REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Bros, Babes, Brides, Breakups, and Business, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 Hey guys, what's up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm your host, Andy Frisella,

00:00:22.940 and I am the motherfucking CEO. I'm here with my co-host, Vaughn Kohler. What's up, man?

00:00:28.400 Uh, what's up? Uh, not a lot. I always say that. I can't, I, whenever you say what's up, man,

00:00:34.960 I don't, I don't know what to say. Well, what's going on? What's the news in Vaughn the Impaler

00:00:40.420 world? Uh, I am a bachelor today and tomorrow, and I'm driving to Kansas City. Oh shit. That's

00:00:46.000 pounds of weed being smoked and bitches getting bows dropped on them. It's crazy. I'm going to go across

00:00:53.380 the river and it's going to be great. So, uh, we also have just kidding for those of you who

00:00:58.360 don't know what sarcasm is. And there's a lot of them. Yeah. So guys, um, we have a special guest

00:01:04.680 today. Uh, her name is Emily. She is the owner of fithomeandhealth.com. She's a blogger, an

00:01:13.160 entrepreneur, an author, and she also happens to be my wife. That's true. Yeah. Are you like,

00:01:19.280 does anybody ever refer to you as the first lady of first form? No, I did receive a, uh,

00:01:24.780 tank top from a company that said, Mrs. MF CEO on it that I wear proudly. Did you really? Yeah.

00:01:29.220 I wore like three times a week. Yeah. You're MF MRS. Exactly. Yeah. That's what I was going to say.

00:01:34.780 That's going to be my license plate. So question of the day is what the fuck are we going to talk

00:01:41.740 about, dude? Because usually every time I come in here, I have this list of things that we're going to

00:01:47.240 go through today. I have no list. Yeah. So I'm going to make an urgent plea to everyone listening

00:01:51.440 at this very moment for you to give very high marks to this, because I want Andy and his lovely wife

00:01:57.680 and Tyler, who is not wearing coral pants right now, but I want, where are your, I want, where are

00:02:04.480 they, dude? It's laundry day. It was laundry day. Okay. Okay. Anyway, I I'm making this urgent plea.

00:02:09.820 I want everyone to respond very positively to this because I really had to sell Andy on this. Uh,

00:02:16.520 we're going to, we're going to talk about a lot of things related to business and your significant

00:02:22.160 other and relationships, but this isn't going to be like e-harmony. It's going to be MFCEO

00:02:27.860 harmony. MFCE harmony. MFCE harmony. No, it's not even going to be like that, but it's, it's going

00:02:33.260 to be a good conversation. So you're, you're, you're down with it, right? Absolutely. Okay. Well,

00:02:38.380 I thought that the first thing we could do is, you know, for those who are really deep into

00:02:44.380 these kinds of things, tell us your, your love story. Well, you want, you want me to

00:02:48.960 the truth or do you want her story? Well, why don't we, why don't we hear it? Here we

00:02:52.080 are. Ruthie's beer, Ruthie's beer. And here we are. Not Ruthie. No. Who the hell's Ruthie?

00:02:59.460 I don't know. Yeah, pretty much. Um, she stalked me for a long time and then, uh, we went out

00:03:06.520 and, uh, now we're married. That's pretty much how it happened. That's not what I heard.

00:03:11.440 In what world? Okay. Emily, do you want to tell your, your, I I've heard that you, uh,

00:03:17.860 he's the cliff notes. You worked in. Yeah. Well, he's always the cliff notes version,

00:03:21.060 but I've heard that, I've heard that, uh, you worked as an ad manager or something like

00:03:26.240 that. Yeah. And he showed up in a tuxedo with flowers. I was, uh, an operations and accounting

00:03:30.120 manager for a, uh, design firm and we, he walked in and was so struck and put back by me that

00:03:38.100 he said, I just got to have that. So I'm going to stalk her for two years. No, that's not

00:03:41.480 what happened. What happened was, and this is funny because a lot of people look at her

00:03:45.940 and they look at me and they're like, dude, she's fucking with them because he's got some

00:03:49.480 money, which we honestly, I get that a lot. People, people comment that it's terrible.

00:03:55.160 Actually, you know what I get all the time about you two? What dude? She just loves him for

00:03:59.680 his beard. Well, that's true. You know what? I mentioned the beard in our wedding vows.

00:04:04.360 True. The point is, is that we, I, we do get a lot of that shit and, and what people don't

00:04:09.560 realize and what makes them look so fucking stupid when they say that is that the whole reason we

00:04:14.560 even met is because I couldn't pay my fucking bills at the company that she worked at. So she

00:04:19.180 used to have to call me and harass me to pay my bills when I didn't have any money. And I,

00:04:24.980 and, and then I would try to turn it into a joke and just tell her, you know,

00:04:28.120 she's calling to flirt with me. Like, that's the only thing I could do to any money.

00:04:31.640 Right. You know? And so I think it's, it's ironic that people say that shit and it's like, dude,

00:04:36.520 no man, my game is just that strong. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So I agree. We, uh, you know,

00:04:42.520 what happened really was is we were friends, uh, you know, and it just kind of evolved from that.

00:04:49.740 You know, we knew each other for years before we even went out on a date. Yeah. You know,

00:04:53.300 and she knew that I was broke. And so how long did you guys actually date before you got married and

00:04:57.940 when did you get married? We got married October 20th, 2012. And we got together, um, middle of

00:05:05.920 09 and we met in 06. So we knew each other three years and then, yeah. Cool. Well, so the reason that

00:05:12.020 I think this is so valuable to talk about this is because we have had quite a few emails from people

00:05:17.100 who, um, you know, they're, they're trying to kill it in business. They're trying to kill it in life

00:05:22.520 and, and they either have a significant other or they want a significant other. And one of the things

00:05:27.320 that everybody in this room knows very well, none of us would position ourselves as marriage experts

00:05:33.180 or even dating experts or love experts, but, but we've all learned a little bit of, about, you know,

00:05:38.880 relationships, uh, here and there. And one of the things that I know you guys believe is that

00:05:42.680 this, the significant person in your life, uh, whether it's spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend,

00:05:48.440 or whatever, they can make or break you professionally. And so this is relevant to,

00:05:53.760 to success in business. Um, just like hanging out with successful people is relevant. And just like

00:05:59.320 we've talked about the importance of building loyal friendships is relevant. So this person who,

00:06:04.280 who's sort of the, the center of your life in many ways is going to, their, their influence is going

00:06:09.300 to ripple on everything you do. So, um, what I want to know, uh, I think one of the things that I

00:06:16.400 want to just start with, with you, Emily, is just to say, what's a quality, um, one quality that you

00:06:23.420 think that you've always looked for in a man that you found in Andy and you say, thank God that's the

00:06:32.400 case. Otherwise our marriage and by extension, my business attempts would absolutely suck.

00:06:37.920 What's that quality?

00:06:40.360 His work ethic, like his drive, you know, like I love that. I, that's the way my dad was just

00:06:45.640 bust ass hard worker. And I like that, you know what I mean? Nobody wants fricking lazy ass, you

00:06:50.860 know, playing video games, watching ESPN and sit on the couch all day. So his drive and work ethic

00:06:56.020 is, you know, something, a quality that like, I, you know, is important to me.

00:06:59.700 And what did your dad do or what does he do right now?

00:07:01.940 He owns trucking firms and also is a farmer.

00:07:04.660 Oh, like both? He does both?

00:07:06.160 Yeah. He's done both. Uh, 61. He's, he's the hardest worker. He could outwork any 20 year

00:07:11.420 old. Actually, now that I think about it, I think Andy has mentioned that guy before.

00:07:14.840 Yeah. So the only guy Andy's just, you know, afraid of.

00:07:17.900 Yeah. Yeah. He's a big guy.

00:07:19.940 Yeah. Now are you guys traditional enough that did Andy like talk to your dad before?

00:07:25.300 Yeah. It's kind of a funny story. Cause my sister and her boyfriend have been together for a long

00:07:28.120 time. And, um, Andy was going to ask my dad permission to, uh, marry me on Easter. Um,

00:07:36.440 yeah. Easter 2011, I guess it was. And, uh, Andy had to leave to go do something else.

00:07:42.660 And my sister's boyfriend asked my dad at Easter to marry my sister. And then I told Andy, I said,

00:07:48.120 oh my gosh, you know, Adam is going to marry Sarah. And Andy's like, what? And he didn't

00:07:53.320 sound too excited. I didn't know what was going on. I found out months later he was going to ask

00:07:56.740 the same day, but he didn't want to like steal their thunder. So he had to wait months later

00:07:59.820 to ask me. So that's funny. Kind of a funny story. So yeah, he was, yeah, he, he's very

00:08:04.500 traditional in asking.

00:08:05.600 What about you, Andy, in terms of what people look for, what you found in Emily that you are

00:08:10.400 very glad that exists in her as a character quality. Otherwise life would suck for you.

00:08:16.400 Her boobies.

00:08:20.480 That's two qualities.

