REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 23, 2019


ARE YOU BLIND TO NEW LEVELS？： Why Choosing The Hardest Possible Path Is a Good Idea, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO310


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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, I talk about the importance of being the CEO of your own life and how to become one. I also talk about a story about how my family almost went without food when I was a kid and my family was going through a financial crisis.

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00:00:00.360 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.860 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.580 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host.
00:00:18.180 And I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome.
00:00:23.220 The goal of this podcast is to help you become the motherfucking CEO of you.
00:00:29.680 You have to understand that you are in control. Not your spouse. Not your friends. Not your circumstances. Not your job. Not what your mom and dad told you you have to be. You.
00:00:41.700 And everything in your life right now is a reflection of the decisions that you have made in the past.
00:00:47.440 What you are right now is not what you are. It's who you were. Okay? And we've all heard this before.
00:00:53.460 But if you really think about it and you really put time to focus on it, you'll understand that our point of this podcast is to help you get to a point where you can make better, more educated decisions that are going to help you produce the life that you want.
00:01:11.100 Now, this podcast is an entrepreneurial-based podcast. But what you guys have to understand is that entrepreneurial thinking is the key to success in almost every area of life.
00:01:21.400 And it can definitely be hugely beneficial in every area of life if you decide to apply it.
00:01:29.120 So it doesn't matter if you actually own a business. It doesn't matter if you actually are a millionaire or multimillionaire or billionaire.
00:01:36.500 It doesn't matter if you're, you know, struggling right now. Most people are. That's reality.
00:01:41.720 The goal is to help you sift through the struggle with the accurate, realistic, not idealistic information so that you can make decisions that will produce a better result.
00:01:53.100 The purpose of this podcast is to retrain your ability to make decisions that will help you put out what it is you want.
00:02:03.680 Now, guys, I do this for free.
00:02:05.440 We have been the number one business podcast on Earth for a long time.
00:02:11.800 Now, that's not just because the content is good. It's also because I ask something of you.
00:02:17.180 Now, that something is not money.
00:02:19.060 But what I do ask is that if you do get something out of the content here,
00:02:23.840 if you do find a piece of information that will help you move along or help you get better or help you improve
00:02:31.880 or help you become that version of yourself that you're so desperately working to become,
00:02:38.400 what I ask is this. Tell a friend.
00:02:42.880 I'm not saying you have to make a post, but if you make a post, great.
00:02:46.820 But next time the conversation comes up of what you're doing, what you enjoy, the content you're consuming,
00:02:53.500 give me a little plug. That's all I ask.
00:02:57.560 I don't run a million ads.
00:02:59.020 I'm not trying to, you know, waste 37 minutes of your time talking about shit that I don't even use so I can get paid.
00:03:05.920 I got a real company.
00:03:07.220 I've asked seven of them, actually.
00:03:08.700 I don't need to run ads.
00:03:09.860 Even though I could make seven figures a year running ads,
00:03:11.960 I do this because I want to declutter the mystery, which is your fucking life, all right?
00:03:19.580 So, guys, today I have a little story for you that I want to share.
00:03:24.260 And before I start to get into that, I do have a contest that I want to announce.
00:03:31.740 The contest is this.
00:03:35.540 We are going to run a contest for the next 30 days, okay?
00:03:40.060 And for the next 30 days, if you leave a review of the podcast,
00:03:45.100 I'm going to draw three people to come visit St. Louis, hang out, do some fun stuff, go to dinner, hang out, meet you,
00:03:55.440 go through your whatever it is you're working on, maybe shoot some content, maybe hang out with some cars,
00:04:00.740 maybe go for a swim in my pool.
00:04:02.120 I don't even know.
00:04:03.280 But I'm picking three of you motherfuckers to come out here. 1.00
00:04:05.860 And it's going to be picked off of people who go to iTunes and leave a review.
00:04:11.440 So, for the next 30 days, starting today, go leave a review, enter your chance to win,
00:04:19.140 and we'll pick one in 30 days, and we'll bring you guys out here real soon.
00:04:23.420 Where should we have them email it?
00:04:24.980 Okay, Vaughn just reminded me.
00:04:29.000 Screenshot your review, and then email it to Vaughn at, what's the address?
00:04:37.400 Vaughn at AndyFrissella.com.
00:04:39.960 All right, screenshot your review.
00:04:41.700 Now, the review has to be new.
00:04:42.940 If you made one a long time ago, it doesn't count.
00:04:45.840 All right, so new review, that's how we're going to do it.
