REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 03, 2017


How to Beat Burnout, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO178


Episode Stats

Length

42 minutes

Words per Minute

200.28021

Word Count

8,434

Sentence Count

7

Misogynist Sentences

1

Hate Speech Sentences

65


Summary

How to deal with burnout and what to do when you feel like you're getting tired and not feeling like doing what you want to do. In this episode of the MFCEOPROJECT, we talk about the concept of burnout, why it happens, and what you can do about it.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
00:00:13.660 motherfucking ceo today is tuesday that means a normal tuesday podcast we've got the whole crew
00:00:19.580 here which we haven't had in a few weeks before we get into that and we have some good stuff to
00:00:24.620 talk about i want to do some housekeeping on thursday if you listen you know that we are
00:00:29.420 going to do a contest to celebrate our upcoming 200th episode i am going to fly some people out
00:00:36.880 here they're going to sit here for the 200th episode they're going to be on the episode we're
00:00:41.220 going to spend the day together we're going to go out to eat i'm going to put you up in the nicest
00:00:44.120 hotel in st louis which is the four seasons and we're going to have a good time now to qualify
00:00:49.360 for that trip we are going to do a testimonial contest all right and what i want you to do
00:00:56.700 is i want you to tell us how the information that you have received from listening to this podcast
00:01:03.920 has helped you improve whether it be business whether it be your life tell us about the progress
00:01:09.880 you're seeing tell us about the different ways that you've started to see life tell us about the
00:01:14.820 different methods you've started to use and tell us about the results you're getting and i want you to
00:01:19.380 do that in one minute not two minutes not three minutes not one minute three seconds one minute
00:01:24.980 and i want you to upload it to youtube send the link to testimonials at the mfceoproject.com
00:01:32.640 that's a one minute video with a youtube link to testimonials at the mfceoproject.com all right
00:01:41.100 we're going to watch the videos we're going to pick some people to come out here we're going to have a
00:01:46.140 great time that's the contest all right so start doing that immediately um i'm sure we're going to
00:01:53.160 have a lot of videos to go through so guys if you could get them in sooner than later that would
00:01:57.800 be appreciated so that we have time to actually watch all these videos um with that being said
00:02:03.060 that's housekeeping today is tuesday and we do have a normal podcast and i am joined by my co-host
00:02:10.580 dj dj god what's up my man well it's october and we're getting closer to halloween so i really want
00:02:17.540 you to call me von helsing von helsing it would go with the impaler theme okay von helsing the
00:02:23.080 impaler the impaler all right we'll just mix two together vampire killer yeah right yeah why are
00:02:28.660 you wearing uh quotation marks on your chest that's three commas man that stands for a billion
00:02:33.000 dollars because there's three commas in a billion see i'm not a billionaire it's actually mark cuban's
00:02:37.380 mark cuban's brand oh that's nice his apparel brand nice so i like it uh so yeah i like it too
00:02:43.580 yeah and i'm gonna start making everybody in the whole company wear a three comma shirt like every
00:02:48.180 one like every friday because it's like the day that everybody starts to slack off and i want them
00:02:53.280 to be reminded of what the fuck we're trying to do here right you know what i mean is cuban an
00:02:57.160 actual billionaire oh yeah okay like multi-billionaire yeah yeah yeah okay yeah so he's uh he's he's
00:03:03.580 doing okay yeah yeah yeah so today we are going to talk about a a super important concept and one
00:03:12.080 that we get a lot of questions and comments about which is how to avoid burnout and what to do when
00:03:18.900 you're feeling burnt out okay you're going to see people in the entrepreneur world that always pretend
00:03:24.380 like they have all this energy all this momentum and they make it seem like they're always on and
00:03:30.700 blah blah blah blah blah and what you don't see is the shit behind the scenes you don't see the times
00:03:36.120 when they're burnt out you don't see the times when they're frustrated you don't see the times when
00:03:40.540 they don't feel like doing shit and so what that does is that creates a situation where when you
00:03:46.160 feel burnt out when you feel frustrated when you feel angry when you feel tired and not feeling like
00:03:51.460 doing what you want to do you feel like there's something wrong with you and i'm telling you guys
00:03:56.720 right now there is nothing wrong with feeling burnt out that is a natural part of the process now i can
00:04:03.300 tell you from employing a lot of people over the course of my career that a lot of people have
00:04:09.160 trouble coming back from burnout they get burnt out and they don't know what to do to rekindle that
00:04:15.200 fire and if you want to be successful whether that be working inside of a company or owning a company
00:04:20.520 you are going to have to understand and learn how to deal with burnout you're going to have to
00:04:28.020 understand how to rekindle that fire and how to work through that because dude being burnt out
00:04:33.120 is just part of the process it's something that you are going to go through multiple times
00:04:38.980 probably multiple times a year okay and you've got to learn what to do to get you back on track
00:04:44.140 so that's what i want to tackle today i want to tackle you know something that most people like they
00:04:49.660 get this feeling in their head like oh my god i don't have it anymore i just don't have this passion
00:04:54.200 and then they quit and they go and find something else and they do that process over and over and
