REAL AF with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.400 I can stack them hunts to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:04.880 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.560 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:19.240 Today is Tuesday. That is the day after Monday.

00:00:22.940 If this is your first time listening, welcome.

00:00:25.900 Our fee that we charge, and we are extremely, extremely, extremely adamant about this charge that we charge is this.

00:00:40.120 We ask for no money. All we ask for is that you tell a like-minded friend about this podcast if you felt it brought you value.

00:00:51.920 If you didn't feel it brought you value, then tell me to fucking eat shit.

00:00:56.520 I'm cool with that. I'm all about delivering content that helps you.

00:01:01.960 But if you did find value, and I know you're going to because I'm good at what I fucking do,

00:01:09.140 I ask that you tell one of your friends, and I don't mean just tag them in my post.

00:01:13.600 I mean talk to them about the podcast because this is a movement.

00:01:17.500 This is something I do for free. It's something I do because I'm passionate about sharing with you the lessons that I've learned over the last 19 years in business

00:01:29.840 where we started out with literally nothing, and now, this year, we're going to do over $200 million.

00:01:39.380 Okay? And the next year, we're going to do more than that, and the next year, we're going to do more than that.

00:01:43.280 But the point is this. For the last 20 fucking years, your parents, your teachers, and everybody that's been bringing you up

00:01:49.200 have been telling you the wrong shit.

00:01:50.860 They've been telling you things like everybody wins, and everybody's special, and everybody deserves.

00:01:57.820 And no matter what comes after deserve, it's wrong because we don't deserve fucking anything.

00:02:03.680 My goal here is to tell people and teach people and show people what it actually takes to win.

00:02:12.900 All right?

00:02:15.040 That's also why I have a line of children's books.

00:02:17.680 If you haven't gotten the children's books, you can find them on Amazon, or you can find them on my website,

00:02:23.060 andyfusella.com.

00:02:25.100 These books are not just regular children's books.

00:02:27.640 They are books that are designed to give parents a tool to help them teach their kids how to win early.

00:02:37.400 Okay?

00:02:38.340 It's to teach kids the lessons that they're going to need to know from a core value standpoint in order to succeed in life.

00:02:46.040 This doesn't mean just make a lot of money.

00:02:47.840 It means become whatever it is they want to become.

00:02:51.000 Because we all know what parents and teachers tell us when we're little, right?

00:02:54.980 They tell us we can be anything we want.

00:02:57.400 You can be anything you want as long as you put your heart into it or some other shit like that, which is great.

00:03:04.020 They tell us that.

00:03:05.420 But what they don't tell us is the actual things that we need to know to do that.

00:03:11.780 And then what's even worse is once we get to a certain age, they stop telling us that we can be anything we want,

00:03:17.120 and they start telling us that you need to be realistic, and you need to get your head on straight,

00:03:21.700 and you're too much of a dreamer.

00:03:22.820 And you know what?

00:03:24.060 That's probably not a good idea because not many people are successful at that.

00:03:28.320 And they guide us into being mediocre.

00:03:31.620 Unintentionally, by the way.

00:03:32.700 That doesn't mean they're bad people.

00:03:33.980 They're great people.

00:03:34.740 They have good intentions.

00:03:35.780 They're just repeating what they've been told.

00:03:37.640 So my mission with this podcast and my books is to help reverse the failed parenting strategies,

00:03:45.200 the failed cultural strategies, and the failed success strategies that have been basically taught to every single one of you your whole fucking lives.

00:03:53.560 Today, I'm going to talk about one of those two, and that is this.

00:03:56.700 You need to stop worrying about what everybody else does.

00:03:59.840 Because so many of you motherfuckers make zero progress because you're too fucking busy counting other people's money.

00:04:06.480 You look at your neighbor's car.

00:04:08.220 You look at your neighbor's house.

00:04:09.700 Your friends from high school.

00:04:11.040 You try to find out how much money they make.

00:04:13.580 And you try to find out what kind of, you know, job they've got going on.

00:04:16.900 And this and that and the other.

00:04:17.960 And you're always concerned with what everybody else is doing.

00:04:21.740 You're what I like to call counting other people's money.

00:04:26.740 And guess what happens to people that fucking count other people's money?

00:04:31.100 They fucking lose.

00:04:32.840 All right?

00:04:33.580 There's tons and tons and tons of situations out there that I can point to from life experience about this.

00:04:39.500 And you have to understand that when you're counting, and I'm going to give you four real reasons why you shouldn't count other people's money.

00:04:48.360 First of all, you have to realize that you only see what other people want you to see.

00:04:56.620 You don't see their debt.

00:04:58.600 You don't see the shit that they pay for their car or their house.

00:05:04.160 You don't see what their credit card statement looks like.

00:05:06.960 All you see is the brand new fucking house and the brand new fucking car.

00:05:11.620 And you believe that the salary that they tell you they make when they're bragging to you at dinner on Friday night about how fucking awesome they are is the truth.

00:05:22.500 When in reality, they're probably lying.

00:05:25.080 Okay?

00:05:25.360 They're probably exaggerating how much they make.

00:05:27.540 They probably have leveraged themselves to the hilt to drive that new Mercedes and to live in that new house.

00:05:34.620 Okay?

00:05:35.520 And they're probably fucking barely treading water.

00:05:38.760 But you look at them and you see how is John and Susie so much more successful than we are.

00:05:43.740 They're not, motherfucker.

