REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 988. Q&AF： Getting Your Spark Back, Efficiency In Business & Dealing With Immature Coworkers

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00:02:36.640 what's going on dude you had to take a deep breath you had i mean what's up you good that was a deep

00:02:41.420 sigh huh i mean that's a lot that's a that's a mouthful that was a mouthful yeah

00:02:45.600 yeah man what's going on though man nothing it's cold yeah it's cold but sunny it is cold i'll take

00:02:53.580 that though it's not bad i just went out and did my cardio and uh you know it was a little little cold

00:02:59.220 but if the sun man yeah the sun is so good it's everything it is it's everything i do not mind it being

00:03:05.820 cold at all if the sun is out i don't even care how cold it is yeah but then i'm like but like why

00:03:10.740 is it cold though if the sun yeah it's like a weird thing you know what i'm saying like other places

00:03:15.080 like like dude you know mountain regions like colorado right it didn't feel cold well yeah they

00:03:20.640 have 300 days of sunshine bro so they're used to it being cold and sunny all the time and they don't

00:03:26.020 you know necessarily understand like here in the regular armpit you know the middle um the back of

00:03:34.280 the winter the winter time sucks and uh you know we got a beautiful spring a beautiful fall and a

00:03:40.300 great summer but winter here is just terrible the back of the knee and it's terrible because of the

00:03:46.420 sun the sun just doesn't shine on missouri in the middle of the winter lack there i don't know what

00:03:51.960 that is yeah dude it's it's gay it's impressive that's right it hates us right no man dude doing good

00:03:57.760 man we had we had the 1p banquet yeah uh i got my five-year boots yeah you did thank you yeah uh i'll

00:04:03.820 be honest like i was really surprised when aaron fucking texted me that yeah i was not expecting it

00:04:08.460 like i was not expecting it and uh i'm like dude this is fucking sick man a lot of the guys here got

00:04:13.320 him a lot yeah the whole team got him yeah uh joe got him mm-hmm keith got him and madat's already

00:04:19.580 had some madat has his joe gilman's got his coming soon how long have you been here three

00:04:25.440 no four like two bro yeah we lost track yeah it's been like a year he's he's still the fng

00:04:31.880 no he's been here i think at three or four years i well it made me think though like i mean you know

00:04:36.980 what though i was nervous when we were on the stage bro because that stage was dipping like it was like

00:04:43.300 bowed and i was like dude this is gonna be on youtube the good thing this is gonna go viral

00:04:48.140 well here's a good thing it couldn't blame it on us because we were on the side so listen i am not

00:04:53.040 lying i stood on the side for that reason for that reason yes because i was like dude

00:04:57.780 if this goes i could at least like jump off yeah yeah yeah yeah no it made me think i mean like dude

00:05:04.240 the five-year boot like that concept that's a really dope concept like how like how did that come to

00:05:09.760 like fruition uh i think there was a sale idea yeah you know we uh we we used to have this guy

00:05:16.260 come to the office and custom make boots yeah and we ordered like three or four pair each over the

00:05:22.380 years and then uh one year you know sal was like hey let's let's do for all the people who've been

00:05:28.540 here five years and that's kind of how it started i think it started back like 2017 or 18 and it's

00:05:36.780 it yeah it's it's cool man and so we have these guys who come in and they uh you know they they take

00:05:44.160 a mold you know the process they take a mold of your foot they my true custom yeah it's true

00:05:49.260 those boots on last night i bet they were perfect felt perfect yeah like i mean like fuck yeah

00:05:54.800 yeah there there's nothing better than a custom made pair of boots yeah they are perfect yep you

00:06:04.300 know and everybody's like why do you always wear boots it's like bro legitimately it's the most

00:06:08.980 comfortable thing i have for sure i don't feel like there's gonna be a break-in period yeah there's

00:06:12.200 not like i like but they do get they they do break in over years like some of my boots like those

00:06:18.180 snake skin boots that i wear all the time i've had them for 10 years shit you know they're i wear them

00:06:22.600 because they're fucking comfortable and then those and then that the brown caiman bellies i have

00:06:27.000 those and i bought those those were i bought my dad a pair and sal my dad and i all have the exact

00:06:34.940 same pair of those it's got our initials and it was pretty cool that's sick that's the ones i

00:06:39.080 was wearing last night yeah but um yeah man they get once they get really broken in

00:06:44.300 dude it's it's hard to wear anything else i used to wear like a lot of chucks i haven't worn chucks

00:06:49.620 in probably five years i can't do chucks dude yeah feet too wide well they have them with the insoles

00:06:54.340 oh and they're a little better but i just dude i can't do it and now i'm to the point where i don't

00:07:00.280 even wear dress shoes anymore i wear boots with my dress with my tux or with my suits or whatever

00:07:05.120 yeah you know i think it's a cool look no for sure yeah it's all right no i mean dude it's just

00:07:10.140 cool right because we're most places you know they celebrate their five years like they give

00:07:14.720 them a fucking keychain here's a pizza party you know i'm saying it's like getting a badass pair

00:07:19.120 of boots dude it's really really oh yeah those are not cheap dude no i bet i mean those every

00:07:23.560 single pair of those boots is two three grand it's quite a minimum that's crazy dude that's crazy

00:07:29.060 man yeah it's fucking awesome though man yeah so i'm gonna hide guys i'm uh you know new boot

00:07:33.200 goofing did you wear did you wear them around the house yeah my underwear yeah i bet you did

00:07:36.920 i know i'm so serious that's alex i want to see that picture alex yeah that's right that's right

00:07:42.800 uh no dude it's great you know sipping on a little orange fury yeah you know yeah and uh i got some

00:07:49.060 good ones yeah some dude um an operator standard today was like is is the is the paradise punch really

00:07:55.520 as good as andy says or is he in sales mode i'm like yeah dude i'm i lie to you guys all the time

00:07:59.840 yeah right this was the favorite yeah like what the fuck the shit's amazing no dude it actually

00:08:05.020 i've been drinking the paradise punch non-stop yeah did i you too i'm trying to get a case i'm

00:08:10.180 i see a few cases around i'm gonna steal somebody well i had a whole case over here but somebody

00:08:14.300 drank them all yeah and i think his name was dj no no i've had two out of those that was a 12 pack

00:08:19.660 i had two that is bullshit oh it's accurate that that is black man that is black man yeah

00:08:25.900 how many beers have you had two yeah yeah no that's hillbilly math there bro

00:08:34.560 hillbilly math is redneck math is you anything to drink tonight no well uh i had two

00:08:49.440 you know what and then you're going to fucking jail like dude it is what it is how many bikes

