How to Live So That No One Has Power Over You, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO281
Episode Stats
Words per Minute
192.7304
Summary
Pastor Jean Claude Vaughn-Davies and CEO Andy discuss a variety of topics, including: 1. What does it mean to be a man of the cloth? 2. Are you a chronic masturbator? 3. Is it possible that you masturbate until your dick falls off? 4. What's the worst thing you've ever eaten? 5. What do you think about people judging other people on social media?
Transcript
00:00:00.380
I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.
00:00:04.860
Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.060
What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:19.820
Today, the pastor of disaster, my boy, Vaughn the Impaler, Jean-Claude Vaughn Dam.
00:00:30.440
Vaughn-y Holmes. You never heard that one before, did you?
00:00:33.160
I didn't hear that one, and I got another one that was just...
00:00:39.900
Vaughn Jeremy. I don't comment on that one, but...
00:00:55.780
We're having technical difficulties with Vaughn's mic, but my intro was so fucking good.
00:01:06.140
Vaughn-y Holmes' microphone was not plugged in, as I was teasing him.
00:01:12.880
Well, a couple guys in the Arte Syndicate actually came up with one that...
00:01:16.720
I'm not going to lie, I think it's pretty bad, but I'll take it.
00:01:28.300
I need to learn a guitar so I could be Von Halen.
00:01:45.740
I got two prep notes for episodes, but I don't feel like reading them.
00:01:58.020
Dude, you know, it's been a while since we got down, sit down and talk.
00:02:02.480
Look, and one thing that I've been seeing so much of lately, and the reason I wanted
00:02:09.700
to, I kind of wanted to ask you and get your thoughts on this was because, you know, you
00:02:13.820
spent so much time in the ministry, is that how you say it?
00:02:30.620
I think it means you masturbate until your dick falls off.
00:02:33.040
No, but what's the connection between that and the cloth?
00:02:35.600
They don't have sex, so they got to beat off a lot.
00:02:46.760
I've been seeing a lot of people on social media, for lack of better terms, judging other
00:02:59.660
And I think it's a good topic to think about just for, you know, we don't have to record
00:03:06.380
for another hour, but I think it's something that everybody should be conscious of, you
00:03:18.120
It could be whatever we decide we want it to be.
00:03:20.440
But, because I have a feeling you're going to have a lot to say about this.
00:03:23.720
So, dude, now more than ever, our mistakes as human beings are publicized.
00:03:35.440
And the bigger the name you have, the more people want to jump in and find a crack in
00:03:45.260
And I think it's, it's very, not that I think, it's very irritating to me and frustrating
00:03:56.120
Um, because, in my opinion, we're all going to fucking stumble.
00:04:05.900
We're all going to have things that happen to us that, honestly, are going to be, they're
00:04:13.420
But, it's like society in general, and especially people who aren't as aware, they tend to forget
00:04:32.080
Everybody screws up and falls on their face in public, right?
00:04:38.300
Because, dude, 20 years ago, we didn't have internet.
00:04:40.940
So, you know, if somebody did something, they failed a business, or they got a DWI, or they
00:04:48.800
went to jail, or they got caught having an affair, or a million other things, right?
00:04:55.300
You didn't have this huge, like, public backlash.
00:05:06.040
I don't know what everybody else believes, but I believe in that.
00:05:08.500
And I've dedicated a big, big, big part of my life to constantly trying to bring people
00:05:17.840
And while it might not always be what they want to hear, I always feel like it's what
00:05:24.340
But the problem that I have with a lot of people, especially on the internet, is how quick, and
00:05:31.640
this goes for a lot of you guys, and this has nothing to do with me, by the way, but
00:05:37.060
this goes for a lot of you guys listening to this podcast.
00:05:39.220
When you see someone fall, when you see someone stubble, when you see someone that has a hard
00:05:47.140
Is your normal reaction to think, fuck, that guy's a piece of shit, and jump on the comments
00:05:57.220
Or is your thought process, man, that's really unfortunate.
00:06:04.220
I feel bad for the parties involved, or feel bad for her, bad for the parties involved,
00:06:08.220
and showing some empathy, realizing that the same thing could happen to you down the road.
00:06:13.760
And I know that you're saying, there's no way I would ever do any of those things, but
00:06:17.800
let me tell you something, all of you are going to fall.
00:06:23.320
All of you are going to have situations that are embarrassing, and that you don't want people
00:06:29.380
And I feel like that when you see someone, I don't care who it is, whether it be Obama,
00:06:33.480
whether it be Trump, whether it be somebody you know, it doesn't matter, and you judge
00:06:38.880
so harshly their actions, you are just begging the karmic powers, the universe, God, to teach
00:06:51.360
I mean, what's your take on where this comes from?
00:06:53.560
Because I feel like, I mean, dude, one of the Ten Commandments is, thou shall not judge.
00:06:59.400
And a lot of you guys may not, oh, I don't believe in the Ten Commandments.
