REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 07, 2017


Change, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO130


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In this episode of The Momfucking Ceeo Project, Andy and Vaughn discuss the importance of a good mental mindset and how to overcome the mental block that many people have when it comes to making a change in their life.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
00:00:11.840 motherfucking ceo guys if this is your first time joining us welcome we don't discriminate here you
00:00:19.220 don't have to be an entrepreneur per se you don't have to own an actual business the goal of this
00:00:25.440 podcast is to get you to think like an entrepreneur to go through life with a swagger with an attitude
00:00:32.860 with the skills you need to build the life you want and we do that a number of different ways
00:00:38.480 by approaching a number of different topics we don't charge for the podcast as always if you feel
00:00:46.160 like this podcast helped you if you feel like it brought you value all i ask is that you refer
00:00:51.380 a like-minded friend okay i don't think that's too much to ask as always i'm joined by my co-host
00:00:58.000 vaughn the impaler the pastor of disaster what's up man what if we did charge for the podcast how
00:01:05.060 much would we have made by now a lot a lot like billions maybe yeah trillions trillions yeah
00:01:11.700 maybe we should yeah we should pull everything off and make it premium content on the mfceo.com
00:01:16.800 hey man it's not a bad idea yeah i know this i know that if you listen to this podcast
00:01:23.320 and you can't figure out how to fucking do something by now there's something wrong with 0.97
00:01:29.140 your fucking brain right because we're giving away all the tools every single one of them that you need
00:01:33.660 to make change you know um a lot of people are out there claiming to have all the answers or to give
00:01:42.440 all the tools or to help people but a lot of these people haven't done anything in their own lives
00:01:49.180 you know they're people who read books they're people who know theory they're people who uh have
00:01:53.620 you know studied things but when you actually try to look and see what they've actually done
00:01:59.080 you know that shit is somewhere else that you can't ever fucking find right right um so i don't know 0.93
00:02:06.780 you know i think i think if you start from the beginning and you go to now i mean we've obviously
00:02:12.180 progressed the beginning podcasts sound a lot worse than they do now i think but at the same time the
00:02:17.660 value has always been there and i think the information is always there so i mean if you're
00:02:21.240 somebody and we're going to talk about this actually today if you're somebody who's looking to make a
00:02:25.840 change and grow and transform into something that you want to be from where you are the answers are in
00:02:34.180 this podcast every single one of them and at the end of the day it's going to come down to you it's
00:02:39.700 going to come down to you fucking doing it you know everybody says that do the fucking work you 0.99
00:02:45.360 know just do it it's probably the famous most famous tagline ever but at the end of the day that's
00:02:51.720 what it comes down to you have to fucking execute and so many people try to do everything they can 0.88
00:02:57.040 to not have to execute you know they're looking for that corner to cut or that shortcut or that
00:03:03.180 secret way and there is no secret way there just isn't and anybody who's ever gone the journey
00:03:10.440 knows that there is no secret way so if you're one of these people who's looking to make a change
00:03:18.520 or looking to transform or looking to make uh some sort of transition in your life um we're going to
00:03:24.720 kind of review that today and talk about those things uh from a mental standpoint right so it's a
00:03:30.060 little bit more of a uh um you know not to say it's not practical but it's a little bit more of
00:03:38.980 a mental mindset type podcast today i think yeah a little bit of both i i wanted to add though that
00:03:44.840 not only is there not a secret way you don't necessarily need personal attention i know you
00:03:51.000 and i have talked about this before we get emails all the time saying hey does andy mentor people and
00:03:56.480 how much does it cost and i always laugh because it's like fucking afford it right well yeah but 0.79
00:04:00.660 yes he does mentor people every week yeah right it's free right exactly so listen to the podcast
00:04:06.060 and you'll get everything you need i get that i get needing mental people i get that's because
00:04:10.440 they want assurance they want a handheld yeah and and it the real world doesn't hold your fucking hand 0.95
00:04:15.140 right you know you it's a mental block that people have they think that if they don't have someone
00:04:22.440 to like say hey look you can do this or hey look i'm going to show you how to do this personally
00:04:26.620 or hey look let's do this together that somehow they're not in the club like they're not authorized
00:04:32.760 to do it and that's the mental limits that are instilled upon us from the day that you know we go to
00:04:39.860 our first class in our first school right you know what i mean it's it's now it's not you could be
00:04:45.300 anything you want or you can do this or you could be an astronaut or you could be a baseball player
00:04:50.960 now it's you got people who have relegated themselves to let's be honest minimum paying
00:04:58.300 jobs to teach other people okay telling you well look you should probably be more realistic because
00:05:05.560 the chances of being a pro ball player are really slim right or the chances of being president are
00:05:10.440 really slim or the chances of being an astronaut are really slim and from the day that we're five or
00:05:15.580 six years old and we're going to fucking preschool and kindergarten and first grade we got people 0.95
00:05:20.000 telling us that and that's not right that's not okay and what would society look like if that
00:05:26.520 wasn't the case i think we live in a completely different world right you know but we we don't
00:05:34.120 we live in a society where people are trained from day one to instill mental limits on themselves
00:05:41.340 which eventually cage them up into a box that they spend the rest of their life trying to fucking
00:05:47.920 escape from and that's what's fundamentally wrong with our education system is that squashes people
00:05:55.040 belief in themselves it makes them think they have to have somebody to authorize them or give them
00:06:01.820 permission or hold their hand when in reality no you don't you've got to give yourself permission
00:06:06.600 you've got to give yourself the okay you've got to give yourself the authority to go out and do things
00:06:12.740 and if you do that there's not these magical people out there they're gonna fucking stop you 0.85
00:06:17.400 it's you stopping you right well you already mentioned our topic today which is change
00:06:23.320 transition transformation and i wanted to throw out an analogy to get us started and that is uh the
00:06:29.480 analogy of alchemy alchemy was something that was kind of all the rage back in the 16th century it was
00:06:34.740 the idea that you could figure out a way to transform lead into gold or like worthless worthless material
00:06:41.780 into valuable material and it seems like the more i talk to you the more i take in all the things you
00:06:46.060 say i would say that you would say that successful people have the ability to perform alchemy they they
00:06:53.320 have the ability to take um what other people would say is is worthless or doesn't have potential and
00:06:59.040 turn it into gold and and to like to just to see differently to to transform their habits from from
00:07:06.180 lead to gold i mean they just have that transformative touch so so i thought it would be great just to go
00:07:11.020 deep into what that means so so i first question i think you know you talk a lot about success zombies
00:07:17.880 and and obviously there are just a lot of them out there but just playing devil's advocate and being nice to
00:07:22.940 people for a second let's say somebody's up there and they're saying all right andy i've been a success
00:07:28.380 zombie but man i really do want to change i i really do want to stop being somebody who takes
00:07:34.660 in all this information and never does anything with it um in your mind what are the first baby steps
00:07:42.260 to real change in a person's life first things first i will go back and listen to episode 107
00:07:50.320 which is uh win the day okay and start utilizing the power list all right so let's let's reference that