00:05:00.160 over again and it keeps them from getting anywhere they want to go so if you're in it for the long
00:05:03.980 haul if you're going to find real success in anything that you do you have to know how to
00:05:08.680 deal with being burned out yeah so what's the number one culprit culprit in your mind well
00:05:14.080 obviously you know anytime that you're being on a path to being successful you're doing repetitive
00:05:22.000 things you're doing things over and over and over and over again and i think that most people when
00:05:29.360 they do repetitive things they can only do those things so many times before they start to feel
00:05:33.840 frustrated and they start to feel burned out because time as fast as it moves when you're in a hurry
00:05:40.420 to get somewhere it moves really fucking slow and so understanding that first of all you know the
00:05:45.700 concept that we've talked about multiple times aggressive patience and go back to listen to the
00:05:50.680 podcast that we did on aggressive patience you guys have to understand that is a very real concept
00:05:55.900 and that'd be the first thing that you need to do is just understand that concept and i'm not going
00:05:59.840 to get into it other than saying you've got to be patient but also during that time you've got to be
00:06:05.680 doing every little thing that you possibly can to get where you want to be we've done a whole episode
00:06:09.820 on this go back and listen to it but if you understand the concept of aggressive patience i think most people
00:06:17.540 start to get burned out because of the repetitive nature things aren't happening fast enough you're not
00:06:22.880 seeing progress that you want to see you're not where you are financially you're not where you are
00:06:27.160 where you want to be physically all right and what happens is you get burned out because you start to lose
00:06:33.020 hope all right i would think of patience as delayed hope like you're you're basically saying i know this
00:06:40.420 is going to work i'm trusting it's going to work eventually and then maybe when you get burned out
00:06:45.260 you start losing hope you start you start not trusting the things that you originally believed in
00:06:50.100 well the problem for the reason most people have this problem is because they haven't ever seen any
00:06:54.520 success when you talk to a seasoned entrepreneur someone who's made a decent amount of money who's
00:06:59.700 started a project seen it through sold a project or started a project seen it through had it become
00:07:04.960 successful enough if you do that enough times and you become seasoned you you don't ever really lose
00:07:11.360 hope because you understand that you the work is going to get you where you want to go you trust the
00:07:18.340 process you trust the work and so when you're inexperienced and you're young in entrepreneur
00:07:23.780 years you have to put a lot of faith into the process of working you know like dude i can remember
00:07:30.800 when i was a young guy and i was running a business and i would always think and i would think like this
00:07:35.540 man i wonder if i'm going to be one of those guys you know that's successful i wonder if i'm going to
00:07:39.560 be one of those guys that you know gets granted the wish of being a millionaire i wonder if this and
00:07:44.940 that and i spent so much time worrying because i didn't know and i hadn't been there and i haven't
00:07:50.880 been through the process and that took away a lot of energy that's a lot of negative energy that could
00:07:55.460 have been spent on productive shit that would have helped me get where i am a lot quicker you see what
00:08:00.420 i'm saying so i think people you know when they when they haven't really accomplished too much
00:08:06.060 you know there's a lot of faith and a lot of trust that you have to put in the work but if you talk to
00:08:11.080 a seasoned entrepreneur they will always tell you dude if you do the shit every single day like we
00:08:15.760 talk about in podcast 107 if you win the day you win the day and if you win three or four days you
00:08:22.120 win you win a week and if you win a week you know you're on road to creating uh you know the habit of
00:08:28.600 winning a month and if you win a couple months in a row now winning has become who the fuck you are
00:08:33.300 so when you create a habit of winning and you instill that character trait in you the work and the
00:08:39.300 results are going to be automatic but that is hard for somebody to understand and put faith in
00:08:43.960 that has never been there right so trying to define faith i think of it as as you know
00:08:49.820 basically rely whatever you consider reliable and it sounds like what you're saying is
00:08:55.620 is that at some point people go into burnout because they they've always relied on the work
00:09:00.580 they've they've taken control of the things they can they can control but then over time they start
00:09:05.300 thinking well maybe it's not going to work maybe it's not going to work and then they start
00:09:08.260 thinking well what about all these other factors that are going to do not only that they start
00:09:11.920 looking at other opportunities yeah and when they start looking at other opportunities their focus
00:09:16.740 on what they're doing is less so they start to produce less and then they start to lose belief
00:09:23.400 in the path they're on and they start to look at another opportunity and then they jump they make
00:09:28.120 that jump right dude i've seen this so many times with guys that work in our company they do well
00:09:33.240 for two or three years and they're young so they're impatient and they think two or three years
00:09:38.260 is 30 years you see what i'm saying and then they they they're like well i'm not where i want to be
00:09:44.340 i'm not this i'm not that i'm not making a million dollars a year there's something wrong no there's
00:09:50.500 nothing wrong man you're just going through a burnout phase and you need to learn how to rekindle it
00:09:55.940 so you have to remind yourself that the work when you started is what got you to this point and also
