GOOD TO BE ALIVEļ¼ What Winners Believe About Life, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO276
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Summary
On today's episode of The MFCEO Project, Andy talks about the origin story behind the name of the show, what it takes to be a "Motherfucking CEO" and how to develop your own personal brand identity.
Transcript
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I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
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Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
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What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
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Today is Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving, guys.
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Guys, definitely my favorite holiday being a super, at my core, fat kid.
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I love food, man. I just love it, and I'm sure a lot of you guys, too.
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Today, guys, I do have a very special message for you, but before I get into that,
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you know, a lot of people don't understand what and where the MFCEO concept came from.
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Why has it got to be motherfucking CEO, Andy? Why can't you use different language?
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Why can't you use less F-bombs? You know what? Because it's my fucking show, and I want to do it.
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Little fun story for you guys. One of my good friends and former employees, Terry Boyle,
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got me a shirt maybe six, seven years ago that said MFCEO on it as a play because I like the video
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with Kenny Powers and K-Swiss so much. I used to play it all the time, and everybody would laugh,
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and I just thought it was the funniest video. If you want to know where the name came from,
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that's where it came from. It's a tribute to Kenny Powers and K-Swiss YouTube video,
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which I think is one of the funniest videos ever. If you haven't checked that out, go check it out.
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But the concept, the true concept, I think has been redefined. What is a motherfucking CEO?
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Well, that is somebody who understands that they are in control of everything in their life,
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that they can control their outcomes, they can take control of their progression,
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of their success, and they're willing to do it with some confidence, with some swagger.
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Because let's be real, guys, it's fun to learn how to develop your own swag and your own confidence.
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And guess what? It's also a very attractive trait, okay? Not just like in the mating sense,
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but in the people sense. If you want to attract good people, people are attracted to people with
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confidence and people with swagger and people who know what the fuck they're doing, okay?
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And sometimes, guess what? We don't know what we're doing. We got to fake it a little bit.
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That's okay, too. Here's the reality, guys. This show is called the MFCEO Project,
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because I want you to understand what it takes to develop your own MFCEO life, all right?
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It's a project because this is something that we've been trying to do to correct
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15, 20, 30 years of bad society strategy, okay? What you're going to find here,
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and I'm sure if you're listening on Thanksgiving, you're not listening for the first time,
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you might be, but what you're going to find here is the reality. I'm not an idealist at all. I'm a
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realist, and this is a realist podcast. It's not a motivation podcast. It's about how to use real
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skills in forming your own success in life, all right? So while it might be motivating, this is not
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a motivation podcast. You're going to want to probably take some notes today for sure. Big announcement,
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guys. I think this is really cool. As you guys may or may not know, Pandora is the largest streaming
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music provider in the United States, and in December, they're going to start offering a very select few
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number of podcasts, and guess who was approved and asked to be among the introductory podcasts that
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Pandora offers. That's right. Your Uncle Andy, he was asked, and Vaughn the Impaler, he was asked,
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and Sam Shorts Tyler, he was asked too. That means the MSCEO Project is going to be one of the very
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first podcasts that's available on Pandora, which I think is such a huge honor. And honestly, guys,
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I want to say thank you for that, because without you guys, without you guys sharing the message and
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bringing new friends and being fans of the show, it wouldn't have happened. So I just want to say
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thank you guys for allowing us to have that honor. If you want to get early access to the MSCEO Project
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on Pandora, you could sign up using this link that Pandora provided us, and we're going to send it out
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through our email. You're going to see it in the email. But if you want to sign up right now,
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just go to andyfrusella.com forward slash email, and you'll get the email to where
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this link will be. It'll allow you to subscribe and all that. So, all right, today is Thanksgiving.
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And naturally, on Thanksgiving, everybody gets in the mood to be thankful. You know, we see it on
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Instagram, and we see it on Facebook. You know, people make the posts, you know, I'm so thankful
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for this, and I'm so thankful for that, and I'm so thankful for this. And, you know, they want the
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world to know how thankful they are this one day a year. But the problem with it, guys, is that being
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thankful and expressing gratitude is something that you should be doing every day. A lot of you guys
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who have listened to this podcast for a long time, you know that I have specific gratitude exercises,
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and I want to explain not only what I do, but why I do it the way I do it before I really get into the
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message. So, guys, every day when I wake up, the first thing I do is go brush my teeth. And while I'm
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brushing my teeth for, you know, the two minutes or three minutes it takes to brush your teeth,
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I hope that's how long it takes to brush your teeth. I might be doing it wrong. I don't know. But,
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you know, let's just say it's three minutes or whatever. I'm literally thinking of all the
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things that I'm grateful for, okay? And, you know, obviously, the first thing is that I'm alive.
