REAL AF with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.380 I can stack them hundreds to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.420 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:19.980 Guys, today is Thursday Thunder. If this is your first time listening,

00:00:23.080 Thursday Thunder is more of a mindset, motivational, and how-to-think sort of podcast, okay?

00:00:33.780 Now, what is the MFCEO Project? Well, the reason it's called a project is because we started

00:00:40.720 this podcast and this movement with the idea of helping people understand what it truly takes

00:00:50.520 to succeed. Right now, more than ever in history, you have so much access to so many opinions and so

00:00:58.480 much advice that it can be mind-boggling what's right and what's wrong, all right? We're realists

00:01:06.580 here, all right? We're not going to fill your mind with a bunch of fucking bullshit that is designed

00:01:11.860 to make you feel great. We are going to give you the real path, the real thought process, the real

00:01:18.360 tools, and real entrepreneurs so that you know what you really have to do to succeed. What is a

00:01:26.780 motherfucking CEO? A motherfucking CEO is somebody who is in control of them. You have to realize that

00:01:34.580 you are the CEO of you, and most people don't look at it that way. Most people look at it as they're

00:01:40.460 looking to the outside world for validation and direction of who they are. People who are motherfucking

00:01:49.880 CEOs of them understand that they are in control and that their life is a direct mirror of the choices

00:01:58.580 they make, all right? You are in control of the choices you make, and your life will become what it is

00:02:05.600 you choose, whether it be short-term and long-term. And so what we do here is we try to get people to

00:02:11.140 understand that there's a lot of idealistic opinions out there that are really total nonsense, okay?

00:02:22.180 Really listen to what people say. Are they really saying anything? Go out and listen to some of the

00:02:26.780 entrepreneurs out there and listen to the shit that they say. They say the same thing over and over and over

00:02:32.000 and over again. They say the same thing, you know, you should be doing this or living this way or this

00:02:38.080 or that or this, but what does that shit really mean? What does it really mean? Because, dude, we're filled

00:02:43.660 with entrepreneurial success, how to live, personal development buzzwords nowadays. We're filled with

00:02:51.020 these popular terms that everybody fucking says that nobody knows what the fuck they mean, all right?

00:02:57.160 And that's not what we're about, okay? I'm going to teach you exactly how I've become successful and how

00:03:04.420 many of the other entrepreneurs that we have on the show and my friends personally who have done real

00:03:10.500 shit besides just selling you programs on how to be successful, they've actually operated and built

00:03:17.140 real companies, okay, and done real things. And that's who you want to learn from, all right? So really take a

00:03:23.960 listen to what some of these people are saying and dive in to what they mean by what they say. Are they

00:03:29.740 just saying the popular terms or are they offering real information? Because I can count on one fucking

00:03:36.500 hand the number of people I know that are teaching real shit, all right? Now, before I get into what we

00:03:44.440 want to talk about today, we do have a big announcement, all right? And the announcement is this.

00:03:48.280 We're going to do a MFCEO Project iTunes review contest, all right? And what we're going to do

00:03:55.920 is you're going to be asked between now and the next 30 days to leave a review on iTunes. And it's

00:04:01.740 real easy. You open up the app on your phone or you go to iTunes and you scroll down to where it says

00:04:07.020 write a review. You click the number of stars you want to give, hopefully five, hint, hint, hint,

00:04:12.660 and then leave a review of what you think of the show, okay? Tell us how it's helped you. What

00:04:17.940 have you learned? And we're going to pick three people and we're going to fly them out here after

00:04:23.260 the 30-day review contest is over. And we're going to do a day of meetings. We're going to do a day of

00:04:29.900 consulting, coaching, and then we're going to go out to dinner and have a good time and hang out.

00:04:35.980 So it's going to be an all expenses paid five-star trip that puts you up to four seasons here in St.

00:04:41.320 Louis, which is going to be one of the nicest hotels in the world, to be completely honest.

00:04:47.800 And we're going to take you out to a nice dinner and you're going to learn some shit face-to-face

00:04:51.720 with me. So that's the contest and that starts on this podcast. So for the next 30 days, we're going

00:04:58.380 to do the review contest and I'm going to remind you of it over and over again, but make sure you're

00:05:03.020 listening. Also, guys, I ask that if you get something out of the podcast that you tell a friend,

00:05:09.160 that's our fee, all right? We don't charge. We don't run ads. I'm not going to sell you a bunch

00:05:14.340 of shit. I'm not going to fill the first 40 minutes of my podcast with advertisements. This

00:05:19.100 is about real benefit to you guys. And if you get real benefit, I ask that you share this podcast

00:05:23.640 with a friend. All right. Now, getting into what I want to talk about today. Guys, when it comes to

00:05:31.520 your dreams, okay, if you're not doing what you can do right now, you'll never do what you really

00:05:38.600 want to do later. And here's what I mean by that. Okay. You know how many entrepreneurs come to me and

