REAL AF with Andy Frisella - How to Beat Burnout, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO178

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the

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00:02:03.060 that's housekeeping today is tuesday and we do have a normal podcast and i am joined by my co-host

00:02:10.580 dj dj god what's up my man well it's october and we're getting closer to halloween so i really want

00:02:17.540 you to call me von helsing von helsing it would go with the impaler theme okay von helsing the

00:02:23.080 impaler the impaler all right we'll just mix two together vampire killer yeah right yeah why are

00:02:28.660 you wearing uh quotation marks on your chest that's three commas man that stands for a billion

00:02:33.000 dollars because there's three commas in a billion see i'm not a billionaire it's actually mark cuban's

00:02:37.380 mark cuban's brand oh that's nice his apparel brand nice so i like it uh so yeah i like it too

00:02:43.580 yeah and i'm gonna start making everybody in the whole company wear a three comma shirt like every

00:02:48.180 one like every friday because it's like the day that everybody starts to slack off and i want them 0.58

00:02:53.280 to be reminded of what the fuck we're trying to do here right you know what i mean is cuban an 0.93

00:02:57.160 actual billionaire oh yeah okay like multi-billionaire yeah yeah yeah okay yeah so he's uh he's he's 0.96

00:03:03.580 doing okay yeah yeah yeah so today we are going to talk about a a super important concept and one

00:03:12.080 that we get a lot of questions and comments about which is how to avoid burnout and what to do when

00:03:18.900 you're feeling burnt out okay you're going to see people in the entrepreneur world that always pretend

00:03:24.380 like they have all this energy all this momentum and they make it seem like they're always on and 0.96

00:03:30.700 blah blah blah blah blah and what you don't see is the shit behind the scenes you don't see the times 0.97

00:03:36.120 when they're burnt out you don't see the times when they're frustrated you don't see the times when 0.99

00:03:40.540 they don't feel like doing shit and so what that does is that creates a situation where when you 0.86

00:03:46.160 feel burnt out when you feel frustrated when you feel angry when you feel tired and not feeling like 0.87

00:03:51.460 doing what you want to do you feel like there's something wrong with you and i'm telling you guys

00:03:56.720 right now there is nothing wrong with feeling burnt out that is a natural part of the process now i can

00:04:03.300 tell you from employing a lot of people over the course of my career that a lot of people have

00:04:09.160 trouble coming back from burnout they get burnt out and they don't know what to do to rekindle that

00:04:15.200 fire and if you want to be successful whether that be working inside of a company or owning a company

00:04:20.520 you are going to have to understand and learn how to deal with burnout you're going to have to

00:04:28.020 understand how to rekindle that fire and how to work through that because dude being burnt out

00:04:33.120 is just part of the process it's something that you are going to go through multiple times

00:04:38.980 probably multiple times a year okay and you've got to learn what to do to get you back on track

00:04:44.140 so that's what i want to tackle today i want to tackle you know something that most people like they

00:04:49.660 get this feeling in their head like oh my god i don't have it anymore i just don't have this passion

00:04:54.200 and then they quit and they go and find something else and they do that process over and over and

00:05:00.160 over again and it keeps them from getting anywhere they want to go so if you're in it for the long

00:05:03.980 haul if you're going to find real success in anything that you do you have to know how to

00:05:08.680 deal with being burned out yeah so what's the number one culprit culprit in your mind well

00:05:14.080 obviously you know anytime that you're being on a path to being successful you're doing repetitive

00:05:22.000 things you're doing things over and over and over and over again and i think that most people when

00:05:29.360 they do repetitive things they can only do those things so many times before they start to feel

00:05:33.840 frustrated and they start to feel burned out because time as fast as it moves when you're in a hurry

00:05:40.420 to get somewhere it moves really fucking slow and so understanding that first of all you know the 0.90

00:05:45.700 concept that we've talked about multiple times aggressive patience and go back to listen to the 0.81

00:05:50.680 podcast that we did on aggressive patience you guys have to understand that is a very real concept

00:05:55.900 and that'd be the first thing that you need to do is just understand that concept and i'm not going

00:05:59.840 to get into it other than saying you've got to be patient but also during that time you've got to be

00:06:05.680 doing every little thing that you possibly can to get where you want to be we've done a whole episode

00:06:09.820 on this go back and listen to it but if you understand the concept of aggressive patience i think most people

00:06:17.540 start to get burned out because of the repetitive nature things aren't happening fast enough you're not

00:06:22.880 seeing progress that you want to see you're not where you are financially you're not where you are

00:06:27.160 where you want to be physically all right and what happens is you get burned out because you start to lose

00:06:33.020 hope all right i would think of patience as delayed hope like you're you're basically saying i know this

00:06:40.420 is going to work i'm trusting it's going to work eventually and then maybe when you get burned out

00:06:45.260 you start losing hope you start you start not trusting the things that you originally believed in

00:06:50.100 well the problem for the reason most people have this problem is because they haven't ever seen any

00:06:54.520 success when you talk to a seasoned entrepreneur someone who's made a decent amount of money who's