00:08:21.960 I can already tell you're taking this topic.

00:08:24.560 Let's be real. Let's be real here. It's all, it's all her boobs, nothing else.

00:08:31.380 That's where the brains are at.

00:08:33.040 No, but that's the thing. So like, I loved what did you post? I think you posted something

00:08:38.160 on Instagram. I showed them to my wife. It was hilarious. Um, it was no, it was Teresa

00:08:42.800 posted. Oh yeah. Did you see that? Yeah. You want to say it? Cause I'm not going to

00:08:46.100 say it. It said, uh, brains are the new tits. Yeah. Yeah. The thing is, is obviously I'm

00:08:51.840 joking, but you know, I see all these people, I get emails all the time about the same thing

00:08:57.660 we're talking about. Um, you know, Oh, I'm trying to start a business and my loved ones

00:09:03.960 don't support me or my girlfriend doesn't support me or my so-and-so doesn't support me.

00:09:07.540 And you know, the truth of the matter is, is people are far too loyal to people that

00:09:15.140 don't support them, um, in relationships. You know, I've got these 19 year old kids who

00:09:20.000 are dating some girl for three months and they're taking heat about whatever they're

00:09:24.280 trying to get going. And they're like, well, what should I do? Well, you know what?

00:09:27.460 You should fucking cut her off. That's what you should do. And the reason that the main

00:09:31.600 thing about Emily that made us work is that she understood what my goals were and supported

00:09:38.640 them a hundred percent. It wasn't a situation where I had to fight because dude, being an

00:09:43.320 entrepreneur is hard enough. Moving forward is hard enough. Trying to find success is hard

00:09:47.920 enough. You know, without somebody who's supposed to be on your team and supposed to be rowing

00:09:53.140 your boat in the same direction, you know, basically throwing an anchor in the water and keeping

00:09:57.760 you from going where you want, which was the situation, you know, many, many years for

00:10:02.700 me before her and I got together. So, you know, the main thing for me, um, you know, I'm

00:10:09.760 not going to sit here and be like, Oh, it's her compassion or blah, blah, blah. And all

00:10:15.060 this shit. No, man, it's a compatible relationship. Yeah. You know, it's matter of fact, like, dude,

00:10:20.360 she understands that there's a team, there's things that she's got to do. And there's things

00:10:24.280 that I've got to do, you know? And, and like most people are like trying to equal out all

00:10:28.420 this shit in a relationship when in reality, if you're on the same team, you shouldn't

00:10:33.520 be playing tit for tat anyway. Yeah. You know? So I got a lot of these younger guys and even

00:10:39.040 older people, you know, they're in there, even if they're married and they don't have

00:10:42.240 many obligations, you know, they've got these situations that, and the reason I said boobs,

00:10:47.200 obviously I was joking, but like they're with somebody cause they like the way their ass looks

00:10:50.880 or they like the way their, their boobs look and they're not with somebody because it's

00:10:55.620 a fucking compatible relationship, you know? And dude, my advice real simply is like, dude,

00:11:02.000 think with your fucking, your, your head, not your fucking little head. Think with your

00:11:06.520 big fucking head. You know what I'm saying? And like, dude, you don't owe loyalty to someone

00:11:13.240 you've been with for fucking three months. I'm sorry. Right. You don't owe loyalty to someone

00:11:16.600 you've been with for a year that you have no commitment to. You're not, is your life worth

00:11:21.540 giving it up for something like that? You know? And if you think it is, you're, there's something

00:11:26.360 wrong with your brain. Right. Period. Right. You know? So like, you know, I say the boob

00:11:30.440 thing joking, but you know, the reason I said that, I mean, it is because I want people to

00:11:36.240 realize like, you know, there's like probably 70% of people that like really would answer that

00:11:42.640 way. Right. Being honest. Right. You know what I mean? So. Right. I don't know, man.

00:11:47.540 I just get, you know, it's a, it's a frustrating thing to answer because if you answer, like I just

00:11:52.600 answered, people say, Whoa, Oh, you're all about success and not about family. No, but how much,

00:11:58.160 it's just a fucking ignorant statement to make, you know, success and family go hand in hand.

00:12:03.960 How much better can you take, take care of your family if you're successful? Right. You know what I

00:12:08.020 mean? Which, which actually is, is a great segue into this, this topic that, you know, this work,

00:12:14.440 work family balance or work life balance, which we've all talked about before in the podcast is,

00:12:19.380 is a really terrible way to even refer to it because you're never going to have this perfect

00:12:24.780 balance. That's an ideal that can't be, can't be achieved. But I think what I would be very

00:12:31.020 interested to know, either one of you want to chime in first is, um, what were the, what are the key

00:12:37.160 indicators for you that, you know, you can say, okay, yeah, we're doing this. We're killing it.

00:12:43.120 We're, we've got a good rhythm going here. We've got, we're, we're doing okay in our relationship.

00:12:47.320 We're doing okay in our business. And then in the, to follow up that question, what things do you do

00:12:52.960 or the attitudes you adopt that have enabled you to hit that sweet spot? And I, I, the way that I asked

00:12:59.540 that was a little confusing. I'm, I'm, I guess simplified. The question is what things do you do

00:13:06.140 where you, you are able to achieve a little bit of success in, in work and home and the balance.

00:13:13.940 I think it's just understanding each other and, you know, how things work. I know that his days are

00:13:17.960 jam packed. He's always, you know, got someone trying to reach him. He's always setting new goals

00:13:22.880 and everything like that. So I feel that it's me understanding that, you know, it's learning each

00:13:27.400 other's language. They say like love language, that sounds retarded, you know, but it's really like a

00:13:32.560 language of learning his day. I know when he answers the phone, he says, yo, it's what's going

00:13:37.420 on. I'm busy. You know, what's, you know, what, let's, you know, no small talk or hello. It's more

00:13:43.960 of he's available and things like that. And I feel like when he comes home, I can sense how he is and

00:13:49.400 he can sense how I am. And we just, I mean, it, it works. It's just, we have a good sense. I think

00:13:55.700 of self with each other that we, we can, we don't have to have focus on a balance. I don't know.

00:14:01.560 It's no dude. A lot of these girls, especially out there are, they're fucking whiny. You know

00:14:06.500 what I'm saying? You're at work all fucking day. You're like, dude, any guy out there listening

00:14:10.680 right now and females are going to write in and be all pissed off about this, but I don't give a

00:14:14.040 fuck because it's truth. Okay. You got your dude out there trying to fucking do something. Okay.

00:14:18.520 Or even vice versa. You got your, your girl out there trying to do something. We have female

00:14:22.800 entrepreneurs on the show. Okay. They're out there spending all their fucking energy to try

00:14:27.720 to better their lives that you're a part of. And they get home. The last thing that you need to be

00:14:32.760 doing is whining in their ear about, you know, why you didn't fucking hold my hand enough today

00:14:40.200 or why you didn't, you know, uh, put your cup away whenever you drank out of the water out of it

00:14:45.940 or whatever, dude. It's just, you know, people get beat up over emotionally beat up over the most

00:14:51.040 ridiculous shit and nagged. You know what I mean? It's nagging. And you know, it's, it zaps the

00:14:58.420 energy, man. You only have so much energy. And if you can, if you're getting your energy zapped

00:15:02.180 at home by your significant other over insignificant bullshit, you know what I mean? Oh, you know,

00:15:08.900 what's wrong? I don't understand. Why are you in a bad mood? I'm in a bad mood. Cause it's in a

00:15:15.540 fire eight motherfuckers today. How about that? Something you know nothing about, you know what

00:15:20.760 I mean? So the thing is, is like, people don't fucking think about that. They're selfish in

00:15:25.820 their thinking. They think about like, you know, they, instead of thinking like, oh, this, it could

00:15:32.100 have been a terrible day or it could have been this. They take everything personal. You know what

00:15:35.840 I mean? And they make it into this like relationship and you come home and it's fucking therapy. You know,

00:15:41.320 it's all of a sudden you got to lay on the couch and put your feet up and have this fucking

00:15:44.160 therapy session about why whatever, you know, the reality is, is anybody who's in business,

00:15:49.880 anybody who's an entrepreneur and I don't care who they are or what they say, they're going

00:15:53.040 to have a little bit of a fucked up relationship. It's just not traditional. It's not what you

00:15:56.760 see in real life where people hold hands and fucking walk down the street and have a picket

00:16:01.760 fence and all this shit. You know, it's just not. Did you, did you guys happen to listen

00:16:05.960 to a Gary V's podcast about this whole work life balance thing where he, he basically said

00:16:11.580 he knew that there were times that he was neglecting his family. He didn't, he didn't

00:16:15.220 want it. He didn't want to, um, I don't want to misrepresent him. I think that's, that's

00:16:19.320 pretty, it's been a while since I've listened to it, but he's basically saying that like

00:16:22.460 there, there is no perfect scenario. You have to do your best to try to, to try to meet

00:16:27.060 your, but that's the problem. What you're saying is the problem. You have all these fucking

00:16:31.520 idealistic people out there that think that it should be this perfect little thing. Okay.

