REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Keep Calm and Get Sh＊t Done, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO81

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am

00:00:15.800 the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time, welcome. This is an entrepreneurship 0.97

00:00:23.680 based podcast, but many, many, many things that we talk about here include and encompass

00:00:32.180 what it takes to be successful at life. We've had a lot of discussions internally. Should

00:00:38.620 we be an entrepreneurship podcast? Should we be a self-help podcast? We could be either.

00:00:44.520 So you don't have to own your own business. You don't have to be a CEO because ultimately

00:00:50.440 I want you to be the motherfucking CEO of you. And that takes balls. It takes attitude 1.00

00:00:59.080 and it takes a no holds barred mentality of how to attack life. And that's what you're

00:01:03.700 going to get here. As always, I'm joined by my co-host, Vaughn Kohler, the pastor of disaster.

00:01:11.140 What's up, my man?

00:01:12.560 Everything is good. I'm excited about this particular podcast.

00:01:15.380 Yeah, it's going to be good.

00:01:16.680 It's going to be real good.

00:01:17.360 Um, I, before we get started, I had this idea and I wanted to get some people to give

00:01:24.400 me some feedback on it. So guys, if you follow me on Instagram, uh, write me a comment or,

00:01:29.900 or write me a message on Facebook or whatever. Um, I had this idea for a special thing. So

00:01:36.780 you know, like shark week.

00:01:37.900 Yeah.

00:01:38.400 All right. So let me tell this story. All right. So when I was in seventh grade, we had

00:01:42.100 this teacher. Um, and I always remembered this and I'll, and I'll tell you why, because

00:01:47.200 the result of it was so ridiculous and I was so embarrassed by it. It stuck with me,

00:01:51.420 but our assignment was to phonetically like come up with a profession that fit your last

00:01:58.080 name. So like, um, you know, if your name was like carpenter, you would be a fucking carpenter. 0.99

00:02:05.500 Right. Or, you know, your name was Kohler. You'd have to find out coal miner. Exactly. 0.98

00:02:10.520 Yeah. Right. You got it. Yeah. All right. So I couldn't think of mine. All right. And

00:02:15.420 I started thinking about it and I couldn't think of one. And then this dude in the class

00:02:19.560 was like, Oh dude, you know what? You should be Andy fish seller, which sucks, you know, 0.93

00:02:25.160 which is kind of ironic though, because like my grandfather was a fisherman on the Ohio river. 0.95

00:02:29.900 Like that's how he made his living. Uh, he caught catfish. I think we've told that story

00:02:33.700 before. Um, but anyhow, uh, it always stuck with me cause I thought it was so stupid. Like 1.00

00:02:41.500 I'm like fucking fish seller. I don't be fucking Andy fish seller. Right. You're like Mrs. 1.00

00:02:45.380 Paul's. Right. So, so for the last 25 years, seventh grade, I've been trying to think of

00:02:49.760 a new profession for that assignment. And I know everybody's like, what the fuck dude? And 0.99

00:02:54.180 but like shit sticks with me like that. Like if I don't solve the problem the way I want 0.99

00:02:59.180 it to be solved, I can't get over it. And it's, it could be something, this is kind of

00:03:03.440 almost like an insight into my personality because it could be something that insignificant.

00:03:07.720 It's just so small. It fucking sticks with me and it bothers me so bad. So, so anyway, 0.96

00:03:14.360 I thought about a new profession that goes with my name and I came up with frizz Zilla like

00:03:23.160 Godzilla. Cause I just wreck shit and break shit and bring fucking fire and fury and everything 0.99

00:03:28.120 I fucking do. I like it. That was a lot more appropriate. Frizz Zilla. Frizz Zilla. Right. 1.00

00:03:32.880 I like it. So I thought about what would be cool is instead of like shark week, we have

00:03:39.720 Frizz Zilla week. All right. And Frizz Zilla week would be a full five days of fucking Thursday

00:03:45.900 thunders. I like it. It'd be bad-ass. I like it. So for the sake of our listening audience, 0.99

00:03:53.360 how do you spell Frizz Zilla? F-R-I-Z-I-L-L-A. So it's pretty much the same. It's pretty much

00:04:03.120 your name only with a little bit of a... But with fucking Godzilla, man. It's like a ghetto 1.00

00:04:07.800 Z. It's like a gangster name. Yeah. Frizz Zilla. Right. That's right. If I was a rapper...

00:04:12.520 So instead of Frizz Zilla, it's Frizz Zilla. Right. Okay. I gotcha. I gotcha. So Frizz Zilla

00:04:16.680 week. Right. I like it. So it would be a fucking full week. Instead of shark week, it would be

00:04:21.600 Frizz Zilla week. We can make like a little fucking Godzilla-like character with my head 0.99

00:04:26.520 on it. Yeah. Or Godzilla with a beard. Breathing fire. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I like how you make 0.99

00:04:31.880 destroying things your new occupation. Yeah. But I'm saying like, dude, he breathes fire

00:04:36.240 and he's just wrecking shit. You know what I'm saying? I like it. I like it. So like, dude, 1.00

00:04:40.700 I think it would be cool. I came up with this when I was drinking in my swimming pool over the

00:04:44.360 weekend. Right. Okay. But how about this? Can we, in addition to using a hashtag Frizz Zilla

00:04:50.880 week, can we throw it out there that we have a little contest for people who are going to draw

00:04:55.820 Frizz Zilla and we'll give a little prize or something? That would be kind of cool.

00:04:59.260 Why don't we do that? Yeah. Draw me up Frizz Zilla and we use it as a logo, post on Instagram

00:05:03.260 and tag me in it. Yeah. Tag you. If we win, we'll give you something. Yeah. Or something

00:05:08.260 big. I don't know. What do you think? I think it's awesome. Yeah. We do it once a year. It'd be

00:05:13.060 full five days of just 10 minutes or less, just straight up fucking fire. Yeah. Well, you know, 0.99

00:05:19.580 we are coming up fairly close. Well, we're on episode 81. We got about 19 more episodes

00:05:25.900 before we did. Yeah. We can figure out when it is, but it's just an idea. Yeah. We just

00:05:28.420 recently celebrated our one year. I was thinking like your birthday week. It'll be the week

00:05:31.920 about you. It's too late. He just turned like 47 or something, right? Yeah. Yeah. 470 years

00:05:36.600 old. Exactly. So no, I like it, man. It's a great idea. So that was an idea. Yeah. You

00:05:42.060 know. In other news, Kelsey's gotten more stalkers as a result of being on this show. I mean, 0.99

00:05:48.020 yeah, duh. And the accompany dick pics. No way. Oh yeah. That's what she said. Really? 1.00

00:05:53.260 Yeah. Sorry. I used to get those though. Tyler got out of control. Tyler got drunk,

00:05:58.520 started taking pictures of his dick. Oh no, I sent it to a girl. Yeah. All right. So anyway, 1.00

00:06:04.420 let's get down to business. All right. Past, uh, past, uh, for Zilla week and, and dick pics.

00:06:12.020 Yeah. What are we going to talk about today? Well, uh, obviously you have a strong presence 0.88

00:06:15.640 locally through your businesses. And obviously because of the podcast and your Instagram and

00:06:19.520 your Facebook following, you interact with a lot of people online and in person. And something that

00:06:25.060 I've, I've noticed, Kelsey and I were talking about this last week, but something I've noticed

00:06:28.840 is that more and more people that we come in contact with have something in common. And it's

00:06:33.100 not necessarily people who are strong followers of the podcast or anything, but just normal people

00:06:37.340 that we interact with. And that's, they're totally freaking out. Like they're looking at the,

00:06:43.060 they're looking at the stuff that's going on in the world, the crazy stuff that's going on in the

00:06:46.300 world and they're getting stressed and they're getting anxious and they're just freaking out.

