REAL AF with Andy Frisella - December 30, 2018


SUNDAY SERMON： The First Commitment You Need To Make This Year, with Andy Frisella - MFCE278


Episode Stats

Length

23 minutes

Words per Minute

172.78201

Word Count

4,056

Sentence Count

250

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary

In this episode of the MFCEO Project, CEO Andy talks about how to deal with jealousy and insecurity and how to overcome them. He also talks about the fact that you are in competition with yourself and not other people.


Transcript

00:00:00.280 If you want to make your dream become reality, the people that are running after their dream know they're going to have hard times.
00:00:06.840 They keep on running because they're saying within themselves, I'm the one, I'm the one.
00:00:12.080 No matter how bad it is or how bad it gets, I'm going to make it.
00:00:20.720 What is up, guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project.
00:00:24.060 I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:27.840 Guys, today is Sunday Sermon. It's going to be short, it's going to be sweet,
00:00:32.900 but I wanted to give you something to really, truly think about over the next 12 months at least
00:00:41.600 and hopefully make it a habit for you for the next, you know, however long you've got left on this planet
00:00:48.340 because it's important.
00:00:49.720 You know, when I grew up, when I was a kid and I was a teenager
00:00:56.240 and even into my entire 20s, social media wasn't really a thing at all.
00:01:04.280 The internet kind of came around when I was about, I don't know, I guess 20, I don't know.
00:01:13.760 When I was around 20, I guess the internet came around and people used MySpace and Facebook and this and that.
00:01:20.220 But now we have an entire generation of adults who have grown up with the internet.
00:01:27.180 And I want to really sort of educate you slash warn you slash get you thinking the right way
00:01:37.300 about some of the ways that you handle yourself online and in real life, okay?
00:01:47.040 You know, a lot of you guys, and I see this shit, man, because you tag me in it.
00:01:51.340 So, you know, when you tag me in a post on Instagram, I go read it and I see it.
00:01:54.800 Now, a lot of you guys talk about people hating on you and this and that.
00:01:59.680 But I want you to ask yourself, how many times have you gone on to someone else's post
00:02:07.240 or their page or their, whatever their opinion is, and have you criticized them
00:02:13.500 or talked shit about them or quote unquote hated on them?
00:02:17.660 How many times have you done that?
00:02:19.960 Because I can tell you how many times I've done that and it's zero.
00:02:23.520 And I believe that's why I give very little of it back because I don't give it out, all right?
00:02:29.360 But this goes far deeper than just on the internet.
00:02:34.440 This really goes into checking ourselves when it comes to our feelings of jealousy,
00:02:41.160 when it comes to our feelings of insecurity,
00:02:43.360 when it comes to our feelings of where we are versus other people.
00:02:47.500 Now, a lot of the experts, and I'm using the term experts very loosely, will tell you,
00:02:53.420 don't worry about other people, only worry about yourself.
00:02:56.500 Well, let me tell you something.
00:02:58.980 There's truth to that for sure, okay?
00:03:01.540 Because I have been the guy who's been so concerned, and I'm talking in business,
00:03:06.700 so concerned with what my competitors were doing
00:03:09.340 that I was spending an exorbitant amount of energy over there
00:03:12.860 and not the right amount of energy in my own business,
00:03:15.400 which is what created a situation where we didn't grow, all right?
00:03:19.280 So there is truth to that.
00:03:21.080 However, competition is reality, okay?
00:03:25.760 And the people who harp on that shit and who want to feel good and do good
00:03:29.200 and post all these feel-good memes and all this shit,
00:03:32.560 dude, I've looked at them, and you know who the fuck I'm talking about.
00:03:35.780 Dude, it's the guys who are overly positive and kumbaya, hold hand, motherfuckers.
00:03:41.900 And here's the reality, guys.
00:03:44.400 Those people haven't competed.
00:03:46.160 They've not competed in business.