00:07:57.680 real quick because it's it's important i think that's probably uh the number one most practical
00:08:02.720 podcast that we've done so if you're one of these people you need to go memorize what the fuck we 0.81
00:08:07.700 talk about in that one but i think the first step is what i've already covered is that if you're a
00:08:15.380 success zombie if you're a guy who's listen to all the the gurus listen to all the bit you listen to
00:08:21.000 gary v you listen to grant cardone you listen to me you listen to all these tony robbins and all these
00:08:26.180 other dudes right and you're like okay i get it i want to do something but you have such a hard time
00:08:30.980 breaking out it's what i already said you have to realize that that you are going to have to break
00:08:36.340 out on your own nobody's going to come break you out i'm not coming to save you tony robbins not
00:08:41.500 coming to save you gary's not coming to save you we are actually giving you all the tools but you're
00:08:47.400 not making the decision to act and that's on you and nobody could do that for you so you have to
00:08:52.280 realize that there is no people out there that are going to give you permission you know our whole
00:08:57.520 life we've been programmed that we got to ask permission and we've got to get you know authorized
00:09:04.440 you know like dude you got to get a fucking haul raise your hand if you go to go to the bathroom 0.97
00:09:09.600 starts when we're little bitty kids you know and it's all part of societal programming you know
00:09:17.100 you have to realize that the educational system the way it's set up is not designed for people to be
00:09:23.940 personally financially ultra successful it's designed to create people who know how to follow
00:09:32.440 fucking directions so that other people can utilize those people in their companies right the whole 0.89
00:09:40.000 education system is designed around that and if you think it's not you're you're you're mentally
00:09:44.820 fucking there's something wrong with you so the first thing if you want to change i was going to 0.97
00:09:50.320 say retarded but i know that's not politically correct whatever but fuck that's basically what 0.97
00:09:55.040 it comes down to the literal term of retarded you're very fucking slow right okay so so people 0.98
00:10:01.260 don't need validation from anybody else once they decide they want to change they can do it and i know
00:10:05.700 you absolutely hate detest love cliches but would you also agree that along with that goes the whole
00:10:13.460 concept of everything you need is already in you like yeah that's like our boy ben newman likes to
00:10:19.420 say that you know and that's cool because it's true cliches are cliches for a reason it's true
00:10:24.740 yeah it's true it's just letting it it's like giving yourself the okay to let the shit out
00:10:29.300 right you know what i mean like dude i get people to come up to me all the time they're like dude how
00:10:33.340 do you live the way you live and how do you have that attitude because i don't give a fuck what 0.95
00:10:37.620 anybody thinks and i mean that like do i can't dude i care what certain people think like the
00:10:42.020 people in this building and like the people close to me and i treat them well and i do the best i
00:10:46.980 can for them but like some joe schmo off the street if you don't fucking like me fuck you right i don't 1.00
00:10:52.020 care i really don't yeah which which raises an interesting question in my mind but like people
00:10:56.600 worry so much about what other people think that it keeps them from ever trying to get out of that
00:11:00.660 out of that box right you know like oh well my teacher from fifth grade told me that i would never be
00:11:05.980 anything but a but a ditch digger right so you like believe that right the reason that teacher
00:11:12.500 fifth grade is a fucking teacher is because the motherfucker couldn't do that's truth and there's 0.96
00:11:18.000 a lot of good teachers out there i had some of the best of them right at viani yes yeah but i'm gonna
00:11:22.300 tell you right now and that's my number one charitable cause is because they did so much for me but there's
00:11:26.800 far more shit ones out there no i agree agreed so just out of morbid curiosity who would bother you if
00:11:33.540 you found who would it bother you if you found out that they didn't like you like name somebody
00:11:38.080 you're like if you found if you found out like they didn't like you you'd be like i'm kind of
00:11:41.880 bummed it it's not even about didn't like like if i found out my dad was disappointed in me oh okay
00:11:45.480 you know what i'm saying yeah yeah yeah like or something like that or like my brother was like
00:11:49.400 legitimately disappointed in me right you know what i mean like it's not like like or dislike like if
00:11:55.500 you're far enough away from me that you don't like me i don't really care right you know what i mean
00:11:59.360 i was just thinking like what what i would do if the rock hopped on my on my ig page and was like
00:12:05.320 man this guy's an idiot i'd be like oh man that kind of sucks what difference does it make yeah well 0.89
00:12:09.580 i don't know the rock's pretty cool i mean yeah but you know i don't know yeah but anyway going back
00:12:14.320 to that so so make it you have the you don't need permission to make a change you've got all the
00:12:20.280 resources you need to make the change is what i was getting at right you would agree to and then so
00:12:25.440 what's next like what in practical terms you said to win the day yeah okay so let's talk about
00:12:30.320 stop and think about what the fuck it is you want like most people are so into like they're 0.81
00:12:35.020 stick on such a micro level like they're they're they're the way they see the world is like monday
00:12:40.720 through fucking friday right right and then saturday and sunday are like the reward that's how 0.96
00:12:46.060 they see the world so like they don't ever think about like a year or five years or 10 years down
00:12:53.640 the road because they're so busy thinking about how to get to friday night that they don't think
00:12:59.220 about those things so you have to like spend some real time thinking about what it is that you
00:13:04.100 actually want and not just going through life you know with your head underwater trying to swim to the
00:13:10.100 next fucking buoy so that you can you know take a breath for two days right right so deciding what 0.94
00:13:16.560 you want is a huge deal and most people don't ever even do that as weird as it sounds because it's
00:13:20.540 automatic to me yeah but people don't do that they don't they don't think about what they want
00:13:24.860 so how the fuck you gonna get what you want if you how are you going to travel somewhere if you 0.86
00:13:28.740 didn't look at the fucking map or how are you going to end up where you want to be if you just 0.98
00:13:33.180 get in your car start driving you don't know where the fuck you're going right you know what i mean 0.75
00:13:37.260 it's the same thing and so you have to spend some time reflecting on what it is you really want
00:13:41.300 and then you build a plan backwards from that and then you implement daily you know a daily
00:13:46.620 structure which is you know the episode 107 you start executing steps it's that simple right so
00:13:51.900 let's talk about because another way of referring to what you really want is what's your vision for
00:13:56.280 your life and i know one of your key planks in the win the day that i think i'd like you to spend a
00:14:01.120 little bit more time fleshing out is this whole idea of visualization and i know you've said before
00:14:05.980 that the people who are really successful they just they just see the world with different eyes
00:14:11.420 they could they have a different vision from everybody else and so i guess and you've talked
00:14:15.700 about how visualization has worked for you but i mean in in other in other podcasts we've kind of
00:14:21.140 we've touched on it but we've we've kind of gone over it pretty quickly so in terms of visualizing the
00:14:26.860 kind of the kind of life that people want why don't you talk a little bit about because you i know
00:14:31.840 people don't understand what it means yeah they hear visualizing and they think like like they could
00:14:38.500 think about it like one day like like literally they could think about like oh i thought about that once
00:14:43.220 right and it's gonna it's gonna happen yeah like there's there is like so much validity to
00:14:50.260 consistently visualizing and what i believe proof in the metaphysical and quantum physical world
00:14:57.620 that there is a way to manipulate the fucking universe to become what it is you want it to become
00:15:04.240 and and to be honest i've had too many things fucking happen to me to believe anything else 0.93
