REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 982. Q&AF： Feeling Behind, Regaining Control In Chaos & Outgrowing Your Inner Circle

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the 0.99

00:00:21.520 fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys 0.91

00:00:25.400 today we have q and a f that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you

00:00:31.600 can submit your questions a few different ways dj how can they do that yeah guys you can email

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00:00:45.300 episodes on the new andy for seller motivation youtube channel yeah i think we'll just skip

00:00:52.880 the 75 hard all right because everybody's going to be starting it this week yeah they are all right

00:00:57.980 there's a massive group a massive group of people starting 75 hard this week so uh i'll give you the

00:01:05.540 resources what is cut to the chase you know we do shows within the show if you're unfamiliar with

00:01:11.160 75 hard you get the entire program outlined for free at episode 208 on the audio feed if you're

00:01:18.260 unfamiliar with 75 hard it is the initial phase of the live hard program which is the world's most

00:01:24.060 famous mental transfer transformation program ever clearly i need it all right uh again it's free

00:01:31.920 episode 208 on the audio feed there is a book available the book is called the book on mental

00:01:38.180 toughness you can get it andy for seller.com i'd highly recommend it you don't need it uh

00:01:43.440 but main thing i want to let you know is that there is a massive group starting on the first

00:01:50.380 not the second not the fourth not the seventh we're going to start this year we're going to start it

00:01:56.740 right i'm doing it with you we're going to get after it all right so with that being said we do have

00:02:02.340 a fee for the show the fee is very simple don't be a hoe share the show all right what's happening 0.99

00:02:08.700 what's going on beautiful monday morning yep are you lying again yep yeah it's sunday yeah

00:02:15.520 it is sunday sunday fun day though yeah yeah no it's good man uh how's it going good just got done

00:02:23.680 training there you did yep yeah looking all handsome yeah you do that's right what's going on you oh

00:02:33.660 nothing much man you know i uh i had to steal one of your vans you did you stake the bike too

00:02:40.320 no no the bikes are there so we move from bikes to vans yeah that's right that's right what van

00:02:44.700 dude i'll be i have a van the gray one yeah what the gray sprinter van yeah you got like two of the

00:02:49.500 gray back there oh the weed van oh yeah dude i'll be i just feel like that's the weed transport

00:02:56.440 it used to be i think yeah i think we upgraded i think we upgraded yeah but no i uh dude i did feel

00:03:02.760 like uh like i was doing i was doing some nefarious shit with it though you know what i'm saying i was 0.94

00:03:07.180 just what'd you use it for trash trash yeah yeah i got big bags of trash so you just trashed out the 0.93

00:03:12.940 inside of our van huh no no no i listen clean and swept i know the standard oh yeah yeah we got the

00:03:18.320 standards all right you know how's the house coming along uh you know it's it's actually uh we're about

00:03:22.860 92 percent done 92 92 percent done there's still so that means that eight percent will not be ever done

00:03:29.300 probably my little contract dude my kind of shout out to my contract awesome dude uh i've had a lot

00:03:38.640 of really awesome people help me out with this but uh he told me like we were going through he's like

00:03:42.940 man listen if you don't do this right now you're never fucking doing it again like don't lie to 0.92

00:03:46.220 yourself either you're gonna do it right now or you're not fucking doing it yeah i'm like all right 0.95

00:03:49.100 we'll fucking do it yep but no it's going good though man it's going good house looks great 0.99

00:03:53.440 you know what'd you learn uh never do this shit again that's right that's what i learned 0.99

00:03:57.240 that's right bro listen i'm done i know everybody's like oh dude why don't you build 1.00

00:04:03.260 something or do this bro i'm never building the motherfucking thing again in my entire life 0.95

00:04:07.220 that garage wore me out that was i got ptsd bro bro never happening i'm moving into somebody 0.93

00:04:14.640 three-year project wasn't it yeah and three times as much as it was supposed to be three times as

00:04:20.140 long as it was supposed to be well dude probably my house dude is like my house was built in 1970

00:04:24.940 and so like every time i fucking peeled something back found like a body thousands of dollars right 0.95

00:04:30.160 there like just just dumping coming out of the walls bro like i wish shit i wish yeah no i'm putting 0.98

00:04:35.660 this shit into the wall yeah that's the problem man it's uh you know it's a learning experience 0.98

00:04:40.960 though you know and uh it's been good it's been good yeah but yeah never again i'm glad it wasn't me 0.99

00:04:46.960 i'll die in that house no you won't i'm done bro the whole thing is you just got to move into 0.94

00:04:51.760 other people's masterpieces yeah that's right you know that's right and deal with the stress that's

00:04:55.500 right yeah yeah well i mean dude whoever buys my house next they'll be pretty happy yeah i'm never 0.90

00:04:59.640 doing it you know fucking never never never happening again oh man yeah but uh yeah beautiful day 0.97

00:05:08.020 let's uh bro when shit starts to get built now i just fucking leave he's just he's out and look at 0.99

00:05:13.360 he's just out yeah yeah no it's uh it's good though man beautiful day got a 70 degrees outside 0.99

00:05:20.300 yeah 29 tomorrow dude what fuck this place man oh yeah bro i'm with you bro look 20 i'm so sick 0.99

00:05:28.180 of this body 70 today 29 tomorrow that's insane like i don't even understand how that works yeah 0.99

00:05:34.160 i don't understand but you know that's a great day it's our punishment for being domestic terror

00:05:39.380 i was about to say what do we do it's our punishment for speaking against israel

00:05:43.160 just like they say oh man all right well yeah dude let's uh let's make some people better today let's

00:05:51.600 do it uh it's a beautiful monday enough messing around let's get down to business oh yeah we do

00:05:57.360 have a live show tonight thank you manat 7 p.m central yeah cti live a lot of uh

00:06:05.380 current events that's right yeah and there's a lot of events that are current bro with us having

00:06:12.720 off last week man a lot of shit happened maybe that was a bad call a lot of yeah no more breaks 0.99

00:06:16.780 guys yeah fuck you guys shit yeah no there is a lot man but yeah check us out tonight guys 7 p.m central 0.99

00:06:22.420 um on the tube and twitter but um yeah let's make some people better i got three good ones for you 1.00

00:06:27.880 all right i know you do um guys andy question number one uh andy i'm 27

00:06:33.380 i see people my age already married buying houses or starting businesses and i feel like i missed

00:06:42.600 some memo i'm not lazy i show up to work but i don't feel like i'm building anything uh how do you

00:06:49.500 figure out what direction to move when you don't even know what you want i feel like i'm just behind

00:06:54.520 this ball need help well i mean i'll tell you this if you think showing up for work is doing 0.92

00:07:00.420 fucking something special then you're definitely behind the ball okay so let's get real about that 0.94