00:10:02.880 having that same faith in the work now is going to get you to that next point you just got to fight
00:10:07.720 through that feeling because if you always switch opportunities when things start to feel like
00:10:13.240 they're not worth it or you're losing hope or you're losing drive or you're losing momentum
00:10:16.800 and you just switch to something new you have to realize you're starting over from scratch now
00:10:21.620 so that fucking three years that you put in is now zero is now zero so now you've got to go
00:10:26.740 through that whole process again and then once you get into three years there you start to get burned
00:10:30.920 out it's a fucking deadly habit you understand what i'm saying absolutely as you're talking i'm
00:10:35.380 thinking of that great quote i think it was uh thomas edison where he says the real the real
00:10:40.040 tragedy is that most people failed like just just before everything's going to start to succeed dude and
00:10:46.220 most people make a habit out of slitting their own throats at the time of right before it happens
00:10:50.580 and then having to go back to fucking being born again you know what i mean and that it's a it's
00:10:56.560 extremely extremely common thing that people do and it's easy to overcome if you understand that
00:11:03.740 burnout is going to happen and how to overcome it you see what i mean because i think a lot of people
00:11:08.680 they think it's they don't think it's natural because a lot of these entrepreneur fuck faces out
00:11:13.200 there make it seem like they're always on and they've got all this energy and they want to they they're
00:11:17.960 so proud of their own ego they want to pretend like they've got something that these other people
00:11:22.480 don't and the reality is they don't have anything that you don't have they're just not showing you
00:11:27.260 that they get fucking burnt out too and i'm gonna tell you right now i'm as driven as any one of those
00:11:32.840 motherfuckers and i get burned out all the fucking time i just know how to deal with it right so i'm
00:11:37.120 not afraid to tell you guys that so when that happens do you consciously just say i have to
00:11:41.120 recommit to my belief in the work well i think it's important absolutely yeah absolutely but i
00:11:47.660 think it's also important that we understand why burnout happens and i think you know what it
00:11:54.720 happened the reason it happens for most people is because they they stop focusing on winning today
00:12:00.700 they stop focusing on trying to create momentum by handling their five critical tasks on a daily basis
00:12:07.220 and instead they start looking at how far they have to go or how much shit they have to do or how
00:12:14.180 long it's going to take and that creates a feeling of over of being overwhelmed to where they feel like
00:12:20.160 pressure that really isn't even there right like let's be real what the fuck are you in a hurry for
00:12:26.140 what are you in a hurry for you know what i mean like dude life as short as it is sometimes it's long
00:12:33.020 too and i could tell you from experience that that old saying it's not about the destination it's about
00:12:39.140 the journey it's true like dude and i've had to teach myself that you know i've had to learn to focus
00:12:46.240 on today focus on enjoying the conversations i have today focus on being grateful for the things i have
00:12:53.400 today the friendships the relationships the employees the business where the business is today being
00:12:59.620 grateful for those things because when you start looking at where you are and see it as how far away
00:13:05.760 you are from where you want to be that's going to create burnout all right because if you if you
00:13:10.800 continuously focus on that you can never appreciate what you have if you never appreciate what you have
00:13:15.560 you're never going to be happy go ahead i think it's not only about appreciating it but obviously there
00:13:22.040 should be a given but the learning process too that you have to go through like let's take a company
00:13:26.480 or let's take someone who just started a company today and we said hey you're gonna literally have
00:13:31.000 overnight success and then you know their company's successful the next day but dude how fast would
00:13:36.380 they fucking end up losing that business every every time right away we've seen it a million times i could
00:13:40.360 name 10 companies in our fucking business and you could too because we talked about it then had quick
00:13:45.740 success and lost it just as quick because you have to realize that the journey is where the value is
00:13:50.320 the reason i'm able to sit here and have a podcast that gets a million and a half downloads a month
00:13:55.400 off of business knowledge is not because i became overnight successful it's because i learned every
00:13:59.760 motherfucking lesson the hard way and i'm able to communicate to you and hopefully save you some time
00:14:03.720 all right so obviously you and i have been talking through all of the details of your entrepreneur
00:14:09.180 academy and we've just literally been taking apart the whole craft of running a business piece by piece
00:14:14.920 right and it's enormous like there's so many different moving parts i'm so excited about it i am too but
00:14:21.020 but have you ever wondered i mean i just thinking about this there are so many aspects to running a
00:14:28.000 successful business why are people tempted to to look at all of them at once instead of dividing them
00:14:34.980 down and into the critical class why do you think that's the case i think they're fed that i think that
00:14:39.620 the the entrepreneurial experts and i'm holding up my fingers in quotes right now experts feed feed feed
00:14:47.020 dude people are really good at razzle dazzle let's be real like what we see online what we see on
00:14:52.720 instagram what we see on youtube there's a lot of fucking razzle dazzle there especially when we talk
