is saying about your 1.00

00:49:38.660 fuck dude a fucking week ago when we launched the motherfucking app the first day i got fucking 1.00

00:49:44.980 destroyed on the internet oh by two days in everybody else was like holy shit this is awesome right 1.00

00:49:50.720 so i had to fucking you know be patient and let people see and when they saw they were like holy 0.98

00:49:56.480 shit right right so like dude we we cannot put and by the way just for example because it's real 0.98

00:50:04.080 i'm not listening to everything they're saying i'm still running my game plan that i've designed out 0.81

00:50:09.180 over the next number of years for this project okay just because people were excited now doesn't mean

00:50:16.380 that i abandoned the project and say oh fucking we hit a home run no dude we're gonna see this 0.96

00:50:20.780 through and we're gonna fucking not fumble the ball and we're gonna run this score up we're gonna score 0.99

00:50:25.660 a thousand motherfucking points bro we're not this isn't the win that's just an indication that we're 0.98

00:50:31.420 moving the right direction yeah okay so and that goes for anything yeah so you know uh but that takes 0.97

00:50:39.040 time to develop if you don't have someone that's making you aware of it right like if you're listening to

00:50:43.780 what i'm saying and you're this young man who's 19 years old and you literally comprehend what i say

00:50:48.060 and you you you put it into action you will avoid a lot of the losses that you're gonna have to take 0.99

00:50:53.920 in order to figure this out okay but i'm gonna tell you this is real shit i don't give a fuck how big 0.99

00:50:59.860 you're winning right now i don't care how much money you're making i don't care what game you won i 0.98

00:51:04.760 don't care what award you won i don't care what the world's saying about you that's good here's the

00:51:09.520 reality if you don't continue to execute it will go away and that is the problem people get their 0.99

00:51:16.900 first win they're like fuck yeah i'm the fucking champion i'm the best bro you know how many 1.00

00:51:21.460 motherfuckers were my number one salesperson that ended up getting fired because they were they gave 1.00

00:51:26.620 an they got an award and they're like i'm number one and then next month they're number two and then 0.99

00:51:31.220 six months they're number 47 and then eight months they're fucking fired yeah but i was number one yeah 0.98

00:51:36.660 i don't give a fuck about number what you were nobody does nobody gives a fuck what you used to 0.99

00:51:41.720 be they only care about what you're doing now that's it that's the way of the world is it fair 0.97

00:51:46.740 fucking i don't know is it real yes so we're not here to talk about what's fair how it should be 0.99

00:51:53.520 we're talking about how the fuck it is and how the fuck it is is this no one gives a shit about what 0.99

00:51:58.900 you did in the past no one cares what you won no one cares how much money you made no one cares 0.99

00:52:02.520 anything they only care about what you're doing now and so should you okay so that's the game bro

00:52:11.000 no one gives a shit about the medals the trophies the this the that the this unless you've won your 0.70

00:52:17.560 whole career and then people will say and then you quit right or you retire or whatever and then people 0.91

00:52:23.280 will say that man was great or that that woman was great at what they did but we how many times do

00:52:30.080 we see this in in anything okay and i got another point about leadership that attaches to this in a

00:52:35.240 second but we see this in sports bro we see someone win the cy young or win the world cup or have the

00:52:42.200 overtime goal and like bro they just kind of fade away so this even professionals are not immune to 0.99

00:52:48.320 this fucking ego shit okay what's what was the football player's name that fucking well had the 0.99

00:52:54.960 big contract that took his shirt off and ran down the field uh ab oh yeah you don't remember his 1.00

00:52:59.840 motherfucking name that's right that's right you get what i'm saying that's right no one fucking gives 0.99

00:53:05.140 a shit bro it's what you're doing now and uh and from a leadership standpoint this is a very you know 0.99

00:53:12.440 switching gears here but this is very important for you leaders to understand is that too much praise 1.00

00:53:17.240 will ruin someone okay like it's expected of you to fucking win okay so if you if they win and you act 0.94

00:53:25.920 like it's fucking the most greatest thing in the world you're probably ruining that person okay a better 0.98

00:53:31.940 way to do it is to say hey you did a great job i'm real proud of you but we got a lot of work to do let's 0.95

00:53:39.300 work on this and this and this that's how you communicate congratulations to people who do well in your

00:53:45.720 organization it's not yeah and are there times we're gonna get a little more excited than others

00:53:50.320 for sure are there times where you probably poured it on a little too much yeah but be aware of those 0.91

00:53:57.060 times and then follow it back up you know a day or two later and say hey i know you fucking won that 1.00

00:54:02.400 shit but you know how many motherfuckers i've had here win that shit and then wash the fuck out 1.00

00:54:05.860 a lot yeah don't be that motherfucker okay it's time to get back to work because we can build off this 1.00

00:54:11.440 foundation and you could become the greatest motherfucker what you do ever but if you 1.00

00:54:15.780 fucking slip bro you'd be one of these people that no one remembers their motherfucking name 1.00

00:54:19.760 you see what i'm saying absolutely you know like that that like dude i had a hard time remembering that 1.00

00:54:24.820 guy's name that ab guy yeah you know uh you know he might even fucking listen to the show i don't know 0.99

00:54:31.020 but like you know you fucked yourself bro you're irrelevant you might have a social media presence you 1.00

00:54:36.620 might say wild shit but i got news for you saying wild shit on the internet ain't greatness 1.00

00:54:40.680 winning's greatness it's fucking real bro that's real guys andy do that hey that's a hell of a way to 1.00

00:54:48.660 start a Monday yeah i'm with it dude yeah there's sal with his fucking case of beer it's friday 0.98

00:54:55.160 afternoon you know what time it is beer 30 all right he's earned it though yeah he had a hard week 0.97

00:54:59.940 fucking moving week oh yeah that's always tough beer beer tastes good after moving week 0.73

00:55:05.480 it's a it's but yeah reward yeah man that's that it's earned that's correct but uh yeah dude i 0.99

00:55:12.900 mean look that's the game no one gives a fuck okay and you shouldn't either you should worry about 0.79

00:55:19.680 what you're doing today what you're doing tomorrow what you're doing the next day and those are the 0.90

00:55:23.760 things that that that are going to create the momentum and create the stack for you to produce

00:55:28.320 the life that you're trying and if you get caught up in you know i'm the greatest around the bro you 0.96

00:55:32.940 are an inch away from being in the fucking dirt and you just don't see it yet i love it dude i love 0.98

00:55:38.680 it man guys andy uh that was three yep three and a half three and a half three and a half all right 0.99

00:55:45.060 three and a half soft three and three quarters you know what i'm saying it's a little cold out as a

00:55:50.780 reminder guys we will be cti live tonight on youtube x um and then the last thing is if you're looking to 0.94

00:56:01.580 get into operator standard are you even thinking about it you should fucking do it and i'm going 0.96

00:56:04.860 to tell you this it's going to close at midnight tonight if you don't get in i can promise you 1.00

00:56:09.240 you're going to fucking have major fomo because motherfuckers are already killing it in there 1.00

00:56:14.240 and if you want to kill it over this next year it's going to be a long time for us to open that up 0.99

00:56:18.060 again so i would highly recommend you go to andy for seller.com forward slash mfceo and uh 1.00

00:56:24.320 get your shit together because this shit is going to change the motherfucking world 1.00

00:56:27.780 all right don't be a hoe show the show 1.00

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00:56:45.440 you 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 15, 2025

977. Q&AF： Handling Doubt After Failure, Fighting Complacency & Accepting Praise

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