00:06:50.760 And I think, I think it's gotten to the point where I know that for me, I know that a lot of,

00:06:55.020 you know, quote unquote, motivational speakers and self-help gurus, they had these little,

00:06:58.360 you know, nice little pep talks about, well, how can you deal with all the stress in the world?

00:07:02.580 But I really wanted to give people an opportunity to hear your take on, you know, that it's gotten

00:07:08.660 to be annoying now, but that, that phrase, you know, keep calm and carry on. Yeah. I want to

00:07:13.360 hear what you have to say, like your keys for in the midst of this crazy world. Cause there are,

00:07:18.100 I mean, obviously like today we just found out that, what was it? Two guys from ISIS broke into

00:07:22.400 a church and killed a bunch of people in France and that, that kind of stuff's happened all the

00:07:27.900 time. We got craziness in our own election cycle here going on in the United States. There's just a lot

00:07:32.780 of stress in people's lives. And I think, I think you would agree that truly successful and truly great

00:07:36.960 people know how to live in the midst of that craziness and keep their heads cool.

00:07:42.560 I a hundred percent. Okay. I'm just going to go back to something that I said a million times

00:07:47.340 here. All right. You only have so much energy. Okay. And you are in control of how you expend that

00:07:52.860 energy, whether you, um, expended on positive, productive things that can move you forward or

00:07:59.040 whether you let people throw negativity at you and stress you and suck that energy out. You still only

00:08:05.820 have the same amount. So you have to be conscious about where you, you allow your energy to, uh, be

00:08:12.180 expended. Right. And I feel, I don't feel, I know that most people are not disciplined enough to

00:08:21.660 be able to be in control of that all the time. You know, we're surrounded by negativity. First of all,

00:08:29.180 we're surrounded by negativity, 90%. I mean, let's look at the shit that's on social media, 1.00

00:08:35.480 just for an example. I mean, and I was actually having this discussion with a friend last night. 0.99

00:08:41.920 It's funny because you can almost tell a person's level of success in life by the shit that they post 1.00

00:08:48.700 online. The whining, the crying, the bitching, um, the one-sided polarizing opinion on this issue or 1.00

00:08:58.280 that issue. It's like, you can, you can just tell so much about somebody by what they post and kind

00:09:05.380 of taking it off track a little bit here. That should be a lesson to you to be very conscious

00:09:09.500 about what the fuck you say, even, especially when you're emotional, you know, politics, high emotion, 0.99

00:09:15.400 world issues, high emotion. We all have different perspectives. And because we get emotional about 0.99

00:09:21.480 things, um, you know, we tend to try to make the argument for the most polarizing side of that. Well,

00:09:31.240 the problem with that is, is that when you, when you try to win the argument, quote unquote, win by throwing

00:09:36.800 the biggest bomb. And when I say the biggest bomb, I mean the most attacking, polarizing statement that

00:09:42.160 you could possibly make. You automatically lose the ability to ever have a legitimate, um, productive

00:09:48.860 conversation with somebody who might not share the same views that you have. Okay. So you're not

00:09:52.800 accomplishing anything. All you're doing is rallying the people that think just like you. All right.

00:09:57.780 So, you know, you have, when you make posts guys, this is a little off track for what we want to talk

00:10:02.840 about, but realize that 50% of the people in your feed probably don't think like you think. And if you

00:10:09.140 want to have a legitimate impact, which the reality is on politics and social issues and things like 0.98

00:10:14.900 that, it's your post probably isn't going to make a fucking difference. But if you decide that you want 0.88

00:10:20.120 to go that route, you need to be very careful and understand that if you are really trying to solve 0.94

00:10:25.860 an issue as opposed to just say some shit to get some attention, you've got to be open-minded with your 0.97

00:10:31.920 views. It's just, even if you don't agree, you've got to let somebody listen and be logical about it 0.97

00:10:37.780 because, because at the very least, you're not going to look like a fucking moron. I mean, dude, I look 1.00

00:10:43.520 through my social feed right now and I'm like, dude, moron, moron, moron, moron, fucking super 1.00

00:10:48.040 moron, moron, moron, moron. You know what I'm saying? No, I totally, I totally get what you're 1.00

00:10:52.980 saying. You know, what's funny is like, I can look at those people and then I look at like their level

00:10:58.460 of where they are in life and it makes fucking sense. You know what I mean? You have to be fucking 0.90

00:11:03.000 open to accepting thoughts and you can't just be, and I, dude, you know what? I used to be the guy who 0.72

00:11:08.980 was like, you know, I'm right, you're wrong and fuck you. But you know what I learned is that when 1.00

00:11:13.960 you're like that, you're only, you're only rallying the people who think like you, you're not solving

00:11:19.080 anything. You're, you're very opinionated. I am too. And I, and I opinionated Vaughn on the things

00:11:25.120 that I know to be fact through experience. I know they're fucking fact. There's many, many things that 0.98

00:11:32.320 I don't hundred percent know or a hundred percent agree with. Like for example, you know, the shit 1.00

00:11:37.960 going on with the fucking cops and the black culture right now. You know what I mean? It's 1.00

00:11:43.120 the most polarizing thing, dude. What people don't understand is that by picking one side, a hundred

00:11:49.980 percent. All right. And you say all cops are pieces of shit. Well, we know that's not true.

00:11:55.000 Every motherfucker listening to this fucking podcast and every motherfucker on the internet, 1.00

00:11:59.460 I don't care what color you are, knows that is not true. And all black people are thugs. 1.00

00:12:04.860 Every motherfucker listening to this podcast and every single person on this earth list on social 1.00

00:12:09.860 media knows that is not true. So why the fuck are people saying that all it does is divide us. And 0.99

00:12:15.960 the media is trying to put a big old fucking wedge in between these two groups so that they can 0.98

00:12:23.520 manipulate the way people vote or people think or, or how, how much power we have as a 0.98

00:12:29.440 whole. Okay. And when we're divided as a country, we don't have power. They, they've got the

00:12:36.300 power. They have the ability to make the rules or to, you know, do things that just benefit

00:12:41.780 themselves. We don't have, we lose that power when we're arguing over petty shit. Like all 0.99

00:12:47.800 fucking black people are pieces of shit and all cops are fucking black people killers. Everybody 1.00

00:12:52.060 knows that's bullshit. There's bad cops out there. There's great cops out there. The majority 1.00

00:12:56.760 of cops out there are fucking great people, period. The majority of black people out there 1.00

00:13:01.260 are great people, period. And to judge those two groups on a fucking small minority, you 1.00

00:13:07.340 could pick any group in the world, any group. And to look at the fucking bottom feeding minority 1.00

00:13:12.740 of the group and take all the media and point all the cameras at those people. And the perception 0.99

00:13:17.560 of that whole entire group will be that, you know, dude, what if we took a fucking camera 0.99

00:13:22.760 crew to fucking meth Jefferson County here in Missouri and, and fucking focused it on 0.99

00:13:28.680 that for, for the next fucking hundred days straight, everybody'd be like, God damn, all 1.00

00:13:33.760 white people have no fucking teeth and they all fucking smoke crack and meth all day and 1.00

00:13:37.540 they all have no fucking jobs. And that would be the perception. You know what I mean? Dude, 1.00

