Successful People Think Differently About Risk, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO23
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Summary
In business and life, successful people think differently about risk. That's the point of The MFCEO Project. We want you to become the motherfucking CEO of your life, and we want to show you how to take control and become the best you that you could be.
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Hey, this is Vaughn Kohler and you're listening to the MFCEO Project.
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Your question is, what's going to happen if I take a risk?
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Andy's question is, what's going to happen if you don't?
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In business and life, successful people think differently about risk.
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Hey guys, what's up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project.
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Welcome. I'm Andy and I am the motherfucking CEO.
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Everybody always asks me that. They always say, Andy, what the fuck, dude?
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The motherfucking CEO. Can't you just be the CEO? No, I can't.
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I'm not an entrepreneur. Can I be a motherfucking CEO?
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Yes, you can. And that's the point of the MFCEO Project.
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We want you to become the motherfucking CEO of your life.
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We want to show you how to take control and become the best you that you could be.
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And quit making all these pussy-fied excuses that are so popular in today's culture.
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You know, you don't get a trophy for 17th place.
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You don't get told you did a good job when you didn't.
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These are reality. These are things that are fact.
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Yet, that's how most kids are raised these days.
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Why the fuck is that, Vaughn? The pastor of disaster?
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I don't know, but can I drop some deep thoughts on you?
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I might. I might. I got to think about it. Let the spirit lead.
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So, I'm so glad to be part of this whole project.
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But, you know, you're always saying that we have a word for what America has become.
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And I was just thinking, like, that doesn't only apply to business.
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You know, you think about, like, the whole world.
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There are some seriously wicked people out there who want the demise of America.
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You know, you think about, like, ISIS, and they literally cut off the heads of little kids,
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and they absolutely want nothing more than to destroy us.
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And I'm thinking, is America going to be able to survive if we are a generation of...
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I just had a conversation on the phone in the parking lot waiting to come in here.
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And, dude, everybody now thinks that they're entitled...
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Like, entitlement is the word of the decade, right?
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Everybody throws that around, especially the right-wingers,
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which I happen to be more of a conservative thinker in terms of political stance.
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But they like to throw that term entitlement around.
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And it is an epidemic, but I don't think people really realize how big of a problem that is.
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They look at it like, oh, people don't want to work, and they want to collect unemployment.
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And sit on their ass, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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And we're not the great generations that we have been in the past, like our dads and our dad's dads.
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But where that comes into a bigger issue is when you start talking about global issues like what you're talking about.
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You're talking about competing with countries and organizations and things that are fucking evil, and they're not good.
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And we have a bunch of sheep over here that sit around and cry about how come they don't have an extra $5 to go fucking McDonald's.
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You know, I pride myself on trying to keep the perspective I had whenever we were first starting out.
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I'm not going to sit here and say that we were the fucking, you know, we crawled out of the fucking gutter because we had good parents.
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We had people that taught us things, and we had these kind of resources, okay?
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People have made far more of themselves than I have at a much younger age with much harder circumstances than I have.
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And that's the point of what we talk about here is that, you know, fuck, if I can do it, anybody can do it.
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And the reality is I don't see much of that anymore.
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And I don't know if you saw it, but just something set me off yesterday.
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So basically, I'm in Starbucks, which probably was my first problem.
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But so I'm in Starbucks, and there's a kid, and the grown man with him is obviously his dad.
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And his dad brings him a, I don't know what it was, but the kid looks at it.
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He goes, I specifically told you that I didn't want a pumpkin spice latte.
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And I'm sitting here thinking, what in the world?
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And I'm literally sitting here thinking, number one, I can't imagine for the life of me ever saying that to my dad and not getting a belt across my butt.
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But then on top of that, I thought, can you ever imagine a member of the greatest generation or someone who made the world safe for democracy or the generation that beat Hitler?
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But would previous Americans ever have said anything?
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I mean, there were probably individuals who were like that, but across the board, that's not the way the generation was.
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And it's kind of, I don't know, it was kind of scary to me.
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Like, when I read that story, I was fucking embarrassed for that dad.
