REAL AF with Andy Frisella - SUNDAY SERMON： The Common Decency That Makes You An Uncommon Dominator, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO256

00:00:00.300 If you want to make your dream become reality, the people that are running after their dream know they're going to have hard times.

00:00:06.840 They keep on running because they're saying within themselves, I'm the one, I'm the one.

00:00:12.080 No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, I'm going to make it.

00:00:20.400 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project.

00:00:23.280 I'm Andy, I'm your host, and this is the Sunday Sermon.

00:00:27.920 I don't know what I'm doing on the intro. I'm still trying to work this out.

00:00:31.420 Just bear with me. It's going to be rough for a while. That's all I got to tell you.

00:00:35.860 I'm so used to that smooth intro on the other ones.

00:00:38.260 It's very smooth.

00:00:39.240 Yeah. I don't know. I'll work it out, though.

00:00:41.860 That's how things go. You're going to be rough.

00:00:44.260 You know what's funny, dude? That's why I never take down the first 100 podcasts.

00:00:49.600 I mean, because they're pretty rough.

00:00:52.200 They are.

00:00:52.580 I sound geeky, and I've completely grown out of that.

00:00:58.240 Oh, yeah. Totally. That was the old one.

00:01:01.280 I've transcended to nerd.

00:01:02.940 Yeah.

00:01:03.820 Which is better, nerd or geek?

00:01:06.680 I think they're kind of the same.

00:01:07.940 Are they synonymous?

00:01:09.720 I don't know. When I think of nerd, I think of just a dude who dresses kind of out of style

00:01:19.440 and is just kind of shy and into Dungeons and Dragons and shit like that. 0.99

00:01:24.080 And then when I think of geek, I think a dude staring at his computer screen with a white fucking shirt 0.99

00:01:30.160 with a pocket protector. 0.99

00:01:31.500 Oh.

00:01:32.280 You know, and glasses.

00:01:33.720 So nerd is more like intellectual, and geek is more technological.

00:01:38.120 I don't know. That's how I think of it.

00:01:39.500 Yeah, I think it's possible.

00:01:40.040 Maybe that's wrong.

00:01:40.980 I don't know.

00:01:41.620 I don't know.

00:01:42.000 You're probably right.

00:01:42.980 So we got Sunday Sermon here.

00:01:44.480 Yes.

00:01:44.960 Explain to people what the purpose of why we started doing this.

00:01:49.060 Well, basically, we're already a hybrid podcast.

00:01:51.840 We talk a lot about business.

00:01:53.260 We talk a lot about success, productivity, peak performance, that kind of thing.

00:01:58.320 But a common theme throughout all of that is that who you are, your character qualities,

00:02:04.840 is a massive, massive factor in that.

00:02:07.200 So we decided to elaborate on specific issues of, for want of a better term, virtue and character

00:02:15.720 and how being a good person could actually help you kill it in life.

00:02:19.240 Yeah, kind of like church for the real world.

00:02:21.700 Right.

00:02:21.900 You know?

00:02:22.620 Right.

00:02:22.760 So, dude, before we get to this Sunday Sermon, I have a serious question.

00:02:27.640 And Tyler, you're going to have to jump in on Vaughn's mic here.

00:02:32.260 So we were having a conversation earlier before the show about what movie fucked you up when 0.90

00:02:39.520 you were a kid, like scared you, like, and you said what?

00:02:44.060 Well, we were talking about Christine.

00:02:45.500 Yeah, the movie Christine.

00:02:46.080 But then I said Carrie.

00:02:47.800 Right, Carrie.

00:02:48.200 Is like the scariest one ever.

00:02:49.640 Right.

00:02:50.100 Yeah.

00:02:50.280 So, tell them what you said to me.

00:02:54.160 Like, you woke up and-

00:02:54.940 Yeah.

00:02:55.220 So I was, you know, I fell asleep one night and the TV was on something like completely

00:02:59.460 different.

00:03:00.100 Yeah.

00:03:00.180 Like, it was probably the Mighty Ducks or something.

00:03:01.700 I was probably watching the Mighty Ducks. 1.00

00:03:03.020 The Mighty Ducks was good shit. 1.00

00:03:04.000 It is. 1.00

00:03:04.360 It is.

00:03:04.880 But anyway, when I woke up-

00:03:06.400 Ducks fly together.

00:03:07.100 Yeah, exactly.

00:03:08.700 Literally, when I woke up, it was the part where all the blood falls on Carrie and it

00:03:12.560 was so freaky.

00:03:13.260 It traumatized you.

00:03:14.160 It totally traumatized me.

00:03:15.380 Yeah.

00:03:15.600 But, you know, I think the reason that that's so creepy is because of the mixture of horror

00:03:21.140 and her mom.

00:03:21.980 Remember, her mom's like super religious. 0.95

00:03:23.860 Yeah.

00:03:24.040 So it's kind of this spooky mixture of God and-

00:03:26.580 That movie never freaked me out, man.

00:03:27.900 Oh, man.

00:03:28.520 Like that, it never scared me.

00:03:29.700 It freaked me out big time.

00:03:30.300 So, Tyler, what movie when you were a kid that scared you?

00:03:34.000 You got to say it in the mic.

00:03:36.420 Oh, you're going to act like nothing scared you? 0.99

00:03:38.280 You still get fucking scared. 0.99

00:03:40.520 Like, you're scared of females? 1.00

00:03:44.840 Let's see.

00:03:46.200 Dude, I watched those really classic, almost horror slash comedies, like Critters.

00:03:52.360 Yeah, Critters.

00:03:53.220 Dude, Critters scared me. 1.00

00:03:54.400 Shut the fuck up. 1.00

00:03:55.220 Dude, I would watch it because it was such a corny- 1.00

00:03:58.700 That was one of those, like, movies, like, when you walked through the Blockbuster or

00:04:03.180 wherever it was you were running movies, they had all the weird covers.

00:04:05.660 Yeah. 1.00

00:04:05.940 And you, like, look at them, you're like, ah, fuck that. 1.00

00:04:07.700 And go, like, somewhere else. 0.99

00:04:09.580 Like, dude, I remember when you used to walk through the video store and you would see 0.99

00:04:12.480 all the scary covers, like Dawn of the Dead and, like, all that shit. 0.97

00:04:15.880 And, dude, Critters had all the little fucking fuzzball-looking things on the front of it, 0.99

00:04:19.420 dude. 0.97

00:04:20.180 I remember that.

00:04:21.260 Oh, yeah.

00:04:22.620 The thing with the Critters movies is there was always kids in them, too, right?

00:04:26.640 Yeah.

00:04:26.760 So, and that was- they were always, like, the same age as I was, so I was able to put

00:04:30.680 myself in that situation very easily, so that's why it was kind of scary to me.

00:04:34.380 Dude, what movie scared me, man, was, uh-

00:04:36.940 Well, what are you talking about?

00:04:39.560 Oh, Poltergeist.

00:04:40.720 Yeah.

00:04:41.020 Dude, so, like-

00:04:42.300 They're here.

00:04:43.180 Yeah, man.

