Keep Calm and Get Sh＊t Done, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO81
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Summary
In this episode of the MFCEO Project, Andy and Vaughn discuss the importance of being the CEO of your own life, and how to be the best version of yourself. They also talk about a new name for the podcast, and what it would be like if it was called "Shark Week".
Transcript
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What is up guys, you're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am
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the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time, welcome. This is an entrepreneurship
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based podcast, but many, many, many things that we talk about here include and encompass
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what it takes to be successful at life. We've had a lot of discussions internally. Should
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we be an entrepreneurship podcast? Should we be a self-help podcast? We could be either.
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So you don't have to own your own business. You don't have to be a CEO because ultimately
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I want you to be the motherfucking CEO of you. And that takes balls. It takes attitude
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and it takes a no holds barred mentality of how to attack life. And that's what you're
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going to get here. As always, I'm joined by my co-host, Vaughn Kohler, the pastor of disaster.
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Everything is good. I'm excited about this particular podcast.
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Um, I, before we get started, I had this idea and I wanted to get some people to give
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me some feedback on it. So guys, if you follow me on Instagram, uh, write me a comment or,
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or write me a message on Facebook or whatever. Um, I had this idea for a special thing. So
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All right. So let me tell this story. All right. So when I was in seventh grade, we had
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this teacher. Um, and I always remembered this and I'll, and I'll tell you why, because
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the result of it was so ridiculous and I was so embarrassed by it. It stuck with me,
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but our assignment was to phonetically like come up with a profession that fit your last
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name. So like, um, you know, if your name was like carpenter, you would be a fucking carpenter.
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Right. Or, you know, your name was Kohler. You'd have to find out coal miner. Exactly.
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Yeah. Right. You got it. Yeah. All right. So I couldn't think of mine. All right. And
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I started thinking about it and I couldn't think of one. And then this dude in the class
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was like, Oh dude, you know what? You should be Andy fish seller, which sucks, you know,
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which is kind of ironic though, because like my grandfather was a fisherman on the Ohio river.
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Like that's how he made his living. Uh, he caught catfish. I think we've told that story
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before. Um, but anyhow, uh, it always stuck with me cause I thought it was so stupid. Like
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I'm like fucking fish seller. I don't be fucking Andy fish seller. Right. You're like Mrs.
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Paul's. Right. So, so for the last 25 years, seventh grade, I've been trying to think of
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a new profession for that assignment. And I know everybody's like, what the fuck dude? And
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but like shit sticks with me like that. Like if I don't solve the problem the way I want
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it to be solved, I can't get over it. And it's, it could be something, this is kind of
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almost like an insight into my personality because it could be something that insignificant.
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It's just so small. It fucking sticks with me and it bothers me so bad. So, so anyway,
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I thought about a new profession that goes with my name and I came up with frizz Zilla like
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Godzilla. Cause I just wreck shit and break shit and bring fucking fire and fury and everything
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I fucking do. I like it. That was a lot more appropriate. Frizz Zilla. Frizz Zilla. Right.
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I like it. So I thought about what would be cool is instead of like shark week, we have
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Frizz Zilla week. All right. And Frizz Zilla week would be a full five days of fucking Thursday
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thunders. I like it. It'd be bad-ass. I like it. So for the sake of our listening audience,
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how do you spell Frizz Zilla? F-R-I-Z-I-L-L-A. So it's pretty much the same. It's pretty much
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your name only with a little bit of a... But with fucking Godzilla, man. It's like a ghetto
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Z. It's like a gangster name. Yeah. Frizz Zilla. Right. That's right. If I was a rapper...
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So instead of Frizz Zilla, it's Frizz Zilla. Right. Okay. I gotcha. I gotcha. So Frizz Zilla
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week. Right. I like it. So it would be a fucking full week. Instead of shark week, it would be
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Frizz Zilla week. We can make like a little fucking Godzilla-like character with my head
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on it. Yeah. Or Godzilla with a beard. Breathing fire. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I like how you make
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destroying things your new occupation. Yeah. But I'm saying like, dude, he breathes fire
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and he's just wrecking shit. You know what I'm saying? I like it. I like it. So like, dude,
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I think it would be cool. I came up with this when I was drinking in my swimming pool over the
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weekend. Right. Okay. But how about this? Can we, in addition to using a hashtag Frizz Zilla
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week, can we throw it out there that we have a little contest for people who are going to draw
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Frizz Zilla and we'll give a little prize or something? That would be kind of cool.
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Why don't we do that? Yeah. Draw me up Frizz Zilla and we use it as a logo, post on Instagram
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and tag me in it. Yeah. Tag you. If we win, we'll give you something. Yeah. Or something
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big. I don't know. What do you think? I think it's awesome. Yeah. We do it once a year. It'd be
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full five days of just 10 minutes or less, just straight up fucking fire. Yeah. Well, you know,
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we are coming up fairly close. Well, we're on episode 81. We got about 19 more episodes
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before we did. Yeah. We can figure out when it is, but it's just an idea. Yeah. We just
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recently celebrated our one year. I was thinking like your birthday week. It'll be the week
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about you. It's too late. He just turned like 47 or something, right? Yeah. Yeah. 470 years
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old. Exactly. So no, I like it, man. It's a great idea. So that was an idea. Yeah. You
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know. In other news, Kelsey's gotten more stalkers as a result of being on this show. I mean,
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yeah, duh. And the accompany dick pics. No way. Oh yeah. That's what she said. Really?
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Yeah. Sorry. I used to get those though. Tyler got out of control. Tyler got drunk,
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started taking pictures of his dick. Oh no, I sent it to a girl. Yeah. All right. So anyway,
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let's get down to business. All right. Past, uh, past, uh, for Zilla week and, and dick pics.
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Yeah. What are we going to talk about today? Well, uh, obviously you have a strong presence
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locally through your businesses. And obviously because of the podcast and your Instagram and
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your Facebook following, you interact with a lot of people online and in person. And something that
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I've, I've noticed, Kelsey and I were talking about this last week, but something I've noticed
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is that more and more people that we come in contact with have something in common. And it's
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not necessarily people who are strong followers of the podcast or anything, but just normal people
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that we interact with. And that's, they're totally freaking out. Like they're looking at the,
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they're looking at the stuff that's going on in the world, the crazy stuff that's going on in the
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world and they're getting stressed and they're getting anxious and they're just freaking out.