00:06:59.700 started a project seen it through sold a project or started a project seen it through had it become

00:07:04.960 successful enough if you do that enough times and you become seasoned you you don't ever really lose

00:07:11.360 hope because you understand that you the work is going to get you where you want to go you trust the

00:07:18.340 process you trust the work and so when you're inexperienced and you're young in entrepreneur

00:07:23.780 years you have to put a lot of faith into the process of working you know like dude i can remember

00:07:30.800 when i was a young guy and i was running a business and i would always think and i would think like this

00:07:35.540 man i wonder if i'm going to be one of those guys you know that's successful i wonder if i'm going to

00:07:39.560 be one of those guys that you know gets granted the wish of being a millionaire i wonder if this and

00:07:44.940 that and i spent so much time worrying because i didn't know and i hadn't been there and i haven't

00:07:50.880 been through the process and that took away a lot of energy that's a lot of negative energy that could

00:07:55.460 have been spent on productive shit that would have helped me get where i am a lot quicker you see what 0.61

00:08:00.420 i'm saying so i think people you know when they when they haven't really accomplished too much 0.78

00:08:06.060 you know there's a lot of faith and a lot of trust that you have to put in the work but if you talk to 0.96

00:08:11.080 a seasoned entrepreneur they will always tell you dude if you do the shit every single day like we 0.81

00:08:15.760 talk about in podcast 107 if you win the day you win the day and if you win three or four days you 0.89

00:08:22.120 win you win a week and if you win a week you know you're on road to creating uh you know the habit of 0.99

00:08:28.600 winning a month and if you win a couple months in a row now winning has become who the fuck you are 0.91

00:08:33.300 so when you create a habit of winning and you instill that character trait in you the work and the 0.97

00:08:39.300 results are going to be automatic but that is hard for somebody to understand and put faith in

00:08:43.960 that has never been there right so trying to define faith i think of it as as you know

00:08:49.820 basically rely whatever you consider reliable and it sounds like what you're saying is

00:08:55.620 is that at some point people go into burnout because they they've always relied on the work

00:09:00.580 they've they've taken control of the things they can they can control but then over time they start

00:09:05.300 thinking well maybe it's not going to work maybe it's not going to work and then they start

00:09:08.260 thinking well what about all these other factors that are going to do not only that they start

00:09:11.920 looking at other opportunities yeah and when they start looking at other opportunities their focus

00:09:16.740 on what they're doing is less so they start to produce less and then they start to lose belief

00:09:23.400 in the path they're on and they start to look at another opportunity and then they jump they make

00:09:28.120 that jump right dude i've seen this so many times with guys that work in our company they do well

00:09:33.240 for two or three years and they're young so they're impatient and they think two or three years

00:09:38.260 is 30 years you see what i'm saying and then they they they're like well i'm not where i want to be

00:09:44.340 i'm not this i'm not that i'm not making a million dollars a year there's something wrong no there's

00:09:50.500 nothing wrong man you're just going through a burnout phase and you need to learn how to rekindle it

00:09:55.940 so you have to remind yourself that the work when you started is what got you to this point and also

00:10:02.880 having that same faith in the work now is going to get you to that next point you just got to fight

00:10:07.720 through that feeling because if you always switch opportunities when things start to feel like

00:10:13.240 they're not worth it or you're losing hope or you're losing drive or you're losing momentum

00:10:16.800 and you just switch to something new you have to realize you're starting over from scratch now 0.56

00:10:21.620 so that fucking three years that you put in is now zero is now zero so now you've got to go 0.99

00:10:26.740 through that whole process again and then once you get into three years there you start to get burned 0.99

00:10:30.920 out it's a fucking deadly habit you understand what i'm saying absolutely as you're talking i'm 0.96

00:10:35.380 thinking of that great quote i think it was uh thomas edison where he says the real the real 0.95

00:10:40.040 tragedy is that most people failed like just just before everything's going to start to succeed dude and

00:10:46.220 most people make a habit out of slitting their own throats at the time of right before it happens 0.84

00:10:50.580 and then having to go back to fucking being born again you know what i mean and that it's a it's 0.98

00:10:56.560 extremely extremely common thing that people do and it's easy to overcome if you understand that 0.99

00:11:03.740 burnout is going to happen and how to overcome it you see what i mean because i think a lot of people 0.98

00:11:08.680 they think it's they don't think it's natural because a lot of these entrepreneur fuck faces out 0.96

00:11:13.200 there make it seem like they're always on and they've got all this energy and they want to they they're 0.99

00:11:17.960 so proud of their own ego they want to pretend like they've got something that these other people

00:11:22.480 don't and the reality is they don't have anything that you don't have they're just not showing you

00:11:27.260 that they get fucking burnt out too and i'm gonna tell you right now i'm as driven as any one of those 0.99

00:11:32.840 motherfuckers and i get burned out all the fucking time i just know how to deal with it right so i'm 0.99

00:11:37.120 not afraid to tell you guys that so when that happens do you consciously just say i have to 0.99

