REAL AF with Andy Frisella - HARRY： An American Success Story, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO279

00:00:00.000 I can stack them honeys to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.780 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.020 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host.

00:00:17.480 And this is the motherfucking CEO Project. Guys, we're here. 2019. 0.99

00:00:23.500 This is the first podcast of 2019 and I want to start it off directly with a story, okay?

00:00:33.420 And I could get into all the other stuff that we do about paying the fee.

00:00:36.380 If you're a regular listener, you get it. So I'm not going to waste your time.

00:00:40.380 If you don't get it, go back and listen to some other shit. 0.98

00:00:43.340 I know you guys are busy getting your stuff done. I'm busy getting my stuff done. 0.99

00:00:48.100 So I'm going to get right to it. And I want to share a story with you guys.

00:00:52.160 It's a story that is 1,000% applicable to your happiness and success.

00:00:59.600 Not only in just 2019, but for your whole entire life, okay?

00:01:04.960 And this is part of also a little bit of a project that I've been working on for 2019.

00:01:09.780 I'm sort of giving you a little bit of a preview, but you're going to have to guess if you want to know

00:01:16.020 because I'm not ready to tell you all about it yet.

00:01:18.440 Anyway, back to the story.

00:01:20.220 This story starts out in the suburbs of Chicago, okay?

00:01:26.020 Right after World War II, in the early 1940s, there was a kid, okay?

00:01:31.080 And we're going to call this kid Harry, all right?

00:01:33.720 He was short, and the other kids in his elementary school made fun of him.

00:01:37.620 They thought he was a nerd.

00:01:39.000 And you know what? By all accounts, he was a nerd, all right?

00:01:42.900 So a lot of times, he'd go out to recess, he'd be by himself.

00:01:47.380 When he'd try to join the other kids, you know, climbing up the hill and playing games,

00:01:51.560 they'd shove him back down the hill, they'd call him names, they'd make fun of him,

00:01:55.720 and basically made him feel like he wasn't good enough to hang with them, all right?

00:02:02.180 This didn't really change for Harry as he got older.

00:02:05.400 Everybody in his class, according to these people, said he was shy, it was hard for him

00:02:11.100 to make friends, he kept to himself.

00:02:14.140 These people figured that this guy was either going to be some sort of murderer, 0.98

00:02:18.680 or he was going to end up being a loser, okay? 0.85

00:02:22.920 But something happened to him in high school. 0.90

00:02:25.820 He got involved with his high school's radio station.

00:02:29.260 He actually worked up the nerve to become its very first sportscaster, and he loved it, all right?

00:02:37.200 He loved it so much that when he got to college, Rippon College in Wisconsin,

00:02:42.720 he decided he needed to do whatever it took to overcome his shyness.

00:02:48.660 He knew that his shyness was a major obstacle to his ultimate success.

00:02:56.120 He knew he had to get more comfortable around people.

00:02:59.260 So he looked over his college course directory,

00:03:02.220 and he found courses that he thought would help him to get over what he knew was a handicap for him.

00:03:10.860 And he enrolled in these courses, and one of the courses that he took was acting 101.

00:03:17.120 And you can imagine for someone who's extremely shy, like I know a lot of you guys are, all right?

00:03:23.440 That's one of the most common questions that I get.

00:03:26.200 How do I get over being an introvert?

00:03:28.780 How do I get over my shyness?

00:03:31.240 How do I get over the anxiety of talking to other people, all right?

00:03:38.560 And for guys like this guy, Harry, and people like you listening, this is hard, okay?

00:03:45.360 And this acting class, it stretched him out of his comfort zone.

00:03:49.620 But you know what?

00:03:51.360 He loved it.

00:03:52.320 He loved it so much that he became obsessed with acting.

00:03:56.500 He learned every single thing that he could about acting.

00:04:01.740 He took every course.

00:04:03.420 He read every book.

00:04:04.700 It became a literal obsession.