00:15:08.520 right so you have to train your brain to constantly see yourself in that situation
00:15:15.640 and that's not something you can do one time or two times it's something you have to do every day
00:15:20.140 just like you have to brush your teeth every day and put on deodorant every day and take a fucking 0.97
00:15:24.260 shower every day you know you can't just do it once and be like oh i'm great i visualized it once
00:15:29.360 and it and then it didn't work because i didn't you know didn't come true that's not how it works you
00:15:34.220 have to make visualization part of your day every single day and when you visualize things you have
00:15:39.480 to actually see yourself in the situation from like a first person point of view you know like that's
00:15:46.580 how i do it and i try to see everything around me i try to see the people i'm talking to i try to see
00:15:52.800 the details of whatever wherever i'm around you know the finishes on the materials on the wood
00:15:58.340 everything you know what i mean not just like on a macro scale like oh i see myself being president
00:16:03.440 one day look like i would try to imagine myself sitting behind the fucking desk in the oval office 0.94
00:16:08.760 and what the wood would look like and what the carpet would look like and what the walls would
00:16:11.680 look like and what it would be like when somebody came in the office you get what i'm saying right
00:16:15.700 so in other words not abstract concrete yes you want concrete details right and you're looking at
00:16:20.200 a movie yes exactly and the more you train yourself to do that the more real it becomes for your brain
00:16:27.740 and the more and i can't explain this part but the more the shit happens you know and you know a lot 0.70
00:16:34.960 of people don't believe in that and you could choose to believe or not believe it doesn't really make a
00:16:37.840 difference to me but i know it fucking works right so right well um i don't know if you saw you have 0.90
00:16:42.360 to do it daily it's a daily discipline okay like it's not you can't just you can't just you know
00:16:49.860 like dude i i do my visualization every fucking day and i've done it every day since like 2006 0.95
00:16:56.040 every day you know and and things are going pretty much how i see them to go for the most part well a
00:17:03.980 while back i i came across a pretty insane study done by an exercise physiologist that actually proved
00:17:10.300 that people that visualized working out and doing weights actually there was evidence that muscle
00:17:17.500 muscle growth did occur the point is not that it didn't occur in the same way clearly that you
00:17:24.040 actually if you actually lifted weights but the point was the power of the mind that the mind is
00:17:30.000 so powerful that when you visualize lifting weights it actually produced i mean it's insane
00:17:34.380 so i want to be really specific because i want people to adopt this this practice because i know how
00:17:39.560 how helpful it's been for you so what time of day do you normally do it i do it before i go to bed
00:17:44.340 okay you do it before i go yeah go to bed um do you literally close your eyes yeah okay so um and
00:17:50.720 you and you incorporate a dream board all the time or you just use the power of your own mind no i
00:17:55.020 use my own mind okay but you do occasionally use a dream board like how does that vision board yeah
00:17:59.520 oh vision board yeah so how what's is there a difference between the two or is the the vision
00:18:03.820 board just the vision board is just something that you surround yourself with of things that you
00:18:09.260 want your life to be you know mine is in my office and it's i've already had everything so i haven't
00:18:15.860 updated it in a while and everything that's on there i have and have built so you know it's time
00:18:20.880 for me to change mine right but um you know that's just something that helps you it helps surround
00:18:28.440 you with the things that you want to become and you know keeps it at the top of your mind
00:18:32.940 you know what i mean it helps fine tune that right tool right so i can't really say how the
00:18:38.200 fuck this shit works you know i just know it works right but i think your point is a really good one 0.88
00:18:43.460 which is you got you can't just do it once and be like all right well i'm you've got to make it a
00:18:47.220 fucking part of your life right so um so i'm guessing that we're what we're talking about here is we're 0.80
00:18:52.540 talking about the visualization helps to promote massive change in your life because you're constantly
00:18:57.980 holding in front of your eyes what you're striving to become dude if you folk whatever you end up
00:19:03.380 focusing on consistently is what you're going to become right you know your your actions are going
00:19:09.040 to follow your focus all the time no matter what no matter what the fuck it is like if you're focused 0.66
00:19:14.240 on how sad you are and how fat you are and how depressed you are guess what you're going to get
00:19:18.840 sadder you're going to get fatter and you're going to get more depressed because the actions that
00:19:22.460 follow those feelings are all actions that contribute to that you know if you if you take gratitude for
00:19:27.540 what you have you focus on the positive you focus on where you're going to be the actions will follow
00:19:32.760 those actions and that's that's a that's a proven thing you can't feel sad and thankful or sad and
00:19:40.700 angry at the same time you know what i mean so whatever you're focusing on you're going to follow
00:19:47.040 up with the proper actions to to make that happen it's it's human nature right you know so so while we're
00:19:55.020 on that topic uh because obviously you've talked about the power of change happens and it's driven
00:20:01.400 by the power of belief you you've actually used the word faith at times right not necessarily the
00:20:06.960 formal organized religion sense but in the general spiritual sense um but you've also said that there's
00:20:12.580 there's kind of two sides in the same coin that the work comes before the belief right so elaborate on
00:20:19.980 that well dude you know when you when you haven't done anything and you haven't accomplished anything
00:20:24.720 and you haven't like become any part of what it is you want to become you have this place of you're
00:20:31.140 in this place of mind uh where you say well you know that's going to take a lot of work and i don't
00:20:37.420 really know if it's going to work even if i do the work you understand what i'm saying so it's like okay
00:20:43.040 well so am i taking a gamble to do all this work and what if it doesn't happen and these are the
00:20:48.780 conversations that we have and these are the conversations that most of everybody listening
00:20:52.040 right now has that keeps them from becoming what it is they want to become so when i say you know
00:20:58.000 work comes before the belief what i mean is that you're going to have to have faith and you're going
00:21:03.540 to have to do some work and then when you do some work you're going to see some results and then when
00:21:08.020 you have some results you're going to start to believe and then when you work a little bit more
00:21:11.680 and get some more results your belief is going to get stronger and and so on and so on and so on
00:21:16.280 so that when you become to a point like where i'm at in my life you know like i don't have a
00:21:21.320 problem with belief like ever like if i say okay i want to do this i have 100 confidence i'm going to
00:21:26.200 do it so that would have never happened if had i not just took that leap of faith and done the work
00:21:32.440 without the reward and i did that for 10 years you know i'm saying yeah so people you know they're
00:21:39.680 looking for that that validation or that indication that whatever they're doing is going to work
00:21:44.580 before they start because they don't have any fucking belief but once you start believing it 0.91
00:21:50.260 becomes a lot easier to do the fucking work you know what i'm saying so it's like a sliding scale 0.83
00:21:54.100 yeah and it's i mean how i mean you can't blame people for thinking that way because they're it's
00:21:59.500 the way that we're brought up and the way we're taught like i said is not taught it's taught that like
00:22:04.740 success is this magical thing that is only reserved for certain people right and the truth of it is is that
00:22:13.300 if you do the work and you work hard enough you're going to get pretty fucking good and if you get 0.71
00:22:18.180 pretty fucking good maybe you don't make it to uh you know the top level of whatever it is that
00:22:24.420 you're shooting for but at the end of the day you're going to be a hell of a lot better than you are