00:11:41.120 recommit to my belief in the work well i think it's important absolutely yeah absolutely but i

00:11:47.660 think it's also important that we understand why burnout happens and i think you know what it

00:11:54.720 happened the reason it happens for most people is because they they stop focusing on winning today

00:12:00.700 they stop focusing on trying to create momentum by handling their five critical tasks on a daily basis 0.77

00:12:07.220 and instead they start looking at how far they have to go or how much shit they have to do or how 0.76

00:12:14.180 long it's going to take and that creates a feeling of over of being overwhelmed to where they feel like 0.99

00:12:20.160 pressure that really isn't even there right like let's be real what the fuck are you in a hurry for 0.88

00:12:26.140 what are you in a hurry for you know what i mean like dude life as short as it is sometimes it's long 0.95

00:12:33.020 too and i could tell you from experience that that old saying it's not about the destination it's about

00:12:39.140 the journey it's true like dude and i've had to teach myself that you know i've had to learn to focus

00:12:46.240 on today focus on enjoying the conversations i have today focus on being grateful for the things i have

00:12:53.400 today the friendships the relationships the employees the business where the business is today being

00:12:59.620 grateful for those things because when you start looking at where you are and see it as how far away

00:13:05.760 you are from where you want to be that's going to create burnout all right because if you if you

00:13:10.800 continuously focus on that you can never appreciate what you have if you never appreciate what you have

00:13:15.560 you're never going to be happy go ahead i think it's not only about appreciating it but obviously there

00:13:22.040 should be a given but the learning process too that you have to go through like let's take a company

00:13:26.480 or let's take someone who just started a company today and we said hey you're gonna literally have

00:13:31.000 overnight success and then you know their company's successful the next day but dude how fast would

00:13:36.380 they fucking end up losing that business every every time right away we've seen it a million times i could 0.96

00:13:40.360 name 10 companies in our fucking business and you could too because we talked about it then had quick 0.99

00:13:45.740 success and lost it just as quick because you have to realize that the journey is where the value is 0.98

00:13:50.320 the reason i'm able to sit here and have a podcast that gets a million and a half downloads a month

00:13:55.400 off of business knowledge is not because i became overnight successful it's because i learned every 0.88

00:13:59.760 motherfucking lesson the hard way and i'm able to communicate to you and hopefully save you some time 0.66

00:14:03.720 all right so obviously you and i have been talking through all of the details of your entrepreneur 0.98

00:14:09.180 academy and we've just literally been taking apart the whole craft of running a business piece by piece

00:14:14.920 right and it's enormous like there's so many different moving parts i'm so excited about it i am too but

00:14:21.020 but have you ever wondered i mean i just thinking about this there are so many aspects to running a

00:14:28.000 successful business why are people tempted to to look at all of them at once instead of dividing them

00:14:34.980 down and into the critical class why do you think that's the case i think they're fed that i think that

00:14:39.620 the the entrepreneurial experts and i'm holding up my fingers in quotes right now experts feed feed feed

00:14:47.020 dude people are really good at razzle dazzle let's be real like what we see online what we see on 0.78

00:14:52.720 instagram what we see on youtube there's a lot of fucking razzle dazzle there especially when we talk 0.96

00:14:57.100 about what we're talking about right now of not being burnt out and always being on and always having 0.97

00:15:01.280 this crazy amount of energy you realize you're seeing a fucking minimal highlight reel somebody else's 0.89

00:15:07.940 game they're they're showing you what they want to show you and because of that they they're able to 0.85

00:15:14.340 make themselves seem a certain way that they aren't really in real life you know what i'm saying

00:15:20.480 absolutely so when people are fed this message okay first of all they don't believe they start to

00:15:25.620 believe that they don't have what it takes and second of all they're getting sold usually by people like 0.97

00:15:32.100 this some sort of course or some sort of shit that is like how to start your own fucking business 0.96

00:15:37.560 or it's very general in nature and if you research a lot of these guys none of them have literally 0.98

00:15:44.300 started a business from scratch not fucking one somebody might have walked into a business at three 0.92

00:15:49.820 or four million dollars and then grown it into something another guy might make millions of dollars 1.00

00:15:54.080 by selling you programs on how to run a business but how many of those motherfuckers even started 1.00

00:15:58.680 from ground zero and built something okay it's all about the show to a lot of these guys and they're not 0.95

00:16:05.520 telling people the reality so when we talk about you know teaching people how to become successful

00:16:12.180 in business i mean there's literally literally dozens and dozens of of super crucial points 0.87

00:16:19.440 that need to be addressed and it can't be surmised in some fucking three-hour business course it just 0.91

00:16:25.940 can't there's just more than that right and something else you and i've been talking about that i think

00:16:29.820 plays into this is the part of the razzle dazzle is using all the cliches in the most meaningless way

00:16:36.720 possible and not getting people to think about what they mean so you always hear the so-called

00:16:41.300 gurus saying stuff like you know you gotta have big picture thinking and i think they lead people

