REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Recalibrate, Part 2： Greatness, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 what is up guys you're listening to the mf ceo project i'm andy i'm your host and i am the

00:00:17.940 mother fucking ceo i like to add a little different rhythm every time maybe not a whole different

00:00:24.720 intro but maybe just like a little bit different you're like a spoken word poet yeah man it's

00:00:28.640 almost like it's almost like i'm trying to create a new artistic way to say it yeah without changing

00:00:36.180 it too much yeah i like it yeah so what's up dude big episode yeah big episode post book release post

00:00:44.280 book release by the way thank you guys so much for everybody who bought a copy or two or 10 of the

00:00:51.820 book obviously you know the main mission of the book is to get it out there and start making change

00:00:57.120 if you watch the facebook live video last week you understand that but it would be nice to make

00:01:03.320 certain lists like new york times bestseller amazon bestseller etc etc etc because it's going to help

00:01:10.120 push the other content that we're going to have come out and that all falls on you guys and guys

00:01:16.120 i can tell you right now we're overwhelmed with the generosity and the support behind what we've had

00:01:21.660 you guys are so good to us in terms of being a part of this movement and uh man it's it's it's

00:01:30.240 it's almost surreal like how yeah how awesome and powerful it's gotten you know yeah when we first

00:01:36.660 started this thing it wasn't like uh there was no expectations you know what i mean we started the

00:01:42.340 podcast because we were doing a book interview um for an actual uh adult based book that we're going to

00:01:49.920 release here in the next few months right um i guess i just spoiled that but anyway uh it's okay

00:01:57.220 that how is how the idea for the msco project started and you know our goal and a lot of people

00:02:02.900 who watch me on instagram because i post the motivational statuses and motivational um you know

00:02:09.080 videos etc they they think that the msco project is all about motivation and i would argue that motivation

00:02:16.460 is secondary you know motivation might come from the way i speak or the energy i put out or the

00:02:21.820 enthusiasm that you guys hear come through but the idea of motivating someone honestly is not the point

00:02:29.280 of what we're trying to do what we're trying to do is to be a vessel for change we're trying to erase

00:02:35.900 the last 20 to 30 years of trial and error parenting trial and error schooling and get back to the

00:02:44.140 fundamental values that this country and greatness success personal fulfillment were founded on you

00:02:53.280 know what it's not about you know yelling at you to do the fucking work all the time it's about

00:02:57.840 thinking a certain way and looking at yourself admitting to yourself you think this way and then

00:03:04.360 learning how to think a different way and that's that's the goal you know and that is why we came out

00:03:10.180 with the books that we did first you know we could have came out with um our other books that we've

00:03:15.840 written you know that are more focused around business and practical aspects and you know yes

00:03:20.020 motivation and we could have done that and you know got on all the talk shows and done the whole

00:03:25.720 uh you know author thing you know what i'm saying like everybody's out there doing all this shit about

00:03:31.700 you know bragging about being an author which is cool you know um but that's not what this is about for us

00:03:37.540 this is about actually the long game you know we're practicing what we preach and we're trying to put

00:03:43.760 out tools that can be used for people to help change the way people are thinking for the next 20 or 30

00:03:52.560 years and that starts with the youth it starts when we're little it starts before we have our parents

00:03:58.740 telling us that we can't do things or our teachers telling us what we can and can't do or getting a

00:04:05.540 trophy for 17th place or being told we're great when we're actually not we're trying to help people

00:04:11.700 avoid some of the mistakes that have been made for the last you know 20 years and that starts from

00:04:19.540 scratch you can't just always jump in and fix people's problems and that's what this is about

00:04:25.020 so you know people i've gotten a lot of emails like why didn't you put out a real book well first of all

00:04:30.100 it is a real book just because it's not the book you expected doesn't mean it's not a real book

00:04:35.240 second of all if you think about it in terms of actual tools and what our mission is it is it makes

00:04:41.980 the most possible sense and that's why we came out with you know the idea of a children's series to

00:04:47.280 start with um those those emails questioning though that those pale and comparison today i got it i'm

00:04:55.060 getting tons tons of other emails though i got an email uh i thought it was a great subject line

00:05:00.500 he said said now i know andy is is credible basically they said you know like they were 100

00:05:07.400 percent uh sure that you were you know in it to help people right that you weren't in it to just you

00:05:12.860 know make money for yourself exactly but this guy's point was andy had to be has to be in it for the

00:05:19.460 long haul and for real cultural change because his point was is like when you think about it you know

00:05:24.500 you're this kind of you know fire breathing you know you got a certain right certain persona to

00:05:29.440 you and he's like the fact that you would write a children's book which is so completely

00:05:34.380 you know just throws people for a loop says that you're not in it for just i forget how he put it

00:05:44.240 but you know what i'm saying like you're not in it just to just to promote your own like i'm a badass

00:05:48.120 right you know but you're willing to say no i'm also a children's author if it means that we're

00:05:52.640 going to change the world that sounds funny but the truth of it is is that you know we are here

00:05:56.820 to change this isn't you know i've made a ton of money in my life i'm very successful monetarily

00:06:03.360 do i do i want to be more successful absolutely but i also know that none of that means anything

00:06:08.700 if i can't help other people figure out how they can also do the things they want to do and that

00:06:12.840 doesn't matter if it's finance uh relationships fitness whatever man it's all about you know fulfilling

00:06:19.260 that potential that we all have and it's been interesting you know the feedback has been 99.99

00:06:25.780 positive and i would even say 100 positive with the the only questionable negatives are that people

00:06:31.860 don't quite understand or it wasn't what they were hoping for personally which you know we've got that

00:06:36.580 coming so don't worry about that but you know before i get too far into what we're going to talk

00:06:40.960 about today guys um you know this is a growing podcast and so every week that we come on we have

00:06:49.220 new listeners and for you guys who are new um you know welcome this is not your typical podcast we

00:06:55.860 don't just interview people and talk about how other people did it all the time we're going to actually

00:07:01.100 get practical and show you and teach you how to actually do certain things think certain ways and

00:07:08.240 execute on the principles that will make you successful in any goal that you decide to chase

00:07:15.220 and then on thursdays when we come up uh it's called thursday thunder and it will be motivation based