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And I think, I think it's gotten to the point where I know that for me, I know that a lot of,
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you know, quote unquote, motivational speakers and self-help gurus, they had these little,
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you know, nice little pep talks about, well, how can you deal with all the stress in the world?
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But I really wanted to give people an opportunity to hear your take on, you know, that it's gotten
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to be annoying now, but that, that phrase, you know, keep calm and carry on. Yeah. I want to
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hear what you have to say, like your keys for in the midst of this crazy world. Cause there are,
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I mean, obviously like today we just found out that, what was it? Two guys from ISIS broke into
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a church and killed a bunch of people in France and that, that kind of stuff's happened all the
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time. We got craziness in our own election cycle here going on in the United States. There's just a lot
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of stress in people's lives. And I think, I think you would agree that truly successful and truly great
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people know how to live in the midst of that craziness and keep their heads cool.
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I a hundred percent. Okay. I'm just going to go back to something that I said a million times
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here. All right. You only have so much energy. Okay. And you are in control of how you expend that
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energy, whether you, um, expended on positive, productive things that can move you forward or
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whether you let people throw negativity at you and stress you and suck that energy out. You still only
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have the same amount. So you have to be conscious about where you, you allow your energy to, uh, be
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expended. Right. And I feel, I don't feel, I know that most people are not disciplined enough to
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be able to be in control of that all the time. You know, we're surrounded by negativity. First of all,
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we're surrounded by negativity, 90%. I mean, let's look at the shit that's on social media,
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just for an example. I mean, and I was actually having this discussion with a friend last night.
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It's funny because you can almost tell a person's level of success in life by the shit that they post
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online. The whining, the crying, the bitching, um, the one-sided polarizing opinion on this issue or
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that issue. It's like, you can, you can just tell so much about somebody by what they post and kind
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of taking it off track a little bit here. That should be a lesson to you to be very conscious
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about what the fuck you say, even, especially when you're emotional, you know, politics, high emotion,
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world issues, high emotion. We all have different perspectives. And because we get emotional about
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things, um, you know, we tend to try to make the argument for the most polarizing side of that. Well,
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the problem with that is, is that when you, when you try to win the argument, quote unquote, win by throwing
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the biggest bomb. And when I say the biggest bomb, I mean the most attacking, polarizing statement that
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you could possibly make. You automatically lose the ability to ever have a legitimate, um, productive
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conversation with somebody who might not share the same views that you have. Okay. So you're not
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accomplishing anything. All you're doing is rallying the people that think just like you. All right.
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So, you know, you have, when you make posts guys, this is a little off track for what we want to talk
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about, but realize that 50% of the people in your feed probably don't think like you think. And if you
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want to have a legitimate impact, which the reality is on politics and social issues and things like
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that, it's your post probably isn't going to make a fucking difference. But if you decide that you want
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to go that route, you need to be very careful and understand that if you are really trying to solve
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an issue as opposed to just say some shit to get some attention, you've got to be open-minded with your
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views. It's just, even if you don't agree, you've got to let somebody listen and be logical about it
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because, because at the very least, you're not going to look like a fucking moron. I mean, dude, I look
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through my social feed right now and I'm like, dude, moron, moron, moron, moron, fucking super
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moron, moron, moron, moron. You know what I'm saying? No, I totally, I totally get what you're
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saying. You know, what's funny is like, I can look at those people and then I look at like their level
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of where they are in life and it makes fucking sense. You know what I mean? You have to be fucking
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open to accepting thoughts and you can't just be, and I, dude, you know what? I used to be the guy who
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was like, you know, I'm right, you're wrong and fuck you. But you know what I learned is that when
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you're like that, you're only, you're only rallying the people who think like you, you're not solving
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anything. You're, you're very opinionated. I am too. And I, and I opinionated Vaughn on the things
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that I know to be fact through experience. I know they're fucking fact. There's many, many things that
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I don't hundred percent know or a hundred percent agree with. Like for example, you know, the shit
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going on with the fucking cops and the black culture right now. You know what I mean? It's
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the most polarizing thing, dude. What people don't understand is that by picking one side, a hundred
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percent. All right. And you say all cops are pieces of shit. Well, we know that's not true.
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Every motherfucker listening to this fucking podcast and every motherfucker on the internet,
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I don't care what color you are, knows that is not true. And all black people are thugs.
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Every motherfucker listening to this podcast and every single person on this earth list on social
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media knows that is not true. So why the fuck are people saying that all it does is divide us. And
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the media is trying to put a big old fucking wedge in between these two groups so that they can
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manipulate the way people vote or people think or, or how, how much power we have as a
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whole. Okay. And when we're divided as a country, we don't have power. They, they've got the
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power. They have the ability to make the rules or to, you know, do things that just benefit
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themselves. We don't have, we lose that power when we're arguing over petty shit. Like all
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fucking black people are pieces of shit and all cops are fucking black people killers. Everybody
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knows that's bullshit. There's bad cops out there. There's great cops out there. The majority
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of cops out there are fucking great people, period. The majority of black people out there
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are great people, period. And to judge those two groups on a fucking small minority, you
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could pick any group in the world, any group. And to look at the fucking bottom feeding minority
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of the group and take all the media and point all the cameras at those people. And the perception
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of that whole entire group will be that, you know, dude, what if we took a fucking camera
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crew to fucking meth Jefferson County here in Missouri and, and fucking focused it on
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that for, for the next fucking hundred days straight, everybody'd be like, God damn, all
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white people have no fucking teeth and they all fucking smoke crack and meth all day and
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they all have no fucking jobs. And that would be the perception. You know what I mean? Dude,
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people have to be smarter to take a step back and realizing what you're being force fed and
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why you're being force fed that. All right. I just made a snap of a picture of this microphone
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and it said, what's the most powerful weapon in the world with a question mark. Think about
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it. It ain't a fucking gun. It ain't a fucking bomb. It ain't a fucking tank. You know what
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it is? It's a fucking microphone and a fucking camera. Okay. You can manipulate thoughts because
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most people can not think for themselves. And that's what our media knows. They know that
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they teach that in fucking media school, journalism school. They teach that. I was thinking about
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this yesterday. Journalism used to be about reporting the fucking facts until people came out
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inside the journalistic community and put their little opinion on top of the facts. And then they
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became superstars. Right. So you have people like, you know, uh, Howard Stern, or you have people
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like, uh, fuck, I can't even think anybody on. Right. You know what I'm saying? But like an Oprah
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or back in the day, they take the facts and they put their spin on top of it and it creates a
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personality and then that's marketable. And those motherfuckers got paid. Well, now you have every
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motherfucker on the news reporting with their own little fucking spin on it. Well, motherfucker,
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that ain't your job. Your job is to report us the fucking facts and the facts of the matter
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are often so far away from what we're fed that it's just embarrassing. Like it's embarrassing.