00:07:02.080
You know what, it doesn't really matter what you believe, they're a pretty good guideline
00:07:10.280
Well, let me just say, the first thing that came to my mind is what you were saying about
00:07:14.460
like, we could all screw up, we could all fall.
00:07:26.980
No, I guess for me, and people don't believe me when I say this, but I really do mean it.
00:07:33.860
If I consistently make the bad, the wrong choices in life, even the little, you know, little
00:07:38.900
ones that add up, I actually believe that I am personally capable of anything.
00:07:43.780
If you, if you, I mean, with, I don't think I'm going to like, you know, do a Hannibal
00:07:51.380
Like when he's cooking that brain, I'm like, man, that looks like it smells good.
00:07:55.740
But I'm just saying like, you know, if you can, if anybody consistently makes the wrong
00:08:00.200
choices little by little over time, you can become a person you never wanted to be.
00:08:09.600
Yeah, the road to hell is paved with good intentions.
00:08:14.260
No, well, it's interesting because I think people really misunderstand the difference between
00:08:22.420
making a moral judgment on an action, which we're allowed to do.
00:08:28.240
I mean, the Bible never says, you know, like a lot of times when people truly are in the
00:08:34.020
...and then other people call them out, their first thing to say is, oh, judge not, judge
00:08:41.940
If somebody's clearly in the wrong, it's okay to say, hey, I don't think that action is,
00:08:48.580
I don't think that's action is something that we want to...
00:08:50.680
No, that's just upholding your own personal standards.
00:08:53.120
It's, so it's totally fine to be able to say to somebody, hey, objectively, I think your
00:08:58.260
I mean, we do that on the show all the time, right?
00:09:02.840
Was it the RTA syndicate recently that somebody said, attack the performance, not the performer?
00:09:16.020
I was, I didn't even go up to take a picture with them because I was like, I'm not even
00:09:25.080
He's like, hey, dude, how's that RTA syndicate going?
00:09:28.800
I'm like, why don't you ask some people who are in it?
00:09:31.560
Like, dude, we're doing shit that no one's ever done.
00:09:35.780
And I feel almost like a hangover from being there.
00:09:38.660
Like this last week in Laguna, because like I was so up the whole time.
00:09:41.940
And now I come back and like, I'm motivated, obviously, and I'm kicking ass and I'm doing
00:09:48.780
And honestly, I personally learned a lot of new skills.
00:09:55.240
You, it would be cool if we could be with that group more often.
00:10:01.000
No, but, but, but no, but I mean, my point being is, is that we've really lost the fine
00:10:05.060
art of saying, okay, this is objectively wrong, but there's a difference between doing that
00:10:09.860
and saying, okay, that guy's doing something wrong and screw that guy.
00:10:14.980
And that's what, that's what actually Jesus is saying.
00:10:20.380
In other words, if you're going to, if you're going to be, be judging somebody else, you better
00:10:27.300
He actually, there's another place in the gospels where he says, you know, we try to pick the
00:10:32.500
speck out of our own, out of somebody else's eye when we've got a plank in our own eye.
00:10:39.840
And, and so by and large, yeah, I mean, there's also another part in scripture where it says
00:10:48.080
In other words, people who are really good people don't delight when somebody does something
00:10:55.440
I think that's what irritates me about it is like, I think that's what irritates me about
00:10:59.700
it is that when someone does make a mistake or someone does fuck up or someone does make
00:11:07.380
There's literally, and this good, this changes for you guys building a personal brand and
00:11:12.600
you guys trying to, you know, become well-known and build your business.
00:11:15.420
Because I can tell you the bigger you get, the more people are going to try to find whatever
00:11:20.440
crack they can and fucking weasel their way in and expose it.
00:11:24.800
And dude, I just, I see that shit like literally nonstop.
00:11:30.000
Like so much so like people can post something online or say something in a YouTube video
00:11:36.280
or a podcast or a blog, one sentence out of literally thousands and thousands and thousands
00:11:43.480
of hours of good shit or, you know, something like that.
00:11:47.780
And dude, the, the, the response, it's like, dude, they look for that one thing and then you'll
00:11:54.360
have 40,000 comments on that one fucking thing when that person has done the complete opposite.
00:12:03.840
And dude, that, I think that the morals and values of society are being corroded because
00:12:13.240
people are becoming accustomed to the way that the media attacks literally everything that
00:12:20.880
So, cause we're watching the media and we're, and they're dude, I literally, when I go to
00:12:24.980
the gym and I see the news headlines, like it'll be something like, oh, Trump took a shit today
00:12:31.160
and he didn't use fucking wet wipes and it'll be on the fucking screen for seven hours.
00:12:36.380
It's like, dude, is that really all that we have to talk about?
00:12:42.880
You know, and, and that's just an example, obviously, but we see this with social media
00:12:49.360
personalities or business people, you know, dude, Jeff Bezos gets caught fucking having
00:13:00.100
You know, dude, I'm never, and those motherfuckers order Amazon that night.