00:07:20.500 those are usually the videos that we see on on instagram come from thursday thunders because people get

00:07:25.640 riled up about it and they dig it and it applies to everybody and uh for that reason that's why i post

00:07:30.480 those because it gets people's interest but um you know we're very practical and and the idea of

00:07:36.520 the podcast is that you guys have to start thinking of yourselves as an entrepreneur would think of

00:07:45.000 their business okay you are the ceo of you you are the entrepreneur of you and being an entrepreneur

00:07:52.560 is a lot different than being a business owner okay being an entrepreneur is someone who creates

00:07:59.280 and who designs and who forges a different path based off of paths that other people have taken so

00:08:07.620 they innovate they they create new things they uh they evolve and that's what we're doing as humans and

00:08:14.840 that's what you have to do if you are going to be successful because at the end of the day if you're

00:08:19.680 going to copy someone else the best you could be is a watered down version of someone else that's why

00:08:24.660 entrepreneurial thinking is so valuable to your own persona because you don't want to be another

00:08:31.220 somebody else you want to be the best you and that's what we talk about for the most part so

00:08:37.580 you don't have to open you don't have to own a business you don't have to uh you know be a ceo you

00:08:43.320 don't have to be uh really anything these principles apply to any area of your life so um what we're doing

00:08:50.060 right now is we are at the end of 2016 and i know for a fact that most of you because statistics say

00:08:59.620 so did not accomplish what you wanted to accomplish this year okay most of you set goals at the beginning

00:09:05.180 of the year and you didn't do shit all right usually by three or four or five days in you pushed out and

00:09:11.900 you went back to your old habits and now here you are listening to another success podcast hoping that

00:09:17.440 i'm going to give you some sort of tidbit or magic or information that's going to magically transform

00:09:23.800 you into this person that you want to be i hate to break it to you guys but i can't fucking do that

00:09:29.160 and nobody else can either the only person that can control your results is you and the only person

00:09:34.340 that's going to control your progress is you and the only person that's going to control your decision

00:09:39.440 to move forward is you now with that being said it's my job to give you the tools to move forward

00:09:46.840 and so what we're doing here at the end of the year is we are recalibrating people to be ready to

00:09:52.840 attack 2017 right now not on january 1st when you're fucking hung over not on january 2nd because you're

00:10:02.300 hung over on the first and not on uh january 3rd because you know january 2nd was the first day of

00:10:08.480 that you weren't hung over so you did some other shit get it this is what you guys all fucking do every

00:10:12.400 time what we want to do is we want you to get thinking about it now we want you to start breaking

00:10:17.700 in the habits now we want you to start working on the things now we're still four or five weeks away

00:10:22.860 from that time of the year and if you could start now when that time comes it's going to be that much

00:10:27.420 easier to really put the pedal down and be moving through your life at full force and if you listen

00:10:32.940 to last week's podcast that's what we did we did recalibrate we talked about general principles

00:10:36.400 success today we're going to talk about greatness so this is part two of recalibrate um and it's

00:10:43.120 going to be me and vaughn basically riffing on some some points about how to be great right and what

00:10:49.080 you do right i mean the the question that pops into my mind immediately is just success and greatness

00:10:55.540 they're very related concepts so in in my in my mind it's hard sometimes to distinguish between the

00:11:02.020 two so what do you think is really the difference between success and greatness well i mean it's

00:11:07.320 definitely a tough question to answer there's a ton of similarities between the two it's it's very

00:11:12.200 similar to how people perceive humble and modest you know they look and see principles that that apply

00:11:19.280 in both of them that don't actually uh define either one and then they get confused between the two so

00:11:25.120 what is the difference between success and greatness um you know i guess it would be the difference between

00:11:33.620 doing one thing well and doing everything well okay and that means are you uh executing one area of

00:11:42.980 your life at full capacity and then other areas of your life suck or are you giving it all and are you

00:11:49.060 reaching your full potential in all of these areas uh for instance you know there's a lot of successful

00:11:54.040 athletes out there who are you know terrible people uh but great people tend to achieve success in

00:12:02.280 every area of their lives and i would say that's the difference um would you say that some that that

00:12:07.900 would be like the difference between like muhammad ali was a truly great person because every aspect

00:12:13.820 of his life there was a level of excellence excellence but i don't want to pick on anybody but

00:12:19.620 you know we all know about the athlete who who off the field sucks is that what you're talking about

00:12:24.320 yeah yeah like would muhammad but you also got to think muhammad ali wasn't always the ideal person

00:12:29.720 either it was always it was always a work in progress you know and that's what people have to

00:12:35.200 understand nobody's born great in all areas it's always a work in progress and uh i mean i think he's

00:12:41.760 an excellent example because dude he has gone down his legacy is that he was also the great at what he did

00:12:47.700 you know which was boxing but he was also great at all these other things too and and it comes down

00:12:52.820 to his entire legacy is one of being great and that's a big difference you know i know a lot of

00:13:00.040 people who are very successful financially that fucking suck at everything else right um they're

00:13:05.060 terrible people they're drunks they use drugs uh you know they're not good to their family you know

00:13:11.320 etc etc etc i mean but the people who are truly great the people who truly impact society

00:13:17.680 understand that all of these areas are equally as important you know including the financial area

00:13:23.880 which a lot of people will try to say oh that's not as important as all these other no it fucking is

00:13:28.280 because try to do a lot of good with no fucking money it's hard to do right all right so you know i

00:13:33.460 think i think you know another thing to note is the difference between uh doing and being you know

00:13:41.140 a person could do something and be successful at it but a truly truly truly great person has done so

00:13:49.400 many different things in their life successfully that success and excellence and achievement

00:13:54.340 dominate their entire being okay they you know they become the embodiment of success and i think that's

00:14:01.360 what we're talking about when we talk about somebody like muhammad ali or we talk about um you know

00:14:05.320 let's talk about somebody current like the rock right all right the rock is by all accounts a great

00:14:11.140 dude he's a nice guy he's he's charitable he's good to his family he's successful you know that's

00:14:18.080 greatness you know what i mean it's not dude the rock could very easily just be a dude who's in

00:14:24.040 movies and making his 65 million dollars a year through his movies and not give a fuck about anything

00:14:29.340 else and you know he would be fine right do you agree with the statement that success is something