00:03:47.620 They've not competed in life.
00:03:49.160 And they've made a living off of preaching this fucking idealistic bullshit.
00:03:54.680 Here's the truth.
00:03:56.080 You are in competition.
00:03:57.600 You're in competition with everybody.
00:03:59.380 You're in competition with your left, the person on your left,
00:04:02.080 the person on your right.
00:04:03.800 Every single person you're in competition with.
00:04:06.100 And that's how you should look at it, okay?
00:04:08.640 Now, who are you in competition most?
00:04:10.900 Yourself.
00:04:11.740 Agree with that 100%.
00:04:12.960 But the truth of it is, is other people are trying to take your shit.
00:04:16.040 There's people right now targeting you, wanting to take from you,
00:04:20.260 wanting to hurt you, wanting to do bad, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:04:24.340 And that's ever more the reason why you need to focus on yourself and your skills.
00:04:32.700 And that's how you beat them, okay?
00:04:34.560 So, there is some truth to that, that your only competition is yourself.
00:04:38.900 But it's taken out of context so much that I need to remind you guys that you are competitive
00:04:45.180 with other people.
00:04:46.080 That's the reality.
00:04:47.520 There's other people, there's other businesses trying to take your shit.
00:04:50.480 There's other people trying to take your shit.
00:04:52.520 There's other businesses that are just waiting for you to trip up so they can take whatever
00:04:56.860 it is that you've worked so hard to create.
00:04:59.680 But the reality is, is the way you defeat that is by getting better yourself, all right?
00:05:04.920 So, a long time ago, maybe 2006, 7, I made it a 1,000% policy of mine to not talk shit on
00:05:20.600 other people directly, okay?
00:05:23.740 I, if I say something negative or that's perceived to be negative about someone, it's because it's
00:05:30.180 factually true, okay?
00:05:33.240 Now, this is why this is important and this is what I'm getting at.
00:05:39.060 All of us are jealous.
00:05:41.140 All of us have insecurities.
00:05:43.140 All of us look at other people and don't like them naturally sometimes, especially when they're
00:05:47.520 competing with us, but how you handle it matters a great deal to what your outcome is going
00:05:56.420 to be, all right?
00:05:57.640 So, let me explain this to you.
00:06:00.520 I don't care what you say.
00:06:02.320 I don't care what you think.
00:06:03.700 I don't care what you believe.
00:06:05.380 I know for a fact that there is such a thing as the law of attraction slash the universe slash
00:06:13.540 God, whatever you call it, there is a higher power involved here that gives us exactly
00:06:21.340 what we truly focus on in life.
00:06:24.340 And I've honed this ability over the last 12 years or so, 13 years, to where I'm very good
00:06:31.940 at it and my attractors muscles are very strong.
00:06:35.680 But when you're in the beginning of the very weak, it's just like going to the gym for the
00:06:38.400 first time.
00:06:38.840 Your ability to manifest shit and create shit and think about shit and focus on the
00:06:42.220 right things is very weak in the beginning.
00:06:45.760 And this is something I want to point out to you guys that I've lived, all right?
00:06:50.760 The first six, seven years I was in business, I hated my competitors.
00:06:55.160 I talked massive shit on them.
00:06:57.280 Anybody who would listen, I hated them.
00:06:59.400 But why did I hate them?
00:07:00.920 I didn't hate them because they were doing things wrong.
00:07:04.240 I didn't hate them because they were immoral.
00:07:06.680 I didn't hate them because of anything.
00:07:09.020 And by the way, they were doing things wrong.
00:07:11.380 And yes, they were immoral.
00:07:12.500 That's not why I hated them.
00:07:13.620 I hated them because they were competing with me.
00:07:15.840 And I just fucking hated them.
00:07:17.700 And they had more success than me.
00:07:19.940 And they were living a better life than me.
00:07:22.100 And they had more money than me.
00:07:23.820 And it was a very selfish thing.