00:13:08.860
Your, your morals and dude, and, and beyond that, like, who the fuck are you?
00:13:15.140
You know, this guy is, this guy is a billionaire.
00:13:24.540
But like, dude, who are you to fucking talk shit on someone you don't even know?
00:13:35.260
And I guess like, dude, a lot of you guys and a lot of people out there that, you know,
00:13:42.660
I can't think for myself, so I just repeat shit that I see other people saying because
00:13:48.380
I want people to like my comment or like my post.
00:13:53.680
If that's you, if you're that kind of person that piles on when people are down or vocally,
00:13:59.780
you know, expresses negativity at every fucking opportunity, your life fucking sucks.
00:14:08.240
I know you, because you don't see people with their shit together having that.
00:14:12.260
You do not see people with their shit together talking shit like that.
00:14:17.320
So when I was studying, studying for the pastor, you have to do these internships.
00:14:21.560
And I, I took an internship with this guy who had been a pastor for like 25, 30 years
00:14:26.300
And he was, he was like a real conservative dude.
00:14:28.660
He was real straight laced to be married to his wife for, you know, a long time.
00:14:33.240
And I asked him, I said, so how, how are you different now than when you started out in
00:14:39.760
He goes, well, a lot of ways, but I'll tell you one way.
00:14:42.560
He said, uh, the first year I was a pastor of some, if a couple would have come in and
00:14:48.120
the, the woman said to, to him, caught my husband cheating.
00:14:52.460
And he, I said, he said to me, um, I would have immediately like, what are you thinking?
00:14:59.920
Like, get your head out of your butt kind of thing.
00:15:05.760
He says 25 years later, you don't think that motherfucker already knows that?
00:15:09.580
But, but 25 years later, he said, is it still wrong?
00:15:14.500
But after 25 years of living with human beings, I realized there are reasons these things
00:15:20.940
And it doesn't make it okay, but you know, he said, I would ask questions and I would
00:15:27.880
Well, maybe for the last 10 years, his wife has been treating him like crap.
00:15:31.820
Maybe the guy feels like a complete failure at work.
00:15:37.480
Maybe he made the wrong decision in getting married in the first place.
00:15:41.500
But the, the point being again, is that, is that he said, Vaughn, it's a, it's, you can
00:15:47.660
still objectively recognize that something is wrong, but have empathy for people and understand
00:15:58.060
Dude, there's people right now listening being like, oh my God, you're sympathizing with Bezos
00:16:07.260
What I'm saying is, is you don't fucking know what the fuck happened and you have no right
00:16:16.580
You have done every single one of you have done shit.
00:16:21.480
And just because your shit might be stealing a pack of Kool-Aid from the grocery store and
00:16:26.980
their shit might be publicly, uh, having an affair.
00:16:35.260
And you guys, you guys have this, people have this, uh, this way of, of like ranking
00:16:45.220
There's people listening right now who have been cheated on and they're like, dude, you've
00:16:50.260
I've had more shit happen to me than you'll ever fucking know.
00:16:56.520
I've had three long-term girlfriends fucking cheat on me behind my back.
00:17:04.800
And the guy took away my nerves, my feeling, my confidence, my self-esteem for a really,
00:17:12.580
And it was my decision to turn that around and make it a great thing that saved me.
00:17:19.700
And these people, you people right now who are angry and bitter and upset with people who
00:17:26.020
did you wrong, you have to understand that you are the only one that's affecting you
00:17:35.000
You're punishing yourself by staying angry, by staying mad, by staying frustrated and by
00:17:43.440
And dude, the more you do that, the less you can do in a positive direction.
00:17:49.280
And you might not realize it, but when you comment and talk shit and do all that, you are just
00:17:57.560
feeding the negativity that lives inside you, which we all have negativity that lives inside of us.
00:18:03.720
And that negativity should be used to drive you to be better, not keep you in the same place.
00:18:11.280
You know, we talk a lot about the dark side, right?
00:18:17.300
If you don't know what you're doing, it can eat you up.
00:18:26.960
Most people get shit on by a girlfriend or a boyfriend or cheated on by a girlfriend or a boyfriend.
00:18:31.400
And instead of taking those lessons and saying, you know what?
00:18:38.800
I am going to prove that that is not who I am, right?
00:18:43.700
How many guys do we have emailing us that were like ex-cons that are now starting businesses
00:18:57.360
And like, I hate saying that word because Gary used that word so much.
00:19:00.220
You know, I feel like I'm just copying Gary's shit.
00:19:03.840
Yeah, so, but dude, it's, and not that I hate Gary.
00:19:09.100
I just don't like using other people's fucking shit they use.
00:19:12.840
But the point is, is that, dude, you gotta be, you've gotta be, we did an episode on forgiveness.
00:19:22.520
You and I talked about doing an episode on forgiveness.
00:19:29.800
Yeah, you've gotta, well, this could be it, dude.
00:19:35.120
And like, yes, it's okay to remember the kids that made fun of you, but it's not okay
00:19:41.440
to believe them and keep that from doing what you need to do.