00:16:36.240 So you have to understand number one, it's not going to be fucking perfect. It's just

00:16:39.900 like being an entrepreneur. You know, these people wait and wait and wait and wait and

00:16:43.980 they wait for this perfect fucking opportunity, this perfect plan with no bumps in the road,

00:16:48.360 no, no obstacles, no anything. And that's why they never find what they're looking for

00:16:53.920 because it's not there, you know? And so you have the same thing. Now you have these people

00:16:58.400 who think relationships are supposed to be this like thing that they think about or they

00:17:03.960 see on TV or whatever they fucking read about somewhere or see on TMZ or whatever. I don't,

00:17:08.840 I don't know where the fuck they get this idea, but they have an unrealistic idea of what's

00:17:12.960 reality. Like you said, it's, Oh, go ahead, Tyler. If I may Andy, uh, because I know Emily

00:17:18.440 on a personal level and she's probably the most selfless person I know. How much easier does

00:17:23.520 she make your career a million times because she understands that. Right. But see, that's

00:17:28.700 the thing. And like, that's, that's where like I hear these guys, especially cause I get

00:17:33.120 a lot of guys saying this to me, my, and I don't know if it's cause I have more male

00:17:38.840 followers or whatever it is, but I, a lot of guys are like, man, I've been with this

00:17:43.080 girl for this amount of months and you know, she doesn't, she doesn't support my goals or

00:17:48.560 my dreams. And she thinks I should blah, blah, blah. And what should I do? What the fuck

00:17:53.080 do you think you should do?

00:17:54.240 The thing is they always say that who you marry or you date anything like that, that's your

00:17:58.980 most important business decision. You're not going to make a deliberate bad decision

00:18:02.680 in business. So why would you make that in your relationship? You're also not going to

00:18:05.200 make an emotional decision in business based off of some fucking shiny thing. You know what

00:18:11.300 I mean? Right. And that's what most people do. They make this a totally emotional decision

00:18:15.900 about their partner and then they try to make these logical decisions and they try to

00:18:19.920 mesh those things together and it doesn't work. So you didn't listen to Taylor Swift and

00:18:23.320 then go ask Emily to marry you? Oh Lord. No, I honestly, before I met her, I was never

00:18:27.600 going to get married. Yeah. Never, never fucking, never, ever, ever. So playing devil's advocate,

00:18:32.440 I'm just going to throw this out there. What if somebody says, great, well, you know, Tyler

00:18:35.840 calls her selfless. Basically what you're telling me, Andy, is you married a doormat. She just

00:18:41.020 does whatever you want her to do. You know, I'm playing devil's advocate. Don't, don't, don't

00:18:45.440 punch me. But I mean, I mean, she just does whatever you want to do. I mean, what's your

00:18:49.160 response to that? I think that anybody who thinks that's got a mental fucking issue because

00:18:54.740 so what's the difference between someone who is selfless and someone who's a doormat

00:18:58.980 because what's a doormat explaining where doormat is? Well, whatever you want, honey, it's all

00:19:04.180 about you. I don't have anything that I'm ever going to ask you to do for me or to sacrifice

00:19:08.820 for me. That's, I guess that's, that's what I would say. I mean, I'm saying I'm pretending

00:19:14.780 to be the person who's, who's going to level that accusation. What are you guys going to

00:19:18.500 say? Right. And I think I met what Tyler met in that way. It's more of understanding what

00:19:22.440 it is. Cause you know, I, I have owned a business before brick and mortar business and I was

00:19:26.900 in a relationship with someone that nagged the hell out of me and it is annoying. It's

00:19:31.140 terrible. You can't be productive. It's fucking ridiculous. And I know how much like that annoyed

00:19:37.120 me and how much I hate it. And like you resent those people for those kinds of things, you

00:19:41.560 know? And so I can understand from, you know, that standpoint of him. So I think that it's

00:19:46.420 not a doormat. It's more of just understanding what he goes through every day, trying to make

00:19:50.780 his life easier. No, it's, it's the roles of the, of the, of the relationship. Everybody's

00:19:55.300 got a part to play. You know what I'm saying? If you're in a fucking baseball diamond, okay.

00:20:00.260 You not, everybody plays their position. You know what I mean? So we just happen to have

00:20:05.340 more of a traditional relationship. She works from home. She's an entrepreneur from home.

00:20:09.820 I actually don't work from home. I come here, you know, I have a lot of things going on and

00:20:15.020 you know, I go take care of my business. She takes care of her business time. We get to

00:20:19.180 spend together. It's great. You know what I mean? So, you know, I don't know, man, I

00:20:24.740 still think the idea of like a doormat or whatever these, the traditional relationship

00:20:30.600 of like the fifties or whatever is unrealistic. You know what I mean? And I feel like, I don't

00:20:37.760 know, I'm trying to think back because it's hard for me to remember what it was like to

00:20:40.480 be in a relationship. But I mean, I can remember being in other relationships where I would get

00:20:45.480 like text messages during the day, non-fucking-stop about like something, like something stupid.

00:20:50.720 Like, you know, I don't know, maybe we had a little bit of an argument the day before

00:20:55.300 and then the argument just drags on all day long through text. You know what I mean?

00:20:59.840 Yeah, absolutely.

00:21:00.300 But see, here's the problem. So what ends up happening and what you guys and girls need

00:21:04.400 to understand is that what ends up happening is you're getting yelled at for being too ambitious,

00:21:11.120 too goal-driven, too wanting success. All right. So then you back off, right? And then you come and

00:21:17.540 you give your attention to all this person. And then guess what? Then the problem becomes not that

00:21:22.800 you're ambitious and goal-driven and blah, blah, blah. The problem becomes that you're lazy and

00:21:25.700 you're fucking broke. So like nothing, nothing's good enough. That's right. So you have to realize

00:21:31.120 that. So when people fucking nag you, cut them out of your life. I don't care who they are.

00:21:35.260 Agree. Yeah. So you, you mentioned two things. One, you said that, uh, Emily had some stuff

00:21:39.540 going on at home entrepreneurially. And then you also said that, you know, contrary to this,

00:21:44.940 this person who was constantly texting you, you weren't doing that, which tells me not only,

00:21:49.620 uh, you know, to piggyback off of Tyler, but it's not just selflessness, but you, you're confident

00:21:55.600 you've built that you've, you've, you have a healthy independence. So on that note, why don't you

00:22:00.340 tell us what you're doing? What's your, what's your business venture?

00:22:03.760 Business venture. It's fithomeandhealth.com. It is a website right now. I have, um, some cookbooks

00:22:10.320 coming out. Um, hopefully the first one will be out like early winter and it's basically healthy

00:22:17.100 living, um, lifestyle. I was inspired about six years ago to start this because I was shopping for

00:22:24.200 some healthy cookbooks and they all required ridiculous, you know, spices that I couldn't find,

00:22:29.820 or they were ridiculously expensive. They're paying the ass to make. Right. And I said,

00:22:33.280 fuck this. I'm doing my own thing. So, um, I just started doing that. And then this February,

00:22:38.740 um, Andy and I talked about just me taking that on full time and, uh, cause our lives are just

00:22:45.440 getting increasingly busy with him. And it, uh, we had made the, you know, joint decision that I

00:22:50.820 would leave my career and, uh, do this full time and pursue that. And then, uh, so you're currently

00:22:55.300 doing something else too. Oh, you, no, no, sorry. I miss, I misheard you. So you, you already did

00:23:00.360 that. You already left your career. Yes. I left my career. No, you're fine. Just this, uh, past

00:23:05.280 February that I was at for eight years, actually the job that I met Andy at, I left there and, uh,

00:23:10.240 started doing this, um, full time and, you know, working from home and it's, I, you know, I really

00:23:16.120 enjoy it. It's, uh, Andy's, you know, been super, super supportive of this. And, you know, when I

00:23:21.220 mentioned it, he's like, fuck yeah, go do your thing, you know, do your own thing. So

00:23:24.520 it's a, uh, pretty easy, uh, decision. That's awesome. Yeah. Um, so I'm going to take it just

00:23:31.680 a second to do that boring information that we always like to share. Uh, those of you who

00:23:35.680 want to catch this episode, go to the MFCEO forward slash, uh, P 16, and you can check out

00:23:41.900 episode notes, uh, links galore book recommendations, all that good stuff. And while I'm at it, I'm going

00:23:47.300 to go ahead and mention the winners of the, um, shout out competition that are contests that we

00:23:53.400 had, uh, last week. Did you already do that? Well, we did that on a, uh, on an episode that

00:23:59.440 we ended up scrapping. Oh, okay. I was going to say, I felt like we did that already. Yeah. So I'm

00:24:04.580 just going to make this real quick. Shout outs go to at get skull that's spelled S K U L L E at

00:24:11.000 get skull. He's a Missouri entrepreneur who sells hygiene products and the like at gorilla