00:08:55.320 you're still yeah i had like you're sitting there and you're like fuck does he know can he tell fuck

00:09:00.580 he could tell shit yeah i wonder where that came from like where was like okay like i can't say one

00:09:05.360 because i'm clearly lying yeah but like three is like too many right so like okay two yeah or then

00:09:10.540 they pull the other one uh uh you know a couple hours ago yeah right that's right that's right

00:09:15.120 10 minutes ago so it's a great day beautiful we got sun shining uh beautiful monday for you guys

00:09:23.420 listening and uh i got some good ones for you all right let's knock these out let's do it guys

00:09:28.560 andy question number one uh andy what's up dude i'm 35 i'm married two kids and my life is basically

00:09:38.660 a calendar work practices bills repeat nothing's on fire but i can't remember the last time i felt

00:09:47.260 excited about anything i don't want to blow my life up but i also don't want to wake up at 50 and

00:09:53.200 realize i just survived instead of lived how do you get a spark back without being selfish or

00:09:59.800 irresponsible oh man that's what do you say he was married and shit yeah 35 married two kids

00:10:06.040 everything's good nothing's on fire yeah so there's there's a lot there okay um i think it's

00:10:15.140 natural for men and women at a certain point you know once they've kind of become the version of

00:10:23.720 society that they're supposed to become they start questioning is this what i was supposed to do

00:10:30.560 and i don't think that's a bad thing i think it's just a natural thing okay and you know they call

00:10:35.900 it uh they call it you know midlife crisis or whatever and i think you know anybody with

00:10:41.140 ambitions or dreams or outcomes in their mind that haven't been met tend to have this reflection

00:10:47.380 period um sometimes it comes later sometimes it comes earlier you know for me it happened when i was

00:10:54.080 like 41 42 43 um and it was hard because you start to like feel like man did i waste my life or did i

00:11:04.000 what did i miss out on and the problem with that is that when you don't come to terms

00:11:11.560 with what you've done and the path that you've chosen you end up in this situation where you're

00:11:17.540 looking at all these other possibilities again as to how you live your life and if you don't check

00:11:22.960 yourself and recommit to the path that you've chosen and say hey i chose this path this is a path

00:11:29.200 that i'm on yes i can make some changes if i want to but this is who i chose to be what ends up

00:11:37.420 happening is you end up like especially with the internet you end up fantasizing about these other

00:11:44.620 outcomes that could be which keeps you from appreciating what you have the sure could have

00:11:49.840 what is yeah and a lot of people get stuck in that with the internet um because you know not just

00:11:56.980 compare everybody likes to say oh you're comparing yourself well no it's not just that it's like man

00:12:01.840 you know um like for me dude like i look at i do this okay i look at other things i could be doing

00:12:09.720 all the time i'm like man you know i could go move to italy yeah you know i could go get a ranch in

00:12:18.200 in montana i could buy a big farm in tennessee and i start to think about all these things and

00:12:25.420 when i get too wrapped up in thinking about those things i really lose a lot of gratitude for what

00:12:33.900 i've got going on right and so it's very important to i guess go through this process that you're going

00:12:42.920 through in a way that you have gratitude for what you have and what you've done because you've done a

00:12:50.460 great job dude you're 35 you're married you've got kids you're going to raise the next generation

00:12:54.580 which by the way is a very fucking important job okay it's very very important you know i was

00:13:00.560 thinking about this as i was doing my cardio today you know i don't have any kids but like

00:13:05.800 part of me is like man maybe i should like go like donate my sperm to everybody and you know like put a

00:13:13.740 bunch out there you know what i'm saying like because like you start to think like man we're really

00:13:21.380 getting our ass kicked in culture you know what i mean and the the best people are choosing to not

00:13:28.560 have kids because they don't want their kids to grow up which is forcing uh the culture into a worse

00:13:33.600 spot it's counterintuitive yeah so the most important job that can be had right now is really

00:13:38.580 just great parents uh that are going to have kids and raise them properly to be good upstanding

00:13:46.500 productive members of the community um but with that being said dude you know you asked how to

00:13:54.380 how to recenter is that what he said how to kind of get a spark i guess yeah you know most people don't

00:13:58.960 most people i guess in this process they go buy the sports car some shit like that you know but dude you

00:14:03.640 know what uh there's there's value in that okay a lot of people shit on that yeah but there's value in

00:14:10.580 picking up a new hobby or picking up a new uh you know a new thing sometimes it's cars you know

00:14:16.140 people say oh you're going through midlife crisis not maybe they're just trying to pick up something

00:14:19.760 new that gets them excited yeah um for me like one of my commitments that i've made to myself this

00:14:25.200 year that i haven't voiced to anybody except a couple guys um here at hq is i want to get back

00:14:31.660 into riding dirt bikes okay because i don't do anything other than work yeah all right like i go home

00:14:37.860 and i work on work at home i come to work and i work and you know i'm starting to realize hey man

00:14:44.520 you know andy you need to do some shit you need to have some fun man yeah and one thing i do like

00:14:50.000 being around is like anything motorized i like being around animals i like being around tractors and

00:14:55.420 and cars and motorcycles and i want to do more of those things and that doesn't have to take away from

00:15:02.120 what i'm doing in terms of my professional life uh but making time for those things is important to

00:15:11.580 feeling like you don't just work and you don't just do the thing you know and and i don't talk about

00:15:17.940 this a lot because a lot of people hear what i just said and what they hear is man you know what i

00:15:25.100 should just go have fun and fuck everything else and that's not what i'm saying you know and it's why i

00:15:29.680 don't talk about luck does luck exist sure there's luck there's there is luck but if i'm out here

00:15:35.040 talking about luck and and there's things that people just hear that and they say oh well there's

00:15:39.860 no chance for me because i don't get lucky you know what i mean so it's it is um

00:15:45.420 there's an effective and i hate this word there is an effective balance to feeling like you're not

00:15:55.040 just working your life away and part of having a successful life is also having fun yeah okay we

00:16:01.560 aren't designed to work our lives away but we're also not designed to try quote unquote have fun

00:16:09.920 every single day right right because then we run into a situation where we don't have a purpose

00:16:14.940 um funny enough dude i was talking to dan balzerian about this uh he called me out of the blue

00:16:21.120 last week i told you about this i think didn't i yeah i haven't talked to him you know i've known

00:16:26.620 dan for probably 10 years and i don't talk to him often but i but when we talk they're amazing

00:16:33.020 conversations and um he's way more intelligent than people think he is uh and we were talking about

00:16:40.380 like you know he's gotten away from the hedonistic lifestyle and the materialism lifestyle and he made

00:16:48.300 some really good points you know once you once you experience too much of something it loses its

