REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 22, 2018


CEO： The Disposition is More Important Than the Position, with Andy Frisella - 223


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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, I talk about the importance of being a CEO, and how to become one. I go over what it means to be a CEO and why it's important to have a good company culture.

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00:00:00.400 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.540 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:19.840 Guys, I just got back from an awesome trip out to California. I was in L.A. and San Diego doing speaking events at both.
00:00:27.960 I met so many of you guys, and I just want to say thank you all for coming out. It was amazing.
00:00:35.080 We did Bedros' Fitness Business Summit, which was one of the best events I've ever done, mainly because it was very practical in nature.
00:00:46.320 As you guys know, I'm not big on quote-unquote motivational speaking.
00:00:51.240 It's my belief that if you're going to show up to speak and people paid to attend, it's your job to teach them some shit.
00:01:00.600 Everybody there seemed to grasp that concept. I thought that was really cool because not every event that I do is that the case.
00:01:09.560 I just feel like if people are going to pay money, you've got to give them something.
00:01:12.760 I feel good about what I gave. I talked about something that I don't talk about anywhere else, and it went over really well.
00:01:19.060 Then the next day, we had an event in Hollywood. We had almost 600 people show up to that. That was awesome.
00:01:27.580 If you guys showed up to that, you know how that went down. It was really, really cool.
00:01:31.280 We got to hear from a lot of people from a lot of different points of view. I thought that was really neat.
00:01:34.940 I just want to say thank you guys for showing up and supporting and meeting all you guys was really cool.
00:01:43.060 Hopefully, we'll get to do ... I have a lot more speaking engagements this year than I typically do, which I'm excited about.
00:01:50.580 Guys, if this is your first time listening, and if it's not your first time, you know this.
00:01:55.520 This is an entrepreneurship slash personal development podcast.
00:02:02.120 The goal is not to get on here and say, I'm the motherfucking CEO, and try to pretend like I'm this fucking dude that you can't be.
00:02:13.980 The goal here is for me to teach you how to be a motherfucking CEO.
00:02:20.240 What does that mean?
00:02:21.200 That means going through your life with confidence, with swagger, with something that attracts other people and makes other people respect you, want to work with you, and like to be around you so that you're not constantly battling an upstream battle when you're trying to become successful.
00:02:44.980 Confidence and the aura that you put out, the energy that comes with your presence goes a long way.
00:02:53.760 If you guys don't believe me, look at some of the successful people you know.
00:02:58.540 Are they very meek and quiet and people aren't attracted to them?
00:03:03.840 Usually not.
00:03:05.220 Usually, they have personalities that attract other people if it's authentic.
00:03:10.220 Now, I do see a lot of people out there who are not naturally energetic or enthusiastic, and they're out there trying to be that, and it comes off as fake.
00:03:22.380 If that's you, you've got to continue to work on what you're trying to do and develop that part of your personality.
00:03:28.720 It will come off as fake for a little bit in the beginning, and you're going to feel weird, and it's going to be awkward, and that's just the way it is.
00:03:34.540 I'm not naturally a motherfucking CEO.
00:03:38.460 I'm naturally a dude that likes to be by myself.
00:03:41.460 I'm naturally a guy that really doesn't like people very much, and I had to develop those areas of my personality.
00:03:51.200 And what people don't understand about a CEO, or more directly, a motherfucking CEO, is that the disposition is more than the position.
00:04:03.460 And whenever I tell people they need to carry themselves with a confidence, and that to be the motherfucking CEO of their own lives, I almost get someone saying something like this.
00:04:14.480 Well, yeah, Andy, that's easy for you to say because you really are a CEO.
00:04:18.020 You've got hundreds of guys working for you, and your companies make millions of dollars every year.
00:04:22.280 And then they follow it up with something like this.
00:04:24.400 It's easy to walk around with some swag in life when you actually hold the position with some status and have some bucks in your bank account, right?
00:04:31.560 And I just shake my head at dudes like this because they don't fucking get it, all right?
00:04:35.840 The disposition comes before the position, and the disposition is more important than the position.
00:04:43.080 Do you even know what disposition means?
00:04:45.200 It means a person's inherent qualities of their mind and character.
00:04:49.960 It's how you operate.
00:04:51.400 It's how you think.
00:04:52.600 It's what you do.
00:04:54.020 You don't become a CEO when you fill out the legal work to start a business and hire some employees to run it.
00:04:59.840 That's not what it is.
00:05:01.260 You don't become a CEO when someone gives you an office on the top floor and hangs a gold placard on the door,
00:05:07.660 and when you just go ahead and give you a seven-figure salary with fat benefits to go with that.
00:05:12.100 That's not what it is.
00:05:13.320 You become a CEO the moment you form the mind and character of one.
