SUNDAY SERMON： The Common Decency That Makes You An Uncommon Dominator, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO256
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Summary
In this episode of The MFCEO Project, we discuss the importance of being a good person, and how being good in the real world can make all the difference in the world. We also talk about our favorite scary movies as kids, and why you should be scared of them.
Transcript
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If you want to make your dream become reality, the people that are running after their dream know they're going to have hard times.
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They keep on running because they're saying within themselves, I'm the one, I'm the one.
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No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, I'm going to make it.
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What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project.
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I'm Andy, I'm your host, and this is the Sunday Sermon.
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I don't know what I'm doing on the intro. I'm still trying to work this out.
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Just bear with me. It's going to be rough for a while. That's all I got to tell you.
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I'm so used to that smooth intro on the other ones.
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That's how things go. You're going to be rough.
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You know what's funny, dude? That's why I never take down the first 100 podcasts.
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I sound geeky, and I've completely grown out of that.
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I don't know. When I think of nerd, I think of just a dude who dresses kind of out of style
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and is just kind of shy and into Dungeons and Dragons and shit like that.
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And then when I think of geek, I think a dude staring at his computer screen with a white fucking shirt
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So nerd is more like intellectual, and geek is more technological.
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Explain to people what the purpose of why we started doing this.
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Well, basically, we're already a hybrid podcast.
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We talk a lot about success, productivity, peak performance, that kind of thing.
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But a common theme throughout all of that is that who you are, your character qualities,
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So we decided to elaborate on specific issues of, for want of a better term, virtue and character
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and how being a good person could actually help you kill it in life.
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So, dude, before we get to this Sunday Sermon, I have a serious question.
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And Tyler, you're going to have to jump in on Vaughn's mic here.
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So we were having a conversation earlier before the show about what movie fucked you up when
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you were a kid, like scared you, like, and you said what?
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So I was, you know, I fell asleep one night and the TV was on something like completely
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Like, it was probably the Mighty Ducks or something.
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Literally, when I woke up, it was the part where all the blood falls on Carrie and it
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But, you know, I think the reason that that's so creepy is because of the mixture of horror
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So it's kind of this spooky mixture of God and-
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So, Tyler, what movie when you were a kid that scared you?
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Oh, you're going to act like nothing scared you?
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Dude, I watched those really classic, almost horror slash comedies, like Critters.
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Dude, I would watch it because it was such a corny-
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That was one of those, like, movies, like, when you walked through the Blockbuster or
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wherever it was you were running movies, they had all the weird covers.
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And you, like, look at them, you're like, ah, fuck that.
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Like, dude, I remember when you used to walk through the video store and you would see
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all the scary covers, like Dawn of the Dead and, like, all that shit.
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And, dude, Critters had all the little fucking fuzzball-looking things on the front of it,
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The thing with the Critters movies is there was always kids in them, too, right?
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So, and that was- they were always, like, the same age as I was, so I was able to put
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myself in that situation very easily, so that's why it was kind of scary to me.
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Like, that part where the TV, like, shoots the laser beam on the wall and burns the hole
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and the fucking- dude, I could never, like, because, you know, like, if I was sleeping,
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I could never sleep with the TV on or have- like, I was afraid to look at the TV, and
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Here's what's freaky about Poltergeist, and I'm actually not kidding.
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Did you know that, like, literally five to eight people died?
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Yeah, the little girl died and everything, yeah.
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But hands down, to me, the freakiest thing I ever experienced as a little kid was, you
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probably don't- this is a little bit before your time.
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There used to be a show on TV, it was a sci-fi show called Buck Rogers, and it was like, you
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know, I mean, it was like Han Solo, only his name was Buck Rogers.
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Anyway, there was an episode where they had this space vampire called the Vorvon, not like
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Laugh the motherfuckers up, the listeners' podcast, think your name is V-O-N.
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Yeah, you know what's funny is that they always say, it took me like two years to find your
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You know what other movie had a bunch of people die while it was being filmed and after,
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Yeah, a bunch of the people in Gladiator died right as it was filming and after.
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I saw that movie like 20 years after it came out.
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They're definitely both of the same caliber in my opinion.
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So, today, the main thing that I think we need to talk about is the lack of common decency
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in the world, also known as manners, also known as courtesy.