00:16:55.680 fun it loses its value and you know when when people do that we see a lot of wealthy people go

00:17:05.940 down that path right they they they they go into a life of excess and then you know eventually we hear

00:17:12.480 about him right oh what happened to that guy oh well he got depressed and he killed himself well yeah

00:17:17.420 because he gave up his purpose okay and humans need things to work for and work towards and we

00:17:23.840 need a bigger purpose that is outside of ourselves and we need to do things like that make us happy

00:17:29.300 and if we're being real about what makes us happy what makes most people happy is very simple things

00:17:34.820 it's spending time with their friends it's doing good things for other people you know and if you're

00:17:42.220 financially successful you can do a lot more of those things right but you don't want to do so much of

00:17:47.060 those things that it becomes your entire life because then you don't have the purpose that gets

00:17:51.800 you up in the morning right so i went through this as well um for me it was really like i i tell a story

00:18:00.680 you know i got pneumonia it was like 2014 and i went through this phase where at that time you know i was

00:18:07.580 making the most money i'd ever made um and i was super sick i couldn't go to work and it was i missed

00:18:14.200 like 17 days of work which i had never done before and i was checking my phone and you know

00:18:19.920 everything's still running and i'm still making money and i'm doing good i'm this and that and

00:18:24.220 it dawned on me like because i was miserable dude i'm sitting at home i'm watching tv i'm like

00:18:29.400 fucking rotting on the couch and i started realizing like man this must be why these rich people fucking

00:18:39.380 kill themselves and it kind of like all came together for me in terms of having a bigger purpose

00:18:43.840 and i think i think a lot of times when people get frustrated with their lives where they are it's

00:18:51.720 because they don't have a clear definition of what their purpose is you know and we are purpose-driven

00:18:57.700 people humans so you know i would ask if you were sitting in front of me right now i say okay well

00:19:03.380 what is your what are you doing like what's your big picture goal what is your purpose and that has to be

00:19:08.460 continuing continued to be expanded over the course of your life um to the point where you know for me

00:19:15.780 when i started right my purpose was i needed to make money because i was broke that was my purpose

00:19:20.700 okay then it expanded to i need to build the company to the point where the people who work here can

00:19:26.540 provide for their families then it expanded to um i need to fix these problems you know in the culture

00:19:33.680 then it expanded to what we're talking about now where we have a big human problem that needs to be

00:19:39.100 fixed that probably i'll never actually be able to fix but i know that we can make big dents in it and

00:19:45.740 that purpose matters a lot so we have to define what our purpose is over and over and over and redefine

00:19:55.260 it if we want to continue to keep that spark does that make sense absolutely so so when you were 20 years

00:20:00.420 old this guy here you know one of your goals was probably i want to get married i want to have kids

00:20:05.220 i want to get a good job i want to make a little money and you've probably done those things and you

00:20:10.300 haven't redefined your purpose and a lot of people get to the point where they're 35 years old and

00:20:16.140 they're in a position of this guy and they're like oh well my life is pretty much over and then

00:20:21.180 you know they spend the next 50 years being fucking miserable so it's very important as human

00:20:27.620 beings to continue to evolve and expand and think about what it is we're trying to do that is

00:20:35.580 outside of ourselves and uh that can help a lot getting getting the spark going and especially

00:20:43.160 when it's really big because you know you can never if you can never really accomplish it that

00:20:48.400 means you've got a big fucking goal ahead of it and if you really care about it you know

00:20:54.040 accomplishing it isn't necessarily the reward it's making as much progress toward that as you can

00:21:01.320 100 and uh so i i you know and then like i said you know introducing new hobbies things that you enjoy

00:21:08.080 maybe getting back to some things that you did before that you enjoyed um because when you're highly

00:21:13.180 ambitious and you're driven it can be very easy to let the things that we actually like fall by the

00:21:19.720 wayside so long that we actually forget what we what we like um so you know i think what you're

00:21:27.020 going through here is a natural thing i think it's a normal thing and the only thing that's going to

00:21:32.560 come of it uh in a bad way is is if you don't you know realize like damn i'm only 35 you know not

00:21:39.780 oh i'm 35 and my life is bro 35 like i'd kill to be 35 again you know what i'm saying like you are so

00:21:47.680 young and you have so much shit ahead of you and you have to realize that and and when you surround

00:21:53.260 yourself with like the people that you grew up with you know most of those people have given up

00:21:58.420 most of those people say oh well this is what it is and they're going to spend the rest of their life

00:22:02.040 sitting on a cooler in their driveway with their neighbors you know drinking beers or whatever it is

00:22:07.040 they do and really not do much else and if you're around those people and that's who you surround

00:22:11.960 yourself with you're all gonna be miserable together you know so you know i want to circle

00:22:18.220 back to something you said earlier you know about you know a decision you had kind of made personally

00:22:22.760 about doing more things having more quote-unquote fun right and it made me think and please correct

00:22:28.760 me if i'm wrong right but like i know we've talked and you know you're big on gaining new skills

00:22:36.480 sharpening your tool belt right and with those skills efficiency comes right you can do things

00:22:41.560 quicker make moves better right and smarter because i feel like the nuance here right people

00:22:47.180 gonna listen to that okay cool and he said go have fucking fun right you're in a position where over

00:22:51.580 the last years of your life you've been able to take that extra time that you had and reinvest that

00:22:56.260 back into more skills right you now can do where you know because you've become more efficient you can

00:23:01.480 take that time and go do that you have the the privilege yeah to go do that right i think it's very

00:23:06.120 important to like kind of make sure people understand there's a difference here yeah right if you

00:23:10.140 we got the time well i mean look this is also why like the powerless system uh is so important

00:23:17.980 because people don't understand that if you are effective on a daily basis you actually end up with

00:23:25.420 much more free time yeah okay the reason that people feel anxious and depressed and frustrated

00:23:33.080 is typically because they're not organized and effective on a daily basis so they have these open

00:23:39.340 loops that are happening that are the things that they know need to be addressed and they're you

00:23:45.180 know tomorrow the next day the next week the next month and they're always thinking about these things

00:23:50.540 and it ends up paralyzing them today which ends up making the problems bigger and and harder to address

00:23:58.640 and if you just redefine what a win actually is meaning if you win today you get your five critical tasks

00:24:07.520 done you've got time to have fun right now you can enjoy those things along with being productive right uh

00:24:16.480 and and you can avoid this idea of like all this other shit that needs to get done because you understand

00:24:23.040 that winning is a 24 hour game and these things that you know when you start to get confident that i am

00:24:29.280 winning my days you start to understand that all these things are going to naturally take care of

00:24:33.200 themselves because of the process that i'm following now so there's actually a really the the truth of

