REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The 3 Steps to Talking Yourself Into Total Domination, with Andy Frisella

00:00:00.000 I can stack them honeys to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon.

00:00:05.000 Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.980 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy. I'm your host and I am

00:00:19.800 the motherfucking CEO. Today is Thursday Thunder and if you've been listening for a while,

00:00:28.540 you know exactly what that means and let me tell you something. I'm feeling it today. I have

00:00:34.860 something extremely valuable to share with you but before I share that, I want to remind you of

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00:01:05.200 is that? No, we don't do that. The reason is I want to give you the most that I can but

00:01:10.080 I do ask something in return and it is not monetary of value. All I ask is that if you find value

00:01:19.900 in this podcast, for every episode that you find value and this episode, you will find value,

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00:01:33.120 tell someone but I'm asking for a genuine heartfelt recommendation. What does that mean? That means

00:01:39.120 when you're having a conversation about the cool shit that you listen to or read or learn,

00:01:43.340 you bring up the MFCEO project. This is a movement. This is a mission. We are on a mission

00:01:50.320 together to help people learn what it is exactly they need to do to get where they want to go

00:01:58.860 because let's face it, there's lots and lots and lots of misinformation out there and it's easy to

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00:02:20.080 share, give us a little like, tell people about us and let's grow this movement. With that being said,

00:02:28.340 I have something that I want to talk to you guys about today. A lot of people who are out there in

00:02:37.880 success, they talk about building a successful business and they talk about winning and they

00:02:43.960 talk about doing good and those are all great things but let me tell you something and you know

00:02:49.420 if you've listened to the MFCEO project from the beginning, you know that if you want to make a

00:02:57.140 million dollars, your goal has to be 10 million. If you want to make 10 million, your goal needs to

00:03:02.500 be 100 million and if you set big, gigantic, huge goals, you're probably going to fall a little bit

00:03:08.860 short and that's why it's important to way overshoot where you're trying to be because when you overshoot

00:03:15.000 where you're trying to be, your actions become that of a person of greater value than the guy who's

00:03:21.960 shooting for 1 million dollars when you're shooting for 100 million. You're going to do more,

00:03:26.680 you're going to learn more, you're going to become more effective because you know that the goal

00:03:32.100 is much harder to reach and because you know that and because your actions are going to be stronger,

00:03:37.840 you have a better chance of getting where it is you really want to be, all right? And you guys know

00:03:42.320 I've talked about that over and over and over again and that doesn't just apply to your goals,

00:03:52.460 okay? It applies to how you speak to yourself and how you think about winning. If you're thinking

00:03:58.000 about winning, you're going to lose a lot. If you're thinking about fucking dominating 100 to 0,

00:04:07.680 running the score up, you're going to lose a lot less than if you just made your goal about winning,

00:04:13.160 all right? And today I want to talk about how you can talk yourself into becoming completely

00:04:21.480 dominant in everything that you do. Every day there are people who don't achieve the goals

00:04:28.740 that they could achieve if they just acted. In almost every single case, the reason they didn't act

00:04:36.520 was because they talked themselves out of it. And you know what I'm talking about, okay? You look at

00:04:42.520 people, you look at yourself, you're struggling with self-doubt, lack of confidence, distractions

00:04:48.380 everywhere, indecisiveness. And if you really, truly look at yourself and look at other people,

00:04:55.380 you can easily see that there's this little conversation going on in their head, okay?

00:05:01.140 You can see, sometimes it's not even a conversation. Sometimes it's just being dictated to by your own

00:05:08.960 brain where some little voice inside your head is just saying shit and you're just listening and not

00:05:15.340 saying anything back, okay? So sometimes it's not even a conversation. But you know and I know that

00:05:21.900 most of the time that voice is not saying good things. What's that voice saying? It's saying,

00:05:29.460 oh, I don't know. That's a real big goal. I'm not sure you can do it. It's saying, hey,

00:05:34.460 who are you? Who are you to try something like that? It's saying, who do you think you are?

