REAL AF with Andy Frisella - July 14, 2016


The One Word That Can Destroy Your Life, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO77

Topics
fair fairness
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
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Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

181.52

Word count

1,477

Sentence count

96

Harmful content

Misogyny

2

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Toxicity

30

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Hate speech

5

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Summary

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In this episode of the MFCEO Project, we talk about the 4 letter word that holds most people back in their lives, and that word is "fair" and "entitled" and how living in that mindset is holding you back from moving forward in your life.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Hey guys, what's up? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and
00:00:15.220 I am the motherfucking CEO. Guys, if this is your first time listening, we do Tuesdays 0.98
00:00:20.680 and Thursdays. Today is Thursday, and on Thursday, we hit you with the Thursday Thunder, all
00:00:26.160 right? Thursday Thunder is short, it's sweet, it's to the point, and it's something that
00:00:31.040 I want to get you, I want to hit you, and I want to get you back out in the world and 1.00
00:00:35.780 ready to kick some ass, okay? This is an entrepreneurial-based podcast, but it's also a podcast that is going to 0.99
00:00:43.160 teach you the core values and the skills you need to be the motherfucking CEO of 0.97
00:00:50.220 your life, okay? You need to be going through your life with some confidence, you need to 0.97
00:00:54.480 be going through your life with some swagger, you need to be having a good time, and you
00:00:58.320 need to be cultivating success. It's your responsibility. We teach you all those things
00:01:03.220 on this podcast. It's not for everybody. There's a lot of people out there that have become
00:01:07.300 pussified little flowers these days that can't handle what we had to say, and if you're one
00:01:11.400 of those people, there's plenty of other rainbows out there for you to live under. This ain't
00:01:15.560 one of them. Guys, I want to talk about something that is getting massive traction in our internet
00:01:24.340 world, in our world, mass media, social media, everywhere we go, we're seeing this word,
00:01:33.300 okay? And this word, it's a four-letter word, and I think it's the word that holds more people
00:01:40.860 back in their lives than any other word in the English language, okay? You know what that
00:01:46.740 word is? It's fair, all right? Everybody wants to talk about what is fair, all right? They want
00:01:53.300 to talk about what they deserve. They want to talk about what they're entitled to. Well,
00:01:57.700 actually, they don't want to talk about what they're entitled to, because entitlement has
00:02:00.880 become a word that nobody wants to own up to, but they still feel that way down in their
00:02:06.940 heart, okay? So it doesn't matter if you verbalize these things, or if you feel this way in your
00:02:11.960 heart, the result is the same for your life. Fair, complaining about fair, complaining about
00:02:18.480 what you deserve, okay? Being entitled, those things keep you from moving forward. Let me give
00:02:25.740 you an example of what this is like. Living with the idea of fair is the same thing as, I'm sorry,
00:02:37.520 living with the idea of what's not fair, looking at someone saying, that's not fair, that's like that,
00:02:42.160 that's this, this, because it's like this, that's, you know, I deserve this, okay? These things you tell
00:02:49.980 yourself, that's the equivalent of going to an old train station that has been shut down 50 years ago
00:02:57.300 and has vines growing all over it, walking out on the train platform, stopping your feet, kicking your 0.97
00:03:04.500 feet, throwing a fucking fit, because the train isn't there when you want it to be there, okay? And then you 0.98
00:03:11.840 stand there for the whole entire day, stomping and kicking and pouting and crying and bitching 0.99
00:03:18.300 for this train that is never going to fucking come. It's never coming, okay? That is what living under 0.99
00:03:26.740 the fair, entitled, I deserve labels is going to get you. It's going to get you nothing. It's going to
00:03:33.820 cause you a ton of frustration. It's going to make you mad. It's going to make you angry. You could
00:03:38.480 spout off on social media. You can say whatever the fuck you want, but at the end of the day, 0.99
00:03:43.720 it's not going to change anything for you, okay? So when you find yourself living in this mentality of 0.99
00:03:51.200 what's fair, all right, or what you deserve, you have to stop yourself and check yourself