00:14:35.380 you do and greatness is something you are is that a statement that's are you making that i'm just

00:14:42.100 throwing that out that's a good one man okay yeah i agree with that that's why i asked if it was a

00:14:46.340 quote you know i think i think i'm sure i heard it somewhere but i'll claim it if i you know no no i

00:14:51.540 think that i think that's very accurate you know um

00:14:54.720 you know lots of people claim to be great too and they usually claim to be great because they

00:15:01.920 they made some money you know what i mean or they found some fame and that's just not the definition

00:15:09.220 right um and i don't think that fulfillment you know let's talk about the fulfillment of each thing

00:15:15.180 too i don't think that you know you're gonna you know you could be successful and be very unfulfilled

00:15:19.960 but i don't think that you can become great and not feel the fulfillment back you see what i'm saying

00:15:24.400 yeah i we definitely need to explore that concept but i think before we jump into that i i want to

00:15:29.680 know i mean you hooked up to a lie detector here do you honestly think greatness is for everyone

00:15:36.420 um i think everyone has the potential to be great but i don't do you really believe that yeah for sure

00:15:44.760 but you you know i'm talking now look i'm talking to people with you know the average skill set okay

00:15:52.320 there's people who are born with the iq of 60 you know there's people who are born with disabilities

00:15:57.600 that you know what i'm saying like dude the guys you know because we're gonna get fucking emails

00:16:03.040 about it oh what about somebody who's was born you know stupid you know what i mean like there is

00:16:09.800 people that are born stupid and if you're sending me emails you're probably fucking one of them

00:16:12.840 but you know i do think that everybody has the ability you know everybody has a potential yeah

00:16:20.500 for sure but they don't fulfill it you know and that's the thing you know they look at

00:16:23.760 people look at other people who have become great okay or successful in whatever area they're looking at

00:16:34.300 and they tell themselves the story you know and everybody knows what the story is the story is this

00:16:38.780 oh that guy has this you know that guy was born this way that guy was um he's better looking than

00:16:44.660 me he's faster than me he's stronger than me he's better circumstances than me blah blah blah blah blah

00:16:49.020 blah they tell themselves a story as to why that guy has it why they don't and so they can just go

00:16:56.100 back to their normal life and not have to you know worry about that if they actually worked and did

00:17:00.480 the shit that this other person did they might actually live the kind of life this other person lives

00:17:05.280 and people do that because they're fucking lazy they don't like change they don't like switching

00:17:10.100 up their lives they don't like making uh you know they don't like making adjustments they like being

00:17:17.820 where they are and if that's you that's cool if you like being where you are own it you know what i

00:17:24.680 mean but don't lie and don't make up stories and so most people are not happy where they are

00:17:31.520 whether they admit it or not you know but but if you are happy dude fucking own it be like dude i

00:17:37.540 love this i love that i love this and i'm happy with this you know and if you have something you

00:17:42.800 know that you would change like hey i would like to make some more money or i would like to spend some

00:17:46.060 more time doing this fucking do it but don't lie to yourself don't don't tell yourself i can't do x

00:17:55.320 because i don't have x right because we could all tell ourselves that about anything

00:18:01.860 all of us have people who are smarter better looking more talented naturally uh better

00:18:10.980 circumstances more financially gifted more educated faster stronger but i mean at the end of the day

00:18:18.460 it's us accepting that while that might be true we could still be pretty fucking good whatever it is

00:18:25.680 we want to do if we just do the work right you know so i think everyone has the potential but you

00:18:32.120 have to choose it yes exactly and most people just choose to not pursue that well let's ask i mean why

00:18:38.200 don't they why why i mean if you think about it like who doesn't want to be great but really there

00:18:44.060 are a lot of people who choose not to so why don't people well i just touched on it man people like

00:18:47.880 to be comfortable they don't like to make change they don't like to sacrifice things they don't

00:18:52.200 like to uh take a step back to take two steps forward they don't do that and they're also in

00:18:57.640 denial that they actually have a choice to be great 100 yeah yeah yeah dude 100 that's that's the point

00:19:03.460 is like they they're looking at life as something that dictates to them versus something that they

00:19:08.500 dictate right and that's just not the case you know you ask any unsuccessful person um in life and they

00:19:15.700 will tell you that they will tell you something like this and you have experience with this because

00:19:19.860 you've been in the church right you know it's god's will or it's this it's you know it's it's the bad

00:19:26.300 bad luck or it's it's this you know or i've been unfortunate you know you'll never hear successful

00:19:32.900 people say that shit right they might say it's god's will but they're also going to say i had to work

00:19:38.240 hard it wasn't luck you know i did get punched in the face a bunch of times by life and i i rose up

00:19:44.200 to to to battle that challenge you know people it's just a different mentality you know and

00:19:50.780 it's bad enough when you're passive but it's pretty bad when you're blaming god for your

00:19:55.020 passivity let's think about this okay let's let's think about this in literal terms because you can

00:20:00.640 ask the same i always i do this too you can ask people well do you believe that god is your father

00:20:05.400 and they'll say well yeah he's he's my savior and my father he's in control of everything

00:20:10.900 and i said so so if he's your father you think that god wants you to suffer and feel bad and go

00:20:16.340 through all these hardships or does he want you to actually learn from these rise up and overcome

00:20:23.200 these you know what do you think would make your father more proud and people just look at you like

00:20:27.540 you know like you're being a dick right right but it's the truth right you know if you you know

00:20:33.900 like for your for your daughters what do you want for them do you want them to fucking feel sorry for

00:20:39.500 themselves and then and then you know when things are going bad or do you want them to be fucking

00:20:43.340 tough and overcome that shit right that's what god wants well it's interesting because i got in hot

00:20:48.080 water with some of my relatives because they said to me when we baptized lila uh they're like oh i i

00:20:53.360 bet you're gonna you pray that nothing bad ever happens to them i said no i don't pray that at all

00:20:56.960 i pray that if something bad happens to them they overcome it right i don't i don't pray that nothing

00:21:01.780 bad ever happens to my daughters no that's well first of all that's not the world it's not reality

00:21:06.980 it's not reality and it's not there there's no practical benefit to that right you know if you

