REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 15, 2018


How to Feel Better About Your Life Immediately, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO235

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Andy Frisella
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In this episode, we talk about what keeps people feeling like shit and why it s not about making money, it s about being around other people and gossiping about other people. We also talk about why you don t have to be a technical entrepreneur to learn how to be successful.

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00:00:00.400 I can stack them hunts to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without
00:00:05.320 me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.520 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am
00:00:17.800 the motherfucking CEO. Today is going to be Tuesday thunder, all right? It's going to 0.99
00:00:23.360 be short and sweet. Usually we do a longer, more practical podcast on Tuesday and a shorter
00:00:28.620 podcast on Thursday. This week we're flip-flopping because I have a lot of stuff going on right
00:00:35.760 now, all of which you're going to find out about very soon. But I have an important message,
00:00:43.960 Dave. This is your first time listening. Basically, we don't charge anything for the content, all
00:00:51.360 right? We've been ranked the number one entrepreneurial podcast by Entrepreneur, by Inc.
00:00:58.620 Magazine, by a bunch of other iconic names over the last three years. We're consistently
00:01:06.000 ranked in the top 10 iTunes and top 50 of all podcasts. And that's because we do something
00:01:13.920 here that nobody else does, all right? Now, I don't charge a fee and I don't run ads. If
00:01:18.940 you listen to other people's podcasts, they're going to talk about 15 fucking ads before they 0.99
00:01:23.460 even get into the content. We don't do that here. I try to keep everything ad-free. I try 0.97
00:01:28.300 to keep it to the point because I do this because I want to help you guys make positive
00:01:34.120 changes. So when we say entrepreneurial podcast, that's a little bit misleading. Yes, we talk
00:01:40.040 about entrepreneurship. Yes, the principles of entrepreneurship are the core of what we talk
00:01:45.320 about here, but we are more than just entrepreneurship. We are personal development. We are success-based.
00:01:52.020 We are mindset-based and all of those things are practical. So you don't have to be a technical
00:01:56.580 entrepreneur to really get things out of this podcast. I think what you'll get most out of
00:02:01.560 this podcast is how to think like an entrepreneur, no matter if you work for yourself or if you work
00:02:07.540 within the organization of someone else's business. You're going to learn how to be successful and
00:02:13.460 you're going to learn how to be successful in different areas of life. It's not just about making
00:02:17.820 money. I love money. I love making fucking money. And anybody who says they don't love making money
00:02:23.000 doesn't belong in this fucking show. So get the fuck out if you don't love making money, but there's 1.00
00:02:27.940 other things that matter in life. And today we're going to talk about one of those things. 0.99
00:02:34.700 Today, we're going to talk about what keeps people feeling like shit. And I could tell you, 0.99
00:02:41.480 and I had a great conversation, uh, the other day with a friend about this. Um, we were talking
00:02:48.280 about how successful people think and talk and what they talk about versus how the average person
00:02:56.460 thinks and talks and what they talk about. And we started talking about how stupid some of the shit 1.00
00:03:02.740 is on TV that we see like the fucking Kardashians. I have a lot of respect for them as entrepreneurs, 1.00
00:03:07.860 but dude, come on. Like I don't, I could really give a fuck less what so-and-so said to so-and-so 0.89
00:03:13.260 are these shows like the bachelor and this, all this shit that people fucking get so into and talk 0.99
00:03:18.900 about. And the reason they get into this shit and the reason that that's all they talk about. And 1.00
00:03:23.800 the reason they're so wound up in it is because most people operate on the premise of talking about
00:03:31.680 other people. Okay. And what we're talking about here is gossip. All right. When you hear most
00:03:37.680 people speak, they are going to overwhelmingly the majority of the time, they're going to talk
00:03:44.720 about other people. They're going to say negative things. They're going to say positive things,
00:03:50.100 but the premise of what they're talking about is always other people. And it's so weird to me
00:03:58.100 that people spend so much time talking about concerning themselves with and getting wrapped into
00:04:06.040 other people's existences. And this guys is why most people can never succeed because they're not
00:04:11.960 focused on what they're doing. And I could tell you because I've lived in both worlds. I've lived in
00:04:17.240 the world of just getting by and I've lived in the world of being surrounded by people who are just 0.98
00:04:21.940 fucking crushing. And I could tell you from experience, successful people, while they still might 0.87
00:04:28.380 gossip a little bit, they spend like 1% of the time saying, they might say, Hey, do you hear about
00:04:33.260 so-and-so? And you'd be like, yeah, I heard that. And they'd be like, fuck, what a fucking idiot. Or
00:04:37.240 yeah, that's fucking great. And then they go on talking about their big plans or whatever they're 0.98
00:04:41.420 doing or whatever projects they're working on. And they start to talk about productive things.