00:05:40.460 You must be delusional, okay? Only super talented people could accomplish that goal.

00:05:47.920 They're saying, well, your plan, you know, I don't know if your plan's good. I don't know if

00:05:52.020 your plan's good. You better look at the plan. You better look at the plan before you start.

00:05:55.180 I don't know if the plan's good. Here's all the reasons why you can't do it.

00:05:58.120 And that's a huge difference between successful people, people who dominate, and people who are

00:06:06.460 average. Average people hear this voice that we all have and they let that voice dictate every

00:06:14.680 single term of their life. That's what average people do. Successful people do things different.

00:06:24.000 When that little voice starts a conversation or starts trying to dictate our actions in our head,

00:06:32.880 we immediately recognize it and we take control, okay? And we do three things to take control of

00:06:39.640 that voice. The first thing they do is they reassert their place of authority in their own minds,

00:06:46.820 okay? They say in their head and even verbally, you know what? I'm not going to let myself talk to me

00:06:53.460 like that. And that sounds crazy, right? I'm not going to let myself talk to me like that.

00:06:58.460 I am going to talk for myself to myself consciously, okay? And you might say that in your brain. You

00:07:05.800 might say that out loud, but the first step is to recognize and to take back control, okay? I'm not

00:07:12.460 the audience in my own head. I'm not just going to passively listen to what's going on. I am the

00:07:19.340 fucking keynote speaker in my own head and I am the one who's going to deliver the message that I give

00:07:25.440 myself every fucking day. I am going to be the one dictating my directions. I am going to be the one

00:07:32.880 who's dictating my actions. I am going to be the one who instills the confidence, the swagger, and all

00:07:40.900 the skill set that needs to be had to accomplish what it is, okay? And average people don't do that.

00:07:47.620 Average people let that little loser voice in their head dictate all their actions and they never stop

00:07:55.040 it. They never take control, okay? Successful people, they say, stop motherfucker. Guess what?

00:08:00.860 You're wrong and I'm fucking right. And they silence that voice in their heads and they take over

00:08:06.240 mentally, okay? So reasserting who's in control of the authority in your own mind is the first step

00:08:14.720 to taking back the conversation that is holding you back, okay? Now what's the second step? The second

00:08:22.700 step that successful people do that average people don't when we talk about domination is this.

00:08:29.620 Successful people actively autocorrect the negativity in their brain, okay? They take a hold of all the

00:08:36.500 negative thoughts going through their heads and they reword and rephrase them for actions and success,

00:08:43.060 all right? Tom Brady didn't think, hey man, we're in such a huge hole. We're down 21 points. I don't

00:08:48.280 think we can fucking do this. You know, the Falcons are pretty good. That's not what he said. Tom Brady

00:08:52.800 said in his brain, guess what? We are going to win this fucking game and we are going to do everything

00:08:58.480 we need to do to win it. And guess what? It's going to be the greatest fucking comeback in the history of

00:09:04.200 the Super Bowl. That's the championship thought. That's what champions do. And they do it with every

00:09:10.940 little decision that they make. You just have to learn how to retrain the way that you word the

00:09:19.140 situation, okay? Because the words that you hear are huge. Now I'm not one on affirmations and all

00:09:25.740 this other bullshit that people do, but I am one for taking control of your mentality and a conscious

00:09:33.820 aware level and not letting passive negativity, which by the way, we all have run our thoughts

00:09:42.700 and our actions, okay? Words form sentences and the sentences inside of our heads are what our thoughts

00:09:49.160 are and our thoughts actively affect our actions, okay? And sometimes more importantly,

00:09:57.200 our attitudes, right? Because if our attitude's off, our actions are going to be off. So the first

00:10:03.860 thing they do is they reassert the place of authority in their own minds. The second thing they do is they

00:10:08.480 learn to auto-correct the negativity and reframe the situation in the way that they word it to

00:10:15.520 themselves because they understand that words create thoughts, thoughts create actions. All right,

00:10:20.520 and the third thing they do is this. They default to their personal sales script and start rehearsing

00:10:27.920 and repeating it. What do I mean by sales script? Do I mean some cheesy used car bullshit that you hear

00:10:34.220 all over the place? No, that's not what I'm talking about. But salespeople sometimes, they have an 80%

00:10:41.320 rehearsed script out of repetitive nature, okay? And it's the story that they use to sell, right?