00:21:12.860 don't have bad shit happen dude that's that's a that's that's the difference that's how people

00:21:16.620 interpret shit when bad shit happens successful people look at it as what can i learn from this

00:21:21.700 or how can i overcome this and how's it going to help me in the future and poor people who are

00:21:26.340 fucking uh unsuccessful they look at it as god hates me and this is what he wants for me and that's

00:21:32.780 what they look at and it's bullshit right you know if this is you you're full of shit end of story

00:21:38.980 yeah you know absolutely and and you're a pastor i mean when people used to come to you when you

00:21:46.080 were practicing being a pastor and would say this i mean were you not like dude well i mean the two

00:21:52.380 things i always tell people is back when i was a pastor was that if if they think that you know

00:21:57.980 it's god's will god controls everything therefore i don't have to do anything i mean they they're not

00:22:04.880 reading the bible because i mean the way the free will yeah i mean the right the way that the the

00:22:09.300 israelites thought about it was it's because god watches over everything and and and you know i don't

00:22:15.920 know how you think of you know you it's you don't want to think of it like like a clockmaker

00:22:19.600 you talk about editing stuff now i want to edit stuff no edits no no edits okay what i was going to

00:22:25.360 say is that it's not it's not like a robot okay god doesn't watch over the world like a robot he

00:22:30.420 yes he's in control of everything but the ancient hebrews said it's because god is in control of

00:22:34.960 everything that i act that i i have a i have responsibility to do things and to be part of

00:22:40.100 making things happen in the world that's right it's not the opposite people think it's the opposite

00:22:44.400 that because there's a god i can just not do anything right no he's calling you to action

00:22:48.980 you know and then and then as far as the suffering thing like i don't know where anybody gets the

00:22:53.760 idea that look man we're all going to protect us from suffering we're all going to suffer but

00:22:57.380 suffering is in your life to teach you shit right exactly at the at the very least it should teach

00:23:02.360 you that you don't like suffering right exactly you know what i mean exactly like dude when i was

00:23:06.440 when i was in high school you know my dad used to make me go work construction for my for his cousin

00:23:11.780 and i did concrete work and i basically when i say concrete work i mean carrying fucking concrete forms

00:23:17.920 back and forth back and forth back and forth back and forth and dude i'm gonna tell you right now if

00:23:22.520 you've never done that you should go do it because it'll teach you one thing that it sucks right and

00:23:27.480 you don't want to fucking do it for your whole life period right and and dude i'm so thankful for

00:23:32.160 being made to go do that because and it literally like put in my head like no matter what i wasn't

00:23:39.740 gonna fucking have that life right no matter what it took you know what i mean and people don't go

00:23:44.600 through enough suffering early on to understand that they have to you know how what they have to

00:23:53.420 do to build the life they want you know what i mean right like they're protected from the suffering

00:23:57.200 from their parents from their school from that's like the trophy thing you know oh you know little

00:24:01.900 johnny never feel bad we don't want you to feel bad when you lost dude bullshit you're supposed to

00:24:06.300 feel fucking bad right you're supposed to be pissed off you're supposed to cry you're supposed to get

00:24:10.400 mad but you know what you're supposed to do next you're supposed to go out and do the fucking work

00:24:13.940 so that you don't fucking get your ass beat again right and that's where everybody fucks up you know

00:24:19.500 we're supposed to have suffering we're supposed to feel bad we're supposed to have bad shit happen

00:24:25.400 so that it could teach us how to overcome those things right and when you protect everybody from

00:24:29.980 those things and when you make it so that nobody ever loses or nobody ever feels bad or nobody ever

00:24:34.700 you know gets frustrated or nobody ever has a bully in their life what are you teaching them

00:24:39.860 you're teaching them that the world is going to be the super nice place and then you put them out in

00:24:44.720 the world and when you put them out in the world they get fucking stomped on over and over and over

00:24:49.120 again and then what do they end up doing they end up going crazy and like shoot up a school or

00:24:52.260 something because they don't know that that's how the world's supposed to be right or they kill

00:24:56.000 themselves or they go through depression dude when you teach people that that they don't have to

00:25:00.580 overcome shit they never learn how to overcome shit and that's a huge liability for for for anybody

00:25:06.100 right and i i really feel like i need to say this i i used to have people all the time saying oh

00:25:11.440 so you tell me that if uh your daughter gets cancer you're supposed to be thankful for that no

00:25:17.120 you're not supposed to be thankful for the suffering you're supposed to be thankful in the

00:25:20.860 suffering in other words you're thankful for what the suffering can produce so like if you with

00:25:25.380 for instance with the you carrying all those heavy things right you don't say oh man i love

00:25:30.300 that you say i love what it taught me yeah it's the vessel for teaching you something else it's

00:25:35.680 just amazing how many people don't get that well they get it they're just trying to like trip you

00:25:39.760 up in your words because they have nothing better to do exactly so i do want to talk about because i i

00:25:44.140 you've talked about this before and i you you touched on it a little bit ago but people don't

00:25:49.320 want to make the sacrifice to be great because ultimately they don't think it's worth it so i know

00:25:56.920 you and i know you well enough to know that you're not going to say well i'm great but there are there

00:26:00.660 are clearly aspects of your life that have the quality of greatness so i don't know i want you

00:26:05.500 to draw from your own experience and just share something that will encourage people that guys trust

00:26:10.960 me it's worth the sacrifice greatness is worth well first of all it's hard for people

00:26:16.340 to understand that it's worth it when they have never experienced anything close to that you know

00:26:23.720 they've never grown up in a household that that you know or seen a family member or known somebody

00:26:29.980 who was great at something you know what i mean and most people that's how they grow up they grow up

00:26:35.100 a very average home with very average parents with very average network and the idea of being great or

00:26:43.080 being successful at anything is this fairy tale story that's told you know like oh man you know

00:26:49.580 there was this one guy back in the day who i kind of knew his first cousin's girlfriend's sister's

00:26:56.480 brother's boyfriend was my friend and you know what he's rich you know and that's right that's like

00:27:01.760 the the closest thing they get to it right so how can you expect somebody who is completely

00:27:08.060 sheltered from experiencing that to understand that they're capable of that or that

00:27:13.960 it's possible even you know that's the first question and that's where i always like to

