REAL AF with Andy Frisella - F＊ck Your Affirmations, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO242

00:00:00.420 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.800 What is up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:21.780 I like that. I like it. That's what I'm talking about. A little flavor today. 0.99

00:00:24.900 All right, look. Today is Thursday Thunder and I have something that I really want to talk to you about.

00:00:30.000 And before I do that, I got a little housekeeping thing. This is your first time listening to the

00:00:34.620 podcast. Welcome. This is an entrepreneurship slash personal development podcast. And in fact,

00:00:41.180 it's one of the best ones out there. You know why? Because I'm not going to sell you a bunch of shit.

00:00:45.960 I'm not going to tell you to buy my $997 program 57 times a day. I'm not going to run 1.00

00:00:52.420 15 fucking advertisements before we get to the meat of what I want to talk to you about. 0.98

00:00:58.340 And the reason for that is this. I run a real company and I'm already doing okay financially. 0.99

00:01:04.460 I don't need to make more money selling you shit or running ads and all this other shit. 0.97

00:01:11.300 I do this podcast because I want to help people understand what it truly takes to live a successful 0.99

00:01:21.460 life. Whatever success might mean for you. That includes the areas of your fitness. It includes

00:01:28.660 the areas of your relationships. It includes the areas of your finances because guess what? Having a

00:01:34.420 lot of fucking money is not a bad thing. All right? So what I ask in return is that you share my podcast 0.99

00:01:45.680 with your friends who might like it. If you like an episode, if you get something out of this episode,

00:01:52.300 I ask that for every episode that you like or that it gets something, uh, that you get something out

00:01:57.840 of that you refer a friend. And that could be through a post. It could be through a conversation,

00:02:03.060 but guys, I do this because it's a passion project for me. And by you spreading the word,

00:02:10.540 it helps me. So if I can help you help me. All right, that's the deal. Um, it's worked out pretty

00:02:17.000 good so far because we've been top 10 in business for three years in a row. Uh, we've been at the

00:02:22.520 top of iTunes for three years in a row and that's all due to you guys. And so guys, I don't say it

00:02:29.640 enough, but thank you so much for supporting this project and supporting myself and, uh, and being there

00:02:36.880 and, and being people who honestly inspire me, you know, because part of the reason I started this

00:02:43.460 podcast was because I was frustrated with the way people are, man. Like I just get so irritated with,

00:02:50.400 with people thinking they can get something for nothing and that they can, you know, cruise through

00:02:55.240 life and that they, the entitlement aspect that they deserve everything. And I just didn't like the

00:03:00.540 way things were going. And that's really why this podcast came about and you guys supporting it

00:03:05.140 and you guys sharing it and you guys resonating with it tells me that I'm not alone. And guys,

00:03:10.520 that means more to me than you could ever understand. Um, so thank you so much for, for

00:03:16.960 being those kinds of people. Uh, I think it's important to our country. I think it's important

00:03:21.740 to our society and our culture, uh, here in America. And if you're not an American and you're

00:03:27.820 listening somewhere else, um, it's important to your direct culture too, because nowhere in the

00:03:34.100 world do we just get taken care of? I was watching a friend's, uh, snap story yesterday and she said,

00:03:41.040 I'm proof that you can be your own savior. No motherfucker. That's not a fact you. It's not 1.00

00:03:50.560 that you can be your savior. It's, you must be your fucking savior. You must be your own fucking savior. 1.00

00:03:58.760 No one's going to come through no magic force, no magic being, no, no person, you know, is going to 1.00

00:04:06.200 come through and plant your ass in your ideal situation. You're going to have to be your own 0.98

00:04:12.880 savior and your own creator and everything else that you need to be. But that's not what I'm talking

00:04:20.820 about today. What I'm talking about today is this. If you've been watching me on Instagram,

00:04:25.060 um, you know, that I go out every single day and I work out twice a day. All right. And two,

00:04:35.420 two and a half years ago, I was 350 fucking pounds. Uh, I'm down 110 pounds from that time. Um, 0.97

00:04:43.400 I work out twice a day in the morning. If you follow me, you know, I go to the gym and I take a

00:04:49.440 selfie almost every time I go and it says deuce paid. And then I go out in the afternoon when it's

00:04:55.100 a hundred fucking degrees outside here in St. Louis, cause it gets hot as fuck here. And I go 0.99

00:05:02.240 do cardio for an hour and it might be a mix of running, walking, um, more so when it's hot like 0.91

00:05:09.500 this, it's more walking than it is running, but I do Hills and it's fucking hard and I'm sweating my 0.92