00:19:45.180
It's okay to remember them whenever you're feeling like a pussy and you don't want to
00:19:49.060
go to work or you don't want to go do what you have to do or you don't want to go to
00:19:53.720
But if you use it to stay where you are because you believe that that's not what, um, that
00:19:58.680
you're not good enough or that what they said was might be true or this or that really what
00:20:03.680
you're doing is condemning yourself to a life inside of a box that other people created
00:20:08.060
that, um, is quite honestly completely made up in your own head.
00:20:16.040
We just celebrated Martin Luther King day, uh, right, uh, all across the United States.
00:20:19.920
And one of his greatest quotes is, I will not hate any man.
00:20:28.860
I mean, he's one of the most brilliant people ever live, but I mean, it's brilliant to
00:20:32.120
think about like, if you actually hate somebody, we could really use him right now.
00:20:36.600
I know if you actually hate somebody, they are actually exercising power over you.
00:20:41.240
How do you think MLK would feel about the media divisively just fucking driving a stake
00:20:46.900
between, uh, socioeconomic and racial relation in this country every chance they get?
00:20:51.880
Oh, I think, I think it, dude, he would be burning shit down a little bit.
00:20:55.360
Cause I think he was a visual, he was a vigilant dude, man.
00:21:03.280
The guy just had a backbone and he stood up for what the fuck was right.
00:21:08.240
What he knew was right, not just for black people, but for all people.
00:21:12.880
I actually think he would, I think he would piss off both sides.
00:21:26.640
You know, like it doesn't take a rocket science to figure that out.
00:21:30.600
Yeah, but I mean, back to your, just the whole question about, you know,
00:21:34.860
why do other people take delight in when somebody screws up
00:21:38.580
and really wants to just like rub their face in it and make sure they pay?
00:21:45.620
I guess it makes you, it's an attempt to feel better about yourself.
00:21:49.820
See, see, I told you that guy was a piece of shit.
00:21:57.400
That's real easy to say from an outside point of view when someone fucking stumbles
00:22:05.720
Every single person saying that shit is guilty of some shit as well.
00:22:12.840
And what irritates me is when people try to spin it as if it's positive behavior.
00:22:23.760
You're stomping on somebody who's in a bad position.
00:22:32.240
I personally believe that if you stomp on people when they're down, I don't care if
00:22:37.960
If you're one to pile on and say some shit to them, I don't care what they did.
00:22:43.400
If your person, like, if you're going to stomp on them and say shit and just fucking trash
00:22:49.000
them and this and that, it says more about you than it does about them.
00:22:52.280
And that's my, you know, dude, I've been fucking stabbed.
00:22:55.360
The guy who stabbed me got a charge with attempted murder.
00:23:19.540
And what does it, what good does it do the whole world if that guy continues in his
00:23:26.400
And, you know, people always ask me, they're like, dude, how do you feel about that guy
00:23:35.680
If I had to trade places, I'd rather have scars on my face than go to fucking jail and get
00:23:42.920
So, you know, I would, if I had to pick the situation, I'd rather be me in this situation.
00:23:56.240
I literally don't, it's, I don't even think about it.
00:24:02.180
You know, it's interesting because I do think that, I think-
00:24:15.420
And they'd want some sort of, they'd spend their whole life plotting revenge.
00:24:22.200
The choice is when bad things happen to you, you have the decision to either make it work
00:24:34.180
Dude, I could have fucking, I could still be doing the same shit that I was then and telling
00:24:42.260
I could have been so, such a successful businessman.
00:24:45.800
You know, I've got good things to say, but that guy came and he fucked up my face.
00:24:49.860
And now, now I'm, I waste, you know, I could never do it because he took that from me.
00:25:01.280
I don't know if you've noticed this as a leader in business, but what's interesting
00:25:05.280
is not only do people want to just pile on the abuse when somebody screws up, isn't it
00:25:11.100
true though, that sometimes the person who actually screwed up feels like they should
00:25:18.560
And when you as a leader say, no, it's all good, man, they're like, no, man, I deserve
00:25:23.220
to get, I deserve to get beaten up for this, you know?
00:25:25.880
And, and they almost don't know what to do when you say it's all good.
00:25:32.140
Sometimes, I mean, unfortunately, most of the time, you know, people can't take responsibility
00:25:39.620
But I think that's a sign of someone knowing they did wrong.
00:25:42.800
And that's probably the person that's going to, going to change the behavior process.
00:25:48.820
But right now we have all this stuff out there where it's like, you know, it's fucking ridiculous.
00:25:56.880
I think when we're dealing with somebody who's made a massive mistake or done something really
00:26:08.320
It's interesting you ask that because, you know, depending on your, depending on even
00:26:12.480
Because if you look at the internet and you look at what people fucking say and you look
00:26:16.580
at what they fucking comment, dude, making a misspelling in your fucking post is the end
00:26:25.800
Like, dude, I guess what I'm, I guess the reason I'm sort of ranting on this is because
00:26:31.700
if you listen to this podcast and you follow me and you follow my company, I do not want
00:26:38.980
I do not want you to be a part of this movement.