00:14:57.100 about what we're talking about right now of not being burnt out and always being on and always having
00:15:01.280 this crazy amount of energy you realize you're seeing a fucking minimal highlight reel somebody else's
00:15:07.940 game they're they're showing you what they want to show you and because of that they they're able to
00:15:14.340 make themselves seem a certain way that they aren't really in real life you know what i'm saying
00:15:20.480 absolutely so when people are fed this message okay first of all they don't believe they start to
00:15:25.620 believe that they don't have what it takes and second of all they're getting sold usually by people like
00:15:32.100 this some sort of course or some sort of shit that is like how to start your own fucking business
00:15:37.560 or it's very general in nature and if you research a lot of these guys none of them have literally
00:15:44.300 started a business from scratch not fucking one somebody might have walked into a business at three
00:15:49.820 or four million dollars and then grown it into something another guy might make millions of dollars
00:15:54.080 by selling you programs on how to run a business but how many of those motherfuckers even started
00:15:58.680 from ground zero and built something okay it's all about the show to a lot of these guys and they're not
00:16:05.520 telling people the reality so when we talk about you know teaching people how to become successful
00:16:12.180 in business i mean there's literally literally dozens and dozens of of super crucial points
00:16:19.440 that need to be addressed and it can't be surmised in some fucking three-hour business course it just
00:16:25.940 can't there's just more than that right and something else you and i've been talking about that i think
00:16:29.820 plays into this is the part of the razzle dazzle is using all the cliches in the most meaningless way
00:16:36.720 possible and not getting people to think about what they mean so you always hear the so-called
00:16:41.300 gurus saying stuff like you know you gotta have big picture thinking and i think they lead people
00:16:45.220 into believing that you have to think of everything at once they don't ever unpack how to utilize the
00:16:51.900 tools right you know why they don't do that because they don't even fucking right because they're
00:16:55.720 selling they're selling buzzwords they're not selling rich fertile content that can actually
00:17:01.400 take somebody from zero to fucking wherever they want to be right another cliche that we hear all
00:17:06.120 the time is is it's not it's actually it's not a cliche it's just very misunderstood it's pay attention
00:17:11.880 to the details and until i actually met you and got involved in this whole enterprise i heard that but
00:17:17.160 the way that that was presented was pay attention to every detail all at once whereas the whole concept
00:17:23.900 of the powerless is that's right you take little details a little at a time so what you're saying
00:17:27.900 dude is exactly what i'm saying in in this point the reason people get overwhelmed the reason people
00:17:33.640 get crazy the reason we get like we feel like the whole world's coming in on us is because we start
00:17:39.400 to look at all the fucking details we look at everything as if it needs to be solved right now today
00:17:46.460 and that's not how business works business is cumulative effort it's compounding interest so to speak
00:17:52.140 it's what you do today what you do again tomorrow and what you do the next day over the course of
00:17:58.260 years okay and if you just take if you just take the time and to understand what we talk about in
00:18:04.960 episode 107 uh uh win the day yeah win the day thank you um if you understand the power list i teach you
00:18:13.920 how to win every single day and i can promise you if you adopt that mentality if you adopt that mentality
00:18:20.460 and start to execute on just five tasks i'm not talking about 55 because 55 is how you end up burnt
00:18:26.540 out 55 is how you how you start to believe that you can't accomplish things because you never get
00:18:32.160 your fucking list done there's something very powerful about crossing off five fucking things
00:18:37.940 you do and saying dude i won it's very fucking powerful okay and if if you if you do it the way i
00:18:44.920 i just had this meeting last night with my guys if you do things the way i tell you it will work if
00:18:50.640 you modify it and try to create some other bullshit i can't guarantee you anything if you do things the
00:18:56.340 way i tell you if you do the power list exactly the way i tell you you will create massive amounts of
00:19:02.600 momentum you will avoid burnout for the most part because you will always feel like you're winning
00:19:07.140 the problem is is that you cannot feel like you're winning when you look when i if i were to sit here
00:19:12.820 and say all right we're doing 160 million dollars and and say i want to get to two billion dollars and
00:19:21.740 i start thinking about all the things that need to happen for us to get to two billion dollars and i
00:19:26.760 start getting getting in a you know an anxiety fueled like rush how am i gonna feel i'm gonna feel
00:19:34.980 overwhelmed i'm gonna feel hopeless i'm gonna feel like the world is fucking squeezing my head but if i just
00:19:41.440 focus on the five things today that are going to move forward today what i could the five phone
00:19:46.140 calls i make or the five emails i got to do or the the two emails and the workout and this and that
00:19:50.620 and i can go home at night and say man i fucking won right dude now you're creating belief in yourself
00:19:55.720 you're creating confidence in yourself you're creating momentum that you wouldn't otherwise have
00:20:00.520 and you're avoiding what we call burnout okay so it's very very important to focus on today's tasks
00:20:08.380 not just like what you said they're going to think big picture there's a time for thinking big picture
00:20:14.100 absolutely we talk about that a lot but when you're talking about executing you don't execute on the