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You know, a lot of people get so focused on getting ahead and standing out and they make
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it all about themselves and in that, I think a lot of people lose things that are considered
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and have been considered good manners and common decency for years, you know, for hundreds
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And I actually think that's a good thing because if you're truly looking to stand out, if you're
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truly looking to make a difference, having good manners and having common decency is an
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easy way to stand out, especially if you're under 30 right now, because it seems like
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people don't even have basic skills when it comes to that.
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And, you know, I think it comes down to what we talk about all the time is that, you know,
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a lot of people that try to succeed put themselves first, but the people who end up succeeding
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And that's because, you know, nobody else is doing it.
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And today, I think we should talk about a couple of points where we're going to talk
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about a couple of points that can really help young people stand out amongst their peers
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right now, because these are things that have lost favor in society.
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So, you know, the first thing that I want to address with you guys is, look, man, it's
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not, it's not cool to have bad manners and to have courtesy.
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You guys hear me cuss a lot and you guys probably think that I run around and treat people, you
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know, like shit, but it's actually quite the opposite.
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Just because I speak a certain way doesn't mean that I don't treat people with respect and treat
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And these are all things that we're going to talk about, uh, that, that I have found
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to be very effective in, in helping build solid relationships that have been very, very
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beneficial for myself and the other person over the course of my life and business.
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Uh, and I think what people need to understand, I actually know of a individual in St.
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Louis who is a genius, who is very good at what she does, but she lacks such common decency
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So it's, so it's, it's like, this is super, super practical.
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Because dude, the bottom line is if people don't like you, they're not going to do business
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And that, and that reputation gets around fast.
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So these are, these are basic things that someone can do and practice on a daily basis
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that will help you stand out and create a great reputation for yourself aside from being
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Because I think what you guys need to understand is that reputation, great reputations in business,
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And we're going to cover, you know, five, six, seven points here, uh, that can really
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Well, I want to start with just, I just want to start with a story.
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So my, my wife and kids and I were at a local pizza place in St. Louis, we have this place
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But, uh, I was leaning over to tell him what I wanted.
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And the guy, the kid who was, you know, couldn't have been 20, he goes, uh, watch the hands,
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And what he meant was, uh, you know, don't reach over the glass.
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Cause it's, I guess it's a, it's a cleaning issue.
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Now, you know, me, I, I'm not super confrontational, but like something just hit me about that.
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And I looked up at him and I said, did you mean, excuse me, sir, be careful.
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There's, you know, cleaning or clean cleanliness issues, not watch the hands, bro.
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But I feel like that's such a common mistake nowadays with people have no sense of how to
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address people who are older or in a different situation, life situation.
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Like we just don't know how to give people respect.
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So I'm curious what you have to say about that.
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Well, I think that's, I think that comes from the internet.
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You know, there's, there's a way that people talk on the internet and then you see these
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people talking in text whenever they talk to real people, like people fucking will say
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Like, like, it's like, what the fuck are you talking about?
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You know, it's just a total lack of basic communication skills.
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And, uh, you know, when you say, I mean, you just don't see people saying, oh, excuse me,
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sir, watch, watch, watch where you put your hands there because that's, we've got to keep
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Or you don't see that kind of, of, of courtesy.
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That's the kind of shit that makes you look like every other punk out there.
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Like describe to me what you would do if you caught one of your employees saying that
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Um, my, my people know that before I put them into practice, before they get put into
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play and dude, really it's about, uh, you know, situational awareness.
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Uh, you have to know when to address people as bro or when to address people as brother
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And I think that that education is not happening.
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You know, people are letting their kids be raised by television and Instagram and Facebook.
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And so what the fuck do you expect them to talk like?
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And parents are becoming less and less and less involved in their, in their child's
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I mean, you can't blame somebody who has never been taught any better.
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Well, I would just say a general rule of thumb and people may not, you know, think that it
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makes any sense, but a general rule of thumb is if someone is older than you, like, especially
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if they're significantly older than you show a little difference, just show a little respect.
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Like just, I think there is, it's true that we should earn respect through our actions and
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But especially if you're dealing with like senior citizens, show some respect.