00:04:08.000 And he took advantage of every single opportunity that he could to act.

00:04:13.300 In fact, he was so obsessed with acting that he ended up leaving college.

00:04:18.140 He left the Midwest, and he headed to L.A. to become a full-time voice actor, all right?

00:04:24.040 By this time, it's the mid-1960s.

00:04:26.760 And once he got to L.A., he was promised, like a lot of people who just up and moved to L.A.,

00:04:31.760 a bunch of roles, a bunch of success, the next big thing.

00:04:35.400 But guess what?

00:04:37.220 He didn't get any of it.

00:04:39.200 Just when there seemed to be some sort of hope that his career might gain some momentum,

00:04:45.680 he had an encounter with a very well-known, very influential director.

00:04:50.460 And without intentionally meaning to, he offended this guy and seriously pissed him off.

00:04:56.900 And guess what that did?

00:04:58.000 As a result, his resume hit the toilet.

00:05:01.760 And the word of mouth, because of this incident, because this director was so influential,

00:05:07.440 his name sunk to the bottom of the hiring list.

00:05:11.260 Basically, a blacklist of people not to work with, okay?

00:05:15.760 And for the next three years, Harry, all he could end up getting was uncredited roles,

00:05:21.560 which are basically little bits in parts of movies where the role is so unimportant

00:05:27.220 and so insignificant that your name isn't even worth mentioning.

00:05:32.760 And as you know, when they're mentioning the Key Grip and the Key Grip's assistance,

00:05:37.940 and your name doesn't get on the list, it makes you feel pretty fucking bad, all right? 0.85

00:05:42.560 But that didn't stop Harry, all right? 0.64

00:05:44.880 He kept hustling.

00:05:46.400 He kept working hard.

00:05:47.800 And he started to gain some momentum in the late 60s and early 70s.

00:05:52.460 He got small roles in some TV shows that were fairly popular, which, you know, weren't his dream,

00:05:59.060 but they were better than nothing.

00:06:02.520 And finally, he had a breakthrough, or so he thought.

00:06:07.060 In 1969, a well-respected French director cast him as the lead role in his first American film,

00:06:14.620 and Harry was pumped.

00:06:18.240 And guess what happened?

00:06:20.220 The bigwigs at Columbia Pictures, the people who were producing this film, the executive team,

00:06:25.560 vetoed the decision.

00:06:27.620 They said, you have no experience.

00:06:29.780 They said, you have no future in acting.

00:06:32.260 And imagine being Harry and literally picking up his whole life,

00:06:38.260 moving to a new city,

00:06:39.480 working for years to get that one opportunity that would help launch him,

00:06:45.120 getting it, and then getting it snatched right out from underneath him.

00:06:49.360 Imagine hearing those words.

00:06:51.060 You have no future in acting.

00:06:54.380 Most people at that point, what would they do?

00:06:57.840 They would say, you know what?

00:06:59.780 This isn't for me.

00:07:01.260 You know what?

00:07:02.220 I need to be more realistic.

00:07:04.000 You know what?

00:07:04.820 This is just a pipe dream.

00:07:06.220 And they would have given up.

00:07:08.800 But Harry didn't.

00:07:10.220 He believed in himself.

00:07:11.700 And he was willing to do anything that he could to keep his acting career going.

00:07:18.800 He taught himself carpentry

00:07:20.200 and would take any menial job that he could to pay the bills and support his family.

00:07:25.580 He auditioned.

00:07:26.680 He worked.

00:07:27.500 He networked as much as he possibly could.

00:07:30.640 And he finally tasted a little more success.

00:07:34.200 Okay?

00:07:34.460 He met a young visionary director that impressed him enough

00:07:38.820 that he secured a small part in the top-grossing film of 1973.

00:07:44.220 The name of that film was American Graffiti.

00:07:48.520 He sensed the tide was turning and the good things were coming.

00:07:51.640 The problem was good things didn't come for another four years.

