REAL AF with Andy Frisella - How to Befriend Winners and People of Influence, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.420 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.700 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:19.640 Guys, today is normally Thursday Thunder, but it's going to be a long, full-length podcast today.

00:00:26.240 I told you the other day we're going to flip-flop it, and that's what we're doing.

00:00:29.200 If this is your first time listening, you're probably wondering what an MFCEO is.

00:00:36.460 Well, that stands for motherfucking CEO, all right?

00:00:39.260 And whether you own a business or not, you are the CEO of your life.

00:00:45.220 And while we are in the business category, in the entrepreneurship category,

00:00:50.980 we are also a personal development podcast.

00:00:55.960 You know, being a successful entrepreneur embodies the core values that will help you be successful in every area of life.

00:01:05.520 So don't be fooled to thinking that you have to own a business just because this is an entrepreneurship podcast.

00:01:12.060 This is about becoming the motherfucking CEO of you, and that's my hope for this.

00:01:17.120 That's why we call it a project.

00:01:18.540 We call it a project because the reason I do this and the reason I do it for free is because I'm sick and tired of the way society lies to people

00:01:30.380 and brings people up in a situation that isn't accurate, teaching them things that aren't the truth,

00:01:38.300 teaching them how to operate in ways that will not cause them to find success.

00:01:44.160 And people go out, they operate in these ways for 20 years,

00:01:48.180 and they find themselves in a situation at 40 years old or older that they don't want to be in.

00:01:55.080 And my hope with this movement, and that's what this is, this is a fucking movement,

00:01:59.280 is to help everybody get right about how they go out and operate in the real world.

00:02:07.620 So one thing about this podcast is it does have a fee, all right?

00:02:12.600 And my fee is this.

00:02:13.800 It's not money.

00:02:14.580 I don't sell things.

00:02:15.500 I don't run ads.

00:02:16.280 I'm not going to bore you with 20 minutes of fucking ads on this podcast,

00:02:19.260 even though I could make seven plus figures a year doing it.

00:02:23.480 The mission is more important to me, okay?

00:02:25.960 So all I ask to you guys is this.

00:02:28.940 Bring me a friend.

00:02:30.360 If you give value out of this podcast, if you learn something, if it's something that helps you,

00:02:35.720 I ask that you bring me a friend for every single episode.

00:02:39.860 You can do that through a post.

00:02:41.060 You could do that through a...

00:02:42.400 And for every single episode that you benefit from, okay?

00:02:46.420 You could do that through a post.

00:02:47.600 You could do it through a conversation.

00:02:48.760 I don't care how you do it.

00:02:49.900 But, you know, let people know about what's going on over here, all right?

00:02:53.460 We're not running ads.

00:02:54.440 This is a totally organic movement.

00:02:57.880 And I need you guys to help spread it.

00:03:01.120 And that's my fee.

00:03:02.520 So with that being said, guys, I want to say thank you guys for everything that you do,

00:03:08.440 for subscribing, for reviewing the podcast on iTunes.

00:03:12.140 That helps us rank up.

00:03:14.180 So I appreciate you guys doing those things for us.

00:03:18.140 And I appreciate your support.

00:03:19.960 This has been a fun ride for the last almost three years now.

00:03:22.980 And the truth is, is we have a lot of exciting things coming up.

00:03:28.080 You know, I've been quiet on social quite a bit.

00:03:30.700 And that's because I'm working on some really cool projects.

00:03:34.260 One of them is with my good buddy, Ed Milet.

00:03:37.320 And it's a huge, huge project that we're putting together that I think is really going to be fun

00:03:42.180 and beneficial to everybody involved.

00:03:44.100 Now, with that being said, I am joined by the full crew today.

00:03:51.440 We've got the pastor of disaster, DJ DJ God, in the house.

00:03:59.480 Vanilla ice.

00:04:00.320 Vanilla ice is in the house.

00:04:01.880 Yeah.

00:04:02.200 Are you cold, dude?

00:04:03.080 I am cold.

00:04:03.880 It's a beautiful day outside, but we keep it sub-zero here in First Form headquarters.

00:04:08.260 That's because I call the temperature shots and I happen to be fat.

00:04:11.360 And everybody knows that people that are fat are hot.

00:04:13.920 Well, I wasn't going to say that, but yeah, I don't have a whole lot of...

00:04:17.120 What, do you call me fat?

00:04:17.900 No, I don't have a whole lot of fat on my body, so...

00:04:20.100 I'm just saying, you got a lot of fat in your head.

00:04:21.960 Muscle and sinew.

00:04:22.960 Yeah, fat in my head.

00:04:24.160 We also happen to have, in the flesh, MC Salmon Pants.

00:04:30.200 Although, MC Salmon Pants is today MC Khaki Pants.

00:04:34.740 They're still short, though.

00:04:36.000 They are still short, so that counts for like, let's say, 50% of the score?

00:04:40.780 Yeah.

00:04:41.220 It's just not the same, dude.

00:04:42.500 It's not, Khaki's not the same.

00:04:44.120 MC Khaki doesn't sound very good.

00:04:45.760 What's the rule when they're salmon?

00:04:49.100 We're going to have a good podcast, so this podcast is probably going to suck,

00:04:52.380 and it's going to be Tyler's fault for wearing fucking Khaki.

00:04:55.200 Right.

00:04:55.680 It's a bad omen.

00:04:56.880 So, guys, today we've got some really cool things to talk about,

00:05:01.560 and before we get into that, I know Vaughn has some things that he wants to talk about

00:05:05.020 because he's been over there dancing around.

00:05:07.560 So, what is it that you want to talk about?

00:05:08.680 So, I want to bring up a subject that's either a source of passion

00:05:13.160 or gnashing of teeth for people, and that is President Donald Trump.

00:05:18.280 And the reason I want to bring it up is just because I was...

00:05:20.480 I can't wait.

00:05:20.660 People are going to get mad.

00:05:21.400 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:05:21.920 So, the reason I want to bring it up is I recently read this article,

00:05:25.000 and I really want your feedback on it, was basically, the article was

00:05:28.680 that to really understand Trump's policy and a lot of his actions,

00:05:34.020 you really need to have read The Art of the Deal.

00:05:37.580 Which is a fucking awesome book, by the way.

00:05:39.480 Yeah, right.

00:05:39.560 And that's, I mean, the author was really sympathetic,

00:05:42.180 basically saying there was a lot of really good stuff in it.

00:05:44.160 But his thing is, he said, any really, really great business person

00:05:50.380 knows that if you're coming into negotiations and you really want 40% of the profit,

00:05:55.800 you don't lead by saying, hey, I want 40% of the profit.

00:05:58.020 No, you say I want 100%.

00:05:59.040 Yeah, you want 100%.

00:06:00.000 And you always overcompensate.

00:06:02.220 And then when you negotiate, two things happen.

00:06:04.760 The other guy feels really good about himself, or herself, as the case may be.

00:06:08.560 But you're also perceived as reasonable because you compromise, right?

00:06:13.560 So they were saying that as much as the media goes crazy about Trump saying things like,

00:06:18.520 we're going to come down on fire and fury on North Korea,

00:06:21.960 or he's even calling the existence of NATO into question,

00:06:27.560 or he said, we're going to build a wall.

00:06:30.520 The point this guy made was, he kind of goes over the top.

00:06:34.680 But when the final analysis comes through, he gets what he wanted the whole time.

00:06:41.440 It's just that he acted like a crazy man.

00:06:45.000 You know what I'm saying?

00:06:45.800 So what do you have to say about that whole philosophy?

00:06:47.400 Look, man, that's obvious to me.

00:06:50.640 I look at this shit.

00:06:51.800 First of all, I was thinking this today when I was at the gym,

00:06:54.860 and I always do like 30 minutes of light cardio before I lift just to get the blood going.

00:06:59.980 And I was watching, they always have like Fox and then CNN and like all the fucking shows on.

00:07:08.580 And like the headline said like something about Trump Jr. having a meeting with Russian people to get dirt on Hillary.

00:07:20.100 And I was like, like they're all look so, like the sound wasn't on.

00:07:23.940 So I couldn't like see, I couldn't hear what they were saying,

00:07:26.640 but I could see the headline and I could see their body language.

00:07:29.400 And all of them look so fucking mad, like so mad and so uptight and so miserable.

00:07:36.560 Like it just made me think like, why the fuck would you do that for a living?

00:07:40.600 Right.

00:07:40.940 And on top of that, why would you let yourself get sucked into that energy?

00:07:46.140 You know what I mean?

00:07:46.720 I don't watch the news.

00:07:48.160 I don't pay attention to the news.

00:07:49.740 I used to, but I realized how much energy it was taking for me that I needed to apply to what I was doing, you know?

00:07:59.160 And so I got away from it.

00:08:01.300 And so I really, you know, I don't talk politics much in this and that just because I don't think it fucking matters to what I'm doing in the real life.

00:08:11.620 I'm not going to use it as an excuse.

00:08:14.100 I'm not going to use it as something that fuels me.

00:08:16.860 I don't worry about it.

00:08:17.980 You know what I'm saying?

00:08:18.440 But it is interesting when a business principle shows up in politics.

00:08:21.520 Oh, look, dude.

00:08:22.060 Look.

00:08:22.280 Yeah.

00:08:22.900 This is, the United States is a huge company.

00:08:25.620 Yeah.

00:08:26.000 The fact that you would have somebody run it that hasn't run companies before and couldn't run a fucking lemonade stand makes no fucking sense.

00:08:32.080 Right.

00:08:32.580 Like, you know what I'm saying?

00:08:33.400 Like, a politician running America is a fucking joke.

00:08:38.080 The motherfucker can't even read a fucking financial statement or profit and loss.

00:08:42.620 They don't know how to balance a budget.

00:08:44.260 They don't know how to do any of that shit.

00:08:45.540 They don't know how to negotiate.

00:08:47.040 They know how to give speeches.

00:08:48.740 And that's it.

00:08:49.640 And, dude, there's just a lot more to it.

00:08:51.140 So, like, to me, you're asking my opinion.

00:08:53.880 I'm like, yeah, that's fucking obvious.

00:08:55.980 And the fact that you have somebody who's really one of the greatest business people in the last, you know, 30 years, regardless, people say, oh, yeah, he went bankrupt.

00:09:07.140 Yeah, motherfucker.

00:09:07.740 And he came back, too.

00:09:08.600 Right.

00:09:08.740 How many successful people have gone bankrupt?

00:09:10.940 A lot.

00:09:11.740 Yeah.

00:09:12.380 So, my point is, is that, I mean, dude, to me, it's, I see that and I'm like, yeah, I see it as obvious.

00:09:20.000 And it's fascinating.

00:09:21.040 I see exactly what he's doing.

00:09:21.940 Yeah.

00:09:22.200 It's fascinating.

00:09:23.000 And I know that there are going to be people who take our conversation as somehow, this is like a pro-Trump conversation.

00:09:27.980 That's not the point.

00:09:28.900 Dude, I love Trump.

00:09:29.600 I don't give a fuck what anybody says.

00:09:31.000 Fuck you if you don't like it.

00:09:31.880 To me, what it comes down to is I really don't care about the man.

00:09:34.380 I get all these motherfuckers saying-

00:09:35.180 I care about what the person accomplishes.

00:09:36.760 You know what, motherfucker?

00:09:37.680 I'm making more money than I was making fucking two years ago.

00:09:40.460 All right?

00:09:40.920 If you go look at all the stats, the fucking stats say he's doing a wonderful job.

00:09:45.380 That's it.

00:09:45.900 People like to pick on issues that are fucking bullshit issues, you know?

00:09:49.520 Right.

00:09:49.640 And they put words in people's mouth.

00:09:51.640 They buy into the media, you know?

00:09:53.620 And like, dude, I don't really give a fuck what anybody says.

00:09:56.460 You know, I didn't dislike Obama either.

00:09:59.180 Like, I just wasn't excited about all the shit that he did because he didn't know what the fuck he was doing.

00:10:04.440 Right, exactly.

