REAL AF with Andy Frisella - One Year From Today： Where Will You Be？, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the MF CEO project I'm Andy I am your host and guess what

00:00:15.380 I'm the motherfucking CEO if you're new to this podcast this is your first time listening

00:00:21.660 welcome this podcast is a success entrepreneurship personal development podcast we are going to talk

00:00:31.640 about money we are going to talk about building businesses we are going to talk about the mindset

00:00:36.440 that it takes to be successful at anything you decide to do this is a success resource so to

00:00:46.680 speak and you know what if you don't like talking about money if you don't like talking about success

00:00:53.280 if you don't like talking about scorching the fucking earth this probably isn't for you

00:00:59.700 here's the deal guys every time I post something online and if you follow me on Instagram I posted

00:01:07.000 a little story about this yesterday and this is not the main point of the podcast but I do want to

00:01:11.980 address it because you guys deal with this same thing you all have ambitions you all have goals

00:01:19.340 you all want to make a lot of fucking money you all want to look great you all want to live an amazing

00:01:24.900 life and make an impact and do awesome shit and when you try to do those things you're going to have

00:01:31.720 people especially people that you know say things to you like this oh you know what you're you're very

00:01:39.920 materialistic oh you know what you're very selfish you know what you're not the same person you used

00:01:46.280 to be you know what you have your priorities out of line you know what you're somebody that I used to feel

00:01:56.200 like I know okay and these people are going to say shit to you they're going to say shit to you about your

00:02:03.940 mission about your goals about your ambition about your path because they're insecure with the choices

00:02:11.300 that they've made they're going to tell you things like this well you know what I I and they're going

00:02:19.160 to have their little pinky up like a little fucking douchebag I happen to enjoy the finer things in life

00:02:25.660 and those finer things aren't things that cost money they're the simple things I enjoy being a good

00:02:32.300 person I enjoy all the little things well you know what motherfuckers you don't have to be poor

00:02:38.780 to enjoy the simple things you don't have to be poor to enjoy the things that matter in life you don't

00:02:46.220 have to be poor to be a great person but people will throw this shit in your face and they'll try to make

00:02:53.840 you feel bad for being on the path that you're on it will never stop the more success you have

00:03:02.120 there will be more people that say this to you and the reason I'm bringing this to you is because you

00:03:06.980 need to learn how to brush it off you need to learn how to let it go and you need to learn how to like

00:03:14.640 your teachers told you in school be a bigger person and understand that those people have their

00:03:21.040 priorities in their life and if they were truly happy with their life if they were truly in the position

00:03:27.180 they wanted to be they wouldn't judge you for being on your path because they would be content

00:03:31.760 so understand that when people say these things to you like they do to me understand that it's their

00:03:39.860 insecurities their regrets their dissatisfaction speaking to you there's nothing wrong with what

00:03:47.400 you're doing in fact you could look at when people criticize you that way as a compliment because you

00:03:53.620 have to understand that your path is something that they wish they were doing or would have done or

00:04:00.180 could do and which they can that's the ironic part about it but they wish all those things for

00:04:06.780 themselves and when they see you doing it it triggers an uncomfortable nature within them it makes them

00:04:15.280 feel bad about the choices they've made and what do they do they lash out at you so understand that when

00:04:20.260 they do this guys it is a 100 positive indication that you are on the right path now are there assholes

00:04:30.700 out there that only care about money sure are there assholes out there who are just 100 materialistic

00:04:35.640 sure but you know what i know that's not you because this podcast represents way more than that

00:04:42.160 it represents earning money the right way by making an impact solving a problem providing tremendous value

00:04:48.820 and impacting people and if you were the kind of person who was super materialistic or you know

00:04:54.680 money is only that i care about you wouldn't listen to me you go listen to one of these other

00:04:57.980 motherfuckers that sell you 99 999 fucking success program you buy that shit okay so i know that's not

00:05:05.360 you so when people say that to you understand and i bring this up at this time of year for a reason

00:05:12.220 because this is new year's time and this is the time that you all are being public and open and

00:05:18.400 aggressive about your goals and that's great i am very fucking proud of you for being that way you