00:24:39.680 the matter is the more effective you are the more free time you have and the more fun that you get to

00:24:43.440 enjoy along the way it's the people who you know we have a problem in society right a big problem

00:24:51.120 there's so many people out here that want to pretend to be successful they want to talk about what

00:24:57.040 they're going to do they want to they want to you know get the dopamine and the collapse and the credit

00:25:02.880 before they ever do anything and this creates a scenario where nothing ever gets done they never have

00:25:10.720 any fun because they always feel like they're behind but yet they're always talking about all

00:25:15.520 these things that they're doing but but the world can see right you're not changing right you're you're

00:25:20.400 right you're just talking about change and it's really easy to get caught up in the idea of i'm a very

00:25:26.640 productive human when you're not yeah i'm doing it right and and dude if you were doing it your life

00:25:33.680 would look different that's the truth and and to me personally there's nothing more annoying than that

00:25:38.720 human the most annoying fucking human on the planet to me is the one who continues to talk about

00:25:44.320 and try to pretends that they're about all this but never changes nothing change never never never

00:25:50.160 never like like dude you know we get people sometimes that are like talking about how hard

00:25:54.400 they're working on 75 hard bro if you're working hard on 75 hard your face wouldn't look like you just

00:25:59.600 fucking went to the bar last night you know what i'm saying like you you wouldn't be fat you

00:26:04.320 wouldn't be overweight you wouldn't be you're you're you would be doing it and it would be visible

00:26:09.280 and those types of people who

00:26:15.440 continuously talk about and then pretend that they're doing but the results never show are the

00:26:21.600 most miserable because they know they yeah they know and they know that within that process they're not

00:26:28.720 actually executing but they want to be around the people who are executing and nothing ever

00:26:34.880 changes for them which ends up making them miserable you see what i'm saying absolutely

00:26:38.640 dude well the thing is because that works for a minute right like it works for a minute like all

00:26:42.960 right cool i hear you but bro it's been a year yeah what's changed yeah well you know like i said

00:26:49.360 some people want to talk about winning other people want to actually win and there's a big difference

00:26:52.960 between the two a big difference between the two you're not a fucking killer because you went out in

00:27:00.880 the fucking snow one time and did your cardio like that's just what the fuck you had to do right and

00:27:05.920 there's a big difference between the basic shit that has to be done and conquering the world you know what

00:27:12.960 i mean so and i understand like in the beginning those are going to feel like massive wins and and they

00:27:18.320 should but you you got to let go of the idea of who the fuck you were okay you're not going to go

00:27:26.800 through 75 days to try and change your whole life to move as far away from this version of yourself

00:27:34.160 that you hate and you're going to do all this work and then on day 76 you're going to go back to

00:27:38.640 drinking and fucking eating like shit you didn't you didn't do it if you had done it you'd be so

00:27:43.840 terrified of going back to that version of yourself that you would just continue down the path you see

00:27:49.200 what i'm saying so you have to let go of who the fuck you used to be okay there is no going back

00:27:57.040 to living in the bar on thursday friday saturday and sunday there is no going back to sitting

00:28:02.800 in the in the bar all day on sunday watching nfl football these are things i used to do so i'm using

00:28:07.840 them as examples there's no going back you know and you have to kill that fucking previous version

00:28:13.840 of who the fuck you are if you want to continue to not just win but also feel great about winning and

00:28:20.880 and feel good about yourself why the fuck would you want to go back to the version of you that made you

00:28:27.600 so fucking miserable that you felt like you needed to take this big this big change if you actually

00:28:32.960 were that miserable you wouldn't go back to it you see what i'm saying absolutely dude so there's

00:28:38.880 people got to be real with themselves dude like are you really doing the work are you actually

00:28:44.000 executing are you actually doing your critical tasks as critical tasks or are you filling in to

00:28:50.720 do bullshit so you can check off the win and feel good about it these are important things that make

00:28:55.760 a big difference you know they're and and the funny thing is is the difference between someone who

00:29:00.960 actually wins and someone who doesn't is like almost zero effort it's almost zero extra effort

00:29:08.640 it's it's it's like the criminal mentality like criminals will do every fucking thing they can

00:29:16.960 to win outside the boundaries of the law right but if they just take that that

00:29:25.280 a little bit of extra effort most of those people become very successful within the

00:29:30.080 boundaries of the law you see what i'm saying absolutely dude so it's um it's it's very

00:29:37.200 frustrating because it's just like dude especially where i sit where i've been dealing in personal

00:29:42.480 development for 15 years at the highest level like i see you i see what you're doing you're not fooling me

00:29:50.480 i see it i see you're not fucking actually doing it you know what i mean and they think that because

00:29:56.720 they're going through the motions that they're part of the club yeah right you know you ain't part of

00:30:00.560 the club bro until you fucking are like undeniable you know uh oh i almost had a win today but what

00:30:06.880 you fucking lost yeah there's no fucking there is no there's no moral victories in life there just

00:30:13.280 isn't there's no oh almost well that was that was good enough that's what losers do yeah that's what

00:30:18.960 people who fucking miserable do that's what broke people do that's what fat people do that's what

00:30:23.040 people who can't get control their lives do and if we're honest with ourselves the the ability to

00:30:29.920 control the outcome is 100 in our hands we can control all of the things okay it's really easy

00:30:36.880 to look at society right now and say oh society doesn't let me win because it's so fucking hard

00:30:41.440 really you could fucking drink the right things water you could eat the right food you could

00:30:46.960 fucking move your body you could associate with the right people you could put the right things in

00:30:51.520 your brain those are things in your control these are things that you control that control

00:30:56.400 most of the outcome of your entire life and you're choosing to not do them whose fault is that that's

00:31:03.280 your fault so you know i would encourage people especially right now you know we got this right

00:31:10.480 now we got you know everybody's quitting their new year's resolutions already we had national

00:31:15.920 quitters day on friday right um is that a real thing yeah uh january 9th it was national quitters

00:31:23.200 day meaning like this is the day where most people give up on their whole year of what they said they

00:31:28.000 were going to be and this is a cycle that repeats over and over and over again and the fucked up part

00:31:33.760 is is that all of you that already quit you're just going to repeat the same year that you've already

00:31:39.280 repeated over and over and over and except you're going to make yourself worse than you were before

00:31:44.480 and eventually you're going to wake up and you're going to look at this massive mountain

00:31:48.800 that has to be climbed because of your inability to be serious about your life

00:31:54.400 and it's going to be demoralizing and now it's going to be that much harder to conquer so

00:31:58.960 you know what's that worth is that worth is that worth uh nights out with the with the