00:03:58.220 and realize, you know what? Life isn't fucking fair. There isn't a contract that floats down from the 0.97
00:04:04.720 Heavenly Father onto your fucking lap when you're a little baby and says, you know what? This life is 1.00
00:04:11.180 going to be fair for you. No, it's not fair for anybody. You know, I'd like to be an F1 racer.
00:04:17.760 I'd like to be fucking Michael Schumacher. I'd like to be racing Formula One all over the world. 0.85
00:04:23.140 It's not fucking fair. It's not fair I don't get to. It sounds ridiculous, right? Well, that's what you 0.84
00:04:27.300 sound like when you use it in any other way, all right? Life ain't going to be fair. Things aren't
00:04:34.580 going to go your way. That's the way life is, and the reason life isn't going to be fair, and the
00:04:41.300 reason things aren't going to go your way is because when things don't go your way, that's when your
00:04:45.880 character is built. That's when all the things that make you great, all the strength that you're
00:04:52.780 going to have your entire life, all the power you're going to develop, all the accomplishments
00:04:57.000 that you're going to achieve and be able to pass down from generation to generation to generation
00:05:03.460 are going to come from the things that aren't fair. They're going to come from the things that are
00:05:09.620 difficult. They're going to come from you working to earn the things that you deserve, okay? Don't spend
00:05:19.420 your life standing on the train platform, kicking and screaming and whining and crying about this 1.00
00:05:25.960 fucking train that ain't ever going to come. It isn't going to come no matter what you do. Your 1.00
00:05:30.800 life isn't going to change. You're not going to get where you want to go, so why are you wasting the
00:05:36.060 time and energy on something that ultimately is pointless? And I know there's people out there right
00:05:42.240 now, well, it's important to fight for fairness. It's important to fight for this. Hey, look, dude,
00:05:46.840 I get it. But at the end of the day, you got to worry about yourself. And there's lots of people
00:05:52.200 out there with the same fucking difficulties that you've had that come from the same backgrounds 0.99
00:05:56.440 you've had that come from the same socioeconomic, the same racial backgrounds, the same handicaps. 0.99
00:06:02.300 All these people have done the things that you want to do and you're not doing them because you're
00:06:08.940 holding yourself up with words like fair or I deserve or I'm entitled to this. And like I said in the
00:06:16.080 beginning, it's not about you verbalizing. You may not verbalize it, but what do you feel in your
00:06:21.820 heart? What do you see? What do you think in your heart whenever you see other people succeed?
00:06:26.040 What do you think in your heart when you see other people doing big things that you want to do? 0.84
00:06:29.620 Do you see people do great things and you think, fuck yeah, that's great. I can do that too. 0.89
00:06:35.120 Or do you see people do great things and you think, fuck, fuck that guy. That's not fair. 1.00
00:06:41.500 You know what? The reason that guy got there is because of the color of his skin. Or the reason
00:06:45.500 that guy got there is because he grew up this way in this socioeconomic situation. Or he was
00:06:51.000 fortunate enough to have this other education. You know what? That might be fucking true. But at the
00:06:56.820 end of the day, those fucking things aren't going to change your life. You're not going to be able 0.99
00:07:01.300 to move forward because you point them out. You're only holding yourself back by living under the fair
00:07:07.560 rainbow and the I deserve rainbow. And you can move a lot quicker and a lot faster and accomplish a
00:07:16.720 hell of a lot more by letting go of the idea that things are supposed to be fair and working on
00:07:22.320 yourself, progressing on yourself, moving forward on yourself and putting the work in to get you where
00:07:28.800 you want to go. Okay? For example, when we talk about the train station, you kicking and screaming,
00:07:33.600 what's going to get you further? Kicking and screaming on the train platform like a little
00:07:37.440 fucking bitch? Or putting your fucking heel to your toe over and over and over again down the 1.00
00:07:43.640 train tracks? It might be slow. It might not be as fast as you want to go. Because I know it's not 1.00
00:07:48.660 fucking fair that the train didn't come to get you, even though it's been shut down for 50 fucking 0.98
00:07:51.780 years. What is still going to get you further? You know what's going to get you further? One fucking 0.98
00:07:57.540 step in front of the other. It's always going to be that way. It's always been that way. And you can 1.00
00:08:02.100 either accept the reality of that, or you could spend your life kicking and screaming and pouting 1.00
00:08:06.380 and crying like a little fucking bitch. 1.00