REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Rest In Peace, Personal Responsibility, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.060 Dearly beloved, we are gathered here to remember our dear friend, Personal Responsibility,

00:00:05.080 who is such a pillar of our community, our country, and ourselves.

00:00:08.920 Today, we pay homage with myself, the pastor of Disaster, officiating the funeral,

00:00:13.900 and Mr. Andy Frisella, the MFCEO, offering a memorial and a tribute.

00:00:19.560 That's today's podcast.

00:00:21.160 Damn right! Make sure you have your Kleenexes, motherfuckers!

00:00:30.000 Stay off, I only work, work, work!

00:00:32.740 Don't mess around, kid, I only care, and the Lord never seems to get you.

00:00:37.460 All I do is work, all I do is work!

00:00:40.240 What's up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project.

00:00:43.160 I'm Andy, and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:46.600 Guys, if this is your first time listening, welcome.

00:00:49.360 If you're listening around your children, probably not a good idea.

00:00:53.720 What is the MFCEO Project?

00:00:55.760 Well, the MFCEO Project is a project that we started a few...

00:00:59.080 Actually, it's close to a year now ago to basically bring out the information needed to people

00:01:07.000 that is not based around fluff, rainbows, care bears, fuzzy little creatures,

00:01:12.220 or anything that makes you feel good and not tell you the truth.

00:01:15.600 Okay, what are you going to get here?

00:01:16.680 You're going to get the fucking truth.

00:01:17.960 You're going to get the reality.

00:01:19.420 You're going to get real information that's going to help you improve

00:01:22.620 and take control of your life.

00:01:24.400 But, Andy, I'm not a CEO.

00:01:26.980 Why do I need to listen to your podcast?

00:01:29.320 Because, motherfucker, are you not the CEO of your own life?

00:01:33.100 That's what this is about.

00:01:34.780 Today, we're going to talk about something that is right in the middle of the core values

00:01:41.500 of why we started this podcast.

00:01:44.300 Personal responsibility.

00:01:46.320 It used to be back in the day,

00:01:47.940 everything in our lives was a result of the things that we did.

00:01:53.120 Our grandpas and grandmas,

00:01:54.960 they understood that if they worked hard, they got a result.

00:01:58.700 If they planted a crop, they harvested the crop.

00:02:01.820 Today, it's not that way anymore.

00:02:03.900 We're going to talk about what the fuck is wrong with people.

00:02:07.000 And if you're one of these people who can't comprehend the concept of personal responsibility,

00:02:12.360 we're going to figure out what the fuck's wrong with you and fix it.

00:02:14.780 Yeah, we're not just going to talk about it.

00:02:16.840 We're going to actually hold a funeral service for personal responsibility.

00:02:21.180 I mean, are you game?

00:02:22.360 Hey, man.

00:02:23.620 It's long overdue, honestly.

00:02:24.960 Well, you know, I'm a former pastor,

00:02:26.520 so I'm going to officiate at this funeral service,

00:02:28.980 and it's going to be fun.

00:02:31.260 All right, so what are we doing, man?

00:02:33.100 Well, you know most funerals start with sharing a word or two about the dearly departed.

00:02:40.520 So I thought I'd get you to talk about this great person, personal responsibility,

00:02:46.360 this great entity who has made such an impact in our lives,

00:02:50.840 such a difference to all of us.

00:02:52.720 And I want you to share what you believe the difference that personal impact,

00:02:59.540 excuse me, personal responsibility has made in the lives of, well, really the whole world.

00:03:03.740 Well, I mean, let's take a look around and look at the country,

00:03:07.240 which most of us listening here are living in, okay, the United States of America.

00:03:11.140 I know we have a lot of foreign listeners, too.

00:03:13.080 But for the sake of right now, we're going to talk about our country, all right?

00:03:16.840 When people first came to our country, there were no infrastructure.

00:03:20.780 There was no roads.

00:03:21.780 There were no banks.

00:03:23.160 There wasn't shit.

00:03:23.940 It was a fucking forest with some people in it

00:03:26.580 that we had to figure out how to get along with or deal with or create things with.

00:03:30.700 And whether or not you have your opinions on how this was all created,

00:03:34.660 you fucking live here, and if you don't like it, fucking move.

00:03:37.920 But here's the reality.

00:03:40.260 People didn't come to America and say,

00:03:42.100 oh, man, it's up to so-and-so to fucking build these roads.

00:03:44.920 Oh, it's up to so-and-so to create these buildings.

00:03:47.560 Oh, it's up to so-and-so.

00:03:48.440 No, we fucking did it ourselves, okay?

00:03:51.540 So when you think about personal responsibility,

00:03:54.820 that comes down to, A, every single thing that you use in your daily life now

00:03:59.200 is based around somebody saying,

00:04:01.180 hey, you know what?

00:04:02.120 I'm going to take care of that, all right?

00:04:04.040 We don't have that anymore.

00:04:05.180 Today, everything is, oh, well, I need to call so-and-so,

00:04:08.960 and if I spill hot coffee on my lap, it's fucking McDonald's fault.

00:04:13.820 No, it's not McDonald's fault.

00:04:14.940 It's your fault for being a fucking idiot, okay?

00:04:17.440 This is the problem with America right now.

00:04:19.980 Everything is everybody else's fault.

00:04:21.860 Everything is the government's fault.

00:04:23.500 Everything is the neighbor's fault.

00:04:25.140 Everything is the peer's fault.

00:04:26.660 And if I don't like the way the things are,

00:04:28.960 I'm going to whine.

00:04:29.620 I'm going to cry.

00:04:30.120 I'm going to bitch on Facebook.

00:04:31.300 And then if I really don't like it, I'm going to fucking sue somebody.

00:04:34.040 That's the problem right now, okay?

00:04:37.160 Every successful business that you look at,

00:04:39.760 every enterprise in the history of America,

00:04:42.520 or on earth for that matter,

00:04:44.120 for you foreign listeners that are listening right now,

00:04:46.480 has been built upon the idea of, you know what?

00:04:49.120 Here's a problem,

00:04:50.380 and I'm going to take it upon myself to create something to solve that problem.

00:04:53.840 All success,

00:04:55.600 every nice fucking car you see on the road,

00:05:00.400 every nice house you see,

00:05:01.740 those are all the results of personal responsibility decisions.

00:05:05.020 But Andy, he inherited his money.

00:05:07.080 Well, did his fucking dad inherit his money,

00:05:08.820 or his fucking grandpa,

00:05:09.840 or did they take personal responsibility and build that shit too?

00:05:12.220 Right.

00:05:12.500 So, my argument fucking wins,

00:05:13.920 yours loses,

00:05:14.740 shut the fuck up.

00:05:15.540 Right.

00:05:15.920 All right?

00:05:16.720 It built my business,

00:05:18.240 personal responsibility.

00:05:19.540 I didn't wait around for somebody to fucking hand me something,

00:05:22.400 and say,

00:05:22.800 hey,

00:05:23.480 here's this fucking business.

00:05:25.240 You know,

00:05:25.480 we said,

00:05:26.280 hey,

00:05:26.540 we're going to do this,

00:05:27.820 and we're not going to let anybody stop us,

00:05:29.300 we're not going to let anything stop us,

00:05:30.500 and we fucking did it.

00:05:32.140 All right?

00:05:32.540 And quite honestly,

00:05:36.020 you know,

00:05:36.360 it's the reason you're listening to this podcast at the end of the day,

00:05:39.420 because you guys who are listening come here for a breath of freshness

00:05:45.400 that is not being communicated anywhere else.

00:05:49.720 Okay?

00:05:50.340 Is there other guys who communicate what we communicate here?

00:05:53.640 Yeah,

00:05:53.900 sort of,

00:05:54.440 but nobody does it like we do it.

00:05:56.340 No.

00:05:56.480 You know,

00:05:56.760 so it's made me who I am.

00:05:59.200 Right.

00:05:59.280 You know,

00:05:59.400 it's made me what I am.

00:06:01.040 It's made everything,

00:06:02.160 you know,

00:06:02.540 I get a lot of credit because,

00:06:04.160 dude,

00:06:04.340 I don't fail much anymore.

00:06:05.640 Every fucking thing I touch goes right.

00:06:08.040 You know why?

00:06:08.900 Because I took it upon myself to fucking start building shit when I was eight years old,

00:06:13.320 and failing,

00:06:13.900 and learning,

00:06:14.840 and reading,

00:06:15.700 and experimenting,

00:06:17.000 and now,

00:06:17.460 you know what?

00:06:17.880 Usually,

00:06:18.200 I make the right decisions.

00:06:19.820 Okay?

00:06:20.900 That's personal responsibility.

00:06:22.640 Everything good,

00:06:23.380 everything great,

00:06:24.480 everything that's ever been created comes from that space.

00:06:28.100 Right.

00:06:28.720 Okay?

00:06:29.480 So,

00:06:29.700 so,

00:06:29.820 obviously,

00:06:30.920 I'm having a little fun here.

00:06:31.760 We're conducting a funeral,

00:06:33.720 but let me back up just for a second because the reason we chose to do this is because this seems to be this just this repeated thing again and again in America.

00:06:42.780 It's oppressive.

00:06:44.140 Nobody taking responsibility for their own actions.

00:06:47.040 Always blaming somebody else.

00:06:49.020 Blaming it on some factor of their life.

00:06:52.880 I'm curious.

00:06:54.000 How do you think we got to this point?

00:06:56.540 Like,

00:06:56.780 what were the factors that contributed to us being here?

00:07:00.860 Where we're actually like recognizing the demise of personal responsibility in America?

00:07:05.520 You know,

00:07:07.820 that's a good question,

00:07:09.560 man.

00:07:09.900 I think there's a lot of contributing factors.

00:07:12.240 I think the ultimate contributing factor comes down to not wanting to...

00:07:20.520 It starts with kids.

00:07:22.880 All right?

00:07:23.880 And I feel like the,

00:07:25.960 you know,

00:07:27.140 the last generation of fucking kids that are now adults,

00:07:30.480 early young adults,

00:07:31.800 were brought up in a situation where people tried to soften the truth about what reality was,

00:07:39.260 about whose fault things are,

00:07:41.160 about how things play out.

00:07:42.900 you know,

00:07:44.740 I always use the,

00:07:45.860 you know,

00:07:46.440 participation trophy example,

00:07:48.020 but I mean,

00:07:48.340 that's just one of many things.

00:07:49.700 Right.

00:07:49.820 You know,

00:07:50.460 I think it comes from,

00:07:54.080 I think it comes from a place of like a good hearted place.

00:07:58.740 Like it comes from like,

00:08:00.340 hey,

00:08:00.960 I'm,

00:08:02.120 no,

00:08:02.440 like,

00:08:02.720 all right,

00:08:02.880 nobody started this,

00:08:04.100 this whole thing with bad intentions.

00:08:06.820 They started with good intentions.

00:08:08.180 You know,

00:08:08.360 hey,

00:08:08.520 I love my kid.

00:08:09.320 I love my son.

00:08:09.920 I want them to feel good about themselves.

00:08:11.400 I want them to feel like they accomplished something.

00:08:13.760 I want them to,

00:08:14.620 I want to build this self-esteem in them,

00:08:17.460 but you can't do that by,

00:08:21.060 by building it with things that aren't true.

00:08:23.180 Right.

00:08:23.660 You know,

00:08:23.980 and eventually they find out that things aren't true and the self-esteem is a fucking glass house.

00:08:28.700 And guess what?

00:08:29.260 It breaks.

00:08:30.160 Right.

00:08:30.400 So,

00:08:31.240 um,

00:08:31.940 I think that it started with,

00:08:33.860 with,

00:08:35.080 you know,

00:08:35.900 15,

00:08:36.340 20 years ago,

00:08:37.000 I think it started with the idea of fairness and opportunity.

00:08:42.180 And,

00:08:42.800 you know,

00:08:43.000 cause let's,

00:08:43.440 let's face it,

00:08:44.060 man,

00:08:44.260 there has been a history in America where,

00:08:47.540 you know,

00:08:48.520 women,

00:08:49.440 uh,

00:08:49.920 blacks,

00:08:50.600 you know,

00:08:51.000 they didn't have the same opportunities as whites had the whole history of America.