00:27:20.300 recommend that book the third circle theory um because that book is very very very effective

00:27:28.680 at getting people to become self-aware as to why they think the way they do and so for most people

00:27:35.940 can i insert something real quick regarding books many many many of you have asked us to get a list

00:27:42.800 of andy's favorite books i am working on that we just have a lot of things going on right now guys

00:27:48.580 so just be patient um the the thing is is that you know people it's hard to get people to see that

00:27:58.080 when they've never even touched it you know what i mean so like if you're this person and you're

00:28:01.980 listening right now and you've never experienced it it's very important for you to try to circulate

00:28:07.000 and expand your experiences by design to be around those sorts of things you know that's why

00:28:12.780 you hear the saying you are the five sum the average of the sum of five people that you hang

00:28:17.380 around the most there's a lot of truth to that is it is it 100 true no it's not 100 true but there

00:28:23.120 is truth to it and so if you're one of these people who has never been around success or greatness in

00:28:28.560 any way first of all buy the book uh the third circle theory um and then work to try to become

00:28:35.900 you know close not you don't have to be their best friend but just surround yourself with

00:28:40.900 successful people people that are successful that's one good thing about the car scene that

00:28:45.180 people don't realize is that you know when you go to you know a lot of people they don't understand

00:28:50.280 cars but when you drive a fucking lamborghini and you go to a car show and there's 30 other fucking

00:28:55.120 people driving high-end cars or 50 other people driving high-end cars your network expands pretty

00:29:01.560 pretty strongly in the direction of success you know yeah exactly it's it but i mean you know

00:29:10.040 that's something that has that i've met more successful people through that than i have

00:29:14.200 through business um and i do more business with people because of that like that that i probably

00:29:20.880 made more money because of owning the cars i own than the cost i mean 10 times more than the cost of

00:29:26.580 actually owning those cars but the point is is you have to start circulating in those circles and you

00:29:30.920 have to figure out how to do that yeah and that's going to take some some creative thinking especially

00:29:35.280 if you have nothing to offer so what i would think is how can i fucking help these people what can i do

00:29:38.980 for them how can i bring them value you know um in any way possible and you have to start expanding

00:29:44.860 your your your outlook and so that your standards and your expectations and your your understanding of

00:29:53.940 what's possible can grow because if that never grows there's nothing you can do about expanding

00:29:59.860 you know you're you're not going to believe that you could ever be great you know what i mean and

00:30:05.520 so it's really hard to get people uh to understand something's worth it if they don't understand that

00:30:12.140 it's possible so i think understanding as possible is the first thing that need to work on okay

00:30:16.320 understanding that it's worth it i mean dude you know how is it not worth it yeah you know i do

00:30:23.720 whatever the fuck i want like i go wherever i want i drive whatever i want i live where i want

00:30:28.420 a vacation when i want i do whatever the fuck i want what's what's not worth it about that and i mean

00:30:35.440 anything i want you know we just gave fucking 130 000 to a local charity you know i give back what i want

00:30:44.800 i don't have to worry about literally anything when it comes to like can i afford this or can i do that

00:30:51.780 or can i i mean dude it's pretty nice it's pretty nice to be able to do whatever the fuck you want

00:30:55.620 yeah you know what i mean yeah like without limitation i mean there's really nothing that

00:31:00.100 i can't do and that's um i don't i mean what's not worth it about that you know what i mean yeah

00:31:09.260 no i what's that worth like what's what's total freedom worth you know what i mean i mean how could

00:31:14.680 you even describe that i mean i i dude i've been in this this would be 18 years coming up you know

00:31:22.000 i've been living this way for the last eight years you know what i mean so i worked my fucking dick

00:31:27.240 off for 10 years to do whatever the fuck i want the rest of my life i mean what's not worth it about

00:31:32.140 that like if you can't understand that then you probably should work at fucking mcdonald's right

00:31:38.000 forever you said freedom i like that word i would add to it and say it's it's freedom

00:31:44.200 you the way you described it was to do what you want but you have a freedom now to make as much of

00:31:51.060 an impact on the world as you want yeah that's that's my passion yeah you know i'm saying and i

00:31:56.120 have if you don't think that takes a lot of money you're crazy right i've invested hundreds of

00:32:00.940 thousands of dollars to be able to do that but i enjoy it i don't make money you know i mean we're

00:32:06.360 making a little money now with the book but i mean it's nothing compared to what i've invested

00:32:10.620 to try to make an impact right you know and i mean the top but it's what i like to do you know so

00:32:17.760 i mean what what what about that isn't worth whatever right you know like people say oh it's

00:32:24.900 not worth the time i missed oh it's not this or that but they're also going to be the same guy

00:32:29.400 in 10 years from now that can't afford to put their kid through you know the high school they want

00:32:33.780 to go to or the college they want to go to or uh take a vacation or you know afford the health care

00:32:39.720 they want or that procedure they want or this or that or whatever fucking anything you know what i

00:32:44.240 mean yeah so i don't understand what what's worth it about your time that you're doing now that you

00:32:51.960 won't give that up to have what you could have in 10 years the problem is it's not that it's not worth

00:32:56.920 it it's just that it's not worth giving up their instant gratification for something that they believe

00:33:01.980 may not ever happen because they've never experienced it which is why the point of teaching

00:33:07.460 yourself what's possible is important but i will say this if you're happy where you are don't go down

00:33:11.720 the fucking rabbit hole because there's a lot of happiness and ignorance you know what i mean

00:33:15.800 there is and like if you're somebody who doesn't really realize what's possible and your life's pretty

00:33:20.900 cool and you know you're pretty happy with where you are don't even fucking worry about it because

00:33:27.160 dude i'm gonna tell you right now once you go down the fucking rabbit hole there ain't no coming back

00:33:30.220 and what i mean by that is like you're constantly hungry you're constantly in the mode of getting

00:33:34.720 better you're constantly improving and now i'm living in a world where i'm competing in my mind

00:33:39.120 against people like fucking bill gates and warren buffett which is a battle that i'll probably never

00:33:42.900 win you know what i mean so you know ultimately there's going to be some sort of regret when it

00:33:49.280 comes down to because i set such high goals for myself so i mean like you know i will say there's a

