REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 16, 2024


Audio Exclusive 04： 4 Steps To Overcoming Victim Culture

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10 minutes

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If you are frustrated with where you are in your life, the first thing you need to realize is that you did that. If you want to fix the situation, if you want a better version of yourself, you have to be willing to admit to yourself that you created your existing circumstances. Now, who created those existing circumstances? Well, that was the old version of you that existed many months ago or many years ago that made decisions that have resulted in your current reality which you re frustrated with. So until you can admit that that is the truth, you cannot move on.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the real estate about the 0.98
00:00:20.480 lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality 0.91
00:00:24.660 Guys, today we have a Saturday audio exclusive, alright, if you are frustrated and you are 0.98
00:00:31.820 angry and you are bitter and you are pissed off about where you are in your life, the
00:00:37.800 first thing that you need to realize is that you did that, alright, if you want to fix the
00:00:44.120 situation, if you want to become a better version, if you want a better outcome in your
00:00:47.800 life, you have to be willing to admit to yourself that you created your existing circumstances
00:00:54.640 Now, who created those existing circumstances?
00:00:58.860 Well, that was the old version of you, that was a version of you that existed many months
00:01:04.560 ago or many years ago that made decisions that have resulted in your current reality which
00:01:10.940 you are frustrated with.
00:01:12.260 So until you can admit to yourself that that is the truth, you cannot move on.
00:01:17.800 I look on the internet every single day and all I see is people bitching, people crying, people
00:01:25.220 complaining about what their life looks like, wanting to change more than anything but they
00:01:31.180 pretend as if they're not in control of their circumstances.
00:01:34.520 That's just not true.
00:01:36.200 The reason that you're unhappy with how you look is because the previous version of you made
00:01:41.160 decisions to not work out, made decisions to eat foods that didn't benefit you in that
00:01:46.980 way, made decisions to sit on the couch and watch TV instead of getting up and doing something
00:01:52.380 about it.
00:01:52.860 That doesn't mean you made the decisions because we are not who we were, we are who we are.
00:01:59.180 So if you want to change your life, you have to first admit that the reason you are unsatisfied
00:02:05.580 is because of the decisions that a previous version of you made.
00:02:09.300 And secondly, you have to admit that I am no longer that same person and I am willing
00:02:14.660 to make those changes to create a different outcome.
00:02:17.560 This is a huge deal.
00:02:19.660 This is a big deal and it sounds obvious. 1.00
00:02:22.180 It sounds like, oh duh, no shit. 0.99
00:02:25.280 Well, a lot of you guys don't get it because I see on the internet every day people bitching 1.00
00:02:29.960 like it's not their fault. 1.00
00:02:31.060 It is your fucking fault. 1.00
00:02:32.600 The reason there's no money in your bank account is because the previous version of you didn't 1.00
00:02:37.540 do the work to make that money flow into your account.
00:02:40.540 The reason that you're unhappy in your relationship is because the previous version of you valued
00:02:45.320 things that you currently do not value anymore and they made decisions about that relationship.
00:02:50.500 The reason that your job isn't what you want it to be is because the previous version of
00:02:56.260 you didn't do the things that would make it what you want it to be.
00:02:59.260 So you have a decision right now that you can make to become a brand new person in this
00:03:05.900 instant.
00:03:07.260 It does not take time.
00:03:08.920 It does not take years.
00:03:10.500 It does not take anything.
00:03:12.180 It takes you making a decision right now to say, I am no longer that person.
00:03:17.960 And while you may be living in the reality that that previous version of you created, you
00:03:22.620 have a chance now to behave as a different person that will create a new reality that
00:03:27.860 will take time to materialize.
00:03:30.900 But that doesn't mean you can't change right this second.
00:03:34.120 Okay.
00:03:34.460 We have a problem in society with victim culture.
00:03:37.380 We have a problem in society with people believing that they are the victim of circumstances,
00:03:42.880 not understanding that they are actually a victim of their poor decisions.
00:03:47.620 If you can admit that to be true, you have the power to change anything in the future.
00:03:51.840 The problem is most people won't admit that because on the internet today, we get rewarded
00:03:57.440 for talking about how hard things are, talking about how fucked up things are, talking about 0.96
00:04:03.960 how miserable we are, talking about how much suffering we're going through. 0.74
00:04:07.420 Those things right now in victim culture get attention.
00:04:11.140 They get comments.
00:04:12.160 They get shares.
00:04:13.200 They get likes.
00:04:14.320 And because that's the game that we play on social media, people buy into that.
00:04:19.780 And the problem with that is, is what it does is it inadvertently creates a victim reality
00:04:26.180 for you that you cannot escape.
00:04:29.020 All right.
00:04:29.440 So be very careful with the stories you tell and the language you use and the things that
00:04:35.200 you post and the things that you say, or even the things that you think so that you
00:04:39.480 don't inadvertently become a perpetual victim.
00:04:42.340 Because once you have based your identity in this victim culture, once you have based your