00:07:26.580 And what I was putting out in the universe was, and this is how it works, guys.
00:07:32.500 What I was putting out was, I don't like that guy's success.
00:07:38.220 I don't like that guy winning.
00:07:40.060 I hate him for winning.
00:07:41.640 I hate him for having a better life.
00:07:43.640 I'm jealous of him for this, that, and the other, okay?
00:07:46.900 And all of us do this.
00:07:48.360 Even if we don't say it, we think it, all right?
00:07:51.820 And the key is to weed our minds out of thinking this way because here's what happens.
00:07:58.040 The universe doesn't hear, oh, you hate this person or you hate this.
00:08:02.420 The universe hears this.
00:08:05.940 Andy hates money.
00:08:08.260 Andy hates success.
00:08:09.900 Andy hates winning.
00:08:11.800 Because this other person over there is winning.
00:08:14.180 And he hates it.
00:08:15.160 So he must hate it too.
00:08:16.240 And what do you get back?
00:08:17.380 You get a bunch of shit that keeps you from winning.
00:08:19.960 You get a bunch of shit that keeps you from progressing.
00:08:22.820 You get a bunch of shit that will magically appear in your life
00:08:26.040 that keeps you from getting where you want to go.
00:08:29.320 And it feels like magic because we don't understand how these things work.
00:08:34.900 And there's not a lot of science to prove the quantum physical and metaphysical aspects
00:08:38.820 of what we put out we get back.
00:08:42.660 But let's just assume and just play along that you don't believe this.
00:08:47.080 So assume that this is a law, all right?
00:08:50.520 Let's just assume that this is the way it actually works.
00:08:54.300 Which, by the way, I don't need proof.
00:08:56.700 I know it fucking works.
00:08:57.860 I know that's the way it works, all right?
00:09:00.060 So I don't need that.
00:09:01.640 But you might because you might not have experienced things that I've experienced
00:09:04.980 the way I've experienced them.
00:09:06.240 So let's just assume that that's the fucking way it is, all right?
00:09:10.580 And every single time you say something negative, every single time you hate on someone,
00:09:17.000 every single time you say something out of jealousy, out of, you know, pure spite,
00:09:23.200 that you're telling God, the universe, whatever it is that you choose to believe,
00:09:29.500 the higher power, that there's a miscommunication happening there.
00:09:34.900 And they are taking it as you just hate that person's life.
00:09:38.500 You don't like money.
00:09:39.660 You don't like success.
00:09:40.900 You don't like these things.
00:09:42.540 And so they don't give it to you.
00:09:44.760 They don't allow the paths to open.
00:09:46.280 They don't allow the doors to open for you to walk through.
00:09:48.340 And I can tell you with 1,000% certainty, guys, that when I started practicing this,
00:09:55.840 I started winning.
00:09:57.640 And not just winning a little, winning a lot.
00:10:00.120 And I see this all the time.
00:10:01.980 I see people attacking people on the internet.
00:10:04.820 I see people who have, you know, quote, unquote, authority figures,
00:10:09.480 who have never found success in what it is that they do.
00:10:12.780 And they continue to attack people over and over and over again.
00:10:17.000 That's their way of becoming relevant.
00:10:19.020 They're not trying to educate.
00:10:20.460 They're trying to embarrass and belittle and hate.
00:10:23.860 All because the person that they're hating on might be having a little more success
00:10:28.380 than what they're having financially.
00:10:30.960 Okay?
00:10:31.740 And guys, you cannot fall into this trap.
00:10:34.700 This is how losers think.
00:10:36.580 This is why you can have every advantage in the world.
00:10:39.200 You can have the capital.
00:10:40.640 You can have the plan.
00:10:41.520 You can have the execution.
00:10:42.740 You can have fucking everything.