00:07:05.020 uh you're supposed to show up for work uh you're supposed to show up on time you're supposed to do 0.99

00:07:10.640 a good job these are the things of a functioning adult and uh minimum yeah like so uh yeah you are

00:07:17.540 behind bro real talk now i'm not saying you're behind because you're not making any money because

00:07:23.280 i'll tell you what when i was 27 years old i moved back in with my dad because i was so broke

00:07:26.820 all right so that's not what i'm talking about but what i am talking about is that your standard 0.97

00:07:31.480 is fucking bullshit all right and i can tell by the way that you wrote the question oh i show up to 0.99

00:07:36.480 work what the fuck are you talking about bro that's the what like what can you expect if that's your 1.00

00:07:42.840 standard right i'm doing it yeah you're not really doing it you think showing up's a win 1.00

00:07:48.120 all right so you got to understand winning isn't for everybody kicking ass is not for everybody 0.98

00:07:55.320 building a great life is not for everybody and it sure as fuck isn't for the people that just 0.95

00:07:59.260 quote unquote show up for work all right so if you actually want something and you actually want to be

00:08:05.640 better you're going to have to understand those standards have to raise now you may not know what

00:08:11.420 you want to do but have you actually thought about it have you actually sat down and planned it out

00:08:16.200 have you actually sat down and said hey this would be cool for me to do have you sat down and said

00:08:21.160 you know if i could do anything this is what i would do because i would be happy and it would

00:08:27.700 provide enough income for myself and the way i want to live have you thought about those things

00:08:31.480 because those are the things that people don't think about and then they act surprised when nothing

00:08:37.060 materializes and they end up in their you know 40s and they're like what happened okay well here's what

00:08:43.240 happened time went by and time is going by right now and you're still at a massive advantage because 0.93

00:08:49.400 you're 27 years old but if you keep fucking around and thinking that your standard is i'm gonna show up 0.96

00:08:54.980 for work and things are just gonna happen uh it's not gonna happen it's never gonna happen so you have 0.99

00:09:00.920 to come to that understanding and understand that yeah you may think that's not fair you may think that

00:09:06.100 that's uh you know and by the way it is fucking fair it's totally fair all right we got all these 0.99

00:09:13.100 people crying about how unfair shit is well the motherfuckers that you look up to who have built 0.99

00:09:18.040 things that you want to be like and those people did a lot of shit you didn't do and they got the 0.99

00:09:22.760 fair return on that on that investment you're getting the return on your investment so this whole idea 0.94

00:09:28.440 of what's fair and what's not fair is fucking ridiculous okay for the last 27 years bro i haven't done 0.98

00:09:35.420 anything but build my shit all right i what have you what have you done sir for 27 years i bet you 1.00

00:09:42.560 you drank water you fucking took shits you ate food and you slept and those are probably the only things 1.00

00:09:49.020 that you could say you've done for 27 years straight i've done this for 27 years that's why my life looks 1.00

00:09:55.640 the way that it does and that's why people who haven't done that their life looks the way that it does and

00:10:01.680 i'm not saying that everybody wants to do what i do but whatever level of success or whatever level

00:10:07.340 of success that you're after you're gonna have to realize that it's gonna take a lot more than

00:10:11.920 you know just existing and breathing okay so you know this whole idea and unfortunately dude you grew

00:10:20.160 up in a time where people were told that everything was supposed to be equal and everything was supposed 0.95

00:10:25.440 you were special for being born and you get a trophy for showing the fuck up no you don't 0.99

00:10:30.380 that's all bullshit that's all lies that's all been propaganda to to train an entire generation and 1.00

00:10:37.400 not do anything so that they can be miserable angry mad at the rich people so they're easy to easy to 0.99

00:10:43.360 control and get them to buy into like communism all right so i commend you for not thinking that way

00:10:50.060 but you're gonna have to adjust your thinking in terms of what it is uh that you're willing to do

00:10:55.100 to get what you want because i'm gonna tell you right now dude a passive attitude or even an average

00:10:59.580 attitude isn't gonna get it it's gonna have to be hot it's gonna be hard it's gonna be the hardest

00:11:05.120 thing you ever fucking did you're gonna have to force it into reality and i think that's one of the 0.90

00:11:09.200 biggest misconceptions that people have about success is that they think that like you know if if you just 0.98

00:11:16.660 show the fuck up and you know you try a little bit that things will materialize bro we're talking about 0.81

00:11:22.400 the national championship here we're talking about the super bowl here we're talking about the most 0.99

00:11:26.560 ruthless competition that there you could ever compete in which is business and life and it takes

00:11:33.340 that level of commitment and that level of effort to get to that point and if you're not willing to

00:11:37.820 give it you can't be mad about where you're where you're at now i'm saying all this because you're 27

00:11:42.980 years old and you still have a chance to fix it but when you're in your 50s

00:11:46.740 and there's lots of people to figure out this when they're in their 50s

00:11:52.060 you're kind of fucked okay because you don't have the relationships built you don't have the 0.60

00:11:59.700 connections built you don't have the ability to uh you know earn the way that you would when you're 1.00

00:12:05.280 younger so oh but 80 colonel sanders were yeah that's true that's true that's an anomaly all right

00:12:11.140 and there's lots of people here's the good thing the way technology is now there's lots of opportunity

00:12:17.800 for older people to to change things very quickly but uh it's still more difficult for them than it is

00:12:24.580 for people who are 27 or 20 or 25 and this whole idea of like fucking off your 20s until you figure out 0.68

00:12:31.100 what you want to do dude you just wasted a valuable decade to put into your foundation of what you're

00:12:37.360 going to have for your whole life so this whole idea of these people saying oh your 20s are for

00:12:42.100 fun and this and that and this and that you know yeah okay but there's a price that you're trading for

00:12:49.300 that and people don't realize that that's 10 years where someone else who's the same age as you who's the

00:12:55.380 same ability as you that dedicated that 10 years is going to be 10 years ahead man they might even be 0.77

00:13:02.320 dumber than you they might have less skills than you they're still going to be 10 years ahead 0.59

00:13:05.300 so this whole idea of young people taking it easy and just going with the flow 0.99

00:13:11.620 it it's a it's a it's a bad idea for people that want to achieve things it just is and uh not only

00:13:18.740 is it a bad idea because of the time you waste it's a bad idea because of the habits you build

00:13:23.100 all right you build this habit of like you know leisurely existence and uh that becomes very hard

00:13:29.140 to change as you get older now can you change it for sure um i would highly recommend you know the

00:13:34.200 live hard program because that helps keep these things in check but um you know ultimately dude

00:13:40.200 you've got to sit down you've got to think about where you want to be you've got to say hey this

00:13:45.960 is what i would like my life to look like this is my ideal job this is what i and you can't think oh