00:20:20.080 big picture you execute on the small picture which is today yeah absolutely add another layer to this
00:20:26.220 is that just that whole feeling of hopelessness just to drive home the point that actually makes total
00:20:31.980 sense that somebody would feel hopeless because you literally cannot solve tomorrow's problems today
00:20:37.620 you cannot deal with with detail number 50 until you've dealt with detail number one through 49
00:20:43.440 so people literally are putting themselves into a position of complete futility so it makes sense
00:20:49.380 that they would feel hopeless it makes sense that they would right they would be completely detected
00:20:53.420 right and most people most people can only see what they don't have they can only see
00:20:57.660 how far they have to go how much they have to do what's left to do even i get caught up in this
00:21:03.160 and you have to just focus on winning the day and eventually you'll find yourself in a place where you're
00:21:07.500 like man i made a lot of progress right there yeah you know i'm getting closer and you start to believe
00:21:13.360 so you know avoid being overwhelmed by focusing on today um you know i think another thing that keeps
00:21:21.360 people uh that keeps people getting burned out over and over again is that they're not taking the time
00:21:28.720 to remind themselves why they're doing something in fact um you know that's we talk about visualization a
00:21:37.140 lot in some of the earlier podcasts and how important it is um and you can reference that in the notes for
00:21:42.500 the podcast yeah but if you're not specifically taking time to remind yourself why you're doing what
00:21:49.700 you're doing you're eventually going to feel burnt out because you're like well what the fuck is the
00:21:54.320 point of this why am i busting my ass every day why am i working so hard why am i doing this and that's
00:21:59.960 why it's important to a surround yourself with reminders of what your goals are i personally use
00:22:06.400 a vision board that has pictures of all the shit that i want to do pictures that represent not only the
00:22:11.860 material things but also the kind of life i want to live all right also i practice visualization in the
00:22:19.320 morning and in the evening okay i also practice gratitude exercises and we talk about those in
00:22:26.340 detail in other podcasts which you can know but what but i'll just summarize them you know real quick
00:22:30.780 i've learned to condition myself when i'm brushing my teeth in the morning to think about all the
00:22:36.160 things that i'm grateful for so anytime i start put toothpaste on the brush i start to think about
00:22:40.700 what i'm grateful for and as i'm brushing my teeth for that couple minutes you know i'm thinking about
00:22:45.220 like all the great shit that i have in my life and dude try to feel thankful and also feel burnt out
00:22:50.180 it's impossible you cannot feel the two things at the same time so a great way to avoid burnout is to
00:22:55.700 remind yourself on a habitual basis of what you're thankful for in your life all right and the other
00:23:01.520 thing i do is i make sure that i take a few minutes to look at my vision board in the morning
00:23:05.800 and then i take the minutes the minutes directly before i go to sleep okay so while i'm laying in
00:23:12.780 bed with my eyes closed i think about all the things that i'm going to accomplish i think about
00:23:17.680 i don't think about how i'm going to accomplish it i think about the end result i think about what my
00:23:22.940 life will look like i imagine what my house will look like what my garage will look like because that's
00:23:27.640 important to me uh what my lifestyle will look like uh and and i look at it in detail i try to see it as
00:23:34.160 as close to in as much detail as i could possibly uh see it in and you got to note this in the notes
00:23:42.120 so that people can go listen but that's the summary you know i make habits of doing things that will
00:23:49.060 automatically squash that feeling of being burnt out and actually instead get me excited and rekindle
00:23:55.760 the vision so that i'm reminded of why i'm doing these things you know most people fall off a diet
00:24:01.600 because they forget why they're they they they can't remind themselves enough of the delayed
00:24:07.360 gratification benefit and and instead they're like fuck that pizza looks great you know what i mean
00:24:12.880 and if you're able to think about you know hey uh i look pretty shitty naked i would really like to
00:24:19.200 look a lot better at the pool this summer every time a pizza was in front of your fucking face
00:24:23.340 you know if there was a way to remind you like maybe wear a bracelet or something that reminded you
00:24:27.600 like hey this is why you're doing that um it would be a lot easier to stick to it you know but but
00:24:33.440 but long-term goals are are extremely important to consistently remind yourself of the vision and the
00:24:39.980 path that you're on because if you're working hard every day and you should be you have to always
00:24:45.020 understand why you're doing those things otherwise you're definitely going to get burned out because
00:24:49.140 why the fuck would you want to work so hard when you don't even know why you're doing it
00:24:52.620 visualization is so huge i know that i read this great book called the little book of talent
00:24:57.460 and it talks about how all the great athletes spend hours and hours breaking down game film or or or
00:25:06.280 tape of previous athletes who have gone before them who were you know larger than life so tom brady's
00:25:12.020 constantly looking up at uh video of of the greats joe montana uh john elway same thing with all of
00:25:18.940 the great uh basketball players i know kobe bryant spent hours upon hours probably days
00:25:24.420 watching uh tape of of michael jordan you have to stare and and and behold what you want to become
