Don't Procrastinate Your Greatness, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO69
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Summary
In this episode of the MfCEO Project, we are joined by the Reverend and Pastor of the Disaster Church, Mr. Vaughn, and his daughter, Kelsey, as they talk about the perils of being a procrastinator.
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okay what's up guys you're listening to the mfceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am
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the motherfucking ceo today we have something of a treat vaughn the pastor of disaster
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vaughn diesel vaughn the impaler is back i'm back he's back i've been all over the country but
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here's the problem tyler's not wearing his coral shorts he's not which is a bad omen it's a very
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bad omen it's bad omen yeah and then we've got kelsey hey guys so what are we gonna do today man
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well tell us about your trip first of all how's kansas i'm sure it was super exciting it was
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awesome i got passed by a how many fucking tumbleweeds you see no i got passed by a lamborghini
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while i was out on the i-70 did you heading out by what color was it yellow somebody you know
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dude just because he's got a lamborghini doesn't mean i know him well that's a pretty and if he
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had a yellow one that's a pretty elite company yeah no it was uh it was a guy it was yellow and
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he was about a middle-aged man did he have like a gold chain and furry chest and shit i did did he
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like a with like an unbuttoned tommy bahama shirt he had a fuzzy dice you know and all that stuff so
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uh no it was good but you know i had a lot of time on the road to think about things oh yeah
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you hurt yourself did you i i didn't i didn't but when i got to manhattan i was you know hanging out
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with different people that uh that i know and and there was a famous movie on rocky 3 academy award
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winning movie no probably not but that's one with clubber lane right right it's with mr t right so do
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you remember what the like the first main conflict of that movie is that rocky has to overcome
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no okay well it's basically well actually there's two one is that he gets the crap beaten out of him
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by mr t i think the first time yeah i'm remembering correctly but the second second main conflict is
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that his trainer who he loves dearly dies right so he goes into this big funk you look like you're
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about to say something you should say mickey right yeah mickey yes yeah so so he goes in this big funk and
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it finally gets to the point where he's got to take on mr t again right so he gets this new trainer
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who's uh man what's his name the the black guy who's the played by carl weathers apollo creed
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apollo creed yeah so apollo creed i don't know if you know this scene but apollo creed is trying to
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motivate him to like really put 100 150 into his training and rocky keeps on making excuses because
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he's in this funk you know and at one point they're running and he's just not putting full effort into it
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and apollo creed says damn rock what's the matter with you i'm pretty good at doing that was yeah
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that was decent yeah i was decent and rocky says no no i'm just i'm just gonna do it tomorrow and you
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know the famous line that paul creed delivers like again and again right in that scene he says
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there is no tomorrow there is no tomorrow and i thought about that like that literally has been
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has been reverberating in my head the entire time i was on my trip because i'm a middle-aged man
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i'm 42 right okay i'm a lot older than a lot of the people that listen to this podcast yeah
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but they're older than me yeah i am way older like i could be your ob1 you definitely could be and i'd
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be ob1 but it got me thinking and all kidding aside it got me thinking about how many people at
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different ages of their lives that they always think there's going to be a tomorrow and they they
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think that they can procrastinate their commitment to greatness and so it got me thinking that
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i really want to hear what andy says about that because i know you have a lot to say but i want
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to talk about the people who are listening to us at various stages of their lives why are they
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procrastinating their commitment to greatness why are they doing it why do we wake up this morning
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because any day that you and i wake up we could literally say okay today's the day i'm gonna be
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as you put it fucking great you know i think that
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it's natural to procrastinate because and i just did some snaps on this this morning um about pivoting
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um i think it's natural to procrastinate for people because it's easy right and it's instant
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gratification it's the better choice now right and just like you say it's there's no tomorrow
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okay and i get that and i get what that means i understand that but if you're a natural procrastinator
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those people are experts at taking that same saying and making it mean there is a tomorrow so today i'm