00:13:41.620 people have to be smarter to take a step back and realizing what you're being force fed and

00:13:49.920 why you're being force fed that. All right. I just made a snap of a picture of this microphone

00:13:55.740 and it said, what's the most powerful weapon in the world with a question mark. Think about

00:13:59.660 it. It ain't a fucking gun. It ain't a fucking bomb. It ain't a fucking tank. You know what 0.99

00:14:04.600 it is? It's a fucking microphone and a fucking camera. Okay. You can manipulate thoughts because 1.00

00:14:10.240 most people can not think for themselves. And that's what our media knows. They know that

00:14:16.360 they teach that in fucking media school, journalism school. They teach that. I was thinking about 1.00

00:14:22.020 this yesterday. Journalism used to be about reporting the fucking facts until people came out 0.99

00:14:29.660 inside the journalistic community and put their little opinion on top of the facts. And then they 0.98

00:14:36.000 became superstars. Right. So you have people like, you know, uh, Howard Stern, or you have people

00:14:42.780 like, uh, fuck, I can't even think anybody on. Right. You know what I'm saying? But like an Oprah 0.99

00:14:48.460 or back in the day, they take the facts and they put their spin on top of it and it creates a

00:14:53.720 personality and then that's marketable. And those motherfuckers got paid. Well, now you have every 1.00

00:14:58.380 motherfucker on the news reporting with their own little fucking spin on it. Well, motherfucker, 1.00

00:15:03.660 that ain't your job. Your job is to report us the fucking facts and the facts of the matter 1.00

00:15:08.600 are often so far away from what we're fed that it's just embarrassing. Like it's embarrassing. 0.99

00:15:15.740 And you know, what's more embarrassing to me is how many people out there, you motherfuckers 1.00

00:15:19.780 listening right now included, cannot think for your fucking selves. It's embarrassing. We're, 1.00

00:15:25.800 we're, we are fucking Americans do when another country attacks us, they don't attack fucking 1.00

00:15:30.680 black Americans, native American, Americans, fucking Asian Americans and white Americans. You know 1.00

00:15:36.680 what they say? Kill all those motherfuckers. So how the fuck can every other country on the face of 1.00

00:15:41.860 earth see us as the same and we can't see ourselves the fucking same? No, it's because our fucking 1.00

00:15:50.600 government and our fucking media has vested interests in us not seeing each other or uniting with each 1.00

00:15:57.820 other. And until people step back and fucking realize that it's going to be the same shit. It's going to 1.00

00:16:04.240 be this fucking bullshit, you know, and it's going to be, Oh, you know what? You, you should have 1.00

00:16:09.740 fucking apologized to me for fucking slavery. Motherfucker. I have nothing to do with fucking 1.00

00:16:14.060 slavery. You know what I'm saying? I'm fucking, this is fucking 150 fucking years ago. You know 1.00

00:16:19.100 who fucking freed fucking slaves, white motherfuckers. Why don't we talk about that? You know, 1.00

00:16:24.920 quit bringing up old shit, quit bringing up fucking shit, you know, about how fucking things were this 1.00

00:16:30.180 way a hundred fucking years ago or 30 years ago or 50 years ago. If we truly want to move on, 1.00

00:16:35.760 let's move the fuck on. Right? I mean, dude, people just don't fucking, they, they don't let go of 0.98

00:16:43.260 shit. They keep throwing. It's like a fucking girlfriend who, you know, you went out one night 1.00

00:16:48.540 and stayed out too late with the guys and you made a mistake and, um, you know, she moves on. But 1.00

00:16:54.660 every time you get in a fight, it's thrown up in your fucking face. You know, you can't move past 1.00

00:16:59.600 that unless you move past it. You know what I mean? And, and dude, the majority of fucking white 0.66

00:17:05.100 people out there are not fucking racist. Are there fucking racist white people? 100%. Are there 1.00

00:17:10.700 fucking racist black people? 100%. But until black people and white people decide to get on the same 1.00

00:17:16.620 fucking page and say, Hey bro, you know what? I know some fucking bad shit happened in the past and I 1.00

00:17:21.360 know it might be harder for you, but I am committed and, and I'm committed with you to be your fucking 0.99

00:17:27.220 brother and to be an American and to make shit work productively. And we're on the same fucking 0.99

00:17:31.360 team. And both people say that and mean it, the country ain't going to get better. Period. 1.00

00:17:36.880 Absolutely. Right. You know, absolutely right. Dude, people can fucking say whatever they want

00:17:40.720 that, you know, if this was the media, they would, they would, they would take little sound clips of 1.00

00:17:44.760 this and make it sound like I'm fucking crazy. Right. Right. You know what I mean? It's just fucking bullshit, 0.99

00:17:48.420 man. Right. So obviously it's so like getting to the point of what we want to talk about here 1.00

00:17:53.740 is that people, including me, get so fired up about these issues that they lose focus on what

00:18:00.100 they can do and what they should be doing. You know, I walk, dude, I walk into my office here

00:18:04.820 some days and there's fucking seven, eight people rallied around talking about whatever the fuck was 0.99

00:18:10.200 on the news. And I'm like, the fuck you guys talking about? It doesn't matter. What matters is what 1.00

00:18:15.220 we do. What matters is the example we set. What matters is the good shit we do, the productive

00:18:20.380 things we do. And, you know, at the end of the day, no matter what you see on TV or talk about or 0.99

00:18:27.500 argue about that shit is all distraction away from your own fucking life. And, you know, I said this, 1.00

00:18:34.820 uh, I think last podcast or two podcasts ago, you know, it doesn't matter to point out what's fair,

00:18:41.500 not fair, this and that argue and spend your whole life bitter about things that aren't the way they

00:18:47.120 should be. You know, you know what matters is the fucking action you take today, the action you take 0.98

00:18:51.920 tomorrow, the habits you create from that action and the result that comes from it. There's been 0.99

00:18:56.400 plenty of fucking success stories of every race, every creed, every religion, every color on this globe 0.99

00:19:02.840 to where no one could argue what I just said. What matters is what the fuck you do. Right. And that's 1.00

00:19:10.060 what we're going to talk about today. Right. So, I mean, what are, I mean, you talked about

00:19:13.060 everything you just talked about, obviously, as part of the general craziness that all of us,

00:19:17.600 all of us experience on a day to day basis. So like you obviously talked about taking care of

00:19:22.160 your own stuff. So, I mean, flesh that out. I mean, I mean, you know, the first thing is you have to,

00:19:26.660 you have to understand you're, you're not responsible for the whole fucking world and the whole world's 0.96

00:19:31.120 actions. And you can't carry that weight around. You're responsible for impacting your world. 0.97

00:19:36.560 You're responsible for your family. You're responsible for your network and the example

00:19:41.120 you set and the productivity that you, uh, do within that world. You know, uh, like for example,

00:19:48.040 salespeople have territories, right? If they're in Oklahoma, their job is to kill it in sales 1.00

00:19:52.460 within Oklahoma, Nebraska, and Missouri. They're not responsible for killing it, uh, 0.76

00:19:58.420 in Oregon or fucking California or China. And so if they spend all their time worrying about 0.99

00:20:03.880 what's going on in fucking California, how can they be productive in their own territory 0.99

00:20:08.220 that they're in? You know, that's a great analogy. Like focus on the territory you've been given. 0.99

00:20:13.240 Dude, you know, the people just, people just get so distracted that they can't focus on what's

00:20:22.240 going on in front of them. They're worried about everybody else's shit, you know? And like you see 0.99

00:20:26.320 that little meme going around the internet, focus on your own shit. 1.00

00:20:29.280 Right. It can't get any simpler than that. Focus on your shit, focus on your daily actions, 1.00

00:20:34.760 handle those actions with integrity, with honor, with fucking core values that matter. 1.00

00:20:39.640 And guess what? People will fucking emulate that. You will become a leader in your community, 0.99

00:20:44.780 in your world. And guess what? That's how you make the world better. You don't make the world

00:20:48.480 better by writing some fucking ignorant shit on Facebook. You write that you make the world better 1.00

00:20:52.760 by handling your own shit, becoming successful in your own right, worrying about your own family, 0.98

00:20:57.220 your own friends, your own circle of influence and improving that. 0.99

00:21:00.780 Right. And it's understandable why people get overwhelmed because if everybody's out saying,

00:21:04.860 oh, how are we going to save the world? That's a huge order. You're not going to save the world.