00:05:24.900 should be that way but this is also the time you're going to have the most resistance this is also the

00:05:29.840 time when your aunt from you know your great aunt is going to say you know hey joey all you care about

00:05:36.560 is money you need to care about the simple things and then you're going to go home and you're going to

00:05:40.260 fucking question yourself and i know because i've done the same thing and then you know you're going

00:05:45.660 to decide you know what i'm not going to put myself out there as much you know what i'm not going to

00:05:49.960 work maybe maybe she's right maybe maybe i am just setting the bar too high for myself and i'm being

00:05:55.020 greedy maybe she's got a point and you and the more and more people that do this we question

00:05:59.740 ourselves more and more and then we start to think that our priorities are out of whack and then we

00:06:05.400 start to think that you know maybe what we're doing isn't the right thing and what happens

00:06:09.480 we don't fucking do it and then we do that year after year after year after year after year

00:06:13.680 because other people keep putting us in a position to question ourselves and you should question

00:06:20.800 yourself but it should be you questioning yourself not because of what other people say

00:06:24.200 and they put us in this position to where it causes an inactivity and it causes us to stop and

00:06:29.280 it causes us to fall off the wagon and that's not right you know surrounding yourself with the right

00:06:36.780 people surrounding yourself with the right friends surrounding yourself with people who are

00:06:41.680 aligned with your mission and your goals is 1000% the right thing to do okay and if you're somebody

00:06:49.540 who enjoys making $25,000 a year and smoking fucking weed every day and drinking a fucking brewski

00:06:56.700 and chilling eating mcdonald's if that's you then you should surround yourself with other people that like

00:07:02.520 that shit too because here's what's gonna happen you're gonna surround yourself with somebody like

00:07:07.260 me or somebody like that has goals or something and they're gonna constantly make you feel like

00:07:11.220 shit for the way you live so no matter what and I doubt any of you are the person I just described but

00:07:16.980 if you are good if you're happy with that good if that's how you want to live and you're living that

00:07:22.320 way good you're fucking doing great but if you are somebody that has goals if you are somebody that has

00:07:31.020 ambitions if you are somebody who wants to do big things you have to surround yourself with people

00:07:36.840 that are like-minded because if you surround yourself with your old friends and the old people and the

00:07:42.140 people you grew up with and the people who still think the way you don't want to be they're gonna

00:07:46.560 constantly attack you and they're gonna constantly make you question yourself and I can tell you for a

00:07:51.100 fact nobody is strong enough to resist that the negativity that comes from friends and family you have to

00:07:59.340 eliminate it you have to surround yourself with like-minded people it's a huge deal okay now here we are

00:08:09.000 four days in and some of you guys who make big goals I want to lose 50 pounds I want to you know double my

00:08:19.480 income I want to get that promotion I want to do all these big things we're four days in and you've already

00:08:26.940 dropped the fucking ball you've already cheated on your diet multiple times you've already missed

00:08:32.440 workouts multiple times you've already failed on following up making those calls sending those

00:08:38.940 emails and you're telling yourself the same old story you know what this week is this week is the

00:08:47.080 new year's week okay like January 1st was you know on Monday so this whole week is like new year's

00:08:53.220 nobody's really doing it so I'm just gonna pick it up on Monday and that'll be my real day that I

00:08:57.020 start and you know what I fucking mean it this time I see people saying that I fucking mean it this

00:09:03.820 time I fucking mean it this time I seen pictures of people's fucking food and people's diet and

00:09:10.620 people's workouts I fucking mean it this time and you know what the kiss of death is when I the kiss of

00:09:17.520 death of anybody's progress is to me when they say this I mean it this time you know why I know that

00:09:24.120 because I fucking did it too I did it for a long time a long time I was the guy who would tell my wife

00:09:32.520 hey let's go eat and have some beers I'll start tomorrow I you know what and we I gotta get serious

00:09:38.320 I gotta I mean it this time I gotta be serious I was that guy I was the guy that did that that's how

00:09:44.140 I got to be 350 fucking pounds that's how I got to be unhappy that's how I got to be depressed

00:09:49.740 that's how I got to be someone who was extremely frustrated with every aspect of my life because I