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gonna fucking do what i like to do right so it's a way to justify the easy path and successful people
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understand something that is really as lawful as the law of gravity when it comes to decision making
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they understand that when they come to a point and and i call them pivots pivot points okay and a pivot
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point is a point where you come to a decision and that decision that you make can either take you
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further away from your goal or closer to your goal and the one that takes you further away from your
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goal is going to be the easier choice and the one that takes you closer to your goal is going to be
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the harder choice and people are habitual creatures so since it's easier to take that choice when the pivot
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comes along that takes less work less commitment less discipline less blood sweat and tears to actually
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do and it's more enjoyable in the moment they create a habit of doing that and that habit becomes
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what people call procrastination and they they they come habitual procrastinators and i i i've struggled
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with this i mean i've gone through phases of this in my life i think everybody has you know i don't think
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that anybody who's overcome this has some superhuman ability that they just don't procrastinate it's a
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discipline that you develop over time to make the correct decisions when those pivots come into your
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question right you have the opportunity to go to the gym like this morning for example i did not want
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to fucking work out and if you you know uh and i talked about this in my snaps i didn't want to train
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dude i would have rather done anything than train anything i would have rather crawled over some broken
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glass i would have rather wipe my ass with sandpaper i would have rather done anything than go to the
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gym and do my workout today but you know what i did it i went to the gym i worked out i had a great
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workout and i felt great afterwards that's a pivot right i could have just as easily said hey you know
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what andy you're down 50 pounds this year so far you you train every day for the last 60 days straight
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you know what you deserve a day off and i could have came here and told everybody hey i took the
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day off from the gym today and they all would have said what would they have said you earned it oh you
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earned that yeah you earned that that day off you earned that and you know what maybe i have earned a
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fucking day off but that today wasn't going to be that fucking day because i'm not going to take my
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day off just because i'm feeling lazy you get what i'm saying absolutely because i understand that
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being able to develop and cultivate and keep that habit going of taking the right path when
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those pivots come is important it's a habitual discipline i am not just moving towards my goal
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i'm actually creating a discipline of moving towards all my goals because i am taking the path
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of most resistance on purpose every single time and that creates a habit of doing that and when you
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create that habit of automatically picking the right path and by the right path i mean the path that's
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going to be harder that's going to take you where you ultimately want to be when you create a habit of
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doing that you are creating an automatic decision in your heart in your mind of action and when you create
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automatic decision of action when those choices and those pivots come to your your uh to your you
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know present themselves to you you are creating an automatic plan for success you get it it's a
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reaction it's not just i'm trudging along this path of you know success and i'm climbing this mountain
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and blah blah blah blah no you could train it to be automatic you ever notice how there's so many
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people out there to see it seems like the the shit is so easy for them like the successful people
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i know you would never you don't hear them cry and bitch and moan about how hard it is the only
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reason i talk about it is because i want younger people to understand the truth because from the
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outside looking in if you're a young person you're looking at somebody who's successful it looks
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very easy to them well you know why it's easy to them because they've developed the habits that
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i'm talking about and they're automatic for them so it is easy for them you follow me right because
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yeah because it's become a habit so you know defeating procrastination is nothing more than
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a identifying it and identifying the situations where you can go the on the path that's going to
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take you where you ultimately want to be or you can go on the path that's going to slow that process
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down being aware of those times and then making the right decision and doing it automatic it's that
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simple so humor me for a second so a pivot point would be we could define it as a key moment in the
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course of your life where you are tempted to eat well not tempted you are presented with the decision