00:22:29.100 today so why doesn't it make sense just to go do it right and people talk themselves out by this
00:22:36.220 argument of like well if i do if i do all this extra work at work nobody will notice and i won't get that
00:22:40.780 promotion right you know what i mean and if i do if i do all this extra stuff uh at home you know
00:22:46.020 it's not going to matter it's not going to help my marriage because my wife won't notice you know
00:22:49.940 or if i do this and this and this you know and that's how people talk themselves and that's why they
00:22:53.780 remain exactly where they are right so you have to do some things it's just like anybody like
00:22:58.820 anybody listening right now who's ever gone from like mediocre shape or overweight to in shape or lost
00:23:04.380 a significant amount of weight knows what i'm talking about because when you first start
00:23:08.660 you know the first three four five six weeks the results are minimal and then all of a sudden
00:23:14.600 shit starts happening you know and if you didn't have the faith for the first five or six weeks
00:23:19.500 to stick through something when you're not seeing any results the belief part would have never came
00:23:24.960 you know and that's why you see so many people who just say shit like oh well you know my whole
00:23:29.320 family's fat and so i'm fat right you know and i'm just i'm just supposed to be this way right no
00:23:34.880 you're not you're just a product of your fucking habits right you know right and that goes for 0.96
00:23:40.040 anybody so basically the the belief gets you going but it's the work that's going to sustain you and
00:23:46.240 then once once the work it's kind of hard to even wrap my head around in terms of what comes first
00:23:51.540 what comes second work always comes first work always comes yeah you're gonna have to do some
00:23:54.900 shit and not get anything back for a while before you start to believe that it's actually working
00:23:58.900 right you got to work see results then belief work see results belief and you do that cycle
00:24:05.220 enough times the belief comes real strong where you know that when you do the work the result will
00:24:09.800 always be there and there's no fucking magic it's all about eliminating the thought of the magic right
00:24:13.880 right the x factor whatever people think it is well and i also think it's it's instructive to point
00:24:18.940 out that you don't say the talent comes before the belief or the giftedness it's the work yeah it's the
00:24:25.900 work yeah there's things that you're going to be naturally good at there's things that you aren't
00:24:30.480 going to be naturally good at that goes for every single person on earth you know there's going to
00:24:36.800 be things that come easy to you there's going to be things that are not easy to you and the people who
00:24:42.240 win understand that the people who lose think that they're the only ones like that you know they're
00:24:47.100 the only ones that have a hard time with this it's not for them right right so if you look at our
00:24:52.880 demographics we actually have a pretty good number of people who listen to us that are are kind of up
00:24:57.780 there in terms of their 40s and that sort of thing and uh i don't know man what would you tell somebody
00:25:04.060 who was 40 or even 50 who just suddenly came to a you know watershed moment in their life and they're
00:25:10.400 like man i'm ready to do things differently i'm ready to change i'm ready to be a whole new me
00:25:14.860 but they're riding 40 50 years of bad habits like how do you change those habits how do you get out
00:25:23.100 of like deeply ingrained patterns dude it takes work you know it's going to take fucking effort it's 0.91
00:25:30.740 going to take you concentrate it's going all the shit we've been talking about it's going to take 0.79
00:25:33.960 fucking focus it's it's not it's not something that's going to be easy but it's not just hard i don't 0.88
00:25:40.260 think there's any difference between 50 years of habits and 10 years of habits it's the same
00:25:44.320 fucking thing you know the problem with 40 50 year olds is they fucking say well i'm going to be 0.99
00:25:48.460 fucking 70 in 20 years so i don't want to spend the next 10 years hustling balls right well first of 0.88
00:25:54.260 all you should because it's fucking fun and you'll have a good time and you'll be fulfilled by the work 0.73
00:25:59.200 second of all what what's your legacy going to be third of all wouldn't you rather have 20 good
00:26:04.740 years than fucking zero right 20 years a long fucking time you know what i mean so uh you know 0.99
00:26:12.180 i'm doing this eight 18 years now 17 years and i've been living pretty fucking awesome 0.86
00:26:18.960 for about you know seven of those so how's that now you know it's it's it's worth it right so people
00:26:28.240 don't you know they tell them you know the older people oh well if i could live life over
00:26:32.980 fucking start over right you know right like it's not going to be the easiest thing in the world but 0.73
00:26:39.640 there's no reason you can't do it i mean i would even argue what what if what if you really only
00:26:43.500 ended up living it a year before you die exactly which would you rather do just kind of like
00:26:48.200 fade into the day you want to fucking look here's what it comes down to at the end of the day when 0.92
00:26:54.280 you die you want to be able to look back and say i did something i did something with my life i did
00:26:58.980 something that was cool i did something that helped people i did something that brought
00:27:02.620 value i did something i created something i did something you know what i mean you don't want
00:27:08.140 to just say oh i you know i i wish if i'd do it over i could have done this right what might have
00:27:12.700 been right worst thing you know be thankful for yeah be thankful for the you know the 10 years that
00:27:17.500 you are the 20 years or the 30 years you have left and say man you know what i learned a lot i'd
00:27:22.960 lived a really interesting life i went from living this kind of life to living this kind of life
00:27:26.840 there can be no regret in that so you know at the end of the day it just comes down to people
00:27:33.620 talking themselves out of it right and older people definitely talk themselves out of it because 0.58
00:27:37.160 of their age i hear it all the time but it's it's bullshit right you know it's just another excuse 0.58
00:27:42.940 absolutely no question so i mean let's just talk broadly again here about this whole concept of change
00:27:49.200 because people people don't like change you know they uh whether it's going from job to job or moving
00:27:57.260 from city to city in your mind what what it how does the truly successful person look at change
00:28:06.040 look at the whole concept of change how they interpret it
00:28:10.340 as like as necessary as like oxygen you know what i'm saying like dude you have to live
00:28:20.340 in a state of uncomfortable pressure okay and you don't live a state of uncomfortable pressure
00:28:27.020 by staying the same right and the reason you have to live in a state of uncomfortable pressure is
00:28:35.180 because somebody who's successful understands that all the creative shit comes from that place you
00:28:41.060 don't do your best work unless you have to do your best work and people that people spend their whole
00:28:47.480 lives trying to avoid that pressure when in reality that's the thing that's going to make them
00:28:53.460 you know so i think people who are truly successful understand that life is a game of evolution
00:29:00.840 on a fucking year by year by year by year basis you know every year you're you're working you're creating 0.96
00:29:08.220 you're developing a new version of yourself to become what it is that needs to be at that time
00:29:15.640 you know or what needs to become you know the neck for the next goal or the next thing or the next this
00:29:20.480 you know the typical mindset is to you know like we talked about go out get a job get married
00:29:26.780 have some kids you know get in debt spend the rest of your life working for somebody to pay off the
00:29:32.380 debt and and then uh you know that's life that's the way life's supposed to be but the problem with
00:29:40.560 that is is that and there's no problem with that if that's what you want but the problem with that for
00:29:46.440 somebody who wants more who like you know it's like uh in the matrix when morpheus is like the red pill
00:29:53.520 and the blue pill which i actually met him in la uh you met keanu reeves no no no uh laurence
00:29:59.660 fishburne that's awesome yeah the last time i was in la um we were waiting in line to take a leak
