Cash In Your Chip, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO154
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about how to deal with people who have a "chip on their shoulder" and how you should deal with them. I also talk about the benefits of having a chip on your shoulder and how to overcome it.
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
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motherfucking ceo guys today we've got friday fire i didn't get you a thursday thunder you know why
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because i had shit to fucking do all right i couldn't stay up all online all day and make
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memes for you and talk about how to make millions of dollars in 12 months and how uh you know you
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don't have to get out of bed until fucking uh you know noon and you can just let your computer make
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you millions of dollars and you're going to be rich and all this other shit that you see online
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i actually had to fucking work um you know i run a real business i've got uh literally hundreds of
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in-house employees and thousands of outside reps and we do real shit here so sometimes i'm not going
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to get you thursday thunder sometimes it's going to be friday fire sometimes you're not going to get
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shit but you know what today i've got something for you i've got something important all right
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this goes out to all of you guys who talk about
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what you want to do with your life how you're going to do it how you're going to build something
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how you're going to be great but then also at the same time have some sort of issue with people
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having a fucking chip on your shoulder let me explain to you guys what i'm talking about okay
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when i first started in business in 1999 every single person i know every single friend every
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single family member with the exception of maybe one or two uh every single acquaintance they all
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told me that we were stupid they all told me oh you guys you know that's a cool thing that's a nice
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project that's this uh you know it's cool that you guys are trying that it's cool that you guys are uh
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that you guys are you know gonna open up that little vitamin shop but what are you gonna do after
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that like what are you really gonna do and they would say things like that you know like what are
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you what are you really gonna do when like it's time to get serious like what are you really gonna do
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when uh you know it's time to grow up what are you really gonna do whenever you know it's it's time
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to, you know, build a real career. And every time somebody said that to me, I wanted to punch them
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in the fucking mouth. Okay. And as we grew, you know, it took six years for us to, to open a
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second store. All right. The first three years we didn't get paid at all. The second three years I
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made $695 a month. Okay. So six years in we're broke. We have barely any money coming in. We're
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working multiple jobs to keep our store even open to get to the point where we can open a second
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store. And now I have people saying, Oh, that's cool. You guys opened a second store, but you know,
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don't you think you're kind of wasting your time? Don't you think it's time to grow up? Don't you
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think it's time to, you know, get a real job? Don't you think it's time to, you know, start thinking
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about your future? All right. And, and granted, all these people who were there on day one,
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they've now graduated college. They've got a degree. They're making 40 fucking grand a year,
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whatever it is they're making. And you know, they're, they're fucking big shots. And I'm a
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little fucking pissant with a vitamin store, not doing shit. All right. Now here we are 17 years in,
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uh, you know, we're doing very well. We're growing very quickly. We've, we've dedicated our entire adult
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lives to building this business. And you know what? Everybody's fucking proud of it. Oh,
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we're so proud of you. We always knew you could do it. We always knew that you guys were something
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special. You know what? Fuck you. No, you didn't. I remember what the fuck you said to me. And yeah,
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I do have a fucking chip on my shoulder, a big one. And you should too. And that's the point of this
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podcast. You know, you guys who, who are in the beginning stages of your business, of your career,
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of what you're trying to do. You're going to have those same people telling you because you're
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trying to do something that's unconventional, telling you that you should try to do something
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else or what, you know, it's cool that you're doing that, but when are you going to get serious
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or that's never going to amount to anything or you're wasting your time, don't you think?
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And they're going to try to talk you out of all this shit. All right. And those things that people
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say to you are a blessing. All right. Those are what create this massive fucking chip on your
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shoulder that you can draw upon and all the situations where it gets hard and all the
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situations where it gets so tough that you don't want to go on. All right. And everybody will tell
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you, and let's say to me right now, Andy, why you got such a big chip on your shoulder? Well, I don't
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know, maybe because for the better part of the last 20 years, I deal with motherfuckers like you
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that told me I wasn't going to do shit. And now you act like you're fucking proud of it. Now that
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I fucking make it some money and I'm living in a nice house, I'm driving nice cars and we built a
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nice business. You guys think that's cool. Okay. Maybe, maybe, uh, it's, maybe it's the last 20 years
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of whenever you were fucking gossiping or talking shit or telling me I wasn't going to make it or
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telling me, you know, that I wasn't good enough or that we were fucking a joke and this and this and
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this and this and this dude, I heard it all, but you know what? I didn't fucking listen to it.
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I heard it, but I didn't listen to it. All right. I heard it. I absorbed it. I put it in my fucking
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chip. All right. I let it build my chip. And now my chip is so fucking big and so powerful
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that I will fucking do anything to make sure that we get to our end goal. Okay. So when you have all
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these people who tell you it's wrong to have a chip on your shoulder or it's wrong to feel aggressive
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towards your goals or it's wrong to get mad at people whenever they don't believe in you,
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fuck those people. Use those people, take that energy, put it in a place that you can draw upon
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it and use it when you don't feel like moving forward. I don't care what anybody says. I don't
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care what anybody tells you. I don't care if it's Mark Cuban. I don't care if it's fucking, uh,
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Bill Gates. I don't care if it's Warren Buffett. I don't care who it is. I'm going to tell you right
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now, every one of those guys has a massive competitive chip on their shoulder that comes
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from people doubting them. They might not talk about it because it's not cool to talk about,
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but you know what? I'm in the business of talking about what's not cool. So we're going to fucking
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talk about it. They might not, you know, be as vocal about it, but I guarantee you sit them down.
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If you have a fucking drink with them, if you get them to open up to you, which I'm sure they do
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very, very rarely, they will tell you that they want to smash the fuck out of every single person
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that ever fucking doubted them. And a big part of why they go on and why they move forward and why
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they want to win is so that they can have the last fucking laugh. People who win don't bow down to
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negativity. They don't cry about the bad things that people say about them. They don't complain
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about the people not believing them or wanting them to succeed. They take that, they absorb that,
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and then they draw upon that whenever they don't have the energy to keep moving forward.
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And there is nothing wrong with that. I don't care what all the do-gooders in society say. I don't care
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what all the fucking hippies say. I don't care what all the everybody win. People should say,
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if you have the ability to store up what people say negatively to you and then turn that into
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productive action, that means when you don't feel like doing what you need to do, you remember all
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the shit these people said. If you have that ability, if you can hone that ability, if you can form that
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skill, you have a tremendous asset and a tremendous tool to use on your journey of growth.
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Now, is that popular to talk about? No, it's not popular because everybody wants to act like this.
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Oh, that shit doesn't affect me. Oh, you know what? Fuck those people. I don't care what they say.
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Bullshit. Everybody fucking cares. Everybody fucking cares what they say. I care. You care. Everybody
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cares. Fucking everybody out there who says, I don't care what anybody says, you know, they're lying.
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People fucking care. But people who win learn to take that shit, build it up into a huge ball of
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energy and use it to drive them when they need it. And that's the difference. That's the difference
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between people who fucking win and people who fucking lose. People who win understand how to
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take negativity and transform it into productive energy. People who lose take negativity and let that
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cripple them and stop them from doing anything. And that is the biggest difference between winners