REAL AF with Andy Frisella - SUNDAY SERMON： How to Profit From Your Past, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO261

00:00:00.300 If you want to make your dream become reality, the people that are running after that dream know they're going to have hard times.

00:00:06.840 They keep on running because they're saying within themselves, I'm the one, I'm the one.

00:00:12.080 No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, I'm going to make it.

00:00:20.180 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project.

00:00:23.240 I'm Andy. I'm your host, and this is Sunday Sermon.

00:00:26.720 I'm here with the pastor of Disaster, DJ DJ God.

00:00:33.840 Can I get a witness?

00:00:35.460 Can you get a witness? What is that? Where did you pull that from?

00:00:39.060 That's something that they say in predominantly African-American churches.

00:00:43.320 Really? Yeah.

00:00:44.560 Did you ever go to one of those churches?

00:00:46.200 I love them.

00:00:47.420 My dad used to play some concerts. He played the big organ.

00:00:52.580 If I actually went to a church, I'd go to one of the black churches. 1.00

00:00:57.020 Yeah, they're awesome.

00:00:57.760 Yeah. Fuck, dude.

00:00:59.740 They're exciting.

00:01:00.800 Yeah, I was going to say, they're not boring.

00:01:02.460 Right.

00:01:02.880 They know how to do it.

00:01:04.000 Yep.

00:01:04.540 They know how to do it.

00:01:05.620 So good job, black people in your churches. We love it.

00:01:08.860 I'm not kidding either.

00:01:09.860 No, I'm not kidding either. I just love it.

00:01:11.720 All right. So today is a Sunday sermon, and right now, guys, I'm going to get right into it

00:01:18.320 because I just want to move and not take up too much of your Sunday.

00:01:25.020 What we're going to talk about today is your past, all right?

00:01:28.280 And we're going to get into it a little bit because a lot of people email me, and they have a lot of guilt

00:01:36.040 and a lot of anger and a lot of frustration and, quite frankly, a lot of excuses about why they aren't where they want to be.

00:01:43.140 And it always comes down to what's happened to them in the past.

00:01:47.620 You know, they say things like, you know, Andy, I live in a small town where everybody knows everybody here.

00:01:53.080 And to be honest, most of my life, I've kind of been a shitball.

00:01:56.960 So the last couple of years, I've tried to be a good person and do right by people, but it's hard because people know my past.

00:02:03.000 And then they give up on, like, trying to be a good person and just kind of accept being a shitball.

00:02:08.100 And so I want to clarify. Actually, Vaughn and I both want to clarify some things regarding that.

00:02:15.280 Kind of how to regard your past.

00:02:16.700 Yeah.

00:02:16.860 You know, how to use it.

00:02:17.760 Because I do think there's a difference between the way that average people think of their past and, we'll say, actually use their past

00:02:25.920 and the way that successful people, people that end up becoming happier and more fulfilled in life, the way that they use their past.

00:02:31.560 Yeah.

00:02:31.840 Because I think there's a way to leverage it and there's a way to misuse it.

00:02:34.560 Well, it's like anything, man.

00:02:36.300 Yeah.

00:02:36.600 Your past is there to serve you.

00:02:39.100 You're not a slave to your past.

00:02:42.200 It doesn't own you.

00:02:43.180 It doesn't direct you.

00:02:44.180 It doesn't tell you what to do or what you're going to be.

00:02:48.440 Your past and your past experiences and all the things you've gone through, all the struggles, all the negativities,

00:02:56.500 all the lessons that you've learned are there to serve you so that you can move in the direction that you want to go.

00:03:02.980 Your past actually has some of maybe the most important purpose out of any of the things that are going on in your life right now.

00:03:15.280 Because those are where, you know, all your lessons, all your knowledge, all the things that you would use to get where you want to go come from.

00:03:23.560 But the problem is...

00:03:24.740 It's the raw material for your future.

00:03:26.700 Exactly.

00:03:27.300 Yeah.

00:03:27.500 It's like the soil, right?

00:03:28.620 Yeah.

00:03:28.840 But the problem is, is that people chain themselves to who they were last year or two years ago or 10 years ago or when they were in high school.

00:03:38.400 They identify with that and they feel like, oh, I can't break out of that.

00:03:42.960 And because of that, they stay the same.

00:03:46.560 Right.

00:03:47.060 And it sounds like you're referring specifically to, like, moral failures and character issues.

00:03:52.900 But it's also true, like, in entrepreneurship.

00:03:54.920 My brother tried to, you know, years ago, tried to start a franchise with T-Mobile and it failed miserably.

00:04:01.560 And, like, he's never forgiven himself for that.

00:04:04.100 And so it's not just people being chained to their sort of moral failures, but it's just chained to your past in general, even if it's, like, failures in business.