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it doesn't even have to be a small moment okay okay so let me let me let me give you an example
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you have a choice every day to take a shower or not take a shower you have a choice every day to
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make yourself look presentable or not look presentable look like a bum all right so it seems
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like a small decision right but let's say today is the day that you're going to go out of the house
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and you're going to run in to the person who's going to give you the opportunity for the career that you
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want or going to give you the opportunity uh for uh some business or maybe it's going to be the day
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that you meet somebody that could end up being your spouse one day and you decided on that day
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that you're going to cut that corner and not take that shower and make yourself look presentable
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you know i'm saying yeah that's a very practical example right i like it so it doesn't have to be
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these massive decisions it is just very it could be very small decisions and and people really only
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recognize the massive decisions but the people who are truly successful in life have mastered their
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ability to do the things they need to do that are uncomfortable doing and make them automatic no
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matter what they are because let's be real dude i wake up some days and i don't take a fucking shower
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right you know i'm saying i'm that lazy of a person like i do not feel like shaving you know not that i
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shave but i gotta mold this glorious fucking beard into a sculpture of art right you know and i'm i don't
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feel like doing that sometimes sometimes i want to wake up i want to go to work in my fucking
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underwear i slept in and and you know i don't give a fuck but i don't do that because i get
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the big picture of of the consequences small decisions you know make based on what i know
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you've said about the importance of stringing together small victories and and tapping into
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the power of momentum i would almost say that it sounds to me like you're saying that in some ways
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the small decisions are more important than the big ones they're they're equally as important i
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think equally yeah but not because they're not because they're the outcomes equally as important
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it's the discipline that you develop to make that decision that meet that makes it equally important
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follow me yeah so it's all about momentum right and we talk about this in the podcast
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on uh powerless right which is i think killing every day kill it every day yeah i reference that
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one a lot i like that one a lot everybody likes that one a lot but you know winning and success
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is all about momentum and when you get momentum you want to do everything you possibly can to not let
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that momentum slow down or break down or fall apart because getting something going is the hardest part
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you know once you get it moving it's a lot easier to maintain and that could go for business
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relationships personal development fitness it doesn't matter you know but the the key thing here is is
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what we're talking about procrastination that is like that's like the crawl before the walk you know how
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do we stop ourselves from talking ourselves out of action and that's developing the uh you know
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the basic discipline of choosing the right things to do you know choose like for me this year it's been
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choosing green beans over fucking potatoes right you know what i mean even it's it's choosing to stay
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in and not go out on saturday night and have drinks with my buddies you know what i mean so it's just
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it's all about learning how to build that discipline up i love what you said about trying to avoid
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talking ourselves out of action it's funny the first thing that popped in my head when you said that was
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when you're a guy and you're in a bar the longer you think about approaching a woman the less likely
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you're going to do it right so it seems like that principle just in general is it can be applied
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to decision making so how do you basically make a quick decision to to act like how have you trained
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yourself to do that because i i'm not saying look it's not easy it's still not easy for me you know
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it's just not it's not an easy thing i struggle with it all the time i i push the boundaries of being
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a lazy motherfucker that's the truth like i try to do everything with the least amount of energy
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possible and and i have to talk myself out of naturally doing that like that's my natural
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personality my natural personality is to be lazy as fuck just like most of you guys listening
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i have developed habits to beat that right to where i am not that and i get up and i do my shit and i
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make sure and you know a lot of people ask and they're like well what makes you do that well
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it's because the fucking alternative of not doing that is not what i want right i don't i don't want