00:04:48.340 And email it to Vaughn at Vaughn at AndyFrissella.com.
00:04:50.880 Now, guys, it is no secret that everybody wants to be happy.
00:04:57.320 It is also not a secret that everybody wants to be successful.
00:05:02.300 You are not going to meet a single motherfucker on this planet, 1.00
00:05:07.120 whether it's at the doctor's office or the gym or the church, who will tell you,
00:05:12.660 no, I don't really want to be happy.
00:05:14.940 I don't really care.
00:05:15.680 I'm fine being bored with my life and being depressed, and, you know,
00:05:20.060 I'm happy with my life being at its worst.
00:05:22.360 You will not meet any sane person who can honestly look you in the eye and say,
00:05:29.540 at the end of my life, I really, I guess I'm pretty okay with being a has-been
00:05:34.900 or, you know, wondering about what it might have been.
00:05:37.640 Now, don't get me wrong.
00:05:39.780 There are people who will tell you, I don't need money.
00:05:42.780 I don't need cars.
00:05:44.200 I don't need fame to be happy.
00:05:45.920 They will tell you, I don't care about everybody in my industry thinking I'm the best at what I do.
00:05:51.160 I don't care about winning trophies or salesman of the year or anything like that.
00:05:55.700 But they will tell you that.
00:05:58.780 Sure, they're going to tell you those things.
00:06:00.680 But I guarantee you they still want to be happy however they define happiness.
00:06:07.220 Okay, they want to be successful however they define success.
00:06:13.800 And those are just the facts.
00:06:15.520 You're going to have people who will boo-hoo shit.
00:06:18.400 But at the end of the day, when you dig deep, everybody wants to be happy.
00:06:23.920 Everybody wants to be successful.
00:06:27.120 So why isn't everybody happy?
00:06:30.020 Why isn't everybody successful?
00:06:32.140 Why isn't 100% of the population successful and kicking ass and living the life that they want?
00:06:40.880 Okay, the truth is it's not because these people aren't willing to do the hard work.
00:06:46.140 There are a lot of unhappy and unsuccessful people who put in hard work.
00:06:50.180 From 9 to 5, they work hard at their job.
00:06:53.220 They work hard to try to be better husbands or wives or dads or moms.
00:06:57.260 They work hard to try to get in decent shape and be healthy.
00:07:00.920 Yes, most people do actually work hard.
00:07:05.140 A lot of people on this earth, the majority, work hard.
00:07:10.740 The problem is they don't work hard enough.
00:07:14.800 They don't put real stress on themselves.
00:07:16.960 They don't push themselves beyond their comfort zone.
00:07:19.600 They don't push themselves past the point of failure.
00:07:22.560 They don't put their heart and their mind and every single thing that they have to the test on a daily basis.
00:07:29.740 Yes, they want to be happy and successful, but they just aren't willing to do work that is hard enough to achieve the actual happiness and success they desire.
00:07:41.680 They think they can work hard in a way that is quote unquote still manageable for them to get the results they are looking for.
00:07:48.700 This is something I see time and time and time again.
00:07:54.240 People are afraid of going all in on tasks that have such a high level of difficulty that they are worried that they will be left depleted and defeated and depressed and basically run down and done.
00:08:07.980 Okay?
00:08:08.400 And trust me, I get that.
00:08:11.020 You think it's any different for me?
00:08:12.600 You think I don't want to be happy?
00:08:14.260 You think I don't want to achieve the highest level of success?
00:08:17.360 I do.
00:08:18.700 And what surprises people, and I don't know how many times I've actually had to tell people this, but I am not naturally a hard worker.
00:08:27.020 I don't naturally want to roll up my sleeves and dive into the task and push myself harder and harder until I fucking smash it.
00:08:35.640 Okay?
00:08:35.940 I'm lazy.
00:08:37.400 My natural tendency is to want to sit on the couch, watch Pacific Rim 117 times while I eat pizza and drink some fucking Stella, man.
00:08:46.960 That's the truth.
00:08:48.460 But let me tell you something I've learned about pushing yourself to do extremely difficult things.
00:08:54.140 Let me tell you a little story to illustrate the huge benefit that you get when you push yourself beyond your actual limits.
00:09:04.480 Okay?
00:09:04.780 I just moved into a new house, as a lot of you guys know.
00:09:07.960 And I've said a couple times on my stories and snaps, the land used to belong to the 18th president of the United States, Ulysses S. Grant, who was in office just after the Civil War.
00:09:19.960 And as I was walking around our house the other day, I was wearing a weighted vest, which I commonly do, and there's a lot of hills.