00:16:45.220 into believing that you have to think of everything at once they don't ever unpack how to utilize the 0.93

00:16:51.900 tools right you know why they don't do that because they don't even fucking right because they're 0.91

00:16:55.720 selling they're selling buzzwords they're not selling rich fertile content that can actually 0.83

00:17:01.400 take somebody from zero to fucking wherever they want to be right another cliche that we hear all 0.89

00:17:06.120 the time is is it's not it's actually it's not a cliche it's just very misunderstood it's pay attention 0.96

00:17:11.880 to the details and until i actually met you and got involved in this whole enterprise i heard that but

00:17:17.160 the way that that was presented was pay attention to every detail all at once whereas the whole concept

00:17:23.900 of the powerless is that's right you take little details a little at a time so what you're saying

00:17:27.900 dude is exactly what i'm saying in in this point the reason people get overwhelmed the reason people

00:17:33.640 get crazy the reason we get like we feel like the whole world's coming in on us is because we start 0.59

00:17:39.400 to look at all the fucking details we look at everything as if it needs to be solved right now today 0.95

00:17:46.460 and that's not how business works business is cumulative effort it's compounding interest so to speak 0.98

00:17:52.140 it's what you do today what you do again tomorrow and what you do the next day over the course of

00:17:58.260 years okay and if you just take if you just take the time and to understand what we talk about in

00:18:04.960 episode 107 uh uh win the day yeah win the day thank you um if you understand the power list i teach you

00:18:13.920 how to win every single day and i can promise you if you adopt that mentality if you adopt that mentality

00:18:20.460 and start to execute on just five tasks i'm not talking about 55 because 55 is how you end up burnt

00:18:26.540 out 55 is how you how you start to believe that you can't accomplish things because you never get 0.99

00:18:32.160 your fucking list done there's something very powerful about crossing off five fucking things 0.98

00:18:37.940 you do and saying dude i won it's very fucking powerful okay and if if you if you do it the way i 0.99

00:18:44.920 i just had this meeting last night with my guys if you do things the way i tell you it will work if 0.82

00:18:50.640 you modify it and try to create some other bullshit i can't guarantee you anything if you do things the 0.82

00:18:56.340 way i tell you if you do the power list exactly the way i tell you you will create massive amounts of 0.74

00:19:02.600 momentum you will avoid burnout for the most part because you will always feel like you're winning

00:19:07.140 the problem is is that you cannot feel like you're winning when you look when i if i were to sit here

00:19:12.820 and say all right we're doing 160 million dollars and and say i want to get to two billion dollars and

00:19:21.740 i start thinking about all the things that need to happen for us to get to two billion dollars and i

00:19:26.760 start getting getting in a you know an anxiety fueled like rush how am i gonna feel i'm gonna feel

00:19:34.980 overwhelmed i'm gonna feel hopeless i'm gonna feel like the world is fucking squeezing my head but if i just 0.86

00:19:41.440 focus on the five things today that are going to move forward today what i could the five phone

00:19:46.140 calls i make or the five emails i got to do or the the two emails and the workout and this and that

00:19:50.620 and i can go home at night and say man i fucking won right dude now you're creating belief in yourself 0.91

00:19:55.720 you're creating confidence in yourself you're creating momentum that you wouldn't otherwise have

00:20:00.520 and you're avoiding what we call burnout okay so it's very very important to focus on today's tasks

00:20:08.380 not just like what you said they're going to think big picture there's a time for thinking big picture

00:20:14.100 absolutely we talk about that a lot but when you're talking about executing you don't execute on the

00:20:20.080 big picture you execute on the small picture which is today yeah absolutely add another layer to this

00:20:26.220 is that just that whole feeling of hopelessness just to drive home the point that actually makes total

00:20:31.980 sense that somebody would feel hopeless because you literally cannot solve tomorrow's problems today

00:20:37.620 you cannot deal with with detail number 50 until you've dealt with detail number one through 49

00:20:43.440 so people literally are putting themselves into a position of complete futility so it makes sense

00:20:49.380 that they would feel hopeless it makes sense that they would right they would be completely detected

00:20:53.420 right and most people most people can only see what they don't have they can only see

00:20:57.660 how far they have to go how much they have to do what's left to do even i get caught up in this

00:21:03.160 and you have to just focus on winning the day and eventually you'll find yourself in a place where you're

00:21:07.500 like man i made a lot of progress right there yeah you know i'm getting closer and you start to believe

00:21:13.360 so you know avoid being overwhelmed by focusing on today um you know i think another thing that keeps

00:21:21.360 people uh that keeps people getting burned out over and over again is that they're not taking the time

00:21:28.720 to remind themselves why they're doing something in fact um you know that's we talk about visualization a

00:21:37.140 lot in some of the earlier podcasts and how important it is um and you can reference that in the notes for

00:21:42.500 the podcast yeah but if you're not specifically taking time to remind yourself why you're doing what 0.90

00:21:49.700 you're doing you're eventually going to feel burnt out because you're like well what the fuck is the 0.98