00:25:32.820 and it's i think in the business sense and in the personal success sense if you're not every day
00:25:38.260 at least every day taking some time like what you're saying and envisioning something in your
00:25:44.920 imagination of what you're wanting to become what you're wanting to accomplish um you're not going
00:25:50.240 to get there but if you do it every day it's going to ingrain itself in your soul it's going
00:25:54.820 to ingrain itself in your brain yeah it's going to guide you yeah 100 and it's going to help you
00:25:59.280 avoid these times when you you feel like you know it's pointless right one thing to add to that i don't
00:26:05.360 think i think a lot of people fail with is like visualization because they're not specific enough
00:26:09.640 i agree 100 that's why whenever we talk about like visualizing um when we've covered in the past
00:26:16.600 you know you've got to really you know and there's books on this but on exactly how to visualize
00:26:21.980 you've got to learn to like try to see specific details like the finishes on handrails like the color
00:26:29.680 of a car the color of the interior of a car you know uh the faces in a crowd the the more detail that
00:26:36.980 you can that you that you could put into your vision i found the more effective it is actually
00:26:43.780 accomplishing it and and i've been able to accomplish literally every single fucking vision
00:26:48.360 that i've ever had up until you know obviously what i think about now but i don't have doubt that
00:26:54.220 it's not coming right i know it's coming right well i mean what you're saying is absolutely true
00:26:58.740 if you if you've uh ever read any of the books or seen any of the videos by these guys that are
00:27:03.120 absolute masters of memory you know they can memorize like thousands and thousands of pages
00:27:07.520 worth of information they say the same thing they say when you're trying to memorize something
00:27:11.660 you literally want to imagine like if you're if you're memorizing something that has to do with an
00:27:16.280 orange you want to visualize the orange you want to pretend you're tasting it because when your brain
00:27:20.600 engages your senses that way it literally beats paths into your neural pathway and and it it becomes
00:27:27.420 part of your brain and it just embeds itself in your brain so what you're saying is i mean it sounds
00:27:32.100 so goofy to people who have never really experienced its power right but if you do it you know it's
00:27:37.400 legit yep you know 100 100 100 um the another thing that i think that people need to think about too
00:27:45.900 and it goes back to what we talked about when feeling overwhelmed is that you know people
00:27:52.160 they're so hard on themselves and they're so they get so frustrated when things don't go exactly the
00:27:59.520 way that they want that they end up quitting or they end up changing course and you have to realize
00:28:05.560 that being in being successful whether it's inside of a company or as the head of a company
00:28:11.500 i'm going to tell you let me tell you the percentage of the time things are going to go the way you want
00:28:16.040 fucking zero okay so if you quit every time things go a different a slightly different way
00:28:23.040 you're never going to get anywhere entrepreneurship is not about having this perfect path it's not about
00:28:28.660 having this perfect uh execution it's about being it's about being on the front of the ship
00:28:35.660 and navigating through the fucking icebergs and seeing uh oh shit there we were going to go that way
00:28:40.860 but there's something there we got to make an adjustment and then oh we were going to make that
00:28:44.200 adjustment and that adjustment there's something there too so let's make another adjustment and
00:28:48.020 that is the life of an entrepreneur it's not this clean cut path like everybody thinks it is
00:28:53.060 it's consistently adjusting till you find what works and what works now isn't going to work 30 days from
00:28:58.720 now it's not going to work 60 days from now you're going to have to fucking constantly evolve
00:29:03.180 constantly change constantly learn new shit over the course of your entire life dude i have people
00:29:09.260 tell me i had somebody tell me recently once i get this business up and going you know i'm gonna i'm
00:29:14.020 gonna go do i'm gonna go do this and i'm like well then your business is gonna fail you know what i
00:29:19.740 mean like you've got to be present you've got to be able to see what's going on you don't it's not
00:29:24.380 just hey you get it up and going and it goes on autopilot you know it's the same for your career and
00:29:29.140 any anything you know you've got to constantly be evolving you've got to constantly be you know
00:29:34.660 changing direction and making adjustments and knowing what adjustments to make and that doesn't come
00:29:39.640 from being perfect you're never going to be fucking perfect you can chase perfection but you have to
00:29:46.860 understand that it will never happen all right chasing perfection is a great thing because it
00:29:52.120 creates it creates greatness okay it creates great results when you try to be the absolute perfect
00:29:59.060 version of yourself that you could be you might not be perfect but you're going to be pretty fucking
00:30:04.120 good okay so chasing perfection produces excellent results but you also have to understand that if you
00:30:11.900 get down on yourself because you don't achieve perfection you're going to be extremely unhappy
00:30:16.240 your entire life your entire career is going to feel like a waste you're going to always feel
00:30:20.640 overwhelmed you're going to always feel burned out you're going to always feel like you're not good
00:30:23.900 enough and that's not a good thing so have the power and drive of a locomotive but the versatility
00:30:28.780 of a dune buggy yeah pretty much yeah you know that's what you got to do you know you've got to be
00:30:33.540 willing to adjust and you've got to be willing to be running full speed as you adjust yeah that's