00:04:43.800 Like, that part where the TV, like, shoots the laser beam on the wall and burns the hole 0.63

00:04:48.800 and the fucking- dude, I could never, like, because, you know, like, if I was sleeping, 0.93

00:04:52.880 I could never sleep with the TV on or have- like, I was afraid to look at the TV, and 0.96

00:04:57.780 you know what show freaked me out, dude?

00:04:59.780 What's that? 0.99

00:05:00.180 That fucking Unsolved Mysteries show. 1.00

00:05:01.980 Oh, yeah. 1.00

00:05:02.440 When I was a kid.

00:05:03.400 And, like, now-

00:05:04.040 My brother used to love that show.

00:05:05.380 Dude, it's a good show, but it was scary.

00:05:07.100 Yeah.

00:05:07.220 It was the music.

00:05:08.140 Here's what's freaky about Poltergeist, and I'm actually not kidding.

00:05:11.500 This is one of my useless informations.

00:05:13.620 Did you know that, like, literally five to eight people died?

00:05:17.760 Right after that.

00:05:18.540 Right.

00:05:18.940 Like-

00:05:19.340 Including the little girl.

00:05:19.980 Yeah, the little girl died and everything, yeah.

00:05:21.740 Yeah.

00:05:22.020 But hands down, to me, the freakiest thing I ever experienced as a little kid was, you

00:05:27.200 probably don't- this is a little bit before your time.

00:05:29.860 There used to be a show on TV, it was a sci-fi show called Buck Rogers, and it was like, you

00:05:34.380 know, I mean, it was like Han Solo, only his name was Buck Rogers.

00:05:37.580 Anyway, there was an episode where they had this space vampire called the Vorvon, not like

00:05:42.880 V-A-U-G-H-N, but V-O-R-V-O-N. 1.00

00:05:46.120 Absolute- guys, look it up. 0.99

00:05:47.180 Laugh the motherfuckers up, the listeners' podcast, think your name is V-O-N. 0.99

00:05:51.900 I know. 1.00

00:05:52.460 They're like, hey, tell V-O-N I said hi. 1.00

00:05:54.400 I'm like, who the fuck is V-O-N? 1.00

00:05:55.720 Yeah, you know what's funny is that they always say, it took me like two years to find your 0.99

00:05:59.880 IG because I've been searching V-O-N. 1.00

00:06:02.680 Yeah, dude.

00:06:03.920 So, you know what other movie-

00:06:05.740 Anyway, the Vorvon is freaky.

00:06:05.940 You know what other movie had a bunch of people die while it was being filmed and after,

00:06:09.700 right after, was Gladiator.

00:06:11.560 Really?

00:06:11.980 Yeah, a bunch of the people in Gladiator died right as it was filming and after.

00:06:16.200 I saw that movie like 20 years after it came out.

00:06:18.540 Are you serious?

00:06:19.300 Yeah, I really am.

00:06:19.760 It's probably one of the best movies ever.

00:06:20.840 It is, it is.

00:06:21.520 It's not Braveheart, but it's good.

00:06:23.560 Oh, I don't know.

00:06:24.400 It's pretty good.

00:06:25.060 It is good.

00:06:25.580 I don't know.

00:06:26.180 They're definitely both of the same caliber in my opinion.

00:06:28.880 It's true.

00:06:29.400 Yeah.

00:06:29.520 That's true.

00:06:29.960 What are we talking about today?

00:06:31.040 So, today, the main thing that I think we need to talk about is the lack of common decency

00:06:40.720 in the world, also known as manners, also known as courtesy.

00:06:46.460 You know, a lot of people get so focused on getting ahead and standing out and they make

00:06:55.560 it all about themselves and in that, I think a lot of people lose things that are considered

00:07:03.180 and have been considered good manners and common decency for years, you know, for hundreds

00:07:08.520 of years.

00:07:10.560 And I actually think that's a good thing because if you're truly looking to stand out, if you're

00:07:15.040 truly looking to make a difference, having good manners and having common decency is an

00:07:22.620 easy way to stand out, especially if you're under 30 right now, because it seems like

00:07:27.340 people don't even have basic skills when it comes to that.

00:07:32.160 And, you know, I think it comes down to what we talk about all the time is that, you know,

00:07:37.800 a lot of people that try to succeed put themselves first, but the people who end up succeeding

00:07:43.360 are the people that put everybody else first.

00:07:45.060 Yeah.

00:07:45.340 And that's because it's rare.

00:07:47.000 And that's because, you know, nobody else is doing it.

00:07:49.780 And today, I think we should talk about a couple of points where we're going to talk

00:07:55.440 about a couple of points that can really help young people stand out amongst their peers

00:08:01.860 right now, because these are things that have lost favor in society.

00:08:06.940 So, you know, the first thing that I want to address with you guys is, look, man, it's

00:08:16.200 not, it's not cool to have bad manners and to have courtesy.

00:08:20.640 You guys hear me cuss a lot and you guys probably think that I run around and treat people, you 0.98

00:08:26.580 know, like shit, but it's actually quite the opposite. 0.99

00:08:30.720 Just because I speak a certain way doesn't mean that I don't treat people with respect and treat 0.99

00:08:35.680 people with courtesy.

00:08:36.540 And these are all things that we're going to talk about, uh, that, that I have found

00:08:41.600 to be very effective in, in helping build solid relationships that have been very, very

00:08:47.960 beneficial for myself and the other person over the course of my life and business.

00:08:52.600 Yep.

00:08:53.300 Yep.

00:08:53.720 Uh, and I think what people need to understand, I actually know of a individual in St.

00:08:58.340 Louis who is a genius, who is very good at what she does, but she lacks such common decency

00:09:05.300 that her whole career is tanked.

00:09:07.140 I believe it.

00:09:07.800 So it's, so it's, it's like, this is super, super practical.

00:09:10.360 Oh yeah.

00:09:10.740 Because dude, the bottom line is if people don't like you, they're not going to do business

00:09:13.820 with you.

00:09:14.400 Right.

00:09:14.720 And that, and that reputation gets around fast.

00:09:17.280 So these are, these are basic things that someone can do and practice on a daily basis

00:09:22.340 that will help you stand out and create a great reputation for yourself aside from being

00:09:28.900 good in business.

00:09:29.580 Because I think what you guys need to understand is that reputation, great reputations in business,

00:09:36.260 start by having great reputations as people.

00:09:40.240 Okay.

00:09:40.780 So that's what we're going to cover.

00:09:42.140 And we're going to cover, you know, five, six, seven points here, uh, that can really

00:09:46.100 help you guys stand out.

00:09:47.660 Um, I'll let Vaughn start with that.

00:09:50.500 Well, I want to start with just, I just want to start with a story.

00:09:52.720 So my, my wife and kids and I were at a local pizza place in St. Louis, we have this place

00:09:57.360 called Mod Pizza.

00:09:58.280 It's real good.

00:09:58.840 I enjoy it.

00:09:59.300 I don't know if you like Mod, but it's good.

00:10:00.740 I've never been there.

00:10:01.160 Yeah.

00:10:01.340 It's, it's good stuff.

00:10:02.360 But, uh, I was leaning over to tell him what I wanted.

00:10:05.260 And the guy, the kid who was, you know, couldn't have been 20, he goes, uh, watch the hands,

00:10:10.780 bro.

00:10:11.820 And I was, at first I was like, what?