00:21:08.680 How about how are we going to save our own neighborhood?

00:21:10.820 Dude, exactly. If everybody did that, the world will get saved. You know what I'm saying? But how

00:21:16.400 are you going to save the world is such a fucking massive project that it's overwhelming. It's like 0.97

00:21:20.620 somebody who has 300 pounds to lose. They're standing at the bottom of that fucking mountain and they're 1.00

00:21:25.140 looking up at the top of it and like, fuck, dude, you know what? I can't lose 300 fucking pounds. 1.00

00:21:29.040 It's going to take me fucking two years, you know? So they never get started. And so what do 0.99

00:21:32.620 they do? They get depressed. They go back, they eat because that's the only fucking gratification

00:21:36.240 they have. And then they continue that cycle. And eventually that mountain that was 300 pounds 0.99

00:21:41.340 is fucking 400 pounds. And it's just worse and worse and worse until it kills them. And that's 1.00

00:21:45.760 what we're dealing with here. So it's just like anything. If you want to fix the world,

00:21:50.880 if you want to improve the world, if you want to impact the world, you have to worry about

00:21:53.020 your world. You have to worry about, like you said, your neighborhood.

00:21:55.560 Right. So let me put this into my own words so I make sure I completely understand yourself.

00:21:59.540 So one of the ways that you deal with not being completely just destroyed by all the craziness

00:22:06.420 in the world is that you focus the sphere of your impact, basically. You say, I'm going to,

00:22:13.680 and that's not to say that your impact won't exponentially, organically grow to impact the

00:22:19.420 rest of the world. But your thing is focus on your world. Yeah. Yeah. But, but the start with

00:22:24.600 your world, start with the people that you're around, start with your own family, start with

00:22:27.760 your friends, start with your community. That's what you're saying. Right. Okay, cool. Yeah. Cool.

00:22:31.960 So I, I mean, I, I'm kind of jumping the gun here, but kind of related to that is you're

00:22:36.940 talking about the focus in terms of territory. Don't you think you have to worry about what you

00:22:41.820 could control? Okay. That's what I was going to say. That's not, so that's point number two,

00:22:44.900 I guess we could say. There's so many things that, that you can't control that people talk

00:22:49.080 about, worry about and fucking focus on. You can't worry about that. You've got to focus on what you 0.95

00:22:54.460 can control. What can you control? You control your actions. You control your attitude. You control

00:22:59.340 the decisions that you make and you control your work ethic, the effort that you put out. Those

00:23:03.820 things are in your control 24 hours a day, seven days a week, fucking 365 days a year. And most people 0.99

00:23:10.200 ignore all of those things. They pretend as if they're not in control of anything and they

00:23:14.860 just like, they're floating down the river and whatever comes to them, comes to them. No,

00:23:18.100 you're actually in control of a fucking shitload of things, but you choose to not take control of 0.99

00:23:23.340 them by, by conscious choice, you know? And if you're going to sit back and let, let the world 0.98

00:23:29.300 just give you what it's going to give you, it's going to give you a fucking ass beating over and 1.00

00:23:33.560 over and over again, you know? So, so you took on the media and I totally agree with you on this and 1.00

00:23:38.740 you, you were indicting the media for basically at some point losing its focus and becoming more

00:23:43.760 about sensationalistic type things than actually hard return. But I mean, kind of along with that

00:23:48.460 is, do you think there's been a, do you think there's been a very, very, another very negative

00:23:52.820 aspect of 24 hour news cycle, which is that we're constantly being bombarded by stories that are

00:23:58.060 happening all the, all over the world that we can't really do anything about them anyway.

00:24:02.420 So why, why are we spending our time? Why are we wasting our time watching all of this,

00:24:06.760 this news, this 24 hour news cycle? It's not that I don't care about the people in Ethiopia or

00:24:12.100 France or wherever. It's just what, I mean, what is it, what is it accomplice for us to,

00:24:17.260 to constantly have that?

00:24:18.600 It's attention. It takes away, it takes away, it's just like watching a soap opera. You know,

00:24:23.480 it just happens to be real. You know, people watch drama, whether it's in a movie or whether

00:24:28.560 they like that shit and they thrive on it and it gets their focus off of what I just said, 0.99

00:24:34.080 what they can control and the responsibilities they have to themselves. You know, if you know, 1.00

00:24:39.020 you've got a mountain of fucking shit to take care of and you can, you know, get absorbed into 1.00

00:24:43.300 something else for a while and let, forget about it, that anxiety and that stress and all the shit 1.00

00:24:47.160 that comes from knowing that you had that stuff to do goes away, at least temporarily. 0.92

00:24:50.660 Well, cause then people can say, oh, there's worse things going on in the world. It doesn't matter if

00:24:54.240 I do this or if I do my own responsibilities and that kind of thing.

00:24:57.400 It's an escape.

00:24:58.980 Do you think, you said that you thought that the media, and I agree with you, the media benefits from

00:25:03.620 us being angry at each other because it, it basically keeps us from uniting and getting

00:25:08.200 things done. But do you also think that there's actual, there's an intent of distracting us with

00:25:15.760 so many things that don't matter so that we won't become the people that we're meant to be? 0.99

00:25:19.460 No, dude, it's distracting you with things like fucking SARS or fucking bird flu or shark attacks 1.00

00:25:26.780 or whatever the fuck is going on so that you won't notice what the fuck they're doing, 1.00

00:25:31.040 which is stealing from my fucking everybody. You know what I mean? And doing everything they 1.00

00:25:35.000 can to benefit themselves at the top.

00:25:36.980 That's how they make their money.

00:25:38.060 That is how they make, that's how they do everything. It's how they stay in power.

00:25:40.780 Dude, people just don't fucking, you know, you talk like when I'm talking right now, 1.00

00:25:44.820 they're like, oh dude, you fuck conspiracy theories. No motherfucker. That's the truth. 1.00

00:25:50.020 Fucking two sharks bite people. Dude, do you remember 9-11 when 9-11 happened? The biggest 0.99

00:25:56.340 story that summer was fucking shark attacks. It was people being eaten by 1.00

00:26:00.900 sharks. It was every fucking day there was a shark attack on TV. Man, there is fucking 1.00

00:26:04.920 people getting eaten by sharks every day. Still to this day, every day, a shark bites 1.00

00:26:09.080 a motherfucker. Right? But why isn't it on the news? 1.00

00:26:13.540 And an actual statistic is that you're more likely to get plowed by a vending machine than

00:26:19.620 be eaten by a shark.