00:13:51.260 well i could never do that you've just got to start building it and the one thing that you know i think

00:13:59.020 young people lack perspective on is that you know these people that you look up to and they they have 0.54

00:14:04.120 this life that you want those people are not any different than you do they just execute different

00:14:08.400 they do things they understand about setting a goal out here in the future and then backtracking

00:14:13.840 it into daily actions that you execute against to get to that point it's no different than going from

00:14:19.060 here to los angeles bro like yeah that's a long walk but if you never start walking you're never

00:14:26.060 going to get there and if you do start walking you will get there and that's reality so um you know

00:14:31.840 most people spend more time planning vacations or weekends or their trips or this or that then they

00:14:38.500 spend deciding what it is they want for their whole lives and then they get upset that they don't get it

00:14:42.820 i mean it doesn't it's not confusing to me you know so i don't understand why it's confusing to 0.97

00:14:47.540 everybody else but my advice to you would be to take a fucking day sit down outline what it is you want 0.92

00:14:54.160 to do ideally not like what you think you can do based upon your skill set now because you could 0.98

00:14:59.300 develop all the skills to do these things make a plan say this is what i want this is the kind of

00:15:04.260 money i want to earn this is what i want to do and then i would start working towards that plan

00:15:09.180 that's what the operator standard does the operator standard does this literally for you uh plus a

00:15:15.740 whole bunch of other shit but it's not open right now so you can't get in um but that's the gist man 0.73

00:15:23.180 and it's very very simple but people just don't take the time to do it dude the idea of just showing 0.82

00:15:28.020 up though like when you were talking about it made me think of like imagine had tom brady 0.97

00:15:32.160 just showed up to the super bowl like he would have gotten his ass beat bro i don't know what that 0.87

00:15:38.980 is i like like i'm here i know i'm tom brady i mean one of the one of the biggest pet peeves for me 0.98

00:15:44.580 is when people say things like i do what i'm supposed to do i show up i work hard bro that's

00:15:52.880 the fucking minimum that is the minimum that's the minimum working hard is the minimum okay you've 0.92

00:15:59.560 also have to develop skills you also have to develop grit and perseverance to execute when you don't feel 0.99

00:16:05.460 like it because guess what most of the time you're not going to feel like it so there's all kinds of

00:16:10.780 things that come into play here but i can tell you this it certainly isn't easy and you're certainly

00:16:14.760 not going to get where you want to go thinking that you're winning every day by showing up and

00:16:18.180 working hard that's not enough it's just not there's no trophies yeah and the and the price

00:16:22.420 you're going to pay for not doing it is going to be much worse than the discomfort that you're

00:16:27.000 going to pay now by doing it all right because you don't want to be the guy who's 47 years old 0.98

00:16:32.780 having to get a second job at fucking taco bell because you didn't take your life serious 0.97

00:16:37.600 all right and unfortunately a lot of people end up that way and you don't want to do that 0.98

00:16:43.060 so don't i love it i i just think it's like um

00:16:48.840 i say this a lot but there's a drastic misunderstanding that happens with people

00:16:58.940 of what they think success takes and what it actually takes and with most people

00:17:05.020 it's a fucking 10 000 miles away you know what i'm saying it's i don't know who told them this 0.89

00:17:11.940 but they believe they literally believe that if they go to work do what they're told and execute 0.98

00:17:18.380 their job that someone's going to come to them and say hey here's this this new thing here's this new

00:17:23.340 paycheck here's this new opportunity when in reality dude nobody opens the door to opportunities they 0.99

00:17:28.760 don't open you have to kick them the fuck down you have to take the opportunities they're not given 0.96

00:17:33.100 they're not granted they're not you know hey welcome to the club the door actually slams in 1.00

00:17:38.120 your fucking face over and over and over again and it comes down to your willingness to kick the 1.00

00:17:42.360 motherfucker down that determines how far you're gonna go okay so it has to be by force and anybody 1.00

00:17:49.580 who tells you different doesn't know what the fuck they're talking about and i bet you anybody that 1.00

00:17:53.440 tells you different they say oh you could just manifest these doors open and blah blah blah blah blah i guarantee 1.00

00:17:58.340 you they they are either broke or they make all their money spewing that bullshit yeah they haven't 0.89

00:18:03.680 actually built things so yeah you know i you guys got to get your minds right bro and what it takes 0.98

00:18:09.600 and uh accept the price up front you know when when you know people complain about the process and how

00:18:18.120 hard it is most of the pain that comes from it is that you're constantly arguing with yourself

00:18:25.400 if the price is worth it yeah okay you're trying to negotiate yes you're like oh dude is it done yet

00:18:31.060 am i there yet am i gonna like how's it going can i stop working yet and you gotta reframe that to 0.99

00:18:36.660 like hey motherfucker i'm never gonna fucking stop nothing's ever gonna stop me you could build a 1.00

00:18:40.840 fucking bank vault in front of me i'm gonna kick that fucker in and i'm gonna make it happen 1.00

00:18:44.100 and that's the attitude you gotta have it's gotta be the complete opposite of man am i there yet to 1.00

00:18:48.880 i don't care what the fuck it takes i and real talk i don't care what it takes i do not 0.97

00:18:53.980 fucking care i don't care who stands in front of me i don't care who slams the door because i know 0.99

00:18:59.020 that that door is coming open even if they don't know it yet so and that's the attitude you have 0.98

00:19:03.820 to have you don't have that attitude you're not going to get very far oh man so i love it dude

00:19:08.520 i love it let's go guys any question number two uh andy my service-based business uh is finally

00:19:16.640 making some money there you go uh but cash flow is a mess okay i'm constantly moving money around

00:19:22.040 paying things late stressing about payroll from the outside it looks successful uh but how do you 0.99

00:19:27.560 actually regain control once things are already chaotic well you got to sit down and fucking break 0.97

00:19:34.140 it break it down and by the way let me start with this um almost all businesses run that way at least 0.75

00:19:40.620 for a period of time okay like there's no business that you just turn on and it's just flush with cash and

00:19:48.020 you can just do everything you want you know part of growing a business is the dance that you have

00:19:56.000 to do with cash flow to allocate it where it needs to be to the most important part that affects you

00:20:01.720 now and uh paying late sometimes or you know being stressed or having to move money around that's just

00:20:08.140 called entrepreneurship dude and welcome to the club yeah you don't want to make habits of you don't

00:20:14.040 want to make habits of those things but let's be real dude every business that starts off starts in

00:20:18.840 the same position so uh the reason i say all this is because i don't want you to feel like it's just you

00:20:23.420 that's every business okay um dude secondly the best thing that you could do is to get like a really

00:20:31.860 good bookkeeper someone that can like that is very familiar with cash flow and how to allocate it where