00:04:11.840 Right.

00:04:12.160 Anything.

00:04:12.740 It's their past identity.

00:04:14.260 Right.

00:04:14.440 Like, dude, if you were made fun of in high school and, like, call fat and loser and this and that, dude, you'll find those people at 35 years old, 40 years old, and they're like, fuck, I'm a fat loser.

00:04:24.580 Right.

00:04:25.240 You know, and if you look at them, they are that, but not because other people were right, because they accepted that other people were right.

00:04:33.820 Right.

00:04:34.440 Right.

00:04:35.000 So for the average person, looking back at the things that they've done and experienced and their past, what would you say their past is not meant to do?

00:04:45.560 How should they not use it?

00:04:48.460 Well, the first thing is, is, like, dude, you've got to cut yourself a little slack.

00:04:52.300 All right?

00:04:52.600 We all grow.

00:04:53.360 We all change.

00:04:53.940 We all become new people really every fucking six months.

00:04:58.160 Like, let's be, let's be.

00:04:59.480 Yeah, that's a good point.

00:05:00.340 Like, cyclical.

00:05:01.080 Right.

00:05:01.420 Yeah.

00:05:01.560 So, like, you have to cut yourself some slack, man, and not carry around that guilt.

00:05:07.140 You know, if you've done some really bad shit, maybe you should go apologize for that shit and make amends for those things.

00:05:12.240 Right?

00:05:12.880 Because then you can, like, let it go.

00:05:15.020 Like, that's something for me.

00:05:16.140 Like, dude, like, I've always, like, things I've done wrong, no matter if it's 5, 10, you know, however many.

00:05:22.260 Dude, I'll tell you a story about this.

00:05:23.460 So, I had a guy in Springfield when I was, when we had one store.

00:05:29.980 And he designed us a logo.

00:05:35.820 His name was Stu Wand.

00:05:37.560 Okay?

00:05:37.860 And he's still, he's a jeweler in Springfield, Missouri still to this day.

00:05:42.700 Really nice guy.

00:05:43.800 Okay?

00:05:44.020 And, dude, I couldn't design our logo on a computer, right?

00:05:48.640 So, this is for our retail store.

00:05:50.160 So, I asked him to design the logo.

00:05:53.400 And I drew the logo, like, in my own handwriting.

00:05:56.460 I said, I want, like, a circle.

00:05:57.880 This is for supplement super stores.

00:05:59.500 I want a circle with, like, an S and then, like, a squared on the S.

00:06:04.380 And I showed him.

00:06:05.280 So, he went and he made the logo in, you know, the proper files that we would need for digital, right?

00:06:11.660 Like, my T-shirts and shaker bottles, whatever else we needed.

00:06:14.780 Business cards.

00:06:18.620 He gave me the bill and it was $900.

00:06:21.440 And I was like, what the fuck, dude?

00:06:23.320 I'm like, all I asked you to do was make this fucking circle with a fucking S in it. 1.00

00:06:28.000 How is this $900?

00:06:29.440 He's like, and he was a graphic designer at the time.

00:06:32.500 And he was like, well, dude, that's a logo creation.

00:06:35.340 I'm actually giving you, like, a deal.

00:06:36.820 You got to remember, like, this is going to be, you know, your logo.

00:06:40.100 People are going to recognize this.

00:06:41.320 You're going to have it on, you know, and you're going to have it on all these stores.

00:06:44.660 And this, you know, and I'm like, fuck, dude.

00:06:47.220 We got one fucking store.

00:06:48.300 We're not going to have fucking all these stores.

00:06:49.900 Like, I didn't even believe we were going to have stores at that time.

00:06:52.420 And he was like, well, you know, dude, that's what it costs him.

00:06:57.980 And, dude, I didn't have $900.

00:06:59.480 You know what I'm saying?

00:07:00.180 Right.

00:07:00.600 So, I fucking said, well, dude, I'm not fucking paying it.

00:07:02.980 I'll pay you $100, right?

00:07:04.540 So, I gave him $100.

00:07:05.220 So, like, 10 years go by, right?

00:07:10.280 10 years go by, and we have fucking 20, however many stores at that time. 0.93

00:07:15.740 This was a few years ago.

00:07:18.380 And he was, I remember thinking about that.

00:07:21.280 Like, it always bothered me, right?

00:07:22.640 Like, I always felt like, dude, that guy was right, and I fucking, you know, didn't do the right thing.

00:07:27.140 So, I tracked him down on Facebook, and I wrote him a message.

00:07:29.960 I said, hey, bro, what's your address?

00:07:33.760 And I got his address, and I sent him the $800.

00:07:37.020 And this is, like, 10 years later.

00:07:39.220 That's awesome.