00:33:54.460 catch-22 there you know once you go down that fucking rabbit hole you're not coming back right and

00:33:59.860 that's it you know people don't people don't say that shit but i know it's not that i'm not happy

00:34:04.640 it's not that i'm not excited but i'm gonna tell you right now the game is what excites me it's not

00:34:09.180 the money you know and i'm playing a game that i probably can never get to the level i want to get

00:34:13.760 to which is why i laugh when people say oh like we have local competition here that thinks i'm like

00:34:18.360 sitting back at my desk with my fucking feet up and not even crying it's like dude motherfucker

00:34:21.980 you have no fucking idea how competitive i am you know what i mean like i will fucking eat your

00:34:27.560 fucking children like mike tyson for real right you know what i mean like and i know exactly what

00:34:33.760 you mean yeah and people say oh that's not morally right i don't care because i'll fucking do what it

00:34:39.120 takes to win because i want to fucking win yeah and people don't have that drive because they never

00:34:45.460 understand what's possible and once you really understand what's possible you can't satiate that

00:34:49.660 hunger it's impossible and it's it's not just understanding it's also experiencing i i know that we

00:34:55.300 we haven't attained greatness per se but we're always pursuing greatness with the mf ceo project

00:35:00.480 and i remember the first time a while ago that we hit a million uh downloads in a month yeah and

00:35:08.280 i remember just being like wow that feels incredible yeah it's just now we get two million yeah yeah i mean

00:35:14.920 and it just it just feels incredible and the idea of that experience of doing something that nobody else

00:35:20.020 has done is addictive yeah you know well people don't people dude successful people don't talk

00:35:26.000 about this shit because because unsuccessful people use this as ammo all right unsuccessful people will

00:35:31.320 say point someone successful and be like you have all the money in the world but you're not happy

00:35:34.600 and the successful person will never admit that they'll never say you're right i'm not happy

00:35:40.840 because they don't want to be wrong because they want to win right right but the point of what i'm

00:35:47.240 trying to say is that when you are at a level of of high competition high success you want to

00:35:53.980 be the best you know being successful is not what other people deem successful which is why they never

00:36:00.960 reach success you know most people look at success as like having some money in a bank being able to go

00:36:06.640 to mexico and sit on the beach drinking a fucking corona and post it on their instagram right you know

00:36:11.300 what i'm saying like that's success drive a fucking mercedes and live in a 600 000 house like that's

00:36:18.120 not what successful people think about successful people think about winning they don't think about

00:36:24.040 the money they don't think about the fucking mexican vacation like i don't fucking care about

00:36:27.800 vacation i don't fucking go on vacations because i don't care about them you know what i care about i

00:36:31.900 care about fucking winning i care about being the best i care about impacting people to the point

00:36:36.660 where it changes their entire existence it's a competitive drive and hunger that cannot be

00:36:43.040 fulfilled in any way and 0.1 percent of the one percent will ever feel that way it's the highest

00:36:51.960 level of competition and if you truly go down and try to understand what's possible and how you can do

00:36:58.560 things and the power especially of the mind and what you can manifest with action and you really

00:37:04.480 understand what is possible dude it's just a whole nother fucking game you know what i mean i absolutely

00:37:11.920 and like people like it's not for everybody it's just not you know that's why i say like a dude if

00:37:18.120 you're happy where you are and you're pretty happy and you you know don't fucking go there right because

00:37:23.880 it'll eat you up you know i'm i'm a i'm a rare example you know guy like gary v rare example where we

00:37:31.220 have like we have family like his wife my wife that will fucking deal with the crazy motherfuckers

00:37:37.020 like us you know what i'm saying right like dude emily knows like i'm all fucking business you know

00:37:44.300 what i mean like she appreciates that and she works with me on that like dude i would i would bet there's

00:37:50.500 like very very few women that would put up with the shit that i do not because i do bad shit but

00:37:59.060 because i'm never really present you know and people don't fucking think about that you know

00:38:03.980 they see the cars they see the lifestyle they see the travel they see this that that that and they

00:38:08.620 want that shit but dude what they don't understand is what it fucking takes in reality so i would

00:38:14.920 recommend that if you are pretty happy with where you are don't go chasing these big fucking dreams

00:38:20.860 you know what i'm saying because it will fucking ruin your life because you probably can't handle it

00:38:25.860 and you probably don't have the support structure around you to handle it now with that being said

00:38:30.120 there's some awesome shit that comes with it you know the ability to impact millions of people the

00:38:34.960 ability to do whatever the fuck you want the ability to change the fucking world that's pretty fucking

00:38:40.380 awesome you know what i mean but it isn't for everybody right you know now i know there's people

00:38:45.900 listening right now and they're like well does that mean i can't be successful no you could be

00:38:49.680 very successful and still be you know you dude i know guys that make millions of dollars a year

00:38:54.120 that are still not at that level of thinking and not at that level of of chasing greatness you see

00:39:00.040 what i'm saying to the point where it's it can be destructive if you don't know how to handle

00:39:03.600 it or surround yourself with the right people um you know you can make millions of dollars a year

00:39:10.520 not being that way i'm just saying be careful what you chase because some things you'll never

00:39:15.920 fucking catch you know you know i'm saying i'm following you yeah so

00:39:21.180 obviously you've identified as a competitive streak as an element of greatness um greatness

00:39:30.760 obviously is a quality that encompasses a lot of other qualities so you identified competitive

00:39:35.860 greatness or excuse me competitive attitude what are some of the other qualities that you think

00:39:41.180 go into greatness first of all i would say one of the number one things that go into greatness

00:39:46.860 is the uh the work ethic okay um and the attention to detail i think that the difference between

00:39:57.320 great and the difference between successful is comes down to attention detail it comes down to your

00:40:03.020 willingness to be aware and willingness to change and and uh control the smallest details that are in

00:40:10.240 your control um you know i also think that uh you know the idea of of of humility is a huge deal

00:40:20.320 you know most people don't understand what humility is humility and by my definition is your understanding

00:40:26.680 that you're no better or no greater than any other human you're just different and that means that you

00:40:32.700 have to be willing to understand and this is in this situation this is the most applicable way to put

00:40:39.320 this is that you have to understand that you don't fucking know everything and you have to know what you