00:08:55.640 And you can argue this all you want.

00:08:57.300 And I'm not going to get into this big,

00:08:58.420 deep discussion,

00:08:58.980 but there's a history of America that has,

00:09:01.380 has,

00:09:02.180 uh,

00:09:05.160 not allowed for opportunity equality.

00:09:08.160 Right.

00:09:08.500 And I think in the search to fix equality and to create opportunity and not based off race or gender or anything,

00:09:14.860 just with everybody,

00:09:16.360 you know,

00:09:16.620 everybody deserves the same.

00:09:18.500 We've created this situation where it's nobody's fault.

00:09:21.480 Right.

00:09:22.120 Where,

00:09:22.440 where,

00:09:22.720 you know,

00:09:23.120 if,

00:09:23.560 if,

00:09:23.920 you know,

00:09:24.320 if you're black and you don't accomplish anything,

00:09:26.880 it's because your ancestors were slaves.

00:09:29.540 If you're a woman,

00:09:30.660 you don't accomplish anything.

00:09:31.620 It's because you didn't have any rights until the sixties.

00:09:33.640 You know,

00:09:34.180 if you're a white person and you didn't accomplish anything,

00:09:36.760 it's because,

00:09:38.080 you know,

00:09:39.360 you got picked on in school or some other fucking excuse.

00:09:41.880 Right.

00:09:42.240 Right.

00:09:42.500 There's always a thing to blame.

00:09:44.260 And the difference is the people who make it and the people who don't are the people who say,

00:09:50.500 you know what?

00:09:51.000 Like that might be true,

00:09:53.380 but I'm not fucking using that as an excuse.

00:09:55.560 I'm going to move forward regardless.

00:09:56.860 Right.

00:09:57.220 And so I think the,

00:09:58.380 the mentality of trying to fix all these things that are,

00:10:01.300 and make an idealistic world is what's created this situation of it's not my fault.

00:10:09.320 Yeah.

00:10:09.880 I don't know.

00:10:10.660 I mean,

00:10:10.900 that's,

00:10:11.220 no,

00:10:11.280 I think you're exactly right.

00:10:12.380 I'm riffing right now.

00:10:12.800 No,

00:10:12.980 no,

00:10:13.100 no.

00:10:13.180 I'm trying to play it out in my brain.

00:10:14.660 No,

00:10:14.880 I think you're exactly right.

00:10:15.920 Like my short answer would be like some fucking stupid soccer mom decided that they're not going to

00:10:20.440 fucking give out trophies for winners anymore,

00:10:22.880 which is partly true.

00:10:23.900 Right.

00:10:24.120 So the two things that you said that I thought just,

00:10:26.280 I totally resonated with was one,

00:10:27.920 you said it comes from a good hearted place.

00:10:30.560 And I think the funny thing is,

00:10:31.900 is that people,

00:10:32.560 I think ultimately what it comes down to it is that they have a really screwed up definition

00:10:37.440 of love.

00:10:38.480 Like love is just like doing everything for somebody.

00:10:41.360 It's,

00:10:41.840 it's always,

00:10:42.460 it's shielding them from any sort of challenge or heartache.

00:10:45.720 It's making sure they never fail.

00:10:47.220 And so I think there's a lot of people that think like,

00:10:50.220 Oh,

00:10:51.000 you know,

00:10:51.500 if he's struggling,

00:10:52.740 I'm going to make excuses for him.

00:10:54.180 And then that's loving somebody or that's,

00:10:56.180 that's showing them some sort of kindness.

00:10:58.060 But the other thing you said,

00:10:59.260 I love that you use the word equality.

00:11:01.540 It's that we have a really screwed up me understanding of the word equality.

00:11:06.560 Equality does not mean that everybody's the same.

00:11:08.980 It means equality as our founding fathers meant it,

00:11:12.020 is that they want everybody to have the right,

00:11:14.040 the same access to different opportunities,

00:11:15.700 but it did not mean that literally everybody should be exactly the same.

00:11:20.280 Not only that.

00:11:21.880 Okay.

00:11:23.420 The,

00:11:23.960 even though the United States,

00:11:25.420 and I'll be the first one to admit it has been full of inequality

00:11:28.260 opportunities for a long,

00:11:29.900 you know,

00:11:30.180 up until,

00:11:31.680 you know,

00:11:32.160 and some people argue when it stopped,

00:11:33.640 but up until really the sixties.

00:11:35.600 Okay.

00:11:38.820 Over compensating to try to make,

00:11:41.320 to make up for the inequalities is not equality.

00:11:44.940 All right.

00:11:45.740 And that's not going to,

00:11:46.820 that's not going to fix anybody.

00:11:48.680 You know what I mean?

00:11:49.360 That's not going to fix anything.

00:11:50.600 If anything,

00:11:51.020 it creates resentment.

00:11:52.040 Right.

00:11:52.420 Right.

00:11:52.700 So,

00:11:52.900 and I,

00:11:53.460 I guess what I meant by that was,

00:11:55.000 is that everybody thinks that everybody deserves to be a millionaire or everybody,

00:11:59.820 you know,

00:12:00.080 equality means that if you're a millionaire and Tyler or I am not,

00:12:05.220 then somehow that's lack of justice.

00:12:07.820 That is lack of justice.

00:12:09.160 I mean,

00:12:11.660 yeah,

00:12:12.160 that's what people think.

00:12:13.420 Yeah.

00:12:13.980 You know,

00:12:14.400 I think a lot of people think that.

00:12:15.780 And I think back in the day,

00:12:17.440 I mean,

00:12:17.720 even when I was a kid,

00:12:19.440 you know,

00:12:19.740 it wasn't that way.

00:12:20.620 Cause I can remember being told by nearly everybody I was surrounded with,

00:12:25.020 like,

00:12:25.160 Hey,

00:12:25.820 you know,

00:12:26.720 if we saw somebody who was successful,

00:12:28.400 it was like,

00:12:28.780 Hey dude,

00:12:29.140 you know,

00:12:29.540 that guy's that way.

00:12:30.380 Cause he worked his ass off.

00:12:31.460 Right.

00:12:31.980 You know what I mean?

00:12:32.440 Now it's like,

00:12:33.120 Oh,

00:12:33.260 that guy is fucking cheating the system or he's this or that.

00:12:36.160 There's some kind of bullshit excuse.

00:12:37.620 Right.

00:12:37.940 So as,

00:12:38.600 so as,

00:12:39.180 as we commemorate the,

00:12:40.620 uh,

00:12:40.780 the memory of personal responsibility,

00:12:42.720 as I understand you correctly,

00:12:44.080 you say that the way that personal responsibility has affected or impacted our lives is you said,

00:12:50.160 basically it made America,

00:12:51.840 it built every successful business or enterprise in the history of America or on earth.

00:12:56.400 Uh,

00:12:57.000 it,

00:12:57.220 it built your business and really it made you who you are.

00:12:59.680 Not only that Vaughn,

00:13:00.700 it's built every strong family.

00:13:02.440 Okay.

00:13:02.880 Think about the families that it's created,

00:13:04.740 the good,

00:13:05.320 strong families,

00:13:06.420 you know,

00:13:06.720 the leaders of,

00:13:07.760 of your family.

00:13:08.800 If you're,

00:13:09.420 if you're a leader of a family and you're fucking blaming everybody else for the reason that you,

00:13:14.440 you're fucking can't afford to put food on the table,

00:13:16.540 dude,

00:13:17.120 you're just fucking,

00:13:18.800 you're just creating that cycle over and over and over again.

00:13:22.240 And every great family,

00:13:24.000 the families that thrive and grow and the next generation,

00:13:27.780 cause like everybody,

00:13:28.520 right.

00:13:28.800 You want your kids to do better than you.

00:13:30.760 I would say most people feel that way.

00:13:32.960 And if you want that to happen,

00:13:35.060 you've got to take responsibility for instilling those values of personal responsibility,

00:13:40.340 not only in your teachings,

00:13:42.680 but in your own actions,

00:13:44.080 you know?

00:13:45.100 Right.

00:13:45.340 And people don't do that.

00:13:46.580 They sit around,

00:13:47.700 they come home from work,

00:13:49.060 they blame the fucking man about,

00:13:51.980 you know,

00:13:52.240 why they have to eat fucking ramen noodles.

00:13:54.820 You know,

00:13:55.500 it couldn't,

00:13:55.980 it couldn't be that,

00:13:57.500 you know,

00:13:58.480 you drink fucking a 12 pack of beer starting at four 30 every fucking day instead of actually like working to improve yourself as soon as you get off of work and move forward in life.

00:14:08.000 It couldn't be that you spend your whole entire life watching the fucking walking dead or whatever on TV.

00:14:15.060 It couldn't be that,

00:14:16.600 you know,

00:14:17.280 you go play fucking softball five nights a week with your buddies.

00:14:20.860 It couldn't be any of those things.

00:14:22.280 It's the fucking man.

00:14:23.780 Right.

00:14:24.240 You see what I'm saying?

00:14:24.980 Absolutely.

00:14:25.580 And I should point out too,

00:14:26.660 cause I know we're going to get emails about this and fine,

00:14:28.960 let us get emails.

00:14:29.980 But if you follow us for any length of time,

00:14:33.800 we're not saying that it's not appropriate sometime to help people out,

00:14:37.780 to give them a,

00:14:38.280 I mean,

00:14:38.480 you're,

00:14:38.680 you're very active in charity.

00:14:39.860 You help people out.

00:14:40.660 You do,

00:14:40.980 you do different things,

00:14:41.880 but there's a way to help somebody that actually in empowers or what's the

00:14:47.500 word that people use like,

00:14:49.340 and like it,

00:14:50.060 it empowers them to help themselves.

00:14:52.200 And then there's another kind of help that basically just keeps them in the

00:14:55.200 same place.

00:14:55.720 I mean,

00:14:56.060 it's,

00:14:56.240 it's,

00:14:56.540 it's an overused.

00:14:57.600 No,

00:14:57.920 dude,

00:14:58.120 it's the Bible.

00:14:58.920 It's fucking,

00:14:59.560 you teach a man to fish or feed him a fish.

00:15:02.000 Right,

00:15:02.340 right.

00:15:02.760 Yeah.

00:15:03.080 Yeah.

00:15:03.240 Yeah.

00:15:03.800 That's the fucking Bible,

00:15:04.760 right?

00:15:05.300 I don't think it's in the Bible,

00:15:06.380 but it's inspired by the Bible.

00:15:07.420 It's the difference between just giving,

00:15:09.060 just giving somebody a fish or teaching you out a fish.

00:15:11.880 That's right.

00:15:12.820 Most people want to give the fish,

00:15:14.320 right?

00:15:14.960 You know,

00:15:15.260 because it feels good to give the fish,

00:15:16.980 you know,

00:15:17.220 Oh,

00:15:17.360 I solved this person's problem.

00:15:19.140 You know,

00:15:19.460 Oh,

00:15:19.660 my,

00:15:20.040 my friend is,

00:15:21.560 you know,

00:15:22.020 $5,000 in debt.

00:15:23.320 So I give him $5,000 to get him out of debt and he's $5,000 in debt the next day

00:15:28.040 again.

00:15:28.600 Right.

00:15:28.980 You know,

00:15:29.800 right.

00:15:30.300 You don't solve things like that.

00:15:31.960 Right.

00:15:32.400 Cause it's an,

00:15:33.020 it's,

00:15:33.220 if people don't want to help themselves,

00:15:34.800 you're not going to be able to help them.

00:15:36.260 Exactly.

00:15:36.720 So,

00:15:37.280 so obviously in keeping with this,

00:15:38.940 uh,

00:15:39.220 this whole concept of,

00:15:41.040 of having a memorial service for personal responsibility,

00:15:43.700 a lot of times memorial services have,

00:15:45.460 you know,

00:15:45.900 special readings from like,

00:15:47.460 you know,

00:15:47.780 scripture or something like that.

00:15:49.120 So what I thought I'd do is a good time to introduce our,

00:15:51.520 the newest member of our crew.