00:30:38.960 a great analogy thank you um so let me uh let me run through what you see if i can summarize what
00:30:45.060 you've said so far so you might be burnt out because you're losing hope and in that case remind
00:30:50.260 yourself to trust the work number two you might be burned out because you are overwhelmed that probably
00:30:55.960 means you aren't focusing on winning the day so focus on the day not tomorrow not down the road
00:31:01.320 uh number three was uh you might be burned out because you've lost some vision so take time to
00:31:06.280 visualize uh number four is you might be burned out because you're being perfectionistic and um i guess
00:31:13.840 you're saying you don't want to do anything wrong you want to do everything perfectly and never have to
00:31:18.860 adjust and that's never going to happen it's not reality right so anything else but if you watch
00:31:23.620 if you watch if you watch some of these dudes online they'll make it seem like it's reality for them
00:31:29.520 right and you know all that is that's their fucking massive ego not allowing them to be vulnerable
00:31:34.540 so that they can be actually more effective at helping people which is very selfish in my opinion
00:31:40.880 right right well those are those are all uh pretty reasonable reasons to burn out and and good answers
00:31:48.020 um i i know that you well the one thing so so i want to so i do have another point but i want to tell
00:31:54.400 a little bit of a story before i talk about it so um i actually this this last thing i want to talk
00:32:00.580 about was reminded of me this morning i got an email from a guy who follows me on instagram and uh he said
00:32:06.280 hey bro and i barely ever check dms by the way um i just happened to check my dms today and it said hey
00:32:15.100 bro i need some advice and i'm like all right well uh this dude i recognize this guy he comments on all my
00:32:21.220 shit he likes all my all my stuff all right you know i'll see what he needs i'm like yes and he uh
00:32:28.340 he writes back this long this long post and it says hey man uh i'm having a really hard time uh i'm
00:32:35.520 getting evicted out of my apartment um i've had two friends die in the last month uh you know i've given
00:32:41.760 most of my money to their funeral expenses i'm having a really really tough time seeing a light at the end
00:32:47.780 of the tunnel you know i don't know what to do i i feel totally out of control uh totally overwhelmed
00:32:53.860 and frustrated and and i feel like giving up and i take that shit serious you know what i'm saying um
00:32:59.960 you know i and he asked if i ever felt that way and i'm like well fuck yeah i felt that way i've been
00:33:04.200 clinically diagnosed with depression for nearly 20 fucking years so yeah it's a daily struggle for me
00:33:09.920 and so my last point is you know because i deal with this shit about burnout and frustration and all
00:33:17.200 this shit i gotta tell you guys the best thing that you can do to feel like that you you are regaining
00:33:23.740 control of your life is to take control of your health okay that's the one thing that you're absolutely
00:33:30.040 in control of no matter what you can make healthy choices on what you put in your mouth you can make
00:33:36.200 healthy choices about what you don't put in your mouth you can make healthy choices about your
00:33:40.380 exercise routines and so he asked me what he asked me what what he should do and i said all right well
00:33:46.700 start with this start eating right start exercising every day for at least an hour okay take control of
00:33:54.960 that i said go back and listen to episode 107 and start looking at the day don't look at the whole scope
00:34:00.680 of all the shit that you're you're you're telling me look at today everybody can win today everybody
00:34:06.700 can do what they need to do today not everybody can execute on the the 30-day plan or the five-year
00:34:15.060 plan or the 10-year plan today but you can win today and it's very simple and and getting in control
00:34:22.620 of your nutrition and your exercise routine guys that gives you a that that starts to build a sense
00:34:30.420 of control period so that you feel like you're in control of your life because everybody no matter
00:34:36.240 what the fuck your excuse is right now you are in control of what you consume and how active you are
00:34:41.720 no matter what i don't care if you're in a fucking wheelchair you can go do wheelchair sprints i don't care
00:34:49.180 you get everybody's in control of that shit and it's that it's valuable when we talk about burnout
00:34:55.660 because it's it's the thing that will spur the momentum for you to start to feel like you are in
00:35:03.140 control again because sometimes shit gets way out of line sometimes shit gets way way out of line
00:35:09.240 fuck dude 18 months ago i was 330 fucking pounds i was fat as fuck i was unhappy i was super depressed
00:35:16.340 i hated my life nobody knew that because i didn't fucking bitch about it i don't cry
00:35:20.320 but that's how i felt you know how i got shit back on track you know how i got shit my confidence
00:35:26.320 back you know how i got my sense of control back i started eating right and i started fucking
00:35:30.680 exercising period and if you're not doing that i don't care who you are you are going to have trouble
00:35:37.900 gaining control of your whole entire life it is the foundation and a lot of people give you this big
00:35:42.980 holistic your body is your temple blah blah blah blah and go hug a bunch of fucking trees but here's the
00:35:49.600 reality it's about mental control it's about discipline it's about cultivating belief in
00:35:55.640 yourself and all of us have the ability to create that when it comes to our diet and exercise
00:36:00.920 absolutely let me actually tack on one more point that i know and i'm giving people a little bit of a
00:36:07.700 tiny insight into one of the courses that you're developing um because i was just editing this point