00:07:56.300 So Harry continued to work his ass off 24-7 to make ends meet

00:08:02.100 and to give himself a chance to succeed.

00:08:05.800 He kept working the carpentry jobs.

00:08:08.160 He kept doing the small jobs.

00:08:10.300 He kept doing the labor jobs.

00:08:12.360 In fact, he ended up installing a door for Francis Ford Coppola,

00:08:17.480 the legendary director of The Godfather.

00:08:20.500 And I want to emphasize this for you guys. 0.99

00:08:22.520 His dream was not to be installing fucking doors and sweeping up shit and doing menial jobs. 0.99

00:08:29.940 This guy's dream was to be an A-list actor. 1.00

00:08:33.920 He wasn't there to do someone's bitch work. 1.00

00:08:38.380 He was there to be an actor. 0.97

00:08:40.080 But he knew what he had to do to keep that dream alive and he did it.

00:08:44.620 And that impressed Coppola.

00:08:47.240 It led Coppola to cast him in a few minor roles in successful films,

00:08:51.080 which led to more experience on his resume,

00:08:54.720 which is one of the things he got shut down for,

00:08:56.880 and more connections in the movie industry.

00:08:59.080 And that connection with Coppola eventually led Harry to be reunited

00:09:02.980 with the same young visionary director that he worked with on American Graffiti.

00:09:08.220 That young director hired Harry to be a stand-in for screen tests

00:09:12.580 on a new movie he was working on,

00:09:14.820 a movie that would end up becoming the highest grossing film of all time,

00:09:20.020 a movie that would literally become part of American culture

00:09:24.340 and a worldwide phenomenon to this day.

00:09:28.280 It was a science fiction movie.

00:09:30.660 And even though he was just a stand-in and he was just a quote-unquote screen tester,

00:09:36.020 Harry delivered the performance of his life.

00:09:39.840 And his charisma lit up the screen and captivated this young director.

00:09:44.920 And you know what that young director's name was?

00:09:47.720 George Lucas.

00:09:48.820 You know what that movie was?

00:09:50.800 Star Wars.

00:09:52.500 Lucas cast Harry to play the role of a cocky smuggler

00:09:55.680 and space pilot, a kind of galactic cowboy who flew a ship,

00:10:00.520 as you might know, called the Millennium Falcon.

00:10:03.800 And guess what?

00:10:05.040 Now Harrison Ford is known worldwide and will always be known as Han Solo.

00:10:12.960 That was his legendary role that launched a legendary career in Hollywood. 0.97

00:10:17.940 When you think of A-list actors, Harrison Ford has been at the top of that list for 40 fucking years. 0.98

00:10:26.760 40 years! 0.94

00:10:28.140 You've seen him in Blade Runner, Patriot Games, The Fugitive, Air Force One, Indiana Jones Series.

00:10:34.780 But let me tell you, and I guarantee you this, throughout his career, 0.99

00:10:40.120 some fucking idiot has said at every single success that Harrison Ford has had 1.00

00:10:46.000 and gets paid millions of dollars for, lives in a big fucking house, 1.00

00:10:50.620 owns nine fucking airplanes, and some idiot is going to be saying, 1.00

00:10:54.620 must be nice. 1.00

00:10:56.840 Because people only see the highlights.

00:10:59.780 People only see the final production.

00:11:02.280 They don't see the 20 years that this man put into this craft.

00:11:09.420 They don't see the hard times.

00:11:11.980 They weren't there for the work.

00:11:13.760 They didn't see him sweat.

00:11:15.540 They didn't see him panic.

00:11:17.240 They didn't see him have nervous breakdowns. 1.00

00:11:19.840 They didn't see him installing fucking garage doors. 0.99

00:11:23.400 They weren't there cheering him on when he got rejected again and again and again. 0.99

00:11:29.920 But refused to quit.