00:21:54.320 point of this why am i busting my ass every day why am i working so hard why am i doing this and that's 0.98

00:21:59.960 why it's important to a surround yourself with reminders of what your goals are i personally use 0.93

00:22:06.400 a vision board that has pictures of all the shit that i want to do pictures that represent not only the 0.78

00:22:11.860 material things but also the kind of life i want to live all right also i practice visualization in the 0.87

00:22:19.320 morning and in the evening okay i also practice gratitude exercises and we talk about those in

00:22:26.340 detail in other podcasts which you can know but what but i'll just summarize them you know real quick

00:22:30.780 i've learned to condition myself when i'm brushing my teeth in the morning to think about all the

00:22:36.160 things that i'm grateful for so anytime i start put toothpaste on the brush i start to think about

00:22:40.700 what i'm grateful for and as i'm brushing my teeth for that couple minutes you know i'm thinking about 0.55

00:22:45.220 like all the great shit that i have in my life and dude try to feel thankful and also feel burnt out 0.85

00:22:50.180 it's impossible you cannot feel the two things at the same time so a great way to avoid burnout is to 0.94

00:22:55.700 remind yourself on a habitual basis of what you're thankful for in your life all right and the other

00:23:01.520 thing i do is i make sure that i take a few minutes to look at my vision board in the morning

00:23:05.800 and then i take the minutes the minutes directly before i go to sleep okay so while i'm laying in

00:23:12.780 bed with my eyes closed i think about all the things that i'm going to accomplish i think about

00:23:17.680 i don't think about how i'm going to accomplish it i think about the end result i think about what my

00:23:22.940 life will look like i imagine what my house will look like what my garage will look like because that's

00:23:27.640 important to me uh what my lifestyle will look like uh and and i look at it in detail i try to see it as

00:23:34.160 as close to in as much detail as i could possibly uh see it in and you got to note this in the notes

00:23:42.120 so that people can go listen but that's the summary you know i make habits of doing things that will

00:23:49.060 automatically squash that feeling of being burnt out and actually instead get me excited and rekindle

00:23:55.760 the vision so that i'm reminded of why i'm doing these things you know most people fall off a diet

00:24:01.600 because they forget why they're they they they can't remind themselves enough of the delayed 0.96

00:24:07.360 gratification benefit and and instead they're like fuck that pizza looks great you know what i mean 0.99

00:24:12.880 and if you're able to think about you know hey uh i look pretty shitty naked i would really like to 1.00

00:24:19.200 look a lot better at the pool this summer every time a pizza was in front of your fucking face 0.99

00:24:23.340 you know if there was a way to remind you like maybe wear a bracelet or something that reminded you 0.99

00:24:27.600 like hey this is why you're doing that um it would be a lot easier to stick to it you know but but

00:24:33.440 but long-term goals are are extremely important to consistently remind yourself of the vision and the

00:24:39.980 path that you're on because if you're working hard every day and you should be you have to always

00:24:45.020 understand why you're doing those things otherwise you're definitely going to get burned out because 0.98

00:24:49.140 why the fuck would you want to work so hard when you don't even know why you're doing it 0.84

00:24:52.620 visualization is so huge i know that i read this great book called the little book of talent 0.98

00:24:57.460 and it talks about how all the great athletes spend hours and hours breaking down game film or or or

00:25:06.280 tape of previous athletes who have gone before them who were you know larger than life so tom brady's

00:25:12.020 constantly looking up at uh video of of the greats joe montana uh john elway same thing with all of

00:25:18.940 the great uh basketball players i know kobe bryant spent hours upon hours probably days

00:25:24.420 watching uh tape of of michael jordan you have to stare and and and behold what you want to become

00:25:32.820 and it's i think in the business sense and in the personal success sense if you're not every day

00:25:38.260 at least every day taking some time like what you're saying and envisioning something in your

00:25:44.920 imagination of what you're wanting to become what you're wanting to accomplish um you're not going

00:25:50.240 to get there but if you do it every day it's going to ingrain itself in your soul it's going

00:25:54.820 to ingrain itself in your brain yeah it's going to guide you yeah 100 and it's going to help you

00:25:59.280 avoid these times when you you feel like you know it's pointless right one thing to add to that i don't

00:26:05.360 think i think a lot of people fail with is like visualization because they're not specific enough

00:26:09.640 i agree 100 that's why whenever we talk about like visualizing um when we've covered in the past

00:26:16.600 you know you've got to really you know and there's books on this but on exactly how to visualize

00:26:21.980 you've got to learn to like try to see specific details like the finishes on handrails like the color

00:26:29.680 of a car the color of the interior of a car you know uh the faces in a crowd the the more detail that

00:26:36.980 you can that you that you could put into your vision i found the more effective it is actually 0.94

00:26:43.780 accomplishing it and and i've been able to accomplish literally every single fucking vision 0.96

00:26:48.360 that i've ever had up until you know obviously what i think about now but i don't have doubt that

00:26:54.220 it's not coming right i know it's coming right well i mean what you're saying is absolutely true