00:20:37.620 it needs to go you don't got to get a cpa yet or a cfo but a very strong bookkeeper that can help you

00:20:44.220 manage the cash coming in and uh that is an investment that will pay for itself exponentially

00:20:49.900 that you can make now even when cash is tight because it's not that expensive that will make a huge

00:20:57.080 difference another thing you can do is you could just teach yourself how to do it um you know we didn't

00:21:02.600 have complicated accounting uh or bookkeeping for a very long time and we chris and i just did it on

00:21:11.180 excel so i mean there's no right or wrong way to do it but now we live in this age where there's all

00:21:17.220 this great software there's all these great technologies um there's very smart people and you

00:21:24.520 have to lean into that because these are skills that you don't have yet yeah yeah on this part about

00:21:29.560 being chaotic right in entrepreneurship in the business when things are you know quote unquote 0.94

00:21:35.080 shit hitting the fan right how do you manage what fires is it simply off of what's the biggest fire

00:21:41.220 or like hey this fire if i don't address this small one now it's gonna get like how do you both how do 0.99

00:21:45.180 you do that listen chaos is entrepreneurship yeah there it's it's not when when does it get chaotic 0.98

00:21:51.640 it's chaotic by nature okay it's a shit show all the time there's no real entrepreneur i don't care 0.99

00:21:58.820 if they're selling you know uh seashells or jeff bezos where their shit isn't chaotic shores yeah 0.98

00:22:05.660 right it's a chaotic choice of uh profession by nature and it takes someone who is either very 0.84

00:22:14.000 good at handling chaos or someone who can acclimate to handling chaos to do it and uh you know the first

00:22:22.920 few years you do it it's going to stress you the fuck out but just like anything we talk about 0.73

00:22:27.260 performance uh acclimation once you start to live in that it becomes just normal and you don't get

00:22:34.040 like freaked out or stressed out and i know that's hard to uh i know that's hard to imagine now but you

00:22:41.480 start to get to a point where you're like okay this is just the way it is and when you address these fires

00:22:49.440 to your question you have to be good at trying to figure out where the priorities are in the heat

00:22:57.380 of the moment okay it's no different than like you're in a battle okay and you're running a you're

00:23:02.920 running a platoon okay and that we have this plan and the plan is we're going to sneak up the mountain 0.56

00:23:08.120 and we're going to do this shit but we get halfway up the mountain and we find out they already thought 0.99

00:23:12.800 of that all right and they're kicking our ass well then we got to make a fucking move and we got to pull 0.99

00:23:16.680 everybody back we got to go around the other side and this is it's it's like a it's like a it's like 0.98

00:23:23.340 conducting an orchestra okay and there's always a section that's not right and you have to be able to

00:23:29.580 identify that address those things big and small okay and at first when you start off you're going to

00:23:36.920 only see the big fires okay i feel like that's what people would want to focus on you're only going

00:23:41.140 to see it because you don't have the perspective to know that the small fires turn into the big

00:23:46.100 ones so when you first start you're going to see the big fires pop up and you're going to be like

00:23:52.020 all right i got yeah holy shit i got to address that okay but what happens is is as you gain the

00:23:57.940 skill set of just experience of running a company you start to identify the little fires when they're

00:24:05.820 first starting okay and that just comes with experience um you know you get to a point where

00:24:12.560 little remarks that happen from your employees you already know where that can go right like an

00:24:19.260 employee says something that doesn't sound right and you're like okay well last time i heard this this

00:24:26.120 turned into a big fucking ordeal let me go address this now correct so you start to like identify these 0.88

00:24:31.620 things quicker and more accurately as you go that's a normal process so that's there's not there's nothing 0.95

00:24:40.460 that can teach you that you just have to go and that's i think a big thing about entrepreneurship

00:24:45.360 that people don't understand is like there is no set rule book yes there's there's uh there's common 0.60

00:24:52.540 practices that are good ideas right like uh don't spend more money than you fucking have right uh you 0.95

00:24:58.700 know but outside of these these uh you know generally accepted practices it's like anything dude you know

00:25:06.360 anybody listening that's ever had a job did you learn your job uh before you started or did you

00:25:11.360 learn it after right did you learn uh you know you went through training and and all these things 0.95

00:25:17.400 did you learn more actually on the job or did you learn more in training every fucking person in the 0.98

00:25:23.060 world every job in the world doesn't matter if you're a fucking doctor doesn't matter how specialized 0.97

00:25:28.040 your profession is you really can't learn it until you're doing it and this is the same with 0.73

00:25:33.360 entrepreneurship people think that they can get certified or you know have a great mentor and

00:25:38.400 they're gonna you know gather all this knowledge but dude information doesn't equal results execution

00:25:43.680 equals results so you can sit there and be the smartest theoretical quote-unquote information-filled

00:25:51.500 entrepreneur but if you never go it doesn't matter and it doesn't create anything and you know we see a lot

00:25:59.360 of this online right like how many of these people are given entrepreneurship advice when their whole

00:26:04.000 business is giving advice they've never actually proven themselves to build anything all right so a lot

00:26:09.520 of things sound good but the reality is you're never going to develop the skills until you go and uh

00:26:15.300 that's something that people greatly misunderstand yeah i want to ask you this too on on on the fires

00:26:21.740 right we're on this topic do you notice too that like you know some of the fires that you thought

00:26:27.520 were these massive fucking wildfires happening you know 20 years ago are nothing now they're nothing

00:26:33.240 now yeah yeah for sure like like how what what what changes is it is that that's just acclimation 0.93

00:26:38.880 yeah and and by the way increased skill set okay like when you've seen uh something happen three or

00:26:47.400 four times over your career you start to recognize not just how to prevent it but also how to solve it

00:26:53.720 immediately okay so like this big fire the first time it happens you know uh usually people's big

00:26:59.760 fire in entrepreneurship comes from owing taxes all right almost everybody goes through a thing where 0.99

00:27:05.060 they get this letter in the mail and it's this absurd amount of and they're like fuck and it sucks okay 0.96

00:27:11.040 but what happens you you you address it when the first time then maybe it happens a little bit again 0.99

00:27:16.820 and then then you start to you know understand how to keep that from happening yeah um

00:27:21.260 we realize it's not that big of a problem well yes you gain the confidence in the in your own skill

00:27:27.520 set and ability to solve the problem and when you know how to solve the problem the anxiety doesn't

00:27:35.000 exist anymore right like the problems that really cause you stress as a seasoned entrepreneur are the

00:27:40.860 ones that you just don't know the answer to like when we have a problem in any of the companies

00:27:45.960 and it's something that's happened before it's very easy to walk in talk to sal or jason or chris

00:27:53.160 and say hey we fucking saw this we got to do this and they already know right but and and by the way 0.90