00:15:53.740 Do you want to introduce her or should I?

00:15:55.360 No,

00:15:55.580 you can.

00:15:55.980 All right.

00:15:56.420 So,

00:15:56.940 uh,

00:15:57.720 we have with us our MF intern,

00:16:00.000 whose name is Kelsey.

00:16:00.820 Say hi,

00:16:01.180 Kelsey.

00:16:01.600 Hi guys.

00:16:02.120 So,

00:16:02.800 uh,

00:16:03.240 basically Kelsey approached us,

00:16:05.300 your original,

00:16:06.600 uh,

00:16:07.340 point of connecting with the,

00:16:08.900 with the show was what?

00:16:10.620 Um,

00:16:10.980 I wanted to bring Andy to Maryville and I'm still working on it.

00:16:14.860 Yeah.

00:16:15.280 Cause I go to school there.

00:16:16.460 So that was the first connection reached out to Vaughn and.

00:16:19.700 But what,

00:16:20.100 what was the obstacle to,

00:16:21.980 to Andy speaking?

00:16:23.140 Cause you know,

00:16:23.600 Andy's a very highly sought after speaker.

00:16:26.040 Conservative assholes.

00:16:27.320 Don't like the F word.

00:16:30.380 Hey man,

00:16:31.080 it is what it is,

00:16:32.020 but that's okay.

00:16:33.800 Maybe someday soon.

00:16:35.060 Um,

00:16:35.440 so yeah,

00:16:36.400 you're going to be helping us with some different things.

00:16:38.420 Kelsey is,

00:16:39.620 um,

00:16:40.600 uh,

00:16:41.000 what year are you?

00:16:42.420 A fourth year.

00:16:43.180 Fourth year.

00:16:43.580 Okay.

00:16:43.920 So you're,

00:16:44.420 you're killing it.

00:16:45.000 You're doing different things,

00:16:45.800 but Kelsey is actually going to read.

00:16:47.820 I'm going to have you read four quotes and I,

00:16:50.840 I'd love to just hear Andy's response to each one of these quotes.

00:16:53.680 So you go ahead,

00:16:54.700 start the first one.

00:16:56.160 Okay.

00:16:56.460 Well,

00:16:56.820 we start with Confucius who said,

00:16:59.140 attack the evil that is within yourself,

00:17:00.820 rather than attacking the evil that is in others.

00:17:04.320 Yeah.

00:17:04.880 I mean,

00:17:05.300 let's just scroll through Facebook.

00:17:07.360 Let's pull a Facebook on the computer and scroll through and look at the

00:17:10.500 percentage of people who can't have their own shit together that are

00:17:14.900 working on criticizing somebody else or something else about society or

00:17:19.140 themselves.

00:17:19.600 I mean,

00:17:19.960 that's just become commonplace.

00:17:23.280 You know,

00:17:24.860 I think especially with the,

00:17:26.140 with the massive role that social media has come to play,

00:17:30.680 you know,

00:17:31.260 we just,

00:17:31.980 I don't know.

00:17:32.520 I don't know if it's actually like accelerated or if it's just that we see it

00:17:35.860 more,

00:17:36.060 but I mean,

00:17:37.600 fuck,

00:17:37.880 you don't have to look very hard for it.

00:17:39.460 Yeah,

00:17:39.980 no,

00:17:40.200 definitely.

00:17:40.720 It's,

00:17:40.960 it's,

00:17:41.300 again,

00:17:41.580 it's always easier to criticize somebody else than to criticize yourself.

00:17:44.800 And what did,

00:17:45.860 you know,

00:17:46.220 what did Michael Jackson say?

00:17:47.340 Start with a man in the mirror or woman?

00:17:49.160 I don't know.

00:17:49.520 That's a great song.

00:17:50.220 It's actually my favorite song.

00:17:52.040 Everything starts there.

00:17:53.260 Yeah.

00:17:53.620 Everything.

00:17:54.120 Yeah.

00:17:54.720 Yeah.

00:17:55.120 Next quote,

00:17:55.760 Kelsey.

00:17:56.520 All right.

00:17:57.540 This one is if you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of

00:18:01.260 your trouble,

00:18:01.800 you wouldn't sit for a month.

00:18:03.500 Theodore Roosevelt.

00:18:05.880 I don't have anything to add to that.

00:18:08.180 It's true.

00:18:10.020 All right.

00:18:11.360 Just read the final one.

00:18:12.780 The final one by the former president.

00:18:15.020 Oh,

00:18:15.280 yeah.

00:18:15.960 I know.

00:18:16.500 I skipped,

00:18:16.940 I skipped Harry Potter.

00:18:18.080 Was it?

00:18:18.460 All right.

00:18:18.880 Go ahead.

00:18:19.280 Read that.

00:18:19.620 Okay.

00:18:20.380 There is an expiration date.

00:18:21.820 I'm blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction.

00:18:24.520 The moment you were old enough to take the wheel responsibility lies with

00:18:27.880 you.

00:18:29.320 All right.

00:18:29.860 That,

00:18:30.140 this is actually,

00:18:30.940 this is a good one.

00:18:31.960 Okay.

00:18:32.580 How many JK Rowling,

00:18:33.700 by the way?

00:18:34.080 Yeah.

00:18:34.260 How many people?

00:18:34.940 Yeah.

00:18:35.440 Who,

00:18:36.140 who,

00:18:36.540 how many shit,

00:18:37.700 how broke was she when she decided that she was going to start taking

00:18:40.940 responsibility for herself?

00:18:42.740 I believe she was like super,

00:18:44.600 super,

00:18:44.980 super poverty situation.

00:18:46.940 She was living in her car broke.

00:18:48.440 Right.

00:18:48.960 And she was a mom too.

00:18:51.140 Now she's billionaire status.

00:18:53.120 Yeah.

00:18:53.260 I mean,

00:18:53.400 come on.

00:18:54.120 Yeah.

00:18:54.320 Dude,

00:18:55.100 everything starts with taking responsibility and let's,

00:18:57.620 let's be real.

00:18:59.760 I didn't grow up with money in my family.

00:19:02.320 I,

00:19:02.620 you know,

00:19:02.760 my dad was an alcoholic.

00:19:04.080 My,

00:19:04.520 my mom fucking beat me.

00:19:06.020 My mom left.

00:19:06.940 My dad left.

00:19:07.760 Blah,

00:19:08.000 blah,

00:19:08.220 blah,

00:19:08.440 blah,

00:19:08.560 blah,

00:19:08.800 blah,

00:19:08.900 blah,

00:19:09.180 blah.

00:19:09.620 How much do we fucking hear this shit?

00:19:11.800 And it's accepted as an excuse.

00:19:14.200 It's accepted.

00:19:15.640 People,

00:19:16.000 people say that shit and other people are like,

00:19:18.020 Oh,

00:19:18.260 you know what?

00:19:19.760 It's,

00:19:20.140 it's,

00:19:20.480 you know,

00:19:20.860 I,

00:19:21.760 that totally makes up for the,

00:19:23.180 the,

00:19:23.360 the,

00:19:23.600 the fact of you being a total piece of shit.

00:19:25.980 That's what people fucking do.

00:19:27.520 Right.

00:19:28.040 You know,

00:19:28.400 and,

00:19:28.780 and they sit there and they say,

00:19:29.980 Oh,

00:19:30.960 you know,

00:19:31.340 Oh,

00:19:31.560 my dad,

00:19:32.240 he used to spank me with a belt.

00:19:34.100 Fuck motherfucker.

00:19:35.300 My dad used to beat me with a fucking piece of wire.

00:19:38.140 You know what I mean?

00:19:39.000 Now I want to talk about a piece of wire,

00:19:40.380 like Romex.

00:19:41.520 I'm talking about a fucking piece of wire about an inch across that could not bend.

00:19:46.480 You know what I'm saying?

00:19:47.840 Dude,

00:19:48.380 fuck dude.

00:19:49.960 I had to pick out my own twig.

00:19:51.700 Yeah,

00:19:52.120 we didn't do that too,

00:19:52.940 but usually we would laugh when they did the twigs.

00:19:54.820 So we got the wire.

00:19:55.920 Yeah.

00:19:56.040 But the point is until you're beat with a piece of fucking wire,

00:19:59.280 shut the fuck up.

00:20:00.760 You know,

00:20:01.440 I'm tired of this shit.

00:20:04.020 My parents,

00:20:05.120 fuck you and your parents.

00:20:06.840 It's you.

00:20:08.560 Period.

00:20:09.780 Next quote.

00:20:10.380 All right.

00:20:11.220 Ronald Reagan said,

00:20:12.640 we must reject the idea that every time a law is broken,

00:20:15.920 society is guilty rather than the law breaker.

00:20:18.100 It is time to restore the American precept that each individual is accountable for his actions.

00:20:23.420 Hey,

00:20:23.960 you know what I think?

00:20:24.880 What's that?

00:20:25.160 Because there was like 4 million shootings,

00:20:27.320 I think we should ban guns.

00:20:28.800 You know,

00:20:29.420 because the country's fucking obese,

00:20:31.380 we should ban fucking forks and knives.

00:20:34.200 You know what I'm saying?

00:20:35.120 Right,

00:20:35.540 right.

00:20:35.820 I think we should.

00:20:36.620 Yeah.

00:20:37.060 I think also,

00:20:37.740 I think we should,

00:20:38.260 I think we should ban like,

00:20:39.920 you know,

00:20:41.280 we should ban books because it's an unfair advantage for the people who read them.

00:20:45.920 So we don't want anybody to be unequal.

00:20:48.800 So let's ban the books.

00:20:50.900 And by the way,

00:20:52.280 who does that sound like?

00:20:54.260 Banning books?

00:20:55.140 Hitler?

00:20:55.720 Didn't Hitler do that?

00:20:56.800 Exactly.

00:20:57.600 But that's the mentality.

00:20:58.820 You want everybody to be fucking equal.

00:21:01.260 You know,

00:21:01.920 let's,

00:21:02.740 let's take away,

00:21:04.040 let's take away,

00:21:05.500 you know,

00:21:07.560 let's just take away everything.

00:21:08.820 Let's make everybody drive the same car.

00:21:11.540 You know,

00:21:12.000 let's take away alcohol,

00:21:14.960 you know,

00:21:15.920 so then,

00:21:17.180 you know,

00:21:17.560 people,

00:21:18.960 I don't know how I was going with that.

00:21:22.440 You just want to suck the fun out of everything.

00:21:24.240 Like,

00:21:24.400 let's just take away everything.

00:21:25.420 Yeah.

00:21:25.780 Yeah.

00:21:26.320 So I hung out with a couple of guys that came to the,

00:21:30.720 to the event last week.

00:21:33.820 And it was a great experience.

00:21:35.120 But one of the things that I learned that I didn't know is that in Canada,

00:21:39.320 because a guy from Canada told me this,

00:21:41.380 in Canada,

00:21:42.660 you have to get your meat done.

00:21:46.780 Well done.

00:21:47.780 Like if you go to a restaurant,

00:21:48.960 you have to get it done.

00:21:50.400 Well done.

00:21:51.860 And,

00:21:51.980 and I,

00:21:52.320 I mean,

00:21:53.020 again,

00:21:53.440 nothing,

00:21:53.680 nothing to all you people in Canada,

00:21:55.440 but the idea that the government,

00:21:57.360 the government is going to tell you that you cannot choose to have a rare or

00:22:04.060 meeting medium rare because they deem it as not healthy for you.

00:22:08.260 That's insane.

00:22:09.220 Like I don't even,

00:22:10.040 I,

00:22:10.240 there's a lot of things Canada does really well,

00:22:11.860 but,

00:22:12.100 but I,

00:22:13.040 I couldn't wrap my head around that.

00:22:14.400 But see,

00:22:14.780 I think that's what we're coming to is that people aren't able to make their

00:22:17.960 healthy decisions themselves.

00:22:19.840 So we're just going to legislate it for them.

00:22:22.300 Why would we legislate things to protect people that are too fucking stupid to

00:22:32.680 make it on their own?

00:22:35.180 Why would we do that?

00:22:36.360 I have no idea.