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Because that kid's going to grow up thinking that everything is deserving of him.
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He's going to get to be 19, 20, 21 years old, get out in the real world a little bit.
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And the real world is going to step right on his fucking face.
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He's going to need to get on fucking antidepressants.
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He's going to fucking, you know, he's going to need to go to rehab.
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He's, you know, or he's going to fucking, you know, shoot a school or some fucking crazy shit.
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How bad did you want to smack that fucking kid?
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But honestly, I mean, as crazy as it sounds, I just thought to myself.
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So if some foreign army rolls into America, are we going to, are we going to fight back?
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No, we're going to say, hey, I want my, I want, I didn't want pumpkin in my fucking
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Well, I'm like, first of all, you should have already been listening, dude.
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Second of all, it's not, you don't have to be an entrepreneur to listen.
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It's getting your mind right to succeed in any area.
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I mean, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm okay at being an entrepreneur.
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We all have our little areas, but the principles can be applied to these areas to be successful.
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And they're all the same, you know, and it's fun.
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And when I talk to people about it, they're like, well, what's it about?
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And I'm like, dude, you just got to listen, man.
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You're going to learn a little bit of business.
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You're going to, you're going to hear some funny stories.
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You know, it's, it's, um, plus you get to be part of a great group of people.
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And, and I think all of us are all of us at some point, I don't know.
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I feel like we kind of rolled this project out at like the perfect time because all of
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us, even like, like people I would have never imagined that are like super politically correct
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that I've known, like for, you know, like you have those friends on Facebook that you have
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totally opposite views of and you're like, you secretly like hate all their posts, but
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But like even those people for me, like I look at their shit and I'm like, dude, even
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these people are getting tired of this politically correct shit.
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I was surprised who liked my posts that I posted yesterday.
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Dude, I think people are tired of the same old shit.
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And, and I don't know, whatever it is, man, like we kind of rolled this out at the right
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time and it's really hit a good nerve, but, um, yeah, but man, you know, on a humorous
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note, you're always saying that some of the, some of the guys that listen to us do some
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Somebody DM me and said, dude, I'm going to make a shirt that says I'm not religious,
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You know, and we're having a good time and I think we're affected people.
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The, the, we're getting the fluff and the, and the clutter and you know, the, the politically
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correct nonsense out of the equation and just giving the facts and that's what people
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So I shared, I shared a couple of fears about the direction of our country, but I I'm, I'm
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going to jump in and just say question of the day for you is what does the MF CEO fear?
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You know, it's funny cause I had a conversation about this earlier regarding the difference between
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humility and modesty because you know, that's a pet peeve of mine.
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Like everybody hides under the humble tree because they are afraid of doing the work required
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Yet, if you were to switch that same person, when that person looks at somebody who has
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something nice, who's sitting under the humble tree and they say, Oh, I would never drive
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But if you say, Hey, here's the fucking keys, they would take it in two seconds.
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So my point is, is like, it's a, it's a pet peeve of mine because people are so hypocritical
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And they hide under it as an excuse as to why they haven't done what they need to do to
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And they don't even understand the meaning of the fucking word.
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Humble doesn't mean what your wallet says or what your car you drive or what shoes you wear or whatever.
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You know, if you don't know what the word humble means, don't fucking use it.
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But anyhow, my point to all this is that I was having this conversation with a friend
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about the differences between humility and modesty.
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You know, humility has this, this, um, I don't know.
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It has like this feel good, like people feel good to be humble and they feel good to be modest.
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But in reality, what you're really saying is that you're okay being much less than what
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And people hide under the humble tree, you know, and they fucking throw rocks at you.
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And so we started talking about it and we were going through and going through and, you
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know, we were going back and forth because, you know, there are people out there that drive
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And they just blatantly brag and that's a different story.
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And I basically told him, I said, look, man, I said, here's the reality.
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I work my ass off to be able to do those things.
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Because it makes people uncomfortable about what they've done.
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What scares me is not living the life that I want to live.
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It's not, it's not being the person that I want to, that I want to be.
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It's, it's living a life that I look back on and say, dude, you wasted your whole entire
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life for fear of what, you know, might've happened or what might people might say about
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you, you know, which is the reality of what most people do.