00:04:46.580 When you live in the, in the world of people who are struggling to get by a majority of their
00:04:51.500 conversation is going to be spent gossiping and gossiping in a negative way. All right.
00:04:57.060 Um, and I want to talk to you guys about how you can immediately make yourself feel better because
00:05:04.640 guys, we spend so much time when we're, when we're in the zone of gossiping, uh, letting the gossip and
00:05:12.360 letting the negativity suck our energy right out of us. You know, we only have so much energy and what
00:05:18.240 we choose to apply it to makes the biggest difference in what our result is going to be.
00:05:23.480 So when you, when you spend your time talking about other people in a negative aspect, and when you
00:05:29.900 spend your time, uh, playing into the gossip, you've got to understand that you're applying
00:05:36.080 your energy to something that it's not only not going to be productive, but it's going to put you 0.99
00:05:41.020 into a negative mindset and, and eventually really just make you feel like shit. So what I want to 0.99
00:05:46.720 cover with you guys is this, I want you to feel better immediately. And something that, you know,
00:05:53.240 this month is mental health month. Something that can help you make, uh, feel better immediately is
00:05:59.700 this number one, stop gossiping, stop. No one gives a fuck. Okay. And if you're around people that give a 0.99
00:06:07.440 fuck, you're around the wrong motherfucking people. All right. If all you have to talk about is what your 1.00
00:06:12.720 neighbor's doing or what your friend's doing or what so-and-so on TV is doing or what sports team 1.00
00:06:17.400 did this or that, or this, this, this, that, the other dude, you have no fucking life. All right. 1.00
00:06:22.760 Find something else to talk about. All right. Two, when you hear people gossip, when you have people
00:06:29.420 bring gossip to you, when you have people bring you shit that doesn't serve you and is negative, 0.96
00:06:35.380 be the voice of reason and try to give the other person that they're gossiping about the benefit of the 0.99
00:06:41.760 doubt. Don't play into it and just agree with them and say, Oh yeah, I saw it. I was a piece of
00:06:46.140 shit. Well, I fucked them. Why don't you try this? You know, I see what you're saying, but I could also 1.00
00:06:54.360 see it from this person's point of view as well. You know, and maybe they're thinking this, this,
00:06:57.760 and this. All right. And the reason that I want you to start doing that is because it's a way to start
00:07:02.820 training people to not gossip to you. All right. People don't like when people disagree with them.
00:07:09.760 They don't like when people start to be the friction in their conversation. They want you
00:07:15.960 to play into it and they want you to say, Oh yeah, so-and-so they're such a bad person and they
00:07:21.720 want you to judge right along with them. All right. And when you don't do that, what you're doing is
00:07:26.920 training the people around you, some of which you can't really get rid of, right? Like your parents
00:07:32.220 or your brother or your sister or whatever to not gossip to you because they know that whenever you say
00:07:38.160 that you're going to actually be the voice of a different perspective. All right. And a couple
00:07:42.820 of things are going to happen. Four things specifically are going to happen when you do
00:07:47.160 this. Number one, you're not going to continue to absorb the negativity. All right. You're stopping
00:07:53.600 the negativity from entering your mind and your soul and your body and draining you of all the energy
00:08:00.140 that you would otherwise have to do productive things. All right. So you're not going to be drained
00:08:06.020 by these long drawn out negative stories that people are pushing into your ears and into your
00:08:11.700 brain. You're going to have that energy to do productive things. All right. This is very practical
00:08:16.760 in nature. It's not just, Hey, you want to feel better. It's actually going to produce a better
00:08:21.000 result because you're not being drained of energy that could be used to do productive things. All right.