00:09:28.920 And I got to thinking about something.
00:09:30.200 And I got to think about how the last three houses I've lived in, I've had all these really amazing hills to walk on that surround my house.
00:09:41.440 And that's what I do for my cardio.
00:09:43.240 The first house, which was the smallest of the three houses, had the easiest hills.
00:09:48.360 And at the time, and this is important, I thought they were very hard.
00:09:52.740 The second house, being a much, much larger, much nicer house, had a lot bigger hills.
00:09:59.640 One of the hills, if you guys have followed me for a few years, I called Death Mountain.
00:10:04.280 The hill was so steep and so long, you literally thought you're going to fucking die by the time you got to the top of it.
00:10:10.340 Okay, and then we have this new house.
00:10:12.520 And I remember before I moved into the new house, I thought, man, I wonder if any of the hills over there are any good, like if they're as good as Death Mountain.
00:10:21.220 Well, the truth is, not only are they as good, the hills at the new house, which is the nicest house of the three, are way steeper, way longer, and much more difficult than they were at even the second house.
00:10:37.380 And I was thinking how funny that parallel is, because it's really a true metaphor for what it takes to level up, okay?
00:10:46.800 If you would have asked me back when I was living at the house I just moved from, if the hills could have been any harder at my new house, I would have laughed and be like, dude, you're insane.
00:10:56.980 It doesn't get any harder than this, okay?
00:10:59.420 But I was wrong.
00:11:00.300 And I think this is a great metaphor for the huge benefit that you experience when you do push yourself and level up to a higher standard.
00:11:11.320 You know when you think shit is really hard, you're going to find out one day that it's really not that hard.
00:11:18.240 We all know that, and you've all experienced that at some level.
00:11:22.120 And as you level up and acclimate, it's going to become easy, and you're going to eventually look back from where you are now into where you were and be like, man, I can't believe I thought the hills of that first house were hard.
00:11:36.480 I can't even believe I thought the hills of that second house were hard.
00:11:40.460 And I thought it was such a great parallel for the journey, okay?
00:11:43.420 Because pursuing big goals is going to be freaking hard, man.
00:11:48.540 You're going to have to work.
00:11:50.260 You're going to have to struggle.
00:11:51.600 And pursuing happiness and success at the highest levels is going to demand a lot from you, a lot more than you think you can give.
00:12:01.780 It's always going to feel hard at first until you've gone through it.
00:12:06.500 And then when you decide you want to level up again, you're going to look back and be like, dude, that was actually pretty easy.
00:12:15.260 Like, I can't even really think without having a little laugh in my brain that I thought the hills at my first house were hard.
00:12:24.760 They were easy, okay?
00:12:26.640 And so were the hills of my second house.
00:12:28.520 And I thought those were so super hard.
00:12:30.520 And I've made videos about how hard those hills were.
00:12:33.040 And now I got this new house, which is the best house of all of them, and the hills are by far the hardest.
00:12:40.000 If that's not a metaphor for success, I don't know what is, okay?
00:12:45.560 So you have to think about that in terms of what your life looks like, okay?
00:12:50.720 You're going to start a new challenge, and you're going to feel like, man, this is really difficult.
00:12:58.200 But after you do it for two or three or four days, you're going to look back at what you thought was difficult before, and you're going to say, man, that wasn't shit.
00:13:05.400 That was easy, okay?
00:13:07.340 And this is where most people get stuck.
00:13:09.780 Most people get stuck because they consistently get caught in that zone of comfort, right?
00:13:17.460 No matter how hard the quote-unquote hills are around your house, you're going to get used to them.
00:13:26.260 And you're going to say in your head, man, those hills are the hardest hills ever.
00:13:31.400 Nobody's done hills harder than that.
00:13:33.260 I do that every day.
00:13:34.200 And you're going to build yourself up because that's what we naturally do.
00:13:37.320 What we naturally do is we gas ourselves up on how great we are, okay?
00:13:41.600 And then we get stuck in the comfort zone because we're telling ourselves, man, we're fucking tough.
00:13:47.100 Man, we're kicking ass.
00:13:49.160 Man, ours is the hardest.
00:13:50.860 We're the best.
00:13:51.540 We're the toughest.
00:13:52.240 We're this.
00:13:52.700 Because we overcame something that was hard for us in the beginning.
00:13:56.480 But what that does is that blinds us from understanding that there are more levels to this moving forward.
00:14:03.200 And when you don't open your eyes and you don't realize that there actually are more levels of more difficult challenges to move forward from where you are, you're going to stop progressing.