00:10:13.740 And what he meant was, uh, you know, don't reach over the glass.

00:10:18.140 Cause it's, I guess it's a, it's a cleaning issue.

00:10:20.500 Now, you know, me, I, I'm not super confrontational, but like something just hit me about that.

00:10:25.920 And I looked up at him and I said, did you mean, excuse me, sir, be careful.

00:10:30.680 There's, you know, cleaning or clean cleanliness issues, not watch the hands, bro.

00:10:35.620 But I feel like that's such a common mistake nowadays with people have no sense of how to

00:10:40.660 address people who are older or in a different situation, life situation.

00:10:45.060 Like we just don't know how to give people respect.

00:10:47.340 So I'm curious what you have to say about that.

00:10:48.940 Well, I think that's, I think that comes from the internet.

00:10:51.480 You know, there's, there's a way that people talk on the internet and then you see these 0.96

00:10:55.060 people talking in text whenever they talk to real people, like people fucking will say 0.97

00:11:00.800 like, LOL to people. 1.00

00:11:02.060 Like, like, it's like, what the fuck are you talking about? 0.98

00:11:04.720 You know, it's just a total lack of basic communication skills. 0.98

00:11:09.060 And, uh, you know, when you say, I mean, you just don't see people saying, oh, excuse me,

00:11:16.900 sir, watch, watch, watch where you put your hands there because that's, we've got to keep

00:11:19.940 that clean.

00:11:20.400 Right.

00:11:20.760 Or you don't see that kind of, of, of courtesy.

00:11:22.980 It's like, Hey bro, watch your hands. 1.00

00:11:25.360 That's the kind of shit that makes you look like every other punk out there. 1.00

00:11:28.460 Right. 1.00

00:11:28.880 You know what I mean?

00:11:29.480 Like describe to me what you would do if you caught one of your employees saying that

00:11:32.500 to a customer.

00:11:33.580 They'd be fired immediately.

00:11:34.820 Yeah.

00:11:35.020 Um, my, my people know that before I put them into practice, before they get put into

00:11:39.380 play and dude, really it's about, uh, you know, situational awareness.

00:11:43.340 You know what I mean?

00:11:44.540 Uh, you have to know when to address people as bro or when to address people as brother

00:11:50.780 or when to address people as sir or ma'am.

00:11:53.520 And I think that that education is not happening.

00:11:57.780 You know, people are letting their kids be raised by television and Instagram and Facebook. 0.99

00:12:02.200 And so what the fuck do you expect them to talk like? 0.99

00:12:05.460 Right. 0.99

00:12:05.700 You know what I mean?

00:12:06.100 They don't know any better.

00:12:07.060 And parents are becoming less and less and less involved in their, in their child's

00:12:13.040 upbringings.

00:12:13.700 I mean, you can't blame somebody who has never been taught any better.

00:12:18.040 So what would you recommend for these people?

00:12:20.460 Well, I would just say a general rule of thumb and people may not, you know, think that it

00:12:25.560 makes any sense, but a general rule of thumb is if someone is older than you, like, especially

00:12:31.140 if they're significantly older than you show a little difference, just show a little respect.

00:12:35.160 Like just, I think there is, it's true that we should earn respect through our actions and

00:12:40.300 we should be quality people.

00:12:41.880 But especially if you're dealing with like senior citizens, show some respect. 0.99

00:12:46.260 They've lived life.

00:12:47.100 They've been around.

00:12:47.860 They've experienced things.

00:12:49.080 I personally think as somebody who employs quite a lot of people, I could tell you right

00:12:54.360 now, as weird as you might think that sounds in front of your homies or your boys, when

00:12:59.660 someone addresses me like that, guess what? 0.97

00:13:01.600 I fucking remember who they are. 0.98

00:13:03.060 Right. 0.98

00:13:03.440 And I'm not, I'm not a senior citizen. 0.99

00:13:05.860 I'm fucking 39 years old. 0.98

00:13:07.580 You know what I'm saying? 0.99

00:13:08.220 I'm still pretty young, but I remember it.

00:13:10.500 And if you want to stand out, you'll address people in a, in a positions of, of seniority

00:13:16.260 or authority with the proper respect because it'll get you further. 0.90

00:13:20.000 And a lot of people be like, Oh, I'm not fucking doing that. 0.68

00:13:22.780 They didn't earn my respect. 0.96

00:13:23.880 Well, you know what? 0.99

00:13:24.580 You could keep making no fucking money your whole life. 0.99

00:13:26.680 Right. 1.00

00:13:26.800 You could keep being miserable your whole life. 0.93

00:13:28.840 You could keep asking everybody what, you know, and blaming everybody. 0.99

00:13:32.580 Everybody hates me.

00:13:33.580 You know, the world's out to get, no, you're creating it by not following basic things.

00:13:38.720 Yeah.

00:13:38.880 You know what I mean?

00:13:39.460 Yeah.

00:13:39.740 I mean, think about if you met a young kid, I mean, when in doubt, like I said, always

00:13:45.040 err on the side of maybe being a little too respectful or too polite.

00:13:48.800 Like if you met a young kid who was 16 and he's like, yo, what's up, Andy, you wouldn't,

00:13:53.100 you wouldn't necessarily be offended by that.

00:13:55.120 But if he was like, hi, Mr. Frisella, it's really good to meet you.

00:13:58.740 You'd be impressed by that.

00:13:59.800 Absolutely.

00:14:00.400 You'd be like, dude, that's that you can call me Andy, but I appreciate you giving me,

00:14:03.660 giving me some respect.

00:14:04.760 Exactly.

00:14:05.260 I just think we should go out of our way to show people respect.

00:14:08.480 And if they want to dial it down a little bit and just say, hey, you can call me by

00:14:12.180 my first name.

00:14:12.820 That's fine.

00:14:13.360 You can always, you can always, you know, make it more casual.

00:14:17.180 Dude, good manners never, never go out of style, man.

00:14:19.080 For sure.

00:14:19.520 You know what I mean?

00:14:19.940 For sure.

00:14:20.460 So, um, I, what I want, I want, cause I know you've told your, this story and this seems

00:14:24.780 so basic, dude, it seems so basic, but I know that you've taught your guys in business

00:14:31.140 how to do this.

00:14:31.940 And to me, this is so fundamental to making a good impression.

00:14:36.260 And it is polite.

00:14:37.200 Walk people through how you actually introduce yourself and shake someone's hand.

00:14:42.080 Dude, this, this is funny because my dad, my dad used to preach to Sal and I about this.

00:14:50.380 I mean, I'm talking when we were five, six years old, as soon as we were old enough to

00:14:53.920 understand this concept, he would always say like, anytime we went anywhere where there

00:14:58.960 was going to be anybody from his company or anybody that, you know, anybody really like

00:15:04.340 out that was going to be new.

00:15:06.920 But right before we walked in, he would say this, he would say, Hey, when you meet these

00:15:12.940 people, you look them in the eye and you give them a firm handshake and you say, nice to

00:15:17.720 meet you.

00:15:18.760 Got it.

00:15:19.280 And we'd be like, yeah, we got it.

00:15:21.020 He's like, you got it.

00:15:22.360 And we'd be like, yeah.

00:15:23.100 Like he was serious about it.

