It's Lonely At The Top, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO129
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Summary
In this episode of the Mf ceo Project, I address a common question that is so often asked of me, "what do I do about my friends that don't believe in me?" and how do I deal with it?
Transcript
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what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the
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motherfucking ceo what is a motherfucking ceo i know some of you ask and i know you wonder but
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i'm gonna tell you what it is it's somebody who takes absolute control and responsibility
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for their life it's somebody who doesn't let society tell them what they should be it's
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somebody who goes through life doing what they need to do the way they need to do it
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and lives life with a confidence and a swagger that shows other people that it's okay to be you
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okay today we're gonna have a friday fire and i want to talk to you guys about something
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that is so often asked of me and i want to address it um a lot of times i have these motivational talks
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today it's more about a practical thought that i want you guys to realize okay i get this in my dms
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i get this in email i get it a number of times it's always a version of this what do i do about
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my friends that don't believe in me what do i do about you know if i become successful and i lose all
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my friends what do i do if i have these people who uh i'm around right now and then i become successful
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and then and then they don't become successful i want to address that with you guys and make you
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understand one thing you have to worry about you you have to realize that you came into this life
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alone and you are going to go out of this life alone and the way that you're going to enrich and
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fulfill and feel good about your life is by doing the best that you possibly can for yourself and that
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doesn't mean you're selfish technically is that the definition of selfish maybe but the reality of
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life is this the higher you go the more you evolve the better you become the more people are going to
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be improved around you and that's a very noble thing okay so you can't worry about what your high
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school buddies are going to fucking think about you and you know say about you when you're on this
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journey because in the reality of of how it works is this you're going to start out with an idea you're
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going to execute on the idea and you're going to execute long enough on the idea that these people
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that you hang out with right now are probably not going to relate to you the same way they relate to
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you now your life's going to change your income's going to change what you do is going to change
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and probably if you're fortunate enough your life is going to become so fucking cool that when you
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talk about it other people who are from the old times of your life are going to perceive it as you
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bragging when in reality it's just your life and let me tell you something if you can get to a point
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where when you talk about your real life and other people perceive it as you bragging
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that's not a bad thing okay you talking about the way you live driving the cars you want to drive
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going and doing the things you want to do living where you want to live is not bragging that's just
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your life okay and the reason i bring this up to you guys is you have to understand that along the way
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people are going to start to perceive you as a different person and you are becoming a different
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person and there's nothing wrong with that because life is about evolution but the main point that i
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want to drive home with you guys is that people think that when they get to a certain point they're
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going to be alone because this certain group of friends that they have or their certain group of
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family that they have now isn't going to be able to relate but here's what happens guys you're going to
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lose some people some people are going to fall off some people are going to start not to like you
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they're going to be jealous of you they're going to talk shit and they're not talking shit because
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they hate you they're talking shit because they came from the same motherfucking place that you came
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from but you were able to create something that they were not that means they hate themselves all right
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so you can't take it personal for one and for two when you evolve when you become something else when
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you become better when you become further down the road on your goals and progress further and and
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become this person that you desperately want to be on the inside and you're working your ass off to be
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on the inside you are going to develop new relationships you're going to develop relationships with people
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that complement those goals and become part of pushing you forward improving and ultimately those
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relationships are so much more fulfilling because they are aligned with what you want out of your life
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and it's hard for people to understand that because when they're at the beginning and they start to lose
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some people they feel like man what did I do to lose these people but you got to be patient you know we
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talk about patience a lot you have to understand as you go as you move as you progress you're going to
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meet these new people and these new people are going to bring new things into your life that the old
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people couldn't bring and you're going to evolve and everything about life is about evolution it's
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about change it's about moving forward it's about growing and let's be real if you were loyal to the
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way these people thought about you from back in the day you'd be just like them which is not what you want
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so you have to realize guys that that saying it's lonely at the top is complete bullshit that's what
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broke people say that's what people who struggle in life say that's the way they justify their lack of
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action that's the way they think about quote-unquote rich people to justify them staying exactly where
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they're at well my relationships are more important and I don't want to fucking lose them well
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motherfucker you don't lose those relationships you move and evolve and create new ones that are
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ultimately more serving more beneficial and more fulfilling for you so when you write me these emails
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and say Andy I'm going to lose my friends I understand what you're saying but that's not the way that it
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works so when you think about what you're trying to do and you start to think about the people that
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right now don't believe in you discourage you and uh tell you you shouldn't do that and tell you you
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know that this is a bad thing to do or a bad idea or unrealistic now think about all those fucking
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people that tell you that it could be your mom it could be your dad it could be whoever now what if you
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replaced every single one of those motherfuckers with somebody who said dude that's awesome let's do that
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together here I know a guy who could help you do that here I know this group that could help you
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with that oh you want to become a billionaire do you need to meet this guy and do what if you replaced
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all your negativity with people who did that what would your life be like that's what you need to
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think about when you when you think about what you're going to lose and what you're going to gain
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because I could tell you right now the relationships you lose are so worth losing when it comes to what
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you're going to gain on the back end if you decide to go down this path so don't be loyal to relationships
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that hold you in the same spot be loyal to yourself trust yourself trust your own dreams and move forward
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on your goals and ultimately those relationships will start to materialize that support you drive you