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it's you know you have to think about the alternative of your decision making when you're at that critical
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point all right it should be an automatic thing you know that pops in your head you know you're at that
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critical pivot point where you could go the right way or the wrong way and you should automatically
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pop in your brain the consequences of both and what are the consequences of you know not going to
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the gym well you're gonna be fat well for me you know what are the consequences of not doing your
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shit at work well you're gonna be broke well i don't like being fat and i don't like being fucking broke
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so i'm gonna do what the fuck i need to do you know what i mean so it's just about manage it's not
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it's not anything special skills skill wise it's just being aware of that thought process
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and when it comes into play knowing how to react and training yourself to react automatically in those
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in those steps yeah it would be just like boot camp or uh you know if you train in a sport and
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you know you automatically do something when something else happens or like karate like somebody
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throws a punch you throw a fucking block and it's automatic it's the same thing it's with your brain
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you get what i'm saying yeah i totally get what you're saying i mean it sounds
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obviously a specific example of you motivating yourself it was thinking about the consequences
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you know what's the alternative but i think people hesitate i think people don't take the
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alternative into consideration they only take the instant part they say oh you know what i'm trying
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to diet um my friends are all going out for cinco de mayo fuck it i'm going out and they don't even
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think for one second that alternative of like dude you're going to consume 70 000 calories of
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margaritas and be fat as fuck and hungover for three days right well they kind of forget the big
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picture right exactly that's the thing is that you focus whenever you're looking at the details you're
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looking at them in with the big picture in mind and having that vision right and they're just looking
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at the detail in front of them and not thinking of the big picture i think that's an excellent point
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exactly excellent point like people automatically take the big picture and without even realizing it
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they just throw it in the trash well they sabotage themselves from ever getting there right what's
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interesting to me is that fear is a motivator to to not procrastinate but and you've talked about this
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we've talked about this a lot especially i think uh when we were working on the the chapter in the
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upcoming book about risk you said that most people average people are afraid of what's going to
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happen if they do something and you said successful people it's actually the opposite successful people
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are afraid what's going to happen if they don't do something 100 so the consequences of inaction
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so but but while we're on that that issue of fear though i mean there are a lot of people that i mean
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they're good they're good people they're well-meaning people they're not able as as effectively as
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you are at times to uh to connect with the big picture and connect with well what's going to happen
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that didn't happen overnight that's what you have to understand this isn't something that happened in
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my brain and not first of all i'm learning every day and i'm progressing every day i'm a work in
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progress right just like everybody listening here you know just because i'm on here talking about it
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doesn't mean i don't have work to be done and when i was 25 years old or 24 years old i didn't do
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these things i'm talking about you know what i mean it's it's i didn't that's what i want people
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to understand like if you're listening to this and you're like fuck that's not me you know i don't do
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wrong that's okay this is like this is the same thing as going to the gym or or going to a sporting
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practice or going to a musical practice or whatever it's just with your brain and i'm trying to explain
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how to train yourself to break these habits and create new ones right you know and i and i don't
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have i don't have a psychology experience i'm explaining it in my own terms in my own words how i do it
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you know and hopefully people pick that up no that makes sense i think with this this whole issue
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of fear though i'm curious because i think a lot of people maybe don't think about it this way but
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i've been interacting with a lot of people lately where i'm picking this up from them and i'm curious
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what you think of this sometimes people are really afraid of action because they're afraid of failure
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but i'm starting to find out that i feel like a lot of people are afraid of greatness they're afraid
