REAL AF with Andy Frisella - The Only Way Elite Achievers Want To Be Coached, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO270

00:00:00.000 I can stack them honeys to the roof. I ain't stopping till they stack to the moon. Without me, my family wouldn't have food. Anybody go against me gotta lose.

00:00:12.060 What is up guys? You're listening to the MFCEO Project. I'm Andy, I'm your host, and I am the motherfucking CEO.

00:00:21.160 Guys, today is Thursday Thunder. If you're new to the podcast, we typically do two podcasts a week, sometimes three. Sometimes we don't do fucking any though, because guess what? We get to do whatever we want here. And I like that. 0.97

00:00:36.740 And the point of this podcast is to get you to a position to where you can do the things that you want to do when you want to do them. All right? This is called the MFCEO Project for a reason. Specifically project.

00:00:54.680 We are here to help reverse the last 20 years of failed parenting strategy to help you guys understand what it really takes to be successful. And successful can be defined however the fuck you want to define it. All right? 0.98

00:01:17.020 You guys have to understand that being successful, the principles of success have not and will not ever change. No matter what society wants to tell you, no matter what the idealists want to tell you, no matter what the romantics want to tell you, the ideas and the principles of being successful will never and have never changed. All right?

00:01:47.020 The fundamentals. Okay. Today, I want to talk to you about something that is extremely important. By the way, if you haven't gone back and listened to episode 107, that's a good place to start because we talk about the power list. The power list is the ultimate productivity tool. The reason I want to plug that is because we're getting so many new listeners and, you know, we have 270

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00:02:45.920 So, but anyway, um, what I want to talk about today is, is this, okay? Uh, I get a lot of questions, obviously. And one of the questions I get from young people, and one of the questions I also get, because there's two sides to this dynamic, um, from leaders, uh, has to do with the idea of this.

00:03:12.220 I have a lot of young people in there. And dude, I hear this in interviews too, by the way. And if you ever enter interview and you say this, you're automatically not going to get the job. And what is this that I'm talking about? Well, this is saying something to the effect of this. Well, at my last job, um, you know, I just didn't see eye to eye with my, my boss's leadership style. Okay. You know what, uh, you know, what's a potential interviewer? Here's whenever you say something like that?

00:03:42.220 they don't hear you being honest. They don't hear you being, you know, reasonable. They

00:03:48.940 automatically see you as a red flag. You're going to be the guy that doesn't respond to leadership.

00:03:54.860 You're going to be the guy that pouts. You're going to be the guy that cries. You're going

00:03:58.980 to be the guy that causes cancer. And guess what? You're not going to get the fucking job. 0.92

00:04:04.120 Okay. So I want to talk a little bit about this because I think this is a huge, 1.00

00:04:09.960 huge issue with a lot of people right now. A lot of people are in a situation where

00:04:20.700 they want to be coached or they want to be led in a certain way. All right. And the problem with that

00:04:29.760 is this, there's seven plus billion people on this earth and not every person that you deal with is

00:04:39.380 going to communicate in a way that you like. They're not going to use the language that you

00:04:47.980 respond to all the time. They're not going to say things in a way that spare your ego or spare your

00:04:56.120 feelings. All right. That's the reality. Okay. Average people who don't fulfill their true potential,

00:05:05.620 they want to tell a leader or a coach how they want to be led. And they say things like, well,

00:05:14.420 I'm just not resonating with your approach to leadership, or I just don't click with his

00:05:19.420 personality or the way you communicate. It's just too abrasive and it hurts my feelings. I respond a lot

00:05:26.220 better if you were just a little bit more mindful of my feelings. Okay. That's what average people do.

00:05:32.540 And that's the shit they think. And that's the shit they say. And the reason they say this shit 1.00

00:05:37.620 and think this shit is because they have no ability to take responsibility for themselves. 1.00

00:05:45.120 All right. And on the other hand, we have elite achievers. We have the people who will perform 1.00

00:05:51.800 and succeed and win and dominate no matter what tone the leader uses, no matter what language the

00:06:01.220 leader uses, no matter what the leader says, these people, all they care about is they want to be

00:06:08.940 coached in a way that gets them results. Okay. They don't give a shit about personality. They don't

00:06:16.160 whine about someone's approach. They don't care about someone's communication style and they don't

00:06:22.980 give two fucks, whether their leader is soft-spoken or shy or whether their coach is loud and abrasive 0.89

00:06:31.620 and hotheaded and exciting. They don't care. All they care about is this. They want their coach to be 0.99

00:06:39.320 an expert. They want the coach to have done what it is they're trying to do. And they want the coach to

00:06:46.960 be able to help them to do it too. They want results and that's it. Okay. And if the way their

00:06:56.440 coach communicates hurts their ego, they say, you know what? So be it. I don't care. They're able to

00:07:03.120 push their personal feelings aside because they understand that it's necessary because the process

00:07:10.660 of getting better, and I want you to remember this, the process of getting better and becoming the

00:07:17.840 best at what it is that you do in the world is painful. It's excruciating. It's hard. It's

00:07:28.360 uncomfortable. And there's a reason why there is the phrase that says growing pains. It doesn't say

00:07:38.020 growing feel goods. It doesn't say growing happies. It doesn't say growing smiley fucking face emojis.

