Haters Vs. Criticism, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO127
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Summary
There's a big giant difference between haters and criticism, and if you don't know the difference, you're not going to be successful in life because you're too stupid to distinguish the difference. You're not stupid because you haven't done anything worth hating on. You don't care what your haters think, you care what they think, so shut the fuck up about them.
Transcript
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What is up guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am
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the motherfucking CEO. Today, we've got some Friday fire for you. If it's your first time
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listening, welcome. All we ask is if you love the podcast, if you got value out of it, if
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you enjoyed it, if it pumped you up, if you fired up, if you learned something, please
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share it with at least one friend. That's all we ask. Guys, today is Friday fire, and that
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means I'm going to talk about something that is just getting on my fucking nerves, all
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right? And that is the misunderstanding of haters versus criticism, okay? Everywhere you
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look right now, I see these young entrepreneurs, guys who are trying to make it, people trying
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to do something, people trying to become something, people trying to create a new life, which is
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awesome by the way, but they're talking about haters. They're talking about all these people
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who are talking shit on me, or all these people who hate on me, or all these motherfuckers
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holding me back. Look, nobody's holding you back. The only person that's holding you back
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is you, and that's you in your brain telling you that imaginary people that don't really exist
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are talking shit about you, and that's keeping you from doing the things that you want to do,
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okay? You have to do something relevant at the bare minimum to justify real haters. You know
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what real haters are? Real haters are people who slash the tires of your car, who fucking
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throw poison dog treats over your fence because they want to kill your fucking dogs, okay? Who
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fucking kidnap your kids. That's fucking haters. Somebody writing a fucking status about you on the
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internet, or saying something, or gossiping, which 99.9% of the time doesn't even fucking happen,
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and for you to go out and make statuses about your haters, you look like a fucking moron,
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okay? Most of you motherfuckers listening to this haven't done a goddamn thing. Let's be honest.
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The reason you're listening is because you're trying to learn something. I'm going to tell you right
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now that 99.9% of you listening haven't fucking done anything worth hating on, so shut the fuck up
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about your haters. You don't have fucking haters. All you have is your fucking imagination telling
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you that people are saying things about you when they really aren't, and that's keeping you from
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doing things that you want to do. That's what haters are. Haters are a made-up figment of your
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imagination, and even if they are real and they say some shit, sticks and stones will break my
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motherfucking bones, okay? We've all heard it. Shut the fuck up, and let's cross over to the second
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half of the Friday Fire, actual criticism. People are going to say things about your product, about
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your service, about your whatever it is you're trying to do. Hopefully, you have enough fucking
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intelligence to delineate between, is this person legitimately offering some information that I can
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improve myself on, or is this person just being an asshole, okay? And too many of you look at all
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criticism as if it's somebody treating you poorly, or somebody being an asshole, when in reality, a lot
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of the criticism you get is people trying to help you to be better, but you're just too fucking thick-headed
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to listen to it, or too sensitive, or too insecure, or too something to process information about how you can
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improve. And if you're not open-minded enough, and smart enough, and intelligent enough, and perceptive
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enough to comprehend when someone's actually offering you constructive criticism, and you
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automatically throw it in the hater category every time, let me tell you what, you're not going to be
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very successful because you're too fucking stupid to learn how to improve. There's a big giant difference
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between haters and criticism, and if you want to be successful in life, you're going to have to learn the
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fucking difference. So, and then one more thing. By the way, when you make these statuses on the
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fucking internet that say, oh, I don't care what my haters think, I don't care what my haters think,
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I don't care what my haters think, you haven't done anything, you look fucking stupid. Because first of
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all, you haven't done anything worth hating on. Second of all, you do care what your haters think
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because you're acknowledging. Okay, there's a good saying out there that my friend Dan Fleischman likes
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to say, and it's don't feed the fucking trolls. Somebody says something ignorant on your page, block
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them, delete them, and move the fuck on. You don't need that shit in your life. And you sure as fuck don't
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need to be shining your shine on people who fucking don't justify your attention. Learn the difference
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between people are being assholes and when people are being constructively critical. And sometimes
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when people are constructively critical, they sound like assholes. But it's still your job to ask the
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question, does this person have a valid point? Can I improve from this? Can I make my product better?
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Can I make my service better? Can it make me better? Because that's how you're going to improve.
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That's how you're going to be successful. That's how you're going to win in a very competitive
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marketplace. And that's how you're going to make money. So learn the fucking difference.