00:05:19.080 You become a CEO when you think and act like one.
00:05:23.500 This is the moment when you go all in on your work ethic.
00:05:26.920 You take personal responsibility.
00:05:29.920 You maximize your own gifts.
00:05:32.120 You creatively leverage your lack of resources.
00:05:35.400 You pay laser, precise attention to detail.
00:05:39.060 You solve problems no matter what it takes.
00:05:42.000 You adapt to your circumstances.
00:05:43.900 You take control of your situation.
00:05:47.120 You hold the people around you to the highest possible standards,
00:05:50.900 and you call them to be great.
00:05:54.140 You lead by example.
00:05:55.300 You care, you work, and you transform any adversity into an asset.
00:06:03.700 If that's not how you operate, it doesn't matter what's printed on your fucking business card
00:06:08.620 or where you get to park your car.
00:06:10.780 You're not a CEO, and you certainly aren't a motherfucking CEO.
00:06:14.460 You're not even worthy of a title.
00:06:16.020 But if what I just mentioned is true of you, not perfectly, but persistently, then you are a CEO.
00:06:23.920 It doesn't matter if you're a businessman, a plumber, a teacher, a student, a mom, a pastor, or even a fucking podcast host.
00:06:32.560 Whatever it is you are, you're a CEO, and your goal is to become a motherfucking CEO.
00:06:38.380 Someone who infects every single person around them with positivity and the opportunity to grow
00:06:46.780 and helps them understand that they are in control.
00:06:51.240 But the disposition comes before the position, and a lot of you guys don't understand that.
00:06:56.800 A lot of you guys are waiting until you get the promotion or get the official business card
00:07:03.240 or start your own business to become a CEO.
00:07:08.020 But what you don't realize is that your life is the easiest thing to become a CEO of.
00:07:14.360 And if you want to become a CEO of an actual business,
00:07:18.140 if you want to make seven figures, eight figures,
00:07:22.380 if you want to be a person that other people look to for the answers,
00:07:26.540 you've got to start with yourself.
00:07:28.680 And that's what we talk about when we talk about becoming a motherfucking CEO.
00:07:33.320 A lot of people think that it's just some bullshit title that I made up.
00:07:37.700 And you know what? It was in the beginning.
00:07:39.520 That's how it came about.
00:07:41.220 I had some employees call me that because I cursed all the time.
00:07:44.820 And it used to be an old Kenny Powers video that we loved.
00:07:47.300 But what you have to understand is that this mentality, this title,
00:07:54.220 in the context that we speak about it, is something that you decide to be.
00:07:59.680 Okay?
00:08:00.180 If you possess the mentality of a motherfucking CEO,
00:08:05.660 if you believe that you're the motherfucking CEO,
00:08:08.860 and you have all the inherent qualities of a motherfucking CEO
00:08:14.620 in the way that you operate as a human,
00:08:17.760 the chances of you living the life of a real CEO increase greatly.
00:08:23.840 When I held my event the other night, we had 30-something speakers at it.
00:08:28.520 Okay?
00:08:29.000 But there was only a few things that were talked about over and over and over again.
00:08:33.920 And I would consider every single person who was at that event a motherfucking CEO.
00:08:38.840 But what'd you hear?
00:08:40.120 You didn't hear 20 million qualities.
00:08:42.800 You didn't hear 20 million magical things that needed to happen.
00:08:47.020 You heard a few things.
00:08:47.980 You heard being authentic.
00:08:49.660 You heard telling the truth.
00:08:51.500 You heard being somebody who is direct.
00:08:55.320 Being someone who helps others.
00:08:57.380 We were talking about being someone who takes responsibility for their actions.
00:09:01.760 People who focus.
00:09:02.780 And people who do the fucking work.
00:09:07.140 All right?
00:09:07.520 This isn't fucking rocket science.
00:09:09.860 This isn't something that you can't obtain.
00:09:12.160 This isn't something that you're going to, you know, go out there and somebody else is going to give you.
00:09:19.160 If you listen to my podcast with Charlie a few weeks ago,
00:09:22.420 he talked about making a decision to become something.
00:09:25.960 And the decision to become something always happens before anybody else sees it.
00:09:30.720 And far too many people, including a lot of you guys, are waiting around for someone to come along and say,
00:09:37.840 Hey, you know what?
00:09:39.540 You'd make a good motherfucking CEO.
00:09:41.400 You know what?
00:09:42.100 That's never going to fucking happen.
00:09:43.880 Your teachers aren't going to see it.
00:09:45.520 Your parents aren't going to see it.
00:09:47.280 Your friends aren't going to see it.
00:09:48.860 Your family isn't going to see it.
00:09:51.780 Nobody's going to see it until you fucking see it first. 0.65
00:09:55.160 Living the life of somebody who takes control.