00:15:24.260 You know what I mean?

00:15:24.760 Right.

00:15:24.940 Right. 1.00

00:15:25.200 And if we didn't do it, dude, we get our ass beat after the fucking event for real. 1.00

00:15:29.040 Right. 0.99

00:15:29.380 So like my dad, I mean, this was from the time we were five, six years old until we

00:15:34.360 got it where it was just automatic.

00:15:35.860 And it, it took us a while, you know, but by the time we were nine or 10 years old, that

00:15:40.900 was ingrained in us.

00:15:42.040 Right.

00:15:42.320 And it's amazing to me that adult people don't understand that that's a huge deal.

00:15:50.060 When you meet someone, you know, when you meet someone and you reach your hand out and

00:15:54.160 you look at the floor and just shake their hand, that is not good enough.

00:15:57.580 No.

00:15:58.120 Okay.

00:15:58.860 You have to, you, you have to shake their hand firmly, look them in the eye and not overly

00:16:04.140 firmly, like crush their hand.

00:16:05.600 Right.

00:16:05.840 Because like I've, I've met with a lot of women who do this because they want to, they 1.00

00:16:09.800 think that it's like a power thing.

00:16:11.200 Right.

00:16:11.560 Dude, that offends people when you overly shake their hand.

00:16:14.980 It needs to just be, that's a power play.

00:16:16.460 Yes.

00:16:16.640 And like, it's offensive.

00:16:19.120 You just need to shake their hand firmly and say, nice to meet you.

00:16:22.400 Look them right in the eye and that's it.

00:16:24.540 And, uh, if you get a bad handshake, like it always happens once in a while, you get a

00:16:28.620 bad handshake, right?

00:16:29.560 You get like a limp wrist or like a dead fish handshake.

00:16:32.580 You know what I do?

00:16:33.460 Cause it happens to everybody.

00:16:34.680 You know, you grab the hand, it just doesn't work.

00:16:36.660 What I do is I make a joke out of it.

00:16:38.200 And I say, I say, Hey dude, that was not a good handshake.

00:16:40.500 We can't start off like that.

00:16:41.420 Let's do that again.

00:16:41.720 Let's do that again.

00:16:42.580 And absolutely.

00:16:43.200 And dude, you know what?

00:16:44.000 People, it creates a bond with people.

00:16:45.880 You know what I mean?

00:16:46.320 It helps people, uh, you know, first of all, respect you.

00:16:50.780 But second of all, know that you're, you're a cool dude.

00:16:52.920 And like, you know, right.

00:16:54.420 You have principles.

00:16:56.040 This literally happened to me last week.

00:16:57.880 That's why I'm smiling over here. 0.96

00:16:59.000 Uh, I reached out my hand and he grabbed it, but this, this might sound stupid and simple, 0.89

00:17:04.200 but he grabbed like just my finger around your fingers. 0.62

00:17:06.460 Yeah.

00:17:06.700 It was a firm handshake, but I was like, like, we got, we got done.

00:17:10.480 And I'm like, dude, no, we got to redo this. 0.80

00:17:15.060 And if I fucking did it again, he's like, yeah, that feels better. 0.85

00:17:17.680 Yeah. 0.99

00:17:18.560 Dude.

00:17:19.200 Well, I know, I know that people might say too, that, you know, you know, I'm not super

00:17:23.520 confident.

00:17:23.920 So it's hard for me to look people in the eye and all that sort of stuff.

00:17:26.540 But me, well, and it's not so much confidence.

00:17:29.080 It's, it's, you're actually, again, paying respect and you're being polite because you're

00:17:33.140 showing people that, that they have your attention.

00:17:36.020 Right.

00:17:36.260 And then when you do shake hands and it's not firm, you're basically, you're basically telegraphing

00:17:40.540 the fact that you're not very confident.

00:17:41.840 And if you're not very confident, it makes the other person think, well, are you confident

00:17:45.420 at anything?

00:17:46.320 Why aren't you confident? 0.98

00:17:47.320 It also makes you think, why is this dude fucking weird? 0.98

00:17:49.800 Right. 0.99

00:17:50.240 Right. 1.00

00:17:50.600 Like, this is a weird fucking dude. 0.99

00:17:52.040 But it's just like a really simple way to make a huge, to do the right thing and make 0.99

00:17:56.020 a huge first impression.

00:17:57.120 Absolutely.

00:17:57.740 Dude, when people shake my hand and it's weird like that and they don't like try to fix

00:18:01.640 it, like I'll try to fix it and then they're still weird.

00:18:05.780 Like, I just, I can't mess with those people at all.

00:18:08.920 You know what I mean?

00:18:09.720 Yeah.

00:18:09.980 Like, in any way.

00:18:11.840 So here's, here's one that I, I, I know you believe very strongly in and I'm, I'm going

00:18:16.100 to call it like, uh, taking responsibility for things that aren't necessarily your responsibility.

00:18:22.940 Okay.

00:18:23.480 And so you use the example of, uh, the shopping cart, you know?

00:18:27.660 So talk about that one.

00:18:29.000 Cause there's a lot, cause there's a lot of different examples about how all of us could

00:18:32.420 take responsibility for things that aren't really our responsibility, but still make the

00:18:36.360 world a better place.

00:18:37.020 Yeah.

00:18:37.460 Two of our core, like two of our core values here at our companies are take initiative

00:18:43.160 and accept responsibility.

00:18:44.620 And that doesn't mean accept responsibility for just your stuff.

00:18:48.120 It means accept responsibility to solve the problem and take initiative goes with that

00:18:52.680 because it means if you see a problem, you fix it.

00:18:55.460 And what you guys have to remember is that you, you are creating habits when you do these

00:19:02.920 things, you're creating character traits and you're not just creating character traits

00:19:08.020 for yourself.

00:19:09.060 What about your kids that observe you doing these things?

00:19:12.400 You know what I'm saying?

00:19:13.400 There's a bigger ripple effect here in play than just like you being a good person.

00:19:18.360 So you have to understand you need to create the habit of taking initiative to solve the

00:19:24.220 problem and accept responsibility for all problems.

00:19:26.900 And what that ultimately does is create tremendous value in you as a person.

00:19:31.380 And I could always tell a lot about people by whether they leave their shopping cart out in

00:19:37.960 the middle of the parking lot or not.

00:19:39.280 And the truth is, most people do leave it. 0.99

00:19:42.760 They unload their shit and they fucking put the shopping cart on one of the islands that's 1.00

00:19:48.300 close to their car and they leave. 1.00

00:19:50.340 And you know what? 1.00

00:19:51.020 Usually driving off in a piece of shit car. 1.00

00:19:53.400 And guess what? 1.00

00:19:54.040 Those two things are related.

00:19:55.280 Absolutely.

00:19:56.000 And your whole shopping cart thing kind of inspired me.

00:19:59.280 There's two things that we try to do with our girls. 0.72

00:20:03.760 And they're at the age that they're kind of confused because like when we go to a hotel,

00:20:07.600 Lila's, she's almost five and she knows that there are people who come in after us and

00:20:12.520 they clean up.

00:20:13.320 But what I try to tell her is, is that it doesn't really matter.

00:20:16.040 We're still going to clean up.