00:07:39.920 Yeah, but, like, the point is that you're going to do things you're not proud of,

00:07:44.060 and what can generally help you is to make that shit right no matter how long it's been.

00:07:49.440 You know, and sometimes you'll find that the people don't even remember what the fuck you're even talking about.

00:07:54.480 Yeah.

00:07:54.620 But, it's a good way to keep you from feeling bad about the way you were in the past,

00:08:02.520 or the past failures you've had, which is basically the main thing that you have to start understanding.

00:08:08.060 It's like, you've got to cut yourself some slack,

00:08:10.460 and not hold that heavy burden of the failures that you've had,

00:08:15.040 either in business or as a person, in the past.

00:08:18.600 That's not what it's there to do.

00:08:19.900 Dude, that, honestly, that's awesome.

00:08:21.620 What you're talking about, I think, is the difference between regret and restitution, making restitution.

00:08:27.940 And there's a whole theory that says that our prison systems are way too crowded because we have the wrong people in prison.

00:08:34.820 Instead of just having violent offenders in prison, we have all sorts of people that we're putting in prison hoping that they're going to regret their actions,

00:08:43.680 when in reality, we should have a whole system that says, okay, if you go in and you, you know, vandalize some property,

00:08:50.280 you should be required to do restitution, meaning you should be required to make up for it somehow,

00:08:56.140 or somehow contribute back into society.

00:08:58.480 And go to jail.

00:09:00.000 And go to jail?

00:09:00.860 Yeah.

00:09:01.300 Like, you should have to go fix, dude, I've had my businesses vandalized.

00:09:04.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:09:05.020 I've had bad shit happen to me.

00:09:06.980 Like, those motherfuckers should come clean it up, they should force them to clean it, force them to fucking pay for it, 1.00

00:09:12.120 force them to make it like it was, and then go serve some time and think about it.

00:09:15.220 Good thoughts, good thoughts.

00:09:16.480 So definitely the emphasis is on, we've already got them having the regret part, we need to have the restitution part.

00:09:22.280 For sure.

00:09:22.560 And doing that.

00:09:23.520 But no, but your point is great, which is that at the end of the day, how you feel, whether you feel like you failed or you screwed up, it doesn't matter.

00:09:30.840 You gotta let yourself, yes, and you gotta let yourself off the hook, dude.

00:09:33.700 Yeah, let yourself off the hook, and like you said, doing something as restitution helps that.

00:09:37.560 Yeah, it does, even if it's not required.

00:09:39.760 Yeah.

00:09:40.020 You know, and let's be real, man, who the fuck on planet Earth hasn't failed or fucked up or done something they're not proud of?

00:09:48.480 Yeah, nobody.

00:09:49.580 Nobody.

00:09:50.100 It's universal to humanity.

00:09:51.180 We all do that, it's part of being human, you know, and these people, you know, they're literally making themselves feel bad, and this is totally human, it's not abnormal,

00:10:02.820 it's what we all deal with, okay?

00:10:05.000 And every single person, you know, it's just like saying, you know, I got a sore throat one time, and you know what?

00:10:12.720 I'm a fucking, I'm fucking bad for having a sore throat.

00:10:16.560 That makes no logical sense, right?

00:10:18.280 Right.

00:10:18.520 Why?

00:10:19.100 Because everybody at some point gets a sore throat.

00:10:21.640 It's the same thing, and everybody fucks up.

00:10:22.600 So you have to be able to let yourself off the hook, you know, and people try to cover this shit.

00:10:28.540 They try to say shit like, oh, I don't give a fuck what anybody thinks, and I don't fucking care what people think, and this and that.

00:10:33.700 Motherfucker, we all care.

00:10:35.460 We all care.

00:10:36.960 And, dude, the reason, you know, the reason I think people get into such a bad spot is because they start saying shit like, I don't give a fuck what anybody thinks, blah, blah, blah.

00:10:45.700 And then they start acting like it because that's what they identify with, and guess what?

00:10:49.180 Your life's going to go pretty shitty if that's really the way you think.

00:10:52.200 100%.

00:10:52.640 You know what I mean?

00:10:52.980 Yep, absolutely, absolutely.

00:10:55.420 The other thing is, you know, not only is it universal, it's just kind of irrational to beat yourself up because it's, like, what's the point?

00:11:04.200 I know, we do a lot of irrational shit, though.

00:11:06.880 Yeah.

00:11:07.220 You know what I'm saying?

00:11:07.760 But I agree, it is irrational if you break it down logically, but what we're talking about here is dealing with emotions.

00:11:12.760 Yeah.

00:11:13.080 And emotions and logic don't really go together too well.

00:11:16.020 But sometimes it's important to speak truth into your emotions and just say, listen, I cannot go back in time and change everything.