00:10:00.220 Living the life of somebody who inspires people, impacts people, teaches people,
00:10:05.840 who coaches people, who holds them accountable, and who is respected by their peers.
00:10:13.320 That starts with a decision.
00:10:16.580 Okay?
00:10:17.120 We could talk about what it means to be CEO all day long, but here's the reality.
00:10:22.980 There's tons of real CEOs, quote-unquote real CEOs out there, that aren't fucking motherfucking CEOs.
00:10:30.560 They're not even real CEOs in what I define it as.
00:10:34.900 There are people out there who have a position that's printed on their business card, and that's what it is.
00:10:40.560 And they collect their money.
00:10:42.020 They fucking rob as much money out of the opportunity that they have, and they fucking go away.
00:10:45.840 We see it all the time in corporate America, guys, but we live in a time where becoming a leader,
00:10:53.500 becoming someone who is respected, becoming someone who is successful, who makes impact,
00:10:58.820 who helps others, who teaches others, who brings other people up,
00:11:02.340 and gets the respect of their entire community is possible because guess what?
00:11:07.120 You all have a fucking phone, and you all have internet access.
00:11:11.200 You just haven't decided yet.
00:11:12.980 You just haven't said, this is what I am, and this is who I'm going to be, and I'm going to take fucking control right now.
00:11:20.820 I don't know what you're waiting for.
00:11:23.800 Most likely, you're waiting for permission.
00:11:25.800 You're waiting for someone to come along and say that this is what you should do.
00:11:29.960 Well, guess what?
00:11:30.620 I'm the motherfucker that's coming along and telling you this is what you should do.
00:11:36.660 Because if you don't, you are going to be just like all of your friends and all of your family,
00:11:42.440 and I promise you right now that's not what you want because if it was what you wanted,
00:11:48.660 you wouldn't be listening to this podcast, would you?
00:11:52.320 You would be going along like every other motherfucker, drinking beers on fucking Tuesday afternoon,
00:12:01.100 talking about how the world screwed you over and how you got cheated.
00:12:06.680 On Thursday, you'd be sitting on your cooler in the driveway talking about how your boss sucks,
00:12:11.500 talking about how your job sucks, talking about how your wife or your husband sucks, 0.73
00:12:15.900 and you'd be doing the same shit everybody else does.
00:12:18.840 So I know that's not what you want, but the first step to not having that be your life
00:12:25.820 is for you to make the decision to be someone who is in control of themselves.
00:12:35.620 And a lot of you guys might be saying, well, this is a motivational podcast.
00:12:38.620 No, it's not.
00:12:39.440 This is not a fucking motivational podcast.
00:12:41.420 This is a very practical step.
00:12:42.940 I am telling you how to make a decision for change.
00:12:49.740 You have to make this up in your mind.
00:12:52.860 And so many of you are roadblocked because your teachers or your parents or your aunts
00:12:58.720 or your uncles or the people who you call your friends, who aren't really your fucking friends, 0.97
00:13:04.320 are laughing at you, are telling you to be realistic,
00:13:08.540 telling you you should just give up on your dreams,
00:13:10.600 telling you that you're a dreamer and that you're someone who, you know,
00:13:14.800 needs to really just get your head out of the clouds and be realistic.
00:13:19.540 Dude, that's what they fucking told me.
00:13:21.760 I get it.
00:13:22.480 I get it.
00:13:23.880 Because I've been there.
00:13:25.700 I know what it's like, but here's what the funny thing is,
00:13:27.840 is most of those motherfuckers ask me for jobs now. 1.00
00:13:31.680 And I can tell you what, that feels pretty good.
00:13:33.400 And it really does.
00:13:36.240 I smile inside.
00:13:38.500 I giggle inside every time I hear that shit.
00:13:41.660 Every time I know a motherfucker that didn't believe in me and say,
00:13:45.440 hey, man, is there any way for you to, like, get me on?
00:13:48.300 Are you guys hiring?
00:13:49.860 I love it.
00:13:51.100 And you'll love it, too.
00:13:52.480 But you'll never get that feeling.
00:13:53.980 You'll never feel that feeling.
00:13:55.120 If you don't make the decision first about yourself and get over the fact
00:14:00.340 that all these motherfuckers that you don't even want to be like 0.99
00:14:03.740 are going to laugh at you.
00:14:06.200 They're going to giggle at you.
00:14:07.380 They're going to smirk.
00:14:08.500 They're going to say weird shit on your Instagram and your Facebook.
00:14:12.620 This is reality.
00:14:14.400 You are not experiencing anything that anybody that you look up to
00:14:20.220 didn't have to experience.
00:14:22.960 You think you have it.
00:14:25.000 You think your circumstances are unique.
00:14:29.340 And you think the hate or the jealousy or the envy or the criticism
00:14:34.720 that you have is unique.