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of success and i'm just curious what you have to say about that i've never been able to understand
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what that i don't know what that means i don't understand what that means either like i've never
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been able to like connect that i've heard people say that and i've heard like like successful people
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like uh speakers say that shit like oh you're you're afraid of success or this or that like tony robbins
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says something like that and i personally can't relate to that thought or understand i don't even
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get what it means like why the fuck would you be afraid of that i this is what i think what i'm
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getting from other people is that when they put in the you look like you're going to say something
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i mean i have a lot of friends that talk about this but it's being afraid of like your capabilities
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and what you're able to do which for you that's your vision like that's your that's your end goal is
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being at your your most capacity and being able to function on that level um that you see in your
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head but a lot of people like for instance people who say that they never want to get famous because
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they're afraid of the publicity and stuff or they um they like don't want to deal with the fame and
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everything i have a lot of friends that say stuff like that but i i don't know i don't i get what it's
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supposed to mean but i don't here's what i always felt like people were saying and this is why i do
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sort of identify uh or at least sympathize with what they're saying is that when you really commit
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yourself to greatness you by virtue of that you you raise your expectations you raise expectations
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you you completely blow apart the horizons of your of your living because it's it's safe to just live
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in your small little environment and be mediocre but when you really commit to greatness you you are
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really getting up it means you don't get to slack off anymore yeah and people aren't comfortable
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like if you never have hopes those hopes are never going to be dashed and so that's what i feel like a lot
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of people struggle with they're like you know what it does suck to be mediocre but wow if i really
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work at this and don't you know put it this way it's like saying you're okay with being comfortable
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you don't ever want to be uncomfortable like i i don't know like i've never i i can't i can't
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need a new way to phrase it or something because it doesn't make sense it's it's not that it's that
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dude you know i wasn't ever raised i wasn't ever ever ever ever raised in that environment like i
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was dude i had my dad telling me go fucking kill other little kids when i was three years old you
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know what i mean like not like literally like but like in soccer practice and shit like go run kids
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over and i'll give you a toy like i was never i was never raised in an environment where being your
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best was something that wasn't i mean that was what was expected you know what i mean so i that's
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what i expect for myself and i always have so to i i honestly legitimately in my heart can't relate to
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that mentality i don't get it right like what are you talking about and why the fuck is your brain
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thinking like that right so the person i was sitting across from the bar over a couple of fireballs by
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the way not 30 but i was getting close um 30 equals three he got to three one of the one of the things
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that i that i told them that and this is what i picked up from you is i think the reason that a lot
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of people are afraid of it that you're not is is something you've said over and over again which is
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there's not really a what if it's not if i do this what if i fail because you always talk about
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success as an equation do the work you will be successful and i think that's what most people
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don't really deep down believe they believe that they could put all this work in all this effort
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for greatness and not get it well and that's because you have people that will tell you that
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like you'll have people like i made a post regarding this the other day and some dude
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some dude wrote i do all that shit i'm still broke as fuck like that was his comment i go look on his
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page you know it's pictures of him drinking fucking whiskey it's pictures of him drinking fucking
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beer it's pictures of him like at the bar it's pictures you know what i'm saying yeah like it was
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all i mean like so people who are hopeful for success see a comment like that they're like see
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see right i took you know right leave it to you to actually do the research right exactly right but
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you know anybody will tell you that you know what you said what you just said anybody will tell you
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that success is who has been successful will tell you it's a it's a it's an equation you know and
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and eliminating that what if is a big deal but that's where you know faith has to come in you know