00:30:04.600 it was pretty funny that's great yeah but uh um i told him the story you know that i've used this
00:30:12.300 example before when i speak you know the red pill or the blue pill it's like do you want to be ignorant
00:30:16.840 and do you want to live in the box right or do you want to do you want to take the other pill and do
00:30:20.720 you want to be aware and if you're somebody who has been brought up in the traditional sense and
00:30:25.460 you've become aware of what it is that you want and it's not in that box you're going to be miserable
00:30:30.880 if you don't fucking you know work to to at least expand your role of whatever role you're in you 0.88
00:30:38.980 know a lot of people or you know they have great jobs and they're like fuck i don't go only my job 0.91
00:30:43.160 start a company that's not what i'm saying but what you probably should do is try to become the biggest
00:30:48.180 part of that company that you possibly can you know what i mean um because there's nothing there's
00:30:55.340 dude there's no shame in being extremely valuable linchpin of a company right you don't know not
00:31:01.040 everybody's meant to run their own company in fact most of you listening are not meant to run your own
00:31:05.320 company most of you listening are more likely to become extremely valuable part of a company and
00:31:10.720 we've got a podcast on that topic coming up here pretty soon right yeah yeah well the entrepreneur
00:31:15.980 mindset applies to to employees you know like a lot of people because entrepreneurship is
00:31:20.760 you know the new rapper right you know what i'm saying like it's cool everybody's like oh
00:31:25.920 fucking be an entrepreneur but the problem with it is and and this is the truth you know most people
00:31:32.000 don't have the fucking internal intestinal fortitude to fucking do it because i'm gonna tell you right now 0.98
00:31:39.400 it's hard as fuck and it's hard as fuck for me and i'm i'm tough as fuck when it comes to that shit 0.95
00:31:47.260 you know what i mean like i do shit on a daily basis that most people will have a nervous fucking 0.97
00:31:51.120 breakdown about right and i don't sweat and i think if you ask gary vaynerchuk or grant cardone or any
00:31:57.040 other motherfuckers they'll tell you the same thing so don't glorify the the being an entrepreneur 0.64
00:32:02.780 because there's a lot of shit that comes with it that you wouldn't fucking like right you know 0.93
00:32:06.660 don't look at just the good shit so you know being an extremely valuable part of a company
00:32:13.520 becoming very well paid without having the stress of all the other shit that comes with it
00:32:18.640 is a pretty good deal you know what i mean and and you can use the skills that we talk about here to
00:32:23.960 become that so you know when you do become aware you can usually fulfill those those desires through
00:32:31.720 becoming the most valuable aspect of where you are now versus trying to start over because like
00:32:37.460 let's say we got like dudes listening who are making a you know 150 200 grand a year and they're
00:32:42.940 like fuck dude i want to make 10 million a year well dude let me tell you something you better be 0.95
00:32:47.120 prepared to starve for like 15 years and then on top of it you better be prepared to lose everything
00:32:53.120 you fucking have right now and start completely fucking over like three or four times right and i don't 0.99
00:32:57.960 mean money i'm talking about like your friends your family and people you know i'm saying like it's
00:33:02.080 just not for everybody so um you know that's that so i think that going back to the issue of change
00:33:14.580 i think that the reason that so many people are afraid of change and like terrified by massive change
00:33:20.440 in their life and their business i think it's because they they think it's it comes with insecurity
00:33:28.600 like if if everything's changing then everything's up in the air and nothing's settled and the
00:33:34.200 uncertainty you have to learn to love the uncertainty right right yeah like the uncertainty is the best
00:33:38.780 fucking part it's like when you first start dating a chick and like you don't know like if she's 0.90
00:33:43.760 gonna call you or when she's gonna text you or what's going on you're not sure what the deal is
00:33:48.740 that's when you fall in love with someone because you sit there and you tell yourself all these
00:33:53.160 stories well what if what if she doesn't like me and what if she's doing this or what if i don't
00:33:57.600 know you know and we tell ourselves all these crazy fucking stories and don't act like i'm crazy all you 0.95
00:34:01.920 motherfuckers do this shit and then and then what you end up doing is convincing yourself that you're 0.88
00:34:06.740 like in love with this person you know because then they show the affection back and then you're like
00:34:10.900 oh i knew it's meant to be you know it's like a fucking story you tell yourself right it's not reality 0.93
00:34:15.620 you know but the uncertainty is still a good place to live because the uncertainty is where the fun is
00:34:23.840 versus like the if you just knew what everything was going to be for the rest of your life
00:34:28.580 how fucking boring would that be absolutely i love the uncertainty absolutely i love not knowing 0.73
00:34:33.460 i love knowing in my heart where i'm going to end up but not really knowing you get what i'm saying
00:34:38.520 absolutely dude i had to start over in life i mean i had to and and when i realized that you know
00:34:44.180 all of a sudden i was looking at okay well now i have to have a career and i have a whole resume
00:34:47.980 that's based on ministry right what the heck would i do i do and i felt a certain like fluttering in
00:34:54.200 my stomach but after after a while it's exciting yeah yeah i was like this isn't nerves this is this
00:34:58.560 is i'm excited because to borrow what you just said the two things that that i love about change
00:35:03.500 mystery right and freedom right those two things yeah man are awesome yeah and like dude people people
00:35:10.440 hate it you know they hate it it's it's like and that's okay because like some people aren't meant
00:35:16.560 to change right like dude it's about your personal value system in nature right like i made a post about
00:35:22.540 this on facebook the other day like you know i see all these people breaking up and and like i saw that
00:35:28.220 that was awesome yeah it's true though right so like i'm gonna repeat the post kind of like so basically
00:35:32.160 here's my thing is like so many people break up and get back together and break up and get back
00:35:38.240 together and talk shit about each other and make their and this is and they do it publicly which 0.62
00:35:42.940 is completely wrong but they do it privately too all right and the point wasn't don't do it publicly
00:35:48.060 the point was this look man you're you need to look at yourself as a specific type of puzzle piece
00:35:55.580 right and you're going to meet all these other different kinds of puzzle pieces out there in the
00:36:00.700 world and sometimes these people when you meet them are going to pretend to be the puzzle piece that
00:36:06.920 fits to you and you're going to find out six or seven or eight months down the road or two years
00:36:10.800 down the road that they aren't right and then what do you do do you fight and be mad and this and that
00:36:17.400 no there's no reason to be mad because at fundamental core everybody's different so like why would you
00:36:22.220 drag somebody that you had a good time with for the last year or two years through the mud just
00:36:27.300 because you know you found out that it wasn't exactly what you thought it was there's nothing wrong
00:36:32.380 with that doesn't mean they're wrong it doesn't mean you're wrong now do people do fucked up shit to 0.92
00:36:36.580 each other sometimes sure but the point of it is is that dude you need to let it go like shut the
00:36:41.460 fuck up you know realize that like for for relationships to work you've got to have 0.88
00:36:48.440 somebody's whose nature complements yours it shouldn't be hard like this is this thing people
00:36:52.800 say relationships sure are hard well then you're with the wrong motherfucker you know because like 0.90
00:36:58.020 relationships should complement each other naturally and it's very rare for two people to find that
00:37:03.460 you know but it's the truth and uh if people thought that way there'd be a lot less fucking
00:37:10.580 bullshit going around you know what i mean but people just they they would rather tear somebody
00:37:15.180 down or rip somebody or talk trash and it makes no sense because it's like you just spent the last
00:37:21.420 two years in love with this person and now they're a piece of shit what's that say about you right you 0.84