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A lot of it is, you know, things that, you know, are going on with me at the time. It could be,
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you know, I'm thankful for my dogs or, you know, we talk, I think about the company or I think about
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how blessed I've been in the personal relationships that I've had and the friends I have and the family
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I have and all these things. And I think about those things, you know, one at a time. And guys,
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the reason that we do this and the reason that you hear successful people, and it's kind of a buzzword
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right now, you know, you have a lot of guys saying, oh, be grateful, but they don't explain like the
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practical aspect of why that's important. And that's what I want to try to talk about for a
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minute before I get into the meat of the message. Guys, when you're in a true state of being grateful,
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it is literally impossible to have negativity in you, okay? And this is very important. It's not
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important because, oh, I want to feel good and I don't want to have these negative emotions.
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This is why I believe it to be important, all right? I believe that whenever you are in a state
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of gratitude, you are preparing yourself to receive certain energies and certain blessings,
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so to speak, if you want to use that word. You know, I'm a big believer in the law of attraction
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and I talk about that on many of the podcasts, but here's the thing.
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Okay. Law of attraction and focusing and visualizing and dreaming about what you want
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and bring those kind of things, attracting those kind of things into your life can only happen in
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the absence of negativity. So you have to get yourself prepared, okay, energy-wise to bring
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these things in. And I know a lot of you guys are rolling your eyes and saying, oh, this fucking corny
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shit. Look, I'm telling you guys, this is real shit, okay? This is real, absolute, you could not
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convince me that this isn't the way that it works because I've seen it too many times. And in fact,
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I believe that your mind is a muscle or your mind behaves just like a muscle where the more you work
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it, the more effective it gets. And to this day, you know, now where I'm at in my life, I have to be
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careful what I focus on because those things literally materialize very quickly in my life.
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So if I focus on negativity or problems or issues, I get more of those. If I focus on things that are
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good, I get more of that. And so putting yourself in a position energy-wise to be able to attract the
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right things, positive things is very important to success. And I know, dude, listen, I know a lot of
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you guys are like, dude, this is corny shit. But I promise you, if you open your mind to it,
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it really works, all right? I studied the law of attraction. I'm not talking about the secret.
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I'm talking about way more in-depth books, quantum physics, metaphysics. If you want to get a taste of
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what that's like, there's a book out there called Down the Rabbit Hole that you can read. There's a
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documentary on it. That's like really beginner type stuff, but it gives you an idea that there's
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science behind it, all right? And that's what sold me on it. I'm a very big, I got to see proof
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type person. And seeing the science experiments that have been done, and if you want to go back
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and review that, you go back and listen to our podcast with Charlie Rocket on it. We talked
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about this and that. But the point is, and what we're talking about here is gratitude sets the stage
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for that, okay? Gratitude sets the stage for you to attract in the good things in your life. More
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money, better relationships, more success, better friends, everything, you know, better fitness. I
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find that, like, this is no bullshit. As you guys know, I've lost over 100 pounds. I find that my body
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truly loses fat faster when I visualize myself in better shape after I've practiced my gratitude
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exercises. And I know that sounds weird, but I promise you there's something to it because it's
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a big difference. So when we talk about being grateful, guys, and this is, you know, what I want
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to clarify for you guys. When we talk about being grateful, we're not saying it as a buzzword or just
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as something that's good to say, like you might pick up, you know, there's a lot of memes that talk
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about being grateful. And there's a lot of, you know, personalities that talk about it, but they
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never really explain why it's important. And so I wanted to give you guys just a little bit of
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information as to why I believe it's important. It's not just, it goes far beyond, you know, just being
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in a good mood or being positive. It actually sets the stage energy-wise for you to bring in good
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shit into your life. So, um, I thought this would be appropriate to talk about, uh, on Thanksgiving,
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you know, and with all the fucking posts that are going to be made and the shit that people are going
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to say this one time a year, you know, and I think that being grateful, it relates to success in life
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in so many different ways. You know, I had this conversation, uh, I was talking to Ed Milet the other
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day and we were talking about, uh, winners and losers. All right. And here's the thing.
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And this is, this is really the bottom line to this whole personal development space. And you
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don't ever hear, you don't ever hear people say this because if they said this all the time,
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nobody would come watch them speak. So this is really the truth. Okay. And this is the truth of
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me dealing with literally thousands of different employees, uh, being around success, being one of the,
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the, the highest profile speakers in the success space. Um, I've, I've seen success, man. And here's
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the thing, uh, you got winners and you got losers. All right. And here's the thing. You can give
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somebody who is a loser. You could give them investments. You could invest in them. You could
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give them knowledge. You can give a mentorship. You can give them every single thing that would
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possibly help them to succeed. And they're still going to fuck it up. They're still going to fucking
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waste the money. They're still going to fail. Okay. You, on the other hand, you could take a
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person who is a winner at heart. All right. And you can give them every fucking obstacle, every
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hardship, every single thing that would keep them from being where they want to be. And they are still
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going to win. All right. And a lot of people look at this and they say, well, I wonder which one I am,
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which is the wrong question to be asking yourself. The right question to be asking yourself is which
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one do I want to be? Okay. Because that's what it is. It's a decision. I had a guy DM me, uh, last
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couple of weeks ago and asked me, uh, what do you hold in higher regard? Who do you think is better?