00:40:44.460 don't know and you have to be okay with what you don't know because the minute you think you know

00:40:48.040 everything is the minute you stop learning the minute you stop learning is the minute you stop becoming

00:40:51.280 competitive the minute you stop becoming competitive is a minute that you get destroyed by your

00:40:55.940 competition so you know and and how many people do we see become successful uh you know and then lose it

00:41:03.700 because they start thinking that they're fucking great or they start thinking that because they've

00:41:08.920 been successful at one thing, they can do a lot of other things. You know, you don't see me doing

00:41:13.080 a lot. A lot of people are like, invest in this, invest in that, invest in this. Dude, I don't

00:41:16.880 fucking invest in shit that hasn't had to do with what I have to do. So don't fucking ask. You know

00:41:21.300 why? Because I do what I know and I know what I don't know. And if I don't know your shit, I'm not

00:41:25.840 investing in it, period. But every other dude with millions of dollars will fucking be Mr. Investor,

00:41:31.900 even if they don't know nothing. And that's how you lose it. You know, so humility is a big deal.

00:41:36.480 You have to be willing to learn. You have to be willing to understand and stay in your lane in

00:41:41.160 terms of what you know and then know what you don't know so that you can learn new things.

00:41:46.240 You know, and then the ability, like I said, on the details, this would sort of tie back into the

00:41:52.240 details, but being focused on winning the day and focused on the short term, but committed to the

00:41:58.200 long term. Okay. And that means, you know, being attentive of what you do on a day by day by day

00:42:04.180 by day basis, knowing that all those days compile and compound to produce the long term result that

00:42:11.060 you're after. You know, most people are way, you know, and this would tie into a point to being

00:42:16.780 patient. Most people are way too impatient. You know, they want the results in a month, but if they

00:42:21.920 just, you know, stuck with the same thing that they did for a month for a year, the results would be

00:42:26.700 a hundred fold what they even expected, you know, and that's, that's an issue with society today.

00:42:31.360 Instant gratification, you know, uh, everything's now. And for that reason, um, you know, nobody wants

00:42:39.760 to wait. And unfortunately, you know, just like when you're baking a cake, you can't fucking speed

00:42:45.800 up the process. You know, if you turn the oven up to 800 degrees instead of 400, guess what happens?

00:42:50.480 The cake gets burnt because you're trying to produce the cake quicker. Um, you know, it doesn't work

00:42:56.500 that way. You have to be patient. You have to understand that there's going to be a time

00:43:00.680 factor involved and you can't outspend it. You can't work it. You can't out do, you know,

00:43:05.860 you can't out think it. It's just a matter of something that's going to be there and you

00:43:09.800 have to accept that that's part of the process. So, um, you know, focusing on everything that

00:43:15.780 you can do today, everything you can do tomorrow on a day by day basis, knowing that that that's

00:43:21.400 the step-by-step-by-step plan that's going to produce the result that you're after long-term

00:43:26.220 and being committed to that. Um, but you know, outside of that, I really, I don't know. I think

00:43:34.460 that's it. You know, there's not a lot to it. It's just, those are four or five categories that

00:43:39.500 take tremendous amount of personal development to, to fine tune. You know, as you were talking,

00:43:45.120 I was thinking about an earlier podcast that we did a long time ago called be part of the 2%

00:43:50.900 where we were just talking about how, when everybody looks around, they always think,

00:43:54.200 oh, there's all this competition. There's all this, there's all these other people that are

00:43:57.460 striving for greatness. And I think your point in that episode was not really like when you really,

00:44:03.520 when you really think about it, Oh, there's a lot of people that fucking talk about it.

00:44:06.260 They talk about it, but the people that actually do it and you were saying that that's good news

00:44:10.160 that if you just push through, you're going to be part of the 2% with, uh, my business partner,

00:44:15.980 uh, Chris, we were talking about it over the phone while I do, when I do cardio, I always call them on

00:44:20.900 the phone. We talk for like 45 minutes cause that way we can like have our little meetings over the

00:44:25.060 phone. Yeah. And we got on the subject of like, um, the amazing amount of opportunity there is for

00:44:32.420 young people these days because they have been raised for instant gratification. They have been

00:44:37.460 raised to believe that they aren't capable. They have been raised to believe that they don't have

00:44:42.180 to work that hard. They have been raised to think that they're going to win with very little work.

00:44:47.600 Um, and that creates tremendous opportunity for a young person that wants to work, that understands

00:44:53.740 what it's going to take, that hustles, that wants to win. And that does everything they can to win

00:44:58.200 because the, while all, everybody thinks they are going to be successful, there's only, you know,

00:45:04.920 one out of every 100 that are actually going to do the work and they're the perceived competition

00:45:11.180 is much greater than actual competition. I think, and that goes for any age group, but especially

00:45:16.100 man, if you're between the ages, you know, if you're under the age of like 25 right now,

00:45:21.820 fuck dude, tremendous opportunity. Just, just by becoming a fucking hard worker and a student

00:45:27.220 of success. You know what I mean? Uh, it's just a totally different group. And you know, a lot of

00:45:34.780 people will say, Oh, fucking you're just picking on these young people. No, I'm not. You know what

00:45:40.420 I'm saying? I'm not picking on them. I'm, I'm stating what is reflective of somebody, somebody's

00:45:46.400 opinion who deals with literally hundreds of young people. I've had hundreds of people between the

00:45:51.980 ages of 18 and 25 work for me. I'd fucking have had that for the last 16 years. I know the differences

00:45:59.300 between today's youth and what they were 10 years ago. Cause I work with those people. It's just

00:46:04.740 different, you know? And if you're somebody who's motivated to be successful and you're in that age,

00:46:09.860 there's never been a greater opportunity, not only for that, but think about the technology that's

00:46:14.320 involved now. Now you have internet, you have ways to market very cheaply or for free. Um, you've got

00:46:20.180 ways to build your personal brand and stand out. I mean, it's just, it's tremendous, you know? And,

00:46:24.820 and if you're that person, man, I would give anything to go back and be 20 years old right

00:46:29.060 now. I would give everything up to go back and be 20 years old right now in one second

00:46:33.060 because the opportunities are just, they're unbelievable. And the ability to build success

00:46:38.660 is accelerated where it took me like 10 years to make any real progress. You know, these people

00:46:44.020 can do it in three, four, five years because of the technology differences. It's just, it's

00:46:48.100 amazing. Right. You know? So, but what's amazing is people think that three, four, five years

00:46:53.340 is a long time. I mean, you just got to calibrate your thinking. I think that changes as you

00:46:59.200 get older. You know, I think when you're older, you know, you realize that 10 years isn't that

00:47:03.040 long. Right. You know, when you're 20 years old and you think of 10 years, you're like,

00:47:06.060 fuck, that's half my life. Right. You know what I mean? Right. But when I think of 10 years,

00:47:09.760 you know, I'm 37. I think when I was 27, I remember that like it was yesterday. I mean,

00:47:14.340 literally. So it just, you know, you can't really implant that perspective in somebody's brain.