00:26:58.740 if you if you've uh ever read any of the books or seen any of the videos by these guys that are

00:27:03.120 absolute masters of memory you know they can memorize like thousands and thousands of pages

00:27:07.520 worth of information they say the same thing they say when you're trying to memorize something

00:27:11.660 you literally want to imagine like if you're if you're memorizing something that has to do with an

00:27:16.280 orange you want to visualize the orange you want to pretend you're tasting it because when your brain

00:27:20.600 engages your senses that way it literally beats paths into your neural pathway and and it it becomes

00:27:27.420 part of your brain and it just embeds itself in your brain so what you're saying is i mean it sounds

00:27:32.100 so goofy to people who have never really experienced its power right but if you do it you know it's

00:27:37.400 legit yep you know 100 100 100 um the another thing that i think that people need to think about too

00:27:45.900 and it goes back to what we talked about when feeling overwhelmed is that you know people

00:27:52.160 they're so hard on themselves and they're so they get so frustrated when things don't go exactly the

00:27:59.520 way that they want that they end up quitting or they end up changing course and you have to realize

00:28:05.560 that being in being successful whether it's inside of a company or as the head of a company

00:28:11.500 i'm going to tell you let me tell you the percentage of the time things are going to go the way you want 0.71

00:28:16.040 fucking zero okay so if you quit every time things go a different a slightly different way 0.85

00:28:23.040 you're never going to get anywhere entrepreneurship is not about having this perfect path it's not about 0.99

00:28:28.660 having this perfect uh execution it's about being it's about being on the front of the ship 0.99

00:28:35.660 and navigating through the fucking icebergs and seeing uh oh shit there we were going to go that way 0.98

00:28:40.860 but there's something there we got to make an adjustment and then oh we were going to make that 0.99

00:28:44.200 adjustment and that adjustment there's something there too so let's make another adjustment and

00:28:48.020 that is the life of an entrepreneur it's not this clean cut path like everybody thinks it is

00:28:53.060 it's consistently adjusting till you find what works and what works now isn't going to work 30 days from

00:28:58.720 now it's not going to work 60 days from now you're going to have to fucking constantly evolve 0.96

00:29:03.180 constantly change constantly learn new shit over the course of your entire life dude i have people 0.97

00:29:09.260 tell me i had somebody tell me recently once i get this business up and going you know i'm gonna i'm 0.63

00:29:14.020 gonna go do i'm gonna go do this and i'm like well then your business is gonna fail you know what i

00:29:19.740 mean like you've got to be present you've got to be able to see what's going on you don't it's not

00:29:24.380 just hey you get it up and going and it goes on autopilot you know it's the same for your career and

00:29:29.140 any anything you know you've got to constantly be evolving you've got to constantly be you know

00:29:34.660 changing direction and making adjustments and knowing what adjustments to make and that doesn't come

00:29:39.640 from being perfect you're never going to be fucking perfect you can chase perfection but you have to

00:29:46.860 understand that it will never happen all right chasing perfection is a great thing because it 0.95

00:29:52.120 creates it creates greatness okay it creates great results when you try to be the absolute perfect 0.98

00:29:59.060 version of yourself that you could be you might not be perfect but you're going to be pretty fucking 0.95

00:30:04.120 good okay so chasing perfection produces excellent results but you also have to understand that if you

00:30:11.900 get down on yourself because you don't achieve perfection you're going to be extremely unhappy

00:30:16.240 your entire life your entire career is going to feel like a waste you're going to always feel

00:30:20.640 overwhelmed you're going to always feel burned out you're going to always feel like you're not good

00:30:23.900 enough and that's not a good thing so have the power and drive of a locomotive but the versatility

00:30:28.780 of a dune buggy yeah pretty much yeah you know that's what you got to do you know you've got to be

00:30:33.540 willing to adjust and you've got to be willing to be running full speed as you adjust yeah that's

00:30:38.960 a great analogy thank you um so let me uh let me run through what you see if i can summarize what

00:30:45.060 you've said so far so you might be burnt out because you're losing hope and in that case remind

00:30:50.260 yourself to trust the work number two you might be burned out because you are overwhelmed that probably

00:30:55.960 means you aren't focusing on winning the day so focus on the day not tomorrow not down the road

00:31:01.320 uh number three was uh you might be burned out because you've lost some vision so take time to

00:31:06.280 visualize uh number four is you might be burned out because you're being perfectionistic and um i guess

00:31:13.840 you're saying you don't want to do anything wrong you want to do everything perfectly and never have to

00:31:18.860 adjust and that's never going to happen it's not reality right so anything else but if you watch

00:31:23.620 if you watch if you watch some of these dudes online they'll make it seem like it's reality for them 0.82

00:31:29.520 right and you know all that is that's their fucking massive ego not allowing them to be vulnerable 0.97

00:31:34.540 so that they can be actually more effective at helping people which is very selfish in my opinion 0.96

00:31:40.880 right right well those are those are all uh pretty reasonable reasons to burn out and and good answers