00:11:21.380 That's right.

00:11:21.740 I can't.

00:11:22.240 Right.

00:11:22.340 So what's the point of beating yourself up?

00:11:24.640 Right.

00:11:24.700 You're just better to beat your way to making things right.

00:11:28.980 Take responsibility for what you did.

00:11:30.940 Try to make them right.

00:11:32.260 And if you can't make it right and somebody won't accept your apology and you made a genuine effort, guess what?

00:11:37.280 You did what you can do.

00:11:38.360 Right.

00:11:38.640 And you got to let yourself go.

00:11:39.840 Exactly.

00:11:40.340 You know?

00:11:40.820 So your past should not be used to make you feel bad about your failures.

00:11:44.040 Yeah, for sure, man.

00:11:44.980 That's point number one.

00:11:45.740 For sure.

00:11:47.440 And I think, you know.

00:11:48.800 Well, and I guess along with that would be, it shouldn't be used to make you feel guilty about the things you did wrong.

00:11:54.740 Yeah.

00:11:54.900 Right.

00:11:55.240 Yeah, right.

00:11:55.800 And that's it.

00:11:56.400 Like, they go together, right?

00:11:58.260 Right.

00:11:58.480 Like, you have to understand, you know, I mean, I just talked about my mistakes and my failures that I made.

00:12:05.040 And something, like, that thing I just told you, that story, I'm not proud of that.

00:12:08.800 But that's something that I can make right and do what I have to do to move on.

00:12:15.020 Right.

00:12:15.360 You know?

00:12:15.720 And I learned from it.

00:12:16.940 And that's all we could do, man.

00:12:19.220 Right.

00:12:19.720 So I know you wanted to cut right to the chase.

00:12:21.520 So most people, they beat themselves up.

00:12:23.840 They regret.

00:12:24.680 They use the past just as a way to sort of immobilize themselves.

00:12:28.880 But.

00:12:29.780 Dude, and identify.

00:12:30.880 Yeah.

00:12:31.200 And identify themselves.

00:12:32.320 Yeah.

00:12:32.480 Right.

00:12:32.740 Like, most people, when they turn 18, they stay 18.

00:12:36.180 Right.

00:12:36.260 And they might age to be 50 or 60 or 80 or 100.

00:12:40.880 Right.

00:12:41.040 But in their brain, who they were at 18 is who they are.

00:12:44.420 Because at that point in time, everybody that was important to them was telling them they were that.

00:12:51.240 Right.

00:12:51.460 So, like, all their friends, when they were developing, all their acquaintances, their parents probably, you know, contributed to that.

00:13:00.360 And it's hard to understand that, you know, that shit evolves.

00:13:04.700 It's just like, it's like when you're a kid, man.

00:13:07.680 And, like, you know, you look at your parents and you look at your aunts and uncle and you think they're perfect.

00:13:13.780 Right.

00:13:14.420 And then, like, something weird.

00:13:15.840 Like, as you get older, you get to be, like, 20 maybe, 19, 20, 21.

00:13:22.420 You start finding out all the dirt that you weren't supposed to know when you were a kid.

00:13:26.120 Right.

00:13:26.560 You know what I'm saying?

00:13:26.960 Right.

00:13:27.460 And all of a sudden.

00:13:27.940 The chinks in the armor. 1.00

00:13:28.860 Yeah.

00:13:29.140 All of a sudden, you're looking at your aunt and uncle and you're like, what the fuck?

00:13:32.020 Yeah.

00:13:32.200 You know?

00:13:32.620 And, like, that's what this is like.

00:13:34.780 Like, we evolve.

00:13:35.800 We grow.

00:13:36.520 And sometimes the truth of who you are doesn't really come out until later.

00:13:43.200 Right?

00:13:43.540 And that doesn't have to be a bad thing like the example I just used.

00:13:46.260 It could be a good thing.

00:13:47.580 So, like, at 18, you know, you were influenced by these people.

00:13:52.000 And, you know, here's what's even worse about that, dude, is that a lot of people's who they decide they are is influenced by people that don't even have their fucking own shit together.

00:14:04.440 And the reason it's influenced by those people is because we're related to them and we're taught to respect them.

00:14:10.980 And we're taught that they know, right?

00:14:12.980 And then you get a couple years later and you realize they don't know shit.

00:14:16.460 Right.

00:14:17.020 And now you're who they, the reason you are who you are is because of the perception that you had of them, which wasn't even fucking true.

00:14:24.400 Right.

00:14:25.020 You get what I'm saying?

00:14:25.700 Yeah.

00:14:25.900 It's complicated.

00:14:27.200 People are complicated.

00:14:28.060 But, like, so at that time, it's probably time to say, all right, well, all the shit they taught me may or may not be right.