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I personally think as somebody who employs quite a lot of people, I could tell you right
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now, as weird as you might think that sounds in front of your homies or your boys, when
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And if you want to stand out, you'll address people in a, in a positions of, of seniority
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or authority with the proper respect because it'll get you further.
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And a lot of people be like, Oh, I'm not fucking doing that.
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You could keep making no fucking money your whole life.
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You could keep being miserable your whole life.
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You could keep asking everybody what, you know, and blaming everybody.
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You know, the world's out to get, no, you're creating it by not following basic things.
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I mean, think about if you met a young kid, I mean, when in doubt, like I said, always
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err on the side of maybe being a little too respectful or too polite.
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Like if you met a young kid who was 16 and he's like, yo, what's up, Andy, you wouldn't,
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But if he was like, hi, Mr. Frisella, it's really good to meet you.
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You'd be like, dude, that's that you can call me Andy, but I appreciate you giving me,
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I just think we should go out of our way to show people respect.
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And if they want to dial it down a little bit and just say, hey, you can call me by
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You can always, you can always, you know, make it more casual.
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Dude, good manners never, never go out of style, man.
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So, um, I, what I want, I want, cause I know you've told your, this story and this seems
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so basic, dude, it seems so basic, but I know that you've taught your guys in business
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And to me, this is so fundamental to making a good impression.
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Walk people through how you actually introduce yourself and shake someone's hand.
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Dude, this, this is funny because my dad, my dad used to preach to Sal and I about this.
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I mean, I'm talking when we were five, six years old, as soon as we were old enough to
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understand this concept, he would always say like, anytime we went anywhere where there
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was going to be anybody from his company or anybody that, you know, anybody really like
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But right before we walked in, he would say this, he would say, Hey, when you meet these
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people, you look them in the eye and you give them a firm handshake and you say, nice to
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And if we didn't do it, dude, we get our ass beat after the fucking event for real.
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So like my dad, I mean, this was from the time we were five, six years old until we
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And it, it took us a while, you know, but by the time we were nine or 10 years old, that
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And it's amazing to me that adult people don't understand that that's a huge deal.
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When you meet someone, you know, when you meet someone and you reach your hand out and
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you look at the floor and just shake their hand, that is not good enough.
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You have to, you, you have to shake their hand firmly, look them in the eye and not overly
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Because like I've, I've met with a lot of women who do this because they want to, they
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Dude, that offends people when you overly shake their hand.
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You just need to shake their hand firmly and say, nice to meet you.
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And, uh, if you get a bad handshake, like it always happens once in a while, you get a
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You get like a limp wrist or like a dead fish handshake.
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You know, you grab the hand, it just doesn't work.
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And I say, I say, Hey dude, that was not a good handshake.
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It helps people, uh, you know, first of all, respect you.
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But second of all, know that you're, you're a cool dude.
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Uh, I reached out my hand and he grabbed it, but this, this might sound stupid and simple,
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but he grabbed like just my finger around your fingers.
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It was a firm handshake, but I was like, like, we got, we got done.
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And if I fucking did it again, he's like, yeah, that feels better.
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Well, I know, I know that people might say too, that, you know, you know, I'm not super
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So it's hard for me to look people in the eye and all that sort of stuff.
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It's, it's, you're actually, again, paying respect and you're being polite because you're
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showing people that, that they have your attention.
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And then when you do shake hands and it's not firm, you're basically, you're basically telegraphing
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And if you're not very confident, it makes the other person think, well, are you confident
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It also makes you think, why is this dude fucking weird?
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But it's just like a really simple way to make a huge, to do the right thing and make
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Dude, when people shake my hand and it's weird like that and they don't like try to fix
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it, like I'll try to fix it and then they're still weird.
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Like, I just, I can't mess with those people at all.
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So here's, here's one that I, I, I know you believe very strongly in and I'm, I'm going
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to call it like, uh, taking responsibility for things that aren't necessarily your responsibility.
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And so you use the example of, uh, the shopping cart, you know?
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Cause there's a lot, cause there's a lot of different examples about how all of us could
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take responsibility for things that aren't really our responsibility, but still make the
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Two of our core, like two of our core values here at our companies are take initiative
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And that doesn't mean accept responsibility for just your stuff.