00:26:21.040 But the point is, it's always a constant state of distraction. When there is no news, they make

00:26:26.300 it up. You know, what was that? Ebola is going to get on a fucking airplane and fucking wipe

00:26:32.940 out the entire, you know, United States. Or what was that? Ebola? What the fuck was that? 1.00

00:26:37.700 Was it Ebola? 1.00

00:26:38.280 The swine flu or the Ebola or something like that.

00:26:40.280 Yeah.

00:26:40.580 Something, man.

00:26:41.360 Yeah. 1.00

00:26:41.760 You know, we're all going to become fucking zombies. 1.00

00:26:43.320 Right. 1.00

00:26:43.600 I mean, dude, the walking dead became a hit off the fucking hysteria that the government 1.00

00:26:48.300 created by saying shit like this. You know, it's like... 1.00

00:26:52.300 I'm just convinced that we're bombarded with information that doesn't matter to anesthetize

00:27:00.240 us against when there is information that we really should pay attention to. We're not

00:27:03.900 going to pay attention to it.

00:27:04.700 That's a great way to look at it. It's desensitized, you know, the response to shit that really matters. 0.99

00:27:09.080 Yeah. So focus on your own territory. Focus on the things that you can control. I'm going 1.00

00:27:16.500 to throw this out there because I know you, I know you, this is huge and we've talked about

00:27:20.360 it before, but I think you place a huge value on having core values so that you can, you

00:27:26.300 know, it's like when, when a person doesn't really know what they stand for or what they

00:27:29.180 believe in, it's easy. It's easy. Yeah. They fall for everything and they, and it's easy

00:27:32.900 to be kind of blown around. 0.99

00:27:34.160 The core values of who you are and what you are, that's like the foundation of your fucking 1.00

00:27:37.900 life. You know, that's what you're built upon. Your beliefs, your, your values, your 0.99

00:27:43.380 morals. A lot of people don't have any of those things really, or they've at least

00:27:46.840 not thought of them and they don't, so they don't know. So, so when the fucking winds of 0.94

00:27:51.080 drama come through their lives, they're easily swayed one way or another way, or, you know, 0.99

00:27:57.420 they're stirred up easily. You know, when, when, when in reality, you should be pretty

00:28:02.000 fucking stoic about what you believe in. You know what I mean? If that foundation is built 0.97

00:28:06.580 properly, you shouldn't be getting caught up in all this bullshit that comes around and 0.67

00:28:09.740 you know, you should define your core values of who you are, know what you are, know who you 0.58

00:28:14.220 stand for and let those values guide you and help you make the right decisions when

00:28:18.900 you're dealing with things like this. You know, it's not that, it's not that difficult.

00:28:22.720 It's just people put more time into planning out their fucking party on Saturday night than 0.99

00:28:27.920 they do figure out what the fuck they really stand for, which is sad, you know, but I don't 0.99

00:28:33.560 think you'll find many people to argue with that statement. 0.98

00:28:36.220 No, I don't. I think you're right.

00:28:38.160 You know?

00:28:38.740 Yeah.

00:28:39.040 Yeah. So I don't know, you know, even further than that, I, people need to realize that when

00:28:50.800 the drama wins and the storms and the bullshit and the news and the media, they're trying 0.87

00:28:55.840 to stir you up. You're only getting part of the story. You know, you're only getting 0.98

00:29:00.100 the part they want you to hear. They're only getting the part that they know is going to

00:29:03.780 get the reaction that they're looking for. Okay. So by you reacting and playing into that,

00:29:08.020 you're just doing what they want you to do. That shit's mapped out. If you don't think 1.00

00:29:11.200 they got a whiteboard in their fucking office and they're saying, Hey, if we say this, the 0.99

00:29:15.500 people will do this. You're fucking crazy. It's exactly what they do. You know? And, um, 1.00

00:29:21.060 the media is constantly lying to us. It's constantly manipulating us to, to get, you know, people

00:29:27.940 to put eyeballs. It's all a big money game to put eyeballs on their station so that they

00:29:33.620 could charge advertisers fucking gigantic rates to, to be on their station. Oh, we got 0.93

00:29:38.840 this many people watching because we sensationalize everything. And guess what? Because we have

00:29:44.320 all these eyeballs, we could charge you more. I mean, people don't even think about this

00:29:47.580 shit. You know, it's a big game. And then when we're all pissed off at each other, you 1.00

00:29:52.040 know, that's what fucking they monetize on. I don't know. To me, it's, it's so obvious 0.99

00:29:58.820 because I've bought advertising and I see how it's done. And I've seen, I don't know.

00:30:02.920 I think I've seen a lot of things for, especially for the amount of years that I've been in this

00:30:06.460 that is so obvious, but like people, you know, they don't even stop to think about

00:30:11.780 how much they let the news stations dictate their feelings and actions as a human. And that's

00:30:20.660 just not right.

00:30:21.800 So would you say that a huge step toward learning how to deal with the craziness?

00:30:26.340 How about this? Back when we were kids, if a fucking building caught on fire or let's, 0.99

00:30:31.660 let's say there was a shooting, it didn't say, the headline didn't say white officer 1.00

00:30:38.920 shoots black person at this address at this time. You know what it says? It says police

00:30:44.920 shoot suspect overnight at this address. And then they tell the story. Right. You know

00:30:51.800 what I'm saying? Yeah. It's as simple as that. Yeah. Well, that's what I was going to

00:30:55.060 say. I was going to say that a huge way of maybe dealing with the craziness is to learn

00:30:59.000 how to consume your media and realize, learn to look for the things that show that, okay,

00:31:04.960 is this objective reporting or is this reporter inserting their opinion? Right. Are they using

00:31:10.520 descriptive language that they really shouldn't use? Right. Are they using certain verbs that

00:31:15.500 carry certain connotations? Yes, it does take thought. It's just easier than I think.

00:31:18.780 It does take, you're right. Exactly. It does. But I mean, that, that is one way to maintain

00:31:23.000 sanity is, is to, as you're reading something, go, okay, what can I take from this story? Well,

00:31:28.800 okay. Objectively, someone was shot. That's what I know. Okay. But beyond that, how, how is this,

00:31:34.720 this writer trying to influence me politically, morally or whatever? And just to be aware of that.

00:31:40.080 Well, dude, like we said a minute ago, sensationalizing things sell shit. Right. 0.99

00:31:44.160 Right. Period. No, absolutely right. Absolutely right. So, okay. So yeah, covering your own

00:31:49.000 territory, knowing what you control. You said just, you know, knowing that we're not getting

00:31:53.620 the full story. What else? Oh, having core values. You know, what are the, some of the other ways that

00:31:59.260 you deal with the craziness in the world? Well, you know, the biggest thing that the

00:32:04.020 media sells us is fear, right? Fear that, you know, the world's going to end, fear that a fucking 0.99

00:32:09.720 comet's going to hit us, fear that terrorists are going to blow us up, fear that you're going to get 0.99

00:32:13.620 shot walking down the street by a gun that is sitting on the sidewalk that no one touched.

00:32:18.840 You know what I mean? Like the amount of fear they sell us is fucking insane. And I think people 0.99

00:32:23.480 need to stop and realize that your biggest danger isn't, you know, the fear of the external world.