00:10:05.000 Like, who cares about the man?

00:10:06.500 Yeah.

00:10:06.760 Who cares about what his policies are and what he can do?

00:10:09.300 Yeah, I totally agree.

00:10:10.360 I don't really give a fuck what anybody thinks.

00:10:11.960 Like, dude, if you don't fucking like him, good.

00:10:14.040 I don't care.

00:10:14.640 We're not going to argue about it.

00:10:15.920 Right.

00:10:16.100 If you think he's this, that's good.

00:10:17.580 That's your right to think that.

00:10:18.860 Right.

00:10:19.100 You know?

00:10:19.420 But I know this.

00:10:20.900 Almost everybody in America right now is making more money than they were making fucking seven, eight, ten months ago, a year ago, two years ago.

00:10:27.260 The economy is strong.

00:10:27.960 It really is.

00:10:28.100 And dude, you know what?

00:10:28.760 It really is.

00:10:29.100 That's good.

00:10:29.760 Or it's stronger.

00:10:30.980 Well, that's good.

00:10:31.600 Yeah.

00:10:32.140 And that's good for everybody.

00:10:33.340 Yeah.

00:10:33.640 So, it is what it is, man.

00:10:35.680 You know, everybody likes to make this into this fucking, like, you know, my perspective on it is this.

00:10:42.160 Business first, social issues second.

00:10:44.860 I'm not voting based upon all the social issues first.

00:10:49.100 Okay?

00:10:49.460 I'm voting on the economy.

00:10:50.940 I'm voting on money.

00:10:52.000 I'm supporting those things.

00:10:53.600 That's what I care about.

00:10:54.560 Because you know what?

00:10:55.200 I got to pay the fucking bills here.

00:10:56.980 All right?

00:10:57.340 So, I'm not going to get all upset to the point, you know, where, and like, dude, just to be clear, I'm very liberal on my social views.

00:11:05.380 You know what I'm saying?

00:11:06.020 Like, I don't care if fucking gay people get married.

00:11:08.260 I don't, I don't care.

00:11:09.580 Like, none of that shit.

00:11:10.360 Like, do whatever the fuck you want.

00:11:11.640 It sounds like you're a libertarian.

00:11:13.280 I am.

00:11:13.540 Like, the government shouldn't get involved in that kind of stuff.

00:11:15.420 Right.

00:11:15.620 Yeah.

00:11:15.840 They absolutely shouldn't.

00:11:16.740 I am.

00:11:17.460 And I'm fiscally conservative, and that's it.

00:11:19.700 And fiscally conservative comes first to me.

00:11:21.640 Right.

00:11:21.880 And if you can't understand that, then you got something wrong with your fucking brain.

00:11:25.440 Well, you know, it's interesting.

00:11:27.420 You're old enough to know this, but years ago, when Bill Clinton's, his first term, and he had all those scandals, you know?

00:11:32.580 I'm fucking pro-America.

00:11:33.880 Yeah, yeah.

00:11:34.400 You know what I'm saying?

00:11:34.920 Like, that's what it comes down to.

00:11:35.920 Yeah, 100%.

00:11:36.500 So, when Bill Clinton had all those scandals, but then he easily, he easily got re-elected in spite of, like, all of the scandals.

00:11:45.780 And the quote at the time was, it's the economy, stupid.

00:11:49.460 Meaning, that's why he got re-elected.

00:11:51.480 Because the economy was good.

00:11:52.600 It was good.

00:11:53.040 It was falsely good.

00:11:54.420 It was falsely good.

00:11:55.160 Well, right.

00:11:55.680 Because it was based on all the dot-com stuff.

00:11:57.700 Yeah, right.

00:11:58.040 And there's other things with real estate and all that shit.

00:12:00.160 Right, exactly.

00:12:00.920 But the point is, is that-

00:12:02.340 People perceived it as being very good.

00:12:03.960 They were making more money.

00:12:04.980 They were making tons of money on their investments.

00:12:06.820 People were able to fucking do a lot of shit they weren't able to do.

00:12:09.160 And guess what?

00:12:09.540 They were happy.

00:12:10.200 Right.

00:12:10.440 And I don't know about you, but at the end of the day, I care what affects me directly.

00:12:14.880 And what affects me directly is fucking how much money goes into my fucking bank.

00:12:18.360 Right.

00:12:18.740 And it's interesting, and we're kind of getting off on tangent, but I come from a background where people are quick to judge that.

00:12:25.880 But what I've always said to people is, wait a minute.

00:12:28.980 If the economy is good, and you're not being, like, completely destroyed by unnecessary taxes, which is what liberals do to people.

00:12:37.180 They burden them down with unnecessary taxes.

00:12:40.560 What do you have?

00:12:41.780 You have more money to feed your kids, to support your family, to have a good life.

00:12:47.300 The fucking problem, here's the problem.

00:12:50.220 The problem is, is that people can't think for themselves.

00:12:53.740 They believe what their fucking friends say or what the media says instead of looking at the fucking facts and making their own decision.

00:13:02.840 That's the problem that we have.

00:13:04.620 Okay, that's the problem with our whole entire country.

00:13:07.720 People are sucked in by the media, by the popular word, by the ideas of other people instead of looking at the actual facts and making a decision.

00:13:17.260 And if you look at the actual facts of what's going on right now, America is in a fucking great spot, and it's only getting better by the fucking day.

00:13:25.200 And anybody who says it isn't is too stupid to look at the fucking facts.

00:13:29.740 Period.

00:13:30.080 Period.

00:13:30.840 Okay?

00:13:31.080 100%.

00:13:31.320 So, before you get your little vagina all worked up and fucking you're going to come at me, realize this.

00:13:37.700 If you come on my page and talk shit about politics, I will fucking block you.

00:13:41.540 Because I don't have time for that shit.

00:13:43.560 Alright?

00:13:44.160 I got my opinion.

00:13:45.640 If you want your opinion, go put it on your motherfucking show.

00:13:49.240 That's it.

00:13:49.480 Yeah.

00:13:50.200 100%.

00:13:50.600 Or don't listen.

00:13:51.600 I don't fucking care.

00:13:52.260 So we can stop now, and that's a good dose of value.

00:13:54.820 The problem is that people can't think for themselves.

00:13:57.500 They just can't.

00:13:59.060 You know what I'm saying?

00:14:00.100 They say, oh, fucking Trump's racist.

00:14:04.420 Because the media says he's fucking racist, and all these motherfuckers out there say he's racist.

00:14:08.760 Yet, there's not one shred of evidence out there that he's fucking racist.

00:14:13.320 Anywhere.

00:14:14.620 He's got tons of minorities that work for him that come out and say, I love working for Trump.

00:14:19.760 It was the best job I ever had.

00:14:21.820 He was great to me.

00:14:22.840 This, that, the other.

00:14:23.680 But, because a group of people say that shit, what is the fucking, what is the argument against him?

00:14:31.860 Fuck him.

00:14:32.860 Blah, blah, blah.

00:14:33.720 Right.

00:14:33.980 Dude, people fucking hate him because he came in after Obama because people loved Obama.

00:14:38.760 Well, guess what?

00:14:39.320 Obama served eight motherfucking years.

00:14:41.440 He couldn't come back.

00:14:42.500 Right.

00:14:42.880 We had to make a choice.

00:14:44.400 Right.

00:14:44.720 You know?

00:14:45.160 And like, dude, I just.

00:14:46.120 And what was the other choice?

00:14:47.240 Yeah, it was worse.

00:14:48.160 Yeah, right.

00:14:48.360 So, the point of it is, is like, I just, you know, people look at the evidence.

00:14:53.240 Look at the fucking evidence.

00:14:54.820 Right.

00:14:55.200 You know what I mean?

00:14:55.780 I could be wrong on this, but isn't it true that he actually captured a pretty high level of the minority vote?

00:15:02.120 Yes.

00:15:02.420 I thought he did.

00:15:03.340 Yes.

00:15:03.640 I could be wrong.

00:15:04.060 Dude, it's a media narrative, dude.

00:15:05.300 It's bullshit.

00:15:05.880 You know, one of the best things I was ever taught by one of my favorite college professors was,

00:15:09.640 it's not just how something is reported, but what is reported.

00:15:16.060 So, in other words, if you hop on CNN.

00:15:17.940 And by the way, dude, I don't vote for Democrat or Republican.

00:15:20.560 I'm the same way.

00:15:21.200 I used to be like that, but I'm, I'm, I, I evaluate the person.

00:15:25.200 Yes.

00:15:25.640 And their policies.

00:15:26.520 Exactly.

00:15:27.200 Yeah.

00:15:27.360 And I sure as fuck am not going to fucking vote for a career politician who fucking never ran a motherfucking company in her entire life who fucking, you know, has pandered in this.

00:15:37.040 Who has a trail of dead bodies behind her.

00:15:38.920 Like, dude, there's all kinds of shit.

00:15:39.880 Yeah, wow, we'll get into that.

00:15:40.440 Like, you know, whatever.

00:15:41.260 And like, dude, and then people say, well, then you, you're, you fucking hate women.

00:15:44.560 No, motherfucker.

00:15:45.280 If there was a qualified woman that I thought was great, I'll vote for her too.

00:15:48.780 Yeah.

00:15:49.160 Like, it's just like, you can't do anything right.

00:15:51.080 And no matter what you say, you know, like, dude, you can't, like right now it's so bad.

00:15:55.500 Like, you can't even say, like, I know people are gonna get mad and say, I'm never listening to you again because you said you like Trump.

00:16:01.200 Motherfucker, I like America and he's doing good things for America.

00:16:04.720 That's the truth.

00:16:05.960 Okay.

00:16:06.660 And it is what it is.

00:16:08.460 If you don't like me because of that, then I don't know.

00:16:10.880 I don't know what the fuck it said.

00:16:11.740 You are absolutely right that we just, it's not only how things are reported.

00:16:16.900 It's, we need to reject, when things are reported to us, we need to understand that sometimes.

00:16:21.660 There's a fucking bias.

00:16:23.180 Right.

00:16:23.560 There's, there's a, an agenda that's being shoved down our fucking throats.

00:16:27.800 Okay.

00:16:28.460 And it's so the media can sell fucking advertising because if people don't watch shit that isn't boring.

00:16:34.300 Right.

00:16:34.700 All right.

00:16:35.020 So we're getting shoved this down our throats, all these messages of fucking racism and social class, uh, discrimination and this and that.

00:16:46.900 And they're making us as a society fucking hate each other.

00:16:51.320 Okay.

00:16:52.340 And dude, it's for the reason that it gets us talking.

00:16:55.840 It creates argument.

00:16:57.440 It creates controversy.

00:16:59.340 And it, you know what happens when people watch shit, their ratings go up and they could sell fucking ads.

00:17:05.300 And if you can't understand that we're being fed a ton of shit so that we hate each other, there's something wrong with you.

00:17:14.160 You need to fucking let go of what's being shoved down your throat and judge society based on what you experience in real life.

00:17:22.800 Because I can tell you this, when I walk down the street and I see some black motherfuckers, we're cool as shit to each other.

00:17:29.720 You know what I'm saying?

00:17:30.980 And dude, in my, where I go and I meet all kinds of different people of all kinds of genders and races and all different kinds.

00:17:38.840 And I see people getting along and smiling and fucking supporting each other.

00:17:44.160 And you know what?

00:17:44.920 Is there bad shit out there?

00:17:46.180 Fuck yeah, there's bad shit.

00:17:47.500 There's bad fucking white people.

00:17:49.320 There's bad black people.

00:17:50.680 There's bad Asians.

00:17:51.880 There's bad cops.

00:17:53.300 There's bad this.

00:17:54.440 There's bad that.

00:17:55.620 But when we take the little bitty percentage of the whole fucking world and make it seem like it's everything in order to sell fucking advertising, that's morally fucked up.

00:18:05.680 Because, dude, our society is not a hateful society.

00:18:09.620 Our society in general is a fucking caring society that cares about what's going on.