00:37:26.680 like a piece of shit and they and they and they go to you for counseling like again and again and again 0.93
00:37:31.180 when that person is mistreating you and then the next thing you know they're like oh well we're back
00:37:35.720 together right well then don't come to me anymore right your advice right because you're not going
00:37:40.300 to take it you're not going to move on right and dude it's a whole it's a whole fucking it's a whole 0.98
00:37:45.260 and then like dude sometimes the puzzle pieces change right like like dude who you are now
00:37:51.020 is not going to be if you're if you're a person outside the box who you are now is not going to be
00:37:57.220 who you are five years from now this is not going to be and if you're able to maintain a relationship
00:38:02.420 after you change and that other person changes you're doing a pretty good fucking job but the 0.96
00:38:07.720 point is is there's going to be times that you're going to have to recognize and be aware like okay
00:38:13.060 i'm changing i'm evolving i'm doing this is this situation complimenting me is it helping me is it
00:38:19.520 serving me and that's not fucking being selfish that's being real because at the end of the day 0.91
00:38:26.180 dude you're going to go out of this world on your own and you have to have your own fulfillments and
00:38:31.120 your own dreams and your own you know ambitions and your own life and so dude you know creating a
00:38:36.800 situation where everything around you compliments that is not selfish it's essential well it's like you
00:38:43.860 always say choose your heart do you want to be miserable for 50 years right or do you want to
00:38:48.060 break up with this person though right but like dude people people will stick with people
00:38:52.040 it's one of the i read this it's one of the biggest regrets people have staying in bad relationships
00:38:56.400 when they die like spending an extra year or two of their life with someone where they know it's not
00:39:01.320 going to work you know or or 10 or 20 years but you have the point is is you have to be aware of what
00:39:08.060 the fuck is going on like the way school teaches you about relationships is not the way it is it's not
00:39:12.880 reality you know it's it's not this you know it's not a fucking romance story from the fucking disney 0.99
00:39:22.160 right you know what i mean like there's a lot of things that go into it but at the end of the day
00:39:26.700 it should compliment you not take away you know it should push you not pull you back and that's that's
00:39:32.700 that's my point and like you know if you spend a year or two with someone you find out that's not
00:39:36.580 who they are that's okay what did you learn i guarantee you instead of like trashing them if
00:39:43.320 you took a minute to think about what you learned about yourself and what you like and what you don't
00:39:48.620 like and what you're looking for and what you're not looking for on a real level i'm not talking
00:39:52.180 about somebody's looks or their fucking boobs or their ass you know what i'm saying or this shit 0.97
00:39:57.680 people talk about i'm talking about like because after like a few months that shit doesn't matter 0.83
00:40:01.620 right you bang a fucking chick 20 fucking times all of a sudden it's the same thing every time 0.99
00:40:05.840 it's the same thing that's reality like dude you have to have fucking more than that and 0.90
00:40:11.100 you should so many people are so fucking stupid that that's all they fucking talk about like oh the 0.86
00:40:17.240 sex got boring well no shit motherfucker dude you tell me something you could do a hundred times 0.99
00:40:25.120 ever that is going to get a little bit fucking boring let's be real man well maybe although i you 0.97
00:40:31.340 know come on dude i'm pretty happy with my sex life i am too but i'm just saying like
00:40:35.200 it's not it's like people break up for that yeah no i hear what you're saying right i know you know
00:40:41.320 what i'm saying you're just too pussy to say it no yeah your wife probably listens to the podcast 1.00
00:40:45.800 no no no no no no what do you think tyler yeah he's a pussy right no i'm i'm very satisfied i 0.99
00:40:52.860 oh sorry i'm uh i think you're just happy you're getting laid yeah that might be true
00:40:57.800 that might be true um pastor boys yeah the uh sorry now i'm doing this sorry uh i've got a
00:41:05.580 nervous cup of coffee no i'm thinking you're actually giving me a lot i know i i i follow
00:41:09.780 we do a whole nother relationship i mean i follow what you're saying i should do a whole nother
00:41:13.660 podcast on relationships again that was a good one we should i i agree and i follow what you're
00:41:18.960 saying but i also i also know a lot of people out there the minute they run into any sort of
00:41:24.720 difficulty which is bound to happen in any relationship it wasn't meant to be right it
00:41:28.560 wasn't meant to be right and i mean no that's what i'm saying like you gotta fight for your
00:41:32.400 relationship look no look there's a medium okay like i'm speaking in extremes like when i say it
00:41:37.220 shouldn't be hard is there gonna be hard shit yeah is there gonna be fucking but it shouldn't be more 0.88
00:41:43.300 hard than it is fun right or complimentary that's what i'm saying i guess no i hear what you're saying
00:41:48.820 and now you and i have talked like dude so many people i talk to are so fucking miserable 0.99
00:41:52.440 with their life and it all stems from the relationship they're in you know like they
00:41:57.140 want to do all these things but they won't do them because the spouse doesn't want them to do them 0.98
00:42:01.900 so they delay when in reality the relationship's not going to last anyway right no i hear you you
00:42:06.780 know like so what the fuck are you doing so i know because we you and i have talked about this before 0.89
00:42:10.680 what we always say when i was a pastor is the best way to save a relationship is before it even starts
00:42:15.940 and the best way to save it is to choose a decent person and the best way to choose a decent person
00:42:20.120 is to be a decent person that's true and you know become become what it is you want yeah exactly
00:42:24.900 and dude that's another thing like you see all these motherfuckers out there like dude fucking 1.00
00:42:30.040 totally out of shape broke you know nothing going on for them you know or like girls we see like girls 0.99
00:42:38.080 with like big tits and like you know a nice body but nothing else going for them and they're like oh 1.00
00:42:43.680 there's no decent dudes all they do is chase around rich dudes they're like oh there's no decent dudes
00:42:48.460 that's because you're playing the role of a piece of meat right okay you're good for one thing and
00:42:53.700 one thing only and that's fucking getting laid by dudes who want to fuck you bring something else to 1.00
00:42:58.880 the table and that's who you're going to attract that's exactly right period so if you can't bring
00:43:02.840 something more than that guess what you're going to get these people didn't get rich by fucking 0.94
00:43:08.880 accident because they're stupid you're not smarter than them you know i'm saying no i'm just laughing 0.88
00:43:16.020 because we start talking about change and we're talking i'm just saying no it's great i mean
00:43:19.160 these gold digger fucking sluts man they all fucking they all think that they're smarter than 1.00
00:43:23.720 these rich dudes like dude these dudes didn't get rich by fucking being stupid no i hear you so like 0.94
00:43:29.880 you're like how stupid do you have to be to like think that you're gonna outsmart these dudes
00:43:34.340 you know i'm just being real man no i love it two podcasts for the sake of or for the price of one
00:43:39.920 yeah but like dude you know these people you know like guys do it too man they're like oh i see it on
00:43:46.560 facebook all the time oh there's no decent girls out there well let's let's take inventory of you 1.00
00:43:50.260 you're out of shape you fucking cry on facebook all day long okay uh you don't have a fucking job 0.99
00:43:58.160 you have no real ambition yeah you're not you're you're doing a new thing every week right uh you live
00:44:04.600 with your fucking parents you're 35 years old what the fuck do you bring to the table probably 0.99
00:44:11.300 memes yeah you got funny memes motivational yeah but i'm just saying like dude everybody's problems
00:44:20.800 come down to what the what's in the mirror yeah it's true yeah so like if you want a good mate if
00:44:26.160 you want to find a good person be a good motherfucking person right you know what i mean and have the
00:44:31.060 qualities that you whatever it is that you think you want in a mate if you don't possess those