00:24:17.080 zero one gorilla as in gorilla warfare, not, uh, the ape. And I believe, uh, Aaron is a athlete

00:24:25.300 and personal trainer and has just a lot of things going on dad hood and husband and people spoke

00:24:30.040 very highly of him. So that shout out to at gorilla zero one. And then finally, um, at Isaiah

00:24:36.180 Robertson, and that's spelled with an L, uh, which is a little confusing, but it's at Isaiah

00:24:41.200 Robertson and he runs an organization called stat basketball, which it looks like it helps, uh,

00:24:46.280 youth who face a different challenges. And I'm sure he's got a lot going on, but check

00:24:49.900 out those three. Oh, and then I have to throw in at Natalie works, who is the mom of at get

00:24:54.060 them Scott, who has a skincare business and she works real hard. So, uh, that's our shout

00:25:00.620 out winners. We'll do that at some point in the future. So just going back to, to you,

00:25:05.200 Emily, a little bit on what you're doing. Cause I know we have, we do have, you know, it's

00:25:09.320 not the majority, but we do have a good contingent of our listeners who are women. So talk to

00:25:14.140 me a little bit about, um, are there unique challenges to, to having a business that's,

00:25:20.340 that's targeting and, and, and marketing to women? Cause I mean, I, I take it that that's

00:25:25.120 fit home and health is primarily. I mean, I do have some, you know, a male audience as

00:25:29.440 well, but for the women, you know, it's still a little bit more traditional where a lot of

00:25:34.080 the women, you know, do the cooking. I do have the portion of men that they, a lot of the men

00:25:37.920 that, um, that follow their chefs actually too. So it's kind of, you know, it's, it's

00:25:43.640 neat that they get into it as well. And, you know, I haven't, uh, I haven't had any

00:25:47.880 challenges so far, as far as being a woman, I think it's just, you know, you have to put

00:25:52.100 yourself out there as the way you want to be perceived and, you know, respected and who

00:25:55.300 you are, you know? So I haven't, uh, had any type of challenges as far as that goes, but

00:26:01.020 it is, it's just putting out content that people can relate to. It's not overly girly.

00:26:05.240 It's not fluffed up. It's here's how you make this provide a good dinner. Yeah. Yeah. So

00:26:10.920 let's suppose that you guys are friends with another couple and one of them has a real strong

00:26:16.700 desire to build something big in business, but you're noticing something about the other

00:26:22.080 person in that relationship. And those, what you're noticing are red flags, things that you're

00:26:27.860 thinking out is going to be trouble down the line. What are, what are some of the things

00:26:31.760 you're noticing? People that are needy, lack confidence.

00:26:35.240 You know, they want a lot of attention. They, you know, they're not comfortable. They're,

00:26:41.660 they're not good with being alone. You know, you have to be able to, uh, people who make

00:26:46.520 remarks, you know what I mean? Like you'll, you'll hear this. I hear this a lot, actually.

00:26:52.560 Um, they make little remarks. They'll tell you like the little clues, like, Oh, uh, you know,

00:26:58.660 the one, you know, he just works so much or he just, he's always working. And it's like

00:27:03.460 in set in a complaint tone. It's like, look, bitch, he's working so he could pay your fucking

00:27:07.820 bills. You know what I mean? Right. I've heard people say stuff like that. And they'll say,

00:27:11.480 Oh, we were supposed to do this, but you know, he's got to work.

00:27:14.720 Well, the funny, the funny thing is, the funny thing is, is when people bit like other girls

00:27:18.800 bitch to you about people that work for us here and they're like, they act like I fucking never

00:27:24.160 work. It's like, it's like telling you, they only had a fucking clue. I mean, it's like, dude,

00:27:31.500 you know, it's unreal. They're do my work like 50 hours a week. Oh, he's always working. Blah,

00:27:36.620 blah, blah. She's like rolling her eyes. Yeah. It's, and it happens. Like people don't think

00:27:40.460 about what they're saying. Right. You know what I mean? Right. And it does. It is comical

00:27:43.800 because it's like, they don't understand like, Oh yeah. Andy's at the office. Then he comes home

00:27:47.080 and he's working. So can I go to bed? Exactly. No. And then he can't fucking sleep because he

00:27:51.500 has ideas and he gets up and he's texting, you know, like doing emails or, you know,

00:27:55.620 reminding himself stuff. But I mean, the red flags are obvious if you look for them. I mean,

00:28:00.100 they're not red, they're flaming. Right. Yeah. People make remarks about how much you work or this or

00:28:05.060 that. And let's say in the beginning of a relationship, you know, less than a year, probably

00:28:09.620 you know, dude, that's an automatic issue. That's what do you think that's going to fester

00:28:13.540 into? You know what I mean? Look for the people that with that. I think are, uh, they feed into

00:28:18.940 the drama. If they watch reality TV, that's a red flag. It's not going to work out. Another red flag

00:28:24.900 would be the person that is working in the, in the relationship. All of a sudden loses like driver

00:28:29.380 passion. Dude, that I see that all the time. I can't tell you how many employees I've had that

00:28:34.100 have, that have met some new girl. All of a sudden they're all about this girl and all of a sudden

00:28:38.960 their work situation goes to total shit. Yeah. You know what I mean? And guys, you know,

00:28:45.400 and that's the mentality of society. And I'm going to get hate mail on this. I don't really give a

00:28:49.720 fuck, but the reality is the mentality of society is this emotional minded fucking fluffy bullshit,

00:28:56.880 you know, care bear shit. It's what I call it. You know, let's all hug and sing Kuba and let's

00:29:01.880 operate our whole lives on emotion. Yeah. It's not the fucking reality of the world. If you want to,

00:29:06.380 if you want to, dude, if you want to drive a nice car, you want to live in a nice house,

00:29:09.700 you want to have a nice bank account, you want to be able to do shit. You're going to have to

00:29:13.340 think logically, not all emotionally. That's it. You know what I'm saying? And dude, the reality,

00:29:19.480 what's the reality of a relationship anyway? People could fucking fake a relationship for six months.

00:29:24.820 They could pretend to be what you want them to be for at least six months. Then it'll be perfect.

00:29:29.700 Then the little red flags will start coming out. Okay. Then three years from now, you're breaking

00:29:35.080 up with them because you fucking hate them. And you would have hated them in the first place

00:29:38.440 had they fucking not lied about who they were. You know what I'm saying? So it's all, it's all

00:29:44.340 fucking, you know, I just have a different take, man. You know, like her and I got along as friends.

00:29:52.660 You know what I mean? She understood what it means to fucking work because her dad,

00:29:56.700 I think is probably set that example for her. And she saw that in her own family.

00:30:00.920 And I recognize that, you know what I mean? And, uh, we get along, we fucking laugh at each

00:30:06.100 other's jokes. You know, I think she's pretty good looking. Yeah. It's that fucking simple.

00:30:11.180 You know what I'm saying? Like, dude, it's not that hard. And you didn't need to get on match.com

00:30:16.180 or anything like that. No, believe it or not. You know, it's, it's just, it's one of those

00:30:21.360 things. Uh, it's just people overcomplicate it. It's just like fucking being an entrepreneur.

00:30:27.100 Do people overcomplicate the whole fucking thing? You know, instead of like what I say

00:30:31.220 all the time, take one customer, turn it into two, don't overcomplicate it. People do

00:30:35.320 that with relationships. You know, they look for this thing that doesn't exist. They look

00:30:39.700 for perfection. They look for no road bumps. And instead of being coming good with somebody

00:30:46.140 who's like-minded, you know, they, they do fucked up shit because people were fucked

00:30:51.620 up. They think, they think things like this. Oh, well that guy's kind of boring. I'm going

00:30:56.600 to go for this person who's a challenge. Well, then they, then they bitch about it. Cause

00:31:01.180 it's like a bad dude or bad bitch shit. And I'm glad you made time. Like I didn't try

00:31:05.720 and change a person. That's what I'm saying. Like, that's what they do. They'd rather, instead

00:31:09.220 of finding somebody you're compatible with, dude, let's be real, man. Let's be fucking

00:31:13.820 real. This shows about reality. People fucking go out with people for sexual reasons. All

00:31:19.720 right. Once you had sex with somebody for a fucking year, guess what? You get used to

00:31:25.340 it. No matter who the fuck you're with law of diminishing return. That's what I'm saying.

00:31:29.760 It's reality, dude. And I'm not saying like, you know, sex life, this or that, but I'm just

00:31:34.880 saying like people make these decisions that ruin their whole fucking lives based on something

00:31:39.080 that's fucking ridiculous. You know what I mean? Right. Like, Oh dude, I, I'm, I got

00:31:43.640 this perfect partner. Oh, I like this other girl's titties. I'm going to go fucking banger

00:31:46.680 and they ruin their life. You see what I mean? Absolutely. Like dude, they don't get it.