00:20:17.420 We're not going to leave a mess for these people because it makes their job easier.

00:20:20.940 And it's, there's no point in saying, well, it's not our place, so we won't clean it up.

00:20:25.160 We'll just leave it trashed.

00:20:26.560 Curious what you think about that.

00:20:28.040 And then the other thing is we, we actually, when we go to parks and stuff, if, if we're at

00:20:31.960 a picnic table and there's like some trash in the ground, we make them pick it up.

00:20:35.040 I mean, we help them, but you know, but what I, what are the little things like that?

00:20:38.800 Would you say would be taking responsibility that people could just little things?

00:20:42.580 Dude, I think that it's everything. 0.90

00:20:45.200 It's when you see, when you see something that's not right, you fucking fix it, whether 0.96

00:20:50.160 it's your responsibility or not. 0.93

00:20:52.120 And when you just make everything your responsibility and that becomes a character trait of you, you

00:20:58.220 become valuable in your workplace environment and your relationships because you're the person

00:21:02.480 who solves the problems.

00:21:03.340 And it's a habit that you create over time, but it starts with little things because most

00:21:08.140 people will look at a shopping cart that they didn't leave in the parking lot.

00:21:12.180 And they will say, Oh, I didn't, it's on my cart. 0.99

00:21:14.160 And they fucking walk off. 0.99

00:21:15.700 But that's the same thing they do at work. 1.00

00:21:17.460 And that's the same thing they do at home.

00:21:18.920 And it's the same thing they do with their friends or with their spouse.

00:21:22.360 They just say, Oh, it's not my problem. 1.00

00:21:23.960 And they fucking turn their head. 1.00

00:21:25.100 And that's why they're average. 0.99

00:21:26.160 That's why they're making 35,000 or $40,000 a year maximum for their whole entire life. 1.00

00:21:31.860 That's why they sit on their fucking cooler in the front yard and they say, fuck, man, 1.00

00:21:36.020 life really fucked me. 1.00

00:21:37.440 No, you're fucking you. 1.00

00:21:39.240 Right. 1.00

00:21:39.860 Absolutely.

00:21:40.780 So we've been talking about little, little things you can do, you know, good deed type

00:21:45.560 things. 0.98

00:21:46.180 One thing that I got reminded of today that can really make you stand out is fucking good 0.99

00:21:50.880 hygiene. 0.99

00:21:51.280 I was in the fucking gym today and dude, this kid was talking to me and I swear to God, 0.99

00:21:56.060 dude, I thought I was going to fucking pass out. 0.99

00:21:58.080 Like I, it was his BO was so fucking bad. 1.00

00:22:00.540 Like, dude, how about you just take a fucking shower and put some fucking deodorant on? 1.00

00:22:03.980 Right. 1.00

00:22:04.180 That's basic shit. 1.00

00:22:05.580 You know what I mean? 1.00

00:22:06.260 Nobody wants to smell you. 1.00

00:22:07.600 If you come to work smelling like shit in my work, I'm going to send you home. 1.00

00:22:10.940 Right. 1.00

00:22:11.420 I don't, I don't like people are like, well, how, how embarrassing is that to have to tell

00:22:14.820 somebody that they smell?

00:22:16.020 It's not for me.

00:22:17.500 Nope.

00:22:17.880 I don't care.

00:22:18.380 Should be more embarrassing to them.

00:22:19.780 Yeah.

00:22:20.420 Yeah.

00:22:20.740 I actually, one month there was a kid that was coming to our youth group when I was a

00:22:25.780 youth pastor and same situation.

00:22:27.800 He was just, he just smelled so bad and I felt bad cause he was kind of an awkward kid and

00:22:31.240 he wanted to fit in.

00:22:32.220 And I finally just pulled him aside and I said, Hey, listen, dude, I want you to fit in. 0.99

00:22:36.540 I want people to talk to you and you stink. 0.99

00:22:39.360 Yeah. 1.00

00:22:39.720 And like you literally stink. 0.65

00:22:41.360 And he's like, Oh, I don't think it's that bad. 0.90

00:22:43.200 I said, it is that bad.

00:22:44.340 And I bought you some Axe deodorant body spray because at the time that was kind of popular

00:22:49.020 for young kids.

00:22:50.340 And, and he was just like, well, I don't know if I want to put that on cause I don't

00:22:53.720 like the smell.

00:22:54.280 And I'm like, are you serious?

00:22:55.580 So I basically said, if you're going to, if you're going to hang out with us, you got

00:22:58.660 to put it on.

00:22:59.280 Yeah.

00:22:59.480 And so he did finally, finally do it, but it was just so bizarre.

00:23:02.700 How old was this kid?

00:23:03.240 Oh, he was, he was a freshman.

00:23:04.560 So his body was changing.

00:23:05.920 Yeah.

00:23:06.120 He wasn't used to, he wasn't used to like smelling that bad.

00:23:08.520 Dude, it ain't that hard. 0.99

00:23:09.580 Shower and fucking push your beard around. 0.99

00:23:11.220 And his mom came to pick him up and I literally. 1.00

00:23:12.420 And brush your fucking teeth. 1.00

00:23:13.700 Yeah, exactly. 1.00

00:23:14.440 And his mom came to pick him up and I just said, Hey, listen, I know you want your kid

00:23:18.840 to fit in.

00:23:19.760 He's not going to fit in if he comes to, if he comes to a church and he's hanging out 0.93

00:23:23.860 with the other kids and he stinks.

00:23:25.320 Like not only is it hurting you, it's, it's, it's rude to other people.

00:23:29.180 But you know, while we're on the subject, you're not somebody, I mean, you're someone

00:23:31.800 who you like to wear shorts.

00:23:33.080 You like to wear a t-shirt.

00:23:34.620 Wouldn't you agree though, that there's a difference, like part of personal hygiene, it's fine to dress

00:23:39.500 casually, but that doesn't mean dress sloppily.

00:23:42.480 Listen, we dress casually here because I created that environment. 0.99

00:23:46.720 Like I'm not the type that's going to wear a fucking suit to work and make everybody else 0.99

00:23:50.340 wear a suit. 1.00

00:23:50.980 Right.

00:23:51.360 We're casual here.

00:23:52.700 Okay.

00:23:53.900 But there's plenty of times where I cannot be casual and I have to wear a suit or jeans

00:24:00.880 and a nice shirt or this or that.

00:24:02.640 That's becoming situational awareness.

00:24:05.180 You know what I mean?

00:24:05.900 And right now you have a sit, you have this thing where this big push for individuality 0.98

00:24:10.580 out there in the world, like show up looking like, you know, however the fuck would everybody 0.99

00:24:15.480 thinks, blah, blah, blah. 0.98

00:24:16.820 Notice that anybody who says that is usually not very successful.

00:24:21.600 And there's a reason for that.

00:24:22.920 Okay. 0.99

00:24:23.220 Unless you're a fucking famous rapper or unless you're a famous actor. 1.00

00:24:27.140 Steve Jobs. 1.00

00:24:27.840 Yeah.

00:24:28.160 Or you're Bill Gates or Steve Jobs.

00:24:30.340 Guess what?

00:24:31.360 You're going to have to at least give some consideration to your environment.

00:24:35.320 Right.