00:05:14.120 ass off and I take another step and I say dues paid times two. All right. And the reason I do 0.95

00:05:20.840 that is because I want people to know that you don't just roll out of bed looking like 260 pounds 1.00

00:05:28.160 of twisted steel and fucking sex appeal. All right. You have to do the work and something that's been 1.00

00:05:34.680 bothering me lately. And what I think I need to speak on because I feel compelled to speak on it and

00:05:41.260 it's going to ruffle some fucking feathers, but I don't give a shit because it's the truth is that 0.97

00:05:46.160 so many of you out there right now are trying to, we have these movements that are, uh, body positive 0.99

00:05:55.120 or love yourself or all these other things. Right. And they talk about telling yourself that you love

00:06:03.600 yourself and telling yourself that you're beautiful and telling yourself that you're, you're worthy and

00:06:09.820 that you're good enough. And let me tell you something about that. Um, you could tell yourself

00:06:15.580 all that shit, all the, uh, and by the way, these movements are generally pushed by people who don't 1.00

00:06:22.100 fall into the category of the people that are supposed to be telling them that shit. You hear 1.00

00:06:26.960 successful people telling regular people, uh, you should be loving yourself and you are enough and you

00:06:33.620 are this and you are that. And then you see people who are in decent shape telling people who are out of

00:06:39.120 shape. Love yourself for how you look. You're beautiful. You're this, you're that. Let me tell

00:06:45.140 you something, man. When I was 350 pounds, I could have sat in front of the mirror all fucking day and 0.99

00:06:51.020 told myself how fucking good I looked and how beautiful I looked. And I could have made posts 0.98

00:06:55.460 and said, you know what? Uh, Andy, I love myself for me. I'm enough. I'm this, I'm that. And you know

00:07:02.620 what? No matter if I would've sat there 200 and fucking or 365 fucking days a year for 20 fucking 1.00

00:07:09.740 hours a day and told myself that I know in my heart, it was bullshit. I wasn't happy. I didn't 1.00

00:07:18.920 feel good about myself. I didn't love the way I looked. I knew that I could do better. I knew that

00:07:26.440 I had more potential and because I wasn't fulfilling that potential is why I felt like 0.99

00:07:32.600 shit. Now, while you might, I might agree with you and say, it wasn't that how I looked that 0.96

00:07:40.140 really bothered me. It was how I felt, but how I looked was a reflection of how I felt and the

00:07:44.820 actions that I was taking. And the message that I want to tell you in this, in this short

00:07:50.380 little podcast today is this, I am fucking tired of the affirmation culture. If you have 0.88

00:07:57.860 to fucking tell yourself, Oh, I'm beautiful. Oh, I'm fit. Oh, I'm sexy. Oh, I'm this. Oh, 1.00

00:08:04.660 I'm smart. Oh, I'm good enough. Oh, I deserve this. Let me tell you something. You probably

00:08:10.980 fucking don't. And you probably aren't. Okay. And I want you to understand. 1.00

00:08:20.380 I am not attacking people who are overweight. I've been overweight my entire life. I am not

00:08:24.660 attacking people who are low income. I spend most of my life at low income. All right. But what I

00:08:30.960 am attacking is people lying to themselves and choosing not to take the actions that they need

00:08:38.500 to take to fix the situation. You know, what I think is really courageous and what I really respect

00:08:45.440 when I look at someone is someone who has the courage, the balls and the honest eye and heart

00:08:52.740 to look at themselves and say, you know what? I don't like this about myself. I don't like that

00:08:59.260 about myself. And I don't like this about myself. And you know what? I'm going to fucking change it

00:09:04.760 because that's not what's going on in society right now. What's going on in society right now is you 0.99

00:09:10.420 have every motherfucker out there, most of which who haven't accomplished a fucking thing telling 0.99

00:09:16.020 every single person out there that they should be happy and they should love yourself and that you 1.00

00:09:21.680 should feel great and you should feel worthy and you're good enough and all this shit. But the problem 0.97

00:09:27.020 is, is you don't feel that way, do you? No matter how many times you talk to yourself in that positive

00:09:32.960 talk, you don't feel that way, do you? And let me tell you why you don't. And I know because I didn't

00:09:38.140 either, but I'm going to tell you why you don't. You don't because you're not doing the work to back

00:09:42.960 up the result that you want. It's one thing to be 50 pounds overweight and be out there working your

00:09:48.680 fucking balls off and saying, you know what? I might not be where I want to be, but I'm proud of 0.99