00:18:15.560 And I think what I'm seeing is I'm seeing a lot of people who were scared to death of Trump becoming president, scared to death.

00:18:25.100 And I give these people a lot of credit that are coming out and saying, you know what?

00:18:29.460 I was wrong.

00:18:31.220 I was scared about nothing.

00:18:32.680 He's doing good things.

00:18:33.760 I give those people have my respect because they're willing to take an idea that they thought was this one way and change it based on what they observe.

00:18:44.620 And most people can't do that because for generation, a generation upon generation, they're taught this, this, this.

00:18:51.640 These people hate you.

00:18:53.040 These people hate you.

00:18:54.540 You have to vote this way.

00:18:56.020 You have to do this.

00:18:57.240 You have to do that.

00:18:58.140 And all you're doing is buying in to the entire fucking system that's being jammed down your throat so other people can win.

00:19:06.160 And that's it.

00:19:07.220 100%.

00:19:07.620 Yeah.

00:19:08.380 Dude, I got to tell you this really quick story.

00:19:10.180 So a couple days ago, my wife wanted me to go out and she wanted me to check out this play set that somebody was offering to sell.

00:19:17.200 And so I went to this area of town.

00:19:18.940 It was over in closer to Florissant.

00:19:20.820 It was an area that's a little bit more blue collar, a little bit more mixed racially.

00:19:25.780 And so I went into this 7-Eleven and this guy, this black dude was behind me and you could tell he was kind of upset on the phone.

00:19:34.960 And visually, he and I looked really different.

00:19:37.980 I mean, you can imagine.

00:19:39.180 Right.

00:19:39.360 So he's on the phone and I suddenly hear what he's saying on the phone.

00:19:44.300 And he says, baby, I'm at work.

00:19:48.580 I can't call you when I'm at work.

00:19:51.120 You know, and he's kind of living.

00:19:52.440 So he finishes the thing and I just, I look behind him because he's behind me in the line.

00:19:57.220 And I go, dude, I feel you.

00:20:01.060 I've been there.

00:20:01.800 And he starts talking.

00:20:02.740 He goes, what is it that they just don't get?

00:20:04.840 We're at work.

00:20:05.640 You know, you don't.

00:20:06.260 So then I finish.

00:20:07.160 And I know this sounds as cheesy as I'll get out, but we had this great conversation.

00:20:10.680 And all I said to him was, you know what?

00:20:12.540 You and me, we're not that different.

00:20:14.440 And he goes, 100%.

00:20:16.520 And it was that, it was basically what you're saying.

00:20:19.180 Dude, the thing is, is people want to get along.

00:20:21.760 They want to get along.

00:20:23.440 Right.

00:20:23.800 But dude, they feel like they can't because we're jammed this bullshit message down our throats.

00:20:29.140 You know what I'm saying?

00:20:30.160 Yeah.

00:20:30.500 Like, dude, people want to get along.

00:20:33.040 They want to.

00:20:33.960 Yeah.

00:20:34.160 But like, because everything in our society is designed to either fucking, and you got

00:20:39.980 to remember the people who are creating this disruption, why are they doing that?

00:20:45.260 What is the reason for that?

00:20:46.660 They benefit from it.

00:20:47.980 Somehow.

00:20:48.900 Right.

00:20:49.200 They can either sell advertising or they build a name for themselves because that's who gets

00:20:54.020 famous.

00:20:54.440 Right.

00:20:54.780 The people on social media who are on the fringes, who are expressing these messages that

00:21:00.120 are so far one way or so far the other way are the people getting the likes and the views

00:21:05.920 and the shares.

00:21:07.940 And dude, that's why we have these situations where we feel like we can't say what we think

00:21:13.160 is right.

00:21:13.960 Because if we do, we violate our cultural standard or we violate our people.

00:21:19.780 Right.

00:21:20.440 Right.

00:21:20.720 And dude, that's not okay.

00:21:22.120 Right.

00:21:22.400 You know, and dude, social media makes it worse because what do we have?

00:21:26.620 We have access.

00:21:28.940 Every single person out there has access.

00:21:31.520 And who do we see as the people that represent our people's opinion?

00:21:39.000 We see some white racist motherfucker from the fucking trailer park spewing some hate bullshit

00:21:45.280 and he gets 50 million views and it's everybody saying, see, this is what white people think.

00:21:50.900 And then we see the other side.

00:21:53.080 We see black people.

00:21:54.700 We see some black dude saying some shit.

00:21:57.260 Right.

00:21:57.860 And about fucking Trump or white people or this or that.

00:22:00.840 And it gets a trillion views.

00:22:03.020 And then white people are like, see, that's where fucking all black people are.

00:22:07.440 And dude, that's the shit that's getting jammed down our throat and it's not true.

00:22:10.640 And you have to be smart enough to step back, rise above the fucking news and the media and

00:22:16.860 the message and all the shit that we see online and see what reality is.

00:22:21.980 Because what reality is, is not what we're being fed.

00:22:26.100 Absolutely.

00:22:26.900 And you know what?

00:22:27.700 As it turns out, this whole thing about getting along with people and connecting with people

00:22:32.240 and surrounding yourself with the right people, that's what we're talking about today.

00:22:37.260 Yeah, it actually does some weirdly tie in.

00:22:40.200 We did not plan this.

00:22:41.660 It's just the way the Holy Spirit moves.

00:22:44.320 That's because you're on the team, bro.

00:22:45.960 That's right.

00:22:46.600 Yeah.

00:22:47.260 So what are we talking about today?

00:22:49.840 Well, we're talking about this whole idea because people send us messages and emails

00:22:55.220 about this all the time.

00:22:56.100 Like, Andy, what do I do?

00:22:57.100 I'm trying to kill it, but I'm surrounded by people who are bringing me down.

00:23:00.260 They're not celebrating my success.

00:23:01.360 Dude, that's the number one fucking question.

00:23:02.380 That's the number one question that we get via email and the number one question that we

00:23:08.080 get live.

00:23:08.740 We go do these Q&As and there's 5,000 or 10,000 people there and they do a lottery for people

00:23:18.680 to have the chance to ask a question to the panel.

00:23:21.360 And these motherfuckers win the lottery.

00:23:23.420 Like, they win a lottery to go up and ask a question.

00:23:25.640 And they can ask anything.

00:23:26.580 They can ask a question about how to market, how to this, how to that, how to create a product,

00:23:31.480 how to brand, how to use social media.

00:23:33.400 What do they ask?

00:23:34.080 Tyler, what do they fucking ask every fucking time?

00:23:37.900 And by the way, 10 people in a row will ask the same question in a different way.

00:23:42.220 What do they say?

00:23:43.300 What do I do if so-and-so is not supportive of my goals?

00:23:46.320 Every fucking time.

00:23:47.040 How do I deal with the haters?

00:23:48.200 What do I do with the haters?

00:23:49.600 My mom doesn't support me.

00:23:50.980 My dad doesn't support me.

00:23:52.140 My friends don't support me.

00:23:53.680 This, that, the other.

00:23:54.480 And literally, there'll be 10 people in a row.

00:23:58.840 And eight of them will ask that question in a different fucking way.

00:24:02.740 So, I think this would be a good subject to really break down.

00:24:06.560 And not just say, hey, fuck them, like everybody else says.

00:24:08.720 Hey, fuck the haters.

00:24:10.220 But let's really break down how to deal with this shit, right?

00:24:13.460 Yeah.

00:24:13.720 And what it means.

00:24:14.520 Well, I got a question that just off the top of my head.

00:24:16.700 I mean, you're a very strong-willed person.

00:24:19.160 You're a person that believes in rugged individualism.

00:24:22.160 But you're also someone who said, who you surround yourself with matters.

00:24:28.920 Like, it matters who you surround yourself with.

00:24:30.960 And it matters who's influencing you.

00:24:33.620 I mean, is that true?

00:24:35.640 Because can't you be so independent?

00:24:37.960 Can't you be so strong-willed that you're going to like, well, I can hang out with people who, you know, just want to party or whatever?

00:24:44.440 Tell me why it's so important to surround yourself with right people.

00:24:48.180 No, it's not fucking optional.

00:24:48.880 I think that's the biggest mistake people make with this.

00:24:52.160 Is they think that they can have this life, okay, that they're striving to be towards.

00:25:00.880 You know, they want to be wealthy.

00:25:02.200 They want to create a business.

00:25:03.280 They want to be successful in their job.

00:25:05.320 They want to grow and they want to do all these things.

00:25:08.160 But they still want to hang out with their old buddies from the old neighborhood that they grew up with.

00:25:13.740 All right?

00:25:14.080 And they think they can separate it.

00:25:17.260 But the problem is this.

00:25:19.280 The problem is energy management.

00:25:22.100 When you have...

00:25:24.000 To be successful, it is going to take...

00:25:29.800 Because it's competitive, okay, it is going to take all of your energy.

00:25:34.480 All right?

00:25:35.800 And to think that you could spend 60% of your energy and then 40% of your energy on these dudes that suck out the negativity, right?

00:25:46.520 They take out what would be normally 100% positive energy and you spend 40% dealing with them on the weekends.

00:25:52.880 Because they're telling you, oh, dude, you're wasting your time.

00:25:56.200 Oh, blah, blah, blah.

00:25:56.860 Live a little.

00:25:57.700 Right.

00:25:58.080 Yeah.

00:25:58.380 Nothing conducive to what you're trying to do.

00:26:00.840 Right.

00:26:01.380 So you're spending 40% of your overall energy.

00:26:03.600 Well, you would be ignorant to think that you can compete in this game of success with people who are giving 100% by you only giving your 60%.

00:26:15.860 We only have so much energy on a given day.

00:26:19.380 All right?

00:26:19.700 And how we choose to spend that directly affects what our outcome is going to be.

00:26:25.280 You have to think of it like a bank account.

00:26:27.420 If you have $100, all right, and you spend $100 on things that are going to move you forward in your business career, in your success career, all right?

00:26:39.440 That's all you have to spend.

00:26:41.140 No more.

00:26:42.320 All right?

00:26:42.600 And every day you get a new $100.

00:26:45.360 All right?

00:26:46.040 Who's going to make it further?

00:26:47.240 The guy who spends $100 every day reinvesting in himself to move forward, or the guy who spends $60 and then $40 on his shitball friends?

00:26:58.600 Who's going to make it?

00:27:00.280 You see what I'm saying?

00:27:01.080 Yeah, the guy who's always moving forward.

00:27:02.340 It's not an option, and people think that it is.

00:27:04.620 They think it's a suggestion.

00:27:06.340 It's not a suggestion.

00:27:07.480 It is a firm, 100% requirement of becoming the best version of you, which is, you know, that's how I define success, really.

00:27:17.200 The success is the pursuit of the fulfillment of your own true potential, all right?

00:27:23.960 A lot of people will define success as being happy and this and that.

00:27:27.960 By the way, this is a fucking bullshit thing that I see all the time right now.

00:27:31.400 I wanted to say this earlier, but I forgot, but now I remember.

00:27:35.120 I keep seeing this fucking meme going around that says, happiness is the new success.

00:27:40.740 Or no, happiness is the new rich.

00:27:43.060 No, motherfucker.

00:27:44.100 Rich is the new rich.

00:27:45.460 All right?

00:27:46.000 Let's just fucking get that out of the way.

00:27:48.460 Let me tell you something.

00:27:50.460 All you motherfuckers out there listening right now, you think because, and this goes back to their opening message,

00:27:56.580 because you've been fed this message by media and by people who haven't done a fucking damn thing,

00:28:05.100 you think that being happy and being a good person is mutually exclusive to having money.

00:28:15.100 You think that you can't have all of it.

00:28:17.380 If you have money, you're automatically unhappy.

00:28:19.940 If you have money, you're automatically not at peace.

00:28:22.300 If you have money, you're automatically a shit person.

00:28:25.260 You're being fed that message.

00:28:27.620 And that shit about these, you know, blah, blah, blahs, the new rich.

00:28:31.360 No, motherfucker.