00:22:37.120 Why wouldn't we let those people just take care of themselves?

00:22:41.340 You know,

00:22:42.220 and everybody's like,

00:22:42.960 Andy,

00:22:43.160 that's really mean thing to say.

00:22:44.680 That's the way the world was set up by God.

00:22:48.240 The survival of the fittest,

00:22:50.960 thinning of the herd,

00:22:52.880 natural selection.

00:22:53.720 I didn't fucking design that.

00:22:57.140 You didn't design that.

00:22:58.400 Who designed that?

00:22:59.460 Fucking the universe,

00:23:00.840 God,

00:23:01.300 whatever you want to talk about.

00:23:02.720 It's not mean.

00:23:04.100 It's a fact,

00:23:05.100 right?

00:23:06.500 So if that's good enough for the fucking world,

00:23:10.580 how does it mean when I say that,

00:23:14.280 or when someone says,

00:23:16.220 Hey,

00:23:16.440 quit making rules for the bottom 2% that the 98% have to live by and live down

00:23:25.260 because of the bottom 2%.

00:23:27.320 It makes no fucking sense.

00:23:30.500 Yeah.

00:23:31.740 Okay.

00:23:32.160 Yeah.

00:23:32.460 And that is where we're going to.

00:23:33.760 We're making laws based around the bottom two to 5% of the United States and

00:23:39.900 intelligence and income people who don't pay taxes.

00:23:43.860 Okay.

00:23:44.940 To fix quote unquote,

00:23:48.440 fix the country.

00:23:50.900 How does that make sense?

00:23:53.820 This country was founded on fucking smart,

00:23:57.440 intelligent,

00:23:58.460 personally responsible people.

00:24:00.000 And if we legislate everything for this fucking group of people that can't wipe

00:24:07.760 their own ass for whatever fucking reason it is,

00:24:10.520 we're only going to bring our whole rest of us to that point.

00:24:17.220 And people can't get that because they have this big heart and they have like

00:24:19.880 this bleeding heart,

00:24:21.240 you know,

00:24:21.520 Oh,

00:24:22.020 but what are you saying?

00:24:23.300 I'm saying,

00:24:24.020 let the motherfuckers figure it out.

00:24:25.820 And eventually half of those people will figure it out.

00:24:30.000 All right.

00:24:31.880 When you,

00:24:32.560 when you give them everything and when you can make,

00:24:34.880 you know,

00:24:35.720 a minimum,

00:24:36.560 when you can make enough money on government assistance,

00:24:40.680 that almost equals minimum wage.

00:24:43.460 What's the incentive to work?

00:24:45.720 What's the incentive to figure it out?

00:24:47.860 What's the incentive to go to work and do better?

00:24:51.080 There isn't.

00:24:52.480 Right.

00:24:53.280 But people want to keep giving and giving and giving and giving because they

00:24:56.540 think it's the right thing.

00:24:57.660 It's not the fucking right thing.

00:24:59.820 You,

00:25:00.100 it's the same thing as what we're talking about here with people's own kids.

00:25:04.880 You know,

00:25:05.660 they want to,

00:25:06.340 they want to protect the kid.

00:25:07.960 So they do things to keep them from all bad things in world,

00:25:12.300 which ultimately keeps them from experiencing those things,

00:25:17.420 knowing how to deal with them and improving because of them,

00:25:19.860 which makes your kid a dependent for the rest of his life.

00:25:24.960 You know,

00:25:26.900 and people just don't think it through.

00:25:28.840 They,

00:25:29.180 they look at it like they're being extra moral by solving everybody's shit.

00:25:34.380 No,

00:25:34.960 you're being immoral by solving everybody's shit.

00:25:37.460 I'm the moral motherfucker because I care about people actually learning and

00:25:42.620 improving and moving forward.

00:25:45.180 But you know,

00:25:46.060 if I say this shit on a stage in front of 50,000 people,

00:25:50.240 you know,

00:25:50.680 you have to,

00:25:51.340 when people walk out of there,

00:25:52.160 God,

00:25:52.380 he's heartless.

00:25:53.280 Right.

00:25:53.860 How am I heartless for thinking that?

00:25:56.500 You know,

00:25:57.100 I'm heartless because I want people to have a sense of independence and value and

00:26:01.080 worth and skill that they have to learn by having to actually experience the

00:26:06.120 real world as opposed to hide behind some government aid or fucking whatever it

00:26:10.420 is.

00:26:11.120 I mean,

00:26:11.360 come the fuck on.

00:26:12.560 You mentioned parenting and the connection is absolutely 100%.

00:26:16.120 So Kasha and I started going to some parenting class,

00:26:19.220 which frankly took a little bit of a coaxing on my part for me to do that.

00:26:23.800 Cause there's so much crappy parenting out there.

00:26:25.600 But,

00:26:25.800 but what's kind of amazing is that this,

00:26:28.040 this thing that we're going through,

00:26:29.100 the whole point of it is to teach your kids personal responsibility and not to

00:26:32.900 fix things for them.

00:26:34.000 And they,

00:26:34.460 they ought the,

00:26:35.100 the,

00:26:35.300 the ladies that that's teaching it is actually saying like,

00:26:38.640 we want your kids to fail.

00:26:40.080 And she used the example of most parents,

00:26:43.220 if their kid goes to the movies and comes home and says,

00:26:49.320 Oh mom,

00:26:50.560 I forgot.

00:26:51.400 I forgot my,

00:26:52.900 my coat.

00:26:54.140 Well,

00:26:54.660 what do you do?

00:26:55.140 The,

00:26:55.300 the parent goes and,

00:26:56.580 and goes back,

00:26:57.700 you know,

00:26:57.840 calls the movie theater,

00:26:58.780 goes back to the movie theater and gets the coat.

00:27:00.920 But their whole approach is no.

00:27:03.180 When your kid says that you say,

00:27:04.900 and this is amazing because literally it's word for word.

00:27:07.140 What your dad told you to say to like your employees when they couldn't figure

00:27:11.620 this out,

00:27:12.380 literally they're,

00:27:13.420 they're teaching us to say,

00:27:14.580 what are you going to do?

00:27:15.020 What are you going to do about it?

00:27:16.060 Right.

00:27:16.840 What,

00:27:17.160 what do you,

00:27:17.480 and the first time this lady did this with her kids,

00:27:20.340 she said her kids were like,

00:27:21.580 well,

00:27:21.960 what are you talking about?

00:27:23.280 Well,

00:27:23.500 you left the coat.

00:27:24.220 What are you going to do about it?

00:27:25.580 And so as the,

00:27:26.360 as the gears started turning,

00:27:27.600 the,

00:27:27.780 the,

00:27:28.060 the kid was like,

00:27:29.320 well,

00:27:29.520 I guess I'll call the movie theater.

00:27:30.940 All right.

00:27:31.580 How are you going to get there?

00:27:32.740 Okay.

00:27:33.100 Well,

00:27:33.400 so the,

00:27:33.940 the kid became a problem solver and not,

00:27:36.400 not coincidentally,

00:27:37.980 all their kids are like massive overachievers,

00:27:40.240 very successful.

00:27:41.620 Shocking.

00:27:42.100 Yeah.

00:27:42.460 Right.

00:27:42.960 So that's all.

00:27:44.000 I think,

00:27:44.420 again,

00:27:44.800 people are so bent out of shape because they think,

00:27:46.880 oh,

00:27:46.960 you guys don't like poor people or you're not,

00:27:48.960 you're not sympathetic.

00:27:49.740 No,

00:27:49.920 that's not what we're saying.

00:27:50.900 We're saying that the loving thing,

00:27:52.660 the right thing,

00:27:53.800 the good thing is to teach people how to take responsibility.

00:27:57.280 Dude,

00:27:58.280 that's exactly 100% the truth.

00:28:01.020 And if people can't understand that,

00:28:03.060 you need to be wearing a fucking helmet going through your day to day life.

00:28:07.400 In fact,

00:28:08.080 if you can't understand that,

00:28:09.580 I'll send you a helmet.

00:28:11.040 How about that?

00:28:12.120 Yeah.

00:28:13.120 No,

00:28:13.420 for real.

00:28:13.840 Yeah.

00:28:14.080 Yeah.

00:28:14.440 No,

00:28:14.720 dude,

00:28:14.900 you shouldn't be operating functioning in society because you're not going to

00:28:17.700 make it right.

00:28:18.360 Right.

00:28:18.560 what's kind of crazy is that,

00:28:21.880 um,

00:28:22.440 and we've talked about this before.

00:28:24.180 The irony of it is,

00:28:25.940 is that the people who went all said and done are the ones who really do need help.

00:28:30.600 Like they,

00:28:31.080 they need a little support.

00:28:32.340 They're the ones that are usually not waiting around for it.

00:28:35.120 They're the ones who are taking the bull by the horns and they're making the most of their lives.

00:28:38.700 Those are the people I love.

00:28:39.920 Yeah.

00:28:40.420 The people,

00:28:40.900 the people,

00:28:41.180 dude,

00:28:41.380 those are the people I look for to try to help.

00:28:43.580 Yeah.

00:28:43.880 The people who are already helping themselves,

00:28:45.440 the people who are,

00:28:46.720 who are probably struggling really,

00:28:49.080 really hard,

00:28:49.600 but they're also working really,

00:28:51.200 really fucking hard.

00:28:52.340 Dude,

00:28:52.760 those are the people that I,

00:28:54.200 they'll never,

00:28:54.540 the people that never asked for help or the people that I try to help.

00:28:57.800 I try to find them.

00:28:58.920 I try to like,

00:29:00.180 you know,

00:29:00.520 I watch from afar and see what's going on.

00:29:02.660 And I try to like,

00:29:04.460 I don't know,

00:29:04.920 like ninja spy on them.

00:29:06.240 You know what I'm saying?

00:29:07.000 Because I know they're never going to ask me,

00:29:09.040 but those are the people that deserve the help.

00:29:11.160 Yeah.

00:29:11.320 Those are the people that are going to take whatever it is,

00:29:15.200 however you help them as an investment in them.

00:29:18.340 And actually there will be a return,

00:29:19.860 not to you,

00:29:20.840 but to the next generation of people.

00:29:22.760 Right.

00:29:23.260 You know what I mean?

00:29:24.080 Absolutely.

00:29:24.540 And I love that.

00:29:25.460 Yeah,

00:29:25.680 dude,

00:29:25.940 I am all for that.

00:29:27.740 Like,

00:29:28.060 dude,

00:29:28.220 I'm all for government assistance too,

00:29:30.200 by the way.

00:29:30.820 I just think there's certain parameters that need to be met.

00:29:33.660 I think you need to be fucking,

00:29:35.340 you can't be doing this shit where you walk into every fucking location of a

00:29:38.660 store and,

00:29:39.620 Hey,

00:29:39.880 can I get a job application so I can show my officers so I can qualify for my

00:29:43.920 fucking aid?

00:29:44.800 No motherfucker.

00:29:45.660 You can't.

00:29:46.400 Right.

00:29:46.720 Okay.

00:29:47.560 So,

00:29:48.040 so I think you should,

00:29:49.000 you know,

00:29:49.980 you know,

00:29:50.760 there's a number of things that we can get into this,

00:29:52.980 but I mean,

00:29:53.520 you know,

00:29:53.720 you should be able to fucking pass a drug test.

00:29:55.640 You should be able to fucking,

00:29:56.820 you know,

00:29:57.720 show that you're,

00:29:58.620 that you're trying like for real,

00:30:00.440 not just scamming the system.

00:30:02.320 You know,

00:30:02.800 there's a lot more,

00:30:03.620 there's many,

00:30:04.240 many more things,

00:30:04.900 but the point is people do need help,

00:30:07.180 but I think the only people that deserve help are the people that fucking are

00:30:10.960 trying to help themselves.

00:30:12.200 No,

00:30:13.300 absolutely right.

00:30:14.480 We've gotten out of control with this shit.

00:30:16.480 You know,

00:30:17.100 let's fucking help this piece of shit.

00:30:20.180 Drug dealer,

00:30:21.380 blah,

00:30:21.600 blah,

00:30:21.780 blah.