00:31:48.020 um i i know that you well the one thing so so i want to so i do have another point but i want to tell

00:31:54.400 a little bit of a story before i talk about it so um i actually this this last thing i want to talk

00:32:00.580 about was reminded of me this morning i got an email from a guy who follows me on instagram and uh he said

00:32:06.280 hey bro and i barely ever check dms by the way um i just happened to check my dms today and it said hey

00:32:15.100 bro i need some advice and i'm like all right well uh this dude i recognize this guy he comments on all my

00:32:21.220 shit he likes all my all my stuff all right you know i'll see what he needs i'm like yes and he uh 0.79

00:32:28.340 he writes back this long this long post and it says hey man uh i'm having a really hard time uh i'm 0.96

00:32:35.520 getting evicted out of my apartment um i've had two friends die in the last month uh you know i've given

00:32:41.760 most of my money to their funeral expenses i'm having a really really tough time seeing a light at the end

00:32:47.780 of the tunnel you know i don't know what to do i i feel totally out of control uh totally overwhelmed 0.84

00:32:53.860 and frustrated and and i feel like giving up and i take that shit serious you know what i'm saying um 0.92

00:32:59.960 you know i and he asked if i ever felt that way and i'm like well fuck yeah i felt that way i've been 0.98

00:33:04.200 clinically diagnosed with depression for nearly 20 fucking years so yeah it's a daily struggle for me 0.96

00:33:09.920 and so my last point is you know because i deal with this shit about burnout and frustration and all 0.98

00:33:17.200 this shit i gotta tell you guys the best thing that you can do to feel like that you you are regaining 0.88

00:33:23.740 control of your life is to take control of your health okay that's the one thing that you're absolutely 1.00

00:33:30.040 in control of no matter what you can make healthy choices on what you put in your mouth you can make

00:33:36.200 healthy choices about what you don't put in your mouth you can make healthy choices about your

00:33:40.380 exercise routines and so he asked me what he asked me what what he should do and i said all right well

00:33:46.700 start with this start eating right start exercising every day for at least an hour okay take control of

00:33:54.960 that i said go back and listen to episode 107 and start looking at the day don't look at the whole scope 0.90

00:34:00.680 of all the shit that you're you're you're telling me look at today everybody can win today everybody 0.95

00:34:06.700 can do what they need to do today not everybody can execute on the the 30-day plan or the five-year 0.99

00:34:15.060 plan or the 10-year plan today but you can win today and it's very simple and and getting in control

00:34:22.620 of your nutrition and your exercise routine guys that gives you a that that starts to build a sense

00:34:30.420 of control period so that you feel like you're in control of your life because everybody no matter 0.96

00:34:36.240 what the fuck your excuse is right now you are in control of what you consume and how active you are 0.99

00:34:41.720 no matter what i don't care if you're in a fucking wheelchair you can go do wheelchair sprints i don't care 1.00

00:34:49.180 you get everybody's in control of that shit and it's that it's valuable when we talk about burnout 0.99

00:34:55.660 because it's it's the thing that will spur the momentum for you to start to feel like you are in 0.99

00:35:03.140 control again because sometimes shit gets way out of line sometimes shit gets way way out of line 1.00

00:35:09.240 fuck dude 18 months ago i was 330 fucking pounds i was fat as fuck i was unhappy i was super depressed 1.00

00:35:16.340 i hated my life nobody knew that because i didn't fucking bitch about it i don't cry 1.00

00:35:20.320 but that's how i felt you know how i got shit back on track you know how i got shit my confidence 0.99

00:35:26.320 back you know how i got my sense of control back i started eating right and i started fucking 0.99

00:35:30.680 exercising period and if you're not doing that i don't care who you are you are going to have trouble

00:35:37.900 gaining control of your whole entire life it is the foundation and a lot of people give you this big 0.96

00:35:42.980 holistic your body is your temple blah blah blah blah and go hug a bunch of fucking trees but here's the 0.97

00:35:49.600 reality it's about mental control it's about discipline it's about cultivating belief in 1.00

00:35:55.640 yourself and all of us have the ability to create that when it comes to our diet and exercise

00:36:00.920 absolutely let me actually tack on one more point that i know and i'm giving people a little bit of a

00:36:07.700 tiny insight into one of the courses that you're developing um because i was just editing this point

00:36:14.360 which is here's another reason people burn out and that is that they get going things get hard 0.75

00:36:21.300 and little by little they start making little compromises ethically they start treating people like crap

00:36:26.920 and ultimately they end up having an uneasy conscience and that conscience weighs on them

00:36:32.640 because they're not good people and they're not doing what's right dude that's a huge deal because

00:36:38.260 you're you're always going to be your own your own enemy and you're all and and unless you're like a

00:36:43.300 total like head case um narcissist type personality you're gonna you're gonna feel bad about things

00:36:51.360 that you do that aren't right i i just had this conversation with my whole company last night

00:36:55.280 you know developing discipline developing integrity uh in your and belief in your own integrity is

00:37:02.020 extremely important because of what you just said it allows you to feel good about yourself