00:14:15.620 And when you stop progressing, you stop growing, you become stale, you get depressed, and you look around and you're like, why am I so mad?
00:14:24.400 Why am I so angry?
00:14:25.680 Why am I so frustrated?
00:14:27.020 Well, the reason you're frustrated is because you're built to fucking dominate and you're choosing because you're holding on to a label that you gave yourself many years ago or many months ago from going on the new journey up the quote unquote new hills to get the quote unquote new house that will be the prize.
00:14:49.700 Okay, the house is a metaphor for the quality of whatever your success is, whether that be your body, whether that be your relationships, whether that be your business, it doesn't matter.
00:15:02.320 Because once we start telling ourselves that we've accomplished something, we've done something, these hills are hard, not many people could do these hills.
00:15:11.540 When we start telling ourselves that, guys, we start believing that we're the best.
00:15:15.320 And when we start believing we're the best, we aren't willing to look at other challenges.
00:15:19.000 We aren't willing to go up the next hill.
00:15:20.840 We aren't willing to move forward on the next big project because we already feel like we've done it.
00:15:27.580 And the truth is, you haven't.
00:15:31.220 Guys, being successful in life, building the life that you want is going to take constant evolution.
00:15:40.680 It is going to take constant progression.
00:15:44.180 It is going to take a constant discipline towards looking for the next hardest path.
00:15:54.060 Listen to what I just said.
00:15:55.480 It's going to take the discipline to look for the next hardest path.
00:16:03.420 See, most people get a little bit of success, man.
00:16:07.180 They are able to pay their bills.
00:16:08.900 They're able to buy a car, maybe a nice car.
00:16:12.540 They're able to live in a decent house.
00:16:15.180 They're able to, quote unquote, compete with their high school buddies or their circle of friends.
00:16:19.820 And they're doing okay in that circle of friends.
00:16:22.020 And that's where they stay.
00:16:23.740 And they stay there until they die.
00:16:26.180 And I want you to think about that.
00:16:28.200 That's how people get in ruts.
00:16:30.420 Right?
00:16:31.000 And the only difference between a rut and a fucking grave is the depth of the hole.
00:16:34.520 You guys got to really, really think about what it is you're doing.
00:16:41.620 I'm fortunate enough to have these realizations come to me somewhat randomly because I'm a deep thinker.
00:16:49.540 But some of you guys, man, this stuff can happen to you without you really understanding how you got where you are.
00:16:56.640 I know there's a lot of people listening right now and you're looking around and you're saying, man, I didn't ask for this.
00:17:01.540 This is not what I wanted.
00:17:02.400 This is not what I was told I was going to get.
00:17:04.320 This is not how I wanted to live my life.
00:17:06.540 I didn't want this kind of job.
00:17:08.100 I didn't want this kind of body.
00:17:09.400 I didn't want this kind of relationship.
00:17:11.140 I didn't want this kind of car.
00:17:12.320 I didn't want these kind of friends.
00:17:14.040 I didn't want this shit.
00:17:15.300 Well, the reason you got it, guys, is because you started measuring yourself against people who were in your peer group at the time.
00:17:23.080 And once you started to get comfortable within that peer group and you felt like you weren't getting dominated by that peer group and you weren't dominating that peer group, you just kind of fell in line and that's where you stayed.
00:17:34.680 And if I could see hands raised right now, I guarantee you most of you would be raising your hand.
00:17:39.580 The truth is, guys, we learned this as a young kid and it never changes.
00:17:45.300 The degree of which you are rewarded is directly proportional to the degree of hard work that you put in.
00:17:56.240 And I know that gets put out.
00:17:59.400 I know that gets said a lot.
00:18:02.520 I know that gets beaten to the dirt by all these motivational Muppets out there.
00:18:06.260 But, guys, the reason it gets beaten in the dirt is because it's one of the things that's being said that is 100 million percent true.
00:18:14.700 And it is a law of reality that will stand the test of time.
00:18:19.600 Your life is a monument to the difficulty and the pain and the frustration and the shit that you have to deal with on a daily basis and how good you are at dealing with it.
00:18:34.540 And not only how good you are dealing with it, how good you are at asking for fucking more.
00:18:40.040 And not only how good you are at playing music.
00:18:53.660 I know that's good.
00:18:54.280 I know that's good for the fight a lot.
00:18:57.240 I know that's good.
00:18:58.700 But it is your life.
00:18:59.860 You're a good.
00:19:00.360 You're a good.
00:19:02.080 You're a good.