00:24:35.480 You know, if you're Justin Bieber and you want to walk in to a five-star restaurant on

00:24:39.940 a business dinner with cutoff shirt and sweatpants, you're Justin Bieber and people probably aren't 1.00

00:24:44.520 going to say shit. 1.00

00:24:45.460 Right. 1.00

00:24:45.740 You still look like a bum. 1.00

00:24:47.100 You would look a lot, he would look a lot better if he fucking dressed nice. 1.00

00:24:49.820 Right. 0.99

00:24:50.240 You know what I'm saying?

00:24:51.020 Right.

00:24:51.200 But those guys can get away with stuff that us regular people can't.

00:24:55.220 Right.

00:24:55.600 You know?

00:24:55.960 Absolutely.

00:24:56.140 So it's interesting to me to watch the youth think that they can express themselves in that

00:25:07.360 way in places of their employment and they think that it should be accepted.

00:25:11.560 That's not the way the world works.

00:25:13.700 That's what the liberal population will tell you is okay, but notice that most of the people

00:25:18.080 telling you that are broke.

00:25:19.900 Yeah.

00:25:20.960 Yeah.

00:25:21.260 It's just the truth.

00:25:22.020 That's a, that's a great point because that's, that's an example of this whole do you philosophy. 1.00

00:25:26.960 Do you, fuck what they think. 1.00

00:25:28.260 It takes, it goes too far. 1.00

00:25:30.160 Way too far.

00:25:30.480 There are limits to that.

00:25:31.420 Look, I get it.

00:25:32.980 You want to dress the way you want to dress when you're out in the world. 0.99

00:25:36.060 You want to be, you know, fuck dude, I'm, I have a lot of tattoos. 1.00

00:25:39.220 You want to get tattoos on your fucking face and look like, you know, whatever at your fucking 1.00

00:25:43.900 work. 1.00

00:25:44.940 You're not going to have as many opportunities.

00:25:47.160 That's just the way it is. 0.89

00:25:48.260 You know, and you need to fucking understand that before you go off on this big push for 0.97

00:25:53.140 individuality. 0.97

00:25:54.140 There's times to be individual and there's times not to be.

00:25:57.500 Right.

00:25:57.840 You know, it's like those people who, uh, like they'll hear that you're talking at a high

00:26:01.340 school or like a junior high and they're like, how does that work?

00:26:05.520 Or like, or people that are like, dude, is there cussing in your children's books? 1.00

00:26:09.460 What do you fuck you think, dude? 1.00

00:26:11.420 It's situational awareness. 1.00

00:26:13.040 Right.

00:26:13.280 Like, and that's a whole nother thing.

00:26:15.220 Like a lot of people here, like they hear how I'd speak.

00:26:18.340 Right.

00:26:18.620 And I'm speaking to you guys as friends.

00:26:20.540 I'm not speaking to you guys as, you know, elders or this or that.

00:26:24.860 But when I go speak to people who are elders or when I go speak to kids, guess what?

00:26:30.200 The cursing gets turned off.

00:26:31.740 Right.

00:26:32.360 Okay. 1.00

00:26:32.660 I don't run through and say, fuck what they think. 1.00

00:26:34.980 And you fucking kid. 1.00

00:26:36.040 Like, I don't do that. 1.00

00:26:37.520 Like, this is me talking to you.

00:26:39.040 Like if we were sitting here having a beer.

00:26:41.080 Right.

00:26:41.500 That's the, that's the context of this podcast.

00:26:44.960 Okay.

00:26:45.520 But I know when to have it on and when to have it off.

00:26:48.500 I'm not sitting at, uh, you know, a funeral MF and everybody are saying F bombs or at a 0.99

00:26:55.700 wedding or at fucking Christmas dinner. 0.98

00:26:57.580 Well, maybe at Christmas, our Christmas dinner, but I'm just saying like, 0.99

00:27:01.380 there's, you know, there's this, a lot of these things are getting lost with people,

00:27:06.900 you know, where they think that it's cool to be like that all the time.

00:27:11.140 And you have to understand their situations and you do, this is, this is so common sense. 0.99

00:27:15.960 I'm sure a lot of people are like, yeah, no shit. 0.94

00:27:17.860 But look, you should like, you should see some of the people that I've seen come in 0.98

00:27:21.600 here for interviews. 0.99

00:27:22.280 They come in here in their fucking workout clothes and you know, they're, they're dropping 0.99

00:27:27.460 F bombs cause they know I own the company and they think that that's cool. 1.00

00:27:30.560 And we're, yeah, guess what? 0.99

00:27:32.000 You don't get fucking hired. 0.99

00:27:33.220 Right. 0.99

00:27:33.960 You know what I mean?

00:27:34.700 Absolutely.

00:27:35.640 No, I mean, you're, you're saying it is basic and it is basic, but sometimes people need

00:27:39.400 to be reminded of things they already know.

00:27:41.360 Yeah.

00:27:41.540 Like a lot of people think like, I'm not very professional.

00:27:44.300 No, I'm very professional.

00:27:45.760 Absolutely.

00:27:46.280 I'm just not professional when I talk on this show because this is my show.

00:27:50.400 Right.

00:27:51.040 And guess what?

00:27:51.560 In my show, in my show, I can communicate to you guys however I want to communicate to you

00:27:56.420 guys.

00:27:56.680 And I think most of you appreciate it.

00:27:58.280 Right.

00:27:58.420 Right.

00:27:59.060 Right.

00:27:59.560 So I'm curious cause you know, I sometimes wonder this, is this just me?

00:28:04.100 Is this my background or everything?

00:28:05.500 But something I struggle with dude, and I'd love you to speak to this is speaking of common

00:28:11.300 sense.

00:28:12.120 So like when the women go out to the club, the club, the club, whatever, the club, wear 1.00

00:28:20.220 whatever you want.

00:28:20.900 All right.

00:28:21.360 Knock yourself out.

00:28:22.240 And what I can't wrap my head around is the women that wear the exact same thing they 1.00

00:28:29.020 would wear to the club and they go to church.

00:28:31.500 Like, is that just me?

00:28:32.980 Am I just, am I just overly, am I overly conservative?

00:28:36.680 Can I go to this church? 1.00

00:28:38.440 Like, fuck man. 1.00

00:28:39.980 What the hell are they wearing? 1.00

00:28:41.720 No, dude.

00:28:42.160 I mean, talking about seriously, like plunging neckline, extremely, extremely high, uh,

00:28:47.940 say it titties out, but it's just like, seriously, I mean, are you trying to hit on Jesus so bad,

00:28:55.580 you know, but instead he's got to say plunging neckline.

00:28:57.940 Yeah.

00:28:58.400 Yeah.

00:28:58.580 Yeah.

00:28:58.840 Yeah.

00:28:58.900 But you know, it's like, they're trying to hit on Jesus.

00:29:00.760 You know what I'm saying?

00:29:01.260 I don't get it.

00:29:04.660 I really don't get it.

00:29:05.520 Hey, Jesus is a good looking dude.

00:29:07.220 Jesus got that long.

00:29:07.900 He's got a beard, right?

00:29:08.760 He's got that beard.

00:29:09.560 He's got a long flowing hair. 1.00

00:29:10.840 That shit's in style right now. 1.00

00:29:12.020 Yeah. 1.00

00:29:12.460 That's true.