00:26:43.060
If you're going to be the person that is going to pile on negativity to other people
00:26:48.300
and you're going to celebrate someone else's demise, go somewhere else, get the fuck out
00:26:53.120
You guys listening and me and us, we should all be the people who stand up and have empathy
00:27:02.580
So that was wrong, but, uh, I made mistakes too and I've done shit too and I've done this
00:27:11.660
Use it as an opportunity to improve yourself versus an opportunity to fucking pile on someone
00:27:19.160
Because dude, if you feel good when somebody else falls, you know what you're telling the
00:27:26.020
And you know what the universe is going to give you a bunch of fucking failure.
00:27:35.300
I, uh, I just think in general, um, the whole point of all of us is, is improving as people,
00:27:42.840
is, is developing as people, is becoming the best version of ourselves.
00:27:46.560
And we've got to ask ourselves that when somebody screws up, you know, is the proper response just
00:27:55.080
to rub their face in it and make them feel terrible or is the proper response to ascertain
00:28:00.480
whether they actually recognize that what they did was wrong and then to help them to get
00:28:07.600
Or at the very least, keep your mouth shut and keep your fingers quiet and look in the
00:28:16.460
Because, dude, that's what successful people do.
00:28:18.820
Successful people look at other people's mistakes and they learn from them.
00:28:23.380
And that's, that ain't going to happen if you're always just judging people.
00:28:30.700
It's just something that gets on my fucking nerves.
00:28:32.800
And I've seen a lot lately, um, on social media, just people fucking piling on people
00:28:44.740
And, and, yeah, no, I mean, I, I get it from a, from a spiritual background.
00:28:49.340
I mean, it, well, to this day, one of my favorite, uh, one of my favorite stories that
00:28:54.720
Jesus tells is the, uh, the, uh, the story about the, the, uh, Pharisee and the tax collector.
00:29:00.520
The Pharisee is like the really, really religious guy who literally in the story says, Lord, I
00:29:12.120
And he's literally like so wrapped up in himself that it's like disgusting.
00:29:16.760
And then you have another guy who the people of the day would have considered a total like
00:29:23.500
And he said, and he beats his breast, which is a sign of like repentance and, and contrition.
00:29:34.560
And Jesus says, which one of those two people you think actually pleases God more?
00:29:41.700
And so that's, that's always been one of the key stories for me is, is just to say really
00:29:50.400
But, but to say that, not in a way that's just beating yourself up, but just to say,
00:29:57.220
And when I screw up, I'm going to admit my fault.
00:29:58.920
And I'm just going to say, Lord, help me do better.
00:30:07.340
Cause that's the other side of this coin is that sometimes people are so harsh on the
00:30:12.840
criticism themselves that they end up holding themselves in that box.
00:30:20.380
I mean, I, that's probably just as common as the other side of the coin.
00:30:28.600
I didn't let that, that old lady in in traffic today.
00:30:42.900
It's just, um, it just takes a different kind of awareness to be that way, you know?
00:30:49.460
And, and I feel like it's getting corroded because of the information that we consume
00:30:54.420
on a daily basis that we literally have zero, zero ability to block out because it's everywhere
00:31:00.240
is negative, polarizing, and super critical of every single move that people make.
00:31:14.360
Well, you know, your boy Miguel from the Arate Syndicate.
00:31:26.460
I love what he said, though, in one of our meetings.
00:31:30.960
Dude, he certainly is the most productive man I know.
00:31:36.200
Yeah, and he gave me a great book by, I think it's a French guy, a French Catholic priest.
00:31:41.460
And this priest who's known, his name's Father Jacques Philippe, he's known for really helping
00:31:46.900
people, he makes a point in the book that, you know, we think, we feel better, especially
00:31:54.020
if you're like religious or Christian, you feel better if you beat yourself up for your
00:32:04.500
So you basically just have to say, man, I screwed up.
00:32:16.060
Don't be one of these people who goes to church on Sunday, and then you go in, and you think
00:32:26.680
Like, the guy goes to church, he gets his conscience clear, and on the way out of the
00:32:33.820
parking lot, he's giving people a finger because they're not moving fast enough.
00:32:41.580
But really, you're right that so many people do, like, they put themselves in the penalty
00:32:47.820
And sometimes you deserve to be there for a little bit.
00:32:52.420
But we gotta know, but why is the penalty box only two minutes?
00:32:57.720
Oh, because you can't play the game if you're in there the whole time.
00:33:02.040
So, how the fuck are you gonna- you gotta let yourself out of the penalty box.
00:33:07.180
Nobody's coming- the referee ain't skating over to the penalty box and opening it for
00:33:11.140
You get to let yourself out of the penalty box.
00:33:17.380
When you see someone who's been sitting in the penalty box for longer than two minutes,
00:33:21.240
maybe it's a good idea to reach over and help them get out of it.