00:28:32.180 Rich is the rich.

00:28:33.240 Right.

00:28:34.320 What you decide to do with it after you have it really has nothing to do with the other things.

00:28:40.660 You can have it all.

00:28:42.000 And I'm so tired of people posting this shit because let's be real.

00:28:46.680 What are they really saying?

00:28:48.260 They're saying, oh, you know what?

00:28:50.020 I'm giving up on this and I'm just going to be this.

00:28:52.520 You never see a fucking person with means or wealth say that because they understand that you can have both.

00:29:00.160 You don't have to be poor to be a good person.

00:29:02.860 It's a false choice.

00:29:03.720 It is.

00:29:04.260 You don't have to be a fucking a bad person.

00:29:08.100 If you're rich, you know, I got asked it.

00:29:11.640 I did an event last weekend and I got asked two questions by the same guy and they were fucking great questions.

00:29:20.700 The first question was, is there anything about your life that you miss before you had money?

00:29:26.480 Is there anything that was better before you had money?

00:29:28.540 And I fucking thought about it and I couldn't think of one fucking thing.

00:29:31.600 Not one.

00:29:32.700 Not one.

00:29:34.300 Maybe privacy.

00:29:35.760 That's what I said.

00:29:36.840 Yeah.

00:29:36.980 I said, I said here, I said here and there, here, here and there, sometimes I wish people didn't recognize me because I get to, I'm to the point now where I fucking recognize literally everywhere I go.

00:29:47.780 Like I can't imagine what it's like to be like a real celebrity.

00:29:51.120 Right.

00:29:51.400 You know what I'm saying?

00:29:52.120 Like the rock.

00:29:52.740 Yeah, right.

00:29:53.140 It'd be fucking insane.

00:29:54.120 I wouldn't even want that.

00:29:55.060 Yeah.

00:29:55.200 But like, that would be the only thing.

00:29:57.840 Okay.

00:30:00.740 And then he said, well, what's your favorite thing about fucking having, having money?

00:30:05.160 What's the best thing about it?

00:30:07.980 And dude, you know what the coolest thing?

00:30:09.800 Or he said, what's the coolest thing you've done that you have money?

00:30:11.860 You know what the coolest thing I've done?

00:30:13.420 I built my high school, a baseball field, built my high school, a gym, uh, helped build them a fucking football field, brand new facilities, shit that they couldn't do without, without the money that we gave them.

00:30:25.300 Okay.

00:30:26.880 Um, people don't think about those things when they fucking post these memes that say, so it's blah, blah, blah is the new rich.

00:30:36.840 They think you have to, they think if you're going to be, it's a trade.

00:30:40.240 If you're going to be rich, you're going to be unhappy.

00:30:42.200 Right.

00:30:42.560 You know, it's an excuse, motherfuckers.

00:30:44.600 You're being fed an excuse by other people who weren't able to fucking make it happen.

00:30:49.940 Talking about why they don't need money and why they don't need this.

00:30:53.480 And why, you know what?

00:30:54.460 You don't need money.

00:30:56.020 But to fucking, to say that shit because you're not willing to do the work is a fucking waste of your fucking gifts that were given to you.

00:31:04.400 Right.

00:31:04.960 It's a dishonorment of your life.

00:31:06.900 So, dude, this is the way I see it.

00:31:08.580 The philosopher Kierkegaard said that happiness is the satisfaction of your desires.

00:31:14.820 So, before you were rich.

00:31:16.360 That's right.

00:31:17.040 Right.

00:31:17.140 So, dude, if you fucking, if you're saying, if you fucking say, I want to be rich and then you weren't able to and then, and then fucking rescind your fucking statement to say, oh, happiness, I don't need money.

00:31:30.440 You're fucking not even happy because you're not fulfilling your fucking desire.

00:31:35.220 Well, let me ask you this.

00:31:35.960 17 years ago, if somebody would have said to you, Andy, do you have the desire to build a football stadium for your high school?

00:31:46.480 Would you have said yes?

00:31:47.300 No.

00:31:47.820 Oh, you wouldn't?

00:31:48.380 Okay.

00:31:48.580 Well, maybe that's a bad example, but what's, what's something 17 years ago that you would have loved to have done, but you didn't have the money to do it?

00:31:56.400 Drive a Lamborghini.

00:31:57.500 I mean, something that better.

00:31:59.460 I didn't care about other people 17 years ago.

00:32:01.120 Right, no, no, I get, but you're not understanding the progression.

00:32:02.980 No, no, no, you're not understanding my point.

00:32:04.320 My point.

00:32:04.660 The progression is this.

00:32:05.980 I was selfish as fuck for the first 10 years, which is why it took me 10 years because I was broke because I was selfish and I worried about myself.

00:32:13.540 When I got 10 years in, I gave up on the fucking rich shit and I decided to dedicate myself to providing true results and true value to other people.

00:32:24.460 Money came from that.

00:32:25.920 Right.

00:32:26.500 I get that.

00:32:26.660 So I went through an evolution.

00:32:28.440 Then I figured out, holy fuck, dude, this is how I can make money?

00:32:32.120 This is awesome.

00:32:33.220 And then I fucking went way the fuck in because I knew I could have both.

00:32:37.500 Right.

00:32:37.680 Which even goes back to the point I was making before, which is what made me happy and what made me money were the same fucking thing.

00:32:46.060 Helping people.

00:32:46.680 Yes.

00:32:47.160 Right.

00:32:47.780 So, but my point is this, and I think once you understand what I'm saying, my point is if you have two people and they both have the desire, we'll say in this case, to do something really awesome and to build a stadium for their high school.

00:33:02.140 But only one of them has money to actually do it, which is better.

00:33:08.040 It's not, you're not, you're not, in other words, you're not virtuous just for wanting to do something.

00:33:12.920 You're virtuous for wanting to do it and to having the ability to do it.

00:33:17.160 Dude, look.

00:33:17.540 That's what I'm saying.

00:33:18.180 Look, man.

00:33:18.460 You follow me now?

00:33:19.220 Yes.

00:33:19.700 Okay.

00:33:20.040 There's fucking, listen, like I said, there's no motherfuckers out there that actually have money and have built success and become successful telling you that shit.

00:33:27.920 Right.

00:33:28.700 They're not saying this blank is the new rich.

00:33:31.140 Right.

00:33:31.260 No, motherfucker.

00:33:32.140 That number in your bank account is fucking what rich is.

00:33:35.020 Right.

00:33:35.460 Okay.

00:33:35.760 What you do with it is going to create your happiness.

00:33:38.940 There's nothing that's the new rich.

00:33:41.200 Right.

00:33:41.380 Fuck your new rich.

00:33:43.180 New rich is fucking getting money in your account.

00:33:46.280 Then you have options to fucking do shit with it.

00:33:49.160 Right.

00:33:49.580 Which will create either happiness or the opposite of happiness.

00:33:57.700 Frustration, anger, stress.

00:33:59.860 That's your choice.

00:34:01.080 Right.

00:34:01.300 But money doesn't create either one of those things.

00:34:04.020 And that's what people got to understand.

00:34:06.180 Right.

00:34:06.800 So I just get tired of the message being just like I get tired of the bullshit about fucking America and racism and all this bullshit that's getting jammed down both sides throats.

00:34:17.180 Because I get tired of the fucking shit where I see online of these motherfuckers trying to promote this fucking blah, blah, blah, hippie ass bullshit that isn't true.

00:34:30.200 You know what I'm saying?

00:34:31.120 Yeah.

00:34:31.460 It's not true.

00:34:32.380 Absolutely.

00:34:32.780 So the number one reason, getting back to it.

00:34:35.720 So the number one reason, I guess, in terms of surrounding yourself with other people who are successful is that you only have so much energy and you need people who are going to feed that energy, not deplete it.

00:34:45.540 Absolutely.

00:34:46.420 But I also think, you know, in talking about...

00:34:48.500 Dude, there's people that can fucking charge your energy so that...

00:34:51.660 Right.

00:34:51.840 So that, like, dude, when you have $100, there's people around you that will make that $100, $150 just by being around them.

00:35:00.120 Right.

00:35:00.960 You get what I'm saying?

00:35:01.660 Oh, yeah.

00:35:02.480 Not literally.

00:35:03.140 I'm talking like an energy.

00:35:04.020 Yeah, yeah.

00:35:04.420 Well, maybe literally.

00:35:05.720 I mean, I don't know.

00:35:06.180 We don't know how it works.

00:35:07.340 But, I mean, I've also heard you talk about how important in sales it is to truly be enthusiastic and to believe in your product.

00:35:16.460 Because human beings naturally transfer their enthusiasm or they naturally transfer their energy to other people.

00:35:24.540 I'm guessing that also figures into the issue of who you surround yourself with.

00:35:28.040 Yeah, dude.

00:35:28.280 If you're fucking fighting with your fucking girlfriend at home every day or your boyfriend at home every day and you're running a sales job and before you go to work, you're getting in a fight every fucking morning and having anxiety and then you got to go sell shit, you're going to suck.

00:35:42.480 You're going to fucking suck.

00:35:43.580 No matter how independent you are, you're still going to be influenced by other people.

00:35:47.680 It's not an option.

00:35:48.520 Yeah.

00:35:49.020 Cool.

00:35:49.600 All right.

00:35:50.180 So, that's why it's important to surround yourself with successful people.

00:35:53.680 It's not an option.

00:35:54.640 So, what do you – I mean, successful is kind of a – it's kind of a vague concept.

00:35:58.820 Like, if people say, okay, Andy, tell me the kind of things I should be looking for.

00:36:02.580 Obviously, we're talking in the context of financial success here.

00:36:06.080 Right.

00:36:06.440 Okay?

00:36:06.780 I don't define my entire life worth by how much money I have.

00:36:11.540 I don't.

00:36:12.380 Right.

00:36:12.560 I fucking – I'm very well-rounded in all areas and I understand and I'm aware of all the areas.

00:36:18.480 Obviously, this context that we're talking about, just to define it for all the fuckheads out there that are going to say, money isn't everything.

00:36:26.440 We're talking about fucking money right now.

00:36:28.480 Right.

00:36:29.260 All right?

00:36:30.660 So, go ahead.

00:36:31.580 Yeah.

00:36:31.860 No.

00:36:32.160 So, I mean, like, if you want to surround yourself with people who you think are going to help you level up, what are some of the things you look for?

00:36:39.340 What have you looked for over the course of your life?

00:36:41.360 Well, dude, first of all, I think it's a process, right?

00:36:44.860 Like, I think usually, in my case, I didn't have very many people around me that thought the way that I was thinking.

00:36:57.960 And you'll know when you connect with someone who's thinking the way that you're thinking because it'll be refreshing, right?

00:37:05.360 And you will feel less crazy because when you're the only person in your whole group of friends who has high ambitions and has these goals and these dreams and these things they want to do, and they will make you feel like you're fucking insane.

00:37:19.980 So, you're going to kind of know when you meet somebody like this, but I think, you know, the main thing is that you're going to find out that the people that you want to be around are also committed to what I said success was, was fulfilling their own true potential.

00:37:37.400 They have goals.

00:37:38.560 They're success-oriented.

00:37:39.980 They're driven.

00:37:40.660 They have ambition.

00:37:41.420 They're not satisfied with where they are, and they're not ever going to be satisfied with where they are.

00:37:47.620 And I think that's the main point.

00:37:49.880 Now, of course, there's other points, too.

00:37:52.140 Like, you're going to want to be around people who are loyal to you, and they help you, and they're there for you, right?

00:37:58.000 Just because people are driven and want to be successful and want to make money doesn't make them bad people.

00:38:04.820 A lot of those people are some of the most morally sound people there are because they understand that it takes a team of people to be successful.

00:38:17.040 You know, I think things like people who will tell you what you need to hear, all right?

00:38:23.300 Like, you want to eliminate your fucking shit friends, I'll tell you a quick way to eliminate them.

00:38:29.180 Tell them exactly what the fuck you think, okay?