00:32:06.080 fucking with your friends is that worth you know uh ordering pizza and eating like

00:32:10.880 shit is that worth is that worth it is it worth your whole life you know what i mean like bro

00:32:18.240 i don't know if you looked around but uh the world fucking sucks and the reason it

00:32:22.480 fucking sucks is because you fucking suck that's the truth and until individuals understand that

00:32:28.080 nothing will change we will not change as a country things will not get better until the individual

00:32:33.840 understands that the responsibility to make the country better falls on their shoulders and it starts

00:32:39.760 with their actions and it starts with the results they produce and there is no abandoning that

00:32:44.880 responsibility anymore because we had this attitude in this country for so long that oh it's a free

00:32:50.320 country i can do whatever i want yeah that fucking freedom costs something a great culture in america

00:32:55.600 costs something a great a great polite high functioning society costs something that isn't just

00:33:04.000 guaranteed and if you don't believe me look at all the other shitholes in the world all right so we've

00:33:10.080 been gifted this amazing place from people who have understood what i'm talking about who have a sense of

00:33:17.920 moral standard who have a sense of value have a sense of integrity who sacrificed for our society to

00:33:23.920 be this way and what we're just going to it off because we're lazy bro that's some weak ass

00:33:28.880 shit you know and it comes down to the individual it just does so when you think like oh man i really

00:33:34.480 hate what's going on in the world you should fucking look in the mirror bro because you're the

00:33:37.600 fucking reason it's happening that's real bro i love it i love it man we got uh we got question two

00:33:46.400 yeah uh guys any question number two uh andy i own a small business and from the outside it looks like

00:33:55.120 like it's doing well but the truth is i'm stressed about money almost every day payroll taxes unexpected

00:34:02.160 expenses i feel like i'm carrying a constant low level panic um how do you run a business without

00:34:10.000 living in survival mode all the time is this is this normal i mean does it change does it stop does it get

00:34:16.400 better i okay so i mean 30 years in bro so i had a friend who this is probably 15 years ago and at that

00:34:27.760 time i would be 12 years in okay what is that yeah 12 years in yep all right and we met for lunch okay and

00:34:39.520 this this guy at this time was doing hundreds of millions of dollars a year in business he was the

00:34:44.320 most successful guy that i personally know all right or that i knew at the time and and we met

00:34:54.400 up here at uh twisted tree before it was before it was twisted tree it was uh route 66 or whatever

00:35:01.040 that biker bar okay okay and it was a big deal for me to meet with this dude so like i wore a suit

00:35:07.360 okay okay okay i don't you know he shows up he's like what the are you doing i'm like

00:35:14.160 i'm like i'm like i don't know dude like i'm not gonna i don't want to waste your time

00:35:19.280 you know to me that's a sign of like true respect no you know though and um

00:35:24.800 we started talking and we ended up having a couple beers and i looked at him and i said i said uh i said

00:35:32.720 dude let me ask you a question i said when when does it like when does it um not like stress you

00:35:40.320 out like when do you get to that point where like you're not freaked out because at that point i was

00:35:44.960 12 years in and like dude i was exactly like this person and he goes what do you mean and i go i mean like

00:35:53.760 i'm always nervous and i'm looking at the numbers i'm and he goes well i just have all of my numbers

00:35:58.560 down to like so i just look at it every day and he and i said no that's not what i mean

00:36:05.040 i said what i mean is like i'm i'm i'm scared all the time like i'm always like feel like i'm on edge

00:36:12.160 and he fucking started laughing at me like he goes oh bro he's like that's the game he's like he's like

00:36:18.720 that don't ever go away he's like he's like laughing as he tells me and i'm like oh okay but the fact

00:36:26.080 that he confirmed that that was the way that it was helped me accept that that was part of the

00:36:32.240 price of the path that i chose and for anybody who runs a business whether it be small or big

00:36:37.920 or whatever you know a lot of people make the assumption that like let's look at you know let's

00:36:43.200 just say uh you you you know let's use a big company like uh anheiser bush okay if you don't think

00:36:50.640 that the guys that run anheiser bush are fucking stressed about the motherfucking numbers even though

00:36:55.200 they're a hundred billion dollar conglomerate company dude it's just extra zeros yeah the game

00:37:02.480 is the same you know what i'm saying you just have less zeros in it so these guys are stressed

00:37:08.080 they're working you're the same but here's the unique thing about effective entrepreneurs

00:37:13.920 is eventually they cross into this reality of loving that part of it they love that part of it they love

00:37:22.240 the game they love solving the problems they they understand but for you to love the game you have

00:37:28.800 to first accept that that's the game okay so when you're in this place of like stress and and

00:37:36.080 anxiousness and doubt and walking on edge and this and that it sucks but once you accept that that's the

00:37:43.200 game that you chose i chose to play this game and it's part of the game and everybody deals with it

00:37:48.320 not just me now it truly becomes a game right because you understand that guy over there is

00:37:53.840 doing the same shit and that guy over there is doing the same shit and that guy i'm chasing he's

00:37:58.080 got the same he's got the same problems and so then you start to like really like it and um

00:38:05.440 for really successful entrepreneurs like dude uh you know i i've i've spent a little time around

00:38:11.600 dana white now you know what i mean dana white's one of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world

00:38:15.680 he loves the chaos bro okay like when the chaos happens and when the hard times happen you know

00:38:23.840 what the first thing out of his mouth is illegitimately i love this

00:38:27.840 shit okay and it's exciting and who doesn't want to work for somebody that feels that way who doesn't

00:38:34.320 want to work for someone who says yeah the cards are stacked against us but guess what we're getting

00:38:39.920 tested and this is going to be awesome and we're going to win like that's exciting so but it only

00:38:46.240 happens once you accept that you're playing in this in this dynamic that most people don't so and and i

00:38:53.120 would add this on top of it would you rather be you and dealing with that or would you rather be

00:38:59.680 the regular guy who's got a shitty job that he hates who gets no input on what they do who who

00:39:06.480 who has the same worries and the same stresses but in their individual personal life with no ability

00:39:13.200 to actually change it you see what i'm saying so you should be grateful for that feeling and understand

00:39:19.680 that it's a privilege and understand that now your job okay i understand what it is just 12 15 years

00:39:26.560 ago when i met with my buddy i walked out of that meeting thinking all right i fucking got this

00:39:32.480 shit game on yeah i'm gonna win the fucking game you know what i'm saying but but when i didn't

00:39:37.280 realize that everybody was like that i felt like i was screwing up and it was only me i'm doing

00:39:42.960 something wrong yeah but it's everybody dude fuck you think i don't wake up in the morning or in the

00:39:47.600 middle of night sometimes and like shit pops in my head and i get all sweaty and shit and i'm like