00:30:22.080 Who doesn't want to work?

00:30:23.040 Who doesn't,

00:30:23.460 you know?

00:30:23.760 Oh,

00:30:24.160 well,

00:30:24.440 they've got a disease.

00:30:25.580 It's called drug addiction.

00:30:26.840 Right.

00:30:27.400 Motherfucker.

00:30:27.980 That ain't a fucking disease.

00:30:29.700 Right.

00:30:30.260 Okay.

00:30:31.200 Drug addiction is a disease.

00:30:32.340 I know I'm gonna get a bunch of shit on this because people here got family members

00:30:36.100 and all this shit.

00:30:37.240 Motherfucker,

00:30:37.640 your family member right now who's addicted to heroin chose to fucking do that.

00:30:42.600 They chose to do the heroin.

00:30:44.900 They chose to blah,

00:30:46.220 blah,

00:30:46.360 blah.

00:30:46.580 And yes,

00:30:46.980 it's a shame.

00:30:47.740 I'm sorry.

00:30:48.680 It sucks.

00:30:49.700 I've had family members too that have been all into drugs and ruin their lives

00:30:53.220 because of drugs.

00:30:54.040 I've had family members go to prison for 11,

00:30:56.860 12,

00:30:57.220 13 years because of drugs.

00:30:59.280 Okay.

00:30:59.480 I fucking know it really well,

00:31:00.900 but I also know who's fucking fault it is.

00:31:03.000 It's theirs.

00:31:04.000 All right.

00:31:04.660 And you know,

00:31:05.200 what do you want to talk about enabling?

00:31:06.280 Look at these motherfuckers who enable these people on drugs.

00:31:10.160 You know,

00:31:10.560 once your person,

00:31:11.260 once your little family,

00:31:12.060 your little Johnny gets on the fucking H juice,

00:31:14.740 dude,

00:31:15.080 it's time to cut them off.

00:31:16.640 Period.

00:31:17.340 Absolutely.

00:31:18.000 You know,

00:31:18.560 you know,

00:31:19.260 it's interesting.

00:31:19.720 You know,

00:31:19.920 my wife's a doctor and in the medical field,

00:31:22.620 this is like,

00:31:23.740 I mean,

00:31:23.980 there's a,

00:31:24.380 there's a ton of frustration and there's a ton of,

00:31:26.420 um,

00:31:27.680 just like wringing your,

00:31:28.920 your hands and just wanting to pull your head out because there are so many

00:31:33.520 people who continually go to the doctor for lifestyle reasons for lifestyle

00:31:39.000 decisions.

00:31:39.620 And yet we've gotten in our,

00:31:41.760 in our explain that.

00:31:43.000 In other words,

00:31:43.740 they're not,

00:31:44.700 they're not in a bad way because they have some genetic disease that literally they could

00:31:49.860 not have chosen.

00:31:50.720 They have,

00:31:51.620 they're in a bad way because they buy seven,

00:31:53.780 two liters of fucking regular Coke and drink it every day.

00:31:56.120 Right.

00:31:56.320 And they're,

00:31:56.640 and they're smoking six packs a day and they're,

00:31:58.460 and they're coming back.

00:31:59.160 And here's,

00:31:59.600 what's kind of crazy is that we live in a culture where my wife cannot tell,

00:32:04.580 uh,

00:32:05.880 a morbidly obese person.

00:32:08.380 You're fat.

00:32:09.420 Like you're,

00:32:10.320 that's your problem.

00:32:11.440 Your problem is not that you're,

00:32:13.140 that's the problem.

00:32:14.100 That's the whole problem here.

00:32:16.160 Okay.

00:32:16.720 Right.

00:32:17.100 The whole problem here is tooth twofold.

00:32:19.340 One,

00:32:19.760 we can't tell people the truth without being a jerk to people can't hear the truth

00:32:24.440 without that person being a jerk.

00:32:26.380 Right.

00:32:27.020 You know what I mean?

00:32:27.740 Right.

00:32:28.000 Three,

00:32:28.280 if we want to add to it,

00:32:29.080 there's no self-awareness.

00:32:31.060 You know,

00:32:31.340 when you have problems walking up fucking stairs or you need a fucking scooter to

00:32:35.860 drive around fucking Walmart,

00:32:37.500 it's probably not a good idea to be buying for $250 of food stamps worth of

00:32:42.460 fucking regular Coke and fucking Cadbury eggs.

00:32:46.620 You know what I'm saying?

00:32:47.400 Yeah.

00:32:47.600 Like,

00:32:47.900 dude,

00:32:48.100 it's just,

00:32:48.760 there's just,

00:32:49.520 at what point is,

00:32:52.800 is,

00:32:53.420 is enough enough?

00:32:55.160 Right.

00:32:56.660 You know what I'm saying?

00:32:57.400 Yeah.

00:32:57.580 And I get it,

00:32:58.300 dude.

00:32:58.500 I've struggled my weight my whole life,

00:33:00.020 but I also have the ability to look in my mirror and say,

00:33:02.480 Andy,

00:33:02.700 you're a fat motherfucker.

00:33:04.160 It's time to fucking do some work.

00:33:05.960 Right.

00:33:06.460 Which is why I'm down 35 fucking pounds since January 4th.

00:33:10.040 Right.

00:33:10.200 You know what I'm saying?

00:33:11.120 Because I'm fucking doing the work because I looked in the mirror and I said,

00:33:14.140 you're a fat fuck.

00:33:15.920 And that's it.

00:33:16.840 Right.

00:33:17.020 And I wish some other people would have told me that on the way up being a fat fuck.

00:33:20.680 So I wouldn't have let it get so far out of hand.

00:33:23.680 Right.

00:33:24.200 You know what I'm saying?

00:33:24.800 But nobody tells you because they're too pussy.

00:33:26.880 Right.

00:33:27.160 So this,

00:33:27.560 this is,

00:33:28.060 this is off,

00:33:29.020 off the rails.

00:33:29.860 People are going to think I've completely lost it.

00:33:31.560 I like to think of myself as a very,

00:33:33.180 you know,

00:33:33.400 I'm a compassionate guy.

00:33:34.620 We've talked about this.

00:33:35.340 I,

00:33:35.600 I really do like to help people.

00:33:37.360 But as I think about the whole situation,

00:33:39.340 like with so many people's medical situation,

00:33:42.300 how would our culture be different?

00:33:45.680 If,

00:33:46.260 if,

00:33:47.100 if a doctor could say to a patient who comes to see them regularly,

00:33:50.720 all right,

00:33:51.300 did you do what I told you to do last time?

00:33:55.720 Did you do any of the exercises I told you to do?

00:33:57.860 No.

00:33:58.300 Did you take the medicine that I told you to take?

00:34:00.920 No.

00:34:01.800 All right.

00:34:02.300 Well,

00:34:02.440 I'm not going to see you again until you do that.

00:34:04.940 Like literally you cannot come back.

00:34:07.240 For treatment until you show proof that you've done this.

00:34:10.780 And,

00:34:11.240 and you know what their answer,

00:34:12.220 you know what people's answer.

00:34:13.480 And this is where I'm going to,

00:34:14.440 I'm probably going to get emails too.

00:34:16.240 Okay.

00:34:17.600 The answer that a lot of,

00:34:18.780 the answer that a lot of people sit is give is,

00:34:21.680 well,

00:34:21.940 you know what's going to happen to that person?

00:34:23.420 What's that?

00:34:24.220 They're going to die.

00:34:26.000 Well,

00:34:26.120 you know what?

00:34:27.000 Maybe,

00:34:27.580 maybe the,

00:34:28.220 well,

00:34:29.160 no,

00:34:29.420 I mean,

00:34:29.760 I'm not going to go that.

00:34:30.460 What I'm going to say is,

00:34:31.300 is that maybe the fear of death will kick them in the pants.

00:34:34.080 You know what?

00:34:34.540 I will fucking say that.

00:34:35.860 I will say that I do.

00:34:38.340 My dad's best friend died of fucking lung cancer at fucking 40 years old.

00:34:42.640 Okay.

00:34:43.760 How my dad's 72 years old,

00:34:45.740 71 years old.

00:34:46.620 Now,

00:34:46.960 how much life did that man miss?

00:34:48.900 Because he couldn't fucking take responsibility of not doing those things.

00:34:53.020 Missed his kids growing up,

00:34:54.840 missed his fucking friends,

00:34:55.940 miss his family.

00:34:56.700 You see what I'm saying?

00:34:57.440 Yeah,

00:34:57.680 no,

00:34:57.920 I totally get it.

00:34:58.660 But dude,

00:34:59.020 that's not cool.

00:35:00.060 Yeah,

00:35:00.360 no,

00:35:00.580 I agree.

00:35:00.980 That's not cool.

00:35:01.580 It's not cool.

00:35:02.060 And I'm not fucking picking on him and,

00:35:04.260 and,

00:35:05.120 and,

00:35:05.440 and,

00:35:05.880 you know,

00:35:06.280 particularly,

00:35:07.200 but like,

00:35:07.600 dude,

00:35:08.000 I could pick on myself.

00:35:10.420 Look at,

00:35:10.780 okay,

00:35:10.940 dude,

00:35:11.180 I go through immense amounts of stress,

00:35:14.460 immense amounts of stress for what,

00:35:17.440 for what?

00:35:18.600 You know what I mean?

00:35:19.400 Like,

00:35:19.860 dude,

00:35:19.980 I should be doing something to fix that.

00:35:21.640 I'm addicted to that lifestyle.

00:35:23.360 I need to fix that.

00:35:24.760 You know what I mean?

00:35:25.320 But I know I need to fix it.

00:35:26.780 Right.

00:35:27.400 You know,

00:35:27.800 I don't know,

00:35:29.520 man.

00:35:30.240 No,

00:35:30.440 I mean,

00:35:31.020 but,

00:35:31.380 but you see my point is that if people understood,

00:35:33.860 if people understood,

00:35:34.940 everybody listening,

00:35:35.900 sees your point.

00:35:36.720 Everybody listening to this podcast is fucking amen.

00:35:40.560 Hallelujah.

00:35:41.380 And motherfuckers.

00:35:43.100 Yeah.

00:35:43.280 Because like,

00:35:43.800 dude,

00:35:43.920 I'm telling you people are tired of it.

00:35:46.900 The reason people are out,

00:35:48.920 dude.

00:35:49.700 All right.

00:35:50.700 The reason people are out supporting Donald Trump like they are.

00:35:54.200 And again,

00:35:55.240 I'm not Democrat or Republican.

00:35:57.140 I'm for what's right before all you motherfuckers start bombarding me with shit.

00:36:03.020 The reason people are out supporting him is because he believes in personal responsibility and people are fucking tired of the let's make up for all this time that things were wrong or let's let's fucking take care of all these people.

00:36:17.380 Let me give my tax dollars to people who fucking won't even work.

00:36:21.360 Fuck that.

00:36:22.700 I'm sorry.

00:36:24.040 I'm tired of that.

00:36:26.100 Everybody's fuck.

00:36:26.740 Tyler,

00:36:27.180 you're shaking your head.

00:36:27.900 Yeah.

00:36:28.140 Are you fucking tired of that?

00:36:29.600 Yeah.

00:36:29.820 I'm not.

00:36:30.200 I'm not part of the one person.

00:36:31.660 I don't know.

00:36:31.960 And you got people who fucking say,

00:36:33.500 Oh,

00:36:34.160 taxes,

00:36:35.260 blah,

00:36:35.700 blah,

00:36:35.880 blah.

00:36:36.120 You need to pay your fair motherfucker.

00:36:38.020 I pay more taxes in one year.

00:36:40.060 You're going to pay your entire life.

00:36:42.800 So fuck your fair share shit.

00:36:44.620 Not just total,

00:36:45.540 but percentage wise.

00:36:46.340 Exactly.

00:36:46.900 Yes.

00:36:47.940 You know,

00:36:48.720 and dude,

00:36:49.180 people don't fucking think about it.

00:36:51.260 You know,

00:36:51.480 the reason there's how many people do you employ?

00:36:54.120 That's 110 people.

00:36:55.520 Yeah.