00:14:36.940 And to start questioning, right, and to start growing and start realizing that not only were they not right about their own shit, they weren't right about you either.

00:14:46.140 Right.

00:14:47.500 And all the bad shit that happened to you, the girls that broke up to you, the business failures, the things you did wrong, all of those things serve you if you let them.

00:14:57.920 And I think that's something that most people miss.

00:15:00.680 You know, they identify and they feel guilty with who the fuck they are or aren't based off the perception of people that don't even fucking matter in their lives right now.

00:15:12.520 And that's sad.

00:15:14.200 Yeah, absolutely.

00:15:15.540 So the average person just keeps themselves in the penalty box because they use their past to make themselves feel bad about failures and moral screw-ups.

00:15:25.080 So I knew you wanted to get to the point, how should we use our past?

00:15:29.280 How do the happiest, most successful people relate to their past?

00:15:34.480 Well, first off, they let the past teach them.

00:15:38.520 They let the past show them what is right by showing them what is wrong, right?

00:15:44.260 You know, you're going to learn more about yourself and the way the world works if you let the lessons come to your brain the way that they should instead of looking at it as emotional shit.

00:15:55.220 Oh, they were picking on me.

00:15:56.340 Oh, they were this.

00:15:57.380 Oh, they were that.

00:15:58.100 Oh, I did this.

00:15:59.440 Oh, I'm this because I'm a piece of shit because everybody says so.

00:16:02.640 You got to fucking throw that shit out the window.

00:16:04.680 And you've got to let the lessons of all those things start to build you into the person that you desire to be.

00:16:09.800 Like understanding yourself better.

00:16:11.460 Absolutely.

00:16:11.760 More self-awareness.

00:16:12.460 I know that's a buzzword, the whole self-awareness thing.

00:16:14.740 But it's a real thing.

00:16:15.080 But it is a real thing.

00:16:15.920 So just looking at the past, looking at some of the mistakes you made and the errors you committed, not to beat yourself up, but to say, okay, here's how I need to correct myself.

00:16:25.360 Here's how I need to improve.

00:16:26.680 Right.

00:16:26.800 So the past is a teacher.

00:16:28.640 It's not meant to be a slave master.

00:16:30.700 That's right.

00:16:31.220 And the other thing that I would say that I think we all agree on, because I know everybody listening to this podcast is interested in getting better.

00:16:38.100 Otherwise, they wouldn't listen.

00:16:39.060 Dude, I look back at my past, and I'm like, fuck, dude, I'm thankful that happened.

00:16:44.820 I'm grateful I was that, because it taught me this.

00:16:47.780 And now I look back at all the bad things that happened in my life with gratitude, because the lessons that I've learned have helped me become the person that I am today.

00:16:57.100 And guess what?

00:16:57.640 I'm fucking proud of the person I am today.

00:16:59.660 Yeah.

00:17:00.220 You see what I'm saying?

00:17:00.900 And without all that negative shit, and without all those people that didn't believe in me, and without all those people who did mean things to me,

00:17:07.100 and without all the mistakes that I made, I wouldn't know the shit that I know.

00:17:12.100 And I'm thankful for that.

00:17:14.080 Yeah, dude, I feel like there's just a whole, just massive difference in the way that people look at the past between people who are essentially chronic failures and those who are successful and happy.

00:17:27.460 And I was thinking that, like, when people have blessings in their life, and then they lose them, like, faster than they thought they were going to do,

00:17:33.940 the average person is like, oh, man, I got gypped.

00:17:38.320 I got, I can't believe my, I'm not minimizing this, but I can't believe my dad died when I was just 19.

00:17:44.580 But I've met people whose attitude is, man, I was so blessed to have a great dad.

00:17:47.420 You had 19 years.

00:17:48.260 For 19 years.

00:17:49.320 And it's weird, man, but you and I both are dog lovers.

00:17:53.140 Like, I, even something as simple as, like, I had a dog for 13 years that I absolutely love.

00:17:58.320 I keep a little picture in my phone, and occasionally I'll just look at it and go, like, he was the best dog to have for 13 years of my life.

00:18:04.700 Dude, look at my screensaver.

00:18:05.980 Yeah.

00:18:06.660 Andy's screensaver.

00:18:08.020 Is it Oscar?

00:18:08.660 Yeah.

00:18:08.960 Yeah.

00:18:09.420 Yeah, yeah.

00:18:10.020 And, dude, that screen, that, he died a day before his eighth birthday.

00:18:14.720 Right.

00:18:15.020 In my arms.

00:18:16.320 That's crazy.

00:18:17.000 Like, dude, somebody.

00:18:17.460 Your dad told me that whole story.

00:18:18.300 Somebody poisoned him.