00:33:25.380
You know, Andy, we've talked about this before from different points of view over the course
00:33:32.340
of the last couple of years, but you know, you've always said, at the end of the day,
00:33:41.380
Because instead of beating yourself up about it, if you can make something right, if you've
00:33:46.320
done something wrong and you can make it right, go make it right.
00:33:49.180
It's more important that you make it right than that you feel bad.
00:33:54.060
And I see, but dude, there are situations you can't make right.
00:33:57.680
And if you can't, if you've really tried and the other person just won't forgive you or
00:34:02.460
there's just, I don't know, there's just no way you actually can make it right, then
00:34:06.500
yeah, you have to just say, okay, if I could, I would, but I can't.
00:34:13.120
You have to move on because if you don't, you'll be sitting in that box your whole entire
00:34:21.720
You know, you kill 40 fucking people, you probably deserve it, but we're talking about common
00:34:36.600
You know, cause right now you got all the same motherfuckers listening who are like super
00:34:40.720
judgmental being like, well, what if someone raped someone or what if someone kills a kid
00:34:45.240
or what if someone commits murder or blah, blah, blah, dude, you're the fucking problem
00:34:54.300
Go sit in your fucking miserable house and troll other motherfuckers.
00:34:58.700
If you don't understand what we're talking about, you are not smart enough to be here.
00:35:03.320
And, and to spell it out, obviously in, in so many cases, there are consequences.
00:35:10.280
Like you kill 40 people, there are consequences.
00:35:14.020
But at least I believe if that person comes to a point in their life where they are genuinely
00:35:19.800
sorry for having done that, they can be forgiven by God.
00:35:25.140
And, and, uh, and no matter what you do, you can be forgiven.
00:35:27.880
Like there's people that will argue that vehemently, like, like they will fucking completely argue
00:35:40.080
And people are like, well, wait till you have some shit happen to you.
00:35:46.380
So I'm speaking from a point of experience here and it may not be your exact experience,
00:35:50.780
but I've had some pretty fucking bad shit come down my pipeline and I fucking taken it and
00:35:56.780
I fucking learned from it and I've gotten better because of it.
00:36:00.180
Well, dude, don't you think on some level, all of humanity can be divided into two people
00:36:05.420
because everybody on some level has hurt everybody else.
00:36:09.520
So all of humanity can be divided into two types of people.
00:36:12.140
The people who used being hurt and, and experiencing suffering at the hands of other people, they
00:36:18.340
use that as an excuse to hate and the people who have had the same things happen to them
00:36:27.900
Isn't that why Martin Luther King was so great?
00:36:30.980
Isn't that why he went down in history and will continue to go down in history as one
00:36:43.900
Because dude, he had some terrible shit happen to him too.
00:36:50.840
And it's funny because I bet if he fucking came back, he would forgive that dude.
00:36:58.200
Well, he quotes Jesus several times about loving your enemies and praying for those who
00:37:02.600
persecute you, which let's just be real honest is not easy.
00:37:07.240
And which is why somebody like Martin Luther King is so amazing that he did that.
00:37:11.940
And you know what's funny too, man, is like in, in business situations, like, dude, it's
00:37:17.940
such a, it's such a weird dynamic to think about, but cause like I can hate, I can literally
00:37:23.420
like want to destroy my competitors, which I do.
00:37:27.560
But I can also feel empathy for them when they're struggling at the same time.
00:37:36.120
So, you know, I see people who I, I, I see him copying our business model or doing bad
00:37:42.400
things, you know, to just rip us off and this and that.
00:37:50.940
And then when I get better and I see a squash them, then I'm like, man, dude, I wish they
00:37:59.040
But it's, it's, um, I think it's a dynamic that you can, you can utilize both those situations,
00:38:05.900
you know, cause people right now, they're like, you're, you're the step on the throat
00:38:10.860
Like you're talking about stepping on throats, but now you're talking, dude, you could be
00:38:20.640
You could be the person who wants to be the best.
00:38:23.260
And you could be the person who wants to stomp everybody's fucking brains out.
00:38:27.180
But you could also be the person that when you get to that point that your head and shoulders
00:38:35.600
above the other people, you can reach out and help them get on their feet and help them
00:38:44.040
No, to me that that's actually the sign of a true competitor because it's like, I don't
00:38:50.540
The story about, about, I mean, dude, I got anybody going to question Tom Brady's competitive
00:38:59.780
He quietly wakes his, makes his way over to Patrick Mahomes.
00:39:11.800
People used to wonder why Reagan, Ronald Reagan, being a Republican president could get along
00:39:16.540
so well and have such a great friendship with the Democrat Tip O'Neill.
00:39:20.080
And his, his answer one day was, yeah, well, cocktails in the evening, pistols at dawn.
00:39:27.360
And that's, that's what true competitors that you can, you can, well, you know what?
00:39:33.340
Like I'm pretty sure it was JP Dinell that actually said like he didn't have anything personal
00:39:39.240
against the, the people they were fighting against.
