Audio Exclusive 04： 4 Steps To Overcoming Victim Culture
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Summary
If you are frustrated with where you are in your life, the first thing you need to realize is that you did that. If you want to fix the situation, if you want a better version of yourself, you have to be willing to admit to yourself that you created your existing circumstances. Now, who created those existing circumstances? Well, that was the old version of you that existed many months ago or many years ago that made decisions that have resulted in your current reality which you re frustrated with. So until you can admit that that is the truth, you cannot move on.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the real estate about the
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lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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Guys, today we have a Saturday audio exclusive, alright, if you are frustrated and you are
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angry and you are bitter and you are pissed off about where you are in your life, the
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first thing that you need to realize is that you did that, alright, if you want to fix the
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situation, if you want to become a better version, if you want a better outcome in your
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life, you have to be willing to admit to yourself that you created your existing circumstances
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Well, that was the old version of you, that was a version of you that existed many months
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ago or many years ago that made decisions that have resulted in your current reality which
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So until you can admit to yourself that that is the truth, you cannot move on.
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I look on the internet every single day and all I see is people bitching, people crying, people
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complaining about what their life looks like, wanting to change more than anything but they
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pretend as if they're not in control of their circumstances.
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The reason that you're unhappy with how you look is because the previous version of you made
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decisions to not work out, made decisions to eat foods that didn't benefit you in that
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way, made decisions to sit on the couch and watch TV instead of getting up and doing something
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That doesn't mean you made the decisions because we are not who we were, we are who we are.
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So if you want to change your life, you have to first admit that the reason you are unsatisfied
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is because of the decisions that a previous version of you made.
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And secondly, you have to admit that I am no longer that same person and I am willing
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to make those changes to create a different outcome.
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Well, a lot of you guys don't get it because I see on the internet every day people bitching
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The reason there's no money in your bank account is because the previous version of you didn't
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do the work to make that money flow into your account.
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The reason that you're unhappy in your relationship is because the previous version of you valued
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things that you currently do not value anymore and they made decisions about that relationship.
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The reason that your job isn't what you want it to be is because the previous version of
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you didn't do the things that would make it what you want it to be.
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So you have a decision right now that you can make to become a brand new person in this
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It takes you making a decision right now to say, I am no longer that person.
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And while you may be living in the reality that that previous version of you created, you
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have a chance now to behave as a different person that will create a new reality that
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But that doesn't mean you can't change right this second.
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We have a problem in society with victim culture.
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We have a problem in society with people believing that they are the victim of circumstances,
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not understanding that they are actually a victim of their poor decisions.
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If you can admit that to be true, you have the power to change anything in the future.
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The problem is most people won't admit that because on the internet today, we get rewarded
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for talking about how hard things are, talking about how fucked up things are, talking about
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how miserable we are, talking about how much suffering we're going through.
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Those things right now in victim culture get attention.
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And because that's the game that we play on social media, people buy into that.
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And the problem with that is, is what it does is it inadvertently creates a victim reality
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So be very careful with the stories you tell and the language you use and the things that
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you post and the things that you say, or even the things that you think so that you
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Because once you have based your identity in this victim culture, once you have based your
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identity in the sad stories or the hard times, it becomes exponentially harder to break out
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of that because it is who you are in your mind, in your heart.
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So we have to understand there is no nobility in the hard shit unless we overcome it.
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There is no nobility in the suffering unless we overcome it.
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There is no nobility in any of the things that you have had to deal with in your life until
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So right now I'm challenging you to become the kind of person today that is no longer
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going to bitch, no longer going to cry, no longer going to make their identity as a victim.
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And you are going to start right now to become the inspiration for other people who have those
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same problems that you have as someone who has overcome those problems.
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It is in the overcoming of the suffering, because when you can talk about and show that you have
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overcome these hard things, that shows other people, that shows your neighbors, your friends,
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your kids, the people at work that you are able to push through these things.
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And so when they face similar things, they understand that they can push through as well.
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The reason that you are unhappy right now is because you made decisions, a previous version
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of you that no longer exists, made decisions in the past that have resulted in a reality
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Two, you have to stop the cycle of talking about how hard things are for attention, for shares,
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You have to step up and say, I am no longer that person.
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I am now the person who is going to overcome these things, no matter how fucking hard it is,
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because you understand that the amount of good that comes from the overcoming is worth the process of actually overcoming.
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Immense amounts of good will find you because other people around you will start to overcome,
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not just wallow in your self-pity or your victimhood and sit around and have a bitch circle with all your friends.
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This is how you improve not just your life, but the quality of your life because of the people that you're around.
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If you are unsatisfied, if you are pissed off, if you are frustrated, if you feel like shit,
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understand that you do not have to remain that person.
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You can change who you are by making a simple decision today and then following that decision up
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with actions that will produce the result you want in the future.
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None of that can happen unless you admit to yourself that you did this, this is your fault,
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and by the way, I'm no longer that person that made those poor decisions in the past.
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I'm going to make new decisions, which are going to create a new reality,
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Stop with the nonsense and start to realize that if you truly want,
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an amazing existence, if you truly want to feel better,
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if you truly want to be fulfilled in your life and to look back at the end of your life and say,
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It's going to come from the hard shit that you overcame.
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oh, I lived this shitty life and it was everybody else's fault.
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Your entire life, how you're going to feel about your life depends on you understanding this.
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Three, start taking the actions of what that different person would actually do.
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And then four, be patient enough to allow the results to materialize.
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Yes, things are hard, but don't tell the hard shit unless you talk about how you overcame it.
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Go out, kick ass, become the version of the self that you want to be.
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And the world and you and everybody around you is going to be better for it.