00:18:19.220 Yeah.

00:18:19.420 Actually, I'm fairly certain it was somebody that I knew through business.

00:18:23.440 Oh.

00:18:23.840 So, um.

00:18:25.920 I feel like there's a special place in hell for somebody that poisons a dog.

00:18:29.060 If I knew he really did it.

00:18:30.100 Yeah.

00:18:30.840 I'd probably be in jail.

00:18:31.440 No, I get it.

00:18:31.960 I get it.

00:18:32.600 No.

00:18:33.000 But, I mean, just, I use the example of a dog instead of a person, because I think, I think at the very least, those, those things that people don't think are very significant.

00:18:40.580 I'm, I'm thinking about, like, literally, my dog saved my little girl's life.

00:18:45.300 That's a story for another time.

00:18:46.460 That's a great story.

00:18:47.080 But, but just, just like, why can't we have that attitude when we lose people earlier in our life?

00:18:53.480 It's okay to mourn.

00:18:54.520 It's okay to say, like, I'm sad and I'm affected by the fact that my, my dad died when I was 18.

00:18:59.000 Now, my dad didn't.

00:18:59.740 I'm just using an example.

00:19:00.920 But, it's okay to be sad about that.

00:19:02.800 But, instead of having the attitude, man, I'm at least better than the guy who was born into the world who never knew their dad.

00:19:09.180 Period.

00:19:09.900 End of story.

00:19:10.840 You know, just having that, that attitude.

00:19:13.520 I mean, you were, I mean, isn't that, don't they talk about that shit in the Bible?

00:19:17.080 Yeah.

00:19:17.900 Yeah.

00:19:18.320 I mean, just, yeah, it's counting your blessings.

00:19:20.040 It seems like that's how it's supposed to be.

00:19:21.200 It's being thankful for everything that comes into your life.

00:19:23.740 Dude.

00:19:23.860 Like, there's a great phrase in the Bible.

00:19:25.820 There's a, the great story.

00:19:26.840 It's actually technically the oldest story in, in recorded history.

00:19:30.340 It's the book of Job, where Job is a rich man.

00:19:33.120 And, Satan comes along and says to God, yeah, Job only worships you because you made him rich.

00:19:38.580 And, God's like, nah, go, go, go make him suffer and you'll see that you're wrong.

00:19:44.180 And so, he takes, he basically, devil attacks Job, takes everything away from him.

00:19:49.060 And, Job's attitude is, well, came into the world naked and I'm going to leave naked.

00:19:53.620 So, the Lord gave and the Lord take away.

00:19:56.460 Blessed be the name of the Lord.

00:19:58.080 And I enjoyed it.

00:19:58.920 Yeah.

00:19:59.180 And I enjoyed it.

00:19:59.880 It was great.

00:20:00.460 And it makes, it does make the, the very important distinction that I think is so important with regard to, and you've said this before in your own life, that you love having nice things, but they don't define you.

00:20:15.720 So, if those blessings, if those blessings are all taken out of your life, naked Andy Frisella came in, naked Andy departs, whatever.

00:20:23.700 That's what people get with me.

00:20:24.780 I think that's why, why we've done so well on the podcast and speaking and all the things that we've done together.

00:20:29.560 I think that's why we do well.

00:20:32.640 Because, like, people, you know, they might look at a post I make, right, and say, oh, dude, all this guy cares about is fucking money.

00:20:38.520 Right.

00:20:38.960 But if you get to spend any amount of time with me, you're going to know that I don't really give a fuck about money.

00:20:42.840 I like winning.

00:20:43.580 That's why.

00:20:44.020 And dogs.

00:20:44.640 Right.

00:20:44.880 And dogs.

00:20:45.640 But, you know, I was thinking when you were saying all that stuff, which are all great points, I think most people tend to live in the past.

00:20:54.900 And, like, what's funny, and this is a kind of embarrassing story for me to tell.

00:20:59.560 But it'll show you the difference between someone who accepts their past and has let them, has taken the lessons and moved on to learn how to be better at what someone does versus someone who lives in the past.

00:21:16.860 Dude, I was walking out of one of the restaurants I go to here in St. Louis, and I had a group of friends, or I had a group of people stop me.

00:21:28.380 And, like, they grabbed my arm, and I looked at them.

00:21:30.820 I didn't fucking recognize any of them.

00:21:32.220 It took me, like, literally, like, eight, full ten seconds to realize, like, that this was the group of people that I was hanging out with every weekend in fucking high school.

00:21:43.520 Okay?

00:21:43.940 And I'm not old.

00:21:44.840 Like, that was, you know what I mean?

00:21:46.260 Right.

00:21:47.220 But I just don't remember that shit.

00:21:49.980 Like, I don't put value on that.