00:28:00.140 as your company matures and you get better leaders the leaders will know that ahead of time and you will 0.89

00:28:05.000 stop seeing those things um which can be good and bad sometimes depending on who you have

00:28:09.540 but at the end of the day man you know as your skills grow as you become more seasoned these things

00:28:17.460 that pop up and happen to you become no different than your shoe got untied you know how to tie your

00:28:24.020 shoe yeah okay it's not a fucking big deal you're out doing something your shoe gets untied you're 0.95

00:28:28.520 like fuck all right tie it yeah right it's it's it's that so but but it's hard to understand that 0.98

00:28:35.400 when you're at the beginning you don't have that perspective yeah it's very hard is it funny too 0.98

00:28:40.740 like you have like i guess when you started having employees and started putting the managers right 0.80

00:28:44.820 and they come to you with fucking problems that you've already seen before and handled like 0.95

00:28:47.720 is that like i imagine that kind of be like a little fun like dude you're freaking out for nothing 0.99

00:28:51.700 no that's not what you do no no not at all you you let them freak out okay and then you say

00:28:57.220 you say well how do you think we should solve it and they'll say you know either the right way

00:29:04.680 or they'll say the wrong way if they say the right way you say that's that i think that's a good idea

00:29:09.760 go try that you don't say hey i fucking know that's the right idea yeah right okay because then you 0.95

00:29:15.140 remove the teaching moment from the situation a bad leader a leader that will never be able to scale 0.51

00:29:22.400 will always solve those problems and then here's what happens your leadership's never develop your 0.99

00:29:27.960 leaders never develop into actual leaders because they know that you'll solve the fucking problem no 0.98

00:29:32.140 matter what so you have to be able to look at them and say all right well what do you think you 0.98

00:29:36.660 should do and by the way if they say the wrong thing you would say something like this

00:29:41.920 i don't know man what about this and you would make a suggestion and then they'll be like i don't know

00:29:50.740 you know and i'll say okay well what about this and you kind of you kind of coach them into finding

00:29:55.700 the right path yeah and then you let them go execute and then they learn and then they gain the

00:29:59.980 confidence and then they become a better leader and then next time that problem shows up they know

00:30:04.700 how to handle it okay but poor leaders will just solve the problem and then your employees will learn

00:30:10.700 that you'll just start solve the problem so they'll never develop this is a big problem and and and uh

00:30:15.840 people who run like a you know let's say a three or four man operation and they scale to like a 40

00:30:21.680 or 100 they you because you can't keep up with that it's impossible yeah so you have to learn

00:30:27.620 it's not about delegating as it is about having a teaching moment so that then they can just handle 0.99

00:30:34.840 it on their own if you delegate shit to people that don't know what the fuck they're doing they'll 0.99

00:30:38.660 fuck your business up all right i'm gonna say they got to be a hard position for an entrepreneur to be 0.99

00:30:43.160 in right because the you're supposed to be solving your fucking problems right so it's like that's got 1.00

00:30:48.000 to be a hard hard thing to be like okay no you go you don't say like like that's got to be difficult 0.98

00:30:52.400 well and there's levels to problems too right like let's say there's a five alarm fire and you 0.99

00:30:57.560 don't have time to fuck around then you move motherfuckers do this exactly that's right right 1.00

00:31:02.540 and then but then there's an important part to that too okay you bring them with you all right hey 1.00

00:31:08.540 look we're gonna fucking solve this right now you go solve it and then after you solve it you turn 0.94

00:31:13.780 around you say okay what did i do you did this and this and this why did i do that because of this 0.95

00:31:19.080 and this and this and you still turn it into a moment where they can learn from your actions

00:31:23.220 but that's never as good as letting them come up with the answer on their own i love it dude yeah

00:31:27.460 i love it man i love it guys andy we got one more question we got a third and final question

00:31:32.200 question number three um andy i've changed a lot in the last couple of years uh my habits my mindset

00:31:41.420 priorities and some people close to me clearly don't like the new version of me

00:31:47.520 but my question is how do you know when you're outgrowing people versus you're just becoming an 0.96

00:31:53.320 asshole like we talk about this quite a bit right moving up you know uh no man's land things like 0.98

00:31:59.500 that but how do you know you're really moving up and how do you know you're not just being a 1.00

00:32:02.400 fucking asshole is there a test for this like how do you do this listen 1.00

00:32:06.980 not everybody wants what the fuck you want okay and when people are around you and they've been 1.00

00:32:16.340 around you your whole life they believe and you have to think about this okay nobody's ever been 0.96

00:32:25.060 anybody but themselves and most people look at themselves and believe that their way of doing

00:32:33.500 things is the right way of doing things because you know they're alive they're able to have some

00:32:38.840 beers they're able to go to dinner once in a while they drive a decent car they have a decent house

00:32:43.540 these people believe that their way is the right way and so a lot of this comes from 0.77

00:32:51.380 them seeing you kind of go off of that and them thinking oh man he's gonna fucking end up broke 0.79

00:32:58.520 because the idea of and by the way you might a few times okay that's another thing that comes with 0.81

00:33:03.640 entrepreneurship you're gonna fucking fall and you're gonna be embarrassed and you're gonna need 0.96

00:33:07.660 money and things are gonna happen and that's that's the game that's what happens um it's your 0.94

00:33:13.280 ability to push through those things that actually seasons you and skills you to the point that you

00:33:17.460 need to be but the reality is dude is you have to understand man like unless you want exactly what

00:33:26.980 the fuck they have you shouldn't be listening to them and you should be able to like hear what they're 0.68

00:33:32.560 saying and not let it affect you you know um and that goes on for a long time you know until you get 1.00

00:33:39.100 to a point where your results are completely fucking undeniable that you know what the fuck you're doing 0.89

00:33:44.820 and it was a great thing people are going to question it and they're going to doubt it and even now like 0.97

00:33:49.560 in my position you know i still get people that they don't doubt my ability dude it's funny because

00:33:55.240 it moves from oh don't do that or remember where you came from or that's for other people or be 1.00

00:34:02.820 careful or don't you know you're getting you need to be a little more hump it goes from that shit 0.99

00:34:07.500 to when you're like winning then it goes well i bet he's not happy you know what i i you know you 0.99

00:34:14.080 need to be miserable you need to take some time to smell the roses you know because now i'm not being

00:34:19.240 judged on the fact of whether or not i could build what i wanted to build now i'm being judged on is it

00:34:24.620 worth it what it took and by the way it may not be worth it to them because there is an extreme

00:34:29.620 price that you have to pay to to build things like we talked about in the first question that's not

00:34:34.700 for everyone but if you spend your whole life trying to appease people who are not on the same

00:34:40.580 path as you it's only a matter of time before you get pulled into that thinking again it's like a 0.84