00:47:19.020 Right. Right. But, but yeah, man, you know, it's just, it's just, you know, the basic things,

00:47:28.300 humility, work ethic, you know, being competitive, being focused on winning the day, being patient,

00:47:35.040 you know, those, those are the qualities that are going to equate to greatness and you have

00:47:38.300 to pick, you know, and focus on honing those qualities as you go. I mean, the one I struggle

00:47:45.060 with is patience. You know what I'm saying? I want everything now too. Like when I want,

00:47:48.920 I want results today. But, you know, it can be a good thing because it creates a sense of urgency.

00:47:55.920 Right. Absolutely. And I mean, on that, on that topic of patience and how it applies really to

00:48:00.120 everything, guys, this is exactly why Andy chose to write a book for kids because changing somebody's

00:48:09.200 life. I mean, it happens every now and then that, you know, somebody who's late twenties,

00:48:13.200 early thirties, early forties, they have a powerful experience of their life and, you know,

00:48:17.380 the whole direction of their life changes. But the reality is, is most lives are shaped

00:48:22.420 over time, starting when they're young. And that's, that's why, uh, that's why you decided

00:48:28.980 to write a, write a book for little kids. And that this is just the first in a series of books

00:48:33.820 because we want to shape people over the whole course of their life and just the, the impact

00:48:39.220 that's going to have on, uh, on our world, on our, on our own country. It's going to be amazing.

00:48:45.260 Yeah. I mean, that's the goal, man. You know, change, change the way people think.

00:48:48.980 That's right. So, so, uh, guys, if you haven't connected with us through social media,

00:48:53.700 Andy is at Andy Frisella for pretty much everything except for, uh, Snapchat, uh, Snapchat,

00:48:58.260 yeah, Snapchat, which is MFCEO dash zero. No, sorry. MFCEO dash one. Tyler is at my Tyler,

00:49:06.220 M A I underscore T Y L E R on Instagram. And I'm at Vaughn Kohler for pretty much everything.

00:49:11.780 V A U G H N K O H L E R. Any, uh, final words about greatness?

00:49:18.400 Yeah, man. If you're trying to be great, the biggest thing is to focus on being great on a

00:49:22.140 daily basis. You know, this is an overwhelmingly huge topic. You know, it's the, it's the scope

00:49:27.420 of it as your entire life. So if you want to be great, start by being great on a daily

00:49:31.960 basis. You know what I mean? Did you have a great day? And if you want to learn how to

00:49:35.380 have a great day, go back and listen to, uh, the win the day podcast that we just did a few

00:49:40.340 episodes ago. Um, it'll teach you practically how to organize and, and understand what's going

00:49:49.600 to create a productive and great day on a daily basis. Um, it's really a step-by-step

00:49:57.160 you know, A, B, C, D, how to become great. And if you do that, if you commit to that on

00:50:03.300 a daily basis, eventually things are going to play out the way you want them. They just

00:50:06.100 are. There's no other way for that result to happen. So if you're, you know, you're

00:50:10.360 thinking, Oh man, I want to be great. I want to be a great human. You have to practice being

00:50:15.800 a great human and you have to break it down and it has to become part of who you are by

00:50:19.940 becoming habits. And the way you create habits is by doing them on a daily basis. So go put

00:50:24.160 that, you know, win the day and the power list into play and start there. Um, and, and, you know,

00:50:29.640 it'll evolve as you go. Yeah. I still see people doing the fucking power list the wrong way

00:50:34.220 and tagging me in it. Like they're writing shit. Like dude, how fucking clear can I be about this?

00:50:39.460 This is not a goal list. It is the actual, it's an actionable step-by-step daily list. Like I have

00:50:45.980 somebody tag me in the power list the other day. I said my power list for this week, it's not a

00:50:50.760 week. Fuck a power list motherfucker. It's a fucking day by day thing. You know, they put,

00:50:55.020 they put in there, Oh, go to the gym three times a week, eat healthy every day. No, that's wrong.

00:51:03.000 Go listen to the fucking podcast. You adjusting how you do it is taking away the effectiveness of

00:51:08.840 how it works. You, I just had this discussion with my whole company on fucking Sunday. You think

00:51:14.420 you fucking know, but you've never done it and never been there, never accomplished anything,

00:51:19.180 but you're going to invent your own fucking way of doing it. Right. It makes a lot of

00:51:22.640 fucking sense. That's probably why you're struggling in life right now. So go back,

00:51:26.500 listen to the fucking podcast, do it the way I say, and you'll see why it works. But

00:51:31.660 quit making up your own fucking power list. It's pissing me off. Right. Guys, if you are

00:51:36.100 brand new to the MFCEO project, uh, or you've just had your head in the sand and you don't

00:51:40.740 know what we're talking about with regard to Andy's children, children's book, go to

00:51:44.200 amazon.com and, uh, just type in Andy Frisella, or you could type in Otis and Charlie's, uh,

00:51:51.240 no, it's Charlie, the bulldogs, fantastic fruit stand. And you spell Charlie with a E Y

00:51:55.580 and you will find out what the hype is all about. Anything else to add to, uh, for the

00:52:01.920 rest of the podcast? We, this, this really needs editing. Cause I'm a, no, it doesn't need

00:52:06.700 editing. You just need to get better. I know I do need to get better. All right, guys.

00:52:10.580 Appreciate you listening. Go buy some motherfucking books, biatch.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 13, 2016

Recalibrate, Part 2： Greatness, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO113

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