00:31:50.420 And like, dude, these young guys, young guys, especially cause I know you're all walking

00:31:55.260 around with fucking boners half the time. You know, they're the ones making these stupid

00:31:58.800 ass decisions about who they should be dating dude. And they go out with these chicks that

00:32:03.840 fucking hang around dudes with bottles at the club and shit. Instead of picking up somebody

00:32:08.540 who's got a fucking brain and who could be a good partner in life. I mean, you know

00:32:13.780 what I'm saying? I look at them and I'm like, dude, and I see dudes with them and they're,

00:32:18.540 they're like, Oh yeah, we're getting married. And I'm like my faith. I got like, you know,

00:32:23.180 I got, I can't even hide it anymore. I can't hide his emotion. When people tell me that I'm

00:32:29.260 like, dude, I mean you for real. I thought I honestly, I thought you're fucking paying her

00:32:32.460 for the night. You know what I mean? Right. Yeah. He'll ask too. Yeah. I mean, dude, but

00:32:38.340 that's what guys do. And then they call and they email me and they say, Andy, my girlfriend

00:32:43.480 says I work too much. Right. My girlfriend says I'm too ambitious. How can you be too

00:32:49.500 ambitious? You know what I'm saying? Yeah. That same girl, you're going to fucking quit

00:32:54.180 your job. And that's, what's funny about these dudes that like get all wrapped up in

00:32:57.180 these relationships. They end up quitting a job or changing jobs to spend more time with

00:33:01.460 a girl. And what happens is a girl fucking kicks him out. Right. Or cheats on him. Right.

00:33:05.620 With somebody who's got more money or somebody who's got more success or somebody who has more

00:33:09.180 ambition. So I, so I'm really glad you're getting fired up about this. I am because it's

00:33:13.280 dude, I could fucking seriously unload right now, but like it would involve like words like

00:33:18.020 horror and slut and fucking skank. And cause those are the words that I actually use. Yeah.

00:33:23.180 And it goes both ways. And it would, it would include words like moron, fucking idiot. Yeah.

00:33:28.300 Okay. Dumb ass. But I'm just not going to insult everybody. I mean like, but use your

00:33:33.260 fucking brain. You know, it's a partnership. It's the most important partnership of your

00:33:37.220 life. You should fucking look past somebody's physical attributes and connect with somebody

00:33:43.280 on a mental level and on a friendship level. Because what I'm saying about the sexual things

00:33:47.920 and this and that and whatever is like, dude, what are you going to have when you get used

00:33:51.720 to that? It's whatever else you have. It's what's left. You know what I'm saying?

00:33:57.060 Right. And dude, you know, people always like, I hear people complain like, Oh dude, we just

00:34:02.540 don't have the fucking, the magic we used to have. You mean like when you first met and

00:34:07.440 it was brand fucking new and it was exciting and you don't have that anymore for two years.

00:34:11.880 Welcome to the fucking club. That's everybody. That's fucking everybody. That's everybody,

00:34:17.480 everybody in the fucking earth. And if you say different, you're a fucking liar. Right.

00:34:21.440 Right. So, but the mistake they make is then saying, they think that's love. Yeah. They think

00:34:25.660 that's love. They think the love is the fucking infatuation phase that when you first start

00:34:32.460 dating, they think, Oh, that's love. And I'm out of love because I'm not like as excited. You know

00:34:37.780 what I'm saying? As I was, well, dude, that's not it. It's just like anything. It's, it's anything

00:34:43.920 that you become familiar with is less exciting naturally. You know what I mean? So people do this

00:34:50.080 all the time. They go in a relationship and I would say that relationship can last, you

00:34:54.140 know, that period can last like two, probably two years. You know what I'm saying? Where

00:34:58.980 you're just crazy, excited and all that shit. Right. And, and then what they do is they say,

00:35:04.460 Oh, I fell out of love. And then they break up and they start over and then they go do

00:35:09.080 this. Like, dude, I have fucking friends who've married twice already. They're 35 years old,

00:35:12.880 you know, three times more than that. You know what I mean? It's like, dude, stop and think

00:35:18.360 about what the fuck you're doing. You know what I mean? I know a lot of friends that have

00:35:22.140 to be in a relationship and it holds them back career wise, dude, because they jump from

00:35:26.560 one girl to another girl. And it just, look, I'm not going to lie. When I was making my

00:35:29.760 business, like whenever we were broke and we were coming up, we didn't have shit. My

00:35:33.880 a hundred percent priority was business and I lost girlfriends over it. And I, and, and

00:35:38.080 dude, I lost friends over it. I lost girlfriends over it. And you know what? I couldn't be

00:35:41.920 fucking happier about it. That's the reality, you know? Cause now I look back and I think,

00:35:46.300 man, I could have fucking ended up with that person. I could have ended up here. I could

00:35:49.100 end up there. And it's hard for people when they're younger, especially to see the reason

00:35:54.820 things aren't working out until they're older. And then they can look back and they can say,

00:35:58.660 wow, that's why that didn't work. Right. You know what I mean? Right. Absolutely. So I love

00:36:03.800 the fact that you made a distinction between people who are really screwed up, they're negative

00:36:07.960 and people who are just imperfect because we're all imperfect, but there's a difference between

00:36:12.540 just falling short of that, that objective standard of perfection and then just being

00:36:17.600 a really screwed up person. But here's something that I, I'd like to ask you, cause I know you're

00:36:21.180 really big on the law of attraction, you know, life attracts life here. I want to add something

00:36:25.660 to what you just said. Like there's a lot of people out there and you have to fucking look

00:36:28.520 out for them. They're puppet masters. Okay. And what they do is they have no power in life.

00:36:33.480 They have not accomplished anything. They don't have any power over anything. And, and a lot

00:36:38.800 of times this is girls because girls, a lot of girls fucking go through life trying to

00:36:45.340 think I'm going to find a rich guy and I'm going to fucking marry him. Like that's their

00:36:47.940 strategy in life. Like, dude, if that's your strategy and you're listening to this, you are

00:36:53.380 fucked up period. Okay. And so what they do is they try to use their vagina to manipulate

00:36:58.840 you into doing things and their puppet masters. And they're like, well, if you do this, I'll give

00:37:05.020 you this. If you do that, I'll give you that. Or if you do this, I'll give you this.

00:37:08.980 And like, dude, I hear these guys saying shit like, Oh yeah, man, you know, fucking I'm

00:37:15.340 going to go home. I'm going to go home early this week. So maybe I can get lucky. It's

00:37:18.260 like, bro, you're the most pathetic fucking thing I've ever heard. Like that's the most

00:37:21.660 pathetic thing I've heard. You know what I mean? Dog scratching at a door. Yeah, exactly.

00:37:25.140 Like you're going to be a fucking dog begging for fucking hoping somebody get laid the fuck

00:37:29.700 out of here. You know, be a man, stand up and have your fucking priorities straight.

00:37:34.000 And if somebody has a tree, you respect man, woman, or otherwise get them out of your

00:37:37.160 fucking life. Period. Well said, you know? Yeah, definitely. It's like pathetic, dude.

00:37:44.320 I see it all the time. And it's like, I want to reach out and fucking strangle people because

00:37:48.240 I'm like, dude, you are so far away from having the fucking success mindset. Like I can't even

00:37:55.160 fucking talk to you. You know what I mean? I can't, what I say to you is not going to make

00:37:59.120 sense. You know, and it's very frustrating because I want these people to realize what

00:38:03.300 they're doing is self-destructive, but you can't talk it into somebody that's in that

00:38:07.640 fucking mindset. Do you think the core of it is insecurity? Yeah, dude. Because guys have

00:38:12.280 this idea like, you know, dude, here's what it comes down to. Let's be real. You know,

00:38:16.500 girls hit puberty. Dudes try to bang them every day all day long from the time they're

00:38:20.240 fucking 15. Okay. They're in control. Let's be real. All right. Guys hit puberty. They

00:38:27.580 can't even see a boobie. All right. They go through life trying to see girls naked. That's

00:38:31.760 their mentality. I'm going to do everything I can to see girls naked. And when they find

00:38:34.900 one, they try to fucking stick with them. It's like being in the desert and somebody throwing

00:38:39.660 you a fucking cracker and you thinking that cracker tastes like Thanksgiving dinner, you

00:38:44.000 know, when you're, when you don't have much selection, you know, a fucking cracker is

00:38:48.360 pretty damn good. You know what I mean? But you've got to have the perspective to look

00:38:52.020 and say, yeah, it's a fucking cracker. It's still in Thanksgiving and fucking go find

00:38:56.000 Thanksgiving. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, I love that. Yeah. And so, dude, it's a

00:39:00.320 mentality of men versus women. Yeah. And a lot of women hear this and they get upset, but

00:39:04.400 it's the truth. You know, men don't have that fucking constant barrage of, of potential

00:39:10.900 sexual activity happening to them over and over and over and over and over again. So

00:39:16.140 do they take what they can get for the most part? It's like we've talked to the bar going

00:39:20.060 out, you know, you see girls are waiting and like guys buy them drinks, everything else

00:39:22.780 is easy for them. We're guys. It's like, all they got, they're getting shot down and everything

00:39:26.160 else. Right. And so like, dude, and that's, that's why you get people who, who hang on to

00:39:31.060 something that's not that great for them because they don't, they're afraid to like go out and

00:39:34.500 go out into the desert and starve for a while. Right. I mean, that's what it's like, but dude,

00:39:39.780 you know what? Sometimes you've got to starve if you're a dude. Right. I mean, I think people

00:39:46.980 don't realize that it is, it is far better to be alone than to be with someone who's bad

00:39:52.560 for you. Absolutely. Far better. Absolutely. And, but part of that is, is coming to the realization

00:39:57.840 that you actually don't mind it. You got, you like yourself enough that you're okay.