00:34:45.360 fucking tractor beam that you see in the space movies right like it captures you and this is the 0.94

00:34:50.960 importance of you being able to mentally disconnect from people's advice that aren't on the same path 0.99

00:34:57.120 as you if you emotionally get disturbed every time your old friends or your your parents or you know

00:35:04.480 whoever it might be says something to you if that bothers you you have to you have to change that dude

00:35:11.700 because that's never going to change that's something that comes along with straying off the

00:35:16.120 path that's what they see it as they see it as you're straying off the path you see it as i'm

00:35:22.140 gonna be great all right we're not seeing the same thing here because they've never seen it remember this

00:35:28.820 dude most people don't know anybody that's built something most people don't know somebody who drives 0.76

00:35:37.500 a fucking ferrari or has become financially successful or built a major company they don't 0.89

00:35:42.620 they see it on instagram but they don't know someone they don't so if they don't see it 0.99

00:35:48.520 they don't believe it okay and this is why we talk about personal excellence being the ultimate rebellion

00:35:55.840 because most people have never seen it so whose responsibility is it to show them that it's well

00:36:02.740 that's yours okay and that's where our obligation to be personally excellent comes from because when we're

00:36:09.660 excellent other people see it and they're like fuck if dj did it i can do it okay and that creates 0.84

00:36:15.980 a ripple effect through society that we're lacking right now about people's belief in their own 0.94

00:36:21.040 abilities to be great and if we have great individuals we have a great culture if we have a great culture

00:36:25.520 we have a great country because culture dominates everything everything in the country is downstream

00:36:30.420 from culture culture is dictated by the individual's behavior at collective so this is the whole reason we

00:36:37.320 started operator standards why i built this tech uh it's going to be the greatest consumer product of

00:36:42.040 fucking all time and uh you know it's going to fix what's going on in society at scale but 0.83

00:36:48.420 but the reality is is that we have to first accept that it is our responsibility to show people 0.99

00:36:53.880 and they're not going to believe at first i like dude i can't like look man nobody fucking believed in 0.93

00:37:00.960 in me no fucking nobody fucking nobody okay were there people that said hey man i'm proud of you 0.98

00:37:08.080 for continuing to work yeah were there people that said hey it's cool what you're doing yeah but the 1.00

00:37:13.560 minute that you walk away those people are like fuck dude i don't know if he's gonna fucking make it 0.99

00:37:18.460 okay so the belief is never there it's never fucking there that's why you have to build yourself into 0.99

00:37:25.080 someone that you trust that you believe in that has the skills that has the discipline because like

00:37:31.240 we talk about all the time dude if you have a place that you're going and you have a plan to get there

00:37:37.380 the only element that you need past that is the ability to execute the ability to execute comes from

00:37:44.260 building discipline and mental toughness if you could become mentally tough if you could develop grit

00:37:49.280 fortitude perseverance discipline self-confidence self-confidence self-belief and you build the

00:37:56.000 ability to adhere to a plan then success becomes a very simple thing it's just execute on the plan

00:38:03.660 but where most people fail is they don't know the outcome they they don't know what it's going to take on a 0.90

00:38:09.720 daily basis to get there and they sure as fuck don't have the ability to follow the plan so they don't 0.98

00:38:14.840 have any of the three elements but the three elements are very simple where the fuck you going 0.99

00:38:18.500 what do you got to do today to get there and do you execute when you don't fucking feel like it 0.90

00:38:24.200 because you're not going to feel like it most of the time so if you combine those three things where 0.72

00:38:28.300 you have the ability to execute you have the plan you have the outcome it's just as simple as executing 0.96

00:38:33.400 and this is why we say you know you cannot fucking beat someone that will be able to execute on good 0.99

00:38:39.900 days and bad days no matter what the fuck is going on that person cannot be beat they cannot be beat by 1.00

00:38:45.160 anything or anyone because it doesn't matter if the whole world's coming down on their motherfucking 0.99

00:38:49.620 head bro it doesn't matter if they're having a nervous breakdown it doesn't matter if things are 0.99

00:38:55.840 shitty it doesn't it doesn't fucking matter none of the other shit matters they're still going to get 0.99

00:38:59.760 their shit done like dude um and that's that's something you develop okay i didn't really start 0.99

00:39:06.120 developing that until i was 36 years old wow okay so you can get to a certain level pretty far yeah 0.99

00:39:14.200 you can get to a certain bro we you know when i figured it out we we had a hundred plus million

00:39:18.240 dollar company but you can get pretty far kind of kind of half-assing it but like if you want to get

00:39:25.040 if you want to get there fast like like had i known that on day one of my business journey i would

00:39:30.720 have got where i'm at like now in 10 years i would have got i would have went instead of 25 years it 0.96

00:39:36.180 would have been 10 all right but you know it's simple it's just a fucking it's simple bro it's 0.99

00:39:43.660 simple it's simple it's simple is it easy no it's very difficult but it's simple as fuck and um 0.99

00:39:50.280 you know this idea that we're that we're you know kind of propagated into that there's like this magic 0.99

00:39:58.100 or this club or there's like this fraternity or you know the fucking illuminati or whatever right 0.99

00:40:05.240 that like allows you to come in and then dictates what that that's not how the fuck it works bro 0.99

00:40:10.700 how it works is this you execute you produce results people above you start to respect that 1.00

00:40:17.380 and they start to say hey that motherfucker's a go-getter he's a killer dude i want to know that 0.99

00:40:21.980 guy because as you get older you start to realize i gotta play ball with the young guys i want to i 0.99

00:40:27.900 want to bring the young guys in i want to be surrounded with the young winners and that's a

00:40:33.060 great thing for someone who's young that produces results um but at the end of the day bro there's no 0.82

00:40:40.080 secret there's no club there's no mystical fucking success fairy that comes down and says oh dj i grant 0.98

00:40:47.340 you the power to be successful that's how the fuck it works and i thought that's how it worked for a long 0.99

00:40:52.060 time you know for a long time i was wondering when i was going to get the break or when i was going to 0.98

00:40:58.300 get the call or when i was going to feel like i made it and you know what none of that ever happened

00:41:03.580 i still don't feel like i've made it and anybody around me knows that that's not bullshit like that

00:41:09.960 sounds like i know i know for a lot of you guys you know you probably think oh well he's just saying

00:41:16.520 that no dude not really like i'm definitely afraid of having to go dig ditches and and while that might

00:41:22.440 not be true that that's where i would end up in my mind that's what i think and that's a good thing

00:41:27.500 i don't want to lose that yeah you know what i mean because i don't ever take it for granted dude

00:41:31.460 yeah and and i don't think anybody here does i i know they don't no you know no dude i was thinking

00:41:36.900 about this too it's like you know you talk about this proverbial path right that most people are on

