REAL AF with Andy Frisella


I Messed Up & I'm Sorry


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Misogyny

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Hate speech

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Andy apologizes for a comment he made on Thursday's show about women in the police force and how they treat men and women. He also talks about a time he was berated by two female police officers and how he handled it.

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00:00:00.000 Hey, what's up, guys? It's Andy here. I know we don't usually hit podcasts in the middle of the
00:00:06.160 weekend, but I got something important that I want to talk to you about that's been bothering me.
00:00:11.940 You know, I talk to a lot of you younger guys and some of you older guys too often
00:00:16.580 about being a good leader, about taking responsibility, and admitting when you're
00:00:22.680 wrong, correcting the problem. And this is one of those scenarios where I have to be the one
00:00:28.800 to admit that I was wrong, take responsibility, and correct the problem. For those of you that
00:00:35.140 listen regularly, you know that our show, we keep it real. And I'm going to keep it real with you
00:00:40.500 guys right now. I fucked up. I said some things on the show on Thursday that after thinking about it
00:00:50.060 and after having it pointed out to me that I feel very regretful for saying. Embarrassed that I said
00:00:57.500 it doesn't reflect who I am or what I feel in my heart. And I'd just like to take a moment to
00:01:05.000 address those comments and address the context of those comments and apologize.
00:01:13.540 A lot of you guys probably don't know that when we started our first business, Supplement Super
00:01:18.240 Stores in Springfield, Missouri, we didn't have any money. There was no social media.
00:01:23.840 And so we had to get real creative about how we were going to get business. And since we didn't
00:01:31.620 have any money and we didn't have any social media, we spent a lot of time on the ground knocking on
00:01:35.600 doors and quite honestly got told to buzz off and kick rocks way more than we were welcomed in.
00:01:43.860 But one place that we were welcomed in was the police stations. And I spent a lot of time in those
00:01:49.400 police stations back then making friends, shaking hands. And those people welcomed us. They took us
00:01:56.040 in. They supported us. And quite honestly, we wouldn't have the business that we have today
00:02:00.480 without the relationship of the police that we have had. And this is why for the last 25 years,
00:02:07.580 we have been such strong advocates of the police. It's why we do what we do with our charities. It's why
00:02:13.880 we raise money for backstoppers. It's why we try to take care of the local police any way that we can,
00:02:21.200 whether that be standing up for them when times are hard, you know, like George Floyd or Michael
00:02:25.600 Brown, whether that be, you know, bringing them drinks or snacks when they're out handling 0.96
00:02:31.380 one of the most dangerous cities in the world here in St. Louis. And we've just always tried to be
00:02:38.300 there. And they've always been there for us, too. They've always helped us. They've always been good to us.
00:02:43.880 And I said some things on Thursday's show that are really just not sitting well with me. And if you
00:02:51.640 guys know and you follow me, I've never come on and addressed anything. I let controversy play itself
00:02:57.680 out. I'm used to it. It's what we do here. We talk about controversial things and people think what
00:03:04.340 they want to think. But this is different because these are people that I actually care about. These are
00:03:10.260 people that I care what they think. You know, we like to say, oh, we don't care what people think. Well, there
00:03:14.900 is certain people that you should care what you think. And those are the people that have always been there
00:03:18.940 for you. And we were discussing a situation on the show on Thursday with Tyreek Hill. A lot of you guys
00:03:27.140 probably heard it and a lot of you guys have probably seen it. And we all agreed that both Tyreek and the
00:03:32.820 police were at fault. And then we started to talk about the dynamic between police officers and
00:03:40.760 citizens and how de-escalation is extremely important. And then we started talking about
00:03:46.160 the dynamic between men and men and men and women. And while I was talking about this, I started to