00:40:02.000 Dude, it's all part of growing up, right? Yeah. You know, and you know, when you're younger

00:40:07.460 and you don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, you think, well, what's wrong with me? Right.

00:40:11.340 Why can't, why does nobody like me? You know, instead of thinking like, why does nobody like

00:40:15.240 you? Why don't you think about why you don't like anybody else? Right. You know what I mean?

00:40:18.620 Why is back in the, you know, following society and it's society's expectations. Right. If you

00:40:23.620 don't have a girlfriend or you're not married at this age or whatever, something fucking

00:40:26.840 wrong with you. Right. Exactly. What's wrong with you? But having worked with kids, you know,

00:40:30.260 like high school and college students for a long time in my life, I I've met some kids

00:40:34.800 who had that genuine thought, like, what, you know, why doesn't anybody like me? And what

00:40:38.380 I said to, and you know, is there something wrong with me? And what I always said to them

00:40:41.280 was, why do you assume something's wrong with you? Maybe something's right with you. And

00:40:45.780 they're just, you're just surrounded by a bunch of losers. I mean, that's, that's a possibility

00:40:49.700 too. I, you know, I think that's, there's a lot of truth to that. Actually, I think when you're

00:40:55.560 younger, especially when you're 17, 18, 19, if you're a good dude and you got your shit

00:41:00.040 together, that's not exciting to fucking 17, 18, 19 year old girls, you know, they want

00:41:05.300 fucking exciting. You know, they don't, they're not in the, they're not looking for fucking

00:41:09.660 Mr. You know, perfect. And so then what happens is these good dudes go try to be fucking the

00:41:16.060 dudes that these girls want to be. And then before they know it, they thrown their whole

00:41:19.840 life away and they're sitting in a bar, fucking 30 years old, wondering what the fuck

00:41:22.560 happened. Right. You know, you young dudes, you guys got to realize like, look, man, stay

00:41:27.560 on your fucking goals. Right. You know what I mean? Stay focused on your goals. Take care

00:41:32.740 of yourself first. And the right person will come along and compliment that and not just

00:41:37.780 be there, but also push you forward. Right. You know? Right. I didn't even have a girlfriend

00:41:43.220 until I left high school. Well, that was, there's no, there's obvious reasons for that.

00:41:46.880 And my dad, you know, my dad was smart enough because I wanted to play D one college baseball

00:41:51.960 and dude, I put all my focus into that. So it was one of those things where I made a

00:41:56.140 decision, a conscious decision. Like I'm just going to fucking put girls on the back burner,

00:42:00.160 not fucking party. And I'm going to, you know, dude, until you're married and have fucking

00:42:04.440 family, like legit issue, like you're seriously talking about getting a family. You dude, you

00:42:11.860 should be worried about yourself first, in my opinion. And people are going to argue with

00:42:15.160 that and say, Oh, you're such a dick. But dude, I'm going to tell you, your life is

00:42:19.380 more valuable than a relationship. That's probably not going to work out. Right. Right. I would

00:42:23.380 also say to anybody who's listening, cause I know sometimes we do have people this young

00:42:27.100 who listen, like in high school, if you're a good dude or you're a good girl, keep being

00:42:31.220 good. Yeah. And the reality is you need to know this high school is not reality. Not, not,

00:42:37.480 not even close to reality. So if you get down on yourself, just really press on. Cause now

00:42:44.600 I, I, I try to ask this earlier. I, cause I'm dying to know what you have to say about

00:42:48.560 this. I know you're a big one on the law of attraction. Like attracts, like, you know,

00:42:52.340 we meet people all the time who say, I can't find anybody nice. I can't find anybody nice.

00:42:56.520 And the reality is birds of a feather flock together. And in, in some cases, the reason

00:43:00.620 they can't find any anybody nice is that they're not the kind of person who attracts those kinds

00:43:06.200 of good people. So my question to both of you guys and Tyler, you can chime in too, is

00:43:10.080 what are some things you would say to people? Okay. You want to develop the character that

00:43:14.440 you're actually attracting people that are good quality people? Give me like three to

00:43:19.500 five things you do. You would suggest you want to build character. You want to develop

00:43:22.920 as a person who it is that you want to attract period. If you want to attract a certain kind

00:43:28.040 of person, become the kind of person that person is going to want to be with. That's it.

00:43:32.900 You know what I mean? And that's what I just said about guys that are good guys trying

00:43:37.820 to become like these other people to pick up these chicks. That's what they're doing,

00:43:40.880 but they're not thinking it through because the person that they're trying to actually

00:43:45.140 attract is, is a shitty person for the most part. Right. I mean, right. At that time in

00:43:50.900 their life, maybe they'll grow up, but I don't know. But I'm just saying like, you know, you,

00:43:55.800 you can't expect to fucking attract a fucking 10 when you're a fucking two. And I'm not talking

00:44:02.160 about looks. I'm talking about everything else, but looks, I'm talking about your brain. I'm talking

00:44:06.620 about your sense of humor. I'm talking about your ability to communicate. I'm talking about

00:44:10.900 all that shit. You know, it's not even about looks. It's about, cause dude, you, you get used

00:44:16.220 to the way somebody looks. Like I said, you know, it's about the, all the other things that set that

00:44:21.200 foundation and you know, you can lay out all these qualities or whatever you're asking for. But

00:44:27.520 the reality is, is dude, if you work on yourself enough and you become the right person, you become,

00:44:33.360 you're going to attract the right people into your life. And that's going to be friends. It's

00:44:37.280 going to be significant others. It's going to be all of that. And if you don't, you'll be just fine.

00:44:42.920 You'll be happy with who you are. You'll have stuff going on. And until such time as that person

00:44:48.220 comes into your life, you'll be okay. Just because you don't have anybody in your life doesn't mean

00:44:53.000 you're going to do people come consumed with, with the idea of finding somebody. They do,

00:44:57.100 but that's our whole culture. I mean, I mean, I love, you know, I love Taylor Swift. She's great,

00:45:01.080 but that's, that's part of the reason she's so, she's so mega popular is her, her whole songs are

00:45:06.460 like emotional porn. I mean, they're, they're, that's what they are. They're, they're like people

00:45:10.940 desperately wanting this romance in their life or, or, you know, they're, I mean, obviously,

00:45:15.520 well, I don't know. I was just attract desperate people. Yeah. They just attract desperate people.

00:45:19.260 You're right. Yeah. But I think it's just, I mean, golden rule is just treat others the way you want

00:45:23.440 to be treated because whether that be in a relationship or friendship or anything like that,

00:45:27.340 because if you're single and you're, you know, you treat your friends the way you're going to be

00:45:30.500 treated, they are going to, you know, do that with their friends. And I think that's the way you end

00:45:34.520 up meeting people, you know, and with treating each other the way you want to be treated, I think

00:45:38.680 in life, period. No, that's a good point. You end up meeting groups of people that are the right

00:45:43.000 people. And then you find people in that group and then you click with those people. Exactly.

00:45:46.920 It all boils down to having standards. It does. Yeah. And a lot of people don't,

00:45:50.520 a lot of people will, a lot of dudes will stick it in anywhere that fucking has a pulse. And you

00:45:55.640 know, that's not a good place to be guys. You know, I mean, let's be real. Don't get

00:46:00.580 something you can't wash off. Not only that, let's be real, man. You know, Tyler, when you

00:46:05.700 and I were young, we started slow, but man, we have caught fire. When we were all young,

00:46:10.060 man, we had to like steal porno magazines. Now you just go online. I paid people for that

00:46:15.220 shit. Yeah, dude, that's what I'm saying, man. You hide that shit like your secret hiding

00:46:18.720 spot. Like nowadays, man, you just fucking click over the computer, man. Yeah. All

00:46:22.760 right. All right. So, so, so, so I'm just going to, let me get on my high horse just

00:46:27.380 for a second here. You know, you pastor of disaster. I have talked to guys and they're

00:46:33.060 serious. Okay. I, they're serious about this. I have said to them, dude, you need

00:46:38.800 to like meet a real girl. You need to have like a real relationship and actually like be

00:46:44.160 in love and get married and, you know, learn all the things that you're supposed to

00:46:48.700 learn and touch or it's real. No, you know what he says? He's like, and I've had

00:46:52.580 guys tell me this, dude, I don't need that. I said, why not? I can look at porn

00:46:57.060 every night. Are you, what? You're serious? Yeah, no, I, it's like a smorgasbord, man.