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what i mean it has to come in and you have to listen to people who have quote unquote in your terms
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made it okay somebody who's made it to where you want to be you should probably listen what the fuck
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they say if they tell you that it's it's more of a roadmap than it is a lottery you know you should
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probably listen to that and believe that right right so the first time i ever heard anything
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remotely resembling what you're talking about with success being an equation is when i was in my master's
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degree in english and we were we they brought in all these people who were like famous authors and
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the topic was getting your book published you know by a by a legitimate you know mainstream publishing
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uh company and it's funny because three out of the well four out of the five people were kind of d-bags
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and all of them were saying like it's really hard you got to have a lot of real you know brains like
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us basically d-bags what's a d-bag one a douchebag oh he almost said a curse word that's not really a curse
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word that's like an isn't that an actual typical object yes like a real object it depends on the
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context well that's true you've used it in the in the cursing context i did i did okay so well i did
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say two other cuss words earlier today you weren't we weren't paying attention but anyway um so four out
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of five of them were just losers okay the fifth one just says to everybody listen let me just keep it
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real if you want to publish a book with a major publisher you will if you if you're if it's
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your goal that you're going to publish a book with a major publisher you will you just have to write
00:25:06.120
book after book after book after book and do the work and put in the hard hard effort and you will
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and i mean basically he was saying there wasn't there's not a what if you're gonna do it if you
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if you're persistent you're gonna do it and everybody was like wow but that's exactly what you say you
00:25:22.500
tell people that all the time it is it's not just me that says that it's anybody who's actually done
00:25:27.420
shit will tell you that it's the people who haven't done shit will tell you it's a lottery or
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it's luck or it's anything other than what what i say it is or what other successful people say
00:25:38.820
find me a successful person that tell you it's a fucking lottery they won't tell you that because
00:25:43.340
it isn't right they tell you it's an equation and the reason they tell you it is an equation is
00:25:49.440
because it is but you'll have every tom dick and harry out there saying oh well that guy believes in
00:25:56.080
his own fucking ego and he's drinking his own kool-aid so of course he thinks he's it's him
00:26:00.320
you know and that's so you have this constant battle of people who tell you how they got there
00:26:07.860
and then you have the constant battle of people who aren't there telling you that it's chance or luck
00:26:14.180
or circumstances or genetics or birth or whatever right because every 99 of the people aren't where
00:26:23.140
the fuck you want to be right so when they're speaking on the subject they're going to come
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most of the time they're going to come up with every fucking reason possible why they're not there
00:26:34.180
themselves and you're surrounded by that 24 hours a day because most people aren't where you want to be
00:26:42.520
so what are most people going to say and what is the majority of the noise you're going to hear
00:26:49.160
it's going to be luck circumstance born into richness lottery winning the success fairy you
00:26:58.040
know and a million other quote-unquote reasons that successful people call excuses as to why those
00:27:05.860
people haven't done it but if you go and you tape record those same motherfuckers lives you will see
00:27:12.360
that they are not doing the work and then when you ask them why they aren't doing the work they will
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tell you because it's pointless because i'm not from a rich family because i'm not blah blah blah
00:27:23.160
you get it it's a fucking downward spiral cycle that people get caught into or things just happen
00:27:29.440
to me that are exactly that just don't seem to happen to everybody exactly the worst luck exactly
00:27:33.980
and and so it's a downward spiral and most of us are surrounded by this so many you know all all of
00:27:41.400
our days every day all day that's what we're surrounded by and so what do we end up hearing
00:27:48.060
more of and and believing like dude you know back in uh in vietnam or world war ii i can't or korea
00:27:55.140
i can't remember which one they used to train the concentration camp soldiers to love the captors
00:28:02.580
and if you're surrounded by the you know certain information is put in your brain so much all day every
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day and so many people put it in your brain eventually your brain says well this must be right
00:28:13.900
you see what i'm saying yeah so that's the expected that's what society thinks success is and then and
00:28:23.400
then we go on tv or the internet or the radio or anywhere where the media is and we don't see the
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stories of guys like me who have been at their craft for damn near 20 years who started with fucking
00:28:38.200
nothing they don't tell that story what story do they tell they tell they tell the fucking kardashians
00:28:44.600
they tell uh the guys who have won the lottery you know the redneck couple from arkansas who fucking
00:28:51.040
won a billion dollars and they bought a new gator boat you know and and and then lost a million
00:28:56.900
dollars at the strip club in a suitcase right they tell that shit you know they don't tell the fucking
00:29:02.160
grit and and persistence which honestly to me is a better fucking story but they don't tell it
00:29:08.720
it's kind of like rooting for the underdog like that's the story people need and want to hear but
00:29:13.280
they get like the glam story dude they get they and that's all they want to tell because all they got
00:29:17.620
is a minute to tell it yeah so you can't tell a fucking 20 year story in one minute you know so