00:09:53.220 myself for doing the fucking work. You're going to feel good at that point. You're going to feel 0.99

00:09:57.460 better at that point. The work is what makes you feel fucking better. Okay. It's okay to be broke 0.98

00:10:03.680 and living in a fucking your mom's basement, but you're hustling as hard as you fucking can to make 1.00

00:10:09.120 that situation change. Guess what? You're not going to feel like a loser at that point. Are you going to 1.00

00:10:14.520 be frustrated with your result? Absolutely. Are you going to be angry at yourself? No, because you're

00:10:20.820 doing the fucking work. And guys, the biggest lie that we're told in society right now is that you're 0.99

00:10:26.640 entitled to feel great about yourself. You're entitled to have high self-esteem. You're entitled to have high

00:10:33.660 confidence. You're entitled to feel like you're worthy and you're good and all these things, but

00:10:38.760 that's not the fucking truth. It's a lie. The truth is you have to earn those things. If you want to be 0.99

00:10:47.160 confident, you have to do things that you're afraid of and you have to do them over and over again.

00:10:52.700 If you want to be, uh, to have self-esteem, you've got to do things that make you feel good about 0.98

00:11:00.120 yourself, AKA making the right fucking choices. So making the right fucking choice is not to sit 0.98

00:11:07.200 on your ass and play Nintendo. When you know, you got bills to pay making the right choices is not 1.00

00:11:12.260 looking at yourself in the mirror when you're 150 fucking pounds overweight and telling yourself 1.00

00:11:17.400 you're beautiful while stuffing your fucking face with mint chocolate chip ice cream. That's not 1.00

00:11:22.900 what's going to create self-esteem, no matter how many affirmations you tell yourself. 0.99

00:11:27.860 And I'm so sick of all the do-gooders in this fucking pussified society telling people that 1.00

00:11:34.940 they're great and they're worthy and they should feel great about themselves when they fucking 1.00

00:11:39.680 shouldn't. And my message here today is not for everyone because I know people are going to get 0.87

00:11:47.300 upset about it. The body positive people are going to be mad. The fucking everybody's worthy people are

00:11:53.440 going to be mad, but you know what? I don't buy into that shit. And you know what? I'm in the 1.00

00:11:57.360 fitness fucking business. We have a very inclusive culture. If you're fucking 150 pounds or 200 pounds 0.99

00:12:03.640 or 500 pounds overweight, guess what? We're going to welcome you, dude. We want you here, but you 0.99

00:12:09.720 know what? You're going to be expected to do. You're going to be expected to fucking work. You're not

00:12:14.440 expected to look a certain way, but you're expected to fucking work. Okay. And let me tell you 0.99

00:12:19.820 something. The work is where all the good shit comes from. And the reason most people don't have any of 1.00

00:12:25.260 the good shit is because they spend their entire fucking lives trying to avoid the work. 1.00

00:12:31.840 Okay. I might not look the way I want to look. I might look in the mirror and feel fat, but you 1.00

00:12:37.700 know what? I went out and I worked out fucking twice today. And I did that yesterday and the day 0.99

00:12:42.920 before and the day before and the day before. And you know what? So I am fucking proud of myself

00:12:47.360 because I'm doing the shit that I don't want to do. And you know what happens when you do the shit 1.00

00:12:51.780 you don't want to do? You start to feel powerful. You start to feel in control and it doesn't matter 0.99

00:12:57.760 what you look like per se, but what matters is, is that you feel powerful. And when you start to feel

00:13:03.880 powerful, you're able to take the big actions that are going to change the end result that you're upset

00:13:09.800 with in the first place. Okay. So let's stop all this surface level. Everybody's special.

00:13:15.900 Everybody's beautiful. Everybody's worthy. Everybody's this. And let's change it to this.

00:13:22.800 Everybody can be beautiful. Everybody can be fucking smart. Everybody can be worthy if they 0.96

00:13:31.680 do the work. And by the way, when I say beautiful, I think someone who is overweight, who works their

00:13:37.960 fucking ass off is 10 times more beautiful than someone who's just, you know, society's definition of 0.99

00:13:45.020 what, you know, beauty is and doesn't do shit. You know, that's another thing about work. It's 1.00

00:13:50.980 fucking attractive. People like it. It inspires people. It's sexy, you know, but dude, you spend 0.98

00:13:58.280 your whole life trying not to do it. I guess the main point of this podcast, cause I'm getting into

00:14:03.680 all kinds of things that I think is this, all the affirmations that you fucking this bullshit of, 0.99