00:05:45.160 But you're counting their money.

00:05:47.460 You're counting their money.

00:05:48.720 And it's making you feel bad about yourself.

00:05:50.980 It's making you feel like you're not as good and you're not as successful.

00:05:55.820 All right?

00:05:56.360 It's just a bad thing to do.

00:05:59.000 And let's move on to the second point.

00:06:01.340 The second point of this is that let's say they're not lying.

00:06:05.360 Let's say they are telling the truth.

00:06:07.740 Let's say John and Susie do have a nice fucking house and they can afford it and do have a nice fucking car and they can afford it.

00:06:14.520 Let's say they have five fucking cars.

00:06:17.540 Here's the thing you don't understand.

00:06:19.420 You don't see what they give up.

00:06:21.540 You don't see what they're doing while you're watching fucking Walking Dead and playing fucking PlayStation.

00:06:27.280 You don't see what they're doing at night and weekend when you're enjoying your off time.

00:06:34.160 You don't know what they've given up and you don't know what they've had to do to get where they're going.

00:06:38.540 All you take is the surface level evaluation of their inventory and compare it to yourself.

00:06:43.620 And because you think that you work harder than everybody else, you're going to look at them negatively.

00:06:48.940 So not only does it make you feel bad about yourself, it makes you resent them when in reality they're out there doing more than you.

00:06:56.260 Quit counting other people's money.

00:06:59.000 Another thing, and both point one and two, of how this affects you negatively is this.

00:07:04.920 Comparing yourself to other people, guess what?

00:07:07.400 It makes you unhappy.

00:07:09.140 Because A, you're seeing only what they want you to see and most people want to show off.

00:07:14.180 And B, you don't see the hard shit that they put in.

00:07:17.640 So you're assuming that they don't have to work very fucking hard and all of a sudden they're doing better than you.

00:07:21.960 What's that make you feel about yourself?

00:07:23.460 Makes you feel like you're a fucking loser.

00:07:26.700 You're looking at their life as, and social media makes this way worse by the way.

00:07:31.760 You're looking at their life like it's a fucking highlight reel.

00:07:35.340 Because that's what they want to show and that's what they want to tell you and that's what they want you to think.

00:07:40.780 Everybody wants you to think they're fucking winning.

00:07:43.040 Nobody goes out to dinner and says, man, you know what?

00:07:46.180 I've really overextended myself.

00:07:47.980 I fucking have this nice house and this nice car, but I've only got a hundred bucks left at the end of fucking pay period to live for the next two weeks.

00:07:55.000 Nobody says that shit.

00:07:56.900 What do they do?

00:07:57.740 They pretend like they got their shit going on.

00:07:59.980 They pretend like they're fucking making all this money because their egos are fucking fragile.

00:08:04.520 They're insecure and they have to make other people feel like they're doing better than they actually are.

00:08:10.660 Now, by the way, there's a huge difference between this person and the person who can actually afford it.

00:08:15.760 And when you compare yourself to the person you can actually afford it, guess what?

00:08:19.660 You still feel like shit because you're not fucking getting it done.

00:08:23.440 So stop comparing yourselves to others because it's going to make you unhappy.

00:08:27.660 And the fourth and final point of why you should never, ever, ever count somebody else's money is this.

00:08:38.060 The more focused you are on what somebody else is doing, the less you can fucking do.

00:08:45.040 You look at somebody who's driving a nice car, who lives in a nice house, who's doing this, who's going on the trips that you want to go on.

00:08:52.300 And what do you think?

00:08:53.400 You sit there and stew about how the fuck they can afford it, about how the fuck they can live this life that you want, and you can't, and what happens?

00:09:04.580 They continue to live the life that you want, and you sit there and get mad about it.

00:09:09.480 And what doesn't happen?

00:09:10.960 You're not taking the steps that need to happen for you to live the life that you want because you're so enamored by somebody else's life that you can't even take fucking action.

00:09:20.660 That's what happens when you count other people's money.

00:09:25.060 It's a terrible habit.

00:09:26.780 It infects society.

00:09:28.320 And by the way, you don't have to just count their other money.

00:09:33.040 You can do this by counting how good their relationship is, okay?

00:09:38.540 Counting how good their family life is.

00:09:40.520 You can take inventory of other people's lives, and it can still fuck you up.

00:09:45.740 It doesn't just have to be money.

00:09:47.200 Money just happens to be the most common way people do this.

00:09:50.720 They look at people's fake lives.

00:09:53.120 They look at people's fake images.

00:09:54.520 They look at people's real lives, people's real images, and they feel poorly about themselves.

00:09:59.040 And they get so fucking wound up about what everybody else is doing or perceived to be doing that they do nothing.

00:10:07.380 They don't do the things that are necessary for them to build their life.

00:10:10.980 They don't take the career seriously.

00:10:12.780 They don't put in the personal development.

00:10:14.580 They don't do the extra work.

00:10:16.320 They don't educate themselves.

00:10:18.460 They don't do the things that will progress them into the existence that they're so angry about that someone else has.

00:10:24.300 And what do they do?

00:10:25.160 They get angrier and angrier and angrier and end up bitter as fuck, broke as fuck, mad as fuck, with nothing to show for their entire fucking lives.

00:10:35.440 That's what counting other people's money is going to get you.

00:10:38.480 So fucking stop.

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Stop Counting Other People's Money, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO229

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