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It means accept responsibility to solve the problem and take initiative goes with that
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because it means if you see a problem, you fix it.
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And what you guys have to remember is that you, you are creating habits when you do these
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things, you're creating character traits and you're not just creating character traits
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What about your kids that observe you doing these things?
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There's a bigger ripple effect here in play than just like you being a good person.
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So you have to understand you need to create the habit of taking initiative to solve the
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problem and accept responsibility for all problems.
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And what that ultimately does is create tremendous value in you as a person.
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And I could always tell a lot about people by whether they leave their shopping cart out in
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They unload their shit and they fucking put the shopping cart on one of the islands that's
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And your whole shopping cart thing kind of inspired me.
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There's two things that we try to do with our girls.
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And they're at the age that they're kind of confused because like when we go to a hotel,
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Lila's, she's almost five and she knows that there are people who come in after us and
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But what I try to tell her is, is that it doesn't really matter.
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We're not going to leave a mess for these people because it makes their job easier.
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And it's, there's no point in saying, well, it's not our place, so we won't clean it up.
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And then the other thing is we, we actually, when we go to parks and stuff, if, if we're at
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a picnic table and there's like some trash in the ground, we make them pick it up.
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I mean, we help them, but you know, but what I, what are the little things like that?
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Would you say would be taking responsibility that people could just little things?
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It's when you see, when you see something that's not right, you fucking fix it, whether
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And when you just make everything your responsibility and that becomes a character trait of you, you
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become valuable in your workplace environment and your relationships because you're the person
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And it's a habit that you create over time, but it starts with little things because most
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people will look at a shopping cart that they didn't leave in the parking lot.
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And they will say, Oh, I didn't, it's on my cart.
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And it's the same thing they do with their friends or with their spouse.
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That's why they're making 35,000 or $40,000 a year maximum for their whole entire life.
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That's why they sit on their fucking cooler in the front yard and they say, fuck, man,
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So we've been talking about little, little things you can do, you know, good deed type
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One thing that I got reminded of today that can really make you stand out is fucking good
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I was in the fucking gym today and dude, this kid was talking to me and I swear to God,
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dude, I thought I was going to fucking pass out.
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Like, dude, how about you just take a fucking shower and put some fucking deodorant on?
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If you come to work smelling like shit in my work, I'm going to send you home.
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I don't, I don't like people are like, well, how, how embarrassing is that to have to tell
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I actually, one month there was a kid that was coming to our youth group when I was a
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He was just, he just smelled so bad and I felt bad cause he was kind of an awkward kid and
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And I finally just pulled him aside and I said, Hey, listen, dude, I want you to fit in.
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And he's like, Oh, I don't think it's that bad.
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And I bought you some Axe deodorant body spray because at the time that was kind of popular
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And, and he was just like, well, I don't know if I want to put that on cause I don't
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So I basically said, if you're going to, if you're going to hang out with us, you got
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And so he did finally, finally do it, but it was just so bizarre.
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He wasn't used to, he wasn't used to like smelling that bad.
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And his mom came to pick him up and I literally.
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And his mom came to pick him up and I just said, Hey, listen, I know you want your kid
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He's not going to fit in if he comes to, if he comes to a church and he's hanging out
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Like not only is it hurting you, it's, it's, it's rude to other people.
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But you know, while we're on the subject, you're not somebody, I mean, you're someone
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Wouldn't you agree though, that there's a difference, like part of personal hygiene, it's fine to dress
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casually, but that doesn't mean dress sloppily.
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Listen, we dress casually here because I created that environment.
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Like I'm not the type that's going to wear a fucking suit to work and make everybody else
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But there's plenty of times where I cannot be casual and I have to wear a suit or jeans
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And right now you have a sit, you have this thing where this big push for individuality
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out there in the world, like show up looking like, you know, however the fuck would everybody
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Notice that anybody who says that is usually not very successful.
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Unless you're a fucking famous rapper or unless you're a famous actor.
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You're going to have to at least give some consideration to your environment.
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You know, if you're Justin Bieber and you want to walk in to a five-star restaurant on
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a business dinner with cutoff shirt and sweatpants, you're Justin Bieber and people probably aren't
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You would look a lot, he would look a lot better if he fucking dressed nice.
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But those guys can get away with stuff that us regular people can't.