00:14:10.260 you know, Oh, you know, I'm special. I'm a winner. I'm this. They're all lies unless you're actually a 1.00

00:14:16.660 winner. Okay. Um, if you're not doing the work to back it up, you're not going to feel better about

00:14:22.800 yourself. You could stand there and tell yourself all the shit you want to tell yourself from now until 0.98

00:14:27.260 the end of the earth, but I'm going to save you your entire life and tell you that that isn't going 1.00

00:14:31.820 to work. And what's going to work, what's going to make you feel better is you doing the things,

00:14:37.020 taking the actions, doing the work that's going to somehow eventually lead to the problem fixing

00:14:44.000 itself. Okay. So if you're broke, you're not going to feel better by standing there and saying,

00:14:50.300 I'm worthy. I deserve it. I'm this, I'm going to be successful. You're still going to feel like shit.

00:14:56.620 What's going to change it is for you to go out and do things that are productive 0.99

00:15:00.660 in the direction of you fixing the problem of you being broke, AKA doing things to help you not be 0.88

00:15:08.460 broke, get a fucking job, work, do some things that are going to help create your next business, 0.99

00:15:14.400 do some things that are going to create your career, read a book, talk to some motherfuckers 1.00

00:15:18.620 about your business. You know, one of the things I used to do whenever I was coming up, uh, in our 0.98

00:15:23.560 business and when I was totally broke and I was desperate and I felt like shit and I felt like a loser

00:15:28.240 is I would get in my car and I would go around to the police and fire stations and I would just 0.96

00:15:32.820 have conversations with the men and women there about our business. And you know what? When I went

00:15:38.400 home that day, I felt immediately better. And that's actually where I learned this, by the way,

00:15:42.440 um, I felt immediately better taking the action towards the problem is what makes things better

00:15:48.360 for you. Okay. Now, if you're overweight and you're out of shape, like I was, and you're totally

00:15:53.080 desperate and, and, and, uh, depressed and all this shit like I was, um, and you look in yourself 0.98

00:16:01.200 in the mirror and you say, you're sexy, you're beautiful, you're this, you're that, and you're 0.97

00:16:06.560 not doing anything. You're going to feel like shit. It's just the way it is. You're going to feel like 1.00

00:16:11.680 shit. You can make some posts. You can do all this shit that says, Oh, I feel great. And you can lie 1.00

00:16:16.880 to yourself and convince yourself that you are something that you're not, but it's only going to be

00:16:22.340 temporary. And for you to feel better in your heart, for you to feel better in your soul and

00:16:28.700 to really, truly have confidence and self-esteem, I'm sorry, but you're going to have to start making 0.97

00:16:33.420 the right decisions, which means you're going to have to fucking work out. You're going to have to 0.95

00:16:37.120 make better choices with your food. And by, by honing that discipline and exercising that discipline,

00:16:43.240 you're going to create more belief in yourself. You're going to create more of a situation where you

00:16:48.460 feel confident in yourself and you have self-esteem because you're making the proper decisions for

00:16:54.600 yourself and you're proud of yourself for doing so. And so what's going to happen is you're going

00:16:59.820 to start to feel better on the inside and then you're going to continue to make better choices and

00:17:04.640 the outside will start to reflect what's on the inside. All right. And I've gone through this shit,

00:17:10.260 motherfuckers. Like before you write me a message and say, Oh, Andy, well, you're against body positive. 1.00

00:17:15.320 You should be, no, you know what? Cause it's a lie. It's a fucking lie. It's a fucking lie.

00:17:20.720 Okay. Now is every single person going to look like a supermodel? Fuck no. But sitting on your 1.00

00:17:26.360 ass and eating fucking Doritos and white castles and fucking being a piece of shit is not going to 1.00

00:17:31.420 make you happy. I don't care who you are. And it really has nothing to do with the fucking looks. 1.00

00:17:36.260 It has to do with the work you're putting in. And you guys out there who are listening, 0.98

00:17:40.860 who are trying, you know, saying, Oh, I need to make a change. Cause I get this fucking DM 47, 0.99

00:17:45.300 million times a week. You know what? I listen to your podcast, Andy. And I, and I realized, 0.99

00:17:50.280 you know what? I need to make a change or Andy, I watched your transformation. You know what? I

00:17:53.820 realized I need to make a change. You know what? Then fucking make a change, make a fucking change

00:17:59.900 because I'm fucking tired of hearing the same message from you all about saying you need to 1.00

00:18:06.060 make a change. You know, you need to make a fucking change. So fucking do it. What's the thing that 1.00