00:47:03.260 I can have, I can have any woman I want in my mind. Why do I need to, and they're

00:47:06.860 serious. Listen, listen, it is pathetic, but you know what? I thought he was like

00:47:12.920 unusual. I Googled this. There are a lot of young guys that think this they're, they've,

00:47:19.540 there's all sorts of surveys and studies that basically say, I can just look at porn.

00:47:23.560 Look, you, you realize I'm joking. Well, hold on, hold on a second. Cause I got to say this

00:47:27.600 to me, you're a coward. You, you, you want to cause porn is all about you, you, you. It's

00:47:33.580 all about making you feel like you're the center of, of, of the woman's attention. And I say to

00:47:38.500 those guys, man, you're a coward. Cause love, you got to put your heart out there. You got

00:47:42.220 to, you got to sacrifice and you have no idea that you can't believe I'm going to actually

00:47:47.300 use this phrase, but you're jacking off when you could be having a life, like a life changing

00:47:52.760 relationship. Dude. But see, okay. Clearly I was joking when I said that it was, it was

00:47:57.180 a joke, but here's the thing. People, I didn't get any amens. I was kind of hoping I'd get

00:48:02.740 an amen, but I want to have like a pastor crackdown. Hang on. Like some sort of phrase that

00:48:07.380 you say when he's about to lay down his law. Well, dude, the thing is, is that you've got

00:48:11.600 to understand that life is hard. Okay. And if you're going to be successful, there's

00:48:16.800 a reason you don't see successful entrepreneurs without somebody in that supporting role one

00:48:21.720 way or the other. You know what I mean? And it doesn't have to be gender roles. Like the

00:48:25.400 man brings home the bacon and the woman does all the fucking housework. I mean, it doesn't

00:48:30.240 have to be that way. I love bacon though. Yeah. Me too. Yeah. But who doesn't? But the thing

00:48:35.180 is, is that, you know, you rarely see successful entrepreneurs rarely, rarely, rarely, rarely

00:48:43.260 without somebody as a partner who's pushing them forward. Right. You just don't because

00:48:48.320 there's a lot. Which is why all this is relevant. Right. Exactly. You just don't. It's not even

00:48:51.620 just like, oh, well, I'm going to be successful on my own. It's like, no, you need somebody to

00:48:57.360 support you and pick you up and push you forward when you need that. And that's where people get

00:49:02.620 lost. They think of it as, oh, well, if I don't find the right person or I don't blah,

00:49:06.320 blah, blah, or I just date these hoes, you know, or these douchebags for the ladies, you

00:49:11.300 know, everything will be fine, but that's not the case because there's a whole lot more

00:49:14.300 to life than just your work. And you need somebody who can help you with that and support you

00:49:19.440 and push you through when you need that. You know what I mean? So people, I mean, you

00:49:24.700 look at guys, you know, look at Bill Gates, look at Warren Buffett, look at, I mean, fucking

00:49:30.340 Zuckerberg, all these guys have women in their lives or significant others. And the women

00:49:35.560 too. I just read a story about the co-founder of a Oracle yesterday. I think it was, who's

00:49:40.020 a, who's a female or Cisco, Cisco. And, uh, and dude, all these people have significant

00:49:45.780 others in their lives to push them forward. You know what I mean? So it's not just a matter

00:49:50.100 of like, do I want to have somebody that I have that, that is great. And do I know you

00:49:55.120 fucking need it. It's a central part of success. You know what I mean? Because what happens

00:49:58.900 is, is, you know, if you're constantly fighting with somebody or arguing with somebody, your

00:50:02.920 energy gets zapped by that, then you can't focus on where you need to focus it. So when

00:50:07.400 you bring somebody in that helps make your life easier and by easier, I mean, help support

00:50:11.780 you, helps encourage you, helps you with taking care of the issues, the other issues of life

00:50:16.520 and you're doing that together. Then this other area becomes far less, you know, painful

00:50:21.680 to deal with because you have the support in other areas of your life. You know what I mean?

00:50:25.620 But like, dude, you're not going to get that chase of tits and ass. I'm going to tell you

00:50:29.360 that right now. And a lot of people will look at Emily and they'll say, Oh, well, she's

00:50:33.400 hot. Well, yeah, she is hot. But, but I'm, but that isn't, that isn't how we fucking know.

00:50:40.260 It's an illusion. Like almost cause like people misunderstand our relationship. Right. You

00:50:45.380 know what I mean? Right. Because of that. Right. No, absolutely. Good stuff. So I want to

00:50:51.220 switch to, uh, truth or dare. Can I do that? Okay. All right. You ready? Yeah.

00:50:59.080 Emily, this is your question. All right. I'm going to channel my inner, uh, Howard Stern.

00:51:04.900 No, I'm just kidding.

00:51:07.960 Okay. We need a woman president truth. No, that's, I mean, that's not really a truth or dare. That's

00:51:17.960 like a true or false. Well, that's, that's my, that's, is it not? Yes. I don't know. How

00:51:24.880 do you play truth or dare? It was your bad idea. You tell me. I think people are realizing

00:51:32.440 it's very apparent that this is Andy's wife. No, we don't. We need somebody that can do

00:51:38.320 the right shit, get everything ironed out and get this country back where he needs to

00:51:42.320 go. And it could be a woman or it could be a guy. That's right. Who gives a shit what

00:51:45.560 it is. Just fix it. Quit voting for skin color. Quit voting for gender. Quit voting for dumb

00:51:49.880 shit. Right. Right. Vote for the person that can fix the fucking problems. Exactly. I like

00:51:53.500 it. Okay. Here, dare. I dare you, Emily, to tell me what you really think about women

00:51:57.600 who gain social media followings only by posting half naked pictures of themselves. Oh, that

00:52:02.420 could be a whole podcast. Yeah. Dude. I mean, I don't, I think it's, uh, shows me a lack

00:52:10.160 of self-respect, lack of confidence. You know, are you trying to inspire or are you just

00:52:13.860 trying to put a picture of your ass up? I don't need to see your ass pro progress three

00:52:17.980 times a day. Like it's just oversaturated. And then those, then those are the same bitches

00:52:22.060 that complain. They don't get respect or they want to be taken seriously. Like, or they take

00:52:25.500 a picture of their tits like this. Yeah. Like, you know, and then they're like, somebody makes

00:52:29.160 a comment about it and they're like, Oh, you're a fucking, you're a chauvinist asshole. It's

00:52:32.980 like, look, lady. I saw a lady on a G string on my Explorer page of the day. She had her back.

00:52:37.860 She's sitting on bed. She had a G string on no, you know, she's totally naked. You see her

00:52:41.780 back and the picture was about meditating. You mean you got to fucking meditate in your

00:52:45.920 G string? You, you know, you couldn't have put a picture up in like your tank top or

00:52:48.600 something like, dude, look, man, social, the social, yeah, the likes and all this shit

00:52:53.180 has become people's self-worth. Exactly. You know, and people have gotten so addicted

00:52:58.420 to, I mean, Facebook and Instagram and Twitter, all these, it's all genius shit because what

00:53:03.420 you've done is you've got people addicted to, you know, social currency. Yeah. Right.

00:53:08.940 And it's, it's, it's what they're worth now. So like now, dude, if you don't get a thousand

00:53:13.340 likes, you know, if I didn't get a thousand likes on me and my workout gear, well, I'm

00:53:17.320 sure get a thousand by show my ass, you know? And you know, dude, it's become a situation

00:53:23.200 where people aren't even fucking living their real life anymore. They're just selling their,

00:53:29.480 their bodies for, to people that don't even matter. Yeah. You know? And like, dude, think

00:53:35.760 of how that prevents you from meeting someone who's like of quality. Right. And once you

00:53:39.660 put it up there, it's, it's there. And that's, you can pull it down, but it's there. People

00:53:43.660 want to prove their likes or follow. So I've seen girls that, you know, you have respected

00:53:47.800 and they start posting, you know, slutty pictures. Right. Respect. Dude, I would respect them

00:53:54.680 a lot more if they would just say, here's a, here's a picture of myself. Check out my ass

00:53:59.060 as opposed to like, as opposed to like putting a picture up and being like, Oh, progress

00:54:04.120 pick or the sun's out today. Yeah. Or do you like my socks? I'm so, you know, we all go

00:54:09.220 through hardships in life, you know, and some motivational bullshit on her naked picture.

00:54:14.580 Right. Like dude, just, that's like a Snickers and Diet Coke diet on Instagram.

00:54:18.540 You think it equals out. Dude, just be real. Just say, Hey, I think I look pretty fucking

00:54:22.300 good in this picture. I can respect that. Yeah. At least, at least. No, I totally agree.

00:54:26.820 I'm going to get blowback for this comment, but the one that I just kind of shake my head

00:54:30.700 is when you have this literally, I won't even say half naked woman. We'll say like three quarters

00:54:36.080 naked woman. And the caption is something like Jesus loves you. I know. Are you serious?