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So it's interesting to me to watch the youth think that they can express themselves in that
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way in places of their employment and they think that it should be accepted.
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That's what the liberal population will tell you is okay, but notice that most of the people
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That's a, that's a great point because that's, that's an example of this whole do you philosophy.
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You want to dress the way you want to dress when you're out in the world.
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You want to be, you know, fuck dude, I'm, I have a lot of tattoos.
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You want to get tattoos on your fucking face and look like, you know, whatever at your fucking
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You're not going to have as many opportunities.
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You know, and you need to fucking understand that before you go off on this big push for
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There's times to be individual and there's times not to be.
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You know, it's like those people who, uh, like they'll hear that you're talking at a high
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school or like a junior high and they're like, how does that work?
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Or like, or people that are like, dude, is there cussing in your children's books?
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Like a lot of people here, like they hear how I'd speak.
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I'm not speaking to you guys as, you know, elders or this or that.
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But when I go speak to people who are elders or when I go speak to kids, guess what?
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I don't run through and say, fuck what they think.
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That's the, that's the context of this podcast.
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But I know when to have it on and when to have it off.
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I'm not sitting at, uh, you know, a funeral MF and everybody are saying F bombs or at a
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Well, maybe at Christmas, our Christmas dinner, but I'm just saying like,
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there's, you know, there's this, a lot of these things are getting lost with people,
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you know, where they think that it's cool to be like that all the time.
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And you have to understand their situations and you do, this is, this is so common sense.
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I'm sure a lot of people are like, yeah, no shit.
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But look, you should like, you should see some of the people that I've seen come in
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They come in here in their fucking workout clothes and you know, they're, they're dropping
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F bombs cause they know I own the company and they think that that's cool.
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No, I mean, you're, you're saying it is basic and it is basic, but sometimes people need
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Like a lot of people think like, I'm not very professional.
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I'm just not professional when I talk on this show because this is my show.
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In my show, in my show, I can communicate to you guys however I want to communicate to you
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So I'm curious cause you know, I sometimes wonder this, is this just me?
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But something I struggle with dude, and I'd love you to speak to this is speaking of common
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So like when the women go out to the club, the club, the club, whatever, the club, wear
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And what I can't wrap my head around is the women that wear the exact same thing they
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Am I just, am I just overly, am I overly conservative?
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I mean, talking about seriously, like plunging neckline, extremely, extremely high, uh,
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say it titties out, but it's just like, seriously, I mean, are you trying to hit on Jesus so bad,
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you know, but instead he's got to say plunging neckline.
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But you know, it's like, they're trying to hit on Jesus.
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I don't know that I've ever heard anybody describe it that way or describe him that way, but I
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Use your, use your, use your, I mean, it's hard to tell people to use common sense.
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The way Instagram has influenced society in general is a lot in negative ways.
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Like, like, you know, when you're speaking to like girls wearing whatever, like, it's
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just, there's so many things to be said about that for, for, for men and women.
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That's what creates the opportunity for what we're talking about.
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And if you just kind of go back the other way and have some manners and some morals and
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And, and I know we've been a little bit random going from one thing to next.
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Hopefully we've given you guys something to think about, but what I would really like
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to do, the, the, the theme of this show is have good manners, have some class, have
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You're going to be remembered because most people around you don't have any of those things
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Wipe the piss off the toilet seat that somebody else did.
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When you leave the, when you leave the bathroom, okay, how the bathroom is, it, like the person
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who walks in after you assumes you made it that way.
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So like if you go in the bathroom and there's piss all over the seat and you just pee in
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the toilet and walk out and don't clean it up, guess what the person behind you thinks?
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I think it would be great to wrap up just by saying, what are some, what are some things
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that are issues of common decency that you think we've kind of lost that are ways that
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you could relate to somebody, maybe something you, you include in conversation that when
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you walk away, the person just feels really good about themselves.
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I think, I think it's so common right now for everybody to want to talk about what they're
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doing that when you just, and by the way, this is great for rapport building and sales.
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Ask people about them and remember what they tell you.
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Like, isn't it awesome when you meet somebody from a week?