00:11:33.320 All they see are the swanky suits, the red carpet, the popping bottles, 1.00

00:11:39.220 the hot bitches, and the fucking big house, big car, and the airplanes, and all the life. 1.00

00:11:44.840 But the one thing they aren't seeing, 1.00

00:11:48.040 in fact, the one thing they refuse to see,

00:11:51.060 is the entire picture of how success really works. 1.00

00:11:54.960 You see, no person reaches ultimate prosperity without taking a shitload of punches to the fucking face. 1.00

00:12:04.820 Contrary to what society will tell you, 1.00

00:12:07.900 there is no overnight success in the business world,

00:12:11.840 or life in general for that matter.

00:12:14.180 You have to pay your dues.

00:12:17.120 Would Harrison Ford, would you even know who Harrison Ford was

00:12:21.900 if he didn't have unshakable confidence in himself?

00:12:26.680 Would you even know his name if he didn't have the grit and the persistence and the drive 0.97

00:12:33.380 to push through literally 20 years of doing shit that he hated 0.56

00:12:40.360 to find his path in this world? 0.97

00:12:43.280 Most people would have given up when the rug was pulled out from underneath him

00:12:47.120 the first time, not the 30th time.

00:12:52.060 Most people would give up when the rug was pulled out from underneath him in year one,

00:12:57.380 not year 17 or 18 or 19.

00:13:01.140 Most people have no idea.

00:13:04.480 They think they know, but they don't know the price that has to be paid. 0.99

00:13:10.040 Everyone else would have fucking thrown in the towel 0.98

00:13:13.420 when they didn't get the dream role that they thought they were destined for 0.98

00:13:17.580 or entitled to, the role they thought they deserved.

00:13:21.400 The average person wouldn't be able to stomach that rejection.

00:13:25.000 It's constant rejection too, guys.

00:13:27.220 Let me tell you that.

00:13:28.420 If you're going to be successful, you better get used to being told no.

00:13:32.700 But that's what makes Harrison Ford

00:13:34.980 and every other successful person, the people you look around

00:13:39.680 and want to be like, truly great.

00:13:42.940 This is what sets him and them apart from all the wannabes, 1.00

00:13:48.180 the pretenders, the fakers, the shit talkers, the dreamers, 1.00

00:13:52.360 and everybody else in society. 1.00

00:13:54.580 This is what makes them them and what makes you you.

00:13:58.160 He refused to accept less than what he wanted.

00:14:02.960 Did he have to be patient?

00:14:05.160 Yes.

00:14:05.620 Did he have to have grit?

00:14:07.300 Yes.

00:14:07.820 Did he have to have determination?

00:14:09.740 Yes. 0.98

00:14:10.240 Did he have to do shit he didn't want to do repeatedly 0.98

00:14:13.080 over and over and over again for years at a time? 0.99

00:14:17.180 Yes.

00:14:17.780 Did he have to develop thick skin and a strong state of mind?

00:14:21.140 Yes.

00:14:22.120 He did all of that.

00:14:24.520 But what you have to understand is that is the recipe.

00:14:28.240 That is how successful people become successful people.

00:14:33.580 They pay the price other people aren't willing to pay.

00:14:37.980 And I know you've heard that and I know you've seen that.

00:14:40.960 But do you truly understand what paying your dues means?

00:14:48.380 Because the people that do win, they don't sometimes win.

00:14:53.120 They don't might win. 0.99

00:14:54.660 They fucking win. 0.99

00:14:57.460 They understand what they have to do. 1.00

00:15:00.520 They understand it's going to take time. 1.00

00:15:03.620 They understand that they're going to have to do shit that they fucking hate. 1.00

00:15:08.280 They get this. 1.00

00:15:09.480 It's given.

00:15:10.460 But what they also understand is they're not willing to settle

00:15:14.800 for anything less than what they want.

00:15:19.000 And that's the difference.

00:15:20.580 That's why Harrison Ford is a multimillionaire.

00:15:23.720 That's why you know his name.

00:15:26.520 That's why his net worth is now over $230 million.