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And you know, what's more embarrassing to me is how many people out there, you motherfuckers
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listening right now included, cannot think for your fucking selves. It's embarrassing. We're,
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we're, we are fucking Americans do when another country attacks us, they don't attack fucking
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black Americans, native American, Americans, fucking Asian Americans and white Americans. You know
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what they say? Kill all those motherfuckers. So how the fuck can every other country on the face of
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earth see us as the same and we can't see ourselves the fucking same? No, it's because our fucking
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government and our fucking media has vested interests in us not seeing each other or uniting with each
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other. And until people step back and fucking realize that it's going to be the same shit. It's going to
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be this fucking bullshit, you know, and it's going to be, Oh, you know what? You, you should have
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fucking apologized to me for fucking slavery. Motherfucker. I have nothing to do with fucking
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slavery. You know what I'm saying? I'm fucking, this is fucking 150 fucking years ago. You know
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who fucking freed fucking slaves, white motherfuckers. Why don't we talk about that? You know,
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quit bringing up old shit, quit bringing up fucking shit, you know, about how fucking things were this
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way a hundred fucking years ago or 30 years ago or 50 years ago. If we truly want to move on,
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let's move the fuck on. Right? I mean, dude, people just don't fucking, they, they don't let go of
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shit. They keep throwing. It's like a fucking girlfriend who, you know, you went out one night
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and stayed out too late with the guys and you made a mistake and, um, you know, she moves on. But
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every time you get in a fight, it's thrown up in your fucking face. You know, you can't move past
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that unless you move past it. You know what I mean? And, and dude, the majority of fucking white
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people out there are not fucking racist. Are there fucking racist white people? 100%. Are there
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fucking racist black people? 100%. But until black people and white people decide to get on the same
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fucking page and say, Hey bro, you know what? I know some fucking bad shit happened in the past and I
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know it might be harder for you, but I am committed and, and I'm committed with you to be your fucking
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brother and to be an American and to make shit work productively. And we're on the same fucking
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team. And both people say that and mean it, the country ain't going to get better. Period.
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Absolutely. Right. You know, absolutely right. Dude, people can fucking say whatever they want
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that, you know, if this was the media, they would, they would, they would take little sound clips of
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this and make it sound like I'm fucking crazy. Right. Right. You know what I mean? It's just fucking bullshit,
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man. Right. So obviously it's so like getting to the point of what we want to talk about here
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is that people, including me, get so fired up about these issues that they lose focus on what
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they can do and what they should be doing. You know, I walk, dude, I walk into my office here
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some days and there's fucking seven, eight people rallied around talking about whatever the fuck was
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on the news. And I'm like, the fuck you guys talking about? It doesn't matter. What matters is what
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we do. What matters is the example we set. What matters is the good shit we do, the productive
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things we do. And, you know, at the end of the day, no matter what you see on TV or talk about or
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argue about that shit is all distraction away from your own fucking life. And, you know, I said this,
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uh, I think last podcast or two podcasts ago, you know, it doesn't matter to point out what's fair,
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not fair, this and that argue and spend your whole life bitter about things that aren't the way they
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should be. You know, you know what matters is the fucking action you take today, the action you take
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tomorrow, the habits you create from that action and the result that comes from it. There's been
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plenty of fucking success stories of every race, every creed, every religion, every color on this globe
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to where no one could argue what I just said. What matters is what the fuck you do. Right. And that's
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what we're going to talk about today. Right. So, I mean, what are, I mean, you talked about
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everything you just talked about, obviously, as part of the general craziness that all of us,
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all of us experience on a day to day basis. So like you obviously talked about taking care of
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your own stuff. So, I mean, flesh that out. I mean, I mean, you know, the first thing is you have to,
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you have to understand you're, you're not responsible for the whole fucking world and the whole world's
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actions. And you can't carry that weight around. You're responsible for impacting your world.
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You're responsible for your family. You're responsible for your network and the example
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you set and the productivity that you, uh, do within that world. You know, uh, like for example,
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salespeople have territories, right? If they're in Oklahoma, their job is to kill it in sales
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within Oklahoma, Nebraska, and Missouri. They're not responsible for killing it, uh,
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in Oregon or fucking California or China. And so if they spend all their time worrying about
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what's going on in fucking California, how can they be productive in their own territory
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that they're in? You know, that's a great analogy. Like focus on the territory you've been given.
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Dude, you know, the people just, people just get so distracted that they can't focus on what's
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going on in front of them. They're worried about everybody else's shit, you know? And like you see
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that little meme going around the internet, focus on your own shit.
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Right. It can't get any simpler than that. Focus on your shit, focus on your daily actions,
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handle those actions with integrity, with honor, with fucking core values that matter.
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And guess what? People will fucking emulate that. You will become a leader in your community,
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in your world. And guess what? That's how you make the world better. You don't make the world
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better by writing some fucking ignorant shit on Facebook. You write that you make the world better
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by handling your own shit, becoming successful in your own right, worrying about your own family,
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your own friends, your own circle of influence and improving that.
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Right. And it's understandable why people get overwhelmed because if everybody's out saying,
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oh, how are we going to save the world? That's a huge order. You're not going to save the world.
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How about how are we going to save our own neighborhood?
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Dude, exactly. If everybody did that, the world will get saved. You know what I'm saying? But how
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are you going to save the world is such a fucking massive project that it's overwhelming. It's like
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somebody who has 300 pounds to lose. They're standing at the bottom of that fucking mountain and they're
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looking up at the top of it and like, fuck, dude, you know what? I can't lose 300 fucking pounds.
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It's going to take me fucking two years, you know? So they never get started. And so what do
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they do? They get depressed. They go back, they eat because that's the only fucking gratification
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they have. And then they continue that cycle. And eventually that mountain that was 300 pounds
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is fucking 400 pounds. And it's just worse and worse and worse until it kills them. And that's
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what we're dealing with here. So it's just like anything. If you want to fix the world,
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if you want to improve the world, if you want to impact the world, you have to worry about
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your world. You have to worry about, like you said, your neighborhood.
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Right. So let me put this into my own words so I make sure I completely understand yourself.