00:10:44.980 But if you're constantly jealous and you're constantly verbalizing
00:10:49.600 or just thinking negative things about other people's success,
00:10:55.140 the world will not allow you to have success no matter how long you work,
00:11:01.420 no matter how hard you work, no matter what you do,
00:11:05.160 no matter how good your plan is,
00:11:07.000 no matter how much capital you have behind it,
00:11:09.320 the universe, God, the higher power will keep you from having what it is you're telling them
00:11:17.060 that you do not want.
00:11:19.800 And for that reason and that reason alone,
00:11:22.380 it is not worth you saying or thinking the negative things about other people.
00:11:29.660 All right?
00:11:29.900 And this is a huge, huge, huge thing.
00:11:34.000 It's not just saying it.
00:11:36.340 It's not just contributing to the gossip.
00:11:39.020 It's not just piling on.
00:11:41.420 It's you thinking it too.
00:11:43.880 Okay?
00:11:44.460 And the first step is to silence yourself when you're about to say it.
00:11:49.140 Okay?
00:11:50.160 And the second step will be to not think it.
00:11:53.660 And instead, replace those thoughts with things like this.
00:11:57.360 You know what?
00:11:59.120 I'm happy for him.
00:12:00.660 If that guy can do it, I can fucking do it.
00:12:02.700 And that's how I started looking at it.
00:12:03.960 I started looking at people instead of saying,
00:12:06.660 man, you know, it must be nice.
00:12:08.900 That guy got lucky.
00:12:10.040 You know what?
00:12:10.520 Yeah, he's successful.
00:12:11.840 But, and then, you know, whatever the but is,
00:12:14.180 I stopped having those conversations.
00:12:16.360 And I started having these conversations.
00:12:18.820 Dude, you know what?
00:12:19.640 That's fucking cool.
00:12:20.400 He's winning like that.
00:12:21.280 And if he's winning like that, I know I can win like this.
00:12:25.040 Okay?
00:12:25.420 And I started, instead of hating,
00:12:27.460 I started seeing positive reinforcement about what I was capable of doing
00:12:32.600 versus, you know, me seeing it as something that was threatening to me.
00:12:38.760 Okay?
00:12:39.040 And you hear about a lot of people talk about this.
00:12:40.960 They talk about it, abundance mentality.
00:12:43.620 And, you know, this is how the, you know, the feel-good gurus will tell you.
00:12:47.240 Abundance mentality, blah, blah, blah.
00:12:49.280 I totally agree.
00:12:51.280 But here's the thing.
00:12:53.320 They don't tell you how to do it.
00:12:55.580 You know, what the fuck does that mean?
00:12:57.360 And how do we actually get to that place?
00:13:00.280 How do we actually get ourselves in a place where when we see even our competitors winning,
00:13:06.540 instead of being jealous, instead of being angry,
00:13:09.040 instead of verbalizing or thinking negative things,
00:13:11.800 or, you know, creating a pity party,
00:13:14.320 you see it as a beacon of hope for your success.
00:13:18.040 All right?
00:13:19.020 And that's when you become a powerful being.
00:13:21.080 That's when you become primed and ready to succeed.
00:13:24.780 All right?
00:13:25.420 Because until that point, you're not ready to succeed.
00:13:28.020 Because you're bitter.
00:13:29.300 You're angry.
00:13:30.180 You're mad.
00:13:30.920 And guess what?
00:13:31.560 That's all dark side emotion.
00:13:33.160 And I fucking love dark side emotion.
00:13:35.260 But I do not hate other people for having success.
00:13:40.600 I never get jealous of other people for having the things I want to have.
00:13:44.940 And instead, I see what I can learn from them.
00:13:47.460 I see how it can benefit me.
00:13:49.000 I see how it can benefit our team.
00:13:51.140 I see how it can benefit our customers.
00:13:53.180 And I work to improve.
00:13:54.520 And that's what drives success.
00:13:56.260 That's how you have to look at competitors.
00:13:58.440 You can't fucking hate them because your hate,
00:14:01.960 not only does the universe block you from getting where you want to get,
00:14:05.660 because you're telling them you don't want success.