00:05:45.520 they tell me, Andy, I dream of becoming a public speaker for business people just like you. I want

00:05:51.220 to be on stage. I want to, I want to get paid to speak. Uh, you know, how do I do that? And this

00:05:56.900 is how the conversation usually goes. Here's me. So you have a business them. Yes. So you have

00:06:04.740 employees to them. Yes. Me. Do you ever get them together and give them like an important talk and

00:06:11.120 practice your speaking skills them? Uh, well, not really me. Okay. Well then you're not that serious

00:06:18.660 about wanting to become a public speaker for business people, because here's the thing, guys,

00:06:22.560 you have to understand that these things are skills that you have to learn. All right. And

00:06:27.840 you know, if you were really serious, if this person who asked me that I get asked this all

00:06:33.440 the time, by the way, um, and anybody can become a speaker by the way. All right. It's not a special

00:06:39.000 skill you're born with. And I'll explain more about that in a second. Uh, but that's not really

00:06:42.780 important to the, to the, what we're talking about. Um, if you were really serious about becoming

00:06:49.480 a speaker, those people who were serious would jump at every single opportunity that they have

00:06:56.300 to practice that skill right now. All right. When I started speaking, you have to understand

00:07:03.380 when I started speaking, I started public speaking. And by the way, I took public speaking in college.

00:07:09.260 I got a fucking D. All right. And now I'm one of the highest paid public speakers at the moment

00:07:13.760 right now. All right. You have to understand that when I started public speaking, I started in 2006

00:07:22.580 and I started speaking to the 10 employees that we had at the time, fucking 10 people.

00:07:29.160 And you know what I did? I wrote down the meeting agenda and I'd stand in front of the fucking people,

00:07:34.640 the 10 people who I knew, by the way, it wasn't like the 10,000 or the 15,000 people that I speak

00:07:40.880 in front of now that I don't know any of them. All right. I knew these people. I was comfortable

00:07:45.160 with these people and I'd make a sheet and I would do the meeting and dude, I would stand up there.

00:07:50.200 My fucking hand would be holding the paper and I'd be shaken and I'd be nervous and I would have

00:07:55.260 anxiety about it for like three days before. And I would prep my speech and I would envision how it

00:08:00.780 was supposed to go. And I would think all these things and guess what? It never fucking went the way

00:08:06.060 I wanted to go. I was fucking terrible. Okay. But I was willing to be terrible. I was willing to stand

00:08:14.240 in front of 10 people I knew and be embarrassed at how bad I was. I was fucking awful, awful, terrible.

00:08:23.840 When I say I got a D in public speaking, I'm pretty sure I got a D because the teacher felt sorry for me

00:08:29.520 and I was friendly to him. That's the truth. I was fucking terrible. And most of you guys,

00:08:36.260 and I've said this a million times, you're so unwilling to be bad at something that it keeps

00:08:41.280 you from ever being anything. Okay. And every single one of you motherfuckers that owns a business

00:08:47.240 right now and says you want to be a public speaker, you could do that right now. You're not going to

00:08:52.620 speak to thousands of people. You're not going to jump from T-ball to the fucking major leagues.

00:08:58.000 That's not how it goes. You're going to speak to fucking a dozen people. You're going to suck.

00:09:03.140 You're going to be bad. And you know what? That's okay. Because that's how all of us start.

00:09:08.860 That's how every single motherfucking speaker I know started. They started in front of five or six

00:09:13.540 motherfuckers and they sucked. And you know what? You're going to go out sometimes, even when you're

00:09:18.580 at the top fucking level, even when you're at the major leagues, you're going to go out and guess

00:09:23.660 what's going to happen. You're going to shit the bed. You're going to do a bad talk. All right.

00:09:29.100 That's what happens. But you have to be willing to jump at the opportunities that you have right

00:09:35.200 now in order to be good to develop the skills that you want later. Otherwise, you're never going to

00:09:40.800 get there. You know, most of you guys are like the bratty little kid who wants the whole bag of candy

00:09:46.040 and his parents say, no, you can have just one piece. And instead of enjoying the one piece,

00:09:50.720 you throw a bitch fit about how you can't have the whole fucking bag right now. All right.

00:09:55.920 That's the reality. So guys, if your dream is to become a country music artist and perform in

00:10:02.600 Nashville in front of thousands of people, you know, you're that, that very well could happen

00:10:08.380 one day. All right. And it can happen one day. But the thing is, is right now you better be willing

00:10:14.300 to go to the local country bar and sing karaoke in front of seven motherfuckers. And you better do it

00:10:19.940 every single fucking weekend. That's the reality of being successful guys. You have to hear what

00:10:26.220 I'm saying. You have to be able and willing to do what you can now and be bad at it, or you'll never

00:10:33.860 be able to do what you want to do later and be great at it. This is a reality of success. This is

00:10:41.420 something most people can never grasp. Most people's egos are so fucking fragile that they are not willing

00:10:49.300 to put in the fucking work at T-ball level so that they can later be a major leaguer and get

00:10:55.360 fucking paid the big bucks. Okay. And that's sad. That's sad. I would say, honestly, dude,

00:11:01.680 I think that most success comes down to willing to be fucking bad, willing to get punched in the face,

00:11:10.120 willing to fucking fall flat in front of people and have people laugh at you. I think, dude,

00:11:14.460 I really honestly believe that's fucking 75% of the game. I think it's 75% of the game. I think

00:11:21.280 most people just will not go out and be bad in front of people that they fucking know.