00:41:41.340 where it's safe it's comfortable right like there's there's consistency to it right and you

00:41:46.860 step off of that path to go build something do something crazy it made me think like how many

00:41:51.720 people the moment they stepped off that path and they started getting that you know the pushback or

00:41:57.340 the the doubts whatever and they they're like okay i'm just gonna come back to that that happens 0.95

00:42:01.180 that dude bro fuck man bro listen there are more amazing businesses more cures for disease 0.97

00:42:10.360 more culture shifting ideas 1.00

00:42:15.340 there are more there's more greatness in the motherfucking graveyard than there is in the 0.96

00:42:23.420 entire world because of what you just said people are afraid to step out and let their internal who 0.98

00:42:31.540 they were supposed to be shine because some losers say a couple things to them that's not doing anything 1.00

00:42:37.720 bro and you have to you have to understand they're them and you're you you're you're a fucking lion 1.00

00:42:47.360 they are a fucking mouse it's two different things you know i mean they're they're a fucking 1.00

00:42:55.700 they're a fucking race you're a race car they're a fucking bicycle it's two different things like you 1.00

00:43:02.200 can't operate the same and if you try to and you try to appease that you're gonna end up riding a 1.00

00:43:07.580 motherfucking bike just like them okay so we have to understand like all this shit that we read online 0.98

00:43:14.020 all this like feel good uh you know victimhood mentality you know uh feel good about doing nothing 1.00

00:43:25.140 take a break this that the other motherfucker you've been on a break your whole life that's why your life 0.99

00:43:28.900 looks like shit okay let's be fucking honest all right you know and i know and everybody else 1.00

00:43:34.160 fucking knows too it's inputs and outputs and if you don't have the fucking results you haven't you 1.00

00:43:39.320 haven't done the fucking work okay that's the reality and people will bitch and they will cry and 1.00

00:43:44.300 they'll complain and they'll say well i fucking worked hard for 20 years well yeah okay maybe you did 1.00

00:43:49.420 maybe you maybe for the last 20 years you did roofs and you work your fucking ass off there's not much 0.99

00:43:55.780 harder than doing a roof but in 20 years you're still doing roofs why is that well you didn't learn 1.00

00:44:00.960 any new skills you you know what's fucked up you have the hardest part licked the ability to fucking 0.98

00:44:06.820 work hard all you have to do is take your time off and invest in other skill sets and start to leverage 0.98

00:44:13.800 those skill sets and continue to grow and then at some point make a jump from that to this and then use

00:44:20.060 the skill set of the discipline and the work ethic that you have i mean bro like who who works harder 0.94

00:44:26.500 than guys on a roof it's fucking hard it's hard you get up at fucking 3 30 in the morning and you work 0.98

00:44:32.140 till three in the afternoon and it's fucking hard as shit those dudes are tough they're hard workers 0.98

00:44:37.760 but very rarely do they make a jump to anything else not understanding that that work ethic would 0.99

00:44:42.800 fucking pay in exponential spades applying it with skill okay so it's not just work hard it's work 0.77

00:44:51.440 hard and get skilled and then apply the two together and um you know it's it's overly it's so simple that 0.98

00:45:01.580 i feel stupid talking about it i'm being real dude but but then i got to remember like there's a lot of

00:45:07.700 people that don't know that yet you know what i mean it's just it's i know it i know it like you

00:45:14.540 know gravity okay like i that's how sure i am of what i'm telling you it no different than you 0.92

00:45:22.420 stepping off the building on the top of the roof and hitting the fucking ground i know with that level 0.97

00:45:28.980 of confidence that what i'm telling you is how it works that's how it works i've seen this too many 0.97

00:45:33.320 times i've seen tens of hundreds of thousands of people at this point in my career do it okay and

00:45:39.620 there's no difference between you and them the only difference is they made a decision that they are

00:45:45.960 going to go here they they made the plan of where they're going to go and they develop the ability to 0.91

00:45:50.660 execute no matter what and if they do those three things dude you cannot fucking lose it dude it's 0.95

00:45:57.360 literally impossible it's impossible to lose it's impossible to lose if you do those three things 0.98

00:46:02.100 because who the fuck's going to stop you there's no magic success monster either that jumps out and 0.93

00:46:09.060 says no you're done kid you shall not pass like that's not how it works dude and and sometimes you 0.97

00:46:16.260 know little things do feel like i feel like that yeah that's right yeah but but they're not as long

00:46:20.400 as you keep your head down and keep moving you can't be stopped you know how many times

00:46:24.520 i've had bad things happen to me in public where the whole city or the whole country knows about it 0.99

00:46:30.940 and dude i just plug my fucking ears and i show up the next day and i keep executing and eventually 0.99

00:46:37.540 the noise goes away and i keep moving forward and it's funny because every time it happens i see all 0.99

00:46:43.860 the fucking little weasels come out and fucking pile on right and say oh hey for sell is done this time 1.00

00:46:49.680 got you bitch i'm never gonna be done because i wake up every motherfucking day and execute so it 1.00

00:46:56.700 doesn't matter what you say it doesn't matter what the world says doesn't matter what the internet 1.00

00:46:59.920 says what matters is what the fuck i do and i do that every single day and i've done that every 0.86

00:47:04.340 single day for a long enough time to where i understand that when bad things happen all i gotta 0.94

00:47:08.780 do is keep moving and to your point that's a skill okay so when you first start out and you first start

00:47:16.840 hearing these little chirps and these little things yeah dude it hurts but i'm gonna tell you how

00:47:21.800 you do it you're blessed to have it because here's the thing to this day i still remember all of those

00:47:29.500 remarks i remember who fucking said them i remember where i was when they said them and and there's a 0.95

00:47:35.260 whole lot of people that that uh conveniently don't remember they said those things oh yeah 0.94

00:47:39.000 you know because you know me yeah just like last night at dinner you don't forget what will i do

00:47:43.800 yeah i'll fucking straight up dude i'll say hey remember that time you told me this you're right 0.95

00:47:50.160 and they'll be i didn't say that and i do it just to make it awkward because i like that 0.94

00:47:53.980 like i like making it fucking awkward all right so you know but they they never remember and it's 0.91

00:48:01.200 okay it's okay it's okay i i didn't give you a reason to believe in me i hadn't proven myself 0.99

00:48:07.160 back then you know i look like a fucking idiot out there trying to do shit i don't look like an idiot 0.99

00:48:13.520 anymore okay well some of you guys might disagree but the point is is that eventually those voices 1.00

00:48:19.800 quiet you prove yourself and then it becomes something else it becomes you know you're too

00:48:26.660 focused on this or you know are you really happy or this or that or this and this and it it's just 1.00

00:48:31.860 always bullshit and if you can't put your earplugs in and separate the bullshit from everything else 1.00