00:38:32.800 Because when, and dude, this is what I do.

00:38:34.960 I tell everybody what the fuck I think, and I don't fucking care what their reaction is.

00:38:38.980 I don't care.

00:38:39.860 I don't care.

00:38:41.340 I tell them exactly what I fucking think.

00:38:43.020 You know this.

00:38:43.880 Right?

00:38:44.260 Yeah.

00:38:44.940 Yeah.

00:38:45.260 What's it like to work for me?

00:38:46.600 It's hard sometimes, isn't it?

00:38:47.480 It is hard.

00:38:48.140 Yeah.

00:38:48.320 Yeah, sometimes.

00:38:48.920 But do you ever think that I'm telling you that shit to be mean?

00:38:51.660 No.

00:38:51.980 I mean, I honestly, I think of you at times like a drill instructor, like the guy who's

00:38:56.520 over there going, I'm going to just rip you upside one and down the other.

00:39:00.500 But if you, when you get into war, you're going to be glad, you know, and life is war.

00:39:04.480 We've talked about that.

00:39:05.440 Life is war.

00:39:05.920 If you want to fucking, if you want to fucking eliminate your shit ball friends, start telling

00:39:09.800 them the fucking truth.

00:39:11.160 That's it.

00:39:12.320 And surround yourself with people that tell you the truth.

00:39:15.000 Right.

00:39:15.660 So can we, I want to tease that out just for a second, because in being around you

00:39:20.900 and us talking about this, loyalty and truth are two things that they kind of have to go

00:39:26.320 together.

00:39:26.680 Because if you have one without the other, like if you have loyalty without somebody

00:39:30.820 speaking, like somebody could be super loyal to you, but just never tell you what you need

00:39:34.820 to hear.

00:39:35.360 And in that case, they're just a brown noser.

00:39:36.860 Right.

00:39:37.380 But then the flip side of that is if you have somebody who's constantly telling you

00:39:40.140 the truth, but they really don't care about you, that's just somebody who wants to be

00:39:43.660 right.

00:39:44.380 So what I've gathered from you is you got to have both.

00:39:47.520 You have to have people who care about you, but also care about you enough to speak the

00:39:50.680 truth.

00:39:51.320 Yes.

00:39:51.820 You got to have both.

00:39:52.660 Yeah.

00:39:53.140 Yeah.

00:39:53.500 Of course.

00:39:54.100 There's good.

00:39:54.560 Of course, dude.

00:39:55.680 I was talking, um, I don't remember who I was talking about with this.

00:39:59.800 The more successful you get, you'll have more people around you who just say yes all the

00:40:03.600 time.

00:40:03.840 And you hate those people.

00:40:05.120 Like I fucking hate yes.

00:40:06.180 People hate them.

00:40:07.440 All right.

00:40:09.000 But what's worse than yes.

00:40:10.320 People is the motherfucker who will try to fucking disagree with everything you say

00:40:14.040 because they think everybody else agrees with you and they're trying to put you in

00:40:18.300 their place.

00:40:18.860 I used to date a girl that did this shit, dude.

00:40:21.280 And eventually like after like three years of arguing with her, I'm like, what is your

00:40:24.840 fucking problem?

00:40:25.920 Right.

00:40:26.300 Is she the onion girl?

00:40:27.380 No, no, it's different.

00:40:28.100 Okay.

00:40:28.440 But she told me, she goes, well, I'm the only one in your life that'll fucking tell you that

00:40:33.660 that'll disagree with you.

00:40:35.040 And I'm like, so let me tell you, let me ask you something.

00:40:37.440 So you think it's your responsibility to somehow put me in my place because no one else does.

00:40:43.620 And she's like, yes.

00:40:44.360 And I'm like, get the fuck out of my house.

00:40:46.160 You know what I'm saying?

00:40:47.420 Like you don't need to agree for the sake of disagreeing.

00:40:49.560 Get the fuck out.

00:40:50.320 Yeah.

00:40:50.900 Those people are worse than yes.

00:40:52.160 People.

00:40:52.560 Yeah.

00:40:53.100 You want people who are going to, when you're right, they're going to say, yeah, dude,

00:40:56.300 that's fucking great.

00:40:57.380 And when you're wrong, they're going to say, hey, I don't think that's right.

00:41:00.040 Or you're fucking up or this, that, right?

00:41:02.700 Right.

00:41:03.040 You want, you want the person who's going to be the truth.

00:41:06.540 You know, what's crazy is that so many people, and I, you know, dude, you know, I struggle

00:41:10.040 with this too, but it's amazing how many people don't know how to separate an act from a,

00:41:15.040 from themselves.

00:41:16.540 So, I mean, I, I've heard it before that sometimes with not all women, with, with certain

00:41:22.660 women, if they say, do you like my shoes?

00:41:26.120 And you say, uh, actually I don't, your shoes suck.

00:41:28.900 They don't, they don't hear it as your shoes suck.

00:41:31.280 They hear it as I suck.

00:41:32.740 And I think so many people today are like that.

00:41:35.080 Like, first of all, I gotta tell you right now, like any girl that fucking has ever told

00:41:38.440 me like, Hey, do I look fucking fat in this?

00:41:40.200 Or do I look this and that?

00:41:41.860 I fucking always told the truth.

00:41:43.420 Right.

00:41:43.800 I don't care.

00:41:44.460 Right.

00:41:44.680 And, and like, if you don't want to hear the truth, don't fucking ask me.

00:41:47.180 And I'm saying some, and I, and I'm, I'm going to back up cause it's not just women.

00:41:50.180 A lot of, a lot of dudes are like that too.

00:41:51.920 Like, Hey, do you like this fucking god awful outfit?

00:41:53.660 No, it looks like shit.

00:41:54.800 But it's amazing how many people can't.

00:41:56.320 Put something else on cause I don't want to, I don't want you to like stand next to me.

00:41:59.180 Right, you're right.

00:41:59.880 But it's amazing how many people can't take that as just an objective.

00:42:03.440 I don't like that.

00:42:04.700 I'm not saying I don't like you.

00:42:06.780 There's a good book about that called The Four Agreements.

00:42:08.860 Four Agreements?

00:42:09.640 Yeah.

00:42:09.880 And the book about the four agreements, one of the things is don't take things personal.

00:42:13.120 Yeah.

00:42:13.660 Okay.

00:42:14.300 And, and it's, have you read the book?

00:42:16.620 No, I've heard a lot about it, but I've never read it.

00:42:18.460 It's good.

00:42:18.780 And it's a short little book, right?

00:42:19.820 Yeah, it's short.

00:42:20.300 You read it in fucking two hours.

00:42:21.500 You probably read an hour.

00:42:22.520 Yeah.

00:42:23.060 Well, it's, um, I mean, that's completely opposite of exactly where America is going.

00:42:28.360 Some of the, some of the bad aspects of America.

00:42:29.200 Dude, you've got to be able to evaluate yourself, dude.

00:42:31.800 That's, it goes back to what we were saying.

00:42:33.500 You've got to be able to take information and, and look at yourself honestly.

00:42:38.820 You know what I'm saying?

00:42:40.020 Like, dude, it's such a huge thing and people just can't do it because they take everything

00:42:44.460 so fucking personal.

00:42:46.140 They like, if I say, and dude, you know, uh, Emily's not like this.

00:42:50.840 Otherwise we wouldn't even be married.

00:42:52.380 But like, if I say, yeah, those fucking shoes suck, you look stupid in those shoes.

00:42:58.220 She does not say, oh my God, you think I look fucking stupid.

00:43:01.820 You know what she does?

00:43:03.000 She doesn't wear the fucking shoes.

00:43:04.580 Right.

00:43:05.020 You know what I mean?

00:43:05.740 Right.

00:43:06.060 Like, but Kasha's the same way.

00:43:08.040 Yeah.

00:43:08.300 I love that about her.

00:43:09.280 And here's what, here's what she's actually said about, about my honesty.

00:43:12.840 Like if she says, do I look bad?

00:43:14.620 Yeah.

00:43:14.760 You don't look good in that.

00:43:16.080 She says that when I said, when she comes out wearing something and I say, man, babe, you

00:43:19.800 look great.

00:43:20.360 It means something.

00:43:20.680 She knows that I mean it.

00:43:21.880 Yeah.

00:43:22.560 So, yeah, definitely don't, don't hang around people who take things too personally, but

00:43:26.460 no dude, you got you, but that's a, that's the, it's the problem that we talked about

00:43:30.700 earlier.

00:43:31.000 The cultural problem that we have in this country right now, politically and socially,

00:43:34.820 everybody takes everything to the maximum extreme of fucking offensive, you know, comment

00:43:42.380 and where like punches a hole through their fucking soul.

00:43:46.500 Right.

00:43:47.000 And dude, it just does it.

00:43:48.540 Like, it just doesn't.

00:43:49.380 You fucking hate Trump.

00:43:51.260 Cool.

00:43:51.620 Right.

00:43:52.560 I don't fucking care.

00:43:53.760 Like, I don't dislike you or like you based on whether you like the president or not.

00:43:56.620 Dude, you know how many fucking friends I have that don't agree with me and that you, because

00:44:00.780 I don't really talk politics, but I got, I got, I got friends that do Tyron Woodley, fucking

00:44:06.080 good friend of mine.

00:44:07.500 He's been on the podcast.

00:44:08.840 Yeah.

00:44:09.040 Dude, him and I see politics almost fucking polar opposite, but we still have legitimate

00:44:16.180 fucking adult conversations about things.

00:44:19.680 Right.

00:44:19.900 And sometimes I agree with everything he's saying.

00:44:22.700 And you know, what's funny is that most of the time we agree and we want the same thing.

00:44:28.680 We're just saying it different.

00:44:29.740 Right.

00:44:29.860 Oh, you're emphasizing different things.

00:44:31.340 Yes.

00:44:31.600 Yeah.

00:44:31.800 Yeah.

00:44:32.080 And like, dude, it's just the whole fucking, it's just people have such a hard time.

00:44:40.440 A, saying that, that what they said a month ago or six months ago or a year ago was wrong

00:44:45.760 and B, evaluating the decisions on their own thought process.

00:44:50.940 People are just not secure enough to do that because they're afraid that if they have their

00:44:55.460 own decision or if they say something, it's going to offend this person or motherfucker,

00:45:00.880 you've got to stand for something.

00:45:02.540 Right.

00:45:03.280 You know what I'm saying?

00:45:03.920 You've got to have your own thoughts somewhere in there.

00:45:06.140 And like, the fact, what we're talking about with these shoes, it goes right together with

00:45:11.480 that.

00:45:12.040 Like, if you can't delineate the difference between me saying you're ugly as fuck or those

00:45:18.920 shoes suck, there's something wrong with you, not me.

00:45:23.540 That's your problem, not my problem.

00:45:25.480 But that's a whole orientation and I love what you were saying.

00:45:28.240 Fuck, we could do a whole podcast on that.

00:45:29.380 We could.

00:45:30.020 I love what you were saying earlier, like when you meet people that you just know, that

00:45:35.220 you're kind of people, I think sometimes people know that, but they second guess themselves

00:45:40.340 and they think, well, maybe I should give this guy a chance.

00:45:42.400 But deep down, we know whether somebody is going to be a person who builds us up and who

00:45:47.780 encourages us to fulfill our own potential.

00:45:50.080 And we know just almost immediately that they're not.

00:45:52.720 And I got to tell you this, this is a great story and I think you'll love it.

00:45:56.480 So back in the 1800s, you know, before social media, before any sort of media.

00:46:01.860 Where the fuck do you have the time to come up with all this fucking shit?

00:46:05.780 No, this is great.

00:46:06.580 You're going to love this.

00:46:06.860 No, I'm just asking.

00:46:07.820 Like where, where, where.

00:46:09.420 Dude, I study.

00:46:10.120 That's me.

00:46:10.560 I'm a geek.

00:46:11.000 You called me the king of nerds the other day.

00:46:12.420 You are the king of nerds.

00:46:13.180 I get up early and I read these kinds of things.