00:18:11.680 you could do right now to make you feel better? It's probably the thing that you'd want to do the

00:18:17.120 least. If you're fucking overweight, if you're fucking fat, guess what you should do? Go on a 30 0.99

00:18:22.780 minute walk right fucking now, right now. You can listen to this shit while you walk. 1.00

00:18:29.740 Go fucking walk right now. How many of you are going to fucking do it? Fucking one out of every 1.00

00:18:34.880 1,000. Okay. You're broke right now. You don't have a fucking, you're, nobody's buying your shit. 1.00

00:18:40.900 Nobody's file. Nobody's doing, uh, you're not selling as much shit. Go make fucking five phone 1.00

00:18:44.940 calls right now to people to sell them your stuff. Do it right now. I guarantee even if no one buys it, 0.99

00:18:50.640 you're going to feel better for making the calls, but how many of you are going to actually do it?

00:18:54.280 And that's the bridge that you have to learn to cross is crossing from sitting there,

00:18:58.920 deliberating, knowing you need to do it, knowing it's the best thing for you into actually doing it. 0.93

00:19:04.880 And guys, it's really fucking simple. It's really simple. All you have to do is to train your brain 0.95

00:19:12.560 to fucking use your thoughts of not wanting to do something that you know you need to do 1.00

00:19:17.860 as the trigger. That's going to create the action that needs to happen. For example, when I get home 0.99

00:19:25.820 after dealing with 10 tons of fucking bullshit, every single fucking day in my company, 1.00

00:19:30.680 the last thing I want to fucking do when I walk in the door is go right back out the door into the 1.00

00:19:36.420 heat and fucking do an hour of cardio. All right. It's the last thing I want to do. So what do I 0.99

00:19:41.620 usually do? I walk into my house. I, I sit down on my bed. I, then I lay down on my bed and then I

00:19:48.380 think, fuck, I still got to do cardio. It like dawns on me, like, like the fucking black death plague. 1.00

00:19:55.280 It comes over me and I'm like, fuck, I still got to do cardio. And you know what happens right at 0.99

00:20:00.120 that moment? I fucking sit the fuck up. I put my fucking shoes on and I go out the door right then, 0.99

00:20:06.320 right at that moment. It's called a production pivot. It's being able to train your brain to use 1.00

00:20:12.580 the negative thoughts that are keeping you from progressing as the trigger to make you take the

00:20:18.880 action. And let me ask you something. What would your life really look like if every single time

00:20:26.520 you knew that you should do something, but didn't feel like doing it, that you automatically sprung

00:20:33.160 into action and did it. What would your life look like? How different would it be? Because I know,

00:20:40.740 I know that most of you listening right now are struggling in life with your finances,

00:20:46.760 with your fitness, with your relationships, because of your inability to do the things that

00:20:52.640 you know need to be done. And what if you could train yourself to do that? What if you could train

00:20:57.100 the production pivot habit into your brain? How different would your life look right now? How

00:21:02.300 much more money would you earn? How much better would your relationship be? How good a shape would

00:21:06.500 you be in if every single time somebody said, Hey Andy, let's go to the bar and fucking drink. 1.00

00:21:11.940 And you're like, fuck, that sounds really good, but I know I shouldn't. You know what? I'm 1.00

00:21:14.580 going to do cardio and you do, you replace that negativity with a positive action. How different

00:21:19.860 would your life look? Okay. You're never going to feel good about yourself unless you do the fucking

00:21:26.640 work. You're not going to look in, you're not, even if you had the perfect physique, if you weren't 1.00

00:21:32.280 doing the work, you're not going to feel good about yourself. Even if you had $10 million a month

00:21:39.660 coming in, if you're not doing the work to earn it, you're not going to feel good about yourself.

00:21:44.620 The work is what provides all the things that fix the inside of your heart and soul. The work is what

00:21:51.860 provides the confidence. The work is what provides the self-esteem. The work is what provides the

00:21:58.480 self-worth. That's where it comes from. All you motherfuckers are chasing the result. The result 1.00

00:22:05.620 is meaningless. Having six pack abs doesn't mean shit. Having $10 million doesn't mean shit. 0.97

00:22:13.760 If you're truly looking to be fulfilled and you're truly looking to be happy and you're truly looking 1.00

00:22:19.380 to feel good about your life and about who you are as a person, you have to embrace the fucking work. 0.99

00:22:35.620 But before us, we'll see you next time. 0.99

00:22:40.000 Bye-bye.

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - June 14, 2018

F＊ck Your Affirmations, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO242

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