00:21:59.540
So one of the ways that you deal with not being completely just destroyed by all the craziness
00:22:06.420
in the world is that you focus the sphere of your impact, basically. You say, I'm going to,
00:22:13.680
and that's not to say that your impact won't exponentially, organically grow to impact the
00:22:19.420
rest of the world. But your thing is focus on your world. Yeah. Yeah. But, but the start with
00:22:24.600
your world, start with the people that you're around, start with your own family, start with
00:22:27.760
your friends, start with your community. That's what you're saying. Right. Okay, cool. Yeah. Cool.
00:22:31.960
So I, I mean, I, I'm kind of jumping the gun here, but kind of related to that is you're
00:22:36.940
talking about the focus in terms of territory. Don't you think you have to worry about what you
00:22:41.820
could control? Okay. That's what I was going to say. That's not, so that's point number two,
00:22:44.900
I guess we could say. There's so many things that, that you can't control that people talk
00:22:49.080
about, worry about and fucking focus on. You can't worry about that. You've got to focus on what you
00:22:54.460
can control. What can you control? You control your actions. You control your attitude. You control
00:22:59.340
the decisions that you make and you control your work ethic, the effort that you put out. Those
00:23:03.820
things are in your control 24 hours a day, seven days a week, fucking 365 days a year. And most people
00:23:10.200
ignore all of those things. They pretend as if they're not in control of anything and they
00:23:14.860
just like, they're floating down the river and whatever comes to them, comes to them. No,
00:23:18.100
you're actually in control of a fucking shitload of things, but you choose to not take control of
00:23:23.340
them by, by conscious choice, you know? And if you're going to sit back and let, let the world
00:23:29.300
just give you what it's going to give you, it's going to give you a fucking ass beating over and
00:23:33.560
over and over again, you know? So, so you took on the media and I totally agree with you on this and
00:23:38.740
you, you were indicting the media for basically at some point losing its focus and becoming more
00:23:43.760
about sensationalistic type things than actually hard return. But I mean, kind of along with that
00:23:48.460
is, do you think there's been a, do you think there's been a very, very, another very negative
00:23:52.820
aspect of 24 hour news cycle, which is that we're constantly being bombarded by stories that are
00:23:58.060
happening all the, all over the world that we can't really do anything about them anyway.
00:24:02.420
So why, why are we spending our time? Why are we wasting our time watching all of this,
00:24:06.760
this news, this 24 hour news cycle? It's not that I don't care about the people in Ethiopia or
00:24:12.100
France or wherever. It's just what, I mean, what is it, what is it accomplice for us to,
00:24:18.600
It's attention. It takes away, it takes away, it's just like watching a soap opera. You know,
00:24:23.480
it just happens to be real. You know, people watch drama, whether it's in a movie or whether
00:24:28.560
they like that shit and they thrive on it and it gets their focus off of what I just said,
00:24:34.080
what they can control and the responsibilities they have to themselves. You know, if you know,
00:24:39.020
you've got a mountain of fucking shit to take care of and you can, you know, get absorbed into
00:24:43.300
something else for a while and let, forget about it, that anxiety and that stress and all the shit
00:24:47.160
that comes from knowing that you had that stuff to do goes away, at least temporarily.
00:24:50.660
Well, cause then people can say, oh, there's worse things going on in the world. It doesn't matter if
00:24:54.240
I do this or if I do my own responsibilities and that kind of thing.
00:24:58.980
Do you think, you said that you thought that the media, and I agree with you, the media benefits from
00:25:03.620
us being angry at each other because it, it basically keeps us from uniting and getting
00:25:08.200
things done. But do you also think that there's actual, there's an intent of distracting us with
00:25:15.760
so many things that don't matter so that we won't become the people that we're meant to be?
00:25:19.460
No, dude, it's distracting you with things like fucking SARS or fucking bird flu or shark attacks
00:25:26.780
or whatever the fuck is going on so that you won't notice what the fuck they're doing,
00:25:31.040
which is stealing from my fucking everybody. You know what I mean? And doing everything they
00:25:38.060
That is how they make, that's how they do everything. It's how they stay in power.
00:25:40.780
Dude, people just don't fucking, you know, you talk like when I'm talking right now,
00:25:44.820
they're like, oh dude, you fuck conspiracy theories. No motherfucker. That's the truth.
00:25:50.020
Fucking two sharks bite people. Dude, do you remember 9-11 when 9-11 happened? The biggest
00:25:56.340
story that summer was fucking shark attacks. It was people being eaten by
00:26:00.900
sharks. It was every fucking day there was a shark attack on TV. Man, there is fucking
00:26:04.920
people getting eaten by sharks every day. Still to this day, every day, a shark bites
00:26:09.080
a motherfucker. Right? But why isn't it on the news?
00:26:13.540
And an actual statistic is that you're more likely to get plowed by a vending machine than
00:26:21.040
But the point is, it's always a constant state of distraction. When there is no news, they make
00:26:26.300
it up. You know, what was that? Ebola is going to get on a fucking airplane and fucking wipe
00:26:32.940
out the entire, you know, United States. Or what was that? Ebola? What the fuck was that?
00:26:38.280
The swine flu or the Ebola or something like that.
00:26:41.760
You know, we're all going to become fucking zombies.
00:26:43.600
I mean, dude, the walking dead became a hit off the fucking hysteria that the government
00:26:48.300
created by saying shit like this. You know, it's like...
00:26:52.300
I'm just convinced that we're bombarded with information that doesn't matter to anesthetize
00:27:00.240
us against when there is information that we really should pay attention to. We're not
00:27:04.700
That's a great way to look at it. It's desensitized, you know, the response to shit that really matters.
00:27:09.080
Yeah. So focus on your own territory. Focus on the things that you can control. I'm going
00:27:16.500
to throw this out there because I know you, I know you, this is huge and we've talked about
00:27:20.360
it before, but I think you place a huge value on having core values so that you can, you
00:27:26.300
know, it's like when, when a person doesn't really know what they stand for or what they
00:27:29.180
believe in, it's easy. It's easy. Yeah. They fall for everything and they, and it's easy
00:27:34.160
The core values of who you are and what you are, that's like the foundation of your fucking
00:27:37.900
life. You know, that's what you're built upon. Your beliefs, your, your values, your
00:27:43.380
morals. A lot of people don't have any of those things really, or they've at least
00:27:46.840
not thought of them and they don't, so they don't know. So, so when the fucking winds of
00:27:51.080
drama come through their lives, they're easily swayed one way or another way, or, you know,
00:27:57.420
they're stirred up easily. You know, when, when, when in reality, you should be pretty
00:28:02.000
fucking stoic about what you believe in. You know what I mean? If that foundation is built
00:28:06.580
properly, you shouldn't be getting caught up in all this bullshit that comes around and
00:28:09.740
you know, you should define your core values of who you are, know what you are, know who you
00:28:14.220
stand for and let those values guide you and help you make the right decisions when
00:28:18.900
you're dealing with things like this. You know, it's not that, it's not that difficult.