00:46:14.980 But listen, this is great.

00:46:16.120 Like you, you, like dude, when I was in fucking history class and it was like the whole,

00:46:21.120 like, like you could remember year by year.

00:46:24.040 This is a good thing, by the way, but I'm making fun of you about it.

00:46:26.700 No.

00:46:27.380 Like if I said what happened in 1812, you'd be like, what?

00:46:30.920 The war of 1812.

00:46:31.600 The war of 1812, right?

00:46:32.860 Well, that one's easy.

00:46:33.660 Yeah.

00:46:33.840 But see what, see for me, like in my brain, the 1800s, the whole fucking hundred years is

00:46:38.660 one year.

00:46:39.480 Like it all fucking happened at the same time.

00:46:41.360 Like, right.

00:46:41.860 Like you remember the exact dates of exact shit.

00:46:45.000 Obviously I'm exaggerating.

00:46:46.160 It's the one thing that I.

00:46:47.540 But like for me, that shit all mushes together.

00:46:49.400 No, I, no, I, I hear you.

00:46:50.720 It's the one thing that I might have an actual chance at beating you at is if we were both

00:46:55.460 Jeopardy contestants.

00:46:56.680 Dude, you know what?

00:46:57.680 I might.

00:46:58.260 I don't know.

00:46:58.800 But I know you, I know you have a chance.

00:47:00.860 Cause I know you AC, ACT, so I didn't, I didn't do well.

00:47:03.880 I am good at trivia.

00:47:04.900 Like really good.

00:47:05.760 Yeah.

00:47:06.100 Mainly because what I do before we play trivia is I secretly go by the game and I pull all

00:47:12.320 the cards out and read them ahead of time.

00:47:14.620 And then when they pull out the game, that's new, I pretend like I never saw the card before.

00:47:19.140 Right.

00:47:19.320 Yeah.

00:47:19.440 So like, if you're going to play me in something, realize that I am going to cheat.

00:47:23.660 I'm going to fucking cheat.

00:47:24.700 Right.

00:47:24.920 Right.

00:47:25.060 Like if we're playing a game, you better believe I've already figured out how to cheat.

00:47:28.780 Right.

00:47:29.140 That's just the, right.

00:47:30.480 I played a fucking win, man.

00:47:31.560 Yeah.

00:47:31.780 Well, you know, so you're Odysseus basically.

00:47:34.260 Listen, I played a fucking win.

00:47:36.160 I'll, I'll, I'll, I'll postpone my.

00:47:36.860 That's not even fucking cheating.

00:47:38.280 That's not even cheating.

00:47:39.100 No, no, no.

00:47:39.440 I know.

00:47:39.800 I know.

00:47:40.200 Cheating, cheating would be like writing the answers down and having them there.

00:47:43.800 All I did was prepare.

00:47:45.940 Right.

00:47:46.260 That's, that's different.

00:47:47.420 No, I hear you.

00:47:48.040 I hear you.

00:47:48.500 So, so I'll postpone my, my.

00:47:50.420 But I will fuck.

00:47:51.020 I'm not above cheating either.

00:47:51.920 No, I get it.

00:47:52.500 I, I'll postpone my story just to tell you this.

00:47:54.480 Cause we've talked before about Greek mythology, right?

00:47:57.120 So.

00:47:58.020 Well, you know, I love Greek mythology.

00:47:59.020 Right.

00:47:59.300 We talked about it.

00:47:59.940 That's actually one area of history that I'm, that I'm into.

00:48:03.000 Yeah.

00:48:03.280 So I, I listened to this professor give this great lecture one time.

00:48:06.220 One of the students asked him, well, who could win in a battle between Achilles, Odysseus

00:48:10.840 and, and Aeneas?

00:48:12.320 Okay.

00:48:12.720 And so the idea was Achilles was this like total BA fighter.

00:48:16.740 Right.

00:48:17.340 And so the, the professor goes, well, if it came to head to head competition, Achilles would

00:48:21.460 kill him.

00:48:22.440 But Odysseus was sly.

00:48:24.460 Right.

00:48:24.740 Exactly.

00:48:24.940 And so basically the reality is, is if, if Odysseus knew that he was going to fight

00:48:28.580 Achilles, Achilles would be dead in his bed and never have a chance to, to wake up and

00:48:34.000 fight him.

00:48:34.480 Yeah.

00:48:34.680 But then they said, but actually Aeneas, who was the founder, basically he was the original

00:48:39.460 founder of Rome or he had, he had something to do with the founding of Rome.

00:48:42.160 He would have never have taken on Achilles and Odysseus by himself.

00:48:45.520 He would have literally brought the whole nation of Rome with him and, and, and had strength

00:48:49.340 in numbers.

00:48:49.780 But anyway, so I, so, so that whole concept of excellence, personal excellence, you know,

00:48:56.720 we're, we're obviously got some very important things coming, coming up about that, but let

00:49:01.180 me tell you the quick story.

00:49:01.900 So, so stories back in the 1800s before social media, before even the photograph, I think

00:49:07.640 Andrew Jackson was the president.

00:49:10.040 Right.

00:49:10.400 And he and a bunch of his men were like riding on horseback for, you know, national business.

00:49:15.880 I mean, the president doesn't do that anymore.

00:49:17.240 And they come to this river and the river is like over flooded its streams and it's got

00:49:21.500 a lot of rapids and they have to ford across the river and it's super dangerous, but

00:49:25.700 they got to do it to get to where they're going.

00:49:27.500 Meanwhile, there's this other guy who's a lone traveler and he comes along and he sees

00:49:31.620 that there's this group of people there and he's got to get across, but he doesn't have

00:49:34.960 a horse.

00:49:35.800 So he looks and he, he, he points to the president and says, Hey, can you ford me across?

00:49:39.840 And the president goes, yeah, no problem.

00:49:41.800 Like doesn't even think anything of it.

00:49:43.980 So everybody, one by one, they get across the river.

00:49:46.760 It's dangerous.

00:49:47.920 They get across to make it to the other side.

00:49:49.760 And one of the president's men says, uh, you know, I mean, I'm glad you got across, but

00:49:56.380 did you have to pick the president?

00:49:58.560 I mean, for crying out loud, you made it like twice as dangerous for him to do that since

00:50:02.940 he was on your back.

00:50:04.180 And the guy was shocked.

00:50:05.400 He was like, I had no idea it was president Jackson.

00:50:08.220 He goes, but I'll tell you this.

00:50:10.380 I, I looked at all of your faces as you were looking across the river and thinking about

00:50:14.360 what you had to do.

00:50:15.220 And every one of your faces said, no, I can't do this.

00:50:18.840 But his said, yes.

00:50:20.860 And when you talked earlier about, about you just know, you just know that someone's oriented

00:50:27.600 to, they want to fulfill their potential.

00:50:30.060 They're not a negative person.

00:50:31.320 They want to build you up.

00:50:32.340 They want it.

00:50:32.760 They want to attack life.

00:50:34.000 That's what I think of.

00:50:34.980 I think of, there are people that the minute you see them, you know, their whole face,

00:50:37.900 their face says, no, you want to look for somebody whose face says yes.

00:50:41.620 Yeah, I agree, dude.

00:50:42.700 I love that story.

00:50:43.480 I think the, I think the problem with a lot of people is that they refuse.

00:50:49.820 Again, this comes back to society drilling shit into our heads that everybody's a piece

00:50:54.200 of shit and everybody's a shark and everybody's out to get theirs and fuck you and this and

00:50:58.280 that.

00:50:58.620 So they pass up a lot of these potential who would be awesome people to, to become friends

00:51:04.640 with because of their, their, their jaded nature towards people that's been, and you

00:51:10.300 know, you have to be able to trust people and know that they're good.

00:51:12.740 There is a ton of good people out there.

00:51:14.460 And that's another dangerous thing about that mentality of money is evil and people, you

00:51:20.080 know, it's rich or, or, uh, you know, be a bad person or be a good person.

00:51:25.960 They don't understand that.

00:51:27.260 Like, dude, there's a lot of wealthy motherfuckers out there that will literally do anything to

00:51:31.860 help other people succeed.

00:51:32.900 Right.

00:51:34.160 A hundred percent.

00:51:34.700 A hundred percent.

00:51:35.640 Okay.

00:51:36.000 So just to pass up those things because of your beliefs that have been instilled upon

00:51:40.120 you by outside sources, you've got to be able to think for yourself.

00:51:44.080 Right.

00:51:44.520 You know, evaluate each person based on their merits.

00:51:46.920 Right.

00:51:47.340 Gee, I feel like somebody said that might've been Martin Luther King.

00:51:50.220 I don't know.

00:51:50.760 Yeah.

00:51:51.160 Um, okay.

00:51:52.660 So just to recap, it's important to surround yourself with successful people because the

00:51:56.680 needs people that build up your energy, not drain it.

00:51:59.340 You are going to be influenced.

00:52:01.100 What they have will be transferred to you.

00:52:03.160 So you got to be careful.

00:52:03.940 You talked about the four main things to look for in people you become friends with is they're

00:52:07.640 committed to fulfilling their own true potential.

00:52:09.380 They'll, they're loyal.

00:52:10.480 They tell you the truth.

00:52:11.600 I probably would just, you know, summarize that as they, they have your best interest at

00:52:16.320 heart.

00:52:16.500 Right.

00:52:16.800 Right.

00:52:17.280 So let's talk a little bit, cause I'm not sure we've ever done this.

00:52:19.940 People talk about how hard it is when you start killing it and you might be surrounded

00:52:24.840 with, um, we won't say losers, but what you want, you might be surrounded by average

00:52:29.180 people who just don't understand your aspirations.

00:52:31.780 You and I have talked about this before, but I don't know that we've ever actually gone point

00:52:35.080 by point.

00:52:35.740 There's a process that you talk about that people should expect to go through when they

00:52:39.980 level up and start hanging out with better, like more, not intrinsically better, but more

00:52:44.700 success oriented, oriented, more, more aligned with what they want is the best way to say

00:52:49.260 it.

00:52:49.440 Right.

00:52:49.660 Right.

00:52:50.280 Um, yeah, dude, there is a process, you know, uh, changing when you grow up with a group

00:52:56.920 of people, a group of friends, let's say you grew up in the old neighborhood with Tommy

00:53:00.280 and Joey and fucking Billy.

00:53:01.660 Right.

00:53:02.200 And Tommy and Joey and Billy have been in your life your whole fucking time.

00:53:05.420 And then all of a sudden when you get to be 18 and you're getting ready to go do your

00:53:08.960 whole adult life, you want different things than Tommy and Billy and Johnny or whatever

00:53:14.120 the fuck I called them the first time.

00:53:15.540 I don't remember from these dudes from the old hood.

00:53:18.260 All right.

00:53:18.780 The Sandlot gang.

00:53:19.640 Right.

00:53:19.860 Exactly.

00:53:21.040 So when you start to distance yourself or start to go out, you have to understand that

00:53:28.080 that's going to cause fear in them.

00:53:30.620 They feel like they're being left behind.

00:53:32.780 So what are they going to do?

00:53:34.000 They're going to give you criticism.

00:53:35.520 They're going to give you negativity.

00:53:36.840 They're going to probably poke fun at you.

00:53:39.060 All right.

00:53:39.700 And for that reason, you're going to feel friction.

00:53:42.320 You're going to have friction when you're starting to expand what your wants and desires

00:53:49.080 and ambitions are.

00:53:50.320 And it's natural to feel that we've all felt that every single one of you feels that friction

00:53:56.420 right now, because if you're not listening to this podcast or if you're listening to this

00:54:00.640 podcast, there's a reason you're listening to it.

00:54:02.440 It's not because you're happy where you are.

00:54:04.560 So I promise you, all of you are having the first phase right now, which is friction.

00:54:11.060 Okay?

00:54:11.560 Right.

00:54:12.300 So that's, so like anything, you know, you start having conflict where are necessary.

00:54:20.260 I mean, dude, the system is real easy, dude.

00:54:22.780 The steps are this.