00:14:36.980 But it isn't.
00:14:38.400 We've all dealt with it.
00:14:40.300 We all feel it.
00:14:41.800 We all have to go through it.
00:14:43.540 And it's the worst in the beginning.
00:14:47.060 Once people start to see you actually doing what it is that you set out to do,
00:14:53.160 they're going to start doing this.
00:14:56.760 Instead of talking shit, they're going to say,
00:14:58.640 Oh, I'm so proud of you.
00:15:01.060 Oh, that's great.
00:15:02.840 Oh, I'm happy for you.
00:15:04.320 And you know what?
00:15:04.960 They're not going to fucking mean it.
00:15:06.580 Because they're going to secretly hope for you to fail.
00:15:08.620 So really what I'm telling you is it's going to get worse.
00:15:12.000 It's going to get worse.
00:15:13.240 Because there's nothing worse than somebody telling you some inauthentic bullshit lies
00:15:17.840 to your fucking face, is there? 0.98
00:15:19.900 It's going to get worse.
00:15:21.700 Then you're going to go through another phase where they're actually going to start believing
00:15:27.300 in you because you're making progress and all their secret hopes and wishes that they have
00:15:32.580 of you to fail are going out the window because it's obvious that you're not going to fail.
00:15:40.120 That's when they're going to come to you and they're going to say,
00:15:44.140 Oh, dude, this is great.
00:15:46.260 This is awesome.
00:15:46.900 And it's going to feel different.
00:15:48.360 It's going to feel different than when they said that the first time.
00:15:51.780 You could tell they mean it now.
00:15:54.340 And you know why it changes from they don't mean it to they mean it?
00:15:59.880 Because your progress, your decision to succeed, your decision to be a motherfucking CEO and
00:16:08.840 become what it is that you want to become has become undeniable to them.
00:16:15.800 They can't deny the momentum that you're making.
00:16:18.840 They can't deny the progress that you're making.
00:16:21.460 And they know that no matter how much they hate because they hated for a long time that
00:16:27.480 they can't fucking stop you. 0.77
00:16:30.020 And here's the irony.
00:16:33.180 They only give you that belief after you no longer need it.
00:16:36.960 A lot of you guys start in the beginning and you think, well, nobody believes in me.
00:16:40.600 Well, let me tell you something.
00:16:42.480 You haven't done anything to be believed in.
00:16:45.640 That's the reality.
00:16:47.280 What have you done to make them believe in you?
00:16:49.460 Other people don't owe you their belief.
00:16:51.240 That's an entitled mentality.
00:16:53.200 You have to tell yourself, I haven't done anything for other people to believe in me.
00:16:59.940 When they don't believe, who fucking blame them?
00:17:02.280 You haven't done anything.
00:17:03.960 You've been lazy.
00:17:05.100 You've been fat.
00:17:06.000 You said you're going to do something a million fucking times and you never fucking did it.
00:17:09.400 Whose fault is that?
00:17:10.260 It's your fault.
00:17:14.040 And until you start making that progress that's undeniable and still until you start doing those
00:17:19.660 things that are talked about in a way like, hey, fuck.
00:17:24.860 Andy's really fucking doing it.
00:17:27.060 And these people stop hating and start supporting.
00:17:32.600 That shit ain't going to change.
00:17:33.920 And then when they do that, you're going to be like, well, fuck, I guess it's cool they believe
00:17:41.220 in me, but whatever, because that shit's not going to mean anything to you anymore. 0.62
00:17:44.020 You're going to start to realize that you don't need other people's approval and belief.
00:17:48.200 But I can tell you right now, you're never going to get there until you make the decision,
00:17:54.080 until you make the decision to be the person that you want to be, until you make the decision
00:17:58.680 to operate as a CEO, to think like a CEO and to do what CEOs do.
00:18:08.600 You're always going to be the same as everybody else.
00:18:13.060 The time is now, guys.
00:18:14.980 This isn't motivation.
00:18:16.240 This isn't fucking rah-rah.
00:18:18.860 This is telling you that you have to make a conscious decision.
00:18:22.160 And I've given you literally every fucking tool that I could possibly give you to practically
00:18:28.460 create.
00:18:29.740 And when I say practically, I mean literally practically as a tool to create the world that
00:18:37.060 you want to create.
00:18:38.340 We've talked about everything from sales to law of attraction to fucking how to hire, to
00:18:44.120 how to fire, to this and that, and how to do this, and how to start a business, it's all
00:18:48.260 here.
00:18:50.760 The problem is, is you haven't decided.
00:18:53.280 So if you think this is motivation, you need to think again.
00:18:57.480 You're not making the decision to change.
00:18:59.280 And until you do, you're going to be just like everyone else.
00:19:03.320 See you.
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