00:36:55.740 Dude,

00:36:56.420 the other thing.

00:36:57.380 And by the way,

00:36:58.420 you get paid last,

00:36:59.300 by the way,

00:36:59.820 when things aren't good,

00:37:00.600 you're the first one takes pay cut.

00:37:02.160 Okay.

00:37:02.940 And let's think about this too.

00:37:05.720 On top of that.

00:37:06.860 All right.

00:37:07.860 You're talking about all these things that we have a problem with when it comes to personal responsibility and being frustrated,

00:37:15.840 being angry,

00:37:16.560 being upset.

00:37:17.680 You know,

00:37:18.440 we wouldn't have a cashflow problem in the United States.

00:37:21.380 Everybody paid taxes,

00:37:22.580 but you know why we have a cashflow problem in the United States?

00:37:26.220 Because not everybody pays fucking taxes.

00:37:29.500 And so when they're like,

00:37:30.180 Oh,

00:37:30.300 let's make the rich motherfuckers pay more.

00:37:32.180 That's because the fucking people at the bottom are paying shit.

00:37:35.460 Half of them aren't filing returns.

00:37:37.100 Half of them are fucking claiming all cash.

00:37:39.260 You know,

00:37:39.480 they're not claiming their shit.

00:37:41.140 Like dude,

00:37:41.740 everybody should pay this.

00:37:43.080 I'm getting off on political shit,

00:37:44.460 but everybody should pay the same amount.

00:37:45.800 If everybody paid the same amount percentage wise,

00:37:48.180 let's say flat tax,

00:37:49.400 like what,

00:37:49.760 what's his face once Rubio or who is it?

00:37:51.880 Rubio or fucking Cruz wants it.

00:37:53.400 I think it's Rubio.

00:37:54.240 One of them wants flat tax.

00:37:55.720 15%.

00:37:56.400 If everybody paid 15%,

00:37:58.240 we'd have far more fucking money,

00:37:59.720 but they don't think of it like that.

00:38:01.980 They said,

00:38:02.640 they've convinced people that these rich motherfuckers don't pay any taxes.

00:38:06.580 When in reality,

00:38:07.320 they pay more in taxes in one fucking year dollar wise,

00:38:12.300 then you will fucking pay your entire life,

00:38:14.620 but they got to pay their fucking fair share.

00:38:18.520 It's a fucking joke.

00:38:19.820 I think that's why,

00:38:20.760 I think that's why America,

00:38:22.240 I mean,

00:38:22.520 we,

00:38:22.820 that's obviously why the current political scene is so crazy is because people are starting.

00:38:29.220 The current political scene is so crazy because it's what I text you about.

00:38:33.180 It's a whiplash.

00:38:34.400 All right.

00:38:34.980 We went so far one way the last eight years.

00:38:37.760 We're seeing an equal and it's,

00:38:40.620 it's an equal fucking whiplash the other way.

00:38:43.240 You know what I'm saying?

00:38:44.000 All the people who sat back and fucking didn't agree with the shit for the last eight years.

00:38:48.720 Now they're pissed and they're riled up and they're fucking going crazy.

00:38:52.320 And that's why we're seeing people get their ass beat at fucking things and all this,

00:38:56.240 which by the way,

00:38:57.000 wouldn't happen if people went to their own rallies.

00:39:00.100 You know what I'm saying?

00:39:01.060 Right.

00:39:01.480 Like,

00:39:01.860 you know,

00:39:02.460 it's the same mentality of,

00:39:03.960 uh,

00:39:04.600 people on Facebook.

00:39:05.440 Like when you type something on Facebook on your fucking page and then somebody comes

00:39:09.120 on saying,

00:39:09.700 you know what?

00:39:10.820 I disagree with you and I'm never shopping at your company again and fuck you and blah,

00:39:15.600 blah,

00:39:15.780 blah.

00:39:15.960 Like,

00:39:16.240 look,

00:39:16.500 motherfuckers,

00:39:16.920 this is my page.

00:39:18.020 Right.

00:39:18.520 This ain't your page.

00:39:19.400 If you have your views,

00:39:20.280 post them on your page.

00:39:21.220 If you have your views,

00:39:22.380 how about this?

00:39:23.360 Go to the support,

00:39:24.220 the motherfucker that you support instead of going to somebody else's rally.

00:39:27.840 Right.

00:39:28.260 Like,

00:39:28.460 dude,

00:39:28.580 if I go to a fucking Blackhawks game wearing blue shit and fucking screaming for the blues,

00:39:33.140 there's a good chance that we'd punch in the fucking face.

00:39:36.060 Especially if you're,

00:39:37.060 especially if you're confrontational to,

00:39:38.880 to,

00:39:39.160 that's what I'm saying.

00:39:40.060 Yeah.

00:39:40.180 Yeah.

00:39:40.440 If I go to fucking,

00:39:41.280 uh,

00:39:41.840 the Blackhawks game in Chicago and I'm a boy of my blue shit,

00:39:45.460 which I would do.

00:39:46.320 And I'm unruly.

00:39:47.620 Right.

00:39:47.940 Okay.

00:39:48.100 If I went there and I fucking sat there and I'm like in the blue score,

00:39:51.700 I cheer.

00:39:52.360 And I was a respectful fan.

00:39:54.200 The fans are going to treat you with respect.

00:39:56.060 Right.

00:39:56.340 But if I go in there and go to everybody,

00:39:58.240 fuck you in the Blackhawks jerseys,

00:40:00.080 motherfuckers.

00:40:00.700 It's no different.

00:40:01.440 You're going to get your ass punched right in the face.

00:40:03.460 Right.

00:40:04.260 No.

00:40:04.560 Tell me I'm wrong.

00:40:05.280 No,

00:40:05.480 you're not wrong.

00:40:06.240 You're absolutely,

00:40:07.120 you're absolutely right.

00:40:08.020 But yet now on fucking Facebook,

00:40:10.280 everybody's like,

00:40:10.960 Oh,

00:40:11.300 fucking Trump supporters are trying to kill everybody that comes to the

00:40:15.160 fucking rallies.

00:40:16.800 Motherfucker.

00:40:17.200 That dude trying to run on stage.

00:40:20.320 What's going to happen if you run on stage?

00:40:22.120 You're going to get beat up.

00:40:23.540 Yeah.

00:40:24.280 Period.

00:40:25.540 And I'm not even fucking saying I'm going to vote for Trump.

00:40:27.900 I have no idea who the fuck I'm voting for.

00:40:30.000 Right.

00:40:30.280 But I'm just saying it has a common fucking sense.

00:40:33.200 That dude deserved to get punched in the fucking face and tackle the guy that ran on stage.

00:40:37.340 Right.

00:40:37.520 You know,

00:40:38.060 the guy who got smoked in the face,

00:40:40.160 you know,

00:40:40.800 he was causing a disturbance.

00:40:42.160 Was it right to punch the dude in the face for that old man?

00:40:44.920 No,

00:40:45.160 it wasn't right.

00:40:46.060 But what do you expect is going to happen?

00:40:47.860 Right.

00:40:48.080 You got a 70 year old man who is in the mentality of most 70 year old men of,

00:40:54.320 I've been around the world and I pay my dues and I'll do whatever the fuck I want.

00:40:57.940 Right.

00:40:58.560 Tell me a 70 year old man,

00:41:00.600 white,

00:41:01.040 black,

00:41:01.420 yellow,

00:41:01.760 red,

00:41:02.080 doesn't matter.

00:41:02.740 That doesn't have that mentality.

00:41:04.380 I pay my dues.

00:41:05.720 Fuck you.

00:41:06.940 So I just took a pee break.

00:41:09.720 And I'm not going to lie.

00:41:12.000 Tyler's got me.

00:41:13.120 Let's see.

00:41:13.540 I've got one,

00:41:14.240 two,

00:41:14.440 three,

00:41:14.920 seven more waters to drink.

00:41:16.160 I've only drank two,

00:41:17.080 which is unusual because usually I drink five or six waters before I have to pee.

00:41:23.100 So I don't know what's going on.

00:41:24.540 Yeah.

00:41:25.080 Maybe it's just all this fire that I've been getting fired up about.

00:41:27.700 Let's reel it back in though.

00:41:28.800 For real.

00:41:29.280 Like I'm not trying to get on here and be all political because everybody's got their beliefs

00:41:32.400 and I respect your beliefs because your beliefs are based around your worldview and perspective that you've been brought up into.

00:41:39.220 We're also not anti poor people.

00:41:41.680 Fuck dude.

00:41:42.820 Look,

00:41:43.880 no.

00:41:46.300 Look,

00:41:46.660 let's reel it back in.

00:41:48.300 Okay.

00:41:51.120 Whatever your worldview or your fucking perspective is,

00:41:54.220 it's that way for a reason.

00:41:55.700 But if you want to really move forward,

00:41:58.460 which is why you're listening,

00:41:59.840 you have to be able to see why your worldview is what it is and why you think the way that you do.

00:42:07.400 And you have to be open to listening and accepting or evaluating at the very least other worldviews.

00:42:15.400 And so when we talk about personal responsibility, you know, and you're sitting there, you know,

00:42:25.040 maybe not where you want to be and you're sitting there frustrated and you're sitting there, you know, this and that, and you're telling yourself, well, I grew up poor.

00:42:32.980 My family's poor.

00:42:33.980 My family's poor.

00:42:34.360 You know what?

00:42:35.360 That's a valid reason.

00:42:36.660 And that's a valid reason for you to have poor think in your brain, but it's up to you.

00:42:45.220 Personal responsibility to identify that and fix it so that you can move forward.

00:42:51.520 Am I anti-poor people?

00:42:53.360 No, I had a motherfucker on Instagram try to quote me the other day and said, if you're not rich, you're lazy as fuck.

00:43:01.320 And I was like, dude, he like direct quoted me.

00:43:03.980 He said, this guy's a bully.

00:43:05.280 This is what he, are you fucking serious?

00:43:08.060 You know what I mean?

00:43:08.920 Dude, people hear what they want to hear.

00:43:10.760 And if you're listening right now and you're thinking, oh, Andy fucking hates poor people.

00:43:14.380 No, I don't fucking hate poor people.

00:43:16.520 I want you to be as wealthy as you want to be.

00:43:20.320 I want you to be successful as you want to be.

00:43:22.360 That's why I do this shit for fucking free.

00:43:25.860 Okay.

00:43:26.920 Now, when you talk about why you are where you are, which is why I recommend the book Third Circle Theory so hard.

00:43:35.260 You know, people ask me, is that a real book?

00:43:36.960 Is it a good book?

00:43:38.320 Yeah, it's a fucking great book because it helps figure out, it helps you identify and figure out why you think the way you think.

00:43:45.560 And if you grew up in a household where people were on fucking food stamps and you couldn't afford shit and everybody drank Dr. Pepper all day and fucking smoked cigarettes, guess what you're likely to do with your life?

00:43:57.140 Because that's all you fucking know.

00:43:58.620 But at some point, just like this J.K. Rowling quote, which is great, I've never heard that before.

00:44:04.640 Have you heard that before today?

00:44:06.000 It's good, isn't it?

00:44:06.900 It's my favorite.

00:44:07.600 Yeah.

00:44:07.760 So, just like this quote says, you know, the moment you're old enough to take the wheel, the responsibility lies with you to fix the problem.

00:44:17.460 Okay?

00:44:17.820 That would be like the next four words on that quote.

00:44:21.380 Right?

00:44:22.040 So, if you are this person that we're talking about, you know, I think ultimately you have to be able to accept the fact that every decision that you've made to this point in life has gotten you to where you are.

00:44:36.180 You know what I mean?

00:44:37.540 All these decisions that you've made, all these things that you've done, they've gotten you to where you are.

00:44:43.720 What you do at night after work matters.

00:44:46.200 What you do on Saturday matters.

00:44:47.960 What you do on Sunday matters.

00:44:49.760 Just because the rest of the world takes Sunday to have Sunday fun day and get fucking wasted every fucking Sunday and go to work Monday hungover.

00:44:58.720 And, you know, and then Tuesday they feel less hungover so they get a good day at work.

