Do You Feel Alone？, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO297
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Summary
In this episode, I talk about why I do what I do, why I started this podcast, and why I feel the need to help other people see that there's a lot more than meets the eye. I also talk about how important it is to have a support network.
Transcript
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I can stack them hunters to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
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Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
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MC Salmon Pants is wearing khaki pants today. That's not a good sign.
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They are short, so I think that makes up for the salmon-ness. The lack of salmon-ness.
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Alright guys, what is up? You're listening to the MSCEO Project.
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I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
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Today, I've got a very important podcast for you guys.
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Somebody asked me the other day at our RTA live event, which by the way was amazing.
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If you came to the event, if you purchased a live stream, thank you so much.
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Next time, if you purchased a live stream, try to come to the event.
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Because there's just an aspect to the event that you can't get through the live stream.
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And that's kind of what I want to talk about today, and I'm going to talk about.
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You know, you guys did a great job representing the RTA culture.
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I was personally blown away by how friendly, how welcoming, how supportive everybody was.
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Because, you know, somebody asked me during the weekend why I do this.
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And it made me think, because the way they asked it, it was like they really wanted to know why I do it.
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They asked me why I use my Instagram the way I do, and why I started the podcast,
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And I get frustrated when people don't listen to it.
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And honestly, I get very little monetary reward back for it relative to what I give out.
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And they recognize that, and I appreciate that.
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And I thought about it, and I really couldn't give them a solid answer as to why I do it on the spot.
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But I thought about it over the course of the next couple days.
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So I've had some time to digest that question and really think about it.
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And, you know, the truth is, guys, the reason I do this is because of how alone I felt when I was trying to build a company.
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We didn't have anything other than really books to learn from.
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And, you know, I've just always felt called to put out that sort of information.
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I feel an obligation, a true obligation, and a true responsibility to try and bring the best out of other people
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and to try to help other people see that there is lots more available to them if they choose to draw on it.
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Guys, we are infinite, infinite sources of power.
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But the truth is, you know, we're told from the day that we were born that we're not.
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And we're told that we're supposed to fit here or do this or do that.
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There is no set way that makes it right or wrong.
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And I just remember what it felt like trying to figure this out over, I don't know, the first 12 years of my business about how I didn't really have anybody.
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I didn't see anybody truly trying to contribute to anybody else's success.
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I saw a lot of people claiming to want to contribute to other people's success and then charging them ridiculous amounts of money for information that was honestly not spectacular.
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And what I've always tried to do, guys, and I know I have a different technique and a different way to really get through to people.
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I'm a little rough around the edges, maybe a lot rough around the edges for some people.
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You know, the way I speak, the cursing, the intensity, all the things that you guys recognize from me that you either love or hate, that's really me.
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So cursing and all, you know, it just is what it is.
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And I've always tried to be authentic with you guys so that you could see that I'm not really that smart.
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And I figured out what it takes to get shit done, and I've tried to share it.
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And I've tried to share the emotional struggles and the mental struggles and all the things that come with the pursuit of an extraordinary life.
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If you're going to try to build an extraordinary life, you're going to have extraordinarily hard issues to deal with.
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And guys, as people who want more, as people who demand more, as people who are not going to settle for less than more, we ultimately end up putting ourselves in a situation where we feel alone.
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And I want you to really think about the culture that we live in right now.
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It's a society that somewhere along the line has completely lost its way.
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We live in a population of people who seem entirely incapable of understanding what it takes to succeed or why it's actually important to succeed and win.
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And I'm talking about the society that values self-esteem over self-discipline, tells people they are special when they have accomplished literally nothing in their lives that make them special.
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A society that doesn't want to keep score at sporting events to protect the feelings of the people who lose.
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A society that gives out trophies, not for winning, but for just showing up.
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And a society that truly wants and expects and feels entitled to a certain level of life without earning it.
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This is also a society that makes excuses for failure based on race, based on gender, based on income, disability, or literally anything a person can think of.
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People get offended when someone speaks their mind.
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People want to censor the truth because it makes them uncomfortable.
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And you know, you guys know I call it the society of rainbows, unicorns, and delicate flowers.
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Because to be completely honest, that's what it is.