00:14:09.040 All right?
00:14:10.220 But when you hate like that,
00:14:12.860 it blocks your ability to observe the situation
00:14:15.840 and learn the lessons that you need to learn.
00:14:18.760 Because you're so caught up in this emotion of jealousy
00:14:21.860 and anger and frustration
00:14:24.000 and verbalizing this gossip and this hate
00:14:27.080 and attacking them on social media maybe,
00:14:29.840 whatever it is that you do.
00:14:31.500 But you're so caught up in that shit
00:14:34.740 that you cannot actually see the tactical lessons
00:14:38.180 of what these other people are doing correct
00:14:40.720 and how you could be better than them.
00:14:42.820 All right?
00:14:43.020 And this is why most people can't succeed.
00:14:44.760 It's a two-fold problem.
00:14:46.460 You know, you guys complain about haters,
00:14:48.060 but a lot of times the reason you've got haters
00:14:49.920 is because you're the one out there hating.
00:14:52.080 You're the one out there making negative comments.
00:14:54.380 You're the one out there addressing things inappropriately
00:14:56.720 instead of, you know, DMing someone privately
00:14:59.140 and saying, hey, you know what?
00:15:00.580 I appreciate you.
00:15:03.380 I don't agree with that post and here's why.
00:15:05.620 And having an adult conversation,
00:15:07.060 you had the mob mentality of, you know,
00:15:09.400 just attacking and then, you know,
00:15:11.540 riling up your mob to fucking, you know, attack someone.
00:15:14.260 And guys, all you're doing is short-circuiting yourself
00:15:17.220 in three-fold.
00:15:18.380 One, the universe doesn't fucking like it.
00:15:20.360 Two, you're not going to learn anything.
00:15:22.300 Three, people aren't going to like you
00:15:24.220 because of the way that you handle yourself
00:15:27.180 because no one likes a fucking bully.
00:15:28.920 No one likes a shit-talker.
00:15:30.460 Now, granted, I'll talk some shit,
00:15:32.300 but it's always in fun.
00:15:33.680 It's not serious.
00:15:34.960 All right?
00:15:36.760 You know, a lot of people will say,
00:15:38.180 oh, Andy, he's cocky.
00:15:39.400 No, I'm not fucking cocky.
00:15:40.480 It's a joke.
00:15:41.140 Like, I'm joking around.
00:15:44.360 If anyone knows that they're not shit, it's me.
00:15:46.300 I can tell you that right now.
00:15:47.640 So, you know, I'm still figuring out,
00:15:49.440 I'm still trying to figure out
00:15:50.280 why the fuck you guys even listen to this podcast.
00:15:52.180 But anyway, you know, just be real careful
00:15:56.760 and make it a mission of yours
00:15:58.460 to not contribute to the gossip,
00:16:00.380 not contribute to the hate.
00:16:02.020 And instead, you know, learn to control your mouth,
00:16:05.660 learn to control your fingers.
00:16:06.980 And when you're about to type that comment
00:16:08.740 or type that post or type that
00:16:10.780 or say those things that, you know,
00:16:12.880 are critical of someone else's success
00:16:15.320 or position in life
00:16:16.540 or how they choose to live their life,
00:16:18.540 instead, stop yourself and say,
00:16:21.020 you know what?
00:16:21.960 Do I really have an issue with this?
00:16:24.200 Or am I just attacking them because I'm jealous?
00:16:29.060 Because if it's the second part
00:16:30.740 and it's what you really want,
00:16:32.940 they have what you really want,
00:16:34.880 you have to realize
00:16:35.660 every negative thing you express towards them
00:16:37.800 is going to be interpreted by the universe
00:16:40.460 as they don't like this,
00:16:43.060 I'm not going to give them that.
00:16:45.360 And guys, I've lived this shit.
00:16:46.880 I swear to you guys on everything,
00:16:49.740 on my fucking dogs.