00:15:31.780 That's why he's a Hollywood legend. 0.97

00:15:34.300 That's why he's Han fucking Solo and you aren't. 0.95

00:15:38.800 Right now, more than ever, every single one of us is bombarded with get rich quick, 0.99

00:15:46.800 overnight success, luck, winning the lottery, all this crazy shit. 1.00

00:15:52.840 And you know why we're bombarded with that shit? 1.00

00:15:55.480 Because it's sexy. 1.00

00:15:57.400 Because it makes us pay attention.

00:15:59.600 Because secretly deep down inside, we hope that we're going to be one of those people.

00:16:06.200 You know why we hope that?

00:16:08.100 Because we want it to be easy.

00:16:10.220 We want it to be easier than it is for us.

00:16:12.740 And let me tell you something, guys.

00:16:14.020 It is never going to be easy.

00:16:17.040 Okay?

00:16:17.380 It's never going to be easy.

00:16:19.380 It's never going to be fast.

00:16:21.220 It's never going to be as simple as you thought.

00:16:23.560 It's never going to happen as quick as you want.

00:16:27.100 But I can tell you this. 1.00

00:16:29.700 I wouldn't trade places with one of those motherfuckers that got rich quick or won the lottery or any of that shit. 1.00

00:16:35.260 I love the fact that it took me 20 years to get where I am. 1.00

00:16:41.420 And you should appreciate that too because here's the thing.

00:16:44.660 You could take every single thing away from me right now.

00:16:47.580 You could take away my business, take away my house, take away my cars, take away my employees, take away every dollar I have.

00:16:54.700 And guess what I have left?

00:16:56.120 I have the last 20 years of skills.

00:16:59.080 I have the last 20 years of experience.

00:17:01.460 I have the last 20 years of understanding what it takes.

00:17:07.460 And nobody could take that away from me. 0.98

00:17:09.580 And that's where you want to be in life because inevitably bad shit is going to happen. 0.95

00:17:15.180 You're going to lose a company. 0.97

00:17:17.940 You're going to go out of business.

00:17:19.740 You're going to have some sort of circumstance that sets you back.

00:17:23.680 And you're going to want to know what to do when that happens.

00:17:27.680 Okay?

00:17:28.000 I would not trade places with anybody on earth because I know what that's worth.

00:17:35.640 You guys have to understand that if you're going to become successful, if you're going to create what you want in 2019 and beyond,

00:17:46.640 you are going to have to understand the concept of three steps forward, two steps back. 0.99

00:17:53.580 That shit can't break you. 1.00

00:17:56.680 Only you can break you. 1.00

00:18:00.000 I still have days to this day.

00:18:03.380 And I continue, I will continue to have these days until the day I die.

00:18:08.800 I'm certain of that where I get two steps ahead, three steps ahead, and two steps back.

00:18:14.240 You guys all have the perception that it's all forward progress.

00:18:18.000 You guys look at people who have this, whatever it is that you want, and you think it's some mystical force.

00:18:25.600 No.

00:18:27.740 It's all about what you're willing to do, how long you're willing to go, how many punches you're willing to take in the face,

00:18:36.340 and how many times you're willing to get back up.

00:18:39.100 And as cliche as that sounds, it's the truth.

00:18:42.420 Everything you needed to learn about success, you can learn from the movie Rocky.

00:18:49.840 That's the truth. 0.99

00:18:51.940 You don't need to buy a fucking course. 0.99

00:18:54.100 You don't need to join this thing or do that or this or that or this. 0.99

00:18:58.380 Dude, figure out what it is you want to do.

00:19:03.180 Understand it's going to take time. 0.99

00:19:04.640 Understand it's going to take a long fucking time and go fucking do it. 0.99

00:19:08.480 It's that simple. 0.99

00:19:10.240 So, guys, listen here, all right?

00:19:12.860 Whatever it is that you struggle with, you know what that is.

00:19:17.240 You know where your obstacles are.

00:19:20.040 For Harrison Ford, he was shy.