00:39:41.940
I mean, what, one of those SEAL guys said, you know, they're, you know, we think they're
00:39:47.040
wrong, but they love their country or they love whoever they are.
00:39:51.720
But we don't have anything personal against them.
00:39:55.060
It's not like a personal, it's a hatred toward the people that they're fighting against.
00:40:03.540
Um, I forgot who posted it and this is like a year or two ago, so I can't remember the
00:40:09.280
exact details, but it was really, it was from an airport and it was a dude.
00:40:13.660
Uh, it was an American guy who had, was a Vietnam vet and it was a Vietnamese, uh, general
00:40:24.360
And somehow they had connected and become friends from, and like the Vietnamese guy had flown
00:40:29.620
to the U S and like, dude, they met each other and it was one of the craziest things I've
00:40:35.380
I can't remember where I saw that video, but man.
00:40:39.260
Like I, I've, I've done a lot of reading on world war one recently and a lot of the English
00:40:43.540
troops after the war, they, they'd meet the Germans and they'd, they'd be like, Hey, you
00:40:57.820
Like I just bring up a good, it's a good topic though.
00:41:00.480
I just, this whole odd thing of condemnation and forgiveness and, and, and judging it.
00:41:05.820
None of these people listening right now and neither you nor I are in a place to condemn
00:41:15.460
And the other thing, true, you know, the other thing you have to understand is that, you
00:41:24.660
know, I, I guess, you know, people could perceive me as like attacking people who are poor, people
00:41:37.440
I'm attacking you being okay with not fulfilling your own potential.
00:41:44.880
So if your potential is the highest potential that you have is to make $28,000 a year and
00:41:51.360
be, um, a garbage man or a janitor or whatever, and you do a great job and you work hard at
00:42:01.120
Dude, you, you have consistently, you have consistently said that you are the measure of
00:42:08.020
So if there's a guy who's working his tail off and his, his life's accomplishment is
00:42:16.360
He is more of a success than the guy who could have been a billionaire, but was only a six
00:42:28.880
Like I couldn't even tell you how much I agree with that.
00:42:39.800
That's why when I see someone who's, who's sweeping the parking lot or doing something
00:42:44.420
that other people would, you ever notice too, man, it's always the losers that turn
00:42:48.300
their nose down to other people's like quote unquote work.
00:42:51.120
Like you never see a successful person and I know there's exceptions, but let me rephrase
00:42:57.860
You rarely see a successful person who is self-made that treats people who do modest jobs in an
00:43:08.320
You just rarely see it, but I see regular motherfuckers who aren't living to their own potential
00:43:13.260
who, you know, you could say a whole bunch of shit about treating waitresses bad or looking
00:43:20.280
down on a janitor or, you know, looking at the warehouse guys and automatically thinking
00:43:29.120
Some of the smartest motherfuckers I have in this company working at warehouse.
00:43:34.020
Because they're the last people to touch the product before the customer gets it.
00:43:47.340
And dude, this is the paradox of what people think success is about.
00:43:52.720
Most people think it's feed up CEO, go do this, go do that.
00:43:57.700
It's empowering people to be great at what their potential could be.
00:44:02.080
I've got guys who are executives of my company.
00:44:04.480
I've got guys who own franchise models of our retail stores that are going to be millionaires.
00:44:12.420
If they're not already, because I don't look at their personal finances.
00:44:21.460
Like dude, when they were in the stores cleaning the fucking toilet, when some lazy employee
00:44:26.800
or lazy customer pissed all over the toilet seat, most of these people who are earning $28,000 a year
00:44:33.560
who have peaked in high school and who think they're fucking great would be talking shit on that person.
00:44:39.660
Oh, dude, I'm working over at so-and-so place making 10 times as much as you.
00:44:50.840
Dude, the judgment part of things, I guess it's just something that like, and like I'd like to say this too.
00:45:02.260
I used to be the person who'd be like, yeah, fuck that guy.
00:45:10.120
And now that I'm in my later 30s, I feel totally different, like completely different person.
00:45:18.280
Yeah, my experience as a pastor is that younger people tend to be more judgmental because they haven't lived life.
00:45:26.560
Oh, Andy, why are you so judgmental against the young entrepreneurs?
00:45:33.900
Hey, motherfucker, it's immoral to sell people information about shit that you never did.
00:45:40.480
If you're reading someone else's theory and then selling it as a product to people who don't know any better and you've never actually done it, that's an immoral thing.
00:46:04.040
Well, you know, I could talk about Arte 24-7, but I just want to drive home.
00:46:14.800
And to your point earlier, like you are literally obsessed with that group.
00:46:21.520
But, dude, how much fun is it to work with people who are not just people who claim to want shit, but actually you teach them.
00:46:32.460
They come back in four months and they're like, dude, I made an extra this or I opened a new office.
00:46:37.260
Dude, almost every single one of the people I talked to in that group had made significant progress in the four months between our first summit and our second summit.