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You know, they get to be fucking 75, 80, 90 years old and they say, man, I should have
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I, I, I remember way back when we were first working on a chapter about this very topic
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that you said, like one of the worst things that you could ever have on your tombstone
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are the four words, what might have been right.
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But people are so busy worrying about what they're going to, what restaurant they're going
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Like, you know, them worrying about that kind of stuff.
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They just put it in the back of their mind and say one day it'll figure itself out.
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That's how you get to be 50 years old and, and, and feel like you haven't done anything.
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Well, what you've done is you put out the important shit for the right now.
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So, so to avoid that, what might have been in that, that, that sense of regret and wasting
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your life that fits right into our topic today.
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I mean, it's all how you perceive risk, you know, and that's something that we've talked
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We've talked about, um, you know, in the book that we're writing and, and we've talked
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about, you know, a number of times just in casual conversation, um, how successful people
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view risk versus people who are of average mindset, you know, it's a totally different
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kind of thinking, you know, successful people don't look at risk as something to be avoided.
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They actually see risk as the thing that prevents bad things from happening, like maintaining
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the status quo or living a half ass average life or, or being below where they want to
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You know, they don't see it as the thing that's going to keep you from getting there.
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They think they see it as the thing that's going to keep you from getting where you want
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You know, most average people see risk and they see, well, I could lose everything and
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I couldn't, when in reality, they don't even fucking have anything to risk.
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So what do you, what do you, what are you trying to hold on to?
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It's not like you living on the edge is going to be that big of a deal for you.
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So facing a risk isn't an obstacle to greatness.
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If I risk this, they ask what's going to happen.
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And that's something you need to listen to and understand.
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If I step outside this box, what's going to happen?
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If I do this outside my comfort zone, it's going to, what's going to happen.
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So I know that there are people who are going to listen up into this point and they're going
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And, and they're, and tomorrow they're going to, they're going to quit.
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They're going to quit their job and they're going to say, Hey, the MF CEO told me to
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And they're going to drain their bank account on fucking the newest call of duty.
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So is that's, that's not, is that, that's not what you're talking about.
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We're talking that you're talking about careless risk taking.
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But I mean, people need to think about calculated risks versus careless risks.
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They see risk and they automatically think careless.
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You know, that's cause that's most of the time what people do.
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They make decisions on the short term, not on the longterm, you know, and that's where
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most people are, um, you know, and before we get further into this, you know, you have
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There's a huge difference between having a plan and there being a little bit of possible
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downside or having no plan and just fucking running out.
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So what, what, what does make the difference between the two?
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I mean, obviously careless is just like, like I said, impulsive, not really thinking about
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things, but what, what would be some of the criteria that you say, okay, this is how you
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These are the things, these are the factors that you have to consider.
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Well, you have to really think about what it is you're trying to accomplish, right?
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You have to think about the consequences, the hard work involved, um, and spend time thinking
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objectively about the value of your product or service.
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You know, people don't like, if you're obviously, if you're thinking that that's a business,
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I mean, clearly where it's business context, right?
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But the reality is, is most people can't, most people don't even think about what it
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So whenever they think about risk, it's hard for them to develop a calculated risk because
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Um, so the first thing is you've got to get a sound plan.
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You know, it's got to be like a 60% plan, you know, 60% chance I can make this because
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in the 40% chance that you don't, you're going to learn something and you're probably not
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going to, the mistake that you make in that 40% is probably not going to kill you.
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It's probably just going to put a little debt in your progress.
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So you've got a 60% plan of, Hey, this, this plan will get me there.
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You have some balls, you step up and you say, dude, I'm doing this.
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And you don't worry about getting approval from your grandma or from your mom or from
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You know, people, people don't believe in things before they happen.
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And, um, a good quote by my buddy, Michael Gebbins, who I spoke with in Virgin Islands
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a couple of weeks ago is, uh, is to achieve the impossible.
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And I'm not a big quote guy, but I'll never forget that one to achieve the impossible.
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They could see they're invisible, but they can't see yours.