00:16:51.320 And if you know me,
00:16:52.080 you know my dogs are the most important thing
00:16:53.720 to me in my life, all right?
00:16:55.720 I swear on fucking everything.
00:16:58.940 When I changed my mentality of this,
00:17:01.460 things got easier
00:17:02.400 and things started happening fast.
00:17:04.180 And my relationships got better.
00:17:06.180 Not just like personal,
00:17:07.680 like romantic.
00:17:08.900 I'm talking about with employees,
00:17:10.960 with customers,
00:17:11.620 with friends,
00:17:12.220 with competitors.
00:17:13.060 The amount of learning that I did,
00:17:14.800 the amount of people that lifted me up,
00:17:16.860 it completely changed my whole life.
00:17:20.260 Because guys,
00:17:21.620 the universe will give you what you put out.
00:17:24.940 And you're probably right now
00:17:26.680 short-circuiting yourself
00:17:28.240 without even realizing it
00:17:29.760 with what I'm talking about
00:17:31.180 in this little podcast right here.
00:17:32.600 All right?
00:17:33.360 You know,
00:17:33.600 every little comment you make,
00:17:35.340 every little shit talk you make,
00:17:37.280 you know,
00:17:37.540 everything,
00:17:38.120 every little thing.
00:17:39.440 Guys,
00:17:39.780 that's reflective of a fucking toxic mentality
00:17:42.140 and toxic energy
00:17:43.200 that you're putting out into the universe
00:17:45.080 that you're going to get back
00:17:46.800 in some way or the other.
00:17:48.080 At the very least,
00:17:48.840 it's going to keep you from getting what it is.
00:17:50.900 So guys,
00:17:51.420 be very careful
00:17:52.800 what you say
00:17:54.300 and how you think.
00:17:55.340 And if you're one of these people
00:17:56.360 who secretly thinks it,
00:17:57.920 because I know a lot of you guys right now,
00:17:59.340 you're not saying
00:18:00.200 what you really think,
00:18:01.680 but you're thinking it
00:18:03.180 or maybe you're saying it
00:18:04.140 to your very close friends
00:18:05.400 or your spouse,
00:18:06.320 but you're still thinking it.
00:18:07.980 And guys,
00:18:08.600 not saying it isn't enough
00:18:10.000 to get rid of it.
00:18:10.560 You have to get rid of your thought process too.
00:18:12.640 So you got to twist it.
00:18:14.080 You got to change the perspective
00:18:15.280 and everything in life
00:18:16.360 is about perspective.
00:18:17.660 You've got to switch
00:18:18.780 where it is you are
00:18:20.180 and put it how a successful person thinks.
00:18:22.520 And I don't know
00:18:23.200 one successful person,
00:18:25.040 not one,
00:18:26.260 not one,
00:18:27.060 not one
00:18:28.460 that's going to leave
00:18:30.120 a negative comment
00:18:30.900 or even say anything negative
00:18:32.580 about someone else
00:18:33.560 out of emotion.
00:18:35.580 Now,
00:18:36.140 will there be negative talk?
00:18:37.500 Yeah, maybe.
00:18:38.400 But it's going to be pure fact
00:18:40.180 and it's going to be
00:18:41.480 followed up
00:18:42.880 with a conversation
00:18:43.640 of how to avoid that
00:18:44.900 in our life.
00:18:46.400 You know,
00:18:46.560 if I'm having a conversation
00:18:47.560 with Ed Milet
00:18:48.860 and we say,
00:18:50.500 oh,
00:18:50.780 so-and-so does this,
00:18:51.880 we don't fucking like that.
00:18:53.120 That's not hating.
00:18:54.520 That's saying,
00:18:55.320 hey,
00:18:55.580 we don't want to go that direction.
00:18:56.940 We want to go this direction.
00:18:58.440 Okay?
00:18:58.740 So there's a difference.