00:21:51.960 Like, and some people are like, well, that's a shame.

00:21:53.700 Well, it's not a shame because what I'm doing now is so much more fulfilling that I don't have room to think about those things.

00:21:59.880 Right.

00:22:00.400 So, like, and I felt terrible, dude, because I literally, and one of my buddies, he goes, you don't even fucking recognize me?

00:22:06.280 And I'm like, bro, and I just lied.

00:22:08.180 I said, I said, bro, I've had a couple beers.

00:22:10.740 I don't, you know, sorry, but I hadn't had any beers.

00:22:13.180 Right, right.

00:22:13.880 And it made me feel like dog shit, you know, but, like, it also made me realize, like, how much I don't even think about that shit.

00:22:22.940 Like, I don't even think about it.

00:22:24.280 You know what I mean?

00:22:25.180 Except insofar as just, you're grateful.

00:22:27.720 Yeah.

00:22:27.940 Yeah, you're grateful, but you're not dwelling on it like, oh, those are the glory days.

00:22:31.420 No, fuck no.

00:22:32.180 No way.

00:22:32.520 Dude, I don't live there.

00:22:33.540 Yeah.

00:22:33.840 You know, and I feel like most people do.

00:22:37.100 And they live there and dwell there and identify with that, and they don't use their past the proper way to move them forward, you know?

00:22:46.260 And I promise a lot of the people who are listening to this right now are shaking their heads saying, yeah, that's me.

00:22:50.580 Because it's very common.

00:22:52.420 Think of the conversations that you're having with your friends.

00:22:54.620 Is it about what you're going to do or is it about what you did?

00:22:57.060 Like, think of the, you know, the things that people look forward to.

00:23:01.140 They look forward to, you know, going on a vacation and getting drunk for a week, but they're not focused on improving.

00:23:07.480 You know, like, you hear this a lot, dude.

00:23:09.620 People say, like, I want to make memories.

00:23:12.040 I want to make memories.

00:23:13.440 I want to make memories.

00:23:15.100 I understand that concept.

00:23:16.700 But the point is, is that you should be crafting your ultimate life through the lessons that are already your memories.

00:23:24.860 Right.

00:23:25.300 You know what I'm saying?

00:23:26.260 Absolutely.

00:23:27.060 That makes total sense.

00:23:28.040 So, the bad way, I guess, to use your past is, it's not, it shouldn't make you feel bad about your failures.

00:23:35.160 Shouldn't make you feel guilty about the wrongs you committed and regretted.

00:23:38.640 You said your past should serve two main purposes, which is education, teach you something about yourself and the world we live in.

00:23:46.060 And then gratitude, give you reason to be thankful.

00:23:48.740 So, I don't know, dude.

00:23:50.880 I think we covered some pretty good stuff.

00:23:52.440 I think if you guys take this and start applying this, you're going to find that it moves you ahead at a very, very fast rate.

00:24:00.180 And I can tell you for sure that you will be happier because when you're happy about where you're going, excited about where you're going, it's always better than after you've been there.

00:24:12.160 100%.

00:24:12.640 You get what I'm saying?

00:24:13.440 Like, the anticipation.

00:24:15.000 Think about when you go on a vacation.

00:24:16.300 When you go on a vacation and you're getting on the plane and you're like, fuck, dude, this is going to be awesome.

00:24:21.440 This is going to be awesome.

00:24:22.360 But after you go, you're like, how was that vacation?

00:24:24.980 Oh, it was great.

00:24:26.160 Yeah.

00:24:26.480 But that's it.

00:24:27.200 Yeah.

00:24:27.420 Right?

00:24:27.780 The anxiety, the cool part's over.

00:24:29.800 You're not as happy thinking about it as you were getting to it.

00:24:34.000 Anticipation is huge.

00:24:34.720 Right.

00:24:34.740 And this is what I talked about on Thursday.

00:24:37.580 People don't want to fucking enjoy the getting to it.

00:24:40.680 They just want to be there.

00:24:41.640 Right.

00:24:41.860 When, dude, the getting to it is the fucking prize.

00:24:44.860 You know what I mean?

00:24:46.820 Right.

00:24:47.520 And if you can learn to appreciate that, think how happy you can be.

00:24:50.780 Weird analogy, but I used to work years ago as a real estate assistant.

00:24:55.620 So I just did all this like minion type stuff.

00:24:59.240 But there was a house in Lake St. Louis that was this huge house and it was beautiful.

00:25:04.360 Could not sell for anything.

00:25:06.700 And I said to the real estate agent, what is the deal with this house?

00:25:11.420 Like, why?

00:25:11.920 It's so beautiful.

00:25:13.300 And she said, yeah, the builders made a huge, huge mistake.