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And it was evidently one of his, um, they were walking around the entire magic kingdom
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and all of all the, the grandeur that the, that the amusement park had become.
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And he died before all of that actually got done.
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And somebody said to his grandson or son, it's a shame that, that Mr. Disney never got to
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And I thought that, that good, that kind of gave me goosebumps because it's like, yeah, he
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And I can tell you from my point of view, you know, um, in 2006, I had, uh, and I've
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said this before, I had a store, I had a, uh, store employee stand up and look at me
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right in the fucking eye in front of the whole company and say, Andy, not one of these stores
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I have stores that do that in three or four days.
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Here we are almost 10 years later and look where we become.
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We were a million dollar company at that time in 2006, 1 million.
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This year, we're going to surpass over a hundred million, closer to $120 million with all of
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No, I, I used to draw the diagram for our company plan in a conference room that sat
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eight people and that was cause we only had eight people.
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And, and, and dude, only two of those people that ate are still with the company.
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The rest are, the rest didn't believe the rest didn't fucking see it and they're not
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And dude, you're not going to have people believe in you.
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You're not going to have people that are going to say, Oh yeah, dude, I totally see what
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And more likely they're going to say, dude, what the fuck are you doing?
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You're going to risk your, you're going to risk your, your whole life.
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Is your whole life something that you've, is your life you're living right now, the exact
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Cause if you're not living the exact life that you're living, that's what you're risking.
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You're risking what you can build in the future by not taking the action.
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And you can't depend on your brother, your mom, or your fucking dad or whoever to say,
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Oh yeah, son, I think that's a great idea because most of the time they're not.
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They're going to say, go get a fucking job and be a normal human.
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So this is a place for one of our infamous asterisks.
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Well, this is one of, this, this is a good place for one of those.
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Because I know that you agree that while you should not do things based on other people's
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approval, I'm guessing, I'm just going to guess here that you're not saying don't take
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You have to be smart about who you're going to listen to.
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Most likely try to find somebody who's been through what you're trying to do and say, man,
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And they're not going to say, hey, fucking go buy some magic fairy dust at fucking Disneyland
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That's like my biggest thing about this whole podcast is like, dude, I want people to remove
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I hate when I talk to people and they say, man, that guy got lucky, man, that guy, not
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me or any, when they say about anybody, dude, that guy's lucky.
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You have no fucking idea what it took to get where he is to be.
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And people don't, people don't think about success.
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They can think about everything else logically in their life.
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You know, put the square block in the square hole.
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But when it comes to success and you tell them, Hey, you make this plan and follow it.
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They're like, no, there's gotta be something more.
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I had somebody that basically said to me, dude, you kind of fell into something really great
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He goes, well, there's a lot of people, a lot of people that want to work with him.
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You just, you were there at the right, right time, right place, right time.
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So, so, I mean, I quite, quite frankly, it's an insult to you.
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Calling somebody lucky is like, is like calling their mom a whore.
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It's the worst insult you could fucking put on somebody.
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Especially someone who's literally worked to be where they are.
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I mean, dude, is there circumstances out of somebody's control?
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Yes, I have a very good friend who, who inherited a lot of money and I'm talking about billions
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Do you think that, you know, people say, oh, he's so lucky.
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He's lucky half his family isn't there to celebrate his life with them.
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He's lucky that when he has kids, he'll never know their fucking grandpa.
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Like, dude, he's lucky that everybody that looks at him is never going to see him for
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They're going to see, they're always going to blame it on what he inherited.
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You know, dude, you don't think it has its own struggles?
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You know, people don't give, they say lucky, they don't fucking think about it.
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It's also, it's also, it also doesn't take into account the fact that he, he could,
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if he want to, even though it's an enormous amount of money, he could end up becoming a failure
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You know, you're not thinking, like, dude, to call somebody lucky.
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Like, dude, when it comes to like that kind of shit is an insult.
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Like, dude, if like, you know, if, like, for example, like when I got stabbed and a fucking,
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the fucking knife went literally two centimeters away from my eyeball, that's lucky.
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Because I'd be walking around like a fucking pirate with a patch on my eye.