00:28:22.720
It's just people put more time into planning out their fucking party on Saturday night than
00:28:27.920
they do figure out what the fuck they really stand for, which is sad, you know, but I don't
00:28:33.560
think you'll find many people to argue with that statement.
00:28:39.040
Yeah. So I don't know, you know, even further than that, I, people need to realize that when
00:28:50.800
the drama wins and the storms and the bullshit and the news and the media, they're trying
00:28:55.840
to stir you up. You're only getting part of the story. You know, you're only getting
00:29:00.100
the part they want you to hear. They're only getting the part that they know is going to
00:29:03.780
get the reaction that they're looking for. Okay. So by you reacting and playing into that,
00:29:08.020
you're just doing what they want you to do. That shit's mapped out. If you don't think
00:29:11.200
they got a whiteboard in their fucking office and they're saying, Hey, if we say this, the
00:29:15.500
people will do this. You're fucking crazy. It's exactly what they do. You know? And, um,
00:29:21.060
the media is constantly lying to us. It's constantly manipulating us to, to get, you know, people
00:29:27.940
to put eyeballs. It's all a big money game to put eyeballs on their station so that they
00:29:33.620
could charge advertisers fucking gigantic rates to, to be on their station. Oh, we got
00:29:38.840
this many people watching because we sensationalize everything. And guess what? Because we have
00:29:44.320
all these eyeballs, we could charge you more. I mean, people don't even think about this
00:29:47.580
shit. You know, it's a big game. And then when we're all pissed off at each other, you
00:29:52.040
know, that's what fucking they monetize on. I don't know. To me, it's, it's so obvious
00:29:58.820
because I've bought advertising and I see how it's done. And I've seen, I don't know.
00:30:02.920
I think I've seen a lot of things for, especially for the amount of years that I've been in this
00:30:06.460
that is so obvious, but like people, you know, they don't even stop to think about
00:30:11.780
how much they let the news stations dictate their feelings and actions as a human. And that's
00:30:21.800
So would you say that a huge step toward learning how to deal with the craziness?
00:30:26.340
How about this? Back when we were kids, if a fucking building caught on fire or let's,
00:30:31.660
let's say there was a shooting, it didn't say, the headline didn't say white officer
00:30:38.920
shoots black person at this address at this time. You know what it says? It says police
00:30:44.920
shoot suspect overnight at this address. And then they tell the story. Right. You know
00:30:51.800
what I'm saying? Yeah. It's as simple as that. Yeah. Well, that's what I was going to
00:30:55.060
say. I was going to say that a huge way of maybe dealing with the craziness is to learn
00:30:59.000
how to consume your media and realize, learn to look for the things that show that, okay,
00:31:04.960
is this objective reporting or is this reporter inserting their opinion? Right. Are they using
00:31:10.520
descriptive language that they really shouldn't use? Right. Are they using certain verbs that
00:31:15.500
carry certain connotations? Yes, it does take thought. It's just easier than I think.
00:31:18.780
It does take, you're right. Exactly. It does. But I mean, that, that is one way to maintain
00:31:23.000
sanity is, is to, as you're reading something, go, okay, what can I take from this story? Well,
00:31:28.800
okay. Objectively, someone was shot. That's what I know. Okay. But beyond that, how, how is this,
00:31:34.720
this writer trying to influence me politically, morally or whatever? And just to be aware of that.
00:31:40.080
Well, dude, like we said a minute ago, sensationalizing things sell shit. Right.
00:31:44.160
Right. Period. No, absolutely right. Absolutely right. So, okay. So yeah, covering your own
00:31:49.000
territory, knowing what you control. You said just, you know, knowing that we're not getting
00:31:53.620
the full story. What else? Oh, having core values. You know, what are the, some of the other ways that
00:31:59.260
you deal with the craziness in the world? Well, you know, the biggest thing that the
00:32:04.020
media sells us is fear, right? Fear that, you know, the world's going to end, fear that a fucking
00:32:09.720
comet's going to hit us, fear that terrorists are going to blow us up, fear that you're going to get
00:32:13.620
shot walking down the street by a gun that is sitting on the sidewalk that no one touched.
00:32:18.840
You know what I mean? Like the amount of fear they sell us is fucking insane. And I think people
00:32:23.480
need to stop and realize that your biggest danger isn't, you know, the fear of the external world.
00:32:30.780
It's inside of you. It's what you do or do not do with your life. You know,
00:32:35.460
you have to understand that this shit will make you crazy. You know what I mean? Worrying about all
00:32:45.260
this shit, thinking about all this shit, it will make you crazy. Like I said, it sucks your energy
00:32:49.640
out of you. You know, talking about other people, about these other events, it makes it impossible
00:32:54.820
for you to be productive. You don't see fucking all these super successful entrepreneurs constantly
00:33:01.100
posting political statuses or arguments about this or that. That's what fucking broke people
00:33:06.340
do. Right. You get what I'm saying? Right. Dude, broke people argue politics on the fucking
00:33:11.160
internet. Yeah. Period. Yeah. You know why fucking successful people don't do that? Because they are
00:33:17.000
worried about impacting their own world. They're worried about doing their own thing. They're worried
00:33:21.040
about making their own business successful, impacting their own families, impacting their own
00:33:26.940
employees. And they know that if they're going to do that properly, effectively, efficiently,
00:33:31.120
they don't have the fucking time to argue with some moron on the internet about fucking politics.
00:33:36.320
Period. That's absolutely true. I'd say that it's the broke people that are spending all the time
00:33:40.100
sharing their two cents on world events. And it's the truly successful people that are actually
00:33:44.320
creating those events. Exactly. And so think about that the next time you're about to fucking post
00:33:49.380
some stupid ass shit on the internet. Right. People keep asking me, what's your views? What's your
00:33:53.200
views? What's your views? You know what? I do have my own fucking views.