00:19:00.460 But if I'm looking at someone
00:19:01.860 and they've got more money than me
00:19:04.160 or more success
00:19:04.940 or they've done things,
00:19:06.560 you know,
00:19:07.200 dude,
00:19:07.480 I don't give a fuck.
00:19:08.160 I look at that as hope.
00:19:11.220 I look at that as possibility.
00:19:12.700 That inspires me
00:19:14.040 even if it's my competition.
00:19:15.940 And that's how you guys
00:19:16.920 need to be looking at it.
00:19:18.180 All right?
00:19:19.440 You know,
00:19:19.720 scorched earth
00:19:20.500 and stepping on throats
00:19:21.600 and all that shit.
00:19:22.280 That's fucking great.
00:19:23.180 I love that shit.
00:19:24.140 I love it more than anybody.
00:19:25.600 But the truth is,
00:19:26.820 is that,
00:19:27.560 you know,
00:19:28.700 when it comes down
00:19:29.440 to how you feel,
00:19:30.540 I am thankful
00:19:31.520 for my competition.
00:19:33.360 I am thankful
00:19:34.100 for those people
00:19:34.980 because they push me
00:19:36.400 to be better.
00:19:37.860 Okay?
00:19:38.160 And I understand
00:19:39.300 that the way
00:19:40.520 to beat them
00:19:41.300 is not
00:19:42.000 to hate them.
00:19:44.140 It is not
00:19:44.940 to berate them publicly.
00:19:47.140 It is not
00:19:47.860 to talk shit
00:19:48.600 or even think
00:19:49.420 about talking shit.
00:19:50.880 It is to say,
00:19:51.740 hey,
00:19:51.980 if that dude
00:19:53.720 can be successful
00:19:55.040 doing that,
00:19:56.120 how much success
00:19:57.660 can we create
00:19:58.820 by doing it our way
00:20:00.180 or doing it this way
00:20:01.220 and we can improve
00:20:02.160 upon that?
00:20:03.120 And that's,
00:20:03.640 dude,
00:20:03.800 that's how entrepreneurs
00:20:04.740 really think,
00:20:05.620 successful ones at least.
00:20:07.120 You know,
00:20:07.440 so,
00:20:08.200 separate yourself
00:20:09.040 from the herd.
00:20:09.840 Don't be the person
00:20:10.660 who's,
00:20:11.080 you know,
00:20:11.420 attacking people
00:20:12.220 when you don't agree
00:20:12.880 with them.
00:20:13.440 Don't be the person
00:20:14.220 who's hitting people
00:20:15.200 and,
00:20:17.200 you know,
00:20:17.880 out of jealousy.
00:20:18.720 Now,
00:20:19.500 if they're doing
00:20:19.980 something wrong,
00:20:20.760 if they're doing
00:20:21.120 something,
00:20:21.960 you know,
00:20:22.240 dude,
00:20:22.520 there's a way
00:20:22.940 to address that.
00:20:23.920 You know,
00:20:24.260 you fucking text them
00:20:25.700 or you DM them
00:20:26.980 and you say,
00:20:27.460 hey,
00:20:27.640 you know what?
00:20:28.500 I saw you said this
00:20:29.640 and I don't really
00:20:30.160 agree with that
00:20:30.780 and here's why
00:20:31.500 and this and that
00:20:32.180 and have a conversation
00:20:33.760 like an adult
00:20:34.520 but to just hate
00:20:37.680 and be jealous,
00:20:38.940 that's so,
00:20:39.700 guys,
00:20:40.060 I'm just telling you
00:20:42.920 I don't have any proof.