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It's full of people who want to feel good about themselves for no good reason.
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It's full of people who their first response to every single thing that they do is, or receive, is I'm offended.
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They are complete zeros and do nothing, contribute nothing, win nothing.
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But yet, expect all of the things that go along with the exact opposite of who they are.
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And unfortunately, when I look around, it feels like these kinds of people are not the minority anymore.
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They understand that in order to succeed in life, you have to develop a killer competitive attitude and unparalleled will to win.
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They understand that you have to have the will to be the best no matter what you're doing in life,
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whether you work at the stock market trading floor or you're just sweeping it.
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These people also understand the nature of real life.
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Not the world as they want it to be, but the world as it actually is.
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They understand that the whole human existence and experience is set up for competition.
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If you look at any fucking video game that's made for a two-year-old, it keeps score.
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And we do people no service by preparing them for a situation where everything's going to be fair and nice and equal when it just fucking isn't.
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Your self-esteem, your need for significance, the real world doesn't give a fuck about that.
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It's going to be on you figuring out how to create those things.
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And what matters is action, education, and results.
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History will never remember people who make excuses.
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It's never going to remember people that whine.
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It's never going to remember people that wait for tomorrow.
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It's never going to remember people who try hard.
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It's going to remember the people who fucking win.
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The nature of real life demands that we see the pursuit of greatness and success as a competition.
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And only tough-minded, gritty, hardworking, straight-shooting people win that competition.
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I'm super thankful, extremely thankful that my dad taught me from the moment I was old enough to understand my ABCs.
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It has made all the difference in the world for me.
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It's the reason I'm highly successful by most people's terms.
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It's the reason why I'm going to continue to grow companies.
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It's the reason why whenever I go speak, people show the fuck up.
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All because of this one attitude that I was instilled with when I was a young kid.
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It's the reason why we have the number one podcast in the business category in the world.
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And it's the reason I've had the privilege of getting paid to speak to thousands and thousands and thousands of people on the topics that I'm passionate about.
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Guys, I thank God every single day that even though the majority of people in our society are committed to mediocrity,
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even though it's extremely frustrating, even though it makes me aggravated,
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I thank God that I am definitely not the only one who is out there killing it in business and life.
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And I thank God that I am not alone because I know what that feels like.
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And I know more than you guys because when I was up and coming, when I was doing my thing,
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when I was doing all the really, really gritty, hard struggle shit, there wasn't these resources around.
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There wasn't these kind of situations like Instagram where I connect with these people.
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And the good news is, is that through my Instagram posts and my podcast episodes,
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I've discovered that there's a significant segment of the population, you guys,
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who has had it with the fucking bullshit, La La Land, rainbows, everybody wins,
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And this total nonsense idealist approach to life that has become literal commonplace.
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These people are men and women of integrity and intensity who want to win and they want to win
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There are millions upon millions upon millions of people just like you out there.
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So if you're that kind of person, you need to know that you're not alone,
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even though we feel alone every single day in our daily lives,
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because nobody around us understands the kind of people that we are.
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But what you need to understand is that there is a growing movement.
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You need to understand that there is a community being built,
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a force that is rising and a family being formed.
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And our number one value of that family is mental toughness.
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And that means that people of confidence, people of self-belief, people of self-esteem,
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people of discipline, people of determination, people of perseverance, people of grittiness,
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They exist a lot more commonly than what you think.
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We are the people that this entire fucking planet depends on to create the proper culture.
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And I want you to think about the obligation of that.
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And it's going to take our whole lives to get it right.
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Because unfortunately, this world right now is in a shitty spot.
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And it's in a shitty spot because of all the qualities I listed off that are laziness, entitlement,
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However, all the shit, fairness, you know, all the shit we want to talk about here.
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Those qualities are more common than the qualities you possess.
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Now, you're probably listening right now and you're like, yeah, that's me.
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And if it is you, I know you're asking some serious questions.
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You're saying, why do I feel like I'm the only one?
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Where are the others who believe what I believe that Andy's talking about right now?
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Where are the ones who live like I'm trying to live that Andy's talking about?
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Actually, I'm going to give you two reasons why.