00:39:51.600 fuck you know what i mean like that's part of it but just like that's part of it overcoming it's part

00:39:59.600 of it as well and that's where the fucking juice is that's where you're like yeah man all right this

00:40:04.960 is or when you get really experienced what happens is you only really feel that doubt and that anxiety

00:40:12.800 when you don't know the answer to the problem so now i'm so confident in my abilities that the minute

00:40:20.720 i know the solution even if it hasn't been executed yet i know i will execute it i'm confident in my

00:40:28.400 ability to execute it so once i know the solution i've identified it all the fucking shit goes away

00:40:33.600 and i i know i won even though the world hasn't seen it yet it ain't even came out yet right yeah

00:40:38.240 bro so really dude the the the answer to the question is uh welcome to fucking entrepreneurship

00:40:44.640 you know i'm saying that's the answer and uh you're not doing anything wrong um this is the game

00:40:50.320 that we all choose to play we take on way more risks than the normal person can handle and your

00:40:56.480 success is going to be directly proportioned to the amount of uncomfortable that you could

00:41:01.120 deal with and that is it okay so that's why it's so important to build yourself into someone

00:41:07.440 who can handle those things that's why it's so important to take your mental toughness seriously

00:41:12.160 that's why it's so important to invest in your discipline regularly because that equips you to handle

00:41:20.400 the extra load that you get to feel as an entrepreneur yeah yeah but i'd imagine so many people

00:41:27.200 fuck you asked me this the other day yeah you were like oh man oh yeah

00:41:32.400 you're like it never fucking ends i'm like i started laughing i'm like no i mean what the

00:41:36.560 fuck you think they're really what it was like because i do i hear you all the time like dude i got

00:41:40.320 my balls kicked into that oh yeah yeah but but but but but but getting your balls kicked in doesn't mean

00:41:47.040 you lost yeah that's what it that's what people don't understand like i'll come in here and say

00:41:51.520 oh yeah i got my fucking ass beat today but every single one of those days i still want the one you

00:41:57.120 know it was just hard that day yeah so yeah you know that's the game dude and we got to accept what

00:42:03.440 it is and uh it's not for everybody and that's why intrapreneurship is such a great thing for people

00:42:09.360 because they don't have to deal with that feeling uh let's say you get some other stress but yeah

00:42:16.960 listen you're gonna have stress no matter what you choose it's a normal part of life okay this idea

00:42:23.040 that we're gonna avoid stress i actually think one of the worst things that's happened in the last like

00:42:29.280 10 years of culture is that things like anxiety and stress have been painted as if you're never

00:42:38.320 supposed to feel them okay so now you have all these people out here you know all these

00:42:43.840 fucking predatory therapy people who are saying oh you know you had trauma because you grew up no

00:42:50.080 that's called growing up okay oh you had trauma because of this or that bro you know what real

00:42:55.520 trauma is real trauma is getting stabbed in the fucking face real trauma is getting your

00:42:59.760 fucking arm blown off real real trauma is trauma okay growing up is not fucking trauma now you might

00:43:08.080 have had some bad things that happened to you growing up but it's only bad if you didn't learn

00:43:12.960 from it and you don't let that stop with you and you go and fix it the right way going down the line

00:43:18.560 right all right so you have to ask yourself like anything what did i learn what did it do for me who

00:43:23.440 did it make me because then you stop calling it trauma and you start calling it something that you're

00:43:27.840 grateful for yeah like the worst things in my life are actually the things i'm most grateful for

00:43:33.200 because they taught me the most and when you have that perspective things don't eat you the way that

00:43:39.280 they do when you believe that everybody's supposed to be stress-free and everybody's supposed to have

00:43:45.920 no anxiety you know you know when you have the most the most anxiety is that when you have anxiety

00:43:51.680 about having anxiety because you think you're not supposed to have it right all right so you have all

00:43:56.480 these people out here saying oh you know i'm overwhelmed i'm stressed i have all this anxiety

00:44:02.720 yeah today you do and you might have it for a week or you might have it for a month but all of that

00:44:07.440 shit's telling you something that you're not addressing which is why it continues okay so this idea

00:44:14.320 that to have a good life and to feel good is to have no stress and no anxiety and no doubt and

00:44:22.960 just float through like like what kind of actually lives that way i don't know bro it's not real dude

00:44:30.080 and so when we paint this unrealistic expectation and then you're the one that's still feeling it it

00:44:35.680 makes it extra worse okay or you know i've got anxiety but i'm not supposed to have anxiety

00:44:43.760 and then you know you do all these things you cold plunge and i got caught up in this too dude

00:44:48.400 you do all these things you cold plunge you sauna you do this perfect morning routine

00:44:54.080 got to start your day off i'm feeling good and then the first thing happens okay and then you're like

00:44:59.280 fuck why can't i get through a day without anxiety well because that's not how it works bro you're bought

00:45:05.680 into the false representation of what it's supposed to be and now you're comparing yourself against

00:45:10.560 something that's not real okay if you do that you're going to always feel worse so you have to accept

00:45:17.760 life man it's called fucking life shit is hard you are going to have stress you are going to have

00:45:23.280 anxiety you're going to have days where you feel like fuck this isn't worth it that is the price of

00:45:30.400 having a good successful fulfilling life that you are proud of

00:45:38.000 when you die okay this is this is real shit and we have all these people that charge all these

00:45:44.320 people like all this money to try and fix their you know their mentality and like dude go talk to

00:45:50.480 people who did 75 hard okay what do you feel better before or after after you did all the work what oh i

00:45:58.000 feel better no shit you know why because humans are wired to do shit they are wired to build things

00:46:04.880 they are wired to create things they are wired to learn skills they are wired to develop they are wired to

00:46:10.160 contribute and when you sit at home and you think that life is supposed to be about relaxing all the

00:46:16.320 time you're going to be the most miserable human on the face of the planet but that's what society

00:46:21.360 puts on us they put this idea of success on us as if we're supposed to just like sit on a beach

00:46:27.920 somewhere and ride away and some people buy it bro some people will fucking work their asses off

00:46:35.840 sell their shit move to a fucking beach and sit on the beach and be like this sucks i don't know

00:46:42.720 what's wrong with me i did everything that i'm supposed to do you're that because you're wasting

00:46:46.880 your potential bro and your soul knows it you know it all right so this isn't about getting to a place

00:46:54.640 where you're quote unquote happy you need to be happy along the process and you need to be happy along

00:47:01.760 the way and if you're effective like i said in the last answer you will be happy and have time

00:47:08.480 to do the things that you want to do on a daily basis you just have to redefine what the win is