00:44:37.280 qualities you're probably never going to get them right all right well while we're on this subject i
00:44:42.280 got to throw out another thing part of the problem is that we have guys that their whole orientation
00:44:48.540 is passive so you have these girls that have spent like a year with the guy and they're like
00:44:52.560 oh i just i don't know if he likes me or not did did emily have to guess whether you liked her or not
00:44:58.160 no you made it clear right so you essentially just is like this is who i want i'm going for it i showed
00:45:04.460 initiative that's the problem you got a lot of guys that are out there complaining that no women 1.00
00:45:08.760 ever likes them and they're like well do you ever make any move do you show initiative do you pursue
00:45:13.760 or do you just sit around like hey i'm just hanging i'm gonna let her guess that i like her
00:45:18.020 dude look man you know i'm saying dude look i could write a fucking book on this right 0.99
00:45:23.180 because most guys and most of you guys listening are total fucking pussies when it comes to this 0.98
00:45:28.340 you're so scared and you have and you think that like you think a girl wants you
00:45:32.720 dude i'm about to fucking break out on a rant here most dudes think a girl wants you to like send 0.94
00:45:39.940 them fucking flowers and chocolates and be prince fucking charming that's not what they want okay 0.97
00:45:45.800 they want to chase you they want to be they want to be the one that's confused they want to be the one
00:45:50.880 who doesn't know what the fuck's going on because from the time that they started growing boobies 0.77
00:45:56.140 and hit puberty every single dude they've met has tried to fuck them so if every single dude that you 0.88
00:46:03.640 ever met in your whole life from the time you were 12 just think about this from as a man if every
00:46:09.860 single girl every single one from the time you were fucking 12 years old was trying to bang you 1.00
00:46:14.920 every single one wouldn't the one that stood out be the one that wasn't be the one that was that was
00:46:21.840 like showing you a little interest but then pulling back and making it fun kind of a dance yes but guys
00:46:26.540 don't know how to do that dance they don't they have no fucking clue you know they they think that 0.89
00:46:31.360 doing the dance is either one extreme or the other they think it's like you know send them fucking 0.97
00:46:36.820 roses and get down and kiss their fucking feet and do all this bullshit or they think it's act too cool 0.98
00:46:41.860 for school like you know like the dudes do when they're in ninth grade right and it's you know it's
00:46:50.120 it's like fishing man like you know you throw a little bait out you reel it in real quick you know
00:46:54.560 what i'm saying like yeah it is and you guys are totally gonna i mean you're gonna i know you're
00:46:58.820 gonna get on me and say that you know i have no game but when my wife and i broke our engagement
00:47:02.640 she i think she really thought that i was gonna just go she didn't think that cry i think she thought
00:47:08.200 i was gonna cry in a corner but you went out and banged chicks no i didn't but i did find right 0.64
00:47:12.380 tyler he polished up that head he went out i didn't slaughtered him but i did i did 0.79
00:47:18.700 vote a carl von murder show my my wife my wife always wanted to how'd you get to name the impaler 0.77
00:47:23.940 ron you gave it to me we won't go there but uh no i mean what i did when we broke up is i i found
00:47:31.860 the college girl that i knew kasha knew that i thought was really good looking and we went and ran a 5k
00:47:37.960 together and i took pictures and posted it all over facebook right dude and it was
00:47:41.340 extremely effective flex on that bitch it's called flexing so it was good yeah but see that is game 1.00
00:47:48.060 yeah that's a fucking great game right if i could reach you right now give you a high five all right 0.84
00:47:52.140 thank you i appreciate it i can acknowledge that but like dude so many people on this fucking show 0.98
00:47:56.760 listen to this shit i get dms all the time about girls like dude come on like we could do a whole show 1.00
00:48:06.840 on this like we could do a book on this you get that many dms about girls yeah about like dude well
00:48:11.500 you got an attractive wife how'd you get her blah blah blah blah you put your money she probably yeah 1.00
00:48:15.680 she married your money no motherfucker she was collecting my bills right and i took her from a 1.00
00:48:21.580 bill collector to fucking want to take me out and she asked me out yeah yeah we should have a hold 0.93
00:48:28.400 i know yeah we should bring in some special guests but oh god dude i just it's just sad we've really
00:48:38.840 gotten off topic but that's all right no it's it's it's all good it's sad though dude yeah it's sad
00:48:43.600 yeah all right yeah yeah yeah so okay so we're gonna just talk about transitions and change and how that
00:48:50.220 applies to business so i feel sorry for these motherfuckers i know i do too i really do because you know 0.88
00:48:55.840 they think it's about they think it's about like the clothes they wear and like the fuck you know 0.80
00:49:00.960 they think it's about like they they think like i literally have worn the same clothes every day
00:49:06.060 for like 10 fucking years you know what i mean like it's they don't get it dude is that not true 0.92
00:49:13.660 no your wardrobe's a complete blur to me right this is blacks right cowboy boots right yeah what about
00:49:20.600 the other end of the spectrum no you're right though i mean there's like who are scared to not
00:49:24.860 be in a relationship wait what was the question people who are scared to be alone yes i don't know
00:49:30.700 i think that's because i think that comes from people being told their whole lives you're supposed
00:49:33.980 to find somebody and settle down and this and that and like but i think that leads to a lot of those
00:49:38.520 oh 100 yeah 100 they just end up settling and just you know oh dude but you know that again that's
00:49:44.200 another another indication of the way that people are zombies because our entire culture like all the
00:49:48.940 the shit i hear all the pop songs tell you you need a boyfriend or you need a girlfriend and so 0.90
00:49:53.360 people are like well they tell you need like seven of them yeah what's that they tell you like seven
00:49:57.520 of them yeah yeah which is another fucking problem right you know but like dude i don't know man like 0.93
00:50:03.520 i feel like i feel like we could we could build a relationship course or a fucking like like for dudes 0.87
00:50:09.280 you know i'm saying i when kasha and i when i worked at a college kasha and i i was asked to speak and just
00:50:15.580 just basically talking about our relationship and basic principles of relationship and when i was
00:50:20.080 done this was like a whole huge group of college students they came up to me like i was some sort
00:50:26.540 of genius and they said they thought you were mystery from that show the pickup artist they did
00:50:30.340 they did but no and i and i just it's insane though man vons up there with this fucking cape on 0.99
00:50:35.540 i got i got my big velvet hat yeah oh i should do that but no what i'm saying is it's what you and i
00:50:41.720 consider common sense most people well simon sinek simon sinek said in that video he said we
00:50:49.280 we don't millennials say that we don't know how to have relationships that's what he said in the
00:50:54.040 video dude it's come these dude these motherfuckers today are dm and chicks being like let me see your 1.00
00:50:58.400 tits yeah you know that's what they do like for real i know and it's like women say this is what 1.00
00:51:05.120 happens women say i just want a man to show a little bit more of who he is and then they dm him a 0.99
00:51:09.840 picture of his peanuts yeah no it's like no yeah that's not that's not i know oh you do
00:51:15.040 just making sure you knew that i know that let's move along yeah yeah okay all right moving right
00:51:20.560 along we got three more points okay so andy how do i transition from my nine to five to my dream
00:51:28.000 scenario first of all you gotta learn how to pick up chicks listen dude here's the thing
00:51:37.960 you're gonna have to realize that you're not gonna be able to make you're probably not gonna
00:51:42.720 be able to maintain all the comforts that you have transitioning from you know where you are
00:51:48.980 to where you want to be there's gonna be sacrifices that have to be made and you know that might mean
00:51:55.020 for somebody downsizing their house or moving into an apartment or cutting expenses what i would
00:52:00.860 personally do and what i did for a long time is i kept my expenses as low as i possibly could