00:04:48.180 identity in the sad stories or the hard times, it becomes exponentially harder to break out
00:04:55.080 of that because it is who you are in your mind, in your heart. 0.97
00:04:59.380 So we have to understand there is no nobility in the hard shit unless we overcome it. 0.98
00:05:08.060 There is no nobility in the suffering unless we overcome it. 0.98
00:05:12.840 There is no nobility in any of the things that you have had to deal with in your life until
00:05:18.020 you overcome it.
00:05:19.680 So right now I'm challenging you to become the kind of person today that is no longer
00:05:28.240 going to bitch, no longer going to cry, no longer going to make their identity as a victim. 1.00
00:05:34.240 And you are going to start right now to become the inspiration for other people who have those 0.98
00:05:41.140 same problems that you have as someone who has overcome those problems.
00:05:45.500 That's where the nobility is.
00:05:47.360 That's where the healthy identity is.
00:05:49.180 It is not in the suffering.
00:05:50.800 It is in the overcoming of the suffering, because when you can talk about and show that you have
00:05:55.760 overcome these hard things, that shows other people, that shows your neighbors, your friends,
00:06:00.800 your kids, the people at work that you are able to push through these things.
00:06:05.200 And so when they face similar things, they understand that they can push through as well.
00:06:11.580 So how does this look for you?
00:06:14.280 Very simple.
00:06:15.620 One, take responsibility.
00:06:17.900 The reason that you are unhappy right now is because you made decisions, a previous version
00:06:25.840 of you that no longer exists, made decisions in the past that have resulted in a reality
00:06:32.620 that you are unhappy with.
00:06:34.600 Two, you have to stop the cycle of talking about how hard things are for attention, for shares,
00:06:41.580 for likes, for comments.
00:06:43.520 You have to step up and say, I am no longer that person. 0.94
00:06:47.300 I am now the person who is going to overcome these things, no matter how fucking hard it is,
00:06:52.840 because you understand that the amount of good that comes from the overcoming is worth the process of actually overcoming.
00:07:01.720 You will inspire people.
00:07:03.080 You will show people.
00:07:04.080 You will become a leader.
00:07:05.300 You will feel fulfilled.
00:07:07.200 Immense amounts of good will find you because other people around you will start to overcome, 0.97
00:07:12.360 not just wallow in your self-pity or your victimhood and sit around and have a bitch circle with all your friends. 0.98
00:07:19.040 Okay? 0.93
00:07:19.340 This is how you improve not just your life, but the quality of your life because of the people that you're around.
00:07:25.080 All right?
00:07:25.860 So, very simply, my challenge is this. 0.99
00:07:29.700 If you are unsatisfied, if you are pissed off, if you are frustrated, if you feel like shit, 0.98
00:07:36.240 understand that you do not have to remain that person. 0.97
00:07:40.360 You can change who you are by making a simple decision today and then following that decision up
00:07:46.220 with actions that will produce the result you want in the future.
00:07:50.080 None of that can happen unless you admit to yourself that you did this, this is your fault,
00:07:57.040 and by the way, I'm no longer that person that made those poor decisions in the past.
00:08:01.720 I am now a new person.
00:08:02.980 I'm going to make new decisions, which are going to create a new reality,
00:08:05.940 which is not a victim reality.
00:08:07.820 It is a reality of overcoming.
00:08:09.760 This will change your life. 1.00
00:08:12.520 Stop with the victim shit. 1.00
00:08:14.140 Stop with the complaining. 1.00
00:08:15.720 Stop with the nonsense and start to realize that if you truly want,
00:08:20.080 an amazing existence, if you truly want to feel better,
00:08:24.680 if you truly want to be fulfilled in your life and to look back at the end of your life and say,
00:08:29.660 man, I did it.
00:08:31.280 I did a great job. 1.00
00:08:32.960 It's going to come from the hard shit that you overcame. 0.99
00:08:36.220 It is not going to come from you saying, 1.00
00:08:39.040 oh, I lived this shitty life and it was everybody else's fault. 0.97
00:08:42.460 Okay? 0.87
00:08:42.780 Your entire life, how you're going to feel about your life depends on you understanding this.
00:08:48.260 So one, it's your fault.
00:08:50.840 Two, you can be a different person right now.
00:08:53.460 Three, start taking the actions of what that different person would actually do.
00:08:57.980 And then four, be patient enough to allow the results to materialize.
00:09:02.220 That's what you need to be doing.
00:09:04.020 That's what all of us need to be doing. 1.00
00:09:05.760 We need to stop with the victim shit. 1.00
00:09:07.580 We need to stop with the complaining. 1.00
00:09:09.320 Yes, things are hard, but don't tell the hard shit unless you talk about how you overcame it. 0.99
00:09:14.520 That's my advice. 0.99
00:09:16.140 Go out, kick ass, become the version of the self that you want to be. 0.99
00:09:20.040 And the world and you and everybody around you is going to be better for it. 0.99
00:09:23.880 Yeah.
00:09:24.880 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:09:27.040 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00
00:09:28.720 Fuck a pole, fuck a stove. 1.00
00:09:30.380 Counted millions in the cold. 1.00
00:09:32.060 Bad bitch, booted swole. 1.00
00:09:33.720 Got her on bankroll. 1.00
00:09:35.360 Can't fold.
00:09:36.240 That's a no.
00:09:37.020 Headshot case close.
00:09:38.520 一口中 you are all still on the floor.
00:09:40.280 Don't turn.
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00:09:58.940 Could turn.
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00:10:02.300 Go up, man.
00:10:03.320 Don't turn.
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00:10:05.720 Turn.
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