00:45:01.660 Wednesday they're thinking about Thursday night happy hour so they don't do shit.

00:45:04.280 Thursday they're thinking about Thursday night and Friday night so they don't do shit.

00:45:07.400 Friday they zone out.

00:45:08.620 Saturday they're off.

00:45:09.360 Sunday they're off.

00:45:10.160 So, really, they're working one fucking day a week.

00:45:13.200 Okay?

00:45:13.920 Whose fault is that?

00:45:16.680 Everything fucking matters.

00:45:18.560 Everything.

00:45:18.960 And people don't realize that.

00:45:21.020 People think that, you know, it's about the time they clock in at 9 o'clock to the time they go home at 5 or 4 or whatever.

00:45:29.080 You know, and in reality, when are people clocked out?

00:45:32.460 They're clocked out not at fucking 5 o'clock.

00:45:34.400 They're clocked out at fucking 1 o'clock after lunch.

00:45:37.600 See what I'm saying?

00:45:38.520 Absolutely.

00:45:39.260 Yeah.

00:45:39.460 And it all matters.

00:45:41.940 You know, and people are like, man, I work my 60 hours a week.

00:45:46.040 If I'm not getting, it's going to take more.

00:45:48.120 It's going to take more.

00:45:50.260 It just takes more.

00:45:52.220 And it may not take more hours.

00:45:54.580 It might take more focus or more productivity or more effectiveness.

00:45:59.940 Right?

00:46:00.620 Right.

00:46:01.360 So, when we talk about this, you know, I work my 40 hours.

00:46:05.820 That's what you're fucking supposed to do.

00:46:07.740 You're supposed to do that.

00:46:09.720 It's not time to celebrate your 40 fucking hours a week.

00:46:13.420 Right.

00:46:16.720 So.

00:46:17.300 And I respect anybody that fucking works.

00:46:19.680 If you work for a living and you are working your 40 hours a week and you're happy with where you are in life, that is fucking great.

00:46:27.520 I am not judging you.

00:46:28.820 Good for you.

00:46:30.700 That's amazing.

00:46:31.560 But the minute it comes to your bitching about it, why you don't have this or why you're not here or why this, that, whatever, that's whenever I have a problem with it.

00:46:40.460 Right?

00:46:41.340 Right.

00:46:42.820 So, let's reel this shit back in.

00:46:44.380 Okay.

00:46:44.560 Otherwise, we're going to be talking for seven fucking hours.

00:46:46.600 People are going to be like, this fucking podcast was too long.

00:46:49.280 Well, so, obviously, in funerals, we talk about how the DLA departed impacted us.

00:46:54.740 Let's talk about what we're losing here.

00:46:56.320 Dude.

00:46:56.580 With the demise of personal responsibility.

00:46:58.700 I mean, we've talked about it a little bit, but why don't you flesh it out?

00:47:01.300 I mean.

00:47:01.600 What are we losing?

00:47:02.540 Dude, we're losing fucking America.

00:47:05.480 I mean, everybody knows that I'm, I'm, I like, I don't speak much politics on the internet because I don't have time to argue with fucking idiots.

00:47:13.820 Okay.

00:47:14.660 But I, I do have my views politically.

00:47:17.160 I am more than welcome to share them in a, in a proper environment, which is why I do the revolution tour with Sean Whelan.

00:47:24.600 We, it's a political hearted talk.

00:47:28.140 Right.

00:47:29.620 But, but I do that with people who show up and want to hear that because nothing's more annoying than the person who fucking spouts their political shit right up your ass all fucking day long.

00:47:39.280 I don't want that.

00:47:40.440 It's annoying.

00:47:40.920 So I try to keep that off the show as much as possible, you know, but, but the reality is we have lost America.

00:47:46.620 We've lost the American dream being a fucking proper and worthy goal for people.

00:47:52.420 Right.

00:47:52.820 You know, nowadays it's not cool to be successful anymore.

00:47:56.980 It's not cool to have big dreams anymore.

00:47:59.620 It's, you know, what's cool being average and that's, that's, what's cool.

00:48:03.540 You know, it's not fucking cool.

00:48:04.860 Right.

00:48:05.320 We've lost that, you know, um, it's, it's, it's too bad that I have to state the obvious, but I mean, people, when you go back to the original, you know, 1776, people always like to focus on all the, all the rich white men that founded the country.

00:48:15.980 Well, no, but to think about it, I mean, let's think about this.

00:48:18.580 Um, literally the history of our country, literally the American dream is poor immigrants who had nothing come over, work hard and make something of themselves.

00:48:30.360 I mean, that's America, dude.

00:48:32.620 I mean, I'm reducing it to one thing, but that's America, right?

00:48:36.180 I mean, isn't that true?

00:48:37.040 Dude, my grandpa came to this country with nothing.

00:48:41.740 Okay.

00:48:42.800 Um, my grandpa adopted my dad.

00:48:48.580 Okay.

00:48:49.060 Cause my dad's biological father was killed in world war two.

00:48:52.400 All right.

00:48:53.240 So my grandmother remarried and the man that we call my grandpa, which was my, my dad's adopted father came to America 1903 with fucking nothing.

00:49:06.740 All right.

00:49:07.520 He started a business with nothing.

00:49:11.080 He raised 12 fucking kids with nothing.

00:49:14.360 All right.

00:49:15.120 My dad, because he observed that work ethic became an entrepreneur.

00:49:20.480 He went out and started a business.

00:49:22.440 He became successful in business.

00:49:24.780 Okay.

00:49:25.480 And my dad was pretty fucking successful in business.

00:49:28.620 All right.

00:49:29.480 Now here I am third generation.

00:49:31.400 I observed what my dad did, which was predicated off of what my grandfather did with nothing.

00:49:40.880 And here we are.

00:49:42.760 See what I'm saying?

00:49:43.760 Absolutely.

00:49:44.240 Which ties into what you said.

00:49:45.440 Okay.

00:49:45.600 So, so people say, but you grew up with, with blah, blah, blah, a visual, seeing all this.

00:49:51.920 And I did, that's my advantage, but that advantage is predicated off somebody who started with fucking nothing and took responsibility.

00:49:59.220 It's generational responsibility.

00:50:01.000 So while you might be broke as shit right now, and you might be thinking, oh, it's not fucking fair.

00:50:07.620 Why don't you think about three generations down the road and what your name's going to mean then?

00:50:12.840 See what I mean?

00:50:13.840 Absolutely.

00:50:14.600 And the, and the opposite is true too.

00:50:16.140 There are a lot of really hardworking.

00:50:17.620 People can't just say, oh, that was your advantage.

00:50:19.680 Because frankly, there are a lot of really hardworking fathers who has, who have lazy sons, you know?

00:50:25.320 So it's not this.

00:50:26.000 That's what happens when you give them everything.

00:50:27.200 Yeah.

00:50:27.440 There's not this automatic transfer, transference.

00:50:29.980 Yeah.

00:50:30.220 He gave, you know, he gave me a salad of fucking basics.

00:50:32.940 I'll tell you what he did give me.

00:50:34.860 He gave me the ability to fucking figure shit out on my own.

00:50:40.200 You know, dude, dude, a lot of people will look at my dad and look at the way that we met my brother and I were raised by him

00:50:47.640 and really fucking judge him harshly.

00:50:51.760 Like, for example, when we would go to his house on the weekends, because my parents were divorced from a very young age when I was five years old,

00:50:58.800 we would go to his house and there would be nothing to eat.

00:51:01.380 My dad was a bachelor.

00:51:02.840 There'd be nothing to eat in his fucking house.

00:51:04.960 There was microwave chicken sandwiches.

00:51:06.700 He would buy them at Sam's and like, dude, that was it.

00:51:09.840 And he didn't make us food or take us to eat or anything.

00:51:11.940 It was like, all right, you had a choice between saltine crackers, hot sauce, mustard, and fucking grilled chicken sandwiches.

00:51:18.840 And you know what?

00:51:19.580 You'd be amazed at what you could fucking do with those four items together.

00:51:23.620 You can make some good fucking shit.

00:51:25.700 All right.

00:51:26.480 But the point is, is that, dude, we were taught to take care of ourselves.

00:51:30.060 You know, he let us do whatever we wanted to do.

00:51:33.220 If we got hurt, we got hurt.

00:51:34.960 You know, when we did bad shit, we got in trouble.

00:51:37.400 I mean, the point is, is that she's not that way anymore.

00:51:41.980 You know, he didn't, he didn't buy us fucking video games and sit us down in front of them.

00:51:47.280 You know?

00:51:48.220 Right.

00:51:50.800 No, I mean, it goes back to what you were saying.

00:51:52.460 I mean, dude, we had those talks before we'd go play soccer when we were little.

00:51:55.340 And it was like, go fucking out there and kill these other kids.

00:51:58.560 You know?

00:51:59.040 And people were like, oh my God, I can't believe he taught you that.

00:52:02.720 Well, why can't you believe that?

00:52:04.960 Is that not what the world's like?

00:52:07.140 Do you not get put in a competitive atmosphere, even if you're working at McDonald's?

00:52:11.480 Do you not need to know how to compete and how to fucking win?

00:52:15.140 I would say that's probably the most important thing you need to learn how to fucking do.

00:52:19.280 You know, and you got everybody right now hearing this being like, dude, you're fucking savage.

00:52:23.440 You're fucking heartless.

00:52:24.380 No, motherfucker.

00:52:25.400 I have a heart, which is why I want to win.

00:52:27.280 So that my kids have the opportunity to fucking see that.

00:52:29.780 So they'll win too.

00:52:32.240 It's more, more, you know, simple minded people think it's about money.

00:52:36.140 It's not about fucking money.

00:52:37.460 It's about fucking winning.

00:52:38.660 You know, when we talk about what we've lost, let's talk about that.

00:52:41.620 Because we talk about, you know, families.

00:52:44.020 And I mentioned families earlier because nowadays we have these parents not taking responsibility for their own fucking kids.

00:52:51.520 And the kids don't take responsibility for obeying their parents.

00:52:55.080 It's a vicious circle.

00:52:56.500 Right?

00:52:57.340 You don't take responsibility for obeying your fucking boss or bad mouth.

00:53:01.780 Think about these parents that have problems with their kids bad mouthing or talking back.

00:53:05.620 Where do you think they got that?

00:53:07.220 Right.

00:53:08.620 They sure as fuck didn't get it from you coming home every day and bitching about your boss and saying how your boss is a piece of shit and blah, blah, blah.

00:53:14.520 Right?

00:53:14.860 Oh, heaven forbid, no.

00:53:17.840 Right.

00:53:18.860 You know, dude, other things, you know.

00:53:21.860 How about getting along with each other?

00:53:23.520 Black, white, gray, you know, gay, straight, yellow, red.

00:53:26.640 It doesn't matter.

00:53:27.900 Everybody's blaming everybody else for all these different things.

00:53:31.500 You know, everybody's a victim.

00:53:33.300 Everybody's fucking racist.

00:53:34.760 Everybody's sexist.

00:53:35.940 Everybody's homophobic.

00:53:37.860 You know, motherfucker.

00:53:38.680 It's just gotten out of hand.

00:53:41.920 Yeah.

00:53:42.320 You know what I mean?

00:53:43.000 It is true.

00:53:43.520 Like, how can we possibly all get along if we're blaming everyone?

00:53:46.800 Dude, you can't.

00:53:47.560 If we're blaming the other person.

00:53:48.780 You can't.

00:53:49.700 Yeah.

00:53:50.040 And like, all these problems that we talk about and, you know, the lack of self-esteem, legitimately feeling good about ourselves.

00:53:59.820 Why do we not?

00:54:01.180 Why do we have all these depressions and all these things?

00:54:03.360 You know, why do we have people blowing up schools and shooting people for no fucking reason?

00:54:08.420 Why has that gone up so much?

00:54:10.360 You know, how can anybody feel good if you don't allow them to accomplish anything?

00:54:15.720 You know, that comes.

00:54:17.140 It's just, dude, all these problems come from the same point of not taking responsibility for your own actions, for your own self, for your own life.

00:54:29.540 I mean, dude, we could just beat this to death all fucking day long.