00:29:13.800 Um, but no, it's just crazy. 0.95

00:29:15.240 Jesus is the OG pimp. 0.96

00:29:17.560 That is a first.

00:29:18.620 I don't know that I've ever heard anybody describe it that way or describe him that way, but I

00:29:22.180 don't know.

00:29:22.480 It's just to your point though.

00:29:23.560 It's just use your head.

00:29:24.580 Use your, use your, use your, I mean, it's hard to tell people to use common sense.

00:29:29.060 You don't have any common sense.

00:29:30.380 The way Instagram has influenced society in general is a lot in negative ways.

00:29:35.940 Like, like, you know, when you're speaking to like girls wearing whatever, like, it's 0.99

00:29:48.720 just, there's so many things to be said about that for, for, for men and women.

00:29:52.960 It's just, it's, but, but you know what?

00:29:56.640 That's what creates the opportunity for what we're talking about.

00:29:59.380 It is.

00:29:59.820 Because everybody's going one way.

00:30:01.460 And if you just kind of go back the other way and have some manners and some morals and

00:30:04.600 some class, you're going to stand out.

00:30:06.440 Yeah.

00:30:06.860 You know?

00:30:07.360 And, and I know we've been a little bit random going from one thing to next.

00:30:10.380 Hopefully we've given you guys something to think about, but what I would really like

00:30:13.440 to do, the, the, the theme of this show is have good manners, have some class, have

00:30:20.320 some respect, and you're going to stand out.

00:30:22.580 Yeah.

00:30:23.000 You're going to be noticed.

00:30:24.020 You're going to be remembered because most people around you don't have any of those things

00:30:27.580 anymore.

00:30:27.900 So practice them.

00:30:29.500 Right.

00:30:29.800 That's it.

00:30:30.180 Right.

00:30:30.680 So basic stuff, hold the door open for people.

00:30:33.280 You know what I mean?

00:30:34.180 Put shopping carts away.

00:30:36.080 Wipe the piss off the toilet seat that somebody else did. 0.82

00:30:38.280 When you leave the, when you leave the bathroom, okay, how the bathroom is, it, like the person

00:30:45.980 who walks in after you assumes you made it that way.

00:30:48.340 So like if you go in the bathroom and there's piss all over the seat and you just pee in

00:30:53.000 the toilet and walk out and don't clean it up, guess what the person behind you thinks?

00:30:56.740 They think you pissed all over the seat.

00:30:58.780 I don't want people thinking that about me.

00:31:00.200 No, not at all.

00:31:00.640 I think it would be great to wrap up just by saying, what are some, what are some things

00:31:06.700 that are issues of common decency that you think we've kind of lost that are ways that

00:31:11.780 you could relate to somebody, maybe something you, you include in conversation that when

00:31:16.320 you walk away, the person just feels really good about themselves.

00:31:18.980 Well, make it about them.

00:31:20.720 You know what I mean?

00:31:21.400 Yeah.

00:31:21.580 I think, I think it's so common right now for everybody to want to talk about what they're

00:31:25.420 doing that when you just, and by the way, this is great for rapport building and sales.

00:31:30.080 Yeah.

00:31:30.800 It's a great habit to build.

00:31:32.480 Ask people about them and remember what they tell you.

00:31:36.100 That's key.

00:31:36.880 Yeah.

00:31:37.120 Remember what they told you.

00:31:38.400 Like, isn't it awesome when you meet somebody from a week?

00:31:41.260 Well, actually, I'll give you this example.

00:31:42.720 I met a guy when I was kind of, so when you, when you graduate from seminary and you're going

00:31:48.660 to, at least in my situation, when you graduate from seminary and you're going to be a

00:31:51.560 you're going to go to, uh, you know, you find a job at a church, you just go to different

00:31:55.040 churches and you do what's called candidating, which is you basically preach a sermon and

00:31:58.820 you do different things and they try to decide if they want to hire you.

00:32:01.420 Right.

00:32:01.740 It's kind of a weird system, but, um, but I met this guy and he was telling me about

00:32:06.600 this guy that, that he had talked to.

00:32:08.580 And when he was talking to this guy and he was a, it was a famous man, he said, when I

00:32:13.140 was talking to him, he was so totally locked in on what I was saying.

00:32:16.880 He said, and then, and I told him that my brother Joe was like struggling with some,

00:32:22.460 some issues.

00:32:23.360 Uh, I don't know, like he broke his leg or something.

00:32:25.980 And, um, and then I didn't say anything after that.

00:32:29.000 Four years later, he ran into the same famous gentleman and that guy said,

00:32:35.160 no, um, that was Tyler's, uh, phone.

00:32:43.540 He said, this famous gentleman said, uh, Oh, good to see you again.

00:32:47.240 I remember seeing you at the, whatever pancake feed and Hey, did your brother Joe

00:32:51.980 ever get over his bum leg?

00:32:53.560 You know who that was?

00:32:54.760 Who?

00:32:55.340 It was Bill Clinton.

00:32:56.740 No way.

00:32:57.360 It was Bill Clinton.

00:32:58.060 And he said that he said that this, cause this guy was, I actually went down to a

00:33:01.660 church in Arkansas.

00:33:02.560 I was going to Canada.

00:33:03.080 A guy who meets literally like probably right, literally two to 300 new people a

00:33:08.680 day.

00:33:08.880 Right now, granted it is, it is known that Bill Clinton has kind of a photographic

00:33:13.060 memory, but, but other people say, no, he's just spent his whole, whole life

00:33:17.200 mastering the art of connecting with people.

00:33:19.900 Yeah.

00:33:20.260 And you know why?

00:33:21.080 Forget what you think about him politically.

00:33:22.820 Bro.

00:33:23.020 That's why people who that's, that's why even though he was a Democrat,

00:33:26.880 Republicans still liked him.

00:33:28.100 Oh, one of the most popular presidents in history.

00:33:30.120 Same with Reagan.

00:33:30.880 Yeah.

00:33:31.160 Democrats and Republicans both like Reagan.

00:33:33.080 Because he treated them like, like with dignity.

00:33:35.820 And I, I, I totally agree with what you're saying.

00:33:38.340 Remember something that somebody said.

00:33:40.160 It's one of the most practical ways to create value.

00:33:43.420 Not just when you're meeting people, but in business too.

00:33:46.880 Like if you're like working the retail floor or you're talking to somebody about making

00:33:50.660 a sale, dude, I'm, you know, who's great at this and my let.

00:33:54.360 Yeah, he is.

00:33:55.060 And my let is one of the best of what we're talking about that I've ever met. 0.97

00:33:58.860 Like, dude, the guy remembers, the guy remembers shit that you'll never even remember you said. 0.96

00:34:02.780 I just told this to somebody else. 0.99

00:34:04.000 Yeah.

00:34:04.220 Yeah.

00:34:04.360 Like, like dude, yesterday we were talking on the phone and he brought up some stuff that

00:34:07.520 I told him back in November and I forgot that I even told him, but I know I told him

00:34:11.880 because it was right.

00:34:12.980 You know what I mean?

00:34:13.540 Yeah.

00:34:13.700 Yeah.

00:34:13.900 He's just so good.