00:29:23.700
what you know look at the entrepreneur magazines the fortune entrepreneur the fucking shit they write
00:29:28.260
you know it's it's it's about these 20 year old kids who who raised 70 million dollars and they
00:29:34.740
don't even have a fucking product you know and so people read that shit and they're like dude
00:29:39.780
i can't do this this is for those kind of people and that's what's unfortunate that they don't share
00:29:45.220
those actual success stories is because just because you're successful doesn't mean that you don't
00:29:50.180
think some things are pointless like something as simple as like taking a shower you didn't want to do it
00:29:55.300
and you may have found it pointless but as a successful person you knew that's what you had
00:30:00.560
to do to get through your day so you did it right like and and it starts there it starts with basic
00:30:05.240
shit and you can build into the bigger shit but the thing is is that you know i mean 99 of the
00:30:14.960
companies out there have stories similar to mine if you look back far enough you know they might be
00:30:21.180
third fourth generation companies go back all the way to where it started and listen to that story
00:30:27.400
and those are the things that aren't told you know what i mean oh yeah yeah like they yeah and so so
00:30:35.360
when you're a young person or even an older person um let's say you're in your 40s or 50s
00:30:40.980
and and you know you're surrounded by these stories your whole entire life how hard is it to
00:30:47.920
break the thought process of overnight success uh quick money um you know easy money and all the
00:30:57.280
like that's the that's the home run everybody's trying to hit right and that's elusive because it
00:31:01.660
happens does it happen sure it happens but it's it's one out of every 1 000 entrepreneurial stories
00:31:07.940
or 1 million you know but the slow way that's the other 999 000 way and that's the guaranteed way
00:31:19.480
right so would you rather spend your whole life going for the home run of overnight or would you
00:31:24.640
rather spend the next 10 12 years guaranteeing that you're going to get there but but then again
00:31:30.720
you know if you say that to people you know it's excuse after excuse after excuse and it's because
00:31:36.920
that's what they've heard their entire lives right going back to what you were saying about the korean
00:31:41.200
war people hear that story you know they've read that story about what they did to the the forgive
00:31:46.940
me for not remembering the details but no no no but but what's amazing about that story what's really
00:31:51.780
profound about that story is when people found out that the koreans were using that to brainwash
00:31:56.520
our our gis that was really scary but i think what people really missed for a while and then suddenly
00:32:03.720
people all of a sudden woke up and go whoa if if the north koreans or i think it was north if the
00:32:09.100
north koreans could brainwash our soldiers for evil you can quote unquote brainwash yourself for good
00:32:17.420
that's how effective those those techniques of training right you're the way you think and it and
00:32:23.800
it just as it was almost i mean i i you can't really hold the hold it against those guys that that a lot
00:32:28.800
of them succumb to that because they're just so no freaking effective no but you know i was using an
00:32:34.060
example because that's what people are flooded with every day right that's why they believe what
00:32:38.440
they believe right that's why most people don't try you know they just don't they won't even try
00:32:44.560
because they figure well it didn't just happen to me like it happened to all these other people that
00:32:49.240
i've seen my whole life you know so i'm not even gonna do the work yeah yeah another one we get all
00:32:57.020
the time when people email in and you know i'm sympathetic but the longer i the longer i get
00:33:01.620
these emails and read them and pass them on to you the more i think really at at at its core this is
00:33:06.380
an excuse is that we hear people say all the time andy i'm committed to greatness i'm committed to
00:33:11.520
like killing it i just don't know what to do and i've gotten to the point where i've been around you
00:33:17.240
long enough that i i usually like if i take the time to say hey andy swamp right now i'm just gonna
00:33:23.080
respond but i think he would say is that i think i always tell people you don't have to do the big
00:33:29.540
thing right now but you have to do something and you have to do the next thing and that's what it
00:33:35.180
that's you know what i'm saying yes i just had this conversation with my own team yesterday my own my own
00:33:40.660
guys dude you have you have to look at everything as if it's as if it's contributing to your future
00:33:50.140
yourself and that means if you're flipping fucking burgers right now you should make the best
00:33:56.240
motherfucking burger on the face of the earth every fucking time not because you're going to be a
00:34:01.920
fucking burger chef 20 years down the road but because you are developing the habit of doing things
00:34:08.620
perfectly and doing them repetitively over and over and over again and that is valuable that habit is
00:34:16.480
valuable okay so if you're sweeping floors you should take pride in sweeping the floor fucking
00:34:23.260
perfectly every time not because you're going to sweep floors your whole life but because you are
00:34:29.420
cultivating the habit within you of being perfect okay and you tell that to people and they'll all
00:34:37.240
they'll say well fuck andy i'm not going to be sweeping floors my whole life well let me tell you what
00:34:41.560
i see if you can't sweep a motherfucking floor right perfectly every time you sure as fuck can't
00:34:46.500
do the next thing up the chain perfectly you might think you can and you might very well be able to do
00:34:51.740
it but you're not showing me that you have the discipline to cultivate the habit of doing that
00:34:57.100
perfectly consistently to where you're going to earn the next opportunity and i think most people who
00:35:02.940
are in a place of of decision making or running a business feel that way you know i take pride in
00:35:10.460
everything i do if i sweep that fucking floor it is going to be fucking perfect and it is going to
00:35:16.000
be cleaner than if you swept it guaranteed and i take pride in everything like i make it a competition
00:35:23.880
i'm a better motherfucking floor sweeper than you you see what i'm saying and that's a habit i've
00:35:30.620
cultivated in myself and it creates a good result that people appreciate in anything that i do so
00:35:38.140
when you're in a position of entry level whether it be in my company or somebody else's company or
00:35:45.880
anywhere you need to recognize that what you're doing you may not do your whole entire life but
00:35:53.020
the habits that it takes to do that perfectly and consistently and successfully every time
00:36:02.600
and i don't think most people feel most people think like that yeah most people think like well