00:33:56.940
And I've said them before on this show. I'm worried about the fucking economy. I'm worried
00:34:02.040
about fucking, you know, uh, the people of this country. And I'm worried about that first.
00:34:06.740
And I could give a fuck less about much else. You know, if the social, uh, the social issues to me
00:34:14.060
are not something that a president should be elected on. It should be elected on your ability to run a
00:34:18.980
country, your ability to manage the country fiscally, and your ability to have, uh, the ability to
00:34:23.820
protect the people of this nation. And other than that, fucking, we can argue about the other shit
00:34:27.800
all day. I don't really give a fuck. I just don't, you know, it's not, it's, it's not something that,
00:34:34.120
that I'm concerned with to be completely honest. Right. So going back to what you were saying
00:34:37.980
though, are you basically saying that far worse than the craziness in the world is you becoming
00:34:43.340
crazy? Yeah. Yeah. You know, outside, inside type stuff. Is that what you were trying to say?
00:34:49.800
I just think that, you know, people, I mean, I don't really give a fuck how crazy the world is.
00:34:57.820
It's the danger is you becoming part of that by acting the way that I'm describing. You know what I
00:35:07.380
mean? And that is what quote unquote, they want. They don't want you to go out and fucking do all
00:35:16.960
this great shit for yourself. They want you to worry about this other shit, shark attacks,
00:35:22.100
so that you can't figure out that you're getting totally fucked in every other way possible.
00:35:27.840
That's the truth. So that makes sense. You know, and, and, and I think the other thing that I would
00:35:35.660
like to bring up here is, you know, guys, there are worse things in life than death. You know,
00:35:43.200
the media is constantly trying to feed us the story of how we're going to fucking die. You know,
00:35:47.740
the water's poison. You're going to die. The bird flu, you're going to die. Ebola, you're going to die.
00:35:53.600
Fucking terrorists, you're going to die. And you know what? Do people die from that shit? Absolutely.
00:35:58.720
Are you going to die from that shit? Probably not. Okay. So we're sold this story all fucking day long.
00:36:04.980
And there's all kinds of anxiety going around the world around all these issues. But at the end of
00:36:10.660
the day, some people think the worst thing that can happen to you is that you're going to die. But
00:36:16.140
the truth of it is, is the worst thing that can happen to you isn't death. It's living a life that's,
00:36:21.480
that is so fucking shaped and influenced and affected by fear, anxiety, mediocrity, and conformity
00:36:28.060
that you might as well be fucking dead. You accomplish nothing. You do nothing. You contribute nothing.
00:36:32.820
You are nothing. That's worse than even dying. At least to me.
00:36:39.940
Yeah, dude. And most people are already dead. They just don't even fucking know it.
00:36:43.540
You know, they're, they're concerned with that fucking box that hangs on the wall in their house
00:36:49.300
or that fucking phone that they're walking around carrying instead of focusing on the shit they
00:36:55.460
could control, which is their actions, their attitude, the way they affect people, their,
00:36:59.680
their daily to-do lists and the things that they can do to be productive and impact their own world.
00:37:04.540
You know, instead we'd rather argue with some fucking anonymous motherfucker on the internet
00:37:09.780
that we never met, never going to meet, you know, could be a 10 year old kid about fucking
00:37:14.560
Hillary Clinton. I mean, are you that fucking stupid that you're going to get on there and
00:37:18.060
argue, spend all day going back and forth with somebody over something like that? What's that
00:37:21.800
say about you? It says you're not focused on your own shit. And if you're not focused on your
00:37:26.320
own shit, guess what? You're going to get shit.
00:37:28.020
Mm-hmm. Maybe that explains the popularity of zombies in the last couple of years is that
00:37:33.780
everybody is a zombie. So they're like, Hey, I might as well celebrate what I am.
00:37:40.240
No, there's a lot of, there's, there's a lot of metaphorical truth to that.
00:37:46.600
I don't know, man. I'm frustrated just like everybody else is, you know, but what I'm frustrated
00:37:51.580
about is a little bit different than what other people. I'm not frustrated with the issues
00:37:55.060
they're feeding us. I'm frustrated with the way you motherfuckers act about it. It's, it's,
00:37:59.980
it's ridiculous. We, we, we are better than that. You guys are smarter than that. And you're
00:38:06.140
letting people manipulate your attitudes, your fucking, uh, anger, your emotion, your prejudices,
00:38:14.740
you know? And people say, Oh, I don't have, everybody's got prejudices. You know what prejudice
00:38:19.180
means? It means to prejudge, to form an opinion before you actually know the fucking facts. Every
00:38:23.140
motherfucker listening to this has prejudice about certain things. It's just the way it
00:38:27.280
is. And though, and it's up to you to have an, a clear mind and an open mind to listen
00:38:34.700
and identify and be self-aware about those opinions and to see if they're actually founded
00:38:39.800
in fact, or if it's just shit that you picked up somewhere that shouldn't be there. And
00:38:43.900
I'm not talking about race either. I'm talking about everything. You know what I mean?
00:38:46.680
So, you know, when you were talking, I was thinking of a famous quote, uh, the quote is,
00:38:53.100
it is of great benefit to politicians that the average person does not think, you know,
00:38:59.300
who said that Hitler. That's fucking truth. Yeah. And, and I think what I hear you saying,
00:39:05.820
you know, in addition to focusing on, you know, focusing on your territory, focusing on what you
00:39:10.080
can do is literally you're saying, don't just passively accept the media and the content that's
00:39:16.940
coming into your life. Think about it. Think about what your core values are. Think about what you
00:39:21.360
stand for. You're never going to evaluate. You're never going to get ahead in life worrying about
00:39:26.040
all this shit that we're talking about. All this shit you see on Fox, CNN, MSNBC, fucking Facebook,
00:39:32.080
wherever you're getting your drama shit, that no matter what that is, if you're worried about that
00:39:37.240
and you're spending your energy on that, you will never get ahead. You will be broke. You will
00:39:41.660
struggle. You might not be broke, like literally broke, but when I say broke, I mean, struggling
00:39:46.700
very hard. Okay. Um, you're going to be frustrated. You're going to be angry. You're going to always
00:39:52.420
feel like your potential was left on the table and that you could have been more. And I can't really
00:39:56.340
think of much worse in life than that. What's worse than sitting at, you know, when you know,
00:40:01.940
like the doctor comes in and says, Hey, you know, you've got fucking four months to live. You've got
00:40:06.640
cancer all over your body. You're going to fucking die. And what's worse than thinking
00:40:10.260
in your brain right then? Like, fuck, dude, I really did nothing. I did nothing. You know
00:40:15.920
what I mean? I let the culture around me distract me from what really matters. I don't even think
00:40:19.480
people at that point would think that that's why we're trying to point it out. You know
00:40:23.820
what I'm saying? I think at that point, and the reason I know that's what people think
00:40:27.320
is because I had that situation where they found that cyst in my brain. Yeah. I remember
00:40:31.200
you telling me about that. And I thought I was going to fucking die. 2012, I found
00:40:35.160
a cyst in my brain right before I was getting married. And for two weeks, I had to wait and
00:40:41.360
figure out if it was a fucking cyst or if it was a tumor. And during those two weeks,
00:40:45.700
I thought for sure it was a fucking tumor. I was going to die. Okay. So I did a lot
00:40:50.460
of real fucking thinking there. And you know what I thought? Dude, I didn't fucking do shit.