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Number one, in general, there's an epidemic of loneliness going on in America and around
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Okay, I just read a New York Times article not too long ago that talked about this.
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Different forces are shaping our society to where people, even though they might be connecting
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online in some way, are feeling more and more separated from each other.
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That's the truth of our society as a whole right now because technology has not only created
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great opportunities to connect, but it's created a huge divide as well.
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The Harvard Business Review also just wrote an article about how the average employee sits
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in their cubicle, works with a sense of meaninglessness, and feels disconnected from the rest of the
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In many cases, men and women are actually scared to talk to each other because they're
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Is that really the kind of society that we've become?
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You can't even communicate to someone without somebody crying and whining and bitching about
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Whenever you are a person who wants to rise above the level of mediocrity and pursue real
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excellence, you are always going to separate yourself from the crowd.
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That's a good sign because the crowd is 1,000% committed to being average.
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So while the rest of the world is out partying and doing nothing, when they think they're
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doing something, you're all alone trying to accomplish something and feeling like there's
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You're already part of a culture where loneliness is a problem.
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And then to add to it, you have the mindset of a champion where you're pursuing a life
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that is going to put even more space between you and everybody else.
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So is it natural for you to be separated and isolated alone?
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It puts me in depressive mode because I feel like, dude, I'm literally the only motherfucker
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It's not right that you guys, hardworking men and women who are trying to literally change
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your lives and as a result change the world, who are trying to be mentally tough, who are
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trying to be productive and hardworking and doing their best to be successful should feel
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alone while all the sheep are out there partying together.
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It's not right that people who are committed to being their very best, to being winners,
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to being ferociously aggressive and achieving every single goal, every single dream should
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be off by themselves while the losers get to hang out together.
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It's not right and it's not the most effective way to succeed in life because as much as I
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believe in individuality, as much as I believe kill or be killed, okay, as much as I believe
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in the power of one human being, there is a reality to this.
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When you're striving to be mentally tough, when you're trying to be the absolute best,
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when you're trying to develop all the traits of confidence, of discipline, of determination,
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grit, perseverance, the ability to endure, you can do a lot by yourself.
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But at the end of the day, guys, we can't do it alone.
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You have to connect with other people like you.
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You need to be in a community of great people who do the right thing, but also do everything
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Guys, this is how I've run my business for the last 20 years.
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I didn't just sell nutritional products to people and just all of a sudden I was here.
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I did everything I could and continue to do everything I can to help people get in shape
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by building real relationships with them, okay?
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No matter what business I'm in, no matter if it's first form, no matter if it's anything
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else, no matter if it's RTA, it doesn't matter.
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No matter what I'm doing, no matter what it is, I am going to do and work to provide every
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tool, every avenue, every single thing I can offer someone to help them be successful
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And guys, the funny thing about this is, is that the best thing that you can give other
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people is letting them know that they aren't alone.
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You don't have to work towards your goals alone.
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If you want to be a good person and you want to be a badass and you want to fucking dominate,
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That's the culture I've worked to create in my business.
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That's the culture I've worked to create in this podcast.
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And that's the culture I'm going to work to create in this world over the course of however
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long I happen to be here until I'm in a fucking box.
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That's the attitude and approach I've tried to create within our leadership and team.
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And it's what we constantly try to communicate with our customers.
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It's not only the right and morally right approach to take.
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This is the approach that has helped me build a nine-figure business.
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And three years ago, I took that commitment to mental toughness to the next level.
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That commitment to developing confidence and self-esteem and self-belief and discipline
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That drive to be the best to fucking work myself to the bone on a daily basis and go after what
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I truly want, not 60% what I want, 100% of what I want in business and life.
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And I started the podcast that you're listening to right now.
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And over the course of the last three or four years, we've talked about every conceivable
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Whether it's building a business to six, seven, eight, nine figures, or crushing their fitness
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goals and becoming the best version of themselves physically and mentally, or becoming a better
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I've tried to teach you guys practical skills of building a business and the fundamental mindset
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And I feel I've done a pretty okay job at that, but all of that ties back into a basic
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There's a community being built and a family being formed around these concept guys.