00:36:09.380
you know what fuck that floor it's not important you know what i don't need to call that customer and
00:36:14.780
chuck up on them because i know i did a good job you know i you know what i don't have to fucking
00:36:20.120
write that note perfectly because you know it doesn't fucking matter a person already bought the
00:36:25.180
shit right it's cut corners right and if you're a leader this is even worse because if you're a
00:36:31.320
leader and you're cutting corners and people see you cutting corners they're not just going to cut
00:36:36.780
the corner you cut they're going to cut four other corners you follow what i'm saying so if you're
00:36:43.260
managing people and people are watching you and you cut a corner you're ultimately making your job that
00:36:49.100
much harder because you've got to correct and be held responsible for all the four other corners
00:36:53.820
these motherfuckers are going to cut and and that's what it comes down to you know
00:36:58.880
it's discipline man it's cultivating habits it's understanding that even though you might be 19 20
00:37:06.660
21 22 23 you might be in your late 20s you might be just getting your career going
00:37:11.400
you have to take pride in everything that you do in every detail that you do in every single
00:37:16.560
thing that you do because you have to understand that that skill of doing things perfectly is what's
00:37:25.780
going to bring success into your life later so i don't care what you're doing flipping burgers
00:37:31.900
cooking french fries sweet fucking floors splitting the motherfucking atom it needs to be perfect
00:37:37.560
follow me absolutely so i'm a child of the 80s so you'll have to humor me but what i hear you
00:37:45.180
saying is that all of life is really like the karate kid you think you're doing these menial tasks
00:37:49.520
like you know wax on wax off and and and paint the paint the fence but what you're really doing is
00:37:55.760
you're training for excellence yes and the competition is 100 to to beat yourself and to
00:38:01.220
and to win at life 100 yeah yeah so anyway i think you know uh at the end of the day man
00:38:10.400
it all comes down to recognizing and being aware of the opportunities that you have bringing the
00:38:18.060
what if i don't do it thoughts into your brain and making the correct decision every single time
00:38:24.440
and then whatever that is you do it perfectly i mean dude we're talking about basically the overall
00:38:29.700
recipe for fucking success here right you know um but it's interesting to me that that people are so
00:38:36.780
worried about what's out there and and getting to this sort of abstract concept of greatness and
00:38:42.440
what your emphasis is on and we know this because you've talked about this a lot but what your
00:38:46.380
emphasis is on the task before you do it with excellence and then the next time every time and
00:38:54.300
that and dude what you did yesterday doesn't fucking matter what you did the day before that it
00:38:58.860
doesn't fucking matter what you did last year the year before that i don't fucking care we just did a
00:39:04.260
podcast on this by holding on to your past success you know i've had employees in my company who think
00:39:10.140
that because they performed last year that i owe them something now no i'm paying you and rewarding
00:39:17.280
you on your current level of excellence and progression in this company right now what you
00:39:24.020
earned today may have been dictated by what you did last year but if your performance is less than
00:39:28.320
what it was last year guess what you're gonna go back to making less money i don't owe you morally
00:39:34.480
an opportunity you know what i'm saying right people think that they think like oh well i've been here for
00:39:41.220
20 years so i i fucking deserve to be cfo or whatever the fuck it is they want to be no you don't you were
00:39:47.920
here for 20 years but what did you do for 20 years you you know what i'm saying yeah yeah yeah so
00:39:54.060
you know you guys have to this is day by day man you don't get to climb mount everest by
00:40:00.200
you know talking about all the little hills that you ran up and down in fucking high school
00:40:05.900
you know that's not how it works you fucking put one foot down in front of the other today
00:40:11.340
and you do that again tomorrow and that's it yeah you know so yeah guys uh the show notes for this
00:40:20.840
episode or the mfco.com forward slash p wait for it 69 we are on the 69th episode and uh tyler why
00:40:30.240
are you giving me the eye tyler's giving me the eye but uh you know the last thing i really want to
00:40:35.420
hear you hear you say yeah clearly yeah the last thing i i wanted to hear you talk about is is i feel
00:40:41.980
like in this whole delayed commitment to success that there's a difference between people who fail
00:40:49.140
people who are basically losers and those who are successful and i feel like the people who
00:40:52.320
fail and are losers they just waste time whereas i think the people who are successful they really
00:40:57.680
believe that no matter what happens in their life no time is ever wasted like you can use everything in
00:41:02.700
your life and marshal it together as raw material for your goals yeah no question i mean that's that's
00:41:08.680
almost a different whole different podcast well it's true and we could make it a whole different
00:41:12.460
because that's that's all that's about utilizing every tool that's thrown your way and making it
00:41:20.800
work for you you know um most people just don't develop that level of resourcefulness right they pout
00:41:28.580
and cry and see the bad things and that's what they concentrate on that's why their life sucks
00:41:32.200
right so right well guys follow us on social media you know all of andy's stuff all of my stuff
00:41:39.320
i don't know it's at andy frisella at mfceo-1 on snapchat and uh a lot of you guys aren't following
00:41:46.580
me on facebook we have a i have a disproportionate amount of you guys on my instagram follow me on
00:41:52.660
facebook too it's uh uh slash uh andrew frisella isn't it andrew dot frisella no it's not okay no
00:41:58.740
quit fucking on my shit i know i'm sorry so anyway follow us connect with us and uh thanks for
00:42:04.240
listening any final world yeah guys look practice this today you know you're gonna have five or six
00:42:10.660
different pivots that come across your desk meaning your life today all right try to make
00:42:16.340
today a win by taking the right path every single time what's the right path the one that's fucking
00:42:22.140
hard you know what i mean instead of taking the elevator take the fucking stairs it's that simple
00:42:27.360
you have to break it down recognize and choose the right direction don't live a passive life
00:42:34.380
get control of it become aware and make the decisions that are going to progress you forward
00:42:40.080
in the big picture not in the moment and in the meantime don't be a fucking bitch
00:42:45.560
uh-huh okay what's up shut up uh-huh okay what's up shut up uh-huh okay what's up