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You know, that would be the fucking, that would be the name of the show.
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When you take a calculator risk, there's going to be factors that are going to be beyond your control.
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There are things in the future that you can't possibly predict or know that are going to happen,
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but you better be damn sure you've thought about the factors you can control and know the things you can know.
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Otherwise, it's going to be a careless risk you're going to lose.
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Hey, guys, I should say that if you're interested in checking out the show notes for this particular podcast episode,
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just go to the MFCEO website and check out themfceo.com forward slash 23.
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You can get all the show notes for this episode on risk.
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But, Andy, you said earlier, and I want to, I'd really like you to kind of flesh out what you're talking about.
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And I know that people listening would probably like to know why.
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Like, why should, I mean, you've already said a little bit.
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And the reason that risk should be embraced is because nothing great comes without risk.
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It all involves anything great that you could think of your entire life all involves some sort of danger.
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And it's only when you put yourself in this perceived danger, which most of the time is perceived, that life becomes interesting.
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You know, think about when you were a little kid.
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It's only when you stepped out of the deep end of the pool that you really enjoyed yourself.
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But then after, you know, you're in the deep end, you feel like you're the biggest dude in the world.
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We're talking about the life that living with some sort of fear and danger lives.
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I'm not talking about, you know, riding your motorcycle on standing up on the back seat with no helmet.
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I'm talking about just doing some shit with a plan that makes sense.
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And you can see, you can find these little victories.
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You know, you're talking about putting yourself out there.
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Most people are so afraid, especially now with social media, they won't do it because they're afraid of criticism for the most part.
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But, you know, it's no different when you get older.
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You know, when you're little, we talk about the deep end.
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When you get older, it can be different things.
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But you want to be happy, you want to be excited, and you want to be satisfied with your life.
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And to do that, you have to have risk, and you have to create adventures for yourself.
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It's true in, you know, like, challenging yourself, like if you're interested in a particular sport.
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I mean, if you just sit around and, you know, you never ask girls out, like, you know, you're going to be kind of miserable.
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I mean, dude, you know, think about lions in Africa, okay?
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We just had that deal we saw on the internet for a month straight.
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So much so, so many are killed that they're close to extinct.
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So our natural tendency is to want to protect them, right?
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But I'll bet you if that lion could fucking talk, he'd be like, man, fuck this.
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Let me out of this cage and I take the risk of getting shot just so I can have a life.
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And it doesn't take that much risk to increase the quality of life tremendously.
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Honestly, you know, I'm not talking about risking your fucking house and your home and your car
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and your income on a daily basis, even though that's what I do, but I'm talking about little
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Things that could just bring a little bit of extra to you, you know?
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You think it's true that, and I'm sure you do, but just a thought, you know, we do live
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in a generation in which, I don't know, there's like not really another great frontier, you
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I mean, Columbus sailed here and he had to deal with whatever, all these dangers, and
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Dude, the great frontier right now is the fucking internet.
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Most people don't know what the fuck they're doing on the internet.
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And the reality is most people spend so much time on the internet that they don't do much
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You know, now money's being exchanged over the internet.
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You know, businesses are being developed that don't even exist in real life.
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So that's the frontier right now we're talking about.
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But it's sad because most people are using it just for stupid stuff.
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So like I try to explain the internet to my dad.
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And I'm like, dad, he's like, why are you always on your phone?
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And I'm like, dad, you got to understand, you know, I've got to watch the internet because,
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you know, if I have a customer who's upset or I have something that's, this is a living,
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breathing thing, 24 hours a day, no days off all the time.
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You know, now I have people that do this and help me with this.
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But I still am very, very, very involved with our social media.
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And the point is that I'm getting at is that most people live on social media and they're,
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They let these, okay, so half the people that you fucking are friends with on social media
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They're afraid of what those dumbasses might say if they post what they really want to
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They post feel good shit that, you know, everybody's going to fucking agree with.
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Like, oh, this nun from fucking Transylvania saved 50 kids.
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Instead of posting shit they really want to say or inviting a discussion or inviting
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an argument or inviting something that's going to give them a little fucking life.