00:54:23.720 There's friction.

00:54:24.560 Yep.

00:54:24.880 There's separation.

00:54:26.000 There's attraction.

00:54:27.240 There's integration.

00:54:28.140 And then there's elevation.

00:54:29.460 Okay.

00:54:29.780 All right.

00:54:30.100 And that's the phases of how it works down.

00:54:32.340 Friction we just talked about.

00:54:33.480 Now we talk about step two, which is separation.

00:54:36.060 Now, as you separate yourself from your current group, you're going to have to endure some

00:54:40.900 loneliness and some isolation.

00:54:43.320 All right.

00:54:43.680 And this is where people always say it's lonely at the top.

00:54:47.380 All right.

00:54:48.060 Well, you're only in phase motherfucking two.

00:54:50.340 Right.

00:54:50.700 So you ain't at the top.

00:54:52.420 I'm not at the top.

00:54:54.200 I don't know what the top is.

00:54:55.580 Do you know what the top is?

00:54:56.660 Fuck.

00:54:57.020 No, you don't.

00:54:57.880 All right.

00:54:58.120 But this is where Tommy and Johnny and Billy, they see you as thinking you're better and

00:55:03.580 they say, oh, I'll look at him over there by himself.

00:55:05.600 All right.

00:55:06.040 And you're going to go through this phase of feeling alone because you don't have your

00:55:09.580 old friends, but you haven't met anybody new that's aligned with you yet.

00:55:13.640 Right.

00:55:14.020 All right.

00:55:14.420 So this is the separation phase.

00:55:16.140 It's actually lonelier at the bottom.

00:55:18.060 Absolutely.

00:55:18.800 Yeah.

00:55:19.080 If you think of it like a pyramid, you're further away from other people.

00:55:22.140 Loneliness is just a small phase of the whole equation.

00:55:25.700 Yeah.

00:55:25.820 All right.

00:55:26.420 The third phase, attraction.

00:55:28.860 As you become more of who you're meant to be and who you want to be, you're going to

00:55:33.780 start attracting other people like you.

00:55:35.740 You have to think about it.

00:55:37.160 You're going to make calls.

00:55:38.360 You're going to send emails.

00:55:39.380 You're going to go to meetings.

00:55:40.420 You're going to do all these things that are trying to level you up.

00:55:43.800 And what's going to happen when you start doing that?

00:55:45.980 You're going to make connections with other people who have the same goals and your interests

00:55:50.700 and ambitions.

00:55:51.900 All right.

00:55:52.140 So you're going to start to develop new relationships.

00:55:56.560 You're going to start to, um, integrate, which is the, which is the fourth phase.

00:56:01.800 You're going to start integrating these people into your, into your life.

00:56:06.480 All right.

00:56:07.120 Okay.

00:56:07.640 You're going to find yourself with a new group of friends.

00:56:10.080 You're going to find yourself with a group of friends who supports you instead of criticizes

00:56:15.380 you, who helps you instead of holds you back, who pushes you to be better instead of encourages

00:56:21.600 you to quit.

00:56:22.580 And that's when you're going to start to figure out that it's not lonely at the top.

00:56:27.600 It's actually better because now, instead of being angry, every time you hang out with

00:56:34.260 your fucking old friends, Tommy, Johnny, and Billy from the old hood, you're going to actually

00:56:39.720 start to feel energized because your new friends, the people who are now around you are adding

00:56:46.360 to your momentum.

00:56:47.720 They're contributing to your mission and your purpose.

00:56:51.300 And for that reason, you're going to have more energy to go out and do what it is you

00:56:58.680 want to do, which leads into the last part, which is elevation.

00:57:01.820 All right.

00:57:02.480 And this is the best part because this is where the people with the, who you're with

00:57:07.280 are constantly pushing you and helping you to level up.

00:57:11.820 These people, if you do it right, will likely have more resources than you, and they'll be

00:57:18.020 willing to share those resources to help you come to their level.

00:57:23.080 All right.

00:57:23.880 So now you go from a situation where, like I like to say, you had a bunch of anchors in

00:57:28.800 your boat to now you've got a bunch of fucking outboard propellers on the back of your boat

00:57:33.240 that are literally driving you to success by you just being friends with them.

00:57:39.220 All right.

00:57:39.840 And now what do you have instead of being angry, instead of being lonely, instead of being mad,

00:57:44.780 instead of being frustrated, what are you?

00:57:47.120 You're empowered.

00:57:48.160 You're energized.

00:57:49.300 You're ready to crush shit.

00:57:50.800 You have confidence.

00:57:52.520 You have belief because the people that are, you're associating with are telling you, you can

00:57:58.100 do this because I did it and I'm going to show you how to do it.

00:58:02.600 All right.

00:58:04.220 And your, your life and your happiness and your fulfillment, everything gets better.

00:58:10.120 It just gets better.

00:58:11.660 And you know what?

00:58:12.680 It's better for Tommy and Johnny and Billy too.

00:58:15.460 You know why?

00:58:16.240 Because you're not there making them feel like shit for doing what they love to do.

00:58:20.780 Yeah.

00:58:21.200 That's a great point.

00:58:22.140 Yes.

00:58:22.440 So two, two things.

00:58:23.380 One is you talk about the huge transformation that went on in your life and business when you

00:58:27.840 stopped concerning yourself with making money and you focused on just providing value and

00:58:32.200 helping people.

00:58:33.320 I feel like specifically in the attraction stage, people need to just kind of realize that, yes,

00:58:39.060 I know you want friends, but just focus on becoming the best version of yourself you can

00:58:44.900 be.

00:58:45.320 Yes.

00:58:45.540 And those friends are going to come.

00:58:46.780 Yes.

00:58:47.000 You're going to attract each other.

00:58:47.980 Yes.

00:58:48.080 But the second thing is, and I got to tell you.

00:58:49.520 And by the way, that goes for personal relationships too.

00:58:51.660 Yeah.

00:58:51.900 When you're having shitty personal relationships because you're dating the kind of people that

00:58:55.800 were of the old hood type of people, think about the people that you're going to meet

00:59:01.220 whenever you're on that new level.

00:59:03.260 Right.

00:59:03.880 You know what I'm saying?

00:59:04.640 Oh yeah.

00:59:05.100 You know, you're going to meet people who come from success, who have built success,

00:59:09.060 who support that kind of, think if you were trying to build a business and you came home

00:59:14.060 every day and the person that you fucking were with, whether it be man or woman, actually

00:59:19.680 supported what you were doing and energized you and said, Hey, how can I help you?

00:59:24.460 How can I make this easier for you?

00:59:26.180 And understood that.

00:59:27.560 Right.

00:59:27.900 Think about how different it would be.

00:59:29.880 It would be hugely different.

00:59:30.320 Because that's how it is.

00:59:31.600 The other thing I was going to say is that, because I, I mean, at least in some small way,

00:59:35.520 I haven't been privy to your private conversations, but I've, I've been around people who have been

00:59:40.580 here, you know, guests who are hugely successful and this elevation segment, like if people

00:59:47.420 can really trust and push through to that elevation stage, man, it's an exciting stage.

00:59:53.540 Like I just think about, you and I have talked about this before, the people that you know now

00:59:58.500 who have literally given you literally hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of information

01:00:03.800 and expertise and expected nothing.

01:00:05.960 I'm thinking about Dean Graziosi and Bedros, all of these guys that are like, here, have it.

01:00:11.140 And we all help each other.

01:00:11.960 You help each other and you're not, and of course everybody's still competitive.

01:00:15.340 But it's funny, dude, because when you're in the beginning of business, nobody wants

01:00:18.720 to tell their secrets.

01:00:19.980 Listen, this is what's funny about it.

01:00:21.420 No one wants to tell their secrets, but nobody has any fucking secrets because you don't know

01:00:25.060 shit when you're in the beginning.

01:00:26.380 Right.

01:00:26.840 But when you get more up the ladder, you have these dudes who have like legit fucking valuable

01:00:33.440 information.

01:00:34.080 Like dude, Dean and Bedros and what they do, they're the best in the fucking world.

01:00:39.100 You know what I'm saying?

01:00:39.580 And these dudes are, they're texting me, calling me saying, Hey Andy, how's this going?

01:00:44.220 How's that going?

01:00:44.880 How's this going?

01:00:45.700 I'm not calling them saying, Hey Dean, can you help me with this?

01:00:48.940 He's calling me and texting me and saying, Hey, you need to do this, this, and this.

01:00:53.280 Let me help you with that.

01:00:54.640 Here's, I'm going to have so-and-so call you from my team and they're going to line this

01:00:58.420 out for you.

01:00:59.460 Right.

01:01:00.480 It's crazy.

01:01:01.160 Dude, but you're talking about shit that's millions of dollars worth of, dude, Dean makes

01:01:07.420 $200 million a year.

01:01:09.640 You know what I'm saying?

01:01:10.840 He's saying, Hey, this is how I do it.

01:01:12.820 Do it.

01:01:13.420 Right.

01:01:13.780 You get what I'm saying?

01:01:14.660 Absolutely.

01:01:15.140 Yeah.

01:01:15.440 And I'm sitting over here like, holy fuck, you know, cause like I do well, but I ain't

01:01:21.400 on that level.

01:01:22.260 Right.

01:01:22.460 You know what I mean?

01:01:22.980 And it is exciting.

01:01:25.380 It's exciting because dude, you know why it's exciting?

01:01:27.860 It's not cause you're going to make the money, dude.

01:01:29.400 And it's because you're around, you could tell that it's, you're around good motherfuckers

01:01:34.400 that really fucking care about you.

01:01:36.100 Who also know deep down and they understand.

01:01:39.980 The more they give, the more they're going to get.

01:01:41.160 The more they're going to give, the more they're going to get.

01:01:43.080 And you don't have to, they can, you don't have to lose for them to win.

01:01:51.920 No, everybody can win.

01:01:52.900 Like literally.

01:01:53.900 Dude, I used to think that bad.

01:01:54.920 There's no limit, there's no limit to their, to their potential and them somehow putting

01:01:59.960 a roadblock in front of your potential is not going to hurt them.

01:02:02.520 Right.

01:02:02.700 It's, it's like those two, um, two episodes, uh, the one about focusing on yourself instead

01:02:08.840 of competition and then the don't quit counting other people's money.

01:02:11.760 Yeah.

01:02:12.460 Those guys on that level are so focused on what they're doing for themselves in a good

01:02:17.460 way that they're not worried about, oh, Andy's going to cut into my, you know.

01:02:20.580 Look man, you have to think about this.

01:02:21.620 Once you're, once you're at a level where you're making, you know, hundreds of millions

01:02:26.040 of dollars every fucking year.

01:02:27.420 Okay.

01:02:27.880 People, I don't think people realize how good Dean is at what he does because you're sort

01:02:32.520 of late to social, but Dean's pretty much like the second most famous personal development

01:02:37.960 person behind Tony Robbins in the history of the space.

01:02:40.980 Right.

01:02:41.740 You get what I'm saying?

01:02:42.440 Yeah.

01:02:42.660 Like he's a fucking OG and I don't think people realize how smart he is and how much great

01:02:48.120 value he has.

01:02:49.260 And if you're not following him, please follow him because he's a fucking amazing human.

01:02:54.040 But the thing about, uh, about, uh, Vaughn is like, dude, let me, let me ask you something.

01:03:01.120 Let's logically break this down.

01:03:03.240 I just write you a check for, for let's say a hundred million dollars.

01:03:06.900 Okay.

01:03:07.980 You could literally, you could literally live your entire fucking life without ever spending

01:03:14.680 $1 of that capital by just investing it conservatively and making four to 6% on your money, which means

01:03:21.540 you're making fucking four to $6 million a fucking year.

01:03:25.780 Think if you made that much money.

01:03:27.240 All right.

01:03:27.800 Four to $6 million a year.

01:03:29.320 So let's just say it's six.

01:03:31.060 So you're making 500 grand a month.

01:03:32.960 Right.

01:03:33.300 Right.