00:36:14.360 which is here's another reason people burn out and that is that they get going things get hard
00:36:21.300 and little by little they start making little compromises ethically they start treating people like crap
00:36:26.920 and ultimately they end up having an uneasy conscience and that conscience weighs on them
00:36:32.640 because they're not good people and they're not doing what's right dude that's a huge deal because
00:36:38.260 you're you're always going to be your own your own enemy and you're all and and unless you're like a
00:36:43.300 total like head case um narcissist type personality you're gonna you're gonna feel bad about things
00:36:51.360 that you do that aren't right i i just had this conversation with my whole company last night
00:36:55.280 you know developing discipline developing integrity uh in your and belief in your own integrity is
00:37:02.020 extremely important because of what you just said it allows you to feel good about yourself
00:37:08.920 and takes a tremendous burden off of what you would normally feel guilty about you know if you're able
00:37:14.440 to look at yourself in the mirror and say dude i'm genuinely a good dude i do what i can i don't
00:37:18.520 bullshit people i do the right thing i wipe the piss off the toilet seat i put the shopping carts back
00:37:23.620 in the corral guess what you're gonna feel a sense of confidence about yourself and a sense of pride
00:37:28.600 that you are a good human and that's extremely powerful when it comes to you know morally feeling
00:37:35.240 good a and b avoiding the quote-unquote burnout absolutely i mean it's like you just said unless
00:37:42.520 you're a sociopath sociopaths are a little bit different but the vast majority of us the studies
00:37:47.280 are absolutely conclusive that you can try to suppress guilt but it will come out in the form of brain
00:37:53.240 fog it will come out in the form of fatigue it will come out in the form of all sorts of
00:37:58.080 psychosomatic anxiety right and guess what you cannot you cannot perform to peak level
00:38:04.520 in business or anything in life dealing with any of those you've got to always do you've always got
00:38:08.800 to do what you think is right and sometimes you're going to do things that are wrong with good
00:38:14.520 intentions and you've got to go fix those things too you got to go make them right so what so what
00:38:19.260 it seems like you saying i mean at least this is what you're saying in the in the thing i was editing
00:38:22.740 was so maybe the cure for burnout is just to apologize to somebody dude or to make something right look
00:38:27.720 look when you're holding a grudge when you're upset when you've done something wrong and and even if
00:38:34.900 the other person doesn't think that you know it's a big deal it's tremendously helpful for you to say
00:38:40.180 hey man i'm sorry bro i was wrong in that i should have done this yeah it lets you it's it's you letting
00:38:46.360 yourself off the hook it's you unburdening yourself you know and that's a big problem because i don't i think
00:38:53.220 a lot of people let their pride get in their way when it comes to apologizing or taking responsibility
00:38:59.480 when in reality it's no big deal man we're all fucking human like we all make mistakes let yourself
00:39:05.440 off the hook and say hey you know what i fucked up because not only is it going to remove the burden
00:39:10.080 from you it's going to create a sense of respect amongst the people that you're talking to as you're
00:39:14.800 a good fucking dude for doing the right thing right it's amazing i i would hope that not too many
00:39:20.300 people think this but there might be a couple people in the uh the listenership who think
00:39:24.320 why are you guys getting into that whole morality thing why you got to be the morality because it's
00:39:28.480 important and because it's good for business not only that it's it's yeah exactly you know it's
00:39:34.060 fucking important and it's important financially right like dude you're gonna make a lot more
00:39:39.320 fucking money right but people have a hard time getting that man a hard time they try to pretend
00:39:44.340 they try to pretend they're moral or pretend they do the right thing it's not the same as doing the
00:39:49.060 right thing right you know what i mean so uh yeah it would sound like we got people got a bonus point
00:39:55.640 yeah yeah that was a good one i like that well thank you yeah so guys uh with that being said
00:40:01.160 the contest just one more time testimonial contest one minute video youtube link email two testimonials
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00:40:16.480 probably not they do anyway okay the mfceo.com yeah all right testimonials at the mfceo.com
00:40:26.140 all right we'll just make that uh we'll agree there that's that's the email address one minute video
00:40:31.660 not five minutes not seven minutes part of of this is following directions if you don't follow
00:40:37.560 directions you make a seven minute video just what you're not gonna fucking win right all right
00:40:42.320 you've got part of being this is this is this is you getting creative like when i got my 4gt
00:40:49.740 they asked for a one minute video and dudes were making seven minute videos and 10 minute videos
00:40:55.680 and all this shit and none of those motherfuckers got cars and then they're pissed because they feel
00:41:00.700 like oh i did all this extra shit well you know what you didn't do you didn't follow fucking
00:41:04.140 directions because part of the one minute video concept was to get fucking creative and show what
00:41:10.680 you know what you could do in one minute this is the same thing i want to hear you i want to hear
00:41:17.140 you and see you and feel the progress you made in one minute not 10 minutes of going on and on and on
00:41:23.460 all right though we're going to pick some people we're going to fly them out here they're going to
00:41:27.920 win a vip experience we're going to do some fun shit we're going to have them on the podcast
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