In this episode of Thursday Thunder, CEO Andy talks about the importance of being a good leader and why you need to be a great leader in order to get the job you want. If you don't have a good leadership style, you're not going to get a job.
00:00:00.000I can stack them honeys to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.
00:00:12.060What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.
00:00:21.160Guys, today is Thursday Thunder. If you're new to the podcast, we typically do two podcasts a week, sometimes three. Sometimes we don't do fucking any though, because guess what? We get to do whatever we want here. And I like that.
00:00:36.740And the point of this podcast is to get you to a position to where you can do the things that you want to do when you want to do them. All right? This is called the MFCEO Project for a reason. Specifically project.
00:00:54.680We are here to help reverse the last 20 years of failed parenting strategy to help you guys understand what it really takes to be successful. And successful can be defined however the fuck you want to define it. All right?
00:01:17.020You guys have to understand that being successful, the principles of success have not and will not ever change. No matter what society wants to tell you, no matter what the idealists want to tell you, no matter what the romantics want to tell you, the ideas and the principles of being successful will never and have never changed. All right?
00:01:47.020The fundamentals. Okay. Today, I want to talk to you about something that is extremely important. By the way, if you haven't gone back and listened to episode 107, that's a good place to start because we talk about the power list. The power list is the ultimate productivity tool. The reason I want to plug that is because we're getting so many new listeners and, you know, we have 270
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00:02:45.920So, but anyway, um, what I want to talk about today is, is this, okay? Uh, I get a lot of questions, obviously. And one of the questions I get from young people, and one of the questions I also get, because there's two sides to this dynamic, um, from leaders, uh, has to do with the idea of this.
00:03:12.220I have a lot of young people in there. And dude, I hear this in interviews too, by the way. And if you ever enter interview and you say this, you're automatically not going to get the job. And what is this that I'm talking about? Well, this is saying something to the effect of this. Well, at my last job, um, you know, I just didn't see eye to eye with my, my boss's leadership style. Okay. You know what, uh, you know, what's a potential interviewer? Here's whenever you say something like that?
00:03:42.220they don't hear you being honest. They don't hear you being, you know, reasonable. They
00:03:48.940automatically see you as a red flag. You're going to be the guy that doesn't respond to leadership.
00:03:54.860You're going to be the guy that pouts. You're going to be the guy that cries. You're going
00:03:58.980to be the guy that causes cancer. And guess what? You're not going to get the fucking job.
00:04:04.120Okay. So I want to talk a little bit about this because I think this is a huge,
00:04:09.960huge issue with a lot of people right now. A lot of people are in a situation where
00:04:20.700they want to be coached or they want to be led in a certain way. All right. And the problem with that
00:04:29.760is this, there's seven plus billion people on this earth and not every person that you deal with is
00:04:39.380going to communicate in a way that you like. They're not going to use the language that you
00:04:47.980respond to all the time. They're not going to say things in a way that spare your ego or spare your
00:04:56.120feelings. All right. That's the reality. Okay. Average people who don't fulfill their true potential,
00:05:05.620they want to tell a leader or a coach how they want to be led. And they say things like, well,
00:05:14.420I'm just not resonating with your approach to leadership, or I just don't click with his
00:05:19.420personality or the way you communicate. It's just too abrasive and it hurts my feelings. I respond a lot
00:05:26.220better if you were just a little bit more mindful of my feelings. Okay. That's what average people do.
00:05:32.540And that's the shit they think. And that's the shit they say. And the reason they say this shit
00:05:37.620and think this shit is because they have no ability to take responsibility for themselves.
00:05:45.120All right. And on the other hand, we have elite achievers. We have the people who will perform
00:05:51.800and succeed and win and dominate no matter what tone the leader uses, no matter what language the
00:06:01.220leader uses, no matter what the leader says, these people, all they care about is they want to be
00:06:08.940coached in a way that gets them results. Okay. They don't give a shit about personality. They don't
00:06:16.160whine about someone's approach. They don't care about someone's communication style and they don't
00:06:22.980give two fucks, whether their leader is soft-spoken or shy or whether their coach is loud and abrasive
00:06:31.620and hotheaded and exciting. They don't care. All they care about is this. They want their coach to be
00:06:39.320an expert. They want the coach to have done what it is they're trying to do. And they want the coach to
00:06:46.960be able to help them to do it too. They want results and that's it. Okay. And if the way their
00:06:56.440coach communicates hurts their ego, they say, you know what? So be it. I don't care. They're able to
00:07:03.120push their personal feelings aside because they understand that it's necessary because the process
00:07:10.660of getting better, and I want you to remember this, the process of getting better and becoming the
00:07:17.840best at what it is that you do in the world is painful. It's excruciating. It's hard. It's
00:07:28.360uncomfortable. And there's a reason why there is the phrase that says growing pains. It doesn't say
00:07:38.020growing feel goods. It doesn't say growing happies. It doesn't say growing smiley fucking face emojis.