00:54:42.900 I know. I mean, they really do some Bible verse or something like, yeah, you may have been born

00:54:47.660 naked. You don't have to stay naked on the internet. I don't know, dude. That's our culture,

00:54:52.360 right? Our culture is all about attention. Yeah, it is. So it is. Um,

00:54:56.580 but I think with that though, it brings more attention to the people that don't do that.

00:55:00.860 You know, I think people are getting, it's just oversaturated where you just, you know,

00:55:04.660 if we see that on our Instagrams, we just keep scrolling. Like you don't even stop anymore.

00:55:07.840 Well, dude, what I think it is too, is, is I think it's very, I think it's very cheap way to,

00:55:14.580 to create value for yourself online. And I think, you know, when people say, I work hard to look

00:55:19.500 like this. Well, you know what? That's fine. But dude, what else do you got? Yeah.

00:55:23.880 Right. But, but there's also a difference between posting a generally fitness themed picture and

00:55:30.680 some of the over the top things that people post. I mean, yeah. It's a fine line now. It is a fine

00:55:35.420 line. It is a fine line. Okay. Emily. Oh, so it's not truth or dare. It's true or false. Andy

00:55:40.200 Frisella is way hotter than George Clooney, Bradley Cooper, or Channing Tatum.

00:55:44.520 Definite truth. Definite truth. Okay. Who's, who's the closest, who's the closest second in that one?

00:55:48.900 What were my options again? I didn't even have to list it because I already knew he was the hottest.

00:55:52.160 Old, medium, and young. He's rolling his eyes. George Clooney, Bradley Cooper,

00:55:56.480 and Channing Tatum. Um, dude, I would, I say Clooney, man. No, don't pick for me. I was

00:56:02.740 going to say Clooney. He's just, he is just much more, uh, cultured. He's classic. Yeah. He's just,

00:56:11.500 yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah. I just like that look. He's just, he doesn't, he doesn't try to get attention.

00:56:16.300 He's not, you know, I, I like him. Although I do like Channing Tatum too. That guy's fucking

00:56:21.140 hilarious. Yeah. He is funny. Okay. So, so, uh, you know, just indulge me here a second and this

00:56:27.120 is going to be on an honesty policy. So Andy's got to come up with a name in his mind and you're

00:56:31.060 going to tell the truth whether she guesses it right. If, if Andy can meet any celebrity woman

00:56:36.760 who's going to maybe cause him to get a little bit like, Whoa, who is that woman?

00:56:43.260 Oh, shoot. What's her name? Hang on. Hillary Clinton.

00:56:48.140 Oh, did you say vomit? Um, celebrity woman. Well, recently it's been, you know, with Ronda

00:56:58.680 Rousey, all that kind of stuff. That's who I was thinking of. Yeah, I swear.

00:57:02.480 I swear. That's who I was thinking of. I literally only figured out who she was.

00:57:06.220 No, that was right, dude. I swear that was right. I was thinking Ronda Rousey.

00:57:09.680 Ronda Rousey. Dude, it's cause she's badass. Yeah. Oh, that's hilarious. You know? Well guys,

00:57:14.360 this is episode 16. So if you want to check out the show notes for it, it's themfceo.com

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00:58:06.560 It helps us, it helps our rankings and we'll have another contest down the line. Um, before we wrap

00:58:13.140 up with final words, Emily, why don't you share your social media contacts for, and for you and for

00:58:18.160 your, uh, your business on, uh, Instagram. It is Emily Frisella, same as that's for Facebook and on

00:58:25.520 Periscope. It's fit home and help. Great. Andy, these guys know my stuff. No, I know they do,

00:58:32.860 but you know, you never know. All right. At Andy Frisella for pretty much everything at Vaughn

00:58:37.340 Kohler for permit, pretty much everything. And then Tyler is at my underscore Tyler with the my

00:58:43.760 spelled M a I, I believe. Final word, Emily. Final word. Yeah. I've never heard a final word on

00:58:52.960 well, you just got to do it every podcast. You obviously you're not supporting your man.

00:58:59.120 Absolutely. Final word. Yeah. Final word. Be yourself, have a good relationship and stay on

00:59:06.880 track. I don't know. Yeah, that's great. Yeah. Great. Cut that out. No, I'm not going to cut it

00:59:11.800 out. Uh, Andy always says, I've never heard like somebody like a guest say it. Well, look,

00:59:18.740 here's the thing. We've got all these people out there looking, just stop looking at it as this,

00:59:25.860 dude, if you're going to go on date and you want to have fun and do all this shit,

00:59:29.860 it's fine to be emotional and do all that. But when it comes to picking somebody that you're going

00:59:34.060 to spend time with for the rest of your life, you know, you should be thinking more than all that

00:59:39.520 person's got a nice six pack or that person has a nice ass or whatever, or this person drives a

00:59:45.800 BMW. You know what I mean? And the society has gotten so shallow and it's so easy to get sucked

00:59:52.400 into the idea of a relationship versus what the relationship really is that, you know, I just,

01:00:00.400 the guys and girls listening, you guys need to be fucking careful. And if you get with somebody

01:00:03.800 who happens not to support who you are, you know, if you don't have family and you don't have these

01:00:08.700 like physical, like legal ties to this person, dude, get them gone. And if you do have legal ties

01:00:13.760 to the person, cause there's people who are like married and they're thinking, fuck, I'm already

01:00:17.160 with somebody and I have two kids with them and we don't have a good relationship. Dude,

01:00:21.720 you need to like sit that person down and have a real conversation about priorities in life,

01:00:25.640 you know? And if they don't understand, then there's some hard decisions that are going to

01:00:29.100 have to be made. You know what I mean? So I think that I think I would just encourage everybody to

01:00:35.100 stop. You know, we joked around a lot on this podcast, but dude, this is like one of the most

01:00:40.200 serious decisions you ever make. And if you don't, if you don't take it serious and you just like

01:00:45.660 meet somebody in a fucking, you know, concert and you happen, you know, and it just kind of,

01:00:52.340 oh, we got married cause it's two years down the line and this and that, and you didn't think it

01:00:56.080 through, man, you're going to have a hard time. You know what I mean? And I get lots of questions.

01:01:02.340 We all get lots of questions. And I would say 30% of the questions that I get are all the same

01:01:07.000 questions. What should I do if my partner doesn't support me? And dude, if you're not married to

01:01:11.640 them, get them, get them gone. And like, dude, if you're like 23 or four or five or six or seven,

01:01:17.220 and you're like even thinking about getting out of that relationship, you should get out of it like

01:01:21.160 today. You know what I mean? If it's even a fucking thought, you know, and dude, don't let it drag on

01:01:27.500 and become your life. You know, I don't know. I don't know what to say, man. I'm not a relationship

01:01:31.560 expert. I've had a lot of bad ones, but, but you've learned, but I know that this, I know that

01:01:36.660 having somebody in your life to help pick up the pieces when shit doesn't go your way or push you

01:01:41.160 forward or be a part of all the rest of your life in a positive way is an important part to the

01:01:47.140 success aspect of your life. It's just, if you don't have it, like I said, it's not, it's, it's,

01:01:54.660 I don't even know, dude, I don't even know one successful entrepreneur, not one. I don't fucking

01:01:58.780 know one personally that doesn't have somebody in their life like that. I'm talking about self-made

01:02:04.280 entrepreneur that's built something from nothing. I do not know one, not even fucking one that has

01:02:11.120 somebody in their life or that doesn't have somebody in their life that supports them in that

01:02:14.920 way. That's a great way to wrap things up unless you were, uh, no, I was just going to, what Andy

01:02:20.040 said, you know, any type of your relationship together and individually, it should be something

01:02:24.060 that appreciates in the value and not depreciates, you know, you from yourself, you know, if you're,

01:02:29.420 if Andy's saying, you know, break up with them, you should, it should not take away from your goals,

01:02:33.160 from what your life is longterm. Like he said, you're young, you don't realize it yet, but you'll

01:02:36.980 thank yourself later. So I, yeah, it's something that should help make you better. Exactly. It's

01:02:42.100 an appreciation, not a relation. I guess that's, that's a, that's something that I've said before

01:02:45.800 that I forgot. I haven't said, but that's how you need to look at a relationship. If it's not making

01:02:50.720 you better, then you don't need it. It's that simple. If your relationship, you can look at your

01:02:56.760 relationship and say, it's making my life harder than you shouldn't be in that relationship.

01:03:00.560 That's it. Emily? No, that's it. MF MRS. Thank you for joining us. I can't even say that. It's a

01:03:09.600 tongue twister. It is a tongue twister. I'll just go by Emily. Yeah. Yeah. So that's it. That's it

01:03:15.760 for me. Thanks for having me. You're welcome. I'll have dinner on the table.

01:03:21.380 All right, guys, we'll catch up with you next time.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - September 22, 2015

Bros, Babes, Brides, Breakups, and Business, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO16

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