00:52:05.640 so that i could spend as much time on my work that you know my bigger picture work
00:52:13.160 you know that i could and you know that's why like whenever you know for a long time people don't
00:52:20.440 realize this like chris and i had to work two to three jobs each to keep our company open you know
00:52:25.600 and that went on for our first eight years in business i think or nine years where we both had
00:52:31.300 to have other jobs to even keep the business alive and uh and dude that's you know that's
00:52:39.280 part of the deal man so you're not in a special circumstance by having to work a nine to five
00:52:43.920 and then also have to work you know there's a lot of fucking hours in the day after five o'clock and 0.93
00:52:47.820 before nine o'clock it's just people aren't willing to give those up for this for this deal so
00:52:52.600 it's that simple you know you've got to utilize the time that you have right we've talked about in
00:52:57.460 other podcasts just just just making sure that your your base obligations are covered and once
00:53:03.920 those are covered you just got to work harder right so okay what about what about changes in
00:53:08.520 your business you've talked about how one of the most challenging things is is when you have some
00:53:12.760 growth you know kind of giving things up but what do you in terms of navigating we'll say change in
00:53:20.380 terms of you know your business is getting bigger but also change into maybe change it trying to
00:53:25.000 orchestrate a change in culture a change in administration are there any basic principles
00:53:30.480 or best practices that have helped you navigate yeah have a fucking plan you know what i'm saying 0.95
00:53:36.180 sit back develop you want to develop a culture sit back develop a culture on paper how are you going to
00:53:42.060 do it what are you going to do what actions are you going to take i meet so many people who run a
00:53:46.720 business that just show up every day as if they're an employee and then go home at night and
00:53:51.980 and they think that like they're going to make all these things happen without actually having those
00:53:57.400 kind of plans in place to put into action so you have to develop you know a constant state of
00:54:03.480 developing strategy uh to move from you know a passive nature of running an organization or being a
00:54:11.500 part of an organization to an active nature of implementing new ideas cultures you know procedures
00:54:18.460 staff departments i mean there's all kinds of moving parts and i'll say this if you're an employee
00:54:24.320 and you can help the company do that you you're going to write your own fucking check because that's 0.95
00:54:29.940 my biggest challenge is that having employees that can help with those big picture things and planning
00:54:35.280 them out and how it's going to work nice what about product development what about if you have a
00:54:40.480 product you have to how do you decide like whether you're going to change a product or whether i
00:54:47.180 listen to the market you just listen to the market yeah right simple you know we send a survey out or
00:54:51.300 we listen to feedback or you know a lot of people you know they take a sledgehammer approach trying to
00:54:57.340 put a market into a product well um the market's always going to tell you the truth the market's always
00:55:02.960 going to tell you if a product works if it doesn't work uh if it works they're going to fucking buy it if 0.91
00:55:07.180 it doesn't work they're not going to buy it you can't fucking you know cheat the market so you have 0.98
00:55:13.040 to be real in tune with listening you have to look for social feedback on social media look at your
00:55:18.120 emails look at you know uh i mean your competitors what are they selling how are they selling how much
00:55:24.820 are they selling you know all that information helps because it helps you develop an idea of where
00:55:29.100 you should be and if you're not there there's probably something wrong with your product could be
00:55:31.740 your product could be your price could be your packaging could be your customer service could be
00:55:35.720 your retention it could be a lot of different things but that's what i'm saying like you've
00:55:39.900 got to be pretty fucking intelligent and well versed and in tune to like solve those problems that's why
00:55:45.720 becoming a business owner is is it's part of what makes it hard right you know it's just there's a lot
00:55:52.840 how do you feel about apples you know their planned obsolescence where they they release a product and they
00:55:58.220 know it's they know that it's essentially incomplete so that they know that there's going to be another
00:56:02.400 version of it and two you know two years from now or you know they they they kind of cornered the market
00:56:07.920 how do i feel of it how do i feel of it how do i feel about it in which way well i mean is that something
00:56:13.400 you like you guys like to do or i know we don't do that but as a business okay as a as a consumer i
00:56:20.660 fucking hate it because i gotta buy the shit every year right i gotta spend a thousand bucks on a fucking phone 0.99
00:56:24.740 every year so i fucking hate it right right that's marginally different this is the first year i didn't buy 0.92
00:56:29.620 the new phone like i still got the six or six plus yeah and i'm gonna wait you know because i can i
00:56:36.720 could deal with this yeah but like uh you know as a business guy i can't really argue they've got
00:56:45.360 more fucking cash on hand than the federal fucking reserve you know what i mean they figured it out so 0.82
00:56:51.020 um you know we're not in a position to where we could even do that and if i could i don't think i
00:56:56.140 feel good doing it right um i've always believed make the best product that we can make and when we
00:57:02.260 can legitimately improve the product improve it uh our fat burner was on market for four years yeah
00:57:08.700 and we just now replaced it yeah and the new one's fucking awesome but uh royal 21 king shameless plug 0.85
00:57:17.200 i hear that every single day listening to 101.1 yeah it's a first form uh on espn first form.com
00:57:23.960 yeah but i had a tip on one of those points earlier about you know transitioning uh if you
00:57:30.380 do have an iphone since we're on that subject reset your cellular data and just for a day see how long
00:57:37.440 you are on your phone and that'll tell you how much free time you have no shit for the most no shit 0.76
00:57:42.600 that's good thought it'll be seven eight hours yeah right yeah i don't have the time okay well you're
00:57:47.660 on your fucking facebook every fucking time i see you right so andy is at andy frisella for 0.99
00:57:53.200 instagram he's uh facebook.com forward slash andrew dot frisella um you're on snapchat mfceo dash one
00:58:02.180 and i don't think there's anything else you're not on twitter uh tyler is at my tyler m-a-i underscore
00:58:08.280 t-y-l-e-r for instagram i don't think you're on twitter either right no but i do have to say that
00:58:14.160 i am now uploading full episodes onto youtube with video people are loving it so if you're more of a
00:58:21.560 visual person we have those now sweet okay and i'm at von kohler v-a-u-g-h-n-k-o-h-l-e-r for
00:58:29.160 everything guys uh we continue to burn through copies of uh otis and charlie and uh the very first
00:58:36.440 book we're uh getting pretty close to the second book being released here in the next couple months
00:58:40.500 so stay tuned for that thank you for wow they've we're just burning through those behind it and we
00:58:46.840 haven't really done much to promote it but have you yeah and guys if you bought the book please
00:58:51.440 leave a review on amazon yeah that'd be very helpful yeah and if you want to go to the website
00:58:55.480 it's otis and charlie c-h-a-r-l-e-y dot com and if you think i should develop a relationship content
00:59:02.680 uh piece of material uh drop a comment on my fucking instagram let me know yeah because i'm about i'm 0.98
00:59:09.400 about i'm gonna try to change the way these dudes do business yeah it makes me sad man it's like
00:59:14.760 these dudes think that like you know they have they don't have any fucking power to situation 0.98
00:59:20.060 you know what i mean like it's like they're helpless little fucking children and then they 0.94
00:59:24.360 just take what they can get oh dude i gotta get on i gotta get on godaddy and buy a domain name
00:59:30.080 don't say what it is because you're gonna buy it well i wasn't really serious it's mf harmony
00:59:36.140 yeah oh come on that was good that was good dude all right i think this is a good place to stop
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