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I met a guy when I was kind of, so when you, when you graduate from seminary and you're going
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to, at least in my situation, when you graduate from seminary and you're going to be a
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you're going to go to, uh, you know, you find a job at a church, you just go to different
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churches and you do what's called candidating, which is you basically preach a sermon and
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you do different things and they try to decide if they want to hire you.
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It's kind of a weird system, but, um, but I met this guy and he was telling me about
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And when he was talking to this guy and he was a, it was a famous man, he said, when I
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was talking to him, he was so totally locked in on what I was saying.
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He said, and then, and I told him that my brother Joe was like struggling with some,
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Uh, I don't know, like he broke his leg or something.
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And, um, and then I didn't say anything after that.
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Four years later, he ran into the same famous gentleman and that guy said,
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He said, this famous gentleman said, uh, Oh, good to see you again.
00:32:47.240
I remember seeing you at the, whatever pancake feed and Hey, did your brother Joe
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And he said that he said that this, cause this guy was, I actually went down to a
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A guy who meets literally like probably right, literally two to 300 new people a
00:33:08.880
Right now, granted it is, it is known that Bill Clinton has kind of a photographic
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memory, but, but other people say, no, he's just spent his whole, whole life
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That's why people who that's, that's why even though he was a Democrat,
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Oh, one of the most popular presidents in history.
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Because he treated them like, like with dignity.
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And I, I, I totally agree with what you're saying.
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It's one of the most practical ways to create value.
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Not just when you're meeting people, but in business too.
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Like if you're like working the retail floor or you're talking to somebody about making
00:33:50.660
a sale, dude, I'm, you know, who's great at this and my let.
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And my let is one of the best of what we're talking about that I've ever met.
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Like, dude, the guy remembers, the guy remembers shit that you'll never even remember you said.
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Like, like dude, yesterday we were talking on the phone and he brought up some stuff that
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I told him back in November and I forgot that I even told him, but I know I told him
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And that's why he's built such a tremendous company.
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Like, dude, when you meet him, dude, Ed does not talk about Ed.
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I literally just told somebody about this the other day that I said, you know, in the course
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of doing the podcast, we've met a lot of really awesome people and they're all awesome.
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But I said, Ed sticks out to me in that he is, he is present to you and to me.
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You're, you're what everybody's here for, but he is so present to people regardless of
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This does not count with just people that you need something or one of me or this or that.
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This should be like, we see that meme on the internet, treat the janitor with the same
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When you have a conversation with a homeless person, you should be still doing this.
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Well, aren't, aren't, didn't, weren't you telling me the other day that you were at, you were
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at some, I don't know, this was like a couple of months ago.
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Dude, you guys need to stop putting value on people based upon where they are in the food
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I may be remembering something from a year ago, but I thought you told me that you were
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I think it was like at your favorite steak steakhouse and you walked away and to go to
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And then when you came back, you noticed that the person that you were meeting with was really,
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And it would have benefited me to do business with him.
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I know exactly what you're talking about and who it was.
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And people just don't realize the value that they can provide to people if they, if they,
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if they are present to another person, regardless of the position that they hold in society.
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Dude, I can't stand when people, first of all, you could see right through it.
00:36:08.940
Like I know when somebody's talking to me, whether they're the kind of person who's just
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talking to me because they think I'm somebody that they want to network with or do something
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with or get something from versus they're just genuine.
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And it's arrogance amongst people who are, who are doing that because they think they,
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they, what they think on the inside is that they're smarter than everybody.
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It's like a, it's, it's, it's just easy to see.
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And you know, people in a high level position, they didn't get there because they're stupid
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They might pretend they're stupid, but remember they're pretending to be stupid so that you'll
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You know what, this is, this is, this is you, man.
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Well, listen, I am not, certainly not an expert on being a decent person.
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Do things that other people aren't willing to do in a, you know, in a, in a decent way.
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I think it's the second time you said fuck on the show.
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No, you said it on Yaya's episode and then you just said it again.
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I think you just said it twice now on this show.
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Back in the 1800s, there was some like famous French writer who came to the United States
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and he just basically traveled all over the United States and trying to find out exactly
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And what he concluded was that there was a lot of just really good people in America.
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And he made the statement that America is great because she is good.
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And if she ceases to be good, she will cease to be great.
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You can make America great again just by being a decent person.