00:47:12.880 the win isn't for the next 30 days or the next six months or the next year it's fucking today

00:47:19.600 and when i get those five things done today those five critical tasks that move me forward this is not

00:47:26.400 i got to pick up the kids from school this is i took five critical actions towards my outcome

00:47:32.160 all right when you do those things and you get confidence in playing that game all of a sudden

00:47:37.760 dude a lot of that stress and a lot of that anxiety starts to calm down because you believe and you

00:47:43.600 understand that these things will get done as they come you see what i'm saying absolutely dude it made

00:47:50.000 me think too it's like dude imagine like how many people out there instead of accepting the way it

00:47:56.480 is right they feel that friction and they try to like they spend all their time and energy trying to

00:48:02.400 remove the friction the wrong way like imagine if you most people dude most people like this is why

00:48:08.800 people get caught up in the cycle like dude we have all right oh you just gotta put two crystals up

00:48:12.960 your butt well that didn't work try three like yeah like just shoot some coffee in there yeah right

00:48:16.800 right you know i'm saying just go fix the shit yeah or do the shit that you know you're supposed

00:48:21.120 to do so that you're proud of yourself when you look in the motherfucking mirror that removes that's

00:48:25.360 like the biggest anti-anxiety drug in the world uh doing the shit you know you're supposed to do

00:48:32.400 becoming the person you know you're supposed to be building the shit you know you're supposed to

00:48:37.760 build contributing in the way you're supposed to contribute you want to not feel anxious do those

00:48:42.720 things and you're going to feel like damn dude i'm doing it yeah okay so um you know we've got

00:48:48.080 to accept reality dude and and and unfortunately we have a lot of predators on the internet that try

00:48:53.280 to paint a false reality of this like uh you know i don't know i don't know what you call it like zen

00:49:01.120 like existence and those those people do not let them fool you bro those people are fucking miserable

00:49:07.520 miserable they are miserable that's why they stay locked into that lifestyle forever because

00:49:12.560 they're always looking for the fucking solution oh i'm in this you know i'm i'm i'm living the perfect

00:49:18.880 life right and and but then they're constantly adding things and they're constantly oh i found this

00:49:29.040 new thing and i found this new thing you found this new thing for what oh you mean the same problems

00:49:33.680 that you said you already solved by being a fucking nothing you see what i'm saying bro so

00:49:41.600 you gotta listen you have to learn to think about how you think you have to start becoming aware

00:49:52.000 of why things are the way that they are you have to start becoming aware of why you think the things

00:50:00.400 that you actually think and if you don't remove yourself from your actual thinking and then analyze

00:50:08.080 your thinking you're you're always going to be in a place of ignorance when it comes to your decisions

00:50:14.560 right so it's like three levels of thinking right it's like what you do you're and then it's okay what

00:50:21.680 did i think about what i did and then it's well why do i think that about what i did you know what i mean

00:50:28.640 and most people don't have that ability to like analyze their own decision making their own thinking

00:50:34.880 clearly because look at what's going on in society how many people can detach themselves from the left

00:50:41.520 right narrative and and actually the the quote-unquote team they've assigned themselves to and make

00:50:47.760 critical decisions based upon what they observe that aren't in line with whatever you know the team

00:50:54.640 says very few oh yeah we see it in society yeah so it's it's unawareness is what it is um but you

00:51:02.960 know that's a whole we could talk about that for 10 hours yeah yeah that's real well we got one more

00:51:07.920 question to get in here so uh guys andy question number three andy how do you deal with the co-worker

00:51:14.480 who is only 21 so like immature no life experience lazy no urgency everything is just a big game and

00:51:24.080 it literally pisses me off and everyone thinks i'm the bad guy for being mad all the time it's leading

00:51:29.280 me to hate my job deal with up co-workers i guess i don't know how people in the boat you're in the

00:51:37.040 boat punch them in the face that's one way to do it yeah throw them out of the boat yeah you know um

00:51:46.640 you know why does it bother you so much why does it bother you so much what everybody else is doing

00:51:54.480 why are you concerned well if it's affecting your outcome because they're you know like you said in

00:52:01.760 the boat and they're not rowing okay well that's something that you you need to address and you

00:52:06.800 should probably address that with that person at a peer-to-peer level um you could address that with

00:52:12.800 the people around like hey man we're all trying to win and this ain't helping us win and he's riding

00:52:18.400 in the boat for free while we all do the work and you could get everybody else to see it too um

00:52:24.640 but in most of these cases here's what happens dude the truth is the truth is quite different than

00:52:29.760 what is being presented here in most of these cases the person who's upset isn't effective either

00:52:37.440 okay and yeah and so because dude truly effective people people who are actually winning they don't

00:52:45.600 give a fuck about what anybody else is doing they're handling their business they're doing what they need

00:52:50.000 to do and they're taking care of what they need to take care of so that they can move forward in their

00:52:56.240 life and they understand that this person over here or over there whatever is irrelevant to that

00:53:05.040 um are there situations like i said where those people are dragging you down yeah but there's this

00:53:10.240 thing called peer-to-peer leadership okay and peer-to-peer leadership only works when you're doing great

00:53:15.440 shit okay i bet if you ask that 21 year old kid what he thinks about you he's thinking you're a lazy piece

00:53:20.720 of yeah right right right you know what i'm saying right so you're praying he don't get too much

00:53:24.880 spotlight because he's gonna show all the shit you ain't doing correct you know yeah yeah so you know

00:53:31.120 the truth of the matter is is uh you need to worry about your own and when you're when you're undeniably

00:53:36.880 good at what you do the disparity that it creates between the people who are off and you makes them

00:53:43.760 wash out on their own you don't think that like if you were truly kicking ass and you were truly undeniably

00:53:50.160 great that it wouldn't expose this 21 year old kid for being a fucking idiot you see what i'm saying

00:53:56.000 right so if you really want to fix the problem it all comes down to what we talk about all the time

00:54:01.040 which is being great on your own being undeniable on your own okay there's no snap fix that you could

00:54:07.840 just go you're not able to fire that person you're not able to get them get rid of them

00:54:12.640 so what can you control you control what you do and if you do it well enough there will be a big

00:54:21.280 enough disparity between the two of you that everybody's going to look at that guy and be like

00:54:26.720 why is that guy on the team it's so obvious yeah yeah so it's that's most people just can't grasp that

00:54:36.240 understanding they want something to come in and fix it so that they don't have to like do their part

00:54:40.880 and it's just loser thinking bro i'm sorry yeah i think this is the nuance too of like the whole

00:54:46.720 comparison thing right like because you hear both ways right and i think like in this situation this

00:54:52.000 is where you take the other side where it's like dude you got to have your blinders on bro