00:32:30.780 It's inside of you. It's what you do or do not do with your life. You know,

00:32:35.460 you have to understand that this shit will make you crazy. You know what I mean? Worrying about all 1.00

00:32:45.260 this shit, thinking about all this shit, it will make you crazy. Like I said, it sucks your energy 1.00

00:32:49.640 out of you. You know, talking about other people, about these other events, it makes it impossible

00:32:54.820 for you to be productive. You don't see fucking all these super successful entrepreneurs constantly 0.96

00:33:01.100 posting political statuses or arguments about this or that. That's what fucking broke people 0.99

00:33:06.340 do. Right. You get what I'm saying? Right. Dude, broke people argue politics on the fucking 1.00

00:33:11.160 internet. Yeah. Period. Yeah. You know why fucking successful people don't do that? Because they are 1.00

00:33:17.000 worried about impacting their own world. They're worried about doing their own thing. They're worried

00:33:21.040 about making their own business successful, impacting their own families, impacting their own

00:33:26.940 employees. And they know that if they're going to do that properly, effectively, efficiently,

00:33:31.120 they don't have the fucking time to argue with some moron on the internet about fucking politics. 1.00

00:33:36.320 Period. That's absolutely true. I'd say that it's the broke people that are spending all the time 1.00

00:33:40.100 sharing their two cents on world events. And it's the truly successful people that are actually

00:33:44.320 creating those events. Exactly. And so think about that the next time you're about to fucking post

00:33:49.380 some stupid ass shit on the internet. Right. People keep asking me, what's your views? What's your 1.00

00:33:53.200 views? What's your views? You know what? I do have my own fucking views.

00:33:56.940 And I've said them before on this show. I'm worried about the fucking economy. I'm worried 1.00

00:34:02.040 about fucking, you know, uh, the people of this country. And I'm worried about that first. 0.99

00:34:06.740 And I could give a fuck less about much else. You know, if the social, uh, the social issues to me 0.87

00:34:14.060 are not something that a president should be elected on. It should be elected on your ability to run a

00:34:18.980 country, your ability to manage the country fiscally, and your ability to have, uh, the ability to

00:34:23.820 protect the people of this nation. And other than that, fucking, we can argue about the other shit 0.99

00:34:27.800 all day. I don't really give a fuck. I just don't, you know, it's not, it's, it's not something that, 1.00

00:34:34.120 that I'm concerned with to be completely honest. Right. So going back to what you were saying

00:34:37.980 though, are you basically saying that far worse than the craziness in the world is you becoming

00:34:43.340 crazy? Yeah. Yeah. You know, outside, inside type stuff. Is that what you were trying to say? 0.93

00:34:49.800 I just think that, you know, people, I mean, I don't really give a fuck how crazy the world is. 0.93

00:34:57.820 It's the danger is you becoming part of that by acting the way that I'm describing. You know what I 0.93

00:35:07.380 mean? And that is what quote unquote, they want. They don't want you to go out and fucking do all

00:35:16.960 this great shit for yourself. They want you to worry about this other shit, shark attacks, 1.00

00:35:22.100 so that you can't figure out that you're getting totally fucked in every other way possible. 1.00

00:35:27.840 That's the truth. So that makes sense. You know, and, and, and I think the other thing that I would 0.99

00:35:35.660 like to bring up here is, you know, guys, there are worse things in life than death. You know,

00:35:43.200 the media is constantly trying to feed us the story of how we're going to fucking die. You know, 1.00

00:35:47.740 the water's poison. You're going to die. The bird flu, you're going to die. Ebola, you're going to die. 0.56

00:35:53.600 Fucking terrorists, you're going to die. And you know what? Do people die from that shit? Absolutely. 1.00

00:35:58.720 Are you going to die from that shit? Probably not. Okay. So we're sold this story all fucking day long. 1.00

00:36:04.980 And there's all kinds of anxiety going around the world around all these issues. But at the end of 0.96

00:36:10.660 the day, some people think the worst thing that can happen to you is that you're going to die. But

00:36:16.140 the truth of it is, is the worst thing that can happen to you isn't death. It's living a life that's,

00:36:21.480 that is so fucking shaped and influenced and affected by fear, anxiety, mediocrity, and conformity 1.00

00:36:28.060 that you might as well be fucking dead. You accomplish nothing. You do nothing. You contribute nothing. 1.00

00:36:32.820 You are nothing. That's worse than even dying. At least to me. 0.84

00:36:38.900 It's a living death.

00:36:39.940 Yeah, dude. And most people are already dead. They just don't even fucking know it.

00:36:43.540 You know, they're, they're concerned with that fucking box that hangs on the wall in their house 1.00

00:36:49.300 or that fucking phone that they're walking around carrying instead of focusing on the shit they 1.00

00:36:55.460 could control, which is their actions, their attitude, the way they affect people, their, 1.00

00:36:59.680 their daily to-do lists and the things that they can do to be productive and impact their own world. 1.00

00:37:04.540 You know, instead we'd rather argue with some fucking anonymous motherfucker on the internet 1.00

00:37:09.780 that we never met, never going to meet, you know, could be a 10 year old kid about fucking 1.00

00:37:14.560 Hillary Clinton. I mean, are you that fucking stupid that you're going to get on there and 1.00

00:37:18.060 argue, spend all day going back and forth with somebody over something like that? What's that 1.00

00:37:21.800 say about you? It says you're not focused on your own shit. And if you're not focused on your 1.00

00:37:26.320 own shit, guess what? You're going to get shit. 1.00

00:37:28.020 Mm-hmm. Maybe that explains the popularity of zombies in the last couple of years is that 1.00

00:37:33.780 everybody is a zombie. So they're like, Hey, I might as well celebrate what I am.

00:37:37.140 I can identify with this. 0.99

00:37:39.000 You're a zombie. 0.94

00:37:40.240 No, there's a lot of, there's, there's a lot of metaphorical truth to that. 0.97

00:37:43.920 Yeah. You know?

00:37:44.720 Yeah.

00:37:46.600 I don't know, man. I'm frustrated just like everybody else is, you know, but what I'm frustrated

00:37:51.580 about is a little bit different than what other people. I'm not frustrated with the issues

00:37:55.060 they're feeding us. I'm frustrated with the way you motherfuckers act about it. It's, it's, 1.00

00:37:59.980 it's ridiculous. We, we, we are better than that. You guys are smarter than that. And you're 0.96

00:38:06.140 letting people manipulate your attitudes, your fucking, uh, anger, your emotion, your prejudices, 0.99

00:38:14.740 you know? And people say, Oh, I don't have, everybody's got prejudices. You know what prejudice 0.99

00:38:19.180 means? It means to prejudge, to form an opinion before you actually know the fucking facts. Every 0.99

00:38:23.140 motherfucker listening to this has prejudice about certain things. It's just the way it 0.99

00:38:27.280 is. And though, and it's up to you to have an, a clear mind and an open mind to listen

00:38:34.700 and identify and be self-aware about those opinions and to see if they're actually founded 0.97

00:38:39.800 in fact, or if it's just shit that you picked up somewhere that shouldn't be there. And 0.98

00:38:43.900 I'm not talking about race either. I'm talking about everything. You know what I mean?