00:08:26.300 And number two, the second point of what's going to happen is you're going to respect yourself a lot
00:08:31.220 more for having the courage to do the right thing. You know, it's wrong to gossip. You know,
00:08:37.860 it's wrong to talk shit. You know, it's wrong to be the person who goes along with this stuff. 0.99
00:08:43.960 So what's going to happen when you stand up and you say no more, I'm not doing this. 1.00
00:08:50.000 And you start weeding out the shit from your life. You're going to feel better about yourself 0.99
00:08:54.900 because you're standing up for what you know on the inside is right, which is going to help boost
00:08:59.920 your self-esteem. It's going to help boost your confidence. It's going to help boost the belief
00:09:05.040 that you have in yourself in the strength of the person that you are. All right. So you're going to
00:09:11.360 respect yourself a lot more. Number three, the people who are gossiping to you are going to stop
00:09:17.480 cultivating the negativity out of you. We all have negativity. We all have things that we hate about
00:09:24.580 other people. It's just the truth. Anybody who says, Oh, I love everybody. They're full of fucking shit.
00:09:29.440 All right. We all get annoyed. We all get angry. We all get pissed off. The key is to be able to use 1.00
00:09:37.100 that to produce productive action. We talk about these pivots all the time. Somebody says something
00:09:43.160 negative or does something negative that you don't like. What do you do? Do you pout and cry and whine
00:09:48.860 like every average motherfucker out there? Or do you take the energy that they are giving you and putting 1.00
00:09:55.360 it into productive action? All right. So when the people come to you and they gossip to you,
00:10:01.220 they're going to stop just feeding you needless negativity over and over and over again. And it's
00:10:06.220 going to give you an opportunity to use the negativity you already have for productive action.
00:10:12.420 Okay. And the fourth thing that's going to happen guys is this, the people that are normally gossiping
00:10:17.800 to you while they might get upset with you, while they might be like, Hey man, what the fuck? 0.96
00:10:22.320 Whenever you stand up for what's right and don't go along with all the shit that they say at first, 0.99
00:10:27.460 what they're going to eventually do is they're going to respect you for having a backbone. 0.97
00:10:32.020 All right. And what that's going to do is place you in a place of respect and revere and leadership
00:10:38.500 that you weren't in before. All right. It's a place of influence. A big part of becoming influential
00:10:46.040 amongst your peers is doing the right thing and having the courage to stand up. People respect
00:10:51.620 that even if they don't agree with it and they'll listen to what you say. All right. So if your goal
00:10:56.640 is to be successful, if your goal is to be someone who leads, you've got to do what you think is right
00:11:02.380 because other people respect that. All right. And by you going along with the, everybody else,
00:11:08.340 and by you going along with all the gossip and by you going along with everything that everybody's 1.00
00:11:13.160 saying, you're just another fucking sheep, you're not the shepherd. Okay. And that's what you want 1.00
00:11:19.180 to be. So guys, the point of this is this may is mental health month. And you know, that mental
00:11:26.340 health is a big deal to me. And I think one of the biggest things that I've done and the biggest
00:11:31.260 things I observe amongst my peers at this point in my life is that they don't spend hardly any time
00:11:38.500 ever gossiping. And if they do, it gets stopped right away. We have more important things to talk
00:11:45.320 about. We have more important things to do and we can't afford to let our energy because life is so
00:11:53.080 competitive and building a career is so competitive. We can't allow our energy to be used on things that
00:12:00.500 don't produce a result. It's not an option. It's not, Hey, that's nice that we have extra energy.
00:12:07.100 It's that we actually need the energy that we have available to us to push us in the right
00:12:13.360 direction. And we can't afford to spend it on shit that doesn't produce a result. Okay. And the best 0.98
00:12:19.240 thing about all these things we're talking about is that you're going to feel better too. You're going
00:12:23.800 to feel better about yourself. You're going to feel more confident about yourself. You're going to feel
00:12:28.680 stronger. You're going to have better self-esteem and you're going to have a more pure spirit and soul
00:12:34.680 because you know that you're doing what's right. And guess what? Other people are going to respect
00:12:40.040 you for it too. So stop gossiping, put a stop to the gossip, be the person who stands up and says,
00:12:47.080 no, I don't agree with that. Or Hey, maybe you're not looking at the whole picture and start doing
00:12:53.440 what's right. And you're going to find yourself in a better position all the way around. I love you
00:12:58.180 guys. I'll talk to you on Thursday.