00:10:47.240 And what we're going to do is we're going to adapt that story to the situation that we're in. So 80%

00:10:52.860 of it's going to be the same almost every time. 20% is going to change based on the situation,

00:10:57.700 you know? And that's pretty old school. Like that's the old school way to sell. And I, you know,

00:11:03.920 I don't really think that that's the way to sell things anymore. You know, we talk about that.

00:11:08.460 That's a whole different subject. We're talking about value selling. But the truth is, is that

00:11:12.080 sometimes you have to use a sales script on yourself. If you want to accomplish huge,

00:11:18.360 ginormous, big goals, you've got to sell yourself on the idea and you have to be able to cast your

00:11:25.360 vision to yourself, all right? And that means you're going to have to sell your vision to yourself.

00:11:30.680 So when you take control of the conversation, what are the points of your sales script that you need

00:11:36.820 to repeat and rehearse and pound into your brain, okay? This is the vision I have for my life. This

00:11:45.640 is the way it's going to be. These are my goals. This is who I am. This is my plan. These are my values.

00:11:53.720 And I don't need anyone to validate me. I don't need anyone to believe in me. All I need to do

00:12:02.640 is execute and believe in the work. And I know that when I'm done, the result will be there and it will

00:12:10.920 feel fucking amazing. Okay? That's what you have to understand. And you've got to continually beat that

00:12:19.600 into your brain. Every time that little negative voice comes around that makes you feel insecure,

00:12:26.880 that makes you feel less confident, that makes you feel like you're not enough, you have to do what

00:12:33.580 I'm talking about here. These three steps, this is how I dominate. This is how other successful people

00:12:41.660 dominate. I've been around enough extremely successful people that I know that all of our

00:12:47.700 minds work the same. We are consciously aware of how we speak to ourselves and how we control the

00:12:55.860 direction of our thoughts. All right? And the truth is, is that whenever you get enough going on in your

00:13:02.280 brain, if you don't consciously control it, you'll drive yourself fucking crazy. All right? So what do

00:13:08.680 we have to do again? One, we got to reassert our place of authority. We are in control. You are in

00:13:17.020 control. Not the fucking loser voice that you hear. Not the little voice that gives you all the doubts

00:13:22.680 and gives you all the negativity and gives you all the questions. You, the successful you are in

00:13:31.160 control. Step two, we've got to auto correct the negativity. We don't look at the problem. We look

00:13:38.460 at the solution. We don't look at the story of us losing. We look at the story of us winning. And we

00:13:43.700 tell ourselves that by continually step three, selling ourselves on our own life, what our vision's

00:13:54.800 going to be, where we're going to end up and who the fuck we are. Because let me tell you guys

00:14:00.680 something. You're not who the world tells you you are. You're who you tell you you are. And that's a big

00:14:09.060 misconception. That's a big gap. It's a big divide. It is the alpha and the omega of successful people

00:14:16.940 and unsuccessful people. It's two polar opposites. Successful people understand and know how to do

00:14:27.760 these steps so that they don't just win, they fucking dominate. And they know how to do it consciously,

00:14:35.900 consistently, consistently, effectively, forever. And unsuccessful people sit back in their chair

00:14:43.980 like they're being dictated to by somebody else, by our little loser voice, which we all have.

00:14:50.920 And they take that shit. They don't ever stop it. They don't ever take control. They don't ever do

00:14:55.620 what they need to do to fix it. And that's why they get what they get. This is what we're talking about

00:15:01.380 here. Okay? You are in control. You decide who you are. And you do what you need to do.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - October 11, 2018

The 3 Steps to Talking Yourself Into Total Domination, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO266

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