00:38:46.680 So, you know, when you were talking, I was thinking of a famous quote, uh, the quote is,

00:38:53.100 it is of great benefit to politicians that the average person does not think, you know,

00:38:59.300 who said that Hitler. That's fucking truth. Yeah. And, and I think what I hear you saying, 1.00

00:39:05.820 you know, in addition to focusing on, you know, focusing on your territory, focusing on what you

00:39:10.080 can do is literally you're saying, don't just passively accept the media and the content that's

00:39:16.940 coming into your life. Think about it. Think about what your core values are. Think about what you

00:39:21.360 stand for. You're never going to evaluate. You're never going to get ahead in life worrying about

00:39:26.040 all this shit that we're talking about. All this shit you see on Fox, CNN, MSNBC, fucking Facebook, 1.00

00:39:32.080 wherever you're getting your drama shit, that no matter what that is, if you're worried about that 1.00

00:39:37.240 and you're spending your energy on that, you will never get ahead. You will be broke. You will 0.99

00:39:41.660 struggle. You might not be broke, like literally broke, but when I say broke, I mean, struggling

00:39:46.700 very hard. Okay. Um, you're going to be frustrated. You're going to be angry. You're going to always

00:39:52.420 feel like your potential was left on the table and that you could have been more. And I can't really

00:39:56.340 think of much worse in life than that. What's worse than sitting at, you know, when you know,

00:40:01.940 like the doctor comes in and says, Hey, you know, you've got fucking four months to live. You've got 0.98

00:40:06.640 cancer all over your body. You're going to fucking die. And what's worse than thinking 1.00

00:40:10.260 in your brain right then? Like, fuck, dude, I really did nothing. I did nothing. You know 1.00

00:40:15.920 what I mean? I let the culture around me distract me from what really matters. I don't even think

00:40:19.480 people at that point would think that that's why we're trying to point it out. You know

00:40:23.820 what I'm saying? I think at that point, and the reason I know that's what people think

00:40:27.320 is because I had that situation where they found that cyst in my brain. Yeah. I remember

00:40:31.200 you telling me about that. And I thought I was going to fucking die. 2012, I found 0.99

00:40:35.160 a cyst in my brain right before I was getting married. And for two weeks, I had to wait and

00:40:41.360 figure out if it was a fucking cyst or if it was a tumor. And during those two weeks, 0.99

00:40:45.700 I thought for sure it was a fucking tumor. I was going to die. Okay. So I did a lot 1.00

00:40:50.460 of real fucking thinking there. And you know what I thought? Dude, I didn't fucking do shit. 0.98

00:40:56.600 I didn't do anything. It wasn't like, oh, I didn't do anything because of this. It was 0.99

00:41:01.560 because I didn't, I didn't, I didn't contribute. You know, did I, I wasn't, you know, doing these

00:41:07.160 kinds of things like giving back or teaching or letting my voice be heard or standing for

00:41:12.120 things. I was just going through the motions of running a business. You know what I mean?

00:41:15.840 And I think that really woke me up in terms of, you know, that I needed to fucking be more 0.93

00:41:19.800 than, or, and I could be more than what I had been before that. And you know, it shouldn't 0.91

00:41:24.540 take that experience to release that, but sometimes it does. But I can't think of anything worse

00:41:29.940 than that feeling because dude, it was very, very, very empty and very, very sad feeling.

00:41:36.420 And in those situations you do, you do find out that 90% of what you spend your attention

00:41:42.780 on and 90% of what you worry about doesn't matter at all. I, you know, man, I love what

00:41:49.940 you said about the most dangerous thing is not the crazy world. It's becoming part of

00:41:56.100 that crazy world. The most, I would say the most dangerous thing is not getting killed

00:41:59.700 by ISIS. It's becoming ISIS. That's more, that's far more dangerous than getting killed

00:42:04.980 by ISIS. Not literally, but I get what you're saying.

00:42:06.840 You know what I'm saying? Like, like to become part of the problem is the biggest, is the biggest

00:42:11.280 problem.

00:42:12.000 You're going to contribute to something. You are contributing to something right now, whether

00:42:16.040 you realize it or not. Do you get what I'm saying when I say that?

00:42:21.060 Absolutely.

00:42:21.800 Okay. So you're, you're either contributing to the problem. You're contributing to your

00:42:26.920 mediocrity. You're contributing to your regret that you're going to have, or you're contributing

00:42:32.780 to your productivity. You're contributing to the solution. But by being past, like when

00:42:37.320 I say you're contributing to something and somebody's sitting on the couch, but I'm not

00:42:39.820 contributing anything. Your passiveness contributes to what they want. Understand? So you're always

00:42:48.600 contributing, but you have to actively decide what you're contributing to. People don't

00:42:54.040 think like that. They think, well, I'm not supporting this, these things, so I'm not

00:42:59.100 contributing to it. Well, you're not doing anything about it either in your own little

00:43:02.400 circle of influence. So you actually are contributing to it. You're passively contributing.

00:43:07.940 You see what I'm saying?

00:43:08.880 Absolutely. So a key word being passive. People just don't think. They don't act. They don't,

00:43:14.880 they don't do the hard work necessary to live.

00:43:17.340 It goes back to what we said. When you, when you think about being a part of the solution

00:43:22.080 and you say, well, how the fuck can I be part of the solution? Look how big this problem 0.98

00:43:25.880 is. You're not realizing that if all of us just did our own little part, the fucking 0.99

00:43:32.620 solution will be there. And when I say our own little part, I mean, you know, being in 0.98

00:43:37.000 control of what we're in control of, you know, our actions, our attitude, our decisions,

00:43:40.980 our work ethic affecting in a positive way, the community around us, you know, learning how

00:43:46.720 to bring people up instead of fucking put people down, you know, putting positivity out 0.98

00:43:51.460 there instead of fucking negativity. You know what I'm saying? If we all did that, the 0.99

00:43:56.820 fucking solution would be, it would happen automatically. But the problem is, is so many 0.99

00:44:01.680 people are fucking passive and apathetic. And by being apathetic, they think they're not 0.99

00:44:07.160 contributing to the problem or the solution. They're just living their life. They're actually

00:44:11.240 contributing to the problem. See what I mean? I don't know, man. I'm just tired of people

00:44:18.060 being manipulated and being labeled and fucking divided over, over stupid shit. You know, we 1.00

00:44:25.720 like this race shit that's going on right now is fucking ridiculous. I mean, it's, it's 1.00

00:44:31.060 ridiculous. Like this is 2016, man. This ain't fucking 1840. All right. This is 2016. 0.89

00:44:38.720 We need to get a fuck along, you know? And I think most people, I actually personally believe 0.99

00:44:46.200 that this whole thing is going to end up being a great thing because it, what's happened now

00:44:50.260 is it's allowed an issue, uh, the race issue to be talked about. If you were to talk about

00:44:56.500 this two years ago, openly, you know, and your real opinions about it, you know, I know

00:45:01.740 white people won't talk about it because they're afraid if they chime in on race at all, that

00:45:05.380 they're going to be called a racist. Well now so many white people have just been called 0.79

00:45:09.460 racist because they have quote unquote white privilege or whatever the fuck, you know, 1.00

00:45:14.280 they like Donald Trump, they're a racist that they're just like, you know what? I'm going 1.00

00:45:18.020 to voice up what I think about this anyway. And so what has happened here is it's allowed

00:45:22.540 an open communication to happen between logical people like, Hey bro, I'm not a fucking racist. 0.91

00:45:27.600 You know what I mean? I didn't, I didn't, my fucking family wasn't even here until the 0.98

00:45:31.820 1900s. So how the fuck do I have anything to do with you being a fucking slave in the 1.00

00:45:36.640 1800s? Right. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Do you remember a couple of weeks ago? I, and 1.00

00:45:41.720 I think you liked it, but I shared. And then the other thing is like the white privilege

00:45:45.240 thing, like, Oh, you don't have it as hard as black people. You know what? That's probably 1.00

00:45:49.180 true. That is probably true. There probably is such thing as that. I don't know. Cause I'm

00:45:53.380 not fucking black, but I can tell you this. If you fucking sit around and complain about 1.00

00:45:57.580 white people having all this privilege and don't take control of what the fuck you can control, 1.00

00:46:01.320 it ain't going to matter to you anyway. You know what I'm saying? That's not going to 1.00

00:46:06.060 fix the problem. You, you, you know what I mean? Like, Oh, Vaughn, you've got fucking

00:46:11.680 white privilege. That's not going to make my life any easier if I'm a black man. You 1.00

00:46:16.220 know, what's going to make my life easier? Take control of my shit and fucking doing what 1.00

00:46:20.120 I got to do on a daily basis for fucking me and my family and my community. 1.00

00:46:23.700 And that's true regardless of what color you are. But going back to your point, because I'd 0.99

00:46:28.160 love to, I'd love to at least include this positive example. A couple of weeks ago, I

00:46:32.640 shared something, something that somebody had posted on Facebook and basically was a

00:46:36.760 black lady who had posted a little, just a little post about something that happened 1.00

00:46:41.760 to her in the wake of that, one of the shootings. And she said she went into a convenience store.