01:03:34.100 You ever made that kind of money before?

01:03:35.400 No.

01:03:35.580 All right.

01:03:36.300 Can you even really honestly think what that would be like?

01:03:38.420 I can't.

01:03:38.840 It's so much more than what you made that you could literally do everything you want to

01:03:43.100 do with it.

01:03:43.660 Yeah.

01:03:43.900 Okay.

01:03:44.160 So let's just say this.

01:03:45.720 I fucking make that happen for you.

01:03:50.960 Now your main concern and your anxiety, everything that you worried about your entire life is now

01:03:56.660 taken care of.

01:03:57.420 Your kids are taken care of.

01:03:58.720 Your finance are taken care of.

01:04:00.420 Your, your wife's taken care of.

01:04:01.920 She doesn't have to go to work anymore.

01:04:03.460 Okay.

01:04:03.860 What's, where are you going to find satisfaction in your life?

01:04:08.940 Passing that on to other people.

01:04:10.380 Exactly.

01:04:10.980 Yeah.

01:04:11.300 And that's why those guys do what they do.

01:04:12.880 Yeah.

01:04:13.180 Because they, they want other people to experience what they're experiencing.

01:04:17.620 Right.

01:04:18.120 Unselfishly.

01:04:18.340 You're also going to find ways that I can pour back into that person's life.

01:04:21.320 Exactly.

01:04:21.820 Yeah.

01:04:22.140 Exactly.

01:04:22.640 But what I'm saying is, is dude, your way to find satisfaction is by helping other people

01:04:26.740 find what you found.

01:04:28.480 Absolutely.

01:04:28.780 And that's what you, that's why you see people who have built success that are a hundred times,

01:04:34.940 a thousand times more willing to help you than people who are struggling financially.

01:04:39.820 A hundred percent.

01:04:41.340 Because it's how they, it's how they, it's, it's how they feel good about their lives.

01:04:45.800 You know what I mean?

01:04:46.680 Yeah.

01:04:46.980 Money doesn't mean shit to those guys.

01:04:48.900 Right.

01:04:49.080 It just doesn't.

01:04:50.020 Because they know because of their mindset and their habits, it's always going to be there.

01:04:54.020 Right.

01:04:54.380 Yeah.

01:04:55.000 Yeah.

01:04:55.340 Yeah.

01:04:55.440 By the way, guys, that's episode 206 with Dean.

01:04:59.600 It's, it's called Millionaire Habits, Do You Have Them with Dean Graziosi, episode 206.

01:05:05.880 This book is awesome too.

01:05:07.040 Yeah.

01:05:07.220 The Millionaire Habits book.

01:05:08.100 He was, I, like, you're right.

01:05:10.640 A lot of the younger people don't really understand how significant he is, but I was, he in person

01:05:15.800 is such a, he's a legend and he's, he's so down to earth and caring as a person.

01:05:21.020 It's, it's pretty amazing.

01:05:22.220 So, I mean, I know we've gone a little bit fast.

01:05:24.200 It's, bottom line, guys, push through from the friction to the elevation.

01:05:28.300 It will be worth it.

01:05:30.800 We got to deal with critical question that you get all the time.

01:05:35.000 Let's, let's close with this one.

01:05:36.620 What happens if the negative person in your life, the anchor is a family member?

01:05:42.440 Dude, it's, it's no different.

01:05:44.400 You, you, you've got to cut them out.

01:05:45.980 You can't let them drain your fucking batteries, you know?

01:05:48.460 And people are like, oh, Andy, that's so fucking ruthless.

01:05:51.180 No.

01:05:52.900 Well, okay, it is.

01:05:54.200 It's ruthless, whatever you want to call it, but it's not heartless.

01:05:57.140 All right.

01:05:57.980 You have to understand that one, you can't be where you want to be with anybody taking

01:06:03.960 the energy that you need.

01:06:05.460 You just won't be there.

01:06:06.640 It's not an option.

01:06:07.320 Just like we talked about on the first point.

01:06:08.860 And two, you have to understand that you could still love them and you could still be a part

01:06:14.000 of the family.

01:06:14.560 You're just not going to talk to them about your business or get in conversations with

01:06:20.900 them about what you're doing with your life.

01:06:22.840 You're going to edit that part of the relationship and you're going to keep it about family all

01:06:29.040 the time.

01:06:29.540 All right.

01:06:29.900 And you could still go out to dinner and you could still go out to Thanksgiving and you

01:06:33.660 could still do those things, but you've got to be smart enough not to let them suck your

01:06:37.700 energy out.

01:06:38.320 Right.

01:06:38.500 When they start in on their shit, you've got to walk away.

01:06:40.880 You know what I mean?

01:06:41.540 And that's how you've got to cut them out.

01:06:42.880 Like, dude, obviously, you know, there is situations where people will cut out a fucking

01:06:46.900 parent completely.

01:06:48.320 I get it.

01:06:49.460 Dude, I get it.

01:06:50.380 Right.

01:06:50.760 You know what I'm saying?

01:06:51.600 But you don't have to go to that extreme.

01:06:54.160 You can start by editing the relationship, which, you know, people, I think when they hear

01:07:00.860 cut it out, they think like, never talk to him again.

01:07:03.940 Right.

01:07:04.120 That's not literally what I'm saying.

01:07:05.700 It can be what I'm saying.

01:07:07.180 Right.

01:07:07.420 But it's not what I'm saying every time.

01:07:08.860 But I also think people need to understand that the extreme to which you go to cut out

01:07:14.220 a person isn't really up to you.

01:07:16.600 It's up to that person.

01:07:17.880 If that person is negative all the time, then yeah, you're going to have to cut them out

01:07:22.100 all the time.

01:07:22.740 Right.

01:07:22.860 But if that person is, yeah, they just have a tendency to be a Debbie Downer and, you

01:07:26.440 know, then you could say, well, okay, I'll give you some access.

01:07:29.540 Well, let me ask you this.

01:07:30.040 You know what I'm saying?

01:07:30.660 Let me ask you this.

01:07:30.960 They're the ones choosing whether they're in their life or not.

01:07:33.160 If you continue to engage with someone and you know what the result's going to be, who's

01:07:39.040 the stupid one?

01:07:39.800 Right.

01:07:40.580 Right?

01:07:41.040 Yeah.

01:07:41.580 Absolutely.

01:07:41.940 And that goes for like what we talked about earlier, politics too.

01:07:45.220 Right.

01:07:45.320 Like if you know that you're going to argue with someone about politics every fucking

01:07:48.860 time, but you continue to engage them and you think they're stupid, you need to look

01:07:52.680 in the fucking mirror.

01:07:53.680 Right.

01:07:54.860 Absolutely.

01:07:55.660 So, yeah, I mean, I think you're right.

01:07:58.120 You can be ruthless, but not heartless, but it's a very important thing and it doesn't,

01:08:03.760 it doesn't, the imperative to surround yourself with the right people doesn't suddenly change

01:08:09.000 if the people are family members.

01:08:10.600 Right.

01:08:10.940 You know, that doesn't give them the right to drag you down and, you know, torpedo everything

01:08:17.180 you try to do.

01:08:18.060 Right.

01:08:18.240 So, let's do some housekeeping, dude.

01:08:20.880 Yeah.

01:08:21.040 I think we've covered a lot here.

01:08:22.000 Yeah, we have.

01:08:22.880 So, tell these people what they need to do here real quick.

01:08:26.120 Well, guys, we regularly put out a lot of stuff through email.

01:08:32.760 Admittedly, we've fallen behind a little bit on that one.

01:08:35.100 No excuses.

01:08:35.980 We just have.

01:08:36.540 There's been a lot.

01:08:37.360 You're going to be excited about the stuff that we have coming out.

01:08:39.820 But if you want to get on our email list, it's just go to andyfricella forward slash

01:08:45.560 subscribe.

01:08:46.220 We're going to be releasing some very, very important information, some great opportunities

01:08:51.500 in the near future.

01:08:52.740 Trust us when we say you're going to want to be on that list.

01:08:55.320 Yeah.

01:08:55.460 You're going to be one of the first people to hear about opportunities that we're going

01:08:58.740 to release, opportunities that are going to have time limitations, participation limitations,

01:09:03.220 all that good stuff.

01:09:03.820 So, definitely do that.

01:09:06.060 If by some crazy chance you're not connected with Andy on Instagram, obviously, Andy Frisella

01:09:13.260 at Andy Frisella on Instagram.

01:09:15.100 You're not really active on anything else, are you?

01:09:17.800 You got a Facebook page.

01:09:19.060 Yeah.

01:09:19.300 I'm getting ready to start hitting Facebook hard again.

01:09:21.380 Um, you know, like we talked, there's been a lot of things that I've been putting on

01:09:25.820 the back burner for the sake of the big projects that we have coming out.

01:09:28.620 Um, so, you know, we're starting, this week, next, today's, today will be Thursday.

01:09:36.440 They're listening to this.

01:09:37.200 Monday, everything will start cranking up on Facebook again.

01:09:41.020 Yeah, definitely.

01:09:41.660 So, guys, um, we always appreciate your support.

01:09:43.960 It'll, it'll crank up on everything again, including the email, the YouTube show, Frisella

01:09:48.660 Factor, um, starting next week, we should be back on track with everything.

01:09:53.180 Absolutely.

01:09:53.960 So, yeah, you, we always appreciate reviews, um, rankings.

01:09:59.460 You can actually go, uh, andyfrisella.com forward slash review, and that will give you,

01:10:04.540 uh, instructions on how to do it.

01:10:06.640 If you have an iPhone or if you have an Android, that'll give you instructions on how to do it.

01:10:10.120 But guys, I mean, put a little thought into it.

01:10:12.220 Sometimes we get messages that say, well, I don't know how to figure this out.

01:10:15.720 Dude, did we bring enough value that you could actually take some time to figure out how to

01:10:19.160 give a review?

01:10:19.940 Just figure it out and do it.

01:10:21.280 It means a lot to us.

01:10:22.180 I'm literally only giving you the exact things I've done to build a fucking $200 million company.

01:10:26.720 So, the reason that's so important to us is that it helps our rankings, which helps our

01:10:30.680 visibility, which helps get the movement out and spread the movement.

01:10:33.740 So, guys, in closing, you know, look, we talked about a lot of shit here, all right?

01:10:38.260 But what I think you really need to understand, and the main point of this entire podcast is

01:10:43.560 going to come back to what we talked about in the beginning when we talked about politics

01:10:46.780 or what we talked about now, is you have to be aware.

01:10:50.540 You've got to be able to think for yourself.

01:10:52.540 You can't continue to think like Tommy and Johnny and Billy from the old fucking neighborhood

01:10:58.900 and think that you're going to do that half the time.

01:11:01.780 And then the other half of the time, you're going to go out and be Elon Musk, okay?

01:11:07.000 It's not going to happen.

01:11:08.500 If you want to build success, if you want to fulfill your own true potential, you have to

01:11:14.680 learn to observe and draw your own conclusions.

01:11:19.100 And you have to do that with everything, whether it be your family life, whether it be your business

01:11:24.900 life, whether it be your religious beliefs, your political beliefs, everything.

01:11:29.120 Because until you start to think for yourself and make decisions based upon what you actually

01:11:37.200 think, not what you're being jammed into your ears every single day and into your eyes every

01:11:43.900 single day, you will not be a complete human.

01:11:47.880 You will be a robot, okay?

01:11:50.160 And robots are not happy.

01:11:52.640 Robots don't change the world.

01:11:54.960 Robots don't fulfill their own true potential.

01:11:57.740 And defining who it is you need to be around by observing what it is you want and making

01:12:06.020 those changes is absolutely necessary to you ending up where you want to be.

01:12:12.340 You've got to surround yourself with the right people, the right circumstances, the right

01:12:19.100 thought processes, and most importantly, the right energy all the time.

01:12:23.880 You've got to stick to it.

01:12:42.160 Thank you.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 17, 2018

How to Befriend Winners and People of Influence, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO236

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