00:54:56.000 right you can't be focused on all the other shit around you got to put blinders on and run your

00:55:00.000 fucking race dude you don't think that there's been every successful person on the planet you don't

00:55:06.800 think they've had dogs on the team before they won't run everybody knows it everybody sees it

00:55:13.040 every manager knows it every fucking leader knows it every founder knows it every ceo knows it they

00:55:18.720 all know it so your job is to not get confused as to one of those people all right and you know

00:55:27.040 the best way you could do it is to be uneniably great yourself and let that motherfucker rot

00:55:31.920 you know what i'm saying like let them let them fucking rot and if you work for a company that

00:55:37.040 you know just lets these people right there it's probably a good idea to look for other companies

00:55:41.360 that don't allow those people to uh sit and rot i will say this

00:55:48.160 those of you listening who are pretending to go through the motions because there is quite a few of

00:55:53.040 you let's be honest um who are showing up and going through the motions and you're doing just

00:55:58.800 good enough to not you know get in trouble you will lose your jobs in this next phase of of

00:56:05.840 growth in life because ai is getting so advanced people i mean just look at it in the last two years

00:56:12.000 dude it's getting so good and it's going to continue to accelerate this is the thing they don't people

00:56:18.960 don't understand about ai it's it's not a linear improvement curve it's it's a it's a hockey stick

00:56:27.120 okay right now we're still in the handle part where it's like learning it's learning it's learning

00:56:31.520 it's learning it's learning it's getting better and better and better it's picking up momentum momentum

00:56:35.280 and then there's going to come a time where it starts to compound and it starts to go up real

00:56:39.520 sharp and when it does the ability for ai to do people's jobs is is going to be real it's going to

00:56:45.840 be real okay and people who coast and people who don't contribute and people like this 21 year old

00:56:52.720 allegedly that you have there they're not going to have jobs because it won't even matter it's it's

00:56:58.080 not going to matter so and i'm saying this because those of you who are not truly dedicated and i want

00:57:05.040 you to remember this especially those of you who've been listening to me for a long time

00:57:10.000 and i'm not saying this to beat my chest but how many times have i been wrong about what's going to

00:57:13.920 happen how many times have i told you guys this is what's going to happen in culture

00:57:18.400 it did not happen okay back in 2020 i was telling you guys don't give in to this woke

00:57:23.920 because you're going to get labeled as a woke company and you're going to have a problem

00:57:27.760 when this when the culture swings back culture has swung back when i said that

00:57:33.600 there was tons of backlash people like oh you're wrong it's not going to happen it's over it's just

00:57:38.240 that really have you paid attention to what's going on have you seen that the pro-america companies

00:57:43.920 the companies that stand on their fucking uh you know on their heels and blue and they're doing

00:57:48.880 they're they're getting traction right now okay did you but if you went out and you branded yourself

00:57:54.480 one of these woke companies you have a really hard time coming to that you look stupid those

00:57:59.040 companies are getting called out they're still losing business they're they're losing market

00:58:02.640 share to much smaller brands that actually stand for the things that these people in this country

00:58:06.480 want to stand for and i told you that i told you that and a lot of you didn't listen

00:58:11.920 all right because you were scared you were scared to take a fucking stand

00:58:18.720 i'm telling you those of you who are entrepreneurs you will lose your jobs unless you become undeniably

00:58:27.680 great at contributing to the mission of whatever company you're a part of you will lose your job and

00:58:34.640 you will be one of these people on universal basic income and you will get what the fuck you get

00:58:39.200 and that's going to be that and we are in a critical time right now we are in a time where there is yes

00:58:46.560 there's still the opportunity to become undeniably great at contributing but i don't think that's

00:58:52.160 going to last for another fucking three years i think it's going to be the next 18 months and then after

00:58:55.920 that it's going to separate and the 21 year old turd that you're talking about he's going to be broke

00:59:02.720 forever and if you don't fucking get on the other side of that line you're going to be broke forever

00:59:07.280 too and that is a real thing that's going to happen 100 fucking percent so if i were you

00:59:16.080 and you're one of these people who already gave up on their new years and you're you're repeating the

00:59:21.840 the same shit you've done for ever and ever and ever because let's be real dude being physically fit

00:59:26.960 being mentally fit is a huge foundation for you to become successful in your life

00:59:31.840 you you you you who gave up already you're going to be on the on the bad side of that line you're

00:59:39.040 going to be broke and you're not going to have the opportunity to get around it so you have to take it

00:59:45.360 seriously when i say take it seriously i don't mean take it seriously the way you think i mean i mean

00:59:52.320 take it seriously every single fucking day for the next 18 months as hard as you fucking can we are

01:00:00.240 not in a place right now where balance is is a real thing that's a luxury okay you're you're in the time

01:00:08.160 right now where you're either going to be on the on the side that continues to grow and make money and

01:00:13.760 can have the things that you want or you're going to be on the side that has to take the gruel that these

01:00:18.880 motherfuckers give you and i didn't make the rules and i wish i could not make them that way

01:00:23.120 but you can't put back in the box what's already been let out so it's happening and it's real and

01:00:28.480 if you don't fucking figure it out right now and you're not dedicating every single day for the next

01:00:34.320 18 months and i mean every day i don't mean three days a week i don't mean you know for 75 days i mean for

01:00:42.960 every motherfucking day you're gonna fucking lose because there's not enough time even with the technology

01:00:47.920 there's not enough time so the good news is there's a flip side of that with the technology

01:00:53.360 there is enough time for you to become who the fuck you want to be in the next 18 months but only

01:00:58.560 if you if you take every single day seriously and there's people listening right now oh andy you know

01:01:05.600 those fucking sounds pretty harsh that's not well how many times have i led you wrong i'm not wrong

01:01:11.440 about this and i'm telling you right now if you don't take it seriously it's going to cost you

01:01:15.520 every motherfucking thing in your whole entire life and every dream every outcome every little

01:01:20.720 vision that you've had that you've been afraid to go achieve is going to cease to be possible

01:01:26.640 if you don't go now so for those of you that uh fucking you know have already decided that you're

01:01:32.400 going to off for another year you might as well accept that you're going to be broke and be either

01:01:38.000 in the same position likely a much worse position than you are in now so it's that or it's go hard

01:01:45.440 and that's it and those are only two choices right now love it dude i love it man guys handy

01:01:52.720 the hell of a way to start a week that's right we'll see you guys tonight 7 p.m uh cti live

01:01:59.520 on youtube and x don't forget don't be a hoe

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 12, 2026

988. Q&AF： Getting Your Spark Back, Efficiency In Business & Dealing With Immature Coworkers

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