00:40:56.600
I didn't do anything. It wasn't like, oh, I didn't do anything because of this. It was
00:41:01.560
because I didn't, I didn't, I didn't contribute. You know, did I, I wasn't, you know, doing these
00:41:07.160
kinds of things like giving back or teaching or letting my voice be heard or standing for
00:41:12.120
things. I was just going through the motions of running a business. You know what I mean?
00:41:15.840
And I think that really woke me up in terms of, you know, that I needed to fucking be more
00:41:19.800
than, or, and I could be more than what I had been before that. And you know, it shouldn't
00:41:24.540
take that experience to release that, but sometimes it does. But I can't think of anything worse
00:41:29.940
than that feeling because dude, it was very, very, very empty and very, very sad feeling.
00:41:36.420
And in those situations you do, you do find out that 90% of what you spend your attention
00:41:42.780
on and 90% of what you worry about doesn't matter at all. I, you know, man, I love what
00:41:49.940
you said about the most dangerous thing is not the crazy world. It's becoming part of
00:41:56.100
that crazy world. The most, I would say the most dangerous thing is not getting killed
00:41:59.700
by ISIS. It's becoming ISIS. That's more, that's far more dangerous than getting killed
00:42:04.980
by ISIS. Not literally, but I get what you're saying.
00:42:06.840
You know what I'm saying? Like, like to become part of the problem is the biggest, is the biggest
00:42:12.000
You're going to contribute to something. You are contributing to something right now, whether
00:42:16.040
you realize it or not. Do you get what I'm saying when I say that?
00:42:21.800
Okay. So you're, you're either contributing to the problem. You're contributing to your
00:42:26.920
mediocrity. You're contributing to your regret that you're going to have, or you're contributing
00:42:32.780
to your productivity. You're contributing to the solution. But by being past, like when
00:42:37.320
I say you're contributing to something and somebody's sitting on the couch, but I'm not
00:42:39.820
contributing anything. Your passiveness contributes to what they want. Understand? So you're always
00:42:48.600
contributing, but you have to actively decide what you're contributing to. People don't
00:42:54.040
think like that. They think, well, I'm not supporting this, these things, so I'm not
00:42:59.100
contributing to it. Well, you're not doing anything about it either in your own little
00:43:02.400
circle of influence. So you actually are contributing to it. You're passively contributing.
00:43:08.880
Absolutely. So a key word being passive. People just don't think. They don't act. They don't,
00:43:17.340
It goes back to what we said. When you, when you think about being a part of the solution
00:43:22.080
and you say, well, how the fuck can I be part of the solution? Look how big this problem
00:43:25.880
is. You're not realizing that if all of us just did our own little part, the fucking
00:43:32.620
solution will be there. And when I say our own little part, I mean, you know, being in
00:43:37.000
control of what we're in control of, you know, our actions, our attitude, our decisions,
00:43:40.980
our work ethic affecting in a positive way, the community around us, you know, learning how
00:43:46.720
to bring people up instead of fucking put people down, you know, putting positivity out
00:43:51.460
there instead of fucking negativity. You know what I'm saying? If we all did that, the
00:43:56.820
fucking solution would be, it would happen automatically. But the problem is, is so many
00:44:01.680
people are fucking passive and apathetic. And by being apathetic, they think they're not
00:44:07.160
contributing to the problem or the solution. They're just living their life. They're actually
00:44:11.240
contributing to the problem. See what I mean? I don't know, man. I'm just tired of people
00:44:18.060
being manipulated and being labeled and fucking divided over, over stupid shit. You know, we
00:44:25.720
like this race shit that's going on right now is fucking ridiculous. I mean, it's, it's
00:44:31.060
ridiculous. Like this is 2016, man. This ain't fucking 1840. All right. This is 2016.
00:44:38.720
We need to get a fuck along, you know? And I think most people, I actually personally believe
00:44:46.200
that this whole thing is going to end up being a great thing because it, what's happened now
00:44:50.260
is it's allowed an issue, uh, the race issue to be talked about. If you were to talk about
00:44:56.500
this two years ago, openly, you know, and your real opinions about it, you know, I know
00:45:01.740
white people won't talk about it because they're afraid if they chime in on race at all, that
00:45:05.380
they're going to be called a racist. Well now so many white people have just been called
00:45:09.460
racist because they have quote unquote white privilege or whatever the fuck, you know,
00:45:14.280
they like Donald Trump, they're a racist that they're just like, you know what? I'm going
00:45:18.020
to voice up what I think about this anyway. And so what has happened here is it's allowed
00:45:22.540
an open communication to happen between logical people like, Hey bro, I'm not a fucking racist.
00:45:27.600
You know what I mean? I didn't, I didn't, my fucking family wasn't even here until the
00:45:31.820
1900s. So how the fuck do I have anything to do with you being a fucking slave in the
00:45:36.640
1800s? Right. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. Do you remember a couple of weeks ago? I, and
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I think you liked it, but I shared. And then the other thing is like the white privilege
00:45:45.240
thing, like, Oh, you don't have it as hard as black people. You know what? That's probably
00:45:49.180
true. That is probably true. There probably is such thing as that. I don't know. Cause I'm
00:45:53.380
not fucking black, but I can tell you this. If you fucking sit around and complain about
00:45:57.580
white people having all this privilege and don't take control of what the fuck you can control,
00:46:01.320
it ain't going to matter to you anyway. You know what I'm saying? That's not going to
00:46:06.060
fix the problem. You, you, you know what I mean? Like, Oh, Vaughn, you've got fucking
00:46:11.680
white privilege. That's not going to make my life any easier if I'm a black man. You
00:46:16.220
know, what's going to make my life easier? Take control of my shit and fucking doing what
00:46:20.120
I got to do on a daily basis for fucking me and my family and my community.