00:19:23.300 He couldn't talk to people.

00:19:25.140 He was an introvert. 0.99

00:19:26.400 He was a nerd. 0.95

00:19:27.640 He got picked on.

00:19:29.000 What did he do?

00:19:30.280 Most people hide from those things.

00:19:32.940 They try to bury those things in the sand and act like they don't exist. 0.99

00:19:36.500 And a lot of fucking gurus say, play to your strengths, not to your weaknesses. 0.99

00:19:40.580 And I agree with that, by the way. 0.99

00:19:42.120 But here's the thing.

00:19:44.120 Being shy, being introverted is one of those things that you have to get over if you want

00:19:49.460 to become successful.

00:19:51.140 Okay?

00:19:51.400 And you might not have a critical flaw like that.

00:19:55.440 Maybe you have a little flaw.

00:19:57.860 But I'm going to bet you that if you attacked it instead of hiding from it, you are going

00:20:03.680 to have a much better chance at being successful.

00:20:08.140 And guys, guess what?

00:20:09.440 Attacking your flaws and addressing your flaws, it's not fun.

00:20:13.120 It's not fun to look in the mirror and say, you know what? 0.99

00:20:15.540 I'm 100 fucking pounds overweight. 0.98

00:20:17.140 It's not fun to look in the mirror and say, you know what? 1.00

00:20:19.680 I suck with people. 0.93

00:20:21.120 You know what? 0.99

00:20:21.840 I look in the mirror and I say, oh, you know what?

00:20:24.580 You can't, you're not a good salesman or you're not good at this or that. 0.99

00:20:27.600 And it's nature for us to go try other shit. 0.98

00:20:32.660 But there's some skills that you cannot succeed without. 0.96

00:20:36.580 And you know what they are.

00:20:39.020 And you have to attack those things.

00:20:41.980 Okay?

00:20:42.740 Harrison Ford didn't hide.

00:20:44.260 He went for every single opportunity he could to improve something that he knew was going

00:20:51.040 to hold him back.

00:20:52.120 And I challenge you in 2019 to figure out what it is about you.

00:20:59.040 You might be shy.

00:21:00.360 You might be terrible at sales.

00:21:02.020 You might be unorganized.

00:21:03.920 It could be a million. 0.99

00:21:04.780 You might be fat. 0.95

00:21:05.760 It could be a million things.

00:21:07.040 But I challenge you this year to look in the mirror with honest eyes and see what it is

00:21:17.020 the world sees and know what it is everyone else knows and look beyond that and see the 0.99

00:21:24.580 shit that nobody sees and see the shit that nobody knows and work to fix those issues. 0.99

00:21:31.420 Because come January 1st, 2020, you're going to be ready to attack. 1.00

00:21:39.040 You're not going to be sitting there with all these insecurities, all these issues.

00:21:43.520 There's not a skill that you lack right now that you can't make tremendous improvement on,

00:21:49.400 whether that be a physical thing or a mental thing or a sales skill or interpersonal relations

00:21:55.540 skill.

00:21:56.000 It doesn't matter. 1.00

00:21:57.540 If you have no sense of humor, you can learn to be funny in 12 fucking months. 1.00

00:22:00.560 I guarantee you. 1.00

00:22:01.860 There's nothing that you can't fix in 12 months.

00:22:05.080 And I challenge you this year to take an honest look at yourself and attack the problem

00:22:10.820 versus hiding from it.

00:22:12.900 That's what ultra successful people do. 1.00

00:22:16.320 That's what fucking legends do. 1.00

00:22:18.700 That's what people do that are worth 230 million fucking dollars and own nine motherfucking airplanes 1.00

00:22:25.240 and are legends of their craft. 0.99

00:22:29.220 That's where you want to be.

00:22:30.560 Thank you.

00:22:31.840 Bye.

00:22:49.480 Bye.

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00:22:53.680 Bye.

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 10, 2019

HARRY： An American Success Story, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO279

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