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They are sick of settling and they are sick of having to accept what society imposes on
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And until recently, the whole movement has been represented by the hashtag 100 to zero.
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And if you don't know what that means, go listen to episode 179.
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And basically that's a way of saying we want to pursue excellence so hard that if we were
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ever competing against someone else in a game of football or basketball or soccer or anything,
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the score would be 100 to zero total fucking domination.
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The shit that everybody looks down on now, the shit that everybody villainizes now, that's
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I introduced that hashtag 100 to zero about a year and a half ago and it caught on like
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I told you to stop using it in the post because Instagram had had a shadow ban to my account
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I don't really don't give a fuck what Instagram thinks.
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I am more concerned with they can ban or block or shadow ban my page all they fucking want.
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I'm more concerned with helping this community fucking win because I want the hundred to zero
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hashtag not just to refer to the concept or lifestyle or really even the movement, but
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I've been giving out this content to help you guys become people of excellence, to help you
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become mentally tough motherfuckers who everybody else can hitch their wagons to and you could
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Now I want to help you guys connect and draw together with other good people who also want
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People who want to kill it, people who are tired of being average, people who are a thousand
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I want you to be able to say, I belong to a community.
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I belong to a group of people who care about my success as much as I care about my success.
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And I want you to be able to see someone else who uses that hashtag and know, Hey, that guy's
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And I want you to be able to reach out and establish relationships with that person so
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that you guys can help each other develop the skills of confidence, determination, grit,
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and all the other character traits and skills that we develop so that we can help each other
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And my ask is this, I want you to start using the hashtag again, and I want you to start using
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A hundred, two, zero, one, zero, zero, the letter T, the letter O, zero.
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And in addition to just using it, I wanted to create something else that would bring us all
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together to get us in the same space and get us talking about the same things.
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So I came up with this brand new concept to utilize the 100 to zero hashtag and build this
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Right now, hockey is huge in St. Louis right now.
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If you're from St. Louis, you know that if you're not, I'm sorry because the blues are
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But if you're familiar with hockey and you know what the power play is, it's crunch time.
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It's a little bit of time, two minutes that you have to take advantage to score when you're
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One dude would be taken off the ice and it's five on four.
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And it gave me an idea for a new thing that we're going to do here at the MFCEO project
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So what I want you to realize, guys, is this isn't just to have fun or drive engagement
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It's to hold you accountable to post your critical tasks.
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If you go public with them, you're way more likely to hold yourself accountable.
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And I want to create accountability between somebody you might not know in Africa and
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And a million other people that are all listening to this show.
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This is the way we're going to reward you for it.
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Every time I post on Instagram, you're going to comment a comment.
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It's going to have a hashtag 100 to zero, and then it's going to say my power play is.
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And then after you say hashtag 100 to zero, my power play is, you are going to write in
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whatever it is the critical tasks that you had to get done for today is.
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You're going to hashtag underneath hashtag 100 to zero.
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My power play is to call the 10 people on my potential new client list.
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My power play is to get in my 45-minute outdoor workout today.
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Whatever it is that you still got to get done that is going to be the most challenging thing
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for you that day, I need you to write 100, hashtag 100 to zero.
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That could be t-shirts, stickers, key chains, all kinds of shit, coffee mugs, all the stuff
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You could get a shout out of your business or brand on the MFCEO podcast.
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You could get a Skype or an IG video chat with me.
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You could win a visit to St. Louis to come hang out, talk some business, drive some cars,
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maybe ride some dirt bikes, and have a cup of fucking beers after 75 hard, of course.
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So, guys, this is my way of building this community up and then also connecting with each
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So, guys, if you're a man or a woman who wants to be a person that helps others become relentless
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forces of fucking nature that crush every single goal, and you're somebody who literally loves
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seeing other people win, if you want to help transform our society from weak-ass quitters
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and complaining, you know, like a bunch of little bitches to a nation of mentally tough
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fucking freight trains who stop at nothing to get what it is they want, then you belong
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Start using the hashtag participate in the MFCEO Power Play Contest and let's start connecting
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And, guys, I'm going to give away shit on every single time I post for this, okay?
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This is a way for us to dominate together, and I cannot wait to watch you guys win.