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The, the entrepreneur who had, uh, uh, a mentor and parents and they might've started with no money,
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but they went up to be successful or the guy who, uh, had no mentor, no parents, uh, that helped them
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no help business wise. And he also went on to be successful. Who's better? You know what the answer
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is it doesn't fucking matter because what matters is that you're winning. What matters is, is that
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you're doing the things to succeed. And if you're worried about a little shit like that, uh, who's
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better and where do I rank and this and that, and this you focused on the wrong shit. Okay. Winners
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focus on getting the job done. Losers focus on why they can't do it. And that's the, that's the bottom
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line here. Winners are going to fucking win. Losers are going to fucking lose no matter what. All right.
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And here's a real difference in the mentality between winners and losers. Okay. Winners, you
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know, people who become ultra successful, people who make the most out of their lives, they do not
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confuse the idea of quote unquote hard with bad. Okay. They recognize that life is hard, but they
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don't think that life is bad. All right. But here's what losers think. And this is the difference.
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People who never win people who are always complaining, always making excuses and always
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failing. Think about life as hard and bad. They don't understand that there's a difference.
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If it's hard, it's bad. Okay. Winners know it's hard, but they know it's not bad. Okay. Losers say
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shit. Like look at all the, you know, bullshit in the world and the shitty people and this world
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sucks and all these people I got to deal with. And this person screwing me and this person did that
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and this, and they basically come to the conclusion that it sucks to exist. All right. They act like
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they wish the whole universe hadn't popped up into existence and they would have never been born.
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And you know what? I actually sort of get that mentality. I get frustrated too. Like we talked about
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on the, uh, Sunday sermon a few weeks ago, there's some crazy shit going on in the world. And there are
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things that happen really bad things that I don't understand, but I just can't take the attitude that
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losers take. I can't stoop to the level of somebody who just complains because I'm a fucking winner.
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I have always won and I will always win. And that is something that you need to commit to as well.
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I want to be happy and successful. And you know what? And you know what happy and successful people
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think? They think, yes, there's a lot of hard shit in life. There's a lot of hard things on planet
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earth. There are natural disasters like we just had in California. Okay. Uh, there's little kids
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starving to death. There's, there's good hardworking people who through no fault of their own get laid
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off and lose their job. There's wars, there's murders, there's people being taken advantage of by the
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crooked internet scam artists every hour of the day. Yes. There are hard things happening in this world
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that none of us can really understand. In fact, there are bad things done by bad people over and over
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and over again. And it seems like that's all we ever get to see, but that doesn't mean that life
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is bad. Successful people, people who are going to win no matter what, always see the good parts of
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life. Winners are always able to find victory in the midst of defeat. They're always able to find
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victory overcoming hardships. No matter how hard life gets, successful people can always identify the
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blessings. They can always name the things they're thankful for. And they do so on a daily basis, not
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just one time a year. Okay. And the bottom line is this guy, successful people, people who are going to
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win no matter what, truly believe in their heart of hearts that in spite of how hard life can be at
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times, no matter how much shit we have to deal with, it's a good thing to be alive. And here's the
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reality. They don't just believe that it's a good thing to be alive. They believe that if you are alive,
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then what is good in life is worth fighting for. Successful people become part of the solution.
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They don't just complain about things. They commit themselves to becoming successful and helping
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people solve the problems that exist. They're out there. They're the ones that are trying to clean up
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the bullshit that we all see. Winners don't say, oh, all that bad stuff makes the world hopeless.
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Winners say, hey guys, you know what? Let's fix shit. So the next generation can have some fucking hope.
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That's how winners think. Winners aren't in it just for themselves. They recognize the problem
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and they understand that by winning, they can be part of the solution. So guys, here's the thing,
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especially today. Don't just be thankful for the good things in your life. Be thankful for life
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because here's what you got to understand. The bad things in life teach us. The bad things in life
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mold us. The bad things in life forge us into what we want to become ultimately. So embrace those and
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be thankful for those challenges just as much as you are thankful for the good shit. That's what
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successful people do. Successful people don't just focus on the money, the wealth, the fame,
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the cars, the houses, the boats, this, that, the other. They focus on also the challenges they get
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to overcome, not that they have to overcome. Guys, listen, I appreciate you guys. You're one of the
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main things that I'm thankful for in my life on a daily basis. I wish you all an amazing Thanksgiving
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and make sure you spread the love. Love you guys and I'll talk to you next time.