00:03:53.420 recall a situation that I had happened to me about a decade ago where I was driving down the highway.
00:04:01.960 I had my cruise control on. I was pulled over by two female cops. We had a small disagreement. I 0.52
00:04:08.380 wouldn't even say it was an argument about whether or not I was speeding. And I ended up face down
00:04:13.980 on the side of the highway in a suit being berated by these two female officers. And the male officer,
00:04:24.280 a male officer pulled up to the scene. We rectified the situation. He apologized. They apologized. I
00:04:31.740 apologized for my part. And we left. But that stuck with me and it bothered me. And as I was talking
00:04:40.420 about the situation the other day, I started to think about that situation. And it got me super
00:04:45.300 fired up. And I said some things that I shouldn't have said, especially the way that I said them.
00:04:50.600 And what I said was that every single police officer that's a woman that I've had interaction 0.77
00:04:55.500 with was negative and that women shouldn't be police officers. And that's not true. I was speaking out of
00:05:02.160 emotion. I was thinking about that situation. That's not what I believe. I know that there's tons and
00:05:07.920 tons and tons of amazing, badass female officers out there that every day put themselves in danger 1.00
00:05:15.860 to serve our communities. And yeah, of course, there's some bad ones, just like we always talk
00:05:22.040 about with everything. Of course, there's some women that shouldn't be cops. Of course, there's 1.00
00:05:27.080 some men that shouldn't be cops. Of course, there should be some standards for who is a cop so that
00:05:32.700 we can create a great relationship between the citizens and the police officers. But I didn't do
00:05:40.380 that. And while I was trying to get to that point, my emotions took over. And I said that if it weren't
00:05:51.300 for a badge and a gun, this woman would be punched in the face and it would end her life. And it was the
00:05:57.260 wrong thing to say. It was a terrible thing to say. I was trying to make the point that women escalate 1.00
00:06:04.940 situations sometimes because they are armed and men do the same. It was an unfair comment to me to
00:06:12.320 single out women. And it came from a place of frustration and anger that I had for many years
00:06:17.740 back. And guys, I fucked up. You know, I shouldn't have said it like that. That's not what I meant to
00:06:25.840 say. It's not what I feel in my heart. And I want to take a minute to, you know, let you guys know that
00:06:32.640 I love you guys. I appreciate you guys. I appreciate the fact of what you do every day. I respect what you
00:06:38.860 do every day. I come on here often and for years standing up for the police, arguing for better
00:06:46.620 salaries, better benefits, arguing for major reform, for our tax dollars to be poured into our police
00:06:52.700 force so that they can make three, four times as much money. And then also we could solve the
00:06:58.100 recruiting problem, et cetera, et cetera. Like there's no bigger advocate for the police. And
00:07:03.680 after hearing from a number of you guys about this and, and the, uh, the frustration and the
00:07:11.400 disappointment and the pain that it caused, um, it's just been rubbing me the wrong way. And I feel
00:07:17.740 the need to come on here and apologize to you guys. Um, it's embarrassing to me. Uh, I'm embarrassed
00:07:26.300 of myself. I'm embarrassed of, uh, you know, I'm embarrassed that I embarrassed my friends and my family and
00:07:32.000 my business partners, and especially my employees who work extra hard to do the best job they can.
00:07:37.420 They have nothing to do with what I say. Um, and it's just embarrassing and it's disappointing and
00:07:44.600 it hurts my heart that I've let so many of you guys down. And I think you all know that I wouldn't come
00:07:49.300 on here and apologize if I didn't truly believe that I was wrong. And I think that's part of being,
00:07:54.740 uh, a man. I think that's part of being a good human. And, um, to any of you guys that I upset or
00:08:01.920 offended with the harshness of my words, I truly apologize. It doesn't reflect what I actually feel.
00:08:08.760 And I believe that my body of work over the last 25 years, um, should speak for some something about
00:08:15.180 that. Uh, but maybe it doesn't. And if it doesn't, I can deal with that too. Um, but I just wanted to