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So, dude, most people let that fear alone and that risk alone of just saying what they
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And so when we talk about the next frontier, dude, it's the fucking internet.
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You know, that's what's keeping people from doing shit.
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It's the perceived idea that they might get made fun of by somebody that they really don't
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even fucking know or matters that keeps them from moving, you know?
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I mean, I was a little nervous, to be honest with you.
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A bunch of people like the post that I said, you know, about the kid with the latte.
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But a couple of my friends shared it and I thought, well, I wonder if some of the people
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they know are going to say, oh, that dude, he must believe in child abuse because he
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And I mean, I had to have a gut check and be like, I don't care.
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I would say child abuse is not spanking your kids.
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I think there needs to be as many beatings as possible with kids.
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If you're not beating your kid, you're doing them a disservice.
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And I don't mean beating them like putting them in a hospital, but I mean like fucking
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letting them know, like, have some fucking respect.
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Well, I know how you define beating and I know it's not the same as, what's his name?
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No, I'm just, I was, I'm getting crazy eyeballs here in the fucking studio.
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So, but in any case, to your point, danger makes life worth living.
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Dude, you know, think about when you go in for the kiss with the, with the girl in high
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school, you know, you don't know if you're going to get it or not.
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Like, dude, and people just, they lose that somewhere.
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They lose the ability to like do things they're not comfortable with.
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Well, comfort being the, being the key word because I think people think being comfortable
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is what's going to make life happy and it's not.
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So, so that's, that's, uh, that's point one for why, why it should be embraced.
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So, yeah, I mean, look, it's, it's also about testing yourself, you know, it's only by testing
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ourselves on a daily basis that we're going to move forward.
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And that's the only way you're going to improve as a person or show that you could actually
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Um, you know, think of, you've never tested yourself.
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You know, failure is just discovering the areas that you need work on.
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And there's a clear delineation between the way that people that are successful and have
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built success in their life, look at things like failure and fear and risk and people who
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And I honestly think that the, the, the perception and perspective of those concepts really has
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You know, it's, it's identifying the needs for growth so you can improve it.
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You know, people just have to understand how you look at it.
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You know, there's like, well, I'll say there's two sides to every story.
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And you get to decide which side you get to be on.
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You know, I think, I think a good point to drive home with people though, is that this,
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No, it's like when you have that little mental voice that says like, should I do this?
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You know, what's funny when you talked about that post on Facebook, my most popular post,
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But my most popular posts are the posts that I have to question.
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I mean, definitely the ones that rile people up are the ones that are going to get attention.
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No, but I mean, my put to my point, the whole point of every day putting yourself out there
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and this sounds kind of goofy and you'll probably make fun of me, but you know, a while ago I
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posted, you know, like my dad was really, really good at carpentry, at building things,
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I mean, that stuff waved me bye-bye a long time ago.
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But he, but that stuff, I'm just not good at that.
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And, and the thing is, is like our garbage disposal went out and I was like, crap.
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And my, my father-in-law is, you know, five hours away.
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And, and I thought, all right, I'm going to try this.
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I'm going to try to put in a new garbage disposal.
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And thankfully my father-in-law told me, reminded me to turn the breaker off, turn the breaker
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Otherwise that could have been dangerous, but I did it.
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And when I was done, it's crazy how good I felt.
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Like I, it, it, I like, I had fucking beer, weren't you?
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Vaughn sat, Vaughn went outside, cracked open a cold one.
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I got a, got a cigar and you almost grew a beard.
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My point is, is that with what we're telling people is it's, this isn't just about starting
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It's not just about, you know, asking a girl to marry you.
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It's a whole lifestyle of every day, putting yourself out there and really stretching yourself
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So the way I like to think about it is this, look, risk is always better.
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You know, like I said at the beginning of the podcast, people talk about being afraid
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I don't ask myself, what am I going to lose if I do this?
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I ask myself, what am I going to lose if I don't do this?
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Dude, what am I going to lose if I don't do this?
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I cannot drive that point home enough because it's a huge, huge, like perspective shift.
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You know, what am I going to lose if I don't do this?