00:07:45.440It says growing pains. Okay. Losers want to be coddled. They want to be comfortable. They want
00:07:53.920to be communicated to in a certain way that fits the worldview that they have. So it doesn't ruffle
00:08:01.020their little delicate fucking feathers. Winners want to be pushed and put through the pain because they
00:08:07.660know that going through that pain is going to produce the best possible product in themselves.
00:08:15.620Okay. And I want you to ask yourself, which one of these people are you? Because there's only two.
00:08:22.020Do you care about how you're coached or do you care more about what your leader or coach is helping
00:08:29.520you accomplish? Are your feelings so delicate and so sensitive that you're going to let you getting your
00:08:36.560little delicate feelings hurt, get in the way of becoming what it is you wish to become? Or do you
00:08:44.000say, you know what? Fuck my ego. Okay. There's no pain. There's no fucking gain. Which one of those
00:08:52.940people are you? Because I can tell you one is going to always be average and one is going to always end up
00:09:00.160being elite. All right. And I know some of you guys right now are saying, well, I'm a leader. So this
00:09:06.500is good for the people under me, but it doesn't really apply to me. Listen, I'm a leader too. You
00:09:11.940think I don't have people that lead and coach me and help me. I have people in my life who give me
00:09:16.920feedback and guess what? Most of the time that feedback doesn't feel very fucking good because
00:09:24.000they're setting a boundary. They're saying, Hey dude, you're crossing the line or Hey dude, you can be
00:09:28.760better here. And guess what? That bruises my fucking ego. But the truth is, what do I do? Do I whine? Do I
00:09:35.060cry? Do I pout? No, I take that shit and I fix what the problem is so that I can be better. I know
00:09:43.560that that means that those people actually give a fuck about what I'm doing in my life. All right. I
00:09:51.460don't care if they hurt my feelings. And the truth is hurting my feelings is one of the only ways you can get
00:09:57.500through to me. It's what I respond to. And it's what you respond to as well. If you took inventory
00:10:06.940of what actually causes you to go out and make a change, you don't make a change when you're feeling,
00:10:14.880you know, like, Oh, I feel pretty good. Oh, you know what? I could be better there. No, you make a
00:10:20.380change when you're fucking disgusted with yourself and you look at yourself in the mirror and you say,
00:10:24.680dude, I can't fucking do this anymore. I'm going to change. All right. That's what you respond to
00:10:30.660whether you want to admit it or not. Okay. And some of you also might be saying, but you just did this
00:10:35.820episode with Jocko and Jocko said, you can't be a leader that you want to be. You have to be the
00:10:42.120leader your team needs. And I agree with that. But here's the thing that you're forgetting in the
00:10:47.060process of self-development. Each person, you, everybody has a responsibility and that responsibility
00:10:56.380for me is to be the best leader that can be. But for you, it's to be the best version of you that
00:11:05.020you can be and to respond to your leadership. Okay. Losers will sit there and complain about how their
00:11:14.900leadership coaches them. Winners might not like how their leadership is coaching them, but instead
00:11:20.980of bitching and moaning and crying, they understand that they have a responsibility to themselves and to
00:11:28.960every single person that will ever look up to them in their entire lives to be coachable. Because if
00:11:36.320you're not coachable, you can't win. And that means you can't use shitty excuses. Like my coach's
00:11:43.260personality is bad or my coach's approach, you know, he just doesn't understand me and all this other
00:11:49.680bullshit that we're hearing all over this pussified fucking society. Okay. You have to accept the
00:11:56.580responsibility for your own self-development. You have to accept that there is going to be pain
00:12:02.460associated with growing personally and professionally. And you have to want to know what the truth is and
00:12:11.060have that truth spoken to you so that no matter how much it hurts your ego, you could take the
00:12:17.980information and become an elite achiever.