00:09:57.060 constantly kicked the can down the road I constantly talked about I was gonna do it tomorrow I constantly

00:10:03.640 talked about this was gonna be the time and I'm serious look at me I mean it this time you have to do

00:10:10.020 that you have to help me with this I'm serious I would fucking do that non-stop if I fucked up my

00:10:15.160 diet on a Tuesday I'd wait until the next fucking Monday to start back up I'd say oh you know what

00:10:20.200 my whole week is totally fucked now so I might as well just start back on Monday and then what I would

00:10:25.480 do is I would fucking pile in the food all right I would pile in the food because I knew I had to start

00:10:32.580 next Monday because in my mind I was serious about it and what did I do I put on another pound and I

00:10:39.920 did that week after week after week after week and you put on another pound another pound another pound

00:10:43.580 pretty soon you're a hundred fucking pounds up in two years down the road and I know some of you guys

00:10:49.980 that are listening with this are nodding your heads right now you're like that's me that I'm the

00:10:54.480 person that does that I'm the person that always waits till tomorrow always kicks the can down the

00:11:00.140 road always tells myself I mean it this time guys there is always going to be a reason for not

00:11:09.260 doing the things that you need to do there's always going to be an inconvenience there's always going

00:11:14.840 to be something that comes up or something that makes the situation not perfect and I'm not just

00:11:20.020 talking about dieting or fitness I'm talking about in your family life and your family commitments I'm

00:11:25.460 talking about your business life and your business commitments anything that you try to do is never

00:11:31.460 going to be this perfect path and you've heard me talk about this over and over and over again when

00:11:37.640 it comes to entrepreneurship that people who try to devise the perfect plan before they start and

00:11:45.620 because of that they get started and the minute the thing pops up whatever it is we had a bad day of

00:11:52.520 sales fucking store caught on fire whatever whatever the website went down whatever happens

00:11:57.000 they quit because their perfect plan that they expected to go perfect didn't fucking work

00:12:03.020 and guys if you're going to be the person who tosses out your goal every time you fuck up

00:12:09.800 and waits another week to start it you're never going to get anywhere you're never going to lose that

00:12:14.860 weight you're never going to build that business you're never going to double that income

00:12:20.280 you're never going to build that better relationship with your family

00:12:24.400 you're never going to do the things that you truly want to do and guys a lot of times we do this

00:12:33.980 because people talk us out of it we have people in our lives who will say things like oh you know

00:12:39.300 hey man it's just a glass of wine it's no big deal hey look you got to live right you got to live

00:12:46.220 you got to have that piece of pizza you got to live hey you know it's no big deal you can get

00:12:51.820 started tomorrow when you surround yourself with people who do that shit to you you can never

00:12:59.580 ever make it and dude I know it's hard I know there's people you love that do exactly what I'm

00:13:05.720 just telling you I know there's people but I can tell you you are not strong enough to go and make

00:13:12.460 your goals happen anyway with people in your ear like that it is a fucking impossible because guess

00:13:19.100 what building a business is fucking hard losing weight is fucking hard building great relationships

00:13:26.400 guess what that's fucking hard too and having people who are constantly in our ears pulling us away

00:13:33.340 from the path that we want to be on is ultimately self-destructive because we are choosing to stay in that

00:13:40.880 situation you have to understand guys with every great thing in life there is going to be sacrifice

00:13:49.760 with every great thing in life there is going to be work and with every great thing in life there is

00:13:55.360 going to be time you have to understand you're going to have to make difficult decisions you're going

00:14:02.640 to have to put in the work and you're going to have to be patient but if you could combine those

00:14:07.500 three things, that's what makes the fucking success cake. That's what makes great things

00:14:14.180 happen. That's what builds epic lives and builds ultimate realizations of potential.

00:14:21.160 But you're never going to be able to do it if you keep kicking the shit down the road,

00:14:25.760 or if you keep making decisions based on other people's opinion, or if you keep letting people

00:14:30.580 discourage you or make you feel bad for having the goals that you fucking have.

00:14:38.480 Make this year the year that you commit to yourself that you're going to make progress.