00:08:21.660 come on here and offer a sincere apology, especially to those of you that I know in person, especially to
00:08:27.020 those of you that I've been friends with for years and years and years. Um, I've always tried to do
00:08:33.800 my best to support you. And I know you guys have done your best to support me and the people, uh,
00:08:38.700 that we're involved with here and the companies and all these things. And, um, guys, I'm just sorry.
00:08:44.300 You know, I, uh, I spoke out of my ass. I let my emotions get the best of me. Um, I think you guys
00:08:50.960 who listen to the show, you all know that, you know, part of the show is saying the things that other
00:08:56.040 people won't say. Um, but when I say something that I truly feel I said wrong or, or, or I do
00:09:02.160 something that I truly, uh, feel that I did wrong, I think it's important that you guys know that I
00:09:08.540 will take accountability and responsibility for it. And, uh, and I will do better. Um, I appreciate
00:09:14.360 you guys. I love you guys. Um, I'm super embarrassed and, uh, I hope there's some grace there for me,
00:09:23.500 but if there's not, I understand that as well. Um, I will still be here for you. We will still
00:09:28.880 be supporting you. We will still be doing all the things that we do. And, um, if you don't feel
00:09:34.660 like you want to do that back, that's okay. Um, I fucked up. I'm trying to do the right thing now.
00:09:42.100 And, uh, I promise you I'll do a better job in the future of being more articulate and more careful
00:09:48.680 with how I say things, uh, and take the, you know, the response, the potential response of how I say
00:09:54.860 things into consideration. Um, especially when it comes to people that, you know, I know this wasn't
00:10:00.660 a personal attack towards anybody in St. Louis locally. Um, you know, I sit in here every day
00:10:06.640 and I watch these videos of, you know, these cops escalating situations and bad things. And,
00:10:13.880 you know, sometimes I forget that I'm looking at a small little piece of the pie versus the overall
00:10:18.680 body of work. And I forget that about our country. I forget that about police. I forget that about
00:10:23.600 everything because what I do here is, is to bring attention to things that are wrong in the world.
00:10:28.580 And, uh, sometimes everything appears wrong all the time because of that. And, um,
00:10:35.100 this has been a good reminder for me that that's not the case.
00:10:37.660 And, uh, to any of you guys, you know, that may feel differently or, you know, may,
00:10:44.420 I mean, bro, I fucked up and, uh, I'm a human just like you guys. I say things that I don't mean
00:10:50.780 sometimes. I say things wrong sometimes. And this was one of those times. And, uh, if I've hurt your
00:10:56.600 feelings or I've hurt you, um, I apologize. And just for clarification, you know, the reason we took
00:11:03.840 that part out of the show wasn't because I was getting heat, I get heat every day for everything
00:11:07.840 I say. Um, it was because I didn't want people to think that it was okay to speak like that or act
00:11:13.320 like that to other officers. Um, especially the young men that listen to the show. And, uh,
00:11:22.100 I think that's the part that bothers me the most is that I let those young men down. I set a poor
00:11:26.480 example and, uh, that really, really fucking bothers me. So I apologize guys. I know,
00:11:33.840 I fucked up. Um, I hope that, you know, you guys will at least understand some of the context of
00:11:41.440 what I'm explaining and potentially accept my apology, but I'll continue doing me. I'm going
00:11:46.000 to continue doing what we do. I'm going to continue supporting the causes that we, uh,
00:11:49.300 believe in and support. And that includes all of you guys at, uh, the police and first responders.
00:11:54.120 So thank you for everything that you do. I'm sorry. I disappointed you guys. Um, and for those of
00:12:00.460 you guys who are young men, uh, young leaders, young women, young leaders, um, listen, dude,
00:12:07.640 you know, we're going to fuck up. We're going to make mistakes. We're going to say things. We're
00:12:11.940 going to do things. And, uh, don't ever be afraid to own up to what you've done to apologize and try
00:12:19.400 to make it right. Uh, you're going to win more than you lose that way. And, um, I'm sorry for
00:12:24.440 setting a bad example to you guys as well. Uh, I'll do a lot better moving forward. So I appreciate you
00:12:29.900 guys. I love you guys. And, uh, I'll see you next week.