00:34:15.500 And that's why he's built such a tremendous company.

00:34:17.740 Yeah.

00:34:18.040 You know what I mean?

00:34:18.600 Agreed.

00:34:19.360 And that's why he's so loved.

00:34:21.700 Like, dude, when you meet him, dude, Ed does not talk about Ed.

00:34:26.120 Ed talks about you.

00:34:27.020 Right.

00:34:27.680 You know what I mean?

00:34:28.100 A hundred percent.

00:34:28.720 Yeah.

00:34:28.840 I literally just told somebody about this the other day that I said, you know, in the course

00:34:33.560 of doing the podcast, we've met a lot of really awesome people and they're all awesome.

00:34:36.680 Yeah.

00:34:36.820 But I said, Ed sticks out to me in that he is, he is present to you and to me.

00:34:43.600 I'm like, I'm the sidekick, you know?

00:34:45.380 Oh yeah, but he cares.

00:34:46.400 But that's what I mean.

00:34:47.040 Like you're the, you're the main attraction.

00:34:48.700 You're, you're what everybody's here for, but he is so present to people regardless of

00:34:53.640 who you are.

00:34:54.700 And if people.

00:34:55.020 And that's a great point right there.

00:34:56.500 Yeah.

00:34:56.720 So that's the point.

00:34:58.160 That's the point.

00:34:59.160 Yeah.

00:34:59.300 This does not count with just people that you need something or one of me or this or that.

00:35:03.700 This should be like, we see that meme on the internet, treat the janitor with the same

00:35:08.560 respect as a CEO.

00:35:09.980 When you have a conversation with a homeless person, you should be still doing this. 0.91

00:35:14.500 Right.

00:35:14.720 It should be a practice of yours.

00:35:16.520 You see what I'm saying?

00:35:17.280 Yeah.

00:35:17.380 Well, aren't, aren't, didn't, weren't you telling me the other day that you were at, you were

00:35:20.840 at some, I don't know, this was like a couple of months ago.

00:35:23.560 Dude, you guys need to stop putting value on people based upon where they are in the food

00:35:28.740 chain.

00:35:29.040 Yeah, absolutely.

00:35:29.900 That's a, that's a terrible habit.

00:35:31.180 I may be remembering something from a year ago, but I thought you told me that you were

00:35:34.800 on some high level business meeting.

00:35:36.480 I think it was like at your favorite steak steakhouse and you walked away and to go to

00:35:41.840 the bathroom.

00:35:42.100 And then when you came back, you noticed that the person that you were meeting with was really,

00:35:46.020 really rude with the waiter.

00:35:47.080 Yeah.

00:35:47.200 I never did business with him.

00:35:48.380 Yeah.

00:35:48.500 I remember that.

00:35:49.160 And I was like, that's huge.

00:35:50.580 And it would have benefited me to do business with him.

00:35:52.340 Yeah.

00:35:52.620 I know exactly what you're talking about and who it was.

00:35:54.760 Yeah.

00:35:55.480 And people just don't realize the value that they can provide to people if they, if they,

00:35:59.080 if they are present to another person, regardless of the position that they hold in society.

00:36:02.860 Dude, I can't stand when people, first of all, you could see right through it.

00:36:08.460 Yeah.

00:36:08.700 Okay.

00:36:08.940 Like I know when somebody's talking to me, whether they're the kind of person who's just

00:36:13.120 talking to me because they think I'm somebody that they want to network with or do something

00:36:17.500 with or get something from versus they're just genuine.

00:36:20.820 You could just see it, you know?

00:36:22.640 And it's arrogance amongst people who are, who are doing that because they think they,

00:36:29.020 they, what they think on the inside is that they're smarter than everybody.

00:36:32.880 It's like a, it's, it's, it's just easy to see. 1.00

00:36:36.460 And you know, people in a high level position, they didn't get there because they're stupid 1.00

00:36:40.240 or because they're bad with people. 1.00

00:36:41.860 They might act like they're bad with people. 1.00

00:36:44.080 They might pretend they're stupid, but remember they're pretending to be stupid so that you'll 1.00

00:36:48.720 fucking talk first. 1.00

00:36:49.560 Right. 1.00

00:36:50.000 Because the guy who talks first fucking loses. 0.99

00:36:51.800 Right. 0.99

00:36:51.960 And that's it.

00:36:52.660 Exactly.

00:36:53.180 So, so the rocket science in all this is.

00:36:56.960 Dude, it's, you, you finish it up.

00:36:58.280 You know what, this is, this is, this is you, man. 1.00

00:37:00.320 You're the fucking pastor. 1.00

00:37:01.220 Right, right. 1.00

00:37:01.880 Well, listen, I am not, certainly not an expert on being a decent person. 1.00

00:37:05.440 Oh, shut the fuck up, dude. 1.00

00:37:06.560 Come on. 1.00

00:37:07.180 Well, we all have our demons, my friend.

00:37:09.240 Yeah, I know.

00:37:09.760 So.

00:37:10.560 Yours is like Dungeons and Dragons.

00:37:12.680 No, but, so be responsible.

00:37:14.600 And plunging necklines.

00:37:17.460 Be responsible.

00:37:19.800 Be polite.

00:37:20.600 And make it about the other person.

00:37:23.260 Yeah.

00:37:23.660 You know?

00:37:24.120 And express it.

00:37:24.900 You do that, you're going to stand out.

00:37:26.180 Have respect.

00:37:27.380 Common courtesy.

00:37:28.880 Do things that other people aren't willing to do in a, you know, in a, in a decent way.

00:37:34.560 Yeah.

00:37:34.780 And you're going to stand out.

00:37:36.660 Final thought is. 1.00

00:37:37.420 Did you just say fuck? 1.00

00:37:38.400 No, I didn't. 1.00

00:37:38.940 Yes, you did. 1.00

00:37:39.220 No, I said fuck, fuck. 1.00

00:37:40.560 No, no, no. 1.00

00:37:41.180 Final thought.

00:37:42.100 You better not edit that out, Tyler.

00:37:43.520 Final thought is that this guy. 1.00

00:37:44.520 I think it's the second time you said fuck on the show. 1.00

00:37:46.980 I think I've said it more than once. 0.99

00:37:48.460 No, you said it on Yaya's episode and then you just said it again.

00:37:51.280 I did, I did.

00:37:51.640 But no.

00:37:52.360 I think you just said it twice now on this show.

00:37:54.160 My final thought on this is that. 0.99

00:37:57.040 My final fucking thought by Von Kohler. 0.98

00:37:58.840 Back in the 1800s, there was some like famous French writer who came to the United States 0.98

00:38:05.200 and he just basically traveled all over the United States and trying to find out exactly

00:38:10.900 why our country had been so successful.

00:38:13.500 And what he concluded was that there was a lot of just really good people in America.

00:38:17.940 And he made the statement that America is great because she is good.

00:38:22.020 And if she ceases to be good, she will cease to be great.

00:38:24.800 So, you know what?

00:38:26.120 You can make a lot.

00:38:26.960 You can make America great again just by being a decent person.

00:38:31.200 Never goes out of style.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - August 19, 2018

SUNDAY SERMON： The Common Decency That Makes You An Uncommon Dominator, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO256

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