00:14:44.460 You might not become a millionaire this year. You might not even make $100,000 this year. But you

00:14:50.280 know what? You can make tremendous progress towards those goals. You can make tremendous growth happen

00:14:57.800 for you, and you could set the table for that to happen down the road. Being successful is no

00:15:04.960 fucking magic. We talk about that all the time. All it takes is some discipline and some hard-nosed

00:15:11.880 dedication, some hard-nosed commitment. You got to be able to put your fucking earplugs on,

00:15:18.160 or you got to be able to cut people out from your life. You've got to be able to stay committed and

00:15:24.900 remember what your goals are. And we talk about this in the Powerless podcast, the one I just did

00:15:30.200 the other day for you guys. We talk about how important it is to break things down and break

00:15:34.580 it into critical tasks. And so I guess what I want to do here is I want to challenge you guys.

00:15:39.580 I want to challenge you guys to follow through on your power list and literally win every fucking

00:15:46.760 day this year. Literally win every day. If you can commit to winning every fucking day this year,

00:15:53.520 and you know what? I've never even won a whole fucking year in a row. But I promise you, if you

00:15:58.880 commit to following through to win every fucking day this year, your life will be drastically different

00:16:07.520 this time next year. And I want you to remember that I said this, and I want you to email me and

00:16:12.880 let me know the fucking difference. It's up to you guys. No motivation that anybody provides.

00:16:21.480 No fucking program anybody provides. No fucking success seminar that you're going to go to is

00:16:30.480 going to get it done for you guys. You're going to have to put in the time. You're going to have

00:16:35.200 to put in the work and you're going to have to understand that other people can't fucking dictate

00:16:40.000 your decisions. This is a brand new fucking year. And usually I'm pretty, I'm pretty anti New

00:16:49.760 Year's resolutions, but I like the fact that everybody goes out and sets goals. I love the

00:16:55.120 fact that everybody thinks big. I love the fact that everybody sets these things that they want

00:16:59.620 to get done. But you know what I don't like? I don't like that they only do it once a year.

00:17:05.580 Be the guy who thinks about your goals every day. Be the guy who executes on your goals every day.

00:17:11.720 Don't be like every motherfucker that you know, who's going to tell you a bunch of bullshit this year

00:17:16.240 and be the same motherfucker 12 months from now that they are today. That's not what you want.

00:17:23.320 That's not what you really want. Well, maybe it is because I always tell you guys

00:17:30.440 loving success and the idea of success is two different fucking things. And you've got to decide

00:17:36.820 which one you like. It's real easy to look at someone who is, for lack of better terms,

00:17:44.040 has their shit together, who's in good shape, who's making a lot of money, who has a great family

00:17:48.740 relationship, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, who has all the things that you want. It's easy to look

00:17:54.420 at them and say, you know what? I really want that. Yeah. Everybody fucking wants it. That's,

00:18:01.500 that should be fucking obvious to you. Everybody wants it. Those people like the idea of success.

00:18:07.940 Then there's the people who like success. Those people look at the same people, the same people

00:18:14.860 I just described who have their shit together. They got great career and make a lot of fucking

00:18:18.940 money, great family. They're in good shape. And they look and they say, damn dude, I fucking want

00:18:23.880 that. I want that. And you know what they do? They don't just stare at it like it's some kind of

00:18:31.240 fucking anomaly. They say, yeah, dude, I can fucking do that. I can fucking clean up my diet.

00:18:38.700 I could get in the gym. I can start working on my business. I can up my game so I can pick up the

00:18:43.660 kind of partner I want to pick up. I can do all those things. You know what? That guy's no fucking

00:18:47.720 different than me. And you know what they do? They make a fucking plan and then they go do it. And

00:18:52.000 you know what happens when they go on the plan? Because the first group I described, we talk about the

00:18:57.480 work and the plan. They don't like the fucking work and the plan. They want it to be easy. They

00:19:01.680 want to be able to snap their fucking fingers and be in that guy's shoes. Not understanding that guy

00:19:06.680 probably worked his whole life to be there. But the second group, they understand the work it's

00:19:13.000 going to take. And you know what? They might not like the work that they have to do. They might not

00:19:18.540 like the path they have to get on. They might not think about, you know, how awesome it's going to be

00:19:27.260 to fucking jump in the fucking mud and do all the fucking heavy lifting that this motherfucker had

00:19:31.900 to do. But you know what they do? They fucking do it. Because they know the end result is going to

00:19:37.120 be worth it. They understand that the work they put in is going to build the result they want.