00:46:51.480
Like, dude, it was either a new office or more money or more employees or better culture, like real improvement.
00:47:27.160
And a lot of you guys will email me and be like, I don't belong in that group.
00:47:35.880
There are some extremely fucking intelligent people in that group.
00:47:45.200
I'll probably end up working for that dude someday because he's like that – he's like that world-changing intelligence level.
00:47:53.240
But there's people also in that group that there are literally more equipped, emotionally stronger, tougher, and smarter people that work in my warehouse than some of the people in the group.
00:48:12.220
If you go out and you do shit, good things happen.
00:48:18.860
If you sit at home – because that's the biggest thing that these guys are.
00:48:25.320
Dude, we have guys in that group that literally are sometimes hard to talk to because they're not aware.
00:48:33.700
But what they do is they go out and make calls.
00:48:40.200
And I'm not talking about fucking programs about how they did shit that nobody – that they never did.
00:48:47.100
It's very cool to see because as smart as some of the guys are that are successful, some of the guys in there that aren't on that level are more successful because they're better executors.
00:48:58.580
Dude, one of the wealthiest guy I know – the wealthiest guys I know or knew was one of the dumbest guys I knew.
00:49:07.260
But, dude, I can remember writing him emails and him writing me back saying instead of like our company, it would be like our company, A-R-E.
00:49:28.180
Dude, sometimes that statement, ignorance is bliss, is the truth.
00:49:32.620
Because it lets you get out of your own fucking way and you just go make calls.
00:49:39.260
And I think – and I mean this is going to be kind of a backhanded compliment to myself.
00:49:42.980
But I actually think that intelligence can be a liability because you overthink everything.
00:49:47.280
Dude, look, I'm going to tell you right now, that is your problem.
00:49:50.780
Your problem is 100% that you just think of every single scenario and then you stall out.
00:49:57.820
You know, and you're getting way better about it.
00:49:59.280
But the point is, is that that's what most people are like.
00:50:03.300
Most people think, dude, I'm not smart enough to be in your group or to join Arte Syndicate or the Accelerator.
00:50:08.980
And I'm thinking like, dude, I promise you, you'll benefit from being there.
00:50:16.300
Your problem is you're too smart for the fucking group.
00:50:21.300
I mean, it's as simple as if you want to benefit from the group, take the lessons, implement the lessons.
00:50:33.860
You know, the core values, even though like it's different people, different races, different genders from all over the world in that group, literally.
00:50:43.840
Like when you go in that group, you see fucking all different kinds of people.
00:50:47.100
Every single one of those people wants the other person to succeed.
00:51:01.860
And dude, and I'm talking about literally every single person, not one of those people, not one, piles on other people to hope they lose.
00:51:11.840
And dude, I think that says something about how the universe works.
00:51:15.700
The universe rewards people for people who have good hearts.
00:51:20.340
If your intentions are pure, you will get far more than what people who are jealous and angry and mad and bitter and have that scarcity mindset will ever get.
00:51:33.360
And you can argue me all you want, but that's just my belief.
00:51:37.400
You can't prove me wrong because it's what I believe.
00:51:40.000
You know, it's like arguing with someone about their God.
00:51:43.720
Like why would you argue if that's what they believe?
00:51:50.440
I'm having a really, it's a lot better than I thought it was going to be.
00:52:13.080
So you're going to work out and then come back?
00:52:17.360
No, I'm actually just going to stay here because I don't have time.
00:52:31.060
You don't realize the real transformation is going to happen in the next three months.
00:52:37.020
I was going to say three weeks is pretty aggressive.
00:52:43.620
You know how you can be doing it but not doing it?
00:52:48.240
I really thought in my mind, okay, as long as I'm doing three or four a week, just keep
00:52:55.020
And I think there's some truth to that in the sense of building consistency.
00:52:58.700
But just in the last week or so, I've been like, man, I've been just showing up.
00:53:05.940
I've been showing up and I need to really be present and do it.
00:53:16.500
Remember that story I told about putting the soap in the bucket?
00:53:21.220
For those of you guys who haven't heard the story before, the story goes like this.
00:53:46.500
But if you would have not forgotten to put that extra 2% effort in to squirt a fucking quarter cup of, or whatever it is, soap into the bucket, you'd have a completely different result.
00:54:01.060
It's because that 2% extra effort, man, they're skipping out on or forgetting about, you know, when in the gym, that's focused.
00:54:11.940
Because you can easily go through the motions and do all the required exercise.
00:54:17.460
But if you're not doing that extra 2%, the results are going to be minimal.
00:54:22.960
And if you do the extra 2%, you become part of the 1%.
00:54:38.900
Guys, if you would, I would appreciate if you would leave a review on the podcast.
00:54:45.580
If you love the podcast and you think it's worthy of sharing with a friend, please do so.
00:54:55.620
And we've been able to grow our podcast to consistently number one ranking in the world with that word of mouth.
00:55:06.220
I hope it got you thinking about some things and let's get it.