00:46:46.020 I saw this.

00:46:46.900 Yeah. She went into a convenience store and she basically, there was a, there was a couple 0.99

00:46:50.440 white people in there and the one of them was a cop and she was just kind of tired and

00:46:54.240 everything. And, and she wasn't sure they were looking at her kind of strange. And the

00:46:58.120 guys, the white cop said, Hey, how are you doing? And she said, Oh, I'm good. And he

00:47:03.340 stopped and he said, how are you really doing? And she said, I'm tired. And he said, I'm tired

00:47:10.580 too. And he goes, and he said, uh, I guess it's pretty tough being you right now. And she

00:47:15.780 said, yeah, I guess it's pretty tough being you right now. And they hugged and it sounds

00:47:20.120 like warm fuzzies and rainbows, but dude, that's the key. I mean, that's, she called

00:47:24.520 that her moment of clarity.

00:47:26.020 That's empathy.

00:47:26.760 Yeah.

00:47:27.100 Right. Yeah.

00:47:27.760 And that's what everybody needs to get a fucking huge dose of. And I'm not the most empathetic 0.98

00:47:31.360 person on the face of the earth. You know, I definitely, you know, there's, I don't take

00:47:37.160 excuses from people. I just don't. And so my empathy is, I would say below average for

00:47:43.160 most people, but in a situation like this where people have different, completely different 0.98

00:47:47.500 worldviews, there needs to be some fucking empathy. Like dude, you know, you can, a white 0.98

00:47:52.100 person can't look at a black person and say, Oh, a white privilege is made up shit. All 1.00

00:47:55.680 right. We don't, I don't know that it probably isn't. I'm sure that it is tougher to be a

00:48:01.120 black person in America. I don't know. I'm just guessing, you know, but the point of the 1.00

00:48:07.800 matter is, is, is I don't fucking know. Cause I'm not fucking black. Just like they don't 1.00

00:48:13.180 know what it's like to be white. And the problem is, is that all these white people are 0.98

00:48:17.020 saying, Hey, that fucking white privilege, throw it in my fucking face. And black people 1.00

00:48:22.040 are being like, Oh, you're fucking white. So you got everything given to you. It's just 1.00

00:48:25.560 polarizing shit again. You know what I mean? It's fucking hard. Whether, no matter what 1.00

00:48:29.960 being successful in life and getting somewhere and building something is fucking hard. It 0.90

00:48:33.760 doesn't matter if you're fucking white. It doesn't matter if you're black. It doesn't 1.00

00:48:35.900 matter if you're fucking Muslim or American Indian or fucking Asian. It doesn't matter. 1.00

00:48:40.240 It's hard. It's hard for everybody. And us fighting amongst each other, calling each other

00:48:46.560 names and saying all this shit, pointing each other's advantages and disadvantages out and 0.98

00:48:50.700 arguing over them. It doesn't make a difference. You know, what makes a difference is what you 0.98

00:48:55.480 fucking do on a daily basis. You know what I mean? And you know, I, I'm like I said, I'm 0.99

00:49:04.200 not an empathetic person, but the lack of empathy going back and forth between, um, the groups 0.89

00:49:11.060 of people in all these situations to me is, is ridiculous. You know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely. 0.76

00:49:17.400 Like they got to pick a spot, like you got to pick a side and you, you know, this isn't a 0.99

00:49:20.720 fucking war, dude. This is a fucking issue that needs to be solved, you know? And, um, I saw, I saw 0.99

00:49:27.320 this, uh, I saw this example I wanted to bring up. While you're looking for that, I'm going to share

00:49:32.840 the, uh, show notes episode 81, you just go to the MFCO.com forward slash P 81. And that's for this

00:49:42.460 episode. You can, you can check out the show page. Also, uh, we did all, I think increase in our social

00:49:49.260 media followings. Not that that's the most important thing, but apparently some of you guys really do

00:49:53.500 want to know what our, what our, uh, social media addresses, what do you call it? Name handles,

00:49:58.840 whatever. I don't know. What do you call it? Kelsey handles. Okay. So Andy's at Andy for

00:50:04.120 seller. Tyler's at my underscore Tyler M a I underscore Tyler. Kelsey is at Kelso Jean J E N E

00:50:10.980 just in case you're wondering K E L S O J E N E. And I'm at Vaughn Kohler V A U G H N K O H L E R. 0.99

00:50:17.620 Uh, we love for you guys to connect with us. We try to do our best to, uh, to respond. I mean,

00:50:22.820 Andy's got quite a few people, so, but you do an amazing job of responding to the people that post.

00:50:27.000 Yeah. I try to do the best I can. Yeah. We've got some really cool things coming up here,

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00:50:44.280 I have one thing I want to close out with here. This one idea. All right.

00:50:50.620 You, you are in control of your actions. You are control your attitude. You're control your work

00:50:56.720 ethic. You're in control of the impact that you can make. All right. And so many people spend their

00:51:03.040 time arguing over trivial issues, right? I saw this headline a few weeks ago or about a week ago,

00:51:11.040 and I wanted to, I wanted to read it because I want you all to realize that, like I said earlier,

00:51:19.700 right? Most cops are good cops. Most white people are good people. Most black people are good people.

00:51:24.480 All right. Most people are on the same fucking team, but how much time have you seen Vaughn on 0.99

00:51:29.940 the internet of people arguing back and forth about these issues? Lots, right? It's been the biggest 0.99

00:51:34.580 thing for what a while, right? People have died over this shit. Let me explain to you what the fuck 1.00

00:51:41.460 you're arguing over and who you're arguing over. And if this doesn't make you feel stupid 1.00

00:51:48.420 for arguing over this shit, I don't know what will. Here's the headline. Members of KKK, Black Lives 1.00

00:51:58.840 Matter, and Westboro Baptist Church reportedly throwing urine at each other outside the Republican

00:52:04.920 National Convention. That's who you're spending your time arguing over. The lowest common denominator

00:52:12.420 of every fucking group. Think about that before you open your fucking mouth next time. Is it worth 1.00

00:52:18.980 that energy spent to argue about the lowest common shit, wasteful scum of the earth denominator? 1.00

00:52:29.880 Is it? Good point. That's who you're arguing over. Guys, if you enjoyed the podcast, 1.00

00:52:36.740 please share. All I ask, you bring me one friend. That's all I want. We don't charge. We don't ask for

00:52:41.460 money. If you feel like we're giving good content, tell a friend. All right, guys. Love you guys.

00:52:47.880 I'll talk to you soon.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 02, 2016

Keep Calm and Get Sh＊t Done, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO81

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