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Like, you know, living in a fucking trailer and riding a bike to work and not having much,
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dude, that's a more interesting life than what most people live.
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I mean, dude, most people put too much emphasis on trying to be like everybody else.
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Like, the worst thing I would ever want to be is average.
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If people say that, oh, you think you're better than average?
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No, I'd rather be way less than average than be average.
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I'd rather, like, in a fucking success, like, quote unquote.
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Because, like, dude, some of the coolest motherfuckers I know and the most interesting people I
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know are people who have gone out and they've taken risks and those risks have led them to
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Financially, they may have less money, but they're happier because at least they went out
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You know, when I was in Virgin Islands on the boot camp a couple weeks ago, I met two
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Both of them, you know, are from the United States, moved there.
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One was, like, 17 years and one was, like, 14 years.
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He's like, dude, I get to be the part of people's best day of their entire year.
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These guys were both white collar dudes who had executive level jobs that left to go live
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Those guys, that's a risk, you know, that they took to go down there.
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And it actually ended up with them having less financial but more happiness.
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The financial thing, guys, and I know, like, you guys, you know, that follow me, you know,
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But, dude, it doesn't mean anything to me like that.
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They get to be in the most beautiful place in the world.
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They get to be a part of people's best day of the year, which I thought was so cool
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And not just risk from the financial standpoint, from the social standpoint, too.
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Because you know that there are corporate guys who know those guys who are like-
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Dude, if you don't think I was jealous of both those guys, you're fucking wrong.
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Because I'm like, I even told Emily, I'm like, dude, you know, we don't have any kids.
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I would love it, but I just don't have the fucking balls to do it.
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And plus, dude, I personally, I'd be bored after a week of that.
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But the reality is, is that, dude, the risk is always better than the alternative.
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You ever seen that movie Far and Away with Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman?
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Basically, they start out in Ireland and then they go, they go across, you know, it's this
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big epic where she and Tom Cruise go across the ocean and they try to make it.
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It's like they're a couple Irish immigrants and they basically go out to Oklahoma and they
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race for land because they want to start a homestead there.
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And what happens is that she comes from this like really rich, wealthy family and her dad's
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So Nicole Kidman's character like takes off on her own.
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And so the parents are just shocked because, you know, she's this like silver spoon in her
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So they, they're like, well, we got to have to, we have to go after her.
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And when they get there, the dad who was so miserable in Ireland, he just comes alive.
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In the, in the West and cause everything's dangerous.
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Like there's rattlesnakes and there's, you know, it's not boring.
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It's, it's, and so that's, I mean, to me, that's, that's the way you got to live.
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I mean, if you're just comfortable, you might have a lot of things in your life, but if
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you're just comfortable and you're never tested, man, that's just, that's worthless.
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So, um, guys, once again, if you're, uh, if you're interested in getting the show notes
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for this episode, it's the MFCEO.com forward slash P 23.
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I hope I said that earlier, but if I didn't, it's P 23 as in Michael Jordan, 23, number
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You know, like I said, for somebody who's, who's been, uh, you know, quote unquote successful
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in a certain area of my life, and I know a number of other entrepreneurs that are very
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successful, all of them look at risk the same way.
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They all look at risk and say, what am I going to, what's going to happen if I don't take this
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Not what's going to happen to me if I take this action.
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It's just, it's an absolute, it's, it's oxygen.
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And I can't stress how important it is for somebody to realize you are going to fucking
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We lose the, we lose the, the perspective that dude, we are mortal and our life is going
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And I guarantee you at that moment, when you realize that you're going to die and death
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And I mean, within like a few hours or a day or six weeks or whatever, you're not going
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You're going to say, man, I wasted my life because I didn't do the shit that I wanted to
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And I'm going to die with a lot left on the table.
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That's the idea that you need to grasp when you think about risk.
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That's the point that you need to think about when you think about the big picture of your
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It's not what's going to happen to me if I do this.
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It's what is my life going to be or become or mean if I don't do this.
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And if you could grasp that concept in your daily actions, you're going to have a much
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happier, much more fulfilled, much more successful life.