00:19:42.540 And they don't care what the fuck they have to go through. They don't care how hard it's going to

00:19:46.220 be or how long it takes. They commit to doing it. So if you fit into the first group, if you're the

00:19:53.660 person who likes to look at what everybody else has and want that, but not want to do what it takes

00:20:00.260 to get that, you know, stop saying you want it and be happy with where you are because you don't

00:20:06.580 really want it. Because if you really fucking wanted it, you would want to do the work that it took

00:20:10.640 to get there. And you would actually fall in love with the work that it takes to produce that result

00:20:16.420 because you would fall in love because you know what result it's producing. If you know something

00:20:23.440 that you're doing is going to like, if you know something that you did was going to produce a

00:20:27.200 million dollars fucking in a week from now, and it was shoveling fucking cow shit, get it all over

00:20:34.140 your face and everything. I bet you, I bet you fucking fall in love with it because you know that

00:20:38.660 that million dollars has come at the end of the fucking week. You see successful people,

00:20:43.160 they love the battle. They love getting dirty. They love doing the work because they know what

00:20:47.480 the result's going to be. And that's the difference. That's the difference between

00:20:52.600 the 99.9% and the rest of everybody else. The 0.01%. 0.1%. I don't know. I'm fucking bad at math

00:21:02.940 unless it's money, but either way, you know what the fuck I meant. Then here, let's say it like this,

00:21:08.160 the 99% and the 1%. That sounded fucking epic, right? All right. So guys, do me a favor.

00:21:15.380 Take my fucking challenge. Update me on Instagram. Tag me in your photo. Show me how many days you

00:21:21.940 fucking won in a row. I want to see you guys win. I want to see you guys succeed, but go back and

00:21:29.640 listen to this podcast. Go back and listen to what we talk about when we talk about what it's going to

00:21:37.600 take and it's the difficult decisions, because that's not for everybody. It's not everybody's,

00:21:41.700 it's not everybody's thing to go out and fucking like have to cut some people out that they love

00:21:46.900 and care about because they're driven and they want to succeed. That might not be for you. And if

00:21:50.740 it's not for you, that's okay. Because if you're happy where you are, be happy with where you are

00:21:55.620 and stop saying you want this other shit because you think it's what you want. That's what makes you

00:22:01.940 upset. That's what makes you miserable because you set your goals, which aren't really your goals

00:22:06.140 because you're not doing the fucking work. And then it drives you crazy and makes you feel bad

00:22:09.200 about yourself. Don't feel bad about where you are. If you're happy where you are, just be where

00:22:13.160 you are. But for the rest of you guys, you have to understand that it's going to take some tough

00:22:20.980 decisions. It's going to take some hard conversations. It's going to take a lot of

00:22:25.320 fucking work. It's going to take a lot of fucking time. And it's going to take a lot of work and a lot

00:22:28.900 of time when you don't feel like doing the fucking work or putting in the time.

00:22:32.200 But guys, I'm going to tell you right now, I wouldn't have it any other way. And I bet if

00:22:39.480 you ask any other very successful person on earth, they wouldn't have it any other way either.

00:22:45.340 It's either for you or it's not. And it's okay either way. But I'm for you guys and I'm a resource

00:22:51.040 for you guys. And I'm going to talk about money. I'm going to talk about success. I'm going to talk

00:22:54.440 about kicking ass for all you motherfuckers that want to win and want to win big. If you don't want

00:22:59.260 to win big and you don't want to win, you can listen along. But realize that when you

00:23:03.560 come at me with your poor mouth shit about all you care about this is that and this and

00:23:07.820 this and this, I'm probably going to fucking embarrass you on the internet. I'm trying to

00:23:14.660 win. I'm trying to help you win. So let's go out and fucking win together.

00:23:29.260 Bye.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 04, 2018

One Year From Today： Where Will You Be？, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO203

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