00:48:38.260 you can't make it dude you know what i'm saying you gotta have yeah you gotta have selective hearing 1.00

00:48:43.060 and then there's the other part of that too like a lot of people will say 0.99

00:48:46.600 well because i'm not saying this fuck whatever they say well dude if you if you have the attitude 0.99

00:48:54.000 of fuck everybody else which is serves you in a lot of ways right like all those comments that i heard 0.99

00:49:00.120 when i don't want to do shit i remember those things to this day bro like if i don't want to get out of 1.00

00:49:05.100 bed i'll fucking cycle through all the shit people told me and i'll be like fuck them and i'll get the 1.00

00:49:09.660 fuck up that's valuable but here's where it becomes toxic when you have an attitude of fuck whatever 1.00

00:49:15.740 fuck everything everybody says you miss out on a lot of good a lot of good uh points that you 0.99

00:49:21.820 could improve because usually inside of criticism there's always like a shred of truth and a very 0.99

00:49:27.140 smart person will pick out the truth and fix that ahead of time make that adjust yeah they'll do it

00:49:34.640 proactively and you know that that leads into something else like a lot of people don't value

00:49:40.880 information properly you know uh you know they'll read a whole book and they'll say well i wasted six

00:49:50.440 hours reading that book because i you didn't get anything out of that book bro you didn't get one

00:49:54.320 sentence okay what if you if you read a book it took you six seven hours to read and you got one paragraph 0.67

00:50:00.020 that fucking made something click that means it was worth your time okay if you are uh you know like 0.93

00:50:06.740 let's just say operator standard or arte or something like that where it costs money okay 0.98

00:50:12.760 let's just say operator standard is 50 bucks a month i could promise you 1000 that there's going

00:50:20.880 to be a paragraph or there's going to be a a conversation or there's going to be a lesson

00:50:26.300 that is going to make you exponentially more money than you will ever spend in that by doing that

00:50:33.180 so you have to learn how to value information properly and winners value it properly they

00:50:38.780 understand that if i sit down and i invest uh 10 hours of my time learning something and i only get

00:50:45.220 one paragraph then it was worth that because that will make me x amount of dollars on the back side

00:50:51.000 you see what i'm saying like okay for example this little conversation that we just had about

00:50:56.900 um putting out fires before they start yeah that that little piece of information yeah listen that

00:51:02.780 little piece of information will make you if you're smart and you're executing it's going to make 0.98

00:51:09.340 you millions of dollars over the course of your life period okay and you got it for fucking free 0.93

00:51:14.020 but if you don't value it and you don't understand that you you know you you misjudge the value of 0.99

00:51:20.080 information you're you're you're just not a very intelligent person yeah you know most people

00:51:24.360 though right they don't think most stuff applies to them yeah but something does yeah something does

00:51:30.300 you know what i'm saying yeah man so a big difference between winners and losers is their 0.87

00:51:35.540 ability to value information properly and to be able to filter through the bullshit to figure out 0.64

00:51:41.860 what the thing is that could be some truth like for example you know people will say oh man everybody's 0.98

00:51:47.180 a hater not everybody's a fucking hater bro now some people will deliver messages and some people are 0.97

00:51:52.460 haters but sometimes those haters there's a piece in there that you can look at and move the emotion 0.99

00:51:58.820 out and say you know what they're right about that okay when i was fat when i was 350 fucking 1.00

00:52:05.620 pounds every time i post on the internet someone would be like oh you're a fat fuck and i'd be like 1.00

00:52:11.580 fuck fuck you man you're just a hater yeah you're just a fucking hater and then one day i woke up and 1.00

00:52:16.640 i'm like fuck i am a fat fuck you see what i'm saying and then i fixed it and by the way fixing that 1.00

00:52:23.380 has made me literally hundreds of millions of dollars okay 1.00

00:52:27.800 from fucking people that most people say oh he's a fucking hater fuck that person yeah like bro real 1.00

00:52:35.140 talk like haters are very valuable because they give you they don't care about your fucking feelings 1.00

00:52:42.020 all right so they give the most honest feedback if if it's if it's true okay you also have to have 0.96

00:52:47.960 the ability to say well that's not true right right um but if it is true that's some valuable

00:52:53.680 shit and uh we're not funny it switches now though like now that you're ripped and in shape now it's 0.94

00:52:58.320 like you just you just do steroids oh yeah breakfast lunch and dinner baby like yeah i'm like that's the 0.99

00:53:03.140 that's that like it's like it doesn't matter what it is or how long you're doing it you're gonna get 0.99

00:53:06.780 something yeah it is yeah yeah fuck man so yeah well dude i love it man that guy's andy 0.99

00:53:12.840 at the very least bro you got to be able to like haters provide lots of value okay they'll tell you 0.98

00:53:21.980 things that you can fix in a very honest way all right but then the other thing is if they are just 0.99

00:53:28.500 hating that shit that you could put in your fucking dark energy bank and draw upon it okay that if you 0.99

00:53:35.280 don't have a chip on your shoulder about the things people say about you and you can't draw that dark 1.00

00:53:41.160 energy and say fuck them i'm gonna fucking prove them wrong you're missing out on most of the 0.99

00:53:45.320 valuable energy that you have to drive because there's much more negativity than there is positivity 1.00

00:53:49.260 so these guys were like oh well fuck dude it's not about proving people wrong it's about proving 0.93

00:53:55.340 people right okay well there's not enough people that you could prove right when you're when you're 0.98

00:54:00.340 just starting out yeah so you have to be able to to harness that negativity and dude there's been 0.97

00:54:06.160 times where guys that are way above me have given me negativity and and that's the shit that really 0.99

00:54:11.620 fucking sticks you know i'm saying it's like all right bitch one day i'll be sitting across table 1.00

00:54:15.220 from you you know what i mean game all i'm gonna tell you this there's a few companies that i'm gonna 0.99

00:54:20.120 buy just to fucking fire people that's i'm i ain't playing dude i believe you yeah i know i wholeheartedly 0.99

00:54:27.260 i ain't playing i don't ever fucking forget i don't ever i might smile i might fucking shake your 0.99

00:54:32.240 hand i might smile on your fucking face i'm gonna tell you right now i don't fucking forget i never 0.99

00:54:37.160 forget never ever ever so i look forward to it yeah i love it man well guys andy that was three 0.98

00:54:44.120 dog yep that's three seven p.m tonight central time real af cti live be there yeah all right guys 0.99

00:54:54.780 let's go out and kick some ass don't be a hoe share the show 1.00

00:54:58.480 went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions 1.00

00:55:05.300 in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00

00:55:12.820 you 1.00

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 29, 2025

982. Q&AF： Feeling Behind, Regaining Control In Chaos & Outgrowing Your Inner Circle

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