00:46:23.700
And that's true regardless of what color you are. But going back to your point, because I'd
00:46:28.160
love to, I'd love to at least include this positive example. A couple of weeks ago, I
00:46:32.640
shared something, something that somebody had posted on Facebook and basically was a
00:46:36.760
black lady who had posted a little, just a little post about something that happened
00:46:41.760
to her in the wake of that, one of the shootings. And she said she went into a convenience store.
00:46:46.900
Yeah. She went into a convenience store and she basically, there was a, there was a couple
00:46:50.440
white people in there and the one of them was a cop and she was just kind of tired and
00:46:54.240
everything. And, and she wasn't sure they were looking at her kind of strange. And the
00:46:58.120
guys, the white cop said, Hey, how are you doing? And she said, Oh, I'm good. And he
00:47:03.340
stopped and he said, how are you really doing? And she said, I'm tired. And he said, I'm tired
00:47:10.580
too. And he goes, and he said, uh, I guess it's pretty tough being you right now. And she
00:47:15.780
said, yeah, I guess it's pretty tough being you right now. And they hugged and it sounds
00:47:20.120
like warm fuzzies and rainbows, but dude, that's the key. I mean, that's, she called
00:47:27.760
And that's what everybody needs to get a fucking huge dose of. And I'm not the most empathetic
00:47:31.360
person on the face of the earth. You know, I definitely, you know, there's, I don't take
00:47:37.160
excuses from people. I just don't. And so my empathy is, I would say below average for
00:47:43.160
most people, but in a situation like this where people have different, completely different
00:47:47.500
worldviews, there needs to be some fucking empathy. Like dude, you know, you can, a white
00:47:52.100
person can't look at a black person and say, Oh, a white privilege is made up shit. All
00:47:55.680
right. We don't, I don't know that it probably isn't. I'm sure that it is tougher to be a
00:48:01.120
black person in America. I don't know. I'm just guessing, you know, but the point of the
00:48:07.800
matter is, is, is I don't fucking know. Cause I'm not fucking black. Just like they don't
00:48:13.180
know what it's like to be white. And the problem is, is that all these white people are
00:48:17.020
saying, Hey, that fucking white privilege, throw it in my fucking face. And black people
00:48:22.040
are being like, Oh, you're fucking white. So you got everything given to you. It's just
00:48:25.560
polarizing shit again. You know what I mean? It's fucking hard. Whether, no matter what
00:48:29.960
being successful in life and getting somewhere and building something is fucking hard. It
00:48:33.760
doesn't matter if you're fucking white. It doesn't matter if you're black. It doesn't
00:48:35.900
matter if you're fucking Muslim or American Indian or fucking Asian. It doesn't matter.
00:48:40.240
It's hard. It's hard for everybody. And us fighting amongst each other, calling each other
00:48:46.560
names and saying all this shit, pointing each other's advantages and disadvantages out and
00:48:50.700
arguing over them. It doesn't make a difference. You know, what makes a difference is what you
00:48:55.480
fucking do on a daily basis. You know what I mean? And you know, I, I'm like I said, I'm
00:49:04.200
not an empathetic person, but the lack of empathy going back and forth between, um, the groups
00:49:11.060
of people in all these situations to me is, is ridiculous. You know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely.
00:49:17.400
Like they got to pick a spot, like you got to pick a side and you, you know, this isn't a
00:49:20.720
fucking war, dude. This is a fucking issue that needs to be solved, you know? And, um, I saw, I saw
00:49:27.320
this, uh, I saw this example I wanted to bring up. While you're looking for that, I'm going to share
00:49:32.840
the, uh, show notes episode 81, you just go to the MFCO.com forward slash P 81. And that's for this
00:49:42.460
episode. You can, you can check out the show page. Also, uh, we did all, I think increase in our social
00:49:49.260
media followings. Not that that's the most important thing, but apparently some of you guys really do
00:49:53.500
want to know what our, what our, uh, social media addresses, what do you call it? Name handles,
00:49:58.840
whatever. I don't know. What do you call it? Kelsey handles. Okay. So Andy's at Andy for
00:50:04.120
seller. Tyler's at my underscore Tyler M a I underscore Tyler. Kelsey is at Kelso Jean J E N E
00:50:10.980
just in case you're wondering K E L S O J E N E. And I'm at Vaughn Kohler V A U G H N K O H L E R.
00:50:17.620
Uh, we love for you guys to connect with us. We try to do our best to, uh, to respond. I mean,
00:50:22.820
Andy's got quite a few people, so, but you do an amazing job of responding to the people that post.
00:50:27.000
Yeah. I try to do the best I can. Yeah. We've got some really cool things coming up here,
00:50:30.700
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00:50:44.280
I have one thing I want to close out with here. This one idea. All right.
00:50:50.620
You, you are in control of your actions. You are control your attitude. You're control your work
00:50:56.720
ethic. You're in control of the impact that you can make. All right. And so many people spend their
00:51:03.040
time arguing over trivial issues, right? I saw this headline a few weeks ago or about a week ago,
00:51:11.040
and I wanted to, I wanted to read it because I want you all to realize that, like I said earlier,
00:51:19.700
right? Most cops are good cops. Most white people are good people. Most black people are good people.
00:51:24.480
All right. Most people are on the same fucking team, but how much time have you seen Vaughn on
00:51:29.940
the internet of people arguing back and forth about these issues? Lots, right? It's been the biggest
00:51:34.580
thing for what a while, right? People have died over this shit. Let me explain to you what the fuck
00:51:41.460
you're arguing over and who you're arguing over. And if this doesn't make you feel stupid
00:51:48.420
for arguing over this shit, I don't know what will. Here's the headline. Members of KKK, Black Lives
00:51:58.840
Matter, and Westboro Baptist Church reportedly throwing urine at each other outside the Republican
00:52:04.920
National Convention. That's who you're spending your time arguing over. The lowest common denominator
00:52:12.420
of every fucking group. Think about that before you open your fucking mouth next time. Is it worth
00:52:18.980
that energy spent to argue about the lowest common shit, wasteful scum of the earth denominator?
00:52:29.880
Is it? Good point. That's who you're arguing over. Guys, if you enjoyed the podcast,
00:52:36.740
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