00:07:45.440 It says growing pains. Okay. Losers want to be coddled. They want to be comfortable. They want 0.99

00:07:53.920 to be communicated to in a certain way that fits the worldview that they have. So it doesn't ruffle

00:08:01.020 their little delicate fucking feathers. Winners want to be pushed and put through the pain because they 1.00

00:08:07.660 know that going through that pain is going to produce the best possible product in themselves.

00:08:15.620 Okay. And I want you to ask yourself, which one of these people are you? Because there's only two.

00:08:22.020 Do you care about how you're coached or do you care more about what your leader or coach is helping

00:08:29.520 you accomplish? Are your feelings so delicate and so sensitive that you're going to let you getting your

00:08:36.560 little delicate feelings hurt, get in the way of becoming what it is you wish to become? Or do you

00:08:44.000 say, you know what? Fuck my ego. Okay. There's no pain. There's no fucking gain. Which one of those 1.00

00:08:52.940 people are you? Because I can tell you one is going to always be average and one is going to always end up

00:09:00.160 being elite. All right. And I know some of you guys right now are saying, well, I'm a leader. So this

00:09:06.500 is good for the people under me, but it doesn't really apply to me. Listen, I'm a leader too. You

00:09:11.940 think I don't have people that lead and coach me and help me. I have people in my life who give me

00:09:16.920 feedback and guess what? Most of the time that feedback doesn't feel very fucking good because 0.82

00:09:24.000 they're setting a boundary. They're saying, Hey dude, you're crossing the line or Hey dude, you can be 0.93

00:09:28.760 better here. And guess what? That bruises my fucking ego. But the truth is, what do I do? Do I whine? Do I

00:09:35.060 cry? Do I pout? No, I take that shit and I fix what the problem is so that I can be better. I know

00:09:43.560 that that means that those people actually give a fuck about what I'm doing in my life. All right. I 0.98

00:09:51.460 don't care if they hurt my feelings. And the truth is hurting my feelings is one of the only ways you can get

00:09:57.500 through to me. It's what I respond to. And it's what you respond to as well. If you took inventory

00:10:06.940 of what actually causes you to go out and make a change, you don't make a change when you're feeling,

00:10:14.880 you know, like, Oh, I feel pretty good. Oh, you know what? I could be better there. No, you make a

00:10:20.380 change when you're fucking disgusted with yourself and you look at yourself in the mirror and you say, 0.99

00:10:24.680 dude, I can't fucking do this anymore. I'm going to change. All right. That's what you respond to 0.99

00:10:30.660 whether you want to admit it or not. Okay. And some of you also might be saying, but you just did this

00:10:35.820 episode with Jocko and Jocko said, you can't be a leader that you want to be. You have to be the

00:10:42.120 leader your team needs. And I agree with that. But here's the thing that you're forgetting in the

00:10:47.060 process of self-development. Each person, you, everybody has a responsibility and that responsibility

00:10:56.380 for me is to be the best leader that can be. But for you, it's to be the best version of you that

00:11:05.020 you can be and to respond to your leadership. Okay. Losers will sit there and complain about how their

00:11:14.900 leadership coaches them. Winners might not like how their leadership is coaching them, but instead

00:11:20.980 of bitching and moaning and crying, they understand that they have a responsibility to themselves and to

00:11:28.960 every single person that will ever look up to them in their entire lives to be coachable. Because if

00:11:36.320 you're not coachable, you can't win. And that means you can't use shitty excuses. Like my coach's 0.95

00:11:43.260 personality is bad or my coach's approach, you know, he just doesn't understand me and all this other 1.00

00:11:49.680 bullshit that we're hearing all over this pussified fucking society. Okay. You have to accept the 1.00

00:11:56.580 responsibility for your own self-development. You have to accept that there is going to be pain

00:12:02.460 associated with growing personally and professionally. And you have to want to know what the truth is and

00:12:11.060 have that truth spoken to you so that no matter how much it hurts your ego, you could take the

00:12:17.980 information and become an elite achiever.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 01, 2018

The Only Way Elite Achievers Want To Be Coached, with Andy Frisella - MFCEO270

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