00:25:16.960 Can you tell what it is?

00:25:17.980 And I was like, no.

00:25:19.520 She said, it's too close to the curb.

00:25:22.640 There's a house like this needs a long driveway where you're sort of approaching it and you're

00:25:28.500 anticipating.

00:25:29.800 But you just pull up and you're like, oh, you're at this house.

00:25:32.680 And that's kind of what you're saying.

00:25:33.720 There should be some buildup.

00:25:35.220 There should be some expectation.

00:25:36.600 Yeah, man.

00:25:37.020 It's like, you know, it's like when you get in there and then you're like, awesome.

00:25:41.440 I knew that was going to go away.

00:25:42.680 And then you're like, oh, sorry, baby.

00:25:44.320 We all know what that's like.

00:25:47.040 I knew it was going to go there.

00:25:48.000 I know.

00:25:48.580 I know.

00:25:48.900 That's because my brain is totally corrupted.

00:25:51.160 The principle holds, though.

00:25:52.280 You know what you're saying is that the expectation and the journey really makes it all.

00:25:56.780 Yeah.

00:25:57.020 You know, so and the past really is meant to to to enhance that, to enhance the present.

00:26:04.360 Hey, bro, this is a Sunday sermon.

00:26:05.820 You got to close it out properly.

00:26:07.600 How do I close it?

00:26:08.260 I don't know.

00:26:08.760 You got to do.

00:26:09.320 I'm not saying another word.

00:26:10.460 Oh, you're putting putting me on.

00:26:13.420 Well, I would just say this is that it's it's hearkening back to what Andy said earlier

00:26:18.220 or what we said earlier, is that that the past is the raw material for your future.

00:26:24.480 I will say another word.

00:26:25.760 Yeah, you better say that.

00:26:28.640 No, the past is the raw material for the future.

00:26:31.360 And it's just you have to dig in your past for the for the for the nuggets of gold, you

00:26:35.780 know, and polish those up.

00:26:37.480 And I'm not sure where this is going because this is just not my day to close up.

00:26:40.820 You're doing good, dude.

00:26:41.780 All right.

00:26:42.140 Well, I mean, come on, man.

00:26:43.760 No, seriously.

00:26:44.180 You don't need my approval.

00:26:45.140 You've been doing this for three fucking years.

00:26:46.600 No, I know.

00:26:46.860 I know.

00:26:47.160 But we we we changed the topic last minute.

00:26:49.540 So unless I'm less you got it now, what what is it that people should take away from this

00:26:54.760 podcast?

00:26:55.380 All right.

00:26:55.400 I'll drop a Bible verse on you.

00:26:56.740 All right.

00:26:57.320 In the letter to the Philippians, which, by the way, I had this pretty massively awesome

00:27:02.160 idea.

00:27:03.300 MF CEO Bible studies like it would be awesome.

00:27:07.040 But like read the thing and then give like the interpretation.

00:27:09.520 Yeah.

00:27:09.740 Yeah.

00:27:09.980 Like literally we talk about the Bible and we because there's so many that would be fun.

00:27:14.120 Dude, there's so many cheesy Bible studies out there.

00:27:17.560 Radical Christian motherfuckers. 1.00

00:27:19.040 Well, I'm telling you, I it would be awesome.

00:27:21.660 But anyway, I'll drop my favorite book of the Bible letter to the Philippians.

00:27:24.780 A lot of massively important stuff for success in there.

00:27:27.260 But Paul says, forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on

00:27:33.060 to win the prize to which I have been called heavenward.

00:27:36.260 So it's right there in the Bible.

00:27:38.680 Forget the past insofar as you're letting it enslave you and identify you and press on 0.87

00:27:45.300 to the future and have a goal.

00:27:47.500 Have a goal in mind.

00:27:48.400 Ultimately, in that context, the goal is heaven.

00:27:50.340 All right.

00:27:50.780 Being with God.

00:27:51.400 But it's certainly applicable to success.

00:27:54.080 Keep your eyes on the prize.

00:27:56.020 Don't forget it.

00:27:56.860 Or don't worry about the past.

00:27:58.680 Say it again.

00:27:59.660 Keep your eyes on the prize.

00:28:00.860 Keep your eyes on the prize.

00:28:02.860 Don't worry about the past.

00:28:04.240 Were you fucked up again?

00:28:05.680 Say it a third time.

00:28:07.360 Keep your eyes on the prize and forget about the past.

00:28:10.620 Dude, that's so smooth.

00:28:12.140 All right.

00:28:12.500 Thank you.

00:28:13.400 Thanks for listening, guys.

00:28:14.480 Bye.

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REAL AF with Andy Frisella - September 02, 2018

SUNDAY SERMON： How to Profit From Your Past, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO261

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