00:37:08.920 and takes a tremendous burden off of what you would normally feel guilty about you know if you're able

00:37:14.440 to look at yourself in the mirror and say dude i'm genuinely a good dude i do what i can i don't

00:37:18.520 bullshit people i do the right thing i wipe the piss off the toilet seat i put the shopping carts back 0.99

00:37:23.620 in the corral guess what you're gonna feel a sense of confidence about yourself and a sense of pride 0.99

00:37:28.600 that you are a good human and that's extremely powerful when it comes to you know morally feeling

00:37:35.240 good a and b avoiding the quote-unquote burnout absolutely i mean it's like you just said unless

00:37:42.520 you're a sociopath sociopaths are a little bit different but the vast majority of us the studies

00:37:47.280 are absolutely conclusive that you can try to suppress guilt but it will come out in the form of brain 0.79

00:37:53.240 fog it will come out in the form of fatigue it will come out in the form of all sorts of

00:37:58.080 psychosomatic anxiety right and guess what you cannot you cannot perform to peak level

00:38:04.520 in business or anything in life dealing with any of those you've got to always do you've always got

00:38:08.800 to do what you think is right and sometimes you're going to do things that are wrong with good

00:38:14.520 intentions and you've got to go fix those things too you got to go make them right so what so what

00:38:19.260 it seems like you saying i mean at least this is what you're saying in the in the thing i was editing

00:38:22.740 was so maybe the cure for burnout is just to apologize to somebody dude or to make something right look

00:38:27.720 look when you're holding a grudge when you're upset when you've done something wrong and and even if

00:38:34.900 the other person doesn't think that you know it's a big deal it's tremendously helpful for you to say

00:38:40.180 hey man i'm sorry bro i was wrong in that i should have done this yeah it lets you it's it's you letting

00:38:46.360 yourself off the hook it's you unburdening yourself you know and that's a big problem because i don't i think

00:38:53.220 a lot of people let their pride get in their way when it comes to apologizing or taking responsibility 0.54

00:38:59.480 when in reality it's no big deal man we're all fucking human like we all make mistakes let yourself 0.97

00:39:05.440 off the hook and say hey you know what i fucked up because not only is it going to remove the burden 0.97

00:39:10.080 from you it's going to create a sense of respect amongst the people that you're talking to as you're 0.94

00:39:14.800 a good fucking dude for doing the right thing right it's amazing i i would hope that not too many 0.81

00:39:20.300 people think this but there might be a couple people in the uh the listenership who think 0.97

00:39:24.320 why are you guys getting into that whole morality thing why you got to be the morality because it's

00:39:28.480 important and because it's good for business not only that it's it's yeah exactly you know it's 0.67

00:39:34.060 fucking important and it's important financially right like dude you're gonna make a lot more

00:39:39.320 fucking money right but people have a hard time getting that man a hard time they try to pretend 0.98

00:39:44.340 they try to pretend they're moral or pretend they do the right thing it's not the same as doing the 0.98

00:39:49.060 right thing right you know what i mean so uh yeah it would sound like we got people got a bonus point

00:39:55.640 yeah yeah that was a good one i like that well thank you yeah so guys uh with that being said

00:40:01.160 the contest just one more time testimonial contest one minute video youtube link email two testimonials

00:40:10.240 at the mfceo project.com nope just the mfceo.com don't they both go the same place

00:40:16.480 probably not they do anyway okay the mfceo.com yeah all right testimonials at the mfceo.com

00:40:26.140 all right we'll just make that uh we'll agree there that's that's the email address one minute video

00:40:31.660 not five minutes not seven minutes part of of this is following directions if you don't follow 0.50

00:40:37.560 directions you make a seven minute video just what you're not gonna fucking win right all right 0.94

00:40:42.320 you've got part of being this is this is this is you getting creative like when i got my 4gt

00:40:49.740 they asked for a one minute video and dudes were making seven minute videos and 10 minute videos 0.99

00:40:55.680 and all this shit and none of those motherfuckers got cars and then they're pissed because they feel 1.00

00:41:00.700 like oh i did all this extra shit well you know what you didn't do you didn't follow fucking 1.00

00:41:04.140 directions because part of the one minute video concept was to get fucking creative and show what 0.99

00:41:10.680 you know what you could do in one minute this is the same thing i want to hear you i want to hear 0.83

00:41:17.140 you and see you and feel the progress you made in one minute not 10 minutes of going on and on and on

00:41:23.460 all right though we're going to pick some people we're going to fly them out here they're going to

00:41:27.920 win a vip experience we're going to do some fun shit we're going to have them on the podcast 0.74

00:41:31.240 we're going to put them up in the top of the line accommodations like we always do and uh it's going

00:41:36.540 to be a good time so guys with that being said thank you so much for all your support thank you

00:41:42.200 so much for all the reviews you guys post that is tremendously helpful if you guys are finding value 0.98

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00:42:05.620 we'll talk to you on thursday

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 03, 2017

How to Beat Burnout, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO178

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