00:54:32.540 But at the end of the day, you know, we've lost the personality of America.

00:54:38.980 And I would argue that unless something changes drastically and change starts with, you know, you made that joke about Michael Jackson, the man in the mirror.

00:54:46.340 Change starts with the fucking man in the mirror.

00:54:49.400 And unless we fucking change the way we start looking at things and what we celebrate and what we think is cool and what we think is great.

00:54:56.420 Dude, we're going to lose America.

00:54:57.920 We're going to lose the personality of America.

00:54:59.940 You know, like, think about what the personality of this country was growing up.

00:55:05.280 It was hardworking Americans.

00:55:07.660 I think if you try to say that right now, I think people will fucking laugh in your face.

00:55:12.940 You know what I mean?

00:55:14.140 I know they would.

00:55:15.180 They would say that that's the myth that politicians created over the course of the last 200 years to make our country feel good about itself.

00:55:24.840 Dude, hardworking Americans?

00:55:26.740 Americans, fuck.

00:55:29.440 Go look at every fucking field.

00:55:31.220 Go, you know, we were fortunate to live in the Midwest, which everybody calls flyover states.

00:55:35.720 But I actually think it's one of the most beautiful parts of the whole entire country.

00:55:39.100 Absolutely.

00:55:39.660 I agree.

00:55:40.560 And a lot of people don't get to experience what we do.

00:55:43.240 But I mean, take a drive across the river through Illinois right now and look at all the fucking farm fields.

00:55:48.660 All right.

00:55:48.940 Realize that every fucking one of those fields used to be a forest covered with fucking trees.

00:55:55.920 Okay.

00:55:56.800 Now think about clearing those fields without fucking equipment, without fucking, you know, tractors, without fucking heavy excavators, bulldozers.

00:56:11.020 All right.

00:56:11.800 Think about this shit.

00:56:13.140 That's fucking work.

00:56:14.880 That's man shit.

00:56:16.160 You see what I'm saying?

00:56:18.220 We don't have that fucking anymore.

00:56:19.940 Dude, think about the first scene of Saving Private Ryan.

00:56:23.080 You know, the very first scene, the first time I saw Saving Private Ryan, I was just like shocked at like just the balls of that fucking generation.

00:56:32.100 Everybody knows the scene.

00:56:33.840 You know, they're on the fucking boat.

00:56:35.200 They're driving in.

00:56:36.260 Dudes start yelling.

00:56:37.060 They roll the fucking door down.

00:56:38.200 And all of a sudden it's just 20 dudes are fucking just dead.

00:56:41.620 Yeah.

00:56:41.980 Dudes are jumping off.

00:56:43.660 You know, dude.

00:56:45.360 We don't have that anymore.

00:56:47.120 We don't have that fucking courage like that anymore.

00:56:50.260 Are there people who are fucking to have that?

00:56:54.460 Yes, there are.

00:56:55.240 And they're in the military.

00:56:57.040 But I mean, dude, our average Americans, they're not willing to fucking do that shit anymore.

00:57:01.400 You know what I mean?

00:57:02.220 They're worried about, you know, that's somebody else's job.

00:57:04.460 I hope I'm wrong, but I've often wondered like if a foreign army rolled into America, like obviously our military.

00:57:10.440 I still think people would pick up and fucking do it.

00:57:12.740 Yeah.

00:57:12.900 But the point is, is that it's definitely not as badass as it used to be, you know?

00:57:17.100 And like what people think work is, is not fucking work, you know?

00:57:22.640 And everybody's like, Andy, you talk about working hard and you work at a fucking office.

00:57:26.560 Yeah.

00:57:26.800 I also grew up in a family of fucking construction and I know what it's like to pour concrete forms

00:57:31.560 or finish concrete or work on a foundation crew or paint a fucking stripes on a parking lot

00:57:35.820 and 200 fucking degree heat.

00:57:38.060 I know what that shit's about.

00:57:39.920 You know, you know, part of the reason I am where I am is because I don't want to go back

00:57:42.640 to doing that and I don't have a fucking college degree.

00:57:45.160 So if shit goes bad here, guess what I want to be doing?

00:57:48.280 I don't want to do that.

00:57:49.700 You know why I don't want to do it?

00:57:50.560 It's fucking hard.

00:57:52.380 I like coming to work in the air conditioning.

00:57:54.260 Call me a bitch.

00:57:55.120 I like it.

00:57:56.460 You know what I mean?

00:57:57.180 But I took responsibility for myself to fucking decide that I didn't want to do those things.

00:58:02.860 So I created this new thing that I don't have to do that stuff.

00:58:06.560 And that's nothing.

00:58:07.260 Dude, my favorite people in the world, because it's the people I grew up around, are like

00:58:12.360 construction, blue collar people.

00:58:14.460 Those are the people I grew up with.

00:58:16.100 That's my family.

00:58:17.440 If I go to a family event, my family event is all people who work for a living.

00:58:23.140 You know, they bust my balls, you know, because they all really work.

00:58:25.980 And I'm like, you know, always the guy talking about work.

00:58:28.920 But I get work.

00:58:29.960 They know.

00:58:30.360 They respect me.

00:58:31.080 They know I know how to fucking work.

00:58:32.720 You know what I mean?

00:58:34.180 But, you know, I don't know, man.

00:58:39.360 I'm frustrated.

00:58:40.360 I know people are frustrated.

00:58:42.360 You know, and I hope that, you know, I hope that people will start with themselves taking

00:58:48.200 back.

00:58:48.760 Because we still have, I would argue right now, we have more opportunity to be successful

00:58:56.520 and to take control of our lives than we've ever had before.

00:59:01.240 Okay?

00:59:01.580 And the speed at which we can succeed in this country right now is definitely at a much

00:59:07.400 faster rate than ever has been before.

00:59:10.140 You think about my dad in business.

00:59:12.120 You know, when he wrote a letter, he had to fucking put it in an envelope and like lick

00:59:15.300 the motherfucker and like close it, you know, they didn't have, they didn't have the fucking

00:59:19.560 sticker ones.

00:59:20.440 You know what I'm saying?

00:59:21.420 Like, dude, you know what that tastes like.

00:59:23.880 Shit tastes terrible.

00:59:24.840 Yeah.

00:59:25.440 You know, most of these fucking kids now, they don't even know that taste.

00:59:28.340 They don't even know the taste of a fucking envelope.

00:59:30.780 Go to the fucking office depot and get a motherfucking envelope that you have to lick.

00:59:35.800 You know what I'm saying?

00:59:36.540 And now imagine doing that as many times as we text or write an email or communicate.

00:59:42.900 You know what I'm saying?

00:59:44.000 Absolutely.

00:59:44.600 And then waiting.

00:59:46.280 So send your emails out and then wait five days before you get to check the email again.

00:59:52.000 That's the pace at which they had to work.

00:59:54.540 Now we have the social media, which is free.

00:59:58.280 We have the ability to create a brand for ourselves, which is free.

01:00:01.380 We have the ability to reach people on a massive scale, which is free.

01:00:05.560 They used to have to pay for that.

01:00:07.600 We have the ability to communicate instantly, which is free.

01:00:10.620 We have all these tools, but we have the most excuses of all time.

01:00:16.020 So if you're somebody right now who's sitting there saying, fuck that, I'm going to take

01:00:19.620 charge, motherfucker, you're the guy, you're the guy who's going to end up ruling the fucking

01:00:25.760 capitalist earth because most people aren't doing it.

01:00:32.240 They're not doing it.

01:00:33.560 They're talking about doing it.

01:00:34.860 Gary and I had a fucking, a real conversation about people who come to our events.

01:00:42.480 I call them success zombies.

01:00:44.720 You know what I'm talking about.

01:00:45.800 The people who will pay anything, read anything, do everything they can to educate their brain

01:00:51.800 and never actually do it.

01:00:54.560 Right.

01:00:54.660 That's what we're living with right now.

01:00:58.920 You know, and, and, and you guys, especially you young guys, man, young guys, when I say

01:01:04.280 guys, I mean men and women, you young guys, fuck, dude, I would kill to trade places with

01:01:11.680 you.

01:01:12.480 Dude, 20, nine, 17, 18, 19, 20.

01:01:15.320 Oh my God, dude, you can have all my shit, figure out how to change back.

01:01:20.100 You know, there's your guarantee.

01:01:21.940 You're guaranteed to have all the shit I have and make the money I make.

01:01:25.020 Most people will be like, yeah, I'll fucking take that.

01:01:26.900 Right.

01:01:27.140 When you're 20 years old.

01:01:28.080 Right.

01:01:28.620 Fuck dude.

01:01:29.140 I would take the uncertainty over that anytime because there is no real uncertainty.

01:01:35.280 It's the result of just like a cake.

01:01:37.520 You put the shit in, you put it in the oven and something comes out.

01:01:41.600 Yeah.

01:01:41.920 You know what I'm saying?

01:01:42.980 Yeah.

01:01:44.400 Yeah.

01:01:45.460 I don't know, man.

01:01:46.280 Like I look, we've got an opportunity and especially with the elections going, I'm going

01:01:52.220 to go a little political here.

01:01:53.840 I'm not going to tell you who to vote for or tell you who I'm going to fucking vote for.

01:01:57.140 I've said in the past, I was going to vote for Trump.

01:01:59.140 I'm not sure I'm a vote for Trump.

01:02:00.740 I'm not sure because I like some of the things the other guys are saying, but, but what I

01:02:04.660 will say this is be open-minded and realize and be aware of your worldview while you're

01:02:10.800 evaluating these candidates, while you're evaluating what these people are saying to

01:02:14.760 you, think about why you think the way you do.

01:02:17.620 And think about how you would think if you came from a successful family or you were an

01:02:22.380 entrepreneur, because eventually you're going to be in those choices you make now are going

01:02:25.740 to fucking affect you.

01:02:27.560 You see what I'm saying?

01:02:28.880 So don't think about voting on somebody for what they're promising you now.

01:02:33.100 Think about voting for somebody for the person who you're going to be in five years or 10

01:02:38.120 years.

01:02:39.440 Right.

01:02:40.120 That's a good word.

01:02:40.900 Right.

01:02:41.300 That's a good word.

01:02:42.160 Okay.

01:02:42.380 So let me just wrap it up with this.

01:02:44.800 You know, when you give up personal responsibility and you put everything on somebody else, you

01:02:50.660 lose yourself.

01:02:52.080 Okay.

01:02:53.060 We've lost our identity as human beings in America right now.

01:02:58.220 And I think it's temporary.

01:02:59.320 I don't think it's, I don't think it's forever.

01:03:00.960 I think it's temporary, but instead of people who have wills and can make choices and make

01:03:06.600 an impact and make a difference, we become these little robots who say, Oh, I have no choice.

01:03:11.020 I must automatically respond as a victim to any circumstance that arises.

01:03:15.120 I must obey my parents.

01:03:16.700 I must be like my peer group.

01:03:18.440 I must like my neighborhood association.

01:03:21.040 I must agree with my political leaders and my, and I must abide by my economic class, my

01:03:26.600 race, my gender, or whatever.

01:03:28.180 Like, look, we're fucking people.

01:03:31.120 We have free will in this country.

01:03:33.460 We have freedom in this country.

01:03:35.020 And people who say we don't, you're full of shit.

01:03:37.680 This is the freest fucking place on earth.

01:03:39.740 We have the most opportunity on earth.

01:03:44.820 Still, you have to find the responsibility within yourself to take advantage of that.

01:03:52.800 And if you want to sit back and be a victim and be a bitch and be a pussy your entire life

01:03:57.520 and do nothing, create nothing, be nothing, and want that for your children and the next

01:04:03.620 generation that grew, that, that, that grows under your tree, by all means, keep doing

01:04:09.540 what you fucking do, but you're not making it any easier for you.

01:04:12.600 You're not creating a worthy legacy and you're not going to be shit because nobody's going

01:04:16.600 to come give you a damn thing in life.

01:04:18.420 All I do is work, work, work, never run the sidelines, I only hustle, hustle, hustle,

01:04:23.560 never take your day off, I only work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work, work,

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 22, 2016

Rest In Peace, Personal Responsibility, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO55

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