00:20:45.400 I don't have any
00:20:45.960 fucking proof of this
00:20:46.800 other than what
00:20:47.240 I've experienced
00:20:47.860 but I think you guys
00:20:48.920 and I hope you guys,
00:20:50.780 I hope I've earned
00:20:51.840 your trust
00:20:52.380 over the period of time
00:20:53.360 and I hope if you do
00:20:54.540 nothing else
00:20:55.180 over the next 12 months,
00:20:56.840 if you change
00:20:57.360 this one fucking thing,
00:20:59.020 this one thing
00:21:00.080 that I'm talking about here,
00:21:02.400 your life
00:21:02.900 365 days from now
00:21:05.460 will be infinitely better
00:21:07.660 in every single way
00:21:09.080 and I want you guys
00:21:10.100 to have that
00:21:10.560 because right now
00:21:11.180 everybody's talking
00:21:11.760 about this new me,
00:21:13.060 new year,
00:21:13.900 new me bullshit,
00:21:15.120 you know,
00:21:15.560 which is fucking garbage.
00:21:17.160 I mean,
00:21:17.620 dude,
00:21:17.820 come the fuck on.
00:21:18.620 The reality is,
00:21:19.860 you know,
00:21:20.900 you're gonna fucking
00:21:21.600 wake up on January 1st
00:21:23.040 and you're gonna be hung over
00:21:24.020 and you're gonna do
00:21:25.000 the same fucking shit
00:21:26.040 that you did
00:21:26.580 for the whole time
00:21:27.600 of 2000 fucking 18
00:21:28.840 unless you make
00:21:29.960 a real commitment
00:21:30.660 to fucking changing yourself
00:21:31.920 and guys,
00:21:33.120 this is the first commitment
00:21:34.140 that you need to make.
00:21:35.460 Don't fucking think negatively
00:21:37.560 and don't talk negatively
00:21:38.760 about other people.
00:21:39.800 Those two things alone,
00:21:41.620 by making those
00:21:42.440 a habit of you,
00:21:43.500 not only will they
00:21:44.140 make you happy,
00:21:45.100 they'll reduce your anxiety,
00:21:46.620 they'll reduce your frustration,
00:21:47.700 they'll reduce your anger
00:21:48.480 and it'll actually
00:21:49.860 open up the doors
00:21:51.400 from the universe
00:21:52.340 for you to walk through
00:21:53.540 that you're looking for
00:21:55.300 right now,
00:21:56.620 okay?
00:21:57.040 And I know this is
00:21:57.780 a little bit different
00:21:58.860 than just,
00:21:59.960 you know,
00:22:00.380 hey,
00:22:01.060 fuck this,
00:22:01.900 fuck that,
00:22:02.420 fire and brimstone shit,
00:22:03.520 but this is real guys,
00:22:05.660 this is real
00:22:06.300 and you could choose
00:22:06.900 to believe it or not
00:22:07.740 but I could tell you this,
00:22:09.400 I know what it was like
00:22:11.200 to be broke
00:22:11.780 and I know what it was like
00:22:14.740 to question everything
00:22:15.540 and I know what it was like
00:22:16.640 to not know what was right
00:22:17.740 and what was wrong
00:22:18.380 and I'm telling you
00:22:19.080 from somebody
00:22:20.100 who's been up the mountain
00:22:21.220 and down the other side
00:22:23.620 and then climbing up
00:22:24.520 the next biggest mountain
00:22:25.320 right now,
00:22:26.260 it's real shit
00:22:27.860 and it'll make
00:22:28.860 a big difference.
00:22:29.480 So,
00:22:30.440 if you do nothing else
00:22:31.640 for the next 12 months,
00:22:32.760 I ask that you commit
00:22:34.020 yourself
00:22:34.820 to positive
00:22:35.780 thinking about
00:22:37.520 what is hopeful
00:22:39.740 and what is possible
00:22:40.780 for you
00:22:41.340 and derive those thoughts
00:22:42.760 from the people
00:22:43.380 that you look at
00:22:44.180 who last year
00:22:45.280 you might have been jealous of
00:22:46.400 but this year
00:22:47.400 you're going to be inspired by.
00:22:59.820 in a world dansey
00:23:01.740 taff
00:23:04.220 nerf
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