00:11:27.840 And if you think about it, dude, if that's 75% of the fucking game and 25% is just doing it,

00:11:34.680 okay, over and over and over again, success becomes a really simple formula. But I could

00:11:41.460 tell you right now, there's not one motherfucker listening to this podcast, not you, not your

00:11:46.360 fucking friends, nobody that has just a special gift with anything that they didn't inadvertently

00:11:54.160 or purposely practice over their life. A lot of people are great at sales and they have tremendous

00:11:59.640 charisma. And you look at them and you say, God, that person's got a gift with people.

00:12:03.760 But the truth of the matter is they went door to door, you know, selling fucking Boy Scout shit or

00:12:09.800 Girl Scout shit when they were kids every fucking year. You know, there's things they did behind the

00:12:15.340 scenes that you're not privy to seeing that created this perceived gift that they have.

00:12:22.260 Okay. And a lot of times that does happen on accident because you're just going through life,

00:12:26.580 doing what you're supposed to do. And you happen to develop a certain skill. All right. And for me,

00:12:32.580 that's speaking, I never intended to become a great fucking speaker. And honestly, I don't feel

00:12:38.520 like I'm great now, but the market says I am. Cause I get paid a lot of fucking money and I'm highly in

00:12:43.900 demand. Okay. I didn't set out to be a fucking speaker. I didn't set out to be fucking, uh, to make

00:12:51.360 an impact doing that. But I happened to have to have meetings in my company and I had to teach

00:12:58.580 people and I had to motivate people and I had to inspire people. Otherwise we wouldn't have been able

00:13:04.360 to build a great business. Okay. And as a result of me doing that over and over and over and over

00:13:12.540 again, I got fucking decent. And guys, just so you know, from 2006 until today, I give a meeting

00:13:21.520 every single week to our, a sales meeting to our managers. Okay. And I give a monthly meeting every

00:13:27.720 month to our whole company. All right. So let's just do the math. That's 2006 today. This is 2018.

00:13:35.760 Uh, I'm just doing the math right here. That's 12 years. Okay. That's 12 years, uh, times 52 weeks.

00:13:44.160 That's 624 fucking meetings, um, on the manager side. And then that's 12 times 12. That's 144 months,

00:13:54.600 um, which, so one 44 plus six 24. That's 768 fucking meetings I've done in my company in the last 12 years.

00:14:03.060 And that's like formal meetings. That's not the little fucking side conversations that I have

00:14:08.180 with groups of my team every single day. All right. So when you think about what it's going to take to

00:14:14.780 develop your skill, it's going to take 700 fucking times for you to get good at it. If you're a

00:14:21.140 salesman, you're going to have to go knock on 700 fucking doors and suck. If you're a marketer,

00:14:28.320 you're going to have to make 700 ads that suck. You're going to have to fall on your face. And

00:14:33.440 guess what? By the 200th time, you won't fall on your face as hard as you did the 100th time

00:14:38.220 or the fucking first time. All right. That's just the reality of the game. And so many of you guys

00:14:43.600 want to skip that part. You want to skip the falling on the face and the embarrassment and the

00:14:48.300 frustration. And guys, I'm telling you, that's the most valuable part because that's the part where

00:14:53.620 you learn the real skills that nobody else is willing to learn. Because just like you don't

00:14:58.060 want to fall on your fucking face, nobody else does either. So the guy that's willing to is going

00:15:03.540 to 100% absolutely learn skills that the other people aren't, which is going to make them more

00:15:09.240 money. It's going to bring them more fulfillment. It's going to make them have a bigger impact.

00:15:13.900 And you're going to do that because 100% you're willing to do the things other people won't.

00:15:20.780 And more so, you're willing to take what you can do now to practice and take advantage of those

00:15:27.920 opportunities in order to be where you want to be later. And guys, I'm telling you right now,

00:15:33.860 that's the fucking key. It is the fucking key. If you can get over the laughter, if you can get over

00:15:39.740 the embarrassment, if you can get over the frustration, you can make it into fucking anything

00:15:44.800 that you want to be.

If You're Not Doing What You Can, You'll Never Do What You Want, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO252

Episode Stats

Misogynist Sentences

Hate Speech Sentences

Summary

Transcript